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Speaker 4: Dear my forever, Forever is a long time.

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Speaker 2: This journey has culminated with you as both the award

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Speaker 1: By the way. They whole thing started before we was

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Speaker 2: No reason, to the wedding and everything he did.

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Speaker 1: Yeah it was.

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Speaker 2: Know what I mean.

436
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 1: But but at the same time, I was just like

437
00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,760
Speaker 1: I kind of felt like her, like why would gods

438
00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:02,199
Speaker 1: say that to you? You know what I mean? Like

439
00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:04,280
Speaker 1: that's weird, you know what I mean. But I was

440
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:08,200
Speaker 1: also it was like yeah by time, you know. But okay,

441
00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 1: so go ahead, go ahead.

442
00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 5: Wait, So what year was this?

443
00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:12,159
Speaker 2: This was?

444
00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:15,160
Speaker 4: This was early January.

445
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 5: That was just this year.

446
00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:20,679
Speaker 1: So during the twenty nineteen fast was like January, the

447
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,800
Speaker 1: top of Jane, first week of January. Yeah, and so yeah,

448
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,439
Speaker 1: so first week of James. So I guess January sixth, Okay,

449
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: so this is January January, yeah.

450
00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:29,720
Speaker 5: Six days and that's when.

451
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:31,680
Speaker 1: You yeah, that's what that's what she called spoken. But

452
00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:35,240
Speaker 1: what was crazy about that and about the whole thing

453
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:41,919
Speaker 1: is like God knew what was going on because again,

454
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:44,960
Speaker 1: the first person she called was the Marrow, which is

455
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,360
Speaker 1: somebody she never speaks to, you know what I mean.

456
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:54,200
Speaker 1: And so that apology, yeah, which is which is crazy

457
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 1: because Damar lives on the south Side. I live on

458
00:21:56,800 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 1: the north Side. I went to North Side Hospital. Damar

459
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 1: beat the ambulance to the hospital person, and of course

460
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 1: I don't know nothing what's going on with her. I'm

461
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 1: just in my head like this, dude's how did the

462
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:18,960
Speaker 1: market here? I'm excited. I don't know, you know they

463
00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,399
Speaker 1: what happened with her calling. All I know is when

464
00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,439
Speaker 1: I come through the hospital doors, Damar bursting through, and

465
00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:26,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, how he beat the ambulance, Like I'm in

466
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 1: my head, I'm like, how you beat the amblance? How

467
00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 1: you getting here?

468
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

469
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:34,920
Speaker 1: But I'm sorry, No, So that was it.

470
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 3: Like God is just so good because never in a

471
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 3: million years did I think that I owed, you know,

472
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 3: the Martin apology.

473
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 2: How do he receive it?

474
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:44,199
Speaker 4: He received it?

475
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 3: He said thank you, you know, he said he appreciate

476
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 3: it because I apologize to him and his fiance who

477
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:54,879
Speaker 3: wasn't there at the time, and he was just like,

478
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:56,200
Speaker 3: you know, he would share that with her.

479
00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 4: And yeah, that was it.

480
00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:02,719
Speaker 1: So when I get to the hospital, it is January

481
00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 1: twenty second, and so that that first day, I know

482
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 1: Lamar was there, her mother was there, but I don't

483
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,639
Speaker 1: did you get there on the twenty second or the

484
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 1: twenty third.

485
00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:16,679
Speaker 3: So I got there the night of the twenty second.

486
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 3: My flight didn't land until maybe like eleven PM, and

487
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:22,640
Speaker 3: so once it landed, I had to get my luggage

488
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,439
Speaker 3: and so I got to the hospital around twelve thirty.

489
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:27,199
Speaker 2: And you were in La so what do you do

490
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,240
Speaker 2: for a living digital strategy?

491
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 3: So I essentially create ads and build brand awareness for companies.

492
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 2: You see, who was on a set? So it was

493
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 2: a set for like a commercial shoot or something.

494
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,960
Speaker 3: Yes, it was a set for a company called mac Collection.

495
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 3: They sell women swear.

496
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,720
Speaker 2: And so you their first day there, you get.

497
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 4: A call yes, you know, yes, yes.

498
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 3: And so my hospital, my husband excuse me, has sickle seale.

499
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 3: So like we over the course of the last ten years,

500
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:01,480
Speaker 3: we have spent you know, many a day's nights in

501
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:05,239
Speaker 3: the hospital. But I don't know, it felt different this

502
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 3: time because usually it's like, Okay, he's in the hospital,

503
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 3: I go to the hospital. I called my mom. She

504
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 3: stays at the house with the girls, and that's that.

505
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 3: But it was just something about you know what it

506
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 3: was the fact that he called the ambulance. Because my

507
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 3: husband is out a soldier. Yes, he's gonna thug it.

508
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 2: Out for sure, thug out a fast out.

509
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 4: Yes.

510
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 3: And so I knew with her saying that he called

511
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 3: the ambulance, that it was different and it was something serious,

512
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 3: and that's what made me call tomar And that's what,

513
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,400
Speaker 3: you know, was so scary, you know, to the point

514
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:40,400
Speaker 3: where I even called my mom. My mother lives three

515
00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 3: hours away, and I'm like, mom, I can't get there

516
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,000
Speaker 3: until midnight. But and Damar has a young daughter. And

517
00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,440
Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, Damar has been at the hospital

518
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:49,920
Speaker 3: for the last hour, but I don't know how long

519
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 3: he's gonna be able to stay there. But I need

520
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 3: for you to get to the hospital until I'm able

521
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:54,360
Speaker 3: to get there.

522
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 4: And my mom.

523
00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,879
Speaker 3: Made his green soup that he was talking about, and

524
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 3: and she got on the road and she stayed with

525
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 3: him in the hospital until I got there.

526
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 1: Three hours and she drove those hours. And from what

527
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 1: I remember, first of all, I remember very finally Damarrow

528
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: and her mom, I just remember enjoying them being there.

529
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: You know, I don't I don't remember what we were

530
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 1: doing or what we was talking about, but that's the

531
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: feeling I get. But then I know when she got there.

532
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: I remember. I'm very healthy, you know, I've been on

533
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 1: my health journey for you know, I think twelve years now.

534
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: And so the thing that I don't know if people

535
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 1: may not realize, when you do eat very clean, your

536
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 1: body becomes very sensitive, and so you'll pick up on

537
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 1: things faster or one one thing that you drink that's

538
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,439
Speaker 1: outside of your diet, you'll feel it in your body.

539
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: And so I truly felt I was like I'm dying.

540
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 1: I knew I could feel it. And so when she

541
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:55,879
Speaker 1: got there, I gave her all the passwords. Even before

542
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:57,680
Speaker 1: she got there, I remember there was there was I'm

543
00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 1: going through my head like like what am I hold

544
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 1: on to that that guy would that guy would find wrong?

545
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: And so the only thing I can think of is

546
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,159
Speaker 1: only one thing. And it was a business deal, and

547
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:09,360
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, let me text both

548
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 1: of it was to his two people at my parties,

549
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 1: and I text both of them like, Yo, I know

550
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 1: we've been going back and forth, but I think God

551
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 1: want me to do it this way. We're going We're

552
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: gonna do it like this, because that was like the

553
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: only thing I could think of that God might hold

554
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: against me, like because because he had been he had

555
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 1: been talking to me about that, like you know, you

556
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,239
Speaker 1: need to do it like this, you know what I mean?

557
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 1: And so I text them and that was before she

558
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,400
Speaker 1: got there, and then when she got there, I said, Okay,

559
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,199
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you all the passwords. I'm gonna give

560
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: you everything because I don't think I'm gonna make it,

561
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I didn't. I didn't

562
00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 1: even know what was wrong.

563
00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 3: And he didn't say that he wasn't gonna make it

564
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 3: at that time. He just was like he wanted to

565
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 3: give me the passwords, which again, we have spent so

566
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 3: much time in the hospital over the last ten years

567
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 3: and it's never been I'm going to give you the passwords,

568
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 3: because it's like that's just a part of our regular program,

569
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 3: like crisis sickle cell crisis arise at you know, random times,

570
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 3: and you know, we go to the hospital, he gets hydration,

571
00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:00,200
Speaker 3: he gets pay management, and we go home. So it's like, okay,

572
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 3: you would need the passwords, like, you know, I don't

573
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 3: even think I understood at that moment what was really happening.

574
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 2: But he was literally selling his affairs. Yeah yeah, h man,

575
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 2: And so well what were you thinking though?

576
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: I mean, what I was thinking was I need to

577
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: I need to first I like I said, the first

578
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: thing I was thinking that is what could God hold

579
00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: against me? Like what am I What have I not done,

580
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,880
Speaker 1: you know, to to please God? Like what's what's what

581
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 1: would be blocking me from in there in heaven? That

582
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: was my first one the only thing I can think of,

583
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: what's the business deal? And so I text both of them, hey, hey, man,

584
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 1: God told me to do this, We're gonna do it

585
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: like this. I want to get up there. And he

586
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: was like, hey, that was literally the only thing I

587
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,720
Speaker 1: can think of. And then with her, I'm like, okay,

588
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 1: let me give their passwords. So she had access to

589
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 1: everything because I already have a trust so I knew

590
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:56,879
Speaker 1: for the most part, thing good. But I was like,

591
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: let me make sure she got access, and so I

592
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: gave her the passwords and then I just told her

593
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 1: to pray, you know what I mean, because I knew

594
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 1: from the things that had added up to me getting there,

595
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 1: I'm like, man, it's not physical. I knew it. I

596
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 1: knew it. I said, this is not physical, like all

597
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:12,239
Speaker 1: this stuff that has happened, like I ain't never been

598
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,480
Speaker 1: weak in no fast, you know what I mean. The

599
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: girl getting hit, I'm like, I'm like, why is all

600
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: of this happening? So I knew, I said, I told her,

601
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 1: I said, we just gotta pray, you know what I mean.

602
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 1: But then for me, I know if she can go

603
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: into what happens next, cause I really don't know. But

604
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: for me. I pretty much checked out, like, you know,

605
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 1: the twenty third, the twenty fourth, I don't remember being

606
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:34,880
Speaker 1: conscious at all. I don't know what was going on.

607
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 1: And that's when you know she was I don't. We

608
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 1: And the craziest part, we never really talked about. This

609
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: just kind of gonna be the first time you hearing

610
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 1: what exactly was happening, but what exactly was happening those

611
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: two days.

612
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 3: He's like throwing up every thirty seconds. And he's been

613
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 3: on this fast at this point for like seven days,

614
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 3: seven days, and so nothing is coming up, but like

615
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 3: they're giving him medicine for nausea, they're giving him paying medication,

616
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 3: are given medicine for him to sleep and be comfortable,

617
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 3: but he's like just continuously throwing up. His heart rate

618
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 3: is just skyrocketing out of you know, nowhere, to the

619
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 3: point where each time that it would do that, and

620
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 3: it's like every ten minutes, like it's literally just it

621
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 3: was just none stopped, and the nurse team would like

622
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 3: run into the room and try to figure out what's happening,

623
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 3: and they're like, what did he do? I'm like, he's

624
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 3: just laying there like he didn't do anything. I prayed

625
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,959
Speaker 3: so many times, like because again, it was just so

626
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 3: much happening with him, and so each time, like you know,

627
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 3: I would be like, you know, baby.

628
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 4: Is it anything you need you do anything?

629
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 3: And he'd be like, pray, you know, And so I

630
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 3: just started just praising him and just you know, thanking

631
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 3: him for the victory, you know, and thanking him for

632
00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 3: it not being what it looked like. And you know

633
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 3: what the doctors were saying, because I literally didn't know

634
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: what else to do.

635
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 4: They didn't know.

636
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 3: They had every doctor's team come in there from every department,

637
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 3: you know, and none of them knew.

638
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 4: They couldn't figure it out.

639
00:29:56,840 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 2: And at this point, he's just out, he's so.

640
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 3: On the third day, he kind of started like being incoherent.

641
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 3: So I text his cousin, I text his mom, I'm like,

642
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 3: it's getting scary, Like I don't know what's happening, but

643
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 3: you know, it's getting scary. And I, again, I've never

644
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 3: felt afraid.

645
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 5: Did you think it was the end? I don't.

646
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 3: I didn't know what it was, but I just know

647
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 3: it didn't feel like anything that it's ever been before.

648
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,959
Speaker 3: I had never seen him like at that point, like

649
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 3: his whole body was like sunking in like you know,

650
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 3: he just he does not look like this fine man

651
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 3: that y'all see sitting on this yellow couch with me. Like,

652
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 3: you know, he looked like he was hurting. He looked

653
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 3: like he was tired. I needed somebody to get there,

654
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 3: you know. And so I text his sister's boyfriend and

655
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:49,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't want to, you know, alarm Justina,

656
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 3: but you know, can you just have her just come visit,

657
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 3: you know, with us in the hospital tomorrow, Like you know,

658
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 3: I just, you know, I think that he would be happy,

659
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:00,160
Speaker 3: like you know, that would lift his spirits, and no,

660
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 3: I needed to support. And so she came to the hospital,

661
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 3: and I think like she realized, like, okay, this is

662
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 3: different as well. And he has a lot of medical

663
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: professionals in his family.

664
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,160
Speaker 1: She's a nurse, No, so not, that's my my my

665
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 1: little sister is a doctor. He text my big sister,

666
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 1: who also lives in Atlanta.

667
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, and she's like mama bear, and so I guess.

668
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 3: Then she text his cousin, and so his cousin texts

669
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 3: me like she was in Kansas, I believe, and she

670
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 3: told me she was coming in town. And then literally

671
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 3: the very next day, we saw a different doctor. This

672
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:40,960
Speaker 3: is probably the seventh doctor that we've seen, and he

673
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 3: was like, he doesn't understand what's happening. He's like, but

674
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 3: we're going to get you better, brother, and I'm going

675
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: to get you to ICU.

676
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: And so whose idea was it to move me? So

677
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 1: they moved hospitals.

678
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 3: And so and so we were in igh CU for

679
00:31:56,680 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 3: maybe an hour before we decided.

680
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 4: To go to another different Yeah.

681
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:06,719
Speaker 1: So so my my first memory from day one all

682
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:12,680
Speaker 1: the way to different hospital. Well, yeah, so from day one,

683
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 1: whatever happened in between, I don't remember anything until I'm

684
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: in this new hospital. That was the first memory I have.

685
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 1: And so I don't know, you know who, I know

686
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 1: that they moved me. I just don't know who idea

687
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: was to move me.

688
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 3: So the nurse practitioner who was I guess in charge

689
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 3: of ICU when we arrived, said that he was.

690
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 1: Arrived in the new hospital, arrived in.

691
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 3: ICU when they moved us to the ICU floor. He

692
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 3: said that he was, I guess, consulting with the other

693
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 3: hospital and he was, you know, acting, I guess on

694
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 3: whatever they were telling him to do. That that's what

695
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 3: he was doing, and he was like, but I think

696
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 3: it might be better if you know, you went to

697
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 3: another hospital because because he also became incoherent and I

698
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 3: see you again, because it would he would be like

699
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 3: in and out. But once the nurse practitioner saw him

700
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 3: go out, and you know, I guess the length of

701
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 3: time he was out, he decided like, well, he said

702
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 3: that his body was going in the shop and so

703
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 3: the rest of his organs would soon follow his liver

704
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 3: and go into failure. And so he said that the

705
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 3: best thing that they could do was, you know, induce

706
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 3: a coma to try to slow it down and try

707
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 3: to save his life.

708
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 1: So so that's the space where, like I said, I

709
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 1: just I don't remember anything, and so what I know

710
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: now is that you know, she was praying, My mom

711
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: was praying damorrow, and our Bible study group was praying,

712
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: my my church, my pastor, the lead and assistants, everybody

713
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: was praying. I know that now, But my first memory

714
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: coming out of that we were in a new hospital

715
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: and I didn't know I was in new hospital, and

716
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: they told me because I told I told them what

717
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 1: I saw, and so I never heard the doctor say

718
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 1: there's nothing else they can do for me. I never

719
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 1: heard any of that. The reason that I believe that

720
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: I was dying outside of how I felt is because

721
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: the first thing I remember seeing was her friends praying

722
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 1: for me, and the prayer that they were saying it

723
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: was I heard them say because he was fast, saying

724
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,320
Speaker 1: God is going to honor him and accept him into heaven.

725
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: And so that when I heard that, I'm like, oh,

726
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 1: I am dying, you know, and so and so I.

727
00:34:43,520 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 3: No, No, they were praying for him, but not in

728
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 3: that way. So my my sister Nadia, who we got

729
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 3: the communion cups from, I called her. So finally God

730
00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 3: released me the day that he went into ICU to

731
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 3: you know, call on the saints and my prayer warriors.

732
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 3: And so I text her and I'm like, sister, I

733
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:05,319
Speaker 3: need your help, and she didn't respond. But that's when

734
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 3: we were moving to ICU. And then I text her

735
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 3: like an hour later and I'm like, sister, they put

736
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 3: him on the ventilator. And she called me and she

737
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,919
Speaker 3: was like what hospital are you at? And I told

738
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:17,359
Speaker 3: her and she was like, okay, I'm on my way,

739
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 3: and so I hung up the phone and then I

740
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,279
Speaker 3: remember just sitting there and then he just finally hit me.

741
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 3: And so I'm just you know, in a waiting room

742
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 3: and I'm just crying. I'm crying, and so I went

743
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 3: to go sit down, and as I came and sat down,

744
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 3: my friend Nadia came in with her friend, and you know,

745
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:40,479
Speaker 3: they just started praying while we were in the waiting room.

746
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,880
Speaker 3: And after they finished praying, you know, the doctors you know,

747
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,840
Speaker 3: called and said, you know, the procedure was done. You know,

748
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 3: they had successfully put the ventilator in, and so, you know,

749
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 3: of course I went in the room. She left hopital, yeah,

750
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 3: just at the old hospital, and so then we got

751
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 3: to hospital. Yeah, so we got to the new hospital

752
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 3: and I called her and I'm like, what do you doing.

753
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 3: She like, I'm gonna get my nails done. I'm like, okay,

754
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, you know, he hasn't seen his new doctors

755
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 3: yet for the day, but can you come up here

756
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 3: and pray? And so at this time, he's still in

757
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 3: a coma, but he was like kind of in and

758
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 3: out because even.

759
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 4: On the way to the new.

760
00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 3: Hospital, he had woke up and tried to pull his

761
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 3: ventilator out. And we didn't know that until the next day.

762
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 3: But even even when we got into the room, he

763
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 3: woke up for a few seconds because I wish I

764
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 3: could remember the physician assistant's name. But she was a

765
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:41,280
Speaker 3: really funny but knowledgeable lady from New Jersey and very loud,

766
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 3: and you know, she was like, I believe in talking

767
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: to my patience.

768
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 4: So she's like yelling in his ear. She like, Harry,

769
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 4: can you hear me? Can you hear me?

770
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:48,800
Speaker 1: Harry?

771
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 4: Do you know where you at?

772
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 3: And he like opened up his eyes like me and

773
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 3: his dad like, oh my god, like he's away, you know,

774
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 3: because it's like his sister had actually went through a

775
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 3: medical emergency, not the same, but similar to this, not

776
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 3: even two years before that, where she was in a

777
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 3: coma for like two weeks?

778
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 1: Was it? It wasn't that long, But we definitely need

779
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,359
Speaker 1: to talk about that too. But wait, get to what

780
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 1: did she praises? What I heard?

781
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 3: She came and she pulled her oil out. You know,

782
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 3: she you know, rubbed it on me. She gave some

783
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 3: of his spither and then she like, you know, rubbing

784
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 3: on the seat, rubbing on his hands. You know what.

785
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 2: I'm getting into it.

786
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 3: So we rubbed the oil out and you know, she

787
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 3: just she it was a long prayer. But the part

788
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 3: that he's talking about, he just like said, like, you know, God,

789
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 3: under your son, you know, and open up the gates

790
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 3: of heaven so that your angels can calm down town

791
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 3: and say his life not bring him.

792
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 1: Home to you out, Okay. So so after that she

793
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:55,240
Speaker 1: say that. So after that, she's not gonna kill.

794
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 2: Nowhere listen.

795
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: So I wore for the first time after that, and

796
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 1: so I think they had like a little penning pack

797
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 1: that I had the ventilator so I couldn't talk, and

798
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:10,520
Speaker 1: so I'm writing on the pad and I tell her

799
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,800
Speaker 1: like it's okay, I'm going home. Goodbye.

800
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 4: No, that's not that's not it.

801
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,839
Speaker 3: So he woke up and he was like doing like this,

802
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 3: and so so he said, he put I heart you

803
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 3: like on the paper. So my man first words is

804
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 3: I love you.

805
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: So I'm kissing him. I'm like I love you too.

806
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,919
Speaker 3: And then he was like shaking his head and I'm

807
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 3: like okay, what and he was like bye bye, like

808
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 3: and I'm like what aname. I'm like, no, no, no,

809
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 3: We're not going home right now. You know, you gotta

810
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 3: stay for a little while. Like they still got to

811
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 3: figure out what's happening. And then he said no, it's okay.

812
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 3: And I'm like, like, what are you talking about? And

813
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 3: he like, I'm dying. That was the next thing he wrote.

814
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 3: And I just like snatched the paper out the notebook.

815
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 3: I balled it up like and through it, and I'm like,

816
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 3: you are not dying. I'm like, the doctors have it wrong.

817
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 3: And so that's what I was trying to get to

818
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 3: with the physicians assistant that night. She was like, you know,

819
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 3: I know that I'm only the physician, the physicians assistant,

820
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 3: but I believe in looking at everything. And she was

821
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 3: like I looked at his charts and they didn't know

822
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 3: what they was doing over there. And she was just

823
00:39:24,640 --> 00:39:28,320
Speaker 3: like basically everything that they were saying that was happening,

824
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 3: she was saying that that was not happening. And so,

825
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 3: you know, so I was telling him, I'm like, no,

826
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 3: they had it wrong. They're not You're not going to

827
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:37,879
Speaker 3: die like they had it wrong.

828
00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: And I told her, I said, I heard the prayer

829
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 1: that yeah, I heard the prayer. Because I'm thinking, I'm thinking,

830
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:47,280
Speaker 1: you know, she's just being hopeful. She been like a wife,

831
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,239
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But in my head, I'm

832
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 1: like I'm like, listen, you don't got to do that.

833
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:52,719
Speaker 1: I heard the baby, don't. You don't got a lot

834
00:39:52,760 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 1: of me, baby, you know what, I know what's going on.

835
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 1: So I'm telling her like, it's cool, I heard the prayer,

836
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: but no, but then she told me she was like

837
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 1: I was going to live. And then I think my

838
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 1: mom had told me the same thing, and so I

839
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 1: told her, I'm.

840
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 4: Telling you they had it wrong though.

841
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 1: Like, well, what I told her was like, Okay, I'm

842
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 1: going to fight, you know what I mean, which, which,

843
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 1: by the way, when I said that, in my head,

844
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't even know what that means. Like

845
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 1: in my head, I'm like, people say that all the time,

846
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 1: what does that mean? Literally, this is what I'm thinking.

847
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: When I told her that, you know what I mean,

848
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 1: I was like, whatever it is, I'm gonna do it

849
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: because but but honestly, so like that's that's what I

850
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: sing in my head, like whatever it is, I don't

851
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 1: know what it is, but I'm gonna do it. But

852
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:41,879
Speaker 1: I just I just started praying. I mean, every every

853
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: time I got to be like aware as they kept

854
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:47,000
Speaker 1: saying that, oh he's aware. Every time I got to

855
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:49,320
Speaker 1: be aware, I would pray, and I would tell anybody

856
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 1: who was in the room to pray too. But let

857
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:56,320
Speaker 1: me tell you what happened though. So after after that

858
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 1: that incident, will call it, you know what I mean,

859
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 1: where or I was going to fight? I was praying

860
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: And the next thing that happened to me is so crazy,

861
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 1: like God literally downloaded like the next three days into

862
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: my head. And so the next the next few times

863
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:14,680
Speaker 1: I woke up, I didn't understand what was happening. I

864
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,040
Speaker 1: was like, man, I feel like things is playing over repeat.

865
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: I was like, I feel like I feel like day

866
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: jah ooo. When I kept I kept telling her and

867
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 1: my dad and the nurses, I'm like, what day is it?

868
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 1: What time is it? Because I wanted to see like

869
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: because I'm sorry, baby, this was going on in my head.

870
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,399
Speaker 1: I'm like, I ain't never died before, so I don't

871
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 1: know what. I don't know what's happened. Is this what

872
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: it looked like? Because literally it felt like things were

873
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: happening or like everything that was happening, I already had

874
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: saw it, so I'm like, what is going on here?

875
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 1: And so after after I think the third time I

876
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 1: did it, I said, okay, this is in sequence. This

877
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: ain't just random, because every time they told me the

878
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 1: day in the time, the next time it was in

879
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 1: sequences a little bit later, a little bit later. And

880
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: so once I realized that it was God, I saw

881
00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:59,160
Speaker 1: it all and I'm looking and I'm like, Okay, the

882
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 1: first thing I remember seeing is them home, but I'm

883
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 1: gonna die. But I'm looking here and God showing me

884
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 1: they gonna take this ventilator out, and so.

885
00:42:07,040 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 2: I'm like wow.

886
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:11,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like, yo, Like he showed me first

887
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 1: what they were saying, because I didn't hear the doctors.

888
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: I heard the prayer and that's what I heard. And

889
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, he's showing me what they're saying, and he's

890
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:19,839
Speaker 1: showing me what they gonna do, you know what I mean,

891
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 1: or what he's gonna do. And so literally the next

892
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 1: three days I'm sitting there with a smile inside my head,

893
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: watch them like, yeah, you finna, You're finna say this. Okay,

894
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 1: you're finna do that, you know what I mean. Like

895
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 1: the next three days, all the way up until the

896
00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:35,840
Speaker 1: point where they took the ventilator out, and I remember

897
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 1: when I first realized it was God. I remember my

898
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,839
Speaker 1: very first thought, I said, this is why them old

899
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 1: folks run around the church.

