Speaker 1: People would assume that you're only interested in what people
Speaker 1: would commercially call a team. What would you say about that?
Speaker 2: I realized that a lot of really beautiful women, the
Speaker 2: ig baddies that y'all might call it's a headache. I
Speaker 2: prioritize peace instead of just looking at the exterior of
Speaker 2: a woman and considering that true beauty and actually looking
Speaker 2: at other aspects. I've been able to grow a lot.
Speaker 3: Do you still have an idea or a physical type?
Speaker 3: And I don't actually want you to say what it
Speaker 3: is if you do, I.
Speaker 2: Don't think I have a type out dated women from
Speaker 2: all over the world. Yes, I like a woman who
Speaker 2: really is presentable, dresses herself nicely, carries herself well. I'm
Speaker 2: always attracted to that, So yeah, I would say that's
Speaker 2: my type. I love how you're talking in town.
Speaker 1: We keep trying to lead you to a physical you
Speaker 1: start talking about the internal part of a one, because that's.
Speaker 2: What I've learned throughout this journey. When I used to date,
Speaker 2: I was just caught on lust. But I shared with
Speaker 2: you behind closed doors how I started to my abstinence journey.
Speaker 2: I'm eight months now, and that helped me a lot
Speaker 2: with just seeing past the vessel, increasing my discernment, just
Speaker 2: really being able to pick apart what's actually going on, not
Speaker 2: being just trated by what's right in front of me.
Speaker 1: What are the things that people really just get wrong
Speaker 1: about you? What started as a search for understanding became
Speaker 1: a journey of transformation. Every letter that I wrote led
Speaker 1: me to this day. The day I got married November
Speaker 1: the twenty second, twenty twenty five.
Speaker 4: Dear my forever, Forever is a long time. That's how
Speaker 4: long I'll love you. Those lyrics echo through every fiber
Speaker 4: of my soul at the very thought of you.
Speaker 1: This journey has culminated with you as both the award
Speaker 1: and the reward of my pursuit of love. You are
Speaker 1: the award, the honor God placed before me, the recognition
Speaker 1: of growth, healing and becoming the man I needed to be.
Speaker 4: And you are the reward, the blessing given after endurance,
Speaker 4: the gift promised to those who refuse to faint.
Speaker 1: This isn't just our story, this is for all of us.
Speaker 1: I'm a Terrasaur Whitfield.
Speaker 5: I'm Ashley are Whitfield.
Speaker 4: Welcome to the podcast.
Speaker 1: Did y'all enjoy that? We gotta keep it real. We
Speaker 1: gotta keep it real. So this brother I saw a
Speaker 1: video that went viral this past week. It came in
Speaker 1: my news feed, and the way I was notified of
Speaker 1: this video is that he made a video saying that
Speaker 1: he was out of a relationship and that he and
Speaker 1: his ex girlfriend have planned on attending a wedding and Portugal,
Speaker 1: and since the relationship was over, he was gonna have
Speaker 1: to attend it by himself. And he was so listening
Speaker 1: his social media audience saying, Hey, if you're interested in
Speaker 1: joining me, I want you to fill out this app
Speaker 1: and come join me. I got the hotel taking care
Speaker 1: of and come see me in Portugal. I'll pay for everything,
Speaker 1: I said. Hold on now. The reason why I found
Speaker 1: out about it because a bunch of my homegirls was
Speaker 1: in the comments talking about I'll go. I said, what
Speaker 1: you're talking about? You stranger danger, You're about to go
Speaker 1: meet this guy and go to a whole nother country.
Speaker 1: And people leaving funny comments saying either this is this
Speaker 1: is how I met my husband or this is how
Speaker 1: I got sex traffic. So you know it's either or so,
Speaker 1: without further ado, welcome to the Dear Future WIFEI Podcast. Sarky, ampem,
Speaker 1: put your hands together, y'all make some knowingse stand on
Speaker 1: your feet and welcome.
Speaker 6: Sarky, this brother tall and the mug. Ain't it good,
Speaker 6: Lord Sarky?
Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, how tallow you six seven six seven six
Speaker 1: that say she'd have been in the segment before this
Speaker 1: with girls saying she wants somebody over six too. So listen, Sorky,
Speaker 1: how you doing today? You good? I'm good man, can't complain.
Speaker 1: Let let the people know where do you live? What? What?
Speaker 6: What?
Speaker 1: What city do you live?
Speaker 2: I'm based here in New York City. I live in
Speaker 2: my Haven, South Bronx. Yeah, yeah, so you went from
Speaker 2: the Bronx here.
Speaker 1: No tripping over here, y'all.
Speaker 5: Are somebody's racing there?
Speaker 1: One person hand right there? Why y'all say it like that?
Speaker 1: The Bronx is real.
Speaker 3: Far because it took three hours to get here.
Speaker 1: Long trip. So, Saky, the video that I'm referencing, you
Speaker 1: posted a video saying that you're looking for a date,
Speaker 1: and it was during labor day? What made you and
Speaker 1: what prompted you to make that video?
Speaker 2: I make videos all the time, so I didn't really
Speaker 2: think anything of it. I was just kind of like
Speaker 2: having fun with it. I was like, let me see
Speaker 2: how people react. I thought I was going to get
Speaker 2: laughed off the internet, because usually that's what happens. But
Speaker 2: you know, people kind of reacted the way they didn't.
Speaker 2: I'm surprised. I was called off guard, honestly, know.
Speaker 1: You said the way they did, how did they react?
Speaker 1: It was crazy.
Speaker 2: The DMS comments over ten thousand comments, the dms over
Speaker 2: six hundred.
Speaker 1: I can't even get through all of them.
Speaker 2: I'm still going through them my homegirls and helping me
Speaker 2: kind of filter through.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy. And so what are women saying in
Speaker 1: your dms? The stuff that you can say in church.
Speaker 1: I'm just talking about you can say in church. It's
Speaker 1: just ranges from things like pick me.
Speaker 2: People sending emails to my work email with resumes with
Speaker 2: your pictures on it.
