Speaker 1: It's a mojo in the morning show, Shannon, This topic
Speaker 1: that you're about to bring up right now is a
Speaker 1: learning lesson to all of our listeners that try to
Speaker 1: do what you can in the moment, right now today,
Speaker 1: because you never know if there will be another.
Speaker 2: But what happened, I'm sorry about this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I got some really, really terrible news on Saturday
Speaker 3: evening that one of my friends from college, a sorority
Speaker 3: sister of mine, passed away unexpectedly in the middle of
Speaker 3: the night. Younger than me. She was two years two
Speaker 3: years younger than me, and she an like an incredible person,
Speaker 3: a teacher, a mom of a three year old little girl,
Speaker 3: a wife, and it was just such a tragic thing
Speaker 3: that happened that she died in her sleep and she
Speaker 3: didn't wake up the next morning, and it just has
Speaker 3: really it honestly is still so surreal to me that
Speaker 3: she's not here anymore. But it's one of those situations
Speaker 3: where we were really close in college, especially being in
Speaker 3: the same sorority. We lived together, you know, for a
Speaker 3: handful of years, and then we kept in touch after college.
Speaker 3: She came to my bachelorette party, my first wedding, and
Speaker 3: then after that, we just kind of like lost touch.
Speaker 3: And it wasn't like we weren't friends anymore. It's just
Speaker 3: the visits became phone calls, and then the phone calls
Speaker 3: became texts, and then the text became a DM here
Speaker 3: and there or a like on Instagram, and then you
Speaker 3: hear that this this person is no longer here and
Speaker 3: I have so much regret of not keeping in better
Speaker 3: touch with her.
Speaker 2: Did she did she battle in illness or what was?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 2: No, they did they tell you what's going on?
Speaker 3: Essentially, she had a seizure, a seizure in the middle
Speaker 3: of the night and no no history of it's just
Speaker 3: because her husband was out of town work. Wow, so
Speaker 3: she was by herself with the baby.
Speaker 1: That's even worse because I know it's really a terrible
Speaker 1: susus bad saying this, but I feel like if if
Speaker 1: you know that they're sick and you have time to
Speaker 1: be able to go, hey, you know, I want to
Speaker 1: spend some time with you. Yeah, but this gives it
Speaker 1: is You're right, it is a lesson and you just
Speaker 1: don't know, you don't know when your time is.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 3: It really made me sit and reflect and go there
Speaker 3: are certain people in my life that I love so
Speaker 3: much and I hold, you know, such a special place
Speaker 3: in my heart for and I don't necessarily, you know,
Speaker 3: pick up the phone and keep in touch with them
Speaker 3: or hang out with like we always say, oh, we'll
Speaker 3: get together, we'll get together, and you never get together.
Speaker 3: And so that's the purpose of me bringing this up
Speaker 3: is like, do those things that you say you're going
Speaker 3: to do or call that person today that you they're
Speaker 3: on your mind, but you're like, oh, yeah, you know
Speaker 3: the next time I'm on a long road trip, I'll
Speaker 3: call her. No call them.
Speaker 1: Well she uh, you know, you talked about how it
Speaker 1: seemed like when you after you her wedding, you guys
Speaker 1: kind of stopped talking to each other. Was it a
Speaker 1: mutual thing or did one of you try to call
Speaker 1: each other?
Speaker 2: What was it? She's just like, yeah, like proximity.
Speaker 3: She she lives in Indiana, lived in Indiana, and.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you what do you remember about her when
Speaker 1: you first met her, you know, at college and you
Speaker 1: guys first came so she.
Speaker 3: Was really really she had grown up with one of
Speaker 3: my best friends who I had already known, who was
Speaker 3: my age, and so then she came to the school
Speaker 3: and she was just She's one of those people that
Speaker 3: loves everybody and everything. Like she she was a huge
Speaker 3: cat lover, which you know my feelings on cats, so
Speaker 3: she would always try to make me like cats and
Speaker 3: I would say, Sam, it's not going to happen.
Speaker 2: Happened.
Speaker 3: But she was just so sweet and she had such
Speaker 3: a spunk about her.
Speaker 2: You know, it's weird.
Speaker 3: We worked together for a couple of years at the mall.
Speaker 3: It just I literally we have a group like a
Speaker 3: shared album that we're trying to make some memory books
Speaker 3: for her daughter. Her daughter's only three, and we want
Speaker 3: her to you know, know her tell stories about her
Speaker 3: Mommy know, her mom is with the we feel like
Speaker 3: our friend group. It's the it's the least that we
Speaker 3: could do is make like chat books or stat books
Speaker 3: or something. And I look at photos. I'm like, this
Speaker 3: is not even real and she's not here.
