Speaker 1: It's the second date up date module in the morning.
Speaker 2: Jessica is getting ghosted and it's after they had sex.
Speaker 2: So we won't get into details, so you don't have
Speaker 2: to pull the kids away from the radio. But we're
Speaker 2: gonna find out what's going on, Jessica. How'd you guys meet?
Speaker 2: We met the old fashionway.
Speaker 3: It's your mutual friends.
Speaker 4: I love it.
Speaker 2: So none of the apps are to be responsible for
Speaker 2: this guy being a bad guy not calling you back.
Speaker 5: No, screw the apps, They're terrible.
Speaker 2: It's funny whenever you have a situation where you meet
Speaker 2: through mutual friends and you can't get a hold of them,
Speaker 2: are you too embarrassed to call the mutual friends and say, hey, have.
Speaker 4: You heard from In this case, his name is Andrew. Andrew.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I guess it depends on how good
Speaker 3: the mutual friend is with my friend.
Speaker 4: I did ask, and they haven't talked about it, so
Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2: Which, by the way, I've been the mutual friend in
Speaker 2: situation and I've gotten the call where it's like they're
Speaker 2: not calling back, and it is literally more embarrassing for
Speaker 2: me than it probably is for them, because I'm like
Speaker 2: I thought these things was going to work, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? And I don't want to get into it.
Speaker 2: But do you think you did anything that could be
Speaker 2: the reason why?
Speaker 6: I mean, I don't think so.
Speaker 2: I mean the date seemed good. We hooked up, Like
Speaker 2: if it wasn't going well, I wouldn't think you'd, you know,
Speaker 2: get down with somebody.
Speaker 4: But and it was.
Speaker 2: It was on the actual one date or was it
Speaker 2: after you guys had been together for a little bit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it was bad. It was a one date.
Speaker 4: So it was a one date. All right. Andrew's on
Speaker 4: the phone with us right now, Jessica, say hi to Andrew.
Speaker 2: Hi, Andrew.
Speaker 5: Hey, just I'm going.
Speaker 7: I guess I've been better.
Speaker 4: Andrew, what's going on?
Speaker 2: First off, your mutual friend is somebody that's going to
Speaker 2: be mad at you if you don't make this right
Speaker 2: and at least either take her on an other date
Speaker 2: or give a good explanation as to why you don't
Speaker 2: want to go on another day.
Speaker 4: What's going what's happening? Is everything? Okay?
Speaker 5: Yeah, everything's okay. You know, I'm I'm sorry for ghosting.
Speaker 5: I just realized I was not really interested in the
Speaker 5: second date.
Speaker 6: So what was it about her that you don't want
Speaker 6: to go out again.
Speaker 1: You know, just just didn't really work out, Like you.
Speaker 6: Just didn't like there wasn't a vibe or you weren't
Speaker 6: attracted or it's got to be something specific.
Speaker 1: Uh, I mean you have to be honest, like I
Speaker 1: just I wasn't really attracted to her.
Speaker 4: Okay, not your type. You had sex with her, You're
Speaker 4: not attracted do her? You had sex?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but yeah no I did. I did, and it
Speaker 1: it was it was fine, you know, things were going
Speaker 1: well and the well, we just kind of got into it.
Speaker 8: And I just the vibe.
Speaker 4: Was just kind of gone after.
Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah you can.
Speaker 4: When you say got into it, what does that mean?
Speaker 1: No, got into it. I got you know, clothes removed,
Speaker 1: you know, stuff starting happening, and it just I don't know,
Speaker 1: the vibe just the vibes just started to Okay.
Speaker 6: So you said the clothes came off and something funky.
Speaker 6: There was a funky vibe, but you still you still
Speaker 6: had sex with her, so it couldn't have been that bad.
Speaker 6: I feel like you're beating around the bush, like I
Speaker 6: feel like there was something and you're trying to be nice,
Speaker 6: which I appreciate but there was obviously something.
Speaker 2: Jessica, did you send any of this? Did you sense
Speaker 2: any awkwardness? Uh? When you guys were having sex.
Speaker 3: No, I didn't know there was anything going on until
Speaker 3: he just stopped responding to me.
Speaker 4: Okay, so he didn't anywhere.
Speaker 9: Attracted to me.
Speaker 2: I'm wondering why.
Speaker 9: Yes, he didn't say that. He didn't say he wasn't
Speaker 9: attracted to you.
Speaker 4: He said he was until clothes came off. That's why
Speaker 4: I'm confused. I'm confused to I'm like, I'm a woman.
Speaker 2: I don't know, he didn't like get surprises.
Speaker 4: Well, I don't know what was What was it?
Speaker 2: Andrew, if you can be honest about it, because I
Speaker 2: think that otherwise, if you're not honest about it, it
Speaker 2: makes and if Jessica's still cool with that, it makes
Speaker 2: Jessica look bad. As to what you've already just said,
Speaker 2: I think you got to clear up what what you mean?
Speaker 8: All right?
Speaker 4: Truth be told.
Speaker 5: Her skin was saggy like my seal talk.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 10: You know she shared with me that she had, you know,
Speaker 10: taken weight loss pill or shot or something.
