1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: You've been advocating for marriage. Sometimes it comes off extremely harsh. 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 2: What is that about. 3 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 3: I don't like when people play about marriage because essentially 4 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:09,559 Speaker 3: you're planning about God, and I have an issue with that. 5 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:13,119 Speaker 3: We are a living picture of Christ's relationship with the church. 6 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 3: People need to be able to find God in our marriage, 7 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 3: and so that's the reason why. 8 00:00:17,040 --> 00:00:18,760 Speaker 1: I speak the way that I do well to their 9 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: future wife podcast Kitty Rose is in the building. 10 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 3: Come on now, yeah, Glory to God. I love a 11 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 3: believer my whole life. I've been heavy in the church. However, 12 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 3: there was a time where I was out there in 13 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 3: that world having a little bit too much fun. 14 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 2: What was spoken over your life? 15 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 3: When I was younger, I forgot what the woman's name was, 16 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 3: but she said I was going to be a singer. 17 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:38,279 Speaker 3: They wanted me the same gospel, and I'm like, they 18 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:40,880 Speaker 3: seemed too hard going viral. 19 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 2: Yet yes I have. 20 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:43,879 Speaker 4: So let me be like when I say. 21 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 3: That I've been practicing nursing for over a decade. My 22 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 3: aunt Chandra told my mom I keep seeing her on 23 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 3: the stage. God said that he allowed her to do nursing, 24 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 3: but that's not her calling. I was like, oh, good, 25 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 3: I'm gonna be singing, No, I'm going to be speaking 26 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 3: over marriages. 27 00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 4: I just didn't feel qualified. 28 00:00:57,600 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 2: Can we shout your husband out here? 29 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:01,040 Speaker 4: You know, I'm glad you said that. 30 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 3: I'm married, I'm love, I'm nurtured, I'm protected, I am 31 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:05,679 Speaker 3: provided for in real life. 32 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: Some people like, oh, are you this relationship person? Why 33 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 1: don't you ever do interviews with your husband? 34 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,240 Speaker 3: I just don't want to expose my marriage. Everybody goud 35 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 3: still working on that part of me. I would go 36 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 3: back and forward with you behind my marriage. 37 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 2: How did y'all meet? 38 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 3: We've been knowing each other's we were thirteen, never dated. 39 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 3: We've always been really fond of each other. He would 40 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 3: call me at random times while I was in the 41 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 3: midst of a problem. My tire is flat, my break 42 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 3: life just went out, and it sat him saying, do 43 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 3: you have somebody to help you? It was always sending 44 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,479 Speaker 3: your location. He will always make sure that he looked 45 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 3: out for me. I made a video and I had 46 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 3: posted and he's in the comments and he's like, I 47 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 3: have all of those qualities, and I was like, oh. 48 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 2: Is that what you did? 49 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: How does someone not make the idol I desire marriage? 50 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 1: I'm about to hit forty years old. 51 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 3: That's how you know right there you were fighting against 52 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 3: an imaginary clock. That's a key indication that that has 53 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 3: become an idol. 54 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: I want you to speak to single women who have 55 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: grown weary in their well doing. 56 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:57,080 Speaker 4: Hey, single Babies. 57 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:02,400 Speaker 2: The Future Wife podcast has global impact. 58 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:05,640 Speaker 3: From Texas, I have been on this journey of healing 59 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 3: and self discovery, and this podcast has been a vital 60 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 3: part of my process. 61 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:15,800 Speaker 1: God's establishing through you a legacy, a display of freedom, 62 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: founding authentic spirituality California. 63 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 4: I learned so much as a single man through your podcast, 64 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 4: and continue to learn so much as now a married 65 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 4: man Nigeria. 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My 101 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: homie Kitty Rose is in the building. 102 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 4: You're gonna have me crying over here. 103 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 2: You're gonna cry because we. 104 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 3: Started off in prayers. Then I had something good come 105 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 3: on now. 106 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Glory to God. I love it. 107 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 2: Listen. So let me ask you this, how long have 108 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 2: you been a believer? 109 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 4: My whole life? My whole life. I was raised in 110 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 4: the church. I was raised really church church for real, Yeah, 111 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 4: Solomon McGee. 112 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 3: We come from a bloodline, now sold all right, we 113 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 3: come from a blood line, and I've been heavy in 114 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 3: the church. However, there was a time where I'm not 115 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 3: gonna say I separate because I never separated from God. 116 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 3: I was just sinning. Yeah, it was af there in 117 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 3: that world, having a little bit too much fun. 118 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 2: A little bit too much. 119 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:39,440 Speaker 3: I had a whole bunch of consequences that came with it. Yeah, 120 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 3: And it was honestly, it was last year. Actually it 121 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 3: was at the end of last year. Now, granted God 122 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,719 Speaker 3: has been tugging on me. I mean he has been tugging, 123 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 3: but I wanted to still live the life that I 124 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 3: wanted to live. And last year, after we had a 125 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 3: Christmas party literally the next day, which was actually the 126 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 3: day before you and I were on the show together. Yeah, 127 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 3: that conviction the next on the fifteenth was horrible. It 128 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 3: was a wild as because I was over there taking 129 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 3: shots back to back, and the next day. God was 130 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 3: on me heavy that morning, and the taste for alcohol 131 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 3: was gone, The desire to curse was gone, even to 132 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 3: listen to second music. All of that, like my appetite 133 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 3: for a lot of things were gone. And so when 134 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 3: you saw me on stage that time, that was the 135 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:26,160 Speaker 3: moment where I did. I felt as though I gave 136 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:27,919 Speaker 3: a complete yes, But I didn't find that later on 137 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,719 Speaker 3: that I didn't give before yes, I gave somewhat of yes. 138 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:32,279 Speaker 3: But there was still a part of me that was like, 139 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 3: keep my foot over here. 140 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 4: Just a little bit. 141 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 2: I'm keep some little cuss words in my arsenal them. Yeah, 142 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:38,960 Speaker 2: drink little. 143 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:41,280 Speaker 3: God was on me, and I'm glad that he was. 144 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 3: That was my last time that I had a chance 145 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 3: to turn up, and it. 146 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:47,080 Speaker 1: Would tell me he snatched the taste of that in 147 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 1: twenty four hours. 148 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 4: He took everything away from me. 149 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: So was it something that you had a conversation with 150 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,040 Speaker 1: God about? Was it something that happened that night or 151 00:05:56,080 --> 00:05:58,559 Speaker 1: evening that you regretted that you said never again. 152 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 3: Actually it was probably let me see, a couple of 153 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 3: years ago. It was a couple of years ago I 154 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:07,040 Speaker 3: went through something really, really, really traumatic, and I remember 155 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 3: I was crying out to God, and I know the 156 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:11,560 Speaker 3: conversation that he and I had and what God was 157 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 3: telling me to do. But it was really hard for 158 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 3: me to do what God was asking me to do 159 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:18,359 Speaker 3: because it was gonna cost too much of what I 160 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 3: wanted to do with my life. And so I kept 161 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:22,039 Speaker 3: on going and I kept on going, but I'm telling you, 162 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 3: every time it was like God was tugging on me 163 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:27,480 Speaker 3: and I would I would be obedient to like some things, 164 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 3: and some things I wasn't obedient too, until it was 165 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:32,080 Speaker 3: just that moment where God was like, all right, either 166 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 3: you gonna give me your yes or not, and this 167 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:37,279 Speaker 3: is the last offer for you. 168 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 4: And so that was scary because I know how God is. 169 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 4: I'm a dreamer. 170 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:42,040 Speaker 2: He said, it's your last offer. 171 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's my last offer. And I know what that 172 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 3: meant because I had a dream when I was younger. 173 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 3: I had a dream when I was younger. I talked 174 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 3: to my mom and my cousin Ronda about this and 175 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 3: I told him, I said, I remember that I was 176 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 3: at the foot of God and I saw so many 177 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 3: people getting pulled. I saw people standing up in front 178 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 3: of God, but you could not see him his magnitude, 179 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 3: He was so great, so big, and you couldn't hear 180 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 3: what they were saying, but you can feel the presence 181 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,280 Speaker 3: in the room, and you can feel when people were 182 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 3: being pulled away from him. And at that time, in 183 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 3: a dream, he told me it was not my time yet. 184 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 3: And I knew from that moment that if I keep 185 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 3: on living the life that I live, I ain't gonna 186 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 3: make it to him. And my mom kept telling me 187 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 3: to stop playing, and I still was playing, and I 188 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 3: learned some valuable lessons while playing. I did, but I 189 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 3: was trained, right. I was trained, so I knew exactly 190 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:34,800 Speaker 3: where to go back to Kolchic has always been in 191 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 3: my heart. But you know, of course, when you get older, 192 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 3: I guess over time, I started going into different churches 193 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 3: and stuff and just kind of like wanting to see 194 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 3: exactly where I wanted to land. And then, of course, 195 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 3: because I'm a seer and I'm a dreamer, and so 196 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 3: I see things as well. And there was one church 197 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:52,120 Speaker 3: that I went to it's a popular church. I'm not 198 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,200 Speaker 3: going to say the name. The last service that I 199 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 3: had went to, I saw spirits just roaming inside of 200 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 3: the church, and it caused me to kind of freak 201 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 3: out in a church. And my cousin was with me. 202 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 3: My cousin and my ex best friend. They were all women. 203 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 3: They were like, are you okay? And I'm like, we 204 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 3: got to go. And I was seeing just like distorted faces, 205 00:08:08,840 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 3: thestorted figures and all of that. 206 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 4: And it took me a minute to go back to 207 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 4: church after that took me a minute. 208 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 2: That's interesting. 209 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 1: The day I gave my life to Christ, well, the 210 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 1: next day, it was December the twenty second of nineteen 211 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: ninety six, and I was in Lakeside Club and I 212 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,920 Speaker 1: saw the same thing over people's heads. And I was 213 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: sitting there, and I was there and I was like, 214 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:35,440 Speaker 1: I was hanging out with my homeboy's birthday and I 215 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 1: started looking around and I just started seeing spirits over 216 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: people's heads. And then I would hear the music or 217 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:44,479 Speaker 1: whatever Luke Skywalker was, you know, pumping through the speakers, 218 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: and I'm hearing the music and everything started going in 219 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 1: slow motion. I just started seeing spirits over people's heads. 220 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 1: And I said, oh, I can't. I don't want to 221 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,679 Speaker 1: go to club mom. And I left the next day 222 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:55,960 Speaker 1: and gave my life to Christ. Rededicated my life to Christ. 223 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 4: At eighteen, I like rededicate. 224 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 3: You know what my mom used to always telled me 225 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 3: since I was a little girl, She's always said, that's 226 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:04,680 Speaker 3: a gift. When I got older, I told mom, I said, 227 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 3: that's a curse. I said, this ain't always a gift 228 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 3: because you see so much, and like some spaces you 229 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,120 Speaker 3: won't even be in because you see them. And so 230 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 3: I've been a sea my whole life. The enemy has 231 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 3: been attacked me my whole life. It was a certain 232 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 3: time of each year around fall, closer to the Halloween, 233 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 3: closer to like the October time, and in my sleep 234 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 3: every night I would have nightmares. And you can see that, 235 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 3: I can feel the demons literally attacked me in my sleep. 236 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 3: And so each year was the same thing up until 237 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 3: I was seventeen. I was pregnant with my daughter. At 238 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 3: seventeen years old, I have never been attacked the way 239 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 3: that I was. 240 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 4: That night. It was a full on attack. 241 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 3: Her dad was seeing me being attacked in my sleep, 242 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 3: and I woke up screaming, and my sister came out 243 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 3: of the room, her husband came out a room. They 244 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 3: tried to grab me, but I kept seeing spirits. And 245 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 3: then that night my mom took me to an evangelist 246 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:53,840 Speaker 3: and they all prayed over me. And then that was 247 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:55,439 Speaker 3: that walk from there, and I never had any problem 248 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 3: since then. 249 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 2: He was how old seventeen? 250 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 3: I was seventeen at that time. Nineteen years old is 251 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 3: one I got saved. That's when I fully gave my 252 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 3: life to Christ. And then at nineteen, I'm young. I'm vulnerable, right, 253 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 3: I'm over here listening to Trinity five seven and stuff. 254 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 3: I got stuff on cassettes because I had a mission 255 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 3: Bishi Galant and I'm sitting in here now I'm trying 256 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:18,959 Speaker 3: to say, wasn't it. I removed every CD anything secular 257 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 3: that I had. I was reading a word consistently. But 258 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 3: I was nineteen, and you lose a lot of friends 259 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:27,079 Speaker 3: when you go through that walk, and so I lost 260 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 3: a lot of friends. People didn't want to be around me. 261 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 3: They told me I became too holy. It was just 262 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 3: such an isolating experience. And I remember my sister, she 263 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 3: was doing this modeling thing and she had a group 264 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 3: of women that they were modeling together, and she said, 265 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 3: I want you to join me, and I was like, Okay, 266 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 3: that's cool. I didn't see no problem with it until 267 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,720 Speaker 3: we had to go to the club. And that's where 268 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 3: it got me, gotcha, because I was getting attention, the 269 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 3: attention that I knew for a fact, mal attention that 270 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 3: I was deprived of throughout the majority of my life, 271 00:10:56,559 --> 00:10:59,439 Speaker 3: specifically for my dad. But I was deprived of that, 272 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 3: and the enemy new that was your weakness right there, 273 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 3: and it got me. And when I tell you, that 274 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 3: was the worst I was in nursing school in nineteen 275 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,880 Speaker 3: I was in nursing school and every drive to clinicals, 276 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 3: every drive up to the campus was the worst drive 277 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 3: because I would cry every day because it was so 278 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 3: hard for me to get back to God. It was 279 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 3: just so hard for me. It was hard for me 280 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 3: to listen to a sermon, to listen to a gospel. 281 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 3: Soon it was hard to get back to God. 282 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: Really, So give language to that. Why you think that was? 283 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,839 Speaker 1: You had this upbringing, always was raised in church. Now 284 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,439 Speaker 1: you rededicate your life to Christ at nineteen years old, 285 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:35,920 Speaker 1: you go to the club, it pulls you back into 286 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: this wayward mentality lifestyle. But you have this conviction in 287 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: your heart that leads you to cry week before the 288 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: Lord because you feel so separated from him. What made 289 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: it so hard to just say, let me, let me 290 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: stop whatever I'm doing and just get back on the right. 291 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 3: Path Because I was living in my own will, and 292 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 3: it's a lot more enticing to live me your will 293 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 3: rather than God's. God's will comes with a major cost, 294 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 3: to the personal cost. And I wasn't ready to give 295 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 3: up my pride. I wasn't ready to give up the thrills. 