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Speaker 1: Second date up? Daytime. Let's bring Ryan on. Ryan are

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Speaker 1: you there?

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Speaker 2: Hey? Hi guys? So are you hey? Man? Big fan

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Speaker 2: of so thanks?

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Speaker 1: Bro here to help you out. I understand you've been

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Speaker 1: on a date. Her name was Brooke and you guys

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Speaker 1: met online? Was was the message that you sent me?

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Speaker 1: So did she? Was this a full ghost?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah, I you know, I'm just confused, you know, sure,

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Speaker 2: yeah it was a full ghost. That's a good way

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Speaker 1: What did you guys do on your date?

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Speaker 2: While we were in Walnut Creek and had some drinks,

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Speaker 2: you know, and you know, she was funny, great, good time.

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Speaker 1: We talked you know about work and.

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Speaker 2: Life and dating, burnout and lapped about everyone pretends they're

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Speaker 2: fine with it really not, you know, and I thought

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Speaker 2: things were going really well, thinking, you know, that was

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Speaker 2: a good hang, let's do it again, and then.

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Speaker 1: Here we are.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Yeah, she just disappeared.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well let's see if we can get her on

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Speaker 1: the phone. I'm gonna call her and then yeah, I'll

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Speaker 1: call her and then and then I'll ask her, like

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Speaker 1: straight up, how the date went for her and then

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Speaker 1: we will a I'd love to get you a second date,

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Speaker 1: but be I would love to actually just get you

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Speaker 1: some answers, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I would really appreciate it because everything seemed to be

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Speaker 1: Okay, let's see what we can work out. Let's go

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Speaker 1: ahead and play a song and we'll regroup and then

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Speaker 1: we'll call Brooke. It's Marcus in the morning. We're doing

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Speaker 1: second date update. We were talking with Ryan and you

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Speaker 1: guys just very simple, just ended up for drinks and

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Speaker 1: wanting to creak correct you. He's muted Ryan, He's still there. Okay, yeah, sorry,

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Speaker 1: he's all ready to go. Let's call her because I

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Speaker 1: want to figure out why she goes to go ahead

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Speaker 1: and go back on you, bude, Thank you. Here we go.

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 1: How is this Brook? It is Hi Brook. This is

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Speaker 1: Marcus calling from Star one on one three. Good morning, Hi, Hi.

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Speaker 1: I don't suppose you listened to my show, do you?

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Speaker 2: Sorry?

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry to wake you up so early. So I

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Speaker 1: do a radio show on Star one one three for iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 1: We do a segment called second date update, and I

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Speaker 1: got floated to your phone number by a guy who

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Speaker 1: took you on a date. His name is Ryan, and

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Speaker 1: it's okay. He's feeling like maybe you ghosted, and so

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Speaker 1: we're just trying to figure out. I mean, I'll be

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Speaker 1: blunt with like, what did my guy do? What did

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Speaker 1: he do wrong? It's very assumptive of me, but I'm

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Speaker 1: just assuming something went sideway. Did you ghost?

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Speaker 2: I guess? Okay, there were just.

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Speaker 3: Two things that kind of stuck with me. I just

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Speaker 3: couldn't shake them. Okay, okay, Well, first, he casually admitted

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Speaker 3: he just said, like, oh, top sheets are pointless fabric,

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Speaker 1: I mean, don't most hotels do that?

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Speaker 3: No, there is always a top.

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Speaker 1: Sheet, I guess. I mean, I guess the theory would

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Speaker 3: Yes, Later in the night he mentioned he sets it

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Speaker 3: like multiple alarms every morning and then he ignores all

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Speaker 1: That is the most descriptive way I've ever heard somebody

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Speaker 1: explain somebody chaos adjacent. Well, so part of this is

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I guys, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: So you don't use the top sheet? Is that confirmed?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I don't understand entirely why this is a big deal.

