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Speaker 2: Michael Elliott and Adea May.

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Speaker 1: I left home at a very early age.

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Speaker 2: What is early sixteen? You were on y'all at sixteen,

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Speaker 1: My relationship with my mother was just broken. It really

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Speaker 1: that she didn't love me, honestly, it affected every relationship,

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Speaker 1: I could write about love, I can dream of love,

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Speaker 3: Always knew innately that guy created me for a specific purpose.

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Speaker 3: I knew this. I would always say, well, God, you

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Speaker 3: I'm going every every night to the circus. And you

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Speaker 3: know my purpose. My future husband, I knew he wasn't

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Speaker 4: Got November the twenty second, twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 5: Dear my forever, Forever is a long time. That's how

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Speaker 5: long I'll love you. Those lyrics echo through every fiber

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Speaker 4: This journey has culminated with you as both the award

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Speaker 2: You are the award, the.

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Speaker 4: Honor God placed before me, the recognition of growth, healing

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Speaker 5: And you are the reward, the blessing given after endurance,

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Speaker 5: the gift promised to those who refuse to faint.

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Speaker 4: This isn't just our story, this is for all of us.

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Speaker 4: I'm a terrassaar Whitfield and I'm.

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Speaker 5: Ashley are Whitfielder. Welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Dear Feature WIFEI Podcast.

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Speaker 4: This is season eleven, year six of the Dear Future

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Speaker 4: Wifie podcast. We're on our road to hit a million

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Speaker 4: subscribers and we need everybody to do your part. So

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Speaker 4: A lot of y'all have been dming me people that

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Speaker 4: Little weary and you're well doing a but I pray

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Speaker 4: So, without further Ado, Welcome to a Dear Future Wife podcast.

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Speaker 4: My homie Michael Elliott and Ada May. How y'all I'm.

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Speaker 1: Doing soon to be a Elliott?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Elliott?

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Speaker 4: This may will be your last May being May, Yes,

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Speaker 1: So, despite the fact that I've been divorced, I still

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Speaker 3: And that was not easy.

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Speaker 1: But isn't it interesting that I receive that message? Because

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Speaker 1: I mean, it just came out. It was unscripted, it

440
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 1: was unrehearsed, it was unplanned. I don't even remember everything

441
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 1: I said, but I do remember saying that if I

442
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 1: had a chance again, how I would move. And she

443
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:31,119
Speaker 1: really was speechless because I purged and I said all

444
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,440
Speaker 1: of these things. I don't think another man has ever said.

445
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 1: The concept came out of my mouth. She was speechless,

446
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: so she my friend. I told my friend at dinner

447
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 1: that same night, I said, you never told you about

448
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 1: a DMA, but like if you heard the term the one.

449
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:45,960
Speaker 2: That got away.

450
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 1: If ever that was true, this was the one right.

451
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,399
Speaker 1: And I told them about our lunch and what I

452
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 1: said to her and how she was speechless when it

453
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: was over, and my friend Carol said, she's going to

454
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: think about what she said. Two weeks later, she called

455
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 1: me on a Sunday. I'm back home in Georgia, where

456
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: I've been living since COVID and she called me on

457
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 1: a Sunday.

458
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 3: That called you on a Sunday. And I said, here's

459
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:19,359
Speaker 3: the context. Two that two weeks, I was. It really

460
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 3: threw me off.

461
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 5: He threw me.

462
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 3: I was like, what is this guy? What should I

463
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 3: What am I going to do?

464
00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:27,119
Speaker 1: Because I said to her one of the things I

465
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 1: said to her was I never forgot you. Oh God

466
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 1: knows during that time that two weeks that after I

467
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 1: said it, she went back. I went back.

468
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 3: When I say, is stayed with me. I couldn't shake it.

469
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 3: I said, what am I supposed to do with this?

470
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,639
Speaker 3: And then I said God was speaking to me. I

471
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 3: didn't tell anybody. I was talking to me and God

472
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 3: two weeks, going back and forth, back and forth, and

473
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 3: I said to myself, well, the worst thing that happened

474
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 3: is he's the same, and you can move on Todya.

475
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:01,880
Speaker 3: You know to move on that it wouldn't take me long.

476
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 3: Or you give him an opportunity to show you who

477
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:10,160
Speaker 3: he is, because you can't escape who you are. It's

478
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 3: no way. So I said, well, just through through towns.

479
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 1: But the other thing, the thing when you checked the emails?

480
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:26,400
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yes, that's where he sent.

481
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 3: Me an email probably once a year, checking in, except

482
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:31,679
Speaker 3: when he was married.

483
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 2: Didn't you from him?

484
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:37,159
Speaker 3: He would check in, Hey, Adia, how's it going? Hey? Idea?

485
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 7: Uh?

486
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 3: He would just keep seeing messages. You didn't see them.

487
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 3: I did. I didn't respond.

488
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 2: Okay, she didn't.

489
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 1: Respond, but she saw them. Affirmed what I said. That like,

490
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 1: in all these years I'm forgotten about I haven't forgotten

491
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: about you.

492
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 3: So he even wrote an email. This is how he

493
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 3: was really get to me. Here wrote an email saying, hey, Adiya,

494
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 3: I have a script I want to submit my lawyer

495
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 3: kid do it? Can you do? Can you help me out?

496
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: Here?

497
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 5: Was that real?

498
00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 2: Was that was that genuine?

499
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 3: I don't think it was real? I am. I was

500
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 3: like fishing, how clever? I said? So this is what

501
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 3: I said. I said, Hi, Michael, this is ADEA's assistant

502
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 3: Unfortunately she won't be able to submit on your behalf.

503
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 3: She no longer does that, but wishing you all the best.

504
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 4: Seventh's like, well I'm done, I'm done.

505
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna be working with you able to do.

506
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 3: Nothing either and around.

507
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 1: That Sunday, But what changed that?

508
00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 6: Because you that was work right and then now you

509
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 6: agreed years later to work with him, So what was different?

510
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 3: So my heart had healed or I have truly forgiven

511
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 3: him for the hurt that he calls me. And I

512
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 3: did some work. I went to a relationship coach. Shout

513
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: out to Spicy Mari I read calling in the one.

514
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 3: I was serious about personal growth because I really wanted

515
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 3: to be ready for my husband. So that's what saved me.

516
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 3: And you have to it's risky. This heart stuff is risky.

517
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 3: It could be scary. And then if you keep getting

518
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 3: like you're you're not giving it, You're not like you're

519
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 3: like it's not coming, so you can get very cynical. Cynical.

520
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 2: That's so early Sunday, Yes.

521
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 1: On a Sunday. And you know, I remember the day

522
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: because we were on the phone for three hours just talking,

523
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,280
Speaker 1: by the way, not about dating, just about just talking

524
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 1: and I would take a screen shot every thirty minutes

525
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: as proof that I was actually on the phone with

526
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: this long with this woman right here. It was even

527
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 1: that was a miracle, which is why I kept taking

528
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: screenshots of it, like I would over the years when

529
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 1: I was single. I would look at her Instagram. I

530
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 1: saw her I'm from Philly. I see her going up

531
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: there's the rocky steps, and I'm thinking, man, I wish

532
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 1: I was with her in all of these moments. But

533
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,920
Speaker 1: it was just a wish because I blew it. It

534
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 1: was no way I would ever get it. So it

535
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 1: was just all of this was just a wish. This

536
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 1: is why I'm so. This is why like I'm humbled,

537
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:49,040
Speaker 1: and I'm just like because like I remember so, so

538
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 1: I don't get off track. So after that three hour conversation,

539
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 1: I went online. I found an apartment in la I

540
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 1: didn't know Shipper, No, you didn't the phone call a Sunday.

541
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: I was in l A on Thursday.

542
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 3: What it was doing?

543
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 1: You gotta move with.

544
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 3: I'm not playing around. He was not playing this time.

545
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 4: He was.

546
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 1: Five days later, I walked into an apartment I had

547
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 1: never been in.

548
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 3: Right.

549
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: I got a room because I needed a place to

550
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: stay while I get furniture series and this there was

551
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 1: no guarantees. We're not dating. This is just an opportunity

552
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: for me to have coffee with this woman, to be

553
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 1: around should she want to see me. It was worth

554
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: that to me in case I'm saying, that's what I did,

555
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: and I made.

556
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 2: He would I was gonna say it.

557
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 3: I was gonna say it, yes.

558
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, And I made myself available to her whenever

559
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: she would want to see me. And I mean, like

560
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 1: literally that was humbling. Yeah, because you know, I think

561
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 1: a lot of myself. He said, I'm willing to just wait,

562
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 1: just wait, wait around for an random text, right, And

563
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 1: for the most part, I did that, and it was

564
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 1: really difficult because she wasn't giving me a lot and

565
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 1: I heard her Okay, we went to you know how,

566
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 1: there's like two seats like this because my girl was.

567
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 2: A whole movie.

568
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 3: I'm not proud, look like, but I will say this.

569
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 3: I had to check the temperature. That was my way.

570
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,120
Speaker 3: I'm very feeling, I'm very in tune. I was like,

571
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 3: I have to see who he is, I have to

572
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 3: feel it. So it did take me a while to

573
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 3: come toward him, to lean into him. But that's part

574
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:58,920
Speaker 3: of your hot heart posture. And I still had some

575
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 3: clothes and stuff residue from our first interaction, right, I

576
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 3: was like, you know, but he told me one day, Yeah,

577
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 3: it sort of.

578
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 1: At the end of about six weeks of this. I

579
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 1: remember this conversation. We went to the movie theaters. It

580
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 1: was on January first, June January first, by the way,

581
00:34:19,040 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, and I said, listen, I want what

582
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 1: God wants for me. I want what he wants from me.

583
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: And I said, I've held on to this dream that

584
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:35,880
Speaker 1: it's you all along, but if it's not you, for

585
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 1: the first time in my life, I'm okay with that

586
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: because it means that there's someone God has for you too.

587
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 3: Ooh didn't I That's exactly what he said. But he

588
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:51,719
Speaker 3: said it like in a nice way, but I knew

589
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 3: he meant business.

590
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:53,799
Speaker 5: I knew.

