WEBVTT - How should I feel if my partner doesn’t orgasm? 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:03.530 Listener. 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:07.820 Kiki acknowledges the traditional owners and custodians of the land 0:00:07.820 --> 0:00:11.420 in which we're recording this podcast. The Ulika Wulong clan 0:00:11.420 --> 0:00:14.510 of the Boomerang, who were a part of the Kulin nation. 0:00:14.510 --> 0:00:17.720 We pay our respects to our elders, past and present, 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:21.050 and extend our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander 0:00:21.050 --> 0:00:25.669 peoples today. Welcome to the Kick Pod a damn with 0:00:25.670 --> 0:00:27.710 your besties on the stuff that matters. 0:00:27.740 --> 0:00:28.580 One. Two. Three. 0:00:36.110 --> 0:00:37.130 One. Two. Three. Four. 0:00:37.790 --> 0:00:42.440 Hello, everyone. Hi, guys. Hi, Steffi. Hello. How are you? 0:00:42.470 --> 0:00:46.760 I'm good. How are you? Good. How are you? Are 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:50.900 you just loving that? Everyone knows that you are pregnant. 0:00:50.900 --> 0:00:54.170 And you can now. I just love that everyone knows 0:00:54.170 --> 0:00:56.960 that I'm pregnant. It's just the best wide world. Yeah, 0:00:56.990 --> 0:00:59.930 everyone knows. But the cloud lings know. And I just. 0:00:59.960 --> 0:01:02.600 It is always so hard when we're. We can't tell 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:05.479 the cloud links yet. 100%. No. It's nice. It's very, 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:09.020 very lovely. And yeah, thank you for everyone who's slid 0:01:09.020 --> 0:01:11.630 into the DMs. We're very excited. And how are you feeling? 0:01:11.630 --> 0:01:14.479 I'm feeling good. I feel like the closer I've like 0:01:14.510 --> 0:01:16.760 is in, the closer I got to the second trimester, 0:01:16.790 --> 0:01:19.970 that I started to feel better. Um, which, again, so 0:01:19.970 --> 0:01:23.030 thankful for because it's not the same for everyone. Um, 0:01:23.030 --> 0:01:24.980 but yeah, I'm excited to have a bit of my 0:01:24.980 --> 0:01:29.750 energy back. I find it so interesting that in pregnancy 0:01:29.750 --> 0:01:33.710 that generally the first trimester can. The last trimester is 0:01:33.709 --> 0:01:36.709 obviously difficult physically, your hips and yeah, yeah, yeah. But 0:01:36.709 --> 0:01:39.200 between the first and the second trimester. So first trimester 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.930 is 0 to 12 weeks and then 12 to 24. 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:43.789 Is it the second. Are they both 12 weeks. Yep 0:01:43.790 --> 0:01:46.190 I think so okay. Yeah guys don't quote me on 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:50.150 nine months three months three months three months knowledge. Yeah okay. Cool. 0:01:50.180 --> 0:01:56.090 So the first three months the the baby is tiny, 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:58.730 like the size of a date it gets. Yeah. Around that. 0:01:58.820 --> 0:02:01.390 So but your body is so tired building it to 0:02:01.420 --> 0:02:03.280 the size of a date. And then when it needs 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:04.930 to build it to this, what size does it get 0:02:04.930 --> 0:02:06.700 to at the end of the second trimester? Oh God, 0:02:06.700 --> 0:02:09.250 I don't know. Probably like an eggplant I don't know, 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:11.380 it's like quite large. Yeah. You'd think that would take 0:02:11.380 --> 0:02:13.960 more energy. I just I find it so interesting, like 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:17.020 how the energy is so different between the two trimesters. Yeah. 0:02:17.050 --> 0:02:19.900 I actually don't know the science behind why that is. 0:02:19.930 --> 0:02:22.150 I mean, it's literally your career. And of course, I 0:02:22.150 --> 0:02:24.550 know some people have unfortunately like morning sickness throughout the 0:02:24.669 --> 0:02:26.860 literally until they come. Yeah. For some people it does 0:02:26.889 --> 0:02:29.950 alleviate 100%. I think maybe it's just because it's going 0:02:29.950 --> 0:02:36.070 from like literally nothing existing to organs producing bones building 0:02:36.100 --> 0:02:41.200 like it's it's weird. It's so weird like that. Yeah. Fingernails, like, 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:44.380 everything just starts to form in your body. Wait, so 0:02:44.380 --> 0:02:46.000 the fingernails. Oh, my God. Of course, the baby is 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.970 born with fingernails. Yeah, I think by now it's like 0:02:48.970 --> 0:02:51.460 most of it's. No, some of it's spinal cord is, like, 0:02:51.490 --> 0:02:54.970 been created. I don't know how to explain it created. Yes. 0:02:54.970 --> 0:02:57.700 I'm creating a human in my belly. Wow. Um. It's 0:02:57.700 --> 0:02:59.440 quite it's quite fascinating. I've got an app that, like, 0:02:59.470 --> 0:03:01.570 tells you each week that you tick over like the 0:03:01.570 --> 0:03:04.900 fun facts of like what's happening and I it's funny 0:03:04.900 --> 0:03:06.490 because a lot of people were like, oh, second time around, 0:03:06.490 --> 0:03:08.470 you just don't. You're not as fascinated. But I think 0:03:08.470 --> 0:03:13.660 because it's been almost four years since Harvey, I am 0:03:13.660 --> 0:03:16.060 still fascinated by it. It's like I want to be 0:03:16.060 --> 0:03:18.820 just as excited this time around. So I'm still loving 0:03:18.820 --> 0:03:22.390 the updates because I've forgotten it all. Of course. Yeah, yeah. Anyway, well, 0:03:22.389 --> 0:03:24.340 there you go. Well, I'm glad you're starting to feel 0:03:24.340 --> 0:03:29.950 more energized. That's awesome to hear. Now, now we are 0:03:29.950 --> 0:03:36.580 going to say something that is forget Black Friday. Yeah, yeah. Well, 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.670 you know, that is just give it a moment. The 0:03:39.670 --> 0:03:44.680 statement forget Black Friday and the reason why we're saying that. 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:47.980 Because we know lots of people love Black Friday. I mean, 0:03:47.980 --> 0:03:50.710 it's a great time to get in for your Christmas shopping. It's, 0:03:50.740 --> 0:03:52.510 you know, it's a great time of year to stop. 0:03:52.540 --> 0:03:56.560 But for us, ruining the campaign, the campaign is forget 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:59.640 Black Friday for us, it doesn't make sense, because we 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:03.180 know that 88% of you are more likely to move 0:04:03.180 --> 0:04:05.190 on a Monday at Kik. So at Kik, it doesn't 0:04:05.190 --> 0:04:07.290 make sense. It doesn't make sense there. Black Friday does 0:04:07.290 --> 0:04:10.380 also contribute to quite a bit of landfill. So I 0:04:10.380 --> 0:04:12.750 think there are some there's some reasons also that we 0:04:12.750 --> 0:04:16.350 feel quite passionate about Black Friday. But yes you're right. 0:04:16.740 --> 0:04:19.920 So at Kik we were like, well why does Friday 0:04:19.950 --> 0:04:23.430 get all of the hype. So we are now going 0:04:23.430 --> 0:04:28.050 to be over the next month together celebrating Mondays. Now 0:04:28.050 --> 0:04:31.349 you might think, how are we going to celebrate Mondays? Well, 0:04:31.350 --> 0:04:34.110 your favorite day of the week just got better. That's 0:04:34.110 --> 0:04:36.060 a good line, isn't it? I really like that one. 0:04:36.060 --> 0:04:39.330 Yeah yeah okay. Yes yes we our amazing team wrote 0:04:39.330 --> 0:04:43.260 this also. So it's not like we're complimenting ourself here. Okay. 0:04:43.260 --> 0:04:49.919 So number one our brand new Pilates trainer Greta. Now 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.100 we have not dropped a new trainer to you guys 0:04:53.100 --> 0:04:56.310 for quite a while now. You have been asking for 0:04:56.310 --> 0:04:59.849 a new trainer. We know you love Pilates, and so 0:04:59.850 --> 0:05:02.190 we have come to you with the best of the best. 0:05:02.190 --> 0:05:06.900 So Greta is the ClassPass trainer of the year. Now, 0:05:06.900 --> 0:05:10.440 if anyone it basically her classes. If you know you 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:15.000 know they are waitlisted forever. She is an incredible reformer 0:05:15.029 --> 0:05:19.710 instructor at kick. She is teaching mat Pilates that will 0:05:19.710 --> 0:05:22.770 help you get your reformer fix from home. And just 0:05:22.770 --> 0:05:24.660 a note there, you don't need a reformer to do 0:05:24.690 --> 0:05:27.270 her classes there. Reformer inspired. So a lot of the moves, 0:05:27.270 --> 0:05:29.820 I think we think, oh, in order to, you know, 0:05:29.850 --> 0:05:33.180 get the benefits of a reformer class or using a reformer, 0:05:33.210 --> 0:05:36.120 you need a reformer. Absolutely not. We also know that 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:38.880 not everyone has well, very, very few people have access 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:42.840 to a reformer. So Greta is the solution to that. 