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Speaker 4: Do I've a use my story to stare other young

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Speaker 4: Make sure y'all check that out by doctor Jackie Green.

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Speaker 7: Good morning, church. My name is Jamari Thomas. I'm a

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Speaker 8: Good morning. My name is Ebony. I am from Columbia,

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much, thank you, thank you, thank you,

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Speaker 4: It's a hardened heart where we don't allow God's love

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Speaker 4: See y'all started this. Y all had the Holy go

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Speaker 1: will count their husband or their wife out in seed form,

446
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Speaker 1: not recognizing who they are to become. You gotta have

447
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Speaker 1: spiritual the sermon to see beyond the green finger, because

448
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 1: I can see the green man arising to be everything

449
00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 1: that God said, where.

450
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Speaker 5: Are your spiritual eyes of the sermon to see?

451
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:39,520
Speaker 2: Right?

452
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Speaker 1: With two on the surface, ask God to give you

453
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Speaker 1: eyes to see. But that comes from a life of prayer.

454
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 1: You gotta look beyond the surface. You gotta go deeper

455
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 1: than what you can see with your eyes.

456
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Speaker 5: We need to pray. God, open my eyes.

457
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Speaker 1: And see like you see when I'm experiencing these men

458
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Speaker 1: and women.

459
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Speaker 5: Open my eyes and see how you see. And Jesus' name,

460
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Speaker 5: Hey man.

461
00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 4: I'll be remiss if I didn't share this story. I

462
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:08,439
Speaker 4: interviewed Lisa and Tom Bill you an amazing couple, but

463
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:11,840
Speaker 4: they shared the story about how they were dating. Beautiful

464
00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:15,679
Speaker 4: white couple. They were dating and she was attracted to

465
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Speaker 4: the guys with the systems in the car, the guys

466
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 4: that had the nice vehicles or whatever. And when she

467
00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,159
Speaker 4: went out with him, he had this like he was

468
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 4: driving his grandfather's car something. It was Ragley or whatever.

469
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 4: She said. But one thing that he did that no

470
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:31,840
Speaker 4: other guy did was he opened the door for her,

471
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Speaker 4: and she said, hold on, I like this this is

472
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Speaker 4: something I didn't even think I needed. She went to

473
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,480
Speaker 4: her father and said, this guy's real intention on, I

474
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Speaker 4: want to marry him, and she was like, he's broke,

475
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 4: he can't marry my daughter. That man is now a billionaire.

476
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Speaker 4: He saw Quest Nutrition. I'm trying to help you understand

477
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Speaker 4: some you talk about the seed form. He is now

478
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Speaker 4: a billionaire, and he credits his success not because of

479
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Speaker 4: his brilliance, but because he joined hands with the right

480
00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 4: woman those energy bars quest Nutrition. That's time at least

481
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Speaker 4: to Bill.

482
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Speaker 2: You.

483
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Speaker 4: Let me start off in the back, and I want

484
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Speaker 4: you you introduce yourself. You introduce yourself. This lost the

485
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 4: spirit where we were at dire.

486
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:18,359
Speaker 2: We talked to you.

487
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:22,159
Speaker 4: Yet where do we stop? Where do we stop? I

488
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:25,240
Speaker 4: asked everybody. See y'all, don't talk to everybody. So I'm gone.

489
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Speaker 4: I'm so gone. All right, So here we go. So

490
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 4: we're gonna start right here. You twenty two years old.

491
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Speaker 4: Do you desire marriage? Absolutely? Absolutely, that's it.

492
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Speaker 5: Of course.

493
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Speaker 2: I think. I'm sorry, y'all. I'm ready to shout, y'all.

494
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: I know I'm ready to run. I haven't see.

495
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Speaker 7: I feel something about left for you right now now,

496
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 7: But cancer cussing. Absolutely, I desire a marriage. The Lord

497
00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 7: put it on my heart. I want to say earlier

498
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Speaker 7: this year that I'm called to marriage, and just understanding

499
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Speaker 7: the true desire of it, Understanding but it looks like

500
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 7: for a husband to lead, understanding what a true wife

501
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,199
Speaker 7: submission looks like, and understanding how to nurture that.

502
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Speaker 2: And I think it's something.

503
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Speaker 7: That we're genuinely called to, but we're called to for

504
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Speaker 7: a reason.

505
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Speaker 4: What would you say if someone says you're only twenty

506
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Speaker 4: two years old, you're too young to get married, You're

507
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 4: too young to even be thinking about marriage, I said,

508
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Speaker 4: the devil is a lie?

509
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 2: Like what what you lie?

510
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Speaker 7: I'll say, there's no age limit to your a nineteen

511
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 7: and there's no age limit to your calling. If he

512
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Speaker 7: tells you at nineteen years old or fifty five years

513
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 7: old that you are called to marriage and called to

514
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 7: this thing, it's up to you to be obedient to

515
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Speaker 7: that calling.

516
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Speaker 2: Isn't this crazy? Though?

517
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Speaker 4: People will tell you you too young to be married?

518
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:49,080
Speaker 4: But what are some things that they told you real

519
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,399
Speaker 4: early in age about twelve thirteen years old? That was

520
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 4: a lie? When you marriage it up to the grace

521
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Speaker 4: of God.

522
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Speaker 7: They told me a lot, I'll say they all a

523
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Speaker 7: lot of my traditional uncles told me to just have

524
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Speaker 7: multiple women. You're not winning if you don't have a

525
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 7: few in your circle. I think I told you earlier.

526
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 7: They used to tell me, why go to one fish

527
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 7: when you can have a tank full? You know, And

528
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,919
Speaker 7: it's just those lies kind of deceived me in my

529
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Speaker 7: earlier years because it's that was the lifestyle I was

530
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Speaker 7: taught to live.

531
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Speaker 2: How did you come against that? How did I come against?

532
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 2: Come against that?

533
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:27,600
Speaker 13: Thought?

534
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 2: This unlearning?

535
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,360
Speaker 4: Because you were trained in this, You were taught by

536
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Speaker 4: this by.

537
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 2: People that you looked up to, people that you admired.

538
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 4: How did you unlearn that toxic masculinity?

539
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Speaker 7: I'll first give a lot of praise to my pastors

540
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 7: for not only leading that yeah, yeah, for not only

541
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Speaker 7: leading me but leading the soon to be wife of

542
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Speaker 7: mine into that position.

