1 00:00:02,580 --> 00:00:06,870 S1: Listener Keke Palmer acknowledges the traditional owners and custodians of 2 00:00:06,870 --> 00:00:09,930 S1: the land in which we're recording this podcast, the Eula 3 00:00:10,140 --> 00:00:12,960 S1: Wilson clan of the Boomerang, who were a part of 4 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:16,050 S1: the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to our elders, 5 00:00:16,050 --> 00:00:19,710 S1: past and present, and extend our respect to Aboriginal and 6 00:00:19,710 --> 00:00:21,630 S1: Torres Strait Islander peoples today. 7 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,170 S2: Welcome to the Keke pod. Your name on the stuff 8 00:00:26,170 --> 00:00:28,720 S2: that matters, but also the stuff that doesn't. 9 00:00:39,350 --> 00:00:41,360 UU: Welcome, guys. Hi. 10 00:00:41,390 --> 00:00:45,710 S1: Hello. I have something to tell you. I got a 11 00:00:45,710 --> 00:00:48,650 S1: very funny. So I have Google alerts on for you 12 00:00:49,190 --> 00:00:52,850 S1: and Keke and me. So basically the point of it is. 13 00:00:52,850 --> 00:00:55,820 S1: So then if anyone writes anything really bad, if there's 14 00:00:55,820 --> 00:00:59,330 S1: any crisis, we know we get one on Twitter. We're 15 00:00:59,330 --> 00:01:00,650 S1: on to it, not drama. We have to fix it, 16 00:01:00,830 --> 00:01:03,290 S1: but we're on to it. The other day, I got 17 00:01:03,290 --> 00:01:06,170 S1: a notification that you were in an article, and the 18 00:01:06,170 --> 00:01:11,870 S1: title of the article was The Old money Haircut you're 19 00:01:11,870 --> 00:01:15,590 S1: about to see everywhere it was, it's on Mamma mia! 20 00:01:15,740 --> 00:01:19,100 S1: And I just laughed my head off because I never 21 00:01:19,100 --> 00:01:23,509 S1: thought of your haircut like an old money haircut. It's funny, though, because. 22 00:01:23,510 --> 00:01:25,070 S1: But then I know I can't unsee it. 23 00:01:25,069 --> 00:01:26,720 S2: Yeah, I know, I. 24 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,130 S1: Know, I can't unsee it. What did. 25 00:01:28,130 --> 00:01:29,690 S2: They say? I'm like the Meredith. Blake. 26 00:01:29,690 --> 00:01:30,320 S1: Hang on, let me. 27 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:33,800 S2: I'm giving Meredith Blake from. Um. No, not it takes two. 28 00:01:33,830 --> 00:01:37,039 S2: What's it called? Oh, parent trap. Parent trap? They said 29 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:39,229 S2: everyone's doing it. So if it's a cut that you've 30 00:01:39,230 --> 00:01:41,960 S2: been wanting to do for a long time, now's the time. Yes. 31 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,589 S1: Okay, so it's called the old money, Bob, for anyone 32 00:01:45,590 --> 00:01:48,440 S1: that doesn't know what it means. Yeah, it's basically when. 33 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,780 S1: So old money versus new money. Old money is like 34 00:01:50,780 --> 00:01:54,470 S1: when money is passed down from like generation families, generational 35 00:01:54,470 --> 00:01:57,560 S1: wealth generation. And then new money is when like the 36 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:00,590 S1: person didn't come from money but has made their own money, 37 00:02:00,740 --> 00:02:03,890 S1: whereas old money is from their parents basically, then probably 38 00:02:03,890 --> 00:02:07,460 S1: from their parents, parents, etc.. 100%. Yeah. Anyway, yeah. So 39 00:02:07,460 --> 00:02:10,940 S1: that is just so funny. I just when I saw that, 40 00:02:10,940 --> 00:02:12,410 S1: I'm like, oh my God, I've never looked at your 41 00:02:12,410 --> 00:02:14,269 S1: mom in that way. But there we go. 42 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:15,440 S2: Yeah. 43 00:02:15,590 --> 00:02:22,160 S1: The rise of the old money, Bob. Anyway, so aside 44 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:25,970 S1: from the Bob. Yeah, you have got news for us. 45 00:02:25,970 --> 00:02:28,430 S2: I mean, I we have news for that. We have 46 00:02:28,430 --> 00:02:32,660 S2: news for the people. Um, so basically we have designed 47 00:02:32,660 --> 00:02:37,310 S2: our very first collaboration through Kik with an activewear label. 48 00:02:37,310 --> 00:02:41,390 S2: And that activewear label is stacks. So first of all, 49 00:02:41,570 --> 00:02:44,840 S2: welcome to the Kik Squad Stacks and Stacks community. We 50 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:48,260 S2: are so excited about this collection. We designed it along 51 00:02:48,260 --> 00:02:52,430 S2: with Don Robinson, their founder and creative director, and it 52 00:02:52,430 --> 00:02:55,730 S2: was just a breeze. Can I say, working with this team, 53 00:02:55,730 --> 00:02:58,670 S2: they are incredible at what they do, and it was 54 00:02:58,669 --> 00:03:02,510 S2: so fun to put together a 15 piece collection, keeping 55 00:03:02,510 --> 00:03:07,040 S2: in mind inclusivity, quality and comfort of course, for every piece. 56 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,650 S2: So we want to empower you to move without holding 57 00:03:09,650 --> 00:03:12,139 S2: you back. You want to feel comfortable in whatever movement 58 00:03:12,139 --> 00:03:14,900 S2: that makes you feel good, or even just wearing it 59 00:03:14,900 --> 00:03:17,420 S2: every day. We love wearing our activewear when we're not 60 00:03:17,419 --> 00:03:19,610 S2: actually being active, and that is what this collection is 61 00:03:19,610 --> 00:03:21,890 S2: all about. So we want it to be here for you, 62 00:03:21,889 --> 00:03:23,870 S2: to support you when you need it most. And it 63 00:03:23,870 --> 00:03:26,240 S2: is also a reminder that you are enough just as 64 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:29,900 S2: you are, which it literally says on some of the collection. 65 00:03:29,900 --> 00:03:30,440 S2: Not so. 66 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:34,610 S1: Excited. And the color? It is a beautiful pink. It's 67 00:03:34,610 --> 00:03:39,230 S1: inspired by our one of our pink rooms, our Pilates room. 68 00:03:39,230 --> 00:03:41,120 S1: That's where the kind of the inspiration started. And I 69 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,100 S1: think as well it's important to talk about we have 70 00:03:43,100 --> 00:03:47,600 S1: never done a Keke activewear collaboration before, and the reason being, 71 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,940 S1: it just hasn't felt right. I don't know how to 72 00:03:49,940 --> 00:03:52,130 S1: explain it. It's like there was just like, we've been 73 00:03:52,130 --> 00:03:53,720 S1: asked to do it quite a few times and we 74 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:57,500 S1: just didn't have the the alignment wasn't there. And so 75 00:03:57,500 --> 00:04:00,860 S1: to have a brand that we felt, we kind of thought, no, 76 00:04:00,860 --> 00:04:04,220 S1: it's time now. And stacks are so inclusive as a brand. 77 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,040 S1: We went to their show. So this has been in 78 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:11,540 S1: the works for quite a long time. And right before we, 79 00:04:11,540 --> 00:04:13,610 S1: we kind of work through it and it was just 80 00:04:13,610 --> 00:04:17,179 S1: the most this runway they did was the most inclusive 81 00:04:17,180 --> 00:04:19,670 S1: ever that I've ever seen. We've both ever seen. And 82 00:04:19,670 --> 00:04:21,830 S1: it was like, this is and the quality of their 83 00:04:21,830 --> 00:04:25,880 S1: products is just fantastic. Yeah. The design elements that go 84 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:27,860 S1: into them, the way they fit, the way they look, 85 00:04:27,860 --> 00:04:31,219 S1: I mean, I'm wearing a bodysuit from them right now. I, 86 00:04:31,220 --> 00:04:33,770 S1: we just love it. And so we thought, why not. 87 00:04:33,770 --> 00:04:36,860 S1: Like it's time. It's time. And so yeah, we're so 88 00:04:36,890 --> 00:04:40,130 S1: it's such a special collection. We have we were a 89 00:04:40,130 --> 00:04:43,220 S1: part of the whole design process to make sure it was. 90 00:04:43,220 --> 00:04:44,719 S1: I mean, we speak to all of you all the 91 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:46,880 S1: time about like what you're looking for and in your 92 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,219 S1: activewear and how you want things to fit. And so 93 00:04:49,220 --> 00:04:53,089 S1: we encapsulated all of that. And Don is an amazing, like, 94 00:04:53,089 --> 00:04:57,380 S1: creative genius with his designs. And yeah, it's really exciting. 