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Speaker 1: You're listening to the Hammer and Nigel Show. My name

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Speaker 1: is Nigel Jasonhammer right over there with a very special

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Speaker 1: in studio guest.

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Speaker 2: It's a little gift to all of the ladies watching

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Speaker 2: the YouTube stream. Heredies, Happy Valentine's Day weekend. Here is

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Speaker 2: the traffic beast, Matt Bear, my friend.

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 4: I couldn't be better? Hello, ladies, Happy Valentine's Day.

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Speaker 3: Man, what's the most romantic thing you've ever done?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Man, I would say most romantic thing I've ever done

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Speaker 5: is okay, okay, middle school.

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Speaker 4: I got this woman.

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Speaker 3: I liked this woman.

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Speaker 4: Okay, she was forty. Ye, she was forty. I was

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Speaker 4: staty's moms got it going on, you know.

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Speaker 5: And I bought her a bouquet of roses and they

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Speaker 5: were red roses, a dozen.

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Speaker 4: Of them, because I thought, that's what you read.

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Speaker 5: Those aren't cheap, No one, those aren't cheap. And I

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Speaker 5: rode my bike, fourteen years old, down to this girl's

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Speaker 5: house in my neighborhood and I gave them to her,

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Speaker 5: and then I think she went out with her boyfriend

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Speaker 5: later that night.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it was kind of a bummer.

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Speaker 3: And you're in the friend zone.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, oh, I'm so friend zone and we ended up

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Speaker 5: dating later in life, but oh yeah, it was just

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Speaker 5: kind of like one of those out Yeah it worked out,

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Speaker 5: but it was kind of like, yeah, this is how

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Speaker 5: the rest of my dating life is going to go.

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Speaker 4: You know, this is kind of gonna be for a while.

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Speaker 3: So do you have any big plans this weekend?

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Speaker 2: Like do you ever go out on Valentine's Day just

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Speaker 2: because I don't know, you feel like you want to

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Speaker 2: have some company or are you like my wife and

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Speaker 2: I now we're together, but we're getting separated over the weekend.

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Speaker 3: I'm flying to Florida.

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Speaker 1: She's staying here, not legally, not where a lawyers involved.

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Speaker 3: We hate this holiday.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like Crystal always says, this holiday sucks. It's a

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Speaker 2: wholemark holiday. If you're going to spend that kind of

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Speaker 2: money on roses or candy or something, just put it

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Speaker 2: into an account.

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Speaker 3: Let's take a road trip somewhere or something.

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Speaker 4: That's That's where I am.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'll take a roach trip by myself. Basically,

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Speaker 5: I feel like if I go out and spend a

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Speaker 5: bunch of money on Valentine's Day, I'm not saving for

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Speaker 5: other things I need to be doing.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I would to meet the right woman, you know,

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Speaker 4: that's what I want to do.

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Speaker 1: If you met the right not.

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Speaker 3: Necessarily what's your definition of the right woman?

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Speaker 4: Alive?

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Speaker 3: And yeah, good night everybody. Hey, we'll talk to you

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Speaker 3: next week. It's the Hammer and Nights.

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Speaker 4: I got a lucky strike in my left hand right now.

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Speaker 6: I'm like, yeah, just I wanted to be just you know,

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Speaker 6: a little bit motivated, but at the same time, like

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Speaker 6: to chill, you know, preferably physical attraction there and all

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Speaker 6: the things press.

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Speaker 4: So it's yeah, I've got a long list in my head.

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Speaker 5: I really do, because I'm not married yet, and I

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Speaker 5: feel like if I really wanted to find really.

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Speaker 1: Putting pressure on yourself there, buddy, Yes, I am all right,

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Speaker 1: really a.

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Speaker 4: Lot of pressure on myself.

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Speaker 5: Right well, I'm forty eight years old, and it's one

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Speaker 5: of those things where or forty seven getting red into

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Speaker 5: forty eight men and I obviously, and I'm kind of

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Speaker 5: making light of it, but I do think about this

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Speaker 5: a lot. I mean, I'm not going to have a family,

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Speaker 5: you know, unless I adopt at some point or I

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Speaker 5: meet it.

