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Speaker 2: and Lydia will call you. So this story, when you
Speaker 2: told us the story in our pre show meeting, it
Speaker 2: was funny because you were like, wait a second, this
Speaker 2: is kind of a backhanded at me, what's the full story?
Speaker 1: Show?
Speaker 3: Well, so I ran into a woman that I haven't
Speaker 3: seen in a while, and so we were just catching
Speaker 3: up on life and kids and work, you know, all
Speaker 3: the things. And the last time I saw her, I
Speaker 3: knew she was going through a divorce. And so now
Speaker 3: that divorce has been finalized, she said, for about eighteen months, and.
Speaker 4: She's dating somebody new.
Speaker 3: She's been dating him since the holiday, so like a
Speaker 3: month and a half, two months, and she's like, and
Speaker 3: we are getting married.
Speaker 4: We are in love.
Speaker 3: We just know he loves my kids. We are getting married.
Speaker 4: And she's like, ecuse me, She's like, everybody thinks.
Speaker 3: That I'm crazy because he's the first guy that i've
Speaker 3: dated post divorce, and she's like, do you think that
Speaker 3: I'm crazy? And I said, wow, as a matter of fact,
Speaker 3: that was me too. Wes was my first and last
Speaker 3: day after I got divorced, and everyone thought that I
Speaker 3: was crazy for not dating more before settling down and
Speaker 3: getting married again for the second time. So I just
Speaker 3: know that a lot of people have so many thoughts
Speaker 3: on this, and I also want to find somebody like,
Speaker 3: is there anybody listening who has only ever dated the
Speaker 3: person they're married to?
Speaker 1: Interesting? Why did you only go one to day with Wes?
Speaker 4: Well, I Mojo can attest to this.
Speaker 3: It took me a really long time to even be
Speaker 3: in a space of wanting to date in general. And
Speaker 3: even when I started dating Wes, I was very forthcoming
Speaker 3: to him of I don't even know if I'm ready
Speaker 3: to be doing this yet.
Speaker 4: But then I think when you, I mean, I dated.
Speaker 3: A lot before I got married for the first time,
Speaker 3: and then, you know, you, I just feel like at
Speaker 3: a certain age and also having done it one time already,
Speaker 3: you know you know what you're looking for. You know
Speaker 3: when you meet somebody like you know that this is
Speaker 3: this is going to be a good fit, This is
Speaker 3: a great person. This is a person I want to
Speaker 3: spend the rest of my life with. Why would I
Speaker 3: risk going? Yeah, I'm just going to keep going when
Speaker 3: I found you.
Speaker 5: So maybe there maybe there's a middle ground where the
Speaker 5: two opposite ends meet and that's the answer. But were
Speaker 5: you ready to date or was Wes the right person
Speaker 5: to date? What made him the first person?
Speaker 4: I go back on what I said. I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't even know that I was ready to date
Speaker 3: when I started dating Wes, and I told him that,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I am still in this weird space of like,
Speaker 3: am I ready?
Speaker 4: Am I not ready? I don't even really know.
Speaker 3: But we went out for coffee and I was like, wait,
Speaker 3: I really enjoyed myself. I had We had a great
Speaker 3: conversation with a lot of things in common, a lot
Speaker 3: of mutual values, and I'm like, I like him.
Speaker 4: I like him.
Speaker 3: I want to see where this goes. So it was
Speaker 3: like healing and trying to figure out if I wanted
Speaker 3: to even date as I was dating, and he was
Speaker 3: aware of that.
Speaker 2: You had a lot of picking up the pieces too,
Speaker 2: Like I think that when you got divorced, that was
Speaker 2: that was a tough tough thing for you. And so
Speaker 2: I think that you also didn't want to bring somebody
Speaker 2: else into it. And it seemed like because I remember
Speaker 2: asking you questions. I remember asking you questions like are
Speaker 2: you going to get out there and date?
Speaker 1: What's going on? Because she did take them along. How
Speaker 1: many years after the.
Speaker 2: Divorce, I mean it was more than two, yeah, and
Speaker 2: it was like she was like, I'm not ready for
Speaker 2: another person, let alone for just me, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean, Like she's trying to do it. But I
Speaker 2: it's interesting you bring this up in both this person
Speaker 2: that you met or saw in yourself second marriages.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I wonder how many times that does happen because I
Speaker 2: hear a lot of times because of similar situations with
Speaker 2: friends who are just getting divorced or have been divorced.
Speaker 1: They don't want to go.
Speaker 2: Back out into the dating world, but they want companionship.
Speaker 2: They don't want to be alone. They want to have
Speaker 2: somebody that can share things with. And I wonder sometimes
Speaker 2: if you treat it differently, because not that you're settling,
Speaker 2: because nobody's going to settle, and if you settle, you'll
Speaker 2: figure out that you settled, like that will come out
Speaker 2: right away. But I wonder if It's kind of like
Speaker 2: you find somebody and you're like, oh my god, this
Speaker 2: person's actually nice and normal and great and whatever the
Speaker 2: deal is, and it's like, you know what, I'm willing
Speaker 2: to do this. Let's get married because her you said
Speaker 2: hers was fast, wasn't it? Because she just got divorced.
