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Speaker 1: and only hit music channel ninety three three FLZ. I

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Speaker 1: want you to really think about this, and I want

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Speaker 1: you to give a an honest answer. Eight hundred four

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Speaker 1: O nine ninety three ninety three. I'm talking to you,

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Speaker 1: ninety three. I want should call in and tell me

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Speaker 1: what you think about this. Do you feel good if

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Speaker 1: you have made plans with someone, say, hey, we're all

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Speaker 1: gonna hang out Saturday night, okay, And we all have

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Speaker 1: that plan, and then Saturday night rolls around and then

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Speaker 1: I actually, let's just say instead of like a whole group,

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Speaker 1: because it'd be tough for this happened with a whole group,

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Speaker 1: But let's say you got like singular plans with one person.

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Speaker 1: All right, boom, Saturday night, seven pm, maybe at our spot, Okay? Cool?

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Speaker 1: It comes around like six pm. Hey, so sorry to

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Speaker 1: do this. I can't go. I got something going on.

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Speaker 1: They cancel the plan's last minute, last minute cancelation. Make

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Speaker 1: you happy, to make you mad? It depends eight hundred

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Speaker 1: four ninety three I want to know.

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Speaker 2: It would make me mad.

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Speaker 1: It makes you mad, not mad.

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Speaker 3: I think I'd be disappointed, only because I will plan

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Speaker 3: my entire day around getting ready for this, because it

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Speaker 3: is a process.

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Speaker 2: It takes like two hours plus.

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Speaker 3: Like ahead of that, I have to like walk the dogs,

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Speaker 3: I have to feed them, you know, and then shower

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Speaker 3: dot dot dot, and then I'm like already and no

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Speaker 3: place to go.

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Speaker 1: All right, I did not think about the fact that

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Speaker 1: you are a woman. My bad.

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Speaker 2: You forgot.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I forgot. I've been so busy lately, I completely

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Speaker 1: forgot the information. Okay, let's say that the let's take

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Speaker 1: it back then. Okay, it is the day of but

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Speaker 1: five hours before. Okay, you have not gotten ready yet.

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Speaker 1: Does that make you mad or no?

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Speaker 2: Well then I'm happy, are you?

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Speaker 3: Because I can stay in my sweatpants on the couch

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Speaker 3: with the dogs, a full blown couch rot on a

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Speaker 2: I'm ordering uber eats. I'm okay with that.

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Speaker 1: People often feel surprisingly happy when plans fall through. This

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Speaker 1: is something called gained time. If you have ever gone

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Speaker 1: through this, where someone unexpectedly cancels whatever scheduled programming you

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Speaker 1: had in your day, chances are and researchers are saying

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Speaker 1: that your brain will naturally feel better rather than worse,

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Speaker 1: which this is something to think about the next time

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Speaker 1: you've got something going on and you're like, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to do this, or like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, like if I do this, it's going

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Speaker 1: to put me back the next day, or it's gonna

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Speaker 1: you know, I've got I've got plans for lunch, but

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Speaker 1: you know later that at night I get something else,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna be so tired. Cancel the plants. You're

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Speaker 1: gonna make the person feel better. I suppose Katie brings

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Speaker 1: up a good point, though, maybe give them enough time

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Speaker 1: to like not yes, dedicate their whole night to you

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Speaker 1: as well, gain time.

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Speaker 4: I see. It depends because they're means well, it depends

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Speaker 4: because this is not just a singular situation, right, because

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Speaker 4: there are times where you make plans with somebody. I

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Speaker 4: make pity plans. And what I mean by that, if

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Speaker 4: there's somebody that I haven't hung out with in a

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Speaker 4: while and they asked me to hang out, I'll say yeah,

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Speaker 4: and then uh, when they cancel out the last second,

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Speaker 4: I feel relieved. But if it's somebody that I actually

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Speaker 4: want to hang out with and either go see a

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Speaker 4: show or just go bar hopping with and then an

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Speaker 4: hour before they pulled the plug on me. I feel

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Speaker 4: a way about that. I'm like, what, I'm not important

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Speaker 4: enough to you to where you can't sack up for

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Speaker 4: an hour and a half and have a drink with me.

