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Speaker 1: Well up to a Different Dwife podcast. I'm your host

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Speaker 1: of Terrassar Whifield. Listen, are you still shacking up with us?

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Speaker 1: If you're still are you she's gonna tap talking about me,

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Speaker 1: tag me in.

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Speaker 2: I'm here now no longer future wife.

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Speaker 3: It's you should do. That would be good, that would

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Speaker 3: be great. Present, that was great.

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Speaker 1: Wel to Different wifey podcast. I'm your host of Tarras

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Speaker 1: Sar Whitfield.

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Speaker 4: And I'm Ashley R.

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Speaker 3: Witfield.

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Speaker 1: Listen, are you still shacking up with us? If you're

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Speaker 1: Have you gotten a book Student of Love? If you haven't,

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Speaker 1: of y'all been hit me up and say when it's

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Speaker 1: And for those in Detroit on Marsh twenty first, we'll

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Speaker 1: be doing Dear Future Wifie Podcast Live with Student of

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Speaker 1: Love co hosted by my lovely wife Asky and in

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Speaker 1: Detroit on Marsha twenty first, So make sure you visit

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Speaker 1: going to be absolutely phenomenal. All right, So today we

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Speaker 1: have our friends on the podcast. Last time they were

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Speaker 1: on the Dear Future Wifie podcast, I was single and

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Speaker 1: that brings me great honor to have this dynamic couple

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Speaker 1: pour into asy and now that we are married.

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Speaker 3: These are a couple.

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Speaker 1: This is a couple that I look at as been

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Speaker 1: and I know they probably don't want this, but it's

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Speaker 1: just what has happened where they seem to be the

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Speaker 1: poster child or what it looks like to be a

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Speaker 1: kingdom couple that's doing purpose work from theater to films

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Speaker 1: to albums together and I mean, they just do every

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Speaker 1: thing together. And I'm surprised they don't get tired of

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Speaker 1: each other. And I'm gonna ask if they do get

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Speaker 1: tired of each other. So with our further ado, welcome

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Speaker 1: to differt Wivy Podcast, my homie.

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Speaker 3: David and Tamla Man. Thank y'all for having us.

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Speaker 5: Thank you you said last time we were here, it

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Speaker 5: was you were riding solo. So but thank you to

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Speaker 5: your princess, your queen.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, give it up.

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Speaker 4: Wonderful.

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Speaker 3: You knew I look different. I'm gloring with you. Got

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Speaker 3: you got that. You know you don't know about that.

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Speaker 5: Congratulations man, just time I was sharing with sharing with it,

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Speaker 5: just to see you happy and in that space and

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Speaker 5: just in love.

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Speaker 3: You're just goofy in love. She completes me.

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Speaker 4: To him, Congratulations so much.

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Speaker 1: Listen, you said something to Tim, you know, before we

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Speaker 1: started recording, which is the exact conversation I had with

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Speaker 1: Ashley this morning. I told her that she will never

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Speaker 1: out love me, and she will never outserve me. That

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Speaker 1: I anticipate the needs that she have and she can

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Speaker 1: just mention something and I'm going after. That was That's

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Speaker 1: why I was like, Wow, this is amazing that you

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Speaker 6: I told her before she can think it already thinking.

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Speaker 4: Well, I'm trying.

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Speaker 7: I'm telling you I'm competing.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I want to be nick and in this thing.

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Speaker 3: You know that's from years.

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Speaker 5: You know, I told somebody the other day my dreams

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Speaker 5: is to make her dreams come true.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's deep.

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Speaker 6: If you say that to your woman that can instantly

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Speaker 6: get you something.

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Speaker 3: My dream is to make your dreams come.

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Speaker 6: You a sure thing tonight right now.

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Speaker 5: The game because you know, and when it comes to

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Speaker 5: serving her, I'm you know, we've dealt with, you know,

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Speaker 5: sickness and in health. There was a point in our

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Speaker 5: and she couldn't do anything for herself. She couldn't after

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Speaker 5: after sea section. Yeah, and you know, she couldn't clean herself.

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Speaker 5: Well I looked at her and to him, I'm cleaning

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Speaker 5: You better not say I don't love you.

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Speaker 4: And he was like, I got it, I got you.

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Speaker 7: So it's just it really is a blessing even to

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Speaker 7: Sometimes it really is Guys, before I can think it

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Speaker 7: He kind of on a ride on the two, I'm like,

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Speaker 3: Give it to him in that moment?

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Speaker 1: Was it hard for you to allow him to show

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Speaker 1: that in that sixth state where he has to clean

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Speaker 1: those intimate places of yours that you were, you just

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Speaker 3: Like it's a woman.

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Speaker 4: It's like because you really feel like.

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Speaker 6: The commed the comedian in me just came right, don't

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Speaker 3: But I was preparing a place for me.

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Speaker 4: The lawd was not thinking about I'm sorry to take

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Speaker 7: It was, you know, I had to kind of just

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Speaker 7: really I really was grateful for the grace that he

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Speaker 7: a lot of men would have been like, man, I

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Speaker 4: So I'm just so happy. And I was like, oh,

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Speaker 4: for real, how long did it take you to hell.

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Speaker 7: Actually that sea section, I got really kind of sick

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Speaker 7: with infection. I wound up staying in the hospital additional.

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Speaker 7: Normally was like a couple of days. I was there

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Speaker 7: to see me and the baby for that time. So really,

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Speaker 5: Now we fast forward to now, you know, we turned

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Speaker 3: Looking good.

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Speaker 5: I hurt my back, and because i want to serve

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Speaker 5: it was hard.

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Speaker 3: She was like, well, you.

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Speaker 5: Just laid down and I will fix you something to eat.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, I can get my own food. And so

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Speaker 5: I found that.

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Speaker 7: When he failed, I mean it's like he slid on

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Speaker 4: That's what happened.

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Speaker 7: So my daughter so happened to go with him, and

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Speaker 7: he was working on our fence because the ice has

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Speaker 7: stopped that we're weren't open.

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Speaker 4: So he slipped and.

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Speaker 7: Fell, and she was like, Mama, they don't fell out there.

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Speaker 7: I was like, what, I'm trying to find.

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Speaker 3: Screw.

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Speaker 7: And I could hear him from our from the front door,

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Speaker 7: and I was like, I'm coming, I'm coming.

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Speaker 3: I'm on the ground. K move and say don't come

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Speaker 4: But I'm glad. What do you mean?

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Speaker 3: I didn't want her to fall, but I didn't want

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Speaker 3: to see you Like, no, I didn't want her to fall.

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Speaker 4: It didn't matter.

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Speaker 7: If we're gonna go down, let's go together. Yeah, So

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Speaker 7: that was kind of the thought process. It's like, no,

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Speaker 7: you're in pain, you're hurting. So TA was like, I

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Speaker 7: got it, MoMA. So I'm standing outside looking and they

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Speaker 7: was like, don't come to the car. That happened because

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Speaker 3: We had like a couple of inches of ice.

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Speaker 4: But it was something.

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Speaker 7: But I think it's wonderful to be going into thirty

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Speaker 7: eight years and we're still wanting to serve each other,

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Speaker 7: and it's like we have the heart to serve each other.

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Speaker 7: So it really is blessing, you know, even with us

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Speaker 7: with this tour that we're putting, the Love and Relationship Tour,

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Speaker 7: it's just really for us to learn even as we age,

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Speaker 7: to show grace, even as you go, because you're gonna

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Speaker 7: do some changing, you know, even in your first station,

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Speaker 7: you know, you you just show it's your second round first. Yeah, so,

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Speaker 7: but it's still things that we're learning. We're still learning

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Speaker 7: about you.

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Speaker 3: What you whispered, what you say.

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Speaker 4: My only amen to.

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Speaker 3: Hold on.

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Speaker 1: Let's go back to this fence because some you know,

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Speaker 3: Like my house. Now you're talking about the gates.

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Speaker 5: The gates you're about that opens up so you can

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Speaker 4: The house.

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Speaker 3: You're talking about the fence. It's the gates. Even it

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Speaker 4: You know, I don't want you know.

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Speaker 1: All that Amen, show show that God bless y'all.

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Speaker 4: Ship. You said, he said that he didn't want her

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Speaker 8: I don't want that to get lost, like even even

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Speaker 4: And here I am.

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Speaker 3: Don't come out.

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Speaker 4: I could be on this ground in the cold, freezing,

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Speaker 3: I didn't want her to come out there.

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Speaker 4: Trying to get to it.

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Speaker 5: I was screaming up to the house, don't come out here,

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Speaker 5: and she was coming. I said, no, staying out go

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Speaker 5: and I can't move. I'm on the ground, literally, that's right.

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Speaker 4: I was gonna be hardy and.

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Speaker 3: Then and then you didn't want her to fix you

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Speaker 3: that to eat what I just I'm so used.

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Speaker 5: What it's like, dear, I could, it's it's not even

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Speaker 5: one of the there I can't. I might up and

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Speaker 5: do it because I didn't. I was like, I don't

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Speaker 5: want to inconvenience you. I'm good, I'll do it. And

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Speaker 5: it's just what it's because I'm so used to serving her. No.

