Speaker 1: Mojo in the morning show, Homa of War, The Roses,
Speaker 1: The Second Date Update, Five Lives, Tell Your Mom, Phone
Speaker 1: Scam Am I, The A Hole Throwback throw Down, and
Speaker 1: of course Shannon starting on the thirty so Anna says
Speaker 1: that she wants us to give her a little bit
Speaker 1: of our take on something that happened.
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 3: So there is a guy that I'm friends with. I
Speaker 3: would say we're friends. He recently reached out to me
Speaker 3: and said, haven't seen you in a while, Let's get
Speaker 3: a drink and catch up, which seems totally normal to me. However,
Speaker 3: in the past, let me start by saying, the last
Speaker 3: time I saw him was over a year ago, and
Speaker 3: in the past when I would see him, we were
Speaker 3: always very flirty. We've never done anything with each other,
Speaker 3: but there was definitely some like tension there. So when
Speaker 3: he reached out to me and said let's get a
Speaker 3: drink and catch up, I go to his profile. I
Speaker 3: see that he's in a very committed relationship. It looks
Speaker 3: like and has a child. Oh, I know, so a
Speaker 3: new child at that, Like this is almost like a
Speaker 3: newborn baby. So I add something back to him along
Speaker 3: the lines of like, does your girlfriend know about this,
Speaker 3: and to my surprise, he said yes, and she's okay
Speaker 3: with me seeing other women.
Speaker 2: Don't know what that means, okay, right.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's because we do war the roses and I'm
Speaker 3: just like skeptical about cheaters. But to me, like something
Speaker 3: seems fishy because I put myself in the other woman's
Speaker 3: shoes if I just had a baby, like what I
Speaker 3: want my man going out with another girl, or maybe
Speaker 3: she doesn't care at all, But then I personally still
Speaker 3: just feel a little odd.
Speaker 2: Well, that's not a situation.
Speaker 1: You want to be a partner, right, you know, you
Speaker 1: need a handwritten letter permission slip. You need to have
Speaker 1: his one girl sign a permission slip that you guys
Speaker 1: can get together. That's pretty wild, by the way, First off,
Speaker 1: handed to the guy, because he could have just said,
Speaker 1: what girl, what's going on?
Speaker 2: Yeah, but he said, she's fine with this. It's good.
Speaker 4: There are a lot of relationships out here, and this
Speaker 4: is something I'm realizing. There are a lot of relationships
Speaker 4: out here that are open, where people are comfortable allowing
Speaker 4: their partner to go and be in spaces with other
Speaker 4: people that they find attractive and interesting.
Speaker 2: Which good for them. But is Anna comfortable situation?
Speaker 3: But also like, is that what he's looking for? Does
Speaker 3: he just want to catch up because friends?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's an interesting thing is maybe he's not meaning it,
Speaker 1: and maybe there's just a natural flirt in him, but
Speaker 1: he's not meaning it in any other way of saying
Speaker 1: he just wants to be having a lunch with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 4: The only well, I mean, you obviously know way more
Speaker 4: about him than we do. But only basing it off
Speaker 4: of literally what he said, which was she's comfortable with
Speaker 4: me seeing other women.
Speaker 2: That sounds like it's more than a friendship, right.
Speaker 3: I took it as like it's an open relationship, But
Speaker 3: I don't know. It could be like she's just comfortable
Speaker 3: with me having friends that are girls. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't want to put myself in the situation.
Speaker 2: I thinks of Kelly Hi.
Speaker 5: Hi.
Speaker 6: I just wanted to say men have this thing. A
Speaker 6: lot of people don't believe it, but women have this
Speaker 6: beautiful thing called intuition. And I think that what Anna,
Speaker 6: what Anna is saying, is exactly your answer is in
Speaker 6: what you're saying, you're saying, Yeah, it doesn't really feel right,
Speaker 6: and it doesn't, so then don't do it. Number one. Yeah,
Speaker 6: I he has a you said a new baby.
Speaker 3: Yeah it seems like old.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah no. And we always say if it's under too,
Speaker 6: don't do it right like going on no, oh yeah, yes, Kevin, Yes,
Speaker 6: that is what we know. If they're under two, it's
Speaker 6: not a good idea. And that's coming from experience. And
Speaker 6: I'm not saying that that's his intention, but it just
Speaker 6: her gut is telling her.