591
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 3: I knew. He was like, you're not You're not giving

592
00:34:56,480 --> 00:35:00,279
Speaker 3: him any runway. Yeah, he had no room to go anywhere, right,

593
00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 3: And so that sat with me. And then after you

594
00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 3: told me that we I said, can you can we

595
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 3: talk in my car? And I learned about communication. I

596
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 3: was like, I have to try to at least hear

597
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 3: this man go toward him. That was my way of saying,

598
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 3: I hear you, and I said, I grabbed your hands

599
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:27,720
Speaker 3: and I said, babe, you didn't see that. I said, Michael,

600
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 3: I need to I need to think about said mister

601
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 3: Elliot was very like. I was like, I hear what

602
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 3: you're saying, and you're right. I said, let me let

603
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,879
Speaker 3: me think about how I can work through this, because

604
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 3: there's still something some things I gotta work through. I

605
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 3: said that to you and he said okay, but he

606
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 3: was very like, it wasn't you know, it didn't feel good.

607
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 2: So when you moved there, did y'all plan a date

608
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:55,399
Speaker 2: before you moved?

609
00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:56,239
Speaker 1: And you didn't know?

610
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 3: I didn't know he moved. This is learned that.

611
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: I mean, I probably just say I'm here.

612
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 5: He is a very.

613
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 2: Day I mean, heres move.

614
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 3: But like you said, when a man wants to be

615
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:23,120
Speaker 3: with you, he will move mountains, he will move country, states, cities.

616
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,319
Speaker 1: Because it's not about words, it's about actually you.

617
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 3: Knew the second time. I think he also, this is

618
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 3: a you know circle the black. I guess he was like,

619
00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 3: I gotta do some extra dupe, super duper proving of myself.

620
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 3: And I think that's part of it too, Yeah.

621
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 2: For sure.

622
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 6: And I love that he helped mend your heart through that,

623
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,480
Speaker 6: because you know it can be you know, triggering when

624
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 6: this is the last memory that I have of you.

625
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 6: But that he was patient enough to say, all right,

626
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 6: I'm gonna give you some time. I'm going to show

627
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 6: you that my actions and my words line up and

628
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 6: then you can trust me. And then of course he

629
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 6: had the very direct conversation, yeah, and which.

630
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 4: Is respectful to the fact that it's all about communication,

631
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 4: because at the end of the day, then you'll be

632
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 4: the one getting abused. You'll be chasing after her and

633
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 4: she just keep running away, running away, and then you like, God,

634
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 4: I know you.

635
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: This ain't what you want for me either, you know.

636
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 2: And so these are two.

637
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 4: Grown adults having the capacity to have a conversation about intentions.

638
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 2: You let your attentions be known.

639
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 4: You said, this is what it is, and you didn't

640
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 4: try to be toxic and be like, that's the reason

641
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:30,879
Speaker 4: why you ain't got nobody. Now I'm right in front

642
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 4: of your face and you can't recognize it. You said,

643
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:36,240
Speaker 4: and maybe God has somebody else for you. Yes, period,

644
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 4: you didn't even say for me, because I say for me,

645
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 4: but you said.

646
00:37:42,320 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, you said for you, And I think God, that's

647
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: really important. But Terry, is that the question, is that

648
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: the thought about what God would want for me and

649
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 1: what God would want for you? And I think it's

650
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 1: partly how we both arrived at a place where we

651
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: could have this opportunity because we both had relationships, we

652
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 1: both dated. And one of the things that I know personally,

653
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:12,400
Speaker 1: I would ask myself when I would be in a

654
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 1: relationship that didn't quite feel right, I would ask myself,

655
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 1: is this what God would want from me? This feeling?

656
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,719
Speaker 1: It could be the way someone's communicating with me, it

657
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:30,359
Speaker 1: could be whatever it is, is this what God would

658
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:35,320
Speaker 1: want for me? And it's funny about asking that question

659
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 1: over and over again because if you make choices, this

660
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 1: is my opinion, by the way, if you make choices

661
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 1: based upon what you think God would want for you,

662
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: because he wants the best. And by the way, again,

663
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 1: he's always calling, are you picking up the phone? By

664
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 1: asking that question, is this what God would want for me?

665
00:38:57,080 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: It led me to what God wants from me? Isn't

666
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:01,720
Speaker 1: that interesting?

667
00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 2: It's beautiful?

668
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 1: So I don't know, it's beautiful.

669
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 2: And so when y'all got over that hurdle? When did

670
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,360
Speaker 2: that hurdle? When did you just submit?

671
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 4: And just said because he's saying he ain't talking boyfriend, yeah,

672
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 4: he talking wife. Yes, So how did you transition to

673
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 4: that from this man that I emostly mentally blocked.

674
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 2: Yes, now give gravity for that.

675
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:25,879
Speaker 3: That's a great question.

676
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 2: Yes.

677
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 3: So he had been asking me, Hey, what do you

678
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:31,760
Speaker 3: want to do for New Year's Eve? You got plans?

679
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 3: And I would brush I was brushing him off, and

680
00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:37,880
Speaker 3: I followed up the day before New Year's Eve and

681
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 3: I'll say, hey, uh, we're we gonna do something for

682
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 3: New Year's Eve? And he said, I have plans woo

683
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 3: talk about. I was so upset. I was burned up

684
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 3: aside and I started to it was a text. I

685
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 3: started saying, you don't have a leg to stand on you.

686
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 3: He's been asking you. So I didn't say anything, and

687
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 3: I spent New Year's Eve by myself and the next

688
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 3: day he called me. That's when we had lunch and.

689
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 1: We had to go to the movie.

690
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 3: The movie.

691
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: That's when we had the cond and we ended up

692
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 1: in your car.

693
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 3: So that spurred me. So when a man tells you

694
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 3: he has plans, on New Year's Eve, I was like, oh, no,

695
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 3: something else and I wasn't having it. And I realized

696
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 3: how much I really liked you. It turns something I

697
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,560
Speaker 3: didn't like it. I didn't like I didn't like it.

698
00:40:33,719 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 1: So I had.

699
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,879
Speaker 3: The idea. I said, I'm gonna send him a voice

700
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 3: note and I'm going to create a New Year's Eve

701
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 3: with him.

702
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 1: We're going to have our own du beautiful.

703
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 3: I was kind of nervous because I just, you know,

704
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,839
Speaker 3: I'm being vulnerable. But that's what I had to learn.

705
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 3: I had to learn embrace vulnerability. And I struggled with that.

706
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 3: So that that was the turn, and he was so

707
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 3: happy and we had takeout and we just I mean

708
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 3: we talked, we just it just flows. It flowed because years.

709
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:19,960
Speaker 2: Year, no New Years of twenty twenty five.

710
00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: So the day you're describing when we have twenty twenty

711
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 1: five was Jebanuary third, twenty twenty five, right, wow, Because

712
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 1: I proposed five months later.

713
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:33,279
Speaker 4: So you were intentional, you were like, Hey, what give

714
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 4: me the opportunity. I'm screenshot in the conversations. I'm going

715
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 4: thirty minutes.

716
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 2: Listen.

717
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:39,440
Speaker 1: I wasn't intentional. I feel like God would be like bro,

718
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: I'm done with you.

719
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know this is me.

720
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's no way this would have happened. You would

721
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,319
Speaker 1: have got this second shot without me and you you're

722
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:49,240
Speaker 1: not ready. But he knew I was ready.

723
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 3: He did know I was ready in your mind, and

724
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 3: I was ready. I had to be ready.

725
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 4: Did you have did you have a shot clock in

726
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,280
Speaker 4: your mind where you were like, now, if he doesn't,

727
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,319
Speaker 4: he's saying he's serious, but if you don't propose by

728
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:01,400
Speaker 4: a year or whatever.

729
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 3: But I knew I was going to linger terry too long. Yeah,

730
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 3: I didn't say by this time. No, But it was

731
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 3: a feeling and we became exclusive pretty quick. February, February,

732
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:14,359
Speaker 3: Super Super Bowl Sunday.

733
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:19,240
Speaker 1: Was one on one.

734
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 3: And it is it just it just became. It was ease.

735
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:31,959
Speaker 3: And I had never had that before. When you haven't

736
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 3: had ease, you've had angst and toxicity, and I've never

737
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:40,399
Speaker 3: experienced that feeling and you don't you know it when

738
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 3: you know it. And that's what I knew to be

739
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 3: for sure that that was present with he and I.

740
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, did you have a plan when you were going

741
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 2: to propose?

742
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: I knew that it was going to be really soon,

743
00:42:55,840 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 1: and uh, yeah, yeah, we we. I knew that before

744
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 1: June first, we were gonna.

745
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 3: Be engaged that I know you knew that, and how

746
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 3: did you propose?

747
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 1: Well, so we had a trip planned for Cabo and

748
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 1: Idia in May. Idea was certain, absolutely certain that I

749
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 1: was going to propose. I mean, it's Cabos planned great. So,

750
00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 1: by the way, I was never gonna propose in Cabo, right, Like,

751
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, I wrote brown Sugar, I'm going

752
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,239
Speaker 1: to use I'm not gonna do that. I'm gonna do

753
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 1: something imaginative. I'm going to put thought into it like

754
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 1: this is right. But she thought I was going to

755
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 1: propose in Cabo, And in fact, when we left to

756
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 1: go to the airport, I noticed that her nails were

757
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 1: done in white, and I told the doorman. I was like, bro,

758
00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 1: she makes I'm gonna propose her nail.

759
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 2: Like what are we? Right? It was like fright.

760
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 1: That night we had dinner reservations and she's got a

761
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: white dress like and I said, I'm not proposing to

762
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:08,840
Speaker 1: you tonight.

763
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 3: And I was pissed.

764
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 1: Now why she's there while we're there? She had to

765
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:18,800
Speaker 1: get over that, right while we're there, The artist Major

766
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: sends her text how's your trip? How's your trip? So

767
00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: the connection to Major is before Cabo Adia got an

768
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: invitation to.

769
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: A private listening party Major Downtown La.

770
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:42,879
Speaker 1: She got the invite, she sent it to me. She said,

771
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 1: are you free Friday, May thirtieth? Would you like to go?

772
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, charre, I would like to go. Which she

773
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: did not know was that she was inviting me to

774
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: her own surprise engagement party. Bro Yes in Major, he

775
00:44:56,360 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 1: was really performing. Yes, so May thirtieth. So so again

776
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:06,799
Speaker 1: the next Friday, Ida shows up.