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Speaker 6: She served me too, but I would much rather serve her.

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Speaker 4: No, just so I have to keep you know.

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Speaker 7: That's that's that's about each other.

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Speaker 3: And she can never win. She will never win. How

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Speaker 3: did she show up? This is something that was when

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Speaker 3: I say, I honor.

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Speaker 1: You for being very transparent about the mental health crisis

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Speaker 1: that you went through.

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Speaker 3: How did she show up in that quote unquote sickness.

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Speaker 5: Once I got off of stupid and let her in

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Speaker 5: because I hid it for so long because I was

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Speaker 5: embarrassed about it.

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Speaker 5: So that's something we promise each other after this, no

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Speaker 4: I apologize for not seeing that.

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Speaker 7: But it's like to not see because I feel like David,

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Speaker 4: He knows it though, but he sees. He sees.

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Speaker 7: Hurts me because this is the love of my life,

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Speaker 5: Well.

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Speaker 3: I gave the standard man answer, I'm good, I said

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Speaker 4: He with his Browsah, I'm good. So I'm like, Okay,

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Speaker 7: It's like, because I haven't, I walked by his officer,

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Speaker 3: No, I'm good.

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Speaker 6: And I did what most men do is I wore

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Speaker 5: I wore the protection mask and the Superman mask, and

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Speaker 5: I was like, you know, I'll deal with it myself

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Speaker 5: with everything else we've done in life. We've done everything together.

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Speaker 5: God forbid something happen with us. We're gonna have to

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Speaker 5: I take the back. We have built everything together and

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Speaker 5: reason that it hurts her so bad is because I

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Speaker 6: No one has to suffer in silence alone.

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Speaker 4: And shouldn't.

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Speaker 3: You shouldn't suffer in silence alone.

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Speaker 4: It's the bottom thing.

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Speaker 7: Bottom line is you shouldn't when you have people around

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Speaker 5: And once I realized that, it's like I can feel

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Speaker 5: the weight because I had somebody to fight with me. Yes,

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Speaker 3: Go look at my eyes.

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Speaker 5: once they looked in my eyes, they were like, Wow,

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Speaker 5: I tell her, like going through that mento Paul's situation,

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Speaker 6: And so now she'll do a check. She don't let

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Speaker 7: So the thing now that I asked the family and

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Speaker 7: I need to know if upstairs is good, upstairs clear

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Speaker 5: So what I allowed to do is take care of me.

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Speaker 5: It's hard for me to let people take care of

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Speaker 3: For a long time.

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Speaker 5: Men, I will tell you it's okay to let somebody

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Speaker 5: take care of you doesn't mean you're weak. That she's

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Speaker 5: seen me at my strongest when I when I felt weak,

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Speaker 4: A because it's like because of the stigma that it's.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, it's sad, but it almost say it turns.

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Speaker 2: Me I just broke, Oh Jesus, but it really but

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Speaker 3: Us walk by crying sometimes.

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Speaker 7: Now women, you already see that you're crazy yourself gets Lord,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this that song is just not for when you

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Speaker 5: And once I told her to have both of us

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Speaker 3: That's why it.

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Speaker 6: Man, we're stronger and we're better together.

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Speaker 5: And I've known that all the I don't know why

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Speaker 3: I was just simply embarrassed. That's it.

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Speaker 5: That's in a nutshell if I can say. I was

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Speaker 6: It's like he I make a terrible landlord. He carried

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 4: The next thing is get him out of here. That's

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Speaker 5: When I say I make a terrible landlord, I mean

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Speaker 5: You would make a good pimp, and you wouldn't be.

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Speaker 6: Teachers I would give all the money to the kid.

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Speaker 3: A pimp, I ain't got your money, daddy.

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Speaker 5: Don't worry a girl, here's something, go get you something neat.

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Speaker 5: And the landlord, I was literally giving away rent.

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Speaker 6: Kobe came. I told her six months, don't pay anything.

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Speaker 1: But the reality is that I still believe that's the

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Speaker 3: Does is because he knows.

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Speaker 1: Because we look at stewardship as making sure that we

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Speaker 1: steward it well by maximizing the opportunity. But stewardship can

448
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Speaker 1: also be a heart posture that you're saying that at

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, Now, the fact that she

450
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Speaker 1: took advantage of you that wasn't in God's will, but

451
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Speaker 1: the fact that you gave her grades, you know. Uh,

452
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Speaker 1: So that's the That's that's the beauty. That's the beautiful

453
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Speaker 1: thing about it. Because like I said, as long as

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Speaker 1: I've known y'all, I've never seen the righteous forsaken nor bread.

455
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Speaker 3: And you know God look at God.

456
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Speaker 1: So y'all doing the dog on thing. Man So as

457
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Speaker 1: that when he tells that story, that still moves.

458
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Speaker 4: You emotionally, Yes, it does, it does.

459
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Speaker 3: And this was how many years ago? Because covid about

460
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Speaker 3: about three years three years ago?

461
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Speaker 8: What was that process coming out of it? What did

462
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Speaker 8: you do to heal?

463
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Speaker 3: Number one? I went to therapy.

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Speaker 5: The first thing is I brought my family together and

465
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Speaker 5: and I've been to the altar. I've been to the altar,

466
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Speaker 5: prayed Lord, and I figured out the did all of that,

467
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Speaker 5: but it was something still missing. I needed some professional

468
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Speaker 5: help when I told her, and the fact that we

469
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Speaker 5: went to war together that part because going by myself,

470
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Speaker 5: I mean, I can pray, I know the Lord. I

471
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Speaker 5: went to the author, but the fact that I had

472
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Speaker 5: the person at my side right here warring with me.

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Speaker 6: I could literally feel the weight coming off.

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Speaker 5: And then I did something that quite honestly, in our

475
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Speaker 5: community we're talking not to do.

476
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Speaker 3: I went to therapy. I went to.

477
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Speaker 6: Therapy, and it was like, man, this is different.

478
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Speaker 5: So I got to sit here and be strict, button naked, honest,

479
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Speaker 5: transparent about what I've gone through, what I'm going through,

480
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Speaker 5: and it's it was weird at first. And then to

481
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Speaker 5: have the therapist to tell you, no, part of the problem, sir,

482
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Speaker 5: you and I'm paying for this. I ain't patting you

483
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Speaker 5: to tell me I'm the problem. You need to tell

484
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Speaker 5: her the problem.

485
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Speaker 3: You need to kids stay the problem.

486
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Speaker 6: All them niggas problem.

487
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Speaker 3: But part of the problem was me.

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Speaker 4: But you need both.

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Speaker 7: I mean, you need, you need prayer, you need to

490
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Speaker 7: go to God, but you also need natural first first

491
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Speaker 7: natural then spiritual, So you need you need the natural help.

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Speaker 4: And I think that and that helped him.

493
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Speaker 7: And I think when his when his therapists did tell

494
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Speaker 7: him that you're the problem, because he David is such

495
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Speaker 7: a giver. And I'm like, we shouldn't be doing some

496
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Speaker 7: things that I'm like the I'm like, hey, I don't

497
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Speaker 7: think we should be doing all this. Will need to

498
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Speaker 7: be doing, you know, some stuff we need to be

499
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Speaker 7: you know, not to be selfish. But I say, but

500
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Speaker 7: still some things we just I say, we had to

501
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Speaker 7: rough it so our kids need the rough it and

502
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Speaker 7: these other people need to rough it do to see that,

503
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Speaker 7: they got to go to God.

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Speaker 3: Like we go to God.

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Speaker 5: Truly the watchman, and like I say, to answer your question,

506
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Speaker 5: the combination of prayer and therapy, because I had.

507
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Speaker 3: Some people praying for me.

508
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Speaker 5: Once I told people they went to war, they went

509
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Speaker 5: to war, But my problem was me. I was trying

510
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Speaker 5: to fix it myself. And once I took it to God,

511
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Speaker 5: and then the Lord led me to the right therapist

512
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Speaker 5: and the person to help me professionally.

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Speaker 6: So it's both, like she said, it's both.

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Speaker 5: I'm not no, I'm never shortening the church out, like

515
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Speaker 5: church didn't help me, and the church done this. The

516
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Speaker 5: foundation that the church gave me gave me a conviction

517
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Speaker 5: to go back and say, Lord, some of this is

518
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Speaker 5: me and my disobedience, some of this is this. And

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Speaker 5: the therapist saying, look, what he said is you're too giving.

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Speaker 5: You need to learn to be a little more selfish.

521
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Speaker 5: And I was like, be selfish, that's wrong. But what

522
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Speaker 5: he meant is you got to take care of yourself first.

523
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Speaker 5: And it's okay to say no, yes, that's the thing.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 7: We felt like everybody come to us ask something's supposed

526
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Speaker 7: to be a yes, and that's not so.

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Speaker 3: I think I should ask you for something.

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Speaker 5: During that time, they're probably going, yes, good look, I

529
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Speaker 5: probably probably.

530
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Speaker 1: Would have asked you for that, Broncos for that Broncos.

