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Speaker 1: I think what you're doing in earth right now, I've

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Speaker 2: Father explain with Rolling Loud.

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Speaker 1: that rolling Loud. I spoke it the CEO of Rolling Loud,

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Speaker 1: seeing that real, and said, I love it. Let's see

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Speaker 1: what we could do. And we were the first Christian

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Speaker 1: rap act in history to get booked, to have our

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Speaker 1: up too. I couldn't do none of this without her.

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Speaker 2: Miles Minnick and Tina Minute. I'm the dear future Wacky

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Speaker 2: podcast What's Up?

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Speaker 1: You're serving youth ministry for three years, but at the

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Speaker 1: top of twenty eighteen, I heard very clearly from the Lord.

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Speaker 1: He said, put your all into the music and watch

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Speaker 1: and God showed up emedy at least.

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Speaker 2: How old are y'all? And then how old were y'all?

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Speaker 2: Wh y'all got.

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Speaker 1: Married thirty two and we just hit eleven years married

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Speaker 1: two weeks after we met though, we got engaged.

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Speaker 3: Wow, yeah, he was like, I'm gonna marry you.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I didn't get on one knee, but that

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Speaker 1: She was like, yeah, my biological mom is schizophrenic, and

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Speaker 2: Oh wow.

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Speaker 1: Something just clicked between us to where.

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Speaker 3: We hung out like every single day for a year.

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Speaker 3: We didn't miss today.

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Speaker 2: How did y'all go from I'm going to marry you too?

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Speaker 2: Will you marry me?

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Speaker 1: Fourth of July? I was so broke. I didn't have

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Speaker 3: It wasn't easy from that point on though.

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Speaker 1: They threw us through the ring girl, so I said

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Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna say it, I'll go ahead to say it.

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Speaker 1: I ended up calling the first wedding off. The day

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Speaker 2: What started as a search for understanding became a journey

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Speaker 2: this day, the day I got married November the twenty second,

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Speaker 4: Dear my forever, Forever is a long time. That's how

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Speaker 4: long I'll love you. Those lyrics echoed through every fiber

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Speaker 4: of my soul at the very thought of you.

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Speaker 2: This journey has culminated with you as both the award

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Speaker 2: and the reward of my pursuit of love. You are

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Speaker 2: the award, the honor God placed before me, the recognition

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Speaker 2: of growth, healing, and becoming the man I needed to be.

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Speaker 4: And you are the reward, the blessing given after endurance,

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Speaker 4: the gift promised to the those who refuse to faint.

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Speaker 2: This isn't just our story, this is for all of us.

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Speaker 2: I'm the Terra Saar Whitfield.

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Speaker 4: I'm Ashley are Whitfielders Welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to a differentuture WiFi podcast. I'm your host Litera Sar.

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Speaker 2: we grow together that we can become one. And so

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Speaker 2: today's episode is extremely powerful. This is somebody that my

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Speaker 2: to keendom minded individuals. So, without further ado, welcome to

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Speaker 2: on the Dear Future WIFEI Podcast letter What's up Now?

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Speaker 1: I love how you said, Are you shocking up? What

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Speaker 1: I said, don't lady commit? That's what I don't talk

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Speaker 2: Listen, were y'all ever shocking up? Before y'all got married?

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Speaker 1: Half way?

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Speaker 2: Halfway?

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Speaker 1: Halfway?

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Speaker 2: Halfway house halfway?

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Speaker 1: She was spending night sometimes.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you call that shall.

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Speaker 1: Spend the night will turn into like she was spent

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Speaker 3: Well, No, I moved in like a month before before

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Speaker 3: y'all got married the wedding, and he moved into the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so like it was halfway. You know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 2: To So people don't understand how old are y'all and

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Speaker 2: then how old were y'all wh y'all got married.

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Speaker 1: Ah, you're going to expose us to the world.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, the value thirty two and I'm thirty one

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Speaker 2: and y'all been married for how many years?

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Speaker 1: We just hit eleven years married.

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Speaker 2: On May the second. Second the second they celebrated eleven.

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Speaker 1: Years and I got the same, same ring, same ring.

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Speaker 1: I didn't lose it. I knew is second you show

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Speaker 1: us a second. Yeah, I gave her my mother's ring

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Speaker 1: and she lost my father's ring. But it's okay. You know,

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Speaker 1: for tenth I bought her a new one whatever ring.

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Speaker 5: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 2: So was you to lose the first ring?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It just came a missing one day.

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Speaker 3: It just disappeared vanished, and it has done that before.

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Speaker 3: I'm still waiting for you.

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Speaker 1: Said, I turned up like where my mama marine?

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Speaker 3: But I knew our tenure was coming up, and I

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Speaker 3: was like, we might just have to get tattoos because

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Speaker 3: I don't think you'll trust me with another ring.

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Speaker 2: And he got me another one.

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Speaker 1: Who was on the cruise last week there was giving

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Speaker 2: He was like, no, so let me ask you all

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Speaker 1: No, why is that? I mean I didn't see it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I was raised by a single father. I

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Speaker 2: Really so you transition that quickly? So at what age

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Speaker 1: Sixteen and eighteen?

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Speaker 2: Okay? What happened at sixteen?

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Speaker 1: Sixteen? Was like the encounter like I want to the church,

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Speaker 1: But when I was eighteen, God like just like prove

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Speaker 1: Come here. God is going to use you on social media.

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Speaker 1: God is gonna have you do music for him. You're

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Speaker 2: Was you doing music then?

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Speaker 1: No, not like that, like barely really barely doing music.

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Speaker 2: So when he said you're gonna be doing music for God,

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Speaker 2: You automatically knew it was automatically.

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Speaker 1: Automatically Christian rap because I knew how to rap, Like

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Speaker 1: So he said do a music for God. I'm like,

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Speaker 3: And he said, like to bring his gospel, like he

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Speaker 1: Really yeah, for sure, for sure you at.

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Speaker 2: The same church. Oh so, so were you the one

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Speaker 3: No, I was actually going to a different church, and

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Speaker 3: I was late to my church. One day, I'm on

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Speaker 1: So that's how we that's how we met.

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Speaker 3: That's how we met.

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Speaker 2: And we were eighteen or sixteen when.

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Speaker 1: I was eighteen, when I was eighteen, and so that's

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Speaker 1: like a different a different origin for a different story,

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Speaker 1: but that it was at that church that that happened. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And so this is interesting. I love it because you know,

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Speaker 2: Shout out your mom for actually, what's her name, Valerie, Valerie,

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Speaker 2: I salute you, Queen. That is absolutely powerful to take

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Speaker 3: What was so funny because at that time, she said, like,

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Speaker 5: How old were you when she adopted you?

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Speaker 3: I was eight, So I came to her when I

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Speaker 2: Mm mmm mm hmmm. It's beautiful, I'd give emotional So

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Speaker 2: I'm going pivot because because I love when you said that,

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Speaker 3: We would have never.

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Speaker 2: You know, with the police and Miles past, I don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he would have been at Hilltop Richmond.

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Speaker 2: And that's interesting how God just works it out for

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Speaker 2: because you didn't have one where you like, I don't

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Speaker 3: I think being raised by single women, there was a

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Speaker 3: not like marriage in my adopted side of the family. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I told her that I was like, I hadn't met

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Speaker 3: Miles had no Well, we went to the same high school,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, why did you avoid him?

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Speaker 3: He was very ghetto? Oh, my god, riots, I guess,

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Speaker 1: To stary clear for me. I didn't even know she

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Speaker 1: It wasn't just me, it was me and a whole

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Speaker 2: And so y'all went to the same high school. You

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Speaker 3: She support her crazy faith? She just was like really,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if that's what you want.

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Speaker 2: Then you wasn't thinking about marriage at all. And so

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Speaker 2: what did you instantly start changing? At eighteen? Did you

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Speaker 1: Ooh, big transition process for sure. But I had mentors

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Speaker 3: Having like a somewhat covering that was pretty cool.

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Speaker 5: No wow, yeah.

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Speaker 3: He was like I'm going to marry you.

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Speaker 1: Well yeah, I didn't get on one knee. But that

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Speaker 5: I named it and claimed, wait, so what were you

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Speaker 3: Our first interaction was that day I got off the

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Speaker 1: But I took that like, Okay, she's feeling what I'm feeling.

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Speaker 3: It was literally one of those.

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Speaker 1: Literally, and he.

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Speaker 2: Said, two weeks later, you just you told her that

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Speaker 3: It was some time because I was still in that

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Speaker 1: I'm like what about me, Like, but don't don't skip

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Speaker 1: So we go to Dennis. He said, like I said, enjoyed.

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Speaker 1: I'm in my head like I gotta get her number,

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Speaker 1: oh my god.

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00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:48,119
Speaker 3: He's being serious though, like he would my friend had

440
00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:48,440
Speaker 3: a car.

441
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:52,240
Speaker 1: Didn't even say bye.

442
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 6: Like I just met him that day. We were just

443
00:22:55,600 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 6: hanging out. It's so no wait wait.

444
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:07,160
Speaker 3: Because he came out and I watched him as we're

445
00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:11,120
Speaker 3: driving past that face. He literally looked at us as

446
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:15,879
Speaker 3: we drove past.

447
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 1: When you know you know, so that day I called

448
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:24,639
Speaker 1: him our mutual friend. I'm like, bro, I know you

449
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 1: got her number, Can you like send me her number?

450
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:30,120
Speaker 1: I want to talk to her. And he was like, no, no, no,

451
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: stay away from Tina. You are toxic. You are no

452
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:37,399
Speaker 1: good for her. She's a good girl and she's already

453
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 1: in a relationship. Stay away from her.

454
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,159
Speaker 3: That guy was trying to talk to me.

455
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:52,640
Speaker 1: You are so sisty, and I would say your name

456
00:23:52,760 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: to turn to block our destiny.

457
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:05,360
Speaker 7: Man, but but he done brought back memory.

458
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:11,880
Speaker 1: But that day, that was August twelfth, twenty twelve. Come on, yeah,

459
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,840
Speaker 1: a twelve twelve. I prayed that day. When I got home,

460
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 1: I said, God, if it is in your will for

461
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:22,560
Speaker 1: me to meet her again, make it happen. I'll give

462
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,679
Speaker 1: it to you because bros hating.

463
00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 2: Loki Loky, I love you to hear him.

464
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,399
Speaker 1: And then it's something about you and cars like you

465
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: were just like rid to Denny's. Bruh had a call.

466
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: I almost said his name. He had a call. He

467
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,840
Speaker 1: took you home. So I prayed the prayer. A week

468
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 1: or so after, I post a status on Facebook. Shout

469
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: out on Facebook users. Man post the status on Facebook,

470
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,200
Speaker 1: I said, man, I always applied for my college classes,

471
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: so late hahaha, headed up there today she comments, I.

472
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:03,240
Speaker 3: Was going up there the same day.

473
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,640
Speaker 2: I need the same.

474
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:09,600
Speaker 1: School community college. Yeah, in the Bay. So she was like,

475
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,160
Speaker 1: can you give me your ride to the college?

476
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 2: Wow?

477
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 3: Wow?

478
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 1: And so I was like, God, is this you? I

479
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: don't know why it took me. It took me hours

480
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: to like.

481
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 3: Actually three hours late.

482
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: I was like, because Brud told me to leave her alone.

483
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 1: Maybe I am no good for her?

484
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 2: No, this is God.

485
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: I was really like back and forth, like one of my.

486
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 2: I need to go to school. I need to go.

487
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:41,159
Speaker 1: But that was the day that changed our lives forever.

488
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 1: We spent the entire day together and literally like I

489
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,639
Speaker 1: had a checklist for what I wanted in a woman,

490
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: and that day revealed to me that she had everything

491
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 1: on the list. I had some weird things on the

492
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,439
Speaker 1: list too, like I want a girl that's down to

493
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 1: go to the barbershop with me, you know, And she

494
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,679
Speaker 1: was like, I'll go to the shop with you. I'm like,

495
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:05,439
Speaker 1: what you will? And just like little stuff like that,

496
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, who are you. But one of the

497
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 1: things that set out to me the most we went

498
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 1: to the church that night to the youth group and

499
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:18,119
Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, my biological mom is schizophrenic. And

500
00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,240
Speaker 1: I said, I never met another person who had the

501
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: same story as me.

502
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 2: Oh wow, Like and I.

503
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:25,440
Speaker 1: Said, who are you?

504
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 2: Like? Wow?

505
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 1: And then this just something just clicked between us to

506
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: where we stayed. We were together every.

507
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 3: Day, we hung out like every single day for a year.

508
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 3: We didn't miss a day.

509
00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: Wow.

510
00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 1: Literally, And so I said, like when you know, you know,

511
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 1: two to three weeks after that, after college, I said, Yo,

512
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to marry you.

513
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,480
Speaker 2: Here it is a guy, you have a you have

514
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 2: a child at the time, right, and how was your

515
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 2: child at that time?

516
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 1: Three?

517
00:26:56,520 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 2: And so you went from that being a quote unquote

518
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 2: baby daddy by statistics to saying I'm gonna marry this woman.

519
00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 2: I know that transition had to be extremely challenging co parenting,

520
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,919
Speaker 2: because I don't think baby Mama was like you're just

521
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 2: gonna marry this woman or did you keep those those

522
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 2: situations separate.

523
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 1: So so it's beautiful now. Initially they still see me

524
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: when I say that, I mean like that side of

525
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 1: the family still see me as little miles from the streets. Yeah,

526
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 1: and so it took some time for me to prove

527
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:34,159
Speaker 1: you know that you can change that I'm responsible and

528
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: all of that. But but I say, a year or

529
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 1: two into it is like co parenting turn into something beautiful. Yeah,

530
00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:51,120
Speaker 1: Disney laying together, holidays together, like we watching her kids,

531
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:52,439
Speaker 1: you know what I mean.

532
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 2: Just one big happy family now in a way.

533
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:01,000
Speaker 3: Her kids and our kids all consider them, was like siblings.

534
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 2: That's good. Yeah, that's good. It took about two years

535
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 2: for that to happen.

536
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,680
Speaker 3: It took longer. It took I mean the fifty to

537
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 3: fifty custody happened four.

538
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 1: Years later, fifty fifty custody.

539
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: But they started to make some headway about two years in.

540
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So let's go back to how did

541
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 2: y'all go from I'm going to marry you too? Will

542
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 2: you marry me?