900
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 7: I said, I could get up right now, I will

901
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 7: run around this hospital.

902
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,879
Speaker 1: I said. Now my whole life, I was like, man,

903
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 1: they tripping. I'm like, now I get it.

904
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 7: If I could get up right now, I will run

905
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:56,479
Speaker 7: around this hospital room.

906
00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:01,280
Speaker 1: Because I'm like, I'm like God, and I always believed,

907
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 1: well since I was a kid, I believe in you,

908
00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 1: but I always the last several years I had such

909
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 1: a strong connection with Jesus, especially after what happened to

910
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 1: my little sister. So it wasn't like I wasn't a believer.

911
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:14,640
Speaker 1: But to see God show up and do some supernatural

912
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 1: stuff like this man just showed me the future, you

913
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 1: know what I mean. To see him show up and.

914
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 7: Do that, I'm like, oh no, I said, man, let

915
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 7: me run, Let me run, And of course I couldn't,

916
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:26,520
Speaker 7: but I'm like, I get it.

917
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,439
Speaker 1: This is why they be running it. And so it

918
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 1: was crazy and I was freaking them out because every

919
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:34,960
Speaker 1: time I would ask, they like and even tomorrow to me,

920
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 1: He's like, bro, I ain't know why you was asking

921
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: us that. Because I would be like, what time is it?

922
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: What day is it? You know what I mean, and

923
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:41,839
Speaker 1: I was just asking him so many different things because

924
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: I was I was confused, like why have I already

925
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,640
Speaker 1: seen this? But then once I, like I said, once

926
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 1: I realized it was God, that's when it opened. He

927
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 1: showed me everything, everything he had downloaded, and so I was.

928
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:53,879
Speaker 1: I was just so happy for the next several days

929
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: until it was time for him take that vender layer

930
00:43:56,719 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 1: because that's when the hard work start and back to

931
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,480
Speaker 1: the fighting. I didn't have to do no fighting. All

932
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: I did was pray and God did the fighting, you

933
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: know what I mean, He did the fighting. But when

934
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 1: it came time to take that ventilator out, he was like,

935
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,720
Speaker 1: it is your turn because because that process of getting

936
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 1: that ventilator out and getting off those because you start

937
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:16,280
Speaker 1: with the ventilator, then you go to what's called the EVO.

938
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 1: It's like a it's like the next step down. Then

939
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:22,360
Speaker 1: you go to the oxygen tubes. But to get to

940
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:24,319
Speaker 1: each step you have to prove that you.

941
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 2: Can breathe on your own.

942
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: You have to prove that because the one thing about

943
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 1: the ventilator, like my primary doctor said when I went

944
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: to see him, he said, it sets you back three

945
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 1: months at least you have to relearn how to breathe,

946
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:39,360
Speaker 1: You have to relearn how to eat. You had to

947
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: almost everything you do naturally and normally you have to

948
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:45,359
Speaker 1: relearn it after they put you on that ventilator. And

949
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: so it took it took me two and a half

950
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: days to get off the ventilator. Like, oh boy, let

951
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: me tell you how this test worked. So to get

952
00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 1: off the ventilator, They're gonna they're gonna like sort of

953
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 1: nudget to the side, so like it's usually go down

954
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 1: the middle, it's gonna come to the side so that

955
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: you have a little bit of a room to breathe

956
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 1: on your own. And then they're gonna turn on his

957
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 1: machine that beats every time you breathe wrong, every time,

958
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 1: not every time you breathe wrong, and they test you

959
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 1: around the clock. So imagine every time you don't breathe right,

960
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: beep beep. You know how you know how hard that

961
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: is to have to sit there and go through traumatic

962
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: is the key word, Like every time you take a

963
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: wrong breath, cleep, and if you don't get enough enough

964
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: space between, Like basically I think it was eighty percent

965
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: if you don't get it right eighty percent of the time.

966
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 1: For extended period of time. It took me two days

967
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: to get it right. And my father man, thank God

968
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: for my father man. My father and Mamayah was there

969
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,440
Speaker 1: right there next to them. He was trying to teach

970
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: me how to breathe. Imagine how to teach your forty

971
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 1: year old son how to breathe. You know what I mean.

972
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: He was like, no, Jim, you gotta do like this.

973
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: You gotta do it like this. And like I said,

974
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 1: it took me two days. It's like, finally, after day two,

975
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 1: I was good enough at breathing on my own for

976
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 1: them to take me off that only for them to

977
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: put me on the next machine. We're now on this machine.

978
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:07,840
Speaker 1: I got approve even further that I can breathe. So

979
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:10,320
Speaker 1: so I think the first machine was eighty This machine

980
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: I had to be like ninety five percent. And then

981
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 1: the last one you gott you'll you'll get to like

982
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: try to breathe one hundred. The sacond machine is evil.

983
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 1: It's it's the same thing as a ventilator, where it's

984
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: helping you breathe, but just at a at a lesser capacity,

985
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 1: and so it's through your nose not your mouth, and

986
00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:28,400
Speaker 1: so it's just like a step down, you know what

987
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: I mean.

988
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 2: But how long I was?

989
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 3: Ever?

990
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,040
Speaker 1: Ten days? I was ever for ten days. And man,

991
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 1: when I tell you, that's the that's the heart. That's

992
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: the hardest thing. How you learned to eat a so

993
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: So first of all, that was harder, made harder because

994
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 1: I was on the fast, and so because I had

995
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 1: eaten for seven days straight. You know, when you break

996
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 1: a fast, especially a lengthy fast, you can't just yeah,

997
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So that was made even harder.

998
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 1: So I know why I was there. They were putting

999
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: me on the They have me on what they call

1000
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 1: nutrition is basically they just food feeding you. So I

1001
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 1: was getting nutrition. But but coming coming back around to

1002
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:10,320
Speaker 1: happen to to eat after I got out the ventilator,

1003
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 1: and I think maybe even after even first of all,

1004
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 1: when I was on that ventilator, all I could think

1005
00:47:15,120 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: about is apple juice. I'm like, boy, the first time

1006
00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: that averle juice touched my lips, oh lord, I'm gonna

1007
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 1: be the happiest man a lot the first time that

1008
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 1: apple juice touched because I mean, oh lord, I was,

1009
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 1: and it was disappointing when I had that avera juice.

1010
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 1: I was like, man, I waited for this, but yeah,

1011
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: so so that the eating was it was a little

1012
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 1: more difficult because because when they take you off the ventilator,

1013
00:47:41,840 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 1: you have to do the the I don't know what

1014
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:46,359
Speaker 1: it's called, but it's like an eating test. Well, first

1015
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 1: you gotta eat the ice chips. Then you gotta, yes

1016
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 1: a swallow. You got to prove that you can, you know,

1017
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 1: eating chew properly and swallow. And so they do the

1018
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: chips in the apple juice, I mean, not the apple juice,

1019
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 1: the apple sauce. But I passed that test with flying colors,

1020
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Because I wasn't actually on

1021
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:02,719
Speaker 1: the ventilator that long. I was on it for like

1022
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:06,400
Speaker 1: three days, so I wasn't I wasn't actually on it

1023
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 1: like for a super extended period of time. But that

1024
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 1: that that that time after coming off the ventilator was

1025
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 1: so rough.

1026
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:16,839
Speaker 2: Man, When did they tell you what went wrong?

1027
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:21,840
Speaker 1: There was so so you know, what's what's crazy. I

1028
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 1: don't remember who told me that that was what was

1029
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: going on. I don't know if it was Maya or

1030
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:31,759
Speaker 1: the doctors. But eventually I found out that it was

1031
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:33,760
Speaker 1: liver fair, which of course I never had an issue

1032
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: with my liver. So you know, they were asking me like,

1033
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 1: you know, what have you been around, what have you

1034
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 1: been taking because they assumed they had to be poisonous

1035
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 1: as I had no previous liver issues. And so the

1036
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: working assumption that we still don't know for a fact,

1037
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: but this is the most likely thing. The working assumption

1038
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:53,359
Speaker 1: is those herbs that I were taking on what I

1039
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 1: was told was when they become old like that, they

1040
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:59,200
Speaker 1: can grow fungu because they're still living organisms and the

1041
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 1: fun guy would heal you. And so what it turns

1042
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 1: out if that is the case, is because I had

1043
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:06,920
Speaker 1: taken those herbs three days in a row, you know,

1044
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:12,319
Speaker 1: I was essentially killing my liver. Which also, you know,

1045
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:14,719
Speaker 1: I've been praying forever for God to take sickle cell

1046
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 1: away because I know he can do everything supernaturally. But

1047
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:19,919
Speaker 1: the single cell in that situation, if that's the case,

1048
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: it saved my life because I can only take so

1049
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 1: many herbs because herb or just something is period because

1050
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 1: they drive you out, they dehydrate you. But a lot

1051
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 1: of people don't know that when you're taking those supplements,

1052
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 1: they dehydrate your bodies. We have to be very hydrated,

1053
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: and so me knowing that and being on the water fast,

1054
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, I probably can only take a few of

1055
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:38,839
Speaker 1: these because if I take too many, it's gonna cause

1056
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 1: my single cell to act up. So each day I

1057
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:43,160
Speaker 1: will only take a few. Now, had I not had

1058
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 1: sickle cell, I would have been down in the bad

1059
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:48,399
Speaker 1: boys because I need a nutrition bad and so if

1060
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 1: that's the case, the single cell really saved my life

1061
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,080
Speaker 1: because I only took a few knowing that it would

1062
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:57,239
Speaker 1: affect my sickle cell, and so so it was a

1063
00:49:57,320 --> 00:50:02,479
Speaker 1: tough period. But again, I I know that. I'm gonna

1064
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:04,839
Speaker 1: tell you one more thing that happened. My cousin who

1065
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:08,279
Speaker 1: she was talking about, she kept asking, well, she didn't

1066
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 1: keep asking me, but she asked me. She was like,

1067
00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 1: why do you keep asking everybody to pray? Which I

1068
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 1: thought was a funny question because it's like, what do

1069
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:18,400
Speaker 1: you mean? But this is when I was still on

1070
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 1: the VENTI layer, So I had to. I had to.

1071
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:22,040
Speaker 1: I didn't write it. At this point. They had made

1072
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 1: like an ABC and I would point to and I

1073
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 1: would spell the letter the letters out, and so I

1074
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:28,880
Speaker 1: remember spelling out to her it's spiritual. I was like,

1075
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,440
Speaker 1: you gotta attack this. You gotta attack it in the spirit.

1076
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 1: I remember saying that to her and I was like, man,

1077
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: that's crazy. I gotta tell you this. I'm gonna tell

1078
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 1: you it's spiritual. You have to attack in the spirit.

1079
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: I knew the whole time, like from going in there

1080
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 1: and we keep praying we're gonna beat because I never

1081
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 1: knew what it was, never until until it was pretty

1082
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:49,760
Speaker 1: much over. I mean, I was like, we keep praying,

1083
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: we gonna beat whatever this is. And I had no

1084
00:50:52,360 --> 00:50:55,759
Speaker 1: idea about those days, Like I don't never remember doing

1085
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: the things that she's talking about, you know what I mean.

1086
00:50:58,560 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 1: And that's why even when I said when I did

1087
00:51:00,560 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: awake and I said I'm a fighter, I remember that moment.

1088
00:51:03,239 --> 00:51:04,839
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know what that is. I'm gonna

1089
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 1: just keep praying. And literally God took care of it,

1090
00:51:07,960 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. He took care of the fight.

1091
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 1: So it was a tough situation.

1092
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,440
Speaker 5: Your liver just started to fix itself.

1093
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, So by the time I came off the ventilator,

1094
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 1: deliver had already what do you call it, Yeah, the

1095
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: numbers were trending out and then already went back to

1096
00:51:24,560 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 1: functioning properly. And that's where you know, it's got like

1097
00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 1: you know, because I didn't do anything different but pray,

1098
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And the other hospital, it

1099
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 1: was going up up up, and you know, everybody was praying.

1100
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 1: And maybe even the prayer where you say they didn't

1101
00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:43,640
Speaker 1: say I was dying, maybe even that one helped too,

1102
00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:47,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But yeah, so so but

1103
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 1: but honestly, it's just like the posts that we made.

1104
00:51:49,719 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 1: I really, you know, I really was at peace with

1105
00:51:54,080 --> 00:51:58,319
Speaker 1: the situation, like when I heard that, because as as

1106
00:51:58,360 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 1: a believer like you, you really want nothing more than

1107
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 1: to be with the Father, you know what I mean.

1108
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:07,280
Speaker 1: And it wasn't that I wanted to leave my family,

1109
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 1: but I just knew. I'm like, boy, if I'm dying,

1110
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 1: I know where I'm going, you know what I mean,

1111
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 1: I'm going to go meet him. And at the same time,

1112
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 1: I knew on the earth and I told her it's

1113
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 1: so crazy. I never thought about my kids. I only

1114
00:52:19,120 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 1: thought about her. And I was like, man, I know

1115
00:52:22,080 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 1: she's gonna be good. Like I've left her in such

1116
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,799
Speaker 1: a good situation, you know what I mean. She's financially

1117
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:29,360
Speaker 1: everything is taken care of. The trust is there. So

1118
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:32,400
Speaker 1: I'm like you know, it's not gonna be easy, but

1119
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 1: I know she's gonna be okay. And I know I'm

1120
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 1: going to my father. So you know, like I told her, baby,

1121
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:41,840
Speaker 1: I love you, I'm going home. It's okay, don't cry.

1122
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: You know, I don't if I said don't cry, but

1123
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 1: that's what I meant.

1124
00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:46,919
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, tell somebody don't cry. That's

1125
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:50,280
Speaker 2: going to actually happen. My wife, that's a problem.

1126
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,960
Speaker 6: I told him, you better not die.

1127
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,879
Speaker 1: She really, you know, she did what she needed to do.

1128
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 1: You know, she prays, she kept the faith. She never

1129
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:04,719
Speaker 1: you know, believed what they were telling her, which is

1130
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 1: I know what it's like to be, you know, the

1131
00:53:08,040 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: person at the side of the hospital because like, like

1132
00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:12,799
Speaker 1: she said, my little sister had just went through it.

1133
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:16,359
Speaker 1: And it's so sad for my dad man because two

1134
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 1: of his kids in less than two years span on

1135
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: the ventilator oregon failure. And I remember my little sister.

1136
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 1: My little sister also has sickle cell and so it was,

1137
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:30,120
Speaker 1: you know, she went to the hospital for some normal

1138
00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 1: sickle sales. I remember her texting the group she had

1139
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 1: put us in a group, and she's like, guys and

1140
00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 1: just said you go I'm going to the hospital. And again,

1141
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 1: when you have sickle cell, this is normal, so we

1142
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 1: don't really think nothing of it.

1143
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:41,320
Speaker 2: You have a nephew. I have a nephew that struggles

1144
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 2: with sickle cell ye, and yeah, since it was seven

1145
00:53:44,760 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 2: years old in the hospital getting blood transfusion once a month,

1146
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 2: and seven years old, has seven strokes by the age

1147
00:53:51,560 --> 00:53:55,959
Speaker 2: of seven, seven strokes in one weekend. It was bad.

1148
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:58,200
Speaker 2: It was it was, it was bad. And I was

1149
00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 2: just like and then they tell you the life expectancy

1150
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 2: and that that gets you very like down, like wow,

1151
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 2: you know because at that time, years ago, they were

1152
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:09,200
Speaker 2: saying the life expectancy is thirty years old or something. Yeah,

1153
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:11,480
Speaker 2: and I was just like thirty years old, you know,

1154
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 2: and I and I just would never receive it. I'd

1155
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:16,120
Speaker 2: be like, no, that's a lie. God. And I'll be

1156
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:19,719
Speaker 2: telling them to like pray, get your life right, eat right,

1157
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 2: do all that, which he just still doesn't do or whatever.

1158
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:23,040
Speaker 2: He's twenty four.

1159
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:25,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's why I had to change, by the way,

1160
00:54:26,120 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 1: my diet. Yeah, that changed everything for me.

1161
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:30,839
Speaker 2: Want he won't change that. You won't change that. Don't

1162
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:32,400
Speaker 2: drink enough water, don't listen to me.

1163
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:36,799
Speaker 1: Cousin. Yeah, I want to. I will nephew. I went

1164
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 1: to the hospital three times in one year crisis. I

1165
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 1: spent you know, at least two to three weeks, and

1166
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 1: every time I was twenty eight years old. And that's

1167
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:47,839
Speaker 1: when I knew I can't do this.

1168
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:49,239
Speaker 2: They told you thirty years old too.

1169
00:54:49,880 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 1: Well, I didn't think I was gonna die, Lie. I

1170
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:55,880
Speaker 1: wasn't thinking that, but I was just thinking that. So

1171
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 1: now we're going so I'm giving you the music business

1172
00:54:58,200 --> 00:54:59,959
Speaker 1: story real quick. Then we'll come back around with my sister.

1173
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:00,760
Speaker 1: That's important.

1174
00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:01,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, But also.

1175
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:05,880
Speaker 3: I'll say I had a cousin who passed away at

1176
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:09,359
Speaker 3: thirty with sickle cell. And even once my grandmother knew

1177
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 3: that he had sickle son, at this point we're engaged,

1178
00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:13,239
Speaker 3: she was like, you can't marry him.

1179
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 4: And I'm like, who can't marry him?

1180
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 3: Like it's done, Grandma, that's my husband. Yeah, but she

1181
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:24,080
Speaker 3: was like, I don't you know, she didn't. She didn't

1182
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:26,799
Speaker 3: think that I, you know, understood what it meant, like

1183
00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 3: what his disease meant, and honestly I didn't. I just

1184
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:32,440
Speaker 3: knew that, you know, I loved him and that was

1185
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:36,040
Speaker 3: gonna be my husband. But you know this. You know,

1186
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:39,319
Speaker 3: this year, you know, really showed me what that was.

1187
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 3: And you know, but also you know, God showed me

1188
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 3: who he was as well, you know through this because

1189
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 3: like my husband said, he's forty years old, so that's

1190
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 3: ten years past life expectancy and you know, I'm planning

1191
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:54,480
Speaker 3: on seeing him go sixty or seventy more years.

1192
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, Well I have s C, which doesn't have

1193
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 1: that like s S has like so it's two forms.

1194
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 1: One is more severe SS is more severe. Me and

1195
00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 1: my little sister have as a matter of fa I'm

1196
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:07,719
Speaker 1: gonna tell you having my little sister first and then

1197
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, you know why I changed my

1198
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 1: diet that helped change my health in my life. But

1199
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:15,800
Speaker 1: so my little sister, she had told her she was

1200
00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 1: going to the hospital and we didn't think nothing of it.

1201
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:23,360
Speaker 1: But I remember, you know, at some point somebody, maybe

1202
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 1: my big sister, told me, you know, they putting on

1203
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 1: a ventilator. And I'm now, I never had nobody in

1204
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: my family going to ventilator, so I'm I don't really

1205
00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:32,839
Speaker 1: know what that means. And so I had I had

1206
00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: to ask my cousin, like, but that means, you know,

1207
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:36,719
Speaker 1: what I mean. And she was like, she was like,

1208
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:38,399
Speaker 1: get here, just get here, you know what I mean.

1209
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:41,840
Speaker 1: So I went up there, and you know, they're telling

1210
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 1: me what's happening with her. They're like, hey, you know,

1211
00:56:45,600 --> 00:56:48,719
Speaker 1: we don't know what's going on, but they put on

1212
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:52,320
Speaker 1: a ventilator. They're trying to preserve you know whatever. I like,

1213
00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 1: I said, it's medical terms, and I'm just like, what

1214
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:56,840
Speaker 1: is happening? But about two or three days in of

1215
00:56:56,960 --> 00:57:00,440
Speaker 1: me being there, they tell me, like, my cousin is,

1216
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 1: like I said, a lot of my family's medical professionals.

1217
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:06,520
Speaker 1: So my cousins like, they're not telling you what's really

1218
00:57:06,560 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 1: going on. You know, She's looking at the charts and

1219
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 1: she was like, you gotta understand she has multiple organ failure.

1220
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:16,920
Speaker 1: She's like, people don't live with multiple She was like, Junior,

1221
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:19,280
Speaker 1: you listen to me. She was like, the only reason

1222
00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 1: she is alive is because she's on the ventilator. The

1223
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 1: ventilator is breathing for her. And I'm based more or

1224
00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 1: less right, and so so I'm just I'm just like

1225
00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:32,120
Speaker 1: I'm listening to this and I'm like, how from what,

1226
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:33,880
Speaker 1: like what happened? You know what I mean? So I'm

1227
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 1: trying to understand what's going on. And so at this point,

1228
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 1: you know, I have been all in with God for

1229
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 1: about eighteen months. Like he had told me to lead

1230
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:44,240
Speaker 1: a music business. I left the music business. You know

1231
00:57:44,240 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 1: what I mean?

1232
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 2: So well, he was about to talk about that, what

1233
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 2: made you lead the music business?

1234
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:53,640
Speaker 1: So God, God, you know me and my wife we

1235
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 1: went to ils. That's that's why my wife is responsible

1236
00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 1: for so many beautiful things that have happened in my life.

1237
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:02,280
Speaker 1: But she wanted to go to international leadership something. This

1238
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:04,760
Speaker 1: year he had Bischom Jakes twenty twenty three. It was

1239
00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:06,680
Speaker 1: in Orlando that year, which I was down to go

1240
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 1: to Orlando, ya. And so for her Valentine's Day, give

1241
00:58:11,800 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 1: I got us tickets and so I would say, that's

1242
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: that's where I really like then with God. But the

1243
00:58:18,200 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 1: reason even before that is me and her always loved

1244
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 1: mister Jakes, or at least I did, and she was watching

1245
00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:25,320
Speaker 1: with me. I don't know if she loved him or not.

1246
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 1: But our whole day in time before marriage, like that's

1247
00:58:29,520 --> 00:58:30,920
Speaker 1: what we would do. We would chill, kick it and

1248
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 1: watch TV. And a lot of that time was watching

1249
00:58:33,200 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 1: Bisom Jakes. And so one of my closest friends. You know,

1250
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 1: I was down on his farm. Man. He hurt me. Man,

1251
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: we were just sitting there kicking it and talking and

1252
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:43,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was out of nowhere or not,

1253
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:45,240
Speaker 1: but I just remember him saying to me. He was like, man,

1254
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 1: you watch all that TD Jakes and you ain't changed.

1255
00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:53,000
Speaker 1: And I'm like, what yo? So so my boy, so

1256
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: the one we told him he had he had left

1257
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 1: the music business like seven years before me. He was

1258
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,840
Speaker 1: my business partner in the music business. He produced all

1259
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:01,280
Speaker 1: our hits like ky Camp Money Baby, like all k

1260
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 1: Cam Comfortable, all our big hits. He was a producer.

1261
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 1: And so you know, he found Christ and left and

1262
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 1: so but if we never stopped being tight because he

1263
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:09,400
Speaker 1: found Christ, you know what I mean, You know what

1264
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:11,680
Speaker 1: I mean. So I'm I'm down there kicking it with

1265
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,320
Speaker 1: me like you all this Bishop jakeson, you ain't changed.

1266
00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:19,280
Speaker 1: And that hit me. It hurt me. It hurt me,

1267
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:22,520
Speaker 1: you know what i mean. And I'm like, you know

1268
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 1: what I mean. I'm like, but I'm like, he right, like,

1269
00:59:26,120 --> 00:59:28,360
Speaker 1: I ain't. I'm doing the same stuff I've been doing

1270
00:59:28,360 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 1: this whole time. I just like Biship Jacson. But but

1271
00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:34,840
Speaker 1: the crazy part about it, Like I had enough awareness

1272
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 1: to know if Bishop Jakes wasn't a problem, I was

1273
00:59:37,160 --> 00:59:38,920
Speaker 1: a problem, you know what I mean. And so I'm like,

1274
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, I need to open my ears.

1275
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:44,280
Speaker 1: I need to open my heart. And so that's why

1276
00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:47,520
Speaker 1: that's how I started feeling. So when we went Tye Ls,

1277
00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 1: I went like, Okay, I'm here, I'm a listen. My

1278
00:59:51,440 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 1: heart gonna be open, my ears gonna be open. And

1279
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:59,760
Speaker 1: Bishop Jakes had some incredible speakers, and it was so incredible,

1280
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:02,479
Speaker 1: amazing experience. But then and there, while we were there,

1281
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:06,280
Speaker 1: you know, I was like, okay, God, like we we

1282
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 1: finished like in like, I'm I'm coming for I'm finished

1283
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 1: seeking you, you know what I mean, I'm finna start listening.

1284
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 1: And so through that process of just me seeking reading

1285
01:00:15,720 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 1: the Bible, it just became very clear that the music

1286
01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 1: business was was not where I was supposed to be,

1287
01:00:22,680 --> 01:00:24,560
Speaker 1: or at least I wasn't supposed to be promoting the

1288
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 1: stuff I was promoting, you know, my you know, I'm

1289
01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:30,880
Speaker 1: I'm working with Dirk, I'm working with Rid, you know,

1290
01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:33,960
Speaker 1: I'm working with p Like were singing about sex, I'm

1291
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,400
Speaker 1: writing songs about sex. You know what I mean, I'm

1292
01:00:36,600 --> 01:00:38,080
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I'm in there with Dirk.

1293
01:00:38,120 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: We're gonna, we're gonna call, We're gonna you know what

1294
01:00:39,920 --> 01:00:41,080
Speaker 1: i mean, I'm.

1295
01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 7: Like, oh, I'm a single right there.

1296
01:00:53,720 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 1: And so it was just real clear to me it's

1297
01:00:56,320 --> 01:00:58,919
Speaker 1: like this, this, this is now we're supposed to be doing,

1298
01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:02,200
Speaker 1: you know, like I can't be marketing and promoting this stuff.