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Speaker 4: I would feel a way about it. I don't like

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Speaker 4: when people cancel last minute. That's just you made a commitment.

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Speaker 4: If you're calling me with an hour and to go

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Speaker 4: and you can't do it, and I might be on

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Speaker 4: the way to event, wait.

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Speaker 1: You no, no, no, we're taking that back, though. I'm saying, like,

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Speaker 1: if it happens early in the day so you're not

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Speaker 1: headed out to whatever brewery, you've got to watch a

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Speaker 1: bass player with lip piercings and face paint. Did that

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Speaker 1: guy really have face paint?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: He did? What was that? Oh? He's he's born. I

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Speaker 1: think he was born in Africa, of course, face painted Africa. Okay,

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Speaker 1: now everything makes sense.

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Speaker 5: I feel like Jed would be mad. You're like a

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Speaker 5: guy who likes to go out. You are a man

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Speaker 5: of the Do you like going out? And I do

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Speaker 5: like having fun? Katie, so when somebody doesn't want to

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Speaker 5: come out and have fun with me. It makes me

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Speaker 5: feel slighted.

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Speaker 1: But psychiatrists are calling it the contrast effect. You were

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Speaker 1: expecting to have no free time at all, and then

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Speaker 1: the plants disappear, so next thing you know, you've got

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Speaker 1: all that free time. You like free time.

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Speaker 4: But Joe, I have these and typically speak.

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Speaker 1: You always have to be doing something because well one,

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Speaker 1: I not like to be alone.

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Speaker 4: I love to be I catch live shows by myself,

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Speaker 4: all the top.

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Speaker 2: People around these people people up.

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Speaker 1: Do you ever like? Have you ever had a day?

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Speaker 1: Because I love these days, whether a list is there

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Speaker 1: or not. I love having a day where I don't

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Speaker 1: see a single human being.

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Speaker 4: I don't. I like being around people, man. I like

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Speaker 4: interacting and having beers with strangers and bumming a cigarette

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Speaker 4: off of them. If I'm a little buzz that's just

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Speaker 4: that's just me. I like interacting with people stranger.

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Speaker 1: You like that, but not strangers. Would you rather be

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Speaker 1: alone or around a bunch of people? See?

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Speaker 2: I think I would rather be alone, but with my dogs.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we need to get you a puppy.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and then you're never going to want to leave

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Speaker 2: your house.

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Speaker 1: Trust and believe you, like you're always somewhere.

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Speaker 4: I like be man, I enjoy it. I just I

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Speaker 4: don't know what it is. I like the adventure. I

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Speaker 4: like the thrill, and I like making plans and staying busy.

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Speaker 1: Jeded is the king of two. Like he'll say, Hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to be out and dune Eden. Next you know,

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Speaker 1: he's in Saint Pete night in Tampa. Like he puts

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Speaker 1: on a full on triangle of uh destinations in one night.

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Speaker 4: As Katie always says, Joe, do it for the plot.

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Speaker 4: And I think that going out and doing stuff. Who knows,

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Speaker 4: I could see something crazy on the street, like somebody

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Speaker 4: offering Katie.

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Speaker 1: Will that continue if him and his girlfriend get even

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Speaker 1: more serious.

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Speaker 2: I think you're going to become more of a homebody.

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Speaker 1: Do you hate your home? Is there something leaky roof? No?

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Speaker 1: I need to call Ruful.

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Speaker 4: We don't need to call Ruefully. We don't need to

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Speaker 4: call Mark Spain, we don't need to call anybody. You're

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Speaker 4: not trying to sell trying to sell it. I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I'd like. I don't know. I just like I.

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Speaker 2: You are the little mermaid. You want to be able

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Speaker 2: the people are.

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Speaker 1: That's a great point, he does have a fort collection tape.

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Speaker 1: It all makes sense anyways, though. If you've got plans

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Speaker 1: this weekend and someone cancels and you realize, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: I just got happy, you don't not like them. You

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Speaker 1: probably love them, especially because they just gave you a

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