Speaker 1: And it's crazy, man, they're sending it to your work email,
Speaker 1: my work email.
Speaker 2: I'm getting WhatsApp numbers because they're looking up my numbers
Speaker 2: through work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so they doing research and finding out how to
Speaker 1: get in contact with you because they're like, they don't
Speaker 1: want to compete with the messages in the DMS, so
Speaker 1: they're trying to find other way it's LinkedIn too, it's
Speaker 1: LinkedIn coming to professional rap? How many y'all got linked in?
Speaker 1: Look at y'all? So they say they're gonna slide into LinkedIn.
Speaker 1: So you've been So you've been sifting through a lot
Speaker 1: of those comments. Has anybody caught your eye? Yeah?
Speaker 2: This is a few.
Speaker 1: And so what is your approach? I was talking to
Speaker 1: you earlier this week and I said, now, Sorky, are
Speaker 1: you the type that just looks at women's profile if
Speaker 1: you meet them on the street, that you just look
Speaker 1: and smile. Are you a one that would shoot your shot?
Speaker 1: What did you say? Shoot my shot? Man? So you
Speaker 1: would shoot your shot? Have you always been like that?
Speaker 1: Or have you been intimidated?
Speaker 2: I think I was intimidated when I was younger, but
Speaker 2: then once I started kind of gaining that confidence growing up,
Speaker 2: especially like in college, because you shoot your shot a
Speaker 2: lot in college.
Speaker 1: You get a lot of no's.
Speaker 2: And then I got into sales after that I kept
Speaker 2: hearing no and then yeah, from that point on, man,
Speaker 2: I just shot my shot all the time.
Speaker 1: Say shoot the shot all the time. And so have
Speaker 1: you ever are you a person that's marriage minded? Do
Speaker 1: you desire marriage for sure? Why?
Speaker 2: Because of the home that I grew up in. Both
Speaker 2: my parents were married until my father passed unfortunately. So
Speaker 2: that's what I've seen, and that example is something that
Speaker 2: I want to carry on.
Speaker 1: What value do you think marriage brings to you or
Speaker 1: would bring to you as a man?
Speaker 2: Structure, faith, purpose. I want to create a family. I
Speaker 2: want to pass on my culture and the values that
Speaker 2: I've been taught for my parents onto them. Responsibility. I
Speaker 2: think these are things that definitely would feel.
Speaker 1: Free to jumping in time you feel like asked if
Speaker 1: you have you have a question in your mind.
Speaker 5: I didn't.
Speaker 1: Okay, well you ain't got to let the people know
Speaker 1: where are you from? Where's where's your background culturally?
Speaker 2: Ghano West Africa?
Speaker 1: We got some Ghandians in here. Yeah, and so your culture?
Speaker 1: What does your culture look like? Or when you're choosing
Speaker 1: a partner, does your mom have an opinion on it?
Speaker 2: Absolutely tell me how my mom extended family.
Speaker 1: Everybody want to get involved and play that out for us.
Speaker 1: What would happen if you met a woman that you
Speaker 1: really liked and you brought her home to mom and
Speaker 1: Mom said, no, I'm not feeling her. I have to
Speaker 1: hear her out.
Speaker 2: Man I've realized that my heart and my mind have
Speaker 2: led me astray a lot in life. I don't know
Speaker 2: it all. So if my mom, who knows me very well,
Speaker 2: see something wrong in someone, I'll want to figure out why.
Speaker 2: But doesn't mean I'm just automatically going to cancel out
Speaker 2: the woman, but I would definitely hear her out.
Speaker 3: Oh no, Now I have a question, So do you
Speaker 3: as a man? We hear a lot about women having lists?
Speaker 3: Do you have a list?
Speaker 2: I do have a list. There's certain criteria that's important
Speaker 2: to me. The most important that I realized I wasn't
Speaker 2: applying in past relationships was really like does a woman
Speaker 2: live by godly principles?
Speaker 1: Thanks? God wasn't the.
Speaker 2: Center of my relationships, And I feel like that's why
Speaker 2: they all crumbled, and God wants me to kind of,
Speaker 2: you know, really implement that moving on forward. So now
Speaker 2: that's the number one thing I look for. And then
Speaker 2: after that is really what kind of home do they
Speaker 2: come from? What's their relationship like with the father? How
Speaker 2: do they view men? Do they hate men? Because I've
Speaker 2: been running into that a lot in dating, and it's
Speaker 2: kind of like, well, I have no shot here if
Speaker 2: you just hate men, then why might even here?
Speaker 5: Yeah, what about physically physically tall?
Speaker 2: Because I'm six seven so five eight?
Speaker 1: En up? Yeah, like I said, oh man, but if.
Speaker 2: I was to meet someone that was short and everything else,
Speaker 2: you know, you never know, man, God just for the surprises,
Speaker 2: So I can't canceler everybody.
Speaker 1: What about physically as far as attraction? You know, you
Speaker 1: and I had a conversation about that that people would
Speaker 1: assume that you're only interested in what people would commercially
Speaker 1: call a ten, and you made a whole video that
Speaker 1: you sent me about that. What would you say about that?
Speaker 2: You're talking about the that the tens and they'll choose
Speaker 2: a six or something for peace?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I've realized that a lot.
Speaker 2: Of really beautiful women, the ig batties that y'all might
Speaker 2: call it's a headache, they come with a lot of stuff,
Speaker 2: and mostly because I track them because my physique, they
Speaker 2: assume I'm also an athlete. I'm still I'm playing with
Speaker 2: that same pool, and obviously I don't make twenty million
Speaker 2: a year, so it's stressful for me. So I prioritize peace.
Speaker 2: And I've realized that, you know, instead of just looking
Speaker 2: at the exterior of a woman and considering that true
Speaker 2: beauty and actually looking at other aspects. I've been able
Speaker 2: to grow a lot, and I've met a lot of
Speaker 2: beautiful women.