95 00:04:57,380 --> 00:05:00,710 S2: Yeah. So it is dropping Friday the 9th of February. 96 00:05:00,710 --> 00:05:03,320 S2: So it will be available for you guys to purchase in. 97 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:05,540 S2: And we're just so excited and so keen to hear 98 00:05:05,540 --> 00:05:08,089 S2: your thoughts. And we cannot wait to see you guys 99 00:05:08,089 --> 00:05:10,760 S2: kicking it in the gear and just wearing all the merch. 100 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,030 S2: It's a very, very exciting collaboration for us, so we 101 00:05:14,029 --> 00:05:20,930 S2: hope you're okay. Okay. Lousy. It is the end of January. 102 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:22,700 S2: You know, and I feel like this is the time 103 00:05:22,700 --> 00:05:25,160 S2: of the year, not just. I feel like I know 104 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:27,680 S2: the research backs this, but this is the time of 105 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,590 S2: the year where a lot of us have either already 106 00:05:30,589 --> 00:05:33,229 S2: let go or are thinking about letting go of our 107 00:05:33,230 --> 00:05:35,420 S2: goals that we may have said at the start of January. 108 00:05:35,420 --> 00:05:38,660 S2: So we wanted to check in with each other and 109 00:05:38,660 --> 00:05:41,450 S2: talk about that because we've set our own goals. And 110 00:05:41,450 --> 00:05:44,840 S2: I'm very interested to hear what you've set for yourself, Lucy. Um, 111 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:46,969 S2: and then also just say to anyone listening in, if 112 00:05:46,970 --> 00:05:49,460 S2: you are in that moment and you are feeling like 113 00:05:49,460 --> 00:05:53,000 S2: the motivation is dropping, we are here to remind you 114 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:55,910 S2: that it is okay if you're feeling that way, but 115 00:05:55,910 --> 00:05:58,520 S2: we are going to all get through this part together 116 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:01,310 S2: because I feel like it's after the first couple of weeks. 117 00:06:01,310 --> 00:06:03,349 S2: And it's the same with even with our run programs 118 00:06:03,350 --> 00:06:05,539 S2: and other programs in general. Once you get past the 119 00:06:05,540 --> 00:06:08,120 S2: first couple of weeks where you might have the motivation 120 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,000 S2: because of the adrenaline of setting something and being excited 121 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:13,160 S2: about it, but then it might get a little bit tough. 122 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,650 S2: Maybe it's like physically tough, or maybe it's just harder 123 00:06:15,650 --> 00:06:18,770 S2: to fit in. It can be really easy to kind 124 00:06:18,770 --> 00:06:21,109 S2: of think of every excuse to to give up. But 125 00:06:21,110 --> 00:06:23,179 S2: this is something if it's important to you and you 126 00:06:23,180 --> 00:06:26,210 S2: have said it and it means something to you, it 127 00:06:26,210 --> 00:06:28,130 S2: is important that you do try and follow it through. 128 00:06:28,130 --> 00:06:31,250 S2: So let's get through this little tough point together, shall we? 129 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:33,380 S1: And if you need to reset, that's fine. Like that's 130 00:06:33,380 --> 00:06:36,680 S1: absolutely fine. If you need to re I've, I've changed 131 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:38,120 S1: some of mine from the start of the year because 132 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,100 S1: all we all have that we just we have more time. 133 00:06:40,100 --> 00:06:42,080 S1: Obviously if you are in a break at the side 134 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:43,820 S1: of Jane, you have more time. And so I think 135 00:06:43,820 --> 00:06:44,450 S1: sometimes you. 136 00:06:44,450 --> 00:06:45,380 S2: Don't think realistically. 137 00:06:45,380 --> 00:06:48,440 S1: Exactly. So we need to realign our goals. But they 138 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:52,070 S1: are so important. And if it is the good, the 139 00:06:52,070 --> 00:06:54,140 S1: thing obviously you can set goals at any point of 140 00:06:54,140 --> 00:06:57,200 S1: the year. And the reason we wanted to reset now 141 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,450 S1: and check in on it is to chat through how 142 00:06:59,450 --> 00:07:02,630 S1: our goals have evolved, but then also, I suppose, talk 143 00:07:02,630 --> 00:07:05,299 S1: through and hopefully for everyone listening. If you do want 144 00:07:05,300 --> 00:07:08,900 S1: to like relook at your goals, work through how you 145 00:07:08,900 --> 00:07:11,510 S1: can evolve them so then you can have them for 146 00:07:11,510 --> 00:07:13,940 S1: the rest of the year for yourself. Because if there 147 00:07:13,940 --> 00:07:16,340 S1: were things that you wanted to make changes of in 148 00:07:16,340 --> 00:07:18,170 S1: your life that are positive, like, let's do it, we 149 00:07:18,170 --> 00:07:20,900 S1: want to do it, it is like we've gone through. 150 00:07:20,900 --> 00:07:22,370 S1: I think the night is at the ninth of Jan 151 00:07:22,370 --> 00:07:25,550 S1: was World Quitters Day or something. 1230 the 12th, which 152 00:07:25,550 --> 00:07:28,370 S1: is like the day that most people quit their resolutions. 153 00:07:28,490 --> 00:07:31,340 S1: We also aren't we're not doing resolutions this year. We're 154 00:07:31,340 --> 00:07:35,210 S1: not doing large overhaul lives. No. Absolutely not. It's setting small, 155 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:38,630 S1: small goals. Okay. Steffi, do you want to go first? 156 00:07:38,630 --> 00:07:41,180 S2: Yeah, sure. So I think I've already spoken about a 157 00:07:41,180 --> 00:07:44,060 S2: few kind of intentions. So today I wanted to bring, um, 158 00:07:44,060 --> 00:07:47,780 S2: I suppose, some more tangible goals that I'm hoping to 159 00:07:47,780 --> 00:07:50,780 S2: reach this year. And one. One is a fitness one 160 00:07:50,780 --> 00:07:52,790 S2: and the other one is not. But the other one 161 00:07:52,790 --> 00:07:55,190 S2: actually kind of helps me get there in a way. 162 00:07:55,190 --> 00:07:57,800 S2: So I'll kind of explain how they are linked. But 163 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,550 S2: first of all, last year I reached my goal of 164 00:08:01,550 --> 00:08:05,840 S2: doing an unassisted pull up, which I was super stoked 165 00:08:06,470 --> 00:08:09,230 S2: because it just felt like something that I was never 166 00:08:09,230 --> 00:08:10,850 S2: going to be able to do, because I had put 167 00:08:10,850 --> 00:08:12,050 S2: in my mind that I was never going to be 168 00:08:12,050 --> 00:08:13,790 S2: able to do it right. But then as soon as 169 00:08:13,790 --> 00:08:16,489 S2: I actually put the things in practice and made the 170 00:08:16,490 --> 00:08:20,810 S2: time to train and just get stronger, I then did 171 00:08:20,810 --> 00:08:22,130 S2: it and then I was like, okay, now I want 172 00:08:22,130 --> 00:08:24,980 S2: to do three, and I did three. And um, and 173 00:08:24,980 --> 00:08:27,110 S2: I did notice that, you