777
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 3: So I show up. I come up in the elevator

778
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:14,920
Speaker 3: with my mom my sister Ashia, and I'm walking in right.

779
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 3: You know, I'm hip to what's going on? That's what

780
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 3: I thought. All these I see Major singing. This is why.

781
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:23,319
Speaker 1: The moment she got off the elevator, cue the music,

782
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: he's singing of you.

783
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 3: He's facing me, and I'm noticing, you know, I know

784
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 3: cameras are around, but the cameras were all on me.

785
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 3: But I was like, okay, what's a lot of cameras

786
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 3: are I'm like, why is this focused on me? And

787
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 3: then as I get closer, I see there are back people,

788
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 3: you know, listening to Major. And then my best friend.

789
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: Franzy who lives in Chicago, who I just spoke to.

790
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 3: She was like, girl, I'm still at WORKERL I'm like,

791
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 3: you've still work at seven o'clock. She was my girl, Yeah,

792
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 3: they're working me. She turns around her back and I

793
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 3: saw her and I was like, it was hitting me slowly.

794
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 3: You know, you have to catch up when you start

795
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:14,920
Speaker 3: seeing people. And then my mother had to pull me

796
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,600
Speaker 3: in the room because I was in shock, you know,

797
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:21,160
Speaker 3: you just the moments like that. I was so like, wow,

798
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:22,840
Speaker 3: It's like you're in the room and I see my

799
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 3: close family and friends all there, and they're standing up

800
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 3: in front next to Major, and I swear to that

801
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: all I could. I couldn't understand what he was saying.

802
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:38,760
Speaker 3: I don't know it was I want. I don't remember,

803
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 3: but I remember when he goes down on one knee.

804
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 3: I remember that, will you marry me?

805
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:52,880
Speaker 2: I remember that I knew I got you.

806
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 3: It's some excellent performances by a lot of people.

807
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 1: It was like wow when I was proposing, because they

808
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 1: all had planned to be there.

809
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:05,760
Speaker 3: But I said, and I always have to know everything.

810
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 4: So from Cobo, you said that was made you proposed

811
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 4: on and then Cowbo was what a week before? A

812
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:15,760
Speaker 4: week before and so you had planned?

813
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 2: You got mad in him?

814
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 3: Oh? Were at general? I was? He was like, he

815
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 3: said this to me, do you really think that I

816
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 3: were proposed to you at a resort rate movie? I'm creative.

817
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 3: I was insulted, but I would think that he was laughing.

818
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 2: He was like, he's not laughing about.

819
00:47:46,840 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 1: She's gonna be pissed. She finds after you're not proposing,

820
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:50,719
Speaker 1: how are you going to get through the weekend. My

821
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:53,879
Speaker 1: mom's advice was tell her the moment you get there

822
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:57,280
Speaker 1: that you're not proposing, because she's going to be expecting

823
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: you to the whole week.

824
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 2: I was, so we we did so.

825
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: You told her the first night Friday.

826
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:17,759
Speaker 4: Night, I got my white dress over. He said, this

827
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 4: is what you're gonna do it. Man, that's interesting. So

828
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 4: how did you feel knowing that moment, that that conversation

829
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 4: that happened way back then, and now this do over

830
00:48:28,719 --> 00:48:30,240
Speaker 4: and then the do over.

831
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 2: For your whole relationship has been about do over, and so.

832
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 4: The do over from New Year's and then here it

833
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 4: is the do over from the fake proposal. Because she

834
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 4: thought she was supposed to be proposed on one week

835
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 4: and then here it.

836
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:45,800
Speaker 2: Is the real thing. When you got down on your knee,

837
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 2: what went what flooded your mind? What did you think about?

838
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: So I knew that it did. It was going to

839
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 1: say yes, right, but this was one of those moments

840
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: where so I believe in a lot of us we

841
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:06,879
Speaker 1: believe in having faith. Yeah, but there's levels to faith.

842
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 2: Absolutely, I'm a super faith guy. Yeah right.

843
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:15,959
Speaker 1: I also believe in being aligned right with His plan?

844
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 1: And what does that look like in their moments where

845
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 1: things click in a way that's unhuman? Right, they could

846
00:49:23,680 --> 00:49:28,479
Speaker 1: only be him. This was the first time I would

847
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:32,839
Speaker 1: say I experienced that being conscious of it was when

848
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:36,200
Speaker 1: I sold my very first script, which was Brown Sugar.

849
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 1: Because of the way it happened, the title was called

850
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:47,760
Speaker 1: seven days originally days and seven days later, fourteen months

851
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 1: into deciding to be a screenwriter post thirty, so no school,

852
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: ain't know nothing, no life planned. Seven days later I

853
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 1: get the phone call that changed my life.

854
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:05,399
Speaker 2: And you said it was called seven days and then

855
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 2: seven days later after you.

856
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 1: Seven days later, I got a phone call and the

857
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 1: call was do you have a lawyer? Because twentieth Century

858
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 1: Fox is about to buy your script and in that moment,

859
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: it was like I felt God touched me on my

860
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 1: shoulder and say I know your name. I know your name.

861
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 1: I don't believe in luck for it to happen that

862
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 1: way for me. In that moment, it was like, oh,

863
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:49,239
Speaker 1: you mean I'm supposed to do this, right, So there

864
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: are moments like that. So for idea ZERI may to

865
00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: be standing before me right about to say yes, I

866
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:09,359
Speaker 1: want to be your wife. It was like another one

867
00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: of those moments of like, you mean everything, yes, everything

868
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:18,800
Speaker 1: led up to that, and this is proof again that

869
00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 1: you are who you say you are. Right. It was

870
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:25,480
Speaker 1: just another one of those moments.

871
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 3: Bro.

872
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:31,080
Speaker 1: It was like, whatever happens for the rest of my life,

873
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 1: It's like sitting on the cake, do you understand it

874
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:39,680
Speaker 1: ain't about no more money, no more businesses, no more movies.

875
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:45,759
Speaker 1: Like it was like this happened, so my faith it

876
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 1: just gets more refined.

877
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:48,920
Speaker 3: What do you have?

878
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 1: What do you have for us?

879
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 3: For me now?

880
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,920
Speaker 1: And now I realize it ain't about me, It's about us,

881
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:58,440
Speaker 1: which is why we're here. Yeah, when you invited me

882
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:01,359
Speaker 1: sent me a DM about we live in l A. Yeah,

883
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:06,600
Speaker 1: we we were like, no, we understand, yeah that our

884
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 1: relationship with God. This marriage to be Yes, it's supposed

885
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 1: to inspire, it's supposed to remind us. I'm fifty nine,

886
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:25,279
Speaker 1: I'm happier and healthier mentally than I've ever been, and

887
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,759
Speaker 1: we get to be a blessing to each other and

888
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 1: to other people. So I mean, and this is.

889
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 3: This is God powered?

890
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 1: I would say, So this is this.

891
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 3: Is God power.

892
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I'm other one is always eat it and

893
00:52:45,320 --> 00:52:51,680
Speaker 4: always me too, so weow.

894
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:54,320
Speaker 3: Me too, and we're I have to say this, we

895
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 3: are great teachers to each other. He's taught me so

896
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:06,480
Speaker 3: much about love, surrender, vulnerability, and we one of my

897
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:10,320
Speaker 3: greatest teachers today. I really I'm so thankful for that.

898
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 6: And I want to say, just to the point you

899
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 6: were making about being fifty nine, is I get and

900
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 6: I know we get so many messages from people who

901
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 6: are I mean, we literally talk to them every week,

902
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 6: men and women who are forty fifty, and they are

903
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:35,040
Speaker 6: remaining hopeful but also feeling discouraged. And so I just

904
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 6: love what you said about this chapter of your life

905
00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 6: and how you know you are inspiration for people and

906
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:47,760
Speaker 6: really just showing that God has always kept his promise

907
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 6: in his hand on you and so it is just

908
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 6: beautiful because it's definitely a story, a beautiful love story

909
00:53:57,200 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 6: and one that I'm just still amazed that you write

910
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:04,759
Speaker 6: the best endings for love stories. But that and no

911
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 6: no offense, and I don't think you'll take any but

912
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:10,160
Speaker 6: look at how God wrote this love story.

913
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 1: I mean, you can't, you can't beat.

914
00:54:12,480 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 2: Us the best one ever.

915
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 4: So when you how was that guy that I was

916
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 4: talking to last week, he's sixty sixty, sixty five or

917
00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 4: sixty six whatever he was, but lives in California, saying

918
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 4: that he's been waiting for his wife. He was like,

919
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 4: I just like you're talking about the circus. He was like,

920
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,160
Speaker 4: I don't know what's wrong with these people nowadays. He said,

921
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 4: it's some weird people. It's like I just that it

922
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 4: just it's just so misaligned. He moved from New York

923
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 4: to uh to what little city is at in California,

924
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 4: Apple Valley, Apple Valley. He live in Apple Valley, and

925
00:54:43,920 --> 00:54:46,800
Speaker 4: he was like, man, I just I've been waiting for

926
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:50,440
Speaker 4: a wife, he said. I got like discouraged, like this

927
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:51,920
Speaker 4: is this is crazy. Said I'm gonna bring you on

928
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:53,960
Speaker 4: the podcast. I'm finna be your wing man. I'm gonna

929
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 4: bring you on the podcast and why you you you'll

930
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 4: be married by the end of this year, you know,

931
00:54:58,280 --> 00:55:00,319
Speaker 4: And uh, he was like, are you serious? I said, man,

932
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 4: it's so many quality, intentional women out there, you just

933
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 4: keep picking the ones that don't see you for the

934
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 4: God in you that they're not purposeful, they don't even

935
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:14,040
Speaker 4: recognize you. And that's what's so key about both of y'all.

936
00:55:14,120 --> 00:55:16,319
Speaker 4: Y'all said, y'all did enough work so that y'all can

937
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:16,879
Speaker 4: see each other.

938
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 2: Yeah.

939
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I want to speak on that because I

940
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:22,360
Speaker 1: do think and not in every case, right, but I

941
00:55:22,440 --> 00:55:25,719
Speaker 1: could tell you, like my friend, I won't say his

942
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: name because of what I'm about.

