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Speaker 1: Every letter that I wrote led me to this day.

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Speaker 5: Dear my forever, Forever is a long time. That's how

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Speaker 5: long I'll love you. Those lyrics echo through every fiber

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Speaker 2: This journey has culminated with you as both the award

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Speaker 1: You are the award, the.

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Speaker 2: Honor God placed before me, the recognition of growth, healing,

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Speaker 5: And you are the reward, the blessing given after endurance,

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Speaker 2: This isn't just our story, this is for all of us.

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Speaker 1: I'm the TerraSAR Whiitfield.

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Speaker 6: I'm Ashley are Whitfield.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Deer Future Wifey's Podcast.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Deer Future Wifie podcast. I'm your host,

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Speaker 1: To be extremely impactful.

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Speaker 2: A lot of you have DMed me and DM Ashley

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Speaker 1: How y'all doing really good?

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Speaker 1: Why why did you want to talk to them so bad?

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Speaker 1: even here say yes. And I was like, she said

436
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:48,600
Speaker 1: yes people, and then everybody got excited, but she was

437
00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,760
Speaker 1: just shocked it at all. It was like she wasn't

438
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,080
Speaker 1: even breathing. She was very excited, and it was just

439
00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:58,680
Speaker 1: it was beautiful. Honestly, do you remember that moment? You don't?

440
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:03,560
Speaker 1: So how is her memory right now? Her memory? So

441
00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:06,800
Speaker 1: from what I reached her, it's not really classified by

442
00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 1: the doctors as this, but she has retrograde amnesia. And

443
00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 1: what that is, from my understanding, is she can't really

444
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 1: hold onto a bunch of short term memories, but the

445
00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:22,359
Speaker 1: longer term, longer term, longer term short the longer term

446
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 1: childhood memories is the one that she can kind of

447
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 1: hold on too. So anything that's kind of new or

448
00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 1: recent years it's hard for her hold onto And that

449
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,400
Speaker 1: was something that was just really hard when it first started,

450
00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:38,240
Speaker 1: because she doesn't remember the engagement, the wedding, the but

451
00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:42,080
Speaker 1: you remember you honeymoon? She does now, but even initially,

452
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:45,240
Speaker 1: of course she wasn't talking at first. But when she

453
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,359
Speaker 1: did started talking, she would ask me different things like

454
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 1: are you my husband? Are you Davante? And she she

455
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:52,960
Speaker 1: would asks me and I such and such, which was

456
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 1: her cousin. So it was like it was like her

457
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:58,720
Speaker 1: memories trying to form back. So initially it was like

458
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:02,439
Speaker 1: a hit and miss, but now you know, she's constantly

459
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:07,440
Speaker 1: getting better. So one of my favorite movies is Notebook.

460
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 2: Is the Notebook, and y'all are the walking, breathing example

461
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 2: of the Notebook when I say, I love that movie

462
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 2: because in the movie, Noah's wife Ali was going, you know,

463
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 2: she had dementia and Alzheimer's and all that, so she

464
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:31,400
Speaker 2: couldn't remember a lot of stuff and it would pain

465
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:35,200
Speaker 2: him that she wouldn't remember anything. But then he would

466
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 2: sit there and share the beginning of their story every day,

467
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 2: from the beginning of how they met, all the way

468
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:45,160
Speaker 2: into that moment, and she'd get to the point she's like, oh,

469
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,399
Speaker 2: I see you, and then recognize who he is and

470
00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,919
Speaker 2: then shortly after, you know, minutes later she'll forget. But

471
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:55,360
Speaker 2: he loved having that conversation with Ali, just to get

472
00:22:55,400 --> 00:23:00,119
Speaker 2: that moment back of recollection that identify who he is

473
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 2: and who they were to each other and the love

474
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 2: that they shared. So before we even get further, I

475
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 2: just want to salute you as a king, a mighty

476
00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 2: man of valor.

477
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 1: A lot of men.

478
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,160
Speaker 2: I have friends that are nurses and doctors, and they've

479
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 2: shared that a lot of men leave their spouse when

480
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 2: they get a diagnosis of a terminal illness. Definitely, when

481
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 2: they go through something where you know as drastic as

482
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,640
Speaker 2: well Keana has gone through, they be like I can't

483
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 2: handle it, and they'll leave. And it pains my heart

484
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:37,160
Speaker 2: that men have given up. And we're talking about all races,

485
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 2: and just Black men, all races. They'll leave their their

486
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:45,520
Speaker 2: wife in the hospital bed. Had an episode of the

487
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 2: in Bermuda where one of my podcast guests I shot

488
00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 2: the episode in Bermuda and she said her husband left

489
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 2: her while she was losing her sight and they had

490
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 2: like five kids and he said I can't be here

491
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 2: with you. She became blind with five kids, and he

492
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:05,879
Speaker 2: left her like that.

493
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 1: She had to rebuild her life from that moment.

494
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,119
Speaker 2: So I say all that to say, you are a

495
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:16,159
Speaker 2: man that took your vow seriously through sickness and and

496
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:19,160
Speaker 2: help for better for worse. And I watch and that's

497
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 2: what touches Ashley so much. She's We're watching how you

498
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 2: are loving her unconditionally, covering her. And some people may think, well,

499
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,400
Speaker 2: that's what you're supposed to do when you get married.

500
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's supposed to do he's supposed to do it,

501
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,280
Speaker 1: but are you doing it? But they don't do it.

502
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:36,720
Speaker 1: It's too much, it's too.

503
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 2: Heavy, like men may walk around with too much ego

504
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: to be like, I'm tired of keep telling you who

505
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 2: I am over and over again. I got to keep

506
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 2: reminding you. You know what I'm saying. And it's like,

507
00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 2: brug that's what she went through. She ain't doing this

508
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:49,879
Speaker 2: on purpose.

509
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:50,880
Speaker 1: And so.

510
00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:57,479
Speaker 2: That young man, thank you Holy Spirit that recognized who

511
00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 2: she was in your life life. It was necessary because

512
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 2: you're the only person that had the capacity, that had

513
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:15,919
Speaker 2: the wisdom, that had the care, that had the leadership

514
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 2: not just by you internal leadership, but the humility to

515
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 2: even seek outside leadership. Your mother in love told me

516
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 2: this right before we did this interview. She said, I said,

517
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 2: how did you know? How did you know that this

518
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 2: was the son that was supposed to be I mean,

519
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 2: you know, this is the man that was supposed to

520
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:37,560
Speaker 2: be your son in law in the future.

521
00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 1: He said.

522
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:42,640
Speaker 2: I just I've been praying for a man like him

523
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 2: even when she was a young girl, she said, and

524
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 2: told so to see him operate like that, she said,

525
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 2: he said he could easily be like I'm the man,

526
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 2: I'm a husband. Y'alln't have no say so about nothing.

527
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 2: I got this, she says. You always say, do you

528
00:25:59,000 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 2: mind if I do this?

529
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 1: It's okay? Is this cool?

530
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 2: How do y'all feel about this? Y'all feel? I believe

531
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 2: I should do this. How do y'all feel?

532
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: And she said, I'll watched that.

533
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 2: That lets me know that there was nobody better for

534
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 2: my daughter. And so in front of the world, I

535
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,479
Speaker 2: just wanted to salute you King on representing at a

536
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 2: young age. How old are you now? Twenty eight years old?

537
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 2: You could be my whole son. My daughter thirty one,

538
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 2: my daughter thirties. She'll be thirty on April twenty eight,

539
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 2: and at this young age when society would tell you you're

540
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 2: too young to be married, so your royal olds kick

541
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 2: it get married. Maybe in your late thirties and your

542
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 2: forties or whatever, you felt a call to be married,

543
00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 2: and to be married to this queen right here to

544
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:52,400
Speaker 2: cover her. So for the people that don't know, explain

545
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 2: to them what happened, when did it happen, and so

546
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 2: we can put stuff in reference.

547
00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: Yes. So September ninth, twenty four, I woke up to

548
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: a weird noise. Later found out it was my Apple

549
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: Watch alerting me of an alert. So I checked my

550
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 1: phone and I saw that it said a crash was

551
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: detected at this location. It's my wife's. It was like

552
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: a text message that came in, so it's an automatic message.

553
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: I said, the crash detected at this location. So I

554
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 1: checked her location to see where she was and it

555
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: she said Memorial herman, but prior to that to show

556
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:27,399
Speaker 1: where the crash was detected at, and it was like

557
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:31,120
Speaker 1: a few minutes away from our daycare. So she left.

558
00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 1: She texted our son, he's too to daycare. He was

559
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 1: five months old at the time. So she takes me

560
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:37,879
Speaker 1: the daycare and then goes to work and all of

561
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 1: this is maybe a fifteen minute trip, all back roads,

562
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: nothing major, no highways, nothing. I get that message and

563
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 1: then saw her location was at Memorial Herman, so I'm like, okay,

564
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 1: I need to go to her location. I called her

565
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:55,359
Speaker 1: first because I had miscalls from her. I don't know

566
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 1: if it was her calling me. I think it was

567
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 1: an automatic call, but I don't know. It was some

568
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 1: miscalls from her. So I tried to call her back

569
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 1: twice and I got nothing. I hate this story, bros.

570
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:10,359
Speaker 1: Real life. So I started getting ready for work. I

571
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 1: didn't really think much of it. I'd let my job know, Hey,

572
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 1: I'm mama, I gotta go. I'm be late coming in today.