Speaker 7: This doesn't feel even though he said, my girlfriend says
Speaker 7: it's okay, my gut doesn't feel good as a woman
Speaker 7: going and sitting across from another man with an active
Speaker 7: I think said, did you said he was in a
Speaker 7: committed relationship or.
Speaker 3: I think so that's what it looks like.
Speaker 6: Yeah, don't do it, girl, I'm telling you, don't do it.
Speaker 6: That's not safe territory. You don't want to get yourself involved.
Speaker 2: Kelly got a story. Yeah, what's going on? Chelsea?
Speaker 8: What's going on? What's going on? So Anna my girl.
Speaker 8: All I can say is there's no such thing as
Speaker 8: having a guy friend. Okay, if you're a good looking woman,
Speaker 8: it's just they always like end up falling in love
Speaker 8: with you or they're just trying to go off their
Speaker 8: ulterior motives and insh their way in there. But yeah,
Speaker 8: I don't know that's that. That's just been my experience
Speaker 8: with it all.
Speaker 3: Do you think that's true?
Speaker 2: Guys?
Speaker 9: Uh?
Speaker 4: Yes, and I want to have sex with my friends,
Speaker 4: you know they're there are other outliers, though.
Speaker 1: I think that it depends on what the relationship is.
Speaker 1: If it's a business relationship, guiding men and women can
Speaker 1: have those. But I think if this is a guy
Speaker 1: that's just like, hey, we want to be buddies, I
Speaker 1: think that's unless there's been a long history. Then I
Speaker 1: think that you got to be careful of something like that.
Speaker 1: They have tension. It's tough to start something like that up.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: Guess what, you can go catch up with somebody else. Hey, Paige,
Speaker 2: what's going on? How are you?
Speaker 5: I'm good?
Speaker 3: How are you?
Speaker 7: Guys?
Speaker 2: We're doing good.
Speaker 1: So to recap this thing, Anna has this guy that
Speaker 1: they've known each other for some time. They've always been
Speaker 1: a little flirty with each other. He said, let's catch up.
Speaker 1: He has a girl and a baby in his life,
Speaker 1: and he says it's okay for them to catch up.
Speaker 2: Do you think it's okay.
Speaker 3: I don't because I'm wondering if he's lying saying that
Speaker 3: the girlfriend is okay with it and she really has
Speaker 3: no idea. That was my first thought. It is like,
Speaker 3: there's no way she just had his baby and she's
Speaker 3: letting him run around and buy other girls dinner.
Speaker 2: Could change. Maybe she's got to come too.
Speaker 3: I mean I should say, why don't you bring her?
Speaker 8: But again, do you really want to be absorbed into
Speaker 8: that no relationship?
Speaker 2: Whatever? It is? Not at all?
Speaker 1: I think can you imagine if all of a sudden
Speaker 1: she shows up with the baby.
Speaker 2: Wall and you say, y'all haven't talked in like a
Speaker 2: year right now?
Speaker 4: Is that why y'all stopped talking because he went off
Speaker 4: and was in a relationship and had a baby.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't think so. We've run into each
Speaker 3: other like here there, but it's just like we haven't
Speaker 3: hung out.
Speaker 2: Hey, what's up, Carissa, it's Mojo in the morning. What
Speaker 2: do you think?
Speaker 10: Anna? Straight up ask him what his intentions are? Just
Speaker 10: set it straight. Hey, I know that things have been
Speaker 10: flirty in the past between us, and I want to
Speaker 10: know what I'm getting myself into. I want to respect
Speaker 10: you and your partner and just say it how it is,
Speaker 10: because that's how how he responds. I feel like, is
Speaker 10: what's going to help tell what might be going on.
Speaker 3: I feel like that's what I was trying to allude
Speaker 3: to when I said, like, what's your girlfriend think about this?
Speaker 1: But what if they want you to be their nanny?
Speaker 1: What if they're looking for a center for a Friday night?
Speaker 1: Could you imagine, by the way, the I as a dude,
Speaker 1: you just had a baby, your girl is at home
Speaker 1: with your baby, and you're out there and you're hitting
Speaker 1: on this you know single, I'll.
Speaker 2: Guarantee influencer radio personality.