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:45.540 And I also have to say, as someone who filmed 0:05:45.540 --> 0:05:49.140 the workouts with Greta and could not walk for a 0:05:49.140 --> 0:05:53.940 few days afterwards, Greta is so in terms of Pilates style, 0:05:53.940 --> 0:05:57.000 she's very, very strong. So I feel like it's a 0:05:57.020 --> 0:06:00.020 combination of if you lack strength training and you lack Pilates, 0:06:00.050 --> 0:06:02.989 but maybe something with like for me, for Pilates. I 0:06:02.990 --> 0:06:09.170 do prefer strength based Pilates. This is like my yeah style. 0:06:09.170 --> 0:06:11.600 It doesn't move too fast so you don't have to 0:06:11.630 --> 0:06:13.130 worry about, oh, I can't keep up with the instructor. 0:06:13.130 --> 0:06:15.500 You will be able to keep up with Greta, but 0:06:15.529 --> 0:06:19.789 there is a slow and strong strong burn. I don't 0:06:19.790 --> 0:06:23.300 think I've ever felt so much muscle soreness after filming 0:06:23.300 --> 0:06:25.970 before than with Greta. So we are just. So you 0:06:25.970 --> 0:06:28.130 were just going to absolutely love her? Of course she 0:06:28.130 --> 0:06:30.740 has the kick energy. She's just oh my goodness. She 0:06:30.770 --> 0:06:33.890 is amazing. So so so excited for you to meet her. 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:38.599 Now number two new workouts will be dropping every Monday 0:06:38.630 --> 0:06:42.560 to get you moving. Number three we are giving away 0:06:42.589 --> 0:06:46.160 cash prizes on Mondays just for moving because we need 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:48.980 to celebrate that. It is amazing. So today we are 0:06:48.980 --> 0:06:53.240 actually giving away $1,000. I mean amazing, great before Christmas 0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:56.330 to go into the draw, complete any kick workout on 0:06:56.330 --> 0:06:57.950 a Monday so you need to complete it on a 0:06:57.950 --> 0:07:01.460 Monday because we are celebrating Mondays. Use the share feature 0:07:01.460 --> 0:07:04.729 in App Share on Instagram. And just in terms of 0:07:04.730 --> 0:07:06.710 what that is, after you finish a workout, it will 0:07:06.710 --> 0:07:09.289 come up at the end with well done, you're amazing. 0:07:09.290 --> 0:07:11.150 And then there's a share button. It is quite big. 0:07:11.150 --> 0:07:12.710 We'll share it on our Instagram as well, so you 0:07:12.710 --> 0:07:15.650 can see what that is and share that on your Instagram. 0:07:15.650 --> 0:07:18.380 But just make sure you have your profile on public 0:07:18.380 --> 0:07:21.230 so we can see it and tag us. Exactly. Yes, 0:07:21.230 --> 0:07:23.570 that would be helpful. Otherwise it is unlikely we will 0:07:23.570 --> 0:07:26.360 see it if you don't tag us. And now number four, 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:28.730 which is I think a lot of the cloud links 0:07:28.730 --> 0:07:30.890 will be very excited by this. Steffi, what is it? 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:33.140 If you are new to Kik, if you haven't joined 0:07:33.140 --> 0:07:35.570 us already, you can get 50% off your first month 0:07:35.570 --> 0:07:38.690 with Kik. So don't wait for Friday. Come and join 0:07:38.690 --> 0:07:41.510 us now on a Monday and get 50% off your 0:07:41.510 --> 0:07:45.830 first month and enjoy the new classes with Gretta! So exciting! Woohoo! 0:07:46.910 --> 0:07:51.980 Now TikTok. Yes, you're scrolling at night, late at night, 0:07:52.010 --> 0:07:56.000 or whenever the heck you scroll. I'm scrolling through and 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.230 every now and then there are things that, to be honest, 0:07:59.230 --> 0:08:02.590 drive me crazy. And it's okay. Like, I know some people, 0:08:02.590 --> 0:08:05.980 we all have our own thoughts. Opinions like things don't 0:08:05.980 --> 0:08:09.910 like things. That is our prerogative. And my prerogative is 0:08:09.910 --> 0:08:12.700 to not like some things I'm about to talk about. 0:08:12.730 --> 0:08:15.100 I think the most annoying thing about it, I love them, 0:08:15.100 --> 0:08:17.020 I know, but I think the most annoying thing about 0:08:17.020 --> 0:08:19.000 it and like this is no shade. Well, it kind 0:08:19.030 --> 0:08:20.470 of is a bit of shade on TikTok, but like, 0:08:20.500 --> 0:08:23.679 this is my thing that annoys me the most. Naturally. Right? 0:08:23.710 --> 0:08:27.400 Algorithm we exactly. We should scroll past things that we 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:30.220 don't like. We should do that, right? But sometimes you 0:08:30.220 --> 0:08:32.290 get so sucked in to kind of like, hate watching 0:08:32.290 --> 0:08:34.959 something that you're like, oh God, I just have to 0:08:34.990 --> 0:08:37.660 watch this now. And then once you watch a whole video, 0:08:37.660 --> 0:08:40.000 TikTok thinks you like it. And so then your feeds 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:43.780 full of it. That's something that I hate. So, so true, 0:08:43.809 --> 0:08:47.950 so true. Now, this is actually, I think this might 0:08:47.950 --> 0:08:50.260 possibly become a little bit of a segment. Okay, cool. 0:08:50.290 --> 0:08:52.809 So what this segment is going to become and you 0:08:52.809 --> 0:08:55.330 guys please send it in to us as well. What 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:58.150 trends can you get around that you love? You're like, yes, 0:08:58.150 --> 0:09:00.070 this trend is adding value to my life, I love it. 0:09:00.070 --> 0:09:01.870 And which ones do you like? Please can this trend 0:09:01.900 --> 0:09:05.170 go to sleep and not come back? Okay, sleep and 0:09:05.170 --> 0:09:07.780 look on the algorithm not to come back up. So 0:09:07.780 --> 0:09:09.730 the one I saw the other day and I just, 0:09:09.730 --> 0:09:11.980 I feel like this one has just got a little 0:09:12.010 --> 0:09:15.069 bit out of control. This is for me personally, but 0:09:15.070 --> 0:09:19.000 it is the TikTok morning shed. Yeah. Have you seen this? 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.429 This is like when there's, like, a lot to undo 0:09:21.429 --> 0:09:23.530 in the morning, right? Is that is that what it is? 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.320 There is a lot. Not just like a few things. 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.860 There is a lot to undo in the morning. So 0:09:29.860 --> 0:09:33.040 basically it's people say they're shedding the skin, hair and 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:35.020 other products that they sleep in. And when we say 0:09:35.050 --> 0:09:38.200 like shedding their skin and hair, it's things they've put 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:41.890 on top of their skin and hair that they shed. 0:09:41.890 --> 0:09:43.870 So then in the they say like they go to 0:09:43.900 --> 0:09:48.010 bed looking crazy, wake up looking amazing because they shed 0:09:48.370 --> 0:09:53.949 this stuff. Yeah, I am absolutely overwhelmed by the amount 0:09:53.980 --> 0:09:57.060 of stuff that these people are putting on and taking 0:09:57.059 --> 0:09:59.490 off and like all power to them. I just I 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:02.579 think about it and I'm like, it's just so unachievable 0:10:02.580 --> 0:10:06.360 for me personally. So particularly if it's like a thing 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:08.670 that most people are saying you should do every, every day. 0:10:08.700 --> 0:10:11.280 Oh my goodness me. So first of all, it's things 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:13.949 include the silk hair bonnet. I mean that's that's fine. 0:10:13.950 --> 0:10:15.570 I think that's quick. If you want to put a 0:10:15.570 --> 0:10:17.670 bonnet on your hair or just have a silk pillowcase. 