296 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 3: I wasn't ready to give up none of that I 297 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,079 Speaker 3: thought I was. And then also that was a really 298 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:14,680 Speaker 3: vulnerable age. Yet you know, of course I had my 299 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:17,559 Speaker 3: mom behind me. But when you don't have your friends 300 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 3: that you have for so long and it's just you 301 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 3: in that isolation, you get lonely in the isolation. And 302 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 3: I wasn't yet accustomed to being okay with being alone. 303 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 3: So that was my struggle. 304 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 2: And how long did that last? From nineteen to what age? 305 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 4: That lasted? Jesus over decade? Over decade. It lasted for 306 00:12:41,600 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 4: over decade. 307 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:43,600 Speaker 3: And I only know that because me and my best 308 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:45,920 Speaker 3: friend were hosting a Bible study a couple of weeks back, 309 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:48,480 Speaker 3: and we were in Exodus and we were talking about shame, 310 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 3: and we weren't going to talk about it at first. 311 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, I don't know what the Lord 312 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:55,320 Speaker 3: is telling us to do with this Bible study. We're 313 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 3: just gonna go on the Bible studying whatever. So that 314 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:00,560 Speaker 3: Friday we were studying and I was like, let's She said, 315 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 3: let's pray, and I said, I mean, I don't know 316 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:03,680 Speaker 3: if you need to pray, we just go ahead. And 317 00:13:03,679 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 3: she was like, let's pray, and I was like all right. 318 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 3: So we prayed and immediately the Holy Spirit registered shame 319 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 3: in her spirit. And then we start studying it and 320 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 3: the Holy Spirit just opens our eyes and we're talking 321 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:18,560 Speaker 3: about shame. And here I am full on having to 322 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:21,880 Speaker 3: break down in tears because I didn't realize that for 323 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 3: so long. The reason why it was hard for me 324 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:25,560 Speaker 3: to go back to God is because I was operating 325 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 3: and living in shame. The enemy is so pervasive with 326 00:13:29,640 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 3: the way he speaks to you and the way he 327 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 3: gets in your head, and so when he makes you 328 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:37,240 Speaker 3: feel shame, he tells you that you're wrong, that you're 329 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 3: too damaged that you're not good enough to go back 330 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,720 Speaker 3: to God. And so for the longest I realized that 331 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 3: was the voice that kept playing in my head. And 332 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 3: every time I made a mistake, every time I sinned, 333 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 3: every time I did something that would grieve the spirit, 334 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 3: I would feel shame. And so it just kept pulling 335 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 3: me and pulling me. And that was such a moment 336 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 3: of deliverance when I had that, because I needed that, 337 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:01,560 Speaker 3: I cried so hard. I needed that. And when we 338 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 3: went into Bible study, I ended up. I was in 339 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:06,560 Speaker 3: the spirit. My best friend was just like, just go. 340 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:08,599 Speaker 3: It sounded like it was a sermon. I was in it, 341 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:11,320 Speaker 3: just going, and we went into a prayer. That prayer 342 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:13,439 Speaker 3: went to going. I started talking about Exus, we were 343 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:15,800 Speaker 3: talking about Moses, and then I just started talking to 344 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 3: our students and it's always like over five hundred people 345 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 3: and a lot of people were in there. The that's 346 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 3: my virtual Bible study that I have Saturday morning. Yeah, 347 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:27,480 Speaker 3: it's over two thousand people register right. 348 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 4: Now like that. 349 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, And it was so many people just by 350 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:40,040 Speaker 3: looking at the chat that was struggling with shame, and 351 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,480 Speaker 3: I said, oh wow, And that's exactly how the enemy 352 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 3: gets us. We think that it's guilt. Guilt tells you 353 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 3: I did something wrong. Shame tells you I am wrong. 354 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 3: Guilt tells you I made a mistake. Shame says I am. 355 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say it. Come on back, teach you. 356 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:53,200 Speaker 4: Hear what I'm saying. 357 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 3: And so a lot of times, because we have not 358 00:14:55,960 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 3: addressed the guilt and it's been unprocessed, that guilt now 359 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 3: manifests into shame and we're operating in it, and the 360 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 3: devil's having a field day seeing the fact that I'm 361 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 3: keeping you away from going back to God. And we 362 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 3: know that we're dealing with shame when we say, well, 363 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 3: I go to God about this all the time. I 364 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,080 Speaker 3: can't go back. He's not gonna forgive me. And we 365 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 3: forget about God's unchanging nature. And that's what I was 366 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:18,800 Speaker 3: struggling with for so long and had no idea, And 367 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 3: so I would hide. 368 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 4: I would try. 369 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 3: And it's crazy to say that because God is always around, 370 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 3: but I would try to hide from him. You can't 371 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 3: hide your saying from God. He sees everything that you do. 372 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 3: He saw before you did it. But I would try 373 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 3: to hide and then go back and have repent. Lord 374 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:35,480 Speaker 3: I'm sorry I didn't go back and do the same thing. 375 00:15:36,720 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 3: Half repen we're just bargaining here. That was my struggle. 376 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 3: So I thank God for my best friend, and I 377 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 3: thank God for allowing us to host the Bible studies, 378 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:49,440 Speaker 3: because I did not realize that I was with that, 379 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 3: and so many people look up to me and it's like, y'all, 380 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:51,800 Speaker 3: I'm human. 381 00:15:52,280 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 4: You'll be surprised. 382 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:54,720 Speaker 3: I go through a lot of the same things, but 383 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 3: that was I was delivered from that shame in that study. 384 00:15:57,880 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 2: Hey man, I love it. 385 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 1: I love it so and you're saying this was still, 386 00:16:02,720 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 1: this is recent, and so you come back ten years ago, 387 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:09,480 Speaker 1: a little over a decade, you come back and say, God, 388 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 1: I totally surrender. 389 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 2: What did that look like for you? How did your 390 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 2: life start shaping? 391 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: Because I know you said that you you've always been 392 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 1: a seer, So what did you feel like God called 393 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 1: you or maybe your mom told you you're going to 394 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:26,400 Speaker 1: be an evangelist? So what was spoken over your life? Prophetically? 395 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 3: When I was younger, Prophetically, I forgot what the woman's 396 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:33,440 Speaker 3: name was. We were going to Compassionate and Pleasant Grove 397 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 3: and she told my mom. 398 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 4: She told my mom. I had a gift. 399 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 3: But she said I was going to be a singer, 400 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 3: and I've always been singing my whole life. That trained 401 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 3: for opera, so I'm thinking, okay, but they wanted me 402 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 3: the same gospel and I'm like, they sing too hard. 403 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 4: That's what I used to say. I'm like, they seen 404 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 4: to her. 405 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 2: Have you seen what's been going viral? Yeah? Yes I have. 406 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 3: So let me be like when I say that, I 407 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 3: was like, but you know what I was. 408 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 4: I was in the Sunshine Band when I was younger. 409 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:03,280 Speaker 3: I used to have me sing a lead, but I 410 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 3: didn't want to sing gospel. I was like, I could 411 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:08,359 Speaker 3: sing opera and still sing like gospel opera. Like, no, 412 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,359 Speaker 3: you can't do that, girl, But I thought that's what 413 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:11,160 Speaker 3: it was going to be. 414 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 2: Could have could have your own job. 415 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:14,880 Speaker 3: But I ain't take that serious because I was still 416 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 3: living my own wheel, right. I still was doing a 417 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:18,639 Speaker 3: whole bunch of things. And I'll get to that in 418 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 3: a little bit, But that's what was spoken over my life. 419 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:25,680 Speaker 3: It's not until a few years back, I want to say, 420 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:28,439 Speaker 3: it was after twenty twenty one, and I was minded, 421 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:30,439 Speaker 3: mind you, I've been practicing nursing for over a decades, 422 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 3: so I was a nurse, and my aunt Sandra told 423 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 3: my mom, she said, I keep seeing her on the 424 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:39,040 Speaker 3: stage and she told my mom she said, God said 425 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,159 Speaker 3: that he allowed her to do nursing, but that's not 426 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:43,680 Speaker 3: her calling. And so I was like, oh good, I'm 427 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:44,359 Speaker 3: gonna be singing. 428 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 4: And here I am. 429 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,879 Speaker 3: I'm thinking I'm gonna be singing. No, I'm going to 430 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:52,200 Speaker 3: be speaking over marriages. That's my ministry. God revealed that 431 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 3: a long time ago that marriage and counsel was my ministry. 432 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:55,159 Speaker 2: How long goes it? 433 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 4: A couple years ago? Four years ago to be exact? 434 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:00,960 Speaker 1: When you did that, how that you respond that you 435 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 1: automatically start doing it, making videos about it? 436 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 3: Absolutely not counseling. Yes, not marriage. I didn't feel like 437 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:10,359 Speaker 3: I was qualified. 438 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:10,760 Speaker 4: To speak on it. 439 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 2: Were you married at that time? 440 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 3: I only been married at that time. I was not 441 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 3: married that this is my second marriage that i'm in. 442 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:18,719 Speaker 1: So and so you weren't married at that time. And 443 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 1: God said, I'm going to use you for marriage. You 444 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 1: like i've been divorced, choose somebody else. 445 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's exactly what That's exactly what it was. And 446 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 3: I just didn't feel qualified. And so many people, I 447 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 3: guess because he incorporated what he would teach me and 448 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 3: what I would learn in counseling, and then it just 449 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 3: all came together. 450 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,120 Speaker 4: And then people tell me, you give a different perspective. 451 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:41,920 Speaker 4: You speak so well. 452 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,040 Speaker 3: I can understand things when you break it down, and 453 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:45,639 Speaker 3: I'm like, that ain't nothing but God. But I've been 454 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 3: speaking my whole life. I've always been okay with. 455 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:50,520 Speaker 1: Talking well because you lived it. So that's the thing 456 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:52,720 Speaker 1: about it. A lot of times people try to disqualify 457 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:55,719 Speaker 1: people from things that God has already qualified them for. 458 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 2: Yes, I've been divorced. 459 00:18:56,880 --> 00:19:00,719 Speaker 1: I was married for almost ten years, been going on 460 00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 1: ten years in December, and people will be like, how 461 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:06,359 Speaker 1: you're gonna have a platform. I ain't gonna say people, 462 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:08,840 Speaker 1: I'm say a small percentage you'll get people like how 463 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:11,439 Speaker 1: you gonna have a platform talking about relationships when you 464 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 1: cheated on your ex wife? 465 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:14,240 Speaker 2: And I'm like, the only way y'all. 466 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:16,840 Speaker 1: Know that is I told y'all of course through my transparency. 467 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 1: I said, people overcome by the word of my testimony. 468 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:21,600 Speaker 1: So that's why I'm giving y'all that so y'all can 469 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:25,160 Speaker 1: know that. So that the person that has mismanaged their 470 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:28,400 Speaker 1: spouse in the past that they're not disqualified from love. 471 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: And God would use people like you and me to 472 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:34,040 Speaker 1: be able to say, here's my scars, this is what 473 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:35,000 Speaker 1: it is, that's what I did. 474 00:19:35,080 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 2: I ain't perfect. 475 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:38,359 Speaker 1: I made mistakes, and this is how you heal from it, 476 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:39,920 Speaker 1: and this is how you grow from it and let 477 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 1: me help you not make the same mistakes. 478 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 3: And I'm grateful for God and his reminder because God 479 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,520 Speaker 3: does not call the qualified, but he qualifies those that 480 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:53,080 Speaker 3: he's called. And I've had to learn that because I 481 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,240 Speaker 3: sometimes I look at myself, I'm like, this is supernatural, 482 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:57,880 Speaker 3: because I don't know how I just came up with that, y'all. 483 00:19:57,920 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 3: The Lord is working through me right now. I don't 484 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 3: know so, and I'm grateful. I really am grateful for that. 485 00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 3: I didn't feel like I was qualified, but I realized, 486 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 3: especially because a lot of people reassure me with that. 487 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:11,160 Speaker 3: A lot of people come to me, especially married couples. 488 00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:14,160 Speaker 3: They're like, you know, you helped me here, And I'm like, oh, 489 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:16,040 Speaker 3: that's a good feeling, is Lord? 490 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 2: It is? Yeah? 491 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: Can we can we shout your husband out? He's sitting 492 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:22,360 Speaker 1: right here. Yeah you know what I'm saying, Yeah, you know, Yeah, 493 00:20:22,440 --> 00:20:23,560 Speaker 1: she married for real, y'all. 494 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 3: I'm glad you said that because people just think I'm 495 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:27,760 Speaker 3: just sat here. 496 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 4: Just no, she ain't married for real. 497 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,280 Speaker 3: No, I'm married, I'm love, I'm nurtured, I'm protected, I 498 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:34,880 Speaker 3: am provided for in real life. 499 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:35,960 Speaker 2: Oh you a better talk that thing. 500 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 3: I'm happy talked in real life in real life. Yeah, 501 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 3: I just don't want to expose my marriageip everybody. 502 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:42,480 Speaker 1: Let me ask you just real quick, because some people 503 00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 1: be like, oh, you this relationship person, why don't you 504 00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 1: ever do interviews with your husband? 505 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:47,440 Speaker 2: What do you say about that? 506 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:50,360 Speaker 4: Absolutely not. This is not his lane, explained, We don't. 507 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:52,600 Speaker 3: We My husband is not one who wants to be 508 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 3: talking to people and stuff and all that. 509 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 4: He's not you. 510 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:56,840 Speaker 3: You lucky if you get three words out of him, 511 00:20:57,040 --> 00:20:59,440 Speaker 3: that's just not what he does. He uses his hands, 512 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:02,320 Speaker 3: he's us other things outside of this, And so this 513 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 3: is my field, this is my space. 514 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 4: God didn't call him to this. God called me to this. 515 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 3: So we're gonna leave this for me unless God changing 516 00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 3: something up, and then, you know, just to add to that, 517 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:16,879 Speaker 3: I really just prefer to keep me, my marriage and 518 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:18,600 Speaker 3: my husband where we are. 519 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:20,360 Speaker 4: I don't want. 520 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:21,879 Speaker 3: People to feel like cause people feel like I was 521 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 3: talking to my best friend about to say, people feel 522 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:25,639 Speaker 3: like just because they're having an opinion that they have 523 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 3: a right to play God. And so people start giving 524 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,400 Speaker 3: all of these opinions, Well this should have been this way, 525 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 3: and I don't have time for that. Plus I you know, 526 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 3: God still working on that part of me. I would 527 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 3: go back and forward with you behind my marriage. Just 528 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:40,960 Speaker 3: go ahead and mind your business. Now, I'm serious telling that. 529 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:44,120 Speaker 1: Does you have to tell you like getting chilled? These 530 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,960 Speaker 1: people don't matter like that all the time. So how 531 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: is this temperament? 532 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 3: He's actually really cool, temperate compared to be. My husband's like, 533 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:53,880 Speaker 3: don't worry about those people, because you have to understand, 534 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,159 Speaker 3: like when you keep hearing opinions about yourself and you 535 00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:58,920 Speaker 3: keep hearing these stink pieces and stuff, it will get 536 00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 3: to you. And he's like, don't don't let they get you. 537 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:02,679 Speaker 3: Stop going to comment, stop worrying about that. You do 538 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:04,679 Speaker 3: what you're supposed to be doing, and let's just keep 539 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 3: this bob, just keep it rolling. And so I take 540 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:09,160 Speaker 3: take in and where my husband says, how. 541 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 2: Do you handle not letting that affect your marriage? 