543
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 1: Fourth of July in Fairfield, California, seven oh seven? Say backwards.

544
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: I was so broke. I didn't have a ring, but

545
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 1: I had a knee to get on. I had a

546
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 1: knee to get on, and we have five ranks in

547
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 1: the sky.

548
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 7: You know.

549
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 1: I had a movie theater job. I couldn't afford to

550
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 1: do what I wanted to do, got on one knee,

551
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 1: proposed Did I give you something? Though? I don't even remember,

552
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: but you remember the moment yeah, yeah, yeah, and she

553
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: said yes, it was already yes, but like just doing

554
00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: that like made it official. And you had everybody around.

555
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my god, look at you. Oh

556
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: so it was it was official.

557
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 2: He said, So at that point, did you talk to

558
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 2: her mom? Did you get her blessing? And you just

559
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 2: said I'm gonna just go for it.

560
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: I was talking to her spiritual covering, oh, the Oakland

561
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: and librarian. Yeah, and they said, what are you going

562
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 1: to do with my delta?

563
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 3: Like they it was. It wasn't easy from that point

564
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 3: on though, like marriage counseling, getting better jobs, like getting consistent.

565
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 1: Listen, they threw us through the ringer. The ringer, I'll

566
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 1: go ahead and tell the sty I said, I wasn't

567
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: gonna say it. I'll go ahead and say it. So

568
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: so we met August twelfth, twenty twelve. We plan to

569
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: get married August twelfth, twenty thirteen, and everything was playing.

570
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 1: Everything was set up. But through the marriage counseling, through

571
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 1: the mentorship that we got, I ended up calling the

572
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,120
Speaker 1: first wedding off the day of the wedding, the day

573
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,959
Speaker 1: of the morning before the morning of. I was just

574
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: I just felt, I'm like, I just don't feel like

575
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: as a man that I was ready to cover her.

576
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: I didn't have the right job, the right income. I

577
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 1: was still living at my dad's house, and our reception

578
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 1: was going to be at the y m c A

579
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: and South Richmond in the hood, like like y'all seen

580
00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: the movie Coach Carter over there, Okay, And I'm like, she,

581
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: I want to do better for her. She deserves better.

582
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: Let's let's wait on it. And that that ended up

583
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: being something crazy?

584
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 2: How did you tell her that? You told that the

585
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 2: morning of I did? How do you say that?

586
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 1: Were you.

587
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 3: Okay?

588
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 2: And then what did you say?

589
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 3: I was mad because you didn't.

590
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 2: Care about all that? Did you all the finances?

591
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 3: We were just two young kids in like, we weren't

592
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 3: thinking about all the extra like we just wanted to

593
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 3: be together. In hindsight, it was good. It allowed us

594
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 3: to really mature and get to a better place. And

595
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 3: I have a lot better tools coming into marriage rather

596
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 3: than just a feeling.

597
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 2: But you would have been nineteen, then, wouldn't you prophesied

598
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 2: better day?

599
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 3: I would have been eighteen turning nineteen.

600
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 2: Okay, because because you're younger, you're you're younger than him. Okay, Yeah,

601
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 2: and so then you were mad. At first, I was mad,

602
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 2: but you were saying, I'm still gonna stay with you.

603
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 2: We're just not gonna get married this soon, break it up, and.

604
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 3: I blocked him for days.

605
00:31:55,760 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: It was like one one week period was rough, extremely rough.

606
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why it was rough too, her

607
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: biological mom was going to attend the wedding and she

608
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: found out it wasn't gonna happen, and she was like, oh,

609
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:16,800
Speaker 1: well this is you know, I sober it up today

610
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 1: for you to come to the wedding, and then the

611
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 1: next day she passed away.

612
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 3: Mm hmmm, what a way to go.

613
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 2: Wow.

614
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 3: I'm like, Lord, I'm like mourning two different things.

615
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, my gosh.

616
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, Lord, why And then when I say she

617
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: was in my age, she was definitely my I'm thinking

618
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 1: it's over. I'm thinking it's done. Deal, Like I missed

619
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:45,160
Speaker 1: everything up, But.

620
00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 2: You didn't know the mom passed away at this point, right.

621
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: I found out. I forgot who told me. I think

622
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: it was it was Valerie who told me, but I

623
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: knew she was going through it, and I was just

624
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 1: just in my head, like what have I done? You know? It?

625
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 1: Beat myself up about it. But her Valerie, her her

626
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: adopted mom, was like assisting me in like getting her back.

627
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 2: Work. Why.

628
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 1: She was like, look, go to this hotel, this room number,

629
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: Go get your girl. She said that, yeah, like you

630
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 1: need to go. When I tell you, I sped to Oakland, California,

631
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 1: I broke every speed limit. This was like five days after.

632
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 1: Because I was texting her, she was ignoring me. And

633
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: the funny thing is, it's like a movie. Right when

634
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 1: I was getting ready to knock on the door, that's

635
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 1: when she texted me back. Finally, so she was That's

636
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 1: when she sent me where she was. And so soon

637
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 1: as she texted.

638
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 2: I knocked, she said.

639
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: So fast. I'm like listen, y'all. I just you know,

640
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 1: sometimes you know, she gotta, you know, answer the call

641
00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: just coming.

642
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 3: He teleported.

643
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 1: So we we embraced heavily. We mourned, and we we

644
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 1: just renewed the understanding of our commitment, like this is

645
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: still going to happen.

646
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:16,239
Speaker 3: At that time, he felt so bad. He was like,

647
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 3: I'll go to marry you right now. And I'm like,

648
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:26,879
Speaker 3: noes down, now, you don't have to work.

649
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 1: I remember that scene. She made me work. The bishop

650
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: made me work. The minaces made me work. You made

651
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 1: me work.

652
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it worked out be hindsight.

653
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:40,400
Speaker 1: I said, Okay, I'm gonna lead this movie theater job.

654
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a job at Wells Fargo. Okay, you

655
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I'm gonna level up completely.

656
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 1: And that's what I had to do, you know.

657
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 5: And you mentioned you left the streets behind, So when

658
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:54,560
Speaker 5: was When was that?

659
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 1: Like?

660
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 2: When did you?

661
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 5: And how how was that? Because I know there's a

662
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 5: lot of young men that get in a world that

663
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 5: they don't know how to get out of. How was that?

664
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 1: What was that?

665
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 5: Process?

666
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: Literally? Me meeting her was my one way ticket out

667
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:14,960
Speaker 1: of it. It's like God replaced my friend group with her.

668
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:19,319
Speaker 1: So I met her and then for two weeks we

669
00:35:19,520 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 1: co mingled together like she would be around me and

670
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,480
Speaker 1: my hood friends. But then one day we went to

671
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:28,879
Speaker 1: a house party in Antioch that my friends through and

672
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: it was the most ratchettest ghetto party I've ever seen

673
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 1: in my life. And people are trying to like touch

674
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:35,839
Speaker 1: on her and get on, you know what I'm saying,

675
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 1: how at her? And so I'm like, hold on, hold on,

676
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: you know, it almost turned into an incident, and I'm like, man,

677
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,800
Speaker 1: this ain't the kind of life that I want to

678
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 1: be around, to have my girl around. And then by

679
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: me having that kind of mentality, it causing immediate ways

680
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 1: between me and that group. You think you better than us?

681
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 1: Now you think you man, blump, you didn't distracks and

682
00:35:57,480 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: all kind of stuff coming from them. I'm like, okay, God, Like,

683
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:05,319
Speaker 1: it was obviously the working in the Holy Spirit, you know,

684
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 1: to just lead me into the direction that him and

685
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: she was trying to lead me into. And so that's

686
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 1: what led to that prayer. God, if you're real, speak

687
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 1: to me at church where he impacted me at eighteen.

688
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:21,240
Speaker 2: That's good. So when y'all got back together, that y'all

689
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 2: put the date on again or were you just winning

690
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 2: her approval before a date was solidified.

691
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,879
Speaker 1: I want her approval. But it took about six months

692
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: to find the date.

693
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:36,359
Speaker 3: It took a year. It's a good year because it

694
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 3: was a year and a half and we had set

695
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 3: the date six.

696
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 1: Months prior, uh May second. What I didn't know was

697
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,919
Speaker 1: that was the day of the Mayweather Pack y'all fight,

698
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 1: and so our a lot of our friends and family

699
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: didn't come because of the fight.

700
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 2: I'm like, y'all.

701
00:36:55,600 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: So the fakest family and friend seen, but the one

702
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 1: the ones who mattered came and we had a beautiful wedding.

703
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 3: It's much better than what it would have been the

704
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 3: first time.

705
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 1: And I told you second, I'll tell you what. I've

706
00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: never seen somebody cry without crying before in my life

707
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 1: until that day. She was walking down the aisle. I'm weeping,

708
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:29,360
Speaker 1: gnashing of teeth, I'm weeping. I'm weeping in front of everybody.

709
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 1: And she's like, she.

710
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 2: Didn't want to make her makeup mess.

711
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it was no tears. I'm like, do you

712
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 1: really feel something else?

713
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 3: Are you taking okay?

714
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: Are you balling internally? Yeah?

715
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 2: It's better be real.

716
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: That's her explanation.

717
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 3: I showed up.

718
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 1: I can't earn your trust yet, Like you don't you

719
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, but it's beautiful. And we

720
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: was two up and coming kids from the hood. We

721
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: had a little honeymoon to ins and out of Mexico, a.

722
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:11,800
Speaker 3: Carnival, cre carnival.

723
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 5: So what are some of the things you mentioned your

724
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 5: oversight and your bishop. What are some of the like

725
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 5: tangible things, because we get a lot of young men

726
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 5: who are like man I don't know what steps it

727
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:28,399
Speaker 5: takes to you know, become a husband, Like, what are

728
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 5: some of the things that they actually were asking you

729
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 5: to do besides the job I know you got.

730
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 1: You know, well definitely, you know, being a provider, protector,

731
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: and a priest. You know, what are you what are

732
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: you doing to put yourself in a position to cover

733
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 1: her in those three ways? You know, do you have

734
00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:48,680
Speaker 1: health insurance? Do you have income coming in? And then

735
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 1: are you spiritually mature enough to lead her? You know,

736
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 1: do you know how to pray for her? Do you

737
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 1: know how to lead her in scripture? Do you know

738
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,799
Speaker 1: how to be that head in that way? And then

739
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: and then you know, are you down to die for

740
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 1: her if it came down to it? And so those

741
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 1: kind of key principles they instilled in me heavily. And

742
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: then even you know, looking at Adam and Eve, you know,

743
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: God sent Eve to the garden when a place was prepared,

744
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: you know, after Adam had his rhythm going, he had

745
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:23,120
Speaker 1: his thing, he had to stew it over intact. Then

746
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: Eve came, you know, it wasn't you know the other

747
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 1: way around. And so I had to prepare a place

748
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 1: you know in my heart and naturally to be ready

749
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 1: for her.

750
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 5: That's so good.

751
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 2: Did you have what were they teach you.

752
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 3: To hold them to?

753
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: That?

754
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:42,839
Speaker 2: For real?

755
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 1: Bro? It was rough. Oh we ain't make it eleven

756
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 1: years for nothing, man. No.

757
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 3: But also learning like how to submit, like when you

758
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 3: grew up by a single black woman, like you are

759
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: the head of the home, that everything like it's may

760
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 3: make it happen. So that was very difficult, and Miles

761
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 3: a few times over the years had to be like

762
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 3: you're not Valerie like simmer down, but like just learning

763
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 3: how to submit and you know how to be one

764
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 3: and we're not two individuals, but you know, two people

765
00:40:29,239 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 3: coming together as one and what does that look like?

766
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 3: And even like parenting, like what does that look like?

767
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 3: Because we're coming into a marriage as parents now, and

768
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 3: how do we build that, how do we create a

769
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 3: safe space for our oldest Like those kind of things

770
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 3: I think definitely prepared us.

771
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,240
Speaker 5: And when did you guys have your first child together?

772
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 3: I had a bump on our one year wedding anniversary.

773
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 2: Time.

774
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 3: Our son will be ten in September.

775
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:00,919
Speaker 1: Married eleven years.

776
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And so did y'all talk about you know,

777
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 2: having like did y'all say, hey, we want to have

778
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,760
Speaker 2: three kids, want to have four kids? That you'll have discussion.

779
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 3: We didn't say how many. We just said we would

780
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 3: wait five years to have the first kid.

781
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, pot that workout.

782
00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, I mean we had we had Nea Mayah,

783
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 1: and we waited four years until the next one.

784
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 2: Okay, y'all waited for It was chilling a.

785
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 3: Little bit, and then we thought we were done with

786
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 3: him Jaden because he was a twenty twenty baby too

787
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 3: pandemic hardist pregnancy pandemic. Like I'm like, all right, we

788
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 3: got a girl, two boys, but I really felt the

789
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:41,240
Speaker 3: urge to have.

790
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:43,439
Speaker 1: A girl or like another one.

791
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I came into the picture when I oldest

792
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 3: was three and she wasn't fifty to fifty with us

793
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 3: till she was seven. I was like, I've never had

794
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 3: that baby girl experience. And I just was like, as

795
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 3: much as I couldn't fathom going through another rough pregnancy,

796
00:41:58,040 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 3: and I was like, at the end of it, it's

797
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 3: it like I can suffer for this amount of time

798
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 3: to have that, And I was like, lo, please let

799
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:07,160
Speaker 3: it be a girl.

800
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 2: I'm like so rough.

801
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 3: Well one it being COVID that was hard, but like

802
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 3: I broke my foot early on, like ten weeks pregnant.

803
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 3: I was in the hospital, like getting bandaged up by myself,

804
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:26,800
Speaker 3: like I couldn't have anyone there, really really really Oh.

805
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:30,359
Speaker 3: I was so sick the entire time, like couldn't keep

806
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 3: down food. Whereas like I had some morning sickness with

807
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 3: my first, but my second, like it tore me up.

808
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: She was sick every day, like nine months down.

809
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 3: Bad acid reflux so bad that I was hospitalized. Like

810
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:44,879
Speaker 3: it was tearing me up.

811
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:47,319
Speaker 1: I was like, let's do it again.

812
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, it took me a while, but I was like,

813
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 3: but I have my son. After all that, I have

814
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 3: my son and I'm still here, I really want a girl.

