WEBVTT - Australian men on dating apps – grow up! 0:00:02.580 --> 0:00:06.870 Listener Keke Palmer acknowledges the traditional owners and custodians of 0:00:06.870 --> 0:00:09.930 the land in which we're recording this podcast, the Eula 0:00:10.140 --> 0:00:12.960 Wilson clan of the Boomerang, who were a part of 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:16.050 the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to our elders, 0:00:16.050 --> 0:00:19.710 past and present, and extend our respect to Aboriginal and 0:00:19.710 --> 0:00:21.630 Torres Strait Islander peoples today. 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:26.170 Welcome to the Keke pod. Your name on the stuff 0:00:26.170 --> 0:00:28.720 that matters, but also the stuff that doesn't. 0:00:39.350 --> 0:00:41.360 Welcome, guys. Hi. 0:00:41.390 --> 0:00:45.710 Hello. I have something to tell you. I got a 0:00:45.710 --> 0:00:48.650 very funny. So I have Google alerts on for you 0:00:49.190 --> 0:00:52.850 and Keke and me. So basically the point of it is. 0:00:52.850 --> 0:00:55.820 So then if anyone writes anything really bad, if there's 0:00:55.820 --> 0:00:59.330 any crisis, we know we get one on Twitter. We're 0:00:59.330 --> 0:01:00.650 on to it, not drama. We have to fix it, 0:01:00.830 --> 0:01:03.290 but we're on to it. The other day, I got 0:01:03.290 --> 0:01:06.170 a notification that you were in an article, and the 0:01:06.170 --> 0:01:11.870 title of the article was The Old money Haircut you're 0:01:11.870 --> 0:01:15.590 about to see everywhere it was, it's on Mamma mia! 0:01:15.740 --> 0:01:19.100 And I just laughed my head off because I never 0:01:19.100 --> 0:01:23.509 thought of your haircut like an old money haircut. It's funny, though, because. 0:01:23.510 --> 0:01:25.070 But then I know I can't unsee it. 0:01:25.069 --> 0:01:26.720 Yeah, I know, I. 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:28.130 Know, I can't unsee it. What did. 0:01:28.130 --> 0:01:29.690 They say? I'm like the Meredith. Blake. 0:01:29.690 --> 0:01:30.320 Hang on, let me. 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:33.800 I'm giving Meredith Blake from. Um. No, not it takes two. 0:01:33.830 --> 0:01:37.039 What's it called? Oh, parent trap. Parent trap? They said 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:39.229 everyone's doing it. So if it's a cut that you've 0:01:39.230 --> 0:01:41.960 been wanting to do for a long time, now's the time. Yes. 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:45.589 Okay, so it's called the old money, Bob, for anyone 0:01:45.590 --> 0:01:48.440 that doesn't know what it means. Yeah, it's basically when. 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:50.780 So old money versus new money. Old money is like 0:01:50.780 --> 0:01:54.470 when money is passed down from like generation families, generational 0:01:54.470 --> 0:01:57.560 wealth generation. And then new money is when like the 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:00.590 person didn't come from money but has made their own money, 0:02:00.740 --> 0:02:03.890 whereas old money is from their parents basically, then probably 0:02:03.890 --> 0:02:07.460 from their parents, parents, etc.. 100%. Yeah. Anyway, yeah. So 0:02:07.460 --> 0:02:10.940 that is just so funny. I just when I saw that, 0:02:10.940 --> 0:02:12.410 I'm like, oh my God, I've never looked at your 0:02:12.410 --> 0:02:14.269 mom in that way. But there we go. 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:15.440 Yeah. 0:02:15.590 --> 0:02:22.160 The rise of the old money, Bob. Anyway, so aside 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:25.970 from the Bob. Yeah, you have got news for us. 0:02:25.970 --> 0:02:28.430 I mean, I we have news for that. We have 0:02:28.430 --> 0:02:32.660 news for the people. Um, so basically we have designed 0:02:32.660 --> 0:02:37.310 our very first collaboration through Kik with an activewear label. 0:02:37.310 --> 0:02:41.390 And that activewear label is stacks. So first of all, 0:02:41.570 --> 0:02:44.840 welcome to the Kik Squad Stacks and Stacks community. We 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:48.260 are so excited about this collection. We designed it along 0:02:48.260 --> 0:02:52.430 with Don Robinson, their founder and creative director, and it 0:02:52.430 --> 0:02:55.730 was just a breeze. Can I say, working with this team, 0:02:55.730 --> 0:02:58.670 they are incredible at what they do, and it was 0:02:58.669 --> 0:03:02.510 so fun to put together a 15 piece collection, keeping 0:03:02.510 --> 0:03:07.040 in mind inclusivity, quality and comfort of course, for every piece. 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:09.650 So we want to empower you to move without holding 0:03:09.650 --> 0:03:12.139 you back. You want to feel comfortable in whatever movement 0:03:12.139 --> 0:03:14.900 that makes you feel good, or even just wearing it 0:03:14.900 --> 0:03:17.420 every day. We love wearing our activewear when we're not 0:03:17.419 --> 0:03:19.610 actually being active, and that is what this collection is 0:03:19.610 --> 0:03:21.890 all about. So we want it to be here for you, 0:03:21.889 --> 0:03:23.870 to support you when you need it most. And it 0:03:23.870 --> 0:03:26.240 is also a reminder that you are enough just as 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:29.900 you are, which it literally says on some of the collection. 0:03:29.900 --> 0:03:30.440 Not so. 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:34.610 Excited. And the color? It is a beautiful pink. It's 0:03:34.610 --> 0:03:39.230 inspired by our one of our pink rooms, our Pilates room. 0:03:39.230 --> 0:03:41.120 That's where the kind of the inspiration started. And I 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:43.100 think as well it's important to talk about we have 0:03:43.100 --> 0:03:47.600 never done a Keke activewear collaboration before, and the reason being, 0:03:47.600 --> 0:03:49.940 it just hasn't felt right. I don't know how to 0:03:49.940 --> 0:03:52.130 explain it. It's like there was just like, we've been 0:03:52.130 --> 0:03:53.720 asked to do it quite a few times and we 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:57.500 just didn't have the the alignment wasn't there. And so 0:03:57.500 --> 0:04:00.860 to have a brand that we felt, we kind of thought, no, 0:04:00.860 --> 0:04:04.220 it's time now. And stacks are so inclusive as a brand. 