WEBVTT - Hid It From Them 

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<v Speaker 1>It's mo Joe in the Morning Show.

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<v Speaker 2>It is really cool to see at this time of

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<v Speaker 2>the year the post on social media for a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of friends of ours kids where the kids are excited

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<v Speaker 2>because they got accepted to a college and they're going

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<v Speaker 2>to go to that college next year. I'm seeing a

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<v Speaker 2>bunch of people posting different ones, and it's kind of

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<v Speaker 2>cool to see the variety of schools that kids are

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<v Speaker 2>going to, everything from Grand Valley to Western Central Michigan,

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<v Speaker 2>Michigan State. There's a couple of kids that I've seen

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<v Speaker 2>recently that are all going down south and going to

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<v Speaker 2>like these SEC schools like Alabama Old Mess. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>if I did it all over again, I realized this

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<v Speaker 2>saying I screwed up. I went to a broadcasting school,

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<v Speaker 2>which look what that did for me. You know, I

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<v Speaker 2>would have gone, I would have gone to cut Out,

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<v Speaker 2>I would have gone to where I went to I went.

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<v Speaker 2>I went to Arizona this year to go to that

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<v Speaker 2>game with Joe. When I saw what girls looked like

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<v Speaker 2>on that campus, the girls that went to Columbia College

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<v Speaker 2>in Chicago didn't look like that. The girls that the

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<v Speaker 2>way Columbia College looked like Zach so but I love

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<v Speaker 2>that these you know, these kids are all going to

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<v Speaker 2>the schools that they like. And by the way, the

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<v Speaker 2>shout out to Eastern Michigan University. Shout out to uh,

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<v Speaker 2>any parent that you know their kids are looking and

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to know where to go. That's a great school

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<v Speaker 2>to go to. So I really think it's a good

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<v Speaker 2>option for them. And they can live on campus or

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<v Speaker 2>they don't, you know, want to live at home.

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<v Speaker 3>And shout out to the queys who don't think college

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<v Speaker 3>is for to that's a big shout out a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of other options. Can I tell you why that's it?

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<v Speaker 1>We don't.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, well, not that.

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<v Speaker 2>I like guys like they need to encourage that more.

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<v Speaker 2>They need to encourage they need to encourage the you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to go to college to be successful thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is a story though, that is I've been

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<v Speaker 2>waiting to kind of do this on the air because

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<v Speaker 2>it's one of those stories that I bring up on

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<v Speaker 2>the air. I'm gonna probably hear about it later, like

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<v Speaker 2>you shouldn't have talked about this on the air. But

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<v Speaker 2>parents that I know are excited for I'll just say, kid,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to say their their gender, to go

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<v Speaker 2>to school, and they're excited for them to go to college,

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<v Speaker 2>but they are excited in kind of a different way.

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<v Speaker 2>Their child applied for some schools, and one of the

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<v Speaker 2>schools they applied for is the school that they really

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to go to. But the parents didn't necessarily like

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<v Speaker 2>the idea of them going there because they thought that

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't going to be a good fit for them

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<v Speaker 2>and actually thought that it wasn't good for them to

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<v Speaker 2>be going away.

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<v Speaker 1>To this school.

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<v Speaker 2>And the parents have hid from them that they got

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<v Speaker 2>the acceptance to that school. Oh, so their child has

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<v Speaker 2>been applying for schools in using the email address that

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<v Speaker 2>they have as a family email address, and that's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of nowadays. You get you don't get packaged in the

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<v Speaker 2>mail everything.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, you get both.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, yeah, And they applied to these schools and

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<v Speaker 2>she got oh Jesus got accepted to the schools here

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<v Speaker 2>in Michigan, so locally, and so got their school. But

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<v Speaker 2>the school they wanted to go to was going to

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<v Speaker 2>be out of state and it was going to cost

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more money, and the parents didn't have

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<v Speaker 2>the heart to say to them, hey, this is not,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, a good fit or we don't think this

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<v Speaker 2>is a good fit, and the parents are paying for

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<v Speaker 2>the school, like they're going to you know, this kid's

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<v Speaker 2>not having to go and get college loans and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>The parents are paying for it, but they didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>them going and instead of just saying to them, and