0:10:17.700 --> 0:10:20.460 Yeah that's fine, I think also with those silk bonnet, 0:10:20.490 --> 0:10:22.290 I think a lot of them are also going over those, 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:26.099 like curling things. They never fucking work. I have tried 0:10:26.100 --> 0:10:31.080 three different brands of the curling. She's talking about heatless curlers, 0:10:31.110 --> 0:10:34.140 heatless curlers and they never, I don't know, it's probably 0:10:34.140 --> 0:10:37.110 just my hair type, but they never, ever work. And 0:10:37.110 --> 0:10:38.730 so every time I see a TikTok, I undo it 0:10:38.730 --> 0:10:40.439 in the morning and it looks fabulous. I just get 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:43.170 so frustrated because I was like, I'm like, that's just 0:10:43.170 --> 0:10:44.970 never been the case for me. And it would actually 0:10:44.970 --> 0:10:47.280 take me less time to do my hair in the 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:50.609 morning with a hot curler or something than it would 0:10:50.610 --> 0:10:52.709 to try and do before bed, and then it fail 0:10:52.710 --> 0:10:54.120 in the morning, and me have to try and fix 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.069 it anyway. I don't get it. I don't get that one. 0:10:56.100 --> 0:10:58.380 I agree, and I do think as well. It's like 0:10:58.380 --> 0:11:01.650 sometimes there's any even when sometimes people like promote like 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:04.560 their airwrap. For example, I have an airwrap, I love it. Yeah. 0:11:04.590 --> 0:11:07.470 When a hairdresser uses an airwrap what it looks like, 0:11:07.500 --> 0:11:09.060 I'm like, oh my God, wow, you can create that 0:11:09.059 --> 0:11:11.550 at home. And then I try and like, no, I can't. Right. 0:11:11.550 --> 0:11:13.380 So I feel like as well with the heatless curls, 0:11:13.380 --> 0:11:15.750 there are some people that pull it out and I'm like, okay, 0:11:15.750 --> 0:11:18.750 I know my hair would not look like that. But 0:11:18.750 --> 0:11:20.429 then there's also like, I feel like as well, the 0:11:20.429 --> 0:11:23.070 effort to put in a heatless curl. It takes quite 0:11:23.100 --> 0:11:26.610 a lot of time. I've also I remember I saw 0:11:26.700 --> 0:11:30.480 Michelle Andrews from shameless talk about it, and I think 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:33.150 it was her stylist did a review of I think 0:11:33.150 --> 0:11:36.600 three of the team reviewed Heatless curls. It was very 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:38.520 honest review, which I loved and I think it was Michelle. 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:41.189 But one person said like, I had the worst sleep 0:11:41.190 --> 0:11:43.949 of my life because it's so uncomfortable. Thing is like 0:11:43.980 --> 0:11:45.660 rock hard in my head and I have a sore 0:11:45.660 --> 0:11:48.420 neck and no nice hair is worth it. And also 0:11:48.450 --> 0:11:51.689 the hair is this. It's okay. Yeah. It's not. Yeah. 0:11:51.690 --> 0:11:54.470 So the hair bonnet over in your right. The hair 0:11:54.470 --> 0:11:56.780 bonnet usually is because of the heatless curlers, which takes 0:11:56.780 --> 0:11:58.910 so much time to put on. The lip stain. Have 0:11:58.910 --> 0:12:01.160 you seen that? The lip stain. People like paint this 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:02.960 thing on their lips and then they peel it off 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:06.290 and your lips, like, look like they have a tint. Essentially, 0:12:06.290 --> 0:12:08.360 just do that in the morning. Those lip stains work 0:12:08.360 --> 0:12:10.730 in like five seconds. It's the shed. Okay, this is 0:12:10.730 --> 0:12:13.550 why I don't. I just don't think it's necessary. Um. 0:12:13.550 --> 0:12:16.370 Mouth tape. Now, I have to say, I actually am 0:12:16.370 --> 0:12:19.219 mouth taping at the moment. It takes five seconds and I. 0:12:19.250 --> 0:12:21.530 But I'm not buying expensive. I've literally go to the chemist. 0:12:21.710 --> 0:12:23.990 This is a hack for you, for mouth tape. You 0:12:23.990 --> 0:12:26.360 go to whatever chemist you go to. And I think 0:12:26.360 --> 0:12:28.640 the brand is like nexavar or something. It's like a, um, 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.550 it's just like a tape thing that you use on wounds, 0:12:31.550 --> 0:12:35.780 but it's a white, very thin tape. Yeah. I don't 0:12:35.780 --> 0:12:38.120 put it across my mouth. I put it from, like, 0:12:38.150 --> 0:12:41.510 my nose to my chin. Yep. Vertically. Okay. And I 0:12:41.510 --> 0:12:42.800 but I don't go all the way through my nose. 0:12:42.830 --> 0:12:44.420 It's just kind of just wanted to. You could. Yeah. 0:12:44.450 --> 0:12:46.219 And you can still kind of talk a tiny bit, 0:12:46.220 --> 0:12:48.110 but what it helps you do is to breathe through 0:12:48.140 --> 0:12:49.910 your nose when you're sleeping, which can help you get 0:12:49.910 --> 0:12:52.310 a deeper sleep, which is scientifically proven. And yes, I 0:12:52.309 --> 0:12:54.350 have to say, I am about that. But that's that's 0:12:54.350 --> 0:12:58.520 the extent that I'm going to chin strap, a chin strap, 0:12:58.550 --> 0:13:02.750 a chin strap, like, what's it strapping to? Like you 0:13:02.750 --> 0:13:03.950 put it on like you put it around. I think 0:13:03.950 --> 0:13:05.930 you put it around your ears and it straps up. 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:07.850 And I think it's meant to, like, lift your face 0:13:07.850 --> 0:13:10.819 or something. I just like, we don't need. Oh, that 0:13:10.820 --> 0:13:12.349 reminds me of, like, the brace that I had to 0:13:12.380 --> 0:13:14.570 wear with my braces. Yeah, but it's not for braces. 0:13:14.570 --> 0:13:19.880 It's for. It's for shedding in the morning. Collagen wrap masks, 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:23.900 wrinkle patches and under eye masks. It's just. Yeah. It's 0:13:23.900 --> 0:13:27.200 just if you. I also think if you were to 0:13:27.230 --> 0:13:29.150 add up, first of all, the amount of time that 0:13:29.150 --> 0:13:32.510 takes to put all of this stuff on, I'm going 0:13:32.540 --> 0:13:35.030 to say, especially with the heatless curls one hour. Yeah. 0:13:35.179 --> 0:13:37.520 And then the cost of this. But that's it. Like 0:13:37.550 --> 0:13:38.960 things like a face mask. You can't use that more 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:42.620 than once. No. So like it just I just feel 0:13:42.620 --> 0:13:45.890 like it has got to another. And I do think 0:13:45.890 --> 0:13:48.320 as well, like another level that is just probably a 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:52.220 bit inaccessible and unnecessary. And I also think on TikTok 0:13:52.220 --> 0:13:55.240 as well. This is what I struggle with with the algorithm, 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:58.599 is that the more shocking the start of the video is, 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.550 the more likely people will watch it, the more likely 0:14:00.550 --> 0:14:03.609 to go viral. So when people are doing this shed, 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:06.520 the more stuff they're peeling off. Like the ASMR stuff. 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:09.730 That's what gets people engaged in the video. And so 0:14:09.730 --> 0:14:12.310 I feel like this trend has taken off, but kind 0:14:12.340 --> 0:14:14.290 of also because of the algorithm, because the more like 0:14:14.290 --> 0:14:16.569 you're shedding off, the more engaging it is, and then 0:14:16.570 --> 0:14:20.050 it's actually become something that is putting more pressure on people. 