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:07.040 We went to their show. So this has been in 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:11.540 the works for quite a long time. And right before we, 0:04:11.540 --> 0:04:13.610 we kind of work through it and it was just 0:04:13.610 --> 0:04:17.179 the most this runway they did was the most inclusive 0:04:17.180 --> 0:04:19.670 ever that I've ever seen. We've both ever seen. And 0:04:19.670 --> 0:04:21.830 it was like, this is and the quality of their 0:04:21.830 --> 0:04:25.880 products is just fantastic. Yeah. The design elements that go 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:27.860 into them, the way they fit, the way they look, 0:04:27.860 --> 0:04:31.219 I mean, I'm wearing a bodysuit from them right now. I, 0:04:31.220 --> 0:04:33.770 we just love it. And so we thought, why not. 0:04:33.770 --> 0:04:36.860 Like it's time. It's time. And so yeah, we're so 0:04:36.890 --> 0:04:40.130 it's such a special collection. We have we were a 0:04:40.130 --> 0:04:43.220 part of the whole design process to make sure it was. 0:04:43.220 --> 0:04:44.719 I mean, we speak to all of you all the 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:46.880 time about like what you're looking for and in your 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:49.219 activewear and how you want things to fit. And so 0:04:49.220 --> 0:04:53.089 we encapsulated all of that. And Don is an amazing, like, 0:04:53.089 --> 0:04:57.380 creative genius with his designs. And yeah, it's really exciting. 0:04:57.380 --> 0:05:00.710 Yeah. So it is dropping Friday the 9th of February. 0:05:00.710 --> 0:05:03.320 So it will be available for you guys to purchase in. 0:05:03.320 --> 0:05:05.540 And we're just so excited and so keen to hear 0:05:05.540 --> 0:05:08.089 your thoughts. And we cannot wait to see you guys 0:05:08.089 --> 0:05:10.760 kicking it in the gear and just wearing all the merch. 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:14.030 It's a very, very exciting collaboration for us, so we 0:05:14.029 --> 0:05:20.930 hope you're okay. Okay. Lousy. It is the end of January. 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:22.700 You know, and I feel like this is the time 0:05:22.700 --> 0:05:25.160 of the year, not just. I feel like I know 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:27.680 the research backs this, but this is the time of 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:30.590 the year where a lot of us have either already 0:05:30.589 --> 0:05:33.229 let go or are thinking about letting go of our 0:05:33.230 --> 0:05:35.420 goals that we may have said at the start of January. 0:05:35.420 --> 0:05:38.660 So we wanted to check in with each other and 0:05:38.660 --> 0:05:41.450 talk about that because we've set our own goals. And 0:05:41.450 --> 0:05:44.840 I'm very interested to hear what you've set for yourself, Lucy. Um, 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:46.969 and then also just say to anyone listening in, if 0:05:46.970 --> 0:05:49.460 you are in that moment and you are feeling like 0:05:49.460 --> 0:05:53.000 the motivation is dropping, we are here to remind you 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:55.910 that it is okay if you're feeling that way, but 0:05:55.910 --> 0:05:58.520 we are going to all get through this part together 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.310 because I feel like it's after the first couple of weeks. 0:06:01.310 --> 0:06:03.349 And it's the same with even with our run programs 0:06:03.350 --> 0:06:05.539 and other programs in general. Once you get past the 0:06:05.540 --> 0:06:08.120 first couple of weeks where you might have the motivation 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:11.000 because of the adrenaline of setting something and being excited 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.160 about it, but then it might get a little bit tough. 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:15.650 Maybe it's like physically tough, or maybe it's just harder 0:06:15.650 --> 0:06:18.770 to fit in. It can be really easy to kind 0:06:18.770 --> 0:06:21.109 of think of every excuse to to give up. But 0:06:21.110 --> 0:06:23.179 this is something if it's important to you and you 0:06:23.180 --> 0:06:26.210 have said it and it means something to you, it 0:06:26.210 --> 0:06:28.130 is important that you do try and follow it through. 0:06:28.130 --> 0:06:31.250 So let's get through this little tough point together, shall we? 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:33.380 And if you need to reset, that's fine. Like that's 0:06:33.380 --> 0:06:36.680 absolutely fine. If you need to re I've, I've changed 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:38.120 some of mine from the start of the year because 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.100 all we all have that we just we have more time. 0:06:40.100 --> 0:06:42.080 Obviously if you are in a break at the side 0:06:42.080 --> 0:06:43.820 of Jane, you have more time. And so I think 0:06:43.820 --> 0:06:44.450 sometimes you. 0:06:44.450 --> 0:06:45.380 Don't think realistically. 0:06:45.380 --> 0:06:48.440 Exactly. So we need to realign our goals. But they 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:52.070 are so important. And if it is the good, the 0:06:52.070 --> 0:06:54.140 thing obviously you can set goals at any point of 0:06:54.140 --> 0:06:57.200 the year. And the reason we wanted to reset now 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:59.450 and check in on it is to chat through how 0:06:59.450 --> 0:07:02.630 our goals have evolved, but then also, I suppose, talk 0:07:02.630 --> 0:07:05.299 through and hopefully for everyone listening. If you do want 0:07:05.300 --> 0:07:08.900 to like relook at your goals, work through how you 0:07:08.900 --> 0:07:11.510 can evolve them so then you can have them for 0:07:11.510 --> 0:07:13.940 the rest of the year for yourself. Because if there 0:07:13.940 --> 0:07:16.340 were things that you wanted to make changes of in 0:07:16.340 --> 0:07:18.170 your life that are positive, like, let's do it, we 0:07:18.170 --> 0:07:20.900 want to do it, it is like we've gone through. 0:07:20.900 --> 0:07:22.370 I think the night is at the ninth of Jan 0:07:22.370 --> 0:07:25.550 was World Quitters Day or something. 1230 the 12th, which 0:07:25.550 --> 0:07:28.370 is like the day that most people quit their resolutions. 0:07:28.490 --> 0:07:31.340 We also aren't we're not doing resolutions this year. We're 0:07:31.340 --> 0:07:35.210 not doing large overhaul lives. No. Absolutely not. It's setting small, 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:38.630 small goals. Okay. Steffi, do you want to go first? 