1299
01:01:02,680 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 1: And I'm fortunate because even prior to me saying I'm

1300
01:01:07,640 --> 01:01:10,280
Speaker 1: a lead, like God was already working on.

1301
01:01:10,160 --> 01:01:11,360
Speaker 4: Me, like and really quick.

1302
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 3: Because I don't know if you remember, but a few

1303
01:01:14,280 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 3: months before that, some random woman and I'm like, lady,

1304
01:01:19,160 --> 01:01:21,400
Speaker 3: but some random woman wrote him on Instagram and told

1305
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:23,720
Speaker 3: him that he couldn't be double minded. Like it's a

1306
01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:26,680
Speaker 3: random person who didn't know him. Remember that, Yeah, Like

1307
01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:28,240
Speaker 3: he said it to me, like he had to look

1308
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 3: it up in me too.

1309
01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:30,960
Speaker 1: I do remember that I had to look at what

1310
01:01:30,960 --> 01:01:34,480
Speaker 1: double minded was.

1311
01:01:34,680 --> 01:01:37,920
Speaker 3: Woman out of nowhere, you know, like she kind of

1312
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 3: prophesied to him like and told him like you know,

1313
01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 3: like basically the things that he wanted, like he couldn't

1314
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:46,560
Speaker 3: have them, Like he wouldn't have them, you know, as

1315
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:48,360
Speaker 3: long as he was still being double minded.

1316
01:01:48,520 --> 01:01:51,160
Speaker 2: Well, so was you on your social media sharing biblical

1317
01:01:51,160 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 2: stuff as well as promoting other stuff? Were you doing both?

1318
01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: I'm pretty I'm pretty sure I was. But by the

1319
01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:58,760
Speaker 1: time I was doing that, I had really already left.

1320
01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: I just hadn't announced it, had announced it public because

1321
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 1: at this point I'm like a public figure on Instagram

1322
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:07,240
Speaker 1: and we can talk about that too, But but I

1323
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:10,200
Speaker 1: hadn't really announced it, So you know, I just quietly

1324
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 1: I released the artists that I was still working on

1325
01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 1: and just quietly walked away.

1326
01:02:17,400 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 2: So how easy was that to do?

1327
01:02:19,400 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 1: That's why I was saying, like I was already working

1328
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:24,240
Speaker 1: on me, like my desires were already shifting, like the

1329
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 1: things I wanted was already shifting. And then also I

1330
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:30,440
Speaker 1: was fortunate because I didn't really have an identity problem

1331
01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 1: like most people they find their identity and what they do,

1332
01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:35,480
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And I just I just

1333
01:02:35,480 --> 01:02:37,480
Speaker 1: didn't feel that way, you know what I mean. And

1334
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 1: that's why I say God really had the same way

1335
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:43,160
Speaker 1: with going into marriage, Like God had already shifted my

1336
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 1: identity and what I wanted and my desires, and so

1337
01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:48,560
Speaker 1: for me, it was it was nothing to walk away

1338
01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:51,960
Speaker 1: because I just didn't. I knew it was wrong, you

1339
01:02:51,960 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I didn't feel no ties to it.

1340
01:02:55,040 --> 01:02:57,080
Speaker 1: You know. It's like it's like like it said, like

1341
01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:58,880
Speaker 1: I said, you would hate what I hate, you know

1342
01:02:58,920 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 1: what I mean. And that's kind of I felt about it.

1343
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 1: So I really didn't feel in no way about walking away.

1344
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:05,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, you know what I mean. But

1345
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:08,520
Speaker 1: that was God shifting, you know what I mean, Because

1346
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:10,720
Speaker 1: a couple of years or a few years before that,

1347
01:03:10,720 --> 01:03:12,520
Speaker 1: that wouldn't been it wouldn't have been that way. Wow.

1348
01:03:13,120 --> 01:03:17,880
Speaker 3: Well no, no, no, because maybe four years before that,

1349
01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 3: when I was pregnant with Elsie in twenty nineteen, that's

1350
01:03:20,560 --> 01:03:24,280
Speaker 3: our first daughter. He said then that he felt like

1351
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:26,120
Speaker 3: God was telling him to walk.

1352
01:03:25,960 --> 01:03:36,480
Speaker 8: Away four years prior to Hey, buddy, so.

1353
01:03:38,640 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 3: That nineteen and I'm like, okay, that's what God is

1354
01:03:41,480 --> 01:03:43,920
Speaker 3: telling you. But I think that was also like a

1355
01:03:43,960 --> 01:03:46,720
Speaker 3: turning point for him in the industry too. Like before that,

1356
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:50,439
Speaker 3: he had always been a music executive, but he had

1357
01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:53,400
Speaker 3: his own label, you know, he produced all his own music,

1358
01:03:53,440 --> 01:03:56,480
Speaker 3: he signed his artist. But at that point he turned

1359
01:03:56,520 --> 01:03:59,200
Speaker 3: into like an executive for the entire industry.

1360
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 4: And so it was like I.

1361
01:04:01,560 --> 01:04:03,960
Speaker 1: Started doing consulting. You're making a case for why I

1362
01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 1: shouldn't have walked away, because so a case. So what happened?

1363
01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:13,640
Speaker 1: Like I was, I think I was telling y'all before

1364
01:04:13,800 --> 01:04:16,520
Speaker 1: what's the case? I was telling y'all before I started filming.

1365
01:04:16,560 --> 01:04:19,280
Speaker 1: I mean before we started filming that I wanted to

1366
01:04:19,320 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 1: start teaching about the music business. And so once I

1367
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:25,800
Speaker 1: started doing that online and again credit to my wife

1368
01:04:25,800 --> 01:04:28,720
Speaker 1: for making me a popular teacher about music business, because

1369
01:04:28,760 --> 01:04:31,000
Speaker 1: at first I was just giving out the knowledge walking

1370
01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:35,280
Speaker 1: around looking like anything because I don't dress up. I

1371
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:37,640
Speaker 1: don't I don't do all that stuff like it.

1372
01:04:37,520 --> 01:04:42,360
Speaker 4: Has a uniform outfit and another outset. That's it.

1373
01:04:42,520 --> 01:04:46,240
Speaker 3: Like literally all my friends know it, like this is good.

1374
01:04:46,320 --> 01:04:49,800
Speaker 3: This he got his good shoes on. Any other time

1375
01:04:49,880 --> 01:04:50,480
Speaker 3: he has the.

1376
01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:51,800
Speaker 4: Same black I hate him.

1377
01:04:52,120 --> 01:04:54,280
Speaker 3: He were on the church, so theyn't pick our girls

1378
01:04:54,360 --> 01:04:58,320
Speaker 3: up take them to practice. They are probably like ten

1379
01:04:58,640 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 3: to fifteen years old, all black.

1380
01:05:02,080 --> 01:05:08,080
Speaker 4: Mid top and force one with the strap on them

1381
01:05:09,000 --> 01:05:13,960
Speaker 4: like that. I hate it. So you don't care.

1382
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 1: About a long story short. Once I became very popular

1383
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:21,400
Speaker 1: on the internet and people started to know the things

1384
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:23,440
Speaker 1: that I was because I was already responsible for so

1385
01:05:23,560 --> 01:05:26,920
Speaker 1: much just people didn't know it. And then even you know,

1386
01:05:27,000 --> 01:05:29,640
Speaker 1: even like my artists, like yeah, put me on blast

1387
01:05:29,680 --> 01:05:32,800
Speaker 1: one day, but even that made me even more popular,

1388
01:05:33,240 --> 01:05:34,800
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so, like I had

1389
01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:37,560
Speaker 1: just become this this popular figure. But what that did

1390
01:05:37,720 --> 01:05:41,400
Speaker 1: was my consultant checks went crazy. And I wasn't even

1391
01:05:41,400 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 1: a consultant before that, but every label and I wanted

1392
01:05:43,640 --> 01:05:46,280
Speaker 1: to hire me. So now at this point, you know,

1393
01:05:46,360 --> 01:05:48,680
Speaker 1: when I when I retired, I was making six figures

1394
01:05:48,680 --> 01:05:52,480
Speaker 1: plus a month off consultant period. Yeah, a month off

1395
01:05:52,520 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 1: consult because I was consult for every label and independence

1396
01:05:55,560 --> 01:05:57,760
Speaker 1: because everybody wanted to, you know, have the next hit.

1397
01:05:57,840 --> 01:06:00,480
Speaker 1: And every year I'm at the top of charts. I'm

1398
01:06:00,520 --> 01:06:04,040
Speaker 1: number one Billboard, I'm number one TikTok anything you could

1399
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:06,040
Speaker 1: be number Apple music, anything, you could be number one

1400
01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 1: in I was attached to it, you know what I mean.

1401
01:06:08,920 --> 01:06:11,400
Speaker 1: And so I'm at the peak. This is this is like,

1402
01:06:11,880 --> 01:06:14,480
Speaker 1: this is like Jordan leaving after the first three championships.

1403
01:06:14,520 --> 01:06:17,000
Speaker 1: Really is what it's like. And so but but again

1404
01:06:17,080 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 1: I felt none of that, what of that meaning when

1405
01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:22,080
Speaker 1: when it was time to walk away, none of that

1406
01:06:22,160 --> 01:06:24,360
Speaker 1: mattered to me, Like I wasn't thinking about all you're

1407
01:06:24,400 --> 01:06:26,160
Speaker 1: leaving at your peak, or oh, you're leaving the money.

1408
01:06:26,200 --> 01:06:29,040
Speaker 1: I literally wasn't. I thought about the money. After I left.

1409
01:06:31,800 --> 01:06:36,280
Speaker 1: It was my wife, my wh my wife hit me.

1410
01:06:36,320 --> 01:06:39,680
Speaker 2: Somebody, what happened go to that?

1411
01:06:39,720 --> 01:06:42,080
Speaker 1: But my wife hit mean, my wife hit me. That's

1412
01:06:42,120 --> 01:06:45,240
Speaker 1: that's what happened. So my wife reminded me, where's all

1413
01:06:45,240 --> 01:06:47,920
Speaker 1: that money?

1414
01:06:48,880 --> 01:06:50,200
Speaker 2: The lord?

1415
01:06:50,440 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, so she reminded me. But but yeah, so so yeah,

1416
01:06:54,920 --> 01:06:58,320
Speaker 1: So back to just me locking in with God. That

1417
01:06:58,400 --> 01:07:00,280
Speaker 1: was one of the big things, just leaving me music

1418
01:07:01,720 --> 01:07:03,520
Speaker 1: and then just figuring out what I'm going to do next.

1419
01:07:03,560 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 1: And that's why I really feel about this situation here

1420
01:07:06,040 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 1: because over the that was in twenty twenty three that

1421
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:12,440
Speaker 1: I well, yeah, that I walked away locked in on

1422
01:07:12,480 --> 01:07:15,600
Speaker 1: God and all that. But so I've been for Christ,

1423
01:07:15,680 --> 01:07:17,480
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I've been studying, I've been

1424
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:19,480
Speaker 1: you know, we got a Bible study group. So I've

1425
01:07:19,480 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 1: been for him. But I feel like after this situation,

1426
01:07:21,920 --> 01:07:24,280
Speaker 1: he was like, no, I'm the focus, you know what

1427
01:07:24,320 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm the focus. Like I feel like when

1428
01:07:26,400 --> 01:07:28,760
Speaker 1: I was laying in that bed for all them days,

1429
01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:30,960
Speaker 1: they had my phone, my laptop, so I didn't have

1430
01:07:31,080 --> 01:07:32,840
Speaker 1: nothing to do but think, you know what I mean,

1431
01:07:32,960 --> 01:07:34,800
Speaker 1: Like they took it off. So I'm just in the

1432
01:07:34,880 --> 01:07:37,800
Speaker 1: bed like okay, yes, what are we gonna do? Guy,

1433
01:07:37,920 --> 01:07:40,200
Speaker 1: like you just saved my life? Like okay, can we

1434
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:41,800
Speaker 1: do this? Can we start this? Can we write it?

1435
01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 1: I wanted to make her write a book I might steal,

1436
01:07:43,840 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I hit y'all. I'm like, hey, listen,

1437
01:07:46,400 --> 01:07:48,520
Speaker 1: I need to tell people about what's going on, you

1438
01:07:48,560 --> 01:07:51,120
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It leads me back to my story,

1439
01:07:51,360 --> 01:07:53,280
Speaker 1: cause I gotta tell y'all this because this was the

1440
01:07:53,360 --> 01:07:57,680
Speaker 1: first time I saw a miracle and then God put

1441
01:07:57,680 --> 01:07:59,440
Speaker 1: it in his mind to make me one, you know

1442
01:07:59,480 --> 01:08:01,320
Speaker 1: what I mean. And I was telling that God, I

1443
01:08:01,360 --> 01:08:05,160
Speaker 1: didn't need that. I already knew what you. I already

1444
01:08:05,200 --> 01:08:06,920
Speaker 1: knew what you was capable of. We didn't have to

1445
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:10,880
Speaker 1: do this. But but so my my cousin was telling me,

1446
01:08:11,040 --> 01:08:15,080
Speaker 1: you know, just that like she had multiple Like remember

1447
01:08:15,120 --> 01:08:18,320
Speaker 1: I had one organ feel she had multiple, you know

1448
01:08:18,360 --> 01:08:20,360
Speaker 1: what I mean, Like her organs were done. And so

1449
01:08:20,520 --> 01:08:23,439
Speaker 1: I was sitting there and I was holding her hand,

1450
01:08:23,640 --> 01:08:25,600
Speaker 1: and that's why I said, I understand my wife was

1451
01:08:25,640 --> 01:08:27,600
Speaker 1: going through it. I didn't know it really till she

1452
01:08:27,640 --> 01:08:28,760
Speaker 1: just told me. I don't know. I didn't know. I

1453
01:08:28,840 --> 01:08:30,800
Speaker 1: wasn't there throwing up and none of that, honestly. But

1454
01:08:31,360 --> 01:08:33,880
Speaker 1: I'm sitting, I'm holding my little my little sister too.

1455
01:08:33,960 --> 01:08:37,040
Speaker 1: So it was like I'm and I'm literally my prayer

1456
01:08:37,120 --> 01:08:40,960
Speaker 1: was a petition. I'm like, God, I done left music.

1457
01:08:41,560 --> 01:08:44,400
Speaker 1: I didn't start sewing and so and serving exactly where

1458
01:08:44,400 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 1: you told me to serve, sow and serve. I didn't

1459
01:08:46,560 --> 01:08:48,880
Speaker 1: move when I wanted to move, you told me to stay.

1460
01:08:48,920 --> 01:08:51,559
Speaker 1: I'm like, God, I have done all this, and I'm like,

1461
01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:55,600
Speaker 1: everything you asked these past eighteen months, I did it,

1462
01:08:56,120 --> 01:08:58,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I'm like, now I

1463
01:08:58,120 --> 01:09:02,479
Speaker 1: need you. I'm like, I need you. And so I'm

1464
01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:05,479
Speaker 1: holding her hand and God was like, I'm gonna wake

1465
01:09:05,600 --> 01:09:09,080
Speaker 1: every organ up, and I'm like, oh I heard that.

1466
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:11,200
Speaker 1: I'm like he just spoke to me. And I'm like,

1467
01:09:11,280 --> 01:09:13,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, now, let's see if it comes

1468
01:09:13,240 --> 01:09:16,519
Speaker 1: through over the next twenty four hours. Hey, this is

1469
01:09:16,560 --> 01:09:19,840
Speaker 1: starting to function. This starts. My cousin had just told me,

1470
01:09:20,439 --> 01:09:22,800
Speaker 1: you don't come back from this. She was like, be

1471
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:25,280
Speaker 1: cause she the doctors and the nurses was trying to play

1472
01:09:25,280 --> 01:09:28,439
Speaker 1: it software because they s were all tall, you.

1473
01:09:28,400 --> 01:09:33,120
Speaker 4: Know, six five six, like.

1474
01:09:33,080 --> 01:09:35,080
Speaker 1: The shortest one, you know what i mean. So they

1475
01:09:35,360 --> 01:09:37,479
Speaker 1: softballing us. But my cousin was like, no, this is

1476
01:09:37,479 --> 01:09:39,280
Speaker 1: what's going on, you know what I mean. And so

1477
01:09:39,360 --> 01:09:42,360
Speaker 1: I'm like and so I'm like, God, like listen, this, this, this,

1478
01:09:42,400 --> 01:09:45,160
Speaker 1: and this, like now I need you, and he said

1479
01:09:45,160 --> 01:09:47,200
Speaker 1: it to me. It's like, I'm gonna wake every organ up.

1480
01:09:47,520 --> 01:09:49,680
Speaker 1: And I'm and literally he said. I was just so

1481
01:09:49,720 --> 01:09:51,960
Speaker 1: excited that he has spokes. I ain't really too many

1482
01:09:51,960 --> 01:09:55,080
Speaker 1: times had him speak clearly to me. And so I'm like, okay,

1483
01:09:55,120 --> 01:09:57,920
Speaker 1: let let's see if it happened. It just started one organ,

1484
01:09:57,960 --> 01:10:00,519
Speaker 1: the next organ, the next organ, next, and you know,

1485
01:10:00,720 --> 01:10:02,880
Speaker 1: she she's back aware, you know what I mean. And

1486
01:10:02,920 --> 01:10:05,240
Speaker 1: the people in the hospital it was like, this is

1487
01:10:05,280 --> 01:10:08,719
Speaker 1: our miracle. The nurses is saying this, this is our miracle,

1488
01:10:09,080 --> 01:10:12,679
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And so I'm like, I'm like, man,

1489
01:10:12,840 --> 01:10:17,200
Speaker 1: like God is real, Jesus is real. And so it's

1490
01:10:17,240 --> 01:10:22,360
Speaker 1: so crazy because fast forward about eighteen months from that saying,

1491
01:10:22,400 --> 01:10:24,160
Speaker 1: girl that was laying in that bed, by the power

1492
01:10:24,200 --> 01:10:28,160
Speaker 1: of God, come in and start sorry quarterback in my

1493
01:10:28,240 --> 01:10:30,640
Speaker 1: situation because she is a doctor. So she coming there

1494
01:10:30,680 --> 01:10:32,200
Speaker 1: with my dad, listen, we need to do this, We

1495
01:10:32,200 --> 01:10:34,360
Speaker 1: need to do that because she literally been through it,

1496
01:10:34,640 --> 01:10:36,559
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So her and my dad, like,

1497
01:10:36,600 --> 01:10:39,040
Speaker 1: that's why I'm so grateful for their medical experience, because

1498
01:10:39,040 --> 01:10:41,600
Speaker 1: like they was literally working hand in hand with the

1499
01:10:41,640 --> 01:10:43,599
Speaker 1: doctors telling the doctor, no, we can't do this, but

1500
01:10:43,600 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 1: they were They're very professional. They was like, well, listen,

1501
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:47,600
Speaker 1: we should do it like this because of this. But

1502
01:10:48,240 --> 01:10:50,960
Speaker 1: also I credit the doctors for listening, because you listen

1503
01:10:50,960 --> 01:10:53,120
Speaker 1: to these folks, you know, they could have been offended

1504
01:10:53,960 --> 01:10:58,400
Speaker 1: and yeah, and so like to see to see them

1505
01:10:58,400 --> 01:11:00,400
Speaker 1: be so receptive to my little sister there and my

1506
01:11:00,479 --> 01:11:04,080
Speaker 1: dad to help save my life. But the point that

1507
01:11:04,120 --> 01:11:06,439
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make this is the point that I'm

1508
01:11:06,479 --> 01:11:08,519
Speaker 1: trying to make without what I've learned from this scenario,

1509
01:11:08,560 --> 01:11:11,120
Speaker 1: which I already knew. And God you you ain't had

1510
01:11:11,120 --> 01:11:13,640
Speaker 1: to do that, but you did it, so all right.

1511
01:11:13,720 --> 01:11:16,599
Speaker 1: This is how I know that Jesus is real. This

1512
01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:19,120
Speaker 1: is how I know because when my little sister was

1513
01:11:19,160 --> 01:11:21,559
Speaker 1: in the bed and they were saying the only thing

1514
01:11:21,640 --> 01:11:25,040
Speaker 1: keeping her alive was that machine I called Jesus. I

1515
01:11:25,080 --> 01:11:28,920
Speaker 1: didn't call No, No, no, Muhammad, no Islam. I didn't

1516
01:11:28,960 --> 01:11:32,320
Speaker 1: call none of that. Jesus, Jesus, Jesus. And he spoke

1517
01:11:32,360 --> 01:11:34,080
Speaker 1: to me. He said, I'm gonna wake every organ up.

1518
01:11:34,280 --> 01:11:36,760
Speaker 1: And that's cool. You could say I could have imagined that.

1519
01:11:37,080 --> 01:11:40,800
Speaker 1: But then why this organ came back online, this organ

1520
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:43,599
Speaker 1: started functioning. This organ. Now I'm laying in the bed.

1521
01:11:43,680 --> 01:11:46,960
Speaker 1: I'm telling my wife, pray to Jesus. I'm calling my friends,

1522
01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:49,000
Speaker 1: is calling my past and my pastor pick up the phone,

1523
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:52,839
Speaker 1: pray over me. He called in Jesus. He called in Jesus.

1524
01:11:53,200 --> 01:11:55,720
Speaker 1: And you can say, okay, cool, same thing, but no,

1525
01:11:55,880 --> 01:12:01,160
Speaker 1: something different. This time, God showed me the future. My

1526
01:12:01,280 --> 01:12:03,960
Speaker 1: wife prayed to Jesus. I pray to Jesus. My pastor,

1527
01:12:03,960 --> 01:12:08,200
Speaker 1: pray to Jesus. Now, I ain't never heard of no

1528
01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:11,240
Speaker 1: other religion or no other sect than no other noning.

1529
01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:13,320
Speaker 1: You call the name and the next thing you know,

1530
01:12:13,400 --> 01:12:15,760
Speaker 1: that person is seeing the future. You know what I mean.

1531
01:12:15,800 --> 01:12:19,439
Speaker 1: I never heard of that. Then he told her I

1532
01:12:19,479 --> 01:12:21,559
Speaker 1: was gonna live. He told my mom, I was gonna live.

1533
01:12:21,640 --> 01:12:23,519
Speaker 1: He told my pastor, I was gonna live. It's crazy,

1534
01:12:23,600 --> 01:12:27,240
Speaker 1: my pastor told me when he prayed to God. He said,

1535
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:29,439
Speaker 1: what he heard back is how he knew I was

1536
01:12:29,439 --> 01:12:32,960
Speaker 1: gonna live. He said, God said, I'm going He wrote

1537
01:12:32,960 --> 01:12:34,680
Speaker 1: it to me. He was like, God said he's going

1538
01:12:34,720 --> 01:12:37,960
Speaker 1: to live because of his faithfulness, and that that broke

1539
01:12:38,000 --> 01:12:41,840
Speaker 1: me down right there. I'm like God, I'm faithful. But

1540
01:12:41,840 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 1: but nevertheless, I know they called on Jesus. I know.

1541
01:12:44,600 --> 01:12:47,160
Speaker 1: I called on Jesus and he told them I was

1542
01:12:47,200 --> 01:12:49,400
Speaker 1: gonna live, and he showed me I was going to live,

1543
01:12:49,640 --> 01:12:52,840
Speaker 1: and I lived. Now the doctor's let me say, a

1544
01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:56,559
Speaker 1: miracle is when something happens out of the natural. The

1545
01:12:56,760 --> 01:12:59,720
Speaker 1: natural said I was dead, The natural said I was

1546
01:13:00,200 --> 01:13:04,240
Speaker 1: That natural said there's nothing we can do. Who did

1547
01:13:04,240 --> 01:13:08,120
Speaker 1: they call on to change that? They called on Jesus. Now,

1548
01:13:08,160 --> 01:13:11,040
Speaker 1: you can't tell me Jesus ain't the son of God.

1549
01:13:11,640 --> 01:13:14,280
Speaker 1: My baby, Thank you, baby, thank you so much, thank

1550
01:13:14,320 --> 01:13:14,800
Speaker 1: you so much.

1551
01:13:14,800 --> 01:13:15,240
Speaker 2: I love you.

1552
01:13:15,800 --> 01:13:19,760
Speaker 1: My baby called on Jesus. And God said, because you

1553
01:13:19,920 --> 01:13:22,439
Speaker 1: called my son name, I'm gonna show him what I'm

1554
01:13:22,479 --> 01:13:24,519
Speaker 1: gonna do. I ain't even just gonna do it. He

1555
01:13:24,560 --> 01:13:26,920
Speaker 1: gonna see I'm gonna show him. And I thought about

1556
01:13:26,960 --> 01:13:29,040
Speaker 1: why he did that, and it was like be cause

1557
01:13:29,080 --> 01:13:32,599
Speaker 1: you can't say nothing else happened. But God's that's why

1558
01:13:32,600 --> 01:13:35,240
Speaker 1: I showed you this, so you know it was me,

1559
01:13:35,720 --> 01:13:37,880
Speaker 1: because any other thing you could have thought maybe they

1560
01:13:37,960 --> 01:13:40,479
Speaker 1: just maybe the doctors healed me. I wanted you to

1561
01:13:40,520 --> 01:13:42,599
Speaker 1: know I did this because I was like, why did

1562
01:13:42,640 --> 01:13:44,360
Speaker 1: he show me that? Like he ain't had to do that,

1563
01:13:44,720 --> 01:13:47,200
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And I'm telling you, I

1564
01:13:47,200 --> 01:13:50,400
Speaker 1: don't got no reason to fake a front yard. I

1565
01:13:50,520 --> 01:13:53,640
Speaker 1: was ready to go. So when God, when God showed me. Now,

1566
01:13:53,680 --> 01:13:56,000
Speaker 1: when I'm telling you that God showed me that, I

1567
01:13:56,120 --> 01:14:00,000
Speaker 1: mean it with sincerity. I saw the next three days,

1568
01:14:00,680 --> 01:14:05,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And Jesus, all you gotta

1569
01:14:05,040 --> 01:14:07,400
Speaker 1: do is call it you even even when I went

1570
01:14:07,439 --> 01:14:10,280
Speaker 1: to my primary care doctor about two and a half

1571
01:14:10,320 --> 01:14:14,840
Speaker 1: weeks after, and I remember he said something that because

1572
01:14:14,880 --> 01:14:17,000
Speaker 1: it was, like you said earlier, it was a traumatic thing.