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:22.450 I just I just think if you don't have time, 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.660 don't do it, don't feel pressure. You don't need to 0:14:25.660 --> 0:14:29.470 be shedding to wake up as like a caterpillar. Like 0:14:29.500 --> 0:14:32.470 it's honestly like it's a caterpillar. They said a caterpillar 0:14:32.470 --> 0:14:34.210 who sheds. No. They turn into a butterfly. They turn 0:14:34.210 --> 0:14:37.570 into a butterfly, a snake, a snake, a snake. But 0:14:37.570 --> 0:14:39.700 they shed, I think they shed once a year after 0:14:39.700 --> 0:14:42.550 they've gone into hibernation. We do not mean to be 0:14:42.550 --> 0:14:45.550 doing this 365 nights of the year. So I just 0:14:45.550 --> 0:14:47.620 want to say that is a trend that I'm not about, 0:14:47.620 --> 0:14:51.310 apart from the mouth tape. Okay, Steffi, you know what's 0:14:51.310 --> 0:14:53.950 funny is I've actually I keep getting targeted by this 0:14:53.950 --> 0:14:56.770 face mask. I mean, I think everyone who follows me 0:14:56.770 --> 0:15:00.310 would know. Now, I am a massive fan of face masks, 0:15:00.310 --> 0:15:03.130 particularly James Cosmetics. I've been wearing them for years. But 0:15:03.130 --> 0:15:04.870 I gotta say, when I think of James Cosmetics, I 0:15:04.870 --> 0:15:09.190 think of you. Not the founder or anything. Just me. Um, 0:15:09.220 --> 0:15:12.340 but it's it's funny. It's like it's the there's this 0:15:12.340 --> 0:15:15.580 brand that keeps targeting me, and I'm so close to 0:15:15.610 --> 0:15:18.490 buying it, but it's a face mask that you wear overnight. 0:15:18.490 --> 0:15:23.680 And the results that people are showing in the morning is, like, unreal. Like, 0:15:23.710 --> 0:15:24.790 are you sure? But how do you know? But I 0:15:24.790 --> 0:15:26.410 wouldn't use it every night. But how do you know? 0:15:26.740 --> 0:15:29.050 Is it reusable? No no no no no no. Like 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.270 it's it would be like a special face mask. Like, 0:15:31.300 --> 0:15:33.850 I know like the next day I'm doing something, but 0:15:33.850 --> 0:15:35.650 you wear it the whole night. You wear it. So 0:15:35.650 --> 0:15:38.110 sleep is a part of the shed process. Yes. Okay, 0:15:38.140 --> 0:15:40.780 so you are. Now I'm about to become. I would 0:15:40.780 --> 0:15:43.090 maybe try this mask, but I wouldn't do it with 0:15:43.090 --> 0:15:45.190 the heatless curlers and the bonnet and the. And the 0:15:45.190 --> 0:15:47.800 lip tape. Is it uncomfortable to sleep with a mask 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:49.810 for the entire night? No, it's like a well, I 0:15:49.810 --> 0:15:51.010 don't know. I haven't slept with it. 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:53.190 I don't know. It looks like it like. 0:15:53.550 --> 0:15:55.350 Goes to your face. Do you know what? Can you 0:15:55.350 --> 0:15:56.280 find it? I honestly haven't. 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:57.750 Even clicked on the ad yet, but I keep getting 0:15:57.780 --> 0:15:58.229 targeted with it. 0:15:58.260 --> 0:16:01.020 Can I just say also what? Steph is a sucker 0:16:01.020 --> 0:16:03.750 for an ad if you. I actually am. 0:16:03.780 --> 0:16:06.210 No I am. I click on that many freaking ads. 0:16:06.240 --> 0:16:06.900 I really do. 0:16:06.930 --> 0:16:08.430 I mean, that's the point of them. But I do 0:16:08.430 --> 0:16:10.890 feel like you make a lot of purchase decisions based 0:16:10.890 --> 0:16:14.130 on who targets you on Instagram and meta. It's true. 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:17.160 So brands listening send your ads to Steph. It's true. 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:18.180 We'll purchase. 0:16:18.660 --> 0:16:21.990 I'm impulse shopper for sure. Um, although you know what? 0:16:21.990 --> 0:16:24.510 I'm an impulse. Put it in my cart. I'm not 0:16:24.510 --> 0:16:27.600 necessarily always purchasing, but I do put it in my 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.330 cart pretty quickly. And then I get the emails. It's 0:16:30.330 --> 0:16:31.650 like you forgot something. You've abandoned. 0:16:31.680 --> 0:16:33.510 Your cart. That's good. That's good. 0:16:33.540 --> 0:16:36.390 So something that I saw, and I'm actually. I'm really. 0:16:36.390 --> 0:16:38.430 So we've been laughing a little bit at this. This 0:16:38.430 --> 0:16:41.190 is again the diet trends that pop up. Like obviously 0:16:41.220 --> 0:16:44.850 we've spoken about our stance on this before. It's not okay. 0:16:44.850 --> 0:16:47.910 And this one I actually saw pop up because I 0:16:47.910 --> 0:16:51.420 40 I 40 I follow body and Soul on Instagram, 0:16:51.420 --> 0:16:53.370 and it was an article that they wrote about a trend, 0:16:53.370 --> 0:16:56.100 and I'm really grateful that this trend hadn't actually popped 0:16:56.100 --> 0:16:59.160 up on my feed, because obviously I'm doing a very 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:03.090 good job at scrolling past market trends, which is great. Um, 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:06.600 but I wondered if you'd heard of it. Um, but 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:11.910 it's it's called. Wait, okra water trend. Okra is a vegetable, 0:17:11.910 --> 0:17:13.440 and it's this water. 0:17:13.470 --> 0:17:14.580 I've never heard of this vegetable. 0:17:14.609 --> 0:17:17.190 Okay, cool. So it's it's it's the way it's described 0:17:17.190 --> 0:17:21.869 is a slimy drink with slimy claims. Body and soul says. 0:17:21.869 --> 0:17:25.230 And what was really good about this article is that 0:17:25.230 --> 0:17:29.220 they got a dietitian to actually talk about the vegetable 0:17:29.220 --> 0:17:30.750 and the drink and like what it would actually do. 0:17:30.780 --> 0:17:33.540 The problem I have with this trend is that people 0:17:33.540 --> 0:17:37.950 are talking about it improving fertility or libido and like 0:17:37.980 --> 0:17:41.820 all this other stuff, and people are drinking like making 0:17:41.820 --> 0:17:47.879 this every day and drinking this slimy, disgusting water. Right. Um, and, 0:17:47.880 --> 0:17:51.060 and talking about all these, like, benefits, etc. the dietitian 0:17:51.060 --> 0:17:53.850 breaks it down and basically says, like, other than it 0:17:53.850 --> 0:17:56.430 being like super high in fiber, which like the vegetable 0:17:56.430 --> 0:17:58.560 is fine to eat in any kind of balanced diet, 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:01.649 but concentrated to that level is an issue. Like, it 0:18:01.650 --> 0:18:04.260 can really like fuck with your digestive system and etc. 0:18:04.260 --> 0:18:06.000 so they have like a lot of problems with this trend, 0:18:06.030 --> 0:18:08.310 just like any other trend that you see, like the 0:18:08.310 --> 0:18:10.050 water with the chia seeds in it and stuff like that, 0:18:10.050 --> 0:18:12.060 there's nothing wrong with chia seeds, okay? There's a lot 0:18:12.060 --> 0:18:14.970 of benefits in chia seeds, but drinking them concentrated in 0:18:14.970 --> 0:18:17.550 a water like every day there's a problem with overconsumption. 0:18:17.580 --> 0:18:20.280 Of the trend was called shower in your body. Yeah 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:21.720 yeah yeah yeah. Internal shower. 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:23.430 So I just wanted to bring it up because again, 0:18:23.430 --> 0:18:27.000 it's just another example of like when you actually get 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:31.590 a dietitian or like scientist behind it to break it down. 0:18:31.619 --> 0:18:34.950 It's like there is there's so many false claims with 0:18:34.950 --> 0:18:37.800 this trend. Do not buy into it. Do not see it. 0:18:37.830 --> 0:18:40.020 Like this trend is like, I don't know if it's 0:18:40.050 --> 0:18:42.810 weight loss, if it's fertility, if it's libido like. And 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:45.060 the thing about it that's really hard with fertility that 0:18:45.060 --> 0:18:48.810 is such a fucking like that is such a delicate 0:18:48.810 --> 0:18:50.869 space that if you are in that and you are 0:18:50.869 --> 0:18:52.820 struggling through that, to see something like, oh, if I 0:18:52.850 --> 0:18:54.800 chop up a vegetable and put it in my water, 0:18:54.830 --> 0:18:57.080 you probably fucking do it because you are so desperate 0:18:57.080 --> 0:19:00.020 for that, right? And that's fair, but so unfair because 0:19:00.020 --> 0:19:03.980 it's not actually proven or scientifically backed. So just again, 0:19:03.980 --> 0:19:08.360 another example of a kind of vegetable diet trend that 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:10.220 is just absolutely bonkers and false. 0:19:10.250 --> 0:19:11.899 I just wanted to fall off my chair while you 0:19:11.930 --> 0:19:14.119 were talking about that. I think as well, what's really 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:17.989 difficult is with and this comes back to the algorithm. 