542 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 1: Because you'll have people like especially on reality shows. They're 543 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:17,240 Speaker 1: going to reality shows and I don't know the condition 544 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:18,800 Speaker 1: of their relationship, but they don't be divorced. 545 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:21,520 Speaker 2: They'd be actually married. And then the people in. 546 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:23,919 Speaker 1: The comments start saying stuff, I don't know what happens 547 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:26,199 Speaker 1: behind the scenes, but by the next season they divorce. 548 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:29,439 Speaker 1: And so how do you not allow that to infiltrate 549 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:32,440 Speaker 1: your marriage and be able to use your skill set 550 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,680 Speaker 1: as a counselor use your submission to your husband who's 551 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 1: wisdom and be like, baby, don't worry about that. 552 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:39,920 Speaker 4: How do you balance I'm going to be honest with you. 553 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:41,760 Speaker 3: A lot of this took me to go into deep 554 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 3: pray and talk to God about this, because at one 555 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:46,800 Speaker 3: point with me counseling couples, the things that I would 556 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:52,719 Speaker 3: hear would be just so disheartening, so sad. It's just 557 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:54,680 Speaker 3: I would hear so many things, and I will see 558 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,760 Speaker 3: the impact and that would sit on me and I 559 00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:59,840 Speaker 3: would take it home and then there would be this 560 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 3: distance or me being quiet because I'm now thinking could 561 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:06,520 Speaker 3: you possibly do this to me? But We've had to 562 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 3: have conversations about that. He's like, baby, that's not me. 563 00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,959 Speaker 3: That's not going to happen. But what I started doing. However, 564 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 3: is when I talk to God about it is I 565 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,920 Speaker 3: have to sit and release what's not mine. If it's 566 00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 3: something that's out of my control, even if it's my 567 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 3: clients and my couples I work with, surrender that to God. 568 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:22,440 Speaker 5: To God. 569 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 3: Remember to separate that it's not you, that's their situation. Yes, 570 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 3: I've called you to counsel them, but this is not 571 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,640 Speaker 3: your situation and you can't allow that to go home 572 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 3: with you because. 573 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 4: It will, it will. 574 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 2: How long did it take? How long to be married? 575 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:37,320 Speaker 4: I've been married for three years now. 576 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 2: Three years? 577 00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:39,199 Speaker 1: How long did you get to the place where you 578 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 1: was like, I can't carry this stuff home into my marriage. 579 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:44,520 Speaker 2: What year was that where you had that breakthrough? 580 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:46,120 Speaker 3: I want to say that was probably beout a year ago. 581 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 3: That was probably about a year ago. Yeah, it was 582 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 3: probably about a year ago because I heard a really 583 00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 3: horrible story and it really set on me. And I 584 00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 3: think that one sat on me for probably about a week. Yeah, 585 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 3: it really sat o session. Yeah, you hear some really 586 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,760 Speaker 3: horrible things sometimes, and so when you see people go 587 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:08,320 Speaker 3: through the emotions and then you see people get angry 588 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:10,280 Speaker 3: at each other in the sessions and stuff, you and 589 00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 3: I'm trying to help counsel them. 590 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 4: I work through that. It can sit on you. 591 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 2: See. 592 00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 1: That's the reason why I couldn't do therapy like that, 593 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,360 Speaker 1: be a counselor, because I'm very much an impath. 594 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:20,520 Speaker 2: I'm gonna carry your stuff. 595 00:24:20,600 --> 00:24:23,679 Speaker 1: I'm just I'm an intercessor by nature, and so I 596 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 1: feel that stuff and I'd just be. 597 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,160 Speaker 2: Like, You'd be like, what is wrong with you? Terairs 598 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:28,000 Speaker 2: they was doing. 599 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,399 Speaker 1: I mean, I used to do prison ministry and I 600 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:33,439 Speaker 1: used to work with the kids at George Beto not 601 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:38,280 Speaker 1: George Beto, but George Beto is the other prison thing, 602 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,840 Speaker 1: but whatever is off of thirty. I used to go 603 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: into juvenile TENSI cent and work with the boys every 604 00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 1: Sunday and go have Bible study with them. And I 605 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 1: remember the first time I walked in there. This was 606 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:49,600 Speaker 1: years ago. Man I walked in there and I started 607 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,239 Speaker 1: hearing their stories and stuff that they did. Man I 608 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 1: walked out. I took the stairs, not the elevator, so 609 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,159 Speaker 1: I could sit in the stairwell and cry. I was like, 610 00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 1: I want to take them all home with me. I 611 00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 1: want to go help them all. And they told me this, 612 00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 1: They said, the kids that you see in here. If 613 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:05,720 Speaker 1: you were to see him on the street, you can't 614 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:07,840 Speaker 1: speak to him. You can't say I remember you in 615 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:09,399 Speaker 1: this he said, even if they can't come up to 616 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,679 Speaker 1: you and say, hey, I remember I met you, you know, 617 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 1: in Julie and begin talk to you, be like I 618 00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:19,720 Speaker 1: don't remember you. I said, what I got to actually 619 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:22,280 Speaker 1: this own them act like I don't know. Said, yes, 620 00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:25,119 Speaker 1: you cannot act like you know them outside that, I said, 621 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,320 Speaker 1: I still necessary where I was crying because this one 622 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:30,480 Speaker 1: boy told me this. I had reached them in that 623 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,520 Speaker 1: one conversation. He said, Man, he said, when I get 624 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:36,040 Speaker 1: out of here, can I can you mentor me? And 625 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:40,360 Speaker 1: I said I can't. And he was like, I ain't 626 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:42,560 Speaker 1: gonna do nothing but end up back in here anyway, 627 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:43,880 Speaker 1: because I ain't nobody helping me. 628 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,159 Speaker 2: Oh, I was gone, Lord is gone. 629 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 1: And the way he got in there is because his 630 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 1: mom was getting beat up by her boyfriend and he 631 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 1: jumped in and beat the beat the dude up, and 632 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:57,920 Speaker 1: she called the police on him. 633 00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 2: He got locked up. 634 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:00,879 Speaker 1: So he told me, he's like, he's like, man, if 635 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:02,879 Speaker 1: I get back out there, I say, I ain't got nobody. 636 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:04,960 Speaker 1: That's a good influence. He said, I'm gonna end up 637 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 1: right back in here now when that's there. Well, who 638 00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:09,160 Speaker 1: God help I was you know what. 639 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:12,520 Speaker 3: You're saying something about intercession. I didn't realize how those 640 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 3: go hand in hand. Yeah, because I'm an innecessor yep, 641 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 3: So I didn't realize how that goes hand in hand. 642 00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:20,879 Speaker 3: And now I'm thinking about it's like, huh. 643 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,400 Speaker 1: Because you have to carry it in order to intercede. 644 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,919 Speaker 1: You gotta first become one with their problem or issue. 645 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:26,880 Speaker 1: You carry it, and then you have to release it. 646 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,520 Speaker 1: But if you can't carry it and you don't feel it, 647 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:31,880 Speaker 1: then you just be like God help them, and it's 648 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,680 Speaker 1: more external. But when you're able to hear people stuff 649 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:36,720 Speaker 1: and you feel the weight of it, that's how you're 650 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,320 Speaker 1: able to prophetically break through through people. 651 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 2: Because you say I can carry it. 652 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 1: It's operating in the spirit of how Jesus Christ he 653 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:44,400 Speaker 1: bore our sins. 654 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,520 Speaker 2: He took it, and then he carried it and then 655 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:47,360 Speaker 2: he released it. 656 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,480 Speaker 1: And so what God does is he uses people like 657 00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:52,280 Speaker 1: you and me to be able to say, all right, 658 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 1: you can hear somebody's situation and not be so detached 659 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:55,479 Speaker 1: from it. 660 00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,159 Speaker 2: You can carry that, bad boy. But the struggle is 661 00:26:58,200 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 2: to be able to. 662 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,439 Speaker 1: Release it, because my problem was I'll carry it and 663 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:02,480 Speaker 1: then I'll try to fix it. 664 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,040 Speaker 3: You know what's crazy is if someone's talking to me 665 00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,000 Speaker 3: right now, better situation they're going through. I don't think 666 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,200 Speaker 3: it has the same impact as if when God wakes 667 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,360 Speaker 3: me up in the middle of the night and put 668 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:13,520 Speaker 3: someone on my spirit and then I have to go 669 00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:16,440 Speaker 3: and pray for them, because that has happened so many times, 670 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:18,880 Speaker 3: and I've had to explain, like even in the studies, 671 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,520 Speaker 3: because once I it's once I put it out there 672 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:25,840 Speaker 3: that I'm an indecessor. Oh that just I head so 673 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 3: many prayer requests. I'm like, hey, hey, hey, okay, I'm 674 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 3: holy spirit led. But what I what I realized is 675 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,160 Speaker 3: that whenever God places someone on my spirit, he'll sign 676 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,240 Speaker 3: someone to me and He's waken me up, wake me 677 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 3: up through that throughout the night, on praying in a day, 678 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,240 Speaker 3: or just anything that He's instructed me to do. 679 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 4: That's when it gets to me. 680 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,000 Speaker 3: That is I try to explain to people interceding, any 681 00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:49,880 Speaker 3: type of intercession, is physically draining. Yes, it is physically draining, 682 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 3: and you may think we're just in a physical but 683 00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,639 Speaker 3: we're also in the spirit as well, and so I 684 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,399 Speaker 3: don't think people fully understand that. When I was speaking 685 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,959 Speaker 3: in tongues in the spirit, that was one of those moments. 686 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:01,800 Speaker 3: That was probably one of the moments where I was like, 687 00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:03,919 Speaker 3: God just really opened my eyes. The Holy Spirit was 688 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,639 Speaker 3: just moving. I was on fire, and he had me 689 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,960 Speaker 3: going to the spirit and I was interceding. I was 690 00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,159 Speaker 3: spreaking in tongues. And then what I felt and what 691 00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:12,640 Speaker 3: I knew God was telling me to do was call 692 00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,119 Speaker 3: that to other intercessors. And my mom told me she 693 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,720 Speaker 3: was praying in that same exact moment for the person 694 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,960 Speaker 3: we were praying for, and that person had a breakthrough, 695 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,000 Speaker 3: and I thank God for that. But that was, as 696 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:24,880 Speaker 3: you said, it's like wow. And it's crazy because even 697 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,520 Speaker 3: before that, when I kept feeling her in my spirit, 698 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,199 Speaker 3: my mom we were sitting in the office and she 699 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 3: was telling me. She was like, are you okay? Because 700 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,560 Speaker 3: I was pacing back and forth. I'm like, something's wrong. 701 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 3: I'm like, why do I feel grief right now? And 702 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:37,679 Speaker 3: it was because she was about to do something that 703 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,400 Speaker 3: was going to grieve the spirit, and God was like, 704 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 3: she is going to end up losing her salvation, And 705 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 3: I mean I was feeling every emotion she was going through. 706 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 3: I was feeling grief, and it was just it was 707 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,880 Speaker 3: a long couple of days. It was a long couple 708 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 3: of days. It was a long couple of days. You 709 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,640 Speaker 3: know it's serious when you start fasting for somebody. It 710 00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 3: was a long couple of days. 711 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 1: It was let us back up, So how did you meet? 712 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,200 Speaker 1: We ain't gonna talk about your first husband, not that 713 00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,280 Speaker 1: I don't care about. I'm just I don't care about. 714 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 1: So how did you meet? And I love when I 715 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,040 Speaker 1: have couples on there because they always have two different 716 00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 1: stories about how they met each other, and so you. 717 00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:16,200 Speaker 2: Get to win. He don't get the chance to defend 718 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,040 Speaker 2: you know his story. So how did y'all meet? 719 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 4: We met in reed middle school. Yeah, readA duck. 720 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 3: We met were thirteen years old. Really, Yeah, We've been 721 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:29,040 Speaker 3: knowing each other since we were thirteen. Wow, have never dated. 722 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 3: We've always been really fond of each other's friends, having 723 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:34,800 Speaker 3: a good time, met his family, things like that. We 724 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:36,800 Speaker 3: would go to like people's parties and stuff and all 725 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 3: that together over the years. What was happening was because 726 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,520 Speaker 3: like I said, it was a friendship. He would call 727 00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,240 Speaker 3: me at random times while I was in the midst 728 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 3: of a problem, like my tire is flat, my break 729 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,480 Speaker 3: life just went out, something is going on, and he 730 00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:53,680 Speaker 3: would just randomly call me and were like, hey, what 731 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:54,040 Speaker 3: you doing. 732 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 4: I'm like, I have a flat right now. 733 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 3: And instead of him saying do you have somebody to 734 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:00,480 Speaker 3: help you, it was always sending your location, seem me 735 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 3: where you are. He would go and get the tools. 736 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:05,400 Speaker 3: He will always make sure that he looked out for me. 737 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,720 Speaker 3: And we still kept it at a friendship, right, but 738 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,800 Speaker 3: we knew we had feelings, but we kept at a friendship. 739 00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:12,000 Speaker 3: You know, a lot of times you don't want to 740 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,320 Speaker 3: lose that friendship. And then there was some time, you know, 741 00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,520 Speaker 3: where he dated people and I dated people and stuff 742 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,320 Speaker 3: like that. And the last guy that I was actually dating, 743 00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 3: God made sure that I ended it with him. He 744 00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,080 Speaker 3: made sure, when I tell you, he showed me every 745 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 3: bad thing about that person. 746 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 4: He made sure that I did. 747 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,600 Speaker 3: And it was crazy because immediately when I cut it 748 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:36,280 Speaker 3: off with that guy, immediately then here comes my husband. 749 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 3: I made a video and I had posted and he's 750 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 3: in the comments and he's like, I have all of 751 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 3: those qualities. And I was like, oh, is that what 752 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:46,440 Speaker 3: you did? 753 00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:49,400 Speaker 4: Yeah? 754 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,320 Speaker 3: And so I was like, but mind you, I haven't 755 00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,080 Speaker 3: spoken to him in a while, and I was like lose. 756 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 3: And then we were texting and he's like, hey, you 757 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 3: want to hang out? 758 00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 2: In the comments? 759 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, he was like I have all those all these 760 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 3: green flags, and I was like, lo even still in 761 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 3: my mind we're friends, and so he was like, hey, 762 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 3: you want to hang out. We never hung out the 763 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,160 Speaker 3: way that we did that weekend. It was a very 764 00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,640 Speaker 3: intimate hangout, like we were just going to like different 765 00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,880 Speaker 3: stores and furniture places and going out to eat, and 766 00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:16,800 Speaker 3: then we ended up having a dance off in a 767 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:17,400 Speaker 3: parking lot. 768 00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:18,640 Speaker 4: He spin me around. 769 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:21,480 Speaker 3: We were acting like children, just having a good time. 770 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 3: And then of course there was some time because I 771 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 3: think he got a little scared. I think he was like, 772 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 3: hold on, I'm this is deep feelings, and I know 773 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,560 Speaker 3: your past used to play off in your past, and 774 00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:31,120 Speaker 3: he was like. 775 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:34,520 Speaker 4: You know, I don't really know. I wasn't a savage, 776 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:36,760 Speaker 4: you know, you thought he was going to take. 777 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:41,040 Speaker 3: And then just yeah, And so I told him. I 778 00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 3: was like, all right, I don't have time for this. 779 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 3: And my best friend had came to Dallas, and I 780 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,000 Speaker 3: was like and he had hit me up. I said no, 781 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,680 Speaker 3: because you you doing that same thing that ghosts and thinking. 