Speaker 2: You know, it's weird.
Speaker 1: I experienced death at such a young age when my
Speaker 1: mom had passed, but I became kind of you know,
Speaker 1: whenever you'd have like a relative that would die, I'd
Speaker 1: be like, oh, my uncle just died, or you know,
Speaker 1: I kind of like because you already dealt with a
Speaker 1: big death of a family member. It's not until you
Speaker 1: lose somebody that is your age and or somebody that
Speaker 1: was like well, close friend of yours that you go,
Speaker 1: holy crap. It makes things like life real At that moment, it.
Speaker 3: Feels very fragile all of a sudden, that she went
Speaker 3: to sleep on Thursday night, yeah, and didn't wake up
Speaker 3: on Friday morning.
Speaker 1: And it's wild to say this, but I I'll say
Speaker 1: this guy had a bunch of buddies that committed suicide.
Speaker 2: When we were in high school and then college and stuff.
Speaker 1: We had probably three people that I knew that committed
Speaker 1: suicide for you know, really sad situations for their family
Speaker 1: and friends and all of us. But when somebody just
Speaker 1: dies of like a natural cause where they you know,
Speaker 1: or some kind of an illness that's not a mental
Speaker 1: health illness, you sit there and you go, oh, my god,
Speaker 1: that could happen to me, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like this really could happen. And then you start realizing,
Speaker 1: holy crap, like you're right, I want to connect. And
Speaker 1: it always takes something like this to make you start
Speaker 1: reconnecting with people. Yes, but then as time goes by,
Speaker 1: it fades and you go back into your daily routines.
Speaker 3: And I say, I use the word proximity because I
Speaker 3: feel like that is really important for friendship, Like you
Speaker 3: tend to you tend to stay in touch with on
Speaker 3: a daily basis, the people who you see all the time,
Speaker 3: right it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and think of the time that you're wasting with us. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you could have easily gone to know. It's no, It's
Speaker 1: funny like back, you know, a couple of weeks back,
Speaker 1: you know, seeing the people that that showed up at
Speaker 1: that occasion that I had, you know that at the celebration,
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, man, you kind of realize who some
Speaker 1: of your your true buddies are and friends are and
Speaker 1: family members are and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: But he said she was like two years younger than you,
Speaker 2: like sixty eight.
Speaker 1: We're trying to make jokes, Hey, hugs to to you
Speaker 1: Shannon on that one, but also prayers.
Speaker 2: We have to keep prayers for.
Speaker 3: That year old, her husband and her daughter.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I could not imagine, like I just a three
Speaker 2: year old.
Speaker 1: You know, that is just that's just awful to know
Speaker 1: that your your your mom is is not there anymore.
Speaker 2: And the husband who's out of town.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, like not to be there
Speaker 1: and able to be there not only for your wife,
Speaker 1: but for your daughter needs.
Speaker 5: To feel a sense of guilt because he was sleeping
Speaker 5: next to her, would he have noticed?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: You don't you always hear these, uh these stories sometimes
Speaker 1: of where somebody will have like that, like a seizure,
Speaker 1: or they'll have like an aneurysm.
Speaker 3: And yes, you're like, what is you want to know
Speaker 3: the craziest part of this they were able to pinpoint
Speaker 3: her time of death for Apple Watch.
Speaker 2: Really yeah, they a Watch.
Speaker 1: Eight four four Mojo Live text nine five five zero zero.
Speaker 1: Is is our telephon number? You know, it's kind of interesting.
Speaker 1: I did this a few years ago, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to go back to it now. Every day, memory, I
Speaker 1: would tell you, or every week, I would try to
Speaker 1: reconnect with somebody who I hadn't talked to in a while. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and just out of the blue call and leave even
Speaker 1: a voicemail message. And so I would start calling people
Speaker 1: that hadn't talked to in maybe a couple three years
Speaker 1: or whatever. And I found myself honestly reconnect with people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe this is something to do.
Speaker 3: Again, Yeah, because it's not that you don't like those
Speaker 3: people anymore. It's just life gets in the way and
Speaker 3: there are people that you love and you want a
Speaker 3: relationship with, but we are like I hate the word busy,
Speaker 3: but we all get to busy and there's so many
Speaker 3: things and you forget about the things that are and
Speaker 3: the people that are really really important pieces to your life.
Speaker 1: Isn't this the time of year where we get caught
Speaker 1: up in the crap? You know, we get caught up
Speaker 1: in the holiday stuff, and we do get to the
Speaker 1: point where it's like I feel like we're just in
Speaker 1: this moment of our lives from now until the end
Speaker 1: of the year. We're just trying to get to the
Speaker 1: end of the year, and we're missing days, like we
Speaker 1: really are missing moments and days and stuff. Like I
Speaker 1: was looking at my calendar and I was looking at
Speaker 1: the holiday party is on I think it's like the
Speaker 1: sixteenth or something like that or whatever it is this summer.