Speaker 3: But I want to unpack that a little bit. Go
Speaker 3: ahead and clap yeah, crab crab crap when you say
Speaker 3: a six or seven. Do you still because we talk
Speaker 3: about this on the podcast, do you still have an
Speaker 3: idea or a physical type? And I don't actually want
Speaker 3: you to say what it is if you do, but
Speaker 3: I do want to know if you do have a
Speaker 3: type when it comes to women.
Speaker 2: I asked my friends this all the time because I
Speaker 2: don't think I have a type. I've dated women from
Speaker 2: all over the world. You know, I grew up in
Speaker 2: Ghana that I went to the UK and I came here,
Speaker 2: so I was in boarding schools. I was around a
Speaker 2: lot of different types of people. So I've dated almost
Speaker 2: every race. But in terms of like an aesthetic look,
Speaker 2: I think, yes, I like a woman who really is presentable,
Speaker 2: addresses herself nicely, carries herself well. I'm always attracted to that, confident, ambitious,
Speaker 2: So yeah, I would say that's my type.
Speaker 5: That's good, that's.
Speaker 1: Interesting, and I love how you're talking in town. We
Speaker 1: keep trying to lead you to a physical you start
Speaker 1: talking about the internal part.
Speaker 2: Of a one, because that's what I've learned throughout this journey.
Speaker 1: That's good.
Speaker 5: Back before when you used to date.
Speaker 2: When I used to date, I was just caught on
Speaker 2: lusts man, But I shared with you behind closed doors,
Speaker 2: started my ass in his journey and I'm in eight
Speaker 2: months now, thank you, Thanks loud.
Speaker 1: He said, he started absinence journey and he's eight months in,
Speaker 1: Praise the Lord.
Speaker 2: And that helped me a lot with just seeing past
Speaker 2: the vessel, increasing my discernment, just really being a pick
Speaker 2: apart what's actually going on, not being distracted by what's
Speaker 2: right in front of me.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so far, so good.
Speaker 3: And I think that's so good what you said just
Speaker 3: about prioritizing the values, the core values, which Hubby talks
Speaker 3: about in his book Student of Love. But the reason
Speaker 3: why is I tell this story is that in sickness
Speaker 3: and in health is so true. And I remember when
Speaker 3: he was with me during a very tough time dealing
Speaker 3: with my fibroids. And when I tell you all of
Speaker 3: that physical stuff and the six figures, isn't there when
Speaker 3: you're you know, on the floor crying, or you need
Speaker 3: someone who's going to show up and love you. And
Speaker 3: so I just want to celebrate you King for saying
Speaker 3: it's not always about that, especially when you say people
Speaker 3: say that you would prioritize that, or that you've healed
Speaker 3: from that, right, you've come out of that, because it
Speaker 3: really is about like how you get to thirty forty
Speaker 3: years with this person who's going to be with you
Speaker 3: not on your best days but your worst days.
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Amen, Amen, Louie, that's real.
Speaker 1: What are some things that people really just get wrong
Speaker 1: about you? Like they may see you on social media,
Speaker 1: they see your videos going viral, they see you growing,
Speaker 1: they look at the aesthetics of you, and what is
Speaker 1: it that you just wish that they really knew about you?
Speaker 2: They think I'm doing it for attention. They think I'm phony.
Speaker 2: I get all these dms, so I see what people saying,
Speaker 2: but it's the end of that. I can't get caught
Speaker 2: up on what people think about me. And people's opinions say,
Speaker 2: thank your phony.
Speaker 1: So if they think that you're not really truly desiring
Speaker 1: a real solid relationship.
Speaker 2: Correct, they think I'm just doing it for clout. But
Speaker 2: I guess some creators do do that. So I can't
Speaker 2: you know, I can't fault them for thinking that.
Speaker 1: Uh, give them your Instagram, tell them your Instagram page.
Speaker 3: Does anyone before we do that? Does anyone already know it?
Speaker 3: No one's going to raise their hand.
Speaker 1: Good that over there, she said, she knew she pulled
Speaker 1: up right the flower on the front. I was up there.
Speaker 2: It's on the flower, it was up there earlier. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so so pull Yeah, it's just my name, Sarry key anthem.
Speaker 2: So if you just type that in it should come up.
Speaker 1: So I want you all to see a picture of
Speaker 1: him laying on the line chair with his shirt all
Speaker 1: off in some swim trunks, and you can tell me
Speaker 1: if he thirst trapping.
Speaker 4: Uh.
Speaker 1: And so I want you to tell me how you're
Speaker 1: curating your story on social media.
Speaker 2: Well, it all started from a breakup about a little
Speaker 2: over a year ago. I just wanted to kind of
Speaker 2: find an outlet to just talk. I didn't know where
Speaker 2: it was going to go. I didn't know what it
Speaker 2: was going to lead to. But I honestly, one day
Speaker 2: I just heard a voice was being like, start and
Speaker 2: see where it goes.
Speaker 1: I was scared.
Speaker 2: I started doing that. I started getting some feedback. I
Speaker 2: started realizing a lot of people were connecting with it.
Speaker 2: It was helping a lot of men out there that
Speaker 2: we also dming me. They were shy talking about man,
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna start doing content and then yeah,
Speaker 2: one thing will led to another and somehow I'm sitting
Speaker 2: here talking to you guys.
Speaker 1: And so you started because after a breakup, you wanted
Speaker 1: to and it was interesting because the journey that you
Speaker 1: and I shared. You say, I want to just be
Speaker 1: transparent with the world. You said, you want to use
Speaker 1: your social media platform to say this is who I am,
Speaker 1: and journey with me through my own healing. And you
Speaker 1: said something so key a minute ago. You said that
Speaker 1: it was a little fearful when you start off. Why
Speaker 1: is it so fearful? Because a lot of men can
Speaker 1: attest to this, and I say, a lot of people
Speaker 1: period to show up in vulnerability, especially on social media.
Speaker 1: Why is that such a fearful thing. I know it's
Speaker 1: just judgment from others.
Speaker 2: I felt like I was going to be perceived as
Speaker 2: soft and not a man, especially just being a black man.