782 00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,160 Speaker 3: He was like, I'm sorry. I just he was like, 783 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,640 Speaker 3: we've just been going through it. Can we hang out? 784 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:54,200 Speaker 4: I said no. 785 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,880 Speaker 3: I said, I'm about to go to at home to 786 00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 3: find these pictures. And then the next day he calls 787 00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,360 Speaker 3: me and he's like, hey, what you doing. I said, 788 00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:03,120 Speaker 3: I'm at sam trying to find me an office share 789 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,200 Speaker 3: and he was like, okay. He pulls up to my 790 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,120 Speaker 3: office because he had the location to my office. He 791 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,360 Speaker 3: pulls up, he comes, I'm in the car. Me and 792 00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:11,160 Speaker 3: my best friend are still in the car. He goes, 793 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,680 Speaker 3: opens up the trunk, gets the chair out. He takes 794 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 3: it up to my office, breaks out his tools and 795 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,120 Speaker 3: he was a no, he ain't reading no instructions. He 796 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,640 Speaker 3: just puting the chair together. He puts it together and 797 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:22,280 Speaker 3: I tell my best friend. She over there sitting on 798 00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:23,040 Speaker 3: my couch in the office. 799 00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:26,280 Speaker 4: I said, h. I said, I love it. 800 00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 2: Man. 801 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:30,479 Speaker 4: I can use his hands. I said okay, h. And 802 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:32,800 Speaker 4: he was like, he said, I want to go to 803 00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:33,800 Speaker 4: saw Grass. You want to come? 804 00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 3: I said, if you don't send me the location when 805 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 3: you go to Sawgrass. I'm not coming. I said, I'm 806 00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:40,760 Speaker 3: not going to play with you this time. He got 807 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,000 Speaker 3: the sawgrass and send me the location immediately, and I 808 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:44,880 Speaker 3: showed it to my best friend. She said, hmm, he 809 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,480 Speaker 3: did right. And then we've just been hitting it off 810 00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:50,160 Speaker 3: ever since. And then I had a photo shoot. And 811 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:51,920 Speaker 3: at that photo shoot, I had on a pink dress 812 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:53,880 Speaker 3: and I was taking a shoot. I was looking outside 813 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 3: of the window and he said it was that moment 814 00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 3: and he said, right there, he said, that's my wife. 815 00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:00,040 Speaker 3: And he told me after that, he said, when you 816 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:01,719 Speaker 3: looking at the window, I said, that's my wife. 817 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,680 Speaker 1: So how much time had from the day that y'all 818 00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 1: started giving y'allself a chance romantically? How long was that 819 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,920 Speaker 1: to the moment he said that's my wife. 820 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,240 Speaker 3: I don't even think that was a month. Really, I'm serious. 821 00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:16,200 Speaker 3: I don't think that was a month. I don't think 822 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:19,680 Speaker 3: that it was. When you know, you know when you know. 823 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,080 Speaker 3: And I knew for a fact because I know how 824 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,240 Speaker 3: God is with me. I knew for a fact, and 825 00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:26,400 Speaker 3: based off the conversations that I had with God as well, 826 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 3: I knew for a fact that was my husband. And 827 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,040 Speaker 3: that's the reason why God has always made sure we 828 00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:34,040 Speaker 3: stayed in each other's life. That's the reason why. And 829 00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:36,640 Speaker 3: like I said, he reminded me so much of my grandfather, 830 00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,800 Speaker 3: and my grandfather's my heart. He reminded me so much 831 00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,440 Speaker 3: of my grandfather. It was just always I'm gonna take 832 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:43,880 Speaker 3: care of you. You don't worry about nothing. 833 00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:44,720 Speaker 4: I have it. 834 00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:47,640 Speaker 3: It was never a moment of do you need were you? 835 00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 3: It just was always He's taken care of it. And 836 00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 3: so I was like, oh, yeah, I knew it. 837 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:54,960 Speaker 1: So the moment where he was being funny acting and 838 00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:58,640 Speaker 1: was ghosting you, had you started getting your emotions caught 839 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 1: up and didn't tell him so watch you, so watch you? 840 00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 2: So why did it bother you so much? 841 00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:05,040 Speaker 4: Because that's my friend? 842 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 3: That was my friend, And like, I feel like we 843 00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:09,719 Speaker 3: were cool enough to be able to have that conversation 844 00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 3: and it's like, don't start getting quiet. And I just 845 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,520 Speaker 3: the way that that day was, well, I guess you 846 00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,640 Speaker 3: could say, yeah, I get the weight that day was. Yeah, 847 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,080 Speaker 3: you're right, the way that day was it was something different. 848 00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 3: We've never experienced that, and I guess I just saw 849 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:25,920 Speaker 3: him differently then, So. 850 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right. 851 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,120 Speaker 1: So when he pulled back at that moment, he was like, 852 00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:32,319 Speaker 1: now listen because that that probably was a trauma part 853 00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,759 Speaker 1: for your trigger. It's like saying, now you're trying to 854 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,360 Speaker 1: abandon me, that I deal with this little abandonment issue 855 00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,080 Speaker 1: that I may have dealt with with my father. And 856 00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:41,120 Speaker 1: so now here we are in this moment, you don't 857 00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 1: abandon me and took me over here. 858 00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:45,000 Speaker 4: Didn't go all the way back to my dad. He 859 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:45,799 Speaker 4: didn't go that far. 860 00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,839 Speaker 3: But it was just you know, you live through life 861 00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:50,640 Speaker 3: and you know exactly what you don't want it what 862 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,560 Speaker 3: you're not going to tolerate. And that was big for me. 863 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:54,839 Speaker 3: I am big on communication. You concept to just talk 864 00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:56,719 Speaker 3: to me about it. You can say, hey, I'm going 865 00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:58,600 Speaker 3: through something. I'll talk to you later, all right. 866 00:34:58,640 --> 00:34:58,879 Speaker 4: Cool. 867 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,200 Speaker 1: Because he had gone back to friend ship at that moment, platonic. 868 00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:04,239 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so where y'all got to. He could have 869 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,279 Speaker 1: just said, okay, I only see you as a friend 870 00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:07,120 Speaker 1: and you've been okay with it. 871 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:09,680 Speaker 3: I still would have been his friend. Yeah, that's how 872 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:11,520 Speaker 3: much respect I have on I said it would have 873 00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:11,960 Speaker 3: been his friend. 874 00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:14,640 Speaker 2: That's how much respect I have for him. 875 00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:16,360 Speaker 4: I have a lot of respect for him. I always have. 876 00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:17,400 Speaker 2: Why is that important. 877 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:22,960 Speaker 4: Oh, respect is significant to me. I want to say 878 00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:23,759 Speaker 4: that respect for me. 879 00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 3: Is important because I feel as though when you respect 880 00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,160 Speaker 3: the person, you honor that person as well. Yes, and 881 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,320 Speaker 3: when you honor that person, you delight in that person. 882 00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,319 Speaker 3: And specifically for my spouse, I respect him, I honor him, 883 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,160 Speaker 3: and I delight in my spouse. 884 00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,160 Speaker 1: Hold on, now, I ain't never heard nobody say I 885 00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:43,640 Speaker 1: delight in my spouse. The Bible it says it. Oh yeah, 886 00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:44,319 Speaker 1: that's a good word. 887 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:45,600 Speaker 4: It tells you, It tells you. 888 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,920 Speaker 3: So I think that's another thing that we're missing now 889 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:51,200 Speaker 3: in marriage as well. Is delighting in your spouse and 890 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:54,760 Speaker 3: delighting in your marriage. Make it fun, have fun. Remember 891 00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,760 Speaker 3: that it's so much more than circumstances and fluctuating emotions. 892 00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,200 Speaker 3: This is a person that you have. Use your anchor. 893 00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,520 Speaker 3: Always remember what your anchor. Your vows are, your ancher. 894 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,759 Speaker 3: And you took these vows upon God. You stood below God, 895 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,120 Speaker 3: and you say, all right, Lord, this is what we're doing. 896 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,640 Speaker 3: You gave us a yes, and this is what we're doing. 897 00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:15,120 Speaker 3: And over time, things start to fade. The passion starts 898 00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,759 Speaker 3: to fade, the fire starts to fade. But whenever you 899 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,600 Speaker 3: find a way to get back to the pure joy 900 00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,640 Speaker 3: of knowing that I'm serving you, the pure joy of 901 00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,040 Speaker 3: knowing that this marriage is not just about me and you. 902 00:36:26,280 --> 00:36:28,920 Speaker 3: We will glorifying God in this marriage. The pure joy 903 00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,239 Speaker 3: of knowing that we're doing this together and people are 904 00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:34,200 Speaker 3: bearing witness to our union. That's how it's easier to 905 00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:36,440 Speaker 3: delight when you do that. It's easier to do that 906 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:38,520 Speaker 3: when you can just get back to where your anchor is. 907 00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:40,640 Speaker 3: And so that for me is important. 908 00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:42,560 Speaker 1: But this was in friendship. You said you had all 909 00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:44,440 Speaker 1: these things respect on that line. 910 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,720 Speaker 3: I had all all of those things, Yes, in a friendship. 911 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,719 Speaker 3: When God revealed that that was my husband, here we go. 912 00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:53,040 Speaker 3: Now we have more. But I also was able to 913 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 3: delight in my friendship. If I was able to delight 914 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:57,680 Speaker 3: in my friendship with him, sure enough, I was gonna 915 00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:58,560 Speaker 3: be able to delight in my marriage. 916 00:36:58,640 --> 00:36:59,080 Speaker 2: Absolutely. 917 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:01,680 Speaker 1: So that month of him telling you that that didn't 918 00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,600 Speaker 1: scare you. No, you just it was confirming to you. 919 00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:06,400 Speaker 3: It's scared me because I had talked to God about it. 920 00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:09,359 Speaker 3: I'm gonna talk to God. I'm not a person who 921 00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:10,680 Speaker 3: was gonna say I'm gonna do what I want to do. 922 00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,560 Speaker 3: And then talk God. I did that in the past. 923 00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,840 Speaker 3: That's a problem. We use God as a last resource, 924 00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:18,279 Speaker 3: and so we're not gonna do that. Let me talk 925 00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:20,200 Speaker 3: to you about it, because I can't make this mistake 926 00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:23,520 Speaker 3: over again. So let me have this conversation. And that 927 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,400 Speaker 3: was a conversation I had, And when God revealed it, 928 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:27,480 Speaker 3: I said, okay, my hands are So that. 929 00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,919 Speaker 2: Came before the photo shoot, that conversation with God. 930 00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,320 Speaker 4: No, they came immediately after the photoshoot. 931 00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,040 Speaker 1: So when he said that to you, did you talk 932 00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:36,440 Speaker 1: to God? And God said. 933 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:38,520 Speaker 4: Yes, I had to talk to God about it. 934 00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:40,680 Speaker 2: Did you did you relate that back to him quickly? 935 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:41,160 Speaker 2: Did you do that? 936 00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,200 Speaker 3: I'm just kind of because I know him and God 937 00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:44,600 Speaker 3: got their own conversations. 938 00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:45,200 Speaker 1: M h. 939 00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,480 Speaker 3: I just watched to see how he was going to move. 940 00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:50,839 Speaker 3: But I had already had that coming now. Of course, 941 00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:54,279 Speaker 3: later on we had that conversation. But exactly after that, No, 942 00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:55,479 Speaker 3: I took some time. 943 00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,520 Speaker 2: How long did it take you to tell him? I 944 00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:00,319 Speaker 2: know God told him this thing. 945 00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,880 Speaker 3: It didn't take me long at all. Everything kind of 946 00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:07,040 Speaker 3: happened rapidly. Everything happened within a six months spiel. 947 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:08,879 Speaker 2: So six months I got married in six months. 948 00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:14,839 Speaker 3: Everything happened within a six months Spiel a little over 949 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:16,719 Speaker 3: six months. But as far as like, as far as 950 00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:18,560 Speaker 3: like relationship and stuff and all that, that was within 951 00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:20,759 Speaker 3: the six months, and you were and you. 952 00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:25,799 Speaker 1: Were, no past triggers popped up, no whatever, y'all, y'all 953 00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:29,000 Speaker 1: were just good, y'all. Was just this is what I'm 954 00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:30,080 Speaker 1: marrying my best friend. 955 00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:31,880 Speaker 4: It was no past trigger. 956 00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:33,799 Speaker 3: It needs to be in past triggers when you when 957 00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:37,239 Speaker 3: you really surrender something to God. For me specifically, I 958 00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:40,319 Speaker 3: speak to myself when you fully surrender something to God. 959 00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:42,640 Speaker 3: Of course, you may have moments where it comes back up. 960 00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,640 Speaker 3: When you keep daily surrendering this to God, eventually he'll 961 00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,439 Speaker 3: take it away. And because I had done so much 962 00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,319 Speaker 3: work on myself, there was not many triggers that would 963 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:53,799 Speaker 3: start to show up because I can't allow those things 964 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,680 Speaker 3: to have agency over me. These are experiences that I've 965 00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,719 Speaker 3: had before. I had a lot of woundedness and a 966 00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:00,680 Speaker 3: lot of voice that I was trying to feel, and 967 00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,000 Speaker 3: I wasn't in that place anymore. So it wasn't a 968 00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:04,960 Speaker 3: need for me to be loved or anything like that. 969 00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:08,200 Speaker 3: It's okay however it goes. But my trust was in God. 970 00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:12,440 Speaker 3: Specifically in that moment and everything after that, and even 971 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:14,520 Speaker 3: before that, my trust was in God. So when God 972 00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,280 Speaker 3: told me to let the other guy alone, leave him alone, 973 00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:18,160 Speaker 3: he is not for you. 974 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,680 Speaker 4: I was obedient to that. Now he har you no 975 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:22,600 Speaker 4: with that person. 976 00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:26,200 Speaker 3: He said no, because God really revealed everything. 977 00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,120 Speaker 2: And I have to ask all the reason why he 978 00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:30,040 Speaker 2: wasn't trying to find no closures. 979 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:33,000 Speaker 3: I saw everything. I saw everything. Mind you, like I said, 980 00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,360 Speaker 3: I see. So when I tell you God revealed this 981 00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:38,279 Speaker 3: is not just physical revelations. It's a spiritual revelation as well. 982 00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,400 Speaker 3: And it's like, Okay, I got it. 983 00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:40,960 Speaker 4: Bye. 984 00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:43,840 Speaker 3: And then right when I said goodbye to that person, 985 00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,319 Speaker 3: I'm telling you it happened to meet it. 986 00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:50,240 Speaker 4: I said, Oh, look at that, it was great. Yes, 987 00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:50,799 Speaker 4: thank God. 988 00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,680 Speaker 1: So when you look back at that, why do you 989 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,319 Speaker 1: think it was so important for you to meet your 990 00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:57,319 Speaker 1: husband when you did? 991 00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,360 Speaker 4: Why do I think that it was so important for 992 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:00,439 Speaker 4: me to meet him when I did? 993 00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:03,680 Speaker 1: Because think about it, you could have win and start 994 00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,239 Speaker 1: serving purpose doing the stuff that you're doing now. Then 995 00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:09,240 Speaker 1: beat him on the road meet him later. But God, 996 00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:11,880 Speaker 1: when you look at look back hindsight being twenty twenty, 997 00:40:11,920 --> 00:40:15,080 Speaker 1: you met him right after closing the door on the 998 00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:17,719 Speaker 1: other guy, and then he comes into your life. What 999 00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,320 Speaker 1: was going on in your life tied to purpose? You 1000 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,480 Speaker 1: were were you're in school doing therapy or what with 1001 00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:24,439 Speaker 1: what we're doing at the time. 1002 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,799 Speaker 3: I was actually counseling about then, So you were counseling. Yeah, 1003 00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:31,200 Speaker 3: I was counseling at that point. I really feel like 1004 00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,480 Speaker 3: in order for me to be able, in order for 1005 00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,880 Speaker 3: me to be able to really live out the purpose 1006 00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,520 Speaker 3: that God had for me, I needed my husband with me. 1007 00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:44,759 Speaker 3: I did you notice he's always with me? Yeah, like 1008 00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 3: he really is. He's that support that I needed. But 1009 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:52,240 Speaker 3: also people needed to be able to witness a God's 1010 00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,879 Speaker 3: centered marriage and that is important. So if I'm gonna 1011 00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:58,160 Speaker 3: go out here ministering, especially in marriage ministering, people need 1012 00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,840 Speaker 3: to be able to see exactly what it means to 1013 00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:02,680 Speaker 3: keep God at the center of your marriage. 1014 00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:04,360 Speaker 4: What does that look like in conflict? 1015 00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:06,399 Speaker 3: What does that look like when things start to fade, 1016 00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,240 Speaker 3: What does that look like when things start to change? 