815
00:42:57,640 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 3: I could do it again.

816
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,799
Speaker 1: She really wanted a girl that was a gamble though.

817
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah that.

818
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm gonna cry either way, girl or boy.

819
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 1: So cears of joy because it was a girl. If

820
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 1: it was a boy, she was, Yeah, I.

821
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 3: Would have been happy after a while.

822
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 1: But after three young boys, know that.

823
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 3: We had a girl.

824
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 2: Look at god.

825
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:22,319
Speaker 1: Yeah.

826
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 5: So how long after when you guys got married, did

827
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:28,319
Speaker 5: you start your kind of music? Well, I know you

828
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:31,280
Speaker 5: were already doing music, but like what we know today,

829
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:32,400
Speaker 5: what was that journey.

830
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:35,760
Speaker 1: Like after we got married, we immediately became youth pastors.

831
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 1: Really yeah, our business was like it's time and then

832
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 1: and so. But even like on the side, I was

833
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 1: doing music at home because full time banker, full time

834
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 1: youth pastor. So at night I would like create and

835
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 1: I would do songs for the church for the youth ministry,

836
00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 1: like to draw in the inner city kids.

837
00:43:58,280 --> 00:43:59,240
Speaker 2: Just make your own beats.

838
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So it.

839
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 3: Wasn't really pursuing it like full time at the time.

840
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:07,320
Speaker 3: It was on the side for the ministry.

841
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 1: But I never stopped doing it, but I was more

842
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 1: so doing it for the church, uh huh. So we

843
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 1: were serving youth ministry for three years. But at the

844
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 1: top of twenty eighteen, I heard very clearly from the Lord.

845
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: He said, put your all into the music and watch

846
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: what I do with it. And so we gave our

847
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: bishop one more year for us to lead the youth ministry,

848
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: and we raised up new leaders and then I went

849
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: full fledged. And God showed up immediately with the music.

850
00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 2: Immediately was his first thing that he did to reveal

851
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 2: himself that he was in it.

852
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 1: So that was January when I heard him say that.

853
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 1: And in that same month, I got booked at the

854
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 1: Non Quota Awards. This is the hip hop award ceremony

855
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 1: in the Bay Area, the most ratchet turned up thing

856
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 1: you could be at. Everybody in there smoking tworking turf

857
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 1: like that trip. And they booked me as a Christian rapper.

858
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 1: Let's go yeah to perform here. I said, Okay, I'll

859
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 1: come from this. I know how to operating this. You

860
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, ready, and they know me because

861
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,320
Speaker 1: of what I used to do. Let's get a little Bailey.

862
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 1: So they used to call me, get a little Bailly

863
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 1: perform in the gospel rap. And so I came, Uh,

864
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 1: it was my time to perform, and in the middle

865
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: of my set, the music gets cut off coincidentally, right.

866
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:32,959
Speaker 1: I don't know if somebody was hating, if the devil

867
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 1: was like cut them off or like or a difficulty,

868
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 1: but my Michae was still on. And so instead of

869
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: me panicking like man yo, trippy tripping or whatever, I

870
00:45:41,800 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 1: freestyle a chorus. This chorus was devil want to run

871
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 1: up on me?

872
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 2: Is bad?

873
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: God on my side? God is my dad? That the

874
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,360
Speaker 1: devil want to run up on me? It's back And

875
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 1: the whole theater went stupid. They went crazy shaking their dream.

876
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 1: Somebody recorded it. It went viral on Facebook. Wow, and

877
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 1: that gave me a Christian rap career immediately.

878
00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:08,680
Speaker 2: Wow, the first.

879
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:14,360
Speaker 1: Month in a secular space, that happened. You new mainstream

880
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: for real. I said, okay, God, you are serious. And

881
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 1: then I turned that chorus into a song. And that

882
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 1: song carried me up and down the West Coast. I

883
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: was getting booked ever reware at conferences, churches, juneteenths like

884
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 1: everything with that one song. And we just carried on,

885
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: carried on with that.

886
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 5: And so how did the church, because we know some

887
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 5: people like more traditional you know church church music or

888
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 5: traditional songs, hymns, that sort of thing. How what kind

889
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:57,200
Speaker 5: of like opposition did you face? Because I know when

890
00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 5: I started, when I came up Kirk Franklin at for

891
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 5: it was like wait, we were trying to dance to stop.

892
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I heard the story, you know.

893
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 5: So how how were you received and what opposition did

894
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,839
Speaker 5: you or are you experienced.

895
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,319
Speaker 1: So similar to what Kirk was going through. But I

896
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 1: will say now the church has warmed up to this

897
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 1: style more than the nineties, I would say, but there

898
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:28,760
Speaker 1: still is a lot of opposition for sure, even yesterday

899
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:31,200
Speaker 1: I did a post about a comment somebody left it

900
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:34,919
Speaker 1: says worship shouldn't look like a rap concert, and then.

901
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 2: You dropped a scene from your concert.

902
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, are we gonna start putting God in the box?

903
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 3: You know?

904
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:44,760
Speaker 1: Because people give their lives to Jesus at my concerts,

905
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 1: they turn up, but we turn them up. You feel

906
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, and so but God bless them. We

907
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:53,760
Speaker 1: pray for them. But I'm just encouraged by who actually

908
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 1: is getting it.

909
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 2: You know.

910
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 1: It's it's a lot of people that's leaning into it,

911
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 1: and so we want to lead back into Him and

912
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: just give him Jesus.

913
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:04,439
Speaker 2: What kind of testimonies have you heard from? I want

914
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,440
Speaker 2: you to give me a couple of testimonies of somebody

915
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 2: that saw you on social media, came your concert, and

916
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 2: then how did been experiencing what a miles minute concert

917
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 2: did to change their life?

918
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: Oh, we hear it all the time. Even yesterday in

919
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 1: San Antonio, somebody said, your song Sober helped me and

920
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: my wife get off of drugs and alcohol. We was

921
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:31,439
Speaker 1: on cocaine heavy. Seeing your boldness seem a God did

922
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 1: for you let us know that we could do it.

923
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 1: And today is our one year anniversary of Sobriety Wow

924
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 1: and became deo concert. I said, come on somebody, And

925
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: I was in Hollywood a couple months ago all Star Weekend.

926
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:51,799
Speaker 1: This this young lady, Oh my goodness, Yo, I'm about

927
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:55,319
Speaker 1: to God is so good. So there's a there's a

928
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 1: DJ named DJ Head. He's a prominent figure in LA

929
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 1: one of our men tours. He's seen me come to

930
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 1: the event. He's like, oh, come here, come here, I

931
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 1: gotta tell you something. The person that used to baptize

932
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 1: all of these famous singers into darkness through sacrificial worship,

933
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:18,800
Speaker 1: cutting animals, throats and all kinds of stuff. Broh, she's

934
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 1: here at this event. She approached me and thanked me

935
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:26,880
Speaker 1: for promoting your music, because this person said, because of

936
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 1: DJ Head promoting Miles Minnick's music, I gave my life

937
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,919
Speaker 1: to Jesus. I'm not cutting animal throats no more. I'm

938
00:49:33,920 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 1: not baptizing myself in blood no more. Now I got

939
00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 1: baptized in the living water, in living watch her and

940
00:49:42,960 --> 00:49:45,920
Speaker 1: I met her that night and she confirmed it. She

941
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 1: confirmed it. And if I were to tell you some

942
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: of the names that she was like, if it's hot singers, right, now,

943
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,760
Speaker 1: and I would. I would hear rumors about the stuff

944
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:58,440
Speaker 1: they would do, because they would do that stuff in

945
00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:00,840
Speaker 1: Antioch where I used to live. I'm like, so and

946
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 1: so down the street doing what witchcraft. I heard so

947
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:10,319
Speaker 1: their their high priestess hurt. Our music got baptized, and

948
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:12,360
Speaker 1: now some of her, some of her singer followers, are

949
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 1: getting baptized to I'm like, look what God could do.

950
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 1: That's why I don't care what nobody gotta say. For

951
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 1: real people is hearing our music giving their lives to God.

952
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 1: Who do I got to prove something to We do

953
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,200
Speaker 1: what God called us to do, and God is breathing

954
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 1: on that joint. And I'll tell you, I'll tell you

955
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:33,879
Speaker 1: what too. I couldn't do none of this without her,

956
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:37,840
Speaker 1: talk about it, none of it without her. She is

957
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 1: the backbone, the foundation to what I do. I'm I'm

958
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 1: all over the world all the time. Who is taking

959
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:47,440
Speaker 1: care of the kids? Her? Who is doing the contracts?

960
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:49,439
Speaker 1: Her email correspondence?

961
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:49,839
Speaker 3: Her?

962
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 1: Who am I bouncing ideas off of her? Who's discernment

963
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 1: do I trust more than anybody's her? I'll be like, babe,

964
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:59,160
Speaker 1: what do you think about this person? I don't like them? Oh,

965
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 1: but I don't like them, are you? And She's always

966
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:06,560
Speaker 1: right every time. I'm like, no, think, I think you're

967
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:09,400
Speaker 1: tripping this time and I bring somebody on tour with

968
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 1: me and then it goes south sour. He become a

969
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 1: cloud chaser and all of that. I told you I

970
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:20,800
Speaker 1: never liked him, Like this is her, Like I'm the face.

971
00:51:20,880 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 1: She's the engine of all of this. And that's why

972
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:28,120
Speaker 1: I'm so glad she's finally on camera. You finally get

973
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: to present her to the world. Because she has a story,

974
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 1: she has a testimony, she has a gift on the

975
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:36,920
Speaker 1: inside of her look. Her account is on private, she

976
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: has hundreds and hundreds of follow requests. She's not trying

977
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 1: to approve nobody. I'm like, babe, publicize your profile like

978
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 1: pfile because she she she's a content She's a private

979
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:55,440
Speaker 1: content creator. Everybody that she does allow into her world

980
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 1: to like, we love your content, your mama content, yo,

981
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 1: a rapper wife constant, we love a joint. I'm like,

982
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 1: imagine how many other people will love it if you.

983
00:52:05,800 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 3: Show me the funniest Even DJ had it was like

984
00:52:10,520 --> 00:52:13,799
Speaker 3: how many times I'm gonna tell you you see what

985
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:16,240
Speaker 3: I said? He wants you to come into an agreement

986
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 3: with him.

987
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 2: Agreement I had a journey with us.

988
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 5: Understood it very very private, Like I was like, oh,

989
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 5: you want me to send on dear future wife?

990
00:52:25,560 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 2: Like absolutely not. I said, I need my wife to

991
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:33,680
Speaker 2: be my purpose part. She would post once or twice

992
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:34,959
Speaker 2: a year on social media.

993
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: I was like, who, we are here for a reason.

994
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:42,279
Speaker 5: So now that this is going to come out, you're

995
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 5: going to open up your Instagram. I assume.

996
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:47,320
Speaker 3: I was talking about it with a friend this morning.

997
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 2: So she was trying to show me a video that

998
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:51,440
Speaker 2: you had. She was telling me a video that you

999
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 2: posted on your stories getting ready to come here, And

1000
00:52:54,040 --> 00:52:55,840
Speaker 2: I said, oh, yeah, what's the past? She says private?

1001
00:52:55,880 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 2: I said this morning? That was this morning?

1002
00:52:59,360 --> 00:52:59,800
Speaker 3: Have improved.

1003
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:06,279
Speaker 1: I was entertaining her two thousand faces. She could low

1004
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:09,120
Speaker 1: key grow faster than I did. Open it up.

1005
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, so today you're gonna make a mission. I want

1006
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:12,840
Speaker 2: you to look to that camera and tell them that

1007
00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 2: you're gonna open up your social media.

1008
00:53:14,680 --> 00:53:18,000
Speaker 3: We're praying about it, about it to degrees.

1009
00:53:18,160 --> 00:53:20,319
Speaker 2: You're telling because you people gonna watch this episode and

1010
00:53:20,360 --> 00:53:22,400
Speaker 2: be like I need to and I don't need them disappointed.

1011
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:23,479
Speaker 1: They're gonna spam you.

1012
00:53:23,560 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 3: Okay, I did talk about creating another profile, So you're

1013
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 3: gonna create a private one just for like, but then

1014
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:35,920
Speaker 3: I can have one for just two thousand follower requests

1015
00:53:36,000 --> 00:53:36,919
Speaker 3: or follower all right.

1016
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:38,920
Speaker 2: So the one that you have now is what what's that?

1017
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 3: It'll dang? You did this on purpose?

1018
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:46,320
Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, for purpose purpose?

1019
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:51,359
Speaker 3: All right, Well we'll un private and whoa, y'all, y'all

1020
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 3: see me getting coerced.

1021
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:59,400
Speaker 1: You had to hear first your future Walkie Extraordinary podcast.

1022
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:04,759
Speaker 1: Here you have the exclusive exclusive news missus. Minnick is

1023
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 1: gonna unprivate profile and you're gonna be blessed, entertained, impacted.

1024
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 1: I don't really post on your stories more than me. Yeah,

1025
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 1: we're gonna turn them into real.

1026
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:22,320
Speaker 2: Exactly for his glory. Yeah, what's your social media handle?

1027
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: Uh?

1028
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:25,280
Speaker 3: Tina underscore minic.

1029
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 2: There it is. We're gonna put it. We're gonna put

1030
00:54:27,640 --> 00:54:40,840
Speaker 2: it in description. I'm sorry, in YouTube man, So listen,

1031
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:43,040
Speaker 2: this is this is powerful. Now let's deep dive into

1032
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:46,279
Speaker 2: your story, Tina, what is your testimony? I know you

1033
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 2: touched on some pivotal moments in your life coming through

1034
00:54:51,040 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 2: foster care, having a mom that was bipolar, a mom

1035
00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 2: that passed away the day after your original wedding date.

1036
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:02,359
Speaker 2: Let's deep dive, is Tina, Yeah, I.

1037
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:05,160
Speaker 3: Mean there's more that I didn't touch on being sexually

1038
00:55:05,160 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 3: abused by my father. I mean all of the things, Like,

1039
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 3: is there anything that's like on the trauma box that

1040
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:15,879
Speaker 3: I didn't go through a very yeah. My adopted sister

1041
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:19,960
Speaker 3: passed away very young. Well, I was adopted, she wasn't.

1042
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:21,799
Speaker 3: That's the whole reason why my mom did foster care.

