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Speaker 1: I have some bad news for you. What you guys

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Speaker 1: have been hounding me for a year to take you

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Speaker 1: all to Bennie Hannah. So last week we agreed that

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Speaker 1: Wednesday at noon this week, that we would all go

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Speaker 1: to Bennie han Over in Golden Valley.

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Speaker 2: You brought it up.

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Speaker 3: You brought it up, you said, you know what, I'll

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Speaker 3: finally take you guys.

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Speaker 4: Well we're not going. Why.

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Speaker 1: Well, here's the reason why. Because I have got this

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Speaker 1: belly pain and I've had it for ten twelve years,

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Speaker 1: and last week it was really bad, to the point

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Speaker 1: where I couldn't even sit still because I'd be sitting

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Speaker 1: like try to deal with the pain. So I called

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Speaker 1: to make a doctor appointment at the at the the

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Speaker 1: gastro doctor. And guess when the appointment is Wednesday at

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Speaker 1: eleven thirty. Of course, why that was the soonest they

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Speaker 1: could get me in. They said, okay, Monday morning at eight.

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Speaker 1: I can't be there today at eight o'clock, but I

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Speaker 1: can be there. Don't look so sad, Bailey.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: We've been wanting to go because we've been I think

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Speaker 5: again we brought this up because you offer to do it,

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Speaker 5: then never cast in, and now look at you cashing

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Speaker 5: out like a monk.

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Speaker 4: You know what.

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Speaker 1: I think that you guys should be a little bit

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Speaker 1: more supportive of your friend who could have like some

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Speaker 1: dread disease.

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Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, you've had belly paint for like twenty years.

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Speaker 6: You're fine still, it hasn't done anything to yet yet.

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Speaker 6: You know it fixes belly pain. Benny Hannah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's.

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Speaker 6: Yourself, Benny Hannah, with your wonderful coworker.

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Speaker 4: You know I can't.

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Speaker 1: I've got a health crisis over here, and the three

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Speaker 1: of you are bullying me to take it to Benny Hank.

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Speaker 2: Give me a pen and I'll burst the pain in

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Speaker 2: your belly.

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Speaker 4: It'll be gone to exist.

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Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, I'll burst it and then we'll go to

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Speaker 2: Ben Hannah.

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Speaker 4: I want to go to Betty Hank.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you'll maybe we'll go another time to cancel

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Speaker 1: my gastro appointment to take you idiots to Benni Hana, but.

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Speaker 5: You maybe will go another time. You heard it here,

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Speaker 5: Dave canceled on us. We bet last week on who

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Speaker 5: we cancel. First, we thought Jenny because she always.

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Speaker 6: Is like, I just will tell you ahead of time

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Speaker 6: if I'm not available. But if I'm available and I

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Speaker 6: commit to something, I stick with my commitments.

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Speaker 5: On somebody you weren't trying to day was shot at

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Speaker 5: the super Bowl party. You didn't want to go, you

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Speaker 5: didn't have any other.

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Speaker 2: It's not true. I didn't say that.

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Speaker 6: I said that I probably would be going to a

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Speaker 6: different super Bowl party.

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Speaker 3: I just was.

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Speaker 1: Unsure at the time.

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Speaker 2: Betty Hannah Dave.

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Speaker 4: I know you wrote a song about it. Play it

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Speaker 4: What's to the.

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Speaker 7: Tune of It's to the tune of Cocomo by the

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Speaker 7: Beach Boys. Just play play me the karaoke version, and

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Speaker 7: I would really like to sing the song for you

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Speaker 7: to really make you feel bad, to make you feel bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and when the doctor's like, you're fine, and that'll

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Speaker 2: be the end of it.

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Speaker 7: And then I want you to revisit this and picture

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Speaker 7: me sad, sad underneath the rain cloud.

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Speaker 8: Okaychi, I want to take me, Benny Hannah, Oh Mama,

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Speaker 8: com on, pretty Mama, Yum Yum sauce, Sweet sack Baby.

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Speaker 2: Why don't we go in Golden Valley.

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Speaker 9: There's a place called Kenny Hanny Hanna, thank you for this.

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Speaker 10: That's where you wanna go, and Dave will.

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Speaker 9: Pay for it all.

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Speaker 4: It's not gonna happen.

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Speaker 3: And map grub.

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Speaker 2: Onion train go to choo Chove.

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Speaker 9: We'll be falling in love to the rhythm of the

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Speaker 9: Tokyo bend down in Bennie Hannah a mership he bachi

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Speaker 9: A wanna takey Benny Hannah, Oh, Mama, com on, Brady, Mama.

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Speaker 2: Yummy young sauce, sweet sacke.

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Speaker 10: Maybe why don't please go.

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Speaker 2: To Benny Hannah.

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Speaker 8: We'll get there fast.

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Speaker 2: And then we'll take it so.

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Speaker 10: We want Okay, got a second one down in Bennie

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Speaker 10: Hannah tepping' yaki theatrics from the Kookie Chef, five Horses

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Speaker 10: and Specials.

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Speaker 4: How long is this song?

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Speaker 3: Willie tell?

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Speaker 9: Our pants are our free contra trimping at a mommy.

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Speaker 2: Or pan fried Josef.

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Speaker 10: Hey, I'm easy you have written up after.

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Speaker 4: Brevity is the soul of witch. Have you ever heard

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Speaker 4: that phrase before?

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Speaker 2: Cocktails and moonlit?

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Speaker 7: No?

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Speaker 4: Now, you're not even making up words.

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Speaker 2: That dreamy look in our eyes. Give me that tera

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Speaker 2: yaky contact Hi. Down in Bennie Hannah.

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Speaker 3: Admrsive Oka.

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Speaker 2: Wanna take you to Bennie.

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Speaker 4: Hannah's song anymore? Yeah, song is over?

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Speaker 7: Now?

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Speaker 1: Okay boy? You and Sabrina Carpenter the Songwriting Hall of Fame, Ye.

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Speaker 3: Close race.

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Speaker 4: You notice none of.

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Speaker 1: Those words in the Bailey's version rhymed, some of them dead.

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Speaker 1: Valley and Hannah do not rhyme. Oh my god, You've

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Speaker 1: got two dates this week on Hinge. If either of

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Speaker 1: these fellows heard this, they're going to cancel.

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Speaker 6: Will be like, sign me up, I be like, well,

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Speaker 6: we clearly need to go to Benny Hank Betty Hannah, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Right, I'm going.

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Speaker 1: Should there will be a dress code for teachers. Now

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Speaker 1: a lot of schools have a dress code of sorts

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Speaker 1: for students, but not necessarily necessarily for teachers, even though

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Speaker 1: many parents think they should. There's a teacher named any

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Speaker 1: She's gone viral and it's getting slammed on social media

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Speaker 1: over how she dresses sexy every day and everybody knows

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Speaker 1: how she dresses because she shows her outfits on TikTok.

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Speaker 1: But her latest Little Fashioned show has drawn a lot

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Speaker 1: Some critics say, you know, she's wearing club pants at

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Speaker 1: But not all the comments were negative. Some people thought

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Speaker 1: care to them, you're an old lady in leather pants.