know, basically as soon as 174 00:08:27,110 --> 00:08:29,300 S2: I start stopped practicing it, it dropped back down to 175 00:08:29,300 --> 00:08:31,520 S2: one or I'd have to go back to assisted, and 176 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:34,820 S2: that's okay. Um, I think that's, that's like any kind 177 00:08:34,820 --> 00:08:36,980 S2: of fitness, even with running, if you take a break 178 00:08:36,980 --> 00:08:39,110 S2: from it, you need to build back up that fitness 179 00:08:39,110 --> 00:08:43,070 S2: and strength. But something for me that I realized last 180 00:08:43,070 --> 00:08:46,220 S2: year in the ebb and flow of my fitness routine, 181 00:08:46,220 --> 00:08:50,000 S2: was when I had at least one solid day in 182 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:53,540 S2: the gym. Even better if it was two, and then 183 00:08:53,540 --> 00:08:56,360 S2: I might have partnered that with 1 or 2 Pilates 184 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,740 S2: workouts from home, and they were usually just 10 to 185 00:08:58,740 --> 00:09:01,940 S2: 15 minute Pilates workouts. But they really complemented my strength 186 00:09:01,940 --> 00:09:05,270 S2: training really well when I was in that routine, which 187 00:09:05,270 --> 00:09:09,050 S2: definitely is like, attainable for me. Um, I mean, as 188 00:09:09,050 --> 00:09:12,230 S2: long as I'm not, you know, unwell or injured or anything, 189 00:09:12,650 --> 00:09:16,520 S2: I felt amazing and I felt really clear minded and 190 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:20,120 S2: I just, I really loved that. So my fitness goal 191 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,520 S2: this year is ten unassisted. 192 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:24,050 S1: Oh my goodness. 193 00:09:24,050 --> 00:09:27,470 S2: And I know to get to that goal I'm going 194 00:09:27,470 --> 00:09:30,170 S2: to need to visit the gym regularly. And so I'm 195 00:09:30,170 --> 00:09:33,410 S2: setting that. That's my fitness goal because I then think 196 00:09:33,410 --> 00:09:36,500 S2: it'll also motivate me to to be more regular with 197 00:09:36,500 --> 00:09:39,350 S2: my training, which I know makes me feel amazing. Um, 198 00:09:39,350 --> 00:09:41,630 S2: so I intend to go to the gym and or 199 00:09:41,630 --> 00:09:43,520 S2: if I can't get to the gym, do strength training 200 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:46,520 S2: two times a week, and then partner that with, um, 201 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:50,120 S2: two Pilates workouts from home per week. And I know, 202 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:52,220 S2: as I said, I know that some weeks it might 203 00:09:52,220 --> 00:09:54,560 S2: not be perfect, but I think having the goal of 204 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,050 S2: having ten unassisted chin ups, I'm not going to be 205 00:09:57,050 --> 00:09:59,810 S2: able to get there if I'm only training once a week. 206 00:09:59,809 --> 00:10:02,540 S2: Like it's just not going to happen. But I, I 207 00:10:02,540 --> 00:10:05,839 S2: can't even explain to you how empowering it did feel 208 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:08,090 S2: when I did that first unassisted chin ups, that I 209 00:10:08,090 --> 00:10:10,250 S2: can only imagine how ten is going to feel for me. 210 00:10:10,250 --> 00:10:13,460 S2: So I'm really excited about it. But to be able 211 00:10:13,460 --> 00:10:16,880 S2: to do those workouts, the ones from home. And the gym. 212 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:21,410 S2: I also need to prioritize movement in the morning and 213 00:10:21,410 --> 00:10:23,330 S2: at the moment, and who knows how long it's going 214 00:10:23,330 --> 00:10:27,020 S2: to be for Javi as early rising. So I did 215 00:10:27,020 --> 00:10:29,840 S2: actually the other morning. I just accepted the fact that 216 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:32,420 S2: he was awake and I got up anyway, and I 217 00:10:32,420 --> 00:10:34,250 S2: asked him to go and do some independent play in 218 00:10:34,250 --> 00:10:37,099 S2: his playroom. And he did, and he was fine. Can 219 00:10:37,100 --> 00:10:37,370 S2: I just. 220 00:10:37,370 --> 00:10:40,130 S1: Say I love that it's called independent play. Like, it's 221 00:10:40,130 --> 00:10:43,160 S1: so funny, I think because obviously I'm not immersed in 222 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,880 S1: like the motherhood land play by myself. Yeah, but independent 223 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,130 S1: play sounds so like I'm like, oh, what is that? 224 00:10:49,940 --> 00:10:53,300 S2: And he did. And he was excited by it. Like, cool, 225 00:10:53,300 --> 00:10:55,640 S2: I'll go play with my monster trucks. No worries. And 226 00:10:55,640 --> 00:10:58,130 S2: I got through a 15 minute Pilates workout. And honestly, 227 00:10:58,130 --> 00:11:00,350 S2: I reckon I could have done longer. It was only 228 00:11:00,350 --> 00:11:02,390 S2: really because I started talking to my stories on my 229 00:11:02,390 --> 00:11:04,640 S2: phone that he kind of remembered, heard my voice and 230 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:07,220 S2: was like, oh, mom's down south. Um, and so that 231 00:11:07,220 --> 00:11:09,080 S2: made me feel really good because it was like, I've 232 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,720 S2: still had my morning. I haven't, like, interrupted his morning 233 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:13,910 S2: or made his morning any worse by missing me for 234 00:11:13,910 --> 00:11:16,460 S2: 15 minutes like he was having a lot of fun. Um, 235 00:11:16,460 --> 00:11:17,809 S2: and I still got it done, so I'm not going 236 00:11:17,809 --> 00:11:19,610 S2: to use the excuse of him being an early riser 237 00:11:19,610 --> 00:11:22,040 S2: anymore to, like, not have that time for myself in 238 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:24,469 S2: the morning. So that's what I need to do, but 239 00:11:24,470 --> 00:11:27,290 S2: also to have the motivation to have that time in 240 00:11:27,290 --> 00:11:29,960 S2: the morning. I need to get an earlier night's rest. Um, 241 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:33,800 S2: and so I'm really focusing on my wine down now, um, 242 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,500 S2: at night. And the other goal that I was talking 243 00:11:36,500 --> 00:11:38,030 S2: about that's going to help me, this is how it's 244 00:11:38,030 --> 00:11:41,329 S2: like working. There's a funnel, um, is to read more. 245 00:11:41,330 --> 00:11:43,400 S2: So last year I read 17 books. I want to 246 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:46,250 S2: beat that this year. And the reason why it's important 247 00:11:46,250 --> 00:11:48,709 S2: to me is because last year when I was reading 248 00:11:48,710 --> 00:11:51,770 S2: at night, it made me fall asleep so much faster 249 00:11:51,770 --> 00:11:54,320 S2: because I felt like I kind of got to escape 250 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:56,959 S2: whatever was going on in my mind or whatever was 251 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:59,600 S2: happening around me. You know, you can't scroll on your phone, 252 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,630 S2: you can't have a conversation with someone. Sorry, Josh, because 253 00:12:02,809 --> 00:12:05,809 S2: he loves having conversations at night. I just felt immersed 254 00:12:05,809 --> 00:12:07,880 S2: in these stories, and that way I could just kind 255 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:10,429 S2: of go to sleep once I put the book down. Um, 256 00:12:10,429 --> 00:12:12,679 S2: so yeah, my other goal is to read more books. 