543
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Speaker 2: Did you just shoot your shot? Where are you at?

544
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Speaker 13: Queen?

545
00:25:56,680 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 2: Stand up? Stand up? Stand up? Stand up? He said

546
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Speaker 2: it with his chest, he said soon to me white.

547
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 7: And so yes, them leading me, and also just getting

548
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:15,679
Speaker 7: in my own word, I'm very strong. If there's no

549
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 7: personal conviction, there's no relational and spiritual growth. So just

550
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 7: learning those concepts, understanding that I have to deny myself

551
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Speaker 7: so he can increase in my life ultimately in my

552
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Speaker 7: marriage as well.

553
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Speaker 4: That's what I'm talking about. Let's go ahead and talk

554
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Speaker 4: to y'all. Oh, Kendrick, y'all been married for how long?

555
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:42,439
Speaker 13: We've been married for?

556
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Speaker 11: Five months? Go October? The third will be five months?

557
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 2: Five months, five months. And this isn't y'all's first marriage?

558
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Speaker 4: Is it is not what made you decide to do

559
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Speaker 4: it again?

560
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Speaker 2: Man?

561
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Speaker 11: For me, my parents have been married all my life,

562
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 11: so they've been together as long as I've been alive.

563
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 11: And more so, I grew up in a model home

564
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 11: demonstrating what a good, successful marriage looks like. So when

565
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,160
Speaker 11: my last marriage failed, it wasn't marriage.

566
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Speaker 2: That I looked like.

567
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 11: It was the situation that I saw that wasn't proper.

568
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 11: It wasn't actual the model of marriage. Because marriage is good.

569
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:24,439
Speaker 11: God created marriage, so marriage is good. So if we

570
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Speaker 11: stay right there, that's the reason why I did it again.

571
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 11: And when she came along, I just knew it was

572
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Speaker 11: right for various reasons.

573
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Speaker 2: A lot of reasons.

574
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Speaker 4: You said something about you're doing you did it the

575
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,560
Speaker 4: right way, and she did it the wrong way.

576
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 2: What was he referring to, Jarnisian.

577
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Speaker 12: He's referring to our upbringing. So, like Kendrick said, he.

578
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 16: Grew up marriage was around him.

579
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Speaker 12: I grew up in a culture where I didn't see

580
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Speaker 12: marriage at all.

581
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Speaker 16: So I grew up searching for love.

582
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Speaker 12: But I just knew that I had to I couldn't

583
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Speaker 12: find it nowhere.

584
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Speaker 16: So when I joined the Milli's harry.

585
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 12: The military has a culture of you get married for money.

586
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Speaker 2: I heard every boy talk about it.

587
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Speaker 13: Go ahead, So.

588
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 12: Yeah, and the military their culture is, and I know

589
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 12: it's not for everybody, but the culture is when you're

590
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 12: a junior soldier, because I was in the army, if

591
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 12: you want to move out the barracks, or if you

592
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:20,120
Speaker 12: want to get a little bit more money in your.

593
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Speaker 16: Pocket, go ahead and get married.

594
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Speaker 15: Wow.

595
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Speaker 16: So that's what I did.

596
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Speaker 12: So, coming from a very small town in Georgia to

597
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 12: the military culture, marriage was never on my radar.

598
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: And so you got married at what age?

599
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Speaker 16: So I really.

600
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Speaker 12: So I originally got married at twenty three years old

601
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Speaker 12: to a friend of mine who was who I just

602
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Speaker 12: knew because I did, unfortunately have a child while I

603
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 12: was in the military. So I was just so heartbroken

604
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 12: and I just ran into the hands of somebody familiar.

605
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Speaker 16: I didn't go to God at all to say, hey,

606
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Speaker 16: should I.

607
00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 12: Be marrying this person, and honestly, I wanted to help

608
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Speaker 12: him out as well.

609
00:28:57,280 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 2: How did you want to help him out?

610
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Speaker 16: Not to put to his business out there, just.

611
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 2: Your business, your side of the business.

612
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 4: I just want your side of the business to put

613
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 4: out there, That's.

614
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Speaker 2: What I want.

615
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 4: You don't put his business to put your side of it.

616
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 4: The part that's a part of your testimony, not his testimony.

617
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Speaker 16: He was he stepped up.

618
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Speaker 12: And helped me with my daughter when she was very young.

619
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Speaker 12: So he was having a hard time finding work. And again,

620
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 12: if you're in the military, if you're married to somebody,

621
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:28,680
Speaker 12: they're pretty much guarantee a job as well.

622
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Speaker 16: So I said, well, let's get.

623
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Speaker 2: Married so you can find a job that's interesting. So

624
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,600
Speaker 2: have you always been very sacrificial like that?

625
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 16: Absolutely still to this day.

626
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:40,280
Speaker 2: To this very day.

627
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:44,720
Speaker 4: And so what made you after you got a divorce,

628
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 4: what made you decide to let's try this again.

629
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Speaker 12: I think I was always called to marriage because it

630
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:54,680
Speaker 12: just has been a struggle for my entire life. I

631
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 12: grew up searching, trying to search for love, but I

632
00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,120
Speaker 12: didn't know that I could find it in God. And

633
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 12: I saw for a city online. I immediately started crying.

634
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 12: And it was funny because it was one of the

635
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 12: single nights. When I first saw it online, I started crying.

636
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 12: I was in my apartment, started busting out crying, and

637
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 12: I decided.

638
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Speaker 16: To walk into you know, the sanctuary.

639
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 12: And at this at this time, Pastor Travis was always

640
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,479
Speaker 12: talking about single moms, like all the time. So I

641
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 12: just came out, laid on an altar, and I was like, God,

642
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 12: I want help, but I want the person.

643
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Speaker 16: That you have for me.

644
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Speaker 4: Let me tell you something, jar Nisan, who you said

645
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 4: you struggled with being pretty much seen throughout your whole life,

646
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 4: and God showed up online and you saw yourself, you

647
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,800
Speaker 4: felt seen for the first time as a single mom.

648
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Speaker 2: That is so powerful.

649
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 4: That's how intentional God is at pursuing us, at pursuing us.