943
00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 2: About that. Yeah, okay, so both I said, poor, you're

944
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 2: as closer.

945
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 1: But one of my friends, who's very knowledgeable about relationships,

946
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 1: he had just ended one and he couldn't understand how

947
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: he knows so much about relationships. He's he's mentored other people,

948
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: and he couldn't understand why he is single in this moment.

949
00:55:52,080 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 2: And I said to him.

950
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 1: That perhaps there's some work that you need to do

951
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 1: that only you know, not no one knows but you

952
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 1: and the person in the mirror, and that perhaps you

953
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:18,120
Speaker 1: were supposed to acknowledge that, fix that resolve that so

954
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:22,399
Speaker 1: that you could be ready for the one God has

955
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 1: planned for you. So like in my case, I had

956
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 1: the door to do. He wouldn't have blessed me with

957
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 1: her until I had done the work, because he doesn't lose.

958
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:37,439
Speaker 1: God's record is flawless. So had we been together any

959
00:56:37,560 --> 00:56:42,399
Speaker 1: other time, had I not been truly ready, I would

960
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 1: have fumbled. It would have been a flag on the play.

961
00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 1: And so I just encourage other people who not Like

962
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 1: I said, it's not everyone, but if you know there's

963
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 1: some stuff because we're over a certain age, we know

964
00:56:56,880 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: there's like have you forgiven you're a brother, your dad,

965
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 1: your mother, have you whatever those things are, because they

966
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 1: will show up right. And so have you done the work?

967
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:12,439
Speaker 1: Because he knows when you're ready. Right, And the best

968
00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 1: part is when you do the work and you get

969
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:19,120
Speaker 1: to meet the one He has for you, and you're

970
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:21,960
Speaker 1: both done the work and you both understand how fortunate

971
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:24,880
Speaker 1: you are to be together. Now you can move forward

972
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 1: looking at each other like the house and we remind

973
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: each other. I say, idea, it's not about the walls

974
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 1: we live in. We're the house and So our foundation,

975
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: right is constantly doing our best because we fail at times,

976
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 1: we're human. But to think about our relationship as the

977
00:57:43,480 --> 00:57:46,920
Speaker 1: house one that we have to respect, we have to honor,

978
00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 1: we got to work at. But imagine being in a

979
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:53,840
Speaker 1: relationship with someone that us. You've used a relationship the

980
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:58,480
Speaker 1: same way, right, Like that becomes the foundation of like

981
00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 1: there's nothing more important us.

982
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 3: And there's a friendship at the foundation that is strong.

983
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 2: Why is that important?

984
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 3: Because you have to be able to you want to

985
00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 3: you love the person, but you also like the person,

986
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 3: Like we like hanging out. We could just be walking

987
00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 3: down the street. We don't need a whole lot. That's

988
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 3: a friend. I don't put on anything, you know, you know,

989
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't have to be I can

990
00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:28,600
Speaker 3: be mean. This is my friend. This is best friend,

991
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 3: you know. So I think that foundation that will help

992
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 3: weather storms right, their life is life.

993
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: I agree.

994
00:58:41,680 --> 00:58:45,080
Speaker 4: Y'all are blessing me today because I love to hear

995
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:49,000
Speaker 4: what the work sounds like, you know. And that's why

996
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 4: the prayer that I prayed before the episodes that y'all

997
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 4: will walk in vulnerability and that didn't know that that

998
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:57,160
Speaker 4: was the biggest struggle that you have that saying I

999
00:58:57,240 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 4: want to be vulnerable, but I know that being on

1000
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:05,480
Speaker 4: a platform and people of y'all's quote unquote prestige, that

1001
00:59:05,600 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 4: you'd be like, well, I gotta be careful. I don't

1002
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:09,000
Speaker 4: want to say this because I know people that's this

1003
00:59:09,080 --> 00:59:11,120
Speaker 4: and I'm working this deal out with these people.

1004
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 2: I want them to hear this part.

1005
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:15,480
Speaker 4: Of me, like all that nonsense and saying God, this

1006
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:20,000
Speaker 4: is for you. We are walking, living, breathing epistles, and

1007
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 4: I want to represent you, guy. And you said in

1008
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:24,600
Speaker 4: your word that people will overcome by the word of

1009
00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 4: my testimony, by the blood of the Lamb.

1010
00:59:26,400 --> 00:59:28,120
Speaker 2: So this is my opportunity to testify.

1011
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 4: So by thank y'all so much for showing up transparent

1012
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:34,920
Speaker 4: and vulnerable when you wrote the last couple of movies

1013
00:59:34,960 --> 00:59:39,680
Speaker 4: that was produced was Ruth and bo Ass and Relationship Goes.

1014
00:59:40,040 --> 00:59:43,160
Speaker 4: So what how did you get now pulled into the

1015
00:59:43,240 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 4: faith basedan rom coms?

1016
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:47,040
Speaker 2: So a great question.

1017
00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 1: So you know, I started as a writer, as you know,

1018
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 1: and in twenty thirteen I left writing full time to

1019
00:59:54,520 --> 00:59:58,160
Speaker 1: be an entrepreneur. So I went and I founded Hammering Elge,

1020
00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 1: growing shot for guys right one locate in La and

1021
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 1: grew it and the whole nine yards and there was

1022
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 1: a point.

1023
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 6: We grew it because I don't want to gloss over that.

1024
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:07,760
Speaker 6: I'll celebrate right now.

1025
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 1: So I grew. I mean today there's seventy locations across

1026
01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:15,480
Speaker 1: the country, right, and credit to the team that runs it.

1027
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 1: I'm not involved that way anymore. I've already exited. But

1028
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:24,480
Speaker 1: it started with one location and vision and faith, and

1029
01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 1: I grew it, began to franchise it, and it's just grown.

1030
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:30,240
Speaker 4: Oh, I want to take a step back because I

1031
01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 4: was going to talk about this earlier, about how God

1032
01:00:32,960 --> 01:00:37,080
Speaker 4: reveals his purpose through your purpose partner before they become

1033
01:00:37,160 --> 01:00:38,080
Speaker 4: your purpose partner.

1034
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 2: Wow. So what happened yes with y'all when y'all were

1035
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 2: first day?

1036
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:43,600
Speaker 1: Isn't that something?

1037
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:43,840
Speaker 4: So?

1038
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:50,280
Speaker 1: So in two thousand and thirteen, it was in March

1039
01:00:50,680 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 1: because the oscars were coming on, right, yep. And I

1040
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 1: was having something at my place with your friends, your

1041
01:00:56,320 --> 01:01:00,120
Speaker 1: family coming over, my friends, right, So that's Sunday. She

1042
01:01:00,200 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 1: took me to a nail salon. It was a crime scene. Yeah, no,

1043
01:01:08,800 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 1: I needed I needed a pedican.

1044
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 3: You need a hammer nails, But she she took me

1045
01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 3: to a nail salon.

1046
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:21,840
Speaker 1: In Santa Monica, and I remember when we walked into

1047
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:24,880
Speaker 1: a nail salon. I was offended because I don't like

1048
01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:28,360
Speaker 1: nail salon, Like I don't like how whenever I've gone

1049
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:30,240
Speaker 1: to a nail salon, the women would look at me like,

1050
01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 1: what are you doing here?

1051
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 2: This is our space?

1052
01:01:33,160 --> 01:01:33,280
Speaker 3: Right?

1053
01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:37,200
Speaker 1: I always felt uncomfortable. I always felt judged. Are you straight?

1054
01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:39,320
Speaker 1: Are you're not straight? Like why are you here?

1055
01:01:40,360 --> 01:01:43,320
Speaker 3: So I was really he was not happy with me.

1056
01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:47,480
Speaker 1: But in that moment, being in that nail salone with

1057
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:51,400
Speaker 1: the canary yellow walls and all the flowers and all

1058
01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:54,600
Speaker 1: the women, I thought, I wish there was a place

1059
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:58,040
Speaker 1: where a man could go where he didn't have to

1060
01:01:58,080 --> 01:02:00,680
Speaker 1: feel like I'm feeling right now, to go out of

1061
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: place and judged. And if there were such a place,

1062
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 1: here's God with a download. It should be called Hammer

1063
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:10,959
Speaker 1: and Nails grew me shot for guys. And I said,

1064
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:14,280
Speaker 1: I told idea the idea in that moment, and she said, I.

1065
01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:16,400
Speaker 3: Thought it was brilliant. That's really good.

1066
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:20,080
Speaker 1: By the way, she's the only person who thought it

1067
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:24,920
Speaker 1: was a good idea. Wow, not even my closest friends.

1068
01:02:25,400 --> 01:02:28,240
Speaker 1: Because I'm I'm in the entertainment business. What are you

1069
01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:29,040
Speaker 1: talking about?

1070
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:29,960
Speaker 3: What?

1071
01:02:30,400 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? She was the only person

1072
01:02:33,680 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 1: who said you should do it.

1073
01:02:35,560 --> 01:02:38,560
Speaker 3: It was ahead of his time at that time, men were.

1074
01:02:41,680 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 1: But yeah, it started with Ida, and I did something

1075
01:02:46,640 --> 01:02:51,080
Speaker 1: with that idea and six months later opened the first location.

1076
01:02:51,240 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 1: But she was the only one. So isn't it that

1077
01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:57,280
Speaker 1: it started with her? That's why I tell her all

1078
01:02:57,320 --> 01:03:00,720
Speaker 1: the time. She's my superpower right then in that moment,

1079
01:03:00,880 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 1: Now it's this national I mean I went to a

1080
01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:06,920
Speaker 1: Hammer and Nails and Dallas this million like random? Is that?

1081
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 2: Because?

1082
01:03:07,560 --> 01:03:10,840
Speaker 1: But it all started with the DA saying this is

1083
01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:13,680
Speaker 1: what you should do. So I left screenwriting full time

1084
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:17,960
Speaker 1: to focus on growing the business. And so when I

1085
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:21,520
Speaker 1: came back again, I'm a super faith guy.

1086
01:03:21,640 --> 01:03:23,120
Speaker 2: So when either the grand open and she wasn't there

1087
01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:26,280
Speaker 2: and I fell out, I was not.