Speaker 2: I feel like it's a lot that's on us. And
Speaker 2: so yeah, that definitely scared me. But at the same time,
Speaker 2: how I was feeling, I'll weighed that fear and that's
Speaker 2: what ultimately made me just you know, go for it.
Speaker 3: And what kinds of testimonies are you hearing? Since you've
Speaker 3: kind of been building your page and being transparent, my.
Speaker 2: Story has helped a lot of people get back into
Speaker 2: the relationships or leave toxic relationships, which I didn't expect
Speaker 2: that to happen at all.
Speaker 1: I was just telling my story.
Speaker 2: So it's amazing how many people can connect to something
Speaker 2: that you're going through. You're actually never going through things
Speaker 2: alone like people can relate. So it also encouraged me
Speaker 2: and taught me to vent and share more with other
Speaker 2: people because you'd be surprised who can actually relate to
Speaker 2: your story. And it's people from like Australia, Pakistan, like
Speaker 2: all around the world that reaching out to me, and
Speaker 2: you'd never think that they'll connect with someone who's from Ghana.
Speaker 1: I want you to share the heart of men. In
Speaker 1: the first segment, we Daryl said that a lot of
Speaker 1: men don't approach women because they're afraid, they're fearful of rejection.
Speaker 1: What would you say to that when you especially speaking
Speaker 1: about your homeboys or you're in a circle. You say
Speaker 1: you ain't afraid, you've heard rejection. You're in sales, and
Speaker 1: sales I was in sales. You got to get used
Speaker 1: to hearing no, and so that can fashion you not
Speaker 1: to take stuff personally. But what do you feel like
Speaker 1: with a lot of men out there afraid or ain't
Speaker 1: gonna say afraid the reason why they don't approach.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think because my friend group, we all approach,
Speaker 2: So I don't know. I'm just trying to think of
Speaker 2: other times when I didn't approach. But sometimes a lot
Speaker 2: of women are saying they don't want to be approached,
Speaker 2: and a lot of women have body languages that are
Speaker 2: very close off. If you go to the bar, the
Speaker 2: arms are folded, they're kind of like shining away, so
Speaker 2: it's almost like, well, she doesn't look like she wants
Speaker 2: to have a conversation, why even go over there. So
Speaker 2: I feel like if a lot of women were more
Speaker 2: inviting and their energy, maybe if they want to be approached,
Speaker 2: just open up a little bit more, smile, give some
Speaker 2: eye contact, give us some signals, and that would encourage
Speaker 2: men to come up to them. How did you feel
Speaker 2: about a woman shooting they shot at you, shoot shoot,
Speaker 2: shoot away, all right, So you open to it.
Speaker 1: I'm open to it. It happens, It happens.
Speaker 3: Have you ever dated someone who shot their shot at
Speaker 3: you first?
Speaker 1: Yes? Did you date them intentionally? I wasn't.
Speaker 2: I wasn't planning on dating them. It just happened. It
Speaker 2: was one of those things. It was kind of like
Speaker 2: I'm having some fun and before I knew it, I
Speaker 2: was wrapped up in it.
Speaker 5: But did you find that it changed the way you
Speaker 5: pursued them at all?
Speaker 1: That's a great question.
Speaker 2: I'm thinking about the most recent situation, the most recent situation, No,
Speaker 2: but situations before.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Why do you think that is?
Speaker 2: Because I felt like it came easy, that's the truth. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I felt like, oh this came easy. Like she on
Speaker 2: my body, you know, yeah, I can kind of get
Speaker 2: away with some stuff.
Speaker 1: So yeah, you said on your level.
Speaker 2: No, No, it's like she was on me.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, she was a pro to you.
Speaker 5: Yes, she was all a boning.
Speaker 1: You said it came too easy. Yeah, So do you
Speaker 1: like a chase? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think it's important. Why that's just how That's just
Speaker 2: how I've experienced life. I've always worked hard for things
Speaker 2: and I get reward for like work, success, like all
Speaker 2: that stuff. So I kind of view relationships in the
Speaker 2: same way. I kind of want to put a little
Speaker 2: effort in and see, you know what reward is given back.
Speaker 2: This is good women, y'all.
Speaker 1: Hear that?
Speaker 2: Good?
Speaker 1: He teaching y'all this free game.
Speaker 3: How many lad in the audience feel like it's okay?
Speaker 3: Like you don't mind shooting your shot? This is still
Speaker 3: a safe space.
Speaker 1: A couple of them. And I want you all to
Speaker 1: come up at the end, and I want you all
Speaker 1: to share because I love different perspectives. They should shoot
Speaker 1: and then let us know how you shoot. What does
Speaker 1: that look like?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you should shoot because Instagram send the DM you
Speaker 2: never know.
Speaker 1: But what when you say shoot? What does that look
Speaker 1: like in the DM? Is it a direct? Hey, listen, handsome,
Speaker 1: I would like to take you out to dinner? Is
Speaker 1: don't come? Don't come? Like that.
Speaker 5: Like to take you out to dinner?
Speaker 1: All about if the man?
Speaker 2: If the man finds you attractive, it doesn't matter what
Speaker 2: you say, same the same vice versa. Just shoot the shot.
Speaker 2: Just let them see that you exist and you're right there.
Speaker 2: Then they'll they'll respond.
Speaker 5: But how forward should you be.
Speaker 2: It doesn't always have to be about like how they look.
Speaker 2: You can find something else from your page and just
Speaker 2: touch on that. Like a lot of people trying to
Speaker 2: come at me through the real estate angle because they
Speaker 2: know I'm Asian, like, oh, I'm looking for some property
Speaker 2: or if you could office some mentorship, and you know
Speaker 2: that could work. I've done business like that, so I
Speaker 2: don't turn down those dms.
Speaker 1: Don't get any ideas.
Speaker 5: Free game, right there, ladies, So.
Speaker 1: So are you hopeful? I always ask people, especially well,
Speaker 1: do you mind telling people how old you are? Oh?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm thirty four, just turned thirty four in June.
Speaker 2: Just turn thirty four in June.