1573
01:14:17,080 --> 01:14:19,960
Speaker 1: And one of the things I didn't realize was how

1574
01:14:20,000 --> 01:14:23,599
Speaker 1: traumatic it was. But he was looking at my charts

1575
01:14:24,400 --> 01:14:26,760
Speaker 1: and he was looking at everything they did, and he

1576
01:14:26,800 --> 01:14:28,600
Speaker 1: came across a couple of medicines and he said the

1577
01:14:28,640 --> 01:14:30,519
Speaker 1: name of the message. I don't remember them, but he

1578
01:14:30,600 --> 01:14:32,720
Speaker 1: said their names, and he was like, yeah, they was

1579
01:14:32,760 --> 01:14:35,960
Speaker 1: really sending you away, like like the medicines that they

1580
01:14:36,000 --> 01:14:39,519
Speaker 1: were giving me were preparing me for death. And when

1581
01:14:39,560 --> 01:14:42,920
Speaker 1: he said that, it just hit how really was I'm like, dag,

1582
01:14:43,120 --> 01:14:45,280
Speaker 1: like I really was gone and you.

1583
01:14:45,200 --> 01:14:47,960
Speaker 2: Were preparing yourself for it, you were preparing family for it.

1584
01:14:48,040 --> 01:14:49,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was preparing myself.

1585
01:14:49,439 --> 01:14:51,920
Speaker 2: But you think about this real quick. I'm he that

1586
01:14:52,080 --> 01:14:55,719
Speaker 2: you said that. The pastor said, God told him.

1587
01:14:55,640 --> 01:14:58,040
Speaker 1: What he told him, that he's going to live because

1588
01:14:58,080 --> 01:14:58,400
Speaker 1: of his.

1589
01:14:58,400 --> 01:15:01,320
Speaker 2: Faithfulness, and isn't an interesting way? And God calls us

1590
01:15:01,360 --> 01:15:04,479
Speaker 2: back home, he says, well done, thow good and faithful service.

1591
01:15:05,040 --> 01:15:08,160
Speaker 2: And so that's the tension that was happening in that moment,

1592
01:15:08,680 --> 01:15:11,719
Speaker 2: is that yes, you are on the cusp of death,

1593
01:15:12,080 --> 01:15:15,160
Speaker 2: and God mercy said no and allowed you so that

1594
01:15:15,240 --> 01:15:17,679
Speaker 2: you can have this moment right now, and the moments

1595
01:15:17,680 --> 01:15:19,680
Speaker 2: that's going to keep on happening. The souls that are

1596
01:15:19,680 --> 01:15:22,240
Speaker 2: going to be brought to the kingdom because of your testimony.

1597
01:15:22,560 --> 01:15:25,200
Speaker 2: The Bible says that people are overcome by the word,

1598
01:15:25,280 --> 01:15:26,880
Speaker 2: by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word

1599
01:15:26,920 --> 01:15:29,720
Speaker 2: of your testimony. And so God needs you to be

1600
01:15:29,760 --> 01:15:31,839
Speaker 2: a remnant in the earth so that you can speak

1601
01:15:32,120 --> 01:15:35,400
Speaker 2: and wave the bloodstained banner and yell out the clarion

1602
01:15:35,479 --> 01:15:37,680
Speaker 2: call and say, God did it. I don't care what

1603
01:15:37,760 --> 01:15:40,559
Speaker 2: y'all say. You know, I don't care what y'all say.

1604
01:15:40,680 --> 01:15:45,400
Speaker 2: I am a walking, living, breathing testimony. I am a miracle.

1605
01:15:45,439 --> 01:15:47,160
Speaker 2: And I'm telling you, if you ever want to see

1606
01:15:47,160 --> 01:15:49,320
Speaker 2: what a miracle look like, look at me. That's what

1607
01:15:49,360 --> 01:15:52,439
Speaker 2: you represent. And that's the reason why God allowed you

1608
01:15:52,479 --> 01:15:55,280
Speaker 2: to go through all that you've been through, and to

1609
01:15:55,400 --> 01:15:58,559
Speaker 2: know that you've had richest and wealth and said, God

1610
01:15:58,600 --> 01:16:00,720
Speaker 2: told me to do it. I'm just gonna I'm gonna

1611
01:16:00,760 --> 01:16:03,439
Speaker 2: walk away from it. Listen, think too many people in

1612
01:16:03,439 --> 01:16:05,160
Speaker 2: this are gonna walk away from one hundred thousand dollars

1613
01:16:05,200 --> 01:16:05,679
Speaker 2: a month.

1614
01:16:07,000 --> 01:16:17,639
Speaker 1: More than that. I said, six figure, he said.

1615
01:16:16,520 --> 01:16:17,720
Speaker 2: He said, he said, at the bottom of.

1616
01:16:17,640 --> 01:16:20,360
Speaker 6: The things was just that was from because that wasn't

1617
01:16:20,360 --> 01:16:22,799
Speaker 6: even the executive that.

1618
01:16:22,680 --> 01:16:25,680
Speaker 1: That wasn't the catalog. God guys really took care for that.

1619
01:16:25,760 --> 01:16:28,000
Speaker 1: But again that's why when when I was on situation,

1620
01:16:28,080 --> 01:16:30,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, Maya's gonna be good, you know what.

1621
01:16:30,000 --> 01:16:34,800
Speaker 3: I mean, she wasn't gonna be good, that's right, gonna

1622
01:16:34,840 --> 01:16:39,519
Speaker 3: be good, that's right. Financially would be financially, didn't matter

1623
01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:41,479
Speaker 3: if my husband was not here.

1624
01:16:41,640 --> 01:16:44,160
Speaker 1: Like that was what we the second we got to

1625
01:16:44,200 --> 01:16:50,920
Speaker 1: talk about Maya and her holding it down while I

1626
01:16:50,960 --> 01:16:53,120
Speaker 1: was down, because, like I said, I know what it's

1627
01:16:53,200 --> 01:16:54,920
Speaker 1: like to be on the other side of that, you

1628
01:16:55,000 --> 01:16:58,120
Speaker 1: know what I mean, And how scary that is, Like,

1629
01:16:58,640 --> 01:17:01,519
Speaker 1: it's unbelievable to hear that somebody's about to go that

1630
01:17:01,600 --> 01:17:03,400
Speaker 1: you love, especially when it's complete unders because it was

1631
01:17:03,439 --> 01:17:06,200
Speaker 1: completely unexpected my little sister, and it was completely unexpected

1632
01:17:06,240 --> 01:17:08,120
Speaker 1: with me, Like I was fine, I had plans. That's

1633
01:17:08,160 --> 01:17:09,880
Speaker 1: another thing. That's why you can't play about God.

1634
01:17:09,960 --> 01:17:11,439
Speaker 2: Hold on, I want to go back. I want to

1635
01:17:11,479 --> 01:17:13,559
Speaker 2: go back. So people can add context, We're gonna spend

1636
01:17:13,600 --> 01:17:16,360
Speaker 2: a few minutes talking about this so we can understand.

1637
01:17:16,360 --> 01:17:18,559
Speaker 2: Who is this woman next to you? Who are you

1638
01:17:18,680 --> 01:17:21,360
Speaker 2: standing next to him? So how did y'all meet?

1639
01:17:21,800 --> 01:17:26,320
Speaker 1: Oh? Okay, so I like this story. She don't love

1640
01:17:26,320 --> 01:17:28,640
Speaker 1: it as much because of where we met. But we

1641
01:17:28,880 --> 01:17:36,559
Speaker 1: were in l A and Delmar again. Yeah, so so

1642
01:17:36,640 --> 01:17:38,120
Speaker 1: tomorrow was trying to drag me out of the house, but

1643
01:17:38,160 --> 01:17:39,680
Speaker 1: they were going to like a dispensary. So I'm like,

1644
01:17:39,680 --> 01:17:41,040
Speaker 1: I don't even smoke I ain't trying to go there,

1645
01:17:41,280 --> 01:17:44,160
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But I'm like, all right, whatever,

1646
01:17:44,280 --> 01:17:45,559
Speaker 1: but I think they need a ride.

1647
01:17:47,439 --> 01:17:50,160
Speaker 2: I think it was.

1648
01:17:51,600 --> 01:17:53,800
Speaker 1: So I drove him up there, and so we get

1649
01:17:53,840 --> 01:17:57,240
Speaker 1: there and we're going up the elevator and the elevator opened,

1650
01:17:57,479 --> 01:17:59,880
Speaker 1: and she's getting on while we get all out my

1651
01:18:00,080 --> 01:18:01,320
Speaker 1: she had on like a was it.

1652
01:18:01,280 --> 01:18:02,080
Speaker 2: A yeasy hoodie?

1653
01:18:02,600 --> 01:18:05,720
Speaker 1: Real tight like this? That's all I saw? Was this beautiful?

1654
01:18:05,920 --> 01:18:10,400
Speaker 1: Its super pretty? Like, oh, who is that? Looking pretty? Like?

1655
01:18:11,640 --> 01:18:14,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, hold on and so I so I asked

1656
01:18:14,280 --> 01:18:15,240
Speaker 1: the dude who shop it was.

1657
01:18:15,280 --> 01:18:16,720
Speaker 7: I'm like, bro, who was that? He's like, oh, that

1658
01:18:16,840 --> 01:18:18,799
Speaker 7: so and so from Atlanta. I'm like, what's from Atlanta?

1659
01:18:19,040 --> 01:18:20,720
Speaker 1: He was like, you want me call her back? I'm

1660
01:18:20,760 --> 01:18:22,120
Speaker 1: like I'm like, yeah, I get her back up here.

1661
01:18:22,160 --> 01:18:23,920
Speaker 2: What you're talking about living?

1662
01:18:24,520 --> 01:18:26,720
Speaker 1: I was living in last I was by coach, so

1663
01:18:27,120 --> 01:18:28,960
Speaker 1: I was back and forth, but she was living there.

1664
01:18:29,200 --> 01:18:31,840
Speaker 1: She was living there, and so so he called her like, hey,

1665
01:18:31,840 --> 01:18:37,439
Speaker 1: you left something. He lied to her. So she came

1666
01:18:37,479 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 1: back up there and so, and I was so lucky.

1667
01:18:39,920 --> 01:18:41,000
Speaker 2: I was fly that day.

1668
01:18:41,800 --> 01:18:44,519
Speaker 1: I was fly all white, you know what I mean.

1669
01:18:44,640 --> 01:18:45,720
Speaker 1: I was fly that day.

1670
01:18:45,760 --> 01:18:47,000
Speaker 4: He didn't have his uniform.

1671
01:18:48,840 --> 01:18:49,000
Speaker 2: Fly.

1672
01:18:49,360 --> 01:18:51,519
Speaker 1: And so we were playing pool my boys wing man.

1673
01:18:51,560 --> 01:18:53,960
Speaker 1: They let me win. I'm knocking in shots. I'm like, girl,

1674
01:18:54,040 --> 01:18:58,040
Speaker 1: you know, so I'm just I'm talking to her, and so,

1675
01:18:58,160 --> 01:19:00,519
Speaker 1: you know, I get her number and she leaves, and

1676
01:19:00,560 --> 01:19:02,160
Speaker 1: I know, from her point of view, she said she

1677
01:19:02,160 --> 01:19:03,920
Speaker 1: gave me her numb because she was homesick. And she's like,

1678
01:19:03,920 --> 01:19:05,960
Speaker 1: I don't know nobody here from Atlanta. But I think

1679
01:19:05,960 --> 01:19:08,400
Speaker 1: it was the swag. I think the all white guys

1680
01:19:08,400 --> 01:19:10,320
Speaker 1: to here, all white guys, think the all white guys.

1681
01:19:10,479 --> 01:19:15,320
Speaker 1: I had hair it in too, so I had hear

1682
01:19:15,360 --> 01:19:18,599
Speaker 1: it in. But but yeah, so so that that's how

1683
01:19:18,640 --> 01:19:21,160
Speaker 1: we met. But we went on like a couple of dates.

1684
01:19:22,320 --> 01:19:24,040
Speaker 4: We went on a couple of hangouts.

1685
01:19:24,280 --> 01:19:27,599
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, sure, sure they were not dates.

1686
01:19:27,800 --> 01:19:29,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, we hung out.

1687
01:19:29,520 --> 01:19:33,480
Speaker 2: So why you quantifying white you say it was hangouts?

1688
01:19:33,560 --> 01:19:35,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, because we were not dating.

1689
01:19:36,560 --> 01:19:39,960
Speaker 3: I had been in LA at the time for maybe

1690
01:19:40,000 --> 01:19:44,720
Speaker 3: three months, and I really was homesick, and so to

1691
01:19:44,760 --> 01:19:46,800
Speaker 3: hear that he was from Atlanta, you know, just it

1692
01:19:46,840 --> 01:19:50,000
Speaker 3: felt comforting, Like if you have been in LA or

1693
01:19:50,040 --> 01:19:53,280
Speaker 3: lived in LA, you don't find too many people you

1694
01:19:53,320 --> 01:19:58,040
Speaker 3: know from your hometown who are like real people and

1695
01:19:58,160 --> 01:19:59,000
Speaker 3: from real people.

1696
01:19:59,479 --> 01:20:02,200
Speaker 9: Despite because that's what I was about to say, despite

1697
01:20:02,240 --> 01:20:07,160
Speaker 9: all of his confidence that he had, you know, he

1698
01:20:07,280 --> 01:20:10,000
Speaker 9: still felt like home, Like I still felt a sense

1699
01:20:10,040 --> 01:20:12,720
Speaker 9: of like southern hospitality, you know.

1700
01:20:12,800 --> 01:20:14,960
Speaker 4: And gentlemanness.

1701
01:20:15,400 --> 01:20:18,880
Speaker 3: But I moved to l A just because I had

1702
01:20:18,960 --> 01:20:23,120
Speaker 3: been in one relationship like my entire adult life and

1703
01:20:23,120 --> 01:20:25,080
Speaker 3: it ended and I'm just like, I want a fresh start.

1704
01:20:25,120 --> 01:20:27,040
Speaker 3: And so I wasn't interested in dating.

1705
01:20:28,080 --> 01:20:29,200
Speaker 5: Did you come from Atlanta?

1706
01:20:29,479 --> 01:20:33,000
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, yep, I came from Atlanta. And then you know,

1707
01:20:33,080 --> 01:20:35,519
Speaker 3: the previous person that I, you know, had dealt with.

1708
01:20:37,439 --> 01:20:38,439
Speaker 4: It was not dates.

1709
01:20:39,760 --> 01:20:41,840
Speaker 3: I was not interested in dating anybody in the music

1710
01:20:41,880 --> 01:20:45,840
Speaker 3: industry at all, and especially not with all the confidence

1711
01:20:45,880 --> 01:20:48,839
Speaker 3: that he had, because the confidence through.

1712
01:20:48,640 --> 01:20:51,519
Speaker 4: The roof, it was like it was so much.

1713
01:20:52,600 --> 01:20:54,360
Speaker 3: So I'm like, but he can be a friend because

1714
01:20:54,400 --> 01:20:57,519
Speaker 3: he was a gentleman, and I did you know, I

1715
01:20:57,800 --> 01:21:00,040
Speaker 3: feel like I have a strong level of discernment, and

1716
01:21:00,080 --> 01:21:02,519
Speaker 3: I did you know discern that he was like, you know,

1717
01:21:02,640 --> 01:21:04,559
Speaker 3: a good person and could be a good friend. And

1718
01:21:04,600 --> 01:21:06,720
Speaker 3: so I'm like, I don't have any friends out here yet,

1719
01:21:06,800 --> 01:21:08,360
Speaker 3: you know, we can.

1720
01:21:08,280 --> 01:21:13,479
Speaker 1: Hang out friends friends. No, honestly, I really didn't know,

1721
01:21:13,680 --> 01:21:18,000
Speaker 1: you know, what the situation was, like, I just wanted

1722
01:21:18,000 --> 01:21:20,200
Speaker 1: to see, you know, what he could be. And so

1723
01:21:20,400 --> 01:21:24,519
Speaker 1: we went on a couple of hangouts. But but then

1724
01:21:24,720 --> 01:21:27,960
Speaker 1: we we was like cool for like you know, like

1725
01:21:28,040 --> 01:21:30,680
Speaker 1: two years, like we never yeah, we never really like

1726
01:21:30,840 --> 01:21:32,840
Speaker 1: dated or we were just cool. We would you know,

1727
01:21:33,200 --> 01:21:36,360
Speaker 1: talking on the phone every now and again, until one

1728
01:21:36,439 --> 01:21:42,559
Speaker 1: day she showed up at my door. I toil February fourteenth.

1729
01:21:42,760 --> 01:21:46,920
Speaker 1: February fourteenth, twenty sixteen. She came to my door and

1730
01:21:47,280 --> 01:21:47,840
Speaker 1: never left.

1731
01:21:48,120 --> 01:21:50,680
Speaker 3: First of all, I'm saying, I showed it up, like

1732
01:21:50,800 --> 01:21:53,560
Speaker 3: I just hear, like I was not invited.

1733
01:21:54,240 --> 01:21:55,599
Speaker 4: Neither one of us was doing anything.

1734
01:21:55,600 --> 01:22:03,520
Speaker 3: We were texting and he's like, okay, come hang outouts

1735
01:22:01,360 --> 01:22:05,400
Speaker 3: I think, I mean, we didn't have anything to do,

1736
01:22:08,560 --> 01:22:12,080
Speaker 3: and yeah, so I went to go hang out. I

1737
01:22:12,120 --> 01:22:14,479
Speaker 3: was at that point like back and forth between Atlanta

1738
01:22:14,479 --> 01:22:15,440
Speaker 3: and l A.

1739
01:22:16,320 --> 01:22:19,080
Speaker 4: I had not fully made the commitment and the decision

1740
01:22:19,120 --> 01:22:21,639
Speaker 4: to move back. But we hung out.

1741
01:22:22,560 --> 01:22:23,160
Speaker 1: And how was that?

1742
01:22:23,200 --> 01:22:23,320
Speaker 8: So?

1743
01:22:23,479 --> 01:22:26,320
Speaker 1: I mean, we we've been we started dating from there

1744
01:22:27,439 --> 01:22:30,640
Speaker 1: that a little off and on relationship until you know,

1745
01:22:31,080 --> 01:22:34,280
Speaker 1: I decided that, you know, I think this could go

1746
01:22:34,320 --> 01:22:38,000
Speaker 1: all the way and so I think it was not.

1747
01:22:37,880 --> 01:22:40,800
Speaker 4: Off and on. It was one off and then you

1748
01:22:40,840 --> 01:22:41,640
Speaker 4: wanted to marry me.

1749
01:22:47,080 --> 01:22:52,439
Speaker 1: It was a good I think. I think we were

1750
01:22:52,479 --> 01:22:54,479
Speaker 1: off more than we were on because we dated for

1751
01:22:54,520 --> 01:22:56,800
Speaker 1: seven months, off for a year and a half, and

1752
01:22:56,840 --> 01:22:59,439
Speaker 1: then when we got back together seven months later, we

1753
01:22:59,439 --> 01:23:02,240
Speaker 1: were engaged. So it was fourteen months on. It was

1754
01:23:02,280 --> 01:23:03,000
Speaker 1: more often on.

1755
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:03,679
Speaker 2: Wow.

1756
01:23:04,120 --> 01:23:06,400
Speaker 1: But yeah, So we dated the first seven months, broke

1757
01:23:06,479 --> 01:23:08,000
Speaker 1: up for a year and a half, and then the

1758
01:23:08,040 --> 01:23:10,479
Speaker 1: second seven months. And the reason why I believed I

1759
01:23:10,479 --> 01:23:12,760
Speaker 1: could marry her because I saw how much she had

1760
01:23:12,840 --> 01:23:16,040
Speaker 1: grown in that space. I'm like, wow, like she really

1761
01:23:16,360 --> 01:23:20,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, has like become a much

1762
01:23:20,320 --> 01:23:23,240
Speaker 1: better person. You know. Sorry, baby, That's how it felt.

1763
01:23:23,520 --> 01:23:26,000
Speaker 2: Well, it wasn't the spiritual part it went.

1764
01:23:26,439 --> 01:23:28,760
Speaker 1: It wasn't It wasn't even that. It wasn't the spiritual part.

1765
01:23:29,680 --> 01:23:31,920
Speaker 1: It was just you know, she she had a lot

1766
01:23:31,920 --> 01:23:34,720
Speaker 1: of a lot of a lot of lot of you

1767
01:23:34,800 --> 01:23:37,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean, and a lot of the me

1768
01:23:37,800 --> 01:23:41,120
Speaker 1: and to me, you know, but she had calmed down

1769
01:23:41,360 --> 01:23:43,640
Speaker 1: a good amount and like sort of cut off some

1770
01:23:43,720 --> 01:23:45,840
Speaker 1: of her bad habits, and so I just saw the growth.

1771
01:23:45,880 --> 01:23:48,120
Speaker 1: I just saw like wow, like because I mean, that's

1772
01:23:48,240 --> 01:23:50,439
Speaker 1: rare to seeing people like most people, they are who

1773
01:23:50,479 --> 01:23:52,559
Speaker 1: they are, you know what I mean. But you you

1774
01:23:52,560 --> 01:23:56,000
Speaker 1: could clearly see that she cared about her self growth,

1775
01:23:56,000 --> 01:23:57,479
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You could clearly see that

1776
01:23:57,520 --> 01:24:00,320
Speaker 1: she was striving to be a better and better person.

1777
01:24:00,439 --> 01:24:03,599
Speaker 1: And in my mind, I'm like, that's what it takes

1778
01:24:03,600 --> 01:24:06,080
Speaker 1: to be Maryly, how would I know, But in my mind,

1779
01:24:06,360 --> 01:24:08,280
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's what it takes. Like if we can

1780
01:24:08,320 --> 01:24:10,320
Speaker 1: because I knew I was always trying to grow, So

1781
01:24:10,360 --> 01:24:12,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, if we can grow together, I think we'll

1782
01:24:12,800 --> 01:24:14,439
Speaker 1: be able to make it in this marriage. So that's

1783
01:24:14,520 --> 01:24:17,800
Speaker 1: that was really my mindset. And so I proposed to

1784
01:24:17,880 --> 01:24:20,000
Speaker 1: her on her birthday.

1785
01:24:20,160 --> 01:24:20,960
Speaker 2: Did you expect it?

1786
01:24:21,520 --> 01:24:22,000
Speaker 4: I did not.

1787
01:24:22,640 --> 01:24:27,479
Speaker 3: I did not, But like he has like and while

1788
01:24:27,479 --> 01:24:29,400
Speaker 3: we are sitting on this couch today, because this is

1789
01:24:29,439 --> 01:24:32,639
Speaker 3: the most persistent person I have ever met in life.

1790
01:24:33,360 --> 01:24:35,360
Speaker 4: I mean, this man didn't quit.

1791
01:24:37,400 --> 01:24:40,360
Speaker 3: But you know, and even on that first hangout, he

1792
01:24:40,479 --> 01:24:42,160
Speaker 3: said to me that he was gonna marry me. And

1793
01:24:42,200 --> 01:24:43,720
Speaker 3: it's like, boy, I don't even like.

1794
01:24:43,720 --> 01:24:47,280
Speaker 2: You just running down.

1795
01:24:47,760 --> 01:24:50,800
Speaker 1: Honestly, I really felt like I was ready to be

1796
01:24:50,880 --> 01:24:52,920
Speaker 1: Like when I met her, I knew that I was

1797
01:24:53,000 --> 01:24:55,040
Speaker 1: just done playing around, you know what I mean? And

1798
01:24:55,080 --> 01:24:57,760
Speaker 1: so I felt like again it goes back to like

1799
01:24:57,800 --> 01:24:59,880
Speaker 1: those desire like things were falling off of me that

1800
01:25:00,120 --> 01:25:02,160
Speaker 1: I didn't asked to be taken away, you know what

1801
01:25:02,200 --> 01:25:03,600
Speaker 1: I mean, Like all of a sudden, this type of

1802
01:25:03,600 --> 01:25:05,680
Speaker 1: girl not attractive to me, to me no more like

1803
01:25:05,720 --> 01:25:07,320
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, you got to be about something

1804
01:25:07,400 --> 01:25:09,360
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, like I care what your conversation

1805
01:25:09,520 --> 01:25:13,960
Speaker 1: is like, and I'm like, man, come on. So I

1806
01:25:14,040 --> 01:25:17,680
Speaker 1: already could feel like God was preparing, Like you know,

1807
01:25:17,720 --> 01:25:20,519
Speaker 1: I come from a goly foundation, like my mother raised

1808
01:25:20,560 --> 01:25:22,599
Speaker 1: me in the church. She's poured into me, she's prayed

1809
01:25:22,640 --> 01:25:26,960
Speaker 1: over me. So I understood God and I believed in Jesus.

1810
01:25:27,040 --> 01:25:28,080
Speaker 1: I just wasn't locked in.

1811
01:25:28,880 --> 01:25:31,400
Speaker 2: But when you said you're gonna marry me, was you

1812
01:25:31,800 --> 01:25:33,840
Speaker 2: running game in that moment? Or you really believe that.

1813
01:25:33,840 --> 01:25:35,400
Speaker 1: It was a little bit of both. It's fifty fifty.

1814
01:25:35,600 --> 01:25:38,800
Speaker 1: It's fifty fifty. It was like I knew that I

1815
01:25:38,880 --> 01:25:46,240
Speaker 1: was ready and she looked good. It was fifty fifty.

