Speaker 1: It's mo Joe in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2: It is really cool to see at this time of
Speaker 2: the year the post on social media for a lot
Speaker 2: of friends of ours kids where the kids are excited
Speaker 2: because they got accepted to a college and they're going
Speaker 2: to go to that college next year. I'm seeing a
Speaker 2: bunch of people posting different ones, and it's kind of
Speaker 2: cool to see the variety of schools that kids are
Speaker 2: going to, everything from Grand Valley to Western Central Michigan,
Speaker 2: Michigan State. There's a couple of kids that I've seen
Speaker 2: recently that are all going down south and going to
Speaker 2: like these SEC schools like Alabama Old Mess. I mean,
Speaker 2: if I did it all over again, I realized this
Speaker 2: saying I screwed up. I went to a broadcasting school,
Speaker 2: which look what that did for me. You know, I
Speaker 2: would have gone, I would have gone to cut Out,
Speaker 2: I would have gone to where I went to I went.
Speaker 2: I went to Arizona this year to go to that
Speaker 2: game with Joe. When I saw what girls looked like
Speaker 2: on that campus, the girls that went to Columbia College
Speaker 2: in Chicago didn't look like that. The girls that the
Speaker 2: way Columbia College looked like Zach so but I love
Speaker 2: that these you know, these kids are all going to
Speaker 2: the schools that they like. And by the way, the
Speaker 2: shout out to Eastern Michigan University. Shout out to uh,
Speaker 2: any parent that you know their kids are looking and
Speaker 2: wanting to know where to go. That's a great school
Speaker 2: to go to. So I really think it's a good
Speaker 2: option for them. And they can live on campus or
Speaker 2: they don't, you know, want to live at home.
Speaker 3: And shout out to the queys who don't think college
Speaker 3: is for to that's a big shout out a lot
Speaker 3: of other options. Can I tell you why that's it?
Speaker 1: We don't.
Speaker 4: Well, well, not that.
Speaker 2: I like guys like they need to encourage that more.
Speaker 2: They need to encourage they need to encourage the you know,
Speaker 2: you don't have to go to college to be successful thing.
Speaker 2: So this is a story though, that is I've been
Speaker 2: waiting to kind of do this on the air because
Speaker 2: it's one of those stories that I bring up on
Speaker 2: the air. I'm gonna probably hear about it later, like
Speaker 2: you shouldn't have talked about this on the air. But
Speaker 2: parents that I know are excited for I'll just say, kid,
Speaker 2: I'm not going to say their their gender, to go
Speaker 2: to school, and they're excited for them to go to college,
Speaker 2: but they are excited in kind of a different way.
Speaker 2: Their child applied for some schools, and one of the
Speaker 2: schools they applied for is the school that they really
Speaker 2: wanted to go to. But the parents didn't necessarily like
Speaker 2: the idea of them going there because they thought that
Speaker 2: it wasn't going to be a good fit for them
Speaker 2: and actually thought that it wasn't good for them to
Speaker 2: be going away.
Speaker 1: To this school.
Speaker 2: And the parents have hid from them that they got
Speaker 2: the acceptance to that school. Oh, so their child has
Speaker 2: been applying for schools in using the email address that
Speaker 2: they have as a family email address, and that's kind
Speaker 2: of nowadays. You get you don't get packaged in the
Speaker 2: mail everything.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you get both.
Speaker 2: But yeah, yeah, And they applied to these schools and
Speaker 2: she got oh Jesus got accepted to the schools here
Speaker 2: in Michigan, so locally, and so got their school. But
Speaker 2: the school they wanted to go to was going to
Speaker 2: be out of state and it was going to cost
Speaker 2: a little bit more money, and the parents didn't have
Speaker 2: the heart to say to them, hey, this is not,
Speaker 2: you know, a good fit or we don't think this
Speaker 2: is a good fit, and the parents are paying for
Speaker 2: the school, like they're going to you know, this kid's
Speaker 2: not having to go and get college loans and stuff.