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<v Speaker 2>it brought up something really interesting because I thought to

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<v Speaker 2>myself when I heard the story, I'm like, that is

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<v Speaker 2>like a scandalous story, because what if this kid ever

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<v Speaker 2>finds out nowadays? But I don't know if we have

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<v Speaker 2>any parents that are listening to the show that have

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<v Speaker 2>ever done this, or any kids that adults like us

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<v Speaker 2>that had this happen to them. What did you find

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<v Speaker 2>out that your parents were hiding from you? Or what

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<v Speaker 2>are you hiding from yours your kid? What are the

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<v Speaker 2>things that you're hiding? Could you imagine if later in life,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you you're successful, you graduate, you go to

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<v Speaker 2>school wherever, and I'll just throw out of school. This

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<v Speaker 2>is not one of the schools you graduate from, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>University of Michigan, and you're like all great in life,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you find out that your parents hid the

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<v Speaker 2>acceptance that you were supposed to get.

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<v Speaker 1>That's terrible. It can but it also listen.

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<v Speaker 2>First off, I said to I said to Chelsea when

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<v Speaker 2>this came up and we were talking about it, I

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<v Speaker 2>said to Chelsea, that's one of those ones where I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have balls to tell people sometimes the bad news.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you, as a parent, you go, hey, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>paying for your college. You go there.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good.

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<v Speaker 2>You're paying your own and that's what the parents should

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<v Speaker 2>have done. But well, there you go.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that's terrible.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, and this child is I'm telling you going to

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<v Speaker 5>find out because these schools that you get accepted to,

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<v Speaker 5>like they send an email, then they send like the

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<v Speaker 5>welcome package with like a T shirt they like. Those

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<v Speaker 5>parents are going to have to intercept a lot of things,

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<v Speaker 5>and then they like a follow up postcard, Hey, make

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<v Speaker 5>sure you fill out your form by whatever.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember, there's still a lot of actual mail.

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<v Speaker 1>Luke only wanted Michigan State. That was all he wanted.

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<v Speaker 2>But he applied to all those SEC schools and I

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<v Speaker 2>remember he the first school he got accepted to is

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<v Speaker 2>University of Kansas, which is the Big twelve school, and

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<v Speaker 2>he got accepted there and I was like, oh, that's cool, man.

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<v Speaker 2>I got excited. I look at these schools because I

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<v Speaker 2>see him on TV, you know, with their sports, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, all excited about it, and he only

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<v Speaker 2>I think they made him in his school apply for

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<v Speaker 2>different schools and he had no interest in that. Then

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<v Speaker 2>the school he really was going to go to was Kentucky.

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<v Speaker 2>We went down for that visit and it was awesome

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<v Speaker 2>in the last minute because he didn't get accepted right

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<v Speaker 2>away at Michigan State. Michigan State then eventually came back

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<v Speaker 2>and gave him an acceptance. Then he was like, and

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<v Speaker 2>I look at how he is now, Like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't imagine him going anywhere else. Like it was

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<v Speaker 2>a perfect fed front Atakai. Is it ever justified for

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<v Speaker 2>parents to do something like that?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think so. You don't think something.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I'm sure there are extinguating circumstances. We could

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<v Speaker 3>think of the worst possible reason. But I think what's

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<v Speaker 3>better is to have the conversation with your child and

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<v Speaker 3>express you know, your feelings, understand their feelings, and come

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<v Speaker 3>to a resolution. But to say that I need to

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<v Speaker 3>hide this from you and never tell you, because what

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<v Speaker 3>if that child is you know, like Shannon was saying,

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<v Speaker 3>there are other methods that are used these days to

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<v Speaker 3>say you're accepted or not. What if it was earlier

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<v Speaker 3>when there weren't as many methods, and now this child

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<v Speaker 3>has left to believe. Was I not good enough? Or

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<v Speaker 3>I thought I did everything right. I went to the classes,

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<v Speaker 3>I took all the extracurriculum, I got the recommendations, and

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<v Speaker 3>they still didn't accept me.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, some people take that stuff to heart. What about

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<v Speaker 2>the people that keep who the parent of their child

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<v Speaker 2>is from them?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, it don't asks me that I know, But what

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<v Speaker 3>about the people though?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I like, there are sometimes where people are like,

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<v Speaker 2>like you hear the story about we're raising the child

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like our nephew or something like that, but

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<v Speaker 2>we're not telling them that it's our nephew.