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Speaker 4: Now, that is not true.

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Speaker 1: That is certainly not true, because when you're in middle school,

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Speaker 1: Missus Trent was hot and all the boys thought Missus

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Speaker 1: Trent was hot, and she was probably twenty eight or so,

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Speaker 4: So I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I haven't seen her picture of but off

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Speaker 1: the top of my head, I would say wearing tight

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Speaker 1: faux leather pants at school is now, you know, you're

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Speaker 1: not there to like, you know, look hot for the

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Speaker 1: kids or the other teachers dress a little bit more conservatively.

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Speaker 4: That's just me.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I agree that, like, you should definitely

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Speaker 7: not be wearing skin tight clothes. But I know I've

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Speaker 7: seen a lot of this stuff on TikTok and like

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Speaker 7: people talking about her outfits and like showing pictures her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And my thing though, is that she is just kind.

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Speaker 7: Of like a voluptuous woman, and that's not necessarily like

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Speaker 7: her fault. So like she could wear a bag and

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Speaker 7: she could still be considered like sexy because she's just

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Speaker 7: got a big button, big boobs, and.

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Speaker 1: A little bitty waist. But she's not wearing a bag.

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Speaker 1: She's wearing skin tight faux leather pants.

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Speaker 2: Right, But I'm thinking, like, can she win at all

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Speaker 2: if she could?

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Speaker 7: I mean, she could wear anything, I mean be considered right,

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Speaker 7: We're but they have to wear baggy clothes every day

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Speaker 7: just because you got a bang and bodd.

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Speaker 1: The male teacher wear a muscle shirt, I mean, is

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Speaker 1: that okay if a male teacher wears a muscle shirt

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Speaker 1: of belly shirt.

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Speaker 7: I mean, what if he's just like super jacked in

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Speaker 7: any shirt he wears is a muscle shirt because he's

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Speaker 7: so jacked.

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Speaker 3: That's what. Do you understand what I'm saying?

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Speaker 11: Though?

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Speaker 1: I see, Yes, I do. I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: But I know, for example, my realtor, he is jacked.

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Speaker 1: And I didn't know he was jacked until I saw

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Speaker 1: like a jacket and a business shirt kind of thing.

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Speaker 1: Then I see him at the gym and he's wearing

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Speaker 1: Damn Jenny, what do you think.

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Speaker 6: I'm looking at the photo right now, and I think

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Speaker 6: that it's ridiculous that people care. It's the same as

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Speaker 6: wearing skinny jeans in my opinion, which those are appropriate

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Speaker 2: Is it not?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: But I don't think teachers are wearing skinny jeans to

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Speaker 5: school either. I wouldn't be mad if they were, but

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Speaker 5: I just don't think they are if you're a.

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Speaker 6: Teacher of Texas in because I feel like a lot

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Speaker 6: of millennials have not let go of their skinny jeans.

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Speaker 6: That's still a thing. I know, gen Z's like, gad,

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Speaker 6: gross skinny jeans.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure I wear skinny jeans every day.

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Speaker 4: I'm just at that women.

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Speaker 6: I think it's like it's a trend that's gone away

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Speaker 6: for women. So I yeah, I'm looking at this and

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Speaker 6: I just do not find it to be inappropriate.

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Speaker 2: She's wearing pants and they're not. I wouldn't. I don't

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Speaker 6: Say that those are like going out to the club

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Speaker 2: Those are stylish leather pants.

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Speaker 1: In my opinion, I think that if there's one place

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Speaker 1: that you should dress conservatively. Number one, it's church, although

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Speaker 1: I see a lot of people at the church that

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Speaker 1: I go to look like they're going to a fashion show.

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Speaker 1: It's like rich women from chan Hansen are all decked

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Speaker 1: out not to praise the Lord, but to look hot

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Speaker 1: for their neighbors and have people go, oh wow, Jill

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Speaker 1: and her family, they're rich.

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Speaker 4: I see that a lot.

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Speaker 1: But I also think that school is one place where

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna dress somewhat conservatively, that would probably be

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Speaker 1: the place if you're a teacher. We have so many teachers.

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Speaker 1: We are number one with teachers. Love to hear what

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Speaker 1: you think. Send me a text at Katie WB one

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Speaker 1: five three nine two one. Here is one right now.

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Speaker 1: It says I work for a school district as a

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Speaker 1: pair of professional us and the teachers both have dress codes.

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Speaker 1: No short snow shirts that show your shoulder.

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Speaker 4: Another one.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe how sloppy teachers dress nowadays. But I

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Speaker 1: was a kid. Teachers always look nice. Drop my kid

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Speaker 1: off every day and watch these teachers walk in. They

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Speaker 1: actually literally have athletic pants on and a sweatshirt. Have

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Speaker 1: a great day, Christy.

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Speaker 2: Have you seeing the photo, Dave?

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Speaker 12: You think, Meg, Well, that gets were super silly from

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Speaker 11: Now, yes we have them, already wear them because yes

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Speaker 12: And everybody's already said it. They still exist.

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Speaker 2: Why would we body shame a teacher?

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Speaker 5: I just think that kids come to school wearing crazier

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Speaker 1: Now you see kids all the time because your work

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Speaker 3: They wear sweatpants every single day?

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Speaker 7: Yes, sweatpants and like a crop tip top sweatpants crocs.

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Speaker 5: Or when I was doing Friday night footballs, I saw

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Speaker 6: You were sent home. You had to have two fingers thickness, Yes,

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Speaker 7: You could have one nip out, just one nip.

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Speaker 4: Who else is on the phone, Kayla? Hi, Kayla.

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Speaker 4: Kayla, what do you think I think people.

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Speaker 14: Need to get over it?

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Speaker 15: I am a middle school teacher, and I am that

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just think that it matters how

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Speaker 1: I'd be like you, kids, get pajama pants should not

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Speaker 1: Bailey is going to stir the pot today. Bailey is

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Speaker 1: yesterday on Dave sirrs The Pot. Yeah, what do you

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Speaker 4: Bailey?

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Speaker 2: Okay, here's my Bailey stirs the pot.

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Speaker 7: People need to learn some etiquette when it comes to

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Speaker 3: Learn you manners.

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Speaker 7: Well, You're gonna stop unwrapping candy lattice.

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Speaker 2: You get your little crinkle crinkle, crinkle, crinkle crinkle, and that.

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Speaker 7: Stop unwrapping candy, Stop chewing gum and smacking it and

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Speaker 2: Stop coughing because I swear you're not sick.

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Speaker 7: You're just feeling uncomfortable because there's a quiet moment and

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Speaker 2: To call them out on it.

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Speaker 7: Why aren't people calling out their friends for being annoying

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Speaker 7: Yeah, where I tell Jenny right before I eat an

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Speaker 7: And usually like if I'm around somebody brand new and

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Speaker 5: Say that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not apologizing for eating, but being loud.

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Speaker 7: Why are you eating in an audience when you're supposed

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Speaker 3: I also paid for these chips. I'm not not watching

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Speaker 2: Oh drives me.

