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We've been talking about you, Sheila. 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:45.199 Yeah, good morning morning. 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:48.960 So Shla was I think it was a couple of 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:50.599 days ago we heard from a movie said we got 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:53.280 to have you tell your story on the radio. Sila. 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:55.480 I don't want to take it away or steal your thunder, 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:59.120 but you were done with your marriage, you were out 0:00:59.240 --> 0:01:02.320 the door. Tell me about what happened. In the process 0:01:02.320 --> 0:01:03.720 and what's going on now? 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:09.640 Okay, Yeah, I was. I was thinking about divorcing my husband. 0:01:10.959 --> 0:01:13.840 You know, he's like he's fine, he's. 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:17.200 He's just kind of dull, kind of boring. And I 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:21.400 started thinking like, hmm, what if there was, like, you know, 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.720 somebody else out there that that if I was, if 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:26.600 I was single, if I was free, if I was 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:30.280 able to figure out who i'd want to be with. Uh, 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:32.720 I kind of thought that I would just be looking 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:34.760 for the same man as my husband. 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:39.160 Oh okay, so you're making like a list of like 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:42.400 qualities that you want in a man or something if 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:45.000 you ended up leaving him. 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:45.400 Yeah. 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:49.800 Yeah, Like you know, if I I would want somebody 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:54.520 who's like a steady eddy that's my husband, you know, 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:59.600 I would I would want somebody that's involved with with 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:03.720 myself on our son. My husband coaches te ball for 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:07.240 her son, Like he's you know, he's we don't fight, 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:11.120 we don't have any financial problems. But I was just like, 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:14.320 you know, I was thinking about this, and I was like, 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.200 instead of going through all the divorce, if you meet 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:20.480 somebody that you know kind of checks all the boxes 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:23.240 and you think, oh, that could work. Just think like, 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:26.600 maybe don't get divorced. Maybe your husband's fine. 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:29.480 And you know, I think I think I get what 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:30.880 she's saying. You can think about this one if you 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:32.600 broke up, and I want you to picture this. If 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:34.399 you're married right now, and maybe you're you know, there's 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:37.320 a lot of marriages that are okay, there's some that 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:39.360 are wonderful, and there's a lot that are like, we're 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:43.120 kind of roommates. Think about this if you were single, 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:45.440 because I think what she's saying is if you're single 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:47.680 and you're like out dating again and you met somebody 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.760 who was like kind of like your current partner, would 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.560 you go like, they're kind of a catch. You know, 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:57.120 they're they're just different, they're steady, addy, they do you know, 0:02:57.160 --> 0:03:01.120 they're involved with the kids. But you wo had said 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:03.000 you didn't say this now because maybe you got shy 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:04.520 about it. You said you want a guy with a 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:10.040 sex drive, but not somebody who wants it all the time. Yes, okay, 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:12.480 all right, So you want a guy who's like, you 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:14.079 don't want a guy who doesn't have any kind of 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.400 a sex drive. But you don't want a guy who's like, 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:18.799 you know, you can't even like bend over the kitchen 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:21.000 sink or empty the trash without him being like, hey, 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:22.919 let's go what So. 0:03:24.720 --> 0:03:27.959 Is that normal that way? 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:29.720 So he's like, yeah, he has the drive, but not 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:32.000 all the time. So then you start to realize if 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.880 you were out dating and you met somebody on hinge 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:36.800 that was a steady eddy, maybe a little bit dull, 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.400 wasn't you know, like always you know, pestering you for 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:43.320 the love, and you'd be like, this guy's quite a catch. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.480 Oh wait, that's my husband. 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:47.200 I already have that. 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:52.560 But yeah, here comes mister Cinek over here. I just 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:53.560 feel something to say. 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.360 I should never be in a thought process where I'm like, 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:59.080 maybe I should get a divorce, because if I get 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:00.440 to that point, then I don't think there. 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:00.800 Is saving it. 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:02.360 I think, you know, if you think you should get 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:03.440 a di vorcee, then it should happen. 0:04:03.840 --> 0:04:07.840 Though I really disagree because like there's so many like 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:11.320 chances when you're even in just a relationship prior to marriage, 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:13.200 where you're like, is this the one right for me? 0:04:13.240 --> 0:04:14.720 And it's a lot of self sabotage. 