Speaker 5: And what's your dating age range?
Speaker 2: That's a great question because I've realized lately I've been
Speaker 2: kind of eyeing older older women. And I don't know
Speaker 2: why that is, because usually, yeah, I would think about.
Speaker 1: Going was older old? Ain't thirty five is over that?
Speaker 1: I know you're talking about older life forty thirty eight
Speaker 1: to like forty two.
Speaker 2: I've had conversations with them, but yeah, I'll say age
Speaker 2: range twenty seven and forty just up to forty two
Speaker 2: seven to forty two that age range.
Speaker 1: Yeah, forty two. All right, how many y'all thirty twenty
Speaker 1: seven to forty two out there? Rage hen, rage hen? Yeah,
Speaker 1: is there their head down in the Franks? And so
Speaker 1: before were you? Have you always been like that? Because
Speaker 1: you said that lately you started opening your mind up
Speaker 1: to older. What was the age cap at first?
Speaker 2: Man, I don't even feel comfortable. It was definitely like
Speaker 2: twenty three twenty two to my age. So you never
Speaker 2: went older.
Speaker 1: So what what do you feel like when you're talking
Speaker 1: to a woman that's old in you? What value are
Speaker 1: you getting from those conversations? I just I just feel heard,
Speaker 1: I feel understood.
Speaker 2: I feel like they they've been through a lot in life,
Speaker 2: they understand struggle. And also they have a lot of
Speaker 2: wisdom with them. They teach me a lot of things.
Speaker 2: I like to be taught. I don't know it all.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's good.
Speaker 1: That's good. And so as we continue to impact this conversation,
Speaker 1: you said something key when we were doing a pre interview.
Speaker 1: You said that a lot of the women, especially like
Speaker 1: in the City of New York, they're approaching you and
Speaker 1: they're expecting a lot of things early on from a
Speaker 1: financial standpoint.
Speaker 2: Yeah, touch on that Yeah. I think it's just because
Speaker 2: of the nature of my job and how I look.
Speaker 2: I think they just assume, like, Okay, you might be
Speaker 2: an athlete or you're successful in your job, and I'm
Speaker 2: attracting the same woman that I'm saying they're talking to. Maybe,
Speaker 2: you know, a superstars start playing the league, so they're
Speaker 2: used to a certain type of treatment. These guys are
Speaker 2: tricking on them, and they expect me to do the
Speaker 2: same because that's just what they're used to. So I
Speaker 2: kind of can't fault them for that. But that's why
Speaker 2: I said I really needed to work on my discernment
Speaker 2: and start choosing the right women and not keep going
Speaker 2: after the same thing and failing at it.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, no clap for.
Speaker 5: That, ladies. How many of you have salary requirements?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Raygiane, don't be scared of the white. I see
Speaker 1: you in the white. Kind of hold your hand up
Speaker 1: a little bit.
Speaker 5: A couple, Yeah, okay, maybe we should do it the
Speaker 5: other way.
Speaker 3: How many say it doesn't matter what he makes as
Speaker 3: long as my core our core values, we share the
Speaker 3: same core values.
Speaker 1: Rage Anne? All right, cool, and I want you to
Speaker 1: remember these because I want to talk about this at
Speaker 1: the end of the Q and A on both sides.
Speaker 1: Why And I want you to own your decision. This
Speaker 1: is this is this is how you think, This is
Speaker 1: how you see life. And I want to hear that.
Speaker 2: That's a good Yeah, that's a good one. Because I
Speaker 2: went on a date and the girl makes about one
Speaker 2: hundred and fifteen K. So I asked her what, you
Speaker 2: know her requirements were, and she said a man should
Speaker 2: be making around five hundred two about a million. She
Speaker 2: doesn't want to have to spend her money. She's going
Speaker 2: to take some years off work obviously when the kids
Speaker 2: are born, and so he's got to hold it down
Speaker 2: for her lifestyle and his because her money is her money.
Speaker 2: His money is our money. And that's what we're dealing
Speaker 2: with out there.
Speaker 1: Man, they clapping, y'all, y'all agree with that raise hand
Speaker 1: y'all agree with that. Your money is your money and
Speaker 1: his money is y'all money.
Speaker 5: I see some hands.
Speaker 3: So from a man's perspective, since we don't have as
Speaker 3: many men in the room, why was that problematic?
Speaker 2: I just felt like it was a selfish approach. That's
Speaker 2: a different way to go about that. Obviously, man want
Speaker 2: to provide, we want to feel like we're respected, that
Speaker 2: we're valued.
Speaker 1: That's all it is.
Speaker 2: If a man knows that you expect his money, you
Speaker 2: value him, he'll give you the world. But I feel
Speaker 2: like a lot of these modern day girls just have
Speaker 2: the wrong approach to it.
Speaker 5: And how can you be a helpmate if you want help?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that is so key, y'all clap it up
Speaker 1: for my blue thang. God said I will give you
Speaker 1: a suitable helper. And a lot of times it just
Speaker 1: my spirit when I hear women say, well, I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna help build, and I can empathize with y'all on
Speaker 1: a certain level. It's because some of y'all tried that
Speaker 1: with the wrong man, messed up your credit, your car
Speaker 1: got repolled. He done wrecked your car, and then couldn't
Speaker 1: put nothing on it, not even the couldn't pay for
Speaker 1: nothing to get done. And so I understand that you
Speaker 1: tried it with the wrong person in the backfire, but
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, don't make your future husband pay for
Speaker 1: what the other guy did. That God crafted you, He
Speaker 1: fashioned you to be a suitable helper and say not
Speaker 1: build without wisdom. I'm talking about build with wisdom. When
Speaker 1: God aligns you with that person. He may not have
Speaker 1: it all together in the way that you see together being.
Speaker 1: You know, in your mind, you may be like like
Speaker 1: he was saying that, from a financial standpoint, you may
Speaker 1: have an ideology that he has to make five hundred
Speaker 1: thousand to a million dollars. You know, you're looking for
Speaker 1: the one percent it's called the one percent, or you're
Speaker 1: looking for the one percent, and then you get mad
Speaker 1: at God because he hasn't introduced you to your husband yet,
Speaker 1: and Gods, he looked for one percent. Now I can
Speaker 1: make miracles happen.
