WEBVTT - Ben & Ashley - Dashboard Reminder - 07-31-26

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<v Speaker 1>This morning on second date update, we have Ben that's

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<v Speaker 1>joining us And Ben, you didn't get a call back

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<v Speaker 1>after a first day?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that what happened? Yeah? And I thought it was

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<v Speaker 2>a particularly amazing date.

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<v Speaker 1>Particularly amazing Would you go on a date with and

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<v Speaker 1>where did you go?

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<v Speaker 3>What'd you do?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? We matched online and then we we hit dinner

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<v Speaker 2>and kind of bounced around at bars after that, But

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<v Speaker 2>we messaged for a while first and then once once

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<v Speaker 2>we got all that going and we met and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>telling you, like conversation never stopped. We had like a

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<v Speaker 2>similar sense of humor, you know how big that is,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we were just like laughing at the same stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And she kept like suggestion we order another round and

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to twist my arm for that, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and so she agreed to check out another bar with me,

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<v Speaker 2>and we kind of rode the second bar and I

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<v Speaker 2>walked her back to her car after it ended, And

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<v Speaker 2>it didn't quite have the ending I hoped for, but

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't bad. We just kind of hugged and she

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<v Speaker 2>you know, smiled and thanked me for the date, but

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<v Speaker 2>didn't have a quite a romantic ending I was I

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<v Speaker 2>was hoping.

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<v Speaker 1>For so no kiss, But was it like like a

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<v Speaker 1>butt out hug? Like I don't really want to hug you,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm still going to kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of do it. I mean, it wasn't like a total

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<v Speaker 2>butt out hug. I didn't know how to check for that,

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<v Speaker 2>to be honest. So now you know, right, uh now

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to be in my head for yeah, forever,

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<v Speaker 2>I will be looking out for that. It may as

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<v Speaker 2>well have been. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>Did something happen at the second bar?

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<v Speaker 2>I really don't think so. I've been like just scratching

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<v Speaker 2>my head about this, you know, I've I've been on

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<v Speaker 2>some dates to win salves and been on some mediocre

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<v Speaker 2>ones and feel like I got a gauge for this. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>hence why I'm on the phone with you. And obviously

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't heard from her. I texted her the next

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<v Speaker 2>morning and just.

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<v Speaker 5>There's nothing, nothing at all, Okay, nothing awkward during the

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<v Speaker 5>drive home or anything like that at all.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just to you, It was all al right,

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<v Speaker 3>It was all, it was all normal. Her name again,

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<v Speaker 3>what was her name again?

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<v Speaker 2>Ashley?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, Well, we can see if we can get Ashley

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<v Speaker 5>on the phone, you guys, I think we could track

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<v Speaker 5>her down.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you can.

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<v Speaker 5>Hopefully we'll try to get her, try to get her

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<v Speaker 5>on the phone, and we'll get her on the phone.

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<v Speaker 5>Coming up next and find out what the heck's going

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<v Speaker 5>on with ninety three Q Second date updates Rigs, Caitlin

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<v Speaker 5>and Erica.

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<v Speaker 4>This morning, we're talking with Ashley and Ben, who had

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<v Speaker 4>such a wonderful time on their first date that they

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<v Speaker 4>decided to go to another bar and expand on the fun.

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<v Speaker 4>But now Ben's not hearing from Ashley and he's wondering

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<v Speaker 4>why she's not calling him back. Let's get her on

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<v Speaker 4>the phone now for second date update. Hello, Hi, may

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<v Speaker 4>please speak with Ashley.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's issue.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi Ashley, Good morning. This is Riggs, Kitlyn and Erica

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<v Speaker 4>on ninety three Q.

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<v Speaker 2>What up?

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<v Speaker 3>Good morning?

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<v Speaker 6>Hi, good morning? How are.

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<v Speaker 3>Rarely?

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<v Speaker 4>People are expecting us now?

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<v Speaker 2>I know why?

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<v Speaker 5>No, No, we're tag teaming you this morning. Do you

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<v Speaker 5>remember going out on a date with somebody? His name

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<v Speaker 5>was Ben.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, there was a.

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<v Speaker 3>Pause there, big pause.

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't you call it Ben Beck?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Man? Wow? Where do I so?

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<v Speaker 6>Ben was wonderful. We had a really great date. We

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<v Speaker 6>met online and we talked for a few days and

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<v Speaker 6>then we actually met in person, and the date was fantastic.

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<v Speaker 6>The vibe was good, since the humor was great. He's

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<v Speaker 6>really cute like everything, he said.

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<v Speaker 3>He kept ordering more drinks.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I was feeling it. I was feeling it. I

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<v Speaker 6>was encouraging it. And a couple of drinks we went

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<v Speaker 6>to a second place.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>And it was on the way to that second place

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<v Speaker 6>that it kind of I got really thrown off during

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<v Speaker 6>the drive.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, what happened? He said?

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<v Speaker 5>Everything was fine. I knew this.

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<v Speaker 3>They always hold something back.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, when we were driving, I noticed that he had

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<v Speaker 6>a picture on the dashboard like in front of the

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<v Speaker 6>steering wheel, kind of tucked in there, and it was

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<v Speaker 6>a picture of him with another woman. The woman relatively

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<v Speaker 6>close in age, and I kind of kept yeah, like

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<v Speaker 6>I kind of kept glancing over, trying to like trying

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<v Speaker 6>to figure it out, also trying like to give him

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<v Speaker 6>like the visual cue of like explain what's going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh that's my mother, or that's my sister, or that's

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<v Speaker 3>my friend or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, he said that's my ex and I was like, oh, wow,

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<v Speaker 6>did well that was my thought actually, because why else

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<v Speaker 6>would you have a picture of another woman in a place.