573
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: I think my wife is in an accident. Going check

574
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:22,159
Speaker 1: on her, so I just started heading to her location. First,

575
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: called the daycare I think while I was driving before

576
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 1: I left, I don't know. Called the daycare to see

577
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: if my son had made it, because it's like, okay,

578
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: she's in an accident. She takes him. Is he an

579
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 1: accident too? They said he was good, he had just

580
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 1: got dropped off, So that was like a huge relief.

581
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: But I still hadn't heard nothing from her. So I

582
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: called her job to see maybe I see her location,

583
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: said with Mary herman, but let me see if maybe

584
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 1: she's at work or something happened. I don't know, So

585
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 1: I called her job to see if she made it.

586
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: They say she didn't make it in but they called her,

587
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: or the police called her, or somebody called her and

588
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 1: let them know that she was in a car accident.

589
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,440
Speaker 1: And so I'm like, why are they calling the school

590
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: and not me letting her know, letting us know she

591
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: was an accident. Turns out they only had her school ID,

592
00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 1: so they just had her name and then a school,

593
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: So they called the school let them know. So at

594
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: this point, I still don't know what's going on because

595
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 1: they don't have much detail. But besides, she's an accident.

596
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: And so eventually on the way to the hospital, I'll

597
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: get a call from my unknown number and then they

598
00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: finally tell me, Hey, your wife, this is DeVante. Is

599
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: this Davante? Your wife was an accident. She I forget

600
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: the exact brokes, break of the bones, bully T one,

601
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: T four, T five right arm, fracture, right shoulder, and

602
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: she shuffled a traumatic brain injury with bleeding to the

603
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 1: brain and all this is Monday morning. I'm on my

604
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: way to the hospital. It's full of traffic in Houston,

605
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:48,959
Speaker 1: and it's like all of this hits me now, and

606
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm just like, wait, what is going on? And so

607
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get to her. They let me know

608
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 1: what she's at, but I'm already en route to there,

609
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 1: and I mean, I can't get there fasten up. I'm

610
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 1: in traffic. So the only thing I can do was

611
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: just call my pastor because I call him. I talked

612
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 1: to him, We're very close. Called him, he didn't answer,

613
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: so I called his wife. We have a good relationship,

614
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 1: so she was, you know, just casually talking happy. I said,

615
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 1: your husband available. She said, he's on the phone call.

616
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let him know, hey, my wife is on

617
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 1: an accident distance and that she panicked. She got him

618
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:22,360
Speaker 1: on the phone. He hung up the phone, he was

619
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 1: with on the call he was with and just immediately

620
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 1: started praying with me. And that's the first moment that

621
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 1: I had just broke down concerning everything. And it is

622
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: I'm driving my car, driving itself, but I'm driving and

623
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 1: just boohooing in traffic, still trying to get to my wife.

624
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: Still don't know what's going on exactly, all types of thoughts.

625
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: I don't know she about to be alive what like.

626
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 1: So after that we prayed. I felt a little better,

627
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 1: but still it's just so much in my hands. But

628
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I need to let her family know.

629
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: I tried to call her mom and the family. Nobody's

630
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: answering because it's early. They just shot them a text.

631
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: I think they called me afterwards all this, I'm still

632
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: not at the hospital with her. Eventually I get there,

633
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: but her aunt made it there before me, thank god,

634
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: because with the crash detection system on the phone, whoever's

635
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 1: your emergency contact, it'll let them know your location, and

636
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: so she was one as well. So she beat me

637
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 1: there because she works at a hospital nearby, so she

638
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 1: got there first. So when I got in there, I

639
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: couldn't go back there to say she was having a

640
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 1: procedure done, so I didn't beat all this traffic down here.

641
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,840
Speaker 1: But I still I'm waiting like another hour to see

642
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 1: my wife. So like all types of thoughts, I wasn't panicking,

643
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 1: but it was still like a b what is going on?

644
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: Eventually they called me back there to see her, and

645
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 1: it was just terrible. It was like she's laying in

646
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: the er bed. She got tubes in her mouth, in

647
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 1: her nose, she has a cast on her right arm.

648
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: She's laying there unconscious on life support. She has a

649
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 1: big portion of her hair was cut off or they

650
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 1: put a brain monitor in there, and she bleeding from

651
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 1: the top. She had a scar above her mouth, was

652
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 1: swollen mad a bruise on her head. You can see what

653
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 1: the impact was. It was. It was hard to see

654
00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: her like that, and just that image is just so hard.

655
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: But I saw her. I didn't break down or nothing.

656
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 1: I don't know what I did. And they're about to

657
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: probably grab her hand or I don't know. But eventually

658
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 1: one of our spiritual moms came in and she came

659
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: in and she hugged me, and that's when I just

660
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: I just lost it, broke out in her arm. I'm

661
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 1: just crying because now it's just real, like I'm laying

662
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 1: eyes on my wife. They told me everything that happened

663
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 1: on the phone, but now I'm looking at her and

664
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 1: just like all type of mind battles thoughts. We just

665
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,959
Speaker 1: got married and Mayor for probably just made it two

666
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 1: year anniversary. A couple of months ago. It's like, it's

667
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: my wife about to die? Am I about to be

668
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: a widow? Is my son about to grow up with

669
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 1: out his mom? It was just all type of thoughts

670
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 1: that went through my mind. Man, it was it was.

671
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: It was terrible. It was horrible. It was a horrible time.

672
00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 1: But we spent a little time in er eventually went

673
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 1: to ICU. We ended up spending a month in ICU.

674
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 1: The journey to recovery. What did the doctors tell you?

675
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 2: So y'all go through ICU, then what like, because I

676
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 2: know that there are thank you Holy Spirit, there were

677
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 2: milestones that God showed hisself where that contradicted what the

678
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 2: doctor had told y'all? And so what did the doctor say?

679
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 2: And then what actually happened?

680
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: Okay, so the doctor's biggest things. We wanted to know

681
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 1: what recovery looked like. My mom is an ICU nurse,

682
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 1: so she was there a lot giving us insight on

683
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 1: what's going to happen with the doctors are going to do?

684
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 1: What questions to ask them? So we were asking all

685
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: the right questions, but their answer was, you know, since

686
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 1: she's young and healthy, she should recover well all over time.

687
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 1: And so I'm like, it's encouraging answer, but I needed

688
00:33:57,000 --> 00:34:02,080
Speaker 1: some factual time frames and three wake up, when she

689
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 1: gonna start talking, when shes gonna open her eyes? I

690
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 1: need to know. And they just kept giving us that answer.

691
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:09,399
Speaker 1: But that answer made us trust in God even more

692
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 1: because we truly know the doctors don't know. They don't know.

693
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: They know some stuff, but they don't know. And God

694
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 1: is the one that is in control of it all.

695
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 1: And so it just caused us to believe even the

696
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 1: more and just trust God and pray more for her

697
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: recovery to be speeded because they're talking years down the line.

698
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: She may regain her conscience, not got. She may regain

699
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 1: her ability to talk, she may regain uh, regain her

700
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,920
Speaker 1: ability to walk, but it'll be years and years down

701
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: the line. So we just that just made us pray more. Yeah,

702
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: So how long was she in ICU? Spent thirty days

703
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: exactly or one month in ICU. And then from there

704
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: we went to our first impatient rehab tear memorial Hermann

705
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: And then what did that look like? What did that

706
00:34:55,280 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 1: journey look like? The month of ICU was long. It

707
00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: was long, okay, So initially, you know, she wasn't really

708
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 1: doing much. She wouldn't open her eyes. She would literally

709
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 1: just laying there. My prayer eventually, first of my first

710
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 1: prayer was that God, please don't take my wife. Yeah, God,

711
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 1: I don't want you to take my wife. God, whatever

712
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: you give back to me, God, I will work with.

713
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 1: That's what I told him. Whatever you give back, I

714
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 1: will work with. And so I said, just please don't

715
00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 1: take my wife. And so I held on to my port.

716
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 1: He held on to his part. He didn't let my

717
00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 1: wife pass away. And so I'm continuing to hold on

718
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: to my part. But it got to the point of where,

719
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 1: you know, it was things were just looking so bad

720
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 1: that I begin to pray, God, you know, I don't

721
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 1: want to be selfish. If it's her time to go, God,

722
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: I need you to do these three things. Let her

723
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: squeeze my hand, let her look me in the eye,

724
00:35:57,880 --> 00:35:59,399
Speaker 1: and let her say that I love you. I said,

725
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: if you do the things, and I know that it's

726
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,839
Speaker 1: her time to go. And so over time she would

727
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,800
Speaker 1: squeeze my hand, whether it was you know, voluntari and voluntary,

728
00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:09,319
Speaker 1: she had some movements and so she would squeeze it

729
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:11,799
Speaker 1: and then like I don't know the exact time, prame,

730
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: but she would be going to open her eyes and

731
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 1: so she couldn't really control where they were going. They

732
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: weren't in sync. She couldn't follow on command. It was

733
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 1: she would just open her eyes, and so I'm like okay,

734
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 1: every now and there's like she's looking at me, but

735
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:26,279
Speaker 1: it's not maybe not intentional, but I'm like, okay, God,

736
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 1: this was the second part of my prayer. The last

737
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: one is I'm getting nervous at this point because it's

738
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: like the last one is the prayer to say I

739
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: love you, but that part didn't happen, and so it

740
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:37,799
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, we're good. So you said these three things,

741
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 1: let go over, let me know that you know it's

742
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 1: her time to go. It was like just a comfort

743
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:46,240
Speaker 1: prayer that I just prayed opposite like they do that

744
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: hold on listen. I didn't want her to die. The

745
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:53,319
Speaker 1: first one was no, do not take my wife. Yeah,

746
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: I didn't want to have to. I didn't want to

747
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: have to live without my wife. I just did not

748
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 1: want to have to do So that was my initial prayer.