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Speaker 3: Right now, I can want that Bronco. I can do

532
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Speaker 3: just like that.

533
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Speaker 5: It's real easither I felt better than me. I don't

534
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Speaker 5: have to say yes to everything and andvice.

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Speaker 1: That's good man. Y'all got married at a very young age.

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Speaker 1: How old were y'all?

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Speaker 3: Twenty one? Twenty one?

538
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Speaker 1: When it's always a debate where people say and asking now,

539
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Speaker 1: we have this conversation often about where people feel like

540
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Speaker 1: it's more or.

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Speaker 3: Advantageous to marry later in life.

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Speaker 1: Y'all been the people who had gotten married at a

543
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Speaker 1: young age.

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Speaker 3: What are your thoughts about that? Marrying young?

545
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Speaker 4: It worked for us.

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Speaker 7: It worked for us, not to say that it will

547
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Speaker 7: work for everybody, but for us, and the decision that

548
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Speaker 7: we made to take divorce off the table early in

549
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Speaker 7: our relationship. We also when it came to us separating

550
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Speaker 7: ourselves in and cleaving to one another and separating our families,

551
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Speaker 7: some things that we had to learn our first couple

552
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Speaker 7: of years. You know, it's like you don't put your

553
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Speaker 7: family in the business. Keep some things to yourself, you know,

554
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Speaker 7: because some things you just can't talk about with everybody.

555
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Speaker 7: I think once we kind of put some things on

556
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Speaker 7: the table, we realized that we could work. Our marriage

557
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Speaker 7: could work from now to death do us part, and

558
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Speaker 7: that was our decision that we were in it to

559
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Speaker 7: win together.

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Speaker 5: And when we say take divorce off the table, we're

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Speaker 5: not saying in the case of abuse, if somebody putting

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Speaker 5: their hands on you, get as far away from them

563
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Speaker 5: as possible.

564
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Speaker 3: But we're not.

565
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Speaker 5: We're talking about petty thing that drive us crazy that

566
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Speaker 5: you done made this covenants, but.

567
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Speaker 4: You speak to the issue.

568
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Speaker 5: She leaves that freak cabinet door in the house some reason.

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Speaker 7: Now it's like if I go, I'm leaving it open. Boy,

570
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Speaker 7: he used to it's reversed my accountability, Yes, but I

571
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Speaker 7: don't know why.

572
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Speaker 3: Working captain, you're gonna leave it open. You're going back

573
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Speaker 3: in there.

574
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Speaker 7: But that's like me and him leaving his plate on

575
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Speaker 7: the table. So you're gonna leave that right there, you.

576
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Speaker 3: Know what I'm saying. pH Yeah, I'm coming back.

577
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Speaker 4: I mean it's about those are some things.

578
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Speaker 5: That we but for us, you know, like you say,

579
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Speaker 5: we took divorce off the table, and we knew and

580
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Speaker 5: we figured out we're gonna have to work through every situation.

581
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Speaker 5: There's gonna be some times when it's gonna be when

582
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Speaker 5: when all this newness.

583
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Speaker 3: Were off, when y'all.

584
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Speaker 5: Just oh, future wife, and you go, oh, I just

585
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Speaker 5: love him so sleep and you come in one day

586
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 5: and say, you know what, would you disappear? But though

587
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Speaker 5: you you remember the covenant that you made, Remember that

588
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Speaker 5: those vows that you made sickness and in health, better

589
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Speaker 5: for worse when it gets worse, when it gets tough,

590
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Speaker 5: because we went through some tough times, but we just

591
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Speaker 5: we just buckled down and was like one great thing

592
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Speaker 5: that we had on our side too. As we were

593
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Speaker 5: talking about we were young. We were friends like no,

594
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Speaker 5: we were friends to the point where I would call

595
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Speaker 5: and talk to her about.

596
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Speaker 3: Man, that girl tripp what she did. She doesn't trip.

597
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Speaker 5: I'm telling her about girls, I'm dating girls I'm talking

598
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Speaker 5: to Yeah, And so she was sneaky though she like

599
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Speaker 5: a cat.

600
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Speaker 3: She never tell me about nothing to dude. She till

601
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Speaker 3: later on.

602
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Speaker 4: Yeah, she was like, you didn't ask me, come on, Yeah, volunteering.

603
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Speaker 3: So We started off as friends just like that.

604
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Speaker 1: And I would talk to her stuff and she would

605
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Speaker 1: talk about guys, but I would never know who it was.

606
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Speaker 3: She just talked ambiguous. I said, very vague. I just

607
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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm just very private.

608
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Speaker 5: I just I was like, yeah, see, men are like

609
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 5: like dogs out You see dogs doing it all the time.

610
00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 5: Stuff you see dogs doing y'all never seen when you see.

611
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Speaker 3: A cat, cats are like and they go, how did

612
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Speaker 3: your cat get pregnant? We ain't see that's ladies. Dogs

613
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 3: you see them all time.

614
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Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, when I tell y'all, put all y'all

615
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 4: businesses my mind, we out numbered on this.

616
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Speaker 3: Unlet's where we are. Move on.

617
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Speaker 8: Wait, but y'all got married at twenty one. But you

618
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Speaker 8: keep saying we were friends. When did y'all meet?

619
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Speaker 7: We met at eighteen. My best friend introduced us, Okay,

620
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 7: introduced us. They had they went to school high school together,

621
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Speaker 7: and she had a course class with him. So and

622
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Speaker 7: they were singing David Kirk Franklin and our pastor Dura Blair.

623
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Speaker 7: They had a group called Humble Hearts. So she was like,

624
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Speaker 7: y'all sing real good, my friend, and she was like,

625
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Speaker 7: but I know somebody was singing better than y'all, So

626
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Speaker 7: she brought me to the school to sing for them.

627
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Speaker 2: Wow.

628
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Speaker 5: And we were eighteen and we were we just like

629
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Speaker 5: because I was involved in several situationships and so we

630
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Speaker 5: were just relationships, situationship, and so we were just friends

631
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Speaker 5: like that.

632
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Speaker 6: She was somebody that was just like you know how you.

633
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Speaker 3: Said that, she's just sweet.

634
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Speaker 5: She was just a nice young lady. And it was

635
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Speaker 5: just like, you know, hang out, we go hang out.

636
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Speaker 5: She started singing with us, we started hanging out, and

637
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Speaker 5: you know, it was just like.

638
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Speaker 6: She would tell me, you know, y'all wrong, Why y'all

639
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 6: doing them girls?

640
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Speaker 4: But I was a girl.

641
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Speaker 5: All the time, piping game like this, like like a

642
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Speaker 5: little cat in the cup. I'm gonna try to get

643
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 5: that now. But I never even thought about like dating,

644
00:31:09,480 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 5: because she was our friend. When we finally got.

645
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Speaker 6: Together and told people we were getting married, they were

646
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Speaker 6: all like.

647
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 4: What whan did y'all date?

648
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 3: Y'all started hooking up?

649
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Speaker 5: But I knew once I entertained the thought of being

650
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,960
Speaker 5: with her, I knew that it had to be forever.

651
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 5: I knew because she's not the kind number one I

652
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 5: think she has like a direct line to Jesus.

653
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Speaker 3: So I was afraid she's gonna do something to me.

654
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Speaker 1: I don't know.

655
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Speaker 3: You may lords bring fire and brimstone, break his.

656
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 4: Ankles, think nor damnation.

657
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 3: But I just.

658
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Speaker 1: Knew, you know, like that's interesting because we were talking

659
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Speaker 1: about that, about how like certain guys, it's like certain women.

660
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Speaker 1: I was sharing this in and last Friday, and I

661
00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: was sharing how guys would be like, all right, it's

662
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Speaker 1: a good one. Ain't gonna mess over that one. I'm

663
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Speaker 1: gonna save her from when I really get serious. So

664
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Speaker 1: you tell me at.

665
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Speaker 5: Eighteen you thought that, Well, no, no, it was fast forward.

666
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 5: I was, you know, eighteen I met her. Yeah, so

667
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Speaker 5: how eighteen nineteen twenty somewhere in there then.

668
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 3: We just was friend.

669
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 5: But her friend actually went off on me and cuts

670
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 5: me out. She really cuts me out.

671
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 4: Probably we were about to be twenty twenty.

672
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, she like, you know, I was playing done.

673
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 5: Really she liked me, you know, when you know somebody

674
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 5: like me like.

675
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 7: But we were hanging out, like when he was saying

676
00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 7: friends was like us singing together.

677
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 4: I would hang out with him and his brothers.

678
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 7: Like bid they have family, like brother you know, just

679
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 7: stuff like that. We would just be hanging out. David

680
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 7: had a baby early, so I was there when the

681
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 7: baby was born.

682
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 6: She was at the hospital with the baby.

683
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, girl, so it's like we you know, it's like

684
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 7: a lot of steps happened.

685
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 4: So to really build the friendship, I just want, you.

686
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 5: Know one thing that I seen that she really kind

687
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 5: of got me, like, Okay, when my daughter, because I

688
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 5: was I was testing girls with my daughter, because I

689
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 5: come when I had a kid, I come as a package.

