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Speaker 1: I'm Lisa Fox and this is the iHeart So Cow Show.

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Speaker 1: There's a brand new book out, a new philosophy that

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Speaker 1: could probably help a lot of us out in terms

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Speaker 1: of how we live our lives. How we live our

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Speaker 1: lives day to day, Stop trying so much and start

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Speaker 1: doing more. Yeah, stop trying is the title of the book,

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Speaker 1: The life transforming power of Trying Less and Doing More,

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Speaker 1: The new self help book by a motivational speaker and

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Speaker 1: my dear friend and a former music industry executive, super wife,

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Speaker 1: super mom, Carla Andrasik. Carlo, congratulations on your this is

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Speaker 1: your first book, then write your first book.

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Speaker 2: This is my first and only book.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And how long have you been wanting to do

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Speaker 1: this book? I feel like the last time and this

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Speaker 1: sounds so familiar to me when you told me to

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Speaker 1: stop trying back in like November of last year. I've

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Speaker 1: known Carla for a lot of years. I went to

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Speaker 1: see your husband perform live at the Canyon Club a

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Speaker 1: while back. We reconnected. We volunteered at Project Angel Food

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Speaker 1: delivering meals together right before Thanksgiving, and I told her

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Speaker 1: I was gonna do a big weight loss program through

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Speaker 1: the radio station. And I said I'm gonna try and

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Speaker 1: do this new weight loss thing. And she was like, no,

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna try, You're gonna do it. I was like, wow, okay, boy,

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Speaker 1: she's fired up about my weight loss program. She's fired up.

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Speaker 1: This Galla is not messing around. But you didn't tell

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Speaker 1: me the time that you were doing. You were putting

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Speaker 1: together this book to essentially really really ingraining people's heads

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Speaker 1: this whole man, I don't know, trial try. You really

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Speaker 1: are fired up about this, this movement and this message.

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Speaker 1: So let's talk about where it came from and why

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, the hobby is fire for fighting John on Rask,

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Speaker 2: the person that you were seeing and sadly in love with.

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Speaker 2: And you know, honestly, I feel like I was born

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Speaker 2: this way as a human being who really just jumps

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Speaker 2: over all the hurdles, like I see the end game

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Speaker 2: and I go for what I want. But my the

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Speaker 2: way I was brought up, I was a gambler's daughter,

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Speaker 2: and there were times in my life where we were

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Speaker 2: just kind of thrown into situations where it was sink

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Speaker 2: or swim. You know, you can't when you're doing something,

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Speaker 2: you have to just go all in to get out

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Speaker 2: of it. And you know, so from an early age,

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Speaker 2: I was really trained to just go for it to survive,

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Speaker 2: and then moving forward in all of my careers, you know,

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Speaker 2: I was the dream maker. I was in music publishing

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Speaker 2: for twenty five years and I don't know you are

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Speaker 2: in the music world, but selling music, like getting a

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Speaker 2: song to another artist to record, is like selling ice

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Speaker 2: to eskimos because there's so much competition. You can't see it,

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Speaker 2: touch it, feel it.

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Speaker 1: Ye.

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Speaker 2: So you know the trying mindset, you know you're you're

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Speaker 2: not going to survive.

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Speaker 1: You have to make things happen. You're on the business side,

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Speaker 1: you have to make things happen. It's business.

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Speaker 2: Yep, you absolutely have to. And there's just such a

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Speaker 2: clear distinction between trying and doing it. I've always been

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Speaker 2: triggered by it. When someone says to me, oh, you know,

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Speaker 2: we're going to try to set up that meeting. I'm

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Speaker 2: going to try to call you back. I immediately hear

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Speaker 2: that as it's not going to happen, because nine times

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Speaker 2: out of ten we trick ourselves. We think when we

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Speaker 2: doing it, but we're really not. We're just talking about it,

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Speaker 2: thinking about it. We're we're putting, you know, so much

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Speaker 2: opportunity for failure when you say try.

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Speaker 1: And it sounds so non noncommittal. Now that you put

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Speaker 1: it that way, try it sounds so non committal, and

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Speaker 1: that's just a waste of everyone's time. I guess right,

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Speaker 1: I'll try to make it over there. I'll try and

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Speaker 1: do this. I'll try. Now I'm hating that word try.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I hate it. You will hate it so

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Speaker 2: much more after this talk. You know, I'm just going

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Speaker 2: we're going to try to, you know, keep trying of

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Speaker 2: right and the world you know, falls apart. You wouldn't would.

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Speaker 1: No, No, I don't like Yeah, now it feels so

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Speaker 1: wishy washy. Try What do you mean? No, for sure,

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Speaker 2: Yes, but we try, Like, why do we do that

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Speaker 2: to ourselves. You know, we don't allow the banks that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a fly with them. I'm going to try

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Speaker 1: to pay my mortgage. No, you're either going to or

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Speaker 1: you're not going to, and then bad things are going

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Speaker 1: to happen. So it's just or No. There's no gray area.

