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Speaker 1: Dan Rich, Good morning, Alana.

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Speaker 2: Hello, how are you good? How are you I'm good,

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Speaker 2: I'm good. I was just calling because I need y'all's

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Speaker 2: opinion on something. Okay, So my friend right right, she

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Speaker 2: I think she's kind of out of line, So I

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Speaker 2: want to see if I'm being like completely crazy or

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Speaker 2: if I'm right. So she she's really single right now,

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Speaker 2: like aggressively single. And she started treating my boyfriend like

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Speaker 2: he's a community boyfriend, like like not in a flirty way,

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Speaker 2: but almost like he's her personal handyman, like she'll she'll

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Speaker 2: ask him to change eye bulbs or build her furniture

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Speaker 2: or like even pick her up from the airport, like

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Speaker 2: she didn't even hire movers, like because she said, oh,

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Speaker 2: he can do it, and I'm standing there like hello,

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Speaker 2: like he's my boyfriend, like not not a task rabbit.

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Speaker 2: And she doesn't even ask me to help, like never,

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Speaker 2: like only him. So like the silence drive was when

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Speaker 2: she called him directly to ask if he could come

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Speaker 2: over and take a look at her shower pressure and

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Speaker 2: like I I why if she needs a chill And

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Speaker 2: she said, I'm being possessive and I should be happy

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Speaker 2: she feels comfortable with him, and like, I'm honestly just furious,

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Speaker 2: Like I don't even know what to tell her anymore.

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Speaker 3: I think that's super weird.

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Speaker 4: I would be so weirded out, Like honestly, it's like

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Speaker 4: a huge red flag.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, are you sure there's nothing going on between them?

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Speaker 3: Like why do we need so many excuses to hang

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Speaker 3: out with your boyfriend? Are you always there when he's

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Speaker 3: doing these things? Or does he go alone?

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Speaker 2: No, he'll go alone.

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Speaker 3: That's weird to me. No, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I need you to look at something in my shower,

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Speaker 1: come up.

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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever picked up on any like weird things

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Speaker 4: from your boyfriend? Like is he being shady with his phone?

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Speaker 4: Or is everything perfectly normal? And he's just really a

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Speaker 4: good guy, because I know there's people out there that

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Speaker 4: will just do that out of the goodness of their heart.

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Speaker 3: So I'm curious, like if you've picked up on anything.

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Speaker 2: I'm not that I've noticed. I mean, he's seems very straightforward.

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Speaker 2: He's always been very straightforward. I've not seen him like

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Speaker 2: sneak away his phone or anything. And he's always very

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Speaker 2: upfront when he's going to like fix something for her.

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Speaker 2: But I just think it's kind of weird, like just

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Speaker 2: in general. First of all, that she asked a second

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Speaker 2: all that he would be so open to doing it constantly.

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Speaker 1: What's her name, Brittany?

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Speaker 6: So does he ever say, oh my god, this bikini

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Speaker 6: with look great on Brittany and let me go drop

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Speaker 6: it off?

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Speaker 1: No, I mean not to me.

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Speaker 2: I mean he's a pretty dominance to say something like that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think.

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Speaker 1: So let me present this to you guys.

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Speaker 6: Were they friends before you and him started dating or

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Speaker 6: like if all three of you have been friends as

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Speaker 6: you were nine years old and he did that kind

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Speaker 6: of stuff for them, for her and it just like

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Speaker 6: they're just always were friends and then you guys got romantic,

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Speaker 6: but they were always friends. I could see that also,

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Speaker 6: you know what I mean, Like she didn't look at

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Speaker 6: him like she looks at him more.

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Speaker 1: Like a brother. If you guys all grow up together.

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Speaker 6: Now, if she met him six months ago, that's a

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Speaker 6: different story.

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Speaker 1: So how long have you guys all been in a

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Speaker 1: friend group?

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Speaker 2: So we we I became friends kind of around the

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Speaker 2: same time, so I will say that. And then with

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Speaker 2: me and him, you know, it got romantic obviously, but

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Speaker 2: we've only been dating, like about like seven months, so

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Speaker 2: it's been averagely all the same time. We all met

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Speaker 2: started hanging out, and then I started dating seven months ago,

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Speaker 2: so I guess it was more like a year. Like

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Speaker 2: we've all known each other.

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Speaker 1: For a year.

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Speaker 6: Okay, so before you started dating, was he going over

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Speaker 6: there and working on stuff her and helping her all

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Speaker 6: the time?

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Speaker 2: No, this is after, This is like the past three months.

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Speaker 1: Weird.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think you should tell.

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Speaker 4: I mean, even if she says that like you're being

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Speaker 4: possessive or like you should be happy she's comfortable with him,

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Speaker 4: Like okay, but I would have a conversation with your

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Speaker 4: boyfriend and be like this makes me feel uncomfortable and

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Speaker 4: you need to set this boundary, Like I'm okay with

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Speaker 4: you helping her out every now and then. We're all

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Speaker 4: cool and we're all friends, but she's just like becoming

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Speaker 4: a weekly saying like it makes me feel weird.

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Speaker 3: Maybe he's got a friend that can go help her, right,

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Speaker 3: or maybe she needs to get a boyfriend.

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Speaker 5: And your boyfriend seems trustworthy, your friend seems like she's

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Speaker 5: doing the slow drip of getting to know him and

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Speaker 5: have excuses for him to be over there when you're not.

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Speaker 5: I'm worried about the friend, not your guy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, red flags everywhere, but she.

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Speaker 5: Still doesn't want him to have access to your guy

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Speaker 5: without you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I like to think the best. You know,

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Speaker 2: we've been best friends for like years now, and like,

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Speaker 2: I think she's just really lonely and she did just move,

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Speaker 2: so she does need a lot of help. But I

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Speaker 2: think she's just probably misses the presence of a guy

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Speaker 2: in her life. And she's been broken up for like

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Speaker 2: a couple of years now with her pass boyfriend. So

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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, that's the benefit of the doubt situation.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you just ask him to sleep with her?

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Speaker 5: Jessee?

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Speaker 1: What he has actually not a bad idea because you can.

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Speaker 2: Watch his reaction, like if he's like, oh god, you

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Speaker 2: no way, you know what I mean, Like you can

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Speaker 2: kind of tell a lot from how you're like, oh, hilarious, Okay,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean.

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Speaker 6: Here's the thing I would I gather with a lot

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Speaker 6: of advice that we get a lot of people ask

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Speaker 6: us for advice, and I swear I feel like ninety

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Speaker 6: nine percent of the time the answer from us is

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Speaker 6: usually boundaries, boundaries, and communications. Yeah, good luck. Alanna thanks

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Speaker 6: for coming to us. Very interesting story.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, yeah, thank you guys.

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Speaker 6: Ah it' John Jay and rich what do you think

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Speaker 6: eight seven seven ninety three seven one oh four seven

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