690
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 3: Yes, you gotta be take care of my child.

691
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 5: So I would deliver to break girl over and I

692
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 5: just give her my daughter just here, and they.

693
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 3: Kind of bean, Yeah, I would just give it here.

694
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 3: D that's right. Then you out to do your show.

695
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 5: So I was good and I would see my watch

696
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 5: my daughter's reaction with her.

697
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 3: You know some girls watch your daughters. Oh the woman

698
00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 3: you're watching daughters. Yeah, the baby. She would be some

699
00:33:39,200 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 3: of the girls.

700
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 5: She'd be like, I said, thank you have a great daddy,

701
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 5: have a great life, you know.

702
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 6: But she was Yes, I would do it, and she

703
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 6: knew it.

704
00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 5: I would say, you know, old girl came over and

705
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 5: I gave Porsche to her, and Porsche looked at her like, well,

706
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 5: we're not gonna work.

707
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 4: It's fun. But but I was. I had been there.

708
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 4: I've been in our life since she came.

709
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 3: In the world.

710
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, I had a part of it because when you know,

711
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 7: when the mom and him fell out, I was like

712
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 7: the in between for him to be able to get

713
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 7: to see the baby.

714
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:22,360
Speaker 4: Yes, I would go pick the baby.

715
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,839
Speaker 6: We're still friends, pick the baby up.

716
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 7: I would say, I'm not gonna leave her at his house,

717
00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 7: but we would go and hang out with her.

718
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 1: Mediate with and say, and you went to go physically

719
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 1: pick up the kids, pick.

720
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 4: Her up and have with Porsche, stayed weekends with me.

721
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 3: Wow.

722
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:43,480
Speaker 4: Wow, I got so close. I took her crazy.

723
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:45,120
Speaker 3: That was out of line.

724
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:48,200
Speaker 4: It was you would get a picture with the baby.

725
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:51,839
Speaker 6: She would have took mom and baby pictures with you,

726
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 6: ain't his I was a god.

727
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 4: Mama was running.

728
00:34:57,640 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 6: You was running game is what you was doing?

729
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 3: What the big tapers are?

730
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 4: And no, we want to see her.

731
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 3: I looked up and she got pictures with my daughter.

732
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, she got professional photos. I'm like, this is weird.

733
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:17,720
Speaker 3: Were not mag were not a couple.

734
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 6: No, you're taking pictures with my child without me?

735
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 4: Just Raine just drained.

736
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 7: I guess I was falling in love with actually having

737
00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:28,640
Speaker 7: a stamp of approval.

738
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:33,240
Speaker 5: Weird, but that I started to see how my daughter

739
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 5: was acting with her, interacting with her, and how she

740
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 5: and then plus she could cook too, and and I

741
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:43,120
Speaker 5: was like, wow, some good qualities, good.

742
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:44,359
Speaker 3: Quality things you can do.

743
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, don't don't leave them over there because you

744
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 5: ain't got no feelter.

745
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 3: Yes, you're working on it. I'm working on it.

746
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 5: But I've seen those qualities. I seen those you know,

747
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 5: for me, I have what's a forever quality? What's a

748
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 5: forever what's for me? The way you interact with my

749
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 5: kid was forever quality, because my kid is gonna be

750
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 5: my kid forever. Part and I seen I started to

751
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:13,439
Speaker 5: see how she would just love my kid. You thought

752
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 5: enough of my kid to go take pictures now. Although

753
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 5: there was one thing that almost got her booted out

754
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 5: of the camp.

755
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 3: I used to do this little trick with my daughter.

756
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 3: I take her.

757
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 6: I used to do this little trick with my daughter.

758
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 6: I'd take her and I'd swing it between her legs.

759
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 4: I'm hiding.

760
00:36:31,239 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 3: She decided to try.

761
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:35,799
Speaker 5: She took the baby up, and the baby went up,

762
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 5: the baby come out the back Bam hit the floor

763
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:39,320
Speaker 5: through my arms.

764
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,880
Speaker 7: I just picked the baby up and handed it, handed

765
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,320
Speaker 7: her to him, and I walked out the door because

766
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:48,040
Speaker 7: she know what was next. I was like, oh my god,

767
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 7: this is not happening to me right now.

768
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,520
Speaker 4: And he was like, what what is I was like.

769
00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,880
Speaker 7: Because I was like, I feel like she knew how

770
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 7: to be fighting this baby and it was an abscident.

771
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 6: I said, what's yeah, yeah, going on going on?

772
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 5: But I started to see all of those forever quality

773
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 5: just in the way that she talked to people and

774
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 5: handle people. I started to see her every along.

775
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 4: We were good with his family.

776
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,160
Speaker 3: My mama didn't like her first. Why not? She was

777
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:24,760
Speaker 3: too loud?

778
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,399
Speaker 4: She said, I was loud. She said, I laughed loud,

779
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,919
Speaker 4: but they made me laugh and I laughed. Then I

780
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 4: was happy. That's understandable, that's understandable.

781
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 7: I was happy, man, And she was like, Tam, you

782
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,919
Speaker 7: know I really didn't. I said, why, mama, But then

783
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 7: I started feeding her, taking.

784
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 4: Her lunch to a job.

785
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 3: She's gonna takes.

786
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 4: Job we did. We both would take on.

787
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 5: Had those forever qualities that I could see, and you

788
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 5: know what.

789
00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 3: Your.

790
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 7: What she needed help. I was being helpful when she

791
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 7: come home. Stuff will be done.

792
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 4: Because I was hanging out that many hours with him

793
00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 4: and his brothers.

794
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:01,399
Speaker 5: My brother spent just as much time with her than

795
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:05,400
Speaker 5: I did. My younger brother to this day, he's married

796
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 5: and he'd be getting in trouble, and he get in

797
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 5: trouble because he thinks this is his one.

798
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 4: Hen come hug me, he'll come hold me. And her

799
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:13,759
Speaker 4: I said, she's gonna get you. He was like, man,

800
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:14,359
Speaker 4: what you doing.

801
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,800
Speaker 6: I'm like, look, boy, don't get yourself killed.

802
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 3: He tells, he'll tell, he'll tell them. Hey, he tell

803
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 3: his wife. Now, I've been with her since I was fourteen.

804
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 7: He knew, and he's like hitting. So he really looked

805
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:30,240
Speaker 7: like he's my brother.

806
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 3: Yes, fourteen, I've been I've been with her. Now, I've

807
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 3: been with her since I was fourteen. Don't get his

808
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 3: wife like, now, look, you better stop.

809
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 4: But but then she said he called me his side piece.

810
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:45,280
Speaker 4: And she said David.

811
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 7: You said, David ain't no good side piece because Cleveland

812
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 7: gonna do stuff for you. He buy you stuff he

813
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 7: don't want to do. David brought up some boots. He

814
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,320
Speaker 7: was like, oh, my five piece, got me some booths.

815
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:58,279
Speaker 7: So she's from she's a native American too, So it's

816
00:38:58,280 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 7: so funny.

817
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 3: You tell like, look, I'm gonna tell terrible.

818
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 4: And she would do stuff for him. She was like,

819
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:04,799
Speaker 4: am I looking good?

820
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 3: David?

821
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 4: And he was like, he was like, I asked you,

822
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 4: you should have just told me.

823
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 6: That's why I feel you remarried.

824
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 5: It's so fun because if I don't like it, you

825
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, if she tell you she come

826
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 5: out with some hair and that, I'm I don't like,

827
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 5: you're just.

828
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 7: Saying my whole family was said. But we still enjoying

829
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 7: each other, y'all. We still like each other. And I'm

830
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 7: in love with this man and he is still my friend.

831
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 7: And that's what we want to encourage, you know, with

832
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 7: the with the tour, I just we just want to

833
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 7: encourage families because we've seen so much hurt families, even

834
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 7: after like breakups.

835
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 4: It's like men. I mean, like for instance, you and

836
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:44,760
Speaker 4: your wife.

837
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 7: Sometimes some people never can get past you know, and

838
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:50,360
Speaker 7: if what if you got a.

839
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 4: Kid together, you still got to be around these.

840
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 3: People never get past hardship.

841
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, So it's like, but we gotta keep living and

842
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:01,280
Speaker 7: so our kids so we can kill some of these curses.

843
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,959
Speaker 4: I mean, it's like you know, stop it in its tracks.

844
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 5: And as newly as if it's something that I could

845
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 5: tell y'all and I was talking uh on another podcast

846
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 5: about it before. If it's something that you could you

847
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:18,479
Speaker 5: should do to maintain this is find what got you here? Yes,

848
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 5: like this this whatever it was that made you fall

849
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 5: head over heels and be on phone at two o'clock

850
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 5: in the morning falling asleep. You sleep, Yeah, you hang up.

851
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 5: I'm still further what you're doing the same thing he

852
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 5: was doing ten minutes ago. But it's something about that,

853
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:42,320
Speaker 5: Yeah it's gone and go to sleep.

854
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 3: I'm good, good, I'm good. And that feeling that that

855
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 3: person gives.