1088
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:28,840
Speaker 3: But I was watching. I was always watching because I

1089
01:03:28,920 --> 01:03:31,040
Speaker 3: was so I was proud of you. He doesn't I

1090
01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 3: used to go to his Instagram too test the file.

1091
01:03:35,000 --> 01:03:37,960
Speaker 2: I was curious, Yes, So what did you think when

1092
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 2: you saw that he had opened this first case?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 5: And I did.

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Speaker 3: I did go by because I want to see and

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01:03:45,560 --> 01:03:47,600
Speaker 3: I said I should go by and just see it.

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01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:51,240
Speaker 3: Up close. And I came by and the lady was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: do you have a pointment? I said, oh no, I

1099
01:03:52,800 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 3: don't have appointment. And then I said, is Michael here

1100
01:03:55,480 --> 01:03:57,160
Speaker 3: and she said, oh no, he's not here right now.

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01:03:57,200 --> 01:03:59,160
Speaker 3: Would you like, what's your name? I said, oh no,

1102
01:03:59,240 --> 01:04:04,640
Speaker 3: it's She was like, no, what's your name? She was like,

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01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 3: I didn't get my name because I didn't want him

1104
01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 3: to know that being nosy my detective.

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01:04:09,680 --> 01:04:11,280
Speaker 2: That is definitely a movie scene.

1106
01:04:12,280 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 3: Don't worry about it.

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01:04:13,040 --> 01:04:18,880
Speaker 2: Don't later come back. Then he drives up as she's

1108
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:26,600
Speaker 2: walking off and pulling leaving. Yeah, and so again.

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Speaker 1: Man, So when I when I came back to writing,

1110
01:04:30,920 --> 01:04:33,200
Speaker 1: it felt like I knew I was going to write

1111
01:04:34,400 --> 01:04:38,040
Speaker 1: continue to write love stories, but I felt like I

1112
01:04:38,320 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 1: also needed to write love stories that are rooted in faith.

1113
01:04:42,960 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 1: I felt like, And so when Ruth and Boaz, the

1114
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:49,360
Speaker 1: idea for Ruth and Boas came to me, Actually it

1115
01:04:49,440 --> 01:04:52,680
Speaker 1: started with Divine, but the story came to me. I

1116
01:04:52,800 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 1: remember thinking again that like, perhaps everything that I've gone

1117
01:04:57,320 --> 01:05:01,240
Speaker 1: through was to prepare me write this story, because to me,

1118
01:05:01,320 --> 01:05:05,080
Speaker 1: I took it very seriously, like my mother's a Jehovah's witness. Right,

1119
01:05:05,880 --> 01:05:09,280
Speaker 1: So I grew up with knowing God. Right, I'm not

1120
01:05:09,320 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 1: a Jehovah's witness, but she is. And I bring that

1121
01:05:12,800 --> 01:05:16,160
Speaker 1: up because you know, I'm talking about writing, taking the

1122
01:05:16,360 --> 01:05:20,040
Speaker 1: story of Ruth and Boaz from the most important book

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01:05:20,160 --> 01:05:25,640
Speaker 1: of all time and reimagining that story to share with

1124
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:30,720
Speaker 1: the world. Right, that was a huge undertaking and responsibility,

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01:05:31,480 --> 01:05:34,000
Speaker 1: and I didn't take it lightly. And when I think

1126
01:05:34,040 --> 01:05:38,480
Speaker 1: about who Ruth Mobley was, right, so much of who

1127
01:05:38,600 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 1: she was was connected to my own experience. Like so,

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01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:45,600
Speaker 1: I remember being on a walk one day, I was

1129
01:05:45,680 --> 01:05:49,960
Speaker 1: in Georgia, and I called Devine and I had this

1130
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:52,800
Speaker 1: idea about one of the scenes, and I was like,

1131
01:05:53,160 --> 01:05:59,280
Speaker 1: it just occurred to me that I'm supposed to be

1132
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:02,800
Speaker 1: a writer of this story. I'm supposed to. It's always

1133
01:06:03,080 --> 01:06:05,880
Speaker 1: design for it to be me. So I just feel

1134
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:11,480
Speaker 1: like writing movies like that, It's just part of my purpose.

1135
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:13,760
Speaker 1: It's just part of my purpose, and I'm going to

1136
01:06:13,800 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 1: continue to do it. You know, I'm working on something.

1137
01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:18,560
Speaker 1: It hasn't been announced yet, but you know, I'm working

1138
01:06:18,640 --> 01:06:23,480
Speaker 1: on another faith infused love story. And I'll continue to

1139
01:06:23,600 --> 01:06:26,000
Speaker 1: be open to those types of idea.

1140
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:28,200
Speaker 2: How much writing that you do on relationship goals.

1141
01:06:29,080 --> 01:06:31,640
Speaker 1: So I was among the at the time that I

1142
01:06:31,720 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 1: started relationship goals, I was writing with my with a

1143
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 1: partner at the time, and so the very the story

1144
01:06:38,440 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 1: itself is what I created, and I was among the

1145
01:06:41,920 --> 01:06:44,520
Speaker 1: first the first drafts of that script was something that

1146
01:06:44,640 --> 01:06:46,080
Speaker 1: I did with Corey.

1147
01:06:46,840 --> 01:06:47,880
Speaker 2: Explain how does that work?

1148
01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:50,000
Speaker 4: Because a lot of times, you know, people don't they're

1149
01:06:50,080 --> 01:06:53,360
Speaker 4: not aware of how films are created. You can start

1150
01:06:53,400 --> 01:06:56,400
Speaker 4: off as the lead writer creating story. That's why you

1151
01:06:56,640 --> 01:06:59,760
Speaker 4: may see story by this person, but written by screenplay

1152
01:06:59,800 --> 01:07:02,440
Speaker 4: by this person. So break that down for those that

1153
01:07:02,560 --> 01:07:04,560
Speaker 4: are sparring screenwriters.

1154
01:07:04,800 --> 01:07:09,680
Speaker 1: I mean movies are they require a team effort. I

1155
01:07:09,760 --> 01:07:13,240
Speaker 1: mean oftentimes you'll see a movie like last night we

1156
01:07:13,280 --> 01:07:22,560
Speaker 1: went to see Michael we went saw But oftentimes, you know,

1157
01:07:22,800 --> 01:07:25,280
Speaker 1: you'll see a movie and there may be a writer

1158
01:07:26,280 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 1: that's credited, but there may have been other writers.

1159
01:07:30,000 --> 01:07:30,680
Speaker 2: It takes a lot.

1160
01:07:30,800 --> 01:07:34,640
Speaker 1: Listen, it takes a lot of people to create a

1161
01:07:34,720 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 1: movie that you'll remember. And it's just always been that way.

1162
01:07:39,160 --> 01:07:42,280
Speaker 1: You leave your ego in the closet somewhere and you

1163
01:07:42,520 --> 01:07:46,280
Speaker 1: you you your goal is I want to contribute to

1164
01:07:46,480 --> 01:07:49,080
Speaker 1: something great and something that I want to be proud

1165
01:07:49,120 --> 01:07:51,440
Speaker 1: of and and that's sort of the mindset. But that

1166
01:07:51,520 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 1: happens all the time. You collaborate with others, with other writers,

1167
01:07:54,560 --> 01:07:56,160
Speaker 1: so you've got to have a collaborative heart.

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01:07:56,480 --> 01:07:58,920
Speaker 4: So a lot of times when you see a single

1169
01:07:59,080 --> 01:08:02,680
Speaker 4: name writer on it, then how often do you believe

1170
01:08:02,960 --> 01:08:06,360
Speaker 4: or do you assume that only one writer wrote that,

1171
01:08:07,400 --> 01:08:07,880
Speaker 4: even though there.

1172
01:08:07,800 --> 01:08:09,520
Speaker 1: Are credit It's honestly hard to say.

1173
01:08:10,080 --> 01:08:11,880
Speaker 2: But are there a lot of situations where it is

1174
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:13,040
Speaker 2: one writer and they rose.

1175
01:08:13,400 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes, for example, you can have a movie and there

1176
01:08:17,120 --> 01:08:22,000
Speaker 1: could be a really important scene, like a speech, right

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01:08:22,160 --> 01:08:24,120
Speaker 1: like in a you know, think of some movie where

1178
01:08:24,160 --> 01:08:26,840
Speaker 1: there's a defining scene. It could be you could be

1179
01:08:26,880 --> 01:08:30,400
Speaker 1: watching Scarface, so you could be watching Whenever, loving basketball.

1180
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:35,840
Speaker 1: But sometimes there's a moment where that scene requires a

1181
01:08:35,960 --> 01:08:40,680
Speaker 1: specific voice. So a studio might go, I want to

1182
01:08:40,800 --> 01:08:47,799
Speaker 1: hire Lisa Jones, Yeah, just to punch up that scene.

1183
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:51,760
Speaker 1: That dialogue might be written by another writer, and it

1184
01:08:51,880 --> 01:08:55,920
Speaker 1: might be just that scene, or it might be maybe

1185
01:08:55,960 --> 01:08:59,160
Speaker 1: there's action involved and not a lot of action, but

1186
01:08:59,360 --> 01:09:02,080
Speaker 1: perhaps the producers of the studio might say, you know,

1187
01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:05,960
Speaker 1: I know a writer who's really good at coming up

1188
01:09:06,280 --> 01:09:10,400
Speaker 1: with action sequences to help in this area of the script.