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Speaker 1: Bailey is turned the pot and you get a couple

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Speaker 1: Calling out you Orphium because they sell pretzels. This I

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and I used to work at a theater and

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Speaker 3: Start rolling around.

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Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, learn some etiquette when you're in an

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Speaker 4: Like it now.

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Speaker 1: Jenny is the nicest, kindest person on the show. So

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine how Jenny is going to come up

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Speaker 6: I thought of mine last night. I put a note

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Speaker 2: Okay, and I don't think you should.

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Speaker 1: A couple of text messages and you're doing this tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Jenny is gonna stir the pot tomorrow. Bailey says this

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Speaker 4: And the two women behind me who.

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Speaker 2: Kept talking, shut up, do not talk.

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Speaker 1: because they were dressed funny. They talked at this volume

446
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Speaker 1: through the entire movie.

447
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Speaker 3: That just follows you, Dave, because that happened when you

448
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Speaker 3: and I went to the movies too.

449
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Speaker 1: It did a little bit, but they were like girls,

450
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Speaker 1: and they were like, they were nothing like this anyway.

451
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Speaker 4: I dont want to get too far out track here.

452
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Speaker 2: This Texas, I was at a conference.

453
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Speaker 7: The guide to the left of me said yes, uh

454
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Speaker 7: huh yep to everything the trainer said, and to the

455
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Speaker 7: right someone crinkled chips.

456
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Speaker 2: Eight hours I almost lost it.

457
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Speaker 1: Uh, thanks for that, Bailey, stirring the pot on katiewb Jenny,

458
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Speaker 1: you got to stir the pod.

459
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Speaker 4: Yeah, because we switched things up.

460
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Speaker 1: A little bit this week because Pond gets tired of

461
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Speaker 1: stirring the pot. I stirred the pot on today Tuesday,

462
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Speaker 1: and I said teachers should be able to spank their kids.

463
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Speaker 5: Men.

464
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Speaker 1: That stirred the pot, so the teachers will absolutely agreed,

465
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Speaker 1: and some were.

466
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Speaker 4: Just riled up.

467
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Speaker 3: A lot more people did agree with you for a lot.

468
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Speaker 7: Of I stard the pot about how people don't know

469
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Speaker 7: how to be a good audience member and have the

470
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Speaker 7: worst etiquette ever when they're.

471
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Speaker 1: In an audience crunching pretzels, wrinkling back.

472
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Speaker 2: At their phone.

473
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Speaker 7: And I went to a show yesterday and there were

474
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Speaker 7: people who were bad audience.

475
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Speaker 4: Then there M so, Jenny, Yep, you get to stir

476
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Speaker 4: the pot today.

477
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Speaker 6: A great If you're a bride to be, you either

478
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Speaker 6: get to have a bachelor at party or a bridal shower.

479
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Speaker 6: You are not allowed to have both.

480
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Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

481
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Speaker 6: The amount of money we are spending on the bride

482
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Speaker 6: side of things is getting out of control. We're doing

483
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Speaker 6: destination bachelorette parties, We're doing bridle showers where you look

484
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Speaker 6: at Pinterest to find the most extravagant thing to make

485
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:03,439
Speaker 6: this bridal shower poppin', and then we're doing the actual wedding,

486
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Speaker 6: which also could potentially be a destination you never know.

487
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Speaker 6: And the amount of money that adds up to celebrate

488
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Speaker 6: this person's love is not worth it for me. Okay,

489
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Speaker 6: So when you are going to be married, you either

490
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Speaker 6: get to have one or the other.

491
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Speaker 2: That is my stir the pot today.

492
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Speaker 1: Bachelorette party or shower you have both, not both. Now

493
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Speaker 1: you might disagree with Jenny because maybe you did both

494
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Speaker 1: and you loved it and your friends all loved it.

495
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Speaker 1: Do you think their friends pretend to love it because

496
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Speaker 1: they love you?

497
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Speaker 6: I think some people really love us stuff. I know

498
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Speaker 6: Bailey's a big fan of things like that. I like,

499
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Speaker 6: I mean, I like those things.

500
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Speaker 7: But the people that I know who have been married,

501
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Speaker 7: they have done both. But the bridal showers more for

502
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Speaker 7: their like family, like older family members, right, and then

503
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Speaker 7: the bachelorette parties for all their friends who want to

504
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Speaker 7: go out and like get shots.

505
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Speaker 6: And I get that, And I thought about saying, well, like,

506
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Speaker 6: if you have like the bachelortt party for just friends

507
00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,639
Speaker 6: and bridle shower for family, sure, but I'm sticking to it.

508
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Speaker 2: You get one of the other. I mean, I went

509
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Speaker 2: to both for all of those. The other I've gone

510
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Speaker 2: to both for all of those.

511
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Speaker 6: And my thing is is I feel like I'm coming

512
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Speaker 6: off as like a sulcy single woman right now who

513
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Speaker 6: potentially will never get married.

514
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Speaker 2: But it truly isn't that.

515
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Speaker 6: It's the fact that we're spending so much money on

516
00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 6: and you're getting the same things. The same things you

517
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,639
Speaker 6: get at a bridle shower half the time are like

518
00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:18,159
Speaker 6: the same things for weddings, maybe not so much anymore

519
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:20,879
Speaker 6: because weddings you usually just give money now, yeah, but

520
00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 6: there's a registry for a bridle shower, there's a registry

521
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Speaker 6: for the wedding. And I think bridle showers are kind

522
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Speaker 6: of outdated to an extent because those were developed back

523
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Speaker 6: in the day when you didn't really live with a partner,

524
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Speaker 6: or if you did, you didn't have much yet, and

525
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Speaker 6: now people are getting married later. Yeah, So like, I

526
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 6: don't know, the men have a bachelor party and they

527
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Speaker 6: have a wedding and that's it, and that's all they have.

528
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Speaker 6: So why are we having to.

529
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Speaker 2: Do all of it?

530
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Speaker 1: I'm looking at text messages Jenny Jenny stirs the pot.

531
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Speaker 1: I am with you, Jenny, it is so ridiculous. Another one,

532
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Speaker 1: women are expected to give so much money to friends

533
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Speaker 1: who are getting married.

534
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Speaker 4: They typed in all caps.

535
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Speaker 6: Yes, it's crazy. It's like, I don't know. I love

536
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Speaker 6: a good destination bachel att party.

537
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Speaker 2: I do enjoy doing.

538
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Speaker 6: Stuff like that because I look at it as like

539
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Speaker 6: a girl's trip. I look at it as just like

540
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Speaker 6: a bachelor at party. But it's starting to get out

541
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Speaker 6: of control. And then like and on top of it,

542
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 6: when I get invited to something and I can't make it,

543
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Speaker 6: I still give money for that thing. Yeah, Like I

544
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,239
Speaker 6: could not make a bridal shower recently, I still went

545
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Speaker 6: in on a group present, but I didn't get to

546
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Speaker 6: thank you for Yeah, probably because I wasn't in attendance

547
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Speaker 6: for it, But I still gave money for it.