856
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 5: We have to continue to try to to make sure

857
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 5: that they that we have that same feeling as we

858
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,280
Speaker 5: moved through this life, because there's gonna be some difficult

859
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:59,479
Speaker 5: times when menopause come.

860
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 4: Not even just because back up.

861
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 7: We'll stop right because sometimes it's rough, even in that

862
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 7: time of the month, because it does magnify. But you know,

863
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 7: when you learn to see David made me see myself

864
00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 7: during that time of the month. I could share that

865
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 7: with you to say maybe I need a moment, and

866
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:26,439
Speaker 7: even I had to do it with my kids. It's like, hey,

867
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 7: I'm Miauni here and she calls me having so right

868
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 7: now y'all just give me.

869
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 5: It'll be like I just sitting here minding my business.

870
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:40,880
Speaker 3: Why you got my throat?

871
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 7: If you say something to me, you know, I you know,

872
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 7: I just want you to know that it's happening. And

873
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 7: by him helping me really see myself, help me become better.

874
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 7: So I was like, now, if your daddy can make

875
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 7: me just what I have to tell my girls, and

876
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 7: if your daddy can help me.

877
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 4: See me, y'all don't have to see y'all when y'all come.

878
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 7: Because we had four girls and one boy, so it's like,

879
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 7: of course there was a lot going on it. So

880
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 7: it's just recognizing, Yeah, I mean, what happened. So it's

881
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:14,320
Speaker 7: not so it won't turn into a halations weakness.

882
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, I be like the meeky mind and she seems

883
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:17,239
Speaker 6: like she's so.

884
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 5: Sweet sweet, just soarius when do you want to eat

885
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 5: that time hockey?

886
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 3: I came not my heads. I came not my head.

887
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:31,319
Speaker 4: Please don't.

888
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 7: And they've got this joke he'd be giving like, guys,

889
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 7: give me this if it's if it's right, you're going

890
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 7: to get some people hurt tonight.

891
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 5: You know what I did when when minnopause came, because

892
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 5: I love her and I want to I'm always here

893
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 5: research as it when it comes to us. I read

894
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 5: an entire book on menopause. I'm sixty years old, and

895
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 5: I know way too much about menopause. I know more

896
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 5: about menopause than most any woman, more than I know

897
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 5: so much about.

898
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 4: It can be here's something you learned that might well.

899
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 5: Roughly about only twelve to fourteen percent of Asian women

900
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 5: go through minnopause. Really roughly about eighty seven something like

901
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 5: that percent of American women. Somewhere in eighty seven to

902
00:43:16,960 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 5: eighty nine percent of American women go through minnepaus because

903
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:24,959
Speaker 5: of their high soy intake, the Asian SOI intake.

904
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:27,280
Speaker 4: Where they don't, and fish oil it comes.

905
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 3: So you know what I did that next morning after

906
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:30,839
Speaker 3: so I went and got.

907
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 4: Us some fish so savage and they did help.

908
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 6: They do it is I wanted to know what was

909
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 6: causing because it's a real thing.

910
00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 3: It's a real thing.

911
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 6: People don't realize it's a real and.

912
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 4: They can cause a breakup.

913
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 7: It can because but what I want people also to understand,

914
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 7: and some of our brothers to understand is we're really

915
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 7: it's a war. You haven't got the yep, It's a

916
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 7: war within yourself. Turning sixty, It's a war within yourself.

917
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:06,880
Speaker 7: And it's beyond just having a hot flash. And you know,

918
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:10,360
Speaker 7: but when that when your mood just honestly swings, because

919
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 7: I could start the day out great, then all of

920
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:15,239
Speaker 7: a sudden, I feel really sad and it's like to

921
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 7: the point of just want to just break out and cry.

922
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 4: And then all of a sudden you feel happy again,

923
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 4: and it's like, who wants to be like an up

924
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 4: and down? I'm like, Lord, why did you let this

925
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 4: happen to us? Where I already went through the monthly? Yeah,

926
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 4: I feel that. I feel that sometimes on the monthly.

927
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 8: But I'm told him, I've been like, you know what,

928
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 8: I feel really emotional this is and so I want

929
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 8: to just be quiet for a minute because I don't

930
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 8: know what's gonna come out. But I feel myself like,

931
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 8: and I also track, so like I'll know what phase,

932
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 8: like the OI ring will tell like I just told

933
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 8: him this morning what phase I'm in on my cycle,

934
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 8: and I know my hormones are in balance.

935
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 4: Paying attention it doesn't mean I get it right though.

936
00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 3: No, you're not gonna do it. Don't realize this.

937
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:04,439
Speaker 5: It's an actual chemical imballid. It is, and I went

938
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 5: through and done all the research on it. It's a

939
00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:11,800
Speaker 5: chemical imbalid. So that's why building now for that grace

940
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 5: later we build enough. We build enough on the way

941
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 5: to this to where the grace. I know your consistency.

942
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 5: People don't judge you by perfection for being perfect. They

943
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 5: judge you from your consistency. What are you consistently? If

944
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:29,720
Speaker 5: you come to work every day and you're an idiot

945
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:31,920
Speaker 5: and you come try to be nice, we gonna all

946
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 5: look at you like where are you at? But if

947
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:38,880
Speaker 5: they know that you're this person that has grace and

948
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 5: that you know, speaks to everybody, and you come in

949
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 5: and you have a bad day, you're like, that's going

950
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 5: on with your consistency shows And so I'm we're consistently

951
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 5: building each other up in that way to say, Okay,

952
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 5: I see there's there's an issue going on here, and

953
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 5: so I got to show you grace, our show God

954
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:58,319
Speaker 5: to hold you accountable because my sho's been in the

955
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 5: floor for twenty years and you can't come through and

956
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 5: just talked to me any kind of way because I

957
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 5: had a flash back.

958
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 6: I had a flash but.

959
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:10,320
Speaker 7: It was like six seven pair of shoes just lined

960
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 7: up in there. It still was bothering me then, so

961
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 7: it's even more now.

962
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 5: But you would come through and say, bay your shoes

963
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 5: in the menopause.

964
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 3: Your shoes and float your shoes off.

965
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 4: I'm gonna take a sip of water.

966
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 3: That's what I know. I said, But you yelling at me.

967
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 5: And the worst thing that you can tell a woman

968
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 5: that's going through minnopause is you going through minnopause. Ain't

969
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 5: nobody going through no minnopause? You you think you know everything.

970
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:44,280
Speaker 4: I said it I definitely say it's.

971
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:47,279
Speaker 3: A difference with you. What is wrong with you? Ain't

972
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 3: nothing wrong with me. I'm wrong with you.

973
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 4: But it's so there's a lot of ups and downs.

974
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 3: O Davy says. The worst thing tell the woman that's

975
00:46:57,040 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 3: going through minnopause, you going to minnopause.

976
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 4: Yes, want to hear that, Yes, no, yes, and no.

977
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:10,799
Speaker 7: But it's But the same thing is when I would

978
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 7: have my month and he was like, you're finna start

979
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 7: that thing?

980
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 4: That would it would drive me crazy to for you

981
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:21,800
Speaker 4: to say that to me. First of all, let me

982
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 4: find let me figure my days out on my own,

983
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 4: need your help me.

984
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 5: That's in tune I am with. I knew before I

985
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 5: could feel it. I knew, hey, hey, you're getting a

986
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 5: little you're getting.

987
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 3: A little saucy.

988
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 4: But it could be it could be the best thing though,

989
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 4: you know. I mean, it's like I love him and

990
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:45,360
Speaker 4: can't do without.

991
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 7: Him, but some baby its like but it's like some day,

992
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 7: but it's like, but I just learned to take that moment,

993
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 7: take a breather, and like you said, by you recognizing it,

994
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,399
Speaker 7: that is great that you're paying attention to it now,

995
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 7: because it's like for yourself and for him.

996
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: Boy, this show just took away left her and did

997
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:09,239
Speaker 1: not need to take this exactly because this is this

998
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 1: is real life. And it was interesting because while we

999
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 1: were dating, at one point, I didn't know that she

1000
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 1: was going through her monthly and I just started I

1001
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:18,719
Speaker 1: was like, okay, I'm sorry, I did this whatever. And

1002
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 1: then she told me one day and because we had

1003
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 1: a little disagreement and then I had got in the shower,

1004
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I didn't do nothing wrong, and I'm

1005
00:48:25,160 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: sitting up here saying that you and the show.

1006
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:30,799
Speaker 4: No, he was just feeling bad and he was like.

1007
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:36,000
Speaker 3: Bath commissional. I didn't even do anything.

1008
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 1: But then when I got out to him, I said

1009
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 1: I called. I was like, I'm sorry for that. She said,

1010
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 1: you didn't do nothing wrong. She's talking about it's just

1011
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 1: that time of the month. I said, good because I know,

1012
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 1: I know.

1013
00:48:46,440 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know how to have this

1014
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 3: conversation that I know nothing, but when.

1015
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:54,799
Speaker 4: It happens to us, yeah, it feels really real.