257 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:15,290 S2: And so if I read more books, I probably have 258 00:12:15,290 --> 00:12:17,060 S2: a bit of wind down, which means I'll probably sleep better, 259 00:12:17,059 --> 00:12:18,829 S2: which means I would be more fresh in the morning 260 00:12:18,860 --> 00:12:22,340 S2: to potentially get more workouts done, which will help complement 261 00:12:22,340 --> 00:12:24,260 S2: my strength training. And then I'll be doing ten unassisted. 262 00:12:24,260 --> 00:12:28,940 S1: So yeah, what a cycle there you've got going. Yeah. Amazing. 263 00:12:28,940 --> 00:12:31,160 S2: So the two goals is ten unassisted chin ups and 264 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:34,309 S2: more than 17 books. And they're going to help each other. 265 00:12:34,309 --> 00:12:36,530 S1: And it has it has it changed since January 1st. 266 00:12:37,370 --> 00:12:40,700 S2: Um, the books one hasn't. The unassisted chin ups has 267 00:12:40,700 --> 00:12:43,309 S2: been a newer one. Just because what I wanted because 268 00:12:43,309 --> 00:12:45,380 S2: from the start of Jan I was like, I felt 269 00:12:45,380 --> 00:12:47,360 S2: really good. It was that realization of how good I 270 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:49,309 S2: felt when I was doing two Pilates workouts and two 271 00:12:49,309 --> 00:12:52,910 S2: strength workouts a week. Realizing that I can do that, 272 00:12:52,910 --> 00:12:54,350 S2: I can do that. There's things I can put in 273 00:12:54,350 --> 00:12:56,960 S2: place to make sure that happens. Um, and then I 274 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,690 S2: was thinking like, what's going to be something that's going 275 00:12:59,690 --> 00:13:02,420 S2: to motivate me to keep up with that kind of 276 00:13:02,420 --> 00:13:05,330 S2: repetition and that routine. And I was like, well, the 277 00:13:05,330 --> 00:13:07,760 S2: pull up felt real good. So ten, let's do ten 278 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:09,230 S2: of them. That's it. 279 00:13:09,530 --> 00:13:12,199 S1: Yeah, I love that. So it's like another reason as 280 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:14,240 S1: to because again, it's like the hottest thing with goals 281 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:16,819 S1: is motivation to do it. Yeah. And you've set that 282 00:13:16,820 --> 00:13:17,840 S1: in now I love it. 283 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:20,900 S2: Fantastic. I can see my journey good. And I'm gonna 284 00:13:20,900 --> 00:13:22,939 S2: love every other step to sales. 285 00:13:22,940 --> 00:13:26,240 S1: Mine okay. So my kind of theme of my and 286 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:30,620 S1: my intention is thriving, not surviving love. I feel like 287 00:13:30,620 --> 00:13:33,590 S1: the last six months of last year I spent in autopilot. Yeah, 288 00:13:33,590 --> 00:13:36,140 S1: there was not a lot of thriving. I sometimes I thrived, 289 00:13:36,140 --> 00:13:40,100 S1: really thriving. Maybe finally, just like getting through life basically. 290 00:13:40,100 --> 00:13:41,900 S1: And I don't, I don't want I really thought about 291 00:13:41,900 --> 00:13:42,829 S1: it and I'm like, I don't want to leave my 292 00:13:42,830 --> 00:13:45,650 S1: life like that. Like it's not me. And I feel like, too. 293 00:13:45,650 --> 00:13:51,650 S1: The lack of routine for me meant that I. And 294 00:13:51,650 --> 00:13:54,380 S1: just when I say routine in not doing anything for 295 00:13:54,380 --> 00:13:57,350 S1: me at any point. Yeah. Um, in like my and 296 00:13:57,350 --> 00:13:59,090 S1: I was also injured so that wasn't helpful. But like 297 00:13:59,090 --> 00:14:01,760 S1: for my mind or for my, um, in terms of 298 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:03,890 S1: movement etc., it did not help at all. And I 299 00:14:03,890 --> 00:14:06,110 S1: feel like I just lost this connection with myself and 300 00:14:06,110 --> 00:14:09,439 S1: I felt so weak. It's really interesting because I felt 301 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:13,670 S1: weak physically, like from an like strength physical standpoint. But 302 00:14:13,670 --> 00:14:16,819 S1: when I feel weak physically, I feel weak mentally. It's 303 00:14:16,820 --> 00:14:19,580 S1: like the impact strength having because it's like I'm in 304 00:14:19,580 --> 00:14:23,990 S1: control of my. It's like, I know, like I showed 305 00:14:23,990 --> 00:14:27,020 S1: up for myself. Yeah. And I'm strong and I feel 306 00:14:27,020 --> 00:14:28,970 S1: strong and I feel empowered and then I can take 307 00:14:28,970 --> 00:14:31,700 S1: that into my life. It's just for me. It's like 308 00:14:31,700 --> 00:14:36,229 S1: directly correlated and linked. And so my the kind of way. 309 00:14:36,230 --> 00:14:37,610 S1: So I'll say what I'm going to do and then 310 00:14:37,610 --> 00:14:39,770 S1: how I'm going to do it. So I want to 311 00:14:39,770 --> 00:14:44,300 S1: do three runs each week. That hasn't changed. Well this 312 00:14:44,300 --> 00:14:47,359 S1: has changed. I had straight to strength or Pilates classes week. 313 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:48,800 S1: I changed it to one because that's going to be 314 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:51,560 S1: more achievable for me than I have four week workouts 315 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:56,720 S1: each week. That's achievable. Five meditations that used to be seven. 316 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,180 S1: That's about five minutes in the morning. And that is 317 00:14:59,180 --> 00:15:02,540 S1: especially the days that I'm not exercising. Yep. That's like 318 00:15:02,540 --> 00:15:06,320 S1: my five minutes in the morning. And then ten. I 319 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:08,690 S1: had every day read ten pages, but I changed it 320 00:15:08,690 --> 00:15:10,760 S1: to ten pages five days a week. 321 00:15:11,390 --> 00:15:14,450 S2: Yep. Gotcha. So what if you read 50 pages in 322 00:15:14,450 --> 00:15:14,960 S2: one day? 323 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:17,240 S1: No, because it's more. It's more exactly what you were 324 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:20,630 S1: talking about, of winding down before bed. And it's ten 325 00:15:20,630 --> 00:15:23,750 S1: pages before. Well, where I'm doing it now is before bed, 326 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:26,270 S1: I would hope. Like, hopefully I'll read outside of that, 327 00:15:26,270 --> 00:15:28,460 S1: like on the weekend or whatever, but ten pages before 328 00:15:28,460 --> 00:15:30,020 S1: bed is like exactly what you said. It's like it 329 00:15:30,020 --> 00:15:32,210 S1: takes you out of that. Like there's a bit of 330 00:15:32,210 --> 00:15:34,730 S1: whatever that your brain and you just go into some 331 00:15:34,730 --> 00:15:37,400 S1: nice story and then you then I find it so 332 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:40,580 S1: much easier to go to sleep. Yeah. So that's my 333 00:15:40,580 --> 00:15:43,430 S1: things and what they're my goals. And then the way 334 00:15:43,430 --> 00:15:45,440 S1: I'm going to be able to achieve that is with 335 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,170 S1: I've got a new schedule or way my week is 336 00:15:48,170 --> 00:15:51,800 S1: structured that has that built into it. 337 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:53,030 S2: Has room for it. 338 00:15:53,210 --> 00:15:56,540 S1: Has room for it, exactly like mainly just in the mornings, 339 00:15:56,540 --> 00:16:00,470 S1: but then also has the kind of a little bit better. 