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.000 You said it right there before marriage, when you when 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.160 you marry somebody, you make vows to commit for better 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:20.960 or for worse, for Richard, for poor, for all those things. 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:22.839 Yeah, but there's fifty percent divorce rate. 0:04:23.120 --> 0:04:23.520 I think. 0:04:23.760 --> 0:04:27.800 I think it's hard to say. Like us three on 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:30.159 the show, Dave's been married for a long time. We 0:04:30.240 --> 0:04:33.600 have never been in a super super super long relationship, 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:35.839 So I don't think we can necessarily relate to someone. 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.120 I don't know how long you've been married, Chaila, but like, 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:40.919 if you've been in a relationship for fifteen years, like, 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:42.279 does it change? 0:04:42.480 --> 0:04:42.840 Does it? 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:44.360 Like Lauren? 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:46.440 No, it changes for sure. But I think that you 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.440 made a commitment to be with this person. I'm not 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.640 going to get too a marriage considering that it might 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:51.240 end one day. 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:53.400 I think that it is a very that's a commitment 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:56.120 to I think if it's a religious ceremony, I think 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:59.359 it's a commitment to God. I don't think you should 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:03.200 commit to ten years of a happy marriage and thirty 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:05.320 more years of being miserable with each other. 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:05.839 Yeah. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.720 So a lot of people are texting in that this 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:11.080 is the Pina Colada song, which is what I thought. 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:16.640 And I never knew that you like Pini by the way, Pina, 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:20.919 and she said, I never knew that part of the 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:23.240 song was like, because he walked into the bar and 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:24.680 he's like, oh, it's you. 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.560 So the song is that these two people they put 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.320 out like ads because they want to find someone else 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:32.880 outside of their marriage, so they're looking to cheat. But 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.359 then when they fulfill the ad, they go on this 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:38.120 date to go and meet this person that was fulfilling 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:41.000 the ad, and it's their spouse that is. 0:05:41.040 --> 0:05:43.120 So you know what, Sheila, you brought up a really 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:44.840 interesting topic. I wish we had more time to talk 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:46.400 about it, but thank you because I think it made 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:50.039 you a lot of people think. But I I gotta 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:54.520 say that if you really sometimes you know, it's like, man, yeah, 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:56.920 I have a commitment, but I also don't want to 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:59.520 commit myself to being bored and lonely and miserable for 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:01.599 the next three years. Sheila, thanks for being on. Have 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:05.839 a great day. Okay, Yeah, yeah, thank you. We're gonna 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:07.359 we'll talk about this a little bit more when we 0:06:07.400 --> 0:06:09.479 come back. Somebody says vont is showing his age with 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:13.440 that answer and said it's kind of true. Somebody else says, 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.560 the grass is not always greener. We got a lot 0:06:15.560 --> 0:06:17.159 of response on this one. We got to take a break. 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:18.920 We'll come back in a second, and we'll talk more 0:06:18.920 --> 0:06:21.600 about this in a little bit on kd WB one 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:24.960 hour commercial free, including our favorite part of the week, 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:28.320 no phone screen or Friday. What are you gonna call him? 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.560 It's this radio show that's kind of sketchy, The Dave 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:32.400 Ryne Show. 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:33.120 On kt W. 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:35.760 I would not listen to this radio station alone in 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:42.000 the dark, that's for sure. Ooh, sketchee. Where have you been, Jenny? 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:44.120 We've been missing you. We wonder where you were. And 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.960 Bailey said, you're probably taking a big you did, yeah, 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:49.320 I said she pooping And Bailey said she taking a big, 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:49.880 fat poop. 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:52.600 Yeah, And He's like, Bailey, disgusting you said it. 0:06:52.640 --> 0:06:55.240 I thought I had till seven nineteen, so I thought 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:56.839 I was right on time. I guess I was just 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:58.920 a little My phone must be behind NASA. 0:06:59.160 --> 0:07:01.719 So let's get back the action here. Yes, we talked 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:03.919 to a woman a minute ago, Sayla, I believe her 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.880 name was Yeah, really really interesting take on a divorce 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.359 because she said, Hey, I've been married for a while. 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:12.840 My husband's boring. He's like a steady eddy. He coaches 0:07:12.920 --> 0:07:16.080 t ball, he's you know, a good you know husband whatever. 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:20.000 He's just boring, and she started to go through like 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.880 divorce and like thinking about divorce and working it through 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:25.160 in her mind and going out and seeing what she 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:28.119 could get as far as a new partner and meeting people, 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:30.080 and the idea is maybe kind of exciting to her. 