548
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Speaker 1: Can I read a text message at Katie wb one

549
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Speaker 1: Jenny spot On. I don't know how things got to

550
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Speaker 1: that age. In my age, we had lame showers. Another

551
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Speaker 1: one the showers for old ass aunties and the bachelorette

552
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Speaker 1: is to drink out of funny looking, funny shaped whoho.

553
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Speaker 1: Straws signed a twenty twenty six bride who is doing

554
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Speaker 1: both a lot of comments on this one baby showers

555
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Speaker 1: Jenny first born only or every baby.

556
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Speaker 6: I think firstborn only, which I thought was what most

557
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Speaker 6: people stuck with. That's what most of my friends have

558
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Speaker 6: always done. I haven't seen many people do more than

559
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Speaker 6: just the firstborn. For that, I have not attended anything

560
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Speaker 6: beyond the firstborn.

561
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Speaker 7: This text two also says some people do engagement parties too, yes,

562
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Speaker 7: which is an addition, don't.

563
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Speaker 4: Forget the baby reveal party.

564
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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, the gender reveal party.

565
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Speaker 6: And gosh, and I don't think I've ever been to

566
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Speaker 6: a gender reveal party, so like maybe one time. And

567
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Speaker 6: I don't think I had to bring a present for that,

568
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Speaker 6: So like, I don't mind that as long as you're

569
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Speaker 6: not required to.

570
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Speaker 2: Like give them a present on coming to that.

571
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Speaker 6: But yeah, I just I don't know, guys, it's getting

572
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Speaker 6: ridiculous the amount of money we're spending on friends' weddings

573
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Speaker 6: because of all of the activities we have to engage in.

574
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Speaker 2: And I love a good engagement party too.

575
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Speaker 6: Those are super fun, but don't expect me to spend

576
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Speaker 6: money at that. That is, if you want to have

577
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Speaker 6: an engagement party to celebrate your love.

578
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Speaker 2: Then you're providing everything.

579
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Speaker 4: In my opinion, the initial stir what was the initial?

580
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Speaker 6: I said that if you are a bride to be,

581
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Speaker 6: you get to have either a bachelor party or a

582
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Speaker 6: bridal show, where you do not get to do both

583
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Speaker 6: because we are spending too much money on weddings nowadays

584
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Speaker 6: text messages.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you, Jenny. I had to go to

586
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Speaker 1: Spain for a bachelorette party. Insane next one. My name

587
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Speaker 1: is Jamie Bride this year getting married next Saturday. I

588
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Speaker 1: had both. My bridal shower was close friends and family

589
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 1: and was walking tacos and margaritas. But my bachelorette party

590
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 1: was low key. We went to Wild Bills and did

591
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: one a one in the afternoon, bingo, then pottery painting

592
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Speaker 1: and that was it. I think you can have both

593
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 1: unless you are doing a huge bachelorette party. So they're

594
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Speaker 1: kind of like understated, more fun and less expensive.

595
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Speaker 7: Yeah, someone else does say I think the real issue

596
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Speaker 7: is that bachelorette parties are getting way out of hand.

597
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Speaker 2: Just go to the bar and get wasted like normal people.

598
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Speaker 3: Yeah, people go out of the country.

599
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Speaker 5: It is a big old which is cool and I

600
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Speaker 5: fact what you want, but like Jenny said, then I

601
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Speaker 5: can't be responsible for.

602
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Speaker 4: X y Z.

603
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Speaker 5: Earlier this year, I got called cheap of the cheaps

604
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Speaker 5: gate because we went to a destination wedding and I

605
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 5: was like, I don't think I should have to do

606
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 5: an expensive gift because I think my girlfriend Alyssa wanted to.

607
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Speaker 5: And I was like, we're already paying for hotel, resort, flight,

608
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Speaker 5: et cetera.

609
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Speaker 1: Do you think it has anything to do with and

610
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't live in that world. It

611
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: has anything to do with social media? Like if your

612
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 1: friend and Jessica is getting her she's doing her bachelorette party,

613
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Speaker 1: and they're going to Costa Rica and they're all the

614
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: girls on the beach and they're all wearing the funny

615
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 1: straw hats and they got a margarita, and it's like, oh,

616
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Speaker 1: that's the standard.

617
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Speaker 4: Do you think that's anything?

618
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Speaker 1: Well for the grand but also it's like, well, I

619
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Speaker 1: can't just like take them out to cowboy Jacks because

620
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Speaker 1: Jessica went to Costa Rica.

621
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Speaker 6: I do think that it is kind of that, and

622
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Speaker 6: you get a lot of ideas for that because of course,

623
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Speaker 6: when I planned my sister's bachelorett party, I was looking

624
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 6: at social media and Pinterest and doing all these extra

625
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 6: things whereas like that didn't used to exist. You would

626
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 6: just go to the bar get drunk. Yeah, and that

627
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 6: was like the extent was the whole thing. But yes,

628
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 6: I do think that there is, Like I'm be honest,

629
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Speaker 6: Tina on our show, the girls who coordinated her Bachelor

630
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Speaker 6: at party this.

631
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Speaker 2: Summer, they went all out.

632
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Speaker 6: I mean they got a whole banner that said camp

633
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Speaker 6: Range on it had the dates, like personalized it. We

634
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 6: all had personalized tote bags with like gifts in it.

635
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 6: Like it was crazy. And I appreciate everything that they do,

636
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 6: but it's like, I don't know, if I ever get married,

637
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Speaker 6: I would love to have a bachelor aut party and

638
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Speaker 6: I do not want to require anyone to do anything.

639
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 2: Besides show up and have a couple of cocktails with me.

640
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 2: That's like really all I care about.

641
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 3: Yeah right, No, I agree.

642
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 7: I agree, And I've gone to a lot of those

643
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 7: things and it does. It does suck buying things constantly.

644
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 7: And I've been in a lot of weddings too, so

645
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 7: like when you're in a wedding, it's even more expensive

646
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,880
Speaker 7: because then you're expected to show up to all of them, right,

647
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 7: you call someone with an opinion, Ghostbusterlable.

648
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Speaker 1: She was a woman who said that she had she

649
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Speaker 1: was a bridesmaid in a wedding that had four, yes,

650
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 1: four bachelorette parties. Now here's another text, Jenny, you sound

651
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 1: like an old curmudgeon. Get off my damn grass.

652
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Speaker 6: I would have said this exact same statement ten years

653
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 6: ago versus being at thirty five, because even when my

654
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,679
Speaker 6: sister got married and I was like twenty five or

655
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 6: twenty six, I was like, this is ridiculous.

656
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 2: That we're doing all of this.

657
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Speaker 6: So you can you can definitely say I'm an old curmudgeon,

658
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 6: I admitted, but I'm also I'm a frugal bitch.

659
00:27:58,840 --> 00:27:59,640
Speaker 3: Is when it comes back.

660
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 2: And I'm going broken my friend's weddings.

661
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Speaker 1: Okay, Alex is on the phone giggling. You wanted to

662
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Speaker 1: talk about just so give me the initial stur Jenny.