650
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Speaker 2: And even right before we came on, you said, yeah,

651
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Speaker 2: I'm just I'm a little nervous because you know, I'm

652
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Speaker 2: a single mom or whatnot. And Kendrick, what'd you say

653
00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 2: to her?

654
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Speaker 11: I told her that there's other people out here who

655
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 11: can relate to her story. And she has a testimony

656
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 11: that so many ladies need to need to hear and

657
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 11: need to learn and grow through because you're not in

658
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 11: it alone. Pastor Travis has shown us that many times

659
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 11: over and over again. And I speak to the moment

660
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 11: when he's still right here. He started giving out money

661
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 11: to single moms. You have a family here and you

662
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 11: have a support system here. So that's what I have

663
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Speaker 11: to say.

664
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Speaker 2: Hey, man, I'm a single daddy. You want to do

665
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 2: that again.

666
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Speaker 4: I'm a single there's a lord lead knowing you I'm

667
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Speaker 4: a single daddy. I'll staying right there. Thanks you, blessed her.

668
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Speaker 2: I want to share this real quick too.

669
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Speaker 14: La Terra's not only is she a single mom, and

670
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Speaker 14: not only are new lee weds, but she's also extremely prophetic.

671
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Speaker 13: I found out. I think it was like last week.

672
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,760
Speaker 14: We were in a production meeting and I threw their

673
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 14: names out and I said, Yo, they're newly wed a couple,

674
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 14: and we have a lot of young people in the church,

675
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:52,600
Speaker 14: and I think just their story can be very helpful.

676
00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 14: And then I think our production already reach out to them.

677
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Speaker 14: And then a few hours later, Kendrick hit me up

678
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Speaker 14: and it's like, Yo, something.

679
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 13: Crazy that happened. I gotta I gotta tell you about it.

680
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 14: And I think a super busy at the moment, I

681
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 14: was like, yo, what happened, and just tell him a

682
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Speaker 14: little bit of what happened. So so I called him

683
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Speaker 14: and I and I told him, I said, I got

684
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Speaker 14: to tell you this and over the phone because my

685
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 14: wife just had her dream.

686
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 2: She woke up and she uh, and she.

687
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Speaker 11: Said, look like we were standing outside there was a

688
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,240
Speaker 11: long line outside of Ford City and were trying to

689
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Speaker 11: get in. She said, Pastor Jackie, Pastor Jackie and Pastor

690
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 11: Travis was blowing up our phone like calling us like

691
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 11: we was needed, like we was needed. Were supposed to

692
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Speaker 11: be be in a place doing a thing. And and

693
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 11: when she told me that, like you know, we we

694
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 11: tried to figure it out. We didn't know and everything.

695
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 11: And that's when jac called us and said, hey, y'all

696
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 11: are asked to be on their Future Wife podcast. So

697
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 11: we knew we was gonna be on a platform, be

698
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 11: on a stage doing something.

699
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Speaker 2: We just didn't know what it was.

700
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Speaker 12: So and I just want to add a little bit

701
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Speaker 12: what he left out was when pastors were calling us,

702
00:32:58,360 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 12: they said, I said, well, we're in the back of

703
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 12: the They said, no, anytime you go somewhere, go VI,

704
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 12: I P and I said okay.

705
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Speaker 16: So they were just like where are you at?

706
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 12: Where are you at anytime you go to another conference

707
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Speaker 12: or anywhere else?

708
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Speaker 2: Go vi?

709
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Speaker 12: I P.

710
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 4: God is amazing. That's a word. That's a word. That

711
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 4: is a word. Let me go and ask you JC. Yeah,

712
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 4: we're gonna jump right on over there. Since they already

713
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:28,760
Speaker 4: mention your name, how do these Dayton streets have been

714
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 4: treating you?

715
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 10: I'm I'm laughing because I am Hey, I just need

716
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 10: to see. Is there any bold women of God, men

717
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 10: of God out there?

718
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 16: Can you stand up for me?

719
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 10: Okay? That's what I thought. That's what it looks like.

720
00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 10: There's no one standing up.

721
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Speaker 17: Yeah, so I thought, I'm sorry. Okay, I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

722
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:55,240
Speaker 16: I'm sorry.

723
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

724
00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, who all right?

725
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:08,760
Speaker 16: I had to do it. I'm so sorry.

726
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 2: Coming over here and get your wife.

727
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:12,280
Speaker 16: I'm sorry.

728
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 10: Okay, but for real, No, that is real. Actually that's real.

729
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 16: That's it. No, No, no, I think.

730
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Speaker 2: Yes that say so. So let me tell you is

731
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Speaker 2: are you are you still hopeful for marriage?

732
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Speaker 16: Absolutely?

733
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:39,600
Speaker 2: Absolutely?

734
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Speaker 10: I do believe there are men of God out there

735
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Speaker 10: that are doing it the right way, doing it the

736
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 10: holy way, and pursuing that. And I think it's just

737
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 10: all about timing for me personally, I'm I actually am

738
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 10: actively praying for my future husband. I don't know where

739
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:55,799
Speaker 10: he is, what he's doing, whatever, but God has really

740
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 10: called me to intercede on his behalf wherever he's at

741
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 10: and praying for alignment and whatever that looks like. So

742
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 10: I know there is a man of God out there

743
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 10: for me. God is keeping him for me. God has

744
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 10: you know, assigned him for me, and I'm just waiting

745
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 10: on the right time.

746
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 2: When's the last time you've been on a date?

747
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 5: Wow, look out for my girl.

748
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 10: A real day, probably like three years ago. It was

749
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 10: like a guy like actually tried to pursue me. So

750
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 10: it's been a while.

751
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:32,240
Speaker 2: And you said that you used to have an insecurity

752
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 2: over your purity.

753
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Speaker 4: Can you speak on that with a lot of women

754
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,799
Speaker 4: and that may be holding that sacred and feel like

755
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 4: that may be disqualifying them from meeting their purpose partner.

756
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:46,840
Speaker 2: Can't you speak and give hope to that?

757
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,240
Speaker 10: Yeah, I think if you grew up in a culture

758
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 10: of a purity culture that you know just told you

759
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 10: that things like certain things were bad or you shouldn't.