0:07:38.630 --> 0:07:41.180 Yeah, sure. So I think I've already spoken about a 0:07:41.180 --> 0:07:44.060 few kind of intentions. So today I wanted to bring, um, 0:07:44.060 --> 0:07:47.780 I suppose, some more tangible goals that I'm hoping to 0:07:47.780 --> 0:07:50.780 reach this year. And one. One is a fitness one 0:07:50.780 --> 0:07:52.790 and the other one is not. But the other one 0:07:52.790 --> 0:07:55.190 actually kind of helps me get there in a way. 0:07:55.190 --> 0:07:57.800 So I'll kind of explain how they are linked. But 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.550 first of all, last year I reached my goal of 0:08:01.550 --> 0:08:05.840 doing an unassisted pull up, which I was super stoked 0:08:06.470 --> 0:08:09.230 because it just felt like something that I was never 0:08:09.230 --> 0:08:10.850 going to be able to do, because I had put 0:08:10.850 --> 0:08:12.050 in my mind that I was never going to be 0:08:12.050 --> 0:08:13.790 able to do it right. But then as soon as 0:08:13.790 --> 0:08:16.489 I actually put the things in practice and made the 0:08:16.490 --> 0:08:20.810 time to train and just get stronger, I then did 0:08:20.810 --> 0:08:22.130 it and then I was like, okay, now I want 0:08:22.130 --> 0:08:24.980 to do three, and I did three. And um, and 0:08:24.980 --> 0:08:27.110 I did notice that, you know, basically as soon as 0:08:27.110 --> 0:08:29.300 I start stopped practicing it, it dropped back down to 0:08:29.300 --> 0:08:31.520 one or I'd have to go back to assisted, and 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:34.820 that's okay. Um, I think that's, that's like any kind 0:08:34.820 --> 0:08:36.980 of fitness, even with running, if you take a break 0:08:36.980 --> 0:08:39.110 from it, you need to build back up that fitness 0:08:39.110 --> 0:08:43.070 and strength. But something for me that I realized last 0:08:43.070 --> 0:08:46.220 year in the ebb and flow of my fitness routine, 0:08:46.220 --> 0:08:50.000 was when I had at least one solid day in 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:53.540 the gym. Even better if it was two, and then 0:08:53.540 --> 0:08:56.360 I might have partnered that with 1 or 2 Pilates 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:58.740 workouts from home, and they were usually just 10 to 0:08:58.740 --> 0:09:01.940 15 minute Pilates workouts. But they really complemented my strength 0:09:01.940 --> 0:09:05.270 training really well when I was in that routine, which 0:09:05.270 --> 0:09:09.050 definitely is like, attainable for me. Um, I mean, as 0:09:09.050 --> 0:09:12.230 long as I'm not, you know, unwell or injured or anything, 0:09:12.650 --> 0:09:16.520 I felt amazing and I felt really clear minded and 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.120 I just, I really loved that. So my fitness goal 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:22.520 this year is ten unassisted. 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:24.050 Oh my goodness. 0:09:24.050 --> 0:09:27.470 And I know to get to that goal I'm going 0:09:27.470 --> 0:09:30.170 to need to visit the gym regularly. And so I'm 0:09:30.170 --> 0:09:33.410 setting that. That's my fitness goal because I then think 0:09:33.410 --> 0:09:36.500 it'll also motivate me to to be more regular with 0:09:36.500 --> 0:09:39.350 my training, which I know makes me feel amazing. Um, 0:09:39.350 --> 0:09:41.630 so I intend to go to the gym and or 0:09:41.630 --> 0:09:43.520 if I can't get to the gym, do strength training 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:46.520 two times a week, and then partner that with, um, 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:50.120 two Pilates workouts from home per week. And I know, 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:52.220 as I said, I know that some weeks it might 0:09:52.220 --> 0:09:54.560 not be perfect, but I think having the goal of 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:57.050 having ten unassisted chin ups, I'm not going to be 0:09:57.050 --> 0:09:59.810 able to get there if I'm only training once a week. 0:09:59.809 --> 0:10:02.540 Like it's just not going to happen. But I, I 0:10:02.540 --> 0:10:05.839 can't even explain to you how empowering it did feel 0:10:05.840 --> 0:10:08.090 when I did that first unassisted chin ups, that I 0:10:08.090 --> 0:10:10.250 can only imagine how ten is going to feel for me. 0:10:10.250 --> 0:10:13.460 So I'm really excited about it. But to be able 0:10:13.460 --> 0:10:16.880 to do those workouts, the ones from home. And the gym. 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:21.410 I also need to prioritize movement in the morning and 0:10:21.410 --> 0:10:23.330 at the moment, and who knows how long it's going 0:10:23.330 --> 0:10:27.020 to be for Javi as early rising. So I did 0:10:27.020 --> 0:10:29.840 actually the other morning. I just accepted the fact that 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:32.420 he was awake and I got up anyway, and I 0:10:32.420 --> 0:10:34.250 asked him to go and do some independent play in 0:10:34.250 --> 0:10:37.099 his playroom. And he did, and he was fine. Can 0:10:37.100 --> 0:10:37.370 I just. 0:10:37.370 --> 0:10:40.130 Say I love that it's called independent play. Like, it's 0:10:40.130 --> 0:10:43.160 so funny, I think because obviously I'm not immersed in 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.880 like the motherhood land play by myself. Yeah, but independent 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:49.130 play sounds so like I'm like, oh, what is that? 0:10:49.940 --> 0:10:53.300 And he did. And he was excited by it. Like, cool, 0:10:53.300 --> 0:10:55.640 I'll go play with my monster trucks. No worries. And 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:58.130 I got through a 15 minute Pilates workout. And honestly, 0:10:58.130 --> 0:11:00.350 I reckon I could have done longer. It was only 0:11:00.350 --> 0:11:02.390 really because I started talking to my stories on my 0:11:02.390 --> 0:11:04.640 phone that he kind of remembered, heard my voice and 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:07.220 was like, oh, mom's down south. Um, and so that 0:11:07.220 --> 0:11:09.080 made me feel really good because it was like, I've 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:11.720 still had my morning. I haven't, like, interrupted his morning 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:13.910 or made his morning any worse by missing me for 0:11:13.910 --> 0:11:16.460 15 minutes like he was having a lot of fun. Um, 0:11:16.460 --> 0:11:17.809 and I still got it done, so I'm not going 0:11:17.809 --> 0:11:19.610 to use the excuse of him being an early riser 0:11:19.610 --> 0:11:22.040 anymore to, like, not have that time for myself in 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:24.469 the morning. So that's what I need to do, but 0:11:24.470 --> 0:11:27.290 also to have the motivation to have that time in 0:11:27.290 --> 0:11:29.960 the morning. I need to get an earlier night's rest. Um, 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:33.800 and so I'm really focusing on my wine down now, um, 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:36.500 at night. And the other goal that I was talking 0:11:36.500 --> 0:11:38.030 about that's going to help me, this is how it's 0:11:38.030 --> 0:11:41.329 like working. There's a funnel, um, is to read more. 0:11:41.330 --> 0:11:43.400 So last year I read 17 books. I want to 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:46.250 beat that this year. And the reason why it's important 0:11:46.250 --> 0:11:48.709 to me is because last year when I was reading 0:11:48.710 --> 0:11:51.770 at night, it made me fall asleep so much faster 0:11:51.770 --> 0:11:54.320 because I felt like I kind of got to escape 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:56.959 whatever was going on in my mind or whatever was 0:11:56.960 --> 0:11:59.600 happening around me. You know, you can't scroll on your phone, 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:02.630 you can't have a conversation with someone. Sorry, Josh, because 0:12:02.809 --> 0:12:05.809 he loves having conversations at night. I just felt immersed 0:12:05.809 --> 0:12:07.880 in these stories, and that way I could just kind 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:10.429 of go to sleep once I put the book down. Um, 0:12:10.429 --> 0:12:12.679 so yeah, my other goal is to read more books. 