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Speaker 4: To what your girl, We're gonna have nothing to talk about.

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Speaker 3: You can pull a Belichick.

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Speaker 4: Look at you. No, I can't.

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Speaker 5: I don't have the resources Belichick has. I mean, look

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Speaker 5: at him.

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Speaker 3: You look at hell of a lot better than he does.

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Speaker 2: Now he's got more zeros in his bank account, but

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Speaker 2: he looks like a foot You look like a million

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Speaker 2: damn dollars.

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Speaker 4: Well, thank you.

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Speaker 5: I have zero zero's in my bank account usually, so yeah,

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Speaker 5: with Valentine's thing, but I don't want to go. Maybe

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Speaker 5: I'll do something spontaneous tomorrow, like maybe go get a

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Speaker 5: dinner with a friend, you know, I have female friends

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Speaker 5: or whatever, and just you know, kind of out start. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: but it's kind of like the holidays for me. You know,

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Speaker 5: there's going to be a time in place for these

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Speaker 5: you know, but right now it's just not it. Are

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Speaker 5: your standards too high?

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Speaker 2: Because Nage and I will be the first ones to

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Speaker 2: tell you they can't always be tensely never, you know.

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Speaker 5: I like that blurred lines video a lot. It's yeah,

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Speaker 5: I guess they're a little too high.

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Speaker 4: Maybe I know.

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Speaker 5: I don't think they are. Man, I'm just I'm just

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Speaker 5: looking for something very real. I don't want to meet

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Speaker 5: anybody online.

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Speaker 3: Remember two fives in a hot tub equal to ten.

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Speaker 4: Are you allowed.

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Speaker 3: My life?

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Speaker 4: It's like an episode of blind date.

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Speaker 1: You know, Are you allowed to date somebody like at

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Speaker 1: a at a recovery meeting or something like that? Is

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Speaker 1: that allowed in the things that you participate? This is

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Speaker 1: an interesting question.

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Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 5: I think it's a fantastic question. Being a recovery alcoholic

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Speaker 5: as I am, you know, I can go to certain

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Speaker 5: meetings and yes me a woman, but you gotta be

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Speaker 5: careful on that man. You know, there are unwritten rules

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Speaker 5: that say, hey, you know, don't don't scoop them up

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Speaker 5: at their first meeting, you know, I mean if they're

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Speaker 5: early in recovery.

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Speaker 4: Because I'm going to tell you what.

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Speaker 5: I could have drank over anything, anything in the world,

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Speaker 5: but nothing. I never drank harder than a relationship or

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Speaker 5: a woman. That really would trigger me. And it could

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Speaker 5: be anything. It could have been in a relationship. It

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Speaker 5: could have been getting rejected, it could have been getting accepted.

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Speaker 5: You know, Yeah, I'll go out with you, and I'm like, whoa,

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Speaker 5: I'm going to go home. I have a drink over

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Speaker 5: this that when most people, normal people don't have alcohols

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Speaker 5: and we'd be like, let's go out tonight.

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Speaker 4: Not me, I'm gonna go home drink alone. That's what

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna do.

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Speaker 2: Did you ever lose a serious romantic relationship because of

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Speaker 4: Absolutely?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, there's actually is the last relationship that I was in.

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Speaker 5: I remember we were having sushi one night. She was

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Speaker 5: back and forth, and she actually texted her because I

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Speaker 5: had just ordered. This was like a Tuesday night at

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Speaker 5: eight pm, and I was on like my third vodka

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Speaker 5: rocks at this dinner and they haven't even brought out

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Speaker 5: the end of Mommy, I mean, got it, got it.

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Speaker 1: I'm a great advertiser. Yeah, great storry to a sushi night. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Mommy's really good.

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Speaker 5: I thought I was being reserved, he because usually at

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Speaker 5: this sushi house, I ordered Long Island iced tea.

