1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:02,680 Speaker 1: How many friends do you have? All of them? 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 2: I'm actually accepting applications right now. I have an opening. 3 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:11,680 Speaker 2: So okay, you're my only friend, Rob, I'm accepting applications. 4 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:12,720 Speaker 1: You don't want me as your friend. 5 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 3: The average American maintains just three point six close friendships. 6 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:23,240 Speaker 3: Adults lose nearly one close friend per year, totally nine 7 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 3: over a decade. 8 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:27,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, so I wonder, like what they constitute is a 9 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:32,959 Speaker 4: close friend? I would buy that, Like, do you think 10 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 4: you have three and a half people? Three and a half? 11 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:38,240 Speaker 1: Cut me in half, I'll be half right. Yeah. 12 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 4: Do you think you have three people excluding me that 13 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 4: you would say is a close friend? 14 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: Yes? 15 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 2: I do. 16 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: Okay, you have more than that. 17 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,200 Speaker 2: No, it's was small circle. 18 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't tell people stuff, they'll just use it against you. 19 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's true, as when you don't trust anybody, the 20 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 3: circle becomes very small. 21 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 22 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 4: I had to get good at making new friends all 23 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 4: the time because I would just you know, like I 24 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 4: just went to the same places for about fifteen years, 25 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 4: and then people would go on with their lives and I. 26 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 2: And you were still the same thing, phobia. 27 00:01:03,720 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 4: Of going on with mine, and so I would just 28 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 4: sit there and every two years, I have to make 29 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 4: new friends. 30 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, well I've told you this before, but when your 31 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:12,759 Speaker 3: daughter gets in school, you'll most likely become friends with 32 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 3: her friend's parents. 33 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 2: That's the way that went. 34 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: Well. 35 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 4: Here's the thing, though, most of the people in that 36 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 4: community know me, Casey, and they priority made their up 37 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 4: their mind about me. 38 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 2: That's true, they already keep their distilled. 39 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 4: I'm going to be that parent that stands in the 40 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 4: the out the outfield fence, behind the fence, away from everything. 41 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 4: I don't want to taint my kid with with being 42 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 4: my kid. I want her to have her own chance 43 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:35,759 Speaker 4: and her own going. 44 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 3: To give her like she'll she'll be like in witness protection, 45 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 3: give her a fake name. 46 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she's gonna. 47 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 4: I mean she is a spitting image of me, both 48 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 4: in looks and personality. But my point is I don't 49 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 4: want her to ever have anything used for her or 50 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 4: against her because of who her father was. I grew 51 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 4: up loathing that as a kid, where I would say, 52 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 4: well his dad is so and so, so he got whatever. 53 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: I want her to sink or swim on her own. 54 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 4: So to answer your question, no, I'm not making any 55 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 4: friends with my kids friends. 56 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:03,840 Speaker 2: So you're good you're set. 57 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 3: Top reasons that friendships end geographical distance, that's the leading cause. 58 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 2: Fifty percent. Oh yeah, people move away. 59 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 4: I wonder in the Facebook, Twitter, Instagram era, like if 60 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 4: that's more common now because you still see everybody each day, 61 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 4: You still pictures or whatever. 62 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:24,120 Speaker 3: Right, you still know what's going on in their life, 63 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 3: But the actual physical hanging out, being together, face to 64 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 3: face conversation, that's not there. 65 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 1: I don't know. If I want to know what's going 66 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: on in people's lives, then I got a care life. 67 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 3: Transitions is another reason why friendships fade. And that's what 68 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 3: you're claiming happened to you. 69 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 1: Oh, every two years people got on with their. 70 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 3: Lives, right, they would get married or they would have kids, 71 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 3: and you were not relating, and then oh I. 72 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: Was relating, just not like sort of lasting relating that right. 73 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 2: I can see how this is playing out. 74 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 3: Your friends with some guy you used to go to 75 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 3: the bar all the time, he meets a girl, they 76 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 3: get married, he says, hey, I'm going to. 77 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 2: Go beat rob for beer. Why are you going to 78 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 2: meet him at the bar? 79 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: Stay home with me? Yeah exactly. 80 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:07,959 Speaker 4: That would happen every two year, ye exactly, and I 81 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 4: would just tell them when they would say, you know, 82 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 4: I've got so and say, and it really would start 83 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 4: when they had a when you get some sort of 84 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 4: full time living girlfriend, and I would just sometimes proactively 85 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 4: tell the people, well, this is where we're gonna part ways. 86 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 4: You let me know if this doesn't work out, I'll 87 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 4: still be here. And then in the meantime, I'm not 88 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 4: going to ruin this for you, because I've seen this 89 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:26,160 Speaker 4: play out several times that I know how it goes. 90 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:29,119 Speaker 3: I'll be here when you guys are up. Yeah, time 91 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 3: you can find me here. Time constraints are another reason 92 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:36,480 Speaker 3: that friendships fade. Twenty five percent say they're just too busy. 93 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I mean after a while you get invite 94 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 3: it and you keep declining because you're too busy. Eventually 95 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 3: the person's probably going to stop and bite me. 96 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 4: I told my dad this the other day because when 97 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 4: I was a kid, my dad was a very good 98 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 4: amateur golfer, and then when I was a kid, he 99 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 4: never he never played And as a kid, you're prossing, 100 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 4: like why doesn't my dad play golf anymore? Like this 101 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,119 Speaker 4: seems silly for him not to do that, And then 102 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 4: you become a parent, yourself, and I told him the 103 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 4: other day, Oh, I get it now. 104 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 2: He was doing it to get away from you. 105 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 4: There's no he wasn't playing because didn't have any time, 106 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 4: did any like you? 107 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: Just you don't. 108 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 4: You have no time as a parent. You have no 109 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 4: time to do tything, and you can't just leave the 110 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 4: kid on their own. 111 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:19,720 Speaker 1: No, frown on that. 112 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 2: Not at the age of yours is product. 113 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 1: What's the first age you left your daughter by yourself? 114 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 2: It was probably what thirteen? 115 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: Oh wow, twelve? I was thinking eight. 116 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 3: No, not until she could babysit someone else's to answer 117 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:33,839 Speaker 3: the door.