760
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 10: You should do it this way, you should do it

761
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 10: this way, you should do it this way and you've

762
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,360
Speaker 10: actually been keeping yourself. I always want to say first

763
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 10: that God honors that about you, and you should never

764
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 10: look at it as a negative thing.

765
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:07,959
Speaker 5: Ever.

766
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 10: God honors that, and God honors you for that. But

767
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 10: I believe society and culture paints a different story. It's

768
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,280
Speaker 10: telling you you should be dibbling and dabbling. You should

769
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 10: be trying all the things. You should be testing it

770
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 10: out and seeing what you like and what you don't like.

771
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:23,759
Speaker 16: You don't have to do that.

772
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 2: That's a lie.

773
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 16: You don't have to.

774
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Speaker 10: Do that because you're actually wasting your time when you

775
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 10: do that, and you should just be saving yourself for

776
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 10: the right thing at the right time. And so I

777
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 10: just want to speak into that for me. Yes, like

778
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,840
Speaker 10: my purity became an insecurity in like high school and

779
00:36:37,880 --> 00:36:41,000
Speaker 10: college because that was the demand was like, well, this

780
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 10: is the cool thing. You should try it out. You

781
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 10: should just see blah blah blah. And I was like, okay,

782
00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:47,720
Speaker 10: well then something's wrong about me. Maybe there's something wrong.

783
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Speaker 16: I don't know.

784
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 10: So I just want to say that it is a

785
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 10: God honoring thing to keep yourself in alignment with God's

786
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 10: way of seeing purity and all those things.

787
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Speaker 2: Yeah, Amen.

788
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 4: Amen, Amen, happening. Let's talk about your dating journey. Do

789
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,440
Speaker 4: you desire marriage? And the reason why I asked women

790
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 4: that is that at first I used to always assume

791
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,919
Speaker 4: that every woman wanted to get married, and I found

792
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:16,720
Speaker 4: out that women like I don't want to be married.

793
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:20,880
Speaker 4: And I recognized that some men were trying to coherce

794
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 4: and encourage or persuade their women to get married, and

795
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 4: their women did not want to get married. And so

796
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 4: I always ask that question, do you desire marriage?

797
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 8: Absolutely? I do desire to be married. More than that,

798
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 8: I desire the work of marriage and the woman that

799
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 8: I will become.

800
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 5: Through the marriage.

801
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 8: So I do desire to be a wife and whatever

802
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 8: comes with him.

803
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,719
Speaker 4: Hold on, now, you said the woman you will become

804
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 4: in the marriage.

805
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 2: Now that comes against this.

806
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 4: Ideology that a woman is already together. She got us

807
00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 4: stuff together, she.

808
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: Don't need no man.

809
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 4: She got her degree, she got her own bank, could

810
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:01,879
Speaker 4: count miss I, E N.

811
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Speaker 2: D EEP all that stuff. But trying to be a

812
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: keylling the B so so they know how to spell independent.

813
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: And you saying that.

814
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 4: You believe that marriage is going to help you become

815
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 4: a different.

816
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 2: Level of a woman.

817
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:19,719
Speaker 8: Absolutely, Why is that I believe that your husband and

818
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 8: your wife hold keys for you.

819
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I believe.

820
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 8: I believe they hold keys for you. I believe that

821
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 8: God has put certain assignments in their life, certain assignments

822
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 8: in your life that you can bring forth, that they

823
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 8: can bring forth in you. And I feel like that

824
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 8: only that person in marriage has that voice or the

825
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:50,440
Speaker 8: way of saying it that can bring it out of you.

826
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 8: It's a partnership. You guys are doing this for the kingdom,

827
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 8: you know what I mean. So it's a kingdom assignment.

828
00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 8: And you're continuously growing in the hands of God, in

829
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 8: the presence of God. And if your marriage is in God,

830
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 8: you're going to continue to grow.

831
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 2: God is beautiful, beautiful.

832
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:09,720
Speaker 4: And let me tell you this is a large growth

833
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 4: for you because you've been a serial relationship person, right,

834
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 4: You've been a relationship as far as you can remember.

835
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 4: And God called you to a relationship fast in February.

836
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 4: How did you respond to God when he told you, hey, ebne,

837
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,359
Speaker 4: get somewhere and sat down, come out these streets, sit

838
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 4: right here in this house, and I.

839
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:32,880
Speaker 2: Need to have a relationship with just me and you.

840
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 8: I act like I didn't hear him. I said I

841
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:44,839
Speaker 8: didn't hear that he doesn't want that for me, and

842
00:39:45,120 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 8: I continue to have little situationships. I decided to go

843
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 8: my own way, and God allowed me gracefully, and he said, okay,

844
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 8: I'll let you continue to break your own heart. I'll

845
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 8: let you continue to hold on.

846
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,719
Speaker 2: You say break your own heart? Did you say?

847
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 4: God said I'm allow you to break your own heart?

848
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 2: That is a word, ain't it? How did you break

849
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 2: your own.

850
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 8: Heart by continuing to choose the things that hurt me?

851
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 4: And I say, that's what accountability looks like.

852
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:27,280
Speaker 2: Sounds like, smells like, yeah, go ahead.

853
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 8: I chose to love the things that didn't love me.

854
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:35,360
Speaker 1: I was very.

855
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 8: Desperate for it to love me and to choose me.

856
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 13: And it didn't.

857
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 8: It constantly spat in my face, it constantly broke me,

858
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 8: It constantly tore me apart. And there's this verse that

859
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:50,520
Speaker 8: I want to share that kind of explains it a

860
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 8: little bit better.

861
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, go to the world.

862
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:57,760
Speaker 8: It's Isaiah one five through six. Why do you continue

863
00:40:57,760 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 8: to invite punishment?

864
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 9: Bust?

865
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 8: You rebel forever. Your head is injured and your heart

866
00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:08,840
Speaker 8: is sick. You are battered from head to foot, covered

867
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 8: with bruises, Wealth and infected wounds without any soothing, ointments

868
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 8: or bandages. So that explains how I continue to break

869
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 8: my own heart.

870
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 2: Wow, Wow, she gonna make somebody a good wife. Yeah,

871
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 2: I'm lett y'all understand that, fellas. I'm letting y'all know when.