1016
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 7: It's like one day I was like, like you said,

1017
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 7: I feel emotional and I walked in zo, I just

1018
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:01,319
Speaker 7: feel really emotion.

1019
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 4: So he got up and he gave me a hug.

1020
00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:04,800
Speaker 3: Can I tell you?

1021
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 4: And he just hugged me for a few seconds.

1022
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 7: And after that, because I bust out, I did go

1023
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,360
Speaker 7: ahead and cry, but I felt so much better because

1024
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 7: I released it, and tears are a release. It is.

1025
00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 5: Let me tell you the value of a good hug,

1026
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,879
Speaker 5: not just one of the value of a good hug

1027
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 5: between a husband and wife.

1028
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:27,800
Speaker 3: And I always tell.

1029
00:49:27,680 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 5: Her, hug me with what your heart. Hug me with

1030
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 5: your heart. Don't just hug me, hug me with your heart.

1031
00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:35,440
Speaker 5: I want to feel your heart. When I hug you,

1032
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:36,000
Speaker 5: that's good.

1033
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 3: So I that.

1034
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:44,279
Speaker 7: You gonna squeeze anybody a good embrace good because you

1035
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 7: could tell it. Even when you do it for yourself,

1036
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 7: you feel, you feel your.

1037
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 5: Own vind I feel comforted, grip when I was going through,

1038
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 5: even the mental mental health stuff.

1039
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:58,399
Speaker 3: That's one thing that we did one day. I don't

1040
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 3: know how long. We just stood there and hugged.

1041
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 5: And as we hug, the longer we hugged, the more

1042
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,320
Speaker 5: weight I could feel dropping off of them because I

1043
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 5: had somebody. Boy, y'all got ing stark cry, Yeah, because

1044
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 5: I had that person, my person that God ordained strictly

1045
00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 5: and just had delivered just for me, are just for me.

1046
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 5: And we stood there and we hug and I'm thinking

1047
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:24,879
Speaker 5: about the day which is about to make me cry.

1048
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 6: We stood there. We didn't say a word. I don't

1049
00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:31,480
Speaker 6: know how long we stood there. It was I couldn't

1050
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 6: even I lost a sense of time. I know it

1051
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 6: was a long time.

1052
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 5: How awkward it is is it to just sit there

1053
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 5: and not say anything and just hug your person with

1054
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:42,919
Speaker 5: your heart.

1055
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 3: And that's what we did that day.

1056
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 6: And I just felt like it just I just felt

1057
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:51,160
Speaker 6: lip like my everything was just like.

1058
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 3: I'm good.

1059
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 6: When we finally let go, it was like, wow, that

1060
00:50:58,800 --> 00:50:59,200
Speaker 6: was great.

1061
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:03,360
Speaker 5: So I encourage you. I challenge you just today, just

1062
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 5: simply give a good hug. I mean just I'm talking

1063
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 5: about love you.

1064
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1065
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:13,719
Speaker 6: I tell my grandkids they know, hey, hey, come back,

1066
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 6: hug me with your heart.

1067
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 3: That was not with your heart.

1068
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 5: I don't remember it. Yeah, I said, I don't remember

1069
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 5: that when you hug me with your heart. And I

1070
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:23,439
Speaker 5: told one of my grandkids, I said, you feel better,

1071
00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 5: don't you? She said, actually, Papa, I do. She was

1072
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:30,840
Speaker 5: like surprised, like how did you do that? Because I

1073
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,839
Speaker 5: hugged you with my heart and that's what we need.

1074
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 5: You would be surprised what a simple hug will do.

1075
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:39,880
Speaker 4: For you, Just that and a smile.

1076
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:40,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1077
00:51:40,520 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, well I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna make you smile.

1078
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:45,440
Speaker 1: You're gonna be making them smile a lot. In the

1079
00:51:45,520 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 1: Love and Relationship to you, Love Love, how I just

1080
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 1: on earth and so let people know about the Love

1081
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 1: and Relationship tour and how can they get tickets?

1082
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:59,319
Speaker 3: What would they be in for? What should their expectations

1083
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:00,399
Speaker 3: be when they come in person?

1084
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:06,000
Speaker 7: Ticket expect the unexpected, and you know, and to laugh,

1085
00:52:07,040 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 7: to worship, to dance, I mean you to dance, I

1086
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:11,760
Speaker 7: mean dance with your partner.

1087
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:13,760
Speaker 4: I mean these are things.

1088
00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 7: Have some intimate conversations, these kind of these kind of conversations,

1089
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 7: even questions, because we're reaching out to people to submit

1090
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:26,239
Speaker 7: your questions so we can pull questions that people want

1091
00:52:26,280 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 7: to hear. And you know, maybe you want of the

1092
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 7: VRP people that you know your question is pulled and

1093
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:33,800
Speaker 7: you know you get to ask that question.

1094
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 4: Because we really want people to be involved in this thing.

1095
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:38,359
Speaker 3: And we're bringing some special guests.

1096
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 5: Some of some friends that we both Kitty Rose hang

1097
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 5: out with us and talk about. She is passionate amount

1098
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,760
Speaker 5: she one of them warriors that she she'd be standing

1099
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:49,200
Speaker 5: with a gun.

1100
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:50,600
Speaker 3: You said, what about marriage?

1101
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 5: She is passionate, divine Franklin were talking about the Ellisis

1102
00:52:57,840 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 5: Kadeen Elis.

1103
00:53:00,040 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 3: They're coming.

1104
00:53:00,640 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 5: We have, you know, some pastors from around the country,

1105
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 5: past Pastor Carter from Dallas here.

1106
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 1: We just have different people that my boy Jay Barnett

1107
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 1: gonna be on the Dallas Show about Barnett and we

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Speaker 1: just want people that are passionate about love, marriage, relationship

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Speaker 1: and it's not just for married couple.

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Speaker 4: Yes, it's for everybody.

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Speaker 7: I mean, if you engage, you're thinking about being engaged,

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Speaker 7: you're day in the process of dating, or just questions

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Speaker 7: that you want to hear, even when in their immediate families.

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Speaker 7: Because I've seen so many friends have like they're not

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Speaker 7: friends anymore. They've been friends for years. It's like something

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Speaker 7: so small to break up a friendship for over twenty years.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I was like, come on, y'all, we have

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Speaker 7: less time than more and this I remember.

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Speaker 5: That reconciling relationship. That's the love and relationship to it.

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Speaker 5: So it's just not about relationships as a couple, but

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Speaker 5: it's even My son and I were a strange at

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Speaker 5: one time and the us reconciling. We went to this restaurant.

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Speaker 5: I was telling somebody the other night. Our whole family

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Speaker 5: went to this restaurant to have a sit down meeting.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna do this tonight.

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Speaker 3: Yes, this is We're gonna.

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Speaker 4: Apart for us because we y'all, it was crazy.

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Speaker 7: Is those who know us, who's followed the Man's y'all

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Speaker 7: know that we're really tight knit family.

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Speaker 6: Dysfunctional we are.

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Speaker 3: We just love each other that much.

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Speaker 7: But the enemy, when I tell you, he saw that

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Speaker 7: he couldn't get between us. He attacked us through our kids. Man,

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Speaker 7: and it was it was very heartbreaking.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and I attacked our kids. It was an attack

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Speaker 5: on all of us for each other because I knew

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Speaker 5: how much my kids loved me. My kids knew how

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Speaker 5: much I love But the enemy can come in and

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Speaker 5: start platting seeds. We were sitting at that restaurant and

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Speaker 5: having a conversation and we were all we all cry

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Speaker 5: babies and our family. We were all crying, and there

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Speaker 5: was this man so convicted. The guy that was serving

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Speaker 5: us was so convicted that he said, y'all, don't mind it.

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Speaker 5: I go call I can go call my brother. I

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Speaker 5: haven't talked to my brother in years. That's what this

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Speaker 5: tour is about. It's reconciling family, reconciling relationships, whether it's

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Speaker 5: husband and wife, whether it's mother son, father daughter, it's

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Speaker 5: reconciling relationships. And that's where the relationship part of it

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Speaker 5: comes from.

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Speaker 7: The Love Relationship dot Com, the love the Love and

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Speaker 7: relationship dot com.

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Speaker 5: So you can what you ask, you what you can expect.

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Speaker 5: Tam and I are gonna do movie music from our

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Speaker 5: love album. We'll do music and we'll bring out our

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Speaker 5: guess to have these intimate conversations like this along with

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Speaker 5: the audience.

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Speaker 3: And there, yes, yes, our you guys.

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Speaker 4: I'm really excited.

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Speaker 5: I'm excited about sitting talking to you guys again, just

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Speaker 5: about us. Yes, love, We'll be sitting talking to you guys.

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Speaker 5: Then uh in a mission, I'll come back out and

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Speaker 5: do a set of.

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Speaker 7: Y'all know it's gonna be cutting up. Please, don't want

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Speaker 7: nothing too bright because they.

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Speaker 4: Will pick you.

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna tell you what you shouldn't do at the

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Speaker 5: Love and Relationship what we do. Don't bring your side piece.

