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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, back with second date update.

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Speaker 1: Tobias is on the phone, and just to give a

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Speaker 1: little background, he got ghosted by his date.

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Speaker 2: Her name is a Lara, very unique name. Tobias, are

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Speaker 2: you there? Yeah, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: So let's talk about the date really quick. I understand

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Speaker 1: it was pretty gangbusters. First of all, what did you

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Speaker 1: guys do?

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Speaker 3: We went to a wine bar in Hayes Valley. Okay,

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Speaker 3: we had gotten matched on bumble.

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Speaker 2: And then so how did what? What am I trying

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Speaker 2: to ask here? Was she hot?

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Speaker 4: She was? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay, yes she was that.

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Speaker 3: I I well, yeah, I thought that it went really

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Speaker 3: really well. I thought she was really I don't know,

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Speaker 3: she's like a little bit sarcastic. She's really creative person.

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Speaker 3: She's she does interior staging. I don't know whether you know,

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Speaker 3: like showing houses.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna say for like for like real estate.

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Speaker 3: Right, yeah huh yeah, but I don't know. We talked

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Speaker 3: a lot about that and just like what all she

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Speaker 3: brings to that? And yeah, I don't know if she

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Speaker 3: asked a lot of thoughtful questions about me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you do?

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Speaker 3: The conversation just felt really good. It was really it

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Speaker 3: felt better than most first date.

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Speaker 2: You know, small talk. So what do you do?

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Speaker 3: I'm a history teacher. I teach history in high school.

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Speaker 1: Oh you do you have a favorite time period? Like

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Speaker 1: I had a boss who was like big World War two.

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Speaker 1: Guy Taylor's brother is all about ancient Roman history.

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Speaker 2: Do you have a thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, No, I'm probably medieval in Europe, but I

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Speaker 3: actually teach a Civil War American history mostly.

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Speaker 2: Okay, but in your off time, it's a whole different.

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Speaker 3: In my off time, I'm a I'm an amateur medievalist.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, basically Game of Thrones, Okay.

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Speaker 3: I wish, yeah, I wish it were that thrilling.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So so just to clarify, she did go like, how

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Speaker 1: did it end?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So we yeah, so you know, like I say,

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Speaker 3: I thought that the day went really really well, and

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Speaker 3: you know, we were even like talking about places we

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Speaker 3: might want to travel to, like speaking of like Europe stuff.

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Speaker 3: We're talking about some stuff like that. And and then

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Speaker 3: once you know, we were there until the bar closed,

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Speaker 3: and we walked a couple of blocks together, and there

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Speaker 3: was definitely a moment where we were kind of lingering

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Speaker 3: near each other and it seemed like neither of us

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Speaker 3: wanted to leave, and we hugged and we.

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Speaker 4: Kissed, you know, just it was.

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Speaker 3: It was a small kiss, but we kissed and she

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Speaker 3: said that she had a really good time and and

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Speaker 3: then I texted her the next morning and I got nothing,

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Speaker 3: and then followed up since then, just you know, a

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Speaker 3: little light comments and nothing. So I think I think

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Speaker 3: I can officially say ghosted.

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Speaker 2: How do I ask this lightly?

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Speaker 1: You didn't you didn't hit her with too much history,

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Speaker 1: did you like, you didn't go down a down a

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Speaker 1: black plague rabbit hole or the Crusades or it's a.

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Speaker 3: Good it's a good question. Uh. I don't think so,

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Speaker 3: but it is. It is hard for me to tell sometimes. Okay,

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Speaker 3: I hope not.

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Speaker 2: All right, this might be a quick phone call.

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Speaker 1: We'll see you sound like a good dude, So I

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Speaker 1: want to try to figure this out.

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Speaker 2: I'll tell you what. We're gonna call her.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be muted, but you will be able to

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Speaker 1: hear everything that she says, and we'll see if we

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Speaker 1: can get you a second date at least.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Well, let's call her and try to figure some things out.

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Speaker 1: Trying to figure out why she goes, Go ahead and

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Speaker 1: mute your phone.

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Hello, Hi is this Solara? Good morning.

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Speaker 2: This is Marcus calling from Star one O one three

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Speaker 2: from the morning show.

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Speaker 4: Oh okay, Hi, good morning. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: Do you do you listen in the morning?

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Speaker 4: God?

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Speaker 2: I feel like I just woke you up. I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 4: I don't listen. I'm so sorry. I feel like it's

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Speaker 4: You're No, it's fine.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I should Oh, no, no, it's fine. Do you

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Speaker 2: have a second to be on the show though, be

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Speaker 2: on the radio with us?

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Speaker 4: Am I on the radio right now? Yes, you know.

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Speaker 4: I don't know how it works, but.