Speaker 3: And then to someone who thinks that way. Unfortunately, if
Speaker 3: he has it all figured out, why does he need you?
Speaker 3: Where is your value? Where is your Proverbs thirty one?
Speaker 3: Where is your multiplication? So ideally you want to find
Speaker 3: someone who you can multiply with so that it's evident
Speaker 3: what your purpose is in his life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's real key which about to say, I'm glad
Speaker 2: that she said that because I realized that through a
Speaker 2: dating that a lot of women want a finished product.
Speaker 2: They don't want to grow the man anymore. It's just like,
Speaker 2: are you where you're supposed to be?
Speaker 1: Great?
Speaker 2: Like, pick me up and let's go, and so that's
Speaker 2: become a problem and you.
Speaker 1: Don't realize the value comes in the evolution, the growth process.
Speaker 1: That's where he'll find. He'll find you and'll be like, man,
Speaker 1: you was with me while I was still shooting in
Speaker 1: the gym. You know what I'm saying. That's the value
Speaker 1: of it. But if he already got together, I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: I have a lot of friends that are wealthy. They'll
Speaker 1: switch you out so quick because they can just go
Speaker 1: purchase another woman. Because that's all it took. He purchased you.
Speaker 1: You didn't realize it. And so it's the difference between
Speaker 1: and I hate it when I hear so many people
Speaker 1: talk about the high value man, the high value woman,
Speaker 1: and most of those things that they call how value
Speaker 1: is just monetary. And I don't ever believe that people's
Speaker 1: value is based on monetary. I want you to have
Speaker 1: high values, not to be a high value man or woman.
Speaker 1: And so you need to have high values. And a
Speaker 1: lot of times people are overlooking the high value man
Speaker 1: the high value woman because society, secular society taught us
Speaker 1: or programmed us what a high value man or woman is.
Speaker 1: And so I come against that spirit right now, the
Speaker 1: name of Jesus for that to fall off your eyes,
Speaker 1: and God give you the gift of discermon. So when
Speaker 1: God aligns you with your purpose partner, you're able to
Speaker 1: see him. You're able to see her through that lens
Speaker 1: in the eyesight of Christ. That's what I speak of
Speaker 1: your life today.
Speaker 5: Sorry, I have a question.
Speaker 3: So a lot of men that are highly sought after
Speaker 3: have difficulty today committing to one person. And I hear
Speaker 3: all these stories from women who say that they want
Speaker 3: to have, you know, one on the bench, one here.
Speaker 5: They want to switch them out.
Speaker 3: Talk about the process that you went through to be
Speaker 3: able to say that you can or you are ready
Speaker 3: to commit to one woman. Because we know that the
Speaker 3: longer you wait to get married, the less likely you
Speaker 3: will get married, and the more stuck in your ways
Speaker 3: you'll be. So what makes you know that you can
Speaker 3: be committed, be faithful, and have one woman.
Speaker 2: That's a great question. I would say, it's just my upbringing.
Speaker 2: I grew up in the church. My foundation was already laid.
Speaker 2: Of course, I want to have fun as I'm growing up,
Speaker 2: figuring out who I am as a man, find myself stuff.
Speaker 2: But ultimately I went right back to my programming from
Speaker 2: the beginning. So it's up to it to my parents.
Speaker 2: That's why I got to give to I gotta give
Speaker 2: to my parents for sure.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And do you have an accountability circle or a pastor
Speaker 3: that you like who holds you accountable to them?
Speaker 2: I have my one of my brothers that I live
Speaker 2: I live with. I have my mother, but obviously sometimes
Speaker 2: I can't talk to moms about all that stuff. So
Speaker 2: my brother and then my best friend, Justin he's married,
Speaker 2: successful marriage. I was the best man at his wedding,
Speaker 2: and yeah, we talk about a lot of marriagetuff. I've
Speaker 2: seen so much him and his wife going through ups
Speaker 2: and downs, they've had children and still through it all. Man,
Speaker 2: they stick together. So I've learned a lot from him.
Speaker 3: I love that just because a lot of women are
Speaker 3: in situationships or they've been dating someone for five, seven,
Speaker 3: ten years and they're still not where they want to be.
Speaker 3: And so I think that just even hearing you as
Speaker 3: a young man having accountability circle is so powerful because
Speaker 3: if you're not if you don't know where you're going,
Speaker 3: the truth is you're not going anywhere.
Speaker 1: That's true. They mean, ask you this, if God brings
Speaker 1: you your person. You're able to see her, you know
Speaker 1: she sent by God, you vetted her through your accountability circle,
Speaker 1: your mom approved, gave you the thumbs up. I know
Speaker 1: where this is going. I'm out the game. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: out the game. How long will it take you for
Speaker 1: you to be out the game? How long will it
Speaker 1: take for you to put a ring on her finger?
Speaker 2: Okay, so this one, this one's interesting because.
Speaker 1: It's tricky.
Speaker 2: If I go by the church rules, we can't really
Speaker 2: quite live together. And so I got to figure out
Speaker 2: a way to really know her daily habits and everything
Speaker 2: like that. And how much time is it going to
Speaker 2: get me trigger that out? So I would say, let's
Speaker 2: add meet a woman with with going on dates we
Speaker 2: started seeing each other, I'll probably go through about three.
Speaker 2: I'll give like three months of that. I should know
Speaker 2: after that time, like, all right, this is someone I
Speaker 2: want to actually be very exclusive with and intentionally like
Speaker 2: really build for the future together. Then a year after that,
Speaker 2: I'll probably propose.