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:15.290 And so if I read more books, I probably have 0:12:15.290 --> 0:12:17.060 a bit of wind down, which means I'll probably sleep better, 0:12:17.059 --> 0:12:18.829 which means I would be more fresh in the morning 0:12:18.860 --> 0:12:22.340 to potentially get more workouts done, which will help complement 0:12:22.340 --> 0:12:24.260 my strength training. And then I'll be doing ten unassisted. 0:12:24.260 --> 0:12:28.940 So yeah, what a cycle there you've got going. Yeah. Amazing. 0:12:28.940 --> 0:12:31.160 So the two goals is ten unassisted chin ups and 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:34.309 more than 17 books. And they're going to help each other. 0:12:34.309 --> 0:12:36.530 And it has it has it changed since January 1st. 0:12:37.370 --> 0:12:40.700 Um, the books one hasn't. The unassisted chin ups has 0:12:40.700 --> 0:12:43.309 been a newer one. Just because what I wanted because 0:12:43.309 --> 0:12:45.380 from the start of Jan I was like, I felt 0:12:45.380 --> 0:12:47.360 really good. It was that realization of how good I 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.309 felt when I was doing two Pilates workouts and two 0:12:49.309 --> 0:12:52.910 strength workouts a week. Realizing that I can do that, 0:12:52.910 --> 0:12:54.350 I can do that. There's things I can put in 0:12:54.350 --> 0:12:56.960 place to make sure that happens. Um, and then I 0:12:56.960 --> 0:12:59.690 was thinking like, what's going to be something that's going 0:12:59.690 --> 0:13:02.420 to motivate me to keep up with that kind of 0:13:02.420 --> 0:13:05.330 repetition and that routine. And I was like, well, the 0:13:05.330 --> 0:13:07.760 pull up felt real good. So ten, let's do ten 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:09.230 of them. That's it. 0:13:09.530 --> 0:13:12.199 Yeah, I love that. So it's like another reason as 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:14.240 to because again, it's like the hottest thing with goals 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:16.819 is motivation to do it. Yeah. And you've set that 0:13:16.820 --> 0:13:17.840 in now I love it. 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:20.900 Fantastic. I can see my journey good. And I'm gonna 0:13:20.900 --> 0:13:22.939 love every other step to sales. 0:13:22.940 --> 0:13:26.240 Mine okay. So my kind of theme of my and 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:30.620 my intention is thriving, not surviving love. I feel like 0:13:30.620 --> 0:13:33.590 the last six months of last year I spent in autopilot. Yeah, 0:13:33.590 --> 0:13:36.140 there was not a lot of thriving. I sometimes I thrived, 0:13:36.140 --> 0:13:40.100 really thriving. Maybe finally, just like getting through life basically. 0:13:40.100 --> 0:13:41.900 And I don't, I don't want I really thought about 0:13:41.900 --> 0:13:42.829 it and I'm like, I don't want to leave my 0:13:42.830 --> 0:13:45.650 life like that. Like it's not me. And I feel like, too. 0:13:45.650 --> 0:13:51.650 The lack of routine for me meant that I. And 0:13:51.650 --> 0:13:54.380 just when I say routine in not doing anything for 0:13:54.380 --> 0:13:57.350 me at any point. Yeah. Um, in like my and 0:13:57.350 --> 0:13:59.090 I was also injured so that wasn't helpful. But like 0:13:59.090 --> 0:14:01.760 for my mind or for my, um, in terms of 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:03.890 movement etc., it did not help at all. And I 0:14:03.890 --> 0:14:06.110 feel like I just lost this connection with myself and 0:14:06.110 --> 0:14:09.439 I felt so weak. It's really interesting because I felt 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:13.670 weak physically, like from an like strength physical standpoint. But 0:14:13.670 --> 0:14:16.819 when I feel weak physically, I feel weak mentally. It's 0:14:16.820 --> 0:14:19.580 like the impact strength having because it's like I'm in 0:14:19.580 --> 0:14:23.990 control of my. It's like, I know, like I showed 0:14:23.990 --> 0:14:27.020 up for myself. Yeah. And I'm strong and I feel 0:14:27.020 --> 0:14:28.970 strong and I feel empowered and then I can take 0:14:28.970 --> 0:14:31.700 that into my life. It's just for me. It's like 0:14:31.700 --> 0:14:36.229 directly correlated and linked. And so my the kind of way. 0:14:36.230 --> 0:14:37.610 So I'll say what I'm going to do and then 0:14:37.610 --> 0:14:39.770 how I'm going to do it. So I want to 0:14:39.770 --> 0:14:44.300 do three runs each week. That hasn't changed. Well this 0:14:44.300 --> 0:14:47.359 has changed. I had straight to strength or Pilates classes week. 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:48.800 I changed it to one because that's going to be 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:51.560 more achievable for me than I have four week workouts 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:56.720 each week. That's achievable. Five meditations that used to be seven. 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:59.180 That's about five minutes in the morning. And that is 0:14:59.180 --> 0:15:02.540 especially the days that I'm not exercising. Yep. That's like 0:15:02.540 --> 0:15:06.320 my five minutes in the morning. And then ten. I 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.690 had every day read ten pages, but I changed it 0:15:08.690 --> 0:15:10.760 to ten pages five days a week. 0:15:11.390 --> 0:15:14.450 Yep. Gotcha. So what if you read 50 pages in 0:15:14.450 --> 0:15:14.960 one day? 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:17.240 No, because it's more. It's more exactly what you were 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:20.630 talking about, of winding down before bed. And it's ten 0:15:20.630 --> 0:15:23.750 pages before. Well, where I'm doing it now is before bed, 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.270 I would hope. Like, hopefully I'll read outside of that, 0:15:26.270 --> 0:15:28.460 like on the weekend or whatever, but ten pages before 0:15:28.460 --> 0:15:30.020 bed is like exactly what you said. It's like it 0:15:30.020 --> 0:15:32.210 takes you out of that. Like there's a bit of 0:15:32.210 --> 0:15:34.730 whatever that your brain and you just go into some 0:15:34.730 --> 0:15:37.400 nice story and then you then I find it so 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:40.580 much easier to go to sleep. Yeah. So that's my 0:15:40.580 --> 0:15:43.430 things and what they're my goals. And then the way 0:15:43.430 --> 0:15:45.440 I'm going to be able to achieve that is with 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:48.170 I've got a new schedule or way my week is 0:15:48.170 --> 0:15:51.800 structured that has that built into it. 