663
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Speaker 6: Yeah, that if you're getting married as a bride, you

664
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Speaker 6: only get a bachelor at party or a bridal.

665
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Speaker 4: Shower, not both. No, Alex, are your thoughts please.

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Speaker 16: A bachelorette party or what I'm sorry.

667
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Speaker 2: Or a bridal shower?

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Speaker 16: I think if you don't want everyone to go to

669
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Speaker 16: you know, costa Rica for your bachelorett party. Then you

670
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Speaker 16: could easily just do both. But when you want people

671
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Speaker 16: to pay thousands of dollars as one person, that's unacceptable,

672
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Speaker 16: and that's what today's standard is. That's my bone.

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Speaker 1: No what you have a bone to pick with the

674
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Speaker 1: wedding industry specifically what I hate it.

675
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Speaker 16: I've been in several wedding parties. I've also been married

676
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Speaker 16: myself and married for almost seven years, and I only

677
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Speaker 16: paid eight thousands for my own wedding. When people want

678
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Speaker 16: me to pay two thousand for a bachelor red party,

679
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Speaker 16: I think it's unreasonable. But then you're a bad friend when.

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Speaker 13: You don't want to pay that.

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Speaker 16: I a jenny that going to the back of our

682
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Speaker 16: party is like a girl's trip. I love it, get it,

683
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Speaker 16: But you're there to celebrate one person, which means you're

684
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Speaker 16: there four another person. Paying thousands of dollars for somebody

685
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Speaker 16: else to vacation is unacceptable.

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 6: And then on top of it, when you're on that vacation,

688
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Speaker 6: you feel like you have to pay for their drinks

689
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Speaker 6: the whole time, and it turns into this whole thing.

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Speaker 7: That's the hard part about being in a wedding party,

691
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Speaker 7: I think is paying for the bride's drinks and paying

692
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Speaker 7: for her meals and stuff because you want her to

693
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Speaker 7: have a good time. And I've been a bridesmaid like

694
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Speaker 7: five times, and that's that's a lot.

695
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Speaker 4: That is a lot. Here is a text message.

696
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Speaker 1: There's somebody you did stir the pot on this one, Jenny.

697
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: This is a text that says, I also hate when

698
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Speaker 1: you got to be at the wedding venue at seven

699
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Speaker 1: am as a bridesmaid, but the wedding's not until six pm.

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Speaker 4: Is that a thing?

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Speaker 10: Well?

702
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Speaker 6: You usually everyone gets together for mimosas and coffee and stuff,

703
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 6: and everyone's getting their makeup and hair done together. So yes,

704
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Speaker 6: usually if you're part of the wedding party, you're there

705
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Speaker 6: very early to.

706
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Speaker 2: Do all that.

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Speaker 6: And a lot of people nowadays they do you do

708
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Speaker 6: photos ahead of time before the ceremony even takes place,

709
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Speaker 6: just to get those done with. But yeah, I mean

710
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Speaker 6: it's a full day commitment on top of everything else

711
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Speaker 6: you commit to as a bridesmaid.

712
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Speaker 1: What about this is this text says, and I'm just reading,

713
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Speaker 1: a bridal shower is one hundred percent different than the bachelorette.

714
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Speaker 1: The bridal showers for your family and your aunt Vivian

715
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Speaker 1: and your older elderly cousin Sharon to come along. That's

716
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Speaker 1: for the shower. Bachelorette is for your friends to go

717
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Speaker 1: out and wear a funny looking hat and a drink

718
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Speaker 1: out of a funny looking straw. Bachelorette. No bachelorette requires.

719
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Speaker 6: Gifts, so it no, you usually play games, you bring

720
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Speaker 6: like underwear that you think represents your personalities, and the

721
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 6: bride guesses whose underwear you usually do, end up spending

722
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Speaker 6: some money on that, and then you do buy the

723
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Speaker 6: bride drinks. They should the bride should never have to

724
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Speaker 6: pay for drinks throughout the entire night in my opinion.

725
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Speaker 6: But yes, I would say that they are different. I

726
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Speaker 6: understand where you're coming from. However, are getting invited to

727
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Speaker 6: the bridal shower too? Yes, every good friend who I've

728
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Speaker 6: gone to their bachelorette party, I am invited to the

729
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Speaker 6: bridal shower on top of it, especially if.

730
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Speaker 2: You're in the wedding party. You are going to both.

731
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Speaker 4: Of Maya lost a friend over this whole thing. Tell

732
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Speaker 4: us what happened, hi, Maya, So I actually had a

733
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Speaker 4: friend who have gotten married.

734
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Speaker 14: About like a year year and a half ago and

735
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Speaker 14: before her, before she had a marriage, she wanted a

736
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Speaker 14: bachelor party. She's like, we're going to Vegas.

737
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Speaker 15: She's like, you're going to be the maid of honor.

738
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Speaker 14: And I was like, cool, whatever, we'll figure it out.

739
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Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, we'll.

740
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Speaker 14: Be expecting to pay five to ten thousand dollars for

741
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Speaker 14: our parties.

742
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Speaker 13: And I should excuse you, right, gosh.

743
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Speaker 4: And you did not.

744
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 7: I did not, And we're.

745
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Speaker 10: No longer friends.

746
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 12: And we were friends.

747
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Speaker 15: From third grade all the way up until.

748
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Speaker 6: Oh, no, party you throw on that's gonna cost ten

749
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Speaker 6: thousand dollars the wedding.

750
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Speaker 4: That's not the wedding.

751
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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, that's crazy.

752
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 6: You can actually do Vegas somewhat cheap as a female

753
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 6: because usually guys buy your drinks the whole time. You're

754
00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 6: just probably spending money on the hotel. But even like

755
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 6: the hotel shouldn't cost that much. Gosh, wow, she really

756
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 6: won from you. Yeah, you dodged a bullet with that one. No,

757
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Speaker 6: I mean, I'm sorry.

758
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Speaker 3: I'll still send it though.

759
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a long one.

760
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Speaker 3: But good for a stay in on all business and

761
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Speaker 3: not spending the money. No, yeah, she.

762
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Speaker 14: Wasn't getting my money, I got kids.

763
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Speaker 4: Yeah, good for you.

764
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Speaker 1: There's so many text messages about this, and we could

765
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Speaker 1: read these for days, but we'll read a couple of

766
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Speaker 1: like highlighted ones about whether a bride should have just

767
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Speaker 1: a bachelorette party or just a shower, but not both.

768
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Speaker 2: This one kind of has the same sentiment as the

769
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Speaker 2: last caller. I have been in eleven weddings.

770
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Speaker 7: The amount of money I have spent between wedding day,

771
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 7: bachelorette party, bridal shower is literally someone's annual salary. It

772
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Speaker 7: is absolutely outrageous. Wow, And I totally feel.

773
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Speaker 4: That why why why do you do it? Though?

774
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Speaker 1: I mean because somebody your friend and I get you

775
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Speaker 1: love your friend. It is a you know, it's a

776
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Speaker 1: once in a lifetime event hopefully, and it's a big

777
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: deal and it's a great excuse to go do something memorable. Yeah,

778
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Speaker 1: is that it's all about?

