Speaker 1: For variety from the two thousand, it's the nineties and
Speaker 1: today it's Star one on one three hits Marcus back
Speaker 1: with second Date update if you've never heard it, if
Speaker 1: you're brand new. So what happens is you go on
Speaker 1: a first date you get ghosted on. We will call
Speaker 1: your date on your behalf the service we provide, try
Speaker 1: to figure out if you did something wrong, or if
Speaker 1: they're just been busy, or what the deal is, and
Speaker 1: ultimately try to get you a second date. It's how
Speaker 1: we do it. So let's say good morning to Riley.
Speaker 1: I'm here, good morning, excellent. So I want to talk
Speaker 1: about your date with Jenna. I want to talk about
Speaker 1: like a how you guys met, and then let's just
Speaker 1: run through. Typically what we do is I have you
Speaker 1: run through what you did on the first date, and
Speaker 1: then we'll try to figure it all out because I
Speaker 1: understand she's ghosted, but what can you tell me?
Speaker 2: Well, we met online and after you know, a couple
Speaker 2: of weeks of back and forth messaging, we decided that
Speaker 2: we were going to grab coffee and like walk around Berkeley, Okay,
Speaker 2: And I mean she was funny, thoughtful, she had book
Speaker 2: recommendations for just about every topic I could think of,
Speaker 2: Like we talked about street art, we talked about our
Speaker 2: worst jobs, we talked about local sandwich spot, like you know,
Speaker 2: like just I was gonna say the hard hitting journalism. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and then like you know, we went out for copy.
Speaker 2: We had a great time. And then she hasn't called
Speaker 2: me here, texted me back, And I'm just kind of
Speaker 2: getting ghosted here, And I don't know why.
Speaker 1: How many times have you replayed the date in your head?
Speaker 1: Be honest, a handful something.
Speaker 2: I can't think of anything.
Speaker 1: You're not as obsessive as I am. Then I get it,
Speaker 1: all right, I'll tell you what. I'm gonna call her.
Speaker 1: We're gonna try to figure this out. I've got my
Speaker 1: guy Riley on the phone. This feels pretty cut and dry.
Speaker 1: It feels pretty simple. So you and Jenna just went.
Speaker 2: For coffee, went for coffee and then walked around Berkley
Speaker 2: and it felt right like that, it felt great.
Speaker 1: The weirdness. No, Okay, let's call her. Then go ahead
Speaker 1: and meet your phone. I'm gonna give her a shout
Speaker 1: and see if we can't salvage this, get you a
Speaker 1: second date. Okay, here we go, good day. This is Jenna, Well,
Speaker 1: good day. I have never had anybody answer the phone.
Speaker 1: Good day, Sorry, Jenna, It's Marcus calling from Star one
Speaker 1: one three. Good morning, good day.
Speaker 3: Hello. How are you from the radio?
Speaker 1: Yes, from from Star one on one three from the
Speaker 1: morning show. Do you listen? Yeah? I do, excellent, welcome.
Speaker 1: Do you have a moment to be on the show
Speaker 1: with me?
Speaker 3: Depends on what you're calling for.
Speaker 1: So it's second date update time?
Speaker 3: Oh no am I? Okay?
Speaker 2: All right, okay, okay, are doing this.
Speaker 3: To second date update? I did not think I was
Speaker 3: going to end up on it, but here we are.
Speaker 1: Why don't you be the star?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 1: Okay, have you been on a date recently that you
Speaker 1: may or may not have ghosted on?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Okay, I think so.
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, so we've got Riley on the phone.
Speaker 1: I figured, yeah, Riley, are you there?
Speaker 3: I'm here?
Speaker 1: Okay, So, Jenna, he said he had a great time.
Speaker 1: He liked you a lot, I wrote down, funny, thoughtful,
Speaker 1: enjoyed your conversation. So if you ghosted, can you tell
Speaker 1: us why did he do something?