Speaker 2: The parents are paying for it, but they didn't want
Speaker 2: them going and instead of just saying to them, and
Speaker 2: it brought up something really interesting because I thought to
Speaker 2: myself when I heard the story, I'm like, that is
Speaker 2: like a scandalous story, because what if this kid ever
Speaker 2: finds out nowadays? But I don't know if we have
Speaker 2: any parents that are listening to the show that have
Speaker 2: ever done this, or any kids that adults like us
Speaker 2: that had this happen to them. What did you find
Speaker 2: out that your parents were hiding from you? Or what
Speaker 2: are you hiding from yours your kid? What are the
Speaker 2: things that you're hiding? Could you imagine if later in life,
Speaker 2: you know, you you're successful, you graduate, you go to
Speaker 2: school wherever, and I'll just throw out of school. This
Speaker 2: is not one of the schools you graduate from, you know,
Speaker 2: University of Michigan, and you're like all great in life,
Speaker 2: and then you find out that your parents hid the
Speaker 2: acceptance that you were supposed to get.
Speaker 1: That's terrible. It can but it also listen.
Speaker 2: First off, I said to I said to Chelsea when
Speaker 2: this came up and we were talking about it, I
Speaker 2: said to Chelsea, that's one of those ones where I know,
Speaker 2: I don't have balls to tell people sometimes the bad news.
Speaker 2: I think you, as a parent, you go, hey, I'm
Speaker 2: paying for your college. You go there.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 2: You're paying your own and that's what the parents should
Speaker 2: have done. But well, there you go.
Speaker 1: But I think that's terrible.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and this child is I'm telling you going to
Speaker 5: find out because these schools that you get accepted to,
Speaker 5: like they send an email, then they send like the
Speaker 5: welcome package with like a T shirt they like. Those
Speaker 5: parents are going to have to intercept a lot of things,
Speaker 5: and then they like a follow up postcard, Hey, make
Speaker 5: sure you fill out your form by whatever.
Speaker 4: I remember, there's still a lot of actual mail.
Speaker 1: Luke only wanted Michigan State. That was all he wanted.
Speaker 2: But he applied to all those SEC schools and I
Speaker 2: remember he the first school he got accepted to is
Speaker 2: University of Kansas, which is the Big twelve school, and
Speaker 2: he got accepted there and I was like, oh, that's cool, man.
Speaker 2: I got excited. I look at these schools because I
Speaker 2: see him on TV, you know, with their sports, and
Speaker 2: I was like, all excited about it, and he only
Speaker 2: I think they made him in his school apply for
Speaker 2: different schools and he had no interest in that. Then
Speaker 2: the school he really was going to go to was Kentucky.
Speaker 2: We went down for that visit and it was awesome
Speaker 2: in the last minute because he didn't get accepted right
Speaker 2: away at Michigan State. Michigan State then eventually came back
Speaker 2: and gave him an acceptance. Then he was like, and
Speaker 2: I look at how he is now, Like I don't
Speaker 2: I couldn't imagine him going anywhere else. Like it was
Speaker 2: a perfect fed front Atakai. Is it ever justified for
Speaker 2: parents to do something like that?
Speaker 1: I don't think so. You don't think something.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm sure there are extinguating circumstances. We could
Speaker 3: think of the worst possible reason. But I think what's
Speaker 3: better is to have the conversation with your child and
Speaker 3: express you know, your feelings, understand their feelings, and come
Speaker 3: to a resolution. But to say that I need to
Speaker 3: hide this from you and never tell you, because what
Speaker 3: if that child is you know, like Shannon was saying,
Speaker 3: there are other methods that are used these days to
Speaker 3: say you're accepted or not. What if it was earlier
Speaker 3: when there weren't as many methods, and now this child
Speaker 3: has left to believe. Was I not good enough? Or
Speaker 3: I thought I did everything right. I went to the classes,
Speaker 3: I took all the extracurriculum, I got the recommendations, and
Speaker 3: they still didn't accept me.
Speaker 2: Like, some people take that stuff to heart. What about
Speaker 2: the people that keep who the parent of their child
Speaker 2: is from them?