1189
01:09:10,960 --> 01:09:15,439
Speaker 1: You never really know. Sometimes it's just you writing the

1190
01:09:15,560 --> 01:09:18,120
Speaker 1: whole movie. That's happened with me as well. But oftentimes,

1191
01:09:18,280 --> 01:09:21,040
Speaker 1: and by the way, like hopefully, you're surrounded by really

1192
01:09:21,080 --> 01:09:23,400
Speaker 1: bright people like I do this for a living right

1193
01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:26,360
Speaker 1: and behind the scenes before you when you see a

1194
01:09:26,400 --> 01:09:29,519
Speaker 1: finished product, there's a lot of smart and creative people

1195
01:09:30,160 --> 01:09:34,000
Speaker 1: that have had hours of conversations with you to help

1196
01:09:34,080 --> 01:09:36,639
Speaker 1: you get to this place. Because sometimes you're so close

1197
01:09:36,680 --> 01:09:38,639
Speaker 1: to the story you don't see something that you might

1198
01:09:38,720 --> 01:09:41,519
Speaker 1: see if you read it. So I'm just grateful. I

1199
01:09:41,640 --> 01:09:43,559
Speaker 1: was telling Ada the other day, I'm working on something

1200
01:09:43,600 --> 01:09:45,960
Speaker 1: in a new area, and I'm just like, I'm so

1201
01:09:46,160 --> 01:09:50,439
Speaker 1: glad that God led me to these specific producing partners

1202
01:09:50,439 --> 01:09:54,080
Speaker 1: because I had got like eight people, three of them

1203
01:09:54,080 --> 01:09:58,400
Speaker 1: are women, and they're all smart, and I get to

1204
01:09:58,479 --> 01:10:03,080
Speaker 1: be in these meetings with them discussing my product, and

1205
01:10:03,160 --> 01:10:05,960
Speaker 1: I'm able to glean stuff from them that I could

1206
01:10:06,040 --> 01:10:08,160
Speaker 1: use to refine it and making better. And that's what

1207
01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:08,519
Speaker 1: we do.

1208
01:10:09,439 --> 01:10:10,479
Speaker 3: Can I tease such just.

1209
01:10:10,479 --> 01:10:10,880
Speaker 2: A little bit.

1210
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:14,600
Speaker 3: I just want to tease one of the things, you

1211
01:10:15,280 --> 01:10:20,840
Speaker 3: guys understand this when love healthy, good love finds you,

1212
01:10:21,240 --> 01:10:25,679
Speaker 3: It explodes your life in ways. I call it God

1213
01:10:25,800 --> 01:10:31,040
Speaker 3: blessing you out blessing, and we're both experiencing blessing your

1214
01:10:31,160 --> 01:10:37,960
Speaker 3: ideas at this time. They are so great, better than

1215
01:10:39,080 --> 01:10:42,840
Speaker 3: right because all physically we're sitting in love, we're sitting

1216
01:10:42,920 --> 01:10:49,760
Speaker 3: in God's divine providence, and we're sitting in blessing from

1217
01:10:49,920 --> 01:10:55,240
Speaker 3: obedience and submission. So this is good. It's it's stays

1218
01:10:55,280 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 3: for the forgotten ones.

1219
01:10:58,040 --> 01:11:00,679
Speaker 2: So so what's going on with you from aer standpoint?

1220
01:11:00,920 --> 01:11:01,679
Speaker 2: Are you still doing?

1221
01:11:01,880 --> 01:11:01,920
Speaker 3: So?

1222
01:11:02,000 --> 01:11:03,479
Speaker 2: You don't do entertainment a lot anymore?

1223
01:11:03,560 --> 01:11:04,439
Speaker 1: I still do, Okay.

1224
01:11:04,479 --> 01:11:05,840
Speaker 4: So when you said that you don't do that, you

1225
01:11:05,920 --> 01:11:07,519
Speaker 4: were just you were just lying to a boy over there.

1226
01:11:07,560 --> 01:11:09,639
Speaker 4: When you said you said, talk send that script.

1227
01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:13,040
Speaker 3: Talk Why I don't submit on behalf of I don't

1228
01:11:13,080 --> 01:11:16,839
Speaker 3: do submissions of people's scripts, but I do read scripts.

1229
01:11:17,120 --> 01:11:21,600
Speaker 3: I do deals with clients. I also am more in

1230
01:11:21,720 --> 01:11:25,080
Speaker 3: the creative space, right, and so more of that coming

1231
01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:27,400
Speaker 3: for me. So creative, yeah, like producing.

1232
01:11:27,760 --> 01:11:29,640
Speaker 2: So so you said, hey, you want to be in

1233
01:11:29,760 --> 01:11:30,479
Speaker 2: on that side now?

1234
01:11:30,680 --> 01:11:35,320
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, because I'm creative too and I have I

1235
01:11:35,400 --> 01:11:38,960
Speaker 3: can get people together well and get their relationships.

1236
01:11:39,160 --> 01:11:39,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1237
01:11:39,479 --> 01:11:43,240
Speaker 3: Thanks, thinking about how to put the pieces together. I'm

1238
01:11:43,280 --> 01:11:43,680
Speaker 3: good at that.

1239
01:11:44,200 --> 01:11:45,960
Speaker 2: Let me ask you all this and now since y'all

1240
01:11:46,120 --> 01:11:51,400
Speaker 2: seeing this, you know hindsight is twenty twenty. Yeah, why

1241
01:11:51,479 --> 01:11:52,840
Speaker 2: did God bring y'all together?

1242
01:11:55,600 --> 01:11:59,920
Speaker 3: I'll tell you first good question. God has a great

1243
01:12:00,040 --> 01:12:04,000
Speaker 3: sense of humor. Is to show I think that what

1244
01:12:04,240 --> 01:12:07,920
Speaker 3: you think is for you? And how what's going to happen?

1245
01:12:08,200 --> 01:12:11,200
Speaker 3: He's like, no, no, no, no, I have something better,

1246
01:12:12,000 --> 01:12:17,040
Speaker 3: greater and right on time. So it's very important. He

1247
01:12:17,160 --> 01:12:21,240
Speaker 3: wants us to understand that we control nothing. The strokes

1248
01:12:21,280 --> 01:12:26,840
Speaker 3: are his. He gives us a canvas, a brush and paint,

1249
01:12:26,960 --> 01:12:28,000
Speaker 3: but the strokes are all his.

1250
01:12:31,960 --> 01:12:34,920
Speaker 2: The strokes are his. Ye, what about you? Why?

1251
01:12:37,400 --> 01:12:41,760
Speaker 1: Oh wow? I mean beyond just wanting the best for us,

1252
01:12:43,400 --> 01:12:48,040
Speaker 1: I think he wants to show other people who believe

1253
01:12:48,120 --> 01:12:53,479
Speaker 1: in him just what he's capable of doing. That we

1254
01:12:53,680 --> 01:12:55,840
Speaker 1: get to and we pray about this that like as

1255
01:12:55,920 --> 01:13:00,479
Speaker 1: we move, we want to be a light, and like

1256
01:13:00,960 --> 01:13:03,160
Speaker 1: you know, we hear often I'm gonna keep it one hundred.

1257
01:13:03,439 --> 01:13:05,880
Speaker 1: We were talking to someone the other day and she says,

1258
01:13:06,520 --> 01:13:09,440
Speaker 1: when I saw your engagement video, I felt.

1259
01:13:10,840 --> 01:13:11,080
Speaker 3: Love.

1260
01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:14,799
Speaker 1: I felt a certain way when I saw your shower

1261
01:13:15,000 --> 01:13:19,800
Speaker 1: I felt a certain way. There's no acting here, Like

1262
01:13:19,960 --> 01:13:23,720
Speaker 1: what you sense with us is authentic, and we give

1263
01:13:23,800 --> 01:13:26,439
Speaker 1: him all the glory. We know we wouldn't be together

1264
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:29,840
Speaker 1: without him, and I think that's why he wants us

1265
01:13:29,960 --> 01:13:33,680
Speaker 1: together at this stage of our lives, to move and

1266
01:13:33,800 --> 01:13:38,479
Speaker 1: draw attention to him and understand how to have the

1267
01:13:38,680 --> 01:13:43,160
Speaker 1: joy that we have every morning. And we are like,

1268
01:13:44,280 --> 01:13:47,240
Speaker 1: we're not perfect, but there are things that we are

1269
01:13:47,320 --> 01:13:51,760
Speaker 1: intentional about doing. Like we take a we call it

1270
01:13:51,920 --> 01:13:55,919
Speaker 1: walking talk every morning. Unless she's traveling or I'm traveling,

1271
01:13:56,720 --> 01:14:01,240
Speaker 1: we begin each day on a walk and we walk

1272
01:14:01,280 --> 01:14:05,519
Speaker 1: and talk. And it's not like heavy every day. Sometimes

1273
01:14:05,560 --> 01:14:07,160
Speaker 1: it's about what we saw on TV the.

1274
01:14:07,240 --> 01:14:11,519
Speaker 3: Night before, but sometimes it's heavier, Right, it depends on

1275
01:14:11,600 --> 01:14:15,719
Speaker 3: what's going on, and that having that time is emotional

1276
01:14:15,840 --> 01:14:19,400
Speaker 3: intimacy and that helps us a lot. Because no cell

1277
01:14:19,479 --> 01:14:20,599
Speaker 3: phones is no cell.

1278
01:14:20,439 --> 01:14:22,400
Speaker 1: Phone policy, we don't take the cell phones. But we

1279
01:14:22,600 --> 01:14:24,760
Speaker 1: do this every morning. Mind you, we're together all the time.

1280
01:14:24,840 --> 01:14:27,759
Speaker 1: We both work from home, but we start the mornings

1281
01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:29,760
Speaker 1: on a walk and talk and it's just one of

1282
01:14:29,840 --> 01:14:33,080
Speaker 1: our rituals that we do. I've never done that before

1283
01:14:33,680 --> 01:14:39,080
Speaker 1: that we we it's important to us of having rituals

1284
01:14:39,120 --> 01:14:42,920
Speaker 1: of intimacy that throughout the day, randomly one of us

1285
01:14:42,960 --> 01:14:45,320
Speaker 1: will come to the other and say, let's hug.

1286
01:14:46,680 --> 01:14:47,680
Speaker 3: He likes to hug.

1287
01:14:48,880 --> 01:14:55,240
Speaker 1: It's it's just a moment to connect. It's sixty seconds. Yes,

1288
01:14:56,360 --> 01:14:58,200
Speaker 1: it does. Wonder if you do that every day though,

1289
01:14:58,640 --> 01:15:02,720
Speaker 1: and you're making deposits, yeah, into your relationships, so that

1290
01:15:02,920 --> 01:15:09,640
Speaker 1: when miscommunication happens, great differences occur, like we remember what

1291
01:15:09,840 --> 01:15:11,120
Speaker 1: this is really all about.