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Speaker 1: There's no gray area. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But where it really, where it really gets me is

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Speaker 2: when people say I'm trying to lose weight. Like when

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Speaker 2: I heard you say that, I'm like, no, Lisa, I

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Speaker 2: going to try to do it because you're going to

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Speaker 2: half hearted. You're going to give all these excuses. Well

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Speaker 2: I tried, but I could didn't because I'm so busy.

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Speaker 2: Well I tried, but Eric, you know, kept bringing home donuts.

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Speaker 1: You know, Ah, but guess who's down twenty eight pounds. You. Yes,

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Speaker 1: But I will say though, I'm grateful for the weight

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Speaker 1: Helped make me accountable and that's what I needed, you know.

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Speaker 1: And then you know, we have the fires in January,

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Speaker 1: health is very important to us now more than ever.

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Speaker 1: But also it helps with mental health. Exercising, eating clean,

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Speaker 1: wasting time talking about wanting to do it. We're doing it.

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Speaker 2: Like when you say you're trying to do anything, you

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Speaker 2: are focusing on the effort more than the outcome. You're

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Speaker 2: say this. You know, we are taught to try at

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Speaker 2: a very young age. Try harder, try your best, just

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Speaker 2: try it like we do, believe that it's doing. We've

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Speaker 2: we'd be much better off telling the people that we

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Speaker 2: love and care about don't try, because that means you're

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Speaker 2: to lean on excuses and blame. You're not going to

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Speaker 2: that's going to fuel you. And there is definitely neuroscience

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Speaker 2: behind our brain when we try and when we do.

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Speaker 2: When you try, it's like low low lighting up, low vibration,

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Speaker 2: but when you do, it's firing. It's literally physically when

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Speaker 2: and all of the synapsises are connected and going. There's

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Speaker 2: so much other like science behind it. But I also

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Speaker 2: want to say that just because you commit to doing something,

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Speaker 2: it does not guarantee success. Even if you say I'm

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Speaker 2: going to do this, it's not guaranteed it's going to happen,

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Speaker 2: but you are one hundred percent guaranteed a better chance

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Speaker 2: do it.

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Speaker 1: And and honestly, Carla, we know, we all know at

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Speaker 1: this stage of the game, when we have failed, we

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Speaker 1: learn our biggest lessons. And sometimes failure is a big

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Speaker 1: learning lesson. There are big lessons we learned when you

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Speaker 2: Right, Oh my god, it's the that's the number one

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Speaker 2: reason that we say we'll try because we're so afraid

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Speaker 2: to fail. Commit to it. I'm going to fail, and

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Speaker 2: you just hit the nail on the head. It's I

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Speaker 2: welcome failure. It is the best thing that can happen

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Speaker 2: to you. This book journey. I'm on, I have no

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Speaker 2: idea what I'm doing, and if something works, great. If

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Speaker 2: and pivot and kind of go about it and do

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Speaker 1: So you talk about the science behind this concept, Carla,

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Speaker 1: how did you dive into that part of it?

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Speaker 2: Well, when I was writing the book, you know, people

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Speaker 2: like what is the science behind that? So here's something

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Speaker 2: when you are a person that has the big to

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Speaker 2: I've got I'm trying to do this, I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: to get very stressed and anxious, and then guess what happens.

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Speaker 2: all that stuff and it overwhelms you. So there's something

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Speaker 2: When you make a list of all the stuff you're

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Speaker 2: trying to do, our brain processes the list as unfinished business.

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Speaker 2: So it's an open loop literally in our brain. It's

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Speaker 2: an open loop that wants to close itself. So imagine

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Speaker 2: going towards those things that are open. Right, You're wasting

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Speaker 2: all that energy because they're just lit up and shining

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Speaker 2: And our brain does the same thing. It keeps firing

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Speaker 2: your brain to go complete another task. This is why

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Speaker 2: Cliffhanger's work. The entertainment industry knows this. It leaves the

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Speaker 2: unopened ending. And what do we do. We think about

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Speaker 2: it like I can't wait till Thursday night to watch

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Speaker 2: the season finale?

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And what radio we do? It's the art

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Speaker 1: of the teas. Coming up, your chance to win this?

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Speaker 1: Coming up? Did land you want to go?

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Speaker 3: Coming up?

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Speaker 1: We do it every day on the radio shows. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: his trying process was listening. He kept wondering, worrying, listening

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Speaker 2: to all the self help instead of just doing it.

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Speaker 1: Doing it, yeap, doing the work. And you know, your

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Speaker 1: Instagram is so great too, because you share so many

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Speaker 1: anecdotes from the book and some examples of real life

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Speaker 1: situations when you didn't try, but when you did, and

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Speaker 1: so many great success stories of you doing exactly that.

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Speaker 1: What's your Instagram and how can people find you? That way?