1043
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 3: But all of the things went through a lot of

1044
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 3: trauma early on. I mean, first five years was rough,

1045
00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:34,240
Speaker 3: and that shaped the next what twelve years, just those

1046
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 3: first five Even my biological sister told me I took

1047
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:39,840
Speaker 3: my first steps in foster care. I was like, I

1048
00:55:39,880 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 3: had no.

1049
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:43,839
Speaker 2: Idea your first steps at eight?

1050
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:45,640
Speaker 3: No, no, my first no.

1051
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:45,839
Speaker 1: No.

1052
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 3: I had been in and out of foster care until

1053
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 3: I went to my adopted mother at six. She adopted

1054
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:53,080
Speaker 3: me at eight, but I was in and out, like

1055
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:55,279
Speaker 3: I would go into foster care because my parents would

1056
00:55:55,280 --> 00:55:58,279
Speaker 3: do some stupid and then they'd try to rehabilitate us,

1057
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:01,359
Speaker 3: and then I go back. So I remember a lot

1058
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:03,280
Speaker 3: of the foster homes, a lot of them being traumatic.

1059
00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:09,080
Speaker 3: Started age I mean, I was taking my first steps

1060
00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 3: so very young.

1061
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:11,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, as an infant.

1062
00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:12,400
Speaker 2: Yeah wow.

1063
00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 3: My brother's dad tried to come get me when he

1064
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 3: went to go get his kids, but because he had

1065
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,319
Speaker 3: a record, he couldn't get me. So I was in

1066
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:25,800
Speaker 3: the system by myself, without my siblings at the time.

1067
00:56:26,560 --> 00:56:28,440
Speaker 3: And then I went to my bil or my adopted

1068
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,680
Speaker 3: mother in the next home. But all of that very

1069
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 3: very traumatic. But then it got to a point when

1070
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 3: I was seventeen and I was in that rough relationship,

1071
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:41,359
Speaker 3: and I was like, this stuff isn't working. And I've

1072
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,120
Speaker 3: seen a lot of stuff that just does not work,

1073
00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 3: you know, And I've really felt something at that church service,

1074
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:52,399
Speaker 3: and something there is clicking, and I want to investigate that.

1075
00:56:52,520 --> 00:56:54,879
Speaker 3: I want to see what that looks like. Because as

1076
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:58,000
Speaker 3: much as you say you don't want to be like

1077
00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 3: the things that you despise, how you still imitate them.

1078
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:06,240
Speaker 3: Somehow you still imitate them. As much as you're blind

1079
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 3: to it and trying to avoid it, you still get

1080
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 3: wrapped up to it. But when you stop looking at

1081
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:13,520
Speaker 3: the things that you don't like and focus on the

1082
00:57:13,600 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 3: things that you're falling in love with, and you push

1083
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 3: towards that, that's really when I started to see a

1084
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 3: lot of breakthrough. I remember Miles and I early on

1085
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 3: we were still dating, and I was so like broken

1086
00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:28,600
Speaker 3: at the time, and he would say like sweet things

1087
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:31,440
Speaker 3: to me and I'd be like, it sounds good. That

1088
00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 3: would be my response to him, sound good. I've heard

1089
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 3: a lot of things that sounded great. I don't trust it.

1090
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 3: But through his actions, he really showed me like people

1091
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:48,560
Speaker 3: mean what they say and you have to watch their actions,

1092
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 3: and he really showed that. I would go through his

1093
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:54,600
Speaker 3: dms like my kid out to the bathroom and I'd

1094
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:56,919
Speaker 3: search through all of them and none of them would

1095
00:57:56,920 --> 00:57:59,080
Speaker 3: be open. It would be so many girls like in

1096
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 3: the CMS, and I'd be like, hmm, I didn't catch

1097
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 3: anything this time. But when we were dating and he

1098
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 3: was just so he wasn't healing, but he was helping

1099
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 3: me heal. When I was going through my process with

1100
00:58:15,960 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 3: Christ and it was through this relationship, through our church

1101
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 3: and really just going through the process premarital counseling, really

1102
00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:29,520
Speaker 3: like on my face, crying, like getting it all out

1103
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 3: that I was like, I'm gonna be okay, We're gonna

1104
00:58:32,720 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 3: be okay, and we're going to raise okay kids like

1105
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 3: and now being on this side of it, I'd be like,

1106
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:44,080
Speaker 3: y'all have no idea how good y'all got it. Ye'll

1107
00:58:44,120 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 3: be like you tell us all the time. I'm like,

1108
00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 3: you got both of your parents in the same home,

1109
00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:52,080
Speaker 3: y'all live in a nice neighborhood. Yeah, y'all ain't never

1110
00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 3: have to worry about anything. He was like, I know, Ma, you.

1111
00:58:56,360 --> 00:58:58,919
Speaker 2: Keep reminding us. Let me tell you us. How long

1112
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 2: did it take you to forgive him from not going

1113
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:04,320
Speaker 2: through with the first wedding.

1114
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:08,800
Speaker 3: That's a great question. I mean, it was kind of

1115
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:13,600
Speaker 3: the same sentiments. It was like, because even when I

1116
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:16,320
Speaker 3: had blocked him for those few days, I still never

1117
00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:20,840
Speaker 3: fixed my lips to say we're done. I just couldn't

1118
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 3: for some reason. And I would just be like, no,

1119
00:59:24,760 --> 00:59:26,880
Speaker 3: I'm so mad, like I'm not talking to him, and

1120
00:59:26,960 --> 00:59:29,640
Speaker 3: people would be like, well, is it over? And I couldn't.

1121
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 3: I couldn't say yeah. But I was still upset, And

1122
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:37,520
Speaker 3: so it was one of those things where it's like, Okay,

1123
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:41,000
Speaker 3: you're saying all these things, it sounds good. Let me

1124
00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:44,600
Speaker 3: see you walk it out now. And he did. He did,

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00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:47,000
Speaker 3: and I watched his actions for that year and a

1126
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 3: half and I remember our pastor at the time was like,

1127
00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:54,440
Speaker 3: if he never changes or you know this is what

1128
00:59:54,520 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 3: you get, will you still marry him? And I was like,

1129
00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 3: I've seen I know we're both I mean so young,

1130
01:00:00,440 --> 01:00:01,920
Speaker 3: we're not at the point where we're going to be,

1131
01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:05,840
Speaker 3: but I know through his actions he's going to give

1132
01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 3: it his best to be his best. So I feel

1133
01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 3: confident in marrying him. And it's been that.

1134
01:00:12,440 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 2: And that's what the reason why I want you to

1135
01:00:14,920 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 2: unpack that even more is because I mentor a lot

1136
01:00:17,560 --> 01:00:20,880
Speaker 2: of young men and the number one fear they have

1137
01:00:21,120 --> 01:00:23,560
Speaker 2: is not being able to provide for their wife, so

1138
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:26,240
Speaker 2: they'll delay it. And I just think it's a while.

1139
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:31,560
Speaker 2: I believe that it's necessary to have provision over your wife.

1140
01:00:31,960 --> 01:00:34,520
Speaker 2: I also realize that the devil will use as a

1141
01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:36,960
Speaker 2: weapon because it's like, what is that? What does that

1142
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:41,720
Speaker 2: really mean? And does that mean that once provision falls?

1143
01:00:41,760 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 2: Because the wedding, well, marriages go through different iterations, You

1144
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:47,120
Speaker 2: go through ups and downs. So what happens when you're

1145
01:00:47,120 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 2: on your down moment? Do you feel like you're worth

1146
01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 2: no longer worthy of marriage? And so that's one thing

1147
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:54,919
Speaker 2: that I would definitely want to unpack with men, because

1148
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 2: a lot of men feel like, well, if I make

1149
01:00:56,480 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 2: this certain kind of money, then I can get a

1150
01:00:58,080 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 2: white and then you get a white And then now

1151
01:01:01,640 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 2: you're questioning you only want me because I got money.

1152
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 2: It's like one that did that. What are you talking about?

1153
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:09,640
Speaker 2: And then when you go through, may have to face bankruptcy,

1154
01:01:09,640 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 2: may have to go through gigs not coming through like

1155
01:01:12,000 --> 01:01:14,000
Speaker 2: you want. And now you're looking at her like, I

1156
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:16,240
Speaker 2: know you really don't like me, You really ain't proud

1157
01:01:16,240 --> 01:01:18,640
Speaker 2: of me because I ain't making money like that. And

1158
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:23,680
Speaker 2: while I believe it's necessary, it's necessary to provide something.

1159
01:01:24,080 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, what Tina brought

1160
01:01:28,040 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 2: to Miles life, he could have never gotten that. Separate

1161
01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 2: from you, there's no And that's the thing that a

1162
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:37,600
Speaker 2: lot of men don't understand. Miles could have been great

1163
01:01:37,840 --> 01:01:41,120
Speaker 2: working at Wells Fargo, doing good, but it was you

1164
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,200
Speaker 2: that attached to him, that created purpose in his life.

1165
01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 2: So you have a good job, you have a good

1166
01:01:46,120 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 2: job with you can go marry somebody and just have

1167
01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:50,120
Speaker 2: a good job. But when you come together. That's the

1168
01:01:50,120 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 2: reason why I like reframing it as husband and wife

1169
01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:54,720
Speaker 2: and saying your purpose partner and so when you get

1170
01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:57,960
Speaker 2: your purpose partner, that's when you're able to do great exploits.

1171
01:01:58,000 --> 01:01:59,920
Speaker 2: That's where the Bible says one could chase away thout,

1172
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:02,560
Speaker 2: but two can set ten thousand demons of light. That

1173
01:02:02,680 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 2: means that now with my wife, now we're actually having

1174
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:08,439
Speaker 2: me as her husband, we can do ten times more

1175
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 2: than what we could have done individually collectively, and I

1176
01:02:11,680 --> 01:02:14,400
Speaker 2: mean individually collectively. Is that she got one thousand, I

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01:02:14,440 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 2: got one thousand. But how's the math, math and word

1178
01:02:17,400 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 2: us together does ten thousand? The math should say two thousand.

1179
01:02:20,800 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 2: But the Bible says, with that two gathering in his name,

1180
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:27,000
Speaker 2: then that number five hits, which is grace, which makes

1181
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,640
Speaker 2: it ten thousand. And that's what's so powerful about what

1182
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 2: God does in our lives. And that's the reason why

1183
01:02:32,320 --> 01:02:35,960
Speaker 2: I have y'all on the podcast today by by suggestion

1184
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:38,720
Speaker 2: of Ashley who said, you gotta get them this West coast.

1185
01:02:38,720 --> 01:02:43,200
Speaker 2: You over here krip walking, throwing ws up and all that.

1186
01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:43,600
Speaker 4: Sit down.

1187
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:49,600
Speaker 2: Christ Like Christ like say, how.

1188
01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:49,840
Speaker 3: A song go?

1189
01:02:50,080 --> 01:02:50,160
Speaker 6: No?

1190
01:02:50,680 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 3: Can we I don't know if we can do it?

1191
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:52,400
Speaker 4: On YouTube?

1192
01:02:53,040 --> 01:03:01,440
Speaker 3: Christ Like, yeah, Christ, everybody saying Christ, there it is.

1193
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:05,280
Speaker 2: And so the reality is that that's the power of marriage.

1194
01:03:05,360 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 2: The power of marriage says that when one person falls down,

1195
01:03:08,680 --> 01:03:10,720
Speaker 2: the other person can lift them up. And when we

1196
01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:13,560
Speaker 2: understand the value of our wives. Not saying that men,

1197
01:03:13,640 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 2: we just got it together. You know what, I'm saying

1198
01:03:15,680 --> 01:03:20,040
Speaker 2: that I love how Miles actually said, y'all think it's me.

1199
01:03:20,200 --> 01:03:23,240
Speaker 2: I'm the face of it, But she's the engine. She's

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01:03:23,280 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 2: the reason why this whole thing is running. Through prayer,

1201
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:29,760
Speaker 2: through discernment, through reading contracts and negotiating this That's what

1202
01:03:29,800 --> 01:03:32,360
Speaker 2: I'm talking about, and that's the reason why I want

1203
01:03:32,440 --> 01:03:35,960
Speaker 2: men to understand the value of a woman. When you

1204
01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:39,920
Speaker 2: don't understand the value of a woman, you will mismage it.

1205
01:03:39,960 --> 01:03:42,840
Speaker 2: The great theologian Miles Monroe said, when the purpose of

1206
01:03:42,880 --> 01:03:47,280
Speaker 2: a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable. When the purpose

1207
01:03:47,360 --> 01:03:50,919
Speaker 2: of a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable. That means

1208
01:03:50,920 --> 01:03:53,080
Speaker 2: that you don't even know that you're abusing your spouse.

1209
01:03:53,440 --> 01:03:54,840
Speaker 2: You don't even know how, You don't even know you're

1210
01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:56,640
Speaker 2: doing it because you don't know the purpose. We don't

1211
01:03:56,640 --> 01:03:58,160
Speaker 2: know the purpose of it, you're going to abuse it.

1212
01:03:58,280 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 2: But when you value the purpose of it, you'll realize

1213
01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:03,760
Speaker 2: that you can do great exploits with that person in

1214
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 2: your life. So I love the fact that you are young,

1215
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 2: Kingdom minded people that have picked up the bloodstained banner

1216
01:04:09,400 --> 01:04:11,760
Speaker 2: and said, you know what, We're going to represent Christ

1217
01:04:12,080 --> 01:04:15,880
Speaker 2: as uncomfortable as it is. What happened in Rolling Out

1218
01:04:15,600 --> 01:04:19,240
Speaker 2: A video? That happened in Rolling Loud? What happened? Explain

1219
01:04:19,320 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 2: what Rolling Loud?

1220
01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:21,520
Speaker 7: Yeah?

1221
01:04:21,600 --> 01:04:25,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, Rolling Loud is the biggest rap festival in the world.

1222
01:04:27,120 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 1: Rolling Loud the term means you're rolling up weed, yep, right,

1223
01:04:31,480 --> 01:04:33,720
Speaker 1: and so everybody there doing every kind of drug you

1224
01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,520
Speaker 1: could think of. And we were the first Christian rap

1225
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:40,240
Speaker 1: act in history to get booked to have our own set.