1017 00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,360 Speaker 3: They need to be able to see that. But also 1018 00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,240 Speaker 3: I needed to be nurtured as well on this walk, 1019 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,440 Speaker 3: because when you are doing ministry, it can take so 1020 00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:18,840 Speaker 3: much out of you. And so to be able to 1021 00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:21,400 Speaker 3: have that support who can nurture you and nurture your 1022 00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:23,600 Speaker 3: spirit as well is a good thing. So I feel 1023 00:41:23,640 --> 00:41:26,799 Speaker 3: like God orchestrated, I know, God orchestrated everything the way 1024 00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:29,360 Speaker 3: that it needed to be orchestrated, because it just it 1025 00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:31,759 Speaker 3: really just helped and the impact was so much greater 1026 00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:32,400 Speaker 3: as well. 1027 00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:34,280 Speaker 2: Six months. 1028 00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:37,799 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was pretty fast. It was pretty fast, but 1029 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:39,800 Speaker 3: we knew, so I wasn't really worried about it. 1030 00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:41,880 Speaker 1: But also helped y'all know each other since middle school. 1031 00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:44,799 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean it's like, yeah, you marry and 1032 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,839 Speaker 1: your best friend, And that's what I say with people, 1033 00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:49,120 Speaker 1: if you build a solid friendship. Studies show that if 1034 00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,839 Speaker 1: you built from a solid friendship, your marriage is gonna last. 1035 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,239 Speaker 1: I mean, that's where you really get to to death Dew. 1036 00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:54,560 Speaker 2: We part. 1037 00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:58,160 Speaker 1: It's because y'all really, just like you said, when the 1038 00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:01,600 Speaker 1: communication got a little if he during that little season, 1039 00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:03,239 Speaker 1: you was like, now, come on, we better than that. 1040 00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:05,520 Speaker 1: We can talk about it. If you're not feeling me 1041 00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:06,360 Speaker 1: like that, no more. 1042 00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:07,040 Speaker 2: Let's talk about it. 1043 00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,160 Speaker 1: If you're a little nervous about this, let's talk about 1044 00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:11,720 Speaker 1: if you got your heart involved, you're scary, which happens 1045 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:14,799 Speaker 1: with a lot of men. When men really feel like 1046 00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,879 Speaker 1: that's the one, they'd be like, if this girl can 1047 00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:20,439 Speaker 1: hurt me, she can hurt me real bad. I'm telling 1048 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:23,080 Speaker 1: you in my life, I'm telling you it will make 1049 00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:25,640 Speaker 1: you sit there and be like, if I put myself 1050 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:29,320 Speaker 1: out there and it's not mutual, man, I done messed 1051 00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:30,840 Speaker 1: up because I really want this person. 1052 00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:32,680 Speaker 3: But you know what, I do believe that that set 1053 00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:34,640 Speaker 3: the tone for our marriage as well, because I was 1054 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:37,600 Speaker 3: so big on communication and he told me that before 1055 00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:39,440 Speaker 3: he feels safe enough to be able to talk to 1056 00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:42,520 Speaker 3: me about certain things. I'm big on us communicating, and 1057 00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:44,200 Speaker 3: it's going to be respectful. I want to be able 1058 00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:45,480 Speaker 3: to hear you. I don't want you to feel like 1059 00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,800 Speaker 3: I'm the only voice in this marriage. You have a 1060 00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,000 Speaker 3: voice too, And I feel like that definitely set the 1061 00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:51,920 Speaker 3: tone because whenever we speak to each other, we pay 1062 00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,359 Speaker 3: attention to our tone or attitudes, how we approaching things 1063 00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,160 Speaker 3: like that, so we're able to really talk talk through things. 1064 00:42:57,160 --> 00:42:59,440 Speaker 3: We don't have conflict like that because we talk through it. 1065 00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:01,640 Speaker 3: So I feel like a lot of those things, just 1066 00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:03,680 Speaker 3: like how things played out when I look at it, 1067 00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:05,960 Speaker 3: that was god like piecing everything together, like, oh, you, 1068 00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:08,520 Speaker 3: I gotta wrap back that. I've taken care of that already. 1069 00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:11,440 Speaker 3: I really do believe. So I believe God put us 1070 00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:12,360 Speaker 3: together for a reason. 1071 00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:14,839 Speaker 1: What did he say to you when he saw God 1072 00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,120 Speaker 1: taking you to another level, saying that now you're finna 1073 00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,120 Speaker 1: start touring, You're about to do all this stuff. Your 1074 00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:22,920 Speaker 1: voice is about to be amplified on stages. What was 1075 00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:23,960 Speaker 1: that conversation like? 1076 00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:27,319 Speaker 4: It was just full support. That's really just what it was. 1077 00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:27,520 Speaker 2: Like. 1078 00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,760 Speaker 3: He is very supportive. It was just full support. Whatever 1079 00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:33,319 Speaker 3: you need from me, I'm here. That was all that 1080 00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,520 Speaker 3: it is. It's just always been full of support. He 1081 00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:37,520 Speaker 3: was always he was just always with me. He had 1082 00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:40,520 Speaker 3: already seen me online, you know, getting attraction. But of 1083 00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:43,239 Speaker 3: course when the tour came, by that time I think 1084 00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:45,120 Speaker 3: I had Yeah, I went to Dayton and I did 1085 00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,480 Speaker 3: the studio and then after that they asked me to 1086 00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,520 Speaker 3: come on tour. Yeah, but then I got pregnant, so 1087 00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,200 Speaker 3: I couldn't go on that tour and has a way 1088 00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:57,399 Speaker 3: to the next tour. But he has that wrong with that, 1089 00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,520 Speaker 3: But it was it was full support. I thank God 1090 00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:03,000 Speaker 3: for this specifically though, is I come from marriages and 1091 00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,880 Speaker 3: he come from marriages too. His grandparents were married for 1092 00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,960 Speaker 3: a very long time, very very very long time. His 1093 00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,920 Speaker 3: grandfather passed and his grandmother recently just passed. But he 1094 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:16,279 Speaker 3: came from being able to k He was able to 1095 00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:20,239 Speaker 3: see a very healthy marriage and a fruitful marriage too. 1096 00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:24,120 Speaker 3: And then my side of the family is full of marriages, 1097 00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,040 Speaker 3: so we were able to bring that together as well. 1098 00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:28,960 Speaker 3: I've always known marriage my whole life. That's why I 1099 00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,400 Speaker 3: advocate for marriage so much, because I've seen it. I 1100 00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,799 Speaker 3: was a little girl who was nosy, and so when 1101 00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:34,759 Speaker 3: I was not supposed to be. 1102 00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:37,520 Speaker 2: In a room with her doorsations. 1103 00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,640 Speaker 4: Exactly, I was speaking around the corner. I was nosy. 1104 00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:41,279 Speaker 3: I was always in somebody else's business, and so I 1105 00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:44,480 Speaker 3: would hear certain conversations, certain conversations I probably should have 1106 00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,080 Speaker 3: never heard. But it also helped me see how people 1107 00:44:47,120 --> 00:44:49,680 Speaker 3: came back together. And so I was able to witness that, Yeah, 1108 00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,040 Speaker 3: they get mad at each other, but their marriage and 1109 00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:54,480 Speaker 3: they honored their marriage. But it's not even honored their marriage. 1110 00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:58,239 Speaker 3: Because I come from a background Kojic background specifically, and 1111 00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:00,520 Speaker 3: we were rooted in the word, I was able to 1112 00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:03,920 Speaker 3: see God bring and restore marriages, and so that's what 1113 00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:04,400 Speaker 3: I learned. 1114 00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:04,840 Speaker 4: I learned. 1115 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,759 Speaker 3: Of course, my family has always taught me that God 1116 00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:08,840 Speaker 3: is the creator of marriage. So if God is the 1117 00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,680 Speaker 3: creative marriage, he can restore marriage as well. He can 1118 00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,560 Speaker 3: give grace in the mess, and he can give power 1119 00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,359 Speaker 3: for a miracle. And so I've always learned that from 1120 00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:19,000 Speaker 3: my family, So I carried that and so whenever I 1121 00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:21,160 Speaker 3: even in my marriage and when I'm working with people 1122 00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,600 Speaker 3: in their marriages or even just speaking to married couples, 1123 00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:25,640 Speaker 3: it's like God can restore, but you have to put 1124 00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:26,600 Speaker 3: full trust in him. 1125 00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,719 Speaker 4: You have to be able to trust God. 1126 00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,400 Speaker 3: But a lot of people struggle with trusting God that 1127 00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:32,719 Speaker 3: part because you can't see what. 1128 00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:33,239 Speaker 4: He's gonna do. 1129 00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:39,360 Speaker 1: So you've been advocating for marriage, and your voice is amplified, 1130 00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:43,239 Speaker 1: very loud, and sometimes it comes off extremely harsh. And 1131 00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,319 Speaker 1: you said that you always pray and say God help me, 1132 00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,640 Speaker 1: you know, tone me down. So I ain't just you know, 1133 00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:53,400 Speaker 1: like this, what is that about? Why do you feel 1134 00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:58,920 Speaker 1: like you go so hard when you hear people say 1135 00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:02,600 Speaker 1: ignorant people to be ignorant comments that they say that 1136 00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:04,359 Speaker 1: that comes against the sanctity of. 1137 00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:07,200 Speaker 3: Marriage because marriage is a covenant and it irritates me. 1138 00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:10,799 Speaker 3: And what happens in society now is people are escapists, 1139 00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:13,520 Speaker 3: and when you have an escape plan in a marriage, 1140 00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:15,760 Speaker 3: that means that you have one foot outside of the covenant, 1141 00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:17,640 Speaker 3: and that is not how it's supposed to be. That 1142 00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:22,000 Speaker 3: irritates me because people really do. People have distorted marriage 1143 00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,840 Speaker 3: so much, and if it's frustrating to me, this is 1144 00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:27,480 Speaker 3: a covenant that we're not going to just minimize marriage 1145 00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,520 Speaker 3: and distort it to just simply being a contract. People 1146 00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,560 Speaker 3: look at marriage like, Okay, I can gain something from 1147 00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:36,440 Speaker 3: another person. I can get either some type of status 1148 00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,680 Speaker 3: or finances, or because I can't handle my love for spirit, 1149 00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:41,400 Speaker 3: let me just get marriage so that way I can 1150 00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:43,759 Speaker 3: keep having sex with this person. And that's just not 1151 00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,919 Speaker 3: what marriage is. And I hear so many people being 1152 00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:50,319 Speaker 3: very selfish about marriage. It's about me what I want 1153 00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:52,880 Speaker 3: is like, that's not what it is. We are using 1154 00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,719 Speaker 3: marriage to advance the Kingdom of God and to glorify God. 1155 00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:57,240 Speaker 4: Marriage is a covenant. 1156 00:46:57,280 --> 00:46:59,960 Speaker 3: This is a binding agreement and you stood before God, 1157 00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:03,359 Speaker 3: and so it's frustrating to me. I don't like when 1158 00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:06,439 Speaker 3: people play about marriage because essentially you're planning about God 1159 00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,839 Speaker 3: and I have an issue with that. I don't play 1160 00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:10,839 Speaker 3: about God, and I don't want to see nobody else 1161 00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:13,120 Speaker 3: play well God, this is God's creation, just like where 1162 00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,719 Speaker 3: God's creation, Marriage is God's creation, and he knew what 1163 00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:20,080 Speaker 3: he was doing when he created marriage. So let's take 1164 00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:23,440 Speaker 3: it serious and let's keep it sacred. For one, that's 1165 00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:26,319 Speaker 3: another thing. But I think also to add to that 1166 00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,160 Speaker 3: point is that there's a lot of marriages that really 1167 00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:34,080 Speaker 3: are not God's centered. They're not people marriage just philus 1168 00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:37,920 Speaker 3: for reasons, just because they wanted to right. And that's 1169 00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:42,080 Speaker 3: another issue that I have when it comes to marriage. 1170 00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:45,960 Speaker 3: Let's sanctify marriage. Let's get marriage back to the sacred 1171 00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:49,200 Speaker 3: space that it is. Let's do that. And so that's 1172 00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:50,960 Speaker 3: the reason why I speak the way that I do. 1173 00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:54,719 Speaker 3: I want marriage to be holy. God brought two imperfect, 1174 00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:58,640 Speaker 3: flawed people together to make something holy. And the moment 1175 00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:00,880 Speaker 3: that a person sees a flow, all they want to 1176 00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:02,799 Speaker 3: run away from it. But that's not what God called 1177 00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:04,520 Speaker 3: when it comes to marriage. He wants us to be 1178 00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,719 Speaker 3: set apart, set apart from the world, set apart. 1179 00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:08,280 Speaker 4: For other marriages. 1180 00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:11,080 Speaker 3: People need to be able to find God in our marriage. 1181 00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:13,200 Speaker 3: They need to be able to see God. We are 1182 00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:17,080 Speaker 3: a living picture of Christ's relationship with the Church. So 1183 00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:20,200 Speaker 3: therefore people need to be able to see it. And 1184 00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,960 Speaker 3: so for me, from my standpoint, that's the reason why 1185 00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,319 Speaker 3: I sanctify my marriage. You will hear me going in 1186 00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:28,759 Speaker 3: the closet, Jehovah Mekadeshkian. I need you to sanctify my 1187 00:48:28,760 --> 00:48:31,719 Speaker 3: marriage right now, because Lord said, I'm the Lord that sanctifies, 1188 00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,560 Speaker 3: and so if we want to be set apart, holy 1189 00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:37,359 Speaker 3: is the state. Holy is the state of being set apart. 1190 00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:40,520 Speaker 3: For Christ, sanctification is the process of making things holy. 1191 00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:43,960 Speaker 3: So I'm really big on calling everybody to sanctify your 1192 00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:45,839 Speaker 3: marriage so you can be set apart, so we can 1193 00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:49,200 Speaker 3: be utilized to fulfill God's purpose and his will as 1194 00:48:49,239 --> 00:48:52,439 Speaker 3: we are designed to do. So that's why I'm big 1195 00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:53,879 Speaker 3: on marriage the way that I am. I don't play 1196 00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:56,359 Speaker 3: about it, but I was raised that way and I 1197 00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:59,480 Speaker 3: need people to get back to what it is. How 1198 00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:04,040 Speaker 3: selfish is it? How selfish? How selfish is it as 1199 00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:06,799 Speaker 3: people to say that we want to live according to 1200 00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:09,560 Speaker 3: our will when we have a God who has been 1201 00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:12,880 Speaker 3: unchanging in his nature. That's why you heard me constantly 1202 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,520 Speaker 3: humming God's unchanging hand that has just been in my 1203 00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:19,360 Speaker 3: spirit for two weeks now. God's nature, his character is unchanging, 1204 00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:23,200 Speaker 3: his promises are unchanging. And that's our model right there 1205 00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,880 Speaker 3: for marriage. If God will continue to love you despite 1206 00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:29,680 Speaker 3: what you do to him, if God will continue to 1207 00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:33,439 Speaker 3: forgive you despite the sin that you have committed, why 1208 00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:35,920 Speaker 3: is it that we cannot take that model and be 1209 00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:38,680 Speaker 3: unchanging in our marriage as well. But the moment we 1210 00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:41,400 Speaker 3: don't feel happy, because people use marriage for personal fulfillment, 1211 00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:43,920 Speaker 3: the moment we don't feel happy, we want to run. 1212 00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:46,520 Speaker 3: The moment that things change, we want to run. Oh oh, 1213 00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:49,239 Speaker 3: you're making less money than you did before. You want 1214 00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:52,000 Speaker 3: to run. But our model says that our nature should 1215 00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,880 Speaker 3: be unchanging. And for a minute, if love is not 1216 00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,440 Speaker 3: there for you, then go to God about it and 1217 00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,279 Speaker 3: tell God today I don't feel loving God, but I 1218 00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:02,719 Speaker 3: know that you are love and I need you to 1219 00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:05,080 Speaker 3: bring this love in me. And so what we do, 1220 00:50:05,160 --> 00:50:07,680 Speaker 3: what we tip to do in marriages, is that we 1221 00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:10,160 Speaker 3: fall out of love and our feelings change and stuff, 1222 00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,440 Speaker 3: and then we try to manufacture these emotions when we 1223 00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,840 Speaker 3: don't have to. If you take it to God, he 1224 00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:17,840 Speaker 3: can help you gain that back. But people have gotten 1225 00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:20,560 Speaker 3: a way from going to God. Whenever they're going through 1226 00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:23,000 Speaker 3: things in their marriage, they go to social media. They 1227 00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:25,920 Speaker 3: go on social media Instagram, tiktoks. You listen to people 1228 00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:28,200 Speaker 3: who are bitter, You are listening to people who have 1229 00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,279 Speaker 3: unforgiveness in their heart instead of taking that to God. 1230 00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:34,120 Speaker 3: Stop using God as the last tool. Go to him first. 1231 00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:36,440 Speaker 3: If you are struggling with forgiveness, you need to go 1232 00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:38,919 Speaker 3: to God first. Why are you going to other people 1233 00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:40,919 Speaker 3: who are telling you should not forgive that person. When 1234 00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:44,440 Speaker 3: God commands us to forgive, you are supposed to forgive. 