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<v Speaker 3>Where you can see all the time, right.

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<v Speaker 6>All the time, and so I kind of like I

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<v Speaker 6>like clutched my heart and you know, because that was

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<v Speaker 6>my initial thought. And he said, no, she's alive, and

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<v Speaker 6>I'm like what And then he said, well, she's also

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<v Speaker 6>she's married now, and we're you know, I like, there's

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<v Speaker 6>no feelings there, and like.

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<v Speaker 3>Why is her picture here?

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<v Speaker 1>It's so weird.

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<v Speaker 3>She's moved on.

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<v Speaker 6>Why haven't you exactly? And that was the point where

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<v Speaker 6>I kind of like mentally checked out of the date

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<v Speaker 6>and I was like, this is weird. I'm stuck in

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<v Speaker 6>this car with this person. Now we have to go

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<v Speaker 6>to a second place and ride back. And yeah, that

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<v Speaker 6>was it. I mean, that's the total reasons that I

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<v Speaker 6>have not called him back. I thought that was really weird.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a valid enough reason for me.

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<v Speaker 5>Everybody else got some baggage. You're holding on to let him?

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<v Speaker 5>We could let him speak for himself, though, I Ben,

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<v Speaker 5>are you still it's.

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<v Speaker 1>About to get award because Ben just heard the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Fantastic, Ben, you're there, Yeah, Okay, I get that, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to like blame this here for a

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<v Speaker 2>second picture, so that relationship I wasn't like the I

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<v Speaker 2>I've been. I was a boy prior to this, right,

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<v Speaker 2>prior to this relationship, I wasn't an awesome boyfriend. And

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<v Speaker 2>she kind of changed my life and made me like

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<v Speaker 2>more responsible, more patient, more motivated, and like I kind

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<v Speaker 2>of I grew up with her, and I keep that

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<v Speaker 2>there so I don't go back to that other guy,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we we don't have there's nothing there, okay, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have any interest in like getting back together.

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<v Speaker 2>She just inspired me to like be a better guy.

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<v Speaker 4>So you keep her picture there because she inspired you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and let me just put motivation romanic or anything like.

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<v Speaker 3>This is really Yeah, that's a good point that she said.

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<v Speaker 3>Why did you put put like a quote or something

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<v Speaker 3>on your dashboard? Why is it.

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<v Speaker 6>A tattoo or something like.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, an ex an ax that's moved on. That's that

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<v Speaker 5>seems very weird, dude, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to look at her face all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>That's just weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, it's fitting on the dash I mean it's

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<v Speaker 2>not like I don't know, if.

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<v Speaker 5>It was not like a toolbox or somewhere and you

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<v Speaker 5>forgot about it, I could be like, Okay, I pass

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<v Speaker 5>it off as nothing but that's like that's intimate.

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<v Speaker 3>That's in your dashboard. You see it every.

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<v Speaker 1>Single day, your second traffic just that face, right.

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<v Speaker 6>And like what if we had hooked up in your

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<v Speaker 6>car and I'm sitting there, Oh that was a possibility,

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<v Speaker 6>like in front of your I don't even know.

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<v Speaker 4>Like you're yeah about that would make her feel in

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<v Speaker 4>your car?

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<v Speaker 3>Ben Is does hearing this, does it make a little

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<v Speaker 3>more sense?

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<v Speaker 5>Why things that why the vibe went off after the

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<v Speaker 5>second bar a little bit?

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<v Speaker 2>It does? I mean I feel like I'm almost like

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<v Speaker 2>dumb enough to do that. That it that's evidence that

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't matter. I can see where she's coming from.

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<v Speaker 2>But I just with from the bottom of my heart,

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<v Speaker 2>there's no desire to be with her anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>I just is there any desire to get rid of

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<v Speaker 3>the picture?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I could move it, you know, or toss

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<v Speaker 2>it or whatever.

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<v Speaker 6>If I get into your truck or any other woman

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<v Speaker 6>gets into your truck and see the picture of you

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<v Speaker 6>and your ex, Like, that's that's not where relations a

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<v Speaker 6>new relationship starts, you know what I mean, Like, that's

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<v Speaker 6>just you have to move on from that person, whether

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<v Speaker 6>they made you better or they can continue to inspire you.

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<v Speaker 6>You got to move on from it and find something

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<v Speaker 6>else to look at to inspire you to be a

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<v Speaker 6>better person. The picture is just weird, strange, so strange.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't got much of her bottle there. I

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<v Speaker 2>respect that, And again, what if.

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<v Speaker 4>She would have wanted to hook up in the car?

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<v Speaker 3>I want to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Going back to the rest of the.

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<v Speaker 6>Brain.

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<v Speaker 5>Is there a chance of a second date with y'all?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, Ashley, I think we put the ball in

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<v Speaker 5>your court.

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<v Speaker 6>I appreciate it, but no, I'm going to pass.

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<v Speaker 5>Thanks, Okay, all right, fair Ben, We're sorry we didn't

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<v Speaker 5>work out for you. Are you going to rethink the

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<v Speaker 5>picture in the car maybe?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, yeah, I'm going to rethink. Good hack out

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<v Speaker 2>of that now. I mean they never have any regrets,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm I have one now, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you both for your time this morning and second

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<v Speaker 5>date up there. We appreciate You'll