1226
01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:43,400
Speaker 1: It wasn't a special serve as a special segment. They

1227
01:04:43,400 --> 01:04:47,080
Speaker 1: gave us a prime time slot to perform because of

1228
01:04:47,080 --> 01:04:50,960
Speaker 1: our ticket sales history in Los Angeles and so and so.

1229
01:04:51,640 --> 01:04:54,320
Speaker 1: Two years before that, I said in a song, I'm

1230
01:04:54,320 --> 01:04:57,000
Speaker 1: not gonna tone it down, mess around to doing ultra

1231
01:04:57,080 --> 01:05:02,120
Speaker 1: call that Rolling Loud? Ok it. The CEO of Rolling

1232
01:05:02,160 --> 01:05:06,400
Speaker 1: Loud seeing that real and said, I love it. Let's

1233
01:05:06,400 --> 01:05:09,400
Speaker 1: see what we could do. And then and then I performed.

1234
01:05:09,440 --> 01:05:12,720
Speaker 1: We turned that thing, baby, We turned it up. They

1235
01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:15,480
Speaker 1: said we had the best set of the day proclaiming

1236
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:18,840
Speaker 1: Jesus bro doing an ultra call listen. That was the

1237
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:22,280
Speaker 1: Playboy Cardi weekend too. That's when he finally dropped his

1238
01:05:22,280 --> 01:05:24,960
Speaker 1: album that everybody was waiting for around the world. We

1239
01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:28,200
Speaker 1: had the most viral videos of that weekend from Rolling Loud.

1240
01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:31,640
Speaker 1: It was Playboy Cardy and us, Oh my god, what

1241
01:05:31,680 --> 01:05:32,400
Speaker 1: are you doing?

1242
01:05:34,360 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 2: So you knew you had to do that when when

1243
01:05:36,360 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 2: you when you spoke that in that song, you knew

1244
01:05:38,200 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 2: that when you got that opportunity that you wasn't gonna

1245
01:05:40,640 --> 01:05:41,200
Speaker 2: back down.

1246
01:05:41,440 --> 01:05:43,280
Speaker 1: I wouldn't gonna let God down or the people that

1247
01:05:43,400 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 1: was waiting for me to do it, you know what

1248
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:49,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Because it was it was some people like here,

1249
01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 1: gonna do it. Other people was like, oh you Heath

1250
01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:55,320
Speaker 1: gonna do it. And God is like you said you

1251
01:05:55,400 --> 01:05:57,840
Speaker 1: was gonna do it, go ahead and do it, and

1252
01:05:57,920 --> 01:06:00,320
Speaker 1: we ran it in in a in a creative in

1253
01:06:00,360 --> 01:06:03,080
Speaker 1: a creative way, and we prayed over everybody.

1254
01:06:03,280 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 5: And super Now you have me crying because I just

1255
01:06:09,440 --> 01:06:12,880
Speaker 5: know that, like there are some people who are you know,

1256
01:06:13,160 --> 01:06:17,280
Speaker 5: we have some people who are very churchy, and then

1257
01:06:17,280 --> 01:06:19,520
Speaker 5: there are some people who are called to really go

1258
01:06:19,680 --> 01:06:22,560
Speaker 5: out in the world, because maybe you're not gonna wake

1259
01:06:22,640 --> 01:06:26,040
Speaker 5: up playing uh the Clark Sisters, you know what I mean, Like,

1260
01:06:26,120 --> 01:06:28,160
Speaker 5: maybe you're not gonna do that, but when you can

1261
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:31,600
Speaker 5: go like outside on the block and just be like, well,

1262
01:06:31,640 --> 01:06:33,920
Speaker 5: I was going to be listening to this artist, but

1263
01:06:33,960 --> 01:06:37,200
Speaker 5: instead I got miles playing like I just pray, and

1264
01:06:37,240 --> 01:06:40,720
Speaker 5: I've been praying since I met y'all. That just like

1265
01:06:40,880 --> 01:06:44,520
Speaker 5: you know, a lot of our viewers, they may be like, dang,

1266
01:06:44,560 --> 01:06:47,000
Speaker 5: I have like a young nephew, or I have a

1267
01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:51,360
Speaker 5: son and the music that he's listening to is crazy, right.

1268
01:06:51,400 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 5: We've experienced that too, like what is this? What is

1269
01:06:54,240 --> 01:06:54,920
Speaker 5: this music?

1270
01:06:56,800 --> 01:07:01,640
Speaker 2: Right? Yea what? I text them a minute go in

1271
01:07:01,640 --> 01:07:04,040
Speaker 2: the middle of the interview, I texted him and said,

1272
01:07:04,120 --> 01:07:06,320
Speaker 2: come up to the studio because I want him to

1273
01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:09,560
Speaker 2: meet you. You know, actually I had him listen to

1274
01:07:09,600 --> 01:07:11,880
Speaker 2: your listen to your music, and I say, I need

1275
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 2: you to miss because I want to see To think

1276
01:07:13,600 --> 01:07:17,240
Speaker 2: about it as as parents, we criticize what the kids

1277
01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:19,400
Speaker 2: are listening to, but won't do the research enough to

1278
01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:20,680
Speaker 2: introduce them to something different.

1279
01:07:20,680 --> 01:07:20,920
Speaker 1: I'm on.

1280
01:07:21,200 --> 01:07:23,320
Speaker 2: So I love the fact that asked it was like, hey,

1281
01:07:23,360 --> 01:07:25,320
Speaker 2: listen to this, you know what I'm saying, and so

1282
01:07:25,840 --> 01:07:27,640
Speaker 2: that's what we need to do. Instead, you listen to

1283
01:07:27,640 --> 01:07:30,360
Speaker 2: Devil's music. That stuff is talking about this calling women's

1284
01:07:30,400 --> 01:07:32,760
Speaker 2: bees and ages and all that will give them alternative,

1285
01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:35,040
Speaker 2: you know, instead of thinking that they're supposed to go

1286
01:07:35,080 --> 01:07:37,920
Speaker 2: do the work. Now. Granted, we hope that they'll go

1287
01:07:38,040 --> 01:07:41,120
Speaker 2: find an alternative, but how many of us found an alternative?

1288
01:07:41,280 --> 01:07:43,240
Speaker 2: So it's like saying, go ahead and introduce them to

1289
01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:45,920
Speaker 2: something else. So that's that's the cool thing about it.

1290
01:07:45,960 --> 01:07:48,000
Speaker 2: So I made it a point to text them and

1291
01:07:48,000 --> 01:07:49,800
Speaker 2: say get up here because I want you to meet,

1292
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:52,560
Speaker 2: shake hands, take a picture with mouths so you can

1293
01:07:52,640 --> 01:07:57,120
Speaker 2: have a reference point of what it is basically what

1294
01:07:57,160 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 2: it looks like to live a god sender life and being,

1295
01:08:00,080 --> 01:08:03,680
Speaker 2: but to entertain, be able to do music to glorify God.

1296
01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:05,040
Speaker 2: And it still looked cool.

1297
01:08:04,880 --> 01:08:08,720
Speaker 5: Not laying a concerts like they don't look like you know,

1298
01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:11,640
Speaker 5: like you know, y'all get turned.

1299
01:08:11,760 --> 01:08:14,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, we have a concert tonight. I don't know what

1300
01:08:14,360 --> 01:08:16,479
Speaker 1: y'all doing, but I will put y'all on the list.

1301
01:08:16,560 --> 01:08:18,480
Speaker 1: I will to get him in the room.

1302
01:08:18,640 --> 01:08:21,000
Speaker 2: We gotta pull up so I can experience it. And

1303
01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:23,240
Speaker 2: we was trying to get the Darren to come, but

1304
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:24,320
Speaker 2: he has problem to night.

1305
01:08:24,880 --> 01:08:29,639
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, today is prom so we're gonna send

1306
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:31,240
Speaker 5: them off and then we're gonna pull up there and

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Speaker 5: see all the kids.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, there's some I know you're asking like testimonies at

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Speaker 7: his concerts, and I don't go to everything.

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Speaker 3: I'll be at home with the kids, but the few

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Speaker 3: that I go. There was one that I went to

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01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:50,360
Speaker 3: and someone waited after and was talking to us and

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01:08:50,400 --> 01:08:53,920
Speaker 3: she was like, I was listening to music in the

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01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 3: shower on Pandora, just shuffle and she's a fan of

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01:08:57,600 --> 01:09:00,639
Speaker 3: Larussell and Miles and Larussell have a song and she said,

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01:09:00,640 --> 01:09:02,519
Speaker 3: I heard that song. She said, I jumped out the

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01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:05,200
Speaker 3: shower and I was like, what is this? Like I

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01:09:05,240 --> 01:09:07,920
Speaker 3: need to hear what is this? And then right there

1319
01:09:07,960 --> 01:09:10,360
Speaker 3: on Pandora or whatever, she saw that he had a

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Speaker 3: concert the very next day in her city, and she

1321
01:09:13,479 --> 01:09:16,800
Speaker 3: pulled up and she said, thank you for this. I'm

1322
01:09:16,880 --> 01:09:19,800
Speaker 3: here like I was blessed. I was impacted. And I

1323
01:09:19,920 --> 01:09:22,559
Speaker 3: was just in the shower listening to some crazy stuff.

1324
01:09:23,280 --> 01:09:25,760
Speaker 3: But it's nice to know that this is out here

1325
01:09:26,200 --> 01:09:28,439
Speaker 3: and now I'm diving into it and this is stuff

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01:09:28,479 --> 01:09:30,439
Speaker 3: that I've heard with my own ears. I'm not at everything,

1327
01:09:30,720 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 3: but I was like, there's a lot of criticism that

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01:09:33,479 --> 01:09:37,360
Speaker 3: you're getting for all of the collaborations and doing these things.

1329
01:09:37,400 --> 01:09:39,600
Speaker 3: But it's like, what about that woman who would have

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01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:42,040
Speaker 3: never showed up, would have never known that there's this

1331
01:09:42,240 --> 01:09:45,240
Speaker 3: music out there, that there's this lane, And it's because

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01:09:45,280 --> 01:09:47,559
Speaker 3: you did a song with l Russell that was clean

1333
01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:50,760
Speaker 3: he said, had to take the N word out for

1334
01:09:50,920 --> 01:09:56,160
Speaker 3: miles or whatever he said on the and it was clean.

1335
01:09:56,479 --> 01:09:59,280
Speaker 3: But she was so blessed and impacted, like in tears

1336
01:09:59,320 --> 01:10:01,599
Speaker 3: after the concert, and it's like, that's what we get

1337
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 3: to see by infiltrating these spaces and it's beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I want you to touch on that as I want

1339
01:10:06,160 --> 01:10:07,719
Speaker 2: I want you to touch on that as an artist,

1340
01:10:07,840 --> 01:10:10,040
Speaker 2: how do you pull the microphone closer to you? How

1341
01:10:10,120 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 2: do you? How do you What is your reasoning for

1342
01:10:13,000 --> 01:10:15,000
Speaker 2: the collaborations with secular artists?

1343
01:10:15,080 --> 01:10:19,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's that it's that it's to to reach audiences

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01:10:19,240 --> 01:10:21,600
Speaker 1: that we wouldn't otherwise be able to reach. You know

1345
01:10:21,640 --> 01:10:23,200
Speaker 1: what I mean by me doing a song with the

1346
01:10:23,320 --> 01:10:26,479
Speaker 1: forty forty post it it goes crazy? Is reaching his

1347
01:10:26,640 --> 01:10:29,800
Speaker 1: audience they're being exposed to us and they get to

1348
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:32,240
Speaker 1: come to our concerts or do a deep dive. I

1349
01:10:32,280 --> 01:10:34,720
Speaker 1: get so many deep dives every time. You know, we

1350
01:10:34,800 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 1: do a collaboration for with these other artists, Like I

1351
01:10:37,120 --> 01:10:39,840
Speaker 1: never knew this kind of music existed. I never knew

1352
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:42,320
Speaker 1: your music before. And a lot of them are giving

1353
01:10:42,360 --> 01:10:45,479
Speaker 1: their lives to Jesus and finding churches, and so that's

1354
01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:46,519
Speaker 1: that is the mission.

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Speaker 2: And I want to underscore that with the scripture, He

1356
01:10:51,240 --> 01:10:54,960
Speaker 2: who wins souls as wise, and so you're using wisdom.

1357
01:10:55,000 --> 01:10:57,200
Speaker 2: A lot of people can't even understand it. They'd be

1358
01:10:57,200 --> 01:10:59,280
Speaker 2: like I witning and I don't. But you don't realize

1359
01:10:59,400 --> 01:11:01,879
Speaker 2: not your calling, that's not your mission, that's not your mandate,

1360
01:11:02,240 --> 01:11:05,280
Speaker 2: that's not even what God has purposed you for. And

1361
01:11:05,320 --> 01:11:07,719
Speaker 2: so the Bible says he who wins souls is wise,

1362
01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:10,160
Speaker 2: and so God is giving you a unique ability to

1363
01:11:10,240 --> 01:11:12,639
Speaker 2: win souls and draw people to the Kingdom that would

1364
01:11:12,640 --> 01:11:16,320
Speaker 2: have ordinarily not been drawn. Like you're talking about the

1365
01:11:16,320 --> 01:11:19,559
Speaker 2: woman that was like though one the high priestess that

1366
01:11:19,560 --> 01:11:23,320
Speaker 2: that that's Satanic worship and stuff like that. She she

1367
01:11:23,400 --> 01:11:25,360
Speaker 2: passed by churches every day. You know what I'm saying

1368
01:11:25,360 --> 01:11:27,120
Speaker 2: she didn't say, well, let me go to church today. No,

1369
01:11:27,439 --> 01:11:31,280
Speaker 2: it was the way that your music intercepted what she

1370
01:11:31,520 --> 01:11:34,200
Speaker 2: was already listening to. I don't I would love to

1371
01:11:34,200 --> 01:11:36,599
Speaker 2: even say, how did that happen? What were you listening to? Who?