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:32.560 So then she started thinking about, God, well, what if 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:35.560 I met a guy. I really would if I met 0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:38.320 a guy that had all those boxes like kind of 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:44.280 boring and steady, eddy, good with the kids. Once I 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:47.160 had to have a sex life, it's not crazed about it. 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:51.400 And then she realized that's what her husband is. So 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:53.440 then she said, I am not going to get a divorce. 0:07:54.200 --> 0:07:56.480 So and I thought that was really interesting because if 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.840 you were divorced and single and you found somebody who 0:07:59.880 --> 0:08:03.520 was just like, I mean, the good qualities. 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:05.040 Mm hmm, yeah, because everybody has bad. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:09.800 Qualities too, except they're boor Yeah, yeah, maybe borings not. 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:13.560 I'd rather have a boring relationship than somebody who is 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.680 full of drama, right, I had to bail them out 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.480 of prison and take him to Betty Ford and all that. 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:22.119 You know. I just Okay, So I'm talking to somebody 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:26.840 named Angela, and you're kind of in the same boat. 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:29.920 That she was, Hi, Angela, tell me your story. 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:33.360 Good morning, same boat. 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:36.600 I mean I thought of over. You know, I thought 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.520 about divorce on and off. It's not that I don't 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:41.160 love my husband. Of course, I love my husband. We've 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:44.559 been married over fifteen years. But I mean he's kind 0:08:44.600 --> 0:08:47.160 of an overtime. You know, marriage has change, and he 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:48.880 just doesn't want to go out. He doesn't want to 0:08:48.880 --> 0:08:51.040 go out to dinner. He doesn't want to go do things, 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:53.720 you know, like go out and dates, you know, little dates. Yeah, 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:55.760 so I've just decided. I thought about it. You know, 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:58.040 I thought about the divorce thing, but I mean I 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:01.120 trust my husband. Trust is hard. I have single friends. 0:09:01.120 --> 0:09:02.720 The dating world is terrible. 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:04.000 So I'm just going to go out. 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:07.040 I decided to date myself. Like we should normalize being 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:09.760 able to go to dinner by yourself, go do things 0:09:09.760 --> 0:09:12.960 by yourself. I deserve to be happy. She deserves to 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:15.840 be happy. I mean, I mean it doesn't like she 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:18.319 does not have like she's she doesn't like hate him 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:21.720 or anything. Stay married, take yourself out, do things for yourself. 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:24.439 Nobody deserves your your time more than yourself. 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:25.440 Okay, I like that. 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:27.840 I like that, Angela. And you've been married for fifteen 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:30.120 years and you said that what has changed? So he 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.560 used to want to go out to you know, play 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:36.120 darts or go dance or go to a movie or what. 0:09:36.320 --> 0:09:39.760 He absolutely and just it just hasn't. He's more of 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.520 a homebody now, which is fine, you know. I mean 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:45.080 I do I ask for it every night. No, but 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:47.440 I mean there's I mean, life just changed. He just 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:49.120 wants to be a homebody. Doesn't want to go out 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:51.200 on dates, doesn't want to go to you know, just 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:53.640 doesn't want to go to like different sports events or 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:56.360 like you said, go bowling or go out with friends 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:57.240 or go play Bengo. 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:58.280 He just doesn't want to do that. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:00.400 So I'm just I'll do it myself yourself. 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:01.600 Are you happy with that? 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.600 And you don't have to be you know, I think 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:06.000 you're being real honest, But do you kind of wish 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.960 that it was? Like, man, I'm kind of looking around 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:12.440 going I wish I had a partner that wanted to 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:15.840 go to can Can Wonderland, who wanted to go to 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:17.480 Nick Universe type of thing. 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.719 I mean, yes and no, But I mean nowadays it's 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:23.560 hard to find somebody. And I mean I definitely all 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:26.440 the qualities he has. I love everything that he has. 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:28.560 So I just feel like if, like she said, if 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:30.600 I went and found I would I would think about 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:33.160 him more than anything. I mean, it's hard to trust 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:36.280 and I you know, and so nobody deserves my time 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:36.720 more than me. 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:37.280 You know what. 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.880 I love Angela. I love that attitude. I'm so glad 0:10:39.880 --> 0:10:42.040 that you were able to be on the radio with us. Yeah, 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:44.040 and a great week you take. You're taking yourself out 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:44.880 this weekend. 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:47.439 And you know what, yes, because he's going hunting. 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:52.240 By the way, you win, you win the Minnesota Accents 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:53.000 of the Day award. 