340 00:16:00,470 --> 00:16:02,750 S1: It's still like it's still a lot of hours of work, 341 00:16:02,750 --> 00:16:04,610 S1: but it's just a little bit more structured than it 342 00:16:04,610 --> 00:16:07,560 S1: was last year. And it's not like 12 to 14 343 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,460 S1: hours every day. It's more like ten. But then and 344 00:16:10,460 --> 00:16:13,010 S1: there's some nights too, where I've got late night work schedule, 345 00:16:13,010 --> 00:16:15,710 S1: but it's in the thing and it's not five nights 346 00:16:15,710 --> 00:16:18,560 S1: a week, it's like three, which I can. And then 347 00:16:18,560 --> 00:16:20,330 S1: in between there's a little bit of a break because 348 00:16:20,330 --> 00:16:22,370 S1: what I was doing, which wasn't helpful, was I was 349 00:16:22,370 --> 00:16:24,290 S1: doing like, I don't know, say The office or seven. 350 00:16:24,290 --> 00:16:26,180 S1: And then I'd drive home and then I'd get straight 351 00:16:26,180 --> 00:16:28,730 S1: on my laptop until 1030 and I wouldn't have any 352 00:16:28,730 --> 00:16:31,040 S1: of that break. So there's just a few breaks built 353 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:34,160 S1: in there that enable, because I know sometimes, like our 354 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:36,320 S1: workload can't change, like stuff's got to get done. It 355 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:38,780 S1: is what it is. And it's it's kind of finding 356 00:16:38,780 --> 00:16:41,780 S1: that balance. Right. Because I feel like sometimes. And also 357 00:16:41,780 --> 00:16:44,930 S1: within my day too, I actually have working block times. Yeah. 358 00:16:44,930 --> 00:16:47,330 S1: I haven't had that before because what happens and this 359 00:16:47,330 --> 00:16:49,700 S1: happens with your calendar to meetings just get put in 360 00:16:49,700 --> 00:16:52,520 S1: and then you've lost your entire day. And then my 361 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:55,640 S1: entire task list or work projects all have to be 362 00:16:55,640 --> 00:16:58,700 S1: done at night. So it's I've got some work block 363 00:16:58,700 --> 00:17:01,640 S1: timing and then that's flexible if things are urgent, but 364 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:03,740 S1: if they're not then it's like, okay, move them to 365 00:17:03,740 --> 00:17:06,290 S1: when there's meeting space. Exactly. So I'm really excited. So 366 00:17:06,290 --> 00:17:08,480 S1: I've got that and that's how I'm going to achieve it. 367 00:17:08,480 --> 00:17:10,730 S1: And I just I just know how shit I felt 368 00:17:10,730 --> 00:17:12,350 S1: last year and I don't want to feel like that. 369 00:17:12,350 --> 00:17:14,540 S1: And that's my motivation. Yeah. Good. 370 00:17:14,540 --> 00:17:15,230 S2: Yeah I'm. 371 00:17:15,230 --> 00:17:17,000 S1: Glad. But it's had a bit of a evolution, just 372 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,490 S1: like a few things cut off because I was like, well, girl, 373 00:17:19,490 --> 00:17:20,989 S1: you're not doing True's transition. It's like. 374 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:23,149 S2: Last year. You say yourself to do Duolingo. 375 00:17:23,150 --> 00:17:26,090 S1: Everything people say. I was like, I'm gonna learn French 376 00:17:26,090 --> 00:17:28,730 S1: at 15 minutes a day, and then I'm like 12 a.m. 377 00:17:28,730 --> 00:17:30,440 S1: in the night. I'm like, trying to do my French. 378 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:33,139 S1: And Dawson's like. And it's like, quite Duolingo. If you 379 00:17:33,140 --> 00:17:35,689 S1: are looking to learn a language, a fantastic product, really 380 00:17:35,690 --> 00:17:40,160 S1: great app. But it's like I'm like speaking French into 381 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:43,160 S1: my phone and then it's like, well done and tick 382 00:17:43,340 --> 00:17:45,800 S1: and Dustin's like, shut the f up. Like I'm trying 383 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,109 S1: to sleep wipe. I don't want this. It's like, it's 384 00:17:48,109 --> 00:17:50,990 S1: obviously a game. Yeah, it's gamified, which is amazing, but 385 00:17:50,990 --> 00:17:54,619 S1: like it's too overstimulating right before bed. So yeah, that 386 00:17:54,619 --> 00:17:58,070 S1: was quite I remember for two weeks generally like Dawson 387 00:17:58,070 --> 00:18:00,950 S1: was trying to sleep and I'm doing fucking Duolingo next 388 00:18:00,950 --> 00:18:02,390 S1: day it was like. 389 00:18:02,810 --> 00:18:04,580 S2: Yeah, that was not long enough. 390 00:18:04,820 --> 00:18:06,890 S1: I was like going out of the bedroom. And I'm like, 391 00:18:06,890 --> 00:18:09,050 S1: what am I doing? Like, why am I doing this? 392 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:12,080 S1: Is helping me. There was the why behind my goal 393 00:18:12,080 --> 00:18:14,479 S1: was like, I want to learn French. Why? Yeah. Why. 394 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:17,480 S1: Like unless you can find time, don't. Yeah. You've got 395 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:18,530 S1: the rest of your life flaws. 396 00:18:18,530 --> 00:18:18,980 S2: It's a long. 397 00:18:18,980 --> 00:18:22,580 S1: Life. Thank you, thank you, thank you very much. 398 00:18:25,800 --> 00:18:26,730 S3: One, two, three. 399 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:30,989 S1: Okay, there was a viral TikTok. I feel like a 400 00:18:30,990 --> 00:18:34,590 S1: boomer when I say viral. Viral. I borrow TikTok and 401 00:18:34,590 --> 00:18:36,840 S1: we have to talk about it. It was from a 402 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:41,190 S1: page called JD Lee, and it was about how Australian 403 00:18:41,190 --> 00:18:45,870 S1: dating rules work, and it was just so funny. And 404 00:18:45,869 --> 00:18:48,150 S1: we've got to play it for you. Hi. 405 00:18:48,150 --> 00:18:51,720 S4: Can someone please explain to me how Australian dating rules work? 406 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:55,530 S4: Because I don't get it. I do not understand. I 407 00:18:55,530 --> 00:18:57,300 S4: feel like if you say one wrong thing, you're left 408 00:18:57,300 --> 00:18:59,550 S4: on red. And then the amount of dates that have 409 00:18:59,550 --> 00:19:02,220 S4: been organised and then the guys just never texted me again, 410 00:19:02,220 --> 00:19:06,330 S4: has never happened anywhere else in the world. And every 411 00:19:06,330 --> 00:19:08,340 S4: woman I speak to has the exact same horror stories 412 00:19:08,340 --> 00:19:10,890 S4: about Australian men. Someone please elaborate. 413 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:15,449 S1: I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed. Seriously. This is. And then the 414 00:19:15,450 --> 00:19:18,630 S1: best part was people then stitched that TikTok with their 415 00:19:18,630 --> 00:19:21,480 S1: own story, with their own stories, and people came in 416 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:25,410 S1: with some very good experiences. So the first or not 417 00:19:25,410 --> 00:19:28,350 S1: sorry good is in like I enjoyed watching them. Yeah. 418 00:19:28,350 --> 00:19:32,310 S1: Not to experience in the dating world. So someone said 419 00:19:32,310 --> 00:19:35,400 S1: we don't have rules. You just fight for your life. 420 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:37,800 S1: This is bad. This is bad for Australia. That's not good. 421 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:41,550 S1: Oh my god. And Australia equals Neverland, home to the 422 00:19:41,550 --> 00:19:45,570 S1: Lost Boys. Okay, so this is definitely about men I 423 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,720 S1: yeah I, I would have to agree with the stories. 424 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:52,200 S2: Aussie men love to organise a date and then apparently die. 425 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:56,550 S1: Yeah. Never never never come. What is it called? Shade. No. Ghost. Ghost. 