1816
01:25:46,240 --> 01:25:51,479
Speaker 1: It really, it really was. But but yeah, so I think.

1817
01:25:50,960 --> 01:25:53,400
Speaker 2: It was you surprised when he actually did ask you

1818
01:25:53,479 --> 01:25:56,320
Speaker 2: knowing that he said that years prior to on the

1819
01:25:56,360 --> 01:25:59,040
Speaker 2: first date, and then he actually he's standing on business

1820
01:25:59,080 --> 01:25:59,599
Speaker 2: at this point.

1821
01:26:00,280 --> 01:26:06,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was because and like for me, because I

1822
01:26:06,160 --> 01:26:09,200
Speaker 3: had only you know, been in one relationship, like I

1823
01:26:09,200 --> 01:26:11,720
Speaker 3: felt like you have to show me and like, if

1824
01:26:11,760 --> 01:26:13,760
Speaker 3: you say something, I'm gonna make you walk that out.

1825
01:26:14,720 --> 01:26:18,040
Speaker 3: And so once we did start dating officially two years

1826
01:26:18,080 --> 01:26:22,920
Speaker 3: later after I first hangout, I was talking to one

1827
01:26:22,920 --> 01:26:25,120
Speaker 3: of my guy friends and he was dating at the time,

1828
01:26:25,479 --> 01:26:27,599
Speaker 3: and he was telling me about a jewelry place where

1829
01:26:27,640 --> 01:26:29,799
Speaker 3: he was you know, shout out to Malcolm and Jessica,

1830
01:26:30,680 --> 01:26:33,080
Speaker 3: but he was telling me where about a jury place

1831
01:26:33,120 --> 01:26:35,120
Speaker 3: that he was looking at, which was Brown and Company,

1832
01:26:35,160 --> 01:26:36,599
Speaker 3: and he was just telling me like they had some

1833
01:26:36,640 --> 01:26:40,040
Speaker 3: really nice jewelry. And so I'm like, all right, well

1834
01:26:40,080 --> 01:26:42,200
Speaker 3: he's saying we're gonna get married and we back together,

1835
01:26:42,320 --> 01:26:44,160
Speaker 3: like let me show you a ring, guy, like like,

1836
01:26:44,240 --> 01:26:47,120
Speaker 3: let me let me tell you style design. I want, Yeah,

1837
01:26:47,160 --> 01:26:50,360
Speaker 3: because you know, let's get it in the works, like

1838
01:26:50,360 --> 01:26:51,920
Speaker 3: if this is what we're gonna do, like you know,

1839
01:26:55,160 --> 01:26:57,240
Speaker 3: and so we went and we looked at the ring,

1840
01:26:58,320 --> 01:27:01,719
Speaker 3: and then that was that. You know, we didn't really

1841
01:27:01,800 --> 01:27:05,559
Speaker 3: talk about We didn't talk about a wedding and wind

1842
01:27:05,600 --> 01:27:06,519
Speaker 3: we were going to do it.

1843
01:27:07,160 --> 01:27:11,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, so so I know for me, my my my

1844
01:27:11,760 --> 01:27:14,719
Speaker 1: best friend saved me because I was I had also

1845
01:27:14,840 --> 01:27:18,120
Speaker 1: bought my mom my house and so it was my birthday.

1846
01:27:18,160 --> 01:27:19,920
Speaker 1: But so I was gonna give my mom the house

1847
01:27:20,080 --> 01:27:22,680
Speaker 1: and proposed to her all at the same time, and

1848
01:27:22,760 --> 01:27:27,600
Speaker 1: my best friend was like, do not. She was like,

1849
01:27:27,640 --> 01:27:30,479
Speaker 1: it's a terrible I dish. But so I ended up

1850
01:27:30,479 --> 01:27:33,439
Speaker 1: giving my mom the house on a birthday, but birthday.

1851
01:27:33,760 --> 01:27:35,360
Speaker 1: It was my birthday because I was thinking, like we

1852
01:27:35,400 --> 01:27:37,760
Speaker 1: could just make it all one thing, and so my

1853
01:27:37,760 --> 01:27:39,519
Speaker 1: my best friend shouted joab and she saved me on

1854
01:27:39,560 --> 01:27:41,479
Speaker 1: that one. But so I was like, okay, well I'll

1855
01:27:41,520 --> 01:27:43,439
Speaker 1: propose to her on her birthday because our birthdays are

1856
01:27:43,479 --> 01:27:46,880
Speaker 1: five days apart. And so so I took her to Italy,

1857
01:27:47,000 --> 01:27:50,080
Speaker 1: which was a giveaway that it was a proposal, because like,

1858
01:27:50,120 --> 01:27:51,800
Speaker 1: why are we in Italy? You know what I mean?

1859
01:27:52,080 --> 01:27:55,240
Speaker 4: You know what I didn't even yeah, I didn't think that.

1860
01:27:56,200 --> 01:27:59,400
Speaker 1: Well, I took her to Italy and the proposal video

1861
01:27:59,439 --> 01:28:03,960
Speaker 1: still has not seen the light of day. So I decided.

1862
01:28:03,600 --> 01:28:09,360
Speaker 3: I'm still mad to this day.

1863
01:28:10,000 --> 01:28:12,599
Speaker 1: I had it on video, but it was not a moment.

1864
01:28:13,360 --> 01:28:14,519
Speaker 4: Tell why it wasn't the moment.

1865
01:28:14,880 --> 01:28:18,800
Speaker 1: So we was in the canoe, you know, you know, yeah,

1866
01:28:19,680 --> 01:28:22,360
Speaker 1: the gas. You know, it's supposed to be riding and singing.

1867
01:28:22,880 --> 01:28:25,240
Speaker 1: And so I had booked a private one and so

1868
01:28:25,280 --> 01:28:26,840
Speaker 1: we get on there and there's people on there and

1869
01:28:26,880 --> 01:28:29,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, God, it's supposed to be privately. What's going on?

1870
01:28:29,840 --> 01:28:31,760
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. He's like, oh, I'm sorry,

1871
01:28:31,800 --> 01:28:34,160
Speaker 1: it was a mistake. And so we get to going.

1872
01:28:34,200 --> 01:28:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, dag, okay, it's cool. I was like, they

1873
01:28:36,080 --> 01:28:39,439
Speaker 1: can do the video and so and so we get

1874
01:28:39,439 --> 01:28:41,120
Speaker 1: to going and so like all right, I'm like, all right,

1875
01:28:41,160 --> 01:28:42,960
Speaker 1: soon as you start singing, I'm gonna do it. So

1876
01:28:43,000 --> 01:28:45,439
Speaker 1: we rolling here and singing, bro, And I'm like, bro,

1877
01:28:45,439 --> 01:28:47,600
Speaker 1: when you gonna sing? And he was like, oh, we

1878
01:28:47,640 --> 01:28:49,639
Speaker 1: don't do that at nighttime. We don't want to start.

1879
01:28:50,040 --> 01:28:53,639
Speaker 7: I'm like, bro, like you killing this whole bub Bro,

1880
01:28:54,400 --> 01:28:58,600
Speaker 7: They're supposed to be rolling and singing. He like, we

1881
01:28:58,640 --> 01:29:01,600
Speaker 7: don't want it to start because you really are driving through.

1882
01:29:02,560 --> 01:29:04,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, bro, none of this was in the advertisment.

1883
01:29:04,760 --> 01:29:09,240
Speaker 7: Bro, Like you're just supposed to be a solo singing,

1884
01:29:09,560 --> 01:29:09,800
Speaker 7: you know.

1885
01:29:10,840 --> 01:29:12,920
Speaker 1: So then I'm like, all right, man, I gotta do it,

1886
01:29:13,080 --> 01:29:14,800
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'm like, hey, could you

1887
01:29:14,880 --> 01:29:16,519
Speaker 1: could you record us real quick? I give her the

1888
01:29:16,600 --> 01:29:19,840
Speaker 1: phone and so I get up the ring. So first

1889
01:29:19,920 --> 01:29:22,479
Speaker 1: I had some tight jeans and so the ring too

1890
01:29:22,560 --> 01:29:24,679
Speaker 1: big for me to have put it in my pocket.

1891
01:29:25,000 --> 01:29:26,599
Speaker 1: So I got the ring tucked down.

1892
01:29:26,640 --> 01:29:31,799
Speaker 7: And because if I would have put it, yes, she would.

1893
01:29:31,560 --> 01:29:33,000
Speaker 1: Have seen it, like what is this big old ring

1894
01:29:33,080 --> 01:29:34,840
Speaker 1: box in your pocket? You know what I mean? So

1895
01:29:34,840 --> 01:29:36,960
Speaker 1: I got it tuck down. So I get up. I'm

1896
01:29:37,040 --> 01:29:39,800
Speaker 1: tucked Yeah, I pull it out right, and I go

1897
01:29:39,880 --> 01:29:43,519
Speaker 1: to get down on one knee and I slip. And

1898
01:29:43,560 --> 01:29:45,640
Speaker 1: so when when I when I slipped, because it's the

1899
01:29:45,640 --> 01:29:48,280
Speaker 1: bottom of the floor, it was terrible. The bottom of

1900
01:29:48,280 --> 01:29:50,679
Speaker 1: the floor is what I slipped. And luckily I don't

1901
01:29:50,720 --> 01:29:53,320
Speaker 1: lose the ring. But at this point she has seen it.

1902
01:29:53,520 --> 01:29:55,280
Speaker 1: So I can't put it away because in my mind

1903
01:29:55,280 --> 01:29:55,880
Speaker 1: I might put.

1904
01:29:55,720 --> 01:30:00,560
Speaker 7: It away, but she could have seen it. So it

1905
01:30:00,640 --> 01:30:03,559
Speaker 7: was like But also I had a speech, and when

1906
01:30:03,600 --> 01:30:06,240
Speaker 7: I slipped, the speech was going like, oh my memory.

1907
01:30:06,000 --> 01:30:07,120
Speaker 4: I'm mad about my speech.

1908
01:30:07,120 --> 01:30:09,559
Speaker 6: And I'm still like saying saying I'm here, do you

1909
01:30:09,560 --> 01:30:10,000
Speaker 6: want to do it?

1910
01:30:10,080 --> 01:30:10,400
Speaker 5: Right now.

1911
01:30:10,960 --> 01:30:13,880
Speaker 1: I don't remember the speech. I don't listen. I don't

1912
01:30:13,920 --> 01:30:15,920
Speaker 1: remember the speech. I don't remember the speech.

1913
01:30:15,960 --> 01:30:17,320
Speaker 4: It's not in your notes on your phone.

1914
01:30:17,400 --> 01:30:20,960
Speaker 1: No, no, no it's not. So now I'm just sitting

1915
01:30:20,960 --> 01:30:28,040
Speaker 1: here looking stupid. I'm like, hey, I love you. I

1916
01:30:28,120 --> 01:30:30,200
Speaker 1: love you know when you when you married me? Of

1917
01:30:30,200 --> 01:30:32,240
Speaker 1: course she said yes because these people looking at us.

1918
01:30:34,439 --> 01:30:36,800
Speaker 1: So it was just bad all together. So I got

1919
01:30:36,840 --> 01:30:38,720
Speaker 1: the video and I'm like, you know, I might say

1920
01:30:38,760 --> 01:30:43,400
Speaker 1: this was like a twenty fifth because she ain't never

1921
01:30:43,439 --> 01:30:45,479
Speaker 1: seen the video, because no, you know what I mean.

1922
01:30:45,640 --> 01:30:51,040
Speaker 1: It was like it was it was a terrible proposal,

1923
01:30:51,280 --> 01:30:52,720
Speaker 1: but the intention was good.

1924
01:30:52,960 --> 01:30:54,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, the intention was a meaning.

1925
01:30:54,920 --> 01:30:59,479
Speaker 10: And we was in Italy, so it's like, you know this,

1926
01:31:00,280 --> 01:31:05,120
Speaker 10: what are we twenty eighteen because Elsie was born twenty

1927
01:31:05,320 --> 01:31:05,840
Speaker 10: So it.

1928
01:31:05,720 --> 01:31:09,120
Speaker 1: Turns out, oh it was horrible. It turns out when

1929
01:31:09,120 --> 01:31:12,679
Speaker 1: I proposed, she was one week pregnant one week one week,

1930
01:31:12,880 --> 01:31:15,360
Speaker 1: which was good timing because had I not proposed, they

1931
01:31:15,360 --> 01:31:16,880
Speaker 1: would have been like, oh he only proposed because of

1932
01:31:16,920 --> 01:31:19,880
Speaker 1: the baby, So it was a good time and that

1933
01:31:19,920 --> 01:31:23,519
Speaker 1: I did it before we knew a baby existed. So

1934
01:31:23,680 --> 01:31:25,640
Speaker 1: we didn't get married in nineteen because she didn't want

1935
01:31:25,680 --> 01:31:27,320
Speaker 1: to get married while she was pregnant.

1936
01:31:27,400 --> 01:31:30,320
Speaker 3: Which was ridiculous, like in hindsight, like I was so

1937
01:31:30,439 --> 01:31:34,559
Speaker 3: upset that I did that. Well, number one, of course

1938
01:31:34,640 --> 01:31:37,000
Speaker 3: because we had a baby out of wedlock and I

1939
01:31:37,080 --> 01:31:40,920
Speaker 3: never wanted to do that, but also because our plans

1940
01:31:40,960 --> 01:31:43,720
Speaker 3: got interrupted, you know, Bob, I wanted to have this

1941
01:31:43,880 --> 01:31:47,120
Speaker 3: big grand wedding and you know, outfit changes, you know,

1942
01:31:48,320 --> 01:31:50,280
Speaker 3: and it's like it didn't happen. So it's like I

1943
01:31:51,080 --> 01:31:54,559
Speaker 3: post from you know, yeah, just having that covenant you know,

1944
01:31:54,640 --> 01:31:57,479
Speaker 3: with him and God, you know, and just receiving the

1945
01:31:57,600 --> 01:31:59,400
Speaker 3: blessings you know that which.

1946
01:31:59,240 --> 01:32:01,240
Speaker 1: Which none of that was on my mind at the time.

1947
01:32:02,080 --> 01:32:05,160
Speaker 1: Now now it is coming to focus, but at that time,

1948
01:32:05,280 --> 01:32:07,600
Speaker 1: I wasn't thinking about covenant and God. I was just

1949
01:32:07,640 --> 01:32:08,720
Speaker 1: thinking about it at all.

1950
01:32:08,760 --> 01:32:11,679
Speaker 3: And that was it's so crazy that he's on fire

1951
01:32:11,760 --> 01:32:14,920
Speaker 3: for the Lord, like how he is, because we probably

1952
01:32:14,920 --> 01:32:20,240
Speaker 3: did three or four different premarital counseling sessions with our

1953
01:32:20,320 --> 01:32:23,799
Speaker 3: church and another church and therapists and all the things.

1954
01:32:24,200 --> 01:32:26,720
Speaker 3: And you know, one thing that was that bothered me

1955
01:32:26,760 --> 01:32:29,360
Speaker 3: with him is that he didn't have the relationship with

1956
01:32:29,479 --> 01:32:32,200
Speaker 3: Christ that I felt like he should coming into being

1957
01:32:32,240 --> 01:32:36,120
Speaker 3: my husband. I just knew how seriously I used to

1958
01:32:36,120 --> 01:32:38,120
Speaker 3: beat him down about it, like, you know, that was

1959
01:32:38,200 --> 01:32:42,520
Speaker 3: just super important to me. And so I'm just so grateful,

1960
01:32:42,680 --> 01:32:46,479
Speaker 3: you know, just for the favor of the Lord, you know,

1961
01:32:46,640 --> 01:32:50,680
Speaker 3: and just hearing my petitions over the years, because like

1962
01:32:50,760 --> 01:32:53,719
Speaker 3: that year, because he does not believe in a holiday

1963
01:32:53,800 --> 01:32:56,639
Speaker 3: at all, and so he was not gonna do anything

1964
01:32:56,640 --> 01:32:58,560
Speaker 3: for Valentine's and it's just like, okay, whatever I'm used to,

1965
01:32:58,560 --> 01:33:02,000
Speaker 3: so now I'm gonna get my own gifts. But like

1966
01:33:02,080 --> 01:33:04,640
Speaker 3: I was so shocked, you know, he he called me.

1967
01:33:04,680 --> 01:33:06,559
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe I was driving around getting my gifts.

1968
01:33:07,800 --> 01:33:20,400
Speaker 4: He was like, what do you need New York. Didn't

1969
01:33:20,439 --> 01:33:21,000
Speaker 4: get anything?

1970
01:33:23,280 --> 01:33:25,080
Speaker 3: No, you know what I got him the gift of

1971
01:33:25,160 --> 01:33:27,639
Speaker 3: coming into the Kingdom. But he was like, you know, what,

1972
01:33:27,640 --> 01:33:29,240
Speaker 3: what do you want for Valentine's Day? And I was

1973
01:33:29,280 --> 01:33:31,840
Speaker 3: super shocked. And I had been seeing, like he said,

1974
01:33:31,840 --> 01:33:35,640
Speaker 3: like we watched a lot of Bishop Jakes, you know,

1975
01:33:35,720 --> 01:33:37,960
Speaker 3: the years prior, and I'm like, well, I just saw

1976
01:33:37,960 --> 01:33:41,760
Speaker 3: that Bishop Jakes has international Leadership conference coming and it's

1977
01:33:41,760 --> 01:33:45,800
Speaker 3: like business and ministry basically, and you know, we're both

1978
01:33:45,880 --> 01:33:47,840
Speaker 3: entrepreneurs and so I'm like, let's do that, Like that's

1979
01:33:47,840 --> 01:33:50,639
Speaker 3: what I want for Valentine's Day. And you know, just

1980
01:33:50,680 --> 01:33:54,680
Speaker 3: going there like and just it was like just witnessing

1981
01:33:54,840 --> 01:33:57,960
Speaker 3: like just like just the presence of the Lord in

1982
01:33:58,000 --> 01:34:00,519
Speaker 3: real time, like I've never seen it before. Like my

1983
01:34:00,640 --> 01:34:05,280
Speaker 3: husband was literally shouting, like shouting the top of his lungs,

1984
01:34:05,320 --> 01:34:08,760
Speaker 3: praising God, and I'm just crying like, thank you Lord.

1985
01:34:08,560 --> 01:34:12,559
Speaker 4: Thank you Jesus. I guess this is what I've always wanted, Like.

1986
01:34:15,200 --> 01:34:20,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it was. It was a beautiful blessing and

1987
01:34:20,040 --> 01:34:23,000
Speaker 1: it's lived my life in a totally different direction. Now

1988
01:34:23,000 --> 01:34:24,960
Speaker 1: I think about it. Sometimes I'd be like, man, like

1989
01:34:25,479 --> 01:34:28,000
Speaker 1: you know what, I choose my old life of this one.

1990
01:34:28,479 --> 01:34:31,400
Speaker 1: And it's really the piece of this one that I

1991
01:34:31,439 --> 01:34:34,439
Speaker 1: would never give up. What I say, it's the piece

1992
01:34:34,479 --> 01:34:36,680
Speaker 1: of this that I would I would never give up.

1993
01:34:37,080 --> 01:34:40,040
Speaker 1: And you know, and the beautiful thing about it is

1994
01:34:40,080 --> 01:34:42,559
Speaker 1: like once you start being obeediate, once you start following God,

1995
01:34:42,880 --> 01:34:45,920
Speaker 1: all that money I lost, right, I got it now,

1996
01:34:46,080 --> 01:34:48,720
Speaker 1: but it's passive like when I was getting it. When

1997
01:34:48,760 --> 01:34:50,360
Speaker 1: I was getting it then I had to work for it.

1998
01:34:50,400 --> 01:34:52,719
Speaker 1: I was consulting and people's getting my nerves all the time,

1999
01:34:53,160 --> 01:34:56,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, clients is crazy, but that

2000
01:34:56,000 --> 01:34:58,360
Speaker 1: that same revenue I have it now, but I don't

2001
01:34:58,400 --> 01:35:00,400
Speaker 1: have to work for it at all. So now I

2002
01:35:00,400 --> 01:35:02,360
Speaker 1: get to do, you know, what I want to do,

2003
01:35:02,439 --> 01:35:05,320
Speaker 1: slash what God called me to do. And so it's

2004
01:35:05,400 --> 01:35:07,880
Speaker 1: just like you will be taken care of, you know,

2005
01:35:08,080 --> 01:35:09,840
Speaker 1: he said, don't worry about what you're gonna eat. I'll

2006
01:35:09,840 --> 01:35:11,519
Speaker 1: feed you, you know what I mean. So it's like

2007
01:35:12,000 --> 01:35:15,599
Speaker 1: everything everything that I could have ever wanted, I'm getting

2008
01:35:15,600 --> 01:35:18,439
Speaker 1: it now without having to do the things that I

2009
01:35:18,479 --> 01:35:20,439
Speaker 1: had to do before. And now it feels like I

2010
01:35:21,560 --> 01:35:23,519
Speaker 1: was doing what I was doing something so wrong, but

2011
01:35:23,680 --> 01:35:25,360
Speaker 1: that in that time, I didn't feel like I was

2012
01:35:25,360 --> 01:35:28,120
Speaker 1: doing something wrong. And that's what that's what happens when

2013
01:35:28,160 --> 01:35:31,439
Speaker 1: you when you start learning the truth, because you just said,

2014
01:35:31,439 --> 01:35:33,120
Speaker 1: He's the truth, you know what I mean. So when

2015
01:35:33,120 --> 01:35:35,360
Speaker 1: you start learning that, you get to realize like wow,

2016
01:35:35,439 --> 01:35:37,080
Speaker 1: like okay, I shouldn't be doing this, I shouldn't be

2017
01:35:37,120 --> 01:35:40,240
Speaker 1: doing that, even you know, coming into the marriage, like

2018
01:35:40,240 --> 01:35:43,840
Speaker 1: there's so there's so many things that I thought was

2019
01:35:43,960 --> 01:35:46,800
Speaker 1: good and no issue like this is how we should

2020
01:35:46,840 --> 01:35:48,920
Speaker 1: be living in And of course she hated it. She

2021
01:35:49,080 --> 01:35:51,560
Speaker 1: always I guess she'll call it discernment, you know what

2022
01:35:51,600 --> 01:35:54,479
Speaker 1: I mean. She always felt like I was living wrong,

2023
01:35:54,520 --> 01:35:58,200
Speaker 1: even though I wasn't like being what's the word infidelity or.

2024
01:35:58,120 --> 01:35:59,479
Speaker 5: Whatever, fidelity.

2025
01:35:59,520 --> 01:36:01,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, even though it's like I was doing I was

2026
01:36:01,600 --> 01:36:03,559
Speaker 1: doing stuff like that, but she just still feel like,

2027
01:36:03,840 --> 01:36:05,720
Speaker 1: this is not how you should be, which I learned

2028
01:36:05,800 --> 01:36:08,720
Speaker 1: later and I actually apologized this year for because I

2029
01:36:08,760 --> 01:36:11,679
Speaker 1: again Miles my road shout out to my dog. Yeah,

2030
01:36:11,720 --> 01:36:15,400
Speaker 1: he teaches us about kingdom culture and building and building

2031
01:36:15,400 --> 01:36:17,639
Speaker 1: the environment, and so you know, that's the environment I'm

2032
01:36:17,640 --> 01:36:19,760
Speaker 1: trying to build in my household and my family. But

2033
01:36:19,960 --> 01:36:22,160
Speaker 1: from that, I realized what I was, the way I

2034
01:36:22,200 --> 01:36:25,479
Speaker 1: was living before was was the world's culture. And I'm like, man,

2035
01:36:25,520 --> 01:36:27,200
Speaker 1: I was putting my wife through that, you know what

2036
01:36:27,200 --> 01:36:29,439
Speaker 1: I mean. So I had to come and apologize. I'm like, baby,

2037
01:36:29,920 --> 01:36:31,479
Speaker 1: I guess you know he was a little bit right, Like,

2038
01:36:31,520 --> 01:36:34,840
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm sorry for how I was living those years,

2039
01:36:34,840 --> 01:36:37,000
Speaker 1: because that's that's the world's culture and I should I

2040
01:36:37,000 --> 01:36:39,800
Speaker 1: should have been creating a kingdom culture in his household.

2041
01:36:40,840 --> 01:36:41,639
Speaker 5: How were you living?

2042
01:36:42,640 --> 01:36:42,880
Speaker 2: Oh?

2043
01:36:43,000 --> 01:36:45,160
Speaker 1: Man, See this is gonna make the world. They gonna

2044
01:36:45,160 --> 01:36:45,439
Speaker 1: love this.

2045
01:36:47,760 --> 01:36:48,000
Speaker 2: Man.

2046
01:36:48,040 --> 01:36:50,960
Speaker 1: We were just we were like, so we were just

2047
01:36:51,000 --> 01:36:52,760
Speaker 1: on top of the game, like you know what I mean,

2048
01:36:52,800 --> 01:36:55,800
Speaker 1: we having the parties, we like all all of all

2049
01:36:55,840 --> 01:36:59,160
Speaker 1: the people who wore my peers, who were like, you

2050
01:36:59,200 --> 01:37:02,479
Speaker 1: know my the thing about being in something for so long,

2051
01:37:02,520 --> 01:37:04,599
Speaker 1: and this is why people, if you are in any

2052
01:37:04,640 --> 01:37:07,400
Speaker 1: started career, it's your peers that are the most important.

2053
01:37:07,760 --> 01:37:09,960
Speaker 1: And so because we were in music sol on together.

2054
01:37:10,280 --> 01:37:14,479
Speaker 1: You know, my people ran Apples, Spotify, TikTok, all of

2055
01:37:14,520 --> 01:37:16,639
Speaker 1: them people that was running at this was my friends

2056
01:37:16,640 --> 01:37:18,760
Speaker 1: when we had nothing. So we all know what each

2057
01:37:18,760 --> 01:37:20,960
Speaker 1: other looked like with nothing. Now we got something. What

2058
01:37:21,080 --> 01:37:26,679
Speaker 1: you think the parties like, she got home with the kids.