749
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 1: But then like I said, just we're all gonna die

750
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 1: one day. So it's like, okay, God, if it is

751
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 1: her time, just please do this for me. So it

752
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: was thirty days she started coming to.

753
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 2: Then when y'all went through rehab, Then what did that

754
00:37:16,600 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 2: when she went started rehab?

755
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: How was she operating? Was she she was opening her

756
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,399
Speaker 1: eyes now at this point, was she communicating back or what?

757
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 2: What was that journey like at the beginning of rehab

758
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 2: they're learning to recoming out of it. You good question,

759
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 2: all right, So what was that journey of rehab when

760
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 2: you started rehab and then what y'all finished rehab?

761
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: What was the plan? It was the doctor saying, in order.

762
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 2: To complete rehab in this season, we need to see

763
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 2: what what is that?

764
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 1: So one thing that was required before we got to rehab,

765
00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: she had to have a procedure done, which called a

766
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 1: trick too, and it's something that goes in your throat

767
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: and you can even see the scar that's there too.

768
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 1: This was to basically help her breath because at this

769
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,839
Speaker 1: point she's on a ventilator. I think it's about event

770
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: whereas breathing for her. And so we had to make

771
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 1: that decision, which was I didn't I want to make

772
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 1: that decision. Nobody in the family wanted that because we

773
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,240
Speaker 1: felt like maybe she didn't need even she just wasn't conscious.

774
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 1: They had to we had to make a decision, and

775
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 1: so we had to have that trait inserted first before

776
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: she can even get accepted into rehab. So that was

777
00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:31,200
Speaker 1: very hard to do, but we ended up doing it.

778
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,359
Speaker 1: She had the presidure done at this point. You know,

779
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 1: she would open her eyes every now and then, but

780
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: for the most part, she's eyes closed or like sleep

781
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 1: if you would, throughout the day. So even before we

782
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 1: got to impatient rehab, they would try to do a

783
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 1: little rehab in the ICU, but they couldn't do much

784
00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 1: because of just the state that she was in, not

785
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: really moving much of course, not following command, not really

786
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,319
Speaker 1: able to control with her eyes, that going things like that.

787
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 1: So we actually get to impatient rehab, we had the

788
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 1: procedure done, so now she has a trick too, and

789
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 1: that's really the only thing that they would need to

790
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 1: get into rehabit is that trick. And so from there

791
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: when we got there and they started doing actual rehabs.

792
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: So the first thing they started doing was just you know,

793
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 1: getting her sitting on the edge of the bed. She's

794
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:18,399
Speaker 1: trying to regain some of her strength. It was hard

795
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 1: for her to even just keep her head up, like

796
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: things we do every day just may take for granted,

797
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 1: Like she couldn't even keep her head up, but they

798
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 1: would still kind of push her. She did not like it.

799
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:30,880
Speaker 1: You can tell she was uncomfortable, But I'm glad that

800
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: they pushed her the way that she did because it

801
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: helped her. She would have just been bed ridden the

802
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 1: whole time. It would have been probably a degress. She

803
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 1: would not be progressing like she was. Does she remember rehab?

804
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 1: Do you remember rehab? She don't remember rehare? Remember that.

805
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 1: I have a lot of footage of it and some

806
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 1: of the stuff I just can't post online because I'm

807
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: not going to do that. But when you show her that,

808
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: does it jog rememory. Not for rehab. She's always asked

809
00:39:56,680 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 1: me like she's always asked me. She had different scars

810
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:03,239
Speaker 1: from the accident too, so she asked me like, well,

811
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 1: what is this from? Like I'm talking probably every day

812
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:08,439
Speaker 1: every other day, and she would ask me. And this

813
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 1: is what taught me patience, And we pray for patients

814
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: to be able to say tribulation work, trial working.

815
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 2: Trials and trials and tribulations work with patients something like that.

816
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 1: I think tribulation working patients were something along that line.

817
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 1: But we pray for patient, but it takes some trials

818
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:28,319
Speaker 1: that's going to work some patience in you. And so

819
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,760
Speaker 1: this really, you know, taught me to be more patient

820
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 1: with my wife because I could say it's up to

821
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: her every day with the last year, and she asked

822
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: me tomorrow and may'd be like the first time she

823
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:42,840
Speaker 1: ever asked me. Yeah. And that's what a lot of things,

824
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: not with everything, but it's with a lot of things.

825
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 1: That's why it's just so tricky with that memory because

826
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: something she'll recall and somethings she just won't know at all.

827
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:56,400
Speaker 1: What is time she remember in the last couple of years.

828
00:40:56,800 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 1: So some things that she were a lot of family

829
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 1: members that her baby, I was just gonna say. I

830
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: would say yes for the most part, but a lot

831
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 1: of times when she sees him, she says who is this?

832
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 1: Like who is that? And then eventually started she started

833
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:17,520
Speaker 1: asking me is that our child? And the initially I'm

834
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 1: answering every question for her, Yes, that's our child. What's

835
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 1: his name? That's a maya? Is where is he at?

836
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 1: He's with your parents? I would do that, but since

837
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: what helps a lot in therapy is repetition. What helps

838
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 1: a lot with her is repetition. So now I challenge her.

839
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 1: She says, it's just our child. I said, you tell me.

840
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 1: I was like yes, like yes, she was like, where

841
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 1: is he at? I'm like, you telling me? So we

842
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: said it so many time. Now she's able to recite

843
00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 1: he's with my parents. I'm like, yes, she's with your parents.

844
00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: So it's like she remembers, but sometimes she don't remember.

845
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: But I try to push her so that she can

846
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: think and not. I just give her every answer that

847
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 1: she wants, and she don't like it. Sometimes you've been

848
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:58,759
Speaker 1: getting mad. Gosh, just tell me no, I want you

849
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: to think because I want you to get better. So yeah, yeah, yeah,

850
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:03,439
Speaker 1: what are you about to say?

851
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 3: Well, no, I was just gonna ask. So when you're

852
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 3: at work then throughout the day, how how is that?

853
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 3: What is that process?

854
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:18,399
Speaker 1: Like? Yes, there's some good question that process. So we

855
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: stay since the day of an accident, were in ICU

856
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: for a month. We spent two months at one rehab

857
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:27,400
Speaker 1: and now we're at another rehab that we've been since

858
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: December fifth of four so we've been there for over

859
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:38,239
Speaker 1: a year. Pushing over almost two years going to work.

860
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:40,359
Speaker 1: So every night we spent at the rehab. I spent

861
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,719
Speaker 1: every night with her there, and that was something that

862
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: we pushed, or that I wanted from the jump, from

863
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:47,800
Speaker 1: the time of her accident, that she's be with somebody

864
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 1: every night. First of all, because we don't trust these

865
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 1: people like we don't trust the Dogue. We don't want

866
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 1: nothing to happen. We want somebody there at all times.

867
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: And so my mindset was, I'm gonna be there the

868
00:42:56,560 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 1: whole time. I'm not leaving. I'm not going to where

869
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be with my wife all the time. But

870
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 1: I thank God for our family because they knew that

871
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 1: I need to be getting proper rest. And so we

872
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 1: made a schedule to where we would spend different nights.

873
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 1: I would spend all day every day, but maybe some

874
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 1: nights I would go home and try to get some

875
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: proper rest, try to get my son, so that you know,

876
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 1: she's always with somebody. But now we're at a rehab

877
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:24,319
Speaker 1: and basically it's impatience. So we basically lived there. Initially

878
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 1: she wasn't in a place where she can leave the rehab.

879
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 1: So Monday through Monday, we're there every night, spending night there.

880
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: I took about three months off of work whenever her

881
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 1: accident first happened. I had to take a family medical

882
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:41,840
Speaker 1: leave unpaid. So we went from making good money. I

883
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,280
Speaker 1: was an engineer, she was a teacher, so making pretty

884
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 1: decent money to zero. And so that's what prompts us to,

885
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 1: you know, have to make their gofund me And it

886
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 1: was a blessing. From there, I began to actually got better.

887
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 1: I began to be remote for work, and then I've

888
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 1: been beginning hybrid and now I'm back in work full time.

889
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 1: So how it looks now is is you know, let's

890
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: just say Monday, I wake up six o'clock, I'm at

891
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:05,799
Speaker 1: the rehab with her, I leave to go to work.

892
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: I'm at work seven to four from there, and it's

893
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: about forty five minutes and drive from the rehab to

894
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,160
Speaker 1: my job for my job. Then I go home. We

895
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 1: have a home that's an hour and five minutes from

896
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 1: the rehab, another forty five minutes from my job. Go

897
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: from my job to the house. That's why I try

898
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: to relax a little bit, gather my piece, pray, work out,

899
00:44:28,320 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 1: cook meal prep. I spend maybe five o'clock to maybe

900
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 1: nine o'clock or so eight o'clock. They're doing what I

901
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 1: need to do from there to making that drive an

902
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: hour five minutes back to the rehab with her. She

903
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 1: wants some food. She has a favor food that she

904
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 1: always won't I'm bringing it or I'm cooking something. Feed her,

905
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 1: do her nightly routine, go to bed, do the same

906
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 1: thing the next Let me ask you this.

907
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,760
Speaker 2: Her favorite meal has that stay consistent prior before the accident.

908
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,800
Speaker 1: Afterwards, this is something new. Her favorite meal is chicken nuggets.