872
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 4: You hear this is what I call the sound of

873
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 4: a wife, when you start hearing that, when you hear

874
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,719
Speaker 4: that level of accountability, when you hear that word, and

875
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 4: when they can go to a scripture to let you

876
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:50,439
Speaker 4: know that this is what she went through in order

877
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:52,080
Speaker 4: for her to be found by you.

878
00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:54,279
Speaker 2: But she can't just go with anybody.

879
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 4: She gotta go with somebody that has the right prescription

880
00:41:57,040 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 4: to be able to see who she is and not

881
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 4: lead us to a path of destruction. But somebody that

882
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 4: knows how to cultivate her into becoming the woman that

883
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,040
Speaker 4: she sees that is necessary to honor God.

884
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 2: God.

885
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 4: WHOA, That's what I'm talking about my God today.

886
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:19,719
Speaker 2: Danny. You think you fine, don't you? Danny? You think

887
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:23,839
Speaker 2: you all cute and attractive. I know you do. I

888
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 2: know you heard it all your life. You heard you

889
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 2: had good hair and all that good stuff.

890
00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:29,759
Speaker 5: You heard it.

891
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 2: You've heard it, Danny, it's a lot. Believe it too.

892
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,120
Speaker 2: When they told you it's a lot of hair dyes,

893
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 2: it's a lot of hair dye.

894
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 4: So let me ask you this, do you desire Do

895
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 4: you desire marriage?

896
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 2: Absolutely? Why do you desire marriage?

897
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 9: It's the last thing that he has for me. It's

898
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 9: the ultimate goal. You know, everything that's going on going

899
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 9: through my life is preparing me for that.

900
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:56,839
Speaker 2: I'm just ready to share it. You ready to share it?

901
00:42:57,000 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 13: I am.

902
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 2: What do you believe you have to offer your future wife?

903
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:02,760
Speaker 13: Uh, there's a lot.

904
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 9: I don't want to sit here and uh put myself.

905
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 2: I want you to cover yourself. I want I want

906
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:09,439
Speaker 2: people to know the growth that you've gone through.

907
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,359
Speaker 9: But yeah, so so to be honest with you, I was,

908
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 9: you know, I was a product of my environment of

909
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 9: a single household and a lot of abusiveness and that's

910
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 9: just what stuck with me.

911
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 2: And it was tough.

912
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 9: I heard a lot of women, Oh sorry about that.

913
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,240
Speaker 9: I heard a lot of women. But then I realized

914
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 9: I was hurting God's kids, his daughters, And it was tough, man.

915
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 2: You know. I would lie about so much to.

916
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 13: A point where I even I was telling women.

917
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:45,759
Speaker 2: Whatever they wanted to hear. To get whatever I want.

918
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 9: Wow, including that I was a man of God and

919
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:50,919
Speaker 9: I went to church.

920
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:55,800
Speaker 2: Do you hear what he just said to y'all?

921
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,359
Speaker 4: He said I would even lie to them to let

922
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 4: them know that he was a man of listen.

923
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 2: But that's that's where he caught me.

924
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:07,920
Speaker 9: I walked in here and then I walked out a

925
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 9: different person. I am not perfect, but I'm getting there

926
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 9: and I just can't wait when that time comes, I'm

927
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 9: gona be posting everywhere. And yeah, I'm thirty nine years old,

928
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 9: so the you know, the you have these thoughts of

929
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 9: you am I too old?

930
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 2: And I don't have any kids.

931
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 9: I've never been married or anything like that, and that's

932
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 9: what's all around me.

933
00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 2: It's tough to look at.

934
00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 13: Wow.

935
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 2: So so I want you to share that. Yeah, talk

936
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 2: about that.

937
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 4: I'm glad you said that because a lot of times

938
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 4: people think that as a single man. I remember people

939
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 4: accuse me of having this platform.

940
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 2: And not wanting marriage. I said, y'all don't understand me.

941
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 4: Not getting married is failure to me because I have

942
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 4: this platform, and so people can be so like bent

943
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 4: with their own trauma and decisions and not realizing I

944
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:06,760
Speaker 4: stayed and that's why doctor Jackie don't understand what she said.

945
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:08,919
Speaker 4: What she understands because she's prophetic. But when you begin

946
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 4: to pray and you start talking in the first service

947
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 4: and prayed about the inner healing that I've done and

948
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 4: the inner work, she would have no idea about how

949
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 4: much I stayed on my face before God and said, God,

950
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:22,600
Speaker 4: they making reels about me, They making memes about me.

951
00:45:22,640 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 4: They said, I don't want to get married God. You know,

952
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,799
Speaker 4: I just can't get married to the wrong person. See see,

953
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 4: the right person takes a little bit more time because

954
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 4: while I'm waiting on God to bring the right person,

955
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 4: that God is still cultivating, changing, healing some stuff in me.

956
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:39,720
Speaker 2: So I don't damage his daughter.

957
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 4: So when God brestes me with his daughter, that I

958
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 4: don't mismanage her, because I mismanaged the heart of a

959
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:49,319
Speaker 4: woman before. So he said, La terras, take their time,

960
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 4: get healed from some things. You got to overcome some

961
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 4: past trauma. And then when I present her to you,

962
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 4: that you will know is sent by me. And I'm

963
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 4: glad to announce that God has blessed with my purpose partner.

964
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 4: She's absolutely amazing. She carries the heart of God. She

965
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 4: carries the annointing of God. She carries the covering of God.

966
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:11,280
Speaker 4: And so I want you to speak real briefly about

967
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 4: how people assume that you just don't want to be married,

968
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 4: but you really desire it.

969
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 9: You know, it's gotten to a point where I'm getting

970
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 9: tired of being the elephant in the room. Okay, thirty nine,

971
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,280
Speaker 9: no kids, never been married?

972
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: What's wrong with you?

973
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 9: What is wrong with Danny vow? And what's wrong is

974
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 9: I haven't gotten over what I've been dealing with.

975
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 5: So I got to I have to take time for myself.

976
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 9: But it took till I was thirty six years old

977
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 9: when God smacked me and said it's time, and it

978
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:49,760
Speaker 9: started surrounding me with some great people.

979
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 2: And it's been up. Since it's been up.

980
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 9: I mean to be honest, it's not an issue with

981
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:59,719
Speaker 9: me finding someone to date. The problem is understanding what's

982
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:05,280
Speaker 9: for me. You got the flesh and you have faith,

983
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 9: and I'm working on that.