2059
01:37:26,720 --> 01:37:29,200
Speaker 1: I'm out here in La. We're stumping, you know what

2060
01:37:29,200 --> 01:37:31,960
Speaker 1: I mean. I'm giving I'm giving out gifts. Man, you

2061
01:37:32,040 --> 01:37:34,679
Speaker 1: get an Apple watch, you get like I'm living I'm

2062
01:37:34,720 --> 01:37:36,240
Speaker 1: living a life, you know what I mean. We riding

2063
01:37:36,240 --> 01:37:39,439
Speaker 1: and ben Ley's lamp bows everything, my baby at home

2064
01:37:39,439 --> 01:37:44,200
Speaker 1: and her Tesla. Praise God, my baby got to see

2065
01:37:44,200 --> 01:37:46,880
Speaker 1: me on Instagram pushing lam. You know, she's like, what

2066
01:37:47,080 --> 01:37:51,679
Speaker 1: is going on out there? Going on? Because like every

2067
01:37:51,760 --> 01:37:54,680
Speaker 1: every time, because because Atlanta, the music business isn't what

2068
01:37:54,720 --> 01:37:56,240
Speaker 1: it once was you you got to go to La

2069
01:37:56,360 --> 01:37:59,280
Speaker 1: New York. So I'm in. I'm in New York. I'm paying.

2070
01:37:59,360 --> 01:38:01,640
Speaker 1: She just gets so I'm paying for whole dinners. You

2071
01:38:01,640 --> 01:38:02,080
Speaker 1: know what I mean.

2072
01:38:02,160 --> 01:38:05,519
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm struggling at home with two kids under two,

2073
01:38:05,920 --> 01:38:09,280
Speaker 3: Like I'm in the trenches of motherhood.

2074
01:38:10,600 --> 01:38:14,240
Speaker 1: I'm a Philip child. You know what I mean. We big,

2075
01:38:14,800 --> 01:38:17,680
Speaker 1: we big. But this is the sadd part about it.

2076
01:38:17,680 --> 01:38:19,880
Speaker 1: It's like I am giving her a lot of this

2077
01:38:20,040 --> 01:38:23,120
Speaker 1: lifestyle too, but she just didn't seem to care about that.

2078
01:38:23,160 --> 01:38:24,840
Speaker 1: But now I know why. You know what I mean.

2079
01:38:24,920 --> 01:38:27,400
Speaker 1: Now now I understand it better. And so you know,

2080
01:38:27,439 --> 01:38:29,680
Speaker 1: when when you this is a Miles Monroe taught me, like

2081
01:38:29,680 --> 01:38:31,680
Speaker 1: when you're in the in this covenant his marriage, the

2082
01:38:31,680 --> 01:38:34,160
Speaker 1: first thing you need is knowledge. And that's something that

2083
01:38:34,240 --> 01:38:36,559
Speaker 1: I have been keeping from her for solo. But I

2084
01:38:36,600 --> 01:38:40,560
Speaker 1: will say it was it was for you know, a

2085
01:38:40,720 --> 01:38:44,599
Speaker 1: reason of like let me, let me, let me when

2086
01:38:44,760 --> 01:38:48,520
Speaker 1: as a man baby, when I would give her certain information,

2087
01:38:49,200 --> 01:38:51,559
Speaker 1: it would be misused, let's put it that way, like

2088
01:38:52,439 --> 01:38:54,600
Speaker 1: weaponized against you. Yes, but again, this is this is

2089
01:38:54,680 --> 01:38:56,800
Speaker 1: year one mile. We are on a year six Maya

2090
01:38:57,680 --> 01:39:00,000
Speaker 1: in your six Harry, we are not the same people,

2091
01:39:00,479 --> 01:39:03,960
Speaker 1: So so early on giving her knowledge just didn't and

2092
01:39:04,000 --> 01:39:06,479
Speaker 1: so I took that away. But that's not good for

2093
01:39:06,520 --> 01:39:08,679
Speaker 1: the marriage because with our knowledge, you can't have understanding.

2094
01:39:09,240 --> 01:39:12,160
Speaker 1: And so I didn't understand her, she didn't understand me,

2095
01:39:12,280 --> 01:39:14,760
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like marriage is not a

2096
01:39:14,760 --> 01:39:16,840
Speaker 1: walk in the park, is not is not lovey dovey.

2097
01:39:17,120 --> 01:39:19,559
Speaker 1: And I know this from business. I was just giving

2098
01:39:19,560 --> 01:39:21,400
Speaker 1: this the same example of her the other day, Like

2099
01:39:21,600 --> 01:39:23,719
Speaker 1: it took me nine years to have my first big artist,

2100
01:39:23,920 --> 01:39:25,240
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So I can't walk into

2101
01:39:25,240 --> 01:39:26,760
Speaker 1: a marriage and expect to get it in year one,

2102
01:39:27,160 --> 01:39:29,400
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Any any business, you're an entrepreneur,

2103
01:39:29,439 --> 01:39:31,160
Speaker 1: how long did it take you to figure out that business?

2104
01:39:31,240 --> 01:39:33,160
Speaker 1: Or you got a career, how long did it take

2105
01:39:33,200 --> 01:39:36,720
Speaker 1: you to thrive in that career? We we in year six, bro,

2106
01:39:36,880 --> 01:39:39,080
Speaker 1: Like I hadn't even scratched the service in year six

2107
01:39:39,120 --> 01:39:41,080
Speaker 1: of the music business, I was still a nobody or not.

2108
01:39:41,479 --> 01:39:45,080
Speaker 1: I was a little puppy. It's a little puppy. So like,

2109
01:39:45,120 --> 01:39:47,600
Speaker 1: I can't expect our marriage to be what I what

2110
01:39:47,720 --> 01:39:49,599
Speaker 1: I you know, maybe see on TV or what I'm

2111
01:39:49,600 --> 01:39:52,080
Speaker 1: looking at my grandparents, you know what I mean, I'm like, bro,

2112
01:39:52,200 --> 01:39:55,439
Speaker 1: that's that's forty fifty years. We we in year six,

2113
01:39:55,520 --> 01:39:57,559
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I had to learn it.

2114
01:39:57,560 --> 01:40:00,639
Speaker 1: But but point being like, I wasn't, I stopped giving

2115
01:40:00,640 --> 01:40:02,679
Speaker 1: her the knowledge, and so that's something I had to return.

2116
01:40:02,680 --> 01:40:04,600
Speaker 1: So I had to start telling her my feelings, you

2117
01:40:04,600 --> 01:40:05,559
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I had to. I had to

2118
01:40:05,560 --> 01:40:08,320
Speaker 1: trust her. But now I'm trusting a whole different person.

2119
01:40:08,360 --> 01:40:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm not trusting the person from back then. This is

2120
01:40:10,840 --> 01:40:12,840
Speaker 1: six years of growth, you know what I mean? And

2121
01:40:12,880 --> 01:40:15,799
Speaker 1: so and so so Yeah, so the knowledge I understand.

2122
01:40:15,800 --> 01:40:19,960
Speaker 1: So it's just we're living a different life now under God.

2123
01:40:20,080 --> 01:40:23,439
Speaker 1: Like then we were living outside of God, you know

2124
01:40:23,479 --> 01:40:25,920
Speaker 1: what I mean. We we have a better understanding of

2125
01:40:25,960 --> 01:40:28,880
Speaker 1: each other. We I share I'll put on me. I

2126
01:40:29,000 --> 01:40:31,280
Speaker 1: share way more with her. You know, I'm way more

2127
01:40:31,400 --> 01:40:36,839
Speaker 1: vulnerable with her. But when I was back then, you know, honestly,

2128
01:40:36,840 --> 01:40:38,439
Speaker 1: I couldn't even tell her half the stuff I was

2129
01:40:38,439 --> 01:40:40,760
Speaker 1: doing because I knew it would upset her. And I'm like,

2130
01:40:40,760 --> 01:40:45,120
Speaker 1: why is she mad? Like watch Like I'm like, I'm like,

2131
01:40:45,160 --> 01:40:46,120
Speaker 1: we got the match of roll.

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01:40:47,920 --> 01:40:50,360
Speaker 3: We mad around, Like maybe you're waving in there what

2133
01:40:50,439 --> 01:40:50,880
Speaker 3: we're mad?

2134
01:40:50,920 --> 01:40:54,400
Speaker 7: About I'm like, well, were mad about I'm like, baby,

2135
01:40:54,920 --> 01:40:56,240
Speaker 7: come outside, this is the new test.

2136
01:40:56,360 --> 01:40:59,040
Speaker 1: It's all when you had the new tests.

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01:40:59,680 --> 01:41:06,280
Speaker 7: Open up, Like I'm like backyard swimming, but no, that's.

2138
01:41:06,200 --> 01:41:09,519
Speaker 1: That's just like that's money. But that's really how I

2139
01:41:09,560 --> 01:41:11,080
Speaker 1: kind of quite. I'm like, baby, we live in the

2140
01:41:11,080 --> 01:41:11,839
Speaker 1: same life.

2141
01:41:12,240 --> 01:41:14,839
Speaker 2: By were you not impressed by that lifestyle?

2142
01:41:15,439 --> 01:41:16,360
Speaker 4: No? I wasn't.

2143
01:41:17,200 --> 01:41:19,960
Speaker 3: And like even just like to going back to like

2144
01:41:20,040 --> 01:41:24,680
Speaker 3: knowledge and communication, like I never even knew like we

2145
01:41:24,680 --> 01:41:26,479
Speaker 3: were not on the same level as far as like

2146
01:41:26,680 --> 01:41:29,920
Speaker 3: financial status, like because when we first met, like I

2147
01:41:29,960 --> 01:41:31,599
Speaker 3: felt like we was making the same kind of money,

2148
01:41:31,640 --> 01:41:35,920
Speaker 3: and so it was like so he no, he didn't,

2149
01:41:35,920 --> 01:41:38,000
Speaker 3: and so he just I guess because he felt like,

2150
01:41:38,080 --> 01:41:44,520
Speaker 3: you know, he had more, and I guess he did.

2151
01:41:44,920 --> 01:41:48,679
Speaker 3: But so he just was so arrogant. And it's like you, like, sir,

2152
01:41:48,960 --> 01:41:54,000
Speaker 3: like humble yourself. Like literally, like I thought we was

2153
01:41:54,040 --> 01:41:56,479
Speaker 3: both doing that thing. He was doing it a little

2154
01:41:56,479 --> 01:42:01,000
Speaker 3: bit bigger. So I didn't understand that, and so you know, therefore,

2155
01:42:01,080 --> 01:42:04,360
Speaker 3: you know, I just and also like I I have

2156
01:42:04,479 --> 01:42:07,439
Speaker 3: lived a life like God has like has always you know,

2157
01:42:09,160 --> 01:42:10,240
Speaker 3: you know, been good to me.

2158
01:42:11,640 --> 01:42:13,040
Speaker 4: And so yeah, I didn't.

2159
01:42:13,479 --> 01:42:15,960
Speaker 3: That didn't impress me, but you know, just more than anything,

2160
01:42:16,080 --> 01:42:19,479
Speaker 3: Like again just going back to like his relationship with Christ,

2161
01:42:19,920 --> 01:42:22,880
Speaker 3: like this man I got right here like this this

2162
01:42:22,960 --> 01:42:25,960
Speaker 3: man is fine, Like you know, like this man is

2163
01:42:26,040 --> 01:42:28,160
Speaker 3: like and he always be like you act like somebody

2164
01:42:28,200 --> 01:42:31,200
Speaker 3: want me and due like everybody want a.

2165
01:42:31,200 --> 01:42:31,720
Speaker 4: Man and a guy.

2166
01:42:32,040 --> 01:42:34,799
Speaker 3: You know, everybody wants somebody who is obedient and submits

2167
01:42:34,800 --> 01:42:35,200
Speaker 3: to the Lord.

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01:42:35,240 --> 01:42:36,360
Speaker 4: That's a different type of man.

2169
01:42:36,840 --> 01:42:40,680
Speaker 3: You know, you can have all of them, you know,

2170
01:42:40,840 --> 01:42:43,320
Speaker 3: but if you do not have someone that you submit to,

2171
01:42:43,479 --> 01:42:44,599
Speaker 3: if you do not have.

2172
01:42:44,520 --> 01:42:45,559
Speaker 4: Someone that you know.

2173
01:42:47,080 --> 01:42:50,760
Speaker 3: Can bring about you know, conviction, you know, and if

2174
01:42:50,800 --> 01:42:53,640
Speaker 3: they are not being led by someone other than themselves,

2175
01:42:53,680 --> 01:42:56,120
Speaker 3: like yeah, you can keep that.

2176
01:42:56,280 --> 01:42:56,519
Speaker 10: You know.

2177
01:42:57,560 --> 01:42:59,600
Speaker 3: And so yeah, I like to me, I just was

2178
01:42:59,760 --> 01:43:02,559
Speaker 3: still so irritating and like would really be beating him down,

2179
01:43:02,720 --> 01:43:05,320
Speaker 3: Like you got to get it together, Like, you know,

2180
01:43:05,479 --> 01:43:08,559
Speaker 3: I cannot be married to someone you know who is

2181
01:43:09,520 --> 01:43:10,280
Speaker 3: out in the street.

2182
01:43:10,680 --> 01:43:13,640
Speaker 2: So how long are y'all married? Before this shift happened.

2183
01:43:16,240 --> 01:43:20,000
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty three, like one side you know, decided to

2184
01:43:20,120 --> 01:43:22,559
Speaker 1: like really start falling Christ and really started seeking Christ.

2185
01:43:22,880 --> 01:43:26,519
Speaker 1: What was really was really the change? And then I

2186
01:43:26,520 --> 01:43:32,519
Speaker 1: mean really so many things that like so many things

2187
01:43:32,520 --> 01:43:35,040
Speaker 1: that I was doing wrong and she was doing wrong

2188
01:43:35,040 --> 01:43:37,439
Speaker 1: because because she followed right behind me, like she started

2189
01:43:37,520 --> 01:43:40,080
Speaker 1: knocking things off her list, Like she's no longer doing this,

2190
01:43:40,160 --> 01:43:41,800
Speaker 1: She's no longer doing that. I'm no longer doing this,

2191
01:43:41,880 --> 01:43:44,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. God started fixing both of

2192
01:43:44,840 --> 01:43:46,080
Speaker 1: both of us, you know what I mean. And so

2193
01:43:46,560 --> 01:43:48,479
Speaker 1: he's been He's been working on us heavy and that,

2194
01:43:48,680 --> 01:43:52,920
Speaker 1: and I think that's the key to like longevity and

2195
01:43:53,000 --> 01:43:54,880
Speaker 1: marriage and just having a marriage is like God has

2196
01:43:54,920 --> 01:43:56,960
Speaker 1: to be at the center. And people say that, but

2197
01:43:57,040 --> 01:43:59,840
Speaker 1: like what does that really mean? And what it really

2198
01:43:59,880 --> 01:44:04,280
Speaker 1: means is your frustrations, your worries, your fears. You have

2199
01:44:04,400 --> 01:44:06,000
Speaker 1: to go to God with that first before you go

2200
01:44:06,080 --> 01:44:08,599
Speaker 1: to her. Yeah, because the way that you said to

2201
01:44:08,640 --> 01:44:12,080
Speaker 1: her might cause more frustration, might call. And so you

2202
01:44:12,400 --> 01:44:14,920
Speaker 1: take it to God. Let him work on it, number one,

2203
01:44:14,960 --> 01:44:16,960
Speaker 1: But then let him tell you how to speak it

2204
01:44:16,960 --> 01:44:18,680
Speaker 1: to them so that they can receive it. And so

2205
01:44:18,800 --> 01:44:21,479
Speaker 1: we really push everything through God, we flow through him,

2206
01:44:21,600 --> 01:44:22,000
Speaker 1: or may.

2207
01:44:21,880 --> 01:44:24,800
Speaker 3: Not even take it, you know, to your spouse, like

2208
01:44:24,960 --> 01:44:26,360
Speaker 3: just take it to God and leave it at guy.

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01:44:26,640 --> 01:44:29,559
Speaker 1: Go the example of that, you don't even know about it.

2210
01:44:30,400 --> 01:44:33,960
Speaker 1: You don't even know about it. Just happened last week.

2211
01:44:34,760 --> 01:44:36,599
Speaker 1: Last week, she was in the car and we were

2212
01:44:36,600 --> 01:44:39,880
Speaker 1: talking about this podcast and she was just nervous about it.

2213
01:44:39,880 --> 01:44:41,360
Speaker 1: I'll just say that she was nervous about it. And

2214
01:44:41,439 --> 01:44:43,519
Speaker 1: she was just viting to me about how nervous she was.

2215
01:44:43,920 --> 01:44:45,920
Speaker 1: And in my head, I'm like, I feel like if

2216
01:44:45,960 --> 01:44:47,840
Speaker 1: I tell her that she's gonna be great, she's not

2217
01:44:47,880 --> 01:44:50,880
Speaker 1: gonna receive it. I'm like, God, I'm like, somebody else

2218
01:44:50,920 --> 01:44:52,799
Speaker 1: need to tell her. And so she went to Bible

2219
01:44:52,800 --> 01:44:55,920
Speaker 1: study that night, and when she came home, guess what

2220
01:44:56,040 --> 01:44:58,880
Speaker 1: she came on talking about baby. You know my friends,

2221
01:44:58,960 --> 01:45:01,200
Speaker 1: was just poured it into me, encouraged, like telling me

2222
01:45:01,240 --> 01:45:03,000
Speaker 1: how great a speaker I am and how I always

2223
01:45:03,000 --> 01:45:06,360
Speaker 1: got a word of encouragement. And I'm like, oh God,

2224
01:45:07,520 --> 01:45:12,040
Speaker 1: that was fast. That was the same thing the same day.

2225
01:45:12,160 --> 01:45:14,040
Speaker 1: Because I'm like, God, I don't think I can say

2226
01:45:14,040 --> 01:45:15,400
Speaker 1: it to her. She's not gonna hear it. I'm like,

2227
01:45:15,439 --> 01:45:16,800
Speaker 1: somebody else need to tell her this.

2228
01:45:17,080 --> 01:45:19,479
Speaker 2: And when she came here today, she said, at first

2229
01:45:19,479 --> 01:45:21,439
Speaker 2: I thought I was gonna be real nervous, having an

2230
01:45:21,439 --> 01:45:23,679
Speaker 2: anxiety set, but I just feel calm, and relaxed.

2231
01:45:24,360 --> 01:45:26,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's so. It's like you said, sometimes don't

2232
01:45:26,880 --> 01:45:28,720
Speaker 1: even say it, you know, in that moment, I'm like,

2233
01:45:28,720 --> 01:45:30,439
Speaker 1: I don't think I should say it, Like God, somebody

2234
01:45:30,479 --> 01:45:31,280
Speaker 1: else need to say.

2235
01:45:31,120 --> 01:45:35,800
Speaker 2: It because she has such I mean, she has such

2236
01:45:35,840 --> 01:45:38,040
Speaker 2: anxiety about being the co host of their future wife,

2237
01:45:38,040 --> 01:45:40,200
Speaker 2: and she lives a very private life.

2238
01:45:41,000 --> 01:45:42,000
Speaker 4: An amazing time.

2239
01:45:42,720 --> 01:45:45,479
Speaker 2: Used to be like like, and I was just like,

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01:45:46,000 --> 01:45:48,000
Speaker 2: you're great, You're great. You just gonna always say that.

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01:45:48,080 --> 01:45:52,320
Speaker 2: You always said so if I say, I said, I'm

2242
01:45:52,360 --> 01:45:54,800
Speaker 2: telling you you're really great, And I said, I'm just

2243
01:45:54,840 --> 01:45:57,519
Speaker 2: gonna stop telling you that. And then other people somebody

2244
01:45:57,600 --> 01:46:00,400
Speaker 2: was d M and there this weekend and you're so amazing,

2245
01:46:00,439 --> 01:46:02,719
Speaker 2: he's so natural, you're so this whatever, and I'll be looking.

2246
01:46:02,760 --> 01:46:05,760
Speaker 2: I'd be like, she like be quiet, and somebody else

2247
01:46:05,760 --> 01:46:08,400
Speaker 2: a DM, he's so great, and it got it's so

2248
01:46:08,520 --> 01:46:11,320
Speaker 2: bad now that I did an episode because when she

2249
01:46:11,400 --> 01:46:14,400
Speaker 2: was traveling a lot, I did two episodes without her.

2250
01:46:14,800 --> 01:46:17,040
Speaker 2: They hurt my feelings. They was like, where's your wife?

2251
01:46:17,240 --> 01:46:21,240
Speaker 2: Ain't the same without her? Doing this for five and

2252
01:46:21,280 --> 01:46:23,960
Speaker 2: a half years by myself. Now she's been with me

2253
01:46:24,040 --> 01:46:26,840
Speaker 2: for two months and then she misses two days and

2254
01:46:26,840 --> 01:46:29,240
Speaker 2: then y'all like, we need her back. I said, good Lord,

2255
01:46:29,240 --> 01:46:30,920
Speaker 2: and I said, see, they don't want me no more

2256
01:46:30,960 --> 01:46:33,840
Speaker 2: by myself. I said, so think about that. And so

2257
01:46:34,280 --> 01:46:38,360
Speaker 2: it's again, you know, just like I do. Well, No,

2258
01:46:38,360 --> 01:46:42,200
Speaker 2: they love me better with you. Now, while we're here,

2259
01:46:42,360 --> 01:46:43,880
Speaker 2: I want you all to tell me this as we

2260
01:46:43,920 --> 01:46:47,799
Speaker 2: get ready to close. What has been the greatest lesson?

2261
01:46:48,240 --> 01:46:50,280
Speaker 2: You know, it's probably a lot of them that marriage

2262
01:46:50,280 --> 01:46:50,880
Speaker 2: has taught you.

2263
01:46:51,040 --> 01:46:57,200
Speaker 3: First, maya put me in a hot seat first.

2264
01:46:58,160 --> 01:46:59,360
Speaker 2: What has marriage taught you?

2265
01:47:00,479 --> 01:47:03,639
Speaker 3: I would say the greatest lesson that marriage has taught

2266
01:47:03,680 --> 01:47:07,400
Speaker 3: me is to trust God like and trust God only.

2267
01:47:08,640 --> 01:47:09,800
Speaker 4: And I just say.

2268
01:47:09,560 --> 01:47:12,559
Speaker 3: That because I had so many fears. I had so

2269
01:47:12,680 --> 01:47:17,680
Speaker 3: much trauma, you know, going into this marriage, and so

2270
01:47:18,080 --> 01:47:21,760
Speaker 3: you know, and you know, those things would just play back,

2271
01:47:21,840 --> 01:47:24,880
Speaker 3: you know, and so you know, we would have so

2272
01:47:24,920 --> 01:47:27,880
Speaker 3: many disagreements. Y'all heard how he said he was living yes,

2273
01:47:28,600 --> 01:47:30,800
Speaker 3: and you know, and so.

2274
01:47:29,840 --> 01:47:32,400
Speaker 4: And so we would just butt head so much.

2275
01:47:34,400 --> 01:47:36,840
Speaker 3: And I just got tired one day, like and I'm like,

2276
01:47:36,880 --> 01:47:39,040
Speaker 3: you know what, God, I am giving him to you,

2277
01:47:39,840 --> 01:47:43,720
Speaker 3: like you know, I am, I'm done. Like you have

2278
01:47:43,840 --> 01:47:45,800
Speaker 3: your way, you do what needs to be done. And

2279
01:47:45,880 --> 01:47:48,280
Speaker 3: literally when I said that, in that moment, like he

2280
01:47:48,360 --> 01:47:51,960
Speaker 3: gave me peace. Like he gave me peace in that moment.

2281
01:47:52,000 --> 01:47:54,639
Speaker 3: And I feel like the dynamic of Aaron marriage has changed.

2282
01:47:54,800 --> 01:47:57,400
Speaker 3: And when I say this, this just happened maybe a

2283
01:47:57,479 --> 01:47:59,920
Speaker 3: year ago. So we in year six, So we went

2284
01:48:00,120 --> 01:48:02,840
Speaker 3: through five years of you know, struggling, you know, just

2285
01:48:03,000 --> 01:48:05,200
Speaker 3: back and forth until I just decided, like, you know what,

2286
01:48:05,240 --> 01:48:08,479
Speaker 3: God like, he is your son, you know, and you

2287
01:48:08,479 --> 01:48:11,160
Speaker 3: you know what needs to be done, and only you,

2288
01:48:11,160 --> 01:48:13,920
Speaker 3: you know, can change his mindset. You know, only you

2289
01:48:13,960 --> 01:48:15,639
Speaker 3: can you know, purify his heart.

2290
01:48:15,760 --> 01:48:15,960
Speaker 4: You know.

2291
01:48:17,280 --> 01:48:18,840
Speaker 5: He did that, he did it quick.

2292
01:48:19,320 --> 01:48:21,200
Speaker 3: And so I think, like the biggest thing is really

2293
01:48:21,280 --> 01:48:24,360
Speaker 3: just trust in God, like you know, because he is

2294
01:48:24,400 --> 01:48:27,839
Speaker 3: the only one who can make an imperfect thing perfect,

2295
01:48:28,320 --> 01:48:30,160
Speaker 3: you know, and he is the only one who can

2296
01:48:30,200 --> 01:48:32,400
Speaker 3: give you peace that surpasses all understanding.

2297
01:48:33,439 --> 01:48:37,200
Speaker 2: And what about you, God, bless you?