909
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 1: Isn't a drink primarily from Chick fil A? He says new. Yeah,

910
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 1: I mean she she would eat that, but it was

911
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 1: not her. But since the accident, that has been one

912
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: thing that's been consistent. When she started talking half of

913
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 1: them two hundred days, she was consistent with what she

914
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: wanted to eat. So you got to gauge. I can

915
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 1: give you that every day. It's healthy. You're not really

916
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 1: walking and stuff, so I gotta I don't want you

917
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 1: to just be gaining unhealthy weight, So I give it

918
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 1: to her. It's hard to tell her no, though I

919
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:29,840
Speaker 1: give it to her. Try to make some healthier options

920
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 1: for her. But that's one thing that has been consistent

921
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 1: is that chicken niggas. She don't want nothing else you.

922
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 6: Said when she started talking.

923
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:40,280
Speaker 3: She started talking, So what were some of the first

924
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 3: things that you remember her being able to say?

925
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: Yes that that video that I posted that is exactly

926
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 1: the moment when she started talking. It was a Friday,

927
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 1: March of twenty twenty five. It was last year. I

928
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 1: just posted it this year and it's blowing up, but

929
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: it was from last year. We went out. It was

930
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 1: a Friday, We went out on the walk. I try

931
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 1: to take her outside at the rehab because this is

932
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:05,680
Speaker 1: when we're staying there. There's no going home like we're

933
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 1: there consistent. We didn't even have a house at that point.

934
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:09,920
Speaker 1: We end up breaking out. Least when she had an accident,

935
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: they let us get out freely, but we didn't. We

936
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:15,320
Speaker 1: didn't have a home. They go through, so the rehab

937
00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: was our home. Took her out on the walk and

938
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: we just I don't even know what happened, but we

939
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 1: were walking and I don't know what a thought came from,

940
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:26,160
Speaker 1: but I had the thought to try to see if

941
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 1: she can vocalize. One thing I picked up in the

942
00:46:29,760 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 1: rehabs was they would try to get her to hum

943
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 1: or just make a noise just to see if her

944
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: voice is still there, because they didn't know if she

945
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,720
Speaker 1: was gonna talk again, because there's been two hundred days literally,

946
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,839
Speaker 1: So I tried to get her to hum. I said,

947
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: just coaching through, take a deep breath and try to hum.

948
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: So she would take a deep breath and she wouldn't

949
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 1: be able to do it. And so one of the

950
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 1: techniques I picked up in therapy was, you know, they

951
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 1: would hold their nose and have them take a deep breath,

952
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 1: hold their nose and then try to let them vocalize

953
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 1: from there, to focus all of the breadth and strength

954
00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 1: from your nose from your mouth. I did that and

955
00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,840
Speaker 1: then she begin to hum. I'm like, okay, so finally

956
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:08,240
Speaker 1: I'm hearing her voice again after all this time, literally

957
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 1: two hundred days. On the exact she did the humming.

958
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: Then I'm like, okay, I want to challenge you a

959
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 1: little bit more. You hum, Okay, let me do it

960
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 1: without holding your nose. She took a deep breath. Took

961
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: me a few times, but she began to do it,

962
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 1: and I specially that's the noise she made from there.

963
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,440
Speaker 1: I'm just excited I can go home or I'm excited

964
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 1: right then and there, but I'm like, you know, let

965
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 1: me push you a little bit more. I want you

966
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 1: to try some simple words. Try to say yes. She'd

967
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: be going to say yes. I said, say no, She'd

968
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 1: be going to say no. I'm like, okay, let me

969
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 1: test some I'm always pushing her. I could have just

970
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:41,399
Speaker 1: live it at that, but I want to push her

971
00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 1: to see how much she can do. So I'm now

972
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: I'm testing cognitive or her understanding. I actually, do you

973
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 1: love me? And she can say yes. I said, do

974
00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:52,400
Speaker 1: you hate me? No, So let me know her brain

975
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 1: is working or she's able to understand those simple type

976
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:57,919
Speaker 1: of questions. And then I just kept going, say your name,

977
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: say my name, so you love something. Yeah. So from

978
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 1: there it was just it was an emotional moment. I

979
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 1: was excited. I sent the video to our family. They

980
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 1: were excited. We were all very just shocked and exciting.

981
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 1: So we didn't tell the rehab people that. We didn't

982
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 1: tell the rehab therapist nothing. We want to surprise them

983
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 1: on that Monday because it's a weekend. So they came

984
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:22,799
Speaker 1: in and then Ken just was like, hey, like what

985
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: she said? They just they lost it. They was excited,

986
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: it was it was beautiful. Let me ask you this.

987
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:31,439
Speaker 1: She's very attentive. How what is that?

988
00:48:31,520 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 2: So she could sit there and just listen to you

989
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 2: talk for for for how long?

990
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 1: So she's quiet right now because there's cameras. She is

991
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,840
Speaker 1: the one talking. I cannot get her to stop talking

992
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: about thank you? Okay, But she is usually all day listen.

993
00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 1: I was having to say, Bay, just get me sick,

994
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: say right now. But usually this girl is the talking.

995
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 1: Don't let her fool you now. I know you don't

996
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:11,399
Speaker 1: see a lot on social media. Don't okay, I'm sorry,

997
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 1: call him down. Herself will come out. She will let

998
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: you know how she is. But she's usually doing a

999
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 1: lot of talking to but she can't focus on what

1000
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:27,240
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Yes, yeah, she's focusing on what you're saying.

1001
00:49:27,680 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: Do you think she's understanding you said?

1002
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 2: But you said that she you have to say it's slower,

1003
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 2: but you're not talking extremely slow, and you feel like

1004
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:35,799
Speaker 2: she's understanding everything you're saying.

1005
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 1: She's good now, Like that's what I'm saying. It's just

1006
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: constant progress. Right now, we're pushing maybe like a year

1007
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 1: and a half since the accident, and so the progress

1008
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:47,160
Speaker 1: is really really good. Back then, you may not even

1009
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: look like she'd be focusing on what I'm talking about

1010
00:49:49,040 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 1: or what I'm saying, or able to, you know, let

1011
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: her one respond to what I'm saying. So even that

1012
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 1: is just showing.

1013
00:49:54,840 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 2: The progress because he's hearing everything.

1014
00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:01,399
Speaker 1: She hold on. I'm like you hear it everything. Yeah,

1015
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:05,280
Speaker 1: she is well aware. It's just sometime again. The memory

1016
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 1: she may not remember once we leave where we were,

1017
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 1: what we was doing, but she's able to enjoy the

1018
00:50:11,160 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 1: woman and that taught me just to enjoy the moments.

1019
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: You know, I may not be able to ask you

1020
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:18,799
Speaker 1: if she remember this and this and that, but I

1021
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: can make new memories. I can record some new stuff

1022
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 1: and we can have that to hold on to and

1023
00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 1: in a moment she'll remember it. She'll know it later

1024
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:28,759
Speaker 1: on whatever happened later on, she may forget it. Oh well,

1025
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,720
Speaker 1: I enjoyed the moments that we had and still having.

1026
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,360
Speaker 1: Did she know anything about your future wifey podcast? Do

1027
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:42,360
Speaker 1: you know anything? I don't think she knows nothing about

1028
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:42,960
Speaker 1: to learn a lot.

1029
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 2: So what did you tell when you were doing so

1030
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:50,239
Speaker 2: the women having a lot of interviews coming up?

1031
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 1: But I told her we have an interview in Dallas.

1032
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 1: Her thing is anytime I tell her about the interview,

1033
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: she's like, what I'm gonna talk about? I said, they whatever?

1034
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 1: They asked her this. I said, I'm gonna do the

1035
00:50:58,360 --> 00:50:59,879
Speaker 1: most of the talking. Though. She's like, yeah, you better.

1036
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 1: You need to. She tells me that, So that's her

1037
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:07,839
Speaker 1: respond What am I talking about? Every time I tell

1038
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 1: her you got enny of be coming up? What we're

1039
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 1: gonna talk about? You need to do all that talk.

1040
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: I don't know what they're gonna talk about.

1041
00:51:15,560 --> 00:51:25,439
Speaker 3: The way, what about I'm not talking? But but what well?

1042
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,000
Speaker 3: What are you feeling right now?

1043
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:27,919
Speaker 2: Oh?

1044
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:31,160
Speaker 1: Wow, look what do you feel?

1045
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 4: Thank you so much?

1046
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: The question?

1047
00:51:36,160 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 3: Okay, she said, don't boss me around.

1048
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:48,320
Speaker 4: Something gets you.

1049
00:51:48,480 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I apologize, don't say I am sorry.

1050
00:51:54,600 --> 00:52:06,240
Speaker 8: Okay, Jesus, she was sucky.

1051
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:07,960
Speaker 1: So what's she's saying right now?

1052
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 2: Out?

1053
00:52:10,880 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 4: She was sucky?

1054
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:15,319
Speaker 1: Thank you? Do you remember what she said? Okay, she

1055
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:15,760
Speaker 1: was talking.

1056
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 3: She came, she said, question, I was just asking how

1057
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 3: you're feeling.

1058
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:24,879
Speaker 4: Oh wow, I'm feeling good.

1059
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,359
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for you're feeling a feeling good.

1060
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:28,720
Speaker 6: Well, you look good.

1061
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:32,839
Speaker 3: I can see all the progress from your videos and

1062
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 3: I'm just so honored that you're here today with us.

1063
00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 4: Thank you so much, You're welcome. Thank you so much

1064
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:44,400
Speaker 4: to me. Oh my, thank you to make me cry,

1065
00:52:44,960 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 4: she's sorry. No, please don't cry. I'm not going to.

1066
00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 6: Oh talk you need to because don't laugh at me.