1372
01:11:37,200 --> 01:11:39,599
Speaker 2: You know? You said DJ head was was spending tracks

1373
01:11:39,680 --> 01:11:42,559
Speaker 2: or whatever. But it's like, was she there? She heard

1374
01:11:42,560 --> 01:11:44,559
Speaker 2: that song and said what is this? And it began

1375
01:11:44,640 --> 01:11:47,519
Speaker 2: to start messing with messing with us spiritusly that made

1376
01:11:47,560 --> 01:11:50,160
Speaker 2: God start drawing her to the word or what what

1377
01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:52,599
Speaker 2: did that look like? And that's the testimonies that I'm

1378
01:11:52,640 --> 01:11:57,080
Speaker 2: talking about, is that people, It's so many countless testimonies

1379
01:11:57,360 --> 01:12:00,679
Speaker 2: that you'll never ever hear his people. Well, I remember

1380
01:12:00,720 --> 01:12:02,479
Speaker 2: in the first season of Dear Future Wife, it was

1381
01:12:02,520 --> 01:12:04,559
Speaker 2: a lady that was watching the podcast. She was in

1382
01:12:04,560 --> 01:12:06,880
Speaker 2: the shower like you were talking about, and she said,

1383
01:12:06,920 --> 01:12:08,519
Speaker 2: I don't know why she thought this, but she was

1384
01:12:08,560 --> 01:12:12,559
Speaker 2: going to take a shower and then kill herself and

1385
01:12:12,640 --> 01:12:15,800
Speaker 2: her kids. I was in IG Live one time and

1386
01:12:15,840 --> 01:12:17,840
Speaker 2: she shared the story. She said she was going to

1387
01:12:17,880 --> 01:12:19,799
Speaker 2: take a shower and do that. She was in the shower,

1388
01:12:19,840 --> 01:12:22,800
Speaker 2: she was just playing YouTube videos. And then Dear Future

1389
01:12:22,840 --> 01:12:24,760
Speaker 2: Wife he popped up and she started listening to the

1390
01:12:24,840 --> 01:12:27,080
Speaker 2: video and she and I forgot what video it was

1391
01:12:27,120 --> 01:12:29,040
Speaker 2: at the time, but it was saying something where I

1392
01:12:29,040 --> 01:12:30,680
Speaker 2: was talking about you have purpose in life in this

1393
01:12:30,800 --> 01:12:32,720
Speaker 2: don't care about you know about the mistakes you made

1394
01:12:32,760 --> 01:12:34,680
Speaker 2: in the past or whatever, and she was like what.

1395
01:12:34,760 --> 01:12:36,639
Speaker 2: She jumped out the shower. She was like what is this?

1396
01:12:36,720 --> 01:12:41,240
Speaker 2: Who is this man talking? Looked and was like, what

1397
01:12:41,320 --> 01:12:45,080
Speaker 2: is dear future wifey. She was miserable because of the

1398
01:12:45,120 --> 01:12:49,080
Speaker 2: fact that she had several kids by different baby daddies

1399
01:12:49,160 --> 01:12:51,040
Speaker 2: or whatever, and just felt like she was just worthless

1400
01:12:51,080 --> 01:12:53,840
Speaker 2: or whatever, and whatever I was saying in that episode

1401
01:12:54,080 --> 01:12:57,559
Speaker 2: drew her to subscribe. She DM me and said you

1402
01:12:57,720 --> 01:13:00,760
Speaker 2: saved my life. And so I didn't even see the

1403
01:13:00,840 --> 01:13:03,320
Speaker 2: DM at first until I did a live. I used

1404
01:13:03,360 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 2: to do lives every Thursday after I did an episode,

1405
01:13:06,000 --> 01:13:08,240
Speaker 2: so I do an episode on Wednesday at release. Then

1406
01:13:08,240 --> 01:13:10,519
Speaker 2: I go ig live ask people what the impact of

1407
01:13:10,520 --> 01:13:13,200
Speaker 2: the episode was. She goes in the comment and said

1408
01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:15,920
Speaker 2: you saved my life and start sharing the whole story

1409
01:13:15,920 --> 01:13:18,920
Speaker 2: about what happened. I was like, oh my god. And

1410
01:13:19,400 --> 01:13:22,719
Speaker 2: it was so powerful because first of all, you're listening

1411
01:13:22,760 --> 01:13:24,759
Speaker 2: to it the testimony. You go, w you was gonna

1412
01:13:24,960 --> 01:13:26,960
Speaker 2: hurt your kids and you was gonna do this. And

1413
01:13:26,960 --> 01:13:28,920
Speaker 2: then the first inclinations like, well, we need to go

1414
01:13:28,960 --> 01:13:30,720
Speaker 2: find this and get the kids removed and all that,

1415
01:13:30,760 --> 01:13:33,599
Speaker 2: and God was like, but I did it, But I

1416
01:13:33,640 --> 01:13:36,360
Speaker 2: did it. Fear hit me by saying I need to

1417
01:13:36,400 --> 01:13:39,360
Speaker 2: go announce that, this, this, this, and then and then

1418
01:13:40,200 --> 01:13:42,560
Speaker 2: God was like, no, she's telling you a testimony. You

1419
01:13:42,600 --> 01:13:45,439
Speaker 2: don't demonize her for what I stopped. And I was like, wow,

1420
01:13:45,600 --> 01:13:47,680
Speaker 2: you know she ain't gonna try it again. God said, oh,

1421
01:13:47,720 --> 01:13:51,679
Speaker 2: you of little faith. But the powerful testimony that y'all

1422
01:13:51,680 --> 01:13:54,880
Speaker 2: get a chance to experience is the fact that God

1423
01:13:54,960 --> 01:13:58,320
Speaker 2: is using y'all collectively, not just Miles, because Miles can't

1424
01:13:58,320 --> 01:14:00,559
Speaker 2: do it without a teena that God and it's using

1425
01:14:00,640 --> 01:14:05,800
Speaker 2: y'all collectively to shake hell, shake the gates of hell.

1426
01:14:06,160 --> 01:14:08,519
Speaker 2: When I tell you, I'm glad that y'all doing what

1427
01:14:08,600 --> 01:14:10,920
Speaker 2: y'all doing on the level that y'all doing it because

1428
01:14:10,960 --> 01:14:13,640
Speaker 2: the devil ain't playing. See, people may listen to a

1429
01:14:13,720 --> 01:14:18,000
Speaker 2: Mile say oh, and these artists are into the demonic

1430
01:14:18,080 --> 01:14:20,680
Speaker 2: worship where they're giving their their their souls to the

1431
01:14:20,720 --> 01:14:22,599
Speaker 2: devil to exalt their career and they be like, oh,

1432
01:14:22,600 --> 01:14:25,400
Speaker 2: that just sounds cute. That just sounds like the Illuminati stuff.

1433
01:14:25,400 --> 01:14:28,599
Speaker 2: It just it sounds fake to people. And that's how

1434
01:14:28,680 --> 01:14:31,639
Speaker 2: cunning Satan is is to make you think it's fake. Right,

1435
01:14:31,880 --> 01:14:35,439
Speaker 2: But he know for a fact, he sees, he know what.

1436
01:14:35,439 --> 01:14:37,800
Speaker 1: It is in my line, you're not lying.

1437
01:14:38,360 --> 01:14:40,280
Speaker 2: But people think, like, I just I mean, they just

1438
01:14:40,280 --> 01:14:43,080
Speaker 2: say that because that just gets good YouTube commentary or whatnot.

1439
01:14:43,280 --> 01:14:46,440
Speaker 1: Oh, it's it's real. People are really dabbling into darkness

1440
01:14:47,000 --> 01:14:49,720
Speaker 1: in exchange for success, for connections and for cloud And

1441
01:14:49,760 --> 01:14:51,400
Speaker 1: I'm trying to show the whole world you could win

1442
01:14:51,560 --> 01:14:54,479
Speaker 1: with God. You could win with God. You know what

1443
01:14:54,520 --> 01:14:57,400
Speaker 1: I meaning? People, it's like, oh, Miles, Mink and Sina,

1444
01:14:57,439 --> 01:14:59,519
Speaker 1: they sold their souls. Look at all the platforms you're

1445
01:14:59,520 --> 01:15:02,120
Speaker 1: getting on. It's like, y'all, don't your faithing big enough

1446
01:15:02,120 --> 01:15:03,240
Speaker 1: think God could do this for us.

1447
01:15:03,360 --> 01:15:08,200
Speaker 2: So they think you sold your souls to exalt Christian music.

1448
01:15:08,040 --> 01:15:11,960
Speaker 3: On the platform, to stage and doing.

1449
01:15:13,479 --> 01:15:16,840
Speaker 2: Yes, y'all make the devil just just dumb. The devil

1450
01:15:16,880 --> 01:15:20,040
Speaker 2: will never do anything that exalts Christ. It's just not

1451
01:15:20,120 --> 01:15:22,599
Speaker 2: going to happen. I think about how creative you got

1452
01:15:22,600 --> 01:15:26,960
Speaker 2: to be to say, y'all sow y'all souls for the

1453
01:15:27,120 --> 01:15:32,479
Speaker 2: devil to use y'all to represent Christ on platforms that

1454
01:15:32,680 --> 01:15:35,880
Speaker 2: is causing souls to be lost out of the gates

1455
01:15:35,880 --> 01:15:37,479
Speaker 2: of hell and brought to Christ.

1456
01:15:37,640 --> 01:15:40,240
Speaker 1: I will never understand the logic behind some of the

1457
01:15:40,240 --> 01:15:43,599
Speaker 1: things they say. Well, we gonna do though. We're gonna

1458
01:15:43,680 --> 01:15:47,439
Speaker 1: keep following what God want us to do together, and

1459
01:15:47,479 --> 01:15:48,679
Speaker 1: we're gonna change this world.

1460
01:15:48,760 --> 01:15:51,840
Speaker 2: Man. I want you all to grab that box and

1461
01:15:51,920 --> 01:15:54,080
Speaker 2: I want y'all to write a keita love. This is

1462
01:15:54,080 --> 01:15:56,799
Speaker 2: a part of the podcast where you write a quote,

1463
01:15:56,840 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 2: a word, whatever you want to leave the hanging on

1464
01:15:59,400 --> 01:16:03,519
Speaker 2: that wall. Y'all both grab one each, use the top

1465
01:16:03,560 --> 01:16:06,200
Speaker 2: of the box to write on it. Y'all can share it.

1466
01:16:06,400 --> 01:16:10,640
Speaker 2: Y'all been sharing everything else all these years. And then

1467
01:16:10,720 --> 01:16:12,160
Speaker 2: y'all could write a key to.

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01:16:12,160 --> 01:16:21,280
Speaker 1: Love Goodness always listen to Yes.

1469
01:16:21,600 --> 01:16:22,200
Speaker 2: So what do you think?

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01:16:23,200 --> 01:16:25,800
Speaker 5: I thought this was phenomenal.

1471
01:16:26,120 --> 01:16:29,679
Speaker 2: These are your guests that you recommended, I mean, and

1472
01:16:29,800 --> 01:16:32,280
Speaker 2: for good reason. Why did you feel like it was

1473
01:16:32,280 --> 01:16:33,400
Speaker 2: necessary to have the minix?

1474
01:16:33,720 --> 01:16:38,879
Speaker 5: Because, I mean, this is evangelism, absolutely at its finest,

1475
01:16:39,280 --> 01:16:43,200
Speaker 5: and I think that a lot of times we're stuck

1476
01:16:43,240 --> 01:16:47,400
Speaker 5: where we are, we're not actually evangelizing outside of our

1477
01:16:47,520 --> 01:16:51,800
Speaker 5: friend group, but to go out into the world and say,

1478
01:16:51,880 --> 01:16:53,960
Speaker 5: like I love They said that they became youth pastors

1479
01:16:54,000 --> 01:16:55,439
Speaker 5: as soon as they got married, as soon as they

1480
01:16:55,479 --> 01:16:58,080
Speaker 5: got it. So it's like, you know, for the haters,

1481
01:16:58,880 --> 01:17:02,600
Speaker 5: they don't you understand. And I think this episode was

1482
01:17:02,640 --> 01:17:06,400
Speaker 5: so helpful, Like Miles had good teaching, Tina had good tea,

1483
01:17:06,520 --> 01:17:10,840
Speaker 5: they had covering, like they were anointed to do this

1484
01:17:10,960 --> 01:17:14,160
Speaker 5: work in the world. And that for me is inspirted

1485
01:17:14,160 --> 01:17:16,679
Speaker 5: because it ain't for everybody, not at all. But when

1486
01:17:16,720 --> 01:17:20,080
Speaker 5: I see like, you know, kids, we know kids, I

1487
01:17:20,320 --> 01:17:22,519
Speaker 5: think some of us act like kids are just gonna

1488
01:17:22,560 --> 01:17:25,080
Speaker 5: be you know, you know, ten and two and what.

1489
01:17:25,240 --> 01:17:28,000
Speaker 5: But like the fact that when I look on social

1490
01:17:28,040 --> 01:17:32,080
Speaker 5: media and see how much joy, the joys are fruit

1491
01:17:32,080 --> 01:17:34,639
Speaker 5: of the spirit, how much joy people have when they

1492
01:17:34,680 --> 01:17:38,360
Speaker 5: go see Miles perform, that is exciting to me because

1493
01:17:38,400 --> 01:17:43,680
Speaker 5: it says that we have a safe, healthy alternative for

1494
01:17:43,840 --> 01:17:47,080
Speaker 5: our kids to go out and to love God, to

1495
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:51,080
Speaker 5: have a good time, and to to have their soul

1496
01:17:51,360 --> 01:17:54,400
Speaker 5: be saved. And so that is is I just I've

1497
01:17:54,400 --> 01:17:55,760
Speaker 5: been excited about this episode for a week.

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01:17:55,920 --> 01:17:58,800
Speaker 2: She has man, she been playing your music every morning. Hey,

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01:17:58,920 --> 01:18:01,599
Speaker 2: I love you, but it all the time. She played

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01:18:01,800 --> 01:18:05,519
Speaker 2: all the time. I'm like, good lord, it's hey music.

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01:18:06,200 --> 01:18:10,280
Speaker 5: Yes, yes, learn so much stuff about California, the area,

1502
01:18:10,600 --> 01:18:12,120
Speaker 5: trying to put me on doing.

1503
01:18:12,680 --> 01:18:14,680
Speaker 2: I was like, good Lord. So then last night I

1504
01:18:14,720 --> 01:18:17,040
Speaker 2: just started just playing all of it. I just started saying,

1505
01:18:17,160 --> 01:18:19,000
Speaker 2: before I have you in, I want to find my

1506
01:18:19,040 --> 01:18:21,200
Speaker 2: favorite songs. And so I was listening to some stuff

1507
01:18:21,200 --> 01:18:25,160
Speaker 2: and what was that song? I just said, like I

1508
01:18:25,200 --> 01:18:27,160
Speaker 2: told you that at the very beginning. It's a sing song.