0:19:17.990 --> 0:19:20.990 I mean, it's it's all platforms, but I think TikTok 0:19:20.990 --> 0:19:26.780 has probably exacerbated it quite a bit. But when people 0:19:26.780 --> 0:19:30.020 used to talk about, you know, for example, cacao has 0:19:30.020 --> 0:19:33.109 benefits like it has magnesium in it, it can contribute, 0:19:33.109 --> 0:19:36.409 it can help with muscle soreness, blah, blah things. But 0:19:36.410 --> 0:19:39.650 when a dietician talks about that, it's the language is 0:19:39.650 --> 0:19:43.310 this can help with this this it's not a solution. No. 0:19:43.340 --> 0:19:47.690 And I think what's difficult exactly what's difficult with TikTok 0:19:47.690 --> 0:19:52.240 in particular with the algorithm is using language like it can. 0:19:52.270 --> 0:19:56.470 Some people put in kind of disclaimers around it and 0:19:56.470 --> 0:20:01.450 the like the science backed stuff? That is not a hook. No. 0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:05.230 And what hooks is definitive language around like this will 0:20:05.230 --> 0:20:08.050 improve your fertility, of course. And as you said, Sophie, 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:10.240 like if you're going through and it's also very likely 0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:14.470 if you're going through infertility, your algorithm on TikTok, probably, 0:20:14.470 --> 0:20:16.869 if that's what you're searching and watching, is going to 0:20:16.869 --> 0:20:18.790 be on things that people are saying is going to 0:20:18.790 --> 0:20:21.340 help you. Right. And I think what's hard about it 0:20:21.340 --> 0:20:25.510 is there's obviously no moderation on the platforms around what 0:20:25.540 --> 0:20:28.060 what advice people are giving. So someone could just start 0:20:28.090 --> 0:20:29.890 like whoever started this trend. Someone might have watched one 0:20:29.890 --> 0:20:31.780 video on it, not understood it, and then made another 0:20:31.780 --> 0:20:34.180 video and then that went viral and then etc. but 0:20:34.180 --> 0:20:36.639 I just I think what's really and I'm really struggle 0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:38.770 with this is just the definitive language that we have 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:41.830 that we have to use. But with hooks on TikTok 0:20:41.890 --> 0:20:45.129 like this will help. It's not and it's not. It's 0:20:45.130 --> 0:20:48.370 not true. But that's what hooks people in. And it's 0:20:48.369 --> 0:20:52.390 why that type of content is going viral. And it's 0:20:52.390 --> 0:20:54.670 why we just we don't see much about like, or 0:20:54.670 --> 0:20:57.609 in some cases or whatever it might be because that's 0:20:57.609 --> 0:21:00.310 not a hawk. So it's really, really hard. And I 0:21:00.310 --> 0:21:02.290 just think it's so important to keep in mind when 0:21:02.290 --> 0:21:05.470 you're watching this type of content, because it is very 0:21:05.470 --> 0:21:09.670 likely that the person has, I don't know, just they've 0:21:09.670 --> 0:21:12.790 changed the wording. So it like it is. It has 0:21:12.790 --> 0:21:15.340 that hook, which just makes it really difficult. Now I 0:21:15.340 --> 0:21:17.350 just want to say one positive one before we go, 0:21:17.380 --> 0:21:19.240 because there are some good trends and I want to 0:21:19.270 --> 0:21:21.340 I wonder if you've done this. There's this lady I 0:21:21.340 --> 0:21:25.389 follow on TikTok and she cleans her apartment with the 0:21:25.390 --> 0:21:26.139 timer on. 0:21:26.170 --> 0:21:31.750 You think? You think I'm cleaning my apartment, I know. Anyway, continue. 0:21:32.290 --> 0:21:35.770 And it I it's I actually think it's quite because 0:21:35.770 --> 0:21:38.410 she makes it like a challenge for herself. She hates cleaning. Yeah, 0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:40.479 but and I mean now her whole channel is her 0:21:40.480 --> 0:21:42.910 cleaning her apartment, so maybe she likes it. Yeah, it's 0:21:42.910 --> 0:21:46.960 really big too, but she puts her timer on. Yeah. 0:21:46.990 --> 0:21:48.750 And then she'll be like, okay, I've got one hour. 0:21:48.750 --> 0:21:51.270 Here's what I've got done. Yeah. When you don't go 0:21:51.270 --> 0:21:53.609 on your phone and you clean efficiently, you can actually 0:21:53.609 --> 0:21:56.670 get a lot done in an hour. But I find 0:21:56.670 --> 0:21:59.280 it really interesting. And that's a trend that I can 0:21:59.280 --> 0:22:01.500 get around. I think it's a really good idea. Timed 0:22:01.500 --> 0:22:03.750 yourself cleaning it. I haven't, but I do. I'm like, 0:22:03.780 --> 0:22:04.830 that is a good idea. 0:22:04.830 --> 0:22:07.260 It is a good idea. I think for me it's like, 0:22:07.380 --> 0:22:10.080 I think gamifying cleaning is the only way I can 0:22:10.080 --> 0:22:10.800 literally do it. 0:22:10.800 --> 0:22:12.690 That's why I thought of you. That's why I thought, Steffie, 0:22:12.720 --> 0:22:16.080 it's time you start. You start timing yourself and writing 0:22:16.080 --> 0:22:16.980 out what you've got done. 0:22:17.010 --> 0:22:20.040 Yeah, well it is. Yeah, it's. That's a great idea. 0:22:20.040 --> 0:22:21.630 And maybe I will try it, but no, I have 0:22:21.630 --> 0:22:23.310 never done that. Not to this point. The only thing 0:22:23.310 --> 0:22:25.740 I've come close to is, is the other night I 0:22:25.740 --> 0:22:27.480 really wanted to watch a movie, and I was home 0:22:27.480 --> 0:22:29.160 alone and there was a lot to clean. And I 0:22:29.160 --> 0:22:31.020 knew that if I wanted to watch this movie, I 0:22:31.020 --> 0:22:33.810 had to get my cleaning done within. Yeah. And it 0:22:33.810 --> 0:22:35.850 had to get it done within an hour. Otherwise it 0:22:35.850 --> 0:22:37.200 would have been too late to put a movie on. 0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:39.149 So there was a bit of a time pressure, but 0:22:39.150 --> 0:22:42.180 I didn't necessarily time it. But I did put my 0:22:42.180 --> 0:22:44.219 phone on Do Not Disturb, put it on charge in 0:22:44.220 --> 0:22:46.169 the corner and didn't touch it. I actually missed a 0:22:46.170 --> 0:22:48.570 call from your lovely husband in that time, because it 0:22:48.570 --> 0:22:50.190 was the first time in a long time I haven't 0:22:50.190 --> 0:22:52.169 had my phone on me and I got it done. 0:22:52.170 --> 0:22:53.310 So yes, not. 0:22:53.310 --> 0:22:53.909 Having for an. 0:22:53.910 --> 0:22:56.070 Hour I did, but well, actually I think I'd done 0:22:56.070 --> 0:22:56.790 quicker than that. 0:22:56.790 --> 0:22:59.040 And yeah, I saw on your list was clean out 0:22:59.040 --> 0:23:00.060 the fish tank. Yeah. 0:23:00.060 --> 0:23:02.370 Which it honestly takes five minutes, but it's just annoying. 0:23:02.369 --> 0:23:04.860 Honestly, such a drain. I think I will never have 0:23:04.859 --> 0:23:10.080 a fish tank for that reason. Just another task. Okay, team. 0:23:10.080 --> 0:23:13.320 So any trends that you see that you want us 0:23:13.320 --> 0:23:15.840 to talk about, please send them through. We will share 0:23:15.840 --> 0:23:19.409 our honest thoughts and I like this segment I like it. 0:23:22.680 --> 0:23:27.090 1234 okay Steffi. So the other day I mean this 0:23:27.090 --> 0:23:32.790 is a very social media memory media episode also. It's 0:23:32.790 --> 0:23:37.050 where a lot of the opinionated content comes from, slash content. 0:23:37.050 --> 0:23:38.070 That's where we spend a lot of our time. We 0:23:38.070 --> 0:23:40.170 have thoughts on. So that is why. But the other 0:23:40.170 --> 0:23:43.290 day I was on Instagram and a post from Women's 0:23:43.290 --> 0:23:46.639 Health came up. Women's Health Australia. We'll link it in 0:23:46.640 --> 0:23:48.320 the show notes. We'll link the article in the show 0:23:48.350 --> 0:23:51.230 notes that the post was about, and I was like, 0:23:51.230 --> 0:23:53.600 oh my goodness, Steffy, we have to talk about this 0:23:53.600 --> 0:23:56.870 because I feel like it is something that we don't 0:23:56.900 --> 0:24:00.950 talk about enough. But I do think if we are 0:24:00.950 --> 0:24:03.830 in this position, it takes up a shitload of time 0:24:03.830 --> 0:24:07.970 in our mental space slash load. So someone sent in 0:24:07.970 --> 0:24:10.430 a question to Women's Health asking if she should be 0:24:10.430 --> 0:24:15.139 offended that her partner doesn't orgasm with her. So the 0:24:15.140 --> 0:24:18.590 question was, I've been seeing this guy for a few 0:24:18.590 --> 0:24:21.650 months now and things are going well. We have fun together, 0:24:21.650 --> 0:24:24.530 we communicate well, and I feel like we're really compatible 0:24:24.530 --> 0:24:27.140 in so many ways. But there's something I can't stop 0:24:27.140 --> 0:24:30.260 thinking about. So far, he hasn't had an orgasm during 0:24:30.260 --> 0:24:32.570 sex with me. He says it has nothing to do 0:24:32.570 --> 0:24:34.940 with me, but I can't help feeling like maybe I'm 0:24:34.940 --> 0:24:37.879 not attractive enough or that I'm doing something wrong. I'm 0:24:37.880 --> 0:24:41.210 not super comfortable around sex and this makes things worse. 