Speaker 4: And I guarantee you appens, and and not saying it
Speaker 4: with a smile on my face, but I guarantee appens
Speaker 4: because we hear those conversations about, you know, how women's
Speaker 4: bodies change and her hormones change after they have a baby,
Speaker 4: and maybe the cookie bacon isn't as regular as it was,
Speaker 4: and you see these dudes who step out like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it happens. What's up, Ray, how you doing?
Speaker 3: I'm well, how are you guys this morning?
Speaker 2: Good?
Speaker 6: Ray?
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 5: What do you think I think she should tell tell
Speaker 5: him to bring her along. Do you guys.
Speaker 2: Stories for the next day? Do you do you think
Speaker 2: Ray that Channon should go with and say.
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Speaker 2: My name is what is the name of Sally Nicole?
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Speaker 2: Kira, what's up? Kiara? How you doing?
Speaker 6: Are you guys?
Speaker 2: Good thoughts on this whole thing?
Speaker 1: And by the way, nobody is saying, go and enjoy
Speaker 1: a nice day with this guy.
Speaker 2: What do you want to say?
Speaker 9: Okay, it sounds like Schery does impressed him because she
Speaker 9: just said that she feels like he's lying.
Speaker 6: Why would you want to hang out with.
Speaker 9: Somebody that you feel like is going to lie to
Speaker 9: you anyway?
Speaker 6: And I've just had my baby.
Speaker 9: She send my goal And if somebody ever said that
Speaker 9: my husband's like, yeah, I want to go hang out,
Speaker 9: I would not because no, if you have time to
Speaker 9: go hang out with somebody, you have time.
Speaker 6: To stay home and help.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got time to change diapers and take care
Speaker 1: of that little junior hair. Yeah. Hold on a second,
Speaker 1: Joe is in an open relationship. Finally, finally, somebody that
Speaker 1: thinks this is a good idea. What do you think.
Speaker 2: Joe, Hey, good morning.
Speaker 5: So I just wanted to call from a person who
Speaker 5: I have an open relationship that perspective, like, I'm engaged,
Speaker 5: but I have an open relationship. The idea of hey,
Speaker 5: let's catch up, you really have to take context to it.
Speaker 5: There's hey, let's catch up first, Oh, hey, let's catch up.
Speaker 5: The flirtiness before kind of has an effect of how
Speaker 5: you interpret it, and you got to interpret it based
Speaker 5: on what you know about that person, and that it's
Speaker 5: also okay to just ask like, oh, what do you mean?
Speaker 5: Like communication is key even for people in open relationships,
Speaker 5: and you know, trust your intuition, and it's okay to
Speaker 5: just say like, oh, I'm a little uncomfortable with that,
Speaker 5: like what do you mean Joe?
Speaker 2: Questions?
Speaker 1: Do you ever have people that you, even in an
Speaker 1: open relationship, are liars and they're cheaters?
Speaker 5: So with my partner, they have access to everything that
Speaker 5: I do, and you know what I mean, we communicate
Speaker 5: about everything.
Speaker 2: I have had people who.
Speaker 5: Are like interested, but it's ethical non monogamy, and the
Speaker 5: ethical part of it is, hey, your person has to
Speaker 5: know too, that's the way.
Speaker 4: In your open relationship and kind of using Anna as
Speaker 4: an example, did your partner or yourself ever try to
Speaker 4: go back and get someone from the past that they
Speaker 4: entertained and bring them in this new open relationship.
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 5: Absolutely, all the time. And you gotta be you gotta be,
Speaker 5: you gotta be okay with it. If you have doubts,
Speaker 5: you always talk about it first, because there are people
Speaker 5: who will do that, like on the download, and that's
Speaker 5: not cool. That's just not what you do. That's not ethical, right,
Speaker 5: So yeah, maybe maybe it is okay outside your relationship, Joe. No,
Speaker 5: everything is always in the relation, non monogamy, it's the
Speaker 5: cool phrase for open relationships. Have to be ethical on
Speaker 5: both parts. I have my fiance and then we can
Speaker 5: date separately, and so we talk about it all and
Speaker 5: make sure everybody's comfortable and cozy, and that's all good.
Speaker 5: But if somebody is ever like, hey, I'm interested in you,
Speaker 5: but their partner doesn't know, that's that's off limits, like hands.
Speaker 1: Down, all right, there you go, Joe, Thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: we'll see it.
Speaker 2: Take care of Joe. Thank you all.
Speaker 5: A good day.