1509
01:18:27,400 --> 01:18:30,439
Speaker 2: It's one that has singing to it. It's like that

1510
01:18:30,479 --> 01:18:32,320
Speaker 2: hold on it's called I.

1511
01:18:32,439 --> 01:18:34,720
Speaker 5: Like, uh, yeah, I.

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01:18:35,760 --> 01:18:37,840
Speaker 2: Was playing for you all ago. No, I was playing

1513
01:18:37,840 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 2: it at the when you was walking in.

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01:18:41,600 --> 01:18:45,200
Speaker 1: Keep the sneak one way I live.

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01:18:46,240 --> 01:18:48,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, that stuff I could sing with.

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01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:49,519
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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01:18:51,920 --> 01:18:55,439
Speaker 2: Your videos are fire, yes, yes.

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01:18:55,960 --> 01:18:59,720
Speaker 5: And then what's the forty one with cras a jam

1519
01:19:00,080 --> 01:19:00,559
Speaker 5: is a method?

1520
01:19:00,720 --> 01:19:01,360
Speaker 1: The method?

1521
01:19:01,520 --> 01:19:03,080
Speaker 5: Yes, the method?

1522
01:19:03,840 --> 01:19:12,080
Speaker 2: Yes, West West, name every city that goes hard Texas. Yeah.

1523
01:19:19,640 --> 01:19:22,920
Speaker 2: But I love the fact that you you genuinely enjoy

1524
01:19:23,040 --> 01:19:26,040
Speaker 2: what you do. That's that's what I see. I see

1525
01:19:26,080 --> 01:19:29,320
Speaker 2: that you enjoy doing what you do and represent God.

1526
01:19:29,400 --> 01:19:31,200
Speaker 2: It's the joy. Even when we're in this interview. You

1527
01:19:31,400 --> 01:19:33,719
Speaker 2: just if we start talking about music, you're gonna get loud,

1528
01:19:33,720 --> 01:19:35,280
Speaker 2: You're gonna get hired, you know what I'm saying. So

1529
01:19:35,360 --> 01:19:36,200
Speaker 2: it's authentic.

1530
01:19:36,240 --> 01:19:40,720
Speaker 5: And when you get passionate, like you tell like he's like, no,

1531
01:19:40,760 --> 01:19:41,320
Speaker 5: I am.

1532
01:19:41,960 --> 01:19:46,320
Speaker 1: Come on, listen, God making me a youth pastor before

1533
01:19:46,360 --> 01:19:48,160
Speaker 1: you give me a music career or two, like it

1534
01:19:48,280 --> 01:19:52,120
Speaker 1: goes hand in hand, Like my concerts would be like

1535
01:19:52,360 --> 01:19:58,960
Speaker 1: half turn up half like you got prase. God, it

1536
01:19:59,120 --> 01:19:59,960
Speaker 1: just come out like.

1537
01:20:01,560 --> 01:20:03,680
Speaker 3: People be wanting to book him and they're like, our

1538
01:20:03,760 --> 01:20:06,680
Speaker 3: board doesn't really know about the hip hop thing, and

1539
01:20:06,760 --> 01:20:11,200
Speaker 3: you know, and I'm like, listen, I don't know if

1540
01:20:11,240 --> 01:20:14,080
Speaker 3: you've seen Miles in concert before. But not only is

1541
01:20:14,120 --> 01:20:16,280
Speaker 3: he fun and he's going to draw your youth, but

1542
01:20:16,360 --> 01:20:18,840
Speaker 3: also he's gonna leave them. He's gonna with a word,

1543
01:20:18,840 --> 01:20:21,679
Speaker 3: he's gonna exhort, he's gonna like or into them. It's

1544
01:20:21,680 --> 01:20:23,960
Speaker 3: not just gonna be fun and turn up. And they're like,

1545
01:20:24,439 --> 01:20:27,040
Speaker 3: oh my gosh. When they experience it, they're like, we

1546
01:20:27,400 --> 01:20:30,000
Speaker 3: love this because it's not just turn up like like

1547
01:20:30,040 --> 01:20:32,479
Speaker 3: you said, it's turning them up up.

1548
01:20:33,960 --> 01:20:36,400
Speaker 2: The one thing I do want to touch again and

1549
01:20:36,479 --> 01:20:39,360
Speaker 2: astutely touched on. It is the fact that y'all were

1550
01:20:39,400 --> 01:20:43,519
Speaker 2: wise enough to submit to wise counsel, that y'all understood leadership.

1551
01:20:43,600 --> 01:20:46,080
Speaker 2: Y'all know, y'all weren't running around time about you know,

1552
01:20:46,120 --> 01:20:48,000
Speaker 2: I know, I know what it's like to do X

1553
01:20:48,120 --> 01:20:51,840
Speaker 2: y Z. You said that they took y'all through it.

1554
01:20:52,360 --> 01:20:54,599
Speaker 2: But that means that y'all were wise enough to be

1555
01:20:54,640 --> 01:20:59,280
Speaker 2: submitted under authority. And I always say that a wise man,

1556
01:20:59,840 --> 01:21:03,639
Speaker 2: or for God to place you in authority over a marriage,

1557
01:21:03,680 --> 01:21:07,040
Speaker 2: you have to be wise enough to be submitted under authority. Absolutely,

1558
01:21:07,160 --> 01:21:09,640
Speaker 2: And so every great leader knows that if you're going

1559
01:21:09,720 --> 01:21:12,040
Speaker 2: to lead the army elite as a general, you have

1560
01:21:12,160 --> 01:21:14,479
Speaker 2: to be somebody that was willing to follow. And so

1561
01:21:14,800 --> 01:21:17,720
Speaker 2: I love the fact at your young ages that y'all

1562
01:21:17,760 --> 01:21:20,519
Speaker 2: were wise enough to say, no, we submitted to wives counsel,

1563
01:21:20,760 --> 01:21:23,640
Speaker 2: and then you understood the word submission. But even a

1564
01:21:23,680 --> 01:21:26,000
Speaker 2: lot of times we hear wives submit to your husband,

1565
01:21:26,080 --> 01:21:30,040
Speaker 2: but we don't promote husband, submit to your wives, or

1566
01:21:30,080 --> 01:21:32,719
Speaker 2: submit you one to another. That's what the Bible talks about.

1567
01:21:32,760 --> 01:21:35,640
Speaker 2: But it's a it's a beautiful dance of submission that

1568
01:21:35,680 --> 01:21:38,200
Speaker 2: takes place and you both win at the end of it.

1569
01:21:38,240 --> 01:21:40,280
Speaker 2: What you write on your.

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01:21:40,360 --> 01:21:43,040
Speaker 1: Yes, man can I can write so many things, but

1571
01:21:43,360 --> 01:21:49,639
Speaker 1: I wrote, listen to each other, never stop dating, and

1572
01:21:49,720 --> 01:21:52,519
Speaker 1: trust her discernment. That's good.

1573
01:21:52,800 --> 01:21:53,320
Speaker 2: That's good.

1574
01:21:53,560 --> 01:21:55,840
Speaker 3: What you write two different things. One I just felt,

1575
01:21:57,080 --> 01:21:59,120
Speaker 3: don't give up. God has more in store. He's not

1576
01:21:59,160 --> 01:22:01,080
Speaker 3: done with you yet. But on the other side is

1577
01:22:01,600 --> 01:22:04,920
Speaker 3: marriage is hard. Unhealthy dating is hard. Choose your heart.

1578
01:22:06,400 --> 01:22:08,280
Speaker 1: This is why your account need to be public.

1579
01:22:08,400 --> 01:22:13,880
Speaker 2: You said, unhealthy dating is hard.

1580
01:22:15,800 --> 01:22:18,040
Speaker 1: Choose your That's a book. That's a book. Choose your heart.

1581
01:22:18,160 --> 01:22:18,920
Speaker 1: That is a book.

1582
01:22:19,760 --> 01:22:21,080
Speaker 2: He said, unhealthy dating.

1583
01:22:21,400 --> 01:22:22,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's hard.

1584
01:22:22,680 --> 01:22:24,599
Speaker 2: You have a lot of single friends that that that

1585
01:22:24,600 --> 01:22:28,439
Speaker 2: that what are they're sharing? Just pee in the pool

1586
01:22:28,479 --> 01:22:29,360
Speaker 2: and all the in the day.

1587
01:22:29,720 --> 01:22:32,599
Speaker 3: I hear its ghetto outside. I'm like, I don't want

1588
01:22:32,640 --> 01:22:36,080
Speaker 3: no part of it. Whatever. If we got something going on,

1589
01:22:36,560 --> 01:22:42,679
Speaker 3: you better figure it out there. I hear it's terrible

1590
01:22:42,800 --> 01:22:45,760
Speaker 3: and it's it's hard, But you know, people, what I'm

1591
01:22:45,800 --> 01:22:49,679
Speaker 3: learning is like back in the older generation, if something

1592
01:22:50,200 --> 01:22:53,120
Speaker 3: was broke, if a bike was broke or whatever, the

1593
01:22:53,120 --> 01:22:55,559
Speaker 3: people would fix it. You would go out and fix

1594
01:22:55,600 --> 01:22:58,400
Speaker 3: the handlebars, you'd fix the chain. We're in a generation

1595
01:22:58,479 --> 01:23:00,240
Speaker 3: where people are just throwing away and get in a

1596
01:23:00,280 --> 01:23:03,559
Speaker 3: new one, and that's also translating into dating. But it's like, no,

1597
01:23:03,920 --> 01:23:06,400
Speaker 3: you guys might be through in a rough patch right now.

1598
01:23:06,760 --> 01:23:09,280
Speaker 3: We've been in a rough patch. But it's like, if

1599
01:23:09,280 --> 01:23:12,120
Speaker 3: this is your person, if this is not a non

1600
01:23:12,120 --> 01:23:14,880
Speaker 3: negotiable fix it, let me ask you.

1601
01:23:14,880 --> 01:23:16,559
Speaker 2: This before we let go. How did you know that

1602
01:23:16,600 --> 01:23:19,080
Speaker 2: was your person? Though? Like in those rough moments, don't

1603
01:23:19,080 --> 01:23:21,680
Speaker 2: that get very blurry that you feel like, did you

1604
01:23:21,840 --> 01:23:24,760
Speaker 2: ever feel like Miles and be honest and Tina, that

1605
01:23:24,840 --> 01:23:25,960
Speaker 2: you married the wrong person?

1606
01:23:26,400 --> 01:23:26,639
Speaker 3: Never?

1607
01:23:27,400 --> 01:23:30,599
Speaker 2: Never, And so even in those hearts of those rough moments,

1608
01:23:30,680 --> 01:23:32,880
Speaker 2: you always knew it was the right person. Y'all just

1609
01:23:32,920 --> 01:23:33,720
Speaker 2: need to overcome it.

1610
01:23:34,000 --> 01:23:38,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely sure. And it goes back to like as

1611
01:23:38,200 --> 01:23:41,799
Speaker 3: a woman and having him be the head of our life,

1612
01:23:42,160 --> 01:23:45,840
Speaker 3: of our marriage. For me, it was really seeing his

1613
01:23:45,920 --> 01:23:49,719
Speaker 3: actions and his actions always lined up with his words,

1614
01:23:50,000 --> 01:23:52,479
Speaker 3: even if he was still figuring it out, trying to,

1615
01:23:53,320 --> 01:23:55,519
Speaker 3: you know, be the best he can be. Because he's

1616
01:23:55,720 --> 01:23:57,639
Speaker 3: the youngest son. He had to go from the youngest

1617
01:23:57,640 --> 01:23:59,320
Speaker 3: son to now the head of his house.

1618
01:23:59,479 --> 01:24:01,440
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's not easy.

1619
01:24:01,680 --> 01:24:05,600
Speaker 3: So it's been hard in those times. List it is,

1620
01:24:06,760 --> 01:24:10,160
Speaker 3: it's been easy, but it's like understanding he's going through

1621
01:24:10,160 --> 01:24:12,800
Speaker 3: his process and I'm loving him and supporting him through it,

1622
01:24:13,479 --> 01:24:16,680
Speaker 3: and I love him and it's not a non negotiable.

1623
01:24:16,720 --> 01:24:19,000
Speaker 3: I knew what I was getting myself into, I knew

1624
01:24:19,000 --> 01:24:21,680
Speaker 3: who I was marrying, and it's like that's where I

1625
01:24:21,800 --> 01:24:24,160
Speaker 3: come into play to say, I'm gonna be patient in

1626
01:24:24,240 --> 01:24:27,559
Speaker 3: this and we're gonna fix it. We're gonna work on it.

1627
01:24:27,720 --> 01:24:30,599
Speaker 3: We're gonna have that perfect bike to ride. We're not

1628
01:24:30,680 --> 01:24:33,759
Speaker 3: just gonna throw this out. And I'm so glad because

1629
01:24:33,800 --> 01:24:37,759
Speaker 3: now we're eleven years in with many, many many years

1630
01:24:37,800 --> 01:24:40,880
Speaker 3: to go. But I'm thirty one, eleven years married. Like

1631
01:24:40,920 --> 01:24:41,559
Speaker 3: that's insane.

1632
01:24:42,400 --> 01:24:46,639
Speaker 2: That is that is and that's a beautiful test moment.

1633
01:24:46,720 --> 01:24:48,559
Speaker 2: But that's how y'all get to we've been married for

1634
01:24:49,040 --> 01:24:52,240
Speaker 2: sixty years? Yeah, all that stuff. When I hear couples

1635
01:24:52,240 --> 01:24:55,599
Speaker 2: that celebrated what was your uncle that was married? Uncle

1636
01:24:55,600 --> 01:24:57,400
Speaker 2: and aunt and they were at our wedding. What was

1637
01:24:57,400 --> 01:24:58,840
Speaker 2: the forty what is it?

1638
01:24:59,120 --> 01:24:59,280
Speaker 1: Two?

1639
01:25:00,360 --> 01:25:01,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, fifty two years.

1640
01:25:01,280 --> 01:25:02,000
Speaker 1: Fifty two years?

1641
01:25:02,120 --> 01:25:04,479
Speaker 2: How you get the fifty two years? Getting married young?