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:53.030 Has room for it. 0:15:53.210 --> 0:15:56.540 Has room for it, exactly like mainly just in the mornings, 0:15:56.540 --> 0:16:00.470 but then also has the kind of a little bit better. 0:16:00.470 --> 0:16:02.750 It's still like it's still a lot of hours of work, 0:16:02.750 --> 0:16:04.610 but it's just a little bit more structured than it 0:16:04.610 --> 0:16:07.560 was last year. And it's not like 12 to 14 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:10.460 hours every day. It's more like ten. But then and 0:16:10.460 --> 0:16:13.010 there's some nights too, where I've got late night work schedule, 0:16:13.010 --> 0:16:15.710 but it's in the thing and it's not five nights 0:16:15.710 --> 0:16:18.560 a week, it's like three, which I can. And then 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:20.330 in between there's a little bit of a break because 0:16:20.330 --> 0:16:22.370 what I was doing, which wasn't helpful, was I was 0:16:22.370 --> 0:16:24.290 doing like, I don't know, say The office or seven. 0:16:24.290 --> 0:16:26.180 And then I'd drive home and then I'd get straight 0:16:26.180 --> 0:16:28.730 on my laptop until 1030 and I wouldn't have any 0:16:28.730 --> 0:16:31.040 of that break. So there's just a few breaks built 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:34.160 in there that enable, because I know sometimes, like our 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:36.320 workload can't change, like stuff's got to get done. It 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:38.780 is what it is. And it's it's kind of finding 0:16:38.780 --> 0:16:41.780 that balance. Right. Because I feel like sometimes. And also 0:16:41.780 --> 0:16:44.930 within my day too, I actually have working block times. Yeah. 0:16:44.930 --> 0:16:47.330 I haven't had that before because what happens and this 0:16:47.330 --> 0:16:49.700 happens with your calendar to meetings just get put in 0:16:49.700 --> 0:16:52.520 and then you've lost your entire day. And then my 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:55.640 entire task list or work projects all have to be 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:58.700 done at night. So it's I've got some work block 0:16:58.700 --> 0:17:01.640 timing and then that's flexible if things are urgent, but 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.740 if they're not then it's like, okay, move them to 0:17:03.740 --> 0:17:06.290 when there's meeting space. Exactly. So I'm really excited. So 0:17:06.290 --> 0:17:08.480 I've got that and that's how I'm going to achieve it. 0:17:08.480 --> 0:17:10.730 And I just I just know how shit I felt 0:17:10.730 --> 0:17:12.350 last year and I don't want to feel like that. 0:17:12.350 --> 0:17:14.540 And that's my motivation. Yeah. Good. 0:17:14.540 --> 0:17:15.230 Yeah I'm. 0:17:15.230 --> 0:17:17.000 Glad. But it's had a bit of a evolution, just 0:17:17.000 --> 0:17:19.490 like a few things cut off because I was like, well, girl, 0:17:19.490 --> 0:17:20.989 you're not doing True's transition. It's like. 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:23.149 Last year. You say yourself to do Duolingo. 0:17:23.150 --> 0:17:26.090 Everything people say. I was like, I'm gonna learn French 0:17:26.090 --> 0:17:28.730 at 15 minutes a day, and then I'm like 12 a.m. 0:17:28.730 --> 0:17:30.440 in the night. I'm like, trying to do my French. 0:17:30.440 --> 0:17:33.139 And Dawson's like. And it's like, quite Duolingo. If you 0:17:33.140 --> 0:17:35.689 are looking to learn a language, a fantastic product, really 0:17:35.690 --> 0:17:40.160 great app. But it's like I'm like speaking French into 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:43.160 my phone and then it's like, well done and tick 0:17:43.340 --> 0:17:45.800 and Dustin's like, shut the f up. Like I'm trying 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:48.109 to sleep wipe. I don't want this. It's like, it's 0:17:48.109 --> 0:17:50.990 obviously a game. Yeah, it's gamified, which is amazing, but 0:17:50.990 --> 0:17:54.619 like it's too overstimulating right before bed. So yeah, that 0:17:54.619 --> 0:17:58.070 was quite I remember for two weeks generally like Dawson 0:17:58.070 --> 0:18:00.950 was trying to sleep and I'm doing fucking Duolingo next 0:18:00.950 --> 0:18:02.390 day it was like. 0:18:02.810 --> 0:18:04.580 Yeah, that was not long enough. 0:18:04.820 --> 0:18:06.890 I was like going out of the bedroom. And I'm like, 0:18:06.890 --> 0:18:09.050 what am I doing? Like, why am I doing this? 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:12.080 Is helping me. There was the why behind my goal 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:14.479 was like, I want to learn French. Why? Yeah. Why. 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:17.480 Like unless you can find time, don't. Yeah. You've got 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:18.530 the rest of your life flaws. 0:18:18.530 --> 0:18:18.980 It's a long. 0:18:18.980 --> 0:18:22.580 Life. Thank you, thank you, thank you very much. 0:18:25.800 --> 0:18:26.730 One, two, three. 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.989 Okay, there was a viral TikTok. I feel like a 0:18:30.990 --> 0:18:34.590 boomer when I say viral. Viral. I borrow TikTok and 0:18:34.590 --> 0:18:36.840 we have to talk about it. It was from a 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:41.190 page called JD Lee, and it was about how Australian 0:18:41.190 --> 0:18:45.870 dating rules work, and it was just so funny. And 0:18:45.869 --> 0:18:48.150 we've got to play it for you. Hi. 0:18:48.150 --> 0:18:51.720 Can someone please explain to me how Australian dating rules work? 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:55.530 Because I don't get it. I do not understand. I 0:18:55.530 --> 0:18:57.300 feel like if you say one wrong thing, you're left 0:18:57.300 --> 0:18:59.550 on red. And then the amount of dates that have 0:18:59.550 --> 0:19:02.220 been organised and then the guys just never texted me again, 0:19:02.220 --> 0:19:06.330 has never happened anywhere else in the world. And every 0:19:06.330 --> 0:19:08.340 woman I speak to has the exact same horror stories 0:19:08.340 --> 0:19:10.890 about Australian men. Someone please elaborate. 