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<v Speaker 6>There's a man I know that I'm very close with.

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<v Speaker 6>He has a daughter and then his daughter has a sibling,

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<v Speaker 6>but it's not his child. He is raising the son

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<v Speaker 6>as if it was his child. The daughter doesn't know,

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<v Speaker 6>the son doesn't know. It's only him and his baby mama.

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<v Speaker 4>But what's the situation with real dad?

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<v Speaker 1>With real dad's not there?

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<v Speaker 6>So he was like, I just I don't want him

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<v Speaker 6>to live that life, and I'm like, he's gonna find

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<v Speaker 6>out sometime.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't know how I feel about those situations,

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<v Speaker 5>to be honest, Yeah, because I feel like it and

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<v Speaker 5>I've never obviously I've never been in that situation, but

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like in certain situations where there is like

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<v Speaker 5>protection of the child.

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<v Speaker 4>Involved, that I feel I feel like I feel.

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<v Speaker 5>Differently, right, he said, I'm more so swayed to say

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<v Speaker 5>I get it.

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<v Speaker 6>Right, and it is like admirable for him to step

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<v Speaker 6>up as this father figure. So he said that when

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<v Speaker 6>he gets old enough, we'll have a conversation with him.

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<v Speaker 6>But then I'm like, at that point, if I'm the kid,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm questioning everything that you've ever done for me.

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<v Speaker 3>Do y'all feel the same way about kids that are

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<v Speaker 3>adopted and their parents don't tell them that they're.

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<v Speaker 2>Adopted they've been adopted, But yeah, I don't know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that, honestly, I would think that that that's different.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe when they're really little little you don't tell them

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<v Speaker 2>that first, but I think eventually the kids should know

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<v Speaker 2>that they're adopted. Although I think there are some people

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<v Speaker 2>like back in the day, and I mean like even

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five years ago, or something of that. You wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>see a lot of parents talk about the adoption thing

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<v Speaker 2>because they just didn't want the kid to feel like

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<v Speaker 2>they were different, or why they weren't, you know, with

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<v Speaker 2>their biological parents.

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<v Speaker 3>Some people there's always a gay reason they don't do it,

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<v Speaker 3>just because they say it doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, from your parents, Yeah, that's all that matters. If

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<v Speaker 2>they if they lie, it's one thing. If they just

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<v Speaker 2>don't say anything, it's another.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up?

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<v Speaker 7>Ka?

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<v Speaker 1>Initial k voice disguised.

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<v Speaker 4>How we're going, guys?

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<v Speaker 1>How you doing doing good? Your voice dies? Guys? What

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<v Speaker 1>are you calling about? God?

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<v Speaker 8>Well, you guys are talking about parents hopping stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm actually hiding from my parents.

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<v Speaker 7>My grandpa is my dad's actual dad.

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<v Speaker 3>Say it again, and if you own bluetooth, cut it off. No,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not okay, just say it again.

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<v Speaker 2>You're hiding something from your parents. What is it you're

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<v Speaker 2>hiding from them?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think my grandpa is my dad's actual dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Well why do Why wouldn't your dad know who his

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<v Speaker 1>dad is?

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, okay, so his mom growing up with.

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<v Speaker 4>She really likes with other people.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard to understand you. For some reason, your phone

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<v Speaker 2>connection is bad with the voices, guyser, I'll.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, let's let's take let's take the voices guys off

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<v Speaker 3>and you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just like the scars were worse. But I don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>Ok all right, your voice, guys is off. Okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>there is that better?

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<v Speaker 2>Can you hear me?

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<v Speaker 1>Now? I never thought that that was what your voice

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<v Speaker 1>would sound like, but go ahead, okay.