1067
00:52:57,719 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 1: Don't you laugh at me.

1068
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 4: Please cry, I won't cry. My god, I'm not going

1069
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 4: to get emotional witches.

1070
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:09,880
Speaker 1: Don't get emotional witches.

1071
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:12,120
Speaker 6: I'm just so happy that you're feeling good.

1072
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 4: No, I'm not.

1073
00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:18,319
Speaker 1: It's you can see, you can see it.

1074
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Speaker 3: I'm just so happy that you're feeling good. Yeah, there

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00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:28,960
Speaker 3: was so much to me think. I've been praying for you, guys.

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00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. I meant praying thank you.

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00:53:35,560 --> 00:53:38,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, me and your husband we were praying for you

1078
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:39,439
Speaker 2: before y'all came down here.

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00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, we were. We were on the phone praying. Good Lord.

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00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 2: What did that mean to you, knowing that you were

1081
00:53:47,040 --> 00:53:51,520
Speaker 2: coming to an interview that that first of all, take

1082
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 2: a step back for what Dear Future WIFEI podcast is?

1083
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 1: I said.

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00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 2: Dear Future wifey podcast is a platform that God has

1085
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 2: been curating to increase Marria drates and decreased divorced artistics

1086
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,360
Speaker 2: while providing tools so that we can do marriage better.

1087
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:09,839
Speaker 2: And to know that God is using you for such

1088
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 2: a time as this, for a platform that was created

1089
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:16,960
Speaker 2: in twenty twenty for you to be the walking, living, breathing,

1090
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 2: walking epistol on what God requires marriage to look like

1091
00:54:23,239 --> 00:54:27,400
Speaker 2: to show up as and y'all are proof perfect that

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00:54:27,560 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 2: it's not easy by no stretch of the imagination, but

1093
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 2: it's worth it. How do you feel because you're so

1094
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:40,280
Speaker 2: ministry minded, Kana is ministry minded. How does it feel

1095
00:54:40,320 --> 00:54:42,760
Speaker 2: that God is using you for this season?

1096
00:54:43,640 --> 00:54:48,120
Speaker 1: It feels unreal? I think because of how fast everything

1097
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:52,359
Speaker 1: has been happening. We started the twenty sixth of March

1098
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 1: when we started sharing our journey. We've been living this.

1099
00:54:55,160 --> 00:54:57,399
Speaker 1: We just started posting on it and tomorrow makes a month.

1100
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: It just feels it was unreal. And initially when I

1101
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 1: made that social media, it's like I was talking to her,

1102
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:06,920
Speaker 1: like I know that it's gonna be big, but I

1103
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 1: don't know how big it's going to be. You know,

1104
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 1: I did not know you just started doing that a

1105
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 1: month ago, March twenty six I made that at one

1106
00:55:12,680 --> 00:55:15,120
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning on Thursday. And see what happened

1107
00:55:15,239 --> 00:55:18,360
Speaker 1: was I was thinking that. So it was two things.

1108
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 2: I thought that this happened earlier this year, and then

1109
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 2: I was like, wow, this is happening. I didn't know

1110
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 2: this happened back then, and then I didn't know you

1111
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 2: just started sharing it a month ago.

1112
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:32,040
Speaker 1: I was not in a place to share any of this.

1113
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:35,399
Speaker 1: I wanted to hire under rock me and my wife.

1114
00:55:35,440 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 1: I don't want nobody in our business. I don't want

1115
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 1: nobody seeing nothing. I don't want to talk about this.

1116
00:55:40,960 --> 00:55:43,239
Speaker 1: So why did you? Because I knew that we were

1117
00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 1: sitting on a testimony, and I know my wife is

1118
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:51,279
Speaker 1: a miracle. For her to be alive talking like she

1119
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 1: is right now, she is a miracle. And I know

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00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 1: the Bible says to let your light shine so that

1121
00:55:57,320 --> 00:56:00,480
Speaker 1: men may see your good works and glorify your Father,

1122
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:02,040
Speaker 1: which is in heaven. They gonna see us do some

1123
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: good things. They're gonna give me some accolades. But it's

1124
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:08,320
Speaker 1: all about giving glory to God. That's the whole platform.

1125
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:11,600
Speaker 1: Anybody we speak to, anything we do, it's gonna bring

1126
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:14,719
Speaker 1: It's gonna be to bring glory to God. That's it.

1127
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 1: So that was the purpose of making it. And it's

1128
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:22,399
Speaker 1: just so surprising that you know it's doing so it's

1129
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: touching so many people because it's when you live for God.

1130
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:30,080
Speaker 1: He said, there that live godly will suffer persecution. I'm

1131
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: not expecting a bunch of prey and a bunch of

1132
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 1: people to be around us. My mindset will live for God.

1133
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 1: It's gonna be some persecution that's there. So people gonna

1134
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 1: be talking about you, They're gonna be making fun of you.

1135
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:41,480
Speaker 1: So initially I'm like, man, God, everybody is liking us,

1136
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: like we must be doing something wrong, Like where's the persecution?

1137
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 1: And I started reading some of the comments says, okay, yeah,

1138
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:48,880
Speaker 1: we're good. They're talking about it. We're good, We're on

1139
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: the right track. Were good God, Okay, that is literally

1140
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 1: my mind some like I need that persecution.

1141
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 2: He said, hold on, this is this is going too well, right,

1142
00:56:57,600 --> 00:56:59,239
Speaker 2: I need to see somebody talking bad about it.

1143
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:01,720
Speaker 1: There is right, we got them coming there, Like, okay,

1144
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 1: we're on the right track looking for Yes, the Bible says,

1145
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:11,319
Speaker 1: well until the man that the world speaks well of

1146
00:57:11,480 --> 00:57:14,920
Speaker 1: something that yes. So I'm like I'm always like I

1147
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 1: want to I want to please God and I want

1148
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:21,120
Speaker 1: to make sure that we are doing something that the

1149
00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:23,200
Speaker 1: Bible was, so, what what are they saying?

1150
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:23,479
Speaker 2: Bad?

1151
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't want to talk about the conversation. Some

1152
00:57:26,760 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 1: of the stuff have to delete because it's just so inappropriate,

1153
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 1: just making fun of her things like that they do that.

1154
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 2: About just yeah, yeah, I was just talking about trying

1155
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:43,280
Speaker 2: to say that maybe you're trying to get attention or something,

1156
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:44,400
Speaker 2: but not We got.

1157
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 1: Some of that too. Somebody commented one of the video

1158
00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:48,919
Speaker 1: we're posted on YouTube just how she was just looking

1159
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 1: at me while I was giving a testimony. They were like,

1160
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: the way she's looking just saying that you know something,

1161
00:57:54,560 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 1: what you're saying is not right, or it's like giving

1162
00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 1: me thoughts of like what's written the people comment, and

1163
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 1: you know I have that same thought looking these people

1164
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:02,880
Speaker 1: at this, I don't. I don't some of them. I

1165
00:58:02,960 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 1: delete some of them. I just keep because I know

1166
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 1: our online family is going to deal with there. And

1167
00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 1: so somebody was like, are you trying to make CONSI

1168
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:14,880
Speaker 1: conspiracy theories about this couple, because please stop, Okay, go

1169
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:19,680
Speaker 1: for it, but I try to monitor them because you know,

1170
00:58:19,960 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 1: just with her brain injury, if she reads them, some

1171
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:24,160
Speaker 1: of them, she will send it to me like why

1172
00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 1: would you say, Like, why would they say this, Why

1173
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 1: would they put that? So I try to monitor as

1174
00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 1: much as I can, but you can read reading be

1175
00:58:30,600 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: texting me. This girl listen like she is coming back

1176
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 1: to her herself. That's why I say she's such a miracle.

1177
00:58:36,600 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 1: This girl texting me, calling me all day. That's the

1178
00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:42,480
Speaker 1: thing about being at work with her memory. I leave

1179
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 1: to go to work, so she'll text me while I'm

1180
00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 1: at work. She's at the rehab where you at when

1181
00:58:47,000 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 1: you're coming, I miss you, like things like that. So

1182
00:58:49,920 --> 00:58:52,080
Speaker 1: and I constantly have to reiterate where I'm at because

1183
00:58:52,080 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 1: sometimes she'll forget. I'm like, read the messages. I just

1184
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:56,960
Speaker 1: text you, I just text you five minutes ago. She

1185
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:59,360
Speaker 1: just needs to know again, so I just copy fax.

1186
00:59:00,840 --> 00:59:04,720
Speaker 3: But yeah, and you were starting to talk about she

1187
00:59:04,880 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 3: was singing right, and so in some of your videos

1188
00:59:08,800 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 3: you're playing back, you know times when she was I

1189
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 3: think singing to your son even does that remind her

1190
00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 3: of that moment?

1191
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 1: Or still No, I don't think it necessarily reminds her.

1192
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:22,640
Speaker 1: I will say no to it doesn't remind her, Okay.

1193
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: But the tricky thing is she will say that she

1194
00:59:26,800 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 1: doesn't know a song or she don't remember this but

1195
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 1: I'll start playing it.

1196
00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 2: Like earlier when I gave you, I brought my guitar

1197
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 2: out and you started playing, and she said, that's my song.

1198
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:39,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she would I've learned to challenge her in

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00:59:39,920 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 1: that aspect of I would play a song just where

1200
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,960
Speaker 1: there's some Apple music or something, or I own a guitar,

1201
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:48,760
Speaker 1: and I'll just say, just start singing. She'd say, I

1202
00:59:48,800 --> 00:59:50,320
Speaker 1: don't know the song. I said, just try, and she

1203
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:52,280
Speaker 1: would start singing the song exactly how the lyrics goes.