1235 00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:49,040 Speaker 3: It's stuff like that that really works me up. And 1236 00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:52,759 Speaker 3: in today's society, people are so unforgiving and it hurts 1237 00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,239 Speaker 3: my heart, it really does, especially when it comes to 1238 00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:58,920 Speaker 3: your spouse. You under threefold with you, your spouse and 1239 00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:02,279 Speaker 3: God the sinner. And God has commanded you to forgive 1240 00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:04,160 Speaker 3: because when you don't forgive, you nurture sin in your 1241 00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:09,480 Speaker 3: heart and God is not pleased with that. And trust me, 1242 00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:11,040 Speaker 3: God is not going to reward you for that sin 1243 00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:13,759 Speaker 3: that you're protecting. And that's the reason why people be 1244 00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:18,279 Speaker 3: resentful and bitter and angry and have hate towards the 1245 00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:20,600 Speaker 3: spouse because that unforgiveness is sitting in their heart. And 1246 00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:22,399 Speaker 3: this is the society that we live and people who 1247 00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:26,160 Speaker 3: are unforgiving, and we bringing that nonsense into marriage. Let's 1248 00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:28,279 Speaker 3: keep marriage what it is and stop treating it for 1249 00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:30,880 Speaker 3: what it is that you want. Let's keep marriage of 1250 00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,560 Speaker 3: what it is. It's sacred, it's separate from everybody else 1251 00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:36,799 Speaker 3: for a reason. Let's get back to what marriage is. 1252 00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:39,919 Speaker 3: Let's get back to using our marriage to be able 1253 00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:43,360 Speaker 3: to help the community, to serve others, to serve the people, 1254 00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:46,040 Speaker 3: to serve who God has called us. Let's use marriage 1255 00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:50,120 Speaker 3: for that reason again. But people have not been doing that, 1256 00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:53,400 Speaker 3: and it hurts my heart while we treating marriage like 1257 00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:56,160 Speaker 3: it's everything else in this world. It's the reason why 1258 00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:58,520 Speaker 3: God called man a woman together. He knew what he 1259 00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:00,680 Speaker 3: was doing. We didn't know what he was doing. He 1260 00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,879 Speaker 3: knew what he was doing. So that's I'm just really 1261 00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:04,600 Speaker 3: big on marriage. 1262 00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:07,600 Speaker 4: I love marriage. That's my ministry for reason. 1263 00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:09,879 Speaker 2: I just let you cook. I want you to cook. 1264 00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:14,160 Speaker 3: That's my ministry for a reason. And I just want 1265 00:52:14,200 --> 00:52:18,239 Speaker 3: people to get back to God. That's my biggest thing. 1266 00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:20,480 Speaker 3: I want you to get back to God. And that's 1267 00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,120 Speaker 3: why I love my marriage. Because my marriage when people 1268 00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,560 Speaker 3: see it, my friends and everybody around they look up 1269 00:52:25,560 --> 00:52:27,319 Speaker 3: to our marriage. When people see it, they say, you 1270 00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:29,040 Speaker 3: know what I do want that? Yeah, because the world 1271 00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:31,040 Speaker 3: tells you not to go for it, your pain tells 1272 00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:33,320 Speaker 3: you not to go for it. The world is talking 1273 00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:35,600 Speaker 3: to you. But God, if God has called you to 1274 00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:37,760 Speaker 3: be married, He's going to make sure that it happens. 1275 00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,600 Speaker 3: But you have to trust that God can restore whatever God, 1276 00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:43,279 Speaker 3: whatever God creates, he's going to make sure that he 1277 00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:44,800 Speaker 3: works through it, and he's going to take care of 1278 00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,920 Speaker 3: it and he's going to complete it. You just trust 1279 00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:52,920 Speaker 3: him in the process. I've watched people get divorced. I've 1280 00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:57,239 Speaker 3: seen so many divorces. I've watched people leave marriages. Like 1281 00:52:57,440 --> 00:52:59,440 Speaker 3: I've watched people who already had an escape plan. It 1282 00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:01,960 Speaker 3: was a clip that I saw that really annoyed me 1283 00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,680 Speaker 3: about an escape plan. You know, either you got another person, 1284 00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:08,040 Speaker 3: or you saving some money, or it's just the mindset 1285 00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:09,680 Speaker 3: that you want to escaping. Like I said, that means 1286 00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,360 Speaker 3: that you have one foot out side of the covenant. 1287 00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:15,239 Speaker 3: And so why are we treating covenant like that? Why 1288 00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:17,080 Speaker 3: are you Because that in another way, it's you telling God. 1289 00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:19,920 Speaker 3: I don't trust you, So why are we treating it 1290 00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:22,959 Speaker 3: that way? When you came into a marriage, the plan 1291 00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:24,560 Speaker 3: was not to escape. The plan was to make sure 1292 00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:27,280 Speaker 3: that you're honoring God. So why are we getting away 1293 00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:29,440 Speaker 3: from that? What is it that you are so desperate 1294 00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:32,280 Speaker 3: to have in your life to where you can't fulfill 1295 00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:35,799 Speaker 3: the will of God? That's pride. That's all that it is, 1296 00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:39,800 Speaker 3: is people's pride. And people can't get that under control. 1297 00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:42,759 Speaker 3: They can't get that pride under control, and that's why 1298 00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:47,000 Speaker 3: we can't really have healthy marriages like we should have, because, 1299 00:53:47,040 --> 00:53:49,520 Speaker 3: for one, people are not using the appropriate models that 1300 00:53:49,520 --> 00:53:52,720 Speaker 3: they're supposed to be used. Yep, that's the biggest issue 1301 00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:55,560 Speaker 3: that I have, and I you know, I anybody who 1302 00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:59,880 Speaker 3: is married, who is in a season right now. My 1303 00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:02,160 Speaker 3: biggest thing is to remember that God is greater than 1304 00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:05,000 Speaker 3: whatever season it is that you are in. But in 1305 00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:06,719 Speaker 3: order for you to trust God, that means that you 1306 00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:09,680 Speaker 3: have to relinquish control as well. You have to trust 1307 00:54:09,719 --> 00:54:11,279 Speaker 3: something that you don't see, and you have to fully 1308 00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,000 Speaker 3: surrender control to God. But people cannot fully surrender control 1309 00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,600 Speaker 3: to God. It's hard for him to do so because 1310 00:54:16,640 --> 00:54:18,560 Speaker 3: now I can't control it. How I want it to 1311 00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:19,600 Speaker 3: look so. 1312 00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:21,640 Speaker 1: We're going to stay there. And then, so how can 1313 00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:24,919 Speaker 1: they surrender? What does surrender? Fully surrendering over to God. 1314 00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:29,560 Speaker 1: Say that you have a let's create a scenario a wife. 1315 00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:32,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to say a husband, because it's too low fruit. 1316 00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,880 Speaker 1: If I say a wife found out a husband's cheating, 1317 00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:38,839 Speaker 1: a husband finds out his wife is cheating on her, 1318 00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:41,360 Speaker 1: the Bible gives you grounds to get a divorce. But 1319 00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:43,439 Speaker 1: y'a also says that, hey, if you want to stay 1320 00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:45,080 Speaker 1: in that marriage, you want to honor it, I can 1321 00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:46,120 Speaker 1: heal that as well. 1322 00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:48,839 Speaker 2: What does it look like to surrender to. 1323 00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:52,480 Speaker 3: Fully petition in prayer? That's the first thing, to fully 1324 00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:55,760 Speaker 3: petition in prayer. God is so good that he gives 1325 00:54:55,840 --> 00:55:00,480 Speaker 3: us his character and his nature and specific and we 1326 00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:03,560 Speaker 3: can petition it in the spirit. So if you need healing, 1327 00:55:03,760 --> 00:55:06,560 Speaker 3: you call on a God who heals. You go into 1328 00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:08,400 Speaker 3: your prayer. You caught on a God who heals. And 1329 00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:10,319 Speaker 3: if your spouse for some reason doesn't want to pray 1330 00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,240 Speaker 3: for you, you can create holiness in your marriage. Again 1331 00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:15,640 Speaker 3: you give it to God. That's going to be a 1332 00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:20,240 Speaker 3: every day, daily surrendering. I'm angry today, I'm mad today. 1333 00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:23,360 Speaker 3: I'm hurt today. But Lord, I know you can provide. Lord, 1334 00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:25,319 Speaker 3: I know you are a healer. Lord, I know that 1335 00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:27,480 Speaker 3: you can sustain this marriage. Lord, I know that you 1336 00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:30,600 Speaker 3: can restore this. But that's a daily sacrifice that has 1337 00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:33,200 Speaker 3: to be given. But also in the midst of that 1338 00:55:33,280 --> 00:55:35,759 Speaker 3: as well, you got to layer your spiritual disciplines as well. 1339 00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,719 Speaker 3: It's not just prayer, fast as well. Fast for your marriage. 1340 00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:42,120 Speaker 3: The Lord told me before. It was a whole bunch 1341 00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:44,200 Speaker 3: of scenanigans that happened this year. The Lord told me. 1342 00:55:44,239 --> 00:55:46,480 Speaker 3: I believe it was January twelfth, and he told me 1343 00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:48,759 Speaker 3: to anoint my marriage. My marriage was attacked. A couple 1344 00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,000 Speaker 3: of weeks after that, God woke me up and sold 1345 00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:52,960 Speaker 3: me to anoint my marriage. I went in my prayer closet, 1346 00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,319 Speaker 3: I turned my coundles on, I turned that big light off. 1347 00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:57,680 Speaker 3: I went over there, I got my oil, I prayed 1348 00:55:57,719 --> 00:56:00,840 Speaker 3: over my ol, I blessed myself and I went into prayer, 1349 00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:02,640 Speaker 3: and then I put the oil on my ring. And 1350 00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:04,640 Speaker 3: when my husband's sleep, I put the oil on his ring. 1351 00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:06,840 Speaker 3: And I went back into that prayer closet and I 1352 00:56:06,960 --> 00:56:08,839 Speaker 3: was praying, and I was warning in the spirit because 1353 00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:11,239 Speaker 3: he was showing me something was coming, something big was 1354 00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:14,120 Speaker 3: about to come and attack your marriage. Because my marriage 1355 00:56:14,400 --> 00:56:17,600 Speaker 3: is going to be a great example for other marriages. 1356 00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:19,759 Speaker 3: And so I had to go into that clause. And 1357 00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:21,360 Speaker 3: this is not a one time thing. I have to 1358 00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:23,440 Speaker 3: continue to anoint my marriage. 1359 00:56:23,440 --> 00:56:23,960 Speaker 4: That means that. 1360 00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:25,759 Speaker 3: So for a person who was going through that in 1361 00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:28,320 Speaker 3: that moment, learn how to anoint your marriage. 1362 00:56:28,400 --> 00:56:30,640 Speaker 4: Get so close to God, pray. 1363 00:56:30,520 --> 00:56:33,239 Speaker 3: So much, meditate on your words so much that His 1364 00:56:33,440 --> 00:56:36,440 Speaker 3: voice becomes something that's just instant. You can hear it 1365 00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:38,440 Speaker 3: before you hear your own voice. You want to be 1366 00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:42,200 Speaker 3: a direct communication with God. Larry your disciplines because when God, 1367 00:56:42,239 --> 00:56:44,560 Speaker 3: if you are going through something, God has to go 1368 00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,640 Speaker 3: through all of these displance prayer and you just basically 1369 00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:49,759 Speaker 3: have to go through consecration before He can commission you 1370 00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:51,480 Speaker 3: out to where you're supposed to go to. So if 1371 00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:54,520 Speaker 3: I'm about to do some restoring, cleansing and strengthening, I 1372 00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:58,560 Speaker 3: need your yes as well. God is sovereign, he don't 1373 00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:01,640 Speaker 3: need your permission for his authority. That's not what we're saying. 1374 00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:04,080 Speaker 3: But he also doesn't need your resistance as well. If 1375 00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:06,759 Speaker 3: you want God to restore your marriage, that means that 1376 00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:10,400 Speaker 3: you need to give him your Yes, I'm hurting right now, Lord, 1377 00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,920 Speaker 3: I am upset, But Jehovah Raphi, I know that you 1378 00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:16,880 Speaker 3: are the God who heals right now, So God, I 1379 00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,720 Speaker 3: am calling out to your name right now. I am hurt, 1380 00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:22,240 Speaker 3: I am distressed, I am in agony, but I know 1381 00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:25,360 Speaker 3: that my emotions are not bigger than your restoration, Father God. 1382 00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:27,800 Speaker 3: So that is what I mean. Go in there in 1383 00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:30,480 Speaker 3: war behind your marriage. Stop worrying about what other people say, 1384 00:57:30,520 --> 00:57:32,680 Speaker 3: because half those people ain't never ward behind their marriage. 1385 00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,640 Speaker 3: But this is something greater than you. This is God's 1386 00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:38,800 Speaker 3: will right now. It's the sin that caused that person 1387 00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:41,560 Speaker 3: to do what they did. It's the lustful spirit. And 1388 00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:43,920 Speaker 3: once a person gets caught onto that lustful spirit, that 1389 00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:47,360 Speaker 3: lustful spirit is never satisfied. I got a little bit 1390 00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:49,080 Speaker 3: of this, but ooh, you got a taste it, and 1391 00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:51,360 Speaker 3: let get Let's give you something else. So you got 1392 00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:54,120 Speaker 3: to pray that spirit away as well. Okay, so maybe 1393 00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:56,320 Speaker 3: you can't pray. Maybe the world got you, but that's 1394 00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:58,840 Speaker 3: all right because God got me. I'm still over here, 1395 00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:01,920 Speaker 3: so I'm gonna stealer. Make sure that I keep myself 1396 00:58:01,960 --> 00:58:04,320 Speaker 3: set apart from sin, and I'm going to do what 1397 00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:06,919 Speaker 3: God has called and commanded me to do. And I'm 1398 00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:10,040 Speaker 3: going to pray that, in God's timing, by his nature, 1399 00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:12,760 Speaker 3: by his will, that you will come back how He 1400 00:58:12,840 --> 00:58:14,800 Speaker 3: needs you to come back, not just simply for me, 1401 00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:17,440 Speaker 3: for the sake of what we have done for God, 1402 00:58:17,680 --> 00:58:19,640 Speaker 3: for the sake of what God has called us to do. 1403 00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:23,400 Speaker 2: I want you to speak to single women. 1404 00:58:23,440 --> 00:58:26,600 Speaker 1: I get so many dms since I announced that I'm 1405 00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:30,080 Speaker 1: getting married. It's inspired a lot of people. They've been like, Wow, 1406 00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:32,040 Speaker 1: this is for us. We're going to create a hashtag 1407 00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:34,160 Speaker 1: that says this is for all of us. But everybody 1408 00:58:34,240 --> 00:58:38,800 Speaker 1: kept saying this engagement, this wedding is for all of us. 1409 00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:42,400 Speaker 1: But there's also a segment of single women who have 1410 00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:45,680 Speaker 1: grown weary and they're well doing. They've been seeking God 1411 00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:49,320 Speaker 1: fast and volunteering at the church. They've taken courses, they've 1412 00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:53,960 Speaker 1: gone to Woman Evolved, They've been every time there's a 1413 00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:58,440 Speaker 1: moment to go fellowship with other women to lift up 1414 00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:01,200 Speaker 1: the name of the Most High. They get high in 1415 00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:05,040 Speaker 1: that moment and they come back to their homes with 1416 00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:07,120 Speaker 1: no man in sight, and they desire that do you 1417 00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:09,560 Speaker 1: have a word in your heart to encourage those women 1418 00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:11,880 Speaker 1: and look at that camera and talk to you those. 1419 00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:13,320 Speaker 4: Queens, Hey, single babies. 1420 00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:16,960 Speaker 3: It is if you're called to be a wife, because 1421 00:59:17,000 --> 00:59:19,000 Speaker 3: not everyone's called to be a wife, Not everyone's called 1422 00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:21,080 Speaker 3: to be a husband. If you're called to be one, 1423 00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,320 Speaker 3: you'll know because God. To keep it in your heart. 1424 00:59:23,640 --> 00:59:25,520 Speaker 3: Make sure that the desire that you have is not 1425 00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:28,160 Speaker 3: becoming an idol. Make sure that you keep God at 1426 00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:30,120 Speaker 3: the center of everything that you're doing. That whatever it 1427 00:59:30,200 --> 00:59:31,760 Speaker 3: is that you're doing, you're doing it for the glory 1428 00:59:31,760 --> 00:59:33,040 Speaker 3: of God, and you are doing it for the sake 1429 00:59:33,080 --> 00:59:36,160 Speaker 3: of God, not for the sake of being married. Whoever 1430 00:59:36,240 --> 00:59:39,520 Speaker 3: God has for you, they will find their way to you. 1431 00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:41,320 Speaker 3: But He is going to take you through a season 1432 00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,920 Speaker 3: of preparation. You're going to have to be pruned and refined. 1433 00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:47,560 Speaker 3: But you have to be patient. I know it's uncomfortable, 1434 00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:50,880 Speaker 3: I know it is a lonely road. But keep God, 1435 00:59:51,280 --> 00:59:54,040 Speaker 3: keep Jesus at the center. You will find love. God 1436 00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:57,200 Speaker 3: is love. You will find love there. If you feel 1437 00:59:57,200 --> 00:59:59,640 Speaker 3: like I'm lonely, take that to God. Keep taking that 1438 00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:02,240 Speaker 3: to God. He would give you the comfort in that season. 1439 01:00:02,520 --> 01:00:04,280 Speaker 3: If you feel like you need refuge, you feel like 1440 01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:06,480 Speaker 3: it's not safe for you to be alone. Seek refuge 1441 01:00:06,520 --> 01:00:08,160 Speaker 3: on the god swaying. He is going to be there. 1442 01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:10,600 Speaker 3: But whatever it is that you are going through, whatever desire, 1443 01:00:10,680 --> 01:00:14,120 Speaker 3: you have, submit that to God. So if your desire 1444 01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:17,600 Speaker 3: aligns with His will, it would be so in his timing. 1445 01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:20,920 Speaker 3: But you have to trust God in the process. H 1446 01:00:23,320 --> 01:00:26,400 Speaker 3: I want married people to win. I want marriage to win, 1447 01:00:26,440 --> 01:00:28,560 Speaker 3: but I want God to win above all. Yeah, but 1448 01:00:28,760 --> 01:00:32,200 Speaker 3: I want marriage. I want marriage to be what it 1449 01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:34,520 Speaker 3: is supposed to be. And I don't want people to 1450 01:00:34,760 --> 01:00:38,080 Speaker 3: distort marriage anymore because I know the things that people 1451 01:00:38,080 --> 01:00:40,240 Speaker 3: do grieve the spirit, And I've said that a number 1452 01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:40,680 Speaker 3: of times. 1453 01:00:41,600 --> 01:00:44,240 Speaker 1: How do you balance you know, you said, don't make 1454 01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:48,240 Speaker 1: marriage an idol? How does someone not making the idol? 1455 01:00:48,320 --> 01:00:50,120 Speaker 1: Or how do they distinguish whether or not they are 1456 01:00:50,120 --> 01:00:51,920 Speaker 1: making the idol? They say, I wake up, I think 1457 01:00:51,920 --> 01:00:56,200 Speaker 1: about it. I desire marriage. I'm about to hit forty 1458 01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:58,600 Speaker 1: years old. I've been desired marriage. How do I know 1459 01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:00,240 Speaker 1: that I'm not making that right? 1460 01:01:00,280 --> 01:01:01,080 Speaker 4: That's how you know? Right there? 1461 01:01:01,080 --> 01:01:03,840 Speaker 3: Are you fighting against a clock? You are fighting against 1462 01:01:03,880 --> 01:01:07,480 Speaker 3: an imaginary clock. When it starts to become emotionally distressing 1463 01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:10,439 Speaker 3: or it feels like it's becoming a pressure or you're 1464 01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:12,720 Speaker 3: fighting against a clock that less you know, that's a 1465 01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:15,000 Speaker 3: key indication that has become an idol. 1466 01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:17,560 Speaker 1: But think about you go to a gynocologists you want 1467 01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:19,720 Speaker 1: to have kids. They want to have kids the right 1468 01:01:19,760 --> 01:01:22,680 Speaker 1: way and covenant. The gynocologists are saying, hey, list, you're 1469 01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:26,360 Speaker 1: thirty five years old. You're about to have a geriatric childbirth, 1470 01:01:26,560 --> 01:01:28,800 Speaker 1: So do you really want to have kids? Go find somebody, 1471 01:01:28,920 --> 01:01:32,040 Speaker 1: get these kids together. And you're doing everything right. You're 1472 01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:35,200 Speaker 1: getting older and older and older, and now you're afraid 1473 01:01:35,240 --> 01:01:38,720 Speaker 1: that you're going to be perimental pouzzle and then you 1474 01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:40,439 Speaker 1: give up the opportunity to have a kid. 1475 01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:42,200 Speaker 3: You can be doing everything right, but if it doesn't 1476 01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:44,640 Speaker 3: align with God's will, it's not going to happen. You 1477 01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:47,920 Speaker 3: can be doing everything right according to your will, like 1478 01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:49,920 Speaker 3: I was saying earlier, you're doing everything right according to 1479 01:01:49,960 --> 01:01:51,360 Speaker 3: your well, But what if God didn't even call you 1480 01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:54,040 Speaker 3: to have kids, like that's your desire, But. 1481 01:01:54,000 --> 01:01:56,560 Speaker 1: Then they have to gree the thought of not having 1482 01:01:56,600 --> 01:01:58,200 Speaker 1: that Once that and the only way they're gonna know 1483 01:01:58,240 --> 01:02:00,040 Speaker 1: that most of the time is after that time I 1484 01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:00,800 Speaker 1: just transpired. 