Speaker 1: So you said, so about a year and four months,
Speaker 1: about a year and a half, year and a half,
Speaker 1: And you said, because I like when I listened to
Speaker 1: language of people, you said, if you went by the
Speaker 1: church rules. What rules do you go by. I'm in
Speaker 1: the church, so I go by the church rules. When
Speaker 1: we stepped on the other side of this church, when
Speaker 1: you go by some different rules, I'll go by the
Speaker 1: church rules, man. And so it's interesting because people say
Speaker 1: that a lot. They'll say, I need to see their
Speaker 1: daily habits. Why do you think that's important?
Speaker 2: Because that day to day man, it's a lot like living.
Speaker 2: When someone's a lot, I've done it before. You really
Speaker 2: see who they are twenty four to seven. It's not
Speaker 2: just like, oh, they came on the day and they're
Speaker 2: looking pretty and the happy. You get to see the good,
Speaker 2: the bad, the ugly. You get to see your habits,
Speaker 2: how messy she is in the bathroom, no apolish here,
Speaker 2: that is there? Like all those little things matter. And
Speaker 2: also my habits too, like does it work out? And
Speaker 2: what do we need to adjust? And once you realize
Speaker 2: you got to make that adjustment, sometimes that breaks a relationship.
Speaker 1: So when you said this is interesting, I love having
Speaker 1: this conversation. So you lived with a woman outside of
Speaker 1: God's will. It didn't work, but you have a fear
Speaker 1: of doing things in God's will and it not working.
Speaker 1: Because of daily habits. And sometimes I like to give
Speaker 1: voice to that because oftentimes we look at things of
Speaker 1: not working and go, see they were messing those daily
Speaker 1: habits the key to it. Yes, we're all different. We're
Speaker 1: all different. I can tell you in that eight months
Speaker 1: that Ashley and I have been married, we're totally different.
Speaker 1: She's a whole lot more neater than I am. It's
Speaker 1: more organis. That's about all I'm gonna say. But and
Speaker 1: so the reality is that those are the differences. Differences
Speaker 1: aren't deficits. And sometimes in those differences, that's how you
Speaker 1: can grow and find oneness with each other. You hear
Speaker 1: the all time. You hear couples that have been married
Speaker 1: for years that say, somebody likes squeeze the two paste
Speaker 1: from the bottom, somebody else likes squeezing the two paste
Speaker 1: from the top or the middle. And that can cause
Speaker 1: a total breakup in the relationship. But it's not the
Speaker 1: two paste. It's underlying issues somebody doesn't like. I remember
Speaker 1: when Ashley and I first got married. I've been single
Speaker 1: for a long time. I keep the toilet seat up,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. She was like, why don't
Speaker 1: you just why don't you. I get up in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night and I fall in the toilet.
Speaker 1: I'm about to fall the toilet. I said, you got
Speaker 1: hands too, Why you can't google? You can't lower the
Speaker 1: toilet seat. I have to raise it up. You can't.
Speaker 1: You can't pull it down. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And it sounds so simple, But all I started doing
Speaker 1: was adjusting. I started adjusting. I even changed out the
Speaker 1: toilet seats so you get those little quiet, closed ones.
Speaker 1: So I just slap it and let it go. H
Speaker 1: By the time I'm in the bed, it done lowered
Speaker 1: by the end. But the reality was I had to
Speaker 1: learn to adjust, and it was a quick adjustment. If
Speaker 1: one person is clean, someone else is a little messy
Speaker 1: the other person. Since you're so clean, it shouldn't be
Speaker 1: a big problem with you picking up the mess or
Speaker 1: the person should be finding balance to say, all right, well,
Speaker 1: let me go ahead and lean more to you, and
Speaker 1: when your deficits I can pick up and be better then.
Speaker 1: And that's the beauty of marriage. So often we're trying
Speaker 1: to alacarc the struggle and say, if I do it
Speaker 1: this way, then maybe I can learn everything I need
Speaker 1: to learn. So they can be easier. And I'm here
Speaker 1: to tell you that in the process, in the process
Speaker 1: of it all, I'm not saying that it's easy, but
Speaker 1: it's worth it. That is, when you're you never lived
Speaker 1: with somebody before, y'all never lived with each other before.
Speaker 1: With everything else, Thank your Holy Spirit. When you go
Speaker 1: get a job, your first day, I'm a job, you
Speaker 1: don't know nothing. They give you somebody to shadow. They'll
Speaker 1: bring you somebody else to say, hey, I'm here it
Speaker 1: is it's Ashley Askedy's gonna show you the ropes around here.
Speaker 1: They're showing you the culture of what that job is.
Speaker 1: They introduce you to people and you give them the
Speaker 1: grace to take you into a whole new environment that
Speaker 1: is a part of your livelihood, to show you the
Speaker 1: run of the house. But in marriage, we want to
Speaker 1: fix it before we get there. And I just think
Speaker 1: we have things so backwards that if we really submit
Speaker 1: to the will of God, that this too shall pass,
Speaker 1: that the very thing that we're afraid of, those little
Speaker 1: habits that we have, it's so small and it becomes
Speaker 1: something that you laugh about six months later, eight months later,
Speaker 1: and your lady like you remember how messy you was
Speaker 1: you to I don't know why you just take clothes off,
Speaker 1: throw on the floor and then walk in the closet.
Speaker 1: You can't just pick up your clothes and throw on
Speaker 1: the dirty clothes hamper and then you find another opportunity
Speaker 1: to grow. You know what dang I did. Used to
Speaker 1: do that all the time. All right, Well, cool, as
Speaker 1: my suitable helper, how can you help me? And it's
Speaker 1: some things that I want to help you with as well,
Speaker 1: go ahead.
Speaker 3: And ask them, and it gives you the opportunity to
Speaker 3: grow in grace because now I know his heart. Right,
Speaker 3: he went out, he got a soft closed toilet seat.
Speaker 3: He's thinking about the toilet because I'm OCD. That's what
Speaker 3: he didn't want to say. I like things nice and clean,
Speaker 3: and I thrive in cleanliness. But it lets you see
Speaker 3: what kind of heart they have. So when you find
Speaker 3: someone and their heart is trying to please you, then
Speaker 3: when the toilet seed is up, you walk in and
Speaker 3: you just say, I know their heart they love me?