984
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 2: I mean to put myself out there.

985
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 9: A couple of weeks ago, I went on a date

986
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 9: and I was like, am I really about.

987
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:18,759
Speaker 2: To tell this girl this ain't gonna work out? I mean, beautiful,

988
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 2: So how did you know it was gonna work out.

989
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 9: We talked about being equally yoked at the same time.

990
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 9: But I'd like to give people grace because sometimes I'm

991
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,399
Speaker 9: not sure if I'm My purpose is to help these

992
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 9: people out. But then I got to find that little

993
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 9: gray area because I don't want to then get on

994
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 9: the other side. So it was just a lot of praying.

995
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 9: When I meet people, I pray before and after, and

996
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 9: I've noticed the more I do that and the more

997
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 9: I write, it just happens.

998
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 2: The answers just come. They just come.

999
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 9: So so yeah, I mean it's been great. I'm happy.

1000
00:47:58,000 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 9: I feel great. I feel good. I don't feel like

1001
00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 9: I'm thirty nine. I feel like I'm reborn. I'm twenty five.

1002
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:09,520
Speaker 2: And yeah, it's up. And so you said your flesh

1003
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 2: wanted to say yeah, but your spirit and what God

1004
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:13,560
Speaker 2: said is no, yeah, you.

1005
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 13: Gotta unders said.

1006
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 9: I really feel that some of our issues is there's

1007
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 9: what we want and what we need the flesh and

1008
00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:25,839
Speaker 9: what God said, yes, and we just got to deal

1009
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 9: with that.

1010
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:29,560
Speaker 4: How many y'all can identify that that's the tension between

1011
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 4: what you want. You say, I want a man that's

1012
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:35,240
Speaker 4: six foot five, you only fort eleven.

1013
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:37,960
Speaker 2: Like, I don't know where y'all get this stuff from.

1014
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 4: I want a man that's six foot six foot twelve

1015
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:43,839
Speaker 4: with is seven feet and you say, but like, where

1016
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:44,439
Speaker 4: you get that from?

1017
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 2: You meet a God.

1018
00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 4: And that's why I love what she said. It's not

1019
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:49,240
Speaker 4: about the Charris, It's about the character when you start

1020
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:54,439
Speaker 4: praying and really understand what one Corinthians thirteen says, which

1021
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 4: is a little plug for this song that Travis Green

1022
00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 4: and Jonathan mac reynolds have, because in the bridge of

1023
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 4: that I was listening at this morning, I was like, Yeah,

1024
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:04,720
Speaker 4: they sitting up here singing first corinth Thence thirteen.

1025
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 2: I was vibing to it. I like it.

1026
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:09,279
Speaker 4: And so the reality is, I want y'all to have

1027
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 4: the heart posture where your decisions are aligned with God's decisions,

1028
00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 4: and that's where the tension lies. The quicker you can

1029
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 4: get to take on the mind of Christ. That's why

1030
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 4: God says, renew your mind. That's where you're going to

1031
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 4: find your purpose. Partner, as you've been hearing this conversation

1032
00:49:24,560 --> 00:49:26,560
Speaker 4: the Greens, what are some things you would like to

1033
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 4: speak into this conversation.

1034
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 13: I think it's just.

1035
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 14: So necessary that we remember that marriage is God's idea,

1036
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 14: and you know, the Bible also talks about Paul was

1037
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:47,280
Speaker 14: a big advocate for singlehood and like he was like, man,

1038
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 14: I ain't married, and I wish that nobody would get married.

1039
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:53,280
Speaker 13: Because I feel like you could be more focused on Jesus.

1040
00:49:53,680 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 13: And I'm like, man, good for you, Paul.

1041
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 2: How many y'all got a Paul annoying you raise your hand?

1042
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:01,319
Speaker 2: Nobody up? Well? The spirit of left in another dispensation.

1043
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 14: But Paul also had enough wisdom and he said, he

1044
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:09,280
Speaker 14: says this line is very better to marry than to burn.

1045
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 13: And he said, man, if you are.

1046
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 2: If you know what you need and it's gonna cause.

1047
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 14: You the sin being outside of marriage, then it's better

1048
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 14: to get married to someone so that you could be covered.

1049
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 14: So that's one thing that's really important to me in

1050
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 14: this church. My wife and I are just big. We're

1051
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:32,439
Speaker 14: big on marriage. I believe that relationships can either take

1052
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 14: you off or take you down. But also my wife

1053
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 14: mentioned something earlier that I think is so important that

1054
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,400
Speaker 14: people understand that in the sanctity of marriage, we're really

1055
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:44,520
Speaker 14: called to cover each other. And I think there's been

1056
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 14: so many divorces that aren't even based off of someone

1057
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:50,600
Speaker 14: cheating or this, and that I think they've been based

1058
00:50:50,640 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 14: off of someone forgot that it was my responsibility to

1059
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 14: cover you.

1060
00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:58,760
Speaker 2: Love covers a multitude of sins. Love covers of multitude

1061
00:50:58,760 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 2: of sins.

1062
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 14: I was having a converse with one of my spiritual

1063
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:02,920
Speaker 14: sons and I was just talking to them and I

1064
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 14: was like, hey, man, you know the sex thing. You know,

1065
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:09,279
Speaker 14: this ain't Netflix. This ain't like Lifetime. You know this,

1066
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:12,759
Speaker 14: ain't you know a Hallmark movie? Like you don't just

1067
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:16,840
Speaker 14: get down because there's red roses and its sparkling, and

1068
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 14: it's like, oh man, there's a spark in my eye.

1069
00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:21,239
Speaker 14: I had somebody in this church every one time we

1070
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:23,360
Speaker 14: lost our spark. I don't you have a spark for

1071
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:24,720
Speaker 14: your wife? I don't feel like I have a spark.

1072
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 14: And I was like what I was like, man, spark, bro,

1073
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:32,239
Speaker 14: this ain't the movies like you fan the flame. That's

1074
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:34,480
Speaker 14: how you keep the spark alive. You make the spark

1075
00:51:34,560 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 14: and then you keep it hot. They ain't this, ain't

1076
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 14: you know what I mean?

1077
00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 2: Like?