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Speaker 1: So we do a segment on our show called second

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Speaker 1: Date Update. And I understand that you have been on

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Speaker 1: a date with someone and they're kind of feeling ghosted.

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Speaker 1: So they sent me your phone number, so if I

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Speaker 1: could call and figure out, frankly where they screwed up.

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Speaker 1: And so I would love to ask you about your

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Speaker 1: date with Tobias. And before you say anything, I need

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Speaker 1: to know did he nerd out too hard? Like did

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Speaker 1: talking about medieval history or something?

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Speaker 4: No? No, actually I didn't. Okay, yeah, there's no weird

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Speaker 4: bar behavior, nothing like that. Did you ghost? Yeah? Something

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Speaker 4: something at the end of the night, and it made

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Speaker 4: me not on all right.

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Speaker 1: Well the first step, So what what happened? Did he

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Speaker 1: do something wrong? How was the date for you? Let's

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Speaker 1: start there.

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Speaker 4: The date was good. I thought it was a really

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Speaker 4: solid first date. Like I said, there was nothing wrong

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Speaker 4: with it. But then I saw something at the end

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Speaker 4: of the night and it just sort of changed my

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Speaker 4: opinion about who he was. Okay, so we were walking

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Speaker 4: after the date. He pulls up his phone to show

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Speaker 4: me something, and then while he was scrolling, I felt

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Speaker 4: this notification on the screen. The contact was from his mom. Okay,

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Speaker 4: a message. It just said did you tell her about

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Speaker 4: the dog yet?

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Speaker 2: From his mom?

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Speaker 4: From his mom? Yeah. And I didn't say anything when

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Speaker 4: I saw it because I just thought, I don't know. Look,

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Speaker 4: it's stuck with me immediately as being very odd, and

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Speaker 4: I just remember thinking like, what dog? Because look, he

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Speaker 4: had spent the whole he had spent a whole chunk

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Speaker 4: of the night telling me about how he loves animals,

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Speaker 4: but he's just so busy he doesn't have time for

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Speaker 4: a pet right now. And then he's getting a text

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Speaker 4: from his mom. Okay, that is implying intentionally he might

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Speaker 4: have decided to lie to me about something about that,

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Speaker 4: so it just set up my antenna, you know.

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Speaker 1: Sure, So then what happened because he like he told

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Speaker 1: me that he like texted you and then nothing, So

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Speaker 4: So I saw the text. I instead of responding right away,

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Speaker 4: I kind of waited, yeah, And then the more I waited,

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Speaker 4: just kind of I guess I ended up deciding not

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Speaker 1: Sure, Okay, Well, the other half of this is that, frankly,

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Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, is that Tobias is listening right

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Speaker 1: now because we're just trying to figure out where he

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Speaker 1: messed up. Tobias, are you there? Yeah, I'm here, Bias, Laura, Laura, Tobias, Tobias.

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Speaker 1: Do you have a dog?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I do? I do.

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Speaker 2: I thought you were too busy to have a dog.

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Speaker 3: The situation is that my dog, he's a husky. He's

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Speaker 3: three years old. His name is Ranger. But he lives

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Speaker 3: right now. He lives full time with my with my ex,

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Speaker 3: with my ex girlfriends. And when we broke up, I mean,

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Speaker 3: you know, we broke up about a year ago, but

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Speaker 3: and a yard. But I, yeah, the dog is still

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Speaker 3: you know, I still spend time over there with the dog,

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Speaker 3: And yeah, my mom is very attached to it, and

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Speaker 3: she asks she asks about the dog a lot. And

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Speaker 3: I guess I just I didn't want to bring it

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Speaker 3: I want to get it sure when I was first

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Speaker 3: meeting someone.

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Speaker 2: And so that's that's the explanation. Okay, Alara, how are feeling?

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Speaker 4: That's a problem for me? It's not it's not really

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Speaker 4: about a dog, but it's about the fact that he

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Speaker 4: made a very intentional decision that he wasn't going to

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Speaker 4: talk about something that's clearly very important in his life, right,

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Speaker 4: and then it accidentally pops up. It just feels like

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Speaker 4: he's managing this narrative and he's not being upfront with me.

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Speaker 4: And I caught him in a lie, even if it's

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Speaker 4: the first adid So for me, I just don't think

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Speaker 4: I'm going to come back from that. Now.

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Speaker 2: This seems like a recurring theme this week.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I understand where you're coming from.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it seems to me.

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Speaker 3: Like it wasn't really anything very serious. I just wasn't

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Speaker 3: just wasn't trying to overcomplicate a first impression.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But if you have all these things you can tell

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Speaker 4: me and that you're hiding, you're already it's already complicated.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, so no second date, Alara, we want to

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Speaker 2: give him another shot. I'm sorry, all right, fair enough?

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Speaker 2: Hang on. Omitted information feels like a theme this week.

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Speaker 2: Second date Update