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:15.449 I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed. Seriously. This is. And then the 0:19:15.450 --> 0:19:18.630 best part was people then stitched that TikTok with their 0:19:18.630 --> 0:19:21.480 own story, with their own stories, and people came in 0:19:21.480 --> 0:19:25.410 with some very good experiences. So the first or not 0:19:25.410 --> 0:19:28.350 sorry good is in like I enjoyed watching them. Yeah. 0:19:28.350 --> 0:19:32.310 Not to experience in the dating world. So someone said 0:19:32.310 --> 0:19:35.400 we don't have rules. You just fight for your life. 0:19:35.400 --> 0:19:37.800 This is bad. This is bad for Australia. That's not good. 0:19:37.800 --> 0:19:41.550 Oh my god. And Australia equals Neverland, home to the 0:19:41.550 --> 0:19:45.570 Lost Boys. Okay, so this is definitely about men I 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:48.720 yeah I, I would have to agree with the stories. 0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:52.200 Aussie men love to organise a date and then apparently die. 0:19:52.200 --> 0:19:56.550 Yeah. Never never never come. What is it called? Shade. No. Ghost. Ghost. 0:19:56.820 --> 0:20:01.230 Shade ghost. Just ghost that I'm in. Like I'm actually 0:20:01.230 --> 0:20:02.940 embarrassed for this. 0:20:02.940 --> 0:20:03.660 Yeah. This is. 0:20:03.660 --> 0:20:05.430 Who would want to be like. 0:20:05.430 --> 0:20:06.659 This? Last one's bad. 0:20:07.380 --> 0:20:08.909 Read it out, read it out. 0:20:08.910 --> 0:20:11.219 Men have this idea that if they put in the 0:20:11.220 --> 0:20:14.429 slightest bit of effort, that you will think they're in 0:20:14.430 --> 0:20:15.330 love with you. 0:20:16.450 --> 0:20:21.220 I just. The bar for men in dating is so low. 0:20:21.220 --> 0:20:24.700 It's so low. Like I don't want to be ghosted. No, 0:20:24.700 --> 0:20:27.340 I don't want people to waste my time. I don't 0:20:27.340 --> 0:20:29.590 want people to make me feel like shit about myself 0:20:29.590 --> 0:20:32.409 when they don't even care. Like you're thinking about it 0:20:32.410 --> 0:20:35.770 all day and they're like, they forget. Like, are you joking? 0:20:36.010 --> 0:20:37.240 I just it just. 0:20:37.330 --> 0:20:37.810 Yeah. 0:20:37.810 --> 0:20:38.440 This sucks. 0:20:38.440 --> 0:20:39.310 It really does. 0:20:39.310 --> 0:20:43.240 We really. You need to wake up. Yeah. White men, especially. 0:20:43.240 --> 0:20:44.409 Australian men, apparently. 0:20:44.410 --> 0:20:45.430 To wake. 0:20:45.430 --> 0:20:47.710 Up. Now, we've had some of you guys from our 0:20:47.710 --> 0:20:51.790 community also share some things about the Australian dating scene. 0:20:51.790 --> 0:20:54.940 So let's jump into those. There are so many amazing 0:20:54.940 --> 0:20:57.670 people out there who just keep getting screwed over by 0:20:57.670 --> 0:21:01.719 the casual dating culture, and it's honestly so damaging to self-esteem. 0:21:01.930 --> 0:21:05.140 I hate it sometimes I just want to give up, 0:21:05.140 --> 0:21:07.540 but I keep at it because I want to feel 0:21:07.540 --> 0:21:10.570 that type of love. One day I hope things change 0:21:10.570 --> 0:21:13.180 for us. Oh, one day I hope things change for you. 0:21:13.180 --> 0:21:18.340 I'm sorry Australian men wake up you are impacting people's confidence. 0:21:18.550 --> 0:21:22.240 You are? You're serious? You're non. You're not taking it seriously. 0:21:22.359 --> 0:21:25.449 Men in Australia you are being too casual and it's 0:21:25.450 --> 0:21:28.300 time to stop. Yeah, casual. If you want to be 0:21:28.300 --> 0:21:29.890 casual about dating, don't date. And it just. 0:21:29.890 --> 0:21:31.990 Makes me think. Like I know of some really decent 0:21:31.990 --> 0:21:34.179 guys that are dating, not having a lot of luck, 0:21:34.180 --> 0:21:36.550 and I feel like it's these shitty guys that are. 0:21:36.730 --> 0:21:40.510 Ruining it for everyone. The casual lads that love to 0:21:40.510 --> 0:21:44.230 swipe on illicit pumping know it's pump and dump, isn't it? 0:21:44.560 --> 0:21:46.270 I think that's a very disgusting way to. 0:21:46.270 --> 0:21:50.530 Say pump and dump is like ejaculate, isn't it? I 0:21:50.530 --> 0:21:53.440 don't know, Lindsay's laughing. It's something about ejaculating. 0:21:54.130 --> 0:21:58.780 I can't, I use it a lot, but usually that's 0:21:58.780 --> 0:22:01.120 what I imagine it means. Anyway. 0:22:01.300 --> 0:22:01.929 I've never. 0:22:01.930 --> 0:22:02.290 Said it. 0:22:02.290 --> 0:22:04.209 Siri, wait, where? Siri ask in. 0:22:04.210 --> 0:22:07.300 Dictionary. Uh, a situation where a person has sex with 0:22:07.300 --> 0:22:10.630 a partner on a single occasion, without immediate intention or 0:22:10.630 --> 0:22:14.980 further contact to pursue a serious relationship. Maybe that's what 0:22:14.980 --> 0:22:18.850 the definition of Australian men is. Australian man equals pump 0:22:18.850 --> 0:22:19.450 and dump. 0:22:19.450 --> 0:22:22.750 This one the worst single again at 33 and I 0:22:22.750 --> 0:22:25.480 want to give up. Oh, they always think there is 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:26.770 someone better. 0:22:26.950 --> 0:22:28.960 Oh that sucks. 0:22:29.200 --> 0:22:32.830 Okay, this is a long one. Being single in your 0:22:32.830 --> 0:22:36.070 30s is hard enough with societal expectations and my own 0:22:36.070 --> 0:22:39.400 ideas of where I would be at in life, but 0:22:39.400 --> 0:22:41.980 these days it is just so hard to meet people 0:22:41.980 --> 0:22:45.010 organically at cafes or restaurants. No one looks up from 0:22:45.010 --> 0:22:47.230 their phone or wants to venture away from their friends, 0:22:47.230 --> 0:22:49.810 which I get, but I don't enjoy going out and drinking, 0:22:49.810 --> 0:22:52.090 so a bar slash pub night isn't where I want 0:22:52.090 --> 0:22:54.520 to meet someone if that's how they spend their weekends. 0:22:54.520 --> 0:22:57.280 Working full time and having a mortgage and bills on 0:22:57.280 --> 0:23:00.460 my own is also impacting opportunities to try new things 0:23:00.460 --> 0:23:03.490 to meet guys. So I turn into dating apps and 0:23:03.490 --> 0:23:05.470 they truly make me want to give up. Whether you're 0:23:05.470 --> 0:23:07.629 just vibing with someone, thinking it'll lead to dates or 0:23:07.630 --> 0:23:10.240 having casual chatter, they always end up ghosting. I think 0:23:10.240 --> 0:23:12.520 the issue with dating apps is that there appears to 0:23:12.520 --> 0:23:15.040 be an endless stream of people available, so all the 0:23:15.040 --> 0:23:17.859 guys think I'm making a connection with seem to be 0:23:17.859 --> 0:23:21.070 looking for someone better in the pile of profiles no 0:23:21.070 --> 0:23:22.540 one seems to want to put in the effort to 0:23:22.540 --> 0:23:24.760 form a connection, and I'm preparing myself for the fact 0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:27.550 that my happily ever after might look different to how 0:23:27.550 --> 0:23:29.379 I thought it would. And that's okay. 0:23:29.740 --> 0:23:33.220 It is okay. I'm like, that is fucking amazing to 0:23:33.220 --> 0:23:36.160 say that, first of