WEBVTT - Ryan Keeps it Real with Brooke

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus in the morning. Y'all know what time it is? Is?

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<v Speaker 1>Second date up? Daytime. Let's bring Ryan on. Ryan are

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<v Speaker 1>you there?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey? Hi guys? So are you hey? Man? Big fan

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<v Speaker 2>of so thanks?

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<v Speaker 1>Bro here to help you out. I understand you've been

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<v Speaker 1>on a date. Her name was Brooke and you guys

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<v Speaker 1>met online? Was was the message that you sent me?

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<v Speaker 1>So did she? Was this a full ghost?

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<v Speaker 2>Uh? Yeah, I you know, I'm just confused, you know, sure,

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<v Speaker 2>yeah it was a full ghost. That's a good way

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<v Speaker 2>of putting it.

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<v Speaker 1>What did you guys do on your date?

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<v Speaker 2>While we were in Walnut Creek and had some drinks,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and you know, she was funny, great, good time.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked you know about work and.

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<v Speaker 2>Life and dating, burnout and lapped about everyone pretends they're

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<v Speaker 2>fine with it really not, you know, and I thought

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<v Speaker 2>things were going really well, thinking, you know, that was

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<v Speaker 2>a good hang, let's do it again, and then.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we are.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, Yeah, she just disappeared.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well let's see if we can get her on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone. I'm gonna call her and then yeah, I'll

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<v Speaker 1>call her and then and then I'll ask her, like

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<v Speaker 1>straight up, how the date went for her and then

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<v Speaker 1>we will a I'd love to get you a second date,

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<v Speaker 1>but be I would love to actually just get you

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<v Speaker 1>some answers, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I would really appreciate it because everything seemed to be

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<v Speaker 2>going really smooth, and I would go out with her

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<v Speaker 2>again in a heartbeat.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let's see what we can work out. Let's go

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<v Speaker 1>ahead and play a song and we'll regroup and then

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<v Speaker 1>we'll call Brooke. It's Marcus in the morning. We're doing

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<v Speaker 1>second date update. We were talking with Ryan and you

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<v Speaker 1>guys just very simple, just ended up for drinks and

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<v Speaker 1>wanting to creak correct you. He's muted Ryan, He's still there. Okay, yeah, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>he's all ready to go. Let's call her because I

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<v Speaker 1>want to figure out why she goes to go ahead

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<v Speaker 1>and go back on you, bude, Thank you. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello.

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<v Speaker 1>How is this Brook? It is Hi Brook. This is

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<v Speaker 1>Marcus calling from Star one on one three. Good morning, Hi, Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't suppose you listened to my show, do you?

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry to wake you up so early. So I

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<v Speaker 1>do a radio show on Star one one three for iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 1>We do a segment called second date update, and I

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<v Speaker 1>got floated to your phone number by a guy who

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<v Speaker 1>took you on a date. His name is Ryan, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. He's feeling like maybe you ghosted, and so

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<v Speaker 1>we're just trying to figure out. I mean, I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>blunt with like, what did my guy do? What did

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<v Speaker 1>he do wrong? It's very assumptive of me, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just assuming something went sideway. Did you ghost?

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<v Speaker 2>I guess? Okay, there were just.

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<v Speaker 3>Two things that kind of stuck with me. I just

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't shake them. Okay, okay, Well, first, he casually admitted

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<v Speaker 3>that he doesn't use a top sheet. He just uses

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<v Speaker 3>like a fitted sheet and a comforter, and he was

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<v Speaker 3>he just said, like, oh, top sheets are pointless fabric,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, they're always in a bunch at the

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<v Speaker 3>bottom of the bed and create unnecessary laundry. And he

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<v Speaker 3>said this very confidently, like this was a lifestyle choice

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<v Speaker 3>of his.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, don't most hotels do that?

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<v Speaker 3>No, there is always a top.

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<v Speaker 1>Sheet, I guess. I mean, I guess the theory would

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<v Speaker 1>be that, like they wash them every time we get

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<v Speaker 1>new guests, which I'm certain Ryan probably does not because

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<v Speaker 1>he's a dude. So all right, was there? So there's

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<v Speaker 1>something else.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, Later in the night he mentioned he sets it

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<v Speaker 3>like multiple alarms every morning and then he ignores all

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<v Speaker 3>of them. And he said, I like easing into consciousness.

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<v Speaker 3>And then he said that every you know, eventually his

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<v Speaker 3>body just wakes up when it's ready and listen. I

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<v Speaker 3>know both of these things when you just take them

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<v Speaker 3>as one thing, like look at each thing, it's not

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<v Speaker 3>either thing is technically wrong, but like together they just

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<v Speaker 3>kind of create a picture. I can't unsee. It just

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<v Speaker 3>felt like chaos adjacent.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the most descriptive way I've ever heard somebody

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<v Speaker 1>explain somebody chaos adjacent. Well, so part of this is

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<v Speaker 1>that Ryan is listening right now. We're trying to I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I always say we try to use it

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<v Speaker 1>as a teachable moment. I'm sorry, but Ryan, are you there?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I guys, I'm here.

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<v Speaker 1>So you don't use the top sheet? Is that confirmed?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I don't understand entirely why this is a big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>I sweep hot, you know, like it it's just like

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<v Speaker 2>the top sheet really like traps heat, and like this

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<v Speaker 2>is just about like getting up and going and going

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<v Speaker 2>to work and going to bed. Like I don't need

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<v Speaker 2>to make it complicated to make the bed with the

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<v Speaker 2>top sheet every day and all the pillows. What if

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<v Speaker 2>I needed to do that, right? You know, like that's

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<v Speaker 2>just extra.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of extra, this alarm thing sounds ridiculous. My wife

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<v Speaker 1>would punch me if I didn't get up when the

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<v Speaker 1>alarm goes off. If I realize you're a solo guy.