2298
01:48:37,439 --> 01:48:40,360
Speaker 1: Bless That was good, I mean, because the answer to

2299
01:48:40,400 --> 01:48:45,320
Speaker 1: everything is definitely God. But you know, I'll give the

2300
01:48:45,320 --> 01:48:49,559
Speaker 1: the first advice, godly advice that I got from my brother,

2301
01:48:49,640 --> 01:48:52,680
Speaker 1: the same one who told me I hadn't changed. When

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01:48:52,720 --> 01:48:55,400
Speaker 1: I call him year one hour marriage, I'm ready to

2303
01:48:55,520 --> 01:48:59,400
Speaker 1: leave I'm ready to go. Man, you know, I'm going

2304
01:48:59,400 --> 01:49:01,600
Speaker 1: through it over. I'm laying down my list. So she

2305
01:49:01,760 --> 01:49:04,640
Speaker 1: doing this, she doing that, she said this, you know

2306
01:49:04,680 --> 01:49:06,640
Speaker 1: what I mean. And he told me, he was like,

2307
01:49:07,920 --> 01:49:12,400
Speaker 1: before you start checking to what her list is. He

2308
01:49:12,600 --> 01:49:15,639
Speaker 1: was like, are you blameless? And he was like, until

2309
01:49:15,680 --> 01:49:17,720
Speaker 1: you are blameless, I don't want to hear about her.

2310
01:49:17,960 --> 01:49:18,439
Speaker 2: That's good.

2311
01:49:18,520 --> 01:49:20,160
Speaker 1: And so he told me, he said, man, what you

2312
01:49:20,200 --> 01:49:22,800
Speaker 1: need to do is start working on you. He was like,

2313
01:49:22,840 --> 01:49:25,879
Speaker 1: you need to work on you know, whatever, you whatever

2314
01:49:25,920 --> 01:49:28,920
Speaker 1: you're doing wrong in the marriage. He was like, start there.

2315
01:49:29,080 --> 01:49:30,400
Speaker 1: And he was like, when you get to the end

2316
01:49:30,439 --> 01:49:31,960
Speaker 1: of that list, then you can talk about her, which

2317
01:49:32,000 --> 01:49:34,720
Speaker 1: you never get to the end of that, but you

2318
01:49:34,760 --> 01:49:36,479
Speaker 1: never get to end up. But what I learned from

2319
01:49:36,479 --> 01:49:39,160
Speaker 1: that from actually going through the process, like no, thank God,

2320
01:49:39,200 --> 01:49:41,880
Speaker 1: I was obedient to what he was saying and listen

2321
01:49:41,960 --> 01:49:45,160
Speaker 1: to him. And it's just like the Bible says like

2322
01:49:45,280 --> 01:49:48,599
Speaker 1: before you, you know, try to pick a spect dust

2323
01:49:48,600 --> 01:49:50,599
Speaker 1: out of her, I take the plank out of yours.

2324
01:49:50,600 --> 01:49:52,080
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. So you know, he gave

2325
01:49:52,120 --> 01:49:54,200
Speaker 1: me that biblical advice. And so but what I learned

2326
01:49:54,240 --> 01:49:58,040
Speaker 1: from that is like your marriage really goes the way

2327
01:49:58,479 --> 01:50:01,760
Speaker 1: that your self growth grows. Like, you can't make it

2328
01:50:01,800 --> 01:50:04,839
Speaker 1: in the marriage if you're not consistently working on yourself.

2329
01:50:04,840 --> 01:50:06,560
Speaker 1: And so especially as the man, as a leader of

2330
01:50:06,600 --> 01:50:10,000
Speaker 1: the marriage, because honestly, when I start working on myself

2331
01:50:10,040 --> 01:50:13,320
Speaker 1: and I start growing, guess what, she started climbing that

2332
01:50:13,400 --> 01:50:15,080
Speaker 1: ladder with me, you know what I mean. And so

2333
01:50:15,560 --> 01:50:18,639
Speaker 1: even like when when you're with your partner, it's all

2334
01:50:18,680 --> 01:50:22,400
Speaker 1: about focusing on God number one, because God will cut

2335
01:50:22,400 --> 01:50:24,880
Speaker 1: those things off of you. You'll have to grow a guy.

2336
01:50:24,920 --> 01:50:27,880
Speaker 1: It's just like a faith. Faith with our works is dead.

2337
01:50:28,520 --> 01:50:31,040
Speaker 1: They say that, because once you have faith, you're going

2338
01:50:31,120 --> 01:50:32,840
Speaker 1: to start working, you know what I mean. And so

2339
01:50:32,960 --> 01:50:35,799
Speaker 1: once once you start working on yourself, that that partner

2340
01:50:35,840 --> 01:50:37,640
Speaker 1: is going to go along with you. And that's how

2341
01:50:37,680 --> 01:50:39,160
Speaker 1: you know you got a real partner. By the way,

2342
01:50:39,520 --> 01:50:41,200
Speaker 1: they ain't even got to be going the same pace.

2343
01:50:41,600 --> 01:50:43,439
Speaker 1: You could be running and they could be jogging, But

2344
01:50:43,479 --> 01:50:45,920
Speaker 1: as long as they coming along, that's when you know

2345
01:50:45,960 --> 01:50:47,960
Speaker 1: you got yourself a good partner. So as a leader,

2346
01:50:48,400 --> 01:50:50,479
Speaker 1: you need to be working on the things that you're

2347
01:50:50,520 --> 01:50:53,040
Speaker 1: doing wrong. And that's going to show her like oh,

2348
01:50:53,360 --> 01:50:55,639
Speaker 1: because when she asks why, you know, what I mean,

2349
01:50:55,640 --> 01:50:58,519
Speaker 1: when when she knows why you're doing that, I'm trying

2350
01:50:58,520 --> 01:51:03,000
Speaker 1: to follow God. He's a good woman, a godly woman

2351
01:51:03,120 --> 01:51:05,160
Speaker 1: is gonna come along with you, you know what I mean.

2352
01:51:05,240 --> 01:51:08,519
Speaker 1: And so that's that's that's what will be what I

2353
01:51:08,560 --> 01:51:11,320
Speaker 1: tell men anytime I get that that call, because I

2354
01:51:11,320 --> 01:51:14,240
Speaker 1: get that call a lot bro. She she and I'm like, hey,

2355
01:51:14,360 --> 01:51:17,120
Speaker 1: what's happened to me? I know what to say, I

2356
01:51:17,160 --> 01:51:17,960
Speaker 1: know what to say.

2357
01:51:18,160 --> 01:51:18,639
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

2358
01:51:18,680 --> 01:51:22,360
Speaker 1: And so you know, until until you're blameless, don't don't

2359
01:51:22,360 --> 01:51:24,439
Speaker 1: focus on what she's doing wrong, focus on what you're

2360
01:51:24,479 --> 01:51:26,439
Speaker 1: doing wrong, and vice versa. You know what I mean.

2361
01:51:27,240 --> 01:51:28,960
Speaker 2: Let me ask this question quick as we get ready

2362
01:51:28,960 --> 01:51:33,639
Speaker 2: to wrap up. Why do you believe God chose Maya

2363
01:51:33,720 --> 01:51:35,280
Speaker 2: to be your wife? And then I'm gonna ask you

2364
01:51:35,280 --> 01:51:37,439
Speaker 2: the same thing, Maya? Why did it have to be her?

2365
01:51:39,080 --> 01:51:44,000
Speaker 1: You know what? The thing, the biggest blessing about our

2366
01:51:44,120 --> 01:51:49,599
Speaker 1: marriage is the man I'm becoming. And this is not

2367
01:51:49,720 --> 01:51:52,200
Speaker 1: possible without her, It's not possible.

2368
01:51:52,200 --> 01:51:53,120
Speaker 2: Why? Why not? Why?

2369
01:51:53,160 --> 01:51:56,280
Speaker 1: It could have been just any her good, her bad,

2370
01:51:56,400 --> 01:52:00,400
Speaker 1: her negative, her ugly, her great, everything about HERR has

2371
01:52:00,439 --> 01:52:02,519
Speaker 1: worked out for my good? You know what I mean?

2372
01:52:02,880 --> 01:52:05,600
Speaker 1: Everything about her has worked out for my good, and

2373
01:52:05,760 --> 01:52:08,080
Speaker 1: I just don't think it's possible for anybody else. Like

2374
01:52:08,160 --> 01:52:10,479
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be you know what I mean. I wouldn't

2375
01:52:10,680 --> 01:52:12,439
Speaker 1: have known to say, hey Ma, you need to pray

2376
01:52:12,479 --> 01:52:14,599
Speaker 1: when I was in the hospital, you know, without her.

2377
01:52:15,080 --> 01:52:18,200
Speaker 1: You know, I could literally point to so many things

2378
01:52:18,200 --> 01:52:20,160
Speaker 1: that have happened in my life and then point back

2379
01:52:20,200 --> 01:52:24,559
Speaker 1: to her. It's her presence alone, bro. Like, literally, her

2380
01:52:24,600 --> 01:52:28,280
Speaker 1: presence has led to me to who I am today,

2381
01:52:28,720 --> 01:52:30,840
Speaker 1: and so I just wouldn't be here without her. So

2382
01:52:30,880 --> 01:52:32,960
Speaker 1: I think that God put her in my life. Thank

2383
01:52:32,960 --> 01:52:35,559
Speaker 1: God for that elevator and that hoodie and I find

2384
01:52:35,600 --> 01:52:40,720
Speaker 1: that pretty face, you know, A yeah, yeah she won.

2385
01:52:41,200 --> 01:52:46,000
Speaker 1: Her eyes went low, her eyes went low. But yeah,

2386
01:52:46,479 --> 01:52:49,800
Speaker 1: everything that that she comes with has worked out for

2387
01:52:49,840 --> 01:52:53,040
Speaker 1: my good. And you know, especially even as a father,

2388
01:52:53,240 --> 01:52:56,599
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't be the father I am if it

2389
01:52:56,680 --> 01:52:58,120
Speaker 1: wasn't for her, you know what I mean. And so

2390
01:52:58,120 --> 01:53:01,639
Speaker 1: it's like everything about me leads back to her. All

2391
01:53:01,720 --> 01:53:03,760
Speaker 1: roads lead to Maya. That's good, you know what I mean.

2392
01:53:03,760 --> 01:53:05,760
Speaker 1: And so that's why I'm just so thankful for, so

2393
01:53:05,800 --> 01:53:09,920
Speaker 1: grateful for and I can only imagine the year six

2394
01:53:10,040 --> 01:53:12,160
Speaker 1: me what do I be like your teen year team, Like,

2395
01:53:12,520 --> 01:53:14,519
Speaker 1: I'm being incredible man because of my wife.

2396
01:53:14,720 --> 01:53:15,200
Speaker 2: That's good.

2397
01:53:15,240 --> 01:53:16,479
Speaker 1: So that's what I would say.

2398
01:53:16,720 --> 01:53:18,559
Speaker 2: I love it. May What about you? Why did guy

2399
01:53:19,120 --> 01:53:22,360
Speaker 2: assign him to be your husband? Herod?

2400
01:53:22,400 --> 01:53:25,160
Speaker 4: Answer to that, you say, you know the answer, you do?

2401
01:53:25,479 --> 01:53:29,640
Speaker 2: Yes, Okay, I ain't gonna see it, and I'm gonna I

2402
01:53:29,680 --> 01:53:31,280
Speaker 2: want you to say after she's said, why do you

2403
01:53:31,280 --> 01:53:31,719
Speaker 2: think that?

2404
01:53:35,640 --> 01:53:38,519
Speaker 3: So I haven't thought about this, but if I think

2405
01:53:38,560 --> 01:53:40,880
Speaker 3: about it in this moment, the only thing that I

2406
01:53:40,880 --> 01:53:43,920
Speaker 3: can think of right now is to just increase my faith.

2407
01:53:45,800 --> 01:53:49,160
Speaker 3: I have always been a believer. I have Hebrews.

2408
01:53:48,800 --> 01:53:50,439
Speaker 4: Eleven one, you know, on my arm.

2409
01:53:50,520 --> 01:53:55,680
Speaker 3: That was one of my papa's favorite, you know, scriptures

2410
01:53:55,720 --> 01:53:57,840
Speaker 3: to recite to me. And so I feel like, you know,

2411
01:53:58,240 --> 01:54:01,760
Speaker 3: I am who I am because of my But there

2412
01:54:01,760 --> 01:54:03,880
Speaker 3: were times when you know, I was in the world

2413
01:54:03,960 --> 01:54:05,400
Speaker 3: and I was not because I grew up in the church,

2414
01:54:05,479 --> 01:54:08,559
Speaker 3: going to church three four times a week. We was

2415
01:54:08,680 --> 01:54:12,080
Speaker 3: deep in the church. But you know, as I got older,

2416
01:54:12,120 --> 01:54:14,760
Speaker 3: you know, I kind of strayed away from that. And

2417
01:54:14,840 --> 01:54:17,160
Speaker 3: while I was straying away from that, I met him

2418
01:54:17,680 --> 01:54:19,800
Speaker 3: and you know, my papa, you know, we would have

2419
01:54:19,880 --> 01:54:21,360
Speaker 3: our calls and he would be like, you know, baby,

2420
01:54:21,400 --> 01:54:23,160
Speaker 3: you going to church and I was not going to church.

2421
01:54:23,160 --> 01:54:24,840
Speaker 4: I'm like, Papa, I got the church in me, like

2422
01:54:24,880 --> 01:54:27,400
Speaker 4: I know the word God know my heart, you know.

2423
01:54:28,200 --> 01:54:32,240
Speaker 3: But you know, marrying him, you know, has just strengthened

2424
01:54:32,320 --> 01:54:37,840
Speaker 3: my faith and made me just reach, you know, just

2425
01:54:38,040 --> 01:54:46,120
Speaker 3: reach so far, you know, to try to just stay grounded,

2426
01:54:46,240 --> 01:54:49,280
Speaker 3: like stay at peace, like stay in a place of

2427
01:54:50,880 --> 01:54:55,080
Speaker 3: like have our home be a place of like serenity

2428
01:54:55,160 --> 01:54:57,400
Speaker 3: for our girls, like you know, a place of joy

2429
01:54:57,440 --> 01:54:58,200
Speaker 3: for our girls.

2430
01:54:58,240 --> 01:55:03,640
Speaker 4: And I feel like, you know, he like made me

2431
01:55:04,040 --> 01:55:05,240
Speaker 4: like my.

2432
01:55:05,320 --> 01:55:07,720
Speaker 3: Patience was so thin dealing with him at a time

2433
01:55:08,240 --> 01:55:10,080
Speaker 3: because I was pulling up to the spots like if

2434
01:55:10,080 --> 01:55:12,880
Speaker 3: he was in Atlanta, he wasn't coming home on time.

2435
01:55:13,280 --> 01:55:14,800
Speaker 3: I was putting them babies in the car, and I

2436
01:55:14,840 --> 01:55:16,520
Speaker 3: was pulling up like the curfew was up. You know,

2437
01:55:16,600 --> 01:55:21,920
Speaker 3: you need to come home, yes, seriously, and you know,

2438
01:55:22,040 --> 01:55:24,440
Speaker 3: but I just realized, like you know what it's it's

2439
01:55:24,560 --> 01:55:28,720
Speaker 3: it's God, Like I can't try to make anybody do anything,

2440
01:55:28,800 --> 01:55:32,200
Speaker 3: you know, and there is there has just been times

2441
01:55:32,200 --> 01:55:34,960
Speaker 3: where I just started to depend on myself and I

2442
01:55:35,000 --> 01:55:37,600
Speaker 3: felt like at you know, one point like okay, like

2443
01:55:38,400 --> 01:55:40,440
Speaker 3: this is me, Like this is happening because of me,

2444
01:55:40,680 --> 01:55:43,480
Speaker 3: and God needed me back, you know, home, and so

2445
01:55:43,560 --> 01:55:45,400
Speaker 3: you know, I feel like marrying him has increased my

2446
01:55:45,440 --> 01:55:48,760
Speaker 3: faith and gave me a boldness too, you know, just

2447
01:55:48,800 --> 01:55:52,920
Speaker 3: to you know, bring other people, you know, back into

2448
01:55:52,960 --> 01:55:53,400
Speaker 3: the faith.

2449
01:55:54,160 --> 01:55:55,400
Speaker 2: So let me ask you this, Harry, what do you

2450
01:55:55,440 --> 01:55:58,840
Speaker 2: what do you think she should she should have said, No.

2451
01:55:58,880 --> 01:56:01,920
Speaker 1: It's it's it's okay. I don't hear.

2452
01:56:01,840 --> 01:56:05,720
Speaker 2: What you thought. Why did God have her marry you?

2453
01:56:06,440 --> 01:56:08,760
Speaker 1: Because God knew I was the one that could handle it.

2454
01:56:09,480 --> 01:56:13,680
Speaker 1: That's that's what it was. Like Maya. Maya is a fireball,

2455
01:56:14,200 --> 01:56:16,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And a lot of the

2456
01:56:16,720 --> 01:56:20,520
Speaker 1: stuff that Maya was going through early on, it didn't

2457
01:56:20,520 --> 01:56:22,720
Speaker 1: affect me, you know what I mean, Like I just

2458
01:56:22,800 --> 01:56:25,280
Speaker 1: kind of loved her anyway and kept her clothes anyway,

2459
01:56:25,600 --> 01:56:28,120
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I think that I'm

2460
01:56:28,200 --> 01:56:33,360
Speaker 1: really the one who It's almost like, you know, Christ

2461
01:56:33,440 --> 01:56:37,040
Speaker 1: loves you anyway, He loves you irregardless, and so I'm

2462
01:56:37,080 --> 01:56:39,360
Speaker 1: the one who because I think a lot of men

2463
01:56:39,560 --> 01:56:43,120
Speaker 1: you know, would would have ran, you know, you think so, yeah,

2464
01:56:43,160 --> 01:56:46,120
Speaker 1: I think they would have ran. But God, God knew

2465
01:56:46,120 --> 01:56:48,040
Speaker 1: that I would hold you down, you know what I mean,

2466
01:56:48,160 --> 01:56:52,760
Speaker 1: And so we're gonna hold you down forever.

2467
01:56:53,040 --> 01:56:54,240
Speaker 2: Once y'all grabbed that box.

2468
01:56:54,480 --> 01:56:57,160
Speaker 6: Wait, I want to ask real quick. So you talked

2469
01:56:57,160 --> 01:57:00,480
Speaker 6: a lot about transitioning. What is it that you do now?

2470
01:57:01,280 --> 01:57:04,440
Speaker 1: So now we started a company called Vita Stars. So

2471
01:57:04,480 --> 01:57:06,320
Speaker 1: I got the babies, now, you know what I mean.

2472
01:57:06,440 --> 01:57:09,040
Speaker 1: So my my little my little babies, love them that.

2473
01:57:09,120 --> 01:57:10,800
Speaker 1: I got a six year old, a four year old,

2474
01:57:10,840 --> 01:57:13,800
Speaker 1: and a one year old, all girls, you know. And

2475
01:57:13,880 --> 01:57:16,360
Speaker 1: so when they were a little bit younger, maybe two

2476
01:57:16,440 --> 01:57:20,680
Speaker 1: three years ago, I started decided to start children's health

2477
01:57:20,720 --> 01:57:26,280
Speaker 1: and wellness company. We were making children vitamins and that

2478
01:57:26,320 --> 01:57:29,080
Speaker 1: transition to adult vitamins because the parents kept wanting to

2479
01:57:29,080 --> 01:57:32,880
Speaker 1: take the vitamins. But now we've actually pivots. We actually

2480
01:57:32,920 --> 01:57:36,160
Speaker 1: pivoted to just straight children content because when we made

2481
01:57:36,200 --> 01:57:39,040
Speaker 1: when we made the the labels for the vitamins, I

2482
01:57:39,080 --> 01:57:41,720
Speaker 1: made these cartoon characters, one modeled after my daughter, my

2483
01:57:41,720 --> 01:57:44,760
Speaker 1: my middle daughter, Navy, and I knew that one day

2484
01:57:44,760 --> 01:57:47,080
Speaker 1: I would turn those cartoon characters into a real cartoon.

2485
01:57:47,520 --> 01:57:49,760
Speaker 1: And so once I started doing that, and then my

2486
01:57:49,760 --> 01:57:53,040
Speaker 1: my wife, that's all roads lead to her. My wife

2487
01:57:53,160 --> 01:57:56,760
Speaker 1: hired a home school teacher, and the homeschool teacher was

2488
01:57:56,760 --> 01:57:58,440
Speaker 1: so good. I'm like, okay, we're gonna make you into

2489
01:57:58,480 --> 01:58:01,760
Speaker 1: a show. And so the carts in the show started

2490
01:58:01,840 --> 01:58:05,360
Speaker 1: to become so popular. It's like, man, we got these products,

2491
01:58:05,400 --> 01:58:07,760
Speaker 1: but we need to be focused here. And so that's

2492
01:58:07,800 --> 01:58:10,640
Speaker 1: basically what we're We're the Black Nickelodeon.

2493
01:58:11,440 --> 01:58:12,800
Speaker 4: Bilingual though for Spanish.

2494
01:58:13,000 --> 01:58:16,840
Speaker 1: Well that's that's the key to it. Why it's catching

2495
01:58:16,880 --> 01:58:19,080
Speaker 1: fire so fast because we teach English and Spanish, so

2496
01:58:19,160 --> 01:58:21,440
Speaker 1: your kid can watch it and learn both languages at once.

2497
01:58:22,000 --> 01:58:24,440
Speaker 1: And so you know, my my eighteen month old like

2498
01:58:24,560 --> 01:58:27,920
Speaker 1: she says both languages just from Washington show, you know

2499
01:58:27,920 --> 01:58:28,240
Speaker 1: what I mean.

2500
01:58:28,360 --> 01:58:30,040
Speaker 2: So so where watch it?

2501
01:58:30,520 --> 01:58:33,920
Speaker 1: So the the bilingual show, both of the are BITI lingual,

2502
01:58:34,000 --> 01:58:38,080
Speaker 1: but the bilinguals show it's called Olive Miss Luna, Mrs

2503
01:58:38,160 --> 01:58:40,520
Speaker 1: Miss Luna because she's married, you know, Jesus, we got

2504
01:58:40,520 --> 01:58:42,600
Speaker 1: to make sure people understand, you know what I mean,

2505
01:58:42,880 --> 01:58:45,080
Speaker 1: so old I Miss Luna. And then the cartoon is

2506
01:58:45,120 --> 01:58:48,040
Speaker 1: called Navy and Ryan, and so we.

2507
01:58:48,320 --> 01:58:50,280
Speaker 2: Decided to watch I'm.

2508
01:58:50,160 --> 01:58:52,760
Speaker 1: Sorry, sorry you're go on YouTube and watching, and so

2509
01:58:52,920 --> 01:58:54,720
Speaker 1: we decided to just focus it was just doing so

2510
01:58:54,760 --> 01:58:56,640
Speaker 1: good we decided to just focus on that. So now

2511
01:58:56,640 --> 01:58:59,680
Speaker 1: we're getting our kind of like you guys, I put

2512
01:58:59,680 --> 01:59:02,160
Speaker 1: it off or two days ago for a building so

2513
01:59:02,200 --> 01:59:06,280
Speaker 1: we can build out our content sets. So congratulations, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

2514
01:59:06,400 --> 01:59:08,280
Speaker 1: we put in the offer for the building. You know,

2515
01:59:08,720 --> 01:59:11,760
Speaker 1: I'm imagining some negotiations, but hopefully we get it and

2516
01:59:11,800 --> 01:59:13,920
Speaker 1: we can close around I think the closing that like

2517
01:59:13,920 --> 01:59:15,840
Speaker 1: May eleven. Yeah, So so we're.

2518
01:59:15,680 --> 01:59:20,720
Speaker 11: Building content studio and so basically basically we're going to

2519
01:59:20,800 --> 01:59:24,280
Speaker 11: be focused on children's content bi linguine and the reason

2520
01:59:24,360 --> 01:59:27,680
Speaker 11: it's bilingual is because when I started it, my children

2521
01:59:27,960 --> 01:59:30,240
Speaker 11: we're going to what's called emerging school, and that's where

2522
01:59:30,240 --> 01:59:32,040
Speaker 11: they immersed your kid in a language.

2523
01:59:32,240 --> 01:59:34,200
Speaker 1: And so my two older they were going there. And

2524
01:59:34,760 --> 01:59:36,760
Speaker 1: the way it works is they go, they speak Spanish

2525
01:59:36,760 --> 01:59:38,720
Speaker 1: to them the whole time, so that they learned the

2526
01:59:38,800 --> 01:59:42,440
Speaker 1: language quicker, and then we end up finding my wife

2527
01:59:42,440 --> 01:59:46,560
Speaker 1: found us a homeschool teacher that spoke Spanish in English,

2528
01:59:46,640 --> 01:59:49,320
Speaker 1: and she she started as a tutor. She did so good,

2529
01:59:49,360 --> 01:59:51,400
Speaker 1: I made her offer to be full time and we

2530
01:59:51,400 --> 01:59:53,120
Speaker 1: took him out of the school and put her got

2531
01:59:53,200 --> 01:59:55,640
Speaker 1: them at home full time and she was so good.

2532
01:59:55,680 --> 01:59:57,800
Speaker 1: I'm like, man, like, I ben't want to do this show,

2533
01:59:57,840 --> 02:00:00,440
Speaker 1: but I needed the person. And I asked her, she's

2534
02:00:00,480 --> 02:00:01,720
Speaker 1: so crazy. She told me, she's like, this is what

2535
02:00:01,760 --> 02:00:04,120
Speaker 1: I've been praying for. That she told me that this

2536
02:00:04,160 --> 02:00:05,040
Speaker 1: is what I've been praying for.

2537
02:00:05,200 --> 02:00:07,400
Speaker 3: And that's my Like, that's one of the things that

2538
02:00:07,440 --> 02:00:10,400
Speaker 3: I love the most about her, her patience, but also

2539
02:00:10,480 --> 02:00:14,440
Speaker 3: her faith. And like we gave her two different curriculums.

