Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Yes, good
Speaker 1: to have you guys here with us today. A couple
Speaker 1: of things I thought were interesting I want to talk
Speaker 1: about real quick. One is there was a study that
Speaker 1: was just recently done that says that the whole theory
Speaker 1: of couples should never go to bed angry is actually
Speaker 1: they say bs. They say people never going to bed
Speaker 1: angry isn't always the best advice for couples. Arguing late
Speaker 1: at night can make things worse because people are tired, hungry,
Speaker 1: and emotional, but experts suggest waiting until you're both calm
Speaker 1: and rested to actually work out the argument is probably
Speaker 1: the healthier thing to do. It's funny because of I
Speaker 1: always have heard in therapists have always said, you don't
Speaker 1: ever want to go to bed angry because it's going
Speaker 1: to give you a bad night's sleep, and you know
Speaker 1: all this stuff.
Speaker 2: My therapist says totally the opposite. Yes, Mike, Karen who
Speaker 2: actually going to see you later today? She said, especially
Speaker 2: like West and I have learned this the hard way,
Speaker 2: where we've tried to come to a resolution. If we're
Speaker 2: having some sort of conflict and then it's midnight and
Speaker 2: we're both just like exhausted and not our best. But
Speaker 2: I like, I think it's better to separate a little
Speaker 2: bit and process and calm down and then come back
Speaker 2: the next morning and like finish whatever and that you
Speaker 2: were talking about.
Speaker 3: That's what the therapists say.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so much better.
Speaker 3: We can be angry.
Speaker 4: We don't got to be best friends in cool bay
Speaker 4: ya and set our differences. But you better say I
Speaker 4: love you. Well, here's an interesting I'll go to sleep
Speaker 4: and I say I love you.
Speaker 3: I don't like you right now, I love you.
Speaker 1: I always say that it's always better to just get
Speaker 1: a little angry.
Speaker 3: Section, right, huh. Ain't nothing wrong with that person.
Speaker 1: By the way, I will say this to you, And
Speaker 1: I've talked to my therapist about this one. My therapist
Speaker 1: always says, beware of the people that bring fights up
Speaker 1: at night, right before bed, because usually those people are
Speaker 1: trying to manipulate your sleep habits. And it's interesting because
Speaker 1: I told him, Yeah, a couple of times Chelse and
Speaker 1: I would get in fights because I'd bring something up
Speaker 1: before bed, and he says, you better be careful. You're
Speaker 1: trying to manipulate her sleeping And like, what do you
Speaker 1: mean like, he's basically saying, you got a problem, bring
Speaker 1: it up at three in the afternoon, Don't bring it
Speaker 1: up at you know, nine o'clock at night or ten
Speaker 1: o'clock at night. He says, you're manipulating her and her rest,
Speaker 1: and he is, that's a little too much, bro.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I are.
Speaker 1: You intentionally not wanting her to get a good, nice sleep?
Speaker 1: Throw Well, you don't necessarily think you are, but you are.
Speaker 1: I think manipulation has an intentionality factor and on it.
Speaker 1: But I'll be honest with you, I'd stop doing it.
Speaker 1: And I realized that it made me healthier person to say, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm a little, you know, upset by something at two
Speaker 1: in the afternoon, you know, before the kids are home
Speaker 1: and all that. Here's something interesting. Zip coding is a
Speaker 1: new dating trend. There's a new dating trend called zip coding,
Speaker 1: where people look up it's close to their own zip code.
Speaker 1: So the idea of dating the local, because you don't
Speaker 1: want to find yourself in a And we're going to
Speaker 1: talk about something with Anna a little later this morning
Speaker 1: on the show, because Anna is not a very good
Speaker 1: zip coding person. But that's interesting. I want to know
Speaker 1: if any of our listeners do that. Do you set
Speaker 1: your range on whatever your dating app is to be
Speaker 1: a lot tighter range because the idea that you don't
Speaker 1: potentially want to find yourself driving forty five minutes to
Speaker 1: an hour to go see the person. Because they say
Speaker 1: that one of the reasons why zip coding is so
Speaker 1: good is they find that the relationships last because people
Speaker 1: will find themselves more comfortable in that.
Speaker 3: And I like this.