Speaker 5: I don't know what it was.
Speaker 10: And like, you know, kudos to her for for losing
Speaker 10: the weight. But she she showed me pictures of her before,
Speaker 10: and I kind of preferred the before, like a little bit.
Speaker 4: Thicker, Jessica, Jessica, you lost a lot of weight.
Speaker 9: Uh.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm on a zempic.
Speaker 4: So what can I ask you a question of how
Speaker 4: much weight did you lose?
Speaker 2: I'm down like seventy pounds.
Speaker 4: That's good for you. And so she lost seventy pounds.
Speaker 2: She's getting healthier, and you're saying that you thought that
Speaker 2: things look different than what you had thought that they
Speaker 2: were going to look. The woman is being healthier.
Speaker 1: She's being healthier, and like seriously, like Kudo's on that,
Speaker 1: it's just it's just not my preference in a girl.
Speaker 4: But you liked her with her clothes on.
Speaker 2: Why would you all of a sudden change it and
Speaker 2: say I don't like her with her clothes off.
Speaker 1: Just things gotta got real once you know, came off,
Speaker 1: I saw things differently, And.
Speaker 4: How would you feel?
Speaker 2: How would you feel if she did the same to
Speaker 2: you and said, oh, this guy looks great with his clothes,
Speaker 2: you know, on, and then all of a sudden you
Speaker 2: take your clothes off, and there's something that's distinctive about
Speaker 2: you that she doesn't like I.
Speaker 1: Mean, I probably wouldn't like it. And that's honestly why
Speaker 1: I just kind of ghosted. I felt bad about it.
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to deal with it. It's a
Speaker 1: mutual friend thing. I don't I didn't want to. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to have to say this because I feel
Speaker 1: if she.
Speaker 2: Didn't, if she didn't tell you that she had lost weight,
Speaker 2: do you think you would have noticed?
Speaker 1: It's pretty apparent.
Speaker 4: Because there's there's a lot of okay, all right.
Speaker 6: I know there are I know a lot of women
Speaker 6: who have lost significance about of weight, whether it was
Speaker 6: Osempic or just naturally or whatever. And this is an
Speaker 6: issue and one that they are aware of and very
Speaker 6: self conscious of in the first place. And you know,
Speaker 6: one of my friends, she wants to have a surgery
Speaker 6: to get that fixed, like it's some it's this has
Speaker 6: to be so tough for her because you're not You
Speaker 6: look in the mirror every day at yourself, and she's aware.
Speaker 4: What, Jessica, what are you thinking when you're hearing this?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean I just kind of I mean,
Speaker 2: first and foremost, when I took my clothes off, if
Speaker 2: you were not into it.
Speaker 1: You should have stopped the action there.
Speaker 3: But also it just kind of feels like you can't win.
Speaker 4: With men, Like, yeah, when you're overweight, they're.
Speaker 7: Not They're down to after you, but they don't want
Speaker 7: to update you because you're overweight, and then you lose weight.
Speaker 3: Now your skin is saggy.
Speaker 6: It's just like it's yeah, I'm also I feel like
Speaker 6: any woman who's had a baby right now is feeling
Speaker 6: is feeling something.
Speaker 4: Because I know I am Tina. What did you want
Speaker 4: to say, Tina?
Speaker 7: I mean he did try to be nice and not
Speaker 7: say but I agree with her, like he should have just.
Speaker 8: Not went through with it. If the skin was gonna bug.
Speaker 4: That would have hurt too. Though.
Speaker 9: Imagine imagine you find a gentleman so attractive, you finally
Speaker 9: able to lay down with him. Everything's good, you take
Speaker 9: off your clothes and he says, wait.
Speaker 2: A second, we're not going to go any further. Yeah,
Speaker 2: Like that would have been terrible too. You don't have
Speaker 2: to say, wait a second, we're not gonna go any further.
Speaker 2: You can stop, you can stop short, just kiss or
Speaker 2: do other stuff.
Speaker 11: But I I think it's interesting though that he was
Speaker 11: so wildly attracted to her to get her to a
Speaker 11: point to do that, and then all of a sudden
Speaker 11: he looks at a little bit of skin as this
Speaker 11: is too much.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Jeff, Jeff, what's going on? Yep?
Speaker 8: I agree, Mojoe. I think I think she made the
Speaker 8: typical mistake of putting not on.
Speaker 1: The first date.
Speaker 8: And then you know, he he's saying is not attracted.
Speaker 8: But he was attracted enough, you know, to bake cookies
Speaker 8: with her. But then all of a sudden, now that
Speaker 8: he's got his trophy, he wants to move on.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, they will say this.
Speaker 2: I don't want people to saying that you made the
Speaker 2: mistake of sleeping with it on a first date, because
Speaker 2: you know what, people sleep on the together on the
Speaker 2: first date. They're grown acid. Yeah, and let them be
Speaker 2: able to do that. I hate when people sit there
Speaker 2: and now and I do not want this call. I
Speaker 2: don't want to call of going this is what you
Speaker 2: get when you sleep with somebody on the first date.