all. But second of all, I 0:23:36.340 --> 0:23:38.320 you know what? I think with dating apps, it's like 0:23:38.320 --> 0:23:40.690 it's great in that like, it's enabled people to meet 0:23:40.690 --> 0:23:43.270 people that couldn't have met before because it's just like. 0:23:43.270 --> 0:23:44.020 You've got a sea of. 0:23:44.020 --> 0:23:47.320 People transactional. It's like, oh, there'll be someone because it's 0:23:47.320 --> 0:23:49.540 like you write the profile and then it's like you 0:23:49.540 --> 0:23:51.850 compare that like in your head out of ten, and 0:23:51.850 --> 0:23:53.770 then you compare the profiles, you're like, oh no, I'm 0:23:53.770 --> 0:23:55.090 waiting for a it's so true. 0:23:55.090 --> 0:23:57.700 But it's like when you meet someone in real life 0:23:57.700 --> 0:24:00.790 and organically, which I know is is different and difficult now, 0:24:00.790 --> 0:24:04.719 but it is. You don't have that thought of like, oh, 0:24:04.720 --> 0:24:07.000 but there could be like 20 other people tonight that 0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:11.590 I'll also catch eye contact with and potentially flirt with. Like, sorry, 0:24:11.590 --> 0:24:13.810 that doesn't happen to anyone in the real world. So 0:24:13.810 --> 0:24:16.810 but online, yeah, I'm probably going to swipe, you know, 0:24:16.810 --> 0:24:18.700 another 30 people tonight and who knows how many of 0:24:18.700 --> 0:24:20.140 them are going to swipe back. So it's just like 0:24:20.140 --> 0:24:23.260 two too many options that they think the grass is 0:24:23.260 --> 0:24:26.350 always greener, that they never actually get to know the person. 0:24:26.350 --> 0:24:27.490 And I think that sucks. 0:24:27.490 --> 0:24:30.730 And it sucks too, because because of our biological clock. 0:24:30.730 --> 0:24:33.760 If you do want to have children, yeah, men don't 0:24:33.760 --> 0:24:36.129 have they don't have that stress, so they don't need 0:24:36.130 --> 0:24:39.879 to think about it. And so they and also like 0:24:40.090 --> 0:24:43.780 yeah they then like even looking at like divorce rates 0:24:43.780 --> 0:24:46.270 and then after divorce so often like I know so 0:24:46.270 --> 0:24:48.760 many stories about men that then go and date like 0:24:48.760 --> 0:24:54.580 really young women and it's like, but I just, I just, um, 0:24:54.820 --> 0:25:02.830 I am not for these men sometimes anyway. Okay, okay. 0:25:02.830 --> 0:25:05.350 Rocks up to his house for a first date. He 0:25:05.350 --> 0:25:09.250 was in his PJs at 3 p.m. drinking a beer. 0:25:09.580 --> 0:25:12.790 We've been together for three years. I didn't, I thought 0:25:12.790 --> 0:25:14.649 that was going bad, but it's. It's good. 0:25:14.760 --> 0:25:15.480 I mean, cute. 0:25:16.080 --> 0:25:17.489 But that. Do you know what that tells me? You 0:25:17.490 --> 0:25:20.250 don't need to have fancy date to find love. You 0:25:20.250 --> 0:25:20.640 don't need. 0:25:20.640 --> 0:25:23.400 Also nice things that we put in way too much effort. 0:25:23.400 --> 0:25:26.100 You're right. You know, it also says that. Yes. Okay. 0:25:26.100 --> 0:25:27.780 Match with the guy on Tinder and send him an 0:25:27.780 --> 0:25:31.320 opening question asking if you could blink and go anywhere 0:25:31.320 --> 0:25:37.310 in the world, where would you go? Are. I can't 0:25:37.310 --> 0:25:42.889 read this because again, this is embarrassing for Australia. What 0:25:42.890 --> 0:25:43.129 did he. 0:25:43.130 --> 0:25:43.370 Say? 0:25:43.940 --> 0:25:50.780 He says. Between your tits? No. Who said romance was dead? 0:25:50.810 --> 0:25:51.290 No. 0:25:51.320 --> 0:25:54.440 Old mate Brad from Tinder did. That is. No. 0:25:54.800 --> 0:25:55.790 No. If you. 0:25:55.790 --> 0:25:56.450 Could go. 0:25:56.450 --> 0:26:00.109 In my world. Is that hot? That's not in anyone's world. 0:26:00.109 --> 0:26:03.110 Hot, mate. Say, Italy. Say something else with you. 0:26:03.140 --> 0:26:03.440 Maybe. 0:26:03.440 --> 0:26:04.760 Queen your tits. 0:26:05.420 --> 0:26:06.260 I think you're gonna say between. 0:26:06.380 --> 0:26:09.440 So don't call them tits like in the first thing 0:26:09.440 --> 0:26:09.950 I know. 0:26:10.070 --> 0:26:10.850 Who the fuck? 0:26:10.850 --> 0:26:13.130 Like you're not entitled to tits. No one. 0:26:13.130 --> 0:26:15.770 No one. They're not tits. 0:26:15.770 --> 0:26:19.520 Unless, like, once you're together. And you. You've established that 0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:20.570 I don't. Sure. 0:26:20.570 --> 0:26:21.380 Okay. Maybe it. 0:26:21.380 --> 0:26:22.879 Could be for people, but don't. 0:26:22.880 --> 0:26:23.360 Know. 0:26:23.359 --> 0:26:24.650 Don't slide in with that. 0:26:24.650 --> 0:26:26.030 No, you can't slide in with that. 0:26:26.060 --> 0:26:26.720 Ah. 0:26:28.820 --> 0:26:31.640 Ah. When men don't want to date me because I'm 0:26:31.640 --> 0:26:36.170 a career focused woman. Well, those men can. I actually. 0:26:36.170 --> 0:26:38.689 Generally think. And from a lot of friends I've spoken 0:26:38.690 --> 0:26:41.870 to a lot of men. Ah. And it's not. I 0:26:41.869 --> 0:26:45.530 understand why like where it's come from. Like internally. It's 0:26:45.530 --> 0:26:49.430 not right. But they are intimidated by a partner that 0:26:49.430 --> 0:26:51.500 would make more money with them than them, or have 0:26:51.500 --> 0:26:52.790 more success than them. 0:26:52.820 --> 0:26:55.580 Sad. That's very sad. Oh. 0:26:56.180 --> 0:26:57.830 Don't stop your career because of it. 0:26:57.890 --> 0:27:01.790 Oh. My boyfriend. Absolutely not. Oh, no. What are we 0:27:01.790 --> 0:27:04.310 entering on? Yeah. You know. Ah, this one's fine. 0:27:04.820 --> 0:27:08.090 This one. I think this is fine. This is okay. 0:27:08.420 --> 0:27:11.150 Australian man to do this. Yes. A guy once took 0:27:11.150 --> 0:27:13.730 me on a date to a fish and chip shop. Ah, 0:27:13.730 --> 0:27:16.190 I think that's that's fine. What? One of my dream 0:27:16.190 --> 0:27:19.609 dates is like. I don't sitting at a table across 0:27:19.609 --> 0:27:22.369 from each other because I'm awkward as worst night. I'd just, like, 0:27:22.369 --> 0:27:24.439 so awkward. I don't like silence. And I feel it. 0:27:24.440 --> 0:27:27.680 I talk to you. I just say so many things. Anyway, 0:27:28.250 --> 0:27:30.109 for me, going for a walk or like going and 0:27:30.109 --> 0:27:31.879 getting fish and chips and like sitting on the beach 0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:34.130 or something, or somewhere, like at a park where you're not, 0:27:34.130 --> 0:27:36.470 like directly facing each other. And there's some time where 0:27:36.470 --> 0:27:38.540 you just like looking, you know, to eye contact the 0:27:38.540 --> 0:27:40.220 whole time. I think that's really good. So I think 0:27:40.220 --> 0:27:40.639 it's good. 0:27:40.640 --> 0:27:43.820 That's fine. Using your hands, that's fine. He's already not 0:27:43.820 --> 0:27:46.399 the type that you need to, like, order a salad 0:27:46.400 --> 