1078
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 14: So, so even this idea about sex right that has

1079
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:46,760
Speaker 14: been so promoted that it is also thwarted and messed

1080
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 14: up our minds in the church where we think that

1081
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 14: in marriage it is like, oh, like we get down

1082
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 14: because we feel like it.

1083
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 13: No, we get down because.

1084
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 14: It's our responsibility to cover each other.

1085
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,400
Speaker 2: You don't know how many times I haven't felt like it,

1086
00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:06,320
Speaker 2: but I knew my wife needed to be covered a Travis,

1087
00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 2: you need a covering, you need a coress. There's so

1088
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 2: many times.

1089
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:15,360
Speaker 4: That I do it out of obligation.

1090
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 13: Boy, by.

1091
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 2: The devil is a lie. Yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,

1092
00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:24,480
Speaker 2: yeah yeah yeah.

1093
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:31,799
Speaker 14: It's obligation and duty and so just even that understanding

1094
00:52:32,239 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 14: that man, I am called to cover, right, So whatever

1095
00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 14: is necessary in that covering, whether it is uh sexual

1096
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 14: or sometimes it's just emotional, I need to be there

1097
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 14: and show up and cover so that you have a

1098
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 14: shoulder to cry on.

1099
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 2: Spiritual I'm there to cover. Now.

1100
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:51,560
Speaker 14: I think when people start remembering that that it is

1101
00:52:51,600 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 14: a partnership and it requires teamwork and every for everybody.

1102
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 13: It requires work, you know what I mean?

1103
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,279
Speaker 14: Thing was ever said, man, like, I'm excited about the

1104
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:04,480
Speaker 14: work of marriage that even though my wife and I

1105
00:53:04,520 --> 00:53:08,600
Speaker 14: don't argue a lot, it's still is intentional decisions and

1106
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:12,520
Speaker 14: work every day. Man, How can I show her that

1107
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 14: that She's worthy of love and worthy of respect and

1108
00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:19,279
Speaker 14: worthy of honor. And how can I demonstrate that and

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Speaker 14: allow God to do that through me?

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Speaker 2: Love it? Wow, doctor Jacket.

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Speaker 1: Two things came to mind, and it was kind of

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Speaker 1: brought up in the conversation. Oftentimes people are getting married

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Speaker 1: for the benefits. And I'll be honest, and this is

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Speaker 1: a new thing that I just kind of came to realize.

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Speaker 1: Some women want to be mothers so bad that they

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Speaker 1: want to be a mother more than they want to

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Speaker 1: be a wife.

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Speaker 13: WHOA.

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Speaker 1: That was surprising to me because the truth is it's

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Speaker 1: a call to your husband first and then to your children.

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Speaker 5: And that is not tall enough, I'm telling you. And

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Speaker 5: I know I'm just.

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Speaker 1: Gonna speak for Black culture because I'm a part of

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Speaker 1: Black culture.

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Speaker 2: Mama's you be.

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Speaker 1: Losing your marriage because you're married to your kids? Can

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Speaker 1: I speak from a mother that is a devoted mom?

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Speaker 5: But they will not get more attention, more.

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Speaker 3: Devotion, more prayer, more sacrifice.

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Speaker 5: Then I will give to this man.

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Speaker 1: He's the hot person my home and I would not

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Speaker 1: have them without him. And so I'm just gonna say,

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Speaker 1: do not allow your marriage to die on the altar

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Speaker 1: because you are so so stuck on making sure your

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Speaker 1: kids get every part of you because they gonna get

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Speaker 1: married and leave you. They gonna have their own families,

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Speaker 1: and then you're gonna be home sad because you don't

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Speaker 1: put your whole life out into them. And I don't

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Speaker 1: know why God had that be the thing that came

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Speaker 1: to my mind, but I am saying, don't forget the

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Speaker 1: covenant that you made to your spouse first. Don't want

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Speaker 1: to be a mama so bad that you don't want

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Speaker 1: to be a good wife.

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Speaker 5: That was just one thing.

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Speaker 1: The other thing that I want to also talk about,

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Speaker 1: it's this idea and Lataris and Pastor Travis both brought

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Speaker 1: this up in marriage. And you might be getting through relationship,

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Speaker 1: through situationship, through you know, the things we do before

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Speaker 1: we get married that we shouldn't do, desires for feel

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Speaker 1: but there's a covering that is necessary. That is a

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Speaker 1: power that comes only through covenant. And you could be

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Speaker 1: denying the benefits of all that God wants to bring

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Speaker 1: through you, bring to you because you will not actually

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Speaker 1: make the commitment that God has called you to. I'm

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Speaker 1: saying this, there's a little boy in you, there's a

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Speaker 1: little girl in you that even in marriage, will not

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Speaker 1: be unlocked in heal without you actually making the vowel,

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Speaker 1: and so many people that are in this room. You

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00:55:30,000 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 1: might be getting your need satisfied, but the actual greater

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Speaker 1: need that needs to be healed, it is laying on

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Speaker 1: the trackway of you making the decision to honor God

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Speaker 1: and your commitment.

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Speaker 5: And so I really do feel like God is calling.

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Speaker 1: Some men and women forward into covenant that will bring

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Speaker 1: about everything that you need that you've been waiting on.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely powerful. Can y'all give it up for this dynamic panel? Y'all?

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Speaker 4: Thank you so much for a city church, for hosting

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Speaker 4: the Dear Future Wife You podcast here. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 4: Any closing remarks you want to before I wrap.

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Speaker 14: It up, No, We're grateful for you man with this

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Speaker 14: not amazing y'all, come on, well this not amazing, incredible man,

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Speaker 14: thank you, Thank you for your time, thank you for

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Speaker 14: your sacrifice. Thank you for the work that you've done

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Speaker 14: even to be able to pour into.

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Speaker 13: This house and important to people.

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Speaker 2: All around the world.

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Speaker 14: And guys, we're a little overtime typically for our service.

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Speaker 13: But before you start making a.

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Speaker 14: Mass exodus, I do want to just have an opportunity

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Speaker 14: to pray, and I believe that the Lord wants to

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Speaker 14: do something in your heart today. So if you'll just

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Speaker 14: join me on your feet for a moment before anyone

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Speaker 14: else leave, if you could, and first I'd like to

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Speaker 14: just pray over latarious if we can.