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Speaker 2: I sweep hot, you know, like it it's just like

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Speaker 2: I needed to do that, right? You know, like that's

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Speaker 1: Speaking of extra, this alarm thing sounds ridiculous. My wife

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Speaker 1: We're trying to get somewhere here, right, Like we're trying

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Speaker 2: Right. Look, I can. I can work on the alarms.

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Speaker 2: I understand that situation. You know. It's just I know

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Speaker 2: I just don't leap out of bed, like you know,

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Speaker 2: all right, I get that it's not the coolest. Look,

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Speaker 2: but these are things that I could work on, having

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Speaker 2: see how that looks bad.

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Speaker 3: Sure to be real, I understand, Like you're relaxed by

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Speaker 1: Ryan, if we look at this from Brooks perspective, I'm

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Speaker 2: Sure, I'll buy you the best top she's on the planet.

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Speaker 2: I could find the highest thread count, whatever it takes. Like,

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Speaker 2: I'm a good guy. Look Brook, I'm teachable. I'm just rusty, right,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm not trying to scare you off.

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Speaker 1: So Brook, I feel like we're making some progress. Can

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Speaker 3: I mean I don't need perfection. I just need efforts, okay,

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Speaker 3: and clean sheets, But I don't give it another date.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's happening. Oh my god, I wasn't ready.

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Speaker 2: Hold on, Yes, done, fresh sheets, no arms and.

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Speaker 1: The cowbell and destiny is wrong. We have a second date.

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Speaker 1: Oh all right, everybody, hang on strong work. Thank you, amazing,

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Speaker 1: we did it. Thank God. It's Marcus in the morning.

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Speaker 1: got a DM from a member of our listening family

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Speaker 1: who needs your help. Is it ever okay to break

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Speaker 1: up right before Valentine's Day? I already know my answer,

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Speaker 1: but this is from Gerald and Heywarding right, Marcus, listen

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Speaker 1: to you every morning, been listening for years. Appreciate you, bro.

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Speaker 1: haven't said the words yet. Valentine's Day is now coming up.

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Speaker 1: My friends say I would be a jerk if I

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Speaker 1: about couples. But I also think it would be dishonest

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Speaker 1: am I just dragging things out for my own comfort? Well,

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Speaker 1: what I've learned over the years, there's never a good time,

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Speaker 1: No never what I wanted to I was in my

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Speaker 1: how it went. Well, it's October, it's my birthday. I

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Speaker 1: we're gonna go see your folks. Oh god, it's Christmas.

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Speaker 1: don't know. There's never a good time. Now, there's a

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Speaker 1: her off at UNI. Oh my gosh, I wait right

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Speaker 1: there at one of the main stations on van Ness.

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Speaker 1: I waited till one leg was out of the car,

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Speaker 1: and then I said, I don't think this is gonna work.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, marquess. I think I was partially hoping

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Speaker 1: that she didn't hear me. Just close the door as

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Speaker 1: the bus is going by. Whim. Speaking of which, have

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Speaker 4: I know, even though you are always default the bad guy.

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Speaker 1: I literally had my therapist call me a wuss and

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Speaker 1: told me to break up, just do it, just man

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Speaker 1: Or do we wait till after Valentine's Day?

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Speaker 4: You gotta do it now?

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Speaker 1: I think that.

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Speaker 4: Do you think that you are trying to do something

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Speaker 4: for her by waiting, but really you're being selfish.

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Speaker 1: Break up with her now.

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Speaker 4: She can get with her galpals for Valentine's Day and

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Speaker 4: you know heal in her own way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I would not drag it out.

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Speaker 4: Because I promise Gerald, I'm sure you're a great guy,

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Speaker 4: but she's gonna be just fine without you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you guys should see the hoodie that producer Taylor has,

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Speaker 1: and it's all about breakups. What does it say?

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Speaker 4: On the front, it says what are you gonna do

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Speaker 4: without him? And then on the back on the back

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Speaker 4: it says whatever I want. I'm sure she'll be just fine.

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Speaker 1: I know you're the man, but she's gonna be just fine.

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Speaker 2: Dude.

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