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Speaker 1: a ninety three three fl Z. I love you and

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Speaker 1: I mean it, Ashley, I say that a lot. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So here's the deal. My grandmother, I never got to

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Speaker 1: My dad was really big on whenever we are, you know,

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Speaker 1: getting off of the phone, it was always say I

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Speaker 1: be the last time. I say it to pretty much everyone.

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Speaker 1: If I catch a vibe that you're kind of cool,

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Speaker 1: I do. I throw it around and I don't necessarily

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Speaker 1: think that that's a negative thing. Now other people do.

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Speaker 1: I'll never forget. We had a coach of our show

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Speaker 1: at one point say stop saying it. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to hear you say it anymore. Whenever you talk to

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Speaker 1: people on the radio, you tell them you love them.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to hear that anymore. That amongst about

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Speaker 1: everything else we didn't listen to. But I still think

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Speaker 1: hard for men to say that they love each other,

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Speaker 1: but I want to say that I love you. That

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Speaker 1: text meant a lot to me for a couple of reasons.

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Speaker 1: second reason is it made me think, well, man, is

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Speaker 1: it really that hard to say I love you? Eight

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's hard to say it. I feel

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Speaker 2: like I say it a lot. Yeah, especially to listeners.

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Speaker 1: You ever hear that people say that though, where it's

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Speaker 1: like it's hard for men.

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Speaker 3: To say, oh yeah, for men to say absolutely.

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Speaker 4: Why is that? I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Jed's a man, Jed, why can't you say I love you?

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Speaker 4: I think?

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm not speaking for me personally.

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Speaker 4: Did your dad tell you he loved you a lot?

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Speaker 5: I would say fair amount, grown up, not nearly as

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Speaker 5: much as my mom would. Yeah, he'd say yeah.

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Speaker 4: He would say it.

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Speaker 5: I think it's more of men wanting to be mascular,

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Speaker 2: Don't you guys have brothers, So do you guys say

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Speaker 4: Ashley, I'll say it to a frog if I like

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Speaker 2: But your brothers are men too, Do they say it?

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Speaker 2: Or are you the brother that typically says I love it?

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Speaker 4: Oh? I say it more than anyone else. Yeah, though,

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Speaker 1: You know who says I have you? He said it

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Speaker 1: I love you. What do you think about that?

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Speaker 6: It's nice to hear.

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Speaker 7: I was in a relationship for seven years and he

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Speaker 3: Why didn't have an issue?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 3: Was it just because, like Jed said?

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Speaker 2: Or men it's hard for them to express their feelings

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Speaker 7: Actually, I'm not sure I want to say that he

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Speaker 3: So have you moved on and got into our new relationship?

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Speaker 7: No, no, sorry, I just got out of the relationship

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we love you. I love you.

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Speaker 7: Jen.

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Speaker 1: Did you ever have a conversation with him of like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I keep saying this to you and you keep ignoring me.

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Speaker 7: I have, and he'll try to flip it back around

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Speaker 7: and just gas like me and just by saying what

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Speaker 7: by just saying no, you don't you don't think about.

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Speaker 2: That real quick, I'm just going to play devil's advocate

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Speaker 2: because you just you just said something when it comes

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Speaker 2: And Jed also brought this to my attention. I feel

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Speaker 2: love you by showing it. So they're like, I can't

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Speaker 2: how you know that. I like, yeah, yes, yes, did

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Speaker 1: Well, it's it sounds like though with Jen's situation, she

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Speaker 4: Yeah, hey, Jen, I.

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Speaker 1: Love you, Thank you for calling you, and I can't

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Speaker 1: wait to see you find You're gonna find a man

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Speaker 7: Okay, I'm looking forward to it. Guys, Happy holidays, Love

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Speaker 1: Eric, you say, there is a way to make it,

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Speaker 1: And what we're talking about right now is the usage

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Speaker 4: I say it a lot. It's to me it's I

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Speaker 1: And I also I think the other thing too, is

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Speaker 1: But I really want to be loved by everyone I meet.

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Speaker 1: I could act like I don't really care, but I

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Speaker 4: Uh so, maybe I don't know. This is a weird therapy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to be loved too.

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Speaker 1: We all do, Eric out in wiki Watchee, how do

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Speaker 4: You say that there's a way to make it more manly?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean so, I say it freely too, because that's.

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Speaker 6: The way I am. But we all know how the world.

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Speaker 4: Works and how people are.

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Speaker 7: So you just you know, if you're talking.

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Speaker 2: To your boy and he's a little bit more masculine

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Speaker 2: or whatever you want to say, you know, you're like,

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Speaker 7: You know you gotta ad you just say all right,

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Speaker 7: I love you. That's a little, a little that's going

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Speaker 7: to make them feel uneasy.

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Speaker 4: Or if I try that out on you, Eric, absolutely not,

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Speaker 4: You're okay, okay, let me try it. Let me try

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Speaker 6: All right?

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Speaker 4: Here we go, Hey, bro, I want to kiss you

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Speaker 4: on the mouth and I love you. How is that?

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Speaker 7: I love you too, brother.

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Speaker 4: Right back at.

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Speaker 1: Hey, bro, I'd love to give you a mouth hug.

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Speaker 1: I love you, Hey, love you brother. Ain't nothing gay

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Speaker 1: about that. That's just love.

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Speaker 4: That's just love. That's love's love. Thank you. Eric. I

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Speaker 4: took notes on that. Lauren.

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Speaker 1: Hi, by the way, I love when we think up

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Speaker 1: the phone. Lauren, your husband, uh told you something about

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Speaker 1: this whole I love you thing with men and men

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Speaker 1: not saying it.

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Speaker 4: What was it?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? So I tell all my girlfriends I love them

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Speaker 6: every time I talk to them on the phone, just

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Speaker 6: so that they know. And my husband had mentioned like,

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Speaker 6: why do you guys tell each other I love you?

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Speaker 6: It's so funny. This is this is a talking point

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Speaker 6: it's like a touch of vulnerability, like God forbid men

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Speaker 6: have emotions and share those emotions. But also he said

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Speaker 6: I don't know, I.

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Speaker 1: Get I get that because when I say to some

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Speaker 1: like God, like, I want to hear it from them

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Speaker 1: so bad. I'm just going to say it's them like

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he thinks maybe they don't view him as like

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Speaker 6: that brotherly type of relationship either, so he just doesn't

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Speaker 6: say it. Yeah, but I told him he should just

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Speaker 4: Well, I hope that we all start saying it more.

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Speaker 1: It is just it's one of those like positive you

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Speaker 1: can't really take it in a negative way, at least

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Speaker 1: to me. Uh now, Yeah, but agreed, all right, Lauren,

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Speaker 1: I can't really figure out a rap other than saying

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Speaker 1: I love you, love you, love you, and I love everyone,

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Speaker 1: and I really do appreciate you guys, you know, listening

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