Speaker 3: She's been divorced officially for eighteen months, okay, she said,
Speaker 3: And she's like everybody thinks I'm nuts.
Speaker 1: Do you think she's only dated him for how long? Though?
Speaker 4: Since Christmas?
Speaker 2: So they've only dated for a couple of months yesterday,
Speaker 2: so her first date, and she's like ready to go.
Speaker 2: How soon after you and West started dating, did you
Speaker 2: guys even talk marriage?
Speaker 4: God, I don't know.
Speaker 1: It was longer than that.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, oh god?
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean, but you know, and if Wes we're here
Speaker 3: right now, I think we would both say we probably
Speaker 3: got married too soon, Like we we knew that we
Speaker 3: wanted to get married. But I think we we actually
Speaker 3: like got married too soon. I don't know, I'm just
Speaker 3: like a lot of different reasons. I still think that
Speaker 3: we had a lot of things to work out and
Speaker 3: figure out about each other and blending families under the
Speaker 3: same roof, And I think we've done a decent job.
Speaker 3: It hasn't been perfect, but that's like a really, really,
Speaker 3: really big deal. Yeah, and I think we probably could
Speaker 3: have taken more time with our kids getting to know
Speaker 3: each other and us getting to know each other and
Speaker 3: us getting to know each other's kids.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Reagan, Hello, Hi, what's happening?
Speaker 6: Not much? How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm doing great? What's going on?
Speaker 6: I get how you steal Shannon. I was with my
Speaker 6: person that I went to high school with. We were
Speaker 6: in a relationship for eight years and we got married,
Speaker 6: and then six months after we got married, we split
Speaker 6: up and I met my husband now four months after
Speaker 6: my divorce and we have been together since then. He
Speaker 6: was the first person that I dated, and we also
Speaker 6: got pregnant three months into our relations.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, could you imagine that you.
Speaker 4: Feel the judgment like this this girl did? And I
Speaker 4: guess like I kind of did.
Speaker 3: Marrying the first person that you go out on a
Speaker 3: date with after.
Speaker 1: Your divorce.
Speaker 6: Both like one hundred percent. And he also had a
Speaker 6: child from his previous relationship as well, so people were like,
Speaker 6: you're so crazy jumping in and becoming a stepmom and
Speaker 6: having his child, and I'm like, guys, just don't know.
Speaker 6: I totally feel like once you've been married and then
Speaker 6: you you meet your actual person, there's a very different
Speaker 6: love that you have for sure that you realized wasn't
Speaker 6: there the first round.
Speaker 1: Oh that's interesting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the question for you, Reagan, after you got divorced,
Speaker 2: did you ever think you would marry again?
Speaker 6: No? I definitely didn't. And he proposed fairly quick. He
Speaker 6: proposed to me when our son was born. So we
Speaker 6: got we were engaged nine months. And how did y'all
Speaker 6: meet Tinder?
Speaker 5: Okay, so were you looking for a date or were
Speaker 5: you looking for a night out?
Speaker 6: Honestly, just looking for a night out. And we both
Speaker 6: told each other that interesting.
Speaker 1: It's uh, my first.
Speaker 6: Time on Tinder and the first one I matched with
Speaker 6: it went out on a date.
Speaker 2: The rest of It's interesting to hear second marriages and
Speaker 2: how they came about, because a lot of times the
Speaker 2: second marriages, you'll hear somebody say, I never thought I
Speaker 2: was going to date again. I was not into wanting
Speaker 2: to get married ever again, And all of a sudden
Speaker 2: and it's like, you go for it, So Lexie, what's up?
Speaker 1: It's moje on the morning. Hi, Hi guys, good morning.
Speaker 7: It's more common than maybe Shannon you think, because I
Speaker 7: also did first person I dated. I ended up just
Speaker 7: getting married to him last week.
Speaker 4: Really relations yup, so thank you.
Speaker 7: And I met him through my brother. He was actually
Speaker 7: my brother's friend, and I also was not looking to
Speaker 7: date at all, So I think it is more common.
Speaker 7: And like the last caller said, second marriages, I feel
Speaker 7: like you just kind of know what you're looking for.
Speaker 1: How long? How long were you dating him before you,
Speaker 1: guys got married? A little over a year?
Speaker 2: Is it like second marriage is like your second house
Speaker 2: or second car. You knew everything that the other thing
Speaker 2: had that you hated and some things that you actually liked.
Speaker 2: So you kind of knew specifically what you were going
Speaker 2: to look for, and then when you found it, you're like,
Speaker 2: this is the one. I think I'm going to put
Speaker 2: an offer in. That's what That's what it kind of
Speaker 2: sounds like when I hear this story. Yeah, yeah, that's good.