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Speaker 5: I will be looking for people to there with. I

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Speaker 5: can tell when you bring.

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Speaker 6: Your side piece, Lord Hippus, I can.

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Speaker 3: Look at the if I come to you.

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Speaker 5: If I come to you and you looked panicked because

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Speaker 5: I'm saying something to you and your.

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Speaker 3: Girl you a side piece, see it?

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Speaker 6: Don't bring your side piece. I almost see it.

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Speaker 3: And then Tam is.

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Speaker 5: Gonna take us home with favorites that you take me

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Speaker 5: to the King, change me all that. We'll come back

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Speaker 5: out and do affirmation on relationship, rekindling the love that

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Speaker 5: you have for each other, and.

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Speaker 3: We'll go home happy. That's dope.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, So okay, I'm really quickly going back to when

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Speaker 8: you met you because I didn't get to ask it,

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Speaker 8: but you said that she came and sang for you

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Speaker 8: and your friends in high school.

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Speaker 4: What did you think the first time you heard her

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Speaker 4: saying she can sing?

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Speaker 5: I was like, because that don't let me let me

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Speaker 5: say something. We were young, so we was a little arrogant,

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Speaker 5: so don't get it twisted.

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Speaker 4: They were goods.

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Speaker 3: They were.

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Speaker 6: It was me, Darryl Blair and Kirk Franklin. So our

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Speaker 6: harmony was it was k K Kirk.

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Speaker 4: All that talking. So he's doing He wasn't a race

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Speaker 4: bus he is now, but he that liddle.

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Speaker 3: Held that middle and so we were like, we got up.

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Speaker 3: I don't know she thinks she is. She was Tamla

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Speaker 3: Johnson then she wasn't Tambla. Man was upgrade, and man

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Speaker 3: was an upgrade.

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Speaker 5: When she wind up singing with us, we looked like,

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Speaker 5: you know, gladys in the pip the pimps, the pimps,

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Speaker 5: and you know, we just started.

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Speaker 3: But she was amazing. She was amazing.

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Speaker 6: And anybody who know me, and they have videos out

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Speaker 6: there of me when when she starts singing, I'm still

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Speaker 6: a fan after forty years later, I.

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Speaker 3: Still on the side of this.

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Speaker 5: You know what I don't want, So just listen people.

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Speaker 5: What I don't want when Tamla Man is on stage

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Speaker 5: singing is what mama to talk to.

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Speaker 3: You don't talk to me. You're singing because I'm dial dead.

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Speaker 3: I'm tuned in.

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Speaker 4: He said, he's singing every note with me.

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Speaker 3: So if she get horse, ask her how she can hit.

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Speaker 7: Them notes the Lord I'm He's saying, he doing it her.

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Speaker 4: No, he praying for me on the side.

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Speaker 5: I'm on the side literally praying for her, like I'll

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Speaker 5: have my own mic and I'm on I'm having a

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Speaker 5: full concert on the side of the stage.

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Speaker 6: I'm having a Tamla Man concert. I'm stupid.

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Speaker 5: I had I'm telling you, I literally, I'm that in

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Speaker 5: tune where it's like, if she's not feeling well and

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Speaker 5: if she does something on stage, I can tell, okay

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Speaker 5: doing that. So on you weren't feeling well, were you?

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Speaker 5: And she was like no, how you know because I

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Speaker 5: know I tell her everyone. Look, I tell her every

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Speaker 5: once in a while, keep your eyes on me, watch

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Speaker 5: me something like in case something's wrong. I want to

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Speaker 5: make her aware if something's going wrong. Well, this particular day,

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Speaker 5: she didn't look at me.

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Speaker 4: And she was on stage the Loving Relationship dot com.

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Speaker 4: The love relationship dot com. No loving relationship to a

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Speaker 4: dot com I'm trying to keep.

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Speaker 5: But she decided not to look at me, not one time.

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Speaker 5: And I'm on the side of the stage, like why

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Speaker 5: she ain't look over here. She had decided to wear

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Speaker 5: this little top. You're not that girls used to wear

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Speaker 5: these half tops, you know, the little thing. I forgot

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Speaker 5: what they come.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't a time, but it's.

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Speaker 4: Kind of like a little jacket Ville jacket, Jason.

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Speaker 6: It was a crop top, yeah, crop top, but it

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Speaker 6: was a little criby.

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Speaker 3: It was cute.

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Speaker 4: You tied right here. But anyway, the singing, and she

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Speaker 4: had on the.

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Speaker 3: Shirt under it.

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Speaker 4: I'm going But.

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Speaker 5: One of her girls decided to jump out this jacket. No, no,

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Speaker 5: another sister jump out the jacket, both them laying over

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Speaker 5: the jacket.

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Speaker 3: No, they wasn't. Yes, put them girls up. Oh gosh,

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Speaker 3: where were y'all? Six were not at a at a church?

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Speaker 4: No, we were, I thank god. It was it was outside.

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Speaker 4: It was a festival and we were like on one

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Speaker 4: of the islands. And I'm not just say your sisters,

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Speaker 4: and I'm not saying no it was only one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was only in Bermuda.

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Speaker 4: I was supposed to say, were they ain't wont to

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Speaker 4: let the devil use them? The Love Relationship to a

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Speaker 4: dot Com.

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Speaker 7: Guys, we so excited to have the whip Fields with

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Speaker 7: us and all our other special guests. He and David,

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Speaker 7: y'all for family. So we need y'all to get what

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Speaker 7: we need to love and get. Let's support, let's support.

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Speaker 7: But it's something you're gonna go home. You canna go

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Speaker 7: home with some good nuggets. So make sure you come

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Speaker 7: out and see us on the Loving Relationship.

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Speaker 4: To a dot Com. Check it out. Get your tickets now.

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Speaker 6: I'll tell you about the other time she didn't look

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Speaker 6: at me.

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Speaker 5: I'm saving that for the stage, for the stage the

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Speaker 5: cause her to go viral virus viral.

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Speaker 3: Brown was saying, listen, I want y'all to grab that

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Speaker 3: box there.

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Speaker 1: Uh, there's gonna be a sharpie in there and a

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Speaker 1: little note in the key, So grab sharpie and one

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Speaker 1: of those keys right down, a key to love that

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Speaker 1: you want to leave with us.

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Speaker 3: Ess, I've got a lot of them. Did you think

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Speaker 3: about you know, I really enjoyed it. My question you is,

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Speaker 3: what do you think?

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Speaker 1: This is your first time interviewing the man's so you know,

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Speaker 1: I know you heard a lot of similarity in our stories.

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Speaker 3: I did. Yeah, I get that, Mark, I get the

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Speaker 3: Sharpe is a whole lot easier. So what did you think.

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Speaker 4: I just wish we had more time with them.

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Speaker 8: I'm super excited to, you know, do a couple of

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Speaker 8: shows because hopefully.

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Speaker 4: We can learn some more.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's so much history to cover.

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Speaker 1: That's what I love is when you talk to somebody

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Speaker 1: who's been married with thirty eight years. Thirty eight years.

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Speaker 1: To know that we're on on this Sunday will be

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Speaker 1: three months for us, and to know that they got

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Speaker 1: thirty eight years is inspiring because you can see, you

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Speaker 1: can hear, you can feel how tether they are to

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Speaker 1: each other. You know, It's like it's one of those

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Speaker 1: things that one of the things I always hope for.

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Speaker 1: And I hate to say this, but this is what

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Speaker 1: I mean by when people become one that when one

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Speaker 1: person passed away, the other person passes away shortly after

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Speaker 1: because they literally are walking uh in sync with each

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Speaker 1: other mostly and mentally, and a lot of times they

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Speaker 1: say that all you died from a grieving heart. I say, no,

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Speaker 1: you died from oneness because you literally became one with

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Speaker 1: each other that you physically could not function like David

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Speaker 1: shared And the last time that when you know, during

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Speaker 1: COVID when you was in the hospital, he was about

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Speaker 1: to go to jail because he acted, oh man, the food.

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Speaker 9: And my son told me, Daddy, you acted. You just

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Speaker 9: say he was about to go to jail, to jail

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Speaker 9: he was out there. I was like, because you know

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Speaker 9: how you couldn't go back in the hospital with him,

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Speaker 9: that he wasn't for that.

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Speaker 3: No, was not what I wanted to hear. And I

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Speaker 3: told the lady. All she kept saying is have a saint.

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Speaker 3: I ain't having no seat.

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Speaker 6: I'm going back there with my woman and I'm gonna

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Speaker 6: go back there and now have a say, here.

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Speaker 3: Come the police.

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Speaker 4: Thank you guys for having us.

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Speaker 6: Yes, mine was choose to stay in love.

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Speaker 3: Choose choose to stay.

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Speaker 5: Because with everything, when all the noise is clear and

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Speaker 5: quiet down, you have to figure out how do we

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Speaker 5: stay in love? Because that's what God. Of course what

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Speaker 5: God is here in the first place. But I got

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Speaker 5: to figure out how do we keep that love because

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Speaker 5: we don't love each other. But how do I stay

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Speaker 5: in love?