779
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Speaker 2: It's a Yeah. I think it's a it's a great

780
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Speaker 2: memory to make and everything.

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Speaker 7: It is just expensive, especially for I think for women especially,

782
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 7: it's expensive. And if it's your friend or your sibling

783
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 7: or someone in your family who's getting married, you feel

784
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 7: obligated to go to all of the things you feel obligated,

785
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Speaker 7: especially if you're like made of honor, to pay for

786
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 7: everything you do because you're like, well, I've been deemed

787
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Speaker 7: the best friend, so I guess I have to pay

788
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Speaker 7: for everyone's drinks. Not everyone's but the wife, the bride's

789
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 7: drinks and things like that.

790
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Speaker 3: It's just it is exhausting.

791
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Speaker 7: Or you're just like self deemed the best bridesmaid, so

792
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Speaker 7: you're paying for everything even if you're not the maid

793
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Speaker 7: of honor. Right.

794
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so.

795
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Speaker 1: Many text messages on on this. I appreciate it so much.

796
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Speaker 4: Thank you.

797
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Speaker 1: J Yeah, we gonna like mix it up with stir

798
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Speaker 1: in the pods. So, Shaye, we've been talking about have

799
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Speaker 1: your ears been ringing? We've been talking about you, Sheila.

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Speaker 13: Yeah, good morning morning.

801
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Speaker 1: So Shila was I think it was a couple of

802
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 1: days ago we heard from a movie, so we got

803
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: to have you tell your story on the radio.

804
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Speaker 4: Sheila.

805
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Speaker 1: I don't want to take it away or steal your thunder,

806
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,360
Speaker 1: but you were done with your marriage. You were out

807
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 1: the door. Tell me about what happened in the process

808
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:25,880
Speaker 1: and what's going on now.

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Speaker 14: Okay, yeah, I was. I was thinking about divorcing my husband.

810
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:36,839
Speaker 14: You know, he's like he's fine, he's he's this kind

811
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:41,439
Speaker 14: of dull, kind of boring. And they started thinking like, hmm,

812
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 14: what if there was like, you know, somebody else out

813
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 14: there that that I was, if I was single, if

814
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 14: I was free, if I was able to figure out

815
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Speaker 14: who I'd want to be with.

816
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Speaker 13: Uh.

817
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Speaker 14: I kind of thought that I would just be looking

818
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Speaker 14: for the same man as my husband.

819
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Speaker 7: Oh okay, So making like a list of like qualities

820
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 7: that you want in a man or something if you

821
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Speaker 7: ended up leaving him.

822
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Speaker 14: Yeah, yeah, Like you know, if I I would want

823
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 14: somebody who's like a steady eddy that's my husband, you know,

824
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Speaker 14: I would I would want somebody that's involved with with

825
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:25,880
Speaker 14: my son, our son. My husband coaches te ball for

826
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Speaker 14: her son, Like he's you know, he's we don't fight,

827
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 14: we don't have any like financial problems. But I was

828
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 14: just like, you know, I was thinking about this, and

829
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 14: I was like, instead of going through all the divorce,

830
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,919
Speaker 14: if you meet somebody that you know kind of checks

831
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:43,919
Speaker 14: all the boxes and you think, oh that could work,

832
00:35:44,760 --> 00:35:48,720
Speaker 14: just think like, maybe don't get divorced. Maybe your husband's fine.

833
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 14: And you know, I.

834
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Speaker 1: Think I think I get what she's saying. You can

835
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 1: just think about this one if you broke up, and

836
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 1: I want you to picture this. If you're married right now,

837
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,280
Speaker 1: and maybe you're you know, there's a lot of marriages

838
00:35:57,320 --> 00:36:00,439
Speaker 1: that are okay, there's some that are wonder and there's

839
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 1: a lot that are like, we're kind of roommates. Think

840
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 1: about this if you were single, because I think what

841
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,359
Speaker 1: she's saying is, if you're single and you're like out

842
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 1: dating again and you met somebody who was like kind

843
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 1: of like your current partner, would you go like, they're

844
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Speaker 1: kind of a catch. You know, they're they're just different,

845
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 1: they're steady, eddy, they do you know, they're involved with

846
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 1: the kids. But you had said you didn't say this

847
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 1: now because maybe you got shy about it. You said

848
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Speaker 1: you want a guy with a sex drive, but not

849
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Speaker 1: somebody who wants it.

850
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Speaker 4: All the time. Yes, okay, all right, So you.

851
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Speaker 1: Want a guy who's like, you don't want a guy

852
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Speaker 1: who doesn't have any kind of a sex drive. But

853
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 1: you don't want a guy who's like, you know, you

854
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 1: can't even like bend over the kitchen sink or empty

855
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 1: the trash without him being like, hey, let's go what.

856
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 14: So is that normal that way?

857
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 1: So he's like, yeah, he has the drive, but not

858
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Speaker 1: all the time. So then you start to realize if

859
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: you were out dating and you met somebody on hinge

860
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Speaker 1: that was a steady eddy, maybe a little bit dull,

861
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Speaker 1: wasn't you know, like always you know, pestering you for

862
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 1: the lovin, you'd be like, this guy's quite a catch.

863
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 4: Oh wait, that's my husband.

864
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:09,359
Speaker 2: I already have that.

865
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 1: But yeah, here comes mister sink over here.

866
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Speaker 5: I just feel I should never be in a thought

867
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 5: process where I'm like, maybe I should get a divorce,

868
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 5: because if I get to that point, then I don't

869
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 5: think there is saving it. I think, you know, if

870
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Speaker 5: you think you should get a divorce, then it should happen.

871
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Speaker 7: Though I really disagree because like there's so many like

872
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:33,480
Speaker 7: chances when you're even in just a relationship prior to marriage,

873
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 7: where you're like, is this the one right for me?

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Speaker 3: And it's a lot of self sabotage.

875
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 5: You said it right there before marriage when you when

876
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 5: you marry somebody who make vows to commit for better

877
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 5: or for worse, for richard, for poor, for all those things.

878
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, but there's fifty percent divorce rate.

879
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Speaker 6: I think I think it's hard to say, like us

880
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:51,879
Speaker 6: three on the show. Dave's been married for a long time.

881
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 6: We have never been in a super super super long relationship,

882
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:57,959
Speaker 6: so I don't think we can necessarily relate to someone.

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Speaker 6: I don't know how long you've been married, Sheila, but

884
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 6: like if you've been in a relationship for fifteen years, like,

885
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 6: does it change?

886
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 7: Does it?

887
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 4: Like Lauren?

888
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:08,560
Speaker 5: No, what changes for sure? But I think that you

889
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 5: made a commitment to be with this person. I'm not

890
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,000
Speaker 5: going to geto a marriage considering that it might end

891
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:13,359
Speaker 5: one day.

892
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 1: I think that is a very that's a commitment to

893
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 1: I think if it's a religious ceremony, I think it's

894
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 1: a commitment to God. I don't think you should commit

895
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 1: to ten years of a happy marriage and thirty more

896
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:27,439
Speaker 1: years of being miserable with each other.