1485 01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:04,280 Speaker 3: I'd rather you grieve the thought than doing something by 1486 01:02:04,320 --> 01:02:07,720 Speaker 3: your own will and having to live the consequences of 1487 01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:10,680 Speaker 3: that of not obeying God. I would much rather you 1488 01:02:10,720 --> 01:02:13,120 Speaker 3: go through that process of grieving the thought of it. 1489 01:02:13,520 --> 01:02:15,840 Speaker 3: I know it's uncomfortable because society tells us as women, 1490 01:02:15,840 --> 01:02:17,440 Speaker 3: we're supposed to have kids, we're supposed to marry and 1491 01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:20,320 Speaker 3: things like that. But you keep taking that to God. 1492 01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:25,520 Speaker 3: Pray fast, consecrate, meditate on a word, Allow God to 1493 01:02:25,560 --> 01:02:28,080 Speaker 3: give you that answer. Pray that God gives you the answer. 1494 01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:31,160 Speaker 3: If He chooses to reveal it to you, you're going 1495 01:02:31,240 --> 01:02:34,320 Speaker 3: to have to obey and accept it because we don't 1496 01:02:34,320 --> 01:02:36,240 Speaker 3: know what's going to happen a minute from now, yep, 1497 01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:38,800 Speaker 3: two months from now. But God knows what our life 1498 01:02:38,920 --> 01:02:41,280 Speaker 3: is going to be, and he knows what he's protecting 1499 01:02:41,360 --> 01:02:43,200 Speaker 3: us from. But he also knows what our calling iss 1500 01:02:43,200 --> 01:02:46,480 Speaker 3: as well. So sometimes it's uncomfortable, but you have to 1501 01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:50,360 Speaker 3: just accept it for what God has for you, and 1502 01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:52,080 Speaker 3: you know, just ta. 1503 01:02:52,160 --> 01:02:52,960 Speaker 4: Keep taking it to God. 1504 01:02:53,040 --> 01:02:54,800 Speaker 3: I mean sometimes it's some moments where you just got 1505 01:02:54,840 --> 01:02:56,040 Speaker 3: to cry and say Lord, why mean? 1506 01:02:56,160 --> 01:03:00,280 Speaker 2: But you know it, just go through the process. 1507 01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:03,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know, I hope that whatever it is 1508 01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:06,440 Speaker 3: that God has for everybody, that it passes through like 1509 01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:09,920 Speaker 3: it's supposed to. And I really pray that everyone eventually 1510 01:03:10,480 --> 01:03:13,480 Speaker 3: gives God. Yes, you will be surprised when you give God. Yes, 1511 01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:15,240 Speaker 3: what happens when you do? 1512 01:03:15,440 --> 01:03:17,160 Speaker 2: What is that song you kept humming? You want to 1513 01:03:17,200 --> 01:03:17,520 Speaker 2: sing it? 1514 01:03:17,960 --> 01:03:18,640 Speaker 4: Unchanging hand? 1515 01:03:18,760 --> 01:03:28,360 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm not sing on spot down now, don't sing it. Then, 1516 01:03:29,840 --> 01:03:31,720 Speaker 5: don't sing it, but let let the song come out 1517 01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:35,200 Speaker 5: of your heart. See beautiful, I didn't know you could 1518 01:03:35,200 --> 01:03:35,840 Speaker 5: sing so well. 1519 01:03:36,360 --> 01:03:38,680 Speaker 3: It's God, so changing hand. He's kept it on my 1520 01:03:38,720 --> 01:03:40,160 Speaker 3: spirit for a while. He's kept it on my spirit. 1521 01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:42,120 Speaker 2: For what can you put on the spirit of the people? 1522 01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:42,720 Speaker 2: Can you sing it? 1523 01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:43,960 Speaker 4: Why are you trying to make me sing so. 1524 01:03:44,080 --> 01:03:46,480 Speaker 2: Because you sounded great, I did not know that you 1525 01:03:46,520 --> 01:03:46,919 Speaker 2: can sing. 1526 01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:48,200 Speaker 4: I get nervous on spot. 1527 01:03:49,200 --> 01:03:52,960 Speaker 2: We are looking at you. Everybody turned it back, everybody, 1528 01:03:53,520 --> 01:03:54,320 Speaker 2: everybody took it around. 1529 01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:55,960 Speaker 3: Now I'm not gonna do it. I'm just I just 1530 01:03:56,000 --> 01:03:58,120 Speaker 3: getting nervous on spot. You're gonna throw me off. 1531 01:03:58,400 --> 01:04:00,200 Speaker 1: No, it was so cool. I was like, I was 1532 01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:01,440 Speaker 1: listening to you home and I said I didn't know 1533 01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:02,800 Speaker 1: you can say He was like, yeah, I can. 1534 01:04:03,120 --> 01:04:03,320 Speaker 5: Yeah. 1535 01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:05,240 Speaker 3: I listened to a lot of old school music. God's 1536 01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:08,200 Speaker 3: on Changing Hand is just a great song that says 1537 01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:10,760 Speaker 3: to hold onto God's hand, God's on changing Hand, And 1538 01:04:10,840 --> 01:04:14,560 Speaker 3: I really do I believe that if people do that, 1539 01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:18,600 Speaker 3: there'll be a lot more content for where their life is. 1540 01:04:19,160 --> 01:04:21,320 Speaker 3: If you now, sometimes when you hold onto God's hand, 1541 01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:23,520 Speaker 3: he be moving, it get a little rough, but you 1542 01:04:23,640 --> 01:04:25,320 Speaker 3: keep onto his hand because one thing God is going 1543 01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:27,000 Speaker 3: to do is I always fulfill his promises. And he 1544 01:04:27,080 --> 01:04:29,600 Speaker 3: showed us he's always fulfilled his promises. So if God 1545 01:04:29,600 --> 01:04:32,720 Speaker 3: says it's going to be, it's going to be. Trusting 1546 01:04:32,720 --> 01:04:35,600 Speaker 3: God is a different conversation. But when you hold onto 1547 01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:38,680 Speaker 3: his hand, you're gonna have some faith. You gotta have 1548 01:04:38,760 --> 01:04:39,720 Speaker 3: faith that God's gonna do it. 1549 01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:41,200 Speaker 2: How long? 1550 01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:43,760 Speaker 3: For two weeks, two weeks, two weeks it's been. It 1551 01:04:43,800 --> 01:04:45,480 Speaker 3: was just playing over in the middle of the night, 1552 01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:47,200 Speaker 3: and it just kept happening. It just kept happening. It 1553 01:04:47,240 --> 01:04:49,840 Speaker 3: just kept happening, and I started to kind of realize 1554 01:04:50,040 --> 01:04:52,320 Speaker 3: why it was not just for me. It was people 1555 01:04:52,360 --> 01:04:53,960 Speaker 3: that I was speaking to over the past couple of 1556 01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:57,360 Speaker 3: works in the past two weeks of just knowing that whatever 1557 01:04:57,360 --> 01:04:59,160 Speaker 3: God said he's going to do, he's going to do 1558 01:04:59,480 --> 01:05:00,000 Speaker 3: his nature. 1559 01:05:00,000 --> 01:05:00,760 Speaker 4: It's not going to change. 1560 01:05:00,760 --> 01:05:02,920 Speaker 3: So regardless you may do certain things, you may do 1561 01:05:03,000 --> 01:05:05,360 Speaker 3: things that grieve the spirit. God is still going to 1562 01:05:05,400 --> 01:05:06,560 Speaker 3: be God at the end of the day, and he 1563 01:05:06,640 --> 01:05:09,560 Speaker 3: has redemptive love, just as he has redemptive anger. So 1564 01:05:09,640 --> 01:05:13,120 Speaker 3: even if you anger God, you'll be redeemed. But you 1565 01:05:13,240 --> 01:05:15,160 Speaker 3: have to stay right there at God's feet. 1566 01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:17,040 Speaker 2: Can you know how you snapped? 1567 01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:19,880 Speaker 1: How much you snapped when I just mentioned about marriage, 1568 01:05:19,920 --> 01:05:24,160 Speaker 1: and how sorry? Did I again? You went in for 1569 01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:29,240 Speaker 1: about ten minutes. Oh yeah, you snapping And I loved 1570 01:05:29,240 --> 01:05:32,160 Speaker 1: it because that's when you're operating in your passion. It's 1571 01:05:32,240 --> 01:05:35,160 Speaker 1: like and when I tell you you carried so much 1572 01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:40,080 Speaker 1: weight in that and so much wisdom because the reality is, yes. 1573 01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:43,720 Speaker 2: We do use marriage very haphazardly. You know what I'm saying. 1574 01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:45,760 Speaker 1: We treat marriage a lot of times people are treating 1575 01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:47,640 Speaker 1: marriage like their dating life, you know what I'm saying, 1576 01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:49,920 Speaker 1: to be like I broke up with them in the marriage, 1577 01:05:49,960 --> 01:05:51,080 Speaker 1: like I don't want to be with them. No mo, 1578 01:05:51,200 --> 01:05:53,520 Speaker 1: he may be mad you like you married. You just 1579 01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:55,600 Speaker 1: can't just break up, you know what I'm saying. But 1580 01:05:55,680 --> 01:06:00,360 Speaker 1: it's the same level of it. I interviewed jess Lynn 1581 01:06:00,400 --> 01:06:03,200 Speaker 1: told her, and she calls it stick to itness. She said, 1582 01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:06,440 Speaker 1: why don't people have stick to itness anymore? That they 1583 01:06:06,480 --> 01:06:08,439 Speaker 1: go through it? Argument don't want to be married? No more, 1584 01:06:08,560 --> 01:06:10,160 Speaker 1: they go through a problem, they don't want to be married. 1585 01:06:10,160 --> 01:06:13,560 Speaker 1: The lights get cut off, electricity a bill to get paid. 1586 01:06:13,560 --> 01:06:15,360 Speaker 2: I can't. I ain't gonna be married to nobody with 1587 01:06:15,480 --> 01:06:16,560 Speaker 2: a lights getting caught and leave. 1588 01:06:16,600 --> 01:06:19,640 Speaker 1: You be like, why take vows for richer, for poor, 1589 01:06:19,760 --> 01:06:21,680 Speaker 1: for better or for worse through sickness and and hell, 1590 01:06:21,840 --> 01:06:24,320 Speaker 1: why do you take those extreme vowels if you can't 1591 01:06:24,320 --> 01:06:26,120 Speaker 1: even handle any part of that? 1592 01:06:26,520 --> 01:06:27,720 Speaker 2: You know, And it's it's interesting. 1593 01:06:27,760 --> 01:06:30,520 Speaker 3: People just don't have God at the center. A threefold 1594 01:06:30,560 --> 01:06:33,120 Speaker 3: court is harder to break. The word tells us that 1595 01:06:33,160 --> 01:06:35,160 Speaker 3: it's harder to break when God is at that center, 1596 01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:37,800 Speaker 3: he will keep it together. When you start to feel 1597 01:06:37,840 --> 01:06:39,960 Speaker 3: like you are coming off, it's getting rocket stuff like that. 1598 01:06:40,040 --> 01:06:42,120 Speaker 3: As long as God is into center, in the center, 1599 01:06:42,200 --> 01:06:45,480 Speaker 3: you treat it as such, it's not going to break. 1600 01:06:45,480 --> 01:06:47,200 Speaker 3: That is it's the people who don't keep God at 1601 01:06:47,200 --> 01:06:49,480 Speaker 3: the center. They keep God on standby. 1602 01:06:52,040 --> 01:06:52,720 Speaker 2: I can talk to. 1603 01:06:52,640 --> 01:06:54,520 Speaker 1: You all day, I know. Let me just say this 1604 01:06:54,600 --> 01:06:56,280 Speaker 1: to you, what do you have on your heart. Anything 1605 01:06:56,320 --> 01:06:57,880 Speaker 1: else you want to say before I let you go? 1606 01:06:57,920 --> 01:07:00,720 Speaker 1: You got any projects we can support about to bring you? 1607 01:07:00,720 --> 01:07:02,480 Speaker 1: Are you going to bring life back into your podcast? 1608 01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:03,520 Speaker 1: You're gonna bring your podcast. 1609 01:07:03,640 --> 01:07:06,440 Speaker 4: They're gonna bring life back into my podcasts. I am. 1610 01:07:06,560 --> 01:07:08,480 Speaker 4: You know what everyone wants me to cook? 1611 01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:10,480 Speaker 3: You know, the last time I did a video where 1612 01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:11,840 Speaker 3: I was cooking and I was talking about I don't 1613 01:07:11,840 --> 01:07:12,640 Speaker 3: know if it was Ruth or Essa. 1614 01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:14,280 Speaker 4: I can't remember who it was, but. 1615 01:07:14,160 --> 01:07:15,880 Speaker 3: They like, we like when you cook because there's a 1616 01:07:15,880 --> 01:07:18,000 Speaker 3: lot of women who have not been trained on how 1617 01:07:18,000 --> 01:07:20,080 Speaker 3: to be a wife. And so it's like they look 1618 01:07:20,120 --> 01:07:21,880 Speaker 3: at me and they're like, you have it all together, 1619 01:07:21,880 --> 01:07:24,320 Speaker 3: and it's like, hey, y'all are only saying what was 1620 01:07:24,360 --> 01:07:26,960 Speaker 3: poured in to me. But I do have that. I 1621 01:07:27,000 --> 01:07:28,600 Speaker 3: am going to be working back on my podcast. I'm 1622 01:07:28,600 --> 01:07:30,120 Speaker 3: going to get back to what people have been asking 1623 01:07:30,160 --> 01:07:31,960 Speaker 3: me to do. But my biggest thing right now is 1624 01:07:31,960 --> 01:07:34,760 Speaker 3: for anyone who is listening right now. I know that 1625 01:07:34,840 --> 01:07:36,960 Speaker 3: life can seem like it is crazy, and life can 1626 01:07:37,000 --> 01:07:40,600 Speaker 3: feel unstable, but God can stabilize the unstable, and you 1627 01:07:40,720 --> 01:07:43,240 Speaker 3: have to remember that as long as you find your 1628 01:07:43,280 --> 01:07:44,080 Speaker 3: way back to God. 1629 01:07:44,120 --> 01:07:45,840 Speaker 4: It's hard right now in this season. 1630 01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:47,919 Speaker 3: It's hard in the world that we live in because 1631 01:07:47,960 --> 01:07:49,760 Speaker 3: you have so many people who are telling you God's 1632 01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:52,360 Speaker 3: not real and why would God allow this? But remember 1633 01:07:52,360 --> 01:07:54,520 Speaker 3: that we serve a God that is a God of love. 1634 01:07:54,960 --> 01:07:57,680 Speaker 3: Remember that we serve a redemptive God. We serve a 1635 01:07:57,760 --> 01:08:00,520 Speaker 3: transformative God. And God can restore with whatever it is, 1636 01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:03,040 Speaker 3: and he can meet every need that you have so long. 1637 01:08:02,920 --> 01:08:04,040 Speaker 4: As it aligns with His will. 1638 01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:05,880 Speaker 3: And I can tell you as somebody who has lived 1639 01:08:05,880 --> 01:08:08,360 Speaker 3: in the world and has done so many things to 1640 01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:11,040 Speaker 3: grieve the spirit, it is a better life to live 1641 01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:14,080 Speaker 3: when you are living and serving God because He will 1642 01:08:14,120 --> 01:08:16,639 Speaker 3: preserve you so long as you serve him. So that's 1643 01:08:16,720 --> 01:08:18,679 Speaker 3: that's my word for whoever is on the other side. 1644 01:08:19,360 --> 01:08:20,320 Speaker 2: Want you stop now because you. 1645 01:08:20,280 --> 01:08:21,960 Speaker 1: Were setting them up for the Center's prayer, So go 1646 01:08:21,960 --> 01:08:23,439 Speaker 1: ahead and just take them on that. I was setting 1647 01:08:23,479 --> 01:08:25,439 Speaker 1: him up aware you were about to bring him to Christ. 1648 01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:27,439 Speaker 1: Go ahead and go ahead, go ahead and take them 1649 01:08:27,439 --> 01:08:29,280 Speaker 1: through the Center's prayer and we're gonna. 1650 01:08:29,120 --> 01:08:29,640 Speaker 2: Pray for him. 1651 01:08:30,240 --> 01:08:33,120 Speaker 1: That's what you sending them all up in that we're 1652 01:08:33,640 --> 01:08:35,479 Speaker 1: off the call, So go ahead and go ahead and 1653 01:08:35,479 --> 01:08:36,960 Speaker 1: bring them to this gonna. 1654 01:08:36,800 --> 01:08:40,880 Speaker 4: Get We're gonna close our prayers all right. 1655 01:08:40,920 --> 01:08:43,840 Speaker 3: This is for everyone who is sitting and watching this 1656 01:08:44,000 --> 01:08:46,320 Speaker 3: on the screen right now, for those who are weary 1657 01:08:46,360 --> 01:08:49,519 Speaker 3: in our spirit, for those who feel lost, for those 1658 01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:52,320 Speaker 3: who are confused, for those who are doubtful. Father God, 1659 01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:54,840 Speaker 3: I thank you for bringing us together today in this moment, 1660 01:08:54,880 --> 01:08:57,280 Speaker 3: Father God, Father God, I thank you for utilizing our 1661 01:08:57,360 --> 01:08:59,960 Speaker 3: voices to be able to heal the hearts of those 1662 01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:03,000 Speaker 3: who are listening. We thank you God for your transformation. 1663 01:09:03,160 --> 01:09:05,599 Speaker 3: We thank you for your steadfast and his Father God, 1664 01:09:05,640 --> 01:09:07,720 Speaker 3: we thank you for always being there with us. 1665 01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:08,280 Speaker 4: God. 1666 01:09:08,320 --> 01:09:11,280 Speaker 3: We thank you for giving us the healing that is necessary. 1667 01:09:11,360 --> 01:09:13,920 Speaker 3: Father God, we thank you for finding us in a 1668 01:09:14,040 --> 01:09:16,760 Speaker 3: weary moments, Father God. For those who are anxious right now, 1669 01:09:16,800 --> 01:09:19,240 Speaker 3: Father God, I speak of covering over their life, Father God. 1670 01:09:19,439 --> 01:09:21,920 Speaker 3: For those who are emotionally distressed, Father God, for those 1671 01:09:21,920 --> 01:09:24,320 Speaker 3: who feel like they are losing the battle. Father God, 1672 01:09:24,360 --> 01:09:27,120 Speaker 3: are calling you Jehovah Nissi because you are a covering 1673 01:09:27,320 --> 01:09:29,840 Speaker 3: Father God, you are a victory and we are victorious 1674 01:09:30,000 --> 01:09:31,920 Speaker 3: so long as we are with you, Father God, I 1675 01:09:32,040 --> 01:09:34,920 Speaker 3: ask you to cover those who are hurting right now, 1676 01:09:34,960 --> 01:09:38,000 Speaker 3: Father God, remember that remind them, Father God, that you 1677 01:09:38,040 --> 01:09:41,280 Speaker 3: are the healer above all healers. Father God, remind them 1678 01:09:41,320 --> 01:09:43,559 Speaker 3: that they can be able to find you, Father God. 1679 01:09:43,720 --> 01:09:46,640 Speaker 3: For those who are weeping right now, Father God, I 1680 01:09:46,680 --> 01:09:49,240 Speaker 3: pray for a healing power, Father God, I pray for 1681 01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:51,439 Speaker 3: a movement in their life right now, Father God, a 1682 01:09:51,560 --> 01:09:55,679 Speaker 3: supernatural healing, Father God. Whatever is coming against them, Father God, 1683 01:09:55,840 --> 01:09:58,559 Speaker 3: I cast it out right now, Father God, whatever the 1684 01:09:58,720 --> 01:10:01,080 Speaker 3: enemy is doing right now, I ask that you and 1685 01:10:01,200 --> 01:10:04,679 Speaker 3: camp your angels around the believers right now, Father God, 1686 01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:07,920 Speaker 3: that you remind them that you are their shepherd, Father God, 1687 01:10:08,080 --> 01:10:10,439 Speaker 3: and you have ordered their step. Father God. When they 1688 01:10:10,479 --> 01:10:13,439 Speaker 3: feel lost, Father God, remind them that you are there. 1689 01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:16,439 Speaker 3: Right now, Father God, we exalt your name, Father God, 1690 01:10:16,680 --> 01:10:19,360 Speaker 3: because you are a God of your promises. Father God, 1691 01:10:19,560 --> 01:10:22,120 Speaker 3: you are the God of Abraham. Father God, you are 1692 01:10:22,160 --> 01:10:24,479 Speaker 3: the God of Isaac. Father God, you are the God 1693 01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:26,880 Speaker 3: of Jacob. Father God, Father God, you are the God 1694 01:10:26,920 --> 01:10:30,360 Speaker 3: who has helped us in all moments of need, Father God, 1695 01:10:30,640 --> 01:10:33,479 Speaker 3: those who have been helped captive. Father God, you are 1696 01:10:33,520 --> 01:10:35,400 Speaker 3: the God of refuse. You are the God who have 1697 01:10:35,520 --> 01:10:38,559 Speaker 3: rescued and delivered. Right now, Father God, in this moment, 1698 01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:41,160 Speaker 3: right now, Father God, there is someone in their marriage 1699 01:10:41,240 --> 01:10:42,679 Speaker 3: right now who is struggling. 1700 01:10:42,760 --> 01:10:44,040 Speaker 4: They are ready to walk away. 1701 01:10:44,080 --> 01:10:47,160 Speaker 3: Father God, remind them that their marriage is to serve 1702 01:10:47,280 --> 01:10:50,639 Speaker 3: those who are under Christ. Father God, that their marriages 1703 01:10:50,760 --> 01:10:53,679 Speaker 3: us to glorify you, because you are worthy of praise. 1704 01:10:54,000 --> 01:10:56,880 Speaker 3: You are worthy of being glorified right now, Father God, 1705 01:10:57,120 --> 01:10:59,280 Speaker 3: and we ask that you stand with us in these 1706 01:10:59,320 --> 01:11:00,000 Speaker 3: weeping gours. 1707 01:11:00,080 --> 01:11:01,040 Speaker 4: Father God, and. 1708 01:11:00,960 --> 01:11:03,439 Speaker 3: We thank you for the grace that covers us at night, 1709 01:11:03,479 --> 01:11:06,200 Speaker 3: Father God, and the mercy that meets us in the morning. 1710 01:11:06,240 --> 01:11:09,000 Speaker 3: Father God, you are the God of promises, You are 1711 01:11:09,040 --> 01:11:11,680 Speaker 3: the God of healing. And we will forever praise and 1712 01:11:11,760 --> 01:11:12,320 Speaker 3: worship you. 1713 01:11:12,400 --> 01:11:14,639 Speaker 4: Father God. We will forever exalt your name. 1714 01:11:14,960 --> 01:11:17,639 Speaker 3: In this moment right now, I raise your name, Hi, 1715 01:11:18,040 --> 01:11:20,720 Speaker 3: for you are our banner right now, for anyone who 1716 01:11:20,800 --> 01:11:23,759 Speaker 3: is in distress, for anyone who is struggling financial burdens. 1717 01:11:23,800 --> 01:11:27,000 Speaker 3: Right now, Father God, remind them that they are conquerors 1718 01:11:27,000 --> 01:11:29,960 Speaker 3: in the spirit. Father God, remind them to continue to 1719 01:11:30,040 --> 01:11:32,960 Speaker 3: search for your heart. That there is authority in your name. 1720 01:11:33,000 --> 01:11:35,599 Speaker 3: Father God. I thank you for our counsel. I thank 1721 01:11:35,640 --> 01:11:37,960 Speaker 3: you for the advocacy. I thank you for the Holy Spirit. 1722 01:11:38,160 --> 01:11:40,519 Speaker 3: I thank you for Jesus who died on Cavary. We 1723 01:11:40,560 --> 01:11:42,680 Speaker 3: thank you for the stripes to heal. We thank you 1724 01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:45,160 Speaker 3: for the blood that has replenished and the blood that 1725 01:11:45,200 --> 01:11:47,600 Speaker 3: has cleansed and restored us. And we praise and we 1726 01:11:47,680 --> 01:11:51,400 Speaker 3: magnify your name and a mighty master's name. We pray, Amen. 1727 01:11:51,160 --> 01:11:52,879 Speaker 2: Man, Amen, Amen. 1728 01:11:54,960 --> 01:11:55,479 Speaker 5: I like that. 1729 01:11:56,720 --> 01:12:00,519 Speaker 4: Yeah, I got a cool dawn. Oh boy, Oh I 1730 01:12:00,560 --> 01:12:03,600 Speaker 4: need some water. Jesus, God is. 1731 01:12:03,600 --> 01:12:07,759 Speaker 1: Good, Yes he is. And that's what this is about. 1732 01:12:08,120 --> 01:12:09,360 Speaker 1: I didn't know what I was going to talk to 1733 01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:12,559 Speaker 1: you about. I just know I had a fellow believe 1734 01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:14,280 Speaker 1: and I said, I'm gonna let God do what God do, 1735 01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:17,200 Speaker 1: and I know how to submit and surrender to the 1736 01:12:17,240 --> 01:12:19,760 Speaker 1: flow of the Holy Spirit. And this is what God 1737 01:12:19,840 --> 01:12:23,639 Speaker 1: wanted people to hear. I know y'all heard a lot 1738 01:12:24,280 --> 01:12:29,439 Speaker 1: of information in this episode, a lot of value. I 1739 01:12:29,520 --> 01:12:31,880 Speaker 1: touch and agree with her that if you're going through 1740 01:12:32,080 --> 01:12:35,679 Speaker 1: marital issues, that that thing is not bigger than our God, 1741 01:12:36,080 --> 01:12:38,640 Speaker 1: that if you submit surrender that thing. I remember I 1742 01:12:38,680 --> 01:12:42,479 Speaker 1: did a podcast and I did the podcast and I 1743 01:12:42,560 --> 01:12:44,040 Speaker 1: was at Jamal Brian Church. 1744 01:12:44,080 --> 01:12:47,280 Speaker 2: I was at New Birth and we're doing the. 1745 01:12:47,400 --> 01:12:51,160 Speaker 1: Live podcast there and this couple came and they said 1746 01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:55,760 Speaker 1: you're your podcast saved our marriage and I brought him 1747 01:12:55,760 --> 01:12:58,479 Speaker 1: on the podcast and they talked about how they were 1748 01:12:58,520 --> 01:12:59,439 Speaker 1: on the verge of divorce. 