Speaker 3: Well, it don't asks me that I know, But what
Speaker 3: about the people though?
Speaker 2: Like I like, there are sometimes where people are like,
Speaker 2: like you hear the story about we're raising the child
Speaker 2: and it's like our nephew or something like that, but
Speaker 2: we're not telling them that it's our nephew.
Speaker 6: There's a man I know that I'm very close with.
Speaker 6: He has a daughter and then his daughter has a sibling,
Speaker 6: but it's not his child. He is raising the son
Speaker 6: as if it was his child. The daughter doesn't know,
Speaker 6: the son doesn't know. It's only him and his baby mama.
Speaker 4: But what's the situation with real dad?
Speaker 1: With real dad's not there?
Speaker 6: So he was like, I just I don't want him
Speaker 6: to live that life, and I'm like, he's gonna find
Speaker 6: out sometime.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know how I feel about those situations,
Speaker 5: to be honest, Yeah, because I feel like it and
Speaker 5: I've never obviously I've never been in that situation, but
Speaker 5: I feel like in certain situations where there is like
Speaker 5: protection of the child.
Speaker 4: Involved, that I feel I feel like I feel.
Speaker 5: Differently, right, he said, I'm more so swayed to say
Speaker 5: I get it.
Speaker 6: Right, and it is like admirable for him to step
Speaker 6: up as this father figure. So he said that when
Speaker 6: he gets old enough, we'll have a conversation with him.
Speaker 6: But then I'm like, at that point, if I'm the kid,
Speaker 6: I'm questioning everything that you've ever done for me.
Speaker 3: Do y'all feel the same way about kids that are
Speaker 3: adopted and their parents don't tell them that they're.
Speaker 2: Adopted they've been adopted, But yeah, I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I think that, honestly, I would think that that that's different.
Speaker 2: Maybe when they're really little little you don't tell them
Speaker 2: that first, but I think eventually the kids should know
Speaker 2: that they're adopted. Although I think there are some people
Speaker 2: like back in the day, and I mean like even
Speaker 2: twenty five years ago, or something of that. You wouldn't
Speaker 2: see a lot of parents talk about the adoption thing
Speaker 2: because they just didn't want the kid to feel like
Speaker 2: they were different, or why they weren't, you know, with
Speaker 2: their biological parents.
Speaker 3: Some people there's always a gay reason they don't do it,
Speaker 3: just because they say it doesn't matter.
Speaker 2: Yes, from your parents, Yeah, that's all that matters. If
Speaker 2: they if they lie, it's one thing. If they just
Speaker 2: don't say anything, it's another.
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 7: Ka?
Speaker 1: Initial k voice disguised.
Speaker 4: How we're going, guys?
Speaker 1: How you doing doing good? Your voice dies? Guys? What
Speaker 1: are you calling about? God?
Speaker 8: Well, you guys are talking about parents hopping stuff.
Speaker 1: But I'm actually hiding from my parents.
Speaker 7: My grandpa is my dad's actual dad.
Speaker 3: Say it again, and if you own bluetooth, cut it off. No,
Speaker 3: I'm not okay, just say it again.
Speaker 2: You're hiding something from your parents. What is it you're
Speaker 2: hiding from them?
Speaker 4: I don't think my grandpa is my dad's actual dad.
Speaker 1: Well why do Why wouldn't your dad know who his
Speaker 1: dad is?
Speaker 8: I mean, okay, so his mom growing up with.
Speaker 4: She really likes with other people.
Speaker 2: It's hard to understand you. For some reason, your phone
Speaker 2: connection is bad with the voices, guyser, I'll.
Speaker 3: Look, let's let's take let's take the voices guys off
Speaker 3: and you.
Speaker 1: Just like the scars were worse. But I don't care.
Speaker 1: Ok all right, your voice, guys is off. Okay, so
Speaker 1: there is that better?
Speaker 2: Can you hear me?
Speaker 1: Now? I never thought that that was what your voice
Speaker 1: would sound like, but go ahead, okay.