0:24:41.240 --> 0:24:43.340 It's been hard to talk about, and I don't want 0:24:43.369 --> 0:24:45.859 to make things worse by pushing him to talk about 0:24:45.890 --> 0:24:49.790 it more. But I don't understand what's going on. What 0:24:49.790 --> 0:24:55.190 should I be doing? Yours. Frustrated and confused now as 0:24:55.190 --> 0:24:59.000 I am, Akimi, who is a qualified relationship and intimacy expert, 0:24:59.000 --> 0:25:01.490 commented on this which we will read through. But first 0:25:01.490 --> 0:25:05.389 of all, Steffi, what do you think of this? I feel. 0:25:05.390 --> 0:25:09.650 I feel for this person because I think it's so 0:25:09.650 --> 0:25:14.000 normal and natural. Unfortunately, to jump to a conclusion that 0:25:14.000 --> 0:25:16.250 it's about us. If something like that happens. I mean, 0:25:16.280 --> 0:25:20.600 Josh and I have had a very active sexual life 0:25:20.600 --> 0:25:24.680 together for almost 13 years now, and there has been 0:25:24.680 --> 0:25:30.050 times where he hasn't finished and I instantly have gone, like, 0:25:30.050 --> 0:25:32.300 what am I doing wrong? Or like, is it something 0:25:32.300 --> 0:25:35.750 I'm doing? You just automatically put, even though you are 0:25:35.750 --> 0:25:38.540 comfortable with this person, even at that stage. So I 0:25:38.540 --> 0:25:40.340 wanted to point that out because this is like they've 0:25:40.340 --> 0:25:43.520 just freshly started dating. It sounds like, and she's not 0:25:43.520 --> 0:25:47.109 super confident or like comfortable around sex. So as someone 0:25:47.109 --> 0:25:49.090 who is very comfortable with having sex with a partner, 0:25:49.090 --> 0:25:51.160 you still kind of think like you're married. 0:25:51.190 --> 0:25:52.629 What am I doing? Yeah. And do you think I 0:25:52.630 --> 0:25:55.659 think the number one question which came up here. But 0:25:55.660 --> 0:25:58.600 I feel like that I don't know if this is 0:25:58.600 --> 0:26:01.149 something that males feel. I'm just talking from talking to 0:26:01.180 --> 0:26:03.790 friends and etc. and how I would feel. But I 0:26:03.790 --> 0:26:05.560 think one of the first things we go to is like, 0:26:05.590 --> 0:26:08.620 am I not attractive? Yeah. Like, are you not attracted 0:26:08.619 --> 0:26:10.030 to me anymore? Yeah. 0:26:10.030 --> 0:26:13.060 It's that and it's also just like, am I doing 0:26:13.060 --> 0:26:15.820 a shit job? Like, am I, am I doing something different? 0:26:15.820 --> 0:26:17.650 Am I? Like, do we need to mix it up? 0:26:17.650 --> 0:26:20.050 Is it because we're doing the same thing like and 0:26:20.050 --> 0:26:23.320 I think it's just normal. But I think, I think 0:26:23.320 --> 0:26:26.500 having the conversation about it, which is the hardest part, 0:26:26.530 --> 0:26:30.250 is what always gets us through it, through that time. 0:26:30.250 --> 0:26:32.110 And he'll be honest with me. He'll say, like, I'm 0:26:32.109 --> 0:26:34.630 sorry my head is elsewhere, or like he'll explain what's 0:26:34.630 --> 0:26:36.400 going on. And then I realize, okay, it's got nothing 0:26:36.430 --> 0:26:39.369 to do with me. And I also have to remind 0:26:39.369 --> 0:26:42.550 myself in those moments that there are plenty of times 0:26:42.550 --> 0:26:45.430 that we have sex. And I'm enjoying it, but I'm 0:26:45.430 --> 0:26:47.080 not going to finish. It's just like it's not going 0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:49.030 to happen that day. Whether there's something going on in 0:26:49.030 --> 0:26:51.640 my mind or my body or whatever doesn't mean I'm 0:26:51.640 --> 0:26:53.290 not enjoying it, doesn't mean I don't want to be 0:26:53.290 --> 0:26:55.510 doing it. It's just not going to happen. And that's 0:26:55.510 --> 0:26:57.609 got nothing to do with what he's doing. He could 0:26:57.609 --> 0:27:00.010 be doing a fantastic job and it's just not going 0:27:00.010 --> 0:27:02.109 to happen. And I have to remind myself of those 0:27:02.109 --> 0:27:05.020 moments in in those times because it's just it's something 0:27:05.020 --> 0:27:06.909 that happens. But it is such a I don't know 0:27:06.910 --> 0:27:08.590 why it's so awkward to talk about. 0:27:08.619 --> 0:27:10.540 It's so true. And I think as well, it's like 0:27:10.540 --> 0:27:13.450 in what you just said in this situation, I would 0:27:13.450 --> 0:27:17.410 say 90% of the time we default to it's my fault. 0:27:17.410 --> 0:27:23.470 So as in this situation, as the female you're feeling like, 0:27:23.470 --> 0:27:26.950 or this person is feeling like, oh, he's not attracted 0:27:26.950 --> 0:27:29.560 to me or we don't have that chemistry or whatever, 0:27:29.560 --> 0:27:31.659 am I doing the wrong thing as you just said, right. 0:27:31.750 --> 0:27:34.240 I must be doing a shit job. Yeah, but then 0:27:34.240 --> 0:27:37.660 that person, the other person who isn't able to finish, 0:27:37.660 --> 0:27:39.729 is probably thinking like, oh my goodness, I can't get 0:27:39.730 --> 0:27:43.090 out of my head. How embarrassing. They must think that, like, 0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:45.180 there's it's just so interesting. I feel like there's so 0:27:45.180 --> 0:27:48.840 much shame that we put on ourselves in that situation, 0:27:48.840 --> 0:27:51.900 when it's often not actually to do with us, and 0:27:51.900 --> 0:27:54.300 it's for factors outside of us. And I think that's 0:27:54.330 --> 0:27:57.210 because we we go for someone to blame. Right? It's like, 0:27:57.240 --> 0:27:59.790 and we blame ourselves. And I think that's what's really 0:27:59.790 --> 0:28:03.480 difficult because as we can see in what the relationship 0:28:03.480 --> 0:28:06.149 expert came back with, she said, like some things that 0:28:06.150 --> 0:28:09.659 could be causing it are stress, anxiety and depression. All 0:28:09.660 --> 0:28:13.919 of those things are outside of the control of this 0:28:13.920 --> 0:28:19.950 person that sent in this question in that moment. Exactly right. Medications, again, 0:28:19.980 --> 0:28:23.100 totally out of control. And medication is something that people 0:28:23.100 --> 0:28:25.140 could need. And it might medication can a side effect 0:28:25.140 --> 0:28:28.320 can be impacting your libido or your ability to finish. 0:28:28.320 --> 0:28:30.240 But if you need the medication like that, that is 0:28:30.240 --> 0:28:35.460 what it is, right? Issues within the relationship, physical health conditions, 0:28:35.460 --> 0:28:39.090 trauma or negative sexual experiences. And if that's from the 0:28:39.090 --> 0:28:43.440 past again, yeah, you you can't control that. Right. As 0:28:43.440 --> 0:28:47.730 the new person in the relationship. Overstimulation from other activities 0:28:47.760 --> 0:28:50.550 like porn or masturbating. And I know, like if I, 0:28:50.700 --> 0:28:54.360 I sometimes accidentally put a if you put a vibrator 0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:57.510 on too high and you don't build up to it, 0:28:57.780 --> 0:29:03.420 you literally my clitoris goes completely numb. It's so true. 0:29:03.450 --> 0:29:04.110 Does that happen to you? 0:29:04.140 --> 0:29:05.520 Yeah, yeah. No, it's so true. 0:29:05.550 --> 0:29:07.320 If you accidentally like, you have to ease into it. 0:29:07.320 --> 0:29:09.450 And for some of them, I actually some of my vibrators. 0:29:09.450 --> 0:29:11.310 I can't go to level three because it's just like 0:29:11.310 --> 0:29:12.480 numb straight away. 0:29:12.510 --> 0:29:14.700 Well, where my mind went to with this is like, 0:29:14.730 --> 0:29:16.740 I know that there's been times where Josh has thought 0:29:16.740 --> 0:29:18.540 we weren't going to have sex this day, so he 0:29:18.540 --> 0:29:20.940 might have, like, gone and done the deed himself. And 0:29:20.940 --> 0:29:22.980 then I'm like, suddenly coming home and wanting it. And 0:29:22.980 --> 0:29:24.870 he's like, oh, well, I don't have anything in the 0:29:24.870 --> 0:29:27.780 tank right now. Of course, you know, that's totally fair. 0:29:27.840 --> 0:29:31.080 That's exactly right. It's exactly right. It's again, like something 0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:33.690 that is just out of out of our control or 0:29:33.690 --> 0:29:37.050 fear of pregnancy or STIs. Again, if you are to 0:29:37.050 --> 0:29:43.490 get in the mood. Yeah. You can't be thinking about it. Exactly. Exactly, exactly. Right. 