1292
01:15:12,080 --> 01:15:13,519
Speaker 6: And but that takes me and you know in the

1293
01:15:13,520 --> 01:15:15,599
Speaker 6: middle of the day that if it's like whatever time

1294
01:15:15,640 --> 01:15:17,600
Speaker 6: it is supposed to be, even if you're upset, you

1295
01:15:17,680 --> 01:15:20,920
Speaker 6: got to go give that hug. Yes, it's a ritual,

1296
01:15:21,000 --> 01:15:21,560
Speaker 6: don't break it.

1297
01:15:21,800 --> 01:15:24,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, y'all have a ritual called walk and talk. As

1298
01:15:24,400 --> 01:15:26,160
Speaker 4: we're gonna start our own rituals. It's gonna be called

1299
01:15:26,240 --> 01:15:30,240
Speaker 4: lay in state. You're gonna wake up in the morning.

1300
01:15:30,280 --> 01:15:34,920
Speaker 2: We lay stayed.

1301
01:15:38,800 --> 01:15:42,560
Speaker 4: Listen, man, I want you to grab So June the

1302
01:15:42,640 --> 01:15:44,080
Speaker 4: twenty sixth is the big day.

1303
01:15:46,080 --> 01:15:46,759
Speaker 2: In Ballibu.

1304
01:15:47,080 --> 01:15:49,000
Speaker 4: How many how many people on the guest List's gonna

1305
01:15:49,000 --> 01:15:54,160
Speaker 4: be a big wedding some intimate you know it's okay,

1306
01:15:54,520 --> 01:15:55,120
Speaker 4: so it's gonna be.

1307
01:15:55,760 --> 01:15:58,519
Speaker 1: Not everyone and everyone not everyone we love and know

1308
01:15:59,560 --> 01:15:59,920
Speaker 1: can come.

1309
01:16:00,280 --> 01:16:02,639
Speaker 4: Explain that because a lot of times people be taking

1310
01:16:02,680 --> 01:16:04,639
Speaker 4: it personally, Like I already took it personally that y'all

1311
01:16:04,800 --> 01:16:06,880
Speaker 4: invite us it's our first time meeting.

1312
01:16:07,280 --> 01:16:07,920
Speaker 2: Took it personally.

1313
01:16:08,360 --> 01:16:10,879
Speaker 4: You know, people be feeling like they're supposed to be invited.

1314
01:16:11,800 --> 01:16:14,360
Speaker 4: And so she and I went through that in November.

1315
01:16:14,439 --> 01:16:16,560
Speaker 4: You try to invite as many people as possible, or

1316
01:16:16,680 --> 01:16:18,920
Speaker 4: you may say, well this needs to be more intimate

1317
01:16:19,000 --> 01:16:22,400
Speaker 4: or whatever. How would you explain that to the people

1318
01:16:22,560 --> 01:16:25,240
Speaker 4: who that you wanted to be there, but you just

1319
01:16:25,800 --> 01:16:27,200
Speaker 4: couldn't invite everybody.

1320
01:16:27,520 --> 01:16:35,880
Speaker 8: There's a budget, budget the fact everyone every person that comes,

1321
01:16:36,560 --> 01:16:40,160
Speaker 8: that's at and so I mean, you know, while we

1322
01:16:40,240 --> 01:16:40,920
Speaker 8: were liked.

1323
01:16:40,880 --> 01:16:44,760
Speaker 3: I struggle with this. I went through five or six

1324
01:16:45,040 --> 01:16:49,800
Speaker 3: iterations of my guest list. It was very painstakingly hard

1325
01:16:50,360 --> 01:16:53,800
Speaker 3: because you love people, but everyone can't come. There is

1326
01:16:53,880 --> 01:16:56,920
Speaker 3: a budget, but it's hard.

1327
01:16:57,040 --> 01:16:59,639
Speaker 4: And then I want to encourage people who didn't get invited,

1328
01:16:59,800 --> 01:17:01,880
Speaker 4: just to know that don't take it personally, you know

1329
01:17:01,920 --> 01:17:04,840
Speaker 4: what I'm saying, because you'll be offended to if they said,

1330
01:17:04,920 --> 01:17:06,280
Speaker 4: all right, this is a cost.

1331
01:17:06,640 --> 01:17:08,720
Speaker 2: I want everybody to pay your way and they be like,

1332
01:17:08,880 --> 01:17:09,360
Speaker 2: I can't.

1333
01:17:09,160 --> 01:17:12,160
Speaker 7: Believe you're gonna charge me ye hundred dollars before I

1334
01:17:12,160 --> 01:17:14,439
Speaker 7: ain't gonna come to your wedding and be like, well,

1335
01:17:14,680 --> 01:17:17,080
Speaker 7: that's what I'm essentially doing for you. So at the

1336
01:17:17,200 --> 01:17:19,599
Speaker 7: end of the day, I hear a lot of people

1337
01:17:19,680 --> 01:17:22,040
Speaker 7: that fall out with people because they didn't get invited

1338
01:17:22,120 --> 01:17:25,120
Speaker 7: and all that, and just give people grace, grace and

1339
01:17:25,320 --> 01:17:28,680
Speaker 7: understanding and just know that they and the way that

1340
01:17:28,800 --> 01:17:31,760
Speaker 7: you stay involved in it is by just celebrating them.

1341
01:17:31,920 --> 01:17:35,040
Speaker 4: Just in celebrate You're just celebrating. Be like, listen, I

1342
01:17:35,160 --> 01:17:37,080
Speaker 4: wasn't there in the room with you, but I'm online

1343
01:17:37,200 --> 01:17:37,800
Speaker 4: celebrates you.

1344
01:17:37,960 --> 01:17:39,760
Speaker 2: I saw your video. I'm celebrated.

1345
01:17:40,120 --> 01:17:42,479
Speaker 4: I'm gonna send your DM I'm gonna send your text message,

1346
01:17:42,479 --> 01:17:45,439
Speaker 4: I'm gonna call you and celebrate you, you know, instead

1347
01:17:45,479 --> 01:17:47,680
Speaker 4: of getting walking in the fence. And so that's that's

1348
01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:50,280
Speaker 4: extremely important. Well I want you to do is grab

1349
01:17:50,720 --> 01:17:52,360
Speaker 4: Well before we do this, I want to ask you

1350
01:17:52,600 --> 01:17:53,439
Speaker 4: how can people.

1351
01:17:53,240 --> 01:17:54,160
Speaker 2: Be connected to y'all?

1352
01:17:54,920 --> 01:17:59,639
Speaker 3: My Instagram is at a z M E sq Yeah

1353
01:18:00,080 --> 01:18:01,160
Speaker 3: in my squire.

1354
01:18:01,479 --> 01:18:06,080
Speaker 1: Yes, my instagram is I am Michael Elliott.

1355
01:18:06,320 --> 01:18:08,519
Speaker 4: He said, Just to be clear, I am Michael Elliott

1356
01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:11,960
Speaker 4: On that part, all right, So grab the box and

1357
01:18:12,080 --> 01:18:14,320
Speaker 4: I want y'all it's a piece of paper and the

1358
01:18:14,400 --> 01:18:15,800
Speaker 4: key in the market there.

1359
01:18:15,960 --> 01:18:16,840
Speaker 2: You grab the whole box.

1360
01:18:16,880 --> 01:18:18,280
Speaker 4: You can take the whole thing so I can write

1361
01:18:18,320 --> 01:18:20,000
Speaker 4: on top of it, and I want you all to

1362
01:18:20,040 --> 01:18:23,080
Speaker 4: write a key to love. Now, Michael, don't be trying

1363
01:18:23,080 --> 01:18:26,120
Speaker 4: to outdo everybody that one, you know, because your whole

1364
01:18:26,200 --> 01:18:27,200
Speaker 4: rite out here in the streets.

1365
01:18:27,479 --> 01:18:28,160
Speaker 3: This is not fair.

1366
01:18:28,560 --> 01:18:29,400
Speaker 2: That's not fair at all.

1367
01:18:31,600 --> 01:18:32,520
Speaker 1: So many.

1368
01:18:34,720 --> 01:18:37,200
Speaker 4: You know you can you grab it and right on

1369
01:18:37,240 --> 01:18:40,120
Speaker 4: top of the box, you close it up, okay, yeah,

1370
01:18:40,920 --> 01:18:42,240
Speaker 4: and then just write.

1371
01:18:45,640 --> 01:18:50,360
Speaker 2: And then just sign your name on it. As what

1372
01:18:50,520 --> 01:18:51,679
Speaker 2: you think about this episode.

1373
01:18:52,560 --> 01:18:56,280
Speaker 6: I just think that this is going to be super special.

1374
01:18:58,240 --> 01:19:01,000
Speaker 6: I think it's going to touch parts in a very

1375
01:19:01,160 --> 01:19:05,040
Speaker 6: unique way and provide hope to so.

1376
01:19:05,160 --> 01:19:08,000
Speaker 3: Many of our people. And I am excited about that.

1377
01:19:08,400 --> 01:19:10,840
Speaker 2: What about you, Well, I don't know, you know.

1378
01:19:10,920 --> 01:19:13,840
Speaker 4: I just first of all, I think it's an honor

1379
01:19:13,920 --> 01:19:17,400
Speaker 4: that we got this exclusive with him, and the fact

1380
01:19:17,560 --> 01:19:20,480
Speaker 4: that they just showed up and delivered.

1381
01:19:20,840 --> 01:19:21,719
Speaker 2: I love that they.

1382
01:19:21,720 --> 01:19:26,240
Speaker 4: Walk and authenticity and vulnerability and transparency. I love the

1383
01:19:26,360 --> 01:19:29,599
Speaker 4: connection that I have with Michael from me torn shows

1384
01:19:29,600 --> 01:19:32,280
Speaker 4: across the country as a playwright, director, and producer of

1385
01:19:32,360 --> 01:19:36,519
Speaker 4: love stories. And and I'm on the cuspa, been shopping

1386
01:19:36,640 --> 01:19:40,200
Speaker 4: my first movie, you know. And so it's so cool

1387
01:19:40,280 --> 01:19:42,680
Speaker 4: to just sit down at the at the feet of

1388
01:19:42,840 --> 01:19:46,320
Speaker 4: this of this legend right here and just see his

1389
01:19:46,600 --> 01:19:49,960
Speaker 4: journey of writing and the fact that what I love

1390
01:19:50,080 --> 01:19:52,360
Speaker 4: about him is that he said, I ain't going to

1391
01:19:52,360 --> 01:19:54,200
Speaker 4: school for none of this. I just wrote a film.