Speaker 7: So she really liked bake cookies with other people grandma
Speaker 7: was growing up. Yeah, Grandma did so when she had
Speaker 7: my dad, she had twins. Now on my grandpa's family
Speaker 7: and her side of the family, they they don't have twins,
Speaker 7: and twins is normally a like hereditary thing. It skips
Speaker 7: a generation. I know it's possible for someone to still
Speaker 7: have twins, but that kind of raised the red flag
Speaker 7: for me. So I kept that in the back of
Speaker 7: my mind. And now she came back into our lives.
Speaker 7: I've my grandpa's blood type is the I took her
Speaker 7: to a doctor's appointment one time. Her blood type is Oh,
Speaker 7: and my dad, I'm sure what it is, but it
Speaker 7: doesn't match up.
Speaker 2: So do you who do who do you think is
Speaker 2: the your dad's dad?
Speaker 9: Oh?
Speaker 7: Dude, I don't know, man, there was a lot.
Speaker 1: Do you think that grandma was ho and around?
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, oh yeah for sure.
Speaker 6: Does your dad have any suspicions?
Speaker 7: No, but my mom does.
Speaker 3: All right.
Speaker 2: It's amazing that you guys care so much about it,
Speaker 2: But he doesn't really care about it, isn't that while?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean he's it's like fifty five, so it's fine.
Speaker 2: I mean, if I found out one day when I
Speaker 2: was you know, I'm fifty five right now, if I
Speaker 2: found out that my dad wasn't really my dad, I'd
Speaker 2: be like, God, I hope my dad's Michael Jordan.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, imagine what's going on, Charles, Hey, what's up?
Speaker 1: What's happening?
Speaker 2: We're talking about hiding things from your kids and parents hiding.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah.
Speaker 10: I was, uh, like, I was adopted since I was
Speaker 10: one years old, and I think I found out when
Speaker 10: I was like five, and I was kind of like
Speaker 10: happy about it because I was, like, I really thought
Speaker 10: I was different from everybody, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 10: I didn't know what it actually and I remember the
Speaker 10: teacher's looking at me weird, but me and my brother
Speaker 10: were happy about it, you know, And ever since. Like, yeah,
Speaker 10: I like being different because you know, I ain't got
Speaker 10: the middle name, no grandparents, and I watched everybody else
Speaker 10: lose all that.
Speaker 3: You know, how were you told? How are you told them?
Speaker 3: You told you that you were adopted?
Speaker 7: I adopted?
Speaker 9: Yeah, she passed away last year too.
Speaker 5: Do you know your Do you know your biological parents
Speaker 5: at all? Or you don't have any contact with them?
Speaker 10: I actually founded them in twenty sixteen on Facebook. That's
Speaker 10: a little good way to find your parents. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Did they welcome you back into their lives or did
Speaker 2: you reconnect with them?
Speaker 10: My birthma, she actually passed away in twenty twenty four. Uh,
Speaker 10: it was kind of I don't know.
Speaker 1: I found her.
Speaker 9: She was on drugs and stuff, like you know, she
Speaker 9: lost her two kids at sixteen though, you know, so
Speaker 9: like yeah, and my dad was a situation where they
Speaker 9: thought my.
Speaker 10: Brother dad was his dad was my dad? And nah,
Speaker 10: And then I find my dad and we was about
Speaker 10: to take a DNA test and we fell out.
Speaker 1: So I hope he hears this, oh man, Charles, Yeah first,
Speaker 1: so long time. Yeah, listen, can I tell you something, Charles.
Speaker 2: I will tell you that that you were raised obviously
Speaker 2: by people that loved you so because to choose, like
Speaker 2: it's one thing to get pregnant and have a child,
Speaker 2: it's another thing to actually choose I'm going to raise
Speaker 2: a child, you know.
Speaker 10: So yeah, and it was always told out with specialist
Speaker 10: stuff like you know, random people walking up to me.
Speaker 9: Specially when your mom chose you down to the funeral.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a blessing. It's sad that she's not with
Speaker 2: us anymore, but she's there with you all the time.