Speaker 4: You know it goes.
Speaker 2: Screw yourself, because that is not yours to tell Jessica this,
Speaker 2: because you're absolutely right, Jessica, he also did it too,
Speaker 2: and it's doing that when you give somebody the intimacy
Speaker 2: of your sex, I think that you owe them more
Speaker 2: than just a I'm going to not call you back,
Speaker 2: or I'm going to come on Mojo in the morning,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to tell.
Speaker 6: Them this, Taylor, and to be very honest with you, Like,
Speaker 6: I don't want to keep hating on him, because if
Speaker 6: you're not attracted to somebody, you're not attracted to somebody,
Speaker 6: and you're allowed to think that and feel that way.
Speaker 6: It just really sucks. It sucks that this is the
Speaker 6: reason for her because now she's going to be even
Speaker 6: more self conscious about that. So he's he is not
Speaker 6: in the wrong for saying I'm simply not attracted to you.
Speaker 4: He's in the wrong for not lying. I hate to
Speaker 4: say it. I would if I'm him, I'm lying and
Speaker 4: not telling her the truth.
Speaker 2: I really wouldn't because I wouldn't tell the truth in
Speaker 2: this one because it's hurtful.
Speaker 4: It's just forced to me to tru things wrong.
Speaker 2: No, you come up with, Hey, you know what, bro,
Speaker 2: but you know what's up Taylor better than one.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So a while back, I had like a similar experience
Speaker 3: where I met a guy. He looked good dressed, you know,
Speaker 3: his face was attractive, and as soon as we got
Speaker 3: along the clothes came off. He had on like the
Speaker 3: actual like full body like girdle like she would say,
Speaker 3: and yeah, all.
Speaker 4: The game was loose. It was like kind of like
Speaker 4: a sharp pay.
Speaker 11: And that was it?
Speaker 6: Like that killed. Did you have sex talks that are
Speaker 6: like super super wrinkling, have lots of folds?
Speaker 4: Did you have sex on him wrapping?
Speaker 6: I did.
Speaker 3: I was really young back then, so it was like
Speaker 3: the pressure of the expectation, you know, but it was
Speaker 3: not attractive and he never heard from me again.
Speaker 4: Can I ask you? Can I ask you a question?
Speaker 8: Though?
Speaker 4: Was he at least good at taking care of you?
Speaker 1: It was?
Speaker 4: It was not the worst experience. Okay, so the sharp
Speaker 4: day actually did well. That girdle had girth?
Speaker 2: Can I I had a friend one time that said
Speaker 2: to me when I lost Wade, they said, there's rumors
Speaker 2: that when you lose weight, your d gets bigger. And
Speaker 2: it's like not really, it's just that now you can
Speaker 2: actually see it. What's going on, Sarah?
Speaker 4: How you doing good?
Speaker 9: How are you?
Speaker 8: I don't really have much new to say.
Speaker 6: It's just kind of you drug the story out of
Speaker 6: him and then you roasted him.
Speaker 9: For telling that.
Speaker 2: You know what, though I drug the story out of him,
Speaker 2: he could have easily stopped short and said something different.
Speaker 2: I know that you know you think that it's not hurtful.
Speaker 4: Jessica's hurt. I can tell that she's hurt. She's not
Speaker 4: saying anything. It's hurtful.
Speaker 6: But when he when you push him and push him,
Speaker 6: he didn't.
Speaker 7: Want to say the story, and you kept.
Speaker 9: No will say the true, exactly the truth.
Speaker 2: I mean, you blame the god for being true. Honestly,
Speaker 2: there's certain times where it's okay to lie. Hey, Jamie,
Speaker 2: what's going on, Jamie?
Speaker 4: It's crazy?
Speaker 7: Hey, I just want to say, like so, I'm a
Speaker 7: three time seat session mama. I've recently lost ninety pounds.
Speaker 7: I did body dys Marcia. I have looked in the
Speaker 7: mirror every day and I find think that I don't
Speaker 7: like again that I didn't like when I was heavy,
Speaker 7: And I just have to you have to learn to
Speaker 7: love like every part of yourself no matter what. But
Speaker 7: I just want to say that there are real men
Speaker 7: out there that will pick all that up like pizza,
Speaker 7: go and put it on my lap. And if that
Speaker 7: doesn't work, she can only go to women because.
Speaker 2: All right, listen, I'm happy for you, Jessica. I'm happy
Speaker 2: that you lost weight. I know the feeling has to
Speaker 2: be great. Seventy pounds ain't no joke. You're better for it.
Speaker 2: You're you know, going to be healthier for it. And Andrew,
Speaker 2: I think you're going to find yourself that perfect woman
Speaker 2: that you're looking for.
Speaker 4: Good luck, she'll probably be crazy. Andrew doesn't want to talk.
Speaker 4: I think so as I appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Thank you all.
Speaker 2: Second date update, I'm gonna stand up for my uh people.
Speaker 4: You feel personally attacked, I do. I feel personally attacked.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna show you my sharpay. Have you know your.
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Speaker 4: This is in the morning.