426 00:19:56,820 --> 00:20:01,230 S1: Shade ghost. Just ghost that I'm in. Like I'm actually 427 00:20:01,230 --> 00:20:02,940 S1: embarrassed for this. 428 00:20:02,940 --> 00:20:03,660 S2: Yeah. This is. 429 00:20:03,660 --> 00:20:05,430 S1: Who would want to be like. 430 00:20:05,430 --> 00:20:06,659 S2: This? Last one's bad. 431 00:20:07,380 --> 00:20:08,909 S1: Read it out, read it out. 432 00:20:08,910 --> 00:20:11,219 S2: Men have this idea that if they put in the 433 00:20:11,220 --> 00:20:14,429 S2: slightest bit of effort, that you will think they're in 434 00:20:14,430 --> 00:20:15,330 S2: love with you. 435 00:20:16,450 --> 00:20:21,220 S1: I just. The bar for men in dating is so low. 436 00:20:21,220 --> 00:20:24,700 S1: It's so low. Like I don't want to be ghosted. No, 437 00:20:24,700 --> 00:20:27,340 S1: I don't want people to waste my time. I don't 438 00:20:27,340 --> 00:20:29,590 S1: want people to make me feel like shit about myself 439 00:20:29,590 --> 00:20:32,409 S1: when they don't even care. Like you're thinking about it 440 00:20:32,410 --> 00:20:35,770 S1: all day and they're like, they forget. Like, are you joking? 441 00:20:36,010 --> 00:20:37,240 S1: I just it just. 442 00:20:37,330 --> 00:20:37,810 S2: Yeah. 443 00:20:37,810 --> 00:20:38,440 S1: This sucks. 444 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:39,310 S2: It really does. 445 00:20:39,310 --> 00:20:43,240 S1: We really. You need to wake up. Yeah. White men, especially. 446 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:44,409 S2: Australian men, apparently. 447 00:20:44,410 --> 00:20:45,430 S1: To wake. 448 00:20:45,430 --> 00:20:47,710 S2: Up. Now, we've had some of you guys from our 449 00:20:47,710 --> 00:20:51,790 S2: community also share some things about the Australian dating scene. 450 00:20:51,790 --> 00:20:54,940 S2: So let's jump into those. There are so many amazing 451 00:20:54,940 --> 00:20:57,670 S2: people out there who just keep getting screwed over by 452 00:20:57,670 --> 00:21:01,719 S2: the casual dating culture, and it's honestly so damaging to self-esteem. 453 00:21:01,930 --> 00:21:05,140 S2: I hate it sometimes I just want to give up, 454 00:21:05,140 --> 00:21:07,540 S2: but I keep at it because I want to feel 455 00:21:07,540 --> 00:21:10,570 S2: that type of love. One day I hope things change 456 00:21:10,570 --> 00:21:13,180 S2: for us. Oh, one day I hope things change for you. 457 00:21:13,180 --> 00:21:18,340 S1: I'm sorry Australian men wake up you are impacting people's confidence. 458 00:21:18,550 --> 00:21:22,240 S1: You are? You're serious? You're non. You're not taking it seriously. 459 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,449 S1: Men in Australia you are being too casual and it's 460 00:21:25,450 --> 00:21:28,300 S1: time to stop. Yeah, casual. If you want to be 461 00:21:28,300 --> 00:21:29,890 S1: casual about dating, don't date. And it just. 462 00:21:29,890 --> 00:21:31,990 S2: Makes me think. Like I know of some really decent 463 00:21:31,990 --> 00:21:34,179 S2: guys that are dating, not having a lot of luck, 464 00:21:34,180 --> 00:21:36,550 S2: and I feel like it's these shitty guys that are. 465 00:21:36,730 --> 00:21:40,510 S1: Ruining it for everyone. The casual lads that love to 466 00:21:40,510 --> 00:21:44,230 S1: swipe on illicit pumping know it's pump and dump, isn't it? 467 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:46,270 S1: I think that's a very disgusting way to. 468 00:21:46,270 --> 00:21:50,530 S2: Say pump and dump is like ejaculate, isn't it? I 469 00:21:50,530 --> 00:21:53,440 S2: don't know, Lindsay's laughing. It's something about ejaculating. 470 00:21:54,130 --> 00:21:58,780 S5: I can't, I use it a lot, but usually that's 471 00:21:58,780 --> 00:22:01,120 S5: what I imagine it means. Anyway. 472 00:22:01,300 --> 00:22:01,929 S1: I've never. 473 00:22:01,930 --> 00:22:02,290 S5: Said it. 474 00:22:02,290 --> 00:22:04,209 S2: Siri, wait, where? Siri ask in. 475 00:22:04,210 --> 00:22:07,300 S1: Dictionary. Uh, a situation where a person has sex with 476 00:22:07,300 --> 00:22:10,630 S1: a partner on a single occasion, without immediate intention or 477 00:22:10,630 --> 00:22:14,980 S1: further contact to pursue a serious relationship. Maybe that's what 478 00:22:14,980 --> 00:22:18,850 S1: the definition of Australian men is. Australian man equals pump 479 00:22:18,850 --> 00:22:19,450 S1: and dump. 480 00:22:19,450 --> 00:22:22,750 S2: This one the worst single again at 33 and I 481 00:22:22,750 --> 00:22:25,480 S2: want to give up. Oh, they always think there is 482 00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:26,770 S2: someone better. 483 00:22:26,950 --> 00:22:28,960 S1: Oh that sucks. 484 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:32,830 S2: Okay, this is a long one. Being single in your 485 00:22:32,830 --> 00:22:36,070 S2: 30s is hard enough with societal expectations and my own 486 00:22:36,070 --> 00:22:39,400 S2: ideas of where I would be at in life, but 487 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,980 S2: these days it is just so hard to meet people 488 00:22:41,980 --> 00:22:45,010 S2: organically at cafes or restaurants. No one looks up from 489 00:22:45,010 --> 00:22:47,230 S2: their phone or wants to venture away from their friends, 490 00:22:47,230 --> 00:22:49,810 S2: which I get, but I don't enjoy going out and drinking, 491 00:22:49,810 --> 00:22:52,090 S2: so a bar slash pub night isn't where I want 492 00:22:52,090 --> 00:22:54,520 S2: to meet someone if that's how they spend their weekends. 493 00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:57,280 S2: Working full time and having a mortgage and bills on 494 00:22:57,280 --> 00:23:00,460 S2: my own is also impacting opportunities to try new things 495 00:23:00,460 --> 00:23:03,490 S2: to meet guys. So I turn into dating apps and 496 00:23:03,490 --> 00:23:05,470 S2: they truly make me want to give up. Whether you're 497 00:23:05,470 --> 00:23:07,629 S2: just vibing with someone, thinking it'll lead to dates or 498 00:23:07,630 --> 00:23:10,240 S2: having casual chatter, they always end up ghosting. I think 499 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:12,520 S2: the issue with dating apps is that there appears to 500 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,040 S2: be an endless stream of people available, so all the 501 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,859 S2: guys think I'm making a connection with seem to be 502 00:23:17,859 --> 00:23:21,070 S2: looking for someone better in the pile of profiles no 503 00:23:21,070 --> 00:23:22,540 S2: one seems to want to put in the effort to 504 00:23:22,540 --> 00:23:24,760 S2: form a connection, and I'm preparing myself for the fact 505 00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:27,550 S2: that my happily ever after might look different to how 506 00:23:27,550 --> 00:23:29,379 S2: I thought it would. And that's okay. 507 00:23:29,740 --> 00:23:33,220 S1: It is okay. I'm like, that is fucking amazing to 508 00:23:33,220 --> 00:23:36,160 S1: say that, first of all. But second of all, I 509 00:23:36,340 --> 00:23:38,320 S1: you know what? I think with dating apps, it's like 510 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,690 S1: it's great in that like, it's enabled people to meet 511 00:23:40,690 --> 00:23:43,270 S1: people that couldn't have met before because it's just like. 512 00:23:43,270 --> 00:23:44,020 S2: You've got a sea of. 513 00:23:44,020 --> 00:23:47,320 S1: People transactional. It's like, oh, there'll be someone because it's 514 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:49,540 S1: like you write the profile and then it's like you 515 00:23:49,540 --> 00:23:51,850 S1: compare that like in your head out of ten, and 516 00:23:51,850 --> 00:23:53,770 S1: then you compare the profiles, you're like, oh no, I'm 517 00:23:53,770 --> 00:23:55,090 S1: waiting for a it's so true. 518 00:23:55,090 --> 00:23:57,700 S2: But it's like when you meet someone in real life 519 00:23:57,700 --> 00:24:00,790 S2: and organically, which I know is is different and difficult now, 520 00:24:00,790 --> 00:24:04,719 S2: but it is. You don't have that thought of like, oh, 521 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,000 S2: but there could be like 20 other people tonight that 522 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:11,590 S2: I'll also catch eye contact with and potentially flirt with. Like, sorry, 523 00:24:11,590 --> 00:24:13,810 S2: that doesn't happen to anyone in the real world. So 524 00:24:13,810 --> 00:24:16,810 S2: but online, yeah, I'm probably going to swipe, you know, 525 00:24:16,810 --> 00:24:18,700 S2: another 30 people tonight and who knows how many of 526 00:24:18,700 --> 00:24:20,140 S2: them are going to swipe back. So it's just like 527 00:24:20,140 --> 00:24:23,260 S2: two too many options that they think the grass is 528 00:24:23,260 --> 00:24:26,350 S2: always greener, that they never actually get to know the person. 