Speaker 1: This is one of those topics where I sat there
Speaker 1: and I saw it and I thought, oh, this is
Speaker 1: this is actually really good. A woman goes on a
Speaker 1: date with a guy when he rejects. When she rejects
Speaker 1: his advance chanswers, he asked her to pay him back.
Speaker 1: She posted on Reddit. After spending a weekend with the
Speaker 1: man who visited her, she received a text later from
Speaker 1: him asking to pay for half of the weekend, a
Speaker 1: total cost of about one hundred and six dollars, claiming
Speaker 1: that she actually should pay for this because it didn't
Speaker 1: turn out to be a great date. People on Reddit
Speaker 1: are commenting on this saying, yeah, I think that you
Speaker 1: should probably pay wow if the date didn't go necessarily
Speaker 1: as planned, And then another person said that I don't
Speaker 1: think you deserve to have to pay for it. If
Speaker 1: he paid for it in the beginning, just because it
Speaker 1: didn't turn out great doesn't mean that you should be
Speaker 1: paying for it.
Speaker 2: The risk you take going out on a date not guaranteed.
Speaker 1: She claims that she already paid some of the expenses.
Speaker 1: She said she paid seventy dollars at a bar, and
Speaker 1: she had to pay forty dollars for parking, but the
Speaker 1: extra hundred, bless you, the extra hundred and six dollars.
Speaker 1: She didn't feel like she needed to pay because he
Speaker 1: chose to put his card down initially for that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like ya, I said, that's the risk. Now's a
Speaker 4: god f like that's what you. You go out, you pay.
Speaker 3: For the date.
Speaker 1: I like the whole before you go on a date
Speaker 1: with somebody. I like the whole boy year, Are you
Speaker 1: doing okay over there? This is cold and flu season, Michael,
Speaker 1: I can you didn't turn your mic off and every
Speaker 1: other MIC's on. Remember we're in a little studio here.
Speaker 1: But I had a buddy of mine that you should
Speaker 1: say or your money back. He used to tell girls
Speaker 1: before he would go on the date. He would say
Speaker 1: to them, I will promise you a great date or
Speaker 1: your money back. And he said that he went with
Speaker 1: girls and they were like, oh, okay, great, and they
Speaker 1: thought that that was kind of fun, and it was
Speaker 1: he would pay for everything that was on the date,
Speaker 1: and he found that going into the date with that
Speaker 1: attitude was them having more fun knowing, Okay, this is
Speaker 1: actually going to be kind of cool. Yeah, he never
Speaker 1: got his money back, and I actually use a single
Speaker 1: guy still, so uh, texture here in nine five five
Speaker 1: zero zero, going to bed angry is actually not the
Speaker 1: good thing to do. My husband and I fight all
Speaker 1: the time, and I actually think that when we're fighting
Speaker 1: at night and we go to bed angry, we wake
Speaker 1: up the next morning and carry it on to a
Speaker 1: really bad work day.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 1: And then a couple other people here that say that Mojo,
Speaker 1: I think Mojo needs a new therapist. Have a great day, everyone, Probably, Lee,
Speaker 1: we were talking about going to bed angry. You wanted
Speaker 1: to comment on that, Lee.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just my mom always told me not to
Speaker 5: go to bed angry because you never know, like what
Speaker 5: are you or the other person is going to wake up?
Speaker 3: You know, that's actually a really good point.
Speaker 5: I get it with that guilt if God forbid that happen.
Speaker 1: Could you imagine, honestly, that would be horrendous guilt to
Speaker 1: have to go to UH and live with for the
Speaker 1: rest of your life.
Speaker 3: But I'll take my chances. I want a good nights. No,
Speaker 3: I'm that way.
Speaker 1: I actually feel that same way, and that's why I'm like,
Speaker 1: I got to work it out.
Speaker 3: That's why I feel like.
Speaker 5: Saying I with my husband all the time to make
Speaker 5: sure that we're in a good.
Speaker 3: Even if you don't solve it.
Speaker 4: In my mind, like you never want to leave a
Speaker 4: situation with aiding your heart everyone to go to sleep
Speaker 4: with hating your heart, and by saying I love you
Speaker 4: that releases some of it, at least in my opinion.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, Lee, I think angry sex is about sex too.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you think that, but what do
Speaker 3: you think any
Speaker 5: My kids are in the car, so I can't all right,
Speaker 5: Sorry about that, Mom,