Speaker 2: And I appreciate you calling anybody and sharing that with us.
Speaker 9: Yeah, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2: I have a blessed day. Char take care of yourself. Jennifer,
Speaker 2: what's up, Jennifer.
Speaker 1: Hey, good morning, guys, Good morning.
Speaker 8: Okay, so my this is like twenty years ago, but
Speaker 8: my senior year in high school, my grandma had like
Speaker 8: a couple of heart attacks. My mom's mom, and I
Speaker 8: moved in to help take care of her. My dream
Speaker 8: was like always to to open my own restaurant, and
Speaker 8: I got accepted to the Culinary Institute of America. I
Speaker 8: didn't I did not tell my family because I wanted
Speaker 8: to stay home and take care of my grandma. I
Speaker 8: didn't want to move out of state, So I never
Speaker 8: went and I just worked and took care of her.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 8: I didn't go back to college till my daughter was
Speaker 8: like two, and then I went for pharmacy instead.
Speaker 2: Jennifer, Wait a second, So you gave up your dream
Speaker 2: very and the chance to go to the best culinary
Speaker 2: school in the world because you wanted to take care
Speaker 2: of grandma. But and you told them that you didn't
Speaker 2: get accepted just so that they wouldn't be upset with.
Speaker 1: You for staying with them.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's pretty unbelievable, Jennifer. Is Grandma still with us?
Speaker 8: Yeah, she has she has Alzheimers now, So like it's
Speaker 8: it's a little rough because like we're like losing her slowly,
Speaker 8: you know, because she doesn't remember anything, Like she barely
Speaker 8: remembers me. But she still remembers me, which is great
Speaker 8: because like I was always a big part of her life.
Speaker 8: I was, I was a favorite like Anna, and uh,
Speaker 8: you know, so I like that she still remembers me.
Speaker 8: But it's kind of.
Speaker 1: Hard, Jennifer, do you regret doing what you did?
Speaker 8: I was no, absolutely not. She I spent yeah, I
Speaker 8: spent every weekend with her every summer. We went up North.
Speaker 8: She has a cabin up north, Like I spent so
Speaker 8: much time with her, so I don't regret it at all.
Speaker 1: In your she got a good career right now, you.
Speaker 8: Know let me actually yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: Like obviously, And I love my grandmama. I think the
Speaker 3: time that you spend with her is amazing because you
Speaker 3: have all those memories. But does a little piece of
Speaker 3: you be like I spent all this time, gave up
Speaker 3: my dream, and the bitch don't even remember me, Like
Speaker 3: you know what said, I'm not.
Speaker 8: Not that, but I do like I do often wonder
Speaker 8: like where my life would have been, you know. But
Speaker 8: and and I still love to cook, like I cook
Speaker 8: for my family, like you know, I cook for my
Speaker 8: friends and stuff like that, and it's still like a
Speaker 8: passion of mine. And like maybe one day I'll open
Speaker 8: a food truck or something.
Speaker 2: But Jenner, do you think that your grandma would kill
Speaker 2: you if she found out that you lied to her
Speaker 2: like that?
Speaker 8: Oh for sure, without a dow she would have whooped me.
Speaker 10: She would have whoped me.
Speaker 2: I'm with you on I think family first, and that's wonderful.
Speaker 2: In whatever path you chose is the right path because
Speaker 2: you chose it and no.
Speaker 8: One knows it still to this day, like nobody knows.
Speaker 1: Thank you for sharing the secretly love you, Jennifer, don't
Speaker 1: lose that dream.
Speaker 8: I love you guys, Guys, my family man, that's awesome.
Speaker 8: I got to trust me cause I gonna cook for
Speaker 8: you one day too.
Speaker 1: Bro, I can't wait.
Speaker 2: He called your grandma a bitch, and you're gonna cook her.
Speaker 2: I didn't call her a bitch, you know.
Speaker 1: God, I can't believe that. I can't wait to taste
Speaker 1: the food. Jennifer. Love you, Jennifer, Love you guys,