529 00:24:26,350 --> 00:24:27,490 S2: And I think that sucks. 530 00:24:27,490 --> 00:24:30,730 S1: And it sucks too, because because of our biological clock. 531 00:24:30,730 --> 00:24:33,760 S1: If you do want to have children, yeah, men don't 532 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,129 S1: have they don't have that stress, so they don't need 533 00:24:36,130 --> 00:24:39,879 S1: to think about it. And so they and also like 534 00:24:40,090 --> 00:24:43,780 S1: yeah they then like even looking at like divorce rates 535 00:24:43,780 --> 00:24:46,270 S1: and then after divorce so often like I know so 536 00:24:46,270 --> 00:24:48,760 S1: many stories about men that then go and date like 537 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:54,580 S1: really young women and it's like, but I just, I just, um, 538 00:24:54,820 --> 00:25:02,830 S1: I am not for these men sometimes anyway. Okay, okay. 539 00:25:02,830 --> 00:25:05,350 S1: Rocks up to his house for a first date. He 540 00:25:05,350 --> 00:25:09,250 S1: was in his PJs at 3 p.m. drinking a beer. 541 00:25:09,580 --> 00:25:12,790 S1: We've been together for three years. I didn't, I thought 542 00:25:12,790 --> 00:25:14,649 S1: that was going bad, but it's. It's good. 543 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:15,480 S2: I mean, cute. 544 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:17,489 S1: But that. Do you know what that tells me? You 545 00:25:17,490 --> 00:25:20,250 S1: don't need to have fancy date to find love. You 546 00:25:20,250 --> 00:25:20,640 S1: don't need. 547 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,400 S2: Also nice things that we put in way too much effort. 548 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,100 S1: You're right. You know, it also says that. Yes. Okay. 549 00:25:26,100 --> 00:25:27,780 S1: Match with the guy on Tinder and send him an 550 00:25:27,780 --> 00:25:31,320 S1: opening question asking if you could blink and go anywhere 551 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:37,310 S1: in the world, where would you go? Are. I can't 552 00:25:37,310 --> 00:25:42,889 S1: read this because again, this is embarrassing for Australia. What 553 00:25:42,890 --> 00:25:43,129 S1: did he. 554 00:25:43,130 --> 00:25:43,370 S2: Say? 555 00:25:43,940 --> 00:25:50,780 S1: He says. Between your tits? No. Who said romance was dead? 556 00:25:50,810 --> 00:25:51,290 S2: No. 557 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,440 S1: Old mate Brad from Tinder did. That is. No. 558 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:55,790 S2: No. If you. 559 00:25:55,790 --> 00:25:56,450 S1: Could go. 560 00:25:56,450 --> 00:26:00,109 S2: In my world. Is that hot? That's not in anyone's world. 561 00:26:00,109 --> 00:26:03,110 S1: Hot, mate. Say, Italy. Say something else with you. 562 00:26:03,140 --> 00:26:03,440 S2: Maybe. 563 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:04,760 S1: Queen your tits. 564 00:26:05,420 --> 00:26:06,260 S2: I think you're gonna say between. 565 00:26:06,380 --> 00:26:09,440 S1: So don't call them tits like in the first thing 566 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:09,950 S1: I know. 567 00:26:10,070 --> 00:26:10,850 S2: Who the fuck? 568 00:26:10,850 --> 00:26:13,130 S1: Like you're not entitled to tits. No one. 569 00:26:13,130 --> 00:26:15,770 S2: No one. They're not tits. 570 00:26:15,770 --> 00:26:19,520 S1: Unless, like, once you're together. And you. You've established that 571 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:20,570 S1: I don't. Sure. 572 00:26:20,570 --> 00:26:21,380 S2: Okay. Maybe it. 573 00:26:21,380 --> 00:26:22,879 S1: Could be for people, but don't. 574 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:23,360 S2: Know. 575 00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:24,650 S1: Don't slide in with that. 576 00:26:24,650 --> 00:26:26,030 S2: No, you can't slide in with that. 577 00:26:26,060 --> 00:26:26,720 S1: Ah. 578 00:26:28,820 --> 00:26:31,640 S2: Ah. When men don't want to date me because I'm 579 00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:36,170 S2: a career focused woman. Well, those men can. I actually. 580 00:26:36,170 --> 00:26:38,689 S1: Generally think. And from a lot of friends I've spoken 581 00:26:38,690 --> 00:26:41,870 S1: to a lot of men. Ah. And it's not. I 582 00:26:41,869 --> 00:26:45,530 S1: understand why like where it's come from. Like internally. It's 583 00:26:45,530 --> 00:26:49,430 S1: not right. But they are intimidated by a partner that 584 00:26:49,430 --> 00:26:51,500 S1: would make more money with them than them, or have 585 00:26:51,500 --> 00:26:52,790 S1: more success than them. 586 00:26:52,820 --> 00:26:55,580 S2: Sad. That's very sad. Oh. 587 00:26:56,180 --> 00:26:57,830 S1: Don't stop your career because of it. 588 00:26:57,890 --> 00:27:01,790 S2: Oh. My boyfriend. Absolutely not. Oh, no. What are we 589 00:27:01,790 --> 00:27:04,310 S2: entering on? Yeah. You know. Ah, this one's fine. 590 00:27:04,820 --> 00:27:08,090 S1: This one. I think this is fine. This is okay. 591 00:27:08,420 --> 00:27:11,150 S1: Australian man to do this. Yes. A guy once took 592 00:27:11,150 --> 00:27:13,730 S1: me on a date to a fish and chip shop. Ah, 593 00:27:13,730 --> 00:27:16,190 S1: I think that's that's fine. What? One of my dream 594 00:27:16,190 --> 00:27:19,609 S1: dates is like. I don't sitting at a table across 595 00:27:19,609 --> 00:27:22,369 S1: from each other because I'm awkward as worst night. I'd just, like, 596 00:27:22,369 --> 00:27:24,439 S1: so awkward. I don't like silence. And I feel it. 597 00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:27,680 S1: I talk to you. I just say so many things. Anyway, 598 00:27:28,250 --> 00:27:30,109 S1: for me, going for a walk or like going and 599 00:27:30,109 --> 00:27:31,879 S1: getting fish and chips and like sitting on the beach 600 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,130 S1: or something, or somewhere, like at a park where you're not, 601 00:27:34,130 --> 00:27:36,470 S1: like directly facing each other. And there's some time where 602 00:27:36,470 --> 00:27:38,540 S1: you just like looking, you know, to eye contact the 603 00:27:38,540 --> 00:27:40,220 S1: whole time. I think that's really good. So I think 604 00:27:40,220 --> 00:27:40,639 S1: it's good. 605 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,820 S2: That's fine. Using your hands, that's fine. He's already not 606 00:27:43,820 --> 00:27:46,399 S2: the type that you need to, like, order a salad 607 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,460 S2: around and worry about, you know, food going everywhere because 608 00:27:49,460 --> 00:27:51,560 S2: he's ordered you finger food. As long as he. 609 00:27:51,890 --> 00:27:54,890 S1: Doesn't just get chips and potato cakes, like, at least 610 00:27:54,890 --> 00:27:57,500 S1: get a gym sim in there. I think it would 611 00:27:57,500 --> 00:28:00,890 S1: be more about that. Anyway, that was actually really depressing, 612 00:28:01,369 --> 00:28:04,310 S1: and I'm really sorry that this is if you don't, 613 00:28:04,310 --> 00:28:08,629 S1: for all of our international listeners outside of Australia, if 614 00:28:08,630 --> 00:28:10,430 S1: you don't come here, if you want to come to 