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Speaker 13: You gotta stretch your hands up here. Lord.

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Speaker 2: I thank you for our brother in Christ.

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Speaker 14: Thank you, Father for this day, and thank you for

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Speaker 14: this man that you prepared for such a time as this.

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Speaker 2: Thank you Father for his full story.

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Speaker 14: The Bible said that we overcome him which is the enemy,

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Speaker 14: by the blood of the Lamb and by the word

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Speaker 14: of our testimony. So thank you for the power of

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Speaker 14: his testimony. I thank you for the wisdom in his mind. God,

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Speaker 14: thank you for the purity in his heart.

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Speaker 13: Father.

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Speaker 14: There are so many people right now God who are

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Speaker 14: going forthward.

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Speaker 13: He'll motives.

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Speaker 14: Father, but here's a man with clean hands and a

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Speaker 14: pure heart who wants to hear well done. Yes, Father,

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Speaker 14: I pray that you'll protect them as you continue to

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Speaker 14: take them around the world.

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Speaker 13: Thank you for his future wifey.

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Speaker 14: Thank you for their union, and thank you for how

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Speaker 14: you'll allow them even together to be a dynamic duo. Father, correct.

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Speaker 14: Would you just surround him with the correct people and

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Speaker 14: the right team, continue to give him influence and use

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Speaker 14: him for your.

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Speaker 13: Glory and for your power.

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Speaker 1: In Jesus name and Father, I also just to clear

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Speaker 1: my work that you just placed in my heart, that

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Speaker 1: you would carry influence Will Atarians. I thank you God

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Speaker 1: that as you call him the higher heights and deeper depths,

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Speaker 1: that he would care reinfluence Will, that he would live

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Speaker 1: as a man of integrity, that he would be a

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Speaker 1: light on a city on a hill.

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Speaker 5: I thank you Father that he would draw many to

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Speaker 5: you through.

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Speaker 1: This podcast, but he would stand with integrity, never forgetting

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Speaker 1: that his strength comes from Boweh. Yes, Lord, I pray

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Speaker 1: God that you continue to moving forward faster, but keep

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Speaker 1: him close to you and the mighty name of Jesus.

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Speaker 13: Amen, Amen, come.

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Speaker 14: On, give God a pray.

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Speaker 4: Ladarian thrusted suddenly into child protective services in twenty fifteen,

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Speaker 4: my nephew, black a boy the likelihood have been adopted

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Speaker 4: outside of kinship slim to none Ourmione sixteen years old,

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Speaker 4: Black a boy with five years in the Falster care

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Speaker 4: system before I even knew his name. The likelihood have

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Speaker 4: ever been adopted yep you guessed it slim to none.

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Speaker 4: While Laderian and OURMIONI were trying to survive and barely

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Speaker 4: thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded Falster care system, I

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Speaker 4: was living my own life, doing well professionally, having been

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Speaker 4: a single father with a daughter who at that point

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Speaker 4: was doing well in college.

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Speaker 2: It was my time to live my life right.

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Speaker 8: Wrong.

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Speaker 4: I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. There are just two many

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Speaker 4: of our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the

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Speaker 4: limbo of the Falseter care system. In twenty seventeen, I

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Speaker 4: legally adopted my nephew Ladaria. Fast forward to twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 4: I had no ties to this other young king, but

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Speaker 4: I felt God instructed me to adopt.

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Speaker 2: Them also in al Babe.

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Speaker 4: Starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right, Working

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Speaker 4: with various foster care and adoption agencies to help bring

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Speaker 4: awareness to the countless young Black Kings and the Falster

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Speaker 4: care system should have decreased my agitation. Right, Joining the

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Speaker 4: board of directors of Advantage of Adoption and organization that

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Speaker 4: helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in false care

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Speaker 4: should have led to some type of resolve. Right, No,

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Speaker 4: not at all, none of If it felt like I

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Speaker 4: had done enough, I now realized that every one of

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Speaker 4: those experiences was land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission.

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Speaker 2: Kingdom Royal.

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Speaker 4: Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of the art

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Speaker 4: home for foster boys. Our first location will be in

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Speaker 4: the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex. We will utilize the whole

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Speaker 4: person approach that instills identity, empowers them to advocate for themselves,

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Speaker 4: and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and limitless options that

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Speaker 4: they thought were impossible. Though, the young Kings will attend

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Speaker 4: the local public schools that are in proximity to Kingdom Royal.

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Speaker 4: Our at home curriculum will broaden their worldview through participating

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Speaker 4: in the arts, attending various cultural events, learning about and

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Speaker 4: engaging in multifaceted discussions about current events and even relevant

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Speaker 4: historical contexts, introducing them to gardening and landscaping, and even

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Speaker 4: caring for our animals on our form and on site stables.

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Speaker 4: We just launched our startup capital campaign with the goal

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Speaker 4: of raising two point eight million dollars.

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Speaker 2: Now why two point eight million dollars? Well?

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Speaker 4: In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which

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Speaker 4: I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community.

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Speaker 4: One of the most notable successes was that one of

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Speaker 4: the videos went viral, garnering twenty eight million views. However,

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Speaker 4: one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't raise

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Speaker 4: a single dollar to help in implementing a more sustainable

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Speaker 4: plan for the homeless community. So throughout the years, with

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Speaker 4: much remorse, I reflect that I'm not maximizing that moment.

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Speaker 4: I knew if at that time just ten percent of

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Speaker 4: the viewers donated one dollar, we would have raised at

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Speaker 4: least two point eight million dollars that could have really

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Speaker 4: established long term support for the homeless community, or at

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Speaker 4: least started a long term initiative to do so. This

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Speaker 4: is my do over, This is our new beginning. Together,

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Speaker 4: we can attack this at the route by specifically help

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Speaker 4: helping our homeless Black boys who are already disproportionately represented

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Speaker 4: in the American fossil care system. I'm a Terisarwickfield. I've

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Speaker 4: been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work with

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Speaker 4: the homeless as well as my personal adoption journey. Despite

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Speaker 4: those accolades, the greatest award for me is truly providing

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Speaker 4: the infrastructure for a transformed life. Visit Kingdom Royal dot

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Speaker 4: com for more details, crown a king and make a

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Speaker 4: donation today. I hope you enjoyed this episode of the

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