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Speaker 4: So I'm like, wow, I'm really cutting back. I got

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Speaker 4: a vodka rocks in my head here. You know. She

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Speaker 4: looks at me across the.

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Speaker 5: Table, just a beautiful, outstanding, intelligent woman. She looks at

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Speaker 5: me and says, you're an alcoholic.

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Speaker 1: And you your response.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, come on, I'll take another drink.

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Speaker 1: Can you take another one? Please?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's exactly what happened. I'm like, why aren't you drinking?

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Speaker 4: Of course I get offended, you know, why aren't you

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Speaker 5: Well, I'm not an alcoholic and I have to work

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Speaker 5: at four thirty in the morning. Is how those things work,

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Speaker 5: you know? And at the time I did too, I

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Speaker 5: just didn't give a damn. I mean I was drinking.

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Speaker 5: I was gonna drinking at my sushi coming out with

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Speaker 5: you ordered all these roles, like eighty five percent of

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Speaker 4: Me, you know, it's California role.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, California dragon roll. I mean they all come out

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Speaker 5: and the play. They're huge and big and you want

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Speaker 5: to drink more? What do you like get doing that?

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Speaker 5: And yeah, that was kind of the beginning. And really

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Speaker 5: the entire relationship was her tolerating my immaturity.

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Speaker 4: And my jealousy and my selfishness and selfish thank you,

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Speaker 4: thank you? Yeah, that's always How does that one keep

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Speaker 4: popping up all the time?

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Speaker 3: It's always there.

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Speaker 1: Trust me, I can comment because I are one.

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Speaker 2: And Nigel's never been to a facility, but he's had

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Speaker 2: these same speeches.

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Speaker 4: But I remember I broke up. Oh this is starting

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Speaker 4: to sting a little.

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Speaker 5: I broke up with her on New Year's Eve, thinking

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Speaker 5: that I would get back together with her, because that's

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Speaker 5: how we always did it, okay, And she did not

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Speaker 5: get back together with me. Believe it or not, when

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Speaker 5: you break up with a woman on New Year's Eve,

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Speaker 5: she's not going to come crawling back to you.

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Speaker 4: That's not gonna happen. You don't. Yeah, you don't say

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Speaker 4: there's she wanted.

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Speaker 3: You to be there to kiss at midnight you broke.

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Speaker 5: Up with Yeah, well, we weren't even going to go

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Speaker 4: And then she did end up going to a party.

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Speaker 5: It's kind of a don't make it to midnight? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 5: I know, I was how do I remember this? I

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Speaker 5: was incredibly drunk at midnight. When I say incredibly drunk

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Speaker 5: for me, that's I mean. I was probably somewhere around

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Speaker 5: the point three to oh or point three oh range

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Speaker 5: at the hospital level, and the text message was here

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Speaker 5: flying And it's one of those things, is that was

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Speaker 5: the last real relationship I was in. I still kind

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Speaker 5: of have those insecurities, you know, I mean PTSD. I

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Speaker 5: don't want to say that, I mean necessarily, but I

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Speaker 5: still question whether or not I have the maturity to

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Speaker 5: handle a long term relationship.

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Speaker 3: And it's over you right now. Matt.

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Speaker 2: How many smoke show chicks are listening to this, going

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Speaker 2: I can fix you. I'm getting text messages from friends going,

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Speaker 2: I've got a friend that used to be a former cheerleader.

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Speaker 2: I need to hook her up with Matt. Like, Matt,

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Speaker 2: you are a fixer upper. I think you'll agree to that.

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Speaker 2: But I think you got to be open to the idea.

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Speaker 1: And not only that, I think and I'm not saying

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Speaker 1: you're fixed. Nobody's fixed, but obviously you have precedented now

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Speaker 1: you have a track record, now.

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean. Like you, you're a different dude.

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Speaker 1: Guys, so everybody needs quote unquote fixing. Nobody's perfect. But

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Speaker 1: I'm just I'm trying to build you up here.

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Speaker 3: Why did I be your wing man?

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Speaker 4: Hell? Yes, yeah, man.