1204
00:59:52,600 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 1: I'm like, se I told you you know that. So

1205
00:59:54,720 --> 00:59:56,160
Speaker 1: that's why I say, it's such a tricky thing with

1206
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:58,720
Speaker 1: her memory. She doesn't know that she knows some things.

1207
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 1: And then she'll always say, I just guess. I said, girl,

1208
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 1: you got the best guess in the world, because she

1209
01:00:03,720 --> 01:00:05,640
Speaker 1: would say that for everything that would be right, like

1210
01:00:05,680 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 1: I just guess. I'm like, you need to guessing his

1211
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:12,960
Speaker 1: own point. But it's just a tricky thing. Guess the

1212
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 1: whole song. Man, the whole time, I was just guessing

1213
01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:21,520
Speaker 1: the parts. Okay. Did she try to sing though, like

1214
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:23,919
Speaker 1: on her own? Yeah? Every now and that I would

1215
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 1: catch her singing. We watched church a lot online, and

1216
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:30,400
Speaker 1: then she may because it's a couple of groups that

1217
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:32,560
Speaker 1: she's singing with in church. So anytime she'll see them,

1218
01:00:33,040 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 1: if she's in the mood, she would just sing with them,

1219
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:37,480
Speaker 1: and it would just catch me. Sometime I just record her, uh,

1220
01:00:37,680 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 1: because it's just precious moments like be singing again. It

1221
01:00:40,560 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 1: may not sound exactly how it sounds, but it's I

1222
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:49,880
Speaker 1: love exactly how a song. Learn to cherish everything now,

1223
01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:53,000
Speaker 1: like honestly, it changes the aspect of life. Just how

1224
01:00:53,040 --> 01:00:57,680
Speaker 1: close we were to losing my wife everything, And I'm

1225
01:00:57,680 --> 01:01:00,840
Speaker 1: talking about just like that. Nothing that we did that

1226
01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:03,280
Speaker 1: was just wrong or it was a simple.

1227
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:05,120
Speaker 2: Dropping a kid off and dropping off our kid a

1228
01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 2: normal daycare, then never made it to work, left our apartment,

1229
01:01:08,760 --> 01:01:10,480
Speaker 2: never made her back both the leads.

1230
01:01:10,520 --> 01:01:11,479
Speaker 1: She never been back there.

1231
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 2: One of the things that's always I'm really sensitive to

1232
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:18,400
Speaker 2: is the need for a man to.

1233
01:01:18,400 --> 01:01:19,200
Speaker 1: Be a provider.

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01:01:19,720 --> 01:01:22,160
Speaker 2: And so I was talking to you that day and

1235
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:27,920
Speaker 2: you were saying, how you know the job you're working at, engineer.

1236
01:01:28,320 --> 01:01:33,600
Speaker 1: Pay cut, wife, course, teacher, no job.

1237
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:38,040
Speaker 2: And so here you are and trusted by God, and

1238
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 2: trusted by your wife by vows, and trusted by her

1239
01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:45,120
Speaker 2: mom when she gave her to you to now be

1240
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:50,760
Speaker 2: a provider, and how has that been the challenges and

1241
01:01:50,800 --> 01:01:53,960
Speaker 2: what has been the private thoughts and the struggles in

1242
01:01:54,000 --> 01:01:57,960
Speaker 2: your mind as you've been expected to provide it this

1243
01:01:58,080 --> 01:02:02,880
Speaker 2: season with less than the income. Well I didn't even

1244
01:02:02,880 --> 01:02:05,480
Speaker 2: say close to because I don't know what their paid

1245
01:02:05,520 --> 01:02:08,440
Speaker 2: decrease was. But you already lost the income of your

1246
01:02:08,480 --> 01:02:10,720
Speaker 2: wife and now you got a pay cut.

1247
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:13,920
Speaker 1: What's going on from a mental standpoint for you mentally

1248
01:02:14,240 --> 01:02:17,760
Speaker 1: is a lot. It was a lot because, like I said,

1249
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:21,280
Speaker 1: we went from two income to nothing, and so we

1250
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:23,480
Speaker 1: started to go fund me. So we lived literally lived

1251
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:26,680
Speaker 1: on that money for probably three or so months. Then

1252
01:02:26,680 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 1: I started working remote, so I kind of got our payback,

1253
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:31,840
Speaker 1: but it was still, you know, kind of less. We

1254
01:02:31,840 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 1: still have the same bills. Eventually, my mind is always,

1255
01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:37,040
Speaker 1: like you said, to provide for my family. So now

1256
01:02:37,840 --> 01:02:39,160
Speaker 1: at the same time, I'm trying to make sure my

1257
01:02:39,200 --> 01:02:41,760
Speaker 1: wife is good. So it's just like my priority. I

1258
01:02:41,800 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 1: wanted my wife to be good. I don't care about

1259
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:45,600
Speaker 1: no bills, I don't carby, no job, I don't care

1260
01:02:45,640 --> 01:02:48,680
Speaker 1: what goes undone like this is my party, her and

1261
01:02:48,720 --> 01:02:51,800
Speaker 1: my son. But I thank god they go fund me

1262
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:55,440
Speaker 1: because that did help us because we needed it. Basically,

1263
01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,720
Speaker 1: so you said y'all were living at the rehab, Yes,

1264
01:02:58,880 --> 01:03:02,200
Speaker 1: right now, we still lived at the threehab ICU. We

1265
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:05,600
Speaker 1: still had an apartment, so we're just paying for rent

1266
01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:07,400
Speaker 1: that we was not there. So after about five i

1267
01:03:07,400 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 1: think it was about four or five months of that,

1268
01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, we need to start thinking about finances.

1269
01:03:12,480 --> 01:03:14,720
Speaker 1: So broke that lease through a lot of back and

1270
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:17,080
Speaker 1: forth with them, but broke it without any issues. So

1271
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:20,040
Speaker 1: now we got that amount of income coming in or

1272
01:03:20,320 --> 01:03:24,760
Speaker 1: less less less less deals. Eventually we got like a

1273
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:27,320
Speaker 1: small little refundcheck. It wasn't a bunch, There was enough

1274
01:03:27,360 --> 01:03:29,560
Speaker 1: look to get us going and also to get a

1275
01:03:29,600 --> 01:03:31,840
Speaker 1: house as well. We didn't have to put a bunch down.

1276
01:03:31,840 --> 01:03:33,400
Speaker 1: But it was a great deal on the house. Because

1277
01:03:33,400 --> 01:03:36,720
Speaker 1: I knew, I started planning. We broke the lease in

1278
01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:39,920
Speaker 1: February of twenty twenty five. We bought a house in

1279
01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:42,200
Speaker 1: June of twenty twenty five, so we had a little

1280
01:03:42,200 --> 01:03:44,160
Speaker 1: time after we broke to save up because I knew

1281
01:03:44,160 --> 01:03:45,880
Speaker 1: it eventually we're gonna have to go somewhere. We was

1282
01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:49,720
Speaker 1: on the third floor apartment and oh, we couldn't get

1283
01:03:49,720 --> 01:03:52,760
Speaker 1: a first floor apartment, but the prices literally the same

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Speaker 1: as the mortgage, so it was like okay, So we

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Speaker 1: ended up buying a house with the mindset that we're

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Speaker 1: going to get some government assistance because she's disabled clearly,

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Speaker 1: but she got denied, so no money is coming in

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Speaker 1: from that, which was the biggest shocker. So that put

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Speaker 1: another thoughts in my mind, like, Okay, what we're gonna

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Speaker 1: do now, So I'm starting looking at it. My job

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Speaker 1: can't get nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, no matter how much

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Speaker 1: jobs I applied for an interview for. Eventually, you know,

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Speaker 1: they bought our payback to what it was. But even

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Speaker 1: at that point, it's just like we we need more now.

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Speaker 1: It should be a raid, yeah, cutting me back to

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Speaker 1: bring me right, man, I expect you to, I mean.

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Speaker 1: But then we started posting and so the GoFundMe has

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Speaker 1: been revived again, I guess you could say. And so

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Speaker 1: from there we've been able to pay off a lot

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Speaker 1: of debts still, you know, working on getting rid of

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Speaker 1: some and just that she's my mindset though, like I'm

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Speaker 1: big on budget and I tracked every single dollar where

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Speaker 1: everything goes, and so the go fund me has been

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Speaker 1: a blessing, like your go fund Me is at what

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Speaker 1: right now? Forty four? I think that the goal is

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Speaker 1: one hundred. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know if you know too much about

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Speaker 2: the Dear Future WIFEI Podcast Impact, but.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you finna You're finna reach that goal man.

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Speaker 2: And so what I'm telling you, lit fam, y'all know

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Speaker 2: how we do.

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Speaker 1: When we see a need, we attack the need. We

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Speaker 1: are givers.

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Speaker 2: And I love that God has trusted me with a

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Speaker 2: platform that I can engage with givers, people that share

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Speaker 2: the same heart posture as asking and I that when

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Speaker 2: we say, hey, listen, we want you to be a blessing.

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Speaker 1: To our guests.

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Speaker 2: And when that time happens, y'all jump, and my guests

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Speaker 2: saying what in the world. I don't know what y'all

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Speaker 2: got over there? But this is this is this is

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Speaker 2: mind blowing, so simple assignment. Take it over one hundred thousand,

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Speaker 2: take that bad boy, go to that goal fund me.

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Speaker 2: It's at forty some thousand right now. I want to

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Speaker 2: be able to look in about a week after this

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Speaker 2: episode drops. This is Sadday, the week before this episode releases.