0:10:53.200 --> 0:10:56.160 So the body, thank you. 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:57.040 Thank you, have a good day. 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:59.480 I'm glad that she's choosing to date herself though, and 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:01.360 not go I know other people, because I said that 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:05.080 the minute divorce or even like going to find somebody 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:07.240 else crosses your mind, just do it. Because I feel 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:09.480 like you made a commitment to your partner when you 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:11.720 just decided to get married, the thought of going to 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:13.319 somebody else shouldn't cross your mind. 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:18.680 Oh you got I disagree with me. I think if 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:20.360 you're gonna be honest, I think that you know, I 0:11:20.480 --> 0:11:23.440 thought about divorce before. I'm sure Susan has thought about 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:28.160 it before, and not for any like wow reason, like wow, 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:31.680 you have a gambling problem or whatever, just kind of 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:35.800 like you know, yeah, and it's not like we ever 0:11:35.880 --> 0:11:38.880 like got serious about it. But I think that if 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.560 every couple is being honest, there's probably a part of 0:11:41.600 --> 0:11:45.120 every couple that's been married for forty years where they've 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:50.200 at one point said, well, yeah, is this making me happy? 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:52.119 I think go ahead, Jenny. 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:52.480 I was gonna say. 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:55.040 I think that once you get into a longer relationship, 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.040 you still like really care about your partner, if you 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:59.720 chose the right partner. It just is a matter of like, 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.720 there are certain things every person evolves throughout their life, 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:05.280 It's true, and you don't necessarily evolve in the same 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:06.120 way as your partner. 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:08.079 Look at this guy. He used to go out, he 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:08.719 doesn't go out. 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:11.280 It's like, it's like you, there are parts of you 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.760 that probably question, like is there someone else that fits 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:15.400 who I am as a person? 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:15.720 Better? 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:15.920 Now? 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.440 Like the point of it, though you say for better, 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:20.520 for worse, rich, for poor, I commit like my life 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:21.760 to you. That's the point of marriage. 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:24.880 But if you change in a way that's not beneficial 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.840 to like the relationship, then I think it's better to 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:30.959 get a divorce. But in her case, like the person 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:32.839 she would be looking for is essentially going to be 0:12:32.880 --> 0:12:33.800 the same guy anyway. 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.760 I hear what you're saying, like you should not feel 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:39.720 confined right to that person whatever changes. But again, I 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:43.600 just you know, if something happened tomorrow or in twenty years, 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.120 Alyssa changes, we get married. 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:45.520 I don't know. 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:49.000 I said, Hey, I'm with you for life. I just 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:50.920 think you shouldn't go into a situation of commitment with 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:52.880 a notion in the back of your head that I. 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:54.400 Don't know if I don't think you do. 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:56.800 Nobody goes into marriage thinking like someday I'm going to 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:57.440 get a divorce. 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:58.679 At least I hope they don't. 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:01.679 Or if you, then you probably know right off the 0:13:01.720 --> 0:13:03.720 bat that's not the right person for you. Yeah, I 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:05.719 just think that it's a naive thing to say that 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:09.520 you wouldn't potentially think about someone else. I'm all for 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.080 working for the relationship. I am all for trying to 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:14.400 get through hard times with people, or if you are 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:16.720 getting bored in your relationship, I'm all for trying to 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:19.679 like figure out what the solution is for that. Yes, 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:21.480 but I do think that it would be. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:22.840 I don't know. 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.520 I just think it'd be silly to say that people 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:25.320 don't have those thoughts. 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.320 Though, Well, if you just turned the radio on. We 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:29.440 were talking about a woman called in and she said 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:31.720 she thought about getting a divorce, but then she fast 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:34.520 forward in her mind how it would play out. She 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:36.680 would go out, try to find a new partner, and 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:39.160 if she found somebody who is just like her husband, 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:41.840 she'd be like, what a catch. And then she realized 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:44.280 that she has what a catch. We got a lot 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:48.079 of responses on this one. For example, this one says 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.040 I want to say thanks to Angela, who just called 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:53.280 in and she said, my husband's boring. So instead of 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.360 like me staying home at being bored, I take myself out. 