Speaker 2: I was looking at it was in my calendar.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh God, but it's like I just
Speaker 1: race through and just do appointments and I don't enjoy it.
Speaker 1: And then yesterday, like we had that pod luck. I
Speaker 1: actually enjoyed hanging out with her. It was really a
Speaker 1: lot of fun. It was good to connect with some
Speaker 1: people and just be able to sit there and just
Speaker 1: have a meal. What's up, John, How you doing?
Speaker 6: How you doing?
Speaker 2: I'm okay, buddy, Shannon's the one struggling right now.
Speaker 6: Yeah. I was calling in with a similar situation. My fiance.
Speaker 6: She had a friend come over and I met her
Speaker 6: for the first time. We had some drinks that evening,
Speaker 6: so we didn't let her drive home. Next morning, she says,
Speaker 6: I'm gonna go see my son because she got a
Speaker 6: call from her son.
Speaker 7: I'll be back.
Speaker 6: While she was gone, she ate something with pistachios and
Speaker 6: had an allergic reaction, went straight to the hospital. While
Speaker 6: she was there, wound up with pneumonia and died.
Speaker 8: Like within twenty four hours.
Speaker 6: Here, I'm waiting for this. Here, I'm waiting for this
Speaker 6: lady to come back this evening, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 8: And it never came back.
Speaker 2: He was just that fast, perfectly healthy before that.
Speaker 8: John.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, buddy. I'm sure it's a struggle. I'm sure
Speaker 1: you're you're you're having a tough time. I hope that
Speaker 1: you listen to this and know that we're we're going
Speaker 1: to comfort you, buddy with some thoughts.
Speaker 6: I mean, it's for them, but it just really played
Speaker 6: with my psychology in my mind.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 6: You know here I just met this lady. She says
Speaker 6: she's coming back, and next day I know she's passed away.
Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, it's weird.
Speaker 1: That's awful, buddy. Thank you, Thank you for calling in
Speaker 1: and sharing that. Man, we're thinking of those guys. What's up,
Speaker 1: hey Chock, Hey, hey Mojoe, what's going on?
Speaker 8: So my mom bugged us for three months to pre
Speaker 8: come and help her pre playing her funeral. She was
Speaker 8: not sick or anything, and eight days later she was
Speaker 8: in a car accident and died.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, is she what do you what do
Speaker 2: you equate that to?
Speaker 1: I mean, is it one of those things where she
Speaker 1: kind of had a a feeling or something.
Speaker 8: So yep, she was, Yep, perfectly fine. We were planning
Speaker 8: a trip to Sicily later in the year and wow,
Speaker 8: and the same thing that Shanna talked about her Apple
Speaker 8: watch told us she was in an accident. That's how
Speaker 8: we found out.
Speaker 1: That reminds me of a story about a radio mentor
Speaker 1: friend of mine that I've talked about before on the air,
Speaker 1: But Kid Kradick was a legend in the radio business.
Speaker 1: He's a Hall of Famer and Kid he for years
Speaker 1: woke up so many different people. But he also gave
Speaker 1: guys like me and people like Shannon and Kevin and
Speaker 1: Anna somebody to listen to and aspire to be. And
Speaker 1: he did a radio topic on Friday about planning your
Speaker 1: own funeral and then died that weekend, and uh, And
Speaker 1: it's like it's almost kind of like you think to yourself,
Speaker 1: like your his you know, mom planning in this funeral.
Speaker 1: It's almost like something sending you this, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm going to do this thing, so it makes it nice.
Speaker 1: But it's almost like maybe God's way of telling you, Hey,
Speaker 1: you know what, you're coming home.
Speaker 2: What's going on? Kelly?
Speaker 4: So my dad we all met out for Sunday breakfast
Speaker 4: and he was going to come to my house afterwards,
Speaker 4: and I just had a baby, so I wasn't paying
Speaker 4: attention to the time. My mom called me and she's like, Hey,
Speaker 4: has your dad made it over there? I haven't heard
Speaker 4: from him, And I was like, no, I haven't. And
Speaker 4: it turns out he had a heart attack while he
Speaker 4: was driving over to my house, and he got resuscitated
Speaker 4: three times but ended up passing away in the hospital
Speaker 4: after that.
Speaker 6: But good.