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, and you have the grace.
Speaker 2: To cover it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it'd be that serious. I ask you to come
Speaker 1: and she'll put you know how y'all women go tear
Speaker 1: the toilet it's toilet paper, and put it on the
Speaker 1: seat before you sit down. I said, you're doing way
Speaker 1: too much, you know, And so then you start learning. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: let me start wiping the toilet seed. It just gives
Speaker 1: you an opportunity to start learning. Is that, tim, I,
Speaker 1: because you started wiping the toilet seat, start doing all
Speaker 1: that stuff. But it just gives you an opportunity to serve.
Speaker 1: We have to understand that marriage is about service. It's
Speaker 1: about servitude. And I just want to encourage you to
Speaker 1: because a lot of times we try to figure everything
Speaker 1: out before time. And I love In the Bible, it
Speaker 1: says and as they went they were healed when Jesus heal.
Speaker 1: And as they went they were healed. They got the word,
Speaker 1: they got the healing, but the healing didn't fully manifest
Speaker 1: until they went. And so in marriage, that's what marriage
Speaker 1: is about. It's not about figuring everything out on the onset.
Speaker 1: It's about And as they went they were healed. They
Speaker 1: kept growing, They kept giving grace over situations, They kept
Speaker 1: rebuilding each other, they kept showing each other that they
Speaker 1: loved that. When they got upset, they came back to
Speaker 1: each other and allowed each other to heal each other's wounds,
Speaker 1: and that's what marriage is about. He was about to
Speaker 1: say something a minute ago. I don't remember. This is
Speaker 1: good tho. I'm loving the word. Amen. So as we
Speaker 1: wrap up, what is something that you would like to say?
Speaker 1: As we close.
Speaker 2: In terms of what's just like my dating life, and
Speaker 2: we spoke about a lot of different things, whatever you
Speaker 2: want to whatever comes to mind. I just appreciate you
Speaker 2: for bringing me here on this pod. Just throughout my
Speaker 2: journey of just making content, I had no idea what
Speaker 2: I was doing. Same thing in just life in general,
Speaker 2: I have no idea what I'm doing. But throughout the
Speaker 2: content I realized sometimes you just have to go into
Speaker 2: the dark and just you will be guided and land
Speaker 2: where you're supposed to. Life just has a funnier way
Speaker 2: of working out. It's just a whimsical way about life.
Speaker 2: Like I said earlier, I don't know how I ended
Speaker 2: up on this pod here in front of you guys.
Speaker 2: Hearing some stuff that both of you said is really
Speaker 2: actually inspired me. I'm going to go home think about
Speaker 2: some of the stuff, maybe watch this back, and I'm
Speaker 2: glad we could have this conversation in front of everyone. Here,
Speaker 2: and I hope they all got some gems from some
Speaker 2: gems from this.
Speaker 1: Sarky. I want to speak. I want to pray over
Speaker 1: you real quick, Heaven me found. I lift up my
Speaker 1: brother Sarky before you. God. God, you know the plans
Speaker 1: that you have for him, a plan to prosper him,
Speaker 1: to give him a great future and a great reward.
Speaker 1: So Lord, I ask right now the name of Jesus
Speaker 1: for you to continue to give him discernment that when
Speaker 1: you bring the woman that you have predestined for him,
Speaker 1: to say, I do to that it's beyond a shadow
Speaker 1: of a doubt that he knows that she is the one. God,
Speaker 1: I speak suddenly over his life right now in the
Speaker 1: name of this. This is not something that's delayed. I
Speaker 1: don't want to hear that he's forty five years old,
Speaker 1: still looking for his future Wifey, God, to ask right
Speaker 1: now the name of Jesus for you to do us
Speaker 1: suddenly give him wisdom, give them insight, give him grace
Speaker 1: for the woman that you bring into his life. And God,
Speaker 1: I speak right now that they do great exploits in
Speaker 1: your name, God, that they have a kingdom agenda, that
Speaker 1: they please you, that they glorify you, bring him a
Speaker 1: godly woman, bring him a virtuous woman of God, bring
Speaker 1: him a woman in his life. When she hears that
Speaker 1: he's abstinate, she doesn't see it as a child much
Speaker 1: for her to break his aptinist, but she sees it
Speaker 1: as something that you have brought into his life to
Speaker 1: even honor her. In the name of Jesus God, we
Speaker 1: thank you in advance for the testimony that's going to
Speaker 1: come forth. We give you all the praise, the glory,
Speaker 1: and the adoration. In Jesus' name, we pray, Hey man,
Speaker 1: everybody say, count it, so count it, so count it.
Speaker 1: So thank y'all so much. Listen, sarky, May the love
Speaker 1: you share today outlive the season you're in.
Speaker 3: May it carry you through the days when words are
Speaker 3: few and faith has.
Speaker 1: To do the talking. Y'all. Give it up a sarky y'all.
Speaker 1: Ladarian thrust it suddenly into child protective services. In twenty fifteen,
Speaker 1: my nephew, Black, a boy the likelihood have been adopted
Speaker 1: outside of kinship slim to none Rmione, sixteen years old,
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Speaker 1: There are just two many of our black children stuck
Speaker 1: in ambiguity and in the limbo of the Falter care system.
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Speaker 1: forward to twenty nineteen. I had no ties to this
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Speaker 1: Our at home curriculum will broaden their worldview through participating
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Speaker 1: We just launched our startup capital campaign with the goal
Speaker 1: of raising two point eight million dollars. Now why two
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Speaker 1: a web series in which I performed random acts of
Speaker 1: kindness for targeting the homeless community. One of the most
Speaker 1: notable successes was that one of the videos went viral,
Speaker 1: garnering twenty eight million views. However, one of my biggest
Speaker 1: regrets is that I didn't raise a single dollar to
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Speaker 1: So throughout the years, with much remorse, I reflect and
Speaker 1: on not maximizing that moment. I knew if at that
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Speaker 1: I'm a Terisarwheedfield. I've been nominated for three regional Emmys
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