2540
02:00:14,440 --> 02:00:17,240
Speaker 3: She has an English curriculum and a Spanish curriculum, but

2541
02:00:17,360 --> 02:00:20,760
Speaker 3: she just or God, you know, just and implored her

2542
02:00:20,840 --> 02:00:23,760
Speaker 3: to do her own thing. And so every day they

2543
02:00:23,800 --> 02:00:26,360
Speaker 3: go over the fruit for the Spirit, they do the

2544
02:00:26,400 --> 02:00:30,000
Speaker 3: Lord's Prayer in English and Spanish. They have a Verse

2545
02:00:30,080 --> 02:00:32,240
Speaker 3: of the Week, and that's something that you know, God

2546
02:00:32,280 --> 02:00:34,680
Speaker 3: put on her heart to do and even discuss that.

2547
02:00:34,800 --> 02:00:37,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's incredible and so and so.

2548
02:00:37,280 --> 02:00:37,480
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2549
02:00:37,480 --> 02:00:39,480
Speaker 1: So so we made her into a show. So her

2550
02:00:39,480 --> 02:00:42,360
Speaker 1: show is blowing up right now. And so that's that's

2551
02:00:42,400 --> 02:00:44,280
Speaker 1: what we're focused on. What we're focused on doing the

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Speaker 1: children content and you know, making making family friendly, educational

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Speaker 1: value add content. And my little, my big daughter Elsie,

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02:00:57,040 --> 02:00:58,720
Speaker 1: she gets on me all the time. Is why is

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Speaker 1: no Jesus in this show. You need some Jesus in

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Speaker 1: this show. And I'm telling her, I'm like, baby, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna get it in there. And she was like, well,

2558
02:01:05,400 --> 02:01:07,120
Speaker 1: you're not doing it right till you put Jesus in it.

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Speaker 1: That's that's literally what she said. She six she sick.

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Speaker 1: If you if you watch our social media, you will

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Speaker 1: see Elsie is about.

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Speaker 2: Jesus at doing it right until Jesus.

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Speaker 1: She told me, I'm not doing it right to Jesus

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Speaker 1: the show. She's about Jesus for the show. But so

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Speaker 1: so we are, Elsie, Baby, we are gonna we are

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Speaker 1: working on that. So we're doing like I don't want

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Speaker 1: to call them Christian nursery rhymes, but we're doing some

2568
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Speaker 1: nursing godly nursing rounds. So we're getting in the show.

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Speaker 1: But that's that's what we're focused on. And I truly

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Speaker 1: believe it's gonna be the biggest catalog I ever built.

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Speaker 1: So I'm very very excited about Obviously I'm buying the building.

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Speaker 1: I'm very excited about it. So that's what we're working on.

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Speaker 1: And and that's why you know, God lessons like with

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Speaker 1: the finances to be able to do so. I mean

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Speaker 1: when I first left, we you know, we were struggling.

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Speaker 1: Well I didn't feel like we were struggling, but my wife

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02:02:00,120 --> 02:02:02,120
Speaker 1: to be known we struggling, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Long was the bills paid? I don't have it. I come

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02:02:04,760 --> 02:02:08,080
Speaker 1: from a little you know what I mean. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: I didn't. I'm like, do you see our house. We're

2581
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Speaker 1: not struggling. But she felt it. So she made me

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Speaker 1: feel it. But God, you know, I just stayed obeting

2583
02:02:20,200 --> 02:02:23,200
Speaker 1: because people will call me all the time ten fifteen like, bro,

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02:02:23,320 --> 02:02:25,440
Speaker 1: do this do this. I'm I'm straight like I'm not

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02:02:25,480 --> 02:02:27,560
Speaker 1: going I remember Mike Will made it DM me like, bro,

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02:02:27,600 --> 02:02:30,320
Speaker 1: you're gonna be back? Knowing not you know what I mean,

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02:02:30,760 --> 02:02:31,800
Speaker 1: I'm not coming back.

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02:02:31,960 --> 02:02:33,480
Speaker 2: Do you try to tell her to go back?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: No, because again I had just prayed for so many years,

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02:02:38,000 --> 02:02:40,720
Speaker 3: you know, for God to you know, speak to him

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02:02:40,760 --> 02:02:45,080
Speaker 3: and move through him. And so despite me feeling the

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02:02:45,480 --> 02:02:48,520
Speaker 3: finances deplete a little like, I still was just so

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Speaker 3: grateful in the peace.

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Speaker 4: That we had in our home. You know, that we

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Speaker 4: had in our marriage was priceless.

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Speaker 1: She was happy. I w wasn't partying. That's all it

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02:02:58,600 --> 02:03:01,720
Speaker 1: was that she was happy. I went out there no more.

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02:03:02,200 --> 02:03:04,760
Speaker 1: You know, I was at home. I was to stay

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Speaker 1: at home dad, which I I love. It was again

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Speaker 1: that's why I said that the father I have but come,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So, but yes, we we are.

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Speaker 1: We are making to.

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Speaker 3: Have him in our home, to have help with the children,

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Speaker 3: to know that he was safe.

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Speaker 1: I was always safe.

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Speaker 2: God got me, God had him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's my favorite one. So I love that one.

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02:03:26,560 --> 02:03:30,800
Speaker 3: You know, when I met him, his social media Lambo Dreaming.

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Speaker 1: Yes, my social media handle Lambo Dreaming Now it's j

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Speaker 1: R McKee dot co. But no, but that's that's what

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Speaker 1: we're doing. I'm very happy with it. I'm very excited

2613
02:03:43,640 --> 02:03:46,960
Speaker 1: for like the quick growth, and I'm very happy to

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Speaker 1: be able to spend all day with my babies.

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Speaker 2: You know, we're gonna put a link. We're gonna put

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Speaker 2: a link in the description so people be connected to you.

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02:03:53,320 --> 02:03:57,760
Speaker 2: I want to grab this box. Grab this box, and

2618
02:03:57,800 --> 02:04:02,960
Speaker 2: there's there's two sharpies in there. Grab one each and

2619
02:04:03,040 --> 02:04:06,840
Speaker 2: one of those paper. Yeah, and then y'all can use

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Speaker 2: the top of the box to write and just write

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Speaker 2: down a key to love just whatever you want to say,

2622
02:04:13,600 --> 02:04:17,560
Speaker 2: a quick phrase, a sentence or word whatever, and then yeah,

2623
02:04:18,160 --> 02:04:21,640
Speaker 2: now you don't y'all figured out and while y'all do

2624
02:04:21,720 --> 02:04:23,840
Speaker 2: that and I talk, But then you just write it down,

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02:04:23,920 --> 02:04:27,200
Speaker 2: sign your name, and then read it whatever you feel like.

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Speaker 2: A keda love is you dropped a couple of them already,

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Speaker 2: so just just drop that and then sign your name

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Speaker 2: on it.

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Speaker 5: Uh, So what did you think about this episode?

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Speaker 2: Well? I thought it was I thought it was dope.

2631
02:04:41,200 --> 02:04:46,280
Speaker 2: I love the fact that I love when people give

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02:04:46,320 --> 02:04:50,680
Speaker 2: it up for Christ, like literally say, you know, it's

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02:04:50,760 --> 02:04:53,480
Speaker 2: vows that we say when we get married and say

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Speaker 2: forsake and all others. And the hardest thing for a

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02:04:56,360 --> 02:04:59,959
Speaker 2: man to do is for sake. You know, their finance.

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02:05:00,160 --> 02:05:03,240
Speaker 2: We're always built on making the money, chasing the bag,

2637
02:05:03,360 --> 02:05:06,720
Speaker 2: all that stuff. And to know that he had an

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02:05:06,720 --> 02:05:10,640
Speaker 2: accountability partner that literally told him like, all right, well,

2639
02:05:10,720 --> 02:05:14,200
Speaker 2: if you're you watch all this Bishop Jakes all the time,

2640
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Speaker 2: why haven't you changed? Which is a seed that that's

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02:05:17,280 --> 02:05:19,640
Speaker 2: planning in his heart, that begins to challenge a man

2642
02:05:19,720 --> 02:05:22,879
Speaker 2: for greatness. And you know, he made the ultimate decision.

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02:05:22,920 --> 02:05:25,400
Speaker 2: But I also love the fact that you have this

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02:05:25,560 --> 02:05:31,760
Speaker 2: couple that literally prayer saved his life. God saved his

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02:05:31,840 --> 02:05:36,320
Speaker 2: life through prayer from a spiritual standpoint earlier on in

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Speaker 2: the marriage, and then saved the physical being of Harry

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02:05:41,240 --> 02:05:43,800
Speaker 2: through prayer. And so I just love how God and

2648
02:05:43,920 --> 02:05:48,360
Speaker 2: all his obniscience and omnipotence just he did his big

2649
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Speaker 2: one with this, with this amazing couple. What about you.

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Speaker 5: I want to hear what they have to say. But

2651
02:05:54,280 --> 02:05:55,200
Speaker 5: I love this episode.

2652
02:05:55,240 --> 02:05:59,160
Speaker 2: You already knew you want to have reached out and said, hey,

2653
02:05:59,240 --> 02:05:59,840
Speaker 2: let's get down.

2654
02:06:00,080 --> 02:06:04,080
Speaker 5: Yeah afraid and covered him. I love this whole journey.

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02:06:04,160 --> 02:06:05,240
Speaker 2: Hey man, what you got there?

2656
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Speaker 1: Every thanks for covering me. Yeah.

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02:06:09,000 --> 02:06:11,200
Speaker 2: So, so the mood.

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Speaker 1: One of the things I've i've you know, continuously strive

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02:06:17,560 --> 02:06:21,840
Speaker 1: to do is I love my wife the way that

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Speaker 1: God loves me. You know what I mean? I know God,

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02:06:24,440 --> 02:06:26,720
Speaker 1: God sees us as as his own image. He sees

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02:06:26,800 --> 02:06:30,680
Speaker 1: us as the image of Christ. And so that love

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Speaker 1: that God loved that he gives us, I try to

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02:06:33,600 --> 02:06:35,080
Speaker 1: let that flow through me. I try to let it

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Speaker 1: pass through me, Like, Okay, I can't love the way

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Speaker 1: you love, so when you love me, I'm gonna try

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Speaker 1: to just let it flow through me. And so that

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Speaker 1: I try to pass that love on to her, and

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Speaker 1: so I just try to love her the way He

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Speaker 1: loves me. So I just rolled down. Let the love

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Speaker 1: of God flow through you.

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Speaker 2: Let the love of God flow through you, and you

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02:06:53,640 --> 02:06:54,200
Speaker 2: it ain't right.

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Speaker 1: Let me sign yeah, and then.

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Speaker 2: What you're writing.

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02:07:03,520 --> 02:07:04,480
Speaker 5: Reader my name? Okay?

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Speaker 3: I wrote to trusting the Lord with all your heart,

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02:07:08,560 --> 02:07:12,600
Speaker 3: no matter what it looks like. And that's just like

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02:07:13,160 --> 02:07:17,960
Speaker 3: that is my testimony through every season you know, of

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02:07:18,000 --> 02:07:20,160
Speaker 3: my life. You know, I felt like God has kept

2681
02:07:20,200 --> 02:07:23,920
Speaker 3: me and God has you know, protected me and provided

2682
02:07:23,960 --> 02:07:26,560
Speaker 3: for me. And like he said, like I I was,

2683
02:07:26,600 --> 02:07:27,240
Speaker 3: what did you call me?

2684
02:07:27,280 --> 02:07:28,520
Speaker 1: A ball of fire?

2685
02:07:29,000 --> 02:07:29,560
Speaker 4: Fireball?

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Speaker 3: You know, I have had a very traumatic past, you know, childhood,

2687
02:07:33,680 --> 02:07:36,480
Speaker 3: you know, et cetera. But I always knew, you know,

2688
02:07:36,560 --> 02:07:38,280
Speaker 3: it would get better. And that was just you know,

2689
02:07:38,320 --> 02:07:40,360
Speaker 3: the faith that you know, I kept in knowing that

2690
02:07:40,400 --> 02:07:41,520
Speaker 3: like the Lord has me.

2691
02:07:42,200 --> 02:07:43,840
Speaker 4: And so that's what I wrote.

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Speaker 2: That's good, Go and hang it up on the hooks

2693
02:07:47,000 --> 02:07:51,800
Speaker 2: over there. Yeah, this was this was amazing. We end

2694
02:07:51,880 --> 02:07:55,640
Speaker 2: up doing a two hour episode. Yeah, yeah, it was

2695
02:07:55,640 --> 02:07:58,280
Speaker 2: two hours. It got so good that it was two

2696
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Speaker 2: hours in this episode. Thank you'll, Thank y'all for coming,

2697
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Speaker 2: Thank y'all.

2698
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Speaker 5: For coming and we are so glad we were praying.

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Speaker 6: So we are so happy to see the manifestation of this.

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Speaker 1: Let me say that too. I want to thank everybody,

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02:08:13,280 --> 02:08:16,760
Speaker 1: because I mean, the video did get millions, like I think,

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02:08:16,800 --> 02:08:21,360
Speaker 1: like thirty five thirty five million views, but thirty five million, yeah, yeah,

2703
02:08:21,400 --> 02:08:26,000
Speaker 1: it's a pretty much ten on each platform. Yeah, but no,

2704
02:08:26,200 --> 02:08:28,640
Speaker 1: all the people that were like flooding us, calling us

2705
02:08:28,680 --> 02:08:31,720
Speaker 1: my friends, that call all the prayers, I want to

2706
02:08:31,760 --> 02:08:34,080
Speaker 1: I want to thank you because even after we posted it,

2707
02:08:34,080 --> 02:08:36,040
Speaker 1: I wasn't out of the woods. I still had a

2708
02:08:36,120 --> 02:08:39,280
Speaker 1: long recovery and I'm still not even I'm like eighty

2709
02:08:39,320 --> 02:08:41,800
Speaker 1: five percent. And so just thank y'all for all the

2710
02:08:41,840 --> 02:08:43,960
Speaker 1: people who pray for us, to all the people you

2711
02:08:44,000 --> 02:08:46,280
Speaker 1: know what I mean who covered us during that time

2712
02:08:46,320 --> 02:08:49,080
Speaker 1: and even now during our marriage, because like I said,

2713
02:08:49,120 --> 02:08:52,760
Speaker 1: marriage is not easy what I mean, So thank God

2714
02:08:52,920 --> 02:08:56,720
Speaker 1: and thank y'all for continuing to cover our marriage. And

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Speaker 1: I'm sure this post is gonna be all how beautiful

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02:08:59,240 --> 02:08:59,800
Speaker 1: my wife is.

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02:09:03,320 --> 02:09:05,080
Speaker 3: I'm sorry it was one thing that I didn't say,

2718
02:09:05,080 --> 02:09:07,920
Speaker 3: but I feel like it's very important to say the

2719
02:09:07,960 --> 02:09:08,839
Speaker 3: biggest thing.

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Speaker 4: You know that has my husband and I.

2721
02:09:13,240 --> 02:09:18,760
Speaker 3: Hear and that you know, keep us, keep our faith strong,

2722
02:09:19,480 --> 02:09:22,680
Speaker 3: is our community. And I think that was also the

2723
02:09:22,720 --> 02:09:25,640
Speaker 3: shift and my husband as well, Like he talked about

2724
02:09:25,720 --> 02:09:28,720
Speaker 3: changing his environment, but also changing who you associate with

2725
02:09:28,880 --> 02:09:31,640
Speaker 3: is so important because like you said, he had that

2726
02:09:31,680 --> 02:09:32,800
Speaker 3: accountability partner.

2727
02:09:33,280 --> 02:09:36,520
Speaker 4: And so you know, I just I want to, you know.

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Speaker 3: Say that, like, don't be afraid, you know, to make

2729
02:09:39,400 --> 02:09:40,960
Speaker 3: new friends and get a new circle.

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Speaker 1: You know.

2731
02:09:41,160 --> 02:09:43,600
Speaker 4: I know it's no new friends you know out there

2732
02:09:43,640 --> 02:09:44,600
Speaker 4: in the world.

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02:09:44,320 --> 02:09:47,800
Speaker 3: But you know, to have you know, my my community

2734
02:09:47,840 --> 02:09:49,800
Speaker 3: that I have, Like I'm a part of a Bible

2735
02:09:49,800 --> 02:09:52,720
Speaker 3: study group called a Superstar Blueprint and we have five

2736
02:09:52,840 --> 02:09:56,680
Speaker 3: thirty am call every Thursday morning, and we have monthly meetups.

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02:09:56,680 --> 02:09:59,240
Speaker 3: And it's like women from all walks of life. You know,

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02:09:59,440 --> 02:10:02,480
Speaker 3: it's that are seventy something in there. You know, it's

2739
02:10:02,600 --> 02:10:04,760
Speaker 3: girls who are eighteen nineteen, you know, fresh out of

2740
02:10:04,840 --> 02:10:07,320
Speaker 3: high school. But it's a safe space where you know,

2741
02:10:07,840 --> 02:10:10,240
Speaker 3: you can ask questions that you can't ask or that

2742
02:10:10,280 --> 02:10:12,760
Speaker 3: you feel afraid to ask in church, or you know,

2743
02:10:12,920 --> 02:10:15,560
Speaker 3: where you you can ask for prayer if you're struggling

2744
02:10:15,560 --> 02:10:17,080
Speaker 3: with certain things. And I know that he has a

2745
02:10:17,120 --> 02:10:19,480
Speaker 3: community as well, and like I think that that's been

2746
02:10:19,480 --> 02:10:22,320
Speaker 3: our saving grace because you know, you can't talk to

2747
02:10:22,400 --> 02:10:25,080
Speaker 3: everyone about you know, your struggles in life or you know,

2748
02:10:25,760 --> 02:10:29,120
Speaker 3: your struggles within your relationship, but you know you can

2749
02:10:29,360 --> 02:10:33,280
Speaker 3: seek you know, godly wisdom through people, and so you know,

2750
02:10:34,040 --> 02:10:35,400
Speaker 3: community is very important.

2751
02:10:35,480 --> 02:10:37,160
Speaker 1: I agree. That was one of the first things I

2752
02:10:37,200 --> 02:10:39,680
Speaker 1: sought out when I first you know, gave my life

2753
02:10:39,760 --> 02:10:42,240
Speaker 1: over to Christ on what was that community? But I

2754
02:10:42,320 --> 02:10:43,880
Speaker 1: ended up you know, we end up having to build

2755
02:10:43,880 --> 02:10:46,440
Speaker 1: it ourselves because I couldn't really find it. But yes,

2756
02:10:47,120 --> 02:10:49,320
Speaker 1: that you know, same way she has our Bible study group.

2757
02:10:49,320 --> 02:10:51,640
Speaker 1: I have our Bible study group about ten fifteen guys,

2758
02:10:51,840 --> 02:10:53,920
Speaker 1: and I probably have cried to them more than I've

2759
02:10:53,960 --> 02:10:56,240
Speaker 1: cried to her. Like we eat on there and we

2760
02:10:56,560 --> 02:10:59,160
Speaker 1: talk about marriage, you talk about yourself. So she's right

2761
02:10:59,200 --> 02:11:02,320
Speaker 1: that that community, like our calls are Mondays and Wednesday,

2762
02:11:02,360 --> 02:11:03,640
Speaker 1: and that really hold me together.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Real.

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Speaker 1: So if you are new or seeking that faith, like,

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Speaker 1: finding your community is very safe. Space is very important.

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Speaker 1: So I'm I'm glad you did mention that.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, So listen, y'all made the love you share today

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02:11:18,480 --> 02:11:20,040
Speaker 2: outlived the season you're in.

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Speaker 6: May carry you through the days when words are few,

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02:11:23,840 --> 02:11:25,560
Speaker 6: and faith has to do the talking.

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Speaker 2: Y'all give it up for the keys. Oh, y'all give

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Speaker 2: it up for them, y'all. Ladarian rusted suddenly into child

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Speaker 2: protective services in twenty fifteen. My nephew, Black a boy.

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02:11:38,880 --> 02:11:43,960
Speaker 2: The likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship, slim to none? Rmione,

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02:11:44,680 --> 02:11:48,760
Speaker 2: sixteen years old, Black a boy with five years in

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02:11:48,800 --> 02:11:51,160
Speaker 2: the fossil care system before I even knew his name.

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02:11:52,000 --> 02:11:55,720
Speaker 2: The likelihood have ever been adopted? Yep, you guessed it.

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02:11:56,320 --> 02:12:00,840
Speaker 2: Slim to none. While Ladarian and our money were trying

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02:12:00,840 --> 02:12:04,280
Speaker 2: to survive and barely thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded

2781
02:12:04,280 --> 02:12:06,920
Speaker 2: false care system, I was living my own life, doing

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02:12:06,920 --> 02:12:10,160
Speaker 2: well professionally, having been a single father with a daughter

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02:12:10,200 --> 02:12:12,760
Speaker 2: who at that point was doing well in college. It

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02:12:12,800 --> 02:12:16,840
Speaker 2: was my time to live my life right wrong. I

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02:12:16,840 --> 02:12:22,840
Speaker 2: felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. There are just two many of

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02:12:22,880 --> 02:12:26,600
Speaker 2: our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the limbo

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02:12:26,720 --> 02:12:30,080
Speaker 2: of the Falter care system. In twenty seventeen, I legally

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02:12:30,120 --> 02:12:33,760
Speaker 2: adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast forward to twenty nineteen. I

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02:12:33,800 --> 02:12:36,000
Speaker 2: had no ties to this other young king, but I

2790
02:12:36,040 --> 02:12:39,040
Speaker 2: felt God instructed me to adopt them. Also on Io Babe,

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02:12:39,920 --> 02:12:43,000
Speaker 2: starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right, Working

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02:12:43,000 --> 02:12:45,680
Speaker 2: with various foster care and adoption agencies to help bring

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02:12:45,720 --> 02:12:48,880
Speaker 2: awareness to the countless young Black Kings and the Falster

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02:12:49,000 --> 02:12:53,200
Speaker 2: care system should have decreased my agitation. Right. Joining the

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Speaker 2: board of directors of Advantage of Adoption and organization that

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02:12:56,320 --> 02:12:59,640
Speaker 2: helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in false care

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02:13:00,080 --> 02:13:03,840
Speaker 2: have led to some type of resolve. Right, No, not

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02:13:03,960 --> 02:13:07,360
Speaker 2: at all. None of it felt like I had done enough.

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02:13:08,400 --> 02:13:12,480
Speaker 2: I now realized that every one of those experiences was

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02:13:12,560 --> 02:13:17,000
Speaker 2: land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission. Kingdom Royal.

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Speaker 2: Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of the art

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Speaker 2: home for foster boys. Our first location will be in

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02:13:23,880 --> 02:13:26,880
Speaker 2: the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex. We will utilize the whole

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02:13:26,960 --> 02:13:31,600
Speaker 2: person approach that instills identity, empowers them to advocate for themselves,

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02:13:31,800 --> 02:13:35,960
Speaker 2: and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and limitless options that

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02:13:36,000 --> 02:13:40,600
Speaker 2: they thought were impossible. Though the young Kings will attend

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02:13:40,640 --> 02:13:43,840
Speaker 2: the local public schools that are in proximity to Kingdom Royal.

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02:13:44,320 --> 02:13:48,160
Speaker 2: Our at home curriculum will broaden their worldview through participating

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Speaker 2: in the arts, attending various cultural events, learning about and

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02:13:51,840 --> 02:13:56,320
Speaker 2: engaging in multifaceted discussions about current events and even relevant

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Speaker 2: historical contexts, introducing them to gardening and landscape, and even

2812
02:14:00,920 --> 02:14:04,840
Speaker 2: caring for our animals on our form and on site stables.

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Speaker 2: We just launched our startup capital campaign with the goal

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Speaker 2: of raising two point eight million dollars. Now why two

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Speaker 2: point eight million dollars? Well, In twenty seventeen, I created

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02:14:14,360 --> 02:14:16,960
Speaker 2: a web series in which I performed random acts of

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02:14:17,040 --> 02:14:20,120
Speaker 2: kindness for targeting the homeless community. One of the most

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02:14:20,160 --> 02:14:23,040
Speaker 2: notable successes was that one of the videos went viral,

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Speaker 2: garnering twenty eight million views. However, one of my biggest

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Speaker 2: regrets is that I didn't raise a single dollar to

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Speaker 2: help in implementing a more sustainable plan for the homeless community.

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Speaker 2: So throughout the years, but much remorse, I reflect that

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Speaker 2: I'm not maximizing that moment. I knew if at that

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Speaker 2: time just ten percent of the viewers donated one dollar,

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02:14:45,960 --> 02:14:49,640
Speaker 2: we would have raised at least two point eight million dollars.

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02:14:49,680 --> 02:14:52,160
Speaker 2: That could have really established long term support for the

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Speaker 2: homeless community, or at least started a long term initiative

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Speaker 2: to do so. This is my du over. This is

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Speaker 2: our new beginning. Together, we can attack this at the

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02:15:03,800 --> 02:15:08,200
Speaker 2: root by specifically helping our homeless Black boys who are

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02:15:08,240 --> 02:15:13,120
Speaker 2: already disproportionately represented in the American fossil care system. I'm

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Speaker 2: a Tarisarwickfield. I've been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting

2833
02:15:17,240 --> 02:15:19,720
Speaker 2: my work with the homeless as well as my personal

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02:15:19,800 --> 02:15:24,360
Speaker 2: adoption journey. Despite those accolades, the greatest award for me

2835
02:15:25,080 --> 02:15:30,440
Speaker 2: is truly providing the infrastructure for a transformed life. Visit

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Speaker 2: Kingdom Royal dot com for more details, crown a king

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Speaker 2: and make a donation today. I hope you enjoyed this

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Speaker 2: episode of the Dear Future WIFEI podcast. Remember be lit,

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02:15:48,160 --> 02:15:52,960
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02:15:53,040 --> 02:15:55,520
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