897
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

898
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 7: So a lot of people are texting in that this

899
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 7: is the Pina Colada song, which is what I thought.

900
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 1: And I never knew that you like Pini by the way, Pena,

901
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:43,040
Speaker 1: And she said, I never knew that. Part of the

902
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 1: song was like because he walked into the bar and

903
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:46,840
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, it's you.

904
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 7: So the song is that these two people they put

905
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,439
Speaker 7: out like ads because they want to find someone else

906
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 7: outside of their marriage, so they're.

907
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 3: Looking to cheat.

908
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,359
Speaker 7: But then when they fulfill the ad, they go on

909
00:38:57,400 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 7: this date to go and meet this person that was

910
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:01,760
Speaker 7: willing to add and it's their spouse.

911
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 1: We that is, so you know what, Sheila, you brought

912
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 1: up a really interesting topic. I wish we had more

913
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: time to talk about it. But thank you, because I

914
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: think it makes a lot of people think. But I

915
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 1: I gotta say that if you really sometimes you know,

916
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 1: it's like, man, yeah, I have a commitment, but I

917
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,560
Speaker 1: also don't want to commit myself to being bored and

918
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 1: lonely and miserable for the next thirty years. Sheila, thanks

919
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,720
Speaker 1: for being on. Have a great day, Okay, Yeah, yeah,

920
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 1: thank you. We're gonna we'll talk about this a little

921
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 1: bit more when we come back. Somebody says, Vaunt is

922
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 1: showing his age with that answer, and then he said

923
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 1: it's kind of true. Somebody else says, the grass is

924
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 1: not always greener. We got a lot of response on

925
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 1: this one. We got to take a break. We'll come

926
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,360
Speaker 1: back in a second and we'll talk more about this

927
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 1: in a little bit. On kd WB, we talked to

928
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:46,399
Speaker 1: a woman a minute ago, Sheila. I believe her name

929
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 1: was Yeah, really really interesting take on divorce because she said, Hey,

930
00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 1: I've been married for a while. My husband's boring. He's

931
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:56,360
Speaker 1: like a steady eddy, he coaches t ball, he's you know,

932
00:39:56,440 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 1: a good you know husband whatever, he's just boring. And

933
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 1: she started to go through the divorce and like thinking

934
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 1: about divorce and working it through in her mind and

935
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 1: going out and seeing what she could get as far

936
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,879
Speaker 1: as a new partner and meeting people, and the idea

937
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 1: is maybe kind of exciting to her. So then she

938
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:15,479
Speaker 1: started thinking about, God, well what if I met a guy.

939
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: I really would if I met a guy that had

940
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: all those boxes like kind of boring and steady eddy,

941
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 1: good with the kids. Once I had to have a

942
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 1: sex life, but it's not crazed about it. And then

943
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:34,399
Speaker 1: she realized that's what her husband is. So then she said,

944
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: I am not going to get a divorce. So and

945
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 1: I thought that was really interesting because if you were

946
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 1: divorced and single and you found somebody who was just like,

947
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: I mean, the good qualities. M yeah, because everybody has

948
00:40:48,360 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 1: except their boorah maybe borings not. I'd rather have a

949
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: boring relationship than somebody who was full of drama had

950
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 1: to bail them out of prison and take them to

951
00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 1: Betty four and all that.

952
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 4: You know.

953
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:05,239
Speaker 1: I just Okay, So I'm talking to somebody named Angela,

954
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:11,360
Speaker 1: and you're kind of in the same boat that she was. Hi, Angela,

955
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 1: tell me your story.

956
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 13: Good morning, same boat. I mean I thought of over

957
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 13: you know, I thought about divorce on and off. It's

958
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 13: not that I don't love my husband. Of course, I

959
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 13: love my husband. We've been married over fifteen years. But

960
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 13: I mean he's kind of an overtime, you know, marriage

961
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 13: has change, and he just doesn't want to go out.

962
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 13: He doesn't want to go out to dinner. He doesn't

963
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,319
Speaker 13: want to go do things, you know, like go out

964
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 13: and dates, you know, little dates. Yeah, so I've just decided.

965
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 13: I thought about it, you know, I thought about the

966
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 13: divorce thing, but I mean, I trust my husband. Trust

967
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 13: is hard. I have single friends. The dating world is terrible.

968
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,800
Speaker 13: So I'm just gonna go out. I decided to date myself,

969
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:50,280
Speaker 13: Like we should normalize being able to go to dinner

970
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 13: by yourself, go do things by yourself. I deserve to

971
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 13: be happy. She deserves to be happy. I mean, I mean,

972
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 13: it doesn't like she does not have like she's she

973
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 13: doesn't hate him. Or anything. Stay married, take yourself out,

974
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 13: do a thing for yourself. Nobody's deserved your time more

975
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 13: than yourself.

976
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:08,840
Speaker 4: Okay, I like that. I like that, Angela.

977
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: And you've been married for fifteen years and you said that,

978
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 1: what has changed? So he used to want to go

979
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: out to you know, play darts or go dance or go.

980
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 13: To a movie or what you absolutely and it just hasn't.

981
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 13: He's more of a homebody now, which is fine, you know.

982
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 13: I mean I do, I ask for it every night. No,

983
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 13: but I mean there's I mean, life just changed. He

984
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 13: just wants to be a homebody. Doesn't want to go

985
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 13: out on dates, doesn't want to go to you know,

986
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:35,720
Speaker 13: just doesn't want to go to like different sports events

987
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 13: or like you said, go bowling or go out with

988
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 13: friends or go play Bengal. He just doesn't want to

989
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,359
Speaker 13: do that. So I'm just I'll do it myself.

990
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:43,879
Speaker 4: Do it yourself. Are you happy with that?

991
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:45,839
Speaker 1: And you don't have to be you know, I think

992
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,320
Speaker 1: you're being real honest, But do you kind of wish

993
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:52,160
Speaker 1: that it was? Like, Man, I'm kind of looking around

994
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: going I wish I had a partner that wanted to

995
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:58,120
Speaker 1: go to can Can Wonderland who wanted to go to

996
00:42:58,239 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 1: Nick universe type of thing.

997
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 13: I mean yes and no. But I mean nowadays it's

998
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 13: hard to find somebody. And I mean I definitely all

999
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,800
Speaker 13: the qualities he has. I love everything that he has.

1000
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 13: So I just feel like if, like she said, if

1001
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:12,879
Speaker 13: I went and found I would I would think about

1002
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 13: him more than anything. I mean it's hard to trust

1003
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 13: and I you know, and so nobody deserves my time

1004
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 13: more than me.

1005
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: You know what, I love, Angela. I love that attitude.

1006
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:23,239
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that you were able to be on

1007
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 1: the radio with us. Have a great week you take

1008
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 1: you taking yourself.

1009
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 13: Out this weekend, and you know what, yes, because he's

1010
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 13: going hunting.

1011
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: By the way, you win, you win the Minnesota Accents

1012
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 1: of the Day award, So the body you.