0:29:43.490 --> 0:29:46.790 So I think it's just something that and this is 0:29:46.790 --> 0:29:49.220 obviously fantastic advice, but I just really wanted to talk 0:29:49.220 --> 0:29:51.740 about it because I just feel like we so often 0:29:51.740 --> 0:29:54.950 blame ourselves when, as you said, you need to have 0:29:54.950 --> 0:29:58.040 a conversation about it. And it's there's it's often like 99% 0:29:58.040 --> 0:30:01.760 of the time, nothing to do with you. And there 0:30:01.760 --> 0:30:03.440 shouldn't be any shame about it. No. 0:30:03.440 --> 0:30:04.729 And I think the other thing that we wanted to 0:30:04.730 --> 0:30:08.600 touch on as well with this is because, interestingly, I mean, 0:30:08.600 --> 0:30:13.370 I know in my relationship, if I'm not getting to 0:30:13.400 --> 0:30:15.260 that point of like, maybe it's just not going to 0:30:15.260 --> 0:30:17.930 happen for me in this time. Josh does ask if 0:30:17.930 --> 0:30:19.760 there's anything he can do or whatever. So he also 0:30:19.760 --> 0:30:22.190 does kind of for a second, is it something that 0:30:22.190 --> 0:30:25.100 I'm doing wonders that, and until I tell him like, no, no, no, 0:30:25.130 --> 0:30:27.500 this is my mind is elsewhere or whatever, he can't 0:30:27.500 --> 0:30:29.810 move on from it. But I know, we know and 0:30:29.810 --> 0:30:32.930 we've spoken about the orgasm gap before on here. A 0:30:32.930 --> 0:30:35.810 lot of women don't finish during sex, and whether it's 0:30:35.810 --> 0:30:39.620 because their person that they're having sex with doesn't necessarily care, 0:30:39.650 --> 0:30:42.560 or just they just haven't gone. I don't know what 0:30:42.560 --> 0:30:44.840 it is, but it exists. Right. So we did a 0:30:44.840 --> 0:30:47.030 poll on our Instagram story because we wanted to know 0:30:47.030 --> 0:30:49.430 if there was an orgasm gap in your relationship, because 0:30:49.430 --> 0:30:53.390 I think it's also an important part of this. You 0:30:53.390 --> 0:30:56.030 have every right to to want that for yourself, to 0:30:56.060 --> 0:30:59.780 want that for your partner. Um, and unfortunately for a 0:30:59.780 --> 0:31:02.690 lot of women in heterosexual relationships, there's a huge gap. 0:31:02.720 --> 0:31:07.700 So the poll had the following options. Yes, I orgasm more. Yes, 0:31:07.700 --> 0:31:12.200 my partner orgasm more, orgasms more. No, we orgasm equally 0:31:12.200 --> 0:31:14.300 and then people just wanted to see the results. And 0:31:14.300 --> 0:31:18.590 the results were interesting. So yes, I orgasm more was 0:31:18.590 --> 0:31:22.760 the smallest result at 5%. So knowing that a lot 0:31:22.760 --> 0:31:27.440 of our listeners are women listening. Um, that was quite interesting. Yes, 0:31:27.440 --> 0:31:33.500 my partner orgasms more 38%. No, we orgasm equally 30. 0:31:33.530 --> 0:31:35.060 I was kind of happy to see that. That was 0:31:35.090 --> 0:31:38.030 like pretty close to partner orgasm more. And then just 0:31:38.030 --> 0:31:41.680 wanting to see the results was 27%. So, um, you know, 0:31:41.710 --> 0:31:43.840 a big percentage of people were just curious, which was 0:31:43.840 --> 0:31:45.820 totally fair. Um, but I just wanted to bring that 0:31:45.820 --> 0:31:49.300 up because I think it is important in this conversation 0:31:49.300 --> 0:31:51.490 as well, because I think just going to the point earlier, 0:31:51.490 --> 0:31:54.250 I know this whole question was about their partner not 0:31:54.250 --> 0:31:56.770 finishing as well. But if that's you in your relationship 0:31:56.770 --> 0:31:58.479 and you're the one that's not finishing and there is 0:31:58.480 --> 0:32:01.390 something that's going on, feel okay to talk about it. 0:32:01.420 --> 0:32:04.960 Like feel comfortable to talk about it, um, because you 0:32:04.960 --> 0:32:09.730 both deserve to enjoy your time in the bedroom. Um, 0:32:09.760 --> 0:32:11.890 and I think if it's someone that you're going to 0:32:11.890 --> 0:32:14.560 be regularly having sex with, then you should be able 0:32:14.560 --> 0:32:16.030 to have those conversations. 0:32:16.060 --> 0:32:19.060 I agree. And I wonder too, is that because we 0:32:19.060 --> 0:32:22.600 know the orgasm gap exists, and within that gap is 0:32:22.600 --> 0:32:27.940 women having less orgasms than men in heterosexual relationships. We 0:32:27.940 --> 0:32:32.740 also know that a lot of women genetically can't orgasm 0:32:32.740 --> 0:32:36.100 during sex. I am one of them. Like just from penetration. 0:32:36.100 --> 0:32:39.070 It's not enough for me to orgasm, and that's nothing 0:32:39.100 --> 0:32:41.260 to do with my husband or like, it's just I 0:32:41.260 --> 0:32:46.000 just I can't. Right. So I think the other thing to, 0:32:46.030 --> 0:32:48.490 to talk about as well is just there's a lot 0:32:48.490 --> 0:32:51.430 of women that go without orgasms within sex, but I 0:32:51.430 --> 0:32:53.170 think maybe it's because of movies or just what we've 0:32:53.170 --> 0:32:55.930 grown up to, to kind of believe is that a 0:32:55.930 --> 0:32:58.990 man like for sex to like, finish a man should 0:32:59.020 --> 0:33:01.600 and will. And I think that also puts more pressure 0:33:01.600 --> 0:33:02.980 on this. But I think if you think about it 0:33:03.010 --> 0:33:06.190 like there's been so many times where we've had sex 0:33:06.190 --> 0:33:10.360 and I, I orgasm from like other things and then 0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:12.370 but there's times when I'm like, just just as you 0:33:12.370 --> 0:33:14.650 said before, like, I don't think I am going to today. Yeah. 0:33:14.680 --> 0:33:17.410 And that's that's fine. Like that's okay. It doesn't mean 0:33:17.410 --> 0:33:18.760 I don't love my husband. It doesn't mean we don't 0:33:18.760 --> 0:33:22.180 have great sexual chemistry, have great sex, are attracted to 0:33:22.210 --> 0:33:25.090 each other. And so I think too, it's okay as 0:33:25.090 --> 0:33:28.300 well if your partner if you're in a heterosexual relationship 0:33:28.300 --> 0:33:31.060 and your male partner doesn't orgasm. I just think there's 0:33:31.060 --> 0:33:33.580 so much pressure on like, you know, and it's every movie. 0:33:33.580 --> 0:33:35.830 It's like when the guy orgasms. Well, sometimes in movies 0:33:35.830 --> 0:33:38.200 it's both, but mainly it's just when the guy orgasms 0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:40.980 like that is the signal that sex is over. Yeah, 0:33:41.400 --> 0:33:44.790 but it doesn't. That doesn't have to be the case 0:33:44.790 --> 0:33:46.560 every single time. And I think that puts even more 0:33:46.560 --> 0:33:50.370 pressure on this when it's not this person. Right. It's hard. Yeah, totally. 0:33:50.370 --> 0:33:52.710 And on the guy as well because they probably also 0:33:52.710 --> 0:33:55.260 feel that pressure. Well, unless I finish this, sex isn't over. 0:33:55.260 --> 0:33:57.240 And like, what if I can't then like, is it real? 0:33:57.270 --> 0:34:00.480 Like sex? Which obviously, of course it is. Yeah. Um, 0:34:00.510 --> 0:34:02.490 but yeah, I just think the more we talk about it, 0:34:02.490 --> 0:34:07.230 the better, because sex is not like the movies. Yeah, but. 0:34:10.350 --> 0:34:12.779 What is it? Time for special share. 0:34:13.710 --> 0:34:17.790 Shit. Steffi, what is your special share? 0:34:17.820 --> 0:34:21.360 Okay, my special share is a. Well, it's a book 0:34:21.360 --> 0:34:23.580 I'm reading now, but it's part of a series. Okay, 0:34:23.610 --> 0:34:26.400 so it's kind of the series. I read the first 0:34:26.400 --> 0:34:29.430 book from the series last year, and then I don't 0:34:29.460 --> 0:34:31.920 actually know why I didn't continue it, because I do 0:34:31.920 --> 0:34:32.729 remember really good. 0:34:32.730 --> 0:34:34.380 If you waited a year in between. 0:34:34.800 --> 0:34:37.380 Well, I'm on the third book now, but I enjoyed it. 0:34:37.380 --> 0:34:39.390 But I think I must have got like, I don't know, 0:34:39.390 --> 0:34:40.979 maybe you recommended a book. I think I just went 0:34:40.980 --> 0:34:42.930 out of the series mode, and then I totally forgot 0:34:42.930 --> 0:34:46.350 that I was reading the series, right? Anyway, I. But 0:34:46.350 --> 0:34:48.600 then I remember buying the second and the third book, 0:34:48.630 --> 0:34:50.640 and so it's been sitting on my shelf and I 0:34:50.640 --> 0:34:53.610 finally got through acotar, as everyone knows. Well, not everyone, but. 0:34:53.969 --> 0:34:54.779 If you listen to the. 0:34:54.780 --> 0:34:58.080 Podcast a lot about it. Um, and so I was 0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:01.260 very hesitant to get back into a series, if I'm honest. 