1642
01:25:04,680 --> 01:25:07,320
Speaker 5: And they got married they said six after knowing each

1643
01:25:07,320 --> 01:25:09,080
Speaker 5: other for six weeks.

1644
01:25:09,720 --> 01:25:11,720
Speaker 1: Said it sounds right.

1645
01:25:11,800 --> 01:25:14,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, six weeks I.

1646
01:25:14,120 --> 01:25:19,840
Speaker 2: Said, wow, that's beautiful. Six weeks in school. Yeah, we're

1647
01:25:19,880 --> 01:25:22,479
Speaker 2: married now it's beautiful. So go ahead, take him moment

1648
01:25:22,479 --> 01:25:25,519
Speaker 2: and go hang that up on the wall. Detroit. We're

1649
01:25:25,520 --> 01:25:28,320
Speaker 2: going to be doing Dear future wife. He live in

1650
01:25:28,479 --> 01:25:31,960
Speaker 2: Detroit on June the thirteenth. Make sure we're gonna be

1651
01:25:31,960 --> 01:25:34,600
Speaker 2: a second. Make sure you pull up. It's going to

1652
01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:35,719
Speaker 2: be a link to tickets.

1653
01:25:36,120 --> 01:25:36,400
Speaker 4: Uh.

1654
01:25:36,520 --> 01:25:40,400
Speaker 2: With episode drops, your tour goes onto what end of

1655
01:25:40,400 --> 01:25:40,840
Speaker 2: this month?

1656
01:25:41,000 --> 01:25:41,240
Speaker 1: Yep?

1657
01:25:41,680 --> 01:25:45,200
Speaker 2: So it ends beginning of June. Yep, so all of May.

1658
01:25:45,479 --> 01:25:47,160
Speaker 2: So this episode to drop, it'll be a couple of

1659
01:25:47,200 --> 01:25:52,120
Speaker 2: weeks left for Miles Minix tour that's going Make sure

1660
01:25:52,160 --> 01:25:54,559
Speaker 2: you tell your friends and family members about it. Y'all

1661
01:25:54,560 --> 01:25:57,280
Speaker 2: pull up and just go follow him. This ain't his

1662
01:25:57,360 --> 01:25:59,800
Speaker 2: last tour, so make sure that y'all get a part

1663
01:25:59,840 --> 01:26:04,400
Speaker 2: of the Miles Minic ecosystem. So support his merch by

1664
01:26:04,439 --> 01:26:08,960
Speaker 2: the merch show man. Listen, you vote with your dollar.

1665
01:26:09,400 --> 01:26:11,599
Speaker 2: You vote and talk when you When you spend your

1666
01:26:11,600 --> 01:26:14,200
Speaker 2: money on something, you show the value of it. And

1667
01:26:14,240 --> 01:26:16,640
Speaker 2: so don't complain about something that you're not spending your

1668
01:26:16,680 --> 01:26:20,160
Speaker 2: dollars on So I want you to plant seeds. Always

1669
01:26:20,160 --> 01:26:22,320
Speaker 2: look at some one and reaping. So plant seeds and

1670
01:26:22,400 --> 01:26:26,880
Speaker 2: miles minis uh ministry. So that you are showing the

1671
01:26:26,920 --> 01:26:30,960
Speaker 2: devil that this is valuable, that this is valuable. That's

1672
01:26:30,960 --> 01:26:34,320
Speaker 2: what I want you to do. What you about to say, Ashley,

1673
01:26:35,640 --> 01:26:38,679
Speaker 2: Well no, I wasn't. Oh come come slid off here, Darren.

1674
01:26:39,080 --> 01:26:41,880
Speaker 2: I want you to give there, take it to them,

1675
01:26:42,360 --> 01:26:46,040
Speaker 2: go to the wild camera. Uh Rihanna, there it is.

1676
01:26:46,880 --> 01:26:47,920
Speaker 1: You got here?

1677
01:26:50,000 --> 01:26:52,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, some gifts for.

1678
01:26:53,920 --> 01:26:54,200
Speaker 6: Love.

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01:26:54,439 --> 01:26:55,240
Speaker 2: Student of Love.

1680
01:26:59,800 --> 01:27:01,559
Speaker 1: Y'all doing it big big.

1681
01:27:01,960 --> 01:27:03,720
Speaker 2: I hope y'all got the right name. I wrote you'all

1682
01:27:03,800 --> 01:27:05,040
Speaker 2: names in each one of them.

1683
01:27:05,520 --> 01:27:05,760
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1684
01:27:06,160 --> 01:27:08,240
Speaker 1: Is this a letterman Jack?

1685
01:27:08,680 --> 01:27:09,280
Speaker 4: You're going.

1686
01:27:11,560 --> 01:27:13,360
Speaker 1: They know me as mister letterman Man.

1687
01:27:16,240 --> 01:27:19,639
Speaker 2: You got a Student Love Jack Collard scheme.

1688
01:27:19,840 --> 01:27:23,120
Speaker 3: And I would have to have been stressing, because fashion

1689
01:27:23,120 --> 01:27:23,479
Speaker 3: over the.

1690
01:27:31,240 --> 01:27:34,280
Speaker 2: Rock, that the Student of Love scheme.

1691
01:27:34,080 --> 01:27:34,439
Speaker 3: All of it.

1692
01:27:34,600 --> 01:27:36,960
Speaker 1: This is very how the books feel too.

1693
01:27:39,320 --> 01:27:43,040
Speaker 2: High premium paper right now, listen, get you a hard copy,

1694
01:27:43,560 --> 01:27:48,080
Speaker 2: put it on you your five place man, Student of Love.

1695
01:27:48,120 --> 01:27:51,080
Speaker 2: That book came out in January, and so in that

1696
01:27:51,160 --> 01:27:56,200
Speaker 2: book I talk about marrying young and bill strong, and

1697
01:27:56,280 --> 01:27:59,679
Speaker 2: so y'all represent what that chapter is about about marrying

1698
01:27:59,760 --> 01:28:02,720
Speaker 2: young and building strong, and so y'all keep doing that.

1699
01:28:02,760 --> 01:28:05,559
Speaker 2: I want y'all to prove me right, Yeah, having this

1700
01:28:05,760 --> 01:28:08,760
Speaker 2: marriage last until death, do you part. I want y'all

1701
01:28:08,800 --> 01:28:11,840
Speaker 2: to be old and gray, you know, and to show

1702
01:28:11,880 --> 01:28:14,760
Speaker 2: that y'all can build something before your frontal lobe is

1703
01:28:14,800 --> 01:28:17,280
Speaker 2: even built. Yeah, let me tell you something. This is

1704
01:28:17,280 --> 01:28:19,000
Speaker 2: what I talk about in the book is that I

1705
01:28:19,080 --> 01:28:21,639
Speaker 2: believe this is my own theory that you know, your

1706
01:28:21,680 --> 01:28:25,240
Speaker 2: frontal lobe, which is scientifically proven, isn't developed until about

1707
01:28:25,240 --> 01:28:27,680
Speaker 2: twenty four to twenty six years old. But if you

1708
01:28:27,800 --> 01:28:31,639
Speaker 2: marry younger, while your frontal lobe is developing, the frontal

1709
01:28:31,680 --> 01:28:35,120
Speaker 2: lobe is a part of your brain where you're understanding

1710
01:28:35,160 --> 01:28:37,719
Speaker 2: logic on a different level where it's fully developing logic.

1711
01:28:37,920 --> 01:28:40,599
Speaker 2: But if you married together, if you get married while

1712
01:28:40,640 --> 01:28:43,759
Speaker 2: that frontal lobe is developing, then the most logical decision

1713
01:28:43,800 --> 01:28:46,080
Speaker 2: that you made of marrying that person now is gets

1714
01:28:46,160 --> 01:28:49,080
Speaker 2: cemented in your brain while it's fully developed. And now

1715
01:28:49,200 --> 01:28:51,840
Speaker 2: that person that you married at that young age. And

1716
01:28:51,920 --> 01:28:54,439
Speaker 2: y'all continue to do the work I always say, continue

1717
01:28:54,479 --> 01:28:58,880
Speaker 2: going through marriage counselor and all that. But then that person,

1718
01:28:58,920 --> 01:29:01,439
Speaker 2: the Bible says, enjoy the wife of your youth, May

1719
01:29:01,520 --> 01:29:04,240
Speaker 2: her breast satisfy you always. And so that's the wise

1720
01:29:04,320 --> 01:29:07,080
Speaker 2: man in the Bible that says that, King Solomon. And

1721
01:29:07,120 --> 01:29:09,479
Speaker 2: so when you do that at a young age, that

1722
01:29:09,560 --> 01:29:12,160
Speaker 2: person begins to be tethered to your heart, to your soul,

1723
01:29:12,200 --> 01:29:13,960
Speaker 2: to your mind, and you'll be like, this is what

1724
01:29:13,960 --> 01:29:16,920
Speaker 2: oneness truly feels like. And so y'all get a chance

1725
01:29:16,920 --> 01:29:20,439
Speaker 2: to experience true oneness and that's absolutely beautiful at a

1726
01:29:20,479 --> 01:29:23,400
Speaker 2: young age. So keep building, keep building.

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01:29:23,479 --> 01:29:27,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, get married at twenty one. I cannot imagine my

1728
01:29:27,320 --> 01:29:29,960
Speaker 1: life without Tina. Yeah, so there's a lot of truth

1729
01:29:30,000 --> 01:29:30,639
Speaker 1: to that for sure.

1730
01:29:30,720 --> 01:29:36,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, it look real different right now. So listen as

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01:29:36,200 --> 01:29:38,959
Speaker 2: we wrap up. May the love you share today outlive

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Speaker 2: the season you're in.

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Speaker 5: May it carry you through the days when words are

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Speaker 5: few and faith.

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Speaker 2: Has to do the talking. Y'all give it up for

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Speaker 2: the minute, y'all. Yes, wow. Laderian thrust it suddenly into

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Speaker 2: child protective services. In twenty fifteen, my nephew black a

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Speaker 2: boy the likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship slim

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Speaker 2: to none, Armie sixteen years old black, a boy with

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Speaker 2: five years in the Falseter care system before I even

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01:30:13,400 --> 01:30:17,960
Speaker 2: knew his name. The likelihood have ever been adopted? Yep,

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Speaker 2: you guessed it. Slim to none. While Ladarian and Ourmiani

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01:30:23,240 --> 01:30:26,320
Speaker 2: were trying to survive and barely thrive in an overpopulated

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01:30:26,320 --> 01:30:29,479
Speaker 2: and underfunded false care system, I was living my own life,

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01:30:29,520 --> 01:30:32,640
Speaker 2: doing well professionally, having been a single father with a

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Speaker 2: daughter who at that point was doing well in college.

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Speaker 2: It was my time to live my life right wrong.

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Speaker 2: I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. There are just two many

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Speaker 2: of our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the

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01:30:49,080 --> 01:30:52,519
Speaker 2: limbo of the Falseter care system. In twenty seventeen, I

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Speaker 2: legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast forward to twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 2: I had no ties to this other young king, but

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01:30:58,760 --> 01:31:01,320
Speaker 2: I felt God instructed me to adopt them also on

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01:31:01,400 --> 01:31:05,479
Speaker 2: al bab Starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right,

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Speaker 2: Working with various foster care and adoption agencies to help

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Speaker 2: bring awareness to the countless young Black kings and the

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Speaker 2: foster care system should have decreased My agitation right join

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Speaker 2: the board of Directors of Advantage adoption and organization that

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01:31:19,120 --> 01:31:22,479
Speaker 2: helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in falter care

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01:31:22,600 --> 01:31:26,559
Speaker 2: should have led to some type of resolve. Right, No,

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Speaker 2: not at all. None of it felt like I had

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Speaker 2: done enough. I now realized that every one of those

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Speaker 2: experiences was land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission.

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Speaker 2: Kingdom Royal. Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of

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Speaker 2: the art home for foster boys. Our first location will

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Speaker 2: be in the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex. We will utilize

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Speaker 2: the whole person approach that instills identity, empowers them to

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Speaker 2: advocate for themselves, and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and

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01:31:57,400 --> 01:32:02,639
Speaker 2: limitless options that they thought were impossible. Though. The young

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Speaker 2: Kings will attend the local public schools that are in

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Speaker 2: proximity to King of Royal. Our at home curriculum will

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Speaker 2: broaden their worldview through participating in the arts, attending various

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Speaker 2: cultural events, learning about and engaging in multifaceted discussions about

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01:32:17,400 --> 01:32:21,559
Speaker 2: current events and even relevant historical contexts. Introducing them to

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Speaker 2: gardening and landscaping, and even caring for our animals on

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Speaker 2: our form and on site stables. We just launched our

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Speaker 2: startup capital campaign with the goal of raising two point

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Speaker 2: eight million dollars. Now why two point eight million dollars? Well,

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Speaker 2: In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which

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Speaker 2: I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community.

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Speaker 2: One of the most notable successes was that one of

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Speaker 2: the videos went viral, garnering twenty eight million views. However,

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Speaker 2: one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't raise

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Speaker 2: a single dollar to help in implementing a more sustainable

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Speaker 2: plan for the homeless community. So, throughout the years, much remorse,

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Speaker 2: I reflect that I'm not maximizing that moment. I knew

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Speaker 2: if at that time just ten percent of the viewers

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Speaker 2: donated one dollar, we would have raised at least two

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Speaker 2: point eight million dollars that could have really established long

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Speaker 2: term support for the homeless community, or at least started

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Speaker 2: a long term initiative to do so. This is my

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Speaker 2: do over, this is our new beginning. Together, we can

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01:33:25,560 --> 01:33:29,520
Speaker 2: attack this at the route by specifically helping our homeless

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Speaker 2: black boys who are already disproportionately represented in the American

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Speaker 2: fossil care system. I'm a Terisarwickfield. I've been nominated for

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Speaker 2: three Regional Emmys documenting my work with the homeless as

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Speaker 2: well as my personal adoption journey. Despite those accolades, the

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Speaker 2: greatest award for me is truly providing the infrastructure for

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Speaker 2: a transformed life. Visit Kingdomroyal dot com for more details,

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Speaker 2: Crown of King and make a donation today. I hope

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Speaker 2: you enjoyed this episode of the Dear Future WIFEI podcast.

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Speaker 2: Remember be lit, live intentionally and transparently, and don't stop loving.

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