1013
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 4: Have a good day.

1014
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 5: I'm glad that she's choosing to date herself though, and

1015
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:43,839
Speaker 5: not go find other people, because I said that the

1016
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 5: minute divorce or even like going to find somebody else

1017
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 5: crosses your mind, just do it. Because I feel like

1018
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 5: you made a commitment to your partner when you just

1019
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:54,280
Speaker 5: decided to get married, the thought of going to somebody

1020
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 5: else shouldn't cross your mind.

1021
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 4: Oh you got I disagree with me.

1022
00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: I think if you're going to be honest, I think

1023
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: that you know, I thought about divorce before. I'm sure

1024
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: Susan has thought about it before, and not for any

1025
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: like wow reason, like wow, you have a gambling problem

1026
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: or whatever, just kind of like you know, yeah, and

1027
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 1: it's not like we ever like got serious about it.

1028
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: But I think that if every couple is being honest,

1029
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: there's probably a part of every couple that's been married

1030
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 1: for forty years where they've at one point said, well, yeah,

1031
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 1: is this making me happy?

1032
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 2: I just go ahead, Jenny, I was gonna say.

1033
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 6: I think that once you get into a longer relationship,

1034
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 6: you still like really care about your partner, if you

1035
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:42,040
Speaker 6: chose the right partner. It just is a matter of like,

1036
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 6: there are certain things every person evolves throughout their life,

1037
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 6: It's true, and you don't necessarily evolve in the same

1038
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 6: way as your partner.

1039
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 4: Look at this guy, Yeah, he used to go out.

1040
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 4: He doesn't go out.

1041
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 7: Oh.

1042
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 6: It's like it's like you, there are parts of you

1043
00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,920
Speaker 6: that probably question like, is there someone else that fits who.

1044
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 2: I am as a person? Better?

1045
00:44:58,040 --> 00:45:01,319
Speaker 5: Now? Like the point of though, say for better, for worse, rich,

1046
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 5: for poor? I commit like my life to you. That's

1047
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 5: the point of marriage.

1048
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 3: But if you change in a.

1049
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 7: Way that's not beneficial to like the relationship, then I

1050
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 7: think it's better to get a divorce. But in her case,

1051
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:14,800
Speaker 7: like the person she would be looking for is essentially

1052
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 7: going to be the same guy anyway.

1053
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 5: I hear what you're saying, like, you should not feel

1054
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 5: confined right to that person and whatever changes. But again,

1055
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 5: I just you know, if something happened tomorrow or in

1056
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:27,399
Speaker 5: twenty years, Alyssa changes, we get married.

1057
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 3: I don't know. I said, Hey, I'm with you for life.

1058
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 5: I just think you shouldn't go into a situation of

1059
00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:34,439
Speaker 5: commitment with a notion in the back of your head

1060
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:35,360
Speaker 5: that I don't know.

1061
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 6: I don't think nobody goes into marriage thinking like someday

1062
00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 6: I'm going to get a divorce. At least I hope

1063
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 6: they don't, or if you do, then you probably know

1064
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 6: right off the bat that's not the right person for you.

1065
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:45,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1066
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:47,720
Speaker 6: I just think that it's a naive thing to say

1067
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 6: that you wouldn't potentially think about someone else.

1068
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 2: I'm all for working for the relationship.

1069
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 6: I am all for trying to get through hard times

1070
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 6: with people, or if you are getting bored in your relationship.

1071
00:45:58,040 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 6: I'm all for trying to like figure out what the

1072
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 6: solutionists for that, Yes, but I do think that it

1073
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 6: would be I don't know. I just think it'd be

1074
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 6: silly to say that people don't have those thoughts.

1075
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 2: Though.

1076
00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 1: Well, if you just turned the radio on. We were

1077
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:11,840
Speaker 1: talking about a woman called in and she said she

1078
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:14,400
Speaker 1: thought about getting a divorce, but then she fast forward

1079
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:17,040
Speaker 1: in her mind how it would play out. She would

1080
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 1: go out, try to find a new partner, and if

1081
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 1: she found somebody who was just like her husband, she'd

1082
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: be like, what a catch. And then she realized that

1083
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 1: she has what a catch. We had a lot of

1084
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 1: responses on this one. For example, this one says I

1085
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 1: want to say thanks to Angela, who just called in

1086
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:35,719
Speaker 1: and she said, my husband's boring. So instead of like

1087
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 1: me staying home at being bored, I take myself out.

1088
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 1: This text says, thanks Angela. I've been going back and

1089
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: forth on divorce because he doesn't want to go out,

1090
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: and now I'm going to take myself out. That's a

1091
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 1: great compromise.

1092
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:49,640
Speaker 7: And I would like to also say on that note, like, yes,

1093
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 7: I'm not married. My last relationship though, was like almost

1094
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 7: five years and I was in the same position where

1095
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 7: it was really great at the beginning, obviously, and then

1096
00:46:58,120 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 7: he just didn't want to go out anymore. So I

1097
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 7: continued living my life the way I wanted and he

1098
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 7: lived his separate life.

1099
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Speaker 2: And I feel like, yes, take yourself out.

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Speaker 7: But if your lives like diverge so fully that you're

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00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 7: just living two different lives and kind of ships in

1102
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Speaker 7: the night in your home, then like I would say,

1103
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 7: get a divorce.

1104
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: Why why commit yourself. I'll give you two thoughts, and

1105
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: I really believe this. You might disagree. If you have

1106
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 1: to work that hard on a marriage, it ain't a

1107
00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:26,720
Speaker 1: good marriage. Yeah, marriage, You should not have to work

1108
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:30,319
Speaker 1: that hard on a marriage. If you have to work

1109
00:47:30,360 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 1: that hard, marriage does a lot of work. It shouldn't

1110
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Speaker 1: be that much work, or it's not a good marriage.

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Speaker 3: I disagree. I mean, I hope that it doesn't get

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00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 3: to that point.

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Speaker 5: But marriage is all about as far as I know,

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00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:42,240
Speaker 5: I'm not married, but like sacrifice and deciding to always

1115
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 5: show up. This other text it says I agree with

1116
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 5: nowhere is it. Throughout a long marriage, people fall in

1117
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 5: and out of love all the time. The trick is

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Speaker 5: to make the choice to stay, even during the seasons

1119
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Speaker 5: when the love might feel lost. However, it's normal to

1120
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Speaker 5: start considering the what ifs during those seasons two so

1121
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Speaker 5: to be able to navigate the highs, the lows, the

1122
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 5: ups and downs, the peaks and valleys, but still get through.

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Speaker 4: I think I think that's true.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you fight over like you know, she spent

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Speaker 1: too much money or he bought a new motorcycle without

1126
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Speaker 1: asking or whatever, then yeah, those are your peaks and valleys.

1127
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 1: But if everything is like uh ho hum, I don't

1128
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:16,359
Speaker 1: say I love you, we don't kiss, we don't do this,

1129
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: you pass each other naked in the hallway and you

1130
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Speaker 1: don't even glance at each other, then things start to

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Speaker 1: be a problem.