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<v Speaker 7>So she really liked bake cookies with other people grandma

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<v Speaker 7>was growing up. Yeah, Grandma did so when she had

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<v Speaker 7>my dad, she had twins. Now on my grandpa's family

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<v Speaker 7>and her side of the family, they they don't have twins,

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<v Speaker 7>and twins is normally a like hereditary thing. It skips

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<v Speaker 7>a generation. I know it's possible for someone to still

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<v Speaker 7>have twins, but that kind of raised the red flag

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<v Speaker 7>for me. So I kept that in the back of

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<v Speaker 7>my mind. And now she came back into our lives.

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<v Speaker 7>I've my grandpa's blood type is the I took her

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<v Speaker 7>to a doctor's appointment one time. Her blood type is Oh,

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<v Speaker 7>and my dad, I'm sure what it is, but it

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<v Speaker 7>doesn't match up.

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<v Speaker 2>So do you who do who do you think is

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<v Speaker 2>the your dad's dad?

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<v Speaker 9>Oh?

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<v Speaker 7>Dude, I don't know, man, there was a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that grandma was ho and around?

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<v Speaker 7>Oh yeah, oh yeah for sure.

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<v Speaker 6>Does your dad have any suspicions?

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<v Speaker 7>No, but my mom does.

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<v Speaker 3>All right.

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<v Speaker 2>It's amazing that you guys care so much about it,

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<v Speaker 2>But he doesn't really care about it, isn't that while?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I mean he's it's like fifty five, so it's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, if I found out one day when I

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<v Speaker 2>was you know, I'm fifty five right now, if I

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<v Speaker 2>found out that my dad wasn't really my dad, I'd

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<v Speaker 2>be like, God, I hope my dad's Michael Jordan.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, imagine what's going on, Charles, Hey, what's up?

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<v Speaker 1>What's happening?

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<v Speaker 2>We're talking about hiding things from your kids and parents hiding.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 10>I was, uh, like, I was adopted since I was

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<v Speaker 10>one years old, and I think I found out when

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<v Speaker 10>I was like five, and I was kind of like

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<v Speaker 10>happy about it because I was, like, I really thought

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<v Speaker 10>I was different from everybody, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 10>I didn't know what it actually and I remember the

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<v Speaker 10>teacher's looking at me weird, but me and my brother

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<v Speaker 10>were happy about it, you know, And ever since. Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 10>I like being different because you know, I ain't got

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<v Speaker 10>the middle name, no grandparents, and I watched everybody else

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<v Speaker 10>lose all that.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, how were you told? How are you told them?

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<v Speaker 3>You told you that you were adopted?

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<v Speaker 7>I adopted?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, she passed away last year too.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you know your Do you know your biological parents

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<v Speaker 5>at all? Or you don't have any contact with them?

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<v Speaker 10>I actually founded them in twenty sixteen on Facebook. That's

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<v Speaker 10>a little good way to find your parents. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Did they welcome you back into their lives or did

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<v Speaker 2>you reconnect with them?

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<v Speaker 10>My birthma, she actually passed away in twenty twenty four. Uh,

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<v Speaker 10>it was kind of I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I found her.

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<v Speaker 9>She was on drugs and stuff, like you know, she

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<v Speaker 9>lost her two kids at sixteen though, you know, so

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<v Speaker 9>like yeah, and my dad was a situation where they

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<v Speaker 9>thought my.

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<v Speaker 10>Brother dad was his dad was my dad? And nah,

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<v Speaker 10>And then I find my dad and we was about

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<v Speaker 10>to take a DNA test and we fell out.

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<v Speaker 1>So I hope he hears this, oh man, Charles, Yeah first,

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<v Speaker 1>so long time. Yeah, listen, can I tell you something, Charles.

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<v Speaker 2>I will tell you that that you were raised obviously

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<v Speaker 2>by people that loved you so because to choose, like

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<v Speaker 2>it's one thing to get pregnant and have a child,

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<v Speaker 2>it's another thing to actually choose I'm going to raise

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<v Speaker 2>a child, you know.

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<v Speaker 10>So yeah, and it was always told out with specialist

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<v Speaker 10>stuff like you know, random people walking up to me.

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<v Speaker 9>Specially when your mom chose you down to the funeral.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's a blessing. It's sad that she's not with

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<v Speaker 2>us anymore, but she's there with you all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>And I appreciate you calling anybody and sharing that with us.