615 00:28:10,430 --> 00:28:12,440 S1: Australia for a boyfriend because we both. 616 00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:13,610 S2: Date Australian men. 617 00:28:13,609 --> 00:28:15,350 S1: Well, yeah, but I do. 618 00:28:15,350 --> 00:28:17,480 S2: Plenty of Australian men who are fine. There's obviously just 619 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,210 S2: a huge sea of them with massive egos, and it's 620 00:28:20,210 --> 00:28:20,840 S2: very sad. 621 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,840 S1: The fact that the TikTok person said this has never 622 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:26,449 S1: happened in any other country. It's very sad. I think 623 00:28:26,450 --> 00:28:31,340 S1: Australian men are these IT thing that's not changing in 624 00:28:31,340 --> 00:28:35,930 S1: this equation. Interesting. Anyway, and obviously, as I said, this 625 00:28:35,930 --> 00:28:39,860 S1: is not all Australian men. There are lovely, wonderful Australian 626 00:28:39,860 --> 00:28:43,850 S1: men here and people, but there are also some bad 627 00:28:43,850 --> 00:28:44,600 S1: fish in the sea. 628 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:46,070 S2: You've had fish in the sea. 629 00:28:46,700 --> 00:28:51,290 S6: So what is your temperature? What is it? Time for 630 00:28:51,380 --> 00:28:52,520 S6: special share. 631 00:28:53,570 --> 00:28:54,080 S7: Shit. 632 00:28:55,700 --> 00:28:56,300 S2: Aussie. 633 00:28:56,330 --> 00:28:56,900 S1: Yes. 634 00:28:57,950 --> 00:29:00,020 S4: I have a book for you today. Oh the book. 635 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:03,410 S1: Did your book okay? My book is good material by 636 00:29:03,410 --> 00:29:07,160 S1: Dolly Alderton. Oh yes. Yeah. And I really liked it. 637 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:11,810 S1: It is about dating. It's the most real experience. Basically, 638 00:29:11,810 --> 00:29:17,060 S1: it's a couple breakup and then it's the experience of 639 00:29:17,060 --> 00:29:20,990 S1: mainly 80% is the guy. Oh, actually, I reckon 90% 640 00:29:20,990 --> 00:29:23,690 S1: is the guy's experience of the breakup. He's the one 641 00:29:23,690 --> 00:29:26,540 S1: who's broken up with. And then at the end you 642 00:29:26,540 --> 00:29:29,540 S1: get to hear from the female perspective. And she was 643 00:29:29,540 --> 00:29:32,570 S1: the one who broke up with him. Okay. It is 644 00:29:32,570 --> 00:29:36,050 S1: so interesting. And it is the most when I say 645 00:29:36,050 --> 00:29:40,400 S1: interesting to read the actual reality of a breakup, because 646 00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:42,230 S1: I feel like there's a lot of like online. It's like, 647 00:29:42,230 --> 00:29:44,240 S1: just get over it. It's like people break up with people. 648 00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:47,240 S1: It is what it is, whatever it's actually and like 649 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,150 S1: to actually go into the detail of how it impacts 650 00:29:50,150 --> 00:29:53,690 S1: someone's life in, like all facets was it was so 651 00:29:53,690 --> 00:29:56,000 S1: honest and just I was like, fuck, this is actually 652 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,490 S1: so true. And then also from the perspective of the 653 00:29:58,490 --> 00:30:00,800 S1: person who broke up with that person, yeah, it doesn't 654 00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:03,350 S1: mean it's not just it's not easy for them and 655 00:30:03,350 --> 00:30:05,720 S1: it's and it also goes into like there's so many 656 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,850 S1: reasons why because so often you were saying like, oh, 657 00:30:07,850 --> 00:30:10,460 S1: it's because there's someone else. But that's not often the reason. 658 00:30:10,460 --> 00:30:13,130 S1: There's so many other reasons why people break up. It was, 659 00:30:13,130 --> 00:30:15,290 S1: I have to say, if you are reading it or 660 00:30:15,290 --> 00:30:17,330 S1: you want to read it, it's too long in the middle. 661 00:30:17,750 --> 00:30:20,300 S1: They could have I just I think 20% of the 662 00:30:20,300 --> 00:30:23,780 S1: man's story could have been cut out. It was bits 663 00:30:23,780 --> 00:30:25,610 S1: where I was like, do I keep going with this book? 664 00:30:25,850 --> 00:30:28,160 S1: But I'm very glad in the end that I've read 665 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,470 S1: it and I persevered. So it's definitely special. I do 666 00:30:30,470 --> 00:30:32,930 S1: recommend reading it, but don't give up in the middle 667 00:30:32,930 --> 00:30:35,300 S1: where you're like, this is dragging on because I did 668 00:30:35,300 --> 00:30:36,860 S1: drag in the middle, but then it was a really 669 00:30:36,860 --> 00:30:40,010 S1: good at the engine. Good start. Yeah. Nice. Yeah, yeah. 670 00:30:40,010 --> 00:30:40,730 S1: So recommend. 671 00:30:40,730 --> 00:30:41,360 S2: I'm excited. 672 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:42,620 S1: To read it. Yeah. You'll like it. 673 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:47,520 S2: My book is called the Seven Year Sleep. By Ashley Paulson. 674 00:30:48,030 --> 00:30:50,490 S2: And I really enjoyed it. It is about can I 675 00:30:50,490 --> 00:30:52,890 S2: say the color? Yes you can. It is about a 676 00:30:52,890 --> 00:31:00,030 S2: girl who moves into her aunties, her late aunties old apartment. Um, 677 00:31:00,030 --> 00:31:02,640 S2: and it's there's a bit of magic to the apartment. 678 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:06,090 S2: And that made it sound like a like a fantasy. 679 00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:09,270 S2: It's not. Um, it's more like I'm trying to think 680 00:31:09,270 --> 00:31:12,120 S2: of that movie, that classic movie where they're, like, leaving letters. 681 00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:13,860 S2: And the person who lived there years ago, what was 682 00:31:13,860 --> 00:31:15,510 S2: that movie called? I don't know. 683 00:31:15,540 --> 00:31:16,950 S5: Oh, the lake house? 684 00:31:16,950 --> 00:31:18,120 S1: Yes, the lake house. 685 00:31:18,150 --> 00:31:22,260 S2: It's kind of like there's two decades of it happening 686 00:31:22,260 --> 00:31:25,410 S2: in the same location anyway. Um, it's a really beautiful 687 00:31:25,410 --> 00:31:29,459 S2: love story. And also just a cool story about a 688 00:31:29,460 --> 00:31:34,140 S2: woman in New York. Um, as a publisher, a book publisher. 689 00:31:34,650 --> 00:31:37,140 S1: I think I'd love it. It's good. Any book set 690 00:31:37,140 --> 00:31:41,640 S1: in New York? I also love reading about book publishers. 691 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:46,229 S1: Laughs I just, I really any magazines, publishers, I just 692 00:31:46,230 --> 00:31:48,630 S1: it's good. I love those stories. I'm gonna read it like. 693 00:31:48,630 --> 00:31:51,390 S2: Little bits throughout the book that like all then like 694 00:31:51,420 --> 00:31:53,580 S2: it just there's a lot. It just makes sense, make sense, 695 00:31:53,580 --> 00:31:57,420 S2: make sense, make sense. I really miss it. Uh, 300. 696 00:31:57,420 --> 00:31:58,680 S1: Something. Okay, so not too long. 697 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,950 S2: No no no. Okay. No no no. Um, fairly easy read, 698 00:32:01,950 --> 00:32:04,080 S2: but I just really enjoyed it. It was nice. Thank you. 699 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,900 S1: Yeah, thank you for that special share. You're welcome. Thank 700 00:32:06,900 --> 00:32:09,480 S1: you for listening, everyone. We love you very much. Thank 701 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:11,910 S1: you for supporting the podcast. We obviously if you don't 702 00:32:11,910 --> 00:32:13,740 S1: listen we can't do it. So we really pray. 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