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Speaker 2: When this episode drops this Wednesday, I want y'all to.

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Speaker 1: Blow their minds.

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Speaker 2: I want y'all, to reveal even more so the heart

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Speaker 2: and hands of Jesus where you are able, they are

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Speaker 2: able to look back and say, Okay, God, this gives

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Speaker 2: me a little less pressure as I'm able to still

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Speaker 2: keep journeying through this journey. This is a This is

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Speaker 2: a journey, y'all, and we need your help to come

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Speaker 2: sow a seed. And that's the difference between different twy podcasts.

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Speaker 2: I don't look at it as a donation. It's so

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Speaker 2: on seeds because this is a faith based platform that

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Speaker 2: when we give, we know God is giving it back

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01:06:43,240 --> 01:06:45,600
Speaker 2: to us and the areas that we need. It may

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01:06:45,640 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 2: not come back financially, but you may be struggling with

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01:06:48,080 --> 01:06:50,520
Speaker 2: some health issues that when you go plant this seed,

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Speaker 2: God begins to start healing you. It's called planning, seeds,

1343
01:06:53,720 --> 01:06:56,520
Speaker 2: sowing and reaping. You can't be God given. And so

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Speaker 2: what I'm telling y'all right now is going to be

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Speaker 2: a link in the description. Go hit that and go

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Speaker 2: give and bless the Mitchell's right now.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate that, and I want to talk about you

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01:07:06,520 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 1: know what it's going to be for. Yeah, we're gonna

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01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:11,440
Speaker 1: need some money to live off of. So we're at

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Speaker 1: the rehab. Like I said, we've been there since her accident,

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Speaker 1: but come probably either end of May or sometime in June,

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Speaker 1: we are going to be discharged and we're going to

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Speaker 1: be home for good, which is a blessing. But at

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Speaker 1: the same time, she still requires one somebody there with her,

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Speaker 1: and I don't have all that planned out. I think

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to take some more FMLA all time

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Speaker 1: off for work. I don't know how long it'll be,

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Speaker 1: but that's what that would be used for as we

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Speaker 1: try to navigate what's next, because I don't get it

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Speaker 1: figured out yet, but all I know for affect is

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Speaker 1: God will provide like he's been taking care of us.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, we appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: Be about to say ask them what you start crying

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Speaker 2: you get, because I'm trying to wrap this up before

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Speaker 2: both us be told up in this episode, because we

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Speaker 2: will be.

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Speaker 3: I just, I just you're twenty eight, and I just

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Speaker 3: I've met a lot of twenty eight year old young men,

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01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:11,080
Speaker 3: and your vision, your thoughtfulness, your care, and just how

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01:08:11,120 --> 01:08:16,760
Speaker 3: you are leading is and should be an inspiration to

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Speaker 3: other men, many of whom are older than you, and

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Speaker 3: so I just want to celebrate the man of God

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Speaker 3: that you are. I know that people are excited to

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01:08:28,760 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 3: pour into your ministry, and so I literally cannot wait

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Speaker 3: to hear the praise report because God is going to

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Speaker 3: use you, guys beyond your wildest dreams, and our dear

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Speaker 3: future WIFEI family is truly just honored and humbled to

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Speaker 3: be able to pour into you.

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Speaker 2: Let me ask you this because I know you probably

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Speaker 2: asked this question before to yourself.

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Speaker 1: Why do you think God allowed this to happen.

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Speaker 2: Two years into marriage, five months at that time of

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Speaker 2: giving birth to your son.

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Speaker 1: Why? The only thing I can think about is the

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Speaker 1: man in the Bible. Not talking about job, because that's

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Speaker 1: a whole other one. But there was a man. I'm

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Speaker 1: a paraphraser. I think he was blind from his youth up.

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Speaker 1: And they begin to ask that this man's sin or

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Speaker 1: to his parents. He says it wasn't because of that,

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Speaker 1: but it's for the glory of God. I think we

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Speaker 1: were chosen for this because God knows both of our hearts.

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Speaker 1: Our heart is to please Him, no matter what our

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Speaker 1: prayer is that God, we want to see you in peace.

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Speaker 1: We know that there's gonna be some trials that come along.

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Speaker 1: We know there's gonna be some test, it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: some hardship, But I know, I think that God knows

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Speaker 1: that we will not turn our back on Him. No

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Speaker 1: matter what money comes, no matter what fame comes or attention,

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Speaker 1: it will always be about God. You see a lot

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Speaker 1: of people that may be in church, but then stuff

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01:10:04,800 --> 01:10:09,760
Speaker 1: start coming, popularity, fame, and then church bye bye. That's

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Speaker 1: not gonna happen with us. And I believe it was all.

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Speaker 1: It is all for God to get the glory. I

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Speaker 1: think God is gonna heal my wife in the midst

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Speaker 1: of the world. He's already healing them, but even the

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Speaker 1: more and now the world can see it. We've been

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Speaker 1: seeing it, our church has been seeing our family's been

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Speaker 1: seeing it. Now he's allowing the world to see what

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Speaker 1: he's doing in these last days that we're in. He

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Speaker 1: still has power, He's still in control. No matter what

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Speaker 1: you go through, God is in control, and he wants

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Speaker 1: to show the world to be grateful for the things

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Speaker 1: that are going on in our lives. Many times we

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Speaker 1: take things for granted. We complain about every single thing.

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Speaker 1: You complain about your wife. You gotta do this for

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Speaker 1: your wife. Your wife, not listening to you. She not

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Speaker 1: doing what you said. She don't remember what I told her.

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Speaker 1: How about your wife don't remember nothing? Every time you

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01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:56,719
Speaker 1: say something every day she forget it. But you complain

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Speaker 1: about these little petty things in your marriages. I believe

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Speaker 1: he's using us as an example to get people to

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Speaker 1: second think what they're doing, what they're going through, then

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Speaker 1: to be grateful for everything that they have, no matter

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Speaker 1: how bad it may seem, because it can be worse.

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Speaker 1: There's somebody in the worst condition than what you're in,

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Speaker 1: and we just our lives is just to be the

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Speaker 1: head example. So I told God, take me through what

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Speaker 1: you gotta take me through, as long as at the

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Speaker 1: end of that road to get to see you in peace.

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Speaker 1: He said, He has an expected end for us, an

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Speaker 1: expected in and I know that that's peace and enjoy

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Speaker 1: and everlasting life. I don't know exactly how it's gonna

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Speaker 1: be when we get there. I don't know how the

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Speaker 1: pathway it's gonna be. It maybe rough, maybe bumpy, maybe

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Speaker 1: some curves in this, as long as that expected in

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Speaker 1: his peace. Okay, God, We're gonna go through it no

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Speaker 1: matter what. That's good.

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Speaker 2: The last time somebody said that's phrase expected in. They

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Speaker 2: wig fell off, and she said he hasn't expected in,

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Speaker 2: and wig fell off. Hold your brains now, hold your

1441
01:11:56,240 --> 01:11:59,880
Speaker 2: brains back, Hold your brains now, before I have you

1442
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Speaker 2: sign this key to love. We're just gonna pray over y'all.

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Speaker 2: Heavenly Father, we come to you today. We thank you

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Speaker 2: for this testimony that is right before our eyes, this miracle.

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01:12:15,720 --> 01:12:20,160
Speaker 2: Davante said, this is a miracle. His wife Keana is

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01:12:20,200 --> 01:12:26,880
Speaker 2: a walking, breathing, living miracle. We knew the assignment. We

1447
01:12:26,920 --> 01:12:30,799
Speaker 2: saw what the enemy tried to do. The enemy tried

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Speaker 2: to take her life, but mercy said no. And so God,

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Speaker 2: we thank you right now in the name of Jesus

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Speaker 2: for trusting them to journey through this thing.

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Speaker 1: Right now.

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Speaker 2: But God, we speak right now for your miraculous hand

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01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:49,840
Speaker 2: to touch your body from the crown of her head

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01:12:49,880 --> 01:12:52,439
Speaker 2: to the soles of her feet. You said, it's not

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01:12:52,479 --> 01:12:55,439
Speaker 2: by powered nor by might, but by thy spirit, said

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Speaker 2: the Lord. So Lord, let your spirit overtake her, Let

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Speaker 2: your permeate through her body. You said in your word

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Speaker 2: that by your stripes she is healed. So we claim

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01:13:06,360 --> 01:13:10,599
Speaker 2: healing right now in the name of Jesus. The world

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Speaker 2: is watching the world is commenting on their videos, the

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01:13:14,320 --> 01:13:18,200
Speaker 2: world is interested in their stories. God, we want you

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Speaker 2: to bring that thing around full circle and they see

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01:13:22,520 --> 01:13:26,679
Speaker 2: a woman of God that has been restored, a woman

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Speaker 2: of God that has been healed, a woman of God

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01:13:30,600 --> 01:13:33,719
Speaker 2: that has been delivered from every report that the doctor

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Speaker 2: tried to say, and let the healing work of Jesus

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Speaker 2: Christ permeate through her body and that it will confound

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Speaker 2: the wise, the wisdom of these physicians look back and say,

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I've never seen this before. I don't

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Speaker 2: even know how this is even possible. Every medical book

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Speaker 2: says that she would walk away with this and there's

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Speaker 2: no way that she could be fully restored with all

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Speaker 2: her faculties. Ever seen this before. Let her be, I've

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01:14:02,520 --> 01:14:07,280
Speaker 2: never seen this before, testimony. Let her be. I've never

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Speaker 2: seen this before. Testimony. I thank you so much for

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01:14:13,160 --> 01:14:16,920
Speaker 2: DeVante for being a mighty man of valor that you've

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01:14:16,960 --> 01:14:22,759
Speaker 2: en trusted him for this season to show that prayer works.