1749 01:12:59,479 --> 01:13:01,160 Speaker 2: They was like, this is done. 1750 01:13:01,560 --> 01:13:04,040 Speaker 1: And then somebody sent them an episode is the episode 1751 01:13:04,080 --> 01:13:05,200 Speaker 1: I did with David Burst. 1752 01:13:05,439 --> 01:13:07,280 Speaker 2: They saw the episode. 1753 01:13:06,720 --> 01:13:09,240 Speaker 1: And they were like, the husband's like, all right, let 1754 01:13:09,320 --> 01:13:11,760 Speaker 1: me get my act together. And God used that episode 1755 01:13:11,840 --> 01:13:16,280 Speaker 1: to light the fire for them to start bringing reconciliation 1756 01:13:16,400 --> 01:13:19,120 Speaker 1: to their marriage. And So what you're saying right now 1757 01:13:19,240 --> 01:13:21,479 Speaker 1: is a couple that's watching this podcast, It's going to 1758 01:13:21,520 --> 01:13:25,280 Speaker 1: be someone that is watching this podcast that their brothers, 1759 01:13:25,320 --> 01:13:28,200 Speaker 1: sister is going through the same thing, their friend, their coworker. 1760 01:13:28,240 --> 01:13:31,040 Speaker 1: They're gonna say, just watch this episode and they're gonna 1761 01:13:31,120 --> 01:13:33,679 Speaker 1: hear the voice of God through the words that you spoke. 1762 01:13:34,000 --> 01:13:37,080 Speaker 2: And they're gonna say, I'm gonna hold on a little longer. 1763 01:13:37,160 --> 01:13:38,040 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go in. 1764 01:13:38,040 --> 01:13:40,519 Speaker 1: My prayer closet, I'm gonna begin to pray. I'm gonna 1765 01:13:40,560 --> 01:13:42,920 Speaker 1: take this annoy and oil and I'm gonna put it 1766 01:13:42,960 --> 01:13:45,600 Speaker 1: on my wedding ring and I'm gonna go touch my 1767 01:13:45,720 --> 01:13:46,679 Speaker 1: spouse and put. 1768 01:13:46,479 --> 01:13:48,080 Speaker 2: It on there on their wedding ring. 1769 01:13:48,120 --> 01:13:49,880 Speaker 1: And I'm gonna begin to pray, and then to see 1770 01:13:49,920 --> 01:13:52,880 Speaker 1: that everything that the devil is trying to come against 1771 01:13:53,160 --> 01:13:55,280 Speaker 1: my marriage, that God is going to break it in 1772 01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:57,719 Speaker 1: the spirit ram until I see it in the natural realm. 1773 01:13:57,840 --> 01:14:00,200 Speaker 1: They're gonna begin to pray, God open up doors old 1774 01:14:00,200 --> 01:14:02,320 Speaker 1: man can shut, and shut doors that no man can open. 1775 01:14:02,360 --> 01:14:04,559 Speaker 1: They're gonna pray that no weapon formed against their marriage 1776 01:14:04,560 --> 01:14:07,040 Speaker 1: shall prosper, and every tongue that rises up against them 1777 01:14:07,080 --> 01:14:09,439 Speaker 1: shall be condemned. They're gonna be able to intercede. They're 1778 01:14:09,439 --> 01:14:12,240 Speaker 1: gonna get the language in order to war against the 1779 01:14:12,320 --> 01:14:14,920 Speaker 1: spirit because what happens is is that it starts in 1780 01:14:14,960 --> 01:14:18,240 Speaker 1: the spirit ram. And so often we take what happens 1781 01:14:18,240 --> 01:14:20,559 Speaker 1: in the spirit realm unbeknownst to us, not knowing it's 1782 01:14:20,600 --> 01:14:23,000 Speaker 1: taking place, and then we're warring against each other where 1783 01:14:23,000 --> 01:14:25,160 Speaker 1: the Bible says we wrestle out against flesh and blood, 1784 01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:27,720 Speaker 1: but against principalities and high places. And so now we 1785 01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:29,840 Speaker 1: got to start seeing through our spiritual eyes where we're 1786 01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:31,840 Speaker 1: able to see. Hold on, hold on, I see my 1787 01:14:31,920 --> 01:14:34,000 Speaker 1: spouse acting like this or whatever. God, I know what 1788 01:14:34,040 --> 01:14:35,760 Speaker 1: you told me when you when you told me to 1789 01:14:35,800 --> 01:14:38,080 Speaker 1: marry that person. I know what vows we to. I 1790 01:14:38,160 --> 01:14:40,200 Speaker 1: know how beautiful it was on our wedding day. I 1791 01:14:40,280 --> 01:14:41,960 Speaker 1: know how we overcame this, and I know how we 1792 01:14:42,160 --> 01:14:44,479 Speaker 1: overcame that. If you did it before, you'll do it again. 1793 01:14:44,800 --> 01:14:47,120 Speaker 1: And so God, I know what the enemy is trying 1794 01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:49,200 Speaker 1: to do right now. He's coming against my legacy, he's 1795 01:14:49,200 --> 01:14:52,280 Speaker 1: coming against my familial structure, and we're going to come 1796 01:14:52,320 --> 01:14:52,720 Speaker 1: against that. 1797 01:14:52,760 --> 01:14:53,719 Speaker 2: Spirit in the name of Jesus. 1798 01:14:53,760 --> 01:14:56,360 Speaker 1: And then you watch that restoration take place, so you'll 1799 01:14:56,400 --> 01:14:58,200 Speaker 1: have a testimony, and so they're going to hear that 1800 01:14:58,280 --> 01:15:01,439 Speaker 1: language from this episode, and you're gonna get testimonies with 1801 01:15:01,479 --> 01:15:03,320 Speaker 1: people going to slide to your d MS and be like, 1802 01:15:03,840 --> 01:15:06,519 Speaker 1: thank you, we needed to hear that. Thank you that 1803 01:15:06,640 --> 01:15:09,760 Speaker 1: helped me single woman. Thank you that that gave me 1804 01:15:10,560 --> 01:15:13,080 Speaker 1: a reference to be able to say, you know what, 1805 01:15:13,800 --> 01:15:17,160 Speaker 1: I'm not going to idolize marriage. I'm going to stay 1806 01:15:17,160 --> 01:15:19,680 Speaker 1: submitted to guy's will over my life and I'm not 1807 01:15:19,760 --> 01:15:22,040 Speaker 1: going to be racing against the clock. Thank you for 1808 01:15:22,080 --> 01:15:25,400 Speaker 1: giving me language to this. How can people keep up 1809 01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:25,680 Speaker 1: with you? 1810 01:15:25,800 --> 01:15:29,000 Speaker 2: Follow you? What call to action can we do? 1811 01:15:29,680 --> 01:15:31,280 Speaker 4: They can follow me at Kitty J. 1812 01:15:31,439 --> 01:15:34,280 Speaker 3: Rose on every single platform k I T T I 1813 01:15:34,360 --> 01:15:37,480 Speaker 3: E j R O s E on every single platform. 1814 01:15:37,560 --> 01:15:39,599 Speaker 2: Can they do you have any slots for coaching? 1815 01:15:40,120 --> 01:15:43,120 Speaker 4: You do that counseling and coaching, not right now. 1816 01:15:43,160 --> 01:15:43,559 Speaker 2: I don't. 1817 01:15:44,080 --> 01:15:45,559 Speaker 4: My clients don't want to leave me. 1818 01:15:47,520 --> 01:15:47,920 Speaker 2: Right now. 1819 01:15:48,080 --> 01:15:51,840 Speaker 4: Thought we wrestle with that. They don't want to leave I. 1820 01:15:51,760 --> 01:15:53,720 Speaker 3: Love them though, I love every single one of them. 1821 01:15:55,439 --> 01:15:57,960 Speaker 3: It's going to be real light. We may got some Septembers, 1822 01:15:57,960 --> 01:15:58,960 Speaker 3: a few in September. 1823 01:15:59,000 --> 01:16:02,120 Speaker 1: Maybe well hopefully if you really need if you really 1824 01:16:02,160 --> 01:16:04,760 Speaker 1: need it, go find out, go slide in the DM 1825 01:16:04,880 --> 01:16:07,320 Speaker 1: and see if you can get in it so you 1826 01:16:07,320 --> 01:16:11,040 Speaker 1: can get healed. I'm really big about healing and restoration, 1827 01:16:11,280 --> 01:16:14,360 Speaker 1: and so hopefull you got some slots available. If not, 1828 01:16:14,479 --> 01:16:16,680 Speaker 1: then start creating a cohort of people that you take 1829 01:16:16,720 --> 01:16:19,320 Speaker 1: them through this whole group thing where you take about 1830 01:16:19,320 --> 01:16:22,960 Speaker 1: twenty people through a four week or an eight week 1831 01:16:23,120 --> 01:16:25,599 Speaker 1: intensive therapy thing or whatever. 1832 01:16:25,760 --> 01:16:27,439 Speaker 2: So just just do something, and I. 1833 01:16:27,479 --> 01:16:30,160 Speaker 4: Want the people to join my Bible studies too. 1834 01:16:30,840 --> 01:16:36,200 Speaker 3: We have seen tremendous work and deliverance in the Bible Studies. 1835 01:16:36,240 --> 01:16:38,960 Speaker 3: We've been able to help people in the community, and 1836 01:16:39,040 --> 01:16:42,040 Speaker 3: we've been able to see people first time Bible study. 1837 01:16:42,560 --> 01:16:45,280 Speaker 3: We've seen people who never purchased a physical Bible before 1838 01:16:45,439 --> 01:16:46,960 Speaker 3: that's good, purchase their physical bibe. 1839 01:16:47,000 --> 01:16:48,280 Speaker 4: We've purchased Bibles for people. 1840 01:16:48,280 --> 01:16:50,479 Speaker 3: We've purchased numbers of Bibles for people and sent them 1841 01:16:50,520 --> 01:16:53,120 Speaker 3: on Amazon to people because I'm like, hey, I need 1842 01:16:53,160 --> 01:16:55,240 Speaker 3: you to have the physical word. I need you to 1843 01:16:55,320 --> 01:16:57,280 Speaker 3: have the physical word because we're going to be studying. 1844 01:16:57,439 --> 01:16:59,400 Speaker 3: Y'all not going to just listen to me. We're gonna study. 1845 01:16:59,479 --> 01:16:59,920 Speaker 2: I like that. 1846 01:17:00,000 --> 01:17:03,160 Speaker 3: We're gonna break down every word, Greek, Hebrew. We're gonna 1847 01:17:03,160 --> 01:17:07,200 Speaker 3: go through every single thing. We're gonna dissect every single scripture, 1848 01:17:07,320 --> 01:17:08,960 Speaker 3: parallel supporting scriptures. 1849 01:17:09,200 --> 01:17:11,679 Speaker 4: We go deep in ourselves this. 1850 01:17:12,479 --> 01:17:14,760 Speaker 3: I just started doing Bible study again a couple months ago, 1851 01:17:15,720 --> 01:17:17,000 Speaker 3: maybe two three months. 1852 01:17:17,040 --> 01:17:19,240 Speaker 2: Maybe what made you do that? 1853 01:17:19,560 --> 01:17:19,800 Speaker 5: God? 1854 01:17:21,120 --> 01:17:22,760 Speaker 3: You think I woke up one day and said I 1855 01:17:22,880 --> 01:17:24,840 Speaker 3: want to wake up on Saturday at six am in 1856 01:17:24,840 --> 01:17:28,679 Speaker 3: the morning. Am every Saturday. And you'll be surprised. West Coast, 1857 01:17:28,720 --> 01:17:31,639 Speaker 3: We'll be having people in Africa, London just and they 1858 01:17:31,880 --> 01:17:35,240 Speaker 3: we start off with worship, We pray, we go on worship. 1859 01:17:35,600 --> 01:17:38,400 Speaker 3: Sometimes the prayer goes long because when I'm when I'm 1860 01:17:38,439 --> 01:17:40,600 Speaker 3: in war, prayer, it just it becomes something we've been 1861 01:17:40,600 --> 01:17:43,599 Speaker 3: there for forty five minutes prayer. But we pray, we worship, 1862 01:17:43,680 --> 01:17:45,000 Speaker 3: and then we get into the Word and then we 1863 01:17:45,000 --> 01:17:48,439 Speaker 3: pray and we end it. It's not a regular Bible study, 1864 01:17:48,640 --> 01:17:51,160 Speaker 3: but I love it because it's a lot of first time. 1865 01:17:51,160 --> 01:17:53,200 Speaker 3: It's who return and they keep returning. 1866 01:17:53,479 --> 01:17:55,400 Speaker 2: Six am Central Standard times. 1867 01:17:56,960 --> 01:17:58,560 Speaker 4: Zoom and it's on zoom. 1868 01:17:58,640 --> 01:18:02,280 Speaker 1: Spacifics down in the time. I'm seven Eastern time in Africa, 1869 01:18:02,439 --> 01:18:03,120 Speaker 1: know what time it is. 1870 01:18:03,120 --> 01:18:04,600 Speaker 3: When they do, they have a time to early and 1871 01:18:04,600 --> 01:18:06,840 Speaker 3: it's good for people to wake up with the start 1872 01:18:06,880 --> 01:18:08,320 Speaker 3: off for God and it start off in the Word 1873 01:18:08,520 --> 01:18:11,400 Speaker 3: because it sets the tone for the day. Yes, so yeah, 1874 01:18:11,520 --> 01:18:13,479 Speaker 3: they should join join my Bible studies. 1875 01:18:13,479 --> 01:18:13,880 Speaker 4: Come on in. 1876 01:18:13,880 --> 01:18:15,559 Speaker 3: I'm gonna get on YouTube and start doing more of 1877 01:18:15,560 --> 01:18:17,639 Speaker 3: that because people love when I talk about the world 1878 01:18:17,640 --> 01:18:20,000 Speaker 3: of God. So I said, let me do so, y'all. 1879 01:18:20,240 --> 01:18:22,400 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I've been a little busy. I'm so sorry, 1880 01:18:22,400 --> 01:18:24,160 Speaker 3: but you know I'm here now. 1881 01:18:25,800 --> 01:18:27,439 Speaker 2: Man, shout out to you King. 1882 01:18:28,120 --> 01:18:30,479 Speaker 1: I love what what people don't understand is that when 1883 01:18:30,520 --> 01:18:34,479 Speaker 1: you see a woman operating this, it's because her arms 1884 01:18:34,479 --> 01:18:37,200 Speaker 1: are being lifted up by a man behind the scenes. 1885 01:18:37,200 --> 01:18:39,760 Speaker 1: When you see a man operate in his brilliance in 1886 01:18:39,840 --> 01:18:42,599 Speaker 1: his glory as a woman behind them, especially if they're married, 1887 01:18:42,720 --> 01:18:44,720 Speaker 1: you see them lifting them up and holding them up. 1888 01:18:44,960 --> 01:18:46,760 Speaker 1: And so the Bible says that the man will get 1889 01:18:46,800 --> 01:18:47,840 Speaker 1: his glory through his wife. 1890 01:18:48,120 --> 01:18:48,639 Speaker 2: And so if. 1891 01:18:48,680 --> 01:18:52,800 Speaker 1: Y'all love kitty, that's because you got somebody behind that 1892 01:18:53,080 --> 01:18:55,559 Speaker 1: that is helping her shine like that. 1893 01:18:55,920 --> 01:18:57,040 Speaker 2: And so I love that. 1894 01:18:57,200 --> 01:18:59,800 Speaker 1: So you're not a man that has to be in 1895 01:18:59,800 --> 01:19:02,920 Speaker 1: the forefront, but you are in the forefront because you've 1896 01:19:02,920 --> 01:19:05,360 Speaker 1: been seen by your wife. I try to slick them too, 1897 01:19:05,360 --> 01:19:07,880 Speaker 1: I said, you ain't suposted over these poste anything. He said, 1898 01:19:07,880 --> 01:19:09,720 Speaker 1: you tried to trick me. I said, you'll see this 1899 01:19:09,800 --> 01:19:10,160 Speaker 1: over there. 1900 01:19:10,920 --> 01:19:13,320 Speaker 4: But I do think I thank God for my husband. 1901 01:19:13,680 --> 01:19:14,120 Speaker 4: I really do. 1902 01:19:14,160 --> 01:19:16,280 Speaker 3: I thank God for my husband, and I thank God 1903 01:19:16,320 --> 01:19:18,880 Speaker 3: for the marriage that God has created for us. And 1904 01:19:19,120 --> 01:19:21,880 Speaker 3: I really thank God for giving me one more chance. 1905 01:19:22,400 --> 01:19:23,880 Speaker 3: I really do thank God for giv me one more 1906 01:19:23,960 --> 01:19:26,639 Speaker 3: chance because I'm not playing about this chance yeah right now. 1907 01:19:26,640 --> 01:19:27,559 Speaker 4: So I thank God for that. 1908 01:19:27,640 --> 01:19:30,479 Speaker 3: And we were doing amazing things in our marriage, and 1909 01:19:30,520 --> 01:19:34,280 Speaker 3: we're seeing our children just be brilliant, and it's because 1910 01:19:34,320 --> 01:19:37,120 Speaker 3: of what we have. And we're also seeing our community, 1911 01:19:37,160 --> 01:19:39,880 Speaker 3: our parents and bringing our family together, and it's just 1912 01:19:39,920 --> 01:19:41,519 Speaker 3: been a really amazing experience. 1913 01:19:41,600 --> 01:19:43,280 Speaker 4: Have we been able to minister to the other people. 1914 01:19:43,520 --> 01:19:45,080 Speaker 1: That's what I said. I said, God, you give me 1915 01:19:45,120 --> 01:19:46,960 Speaker 1: one more chance at love. I'm gonna honor you on 1916 01:19:47,080 --> 01:19:48,920 Speaker 1: levels that. Man, let me tell you something. I love 1917 01:19:48,960 --> 01:19:50,519 Speaker 1: this for you, I said, Man, let me tell you something. 1918 01:19:50,520 --> 01:19:51,040 Speaker 1: I'm happy. 1919 01:19:51,200 --> 01:19:51,640 Speaker 4: I love this. 1920 01:19:51,720 --> 01:19:54,439 Speaker 1: When I said, I am so happy because I've been praying, 1921 01:19:54,520 --> 01:19:56,760 Speaker 1: I've been seeking, I've been healing. I've been laying on 1922 01:19:56,800 --> 01:19:59,040 Speaker 1: my face crying before God. I've been speaking to my 1923 01:19:59,120 --> 01:20:02,920 Speaker 1: heavenly language all these years, saying God, I understood what 1924 01:20:02,960 --> 01:20:05,679 Speaker 1: the devil did. He ain't gonna win again. I said, oh, 1925 01:20:05,760 --> 01:20:07,599 Speaker 1: he ain't gonna win again. And I said, I'm gonna 1926 01:20:07,640 --> 01:20:10,720 Speaker 1: show you by the way I court this woman, how 1927 01:20:10,720 --> 01:20:12,760 Speaker 1: I honor this woman, how I cover this woman. It's 1928 01:20:12,760 --> 01:20:14,840 Speaker 1: a lot of things that you said in this episode 1929 01:20:14,960 --> 01:20:18,880 Speaker 1: that's very similar to our journey. And so when she 1930 01:20:18,960 --> 01:20:21,400 Speaker 1: comes on the Yellow Couch, we talk about it. We're like, 1931 01:20:21,439 --> 01:20:26,320 Speaker 1: that's exactly what Kitty. She said. It's just she's gonna 1932 01:20:26,360 --> 01:20:31,240 Speaker 1: love watching this because yeah, man, the guy who advised man, 1933 01:20:31,280 --> 01:20:34,679 Speaker 1: it's awesome, say listen, thank y'all so much. Y'all give 1934 01:20:34,680 --> 01:20:36,920 Speaker 1: it up for my girl, Kitty Rose. 1935 01:20:37,080 --> 01:20:37,280 Speaker 2: Man. 1936 01:20:37,400 --> 01:20:40,200 Speaker 1: Listen, make sure you go follow her on social media, 1937 01:20:40,880 --> 01:20:42,160 Speaker 1: sign up for a Bible study. 1938 01:20:42,400 --> 01:20:45,120 Speaker 2: So, without further ado, give it up for Kitty Rose. 1939 01:20:45,200 --> 01:20:51,000 Speaker 2: Y'all stay tuned to the end for a letter to 1940 01:20:51,040 --> 01:20:51,760 Speaker 2: my future wife. 1941 01:20:52,320 --> 01:20:55,240 Speaker 4: Write in these love letters. 1942 01:20:59,320 --> 01:21:04,439 Speaker 1: Ladarim thrust it suddenly into child protective services in twenty fifteen. 1943 01:21:05,080 --> 01:21:07,759 Speaker 2: My nephew, black a boy. 1944 01:21:08,320 --> 01:21:11,200 Speaker 1: The likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship. 1945 01:21:11,439 --> 01:21:12,800 Speaker 2: Slim to none. 1946 01:21:12,920 --> 01:21:18,080 Speaker 1: Ourmione sixteen years old, black a boy with five years 1947 01:21:18,120 --> 01:21:20,599 Speaker 1: in the false care system before I even knew his name. 1948 01:21:21,400 --> 01:21:23,440 Speaker 1: The likelihood have ever been adopted? 1949 01:21:24,320 --> 01:21:26,759 Speaker 2: Yep, you guessed it. Slim to none. 1950 01:21:28,240 --> 01:21:30,880 Speaker 1: While the Darien and Ourmiani were trying to survive and 1951 01:21:30,920 --> 01:21:34,639 Speaker 1: barely thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded false care system, 1952 01:21:34,680 --> 01:21:37,960 Speaker 1: I was living my own life, doing well professionally, having 1953 01:21:38,000 --> 01:21:40,040 Speaker 1: been a single father with a daughter who at that 1954 01:21:40,120 --> 01:21:42,760 Speaker 1: point was doing well in college. It was my time 1955 01:21:42,760 --> 01:21:49,480 Speaker 1: to live my life right wrong. I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. 1956 01:21:50,400 --> 01:21:53,759 Speaker 1: There are just two many of our black children stuck 1957 01:21:54,040 --> 01:21:57,560 Speaker 1: in ambiguity and in the limbo of the Falseter Care system. 1958 01:21:58,040 --> 01:22:01,120 Speaker 1: In twenty seventeen, I legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. 1959 01:22:01,760 --> 01:22:03,080 Speaker 2: Fast forward to twenty nineteen. 1960 01:22:03,120 --> 01:22:05,320 Speaker 1: I had no ties to this other young king, but 1961 01:22:05,360 --> 01:22:07,920 Speaker 1: I felt God instructed me to adopt them also on 1962 01:22:08,000 --> 01:22:12,080 Speaker 1: il Babe. Starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right, 1963 01:22:12,120 --> 01:22:14,880 Speaker 1: Working with various foster care and adoption agencies to help 1964 01:22:14,920 --> 01:22:18,000 Speaker 1: bring awareness to the countless young Black kings and the 1965 01:22:18,040 --> 01:22:21,120 Speaker 1: foster care system should have decreased my agitation. 1966 01:22:21,280 --> 01:22:21,519 Speaker 2: Right. 1967 01:22:22,240 --> 01:22:25,520 Speaker 1: Joining the board of directors of Advantage Adoption and organization 1968 01:22:25,600 --> 01:22:28,880 Speaker 1: that helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in Falter 1969 01:22:28,920 --> 01:22:31,080 Speaker 1: care should have led to some type of resolve. 1970 01:22:31,200 --> 01:22:31,360 Speaker 2: Right. 1971 01:22:31,760 --> 01:22:35,880 Speaker 1: No, not at all. None of it felt like I 1972 01:22:35,920 --> 01:22:40,479 Speaker 1: had done enough. I now realized that every one of 1973 01:22:40,520 --> 01:22:44,679 Speaker 1: those experiences was land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission. 1974 01:22:45,600 --> 01:22:49,680 Speaker 1: Kingdom Royal. Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of 1975 01:22:49,680 --> 01:22:53,080 Speaker 1: the art home for foster boys. Our first location will 1976 01:22:53,120 --> 01:22:55,839 Speaker 1: be in the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex. We will utilize 1977 01:22:55,840 --> 01:22:59,680 Speaker 1: the whole person approach that instills identity, empowers them to 1978 01:22:59,680 --> 01:23:03,880 Speaker 1: add for themselves, and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and 1979 01:23:04,000 --> 01:23:09,240 Speaker 1: limitless options that they thought were impossible. Though, the young 1980 01:23:09,320 --> 01:23:11,559 Speaker 1: Kings will attend the local public schools that are in 1981 01:23:11,800 --> 01:23:15,439 Speaker 1: proximity to King of Royale. Our at home curriculum will 1982 01:23:15,479 --> 01:23:19,080 Speaker 1: broaden their worldview through participating in the arts, attending various 1983 01:23:19,160 --> 01:23:23,920 Speaker 1: cultural events, learning about and engaging in multifaceted discussions about 1984 01:23:24,000 --> 01:23:28,160 Speaker 1: current events and even relevant historical contexts, Introducing them to 1985 01:23:28,240 --> 01:23:32,080 Speaker 1: gardening and landscaping, and even caring for our animals on 1986 01:23:32,120 --> 01:23:35,920 Speaker 1: our form and on site stables. We just launched our 1987 01:23:36,040 --> 01:23:39,080 Speaker 1: startup capital campaign with the goal of raising two point 1988 01:23:39,160 --> 01:23:39,880 Speaker 1: eight million dollars. 1989 01:23:39,920 --> 01:23:42,400 Speaker 2: Now why two point eight million dollars? Well. 1990 01:23:42,400 --> 01:23:44,760 Speaker 1: In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which 1991 01:23:44,800 --> 01:23:48,719 Speaker 1: I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community. 1992 01:23:48,960 --> 01:23:51,240 Speaker 1: One of the most notable successes was that one of 1993 01:23:51,280 --> 01:23:56,519 Speaker 1: the videos went viral, garnering twenty eight million views. However, 1994 01:23:56,880 --> 01:23:59,080 Speaker 1: one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't raise 1995 01:23:59,080 --> 01:24:02,480 Speaker 1: a single dollar to help in implementing a more sustainable 1996 01:24:02,479 --> 01:24:06,720 Speaker 1: plan for the homeless community. So, throughout the years, with 1997 01:24:06,840 --> 01:24:10,360 Speaker 1: much remorse, I reflect that I'm not maximizing that moment. 1998 01:24:10,439 --> 01:24:13,400 Speaker 1: I knew if at that time just ten percent of 1999 01:24:13,400 --> 01:24:16,280 Speaker 1: the viewers donated one dollar, we would have raised at 2000 01:24:16,360 --> 01:24:19,880 Speaker 1: least two point eight million dollars that could have really 2001 01:24:19,960 --> 01:24:22,960 Speaker 1: established long term support for the homeless community, or at 2002 01:24:23,040 --> 01:24:27,040 Speaker 1: least started a long term initiative to do so. This 2003 01:24:27,680 --> 01:24:31,519 Speaker 1: is my do over, This is our new beginning. Together, 2004 01:24:31,800 --> 01:24:35,120 Speaker 1: we can attack this at the route by specifically helping 2005 01:24:35,240 --> 01:24:40,120 Speaker 1: our homeless Black boys who are already disproportionately represented in 2006 01:24:40,160 --> 01:24:41,839 Speaker 1: the American fossil care system. 2007 01:24:42,439 --> 01:24:43,640 Speaker 2: I'm a Terra Sarwiodfield. 2008 01:24:43,640 --> 01:24:47,080 Speaker 1: I've been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work 2009 01:24:47,080 --> 01:24:50,080 Speaker 1: with the homeless as well as my personal adoption journey. 2010 01:24:50,600 --> 01:24:55,040 Speaker 1: Despite those accolades, the greatest award for me is truly 2011 01:24:55,200 --> 01:25:01,240 Speaker 1: providing the infrastructure for a transformed lifeanmoyal dot com for 2012 01:25:01,320 --> 01:25:10,400 Speaker 1: more details, Crown of King and make a donation today. 2013 01:25:12,760 --> 01:25:15,080 Speaker 2: Man, did y'all enjoy the episode as much as I did? 2014 01:25:15,240 --> 01:25:18,800 Speaker 1: Man? When I say Kitty cooked, so we're gonna say 2015 01:25:18,880 --> 01:25:22,240 Speaker 1: Kitty cooked because she showed it cooking this episode. Well, 2016 01:25:22,520 --> 01:25:25,280 Speaker 1: here's my favorite part of the podcast where I speak 2017 01:25:25,320 --> 01:25:27,200 Speaker 1: to my future wife and I know a lot of y'all. 2018 01:25:27,240 --> 01:25:30,960 Speaker 1: When I say these letters now knowing that I'm getting engaged, y'all, 2019 01:25:31,000 --> 01:25:34,559 Speaker 1: say these letters hit differently now, and I would agree 2020 01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:38,040 Speaker 1: they really do. Dear future wife, here, from the moment 2021 01:25:38,200 --> 01:25:40,880 Speaker 1: I slipped that ring on your finger, I vowed to 2022 01:25:41,080 --> 01:25:44,200 Speaker 1: guard what God has entrusted to us as it were 2023 01:25:44,240 --> 01:25:46,559 Speaker 1: the last flame in a cold world trying to snuff 2024 01:25:46,600 --> 01:25:50,439 Speaker 1: it out. Our love will not be left unprotected in 2025 01:25:50,479 --> 01:25:53,599 Speaker 1: the open fields where predators wrong. I will build walls 2026 01:25:53,640 --> 01:25:55,840 Speaker 1: around it, not to shut the world out, but to 2027 01:25:56,000 --> 01:25:59,880 Speaker 1: keep the sanctity in the sanctity of marriage isn't je 2028 01:26:00,200 --> 01:26:02,240 Speaker 1: and the vows we recite, but in the way we 2029 01:26:02,360 --> 01:26:04,840 Speaker 1: live them when no one is watching. It's in how 2030 01:26:04,920 --> 01:26:07,720 Speaker 1: I choose you daily, even when my flesh wants to 2031 01:26:07,760 --> 01:26:11,479 Speaker 1: choose self. It's how we protect our covenant from the 2032 01:26:11,520 --> 01:26:15,320 Speaker 1: whispers of the enemy, the temptations of the culture, and 2033 01:26:15,400 --> 01:26:18,960 Speaker 1: the erosion that comes from neglect. We will treat our 2034 01:26:19,080 --> 01:26:22,200 Speaker 1: union like a sacred temple. No idol, no ambition, no offense, 2035 01:26:22,400 --> 01:26:25,920 Speaker 1: will take residency where only God belongs. I will pray 2036 01:26:26,000 --> 01:26:29,200 Speaker 1: over you when you're weary, cover you when you're exposed, 2037 01:26:29,439 --> 01:26:33,040 Speaker 1: and speak life when the world speaks death. We'll show 2038 01:26:33,040 --> 01:26:36,760 Speaker 1: the world that marriage is not outdated, its divine. And 2039 01:26:36,800 --> 01:26:40,920 Speaker 1: when storms come because they will will stand together, back 2040 01:26:40,960 --> 01:26:44,040 Speaker 1: to back, knowing the wind is no match for the 2041 01:26:44,080 --> 01:26:49,400 Speaker 1: one who joined us, your future hobby. I hope you 2042 01:26:49,479 --> 01:26:52,639 Speaker 1: enjoy this episode of the Dear Future WIFEI podcast. 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