Speaker 3: It wasn't really something he did. I mean, I think
Speaker 3: he's nice. I think he's a nice person, but he
Speaker 3: was intense in the strangest way I've ever encountered, and
Speaker 3: it made me really uncomfortable. I didn't really know what
Speaker 3: to do with it.
Speaker 1: Okay, I got to ask the question, did you feel unsafe?
Speaker 3: No, No, it wasn't like that. I just like, I've
Speaker 3: never really encountered a person like this. Like he kept
Speaker 3: pausing while we were walking around to write things down
Speaker 3: in this tiny, like pocket sized notebook, and it wasn't discreet.
Speaker 3: It wasn't like, oh, every once in a while he'd like,
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't even know how you would discreetly
Speaker 3: drott in a notebook, but like he was so weird
Speaker 3: and obvious about it. He'd like pause walking for a
Speaker 3: sec and write something down. It was like like like
Speaker 3: therapy note taking, you know what I mean. I felt
Speaker 3: like I was being scrutinized me. What was I don't know.
Speaker 3: We talked about a lot of different things, which initially
Speaker 3: I really liked that he seemed able to talk about
Speaker 3: a lot of different stuff, but then he'd like hyper
Speaker 3: fixate on these weird things like Okay, like at one
Speaker 3: point I was talking to him about my plants and
Speaker 3: how I feel like I'm a plant killer because I
Speaker 3: can't keep anything alive. Sure, And he started like interrogating
Speaker 3: me about the soil. He was like asking me where
Speaker 3: I sourced the soil for my plants, insane that it
Speaker 3: might be a pH balance thing. And he launches into
Speaker 3: this like five minute lecture talking at me about the
Speaker 3: pH balance of my soil. And he's like, Oh, if
Speaker 3: it's too acidic, that could be causing the leaves to
Speaker 3: turn yellow. And he was like, you know, oh, do
Speaker 3: you think it could be root raw that's too much moisture.
Speaker 3: Otherwise it could be a too acidic of a soil.
Speaker 3: And I'm just like, I don't know. It didn't feel
Speaker 3: like I was having a conversation with him. I felt
Speaker 3: like I was being mansplained at, like it's not that
Speaker 3: serious and that, you know, I probably would have been
Speaker 3: interested if he had talked to me about it differently,
Speaker 3: but I felt like he was lecturing me.
Speaker 1: Got it.
Speaker 4: I like to write things down because I like to
Speaker 4: make sure that I remember them. And I mean, I
Speaker 4: wasn't trying to make you feel like you're being lectured
Speaker 4: or man's plained or anything like that, Like I was
Speaker 4: genuinely like trying to help. I was like Oh, this
Speaker 4: is the thing I know about, and you're having in
Speaker 4: trouble with these plans, and so here are ways that
Speaker 4: I know that I can help.
Speaker 3: Sure, Okay, but I think it's really important for you
Speaker 3: to read the social cues, especially when you're in a
Speaker 3: really early stages thing with somebody like this was our
Speaker 3: first date, and I felt like I was being interviewed
Speaker 3: for a scholarship. I felt like, you know, I felt
Speaker 3: like I was sitting across a desk from somebody. And
Speaker 3: that's not the experience I'm trying to have when I'm
Speaker 3: on a date.
Speaker 2: That wasn't the intention. I was trying to make sure
Speaker 2: that you knew that I was listening to what you
Speaker 2: were saying, and I was trying to show you that
Speaker 2: I was being attentive and helpful.
Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to talk at you.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, even right now, I feel like you're kind
Speaker 3: of talking at me. You're not saying, wow, I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: thank you all. Take the feedback you're explaining and over
Speaker 3: explaining and lecturing me about what your intentions were, as
Speaker 3: opposed to taking the feedback that I'm giving you that
Speaker 3: you brought me on the radio to give you you guys.
Speaker 1: I don't know if this is going to work out. Jenna,
Speaker 1: No second date on.
Speaker 3: This right, No thank you, thanks, but no sure all right?
Speaker 1: Hang on, I don't even know where to go from here.
Speaker 1: Second date update. Obviously it doesn't always work out.