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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, and we've got second date

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Speaker 1: update back this morning.

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Speaker 2: Let's bring them right and say what's up to Lucas. Lucas,

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Speaker 2: good morning? Are you there?

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Speaker 3: Hey, good morning, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: Hey man, welcome. I'm guessing first time on the radio. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna try to get some answers for you. I

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Speaker 1: know that Jamie has ghosted on you after you had

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Speaker 1: a first date. From my understanding, it was in San Jose,

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Speaker 1: but like run us through it, like what did you

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Speaker 1: guys do?

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Speaker 3: So we went out for cocktails in San Jose and yeah,

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Speaker 3: it was awesome. It's beautiful. It was like a downtown bar.

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Speaker 3: Is how ambiance was awesome?

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Speaker 2: How was she? And did you do anything weird?

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Speaker 3: I mean she was cool. I'm That's how I'm like,

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Speaker 3: just I thought the date went really well. That's why

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Speaker 3: I'm like genuinely confused about why she's not texting me

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Speaker 3: back like I felt, you know, like you know, she's

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Speaker 3: she is creative, she's funny, super easy to talk to,

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Speaker 3: and you know, the date itself felt really nice, like

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Speaker 3: loose natural.

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Speaker 2: Would you guys talk about.

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Speaker 3: Uh, just like you know the usual family, what we

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Speaker 3: do hobbies, music.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you sound nervous. Are you nervous? Don't be nervous,

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Speaker 2: Gonna be fine, you know I'm.

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Speaker 3: A little nervous. Sure, Obviously I've never done this before.

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Speaker 1: So well, let's figure it out. I'm gonna call her.

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Speaker 1: We'll have you muted so you won't be on hold,

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Speaker 1: but you will be able to hear everything she says,

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Speaker 1: and I'll just ask.

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Speaker 2: Her what she thought of the date.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, We're gonna call this called Jamie and see

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Speaker 1: why she might have ghosted on you.

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm looking for Jamie.

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Speaker 4: This is Jamie.

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Speaker 2: Who's this Jamie?

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Speaker 1: This is Marcus calling from DAR one on one three

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Speaker 1: from the morning show.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, by the way, Sorry, where are my manners?

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 4: Uh? Good morning?

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Speaker 2: Do you don't listen to the show?

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 1: It's okay, no, all right, I'm wondering if you might

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Speaker 1: have a minute to go on the air with us.

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Speaker 1: I'm doing a segment. It's called a second date Update,

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Speaker 1: And basically what happens is we try to bring people

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Speaker 1: together after our first date. Typically somebody ghosts and the

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Speaker 1: other person calls in is trying to figure out maybe

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Speaker 1: if they did something wrong. So I got your number

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Speaker 1: from a guy named Lucas who took you out for drinks. Oh,

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Speaker 1: he thinks maybe you ghosted, So that would be my

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Speaker 1: first question, did you ghost? And then be like more importantly,

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Speaker 1: I'd love to know why? See what my guy did

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Speaker 1: wrong or if if you've just been busy or.

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Speaker 2: What the deal is?

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Speaker 4: Okay, so did you ghost? I thought you could say that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, did something go wrong?

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Speaker 4: Well? I mean the dates started out okay. You know,

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Speaker 4: he's pretty good looking and nice and started out okay,

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Speaker 4: but then he has this really weird habit that grows

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Speaker 4: me out.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait. What did he do?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: He picked food out of his teeth with his fingernails,

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Speaker 4: and as if that weren't bad enough, he then put

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Speaker 4: it in his pocket, as though that would be like

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Speaker 4: a normal place to put food that you picked out

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Speaker 4: of your teeth.

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Speaker 2: Like he wiped his finger in his pocket.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and like very casually. And you know, I mean

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Speaker 4: that's like maybe something If you're going to do that,

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Speaker 4: do it by yourself, but excuse.

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Speaker 2: Yourself to the restroom or something.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it was right in front of me

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Speaker 4: at a restaurant, like other people could have seen. I

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Speaker 4: mean I tried to just power through it, but I

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Speaker 4: couldn't focus on anything he was saying after that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'll let him know.

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Speaker 4: Well, that's not even the part that sealed the deal.

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Speaker 4: So later in the date, when we were talking, you know,

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Speaker 4: just talking about life and finances, and he casually mentions

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Speaker 4: that he doesn't believe in saving money long term because

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Speaker 4: the future is unknown and he doesn't even have a

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Speaker 4: savings account, you know, the future is not promised, and

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Speaker 4: he thinks that's a fear based thing to do. I mean,

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Speaker 4: that was a red flag for me.

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Speaker 2: Was he serious?

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Speaker 4: He was serious?

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Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, I've got something to work with. Now.

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Speaker 1: Here's the other half of it is that Lucas is

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Speaker 1: actually listening right now.

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Speaker 2: So can we bring him on? Lucas? Are you there?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm here, Lucas, Jamie, Jamie, Lucas, Lucas. What is

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Speaker 1: this all about?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: I mean, let's just can we start with the picking

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Speaker 1: your teeth at the table? I mean that alone?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that's everybody does that.

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Speaker 2: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 3: It's it's spinach. I'm not just gonna let it sit

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Speaker 3: in my teeth you're sitting.

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Speaker 4: In front of a napkin.

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Speaker 3: Though it's not a big deal. Like people get food

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Speaker 3: stuck in their teeth all the time, they get it

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Speaker 3: out with their nails. That's why we have nails, Like, well.

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Speaker 4: It isn't and usually they would excuse themselves and go

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Speaker 4: to the bathroom so that like not everybody can see

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Speaker 4: what you're doing.

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Speaker 3: Right, I'm not doing it inappropriately like I handle it.

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Speaker 3: I'm not making it weird or anything.

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Speaker 4: No, you make it weird.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what about the other thing? So you seriously don't

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Speaker 1: save money at all.

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Speaker 3: I save money for what I need in the moment.

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Speaker 3: So but no, I'm not saving for retirement. It might

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Speaker 3: not even come.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I would rather enjoy my life now. I travel now

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Speaker 3: when I can enjoy it while I can still walk around.

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna wait until I'm seventy five years old

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Speaker 3: trying to go to Spain and I can't go anywhere.

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Speaker 4: Okay, but you might not want to panic at forty

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Speaker 4: five with no savings at all.

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Speaker 3: I mean, come on, I think people just obsess over

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Speaker 3: security and just like again forget to live their lives.

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Speaker 2: And now I believe.

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Speaker 4: In living, but also having a cushion.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's so responsible lifestyle. My saving it works

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Speaker 3: for me and I just I don't think everybody needs

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Speaker 3: a five year plan.

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Speaker 4: It's basic stability.

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Speaker 3: No, I'm not the only person that has this belief system.

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Speaker 3: Like picking food out of my teeth. Everybody does that.

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Speaker 3: Not everybody saves for retirement.

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Speaker 2: I have money.

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Speaker 4: If you're underestimating the consequences of this idea.

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Speaker 1: I don't think this is a match. I mean we

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Speaker 1: do have some clarity. So Jamie, is there any interest

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Speaker 1: in a second date?

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Speaker 4: Not at all?

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Speaker 2: No, sure, Hang on, those were some strange habits. I

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Speaker 2: gotta tell you. Second Date update right after seven, right

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