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:59.120 This text says, thanks Angela. I've been going back and 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:00.880 forth on divorce because he doesn't want to go out, 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.520 and now I'm going to take myself out. That's a great. 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:06.080 Compromise, can I I would like to also say on 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:09.560 that note, like, yes, I'm not married. My last relationship though, 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.200 was like almost five years and I was in the 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:15.520 same position where it was really great at the beginning, obviously, 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:17.360 and then he just didn't want to go out anymore. 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:19.720 So I continued living my life the way I wanted 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:21.320 and he lived his separate life. 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:23.400 And I feel like, yes, take yourself out. 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.240 But if your lives like diverge so fully that you're 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:28.320 just living two different lives and kind of ships in 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:31.160 the night in your home, then like I would say, 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:31.800 get a divorce. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:36.240 It could be happy. Seriously, why commit yourself. I'll give 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.920 you two thoughts, and I really believe this. You might disagree. 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:40.960 If you have to work that hard on a marriage, 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.680 it ain't a good marriage. Yeah, marriage, You should not 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:47.400 have to work that hard on a marriage. If you 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:49.680 have to work that hard, marriage does a lot of work. 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:51.960 It shouldn't be that much work, or it's not a 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:52.520 good marriage. 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:54.360 I disagree. I mean, I hope that it doesn't get 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:56.800 to that point. But marriage is all about as far 0:14:56.840 --> 0:14:59.080 as I know, I'm not married, but like sacrifice and 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:01.800 deciding to always oh up this other text it says 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.320 I agree with nowhere is it vont Throughout a long marriage, 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.040 people fall in and out of love all the time. 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:08.680 The trick is to make the choice to stay, even 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:10.960 during the seasons when the love might feel lost. However, 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:12.880 it's normal to start considering the what ifs during those 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.560 seasons two, so to be able to navigate the highs, 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:17.520 the lows, the ups and downs, the peaks and valleys, 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:18.440 but still get through. 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:20.040 I think support. I think that's true. 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:21.880 I mean you fight over like you know, she spent 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:24.080 too much money or he bought a new motorcycle without 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:27.640 asking or whatever, then yeah, those are your peaks and valleys. 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:31.560 But if everything is like uh ho hum, I don't 0:15:31.600 --> 0:15:34.080 say I love you, we don't kiss, we don't do this. 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:37.200 You pass each other naked in the hallway and you 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:40.080 don't even glance at each other, then things start to 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:44.920 be a problem. We are We thought with the story 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.560 with Sheila, how she was going to get a divorced 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:49.560 and she realized if she was dating again and she 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:52.160 found somebody just like her husband, it would just be 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:56.720 like the Pina Colada song, which goes back to about 0:15:56.880 --> 0:16:01.520 nineteen seventy nine. Now, this is probably the biggest Boss 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:04.360 Check song we've ever played, but we're gonna play it 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.680 right now. One of the best story songs ever. You've 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:12.080 probably heard it, but listen to the story again and 0:16:12.120 --> 0:16:19.080 how they got that together. Boss Jack, katiewb and one 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:22.280 of the greatest story songs of all time. And the 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:24.800 reason we played it was because we were talking about 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.560 how if you left your partner and then went out 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:31.080 on the dating thing and then tried to find somebody 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:32.800 and you found somebody who was a lot like your partner, 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:36.200 would you go, wow, they're a catch? And then you 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:39.040 realize my partner's kind of a catch. And that's what 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.520 Sheila called in a little while ago with So we said, well, 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:44.240 let's play the Penia Colada song, which is exactly that. 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:44.760 Exactly. 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:48.960 Apparently Rich is in a coma because Rich would have 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.840 called the radio station shrieking, get. 0:16:51.640 --> 0:16:53.120 That song off of radio station. 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.080 So he made a lot of songs. A lot of 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:58.360 people texted in and said, I've heard this song a 0:16:58.360 --> 0:17:00.240 million times, I've never even paid a ten and that 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.440 there was a story in there. Oh my god, is 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:04.880 one of the greatest story songs. 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:07.800 Of all They don't make story songs like they used to. Know, 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:09.679 greatest story song of all time? 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:10.439 You want to know what it is? 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:11.760 What is it? 0:17:11.760 --> 0:17:14.800