Speaker 4: I mean it's been three years now, so you know,
Speaker 4: he was just a jokester. So my best advice is
Speaker 4: when you're feeling sad, just think us their jokes, Just
Speaker 4: think us their personality. Just kind of be like ah, dang,
Speaker 4: Like you know, you need to get mad for them
Speaker 4: not being here, but at the same time, it's just
Speaker 4: better just to joke around and be like, oh, he
Speaker 4: would have done this. Yeah, Kelly, you gotta you gotta
Speaker 4: have a positive outlook and make sure that you just
Speaker 4: honor them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a great as they wouldn't want to be sad. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's a great plan.
Speaker 1: And actually something I tell Chelsea all the time, especially now,
Speaker 1: you know, since after she she got diagnosed with cancer,
Speaker 1: was take pictures, like she never would want to be
Speaker 1: in a picture. Take a picture. Who cares how you
Speaker 1: feel like you look. Take a picture because we all
Speaker 1: want to remember whoever that person is through the eyes
Speaker 1: of pictures, you know, and going through you know, pictures
Speaker 1: for you has to be amazing to be able to
Speaker 1: look at some of the stuff that you guys did
Speaker 1: when you're in college, funeral home. Tom, we haven't heard
Speaker 1: from you in a while. Tom, where have you been.
Speaker 7: I've called to the times and never got through. But
Speaker 7: that's okay, okay, questions to me. Listen. You gotta remember,
Speaker 7: you guys, we come to this world naked, and we
Speaker 7: come into this world with somebody needing to take care
Speaker 7: of us. The same thing happens when we die. We're
Speaker 7: gonna come leave this world naked and someone's gonna give
Speaker 7: us our lands bath. You have to remember, too, every
Speaker 7: day is a blessing. Okay, every minute that you met,
Speaker 7: there's one minute less that you're gonna have. So you
Speaker 7: got to put all the petty stuff behind you.
Speaker 2: Tom.
Speaker 1: You look at as a customer, don't you.
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you do, you son of a bed and look
Speaker 3: at like the old men and old ladies and go,
Speaker 3: I'm probably gonna see her.
Speaker 7: No. But the funny part is when I go to
Speaker 7: church and stuff, all the old ladies and old man
Speaker 7: come up and give me big hugs.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's Tom. It makes me look to Tommy owns
Speaker 1: one suit it's black, right, No, I own.
Speaker 7: Several suits, but yeah, most of them are blast all
Speaker 7: the fact that the man there is we have to
Speaker 7: reach out to the people that we love because so
Speaker 7: much time.
Speaker 2: He doesn't count sheep. When he sleeps, he counts cask
Speaker 2: he does those caskees add up to dollars for funeral time.
Speaker 7: You guys, you guys all joke about it, but it's
Speaker 7: a lifestyle with funeral director. You see people that you know,
Speaker 7: you see people that you talk to every day. Another
Speaker 7: week later, they're not there anymore.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 5: Question for you, Tom, if somebody close to you passed away,
Speaker 5: would you be the one to them naked?
Speaker 7: Like, Oh, well, I'm not. I'm not actually a license
Speaker 7: more attation. My son is and and we have all
Speaker 7: license more attitions working for us. So I wouldn't be
Speaker 7: the one necessarily preparing you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're just doing the planning.
Speaker 5: Would you want your son to prepare you?
Speaker 7: But you know that's a tough question, that really is.
Speaker 7: I don't know that I didn't want to. That'd be
Speaker 7: up to Hill.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, uh, all right. Will you take care of yourself?
Speaker 2: Tom?
Speaker 1: We love you so much. You go hold on real quick,
Speaker 1: hold on, stand on the phone bill. What did you
Speaker 1: want to say?
Speaker 7: Hey, hey, Mojoe, I told my daughters put me in
Speaker 7: a basebook cap, polo shirt and shorts, breathing in a suit.
Speaker 1: Has anybody ever been buried Tom? And anything other than
Speaker 1: a suit? I want to be buried in.
Speaker 7: Some guys that people come in that couldn't afford it suit.
Speaker 1: Oh jeez, hey Tom, Okay, yeah, do you give them something?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 7: I have I have suits in my closet. I got
Speaker 7: like just for that. Put in a suit?
Speaker 2: Can I can I be?
Speaker 7: I can put I can put you on one n
Speaker 7: will probably come up to.
Speaker 1: His ankles and they won't just keep yeah, keep the
Speaker 1: the other end closed, Tom, Can I be buried in
Speaker 1: a Lions jersey?
Speaker 2: That's what I would like? If I want to be
Speaker 2: buried in the Lions, you can be.
Speaker 7: You can memorialize your you can momorialize your funeral any
Speaker 7: way you want. There's you can we can get a cask,
Speaker 7: especially maybe that's Alliance casket for you.
Speaker 1: All right, Well, take care of yourself. Guys, appreciate you
Speaker 1: being on with us and Shannon. Our prayers to your
Speaker 1: friend's family. That's that's sad.