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01:14:23,120 --> 01:14:26,880
Speaker 2: That shows what a covering truly looks like. That shows

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Speaker 2: what a husbandi which is a word that means one

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Speaker 2: who covers his house. We thank you God for the

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Speaker 2: representation of that and God, we thank you. We thank

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Speaker 2: you in advance for what you're going to do, because

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01:14:46,000 --> 01:14:48,680
Speaker 2: we believe you said we're two or more gathered in

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01:14:48,760 --> 01:14:52,559
Speaker 2: your name, there shall you be in the mist. So God,

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Speaker 2: we thank you, and we believe that Keana is going

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01:14:57,080 --> 01:15:00,760
Speaker 2: to be a walking, breathing miracle even the more because

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Speaker 2: she already is even the more full restoration in Jesus name,

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Speaker 2: we pray Amen Amen. All right, So, man, thank you

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01:15:09,320 --> 01:15:11,439
Speaker 2: so much for blessing us on your Future Wife podcast.

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Speaker 1: How can people get in contact with you? Y'a can

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01:15:13,439 --> 01:15:17,360
Speaker 1: find us at Devoncee and Keana on all social medias.

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Speaker 2: All right, and hey, hey, this is a blessing. This

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01:15:23,760 --> 01:15:27,320
Speaker 2: was a huge blessing. So maybe the love you shared

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Speaker 2: today outlived the season.

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Speaker 3: You're in, yes, may carry you through the days when

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01:15:32,600 --> 01:15:34,200
Speaker 3: words are few and.

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Speaker 2: Faith has to do the talking. Y'all give it up

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Speaker 2: for the Mitchell. Y'all, thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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01:15:38,840 --> 01:15:47,040
Speaker 2: Thanks Ladarian thrust it suddenly into child protective services.

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01:15:47,040 --> 01:15:51,400
Speaker 1: In twenty fifteen, my nephew Black, a boy.

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01:15:51,760 --> 01:15:55,280
Speaker 2: The likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship slim to

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01:15:55,360 --> 01:16:01,640
Speaker 2: none Rmione, sixteen years old, Black with five years in

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01:16:01,640 --> 01:16:04,040
Speaker 2: the Falster care system before I even knew his name.

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01:16:04,840 --> 01:16:08,599
Speaker 2: The likelihood of ever being adopted, Yep, you guessed it

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01:16:09,200 --> 01:16:13,719
Speaker 2: slim to none. While Ladarian and our MONI were trying

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01:16:13,720 --> 01:16:17,120
Speaker 2: to survive and barely thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded

1508
01:16:17,160 --> 01:16:19,800
Speaker 2: false care system, I was living my own life, doing

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01:16:19,800 --> 01:16:23,040
Speaker 2: well professionally, having been a single father with a daughter

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01:16:23,080 --> 01:16:25,600
Speaker 2: who at that point was doing well in college. It

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01:16:25,680 --> 01:16:27,200
Speaker 2: was my time to live my life right.

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01:16:28,240 --> 01:16:28,519
Speaker 7: Wrong.

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01:16:29,600 --> 01:16:35,439
Speaker 2: I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. There are just too many

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01:16:35,600 --> 01:16:39,080
Speaker 2: of our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the

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01:16:39,120 --> 01:16:42,559
Speaker 2: limbo of the falseter care system. In twenty seventeen, I

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01:16:42,640 --> 01:16:46,519
Speaker 2: legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast forward to twenty nineteen.

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01:16:46,560 --> 01:16:48,760
Speaker 2: I had no ties to this other young king, but

1518
01:16:48,800 --> 01:16:51,360
Speaker 2: I felt God instructed me to adopt him also on

1519
01:16:51,439 --> 01:16:55,519
Speaker 2: al Babe. Starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right,

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01:16:55,560 --> 01:16:58,320
Speaker 2: Working with various foster care and adoption agencies to help

1521
01:16:58,360 --> 01:17:01,439
Speaker 2: bring awareness to the countless young Black kings and the

1522
01:17:01,479 --> 01:17:05,880
Speaker 2: foster care system should have decreased my agitation. Right join

1523
01:17:06,000 --> 01:17:09,120
Speaker 2: the board of directors of Advantage Adoption and organization that

1524
01:17:09,160 --> 01:17:12,519
Speaker 2: helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in falter care

1525
01:17:12,640 --> 01:17:16,599
Speaker 2: should have led to some type of resolve. Right, No,

1526
01:17:16,640 --> 01:17:19,559
Speaker 2: not at all. None of it felt like I had

1527
01:17:19,600 --> 01:17:24,200
Speaker 2: done enough. I now realized that every one of those

1528
01:17:24,280 --> 01:17:28,120
Speaker 2: experiences was land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission.

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01:17:29,040 --> 01:17:33,080
Speaker 2: Kingdom Royale. Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of

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01:17:33,120 --> 01:17:36,519
Speaker 2: the art home for foster boys. Our first location will

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01:17:36,560 --> 01:17:38,320
Speaker 2: be in the Dallas Fort Work Metroplex.

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Speaker 1: We will utilize the whole person.

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01:17:40,200 --> 01:17:44,480
Speaker 2: Approach that instills identity, empowers them to advocate for themselves,

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01:17:44,680 --> 01:17:48,840
Speaker 2: and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and limitless options that

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01:17:48,880 --> 01:17:51,040
Speaker 2: they thought were impossible.

1536
01:17:52,200 --> 01:17:52,360
Speaker 1: Though.

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01:17:52,400 --> 01:17:54,600
Speaker 2: The young Kings will attend the local public schools that

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01:17:54,640 --> 01:17:58,520
Speaker 2: are in proximity to Kingdom Royal. Our at home curriculum

1539
01:17:58,680 --> 01:18:02,120
Speaker 2: will broaden their worldview through participating in the arts, attending

1540
01:18:02,200 --> 01:18:07,120
Speaker 2: various cultural events, learning about and engaging in multifaceted discussions

1541
01:18:07,120 --> 01:18:11,479
Speaker 2: about current events and even relevant historical contexts, introducing them

1542
01:18:11,520 --> 01:18:15,320
Speaker 2: to gardening and landscaping, and even caring for our animals

1543
01:18:15,360 --> 01:18:15,880
Speaker 2: on our.

1544
01:18:15,880 --> 01:18:17,720
Speaker 1: Form and on site stables.

1545
01:18:18,240 --> 01:18:21,679
Speaker 2: We just launched our startup capital campaign with the goal

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01:18:21,680 --> 01:18:23,320
Speaker 2: of raising two point eight million dollars.

1547
01:18:23,360 --> 01:18:25,840
Speaker 1: Now why two point eight million dollars. Well.

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01:18:25,840 --> 01:18:28,200
Speaker 2: In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which

1549
01:18:28,240 --> 01:18:32,160
Speaker 2: I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community.

1550
01:18:32,400 --> 01:18:34,680
Speaker 2: One of the most notable successes was that one of

1551
01:18:34,720 --> 01:18:39,960
Speaker 2: the videos went viral, garnering twenty eight million views. However,

1552
01:18:40,320 --> 01:18:42,519
Speaker 2: one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't raise

1553
01:18:42,560 --> 01:18:45,920
Speaker 2: a single dollar to help in implementing a more sustainable

1554
01:18:45,920 --> 01:18:50,160
Speaker 2: plan for the homeless community. So throughout the years, with

1555
01:18:50,280 --> 01:18:53,800
Speaker 2: much remorse, I reflect that I'm not maximizing that moment.

1556
01:18:53,880 --> 01:18:56,840
Speaker 2: I knew if at that time just ten percent of

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01:18:56,840 --> 01:18:59,680
Speaker 2: the viewers donated one dollar, we would have raised at

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01:18:59,720 --> 01:19:03,320
Speaker 2: least two point eight million dollars that could have really

1559
01:19:03,400 --> 01:19:06,400
Speaker 2: established long term support for the homeless community, or at

1560
01:19:06,479 --> 01:19:09,439
Speaker 2: least started a long term initiative.

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01:19:08,880 --> 01:19:10,240
Speaker 1: To do so.

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01:19:10,280 --> 01:19:14,960
Speaker 2: This is my due over, this is our new beginning. Together,

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01:19:15,240 --> 01:19:18,559
Speaker 2: we can attack this at the route by specifically helping

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01:19:18,680 --> 01:19:23,559
Speaker 2: our homeless Black boys, who are already disproportionately represented in

1565
01:19:23,600 --> 01:19:25,520
Speaker 2: the American fossil care system.

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Speaker 1: I'm a Teri Sarwickfield.

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01:19:27,120 --> 01:19:30,519
Speaker 2: I've been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work

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01:19:30,520 --> 01:19:33,519
Speaker 2: with the homeless, as well as my personal adoption journey.

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01:19:34,040 --> 01:19:38,519
Speaker 2: Despite those accolades, the greatest award for me is truly

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01:19:38,640 --> 01:19:44,320
Speaker 2: providing the infrastructure for a transformed life. Visit Kingdomroyal dot

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Speaker 2: com for more details, Crown of King and make a

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Speaker 2: donation today. I hope you enjoyed this episode of the

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01:19:58,000 --> 01:20:03,480
Speaker 2: Dear Future Wife podcast. Remember be lit, live intentionally and transparently,

1574
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Speaker 2: and don't stop loving.

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1576
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