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Speaker 2: We'll take you out and I promise you you'll get

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Speaker 2: something on the hangdown by the end of the night.

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Speaker 3: I promise you.

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Speaker 5: The next bowling event, you guys have them going and

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, deal.

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Speaker 5: The thing about it is, it's okay and whatever it's time,

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Speaker 4: And it's going to be fantastic.

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Speaker 5: I have that hope of yeah, covering alcoholic I mean,

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Speaker 5: but yet the same time you have that mentality. I mean,

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Speaker 5: I spent twenty five years hardcore drinking and drugging, and

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Speaker 5: you're question your success. It's why we put ourselves in

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Speaker 5: uncomfortable situations. And for me, at first stays an uncomfortable situation.

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Speaker 5: It just is with my age, with not being able

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Speaker 5: yourself in that position and you're like, damn it. You know,

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Speaker 5: it's just not as bad. I did not have to endure.

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Speaker 4: Like I thought I would.

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Speaker 5: So that's that's basically how this progresses. I don't think

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Speaker 5: just for me as recovering alcoholic. I've heard stories from

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Speaker 5: other male recovering alcaholics that have the same insecurity to it,

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Speaker 5: and it's okay because we're human, you know, yeah, we're

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Speaker 5: human beings. You're alone, You're going to have these insecurities.

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Speaker 5: So while it's like, yeah, my my my clock is ticking,

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Speaker 5: I think that, but at the same time, I enjoy

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Speaker 5: being patient and I enjoy non settling it's that's our

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Speaker 5: good for you, reality good for you, It's it's it's

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Speaker 5: a blessing.

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Speaker 3: Why should you change when all these chicks suck for decades.

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Speaker 2: That's gonna win over the female demo, won't it, Allison.

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Speaker 2: That's gonna get us more numbers with women, Won't it Alison?

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Speaker 4: Who wants to touch me?

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Speaker 2: All Right, Matt, we got one minute left here and

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Speaker 2: we're going to do some choose your own adventure here.

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Speaker 3: Do you want to talk about the Recovery Cafe or.

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Speaker 2: Do you want to talk about how the NBA find

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Speaker 2: the pacers for tanking despite the fact they won two

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Speaker 5: Let me say something about the Recovery Cafe real quick,

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Speaker 5: because it is cool and it is an institution. It's

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Speaker 5: on South Meridian Street, north of Shapiro's. And I don't

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Speaker 5: know why Shapiro's is my landmark, but that's what it is.

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Speaker 5: It's a place people can go. They're going to have

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Speaker 5: a breakfast tomorrow and the cafe is going to be

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Speaker 5: open from nine to node and it's kind of like

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Speaker 5: a place for any stages in recovery. And I wanted

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Speaker 5: to bring it up because it's not necessarily twelve step.

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Speaker 5: It's not necessary rehabilitation center. You're just hanging out with

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Speaker 5: people like you, concovery alcoholics and addicts, and it's a

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Speaker 5: fantastic way to start building a recovery community. So if

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Speaker 5: of the caregivers of the recovery now galliker atic like me,

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Speaker 5: then you can take somebody with you and go with

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Speaker 5: them and it kind of break the ice a little bit,

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Speaker 5: be like, hey, let's go get a breakfast, man, meet

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Speaker 5: some people. Because they do all that, they bring you

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Speaker 5: in and it's very social and it's very community.

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Speaker 4: Like you said, it's cool.

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Speaker 5: So that's Recovery Cafe again South Meridian, north of McCarty,

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Speaker 5: north of Shapiros And you can go to Recovery Cafe

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Speaker 5: Indy by just googling and you can find it there.

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Speaker 2: Supporting Sobriety is his podcast. Find him on Twitter x

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Speaker 2: at Matt in Traffic, Facebook Matthew Bear.

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Speaker 2: Make sure you spell the last name properly b a

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Speaker 2: I R. Matt, you're an American treasurer. Have a great weekend,

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Speaker 2: my friend.

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Speaker 4: Man, I love this time. Thanks for having me.

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