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<v Speaker 1>We're trying to get somewhere here, right, Like we're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to have a lady in our life.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. Look, I can. I can work on the alarms.

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<v Speaker 2>I understand that situation. You know. It's just I know

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<v Speaker 2>it sounds bad, but I still get to work on time.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't leap out of bed, like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>just instantly, like I'm in a movie or something. I

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<v Speaker 2>just it's something that like I've had forever, I have

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<v Speaker 2>been single a little while. I'm not gonna lie. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, I get that it's not the coolest. Look,

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<v Speaker 2>but these are things that I could work on, having

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<v Speaker 2>a woman around consistently and being alone. Look, I can

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<v Speaker 2>see how that looks bad.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure to be real, I understand, Like you're relaxed by

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<v Speaker 3>this just makes you seem like unmanaged.

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan, if we look at this from Brooks perspective, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to help you along here. If we're trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get her to spend the night, how about we make

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<v Speaker 1>a few adjustments.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure, I'll buy you the best top she's on the planet.

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<v Speaker 2>I could find the highest thread count, whatever it takes. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a good guy. Look Brook, I'm teachable. I'm just rusty, right,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm not trying to scare you off.

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<v Speaker 1>So Brook, I feel like we're making some progress. Can

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<v Speaker 1>we get to a second date with this? Can we

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<v Speaker 1>get a do over?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I don't need perfection. I just need efforts, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>and clean sheets, But I don't give it another date.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's happening. Oh my god, I wasn't ready.

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<v Speaker 2>Hold on, Yes, done, fresh sheets, no arms and.

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<v Speaker 1>The cowbell and destiny is wrong. We have a second date.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh all right, everybody, hang on strong work. Thank you, amazing,

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<v Speaker 1>we did it. Thank God. It's Marcus in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Thursday. Good morning, Producer Taylor is here. Hello, we

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<v Speaker 1>got a DM from a member of our listening family

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<v Speaker 1>who needs your help. Is it ever okay to break

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<v Speaker 1>up right before Valentine's Day? I already know my answer,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is from Gerald and Heywarding right, Marcus, listen

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<v Speaker 1>to you every morning, been listening for years. Appreciate you, bro.

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<v Speaker 1>I need some help. My relationship with my girlfriend is

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<v Speaker 1>basically over. We both know it's headed that way. We

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<v Speaker 1>haven't said the words yet. Valentine's Day is now coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>My friends say I would be a jerk if I

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<v Speaker 1>broke up with her now instead of waiting for a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks. I can see how it might be

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<v Speaker 1>weird to do it right before a holiday. That's all

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<v Speaker 1>about couples. But I also think it would be dishonest

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<v Speaker 1>to keep pretending that my heart's still in it when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm already out of it. I don't want to fake

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<v Speaker 1>romance or exchange gifts under false pretenses just to avoid

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<v Speaker 1>being the bad guy. Is it kinder to wait? Or

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<v Speaker 1>am I just dragging things out for my own comfort? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>what I've learned over the years, there's never a good time,

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<v Speaker 1>No never what I wanted to I was in my

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<v Speaker 1>first serious relationship. I wanted to break up. This is

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<v Speaker 1>how it went. Well, it's October, it's my birthday. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to do it near my birth well, it's Thanksgiving. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna go see your folks. Oh god, it's Christmas.

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<v Speaker 1>And then the new year rolls around, and then all

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<v Speaker 1>of a sudden, oh well, her birthdays in March. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. There's never a good time. Now, there's a

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<v Speaker 1>tactful way to do it, like, don't you don't like

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<v Speaker 1>bring the hammer down. That's my other problem is I

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<v Speaker 1>just will bring the hammer down. Famously tell the story

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<v Speaker 1>of breaking up with a girl just as I dropped

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<v Speaker 1>her off at UNI. Oh my gosh, I wait right

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<v Speaker 1>there at one of the main stations on van Ness.

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<v Speaker 1>I waited till one leg was out of the car,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I said, I don't think this is gonna work.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, marquess. I think I was partially hoping

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<v Speaker 1>that she didn't hear me. Just close the door as

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<v Speaker 1>the bus is going by. Whim. Speaking of which, have

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<v Speaker 1>you ever noticed how guys never want to be the

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<v Speaker 1>bad guy?

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<v Speaker 4>I know, even though you are always default the bad guy.

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<v Speaker 1>I literally had my therapist call me a wuss and

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<v Speaker 1>told me to break up, just do it, just man

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<v Speaker 1>up and do it and stop being a wimp. And

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<v Speaker 1>then he literally, that'll be five hundred dollars. Literally, that

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<v Speaker 1>was the session. I love that. What are your thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>on this? Does Gerald break up with his lady now?

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<v Speaker 1>Or do we wait till after Valentine's Day?

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<v Speaker 4>You gotta do it now?

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<v Speaker 1>I think that.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you think that you are trying to do something

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<v Speaker 4>for her by waiting, but really you're being selfish.

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<v Speaker 1>Break up with her now.

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<v Speaker 4>She can get with her galpals for Valentine's Day and

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<v Speaker 4>you know heal in her own way.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I would not drag it out.

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<v Speaker 4>Because I promise Gerald, I'm sure you're a great guy,

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<v Speaker 4>but she's gonna be just fine without you.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you guys should see the hoodie that producer Taylor has,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's all about breakups. What does it say?

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<v Speaker 4>On the front, it says what are you gonna do

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<v Speaker 4>without him? And then on the back on the back

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<v Speaker 4>it says whatever I want. I'm sure she'll be just fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I know you're the man, but she's gonna be just fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Dude.

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