0:35:01.260 --> 0:35:03.450 But at the same time, I was like, no, I 0:35:03.450 --> 0:35:06.180 really remember liking it. So maybe this will be different. 0:35:06.180 --> 0:35:09.030 And it's been different and I'm so happy about it. Um, 0:35:09.030 --> 0:35:12.480 so it's the Magnolia Parks universe is what people call 0:35:12.480 --> 0:35:15.180 the series. The first book is Magnolia Parks, the second 0:35:15.180 --> 0:35:18.060 book is Daisy hates, and then the one that I'm 0:35:18.060 --> 0:35:22.200 reading currently, number three is Magnolia Parks The Long Way Home, 0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:24.719 and there's another two to read. So one came out 0:35:24.719 --> 0:35:26.969 this year. There was originally four in the series, and 0:35:26.969 --> 0:35:29.609 now there's five. Does that excite you? That excites me. Okay, amazing. 0:35:29.610 --> 0:35:32.790 I'm already on page. I started reading the other book yesterday, 0:35:32.790 --> 0:35:34.650 and it wasn't like a day where I just sat 0:35:34.680 --> 0:35:36.299 down and read like there was other stuff I was doing, 0:35:36.300 --> 0:35:38.489 and I'm already on page like 150. So like, I'm 0:35:38.489 --> 0:35:42.350 really into this book. Um, and basically, like Daisy hates 0:35:42.350 --> 0:35:46.130 and Magnolia Park. So Daisy hates is like part of 0:35:46.130 --> 0:35:50.690 a gang family. Her and her brother lost their parents. Um, 0:35:50.690 --> 0:35:53.750 I think his dad was a part of, like, gang violence, etc.. 0:35:53.750 --> 0:35:56.960 And but they're very, very wealthy. But they're like gang 0:35:56.960 --> 0:36:00.590 lords kind of family. And she she's just such a 0:36:00.590 --> 0:36:03.380 likable character. No no no no no. And it's based 0:36:03.380 --> 0:36:07.730 in London. Yeah. And then Magnolia Parks is like the 0:36:07.760 --> 0:36:10.520 it girl of London. Like she's in all the papers. 0:36:10.520 --> 0:36:13.520 She's invited to all the parties, all the guys like her, 0:36:13.550 --> 0:36:16.550 like that kind of thing. And they're just they're both 0:36:16.550 --> 0:36:20.210 such interesting characters, different but really interesting. And their love 0:36:20.210 --> 0:36:23.000 interests and like, history and stuff comes into the story 0:36:23.000 --> 0:36:26.719 so much, and you just become obsessed with their partners 0:36:26.719 --> 0:36:29.180 and like, you're wanting it, you're wanting them to work 0:36:29.180 --> 0:36:31.520 it out. I don't know how to explain it. Um, 0:36:31.550 --> 0:36:34.250 but there's just a lot of drama and it's a 0:36:34.250 --> 0:36:36.230 bit over the top because of, like, who they are 0:36:36.230 --> 0:36:39.529 and everything, but I really love it. I really it's 0:36:39.530 --> 0:36:43.009 kind of like Gossip Girl speak like they're from very 0:36:43.010 --> 0:36:48.410 wealthy families and stuff, but not necessarily, like just had 0:36:48.410 --> 0:36:50.690 a wealthy family. Well, Magnolia Parks, I think is a 0:36:50.690 --> 0:36:52.310 bit of a like it girl from a wealthy family. 0:36:52.310 --> 0:36:54.440 But Daisy, it's like the gang lord stuff. So it's 0:36:54.440 --> 0:36:58.009 a little bit like rougher background, but they're both very like, 0:36:58.040 --> 0:36:59.660 I don't know, I think I just, I think you'd 0:36:59.660 --> 0:37:00.110 like it. 0:37:00.110 --> 0:37:02.570 I'm excited because, yeah, I haven't gone into a series 0:37:02.570 --> 0:37:03.560 for a very long time. 0:37:03.590 --> 0:37:06.740 Oh, good. Well, yes, you can borrow my books and, um. Yeah, 0:37:06.739 --> 0:37:08.180 it's just one of those ones I can't put down. 0:37:08.180 --> 0:37:10.520 And I'm. I'm really excited to just, like, keep reading it. 0:37:10.520 --> 0:37:12.410 I'm so excited that there's another two books ahead of me. 0:37:12.410 --> 0:37:12.950 I love. 0:37:12.950 --> 0:37:15.350 It. Thank you. Steffi, what about you? Okay, so mine 0:37:15.350 --> 0:37:19.310 is Dan Kennedy, our amazing master trainer on kick has 0:37:19.310 --> 0:37:24.290 his own brand called unify of some products. 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So if you like, 0:37:58.030 --> 0:38:03.040 if you are really into hydrate not hydrolyte hydrate products, 0:38:03.040 --> 0:38:05.739 which is like a very big growing category at the moment. 0:38:05.739 --> 0:38:10.090 That tastes yummy. Definitely try unify watermelon. Love it. 0:38:10.390 --> 0:38:13.089 Well that's it from us today guys, but we will 0:38:13.090 --> 0:38:16.540 be back in your ears on Wednesday with an episode 0:38:16.540 --> 0:38:18.549 that I think you're going to want to tune into. 0:38:18.580 --> 0:38:21.370 We have opened up in the past about both of 0:38:21.370 --> 0:38:25.689 our experiences with PMS, but we've also heard you guys 0:38:25.690 --> 0:38:28.060 talking in the community, and you've also sent in DMs 0:38:28.060 --> 0:38:31.150 in the past about your experience and wanting to know 0:38:31.150 --> 0:38:35.140 the things like the difference between PMS, PMDD, and just 0:38:35.140 --> 0:38:37.600 kind of what to expect when, why? What's the science 0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:38.170 behind it all? 0:38:38.200 --> 0:38:40.210 Your body. Right. Like, why do I feel like this? 0:38:40.239 --> 0:38:40.510 And why. 0:38:40.510 --> 0:38:43.000 Don't we. It annoys me. Is that, like, why don't 0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:45.310 we already know a lot of this stuff? Like. But 0:38:45.340 --> 0:38:48.160 it's just it is good to have a reminder because unfortunately, 0:38:48.160 --> 0:38:50.020 we didn't grow up with a lot of this information. 0:38:50.020 --> 0:38:53.620 So we had the incredible Hannah Dower on and she 0:38:53.620 --> 0:38:56.259 taught us so much. So I hope you guys enjoy 0:38:56.260 --> 0:38:58.120 that as much as we do. 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We are going to 0:39:19.030 --> 0:39:21.610 take a guess and say that if you listened all 0:39:21.610 --> 0:39:24.100 the way to the end of this episode, you might 0:39:24.100 --> 0:39:26.319 like Kick pod or at least a little bit. 0:39:26.469 --> 0:39:29.290 And if you don't want to wait until the next episode, 0:39:29.320 --> 0:39:32.560 then you're in luck, because we have over 300 episodes 0:39:32.560 --> 0:39:34.600 that you can go back and listen to. 0:39:34.719 --> 0:39:37.170 On Mondays, we catch each other up on our lives. 0:39:37.170 --> 0:39:40.230 And every second Wednesday we publish kiekeboe episodes about all 0:39:40.260 --> 0:39:41.310 things motherhood. 0:39:41.310 --> 0:39:44.190 And then every other Wednesday, we speak with people who 0:39:44.190 --> 0:39:47.040 we love and we think you'll love too. Like Zara 0:39:47.040 --> 0:39:50.520 and Michelle from the shameless podcast. What if at that point, 0:39:50.520 --> 0:39:52.830 someone came and told you in four years you were 0:39:52.830 --> 0:39:56.280 going to have a podcast with 50 million downloads? 0:39:56.280 --> 0:39:59.580 I would tell you it's unfathomable. That's ridiculous. Because if 0:39:59.580 --> 0:40:01.950 I had have had this conversation with myself ten years 0:40:01.950 --> 0:40:03.719 ago to be like, these are all the things you'd get, 0:40:03.719 --> 0:40:05.730 and these are the downsides, but this is still what 0:40:05.730 --> 0:40:08.129 it looks like. I take that any day of the week. 0:40:08.130 --> 0:40:11.820 And the co-host of the Imperfect Podcast, Hugh Van Kahlenberg. 0:40:11.940 --> 0:40:14.490 Our Life is a series of chapters and seasons, and 0:40:14.489 --> 0:40:16.140 what I love about that is every chapter comes to 0:40:16.140 --> 0:40:18.630 an end. And I'm not saying every single person just 0:40:18.630 --> 0:40:20.820 embraced the hardship that you're going through. But for a 0:40:20.820 --> 0:40:22.620 lot of us, the biggest issue we have right now 0:40:22.620 --> 0:40:25.260 is we're spending so much energy wishing we were in 0:40:25.260 --> 0:40:28.319 a different stage when we should just sit back and go. 0:40:28.320 --> 0:40:30.780 There are good parts to this that I will miss eventually. 0:40:31.020 --> 0:40:33.690 So to those names and more in whatever app you're 0:40:33.690 --> 0:40:35.220 listening to this episode in.