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, thank you, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a blessed day. Char take care of yourself. Jennifer,

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<v Speaker 2>what's up, Jennifer.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, good morning, guys, Good morning.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, so my this is like twenty years ago, but

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<v Speaker 8>my senior year in high school, my grandma had like

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<v Speaker 8>a couple of heart attacks. My mom's mom, and I

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<v Speaker 8>moved in to help take care of her. My dream

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<v Speaker 8>was like always to to open my own restaurant, and

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<v Speaker 8>I got accepted to the Culinary Institute of America. I

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<v Speaker 8>didn't I did not tell my family because I wanted

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<v Speaker 8>to stay home and take care of my grandma. I

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<v Speaker 8>didn't want to move out of state, So I never

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<v Speaker 8>went and I just worked and took care of her.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 8>I didn't go back to college till my daughter was

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<v Speaker 8>like two, and then I went for pharmacy instead.

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<v Speaker 2>Jennifer, Wait a second, So you gave up your dream

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<v Speaker 2>very and the chance to go to the best culinary

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<v Speaker 2>school in the world because you wanted to take care

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<v Speaker 2>of grandma. But and you told them that you didn't

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<v Speaker 2>get accepted just so that they wouldn't be upset with.

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<v Speaker 1>You for staying with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's pretty unbelievable, Jennifer. Is Grandma still with us?

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, she has she has Alzheimers now, So like it's

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<v Speaker 8>it's a little rough because like we're like losing her slowly,

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<v Speaker 8>you know, because she doesn't remember anything, Like she barely

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<v Speaker 8>remembers me. But she still remembers me, which is great

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<v Speaker 8>because like I was always a big part of her life.

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<v Speaker 8>I was, I was a favorite like Anna, and uh,

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<v Speaker 8>you know, so I like that she still remembers me.

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<v Speaker 8>But it's kind of.

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<v Speaker 1>Hard, Jennifer, do you regret doing what you did?

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<v Speaker 8>I was no, absolutely not. She I spent yeah, I

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<v Speaker 8>spent every weekend with her every summer. We went up North.

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<v Speaker 8>She has a cabin up north, Like I spent so

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<v Speaker 8>much time with her, so I don't regret it at all.

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<v Speaker 1>In your she got a good career right now, you.

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<v Speaker 8>Know let me actually yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Like obviously, And I love my grandmama. I think the

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<v Speaker 3>time that you spend with her is amazing because you

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<v Speaker 3>have all those memories. But does a little piece of

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<v Speaker 3>you be like I spent all this time, gave up

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<v Speaker 3>my dream, and the bitch don't even remember me, Like

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<v Speaker 3>you know what said, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 8>Not that, but I do like I do often wonder

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<v Speaker 8>like where my life would have been, you know. But

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<v Speaker 8>and and I still love to cook, like I cook

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<v Speaker 8>for my family, like you know, I cook for my

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<v Speaker 8>friends and stuff like that, and it's still like a

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<v Speaker 8>passion of mine. And like maybe one day I'll open

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<v Speaker 8>a food truck or something.

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<v Speaker 2>But Jenner, do you think that your grandma would kill

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<v Speaker 2>you if she found out that you lied to her

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<v Speaker 2>like that?

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<v Speaker 8>Oh for sure, without a dow she would have whooped me.

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<v Speaker 10>She would have whoped me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm with you on I think family first, and that's wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>In whatever path you chose is the right path because

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<v Speaker 2>you chose it and no.

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<v Speaker 8>One knows it still to this day, like nobody knows.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for sharing the secretly love you, Jennifer, don't

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<v Speaker 1>lose that dream.

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<v Speaker 8>I love you guys, Guys, my family man, that's awesome.

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<v Speaker 8>I got to trust me cause I gonna cook for

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<v Speaker 8>you one day too.

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<v Speaker 1>Bro, I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 2>He called your grandma a bitch, and you're gonna cook her.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't call her a bitch, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>God, I can't believe that. I can't wait to taste

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<v Speaker 1>the food. Jennifer. Love you, Jennifer, Love you guys,