Speaker 2: That's nice. Nice to know, and I'm happy that you're
Speaker 2: by the way, she's talking about as a listener, not
Speaker 2: as the marriage part. So but Lexie, we love you,
Speaker 2: thanks for listening.
Speaker 7: Yeah, thanks, Bye, guys, Bye bye.
Speaker 2: I love when we bring something up on the air
Speaker 2: and the actual exact person that has that same sage
Speaker 2: situation that Shannon's talking about with this other person that
Speaker 2: she met and her and what comes in and we
Speaker 2: got two calls. We're two for two with the exact
Speaker 2: same you know, situations, because it makes you know how
Speaker 2: relatable the stuff that we are all living in our
Speaker 2: lives is living out there with our listeners through the speakers.
Speaker 2: What's up, Amanda, Hi, Good morning everyone, Good morning. This
Speaker 2: one is not a divorce, though, this was what happened.
Speaker 8: Okay. So I was married for nineteen years and then
Speaker 8: my husband passed away unexpectedly. So I was about eight
Speaker 8: nine years ago, and then I had three children. I
Speaker 8: had a son and two daughters. And then unexpectedly, like
Speaker 8: a couple of years later, while I was at work,
Speaker 8: I met a gentleman who was pretty new because I
Speaker 8: was there for a long time, and it just he
Speaker 8: asked me out on a date. I was unsure at first,
Speaker 8: so I told him no, and then I called him
Speaker 8: like a couple of days later, asked him on a date.
Speaker 8: He said yeah, because at this point I already knew
Speaker 8: obviously he was interested, so I was like, you know what,
Speaker 8: I might as well just give it a whirl. So
Speaker 8: I did and we have been together ever since. Months later,
Speaker 8: three weeks, three months, three months later to Super Bowl.
Speaker 2: So hey, Amanda, I gotta ask you some questions, because
Speaker 2: first off, I'm I'm sorry to hear about the the
Speaker 2: your husband passing away, and that's gotta be horrible unless
Speaker 2: you murdered him and then you're happy about it, right,
Speaker 2: But no, but I.
Speaker 1: Gotta ask I gotta ask you a quick question.
Speaker 2: Sure, did you feel like you were cheating on your
Speaker 2: husband that died when you started dating again?
Speaker 5: What I did?
Speaker 8: For a split second, I did. But I do believe
Speaker 8: in God, and I do believe people are put put
Speaker 8: in your position or your path for a reason.
Speaker 2: Yeah, do you think your husband? Do you think your
Speaker 2: husband had something to do with you guys meeting?
Speaker 8: You know what you did, And that would be a
Speaker 8: whole other topic, but that's sweet. Yeah. Yeah, I actually
Speaker 8: had a dream he came into my dream, and I
Speaker 8: was like begging, I was praying, like, let him come
Speaker 8: in my dream when I'm coming to my dream. Finally
Speaker 8: he did, and he actually came into my husband, my
Speaker 8: new husband's dream first and then came into my more.
Speaker 4: And gave his blessing for you to be with him.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, wait wait, so how did you How did
Speaker 5: the new man know that the man that came in
Speaker 5: his dreams was your ex husband?
Speaker 8: So it didn't happen right away, so he didn't before
Speaker 8: he engaged me. So it was probably like two months,
Speaker 8: and I've already had this conversation because I was very
Speaker 8: leary at first just bringing another man into my house
Speaker 8: with my kids period to let alone or Jesus went
Speaker 8: through all this, you know, and I didn't wait it
Speaker 8: was I would I would have probably waited either longer,
Speaker 8: to be honest, but it just happened this way, you know,
Speaker 8: So I just kind of went with it. But yeah,
Speaker 8: I mean, he already knew the situation, and I had
Speaker 8: already told them, you know, like these are my pride
Speaker 8: and my joy, these are my children, I you know,
Speaker 8: So it just he already knew kind of a little
Speaker 8: bit about it. So it just love.
Speaker 1: I love.
Speaker 2: I love that that you you found love and that
Speaker 2: your your first love is still there with you guys,
Speaker 2: but also you know, loving that you are happy now
Speaker 2: much because if I die I want Chelsea to be
Speaker 2: miserable after I die and never date ever again.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to huh, I'm.
Speaker 8: Not gonna If I die.
Speaker 1: I want her to be celibate for the rest of
Speaker 1: your life. No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I mean, I mean, I'm so happy
Speaker 2: for you. You brought a smile to all our faces
Speaker 2: today when you told us that story.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: A wonderful good stories, good good stories. I know, switch up,
Speaker 2: like why you Why are you also a guy who's
Speaker 2: got so much spiritual love? Why are you doubtful that
Speaker 2: the man the man you're like doubtful?
Speaker 1: How do we know always?
Speaker 5: I'm not that's not interesting to you that the new
Speaker 5: guy had a dream about it and his husband, But
Speaker 5: you sounded like you were that.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to know how he knew it was
Speaker 1: the husband. These pictures of him trying to understand.
Speaker 7: Bro.
Speaker 1: I can't ask the question that's b asked. I'm just
Speaker 1: asking a question.