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Speaker 3: How do I stay in love? Because I love my dog,

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Speaker 3: but I'm not in love.

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Speaker 4: I got several things. I have to keep hugging. I'll

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Speaker 4: do each other doing for each other.

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Speaker 3: I need to write some more stuff.

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Speaker 4: Keep loving, stay in love.

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Speaker 3: Good, good and the hug. We know why you put hug.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, because it means so much for you to I mean,

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Speaker 7: like maybe just even throughout the day, sometimes our home

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01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:01,800
Speaker 7: home hanging out, I just walk up and we just

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01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:05,000
Speaker 7: keep each other a nice little caress. And I mean

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Speaker 7: because sometimes it's like we really don't know what each

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01:05:07,280 --> 01:05:10,160
Speaker 7: other thinking. It's something else may came through that she

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Speaker 7: don't know.

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Speaker 6: About action and she got my permanent handprint on us.

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Speaker 7: But after all these years, but it is so important, Yes,

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Speaker 7: I do steal that for you mean, just keep hugging.

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Speaker 4: And why you keep hugging, It's going to help you

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Speaker 4: to keep.

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Speaker 3: That love there, keep connecting. Yep, yeah, I love it.

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Speaker 1: Take a moment, take a step, stand up and go late.

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Speaker 1: Hang that on those little wrongs over there. It keida

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Speaker 1: love you to love right there.

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Speaker 3: Boom boom oh y'all, y'all put your name on the

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Speaker 3: put your name.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I know, you know, after the season, we'll

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Speaker 1: have a host of keys, something that we can take away,

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Speaker 1: and any time we may face hardship or struggle in

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Speaker 1: our marriage, we'll just read what these guests left, you know,

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Speaker 1: season one. Of course, I well, the first few seasons

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Speaker 1: of the podcast, I'm writing letters to my future wife.

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01:06:13,400 --> 01:06:15,840
Speaker 1: He so she has those to look at when in

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01:06:16,000 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 1: time she questioned whether or not, you know, why did

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01:06:18,960 --> 01:06:20,640
Speaker 1: we get married? Then she can go pull out one

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Speaker 1: of those letters and read that I've spoken to existence.

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Speaker 1: And this right here is for both of us.

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Speaker 3: I'm excited for y'all. Thank you. I'm excited, Thank you.

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Speaker 4: I'm excited for a couple.

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Speaker 7: Pull the microphone, I'm excited for I'm talking, you know,

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Speaker 7: the laptop I'm excited for. But I'm excited for couples

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Speaker 7: and for us. You know, don't quit on each other.

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Speaker 7: Don't give up on each other. There will be days

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Speaker 7: that you feel like you want to quit.

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Speaker 4: But it was like I figured out. I was like,

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Speaker 4: where else are you going?

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Speaker 3: Girl? What you gonna do?

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Speaker 4: And I just stay here and fight through, always fight it,

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Speaker 4: back off.

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Speaker 5: Of that comment by saying, don't make a permanent decision

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Speaker 5: for temporary problems.

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Speaker 3: That's good. I love that.

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01:07:02,360 --> 01:07:05,600
Speaker 6: Don't make a permanent decision for temporary This stuff is temporary,

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Speaker 6: So hanging there when you get to this side.

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Speaker 8: Cool.

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Speaker 6: She ain't got to do nothing to me now, she

1388
01:07:12,280 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 6: just walked by.

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Speaker 2: And I.

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Speaker 7: Think too, if I would have known early on, if

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01:07:18,800 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 7: you just really honestly we say communicate, but if you

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01:07:21,600 --> 01:07:25,479
Speaker 7: really talk those things through, to really be honest to say, okay,

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01:07:25,560 --> 01:07:26,440
Speaker 7: this is bothering me.

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Speaker 6: You know, y'all.

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01:07:28,160 --> 01:07:30,800
Speaker 7: It's a little different from when we started. But to

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01:07:31,000 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 7: say that something is bothering you, you gotta advantage. You

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01:07:35,280 --> 01:07:37,840
Speaker 7: doesn't have all this wisdom come here. You you've had

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01:07:37,840 --> 01:07:41,520
Speaker 7: a chance to and we didn't have it figured out.

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Speaker 3: So I think I got it.

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Speaker 1: And people kept relationships quiet. They never talked about what

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01:07:45,440 --> 01:07:48,240
Speaker 1: was going on. Now we have this place, you have therapy.

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01:07:48,560 --> 01:07:51,440
Speaker 1: We went through pre engagement counseling, went to pre maryital counseling.

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01:07:51,480 --> 01:07:53,920
Speaker 1: We got our therapist. Still a part of our marriage,

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01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:56,520
Speaker 1: you know, as our marriage counselors. But like you said

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01:07:56,520 --> 01:07:59,080
Speaker 1: at the beginning of this episode, is that black folks

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01:07:59,080 --> 01:07:59,800
Speaker 1: didn't go to therapy.

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Speaker 3: It was like.

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Speaker 5: Jasp, come on over and slide over here. They holding

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01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:05,640
Speaker 5: hands and they ain't gonna love us.

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Speaker 3: Up under me.

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Speaker 10: Yeah, to out do that, she got her legs cross

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Speaker 10: you Manross. I just think they're gonna out love us.

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01:08:19,520 --> 01:08:22,479
Speaker 10: So well, it's y'all podcast. Y'all can't love us, what's

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Speaker 10: your challenge?

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Speaker 3: You out love us? They got thirty eight years, y'all

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01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:30,360
Speaker 3: got a long hair start. That's a long good thing.

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Speaker 4: It is a good thing, and you just being together

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Speaker 4: through it.

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Speaker 7: And like David was saying earlier, to have somebody that

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Speaker 7: you have a go to that you really can go

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Speaker 7: and just lay it out there on the line, you know,

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01:08:43,200 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 7: because it's like no judge zone.

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Speaker 4: I mean it really is.

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Speaker 7: You have to establish that in your relationship. It's like

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01:08:50,920 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 7: I'm saying it, but I'm not saying it because I'm

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01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,679
Speaker 7: not trying to hurt you. Not the one that's coming

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01:08:56,760 --> 01:08:58,920
Speaker 7: to hurt you created or to destroy you.

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Speaker 5: A created space where we both can be safe. That's

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01:09:02,439 --> 01:09:05,840
Speaker 5: what we created for each other, created space space where

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Speaker 5: we both can be safe. So I know when I

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01:09:08,520 --> 01:09:12,439
Speaker 5: come to her, I don't have to worry about all

1432
01:09:12,520 --> 01:09:14,719
Speaker 5: the stuff. Is he gonna Is this gonna be funny?

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01:09:14,880 --> 01:09:15,479
Speaker 5: Is he gonna do this?

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01:09:15,640 --> 01:09:19,160
Speaker 6: It's just like dear right, Yeah, you're trying to get

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01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:19,680
Speaker 6: up under that.

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Speaker 7: And you know one thing I was praying earlier, and

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Speaker 7: I'll share with you guys. I was like, Lord, as

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Speaker 7: I grow older, I said, Lord, please.

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Speaker 4: Don't let me become a nagging old lady.

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Speaker 7: I said, Lord, if you could just keep me, I said,

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Speaker 7: I've been pretty sweet all these years and easy to

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Speaker 7: get along with it. No, but honestly, I just don't

1443
01:09:42,120 --> 01:09:44,839
Speaker 7: want it to be because I know we do change.

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01:09:45,439 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 7: I was, but that was just my request to God,

1445
01:09:48,080 --> 01:09:51,920
Speaker 7: to Lord to just let me just I don't want

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01:09:51,960 --> 01:09:55,760
Speaker 7: to that to come to that with my family, that

1447
01:09:55,880 --> 01:09:58,759
Speaker 7: you just turn into where you more of a nag,

1448
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:01,720
Speaker 7: you know, like you said, old hags. I just don't

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01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:04,800
Speaker 7: want that. Please don't let that follow me as a

1450
01:10:05,040 --> 01:10:07,519
Speaker 7: older lady. Because a lot of times people I know,

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01:10:07,600 --> 01:10:10,960
Speaker 7: they change, they become cussers. Because my mom went through

1452
01:10:11,000 --> 01:10:14,240
Speaker 7: Alheimer's and I know some people's families they start cussing

1453
01:10:14,680 --> 01:10:16,000
Speaker 7: when they get sick and stuff.

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Speaker 4: What's out of the mob. No, but I'm just some things.

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Speaker 7: I'm just trying to make my requests known unto God,

1456
01:10:23,360 --> 01:10:26,080
Speaker 7: so that won't I don't want that to follow me.

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Speaker 3: That's good, that's good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all listen, man, Thank y'all made the love you

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01:10:32,640 --> 01:10:35,519
Speaker 1: share today. Outlive the season you're in.

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Speaker 8: Man, Carry you through the days when words are few

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01:10:39,439 --> 01:10:40,320
Speaker 8: and faith.

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Speaker 3: Has to do the talking. Y'all give it up for

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01:10:42,360 --> 01:10:43,080
Speaker 3: the many are.

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Speaker 5: And just

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Speaker 3: About the sword should be stuck