0:27:49.460 around and worry about, you know, food going everywhere because 0:27:49.460 --> 0:27:51.560 he's ordered you finger food. As long as he. 0:27:51.890 --> 0:27:54.890 Doesn't just get chips and potato cakes, like, at least 0:27:54.890 --> 0:27:57.500 get a gym sim in there. I think it would 0:27:57.500 --> 0:28:00.890 be more about that. Anyway, that was actually really depressing, 0:28:01.369 --> 0:28:04.310 and I'm really sorry that this is if you don't, 0:28:04.310 --> 0:28:08.629 for all of our international listeners outside of Australia, if 0:28:08.630 --> 0:28:10.430 you don't come here, if you want to come to 0:28:10.430 --> 0:28:12.440 Australia for a boyfriend because we both. 0:28:12.440 --> 0:28:13.610 Date Australian men. 0:28:13.609 --> 0:28:15.350 Well, yeah, but I do. 0:28:15.350 --> 0:28:17.480 Plenty of Australian men who are fine. There's obviously just 0:28:17.480 --> 0:28:20.210 a huge sea of them with massive egos, and it's 0:28:20.210 --> 0:28:20.840 very sad. 0:28:20.840 --> 0:28:23.840 The fact that the TikTok person said this has never 0:28:23.840 --> 0:28:26.449 happened in any other country. It's very sad. I think 0:28:26.450 --> 0:28:31.340 Australian men are these IT thing that's not changing in 0:28:31.340 --> 0:28:35.930 this equation. Interesting. Anyway, and obviously, as I said, this 0:28:35.930 --> 0:28:39.860 is not all Australian men. There are lovely, wonderful Australian 0:28:39.860 --> 0:28:43.850 men here and people, but there are also some bad 0:28:43.850 --> 0:28:44.600 fish in the sea. 0:28:44.600 --> 0:28:46.070 You've had fish in the sea. 0:28:46.700 --> 0:28:51.290 So what is your temperature? What is it? Time for 0:28:51.380 --> 0:28:52.520 special share. 0:28:53.570 --> 0:28:54.080 Shit. 0:28:55.700 --> 0:28:56.300 Aussie. 0:28:56.330 --> 0:28:56.900 Yes. 0:28:57.950 --> 0:29:00.020 I have a book for you today. Oh the book. 0:29:00.560 --> 0:29:03.410 Did your book okay? My book is good material by 0:29:03.410 --> 0:29:07.160 Dolly Alderton. Oh yes. Yeah. And I really liked it. 0:29:07.160 --> 0:29:11.810 It is about dating. It's the most real experience. Basically, 0:29:11.810 --> 0:29:17.060 it's a couple breakup and then it's the experience of 0:29:17.060 --> 0:29:20.990 mainly 80% is the guy. Oh, actually, I reckon 90% 0:29:20.990 --> 0:29:23.690 is the guy's experience of the breakup. He's the one 0:29:23.690 --> 0:29:26.540 who's broken up with. And then at the end you 0:29:26.540 --> 0:29:29.540 get to hear from the female perspective. And she was 0:29:29.540 --> 0:29:32.570 the one who broke up with him. Okay. It is 0:29:32.570 --> 0:29:36.050 so interesting. And it is the most when I say 0:29:36.050 --> 0:29:40.400 interesting to read the actual reality of a breakup, because 0:29:40.400 --> 0:29:42.230 I feel like there's a lot of like online. It's like, 0:29:42.230 --> 0:29:44.240 just get over it. It's like people break up with people. 0:29:44.240 --> 0:29:47.240 It is what it is, whatever it's actually and like 0:29:47.240 --> 0:29:50.150 to actually go into the detail of how it impacts 0:29:50.150 --> 0:29:53.690 someone's life in, like all facets was it was so 0:29:53.690 --> 0:29:56.000 honest and just I was like, fuck, this is actually 0:29:56.000 --> 0:29:58.490 so true. And then also from the perspective of the 0:29:58.490 --> 0:30:00.800 person who broke up with that person, yeah, it doesn't 0:30:00.800 --> 0:30:03.350 mean it's not just it's not easy for them and 0:30:03.350 --> 0:30:05.720 it's and it also goes into like there's so many 0:30:05.720 --> 0:30:07.850 reasons why because so often you were saying like, oh, 0:30:07.850 --> 0:30:10.460 it's because there's someone else. But that's not often the reason. 0:30:10.460 --> 0:30:13.130 There's so many other reasons why people break up. It was, 0:30:13.130 --> 0:30:15.290 I have to say, if you are reading it or 0:30:15.290 --> 0:30:17.330 you want to read it, it's too long in the middle. 0:30:17.750 --> 0:30:20.300 They could have I just I think 20% of the 0:30:20.300 --> 0:30:23.780 man's story could have been cut out. It was bits 0:30:23.780 --> 0:30:25.610 where I was like, do I keep going with this book? 0:30:25.850 --> 0:30:28.160 But I'm very glad in the end that I've read 0:30:28.160 --> 0:30:30.470 it and I persevered. So it's definitely special. I do 0:30:30.470 --> 0:30:32.930 recommend reading it, but don't give up in the middle 0:30:32.930 --> 0:30:35.300 where you're like, this is dragging on because I did 0:30:35.300 --> 0:30:36.860 drag in the middle, but then it was a really 0:30:36.860 --> 0:30:40.010 good at the engine. Good start. Yeah. Nice. Yeah, yeah. 0:30:40.010 --> 0:30:40.730 So recommend. 0:30:40.730 --> 0:30:41.360 I'm excited. 0:30:41.360 --> 0:30:42.620 To read it. Yeah. You'll like it. 0:30:42.920 --> 0:30:47.520 My book is called the Seven Year Sleep. By Ashley Paulson. 0:30:48.030 --> 0:30:50.490 And I really enjoyed it. It is about can I 0:30:50.490 --> 0:30:52.890 say the color? Yes you can. It is about a 0:30:52.890 --> 0:31:00.030 girl who moves into her aunties, her late aunties old apartment. Um, 0:31:00.030 --> 0:31:02.640 and it's there's a bit of magic to the apartment. 0:31:02.640 --> 0:31:06.090 And that made it sound like a like a fantasy. 0:31:06.120 --> 0:31:09.270 It's not. Um, it's more like I'm trying to think 0:31:09.270 --> 0:31:12.120 of that movie, that classic movie where they're, like, leaving letters. 0:31:12.120 --> 0:31:13.860 And the person who lived there years ago, what was 0:31:13.860 --> 0:31:15.510 that movie called? I don't know. 0:31:15.540 --> 0:31:16.950 Oh, the lake house? 0:31:16.950 --> 0:31:18.120 Yes, the lake house. 0:31:18.150 --> 0:31:22.260 It's kind of like there's two decades of it happening 0:31:22.260 --> 0:31:25.410 in the same location anyway. Um, it's a really beautiful 0:31:25.410 --> 0:31:29.459 love story. And also just a cool story about a 0:31:29.460 --> 0:31:34.140 woman in New York. Um, as a publisher, a book publisher. 0:31:34.650 --> 0:31:37.140 I think I'd love it. It's good. Any book set 0:31:37.140 --> 0:31:41.640 in New York? I also love reading about book publishers. 0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:46.229 Laughs I just, I really any magazines, publishers, I just 0:31:46.230 --> 0:31:48.630 it's good. I love those stories. I'm gonna read it like. 0:31:48.630 --> 0:31:51.390 Little bits throughout the book that like all then like 0:31:51.420 --> 0:31:53.580 it just there's a lot. It just makes sense, make sense, 0:31:53.580 --> 0:31:57.420 make sense, make sense. I really miss it. Uh, 300. 0:31:57.420 --> 0:31:58.680 Something. Okay, so not too long. 0:31:58.920 --> 0:32:01.950 No no no. Okay. No no no. Um, fairly easy read, 0:32:01.950 --> 0:32:04.080 but I just really enjoyed it. It was nice. Thank you. 0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:06.900 Yeah, thank you for that special share. You're welcome. Thank 0:32:06.900 --> 0:32:09.480 you for listening, everyone. 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