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Speaker 2: It's at Carla on drawsick O N D R A

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Speaker 2: S I K. And it's Carla with a C. And

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Speaker 2: I have my website is stop dash Trying dot com

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Speaker 2: and there's a if you sign up there, you get

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Speaker 2: the try baby test, which is a test that can

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Speaker 2: see if you're a try baby. I came up with

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Speaker 2: that word, you know, for all those people that are

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Speaker 2: just doc in trimode and complaining about everything they don't have.

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Speaker 2: So stop dash trying dot com and yeah, follow me

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Speaker 2: because it's been a lot of fun for me to

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Speaker 2: share why I wrote the book how you can use

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Speaker 2: these little tips every day to get out of your

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Speaker 2: trying mindset. I recently talked about eat the frog people.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I love that mentality to share the

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Speaker 1: eater the frog because of my old boss, Angela Perelli

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Speaker 1: shared that analogy with me years ago, and I have

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Speaker 1: been living my life with that mentality of eating the

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Speaker 1: frog and find that I'm often telling other people to

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Speaker 1: do the same.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So eat the frog was first attributed, I believe,

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Speaker 2: to Mark Twain, believe it or not, and it is

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Speaker 2: what he says is if you have to eat a frog,

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Speaker 2: it's best to do it first. Thing in the morning.

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Speaker 2: So what that means is you do this thing that

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Speaker 2: you are most resistant doing, the thing that you dread,

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Speaker 2: the thing that you've been procrastinating. If you do that

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Speaker 2: first thing, everything else in your day is lighter and

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Speaker 2: easier because you've just gotten the worst part and now

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Speaker 2: you've started momentum. And so you know, there's so many

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Speaker 2: reasons by the end of the day we have decision fatigue.

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Speaker 2: So you'll eliminate all that. And if you eat your

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Speaker 2: frog first thing in the morning, it may be disgusting

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Speaker 2: and greasy and yiky and growth.

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Speaker 1: But it's done. It's done, but it's done.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And here the other thing, it's usually not as

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Speaker 2: bad as you think it is. It's usually like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, it took me ten minutes to do that,

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Speaker 2: but I thought I was going to be doing it

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Speaker 2: all morning. And when you know, doing is so much

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Speaker 2: easier than what you create in your brain of how

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Speaker 2: art it's going to be.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's a wonderful way too. Also, again, cross

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Speaker 1: it off the list, and you know, open up the

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Speaker 1: rest of your day for more magical things to happen. Essentially,

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Speaker 1: so and now I feel like I want to change

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Speaker 1: the way we even use the tea word. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: call it the tea word. Now, I'm not gonna even

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Speaker 1: say try. I feel like I want to say it

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Speaker 1: like a little whiny way. If you're gonna use the

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Speaker 1: word try, it means you're not doing And in the

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Speaker 1: words of Carla Andrasik, it just means I don't believe you.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe you, But you don't need to impress me.

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Speaker 1: You need to do it for yourself. So you need

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Speaker 1: to be doing so you're creating magic in your world.

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Speaker 1: You know, we're only here for so long, so you

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Speaker 1: need to create and make things happen and not be

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Speaker 1: a whiny little hmm and complain about stuff all the time.

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Speaker 1: We are here to make magic happen. And Carla's book

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Speaker 1: is all about that. She has a wealth of information

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Speaker 1: and you'll be doing book signs around town and talks

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Speaker 1: around town, all the info on your website and your Instagram.

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Speaker 1: And it's available on Amazon already.

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Speaker 2: Right or pre order, oh yeah, pre order Amazon, Bards

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Speaker 2: and Noble target wspots.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Stop trying. The live transforming power of trying less

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Speaker 1: and doing more By Carla Androsik. It's about getting you

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Speaker 1: a fart up to be more of a doer and

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Speaker 1: less of a complainer who tries and waste a lot

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Speaker 1: of time talking about stuff. This is just going to

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Speaker 1: get you fired up to start taking action and getting

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Speaker 1: things done.

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Speaker 2: I'm not trying to empower people. I am empowering it.

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Speaker 2: You are doing it. I will catch you every time

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Speaker 2: you say that word. It's a big bonker that comes

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Speaker 2: down from the sign, like bonk you on the head, zoich.

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Speaker 1: In my face. It's amazing and I appreciate this whole

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Speaker 1: thing that you're doing. And it's really just to put

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Speaker 1: this out there to some people that are listening right

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Speaker 1: now about less of the t word, less of the try,

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Speaker 1: and more of the doing. Let's get people fired up

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Speaker 1: to live and do great things. So thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for the book Stop trying. Order it now on Amazon,

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Speaker 1: and you have a big book event on the West

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Speaker 1: Side in a couple of weeks so they can follow

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Speaker 1: all that and find out more on your website and

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Speaker 1: also carl it Andrasic on Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Thank you Lisa so much.

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Speaker 1: Love you girl, appreciate your time. And now we're going

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Speaker 1: to just do this. We just did it. See we

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Speaker 1: did it. We did the interview. We did it. We're

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Speaker 1: not going to try to talk on the radio in it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, we can do it.

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Speaker 3: Yay.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations. I'm so proud of you. This is fantastic.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Thanks, thanks