1392
01:19:54,360 --> 01:19:57,519
Speaker 4: And brown Sugar is a staple, you know what I'm saying.

1393
01:19:57,600 --> 01:20:00,479
Speaker 4: Brown Sugar is that movie. And so to know he

1394
01:20:00,600 --> 01:20:03,240
Speaker 4: did that, like Mike all this other stuff he's been done.

1395
01:20:03,240 --> 01:20:05,280
Speaker 4: He's done a lot of movies. And to sit back

1396
01:20:05,360 --> 01:20:08,639
Speaker 4: and say, this is a kingdom minded man. I don't

1397
01:20:08,640 --> 01:20:11,200
Speaker 4: know if he's always been keendom minded, but he became

1398
01:20:11,280 --> 01:20:14,120
Speaker 4: keen to minded. Now, yes that's true, but he's a

1399
01:20:14,240 --> 01:20:17,240
Speaker 4: Kingdom minded man. And that's where God says, I know

1400
01:20:17,439 --> 01:20:19,840
Speaker 4: the plans that I have you to give you a

1401
01:20:19,920 --> 01:20:22,439
Speaker 4: future and you know, and a great reward. And just

1402
01:20:22,520 --> 01:20:25,599
Speaker 4: to see that God's hand has been over his life

1403
01:20:25,920 --> 01:20:29,599
Speaker 4: every since the beginning of his writing his first love story.

1404
01:20:29,640 --> 01:20:31,760
Speaker 4: And like you said, God said, I know I see

1405
01:20:31,800 --> 01:20:33,000
Speaker 4: you over here writing the love stories.

1406
01:20:33,280 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 2: I'm allowing you.

1407
01:20:34,439 --> 01:20:37,120
Speaker 4: To write these love stories so that I can make

1408
01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:39,840
Speaker 4: your heart tender, so that when I bring the love

1409
01:20:39,960 --> 01:20:42,680
Speaker 4: into your life, then now you can recognize it, that

1410
01:20:42,800 --> 01:20:45,760
Speaker 4: you can step into your own story because I am

1411
01:20:45,840 --> 01:20:46,680
Speaker 4: the great screenwriter.

1412
01:20:47,080 --> 01:20:49,200
Speaker 2: And so God said, I got you. And so that's

1413
01:20:49,240 --> 01:20:50,519
Speaker 2: what's so beautiful about it.

1414
01:20:50,600 --> 01:20:52,920
Speaker 4: But he had to take him on this trajectory to

1415
01:20:53,080 --> 01:20:55,320
Speaker 4: open up his heart, to soften his heart, to massage

1416
01:20:55,400 --> 01:20:58,560
Speaker 4: his heart, and to make him almost envious of the

1417
01:20:58,640 --> 01:21:01,920
Speaker 4: love stories that he wrote. Yes see, God had to

1418
01:21:02,000 --> 01:21:04,560
Speaker 4: make him envious of the stories that he wrote so

1419
01:21:04,680 --> 01:21:06,920
Speaker 4: he can recognize and be like, God, why can't you

1420
01:21:07,000 --> 01:21:07,439
Speaker 4: do it for me?

1421
01:21:07,560 --> 01:21:10,000
Speaker 2: And God said, now you want me? Now you want me?

1422
01:21:10,640 --> 01:21:11,479
Speaker 2: Oh I got you?

1423
01:21:11,520 --> 01:21:13,120
Speaker 4: Then, bro, I'm gonna need you to submit. I need

1424
01:21:13,160 --> 01:21:15,280
Speaker 4: you to humble yourself. Yes, did you walk through this

1425
01:21:15,360 --> 01:21:17,679
Speaker 4: healing journey? I need you to go ahead and bow

1426
01:21:17,800 --> 01:21:19,960
Speaker 4: before me. I need to be able to take you

1427
01:21:20,080 --> 01:21:22,200
Speaker 4: from where you are, the pain that you've been through,

1428
01:21:22,439 --> 01:21:25,280
Speaker 4: the way you may have been mishandled emotionally and psychologically

1429
01:21:25,360 --> 01:21:27,439
Speaker 4: as a child. And now I'm going to birth this

1430
01:21:27,520 --> 01:21:29,479
Speaker 4: grown man, and now you're going to be able to

1431
01:21:29,520 --> 01:21:31,400
Speaker 4: write a love Now watch this love stories that he

1432
01:21:31,479 --> 01:21:33,479
Speaker 4: writes now on watch watch what.

1433
01:21:33,640 --> 01:21:42,400
Speaker 2: He writing now, Watch what he writes now, Watch what

1434
01:21:42,520 --> 01:21:46,479
Speaker 2: he writes now is going to blow people's minds. That part.

1435
01:21:47,200 --> 01:21:48,560
Speaker 3: So I want you to go ahead and read the

1436
01:21:48,680 --> 01:21:52,439
Speaker 3: Key to Love that you love always go toward each

1437
01:21:52,520 --> 01:21:56,920
Speaker 3: other and you are on the same team.

1438
01:21:57,320 --> 01:21:59,040
Speaker 2: God bless, why is that important?

1439
01:21:59,200 --> 01:22:06,400
Speaker 3: Pull a microphone cloth about communication? Don't pull away, go

1440
01:22:06,760 --> 01:22:11,320
Speaker 3: forward to your love because that's where the love resides.

1441
01:22:11,920 --> 01:22:14,439
Speaker 2: It is with each other where you're running the track star.

1442
01:22:14,640 --> 01:22:17,280
Speaker 4: You know how they say, were you the type of

1443
01:22:17,360 --> 01:22:19,960
Speaker 4: person that always ran from from from relationships?

1444
01:22:19,960 --> 01:22:20,840
Speaker 1: You know what I was not?

1445
01:22:21,280 --> 01:22:24,360
Speaker 3: I had a block, you know it was you know

1446
01:22:24,479 --> 01:22:27,120
Speaker 3: I got it and all that stuff, but I didn't

1447
01:22:27,160 --> 01:22:31,839
Speaker 3: have it right. And you can't go forward if you're blinded,

1448
01:22:32,320 --> 01:22:35,680
Speaker 3: Like take off the blindfold. You gotta see. You got

1449
01:22:35,800 --> 01:22:38,559
Speaker 3: to be free to love and open the heart posture.

1450
01:22:39,160 --> 01:22:40,960
Speaker 4: So he's he's really helped me with I want to

1451
01:22:40,960 --> 01:22:42,960
Speaker 4: ask you this before I asked him, miss key, is

1452
01:22:43,520 --> 01:22:46,840
Speaker 4: how hard was it to go from this misindependent woman

1453
01:22:47,160 --> 01:22:49,960
Speaker 4: to acquiesce to allow this man to lead you?

1454
01:22:50,520 --> 01:22:50,800
Speaker 5: Wow?

1455
01:22:51,120 --> 01:22:54,519
Speaker 6: And also you said spicy Mary's name And we watched

1456
01:22:54,600 --> 01:22:55,200
Speaker 6: the show that.

1457
01:22:55,360 --> 01:22:57,320
Speaker 2: She was what is do you know?

1458
01:22:57,400 --> 01:23:01,200
Speaker 6: The next she was on the show on Netflix and

1459
01:23:01,320 --> 01:23:04,160
Speaker 6: so we're familiar with her. But how did like even

1460
01:23:04,360 --> 01:23:07,080
Speaker 6: just seeking out like a coach to help you? I

1461
01:23:07,200 --> 01:23:08,639
Speaker 6: wanted to ask, like, how did that help?

1462
01:23:09,600 --> 01:23:14,160
Speaker 3: Tremendously? It helps because you can't see you need a

1463
01:23:14,240 --> 01:23:18,360
Speaker 3: mirror and you can't see yourself without the mirror. So

1464
01:23:18,439 --> 01:23:20,519
Speaker 3: it helped me see some things. A lot of things

1465
01:23:20,560 --> 01:23:23,920
Speaker 3: that I was were blocks for me, and so that

1466
01:23:24,200 --> 01:23:28,200
Speaker 3: was one. And I think just being in I used

1467
01:23:28,240 --> 01:23:30,799
Speaker 3: to he found the journal. I wrote in a journal,

1468
01:23:32,439 --> 01:23:37,280
Speaker 3: but everything I wrote was intangible. He loves God, he

1469
01:23:37,479 --> 01:23:43,599
Speaker 3: is kind, he is consistent, he's loyal, he's a friend,

1470
01:23:43,880 --> 01:23:48,479
Speaker 3: he loves family. I was very specific. He's successful, he's

1471
01:23:48,600 --> 01:23:51,679
Speaker 3: you know, just in his way right. I didn't want

1472
01:23:51,920 --> 01:23:54,920
Speaker 3: I wanted to make sure that I was clear. And

1473
01:23:55,240 --> 01:23:58,760
Speaker 3: God heard my heart, knew my heart. But he gave

1474
01:23:58,880 --> 01:24:01,000
Speaker 3: me that, He gave me the desires.

1475
01:24:00,640 --> 01:24:01,080
Speaker 1: Of my heart.

1476
01:24:01,120 --> 01:24:04,160
Speaker 3: But having it, I would look and reference it, reference

1477
01:24:04,240 --> 01:24:07,160
Speaker 3: it often. He accidentally found it helping me clean up.

1478
01:24:07,560 --> 01:24:08,479
Speaker 3: And what did you say?

1479
01:24:08,960 --> 01:24:10,800
Speaker 1: I said, God, here's a sense of human because this

1480
01:24:10,880 --> 01:24:13,639
Speaker 1: is me. It's always look.

1481
01:24:13,520 --> 01:24:14,280
Speaker 2: At you just writing me?

1482
01:24:14,439 --> 01:24:17,760
Speaker 4: Right, now this is me, you write about me, she laughing,

1483
01:24:17,760 --> 01:24:20,320
Speaker 4: because I told her that same thing. She will write

1484
01:24:20,320 --> 01:24:23,920
Speaker 4: a letter to her future self. And I'm writing a

1485
01:24:24,000 --> 01:24:26,080
Speaker 4: letter to my future wifey. And then she was writing

1486
01:24:26,080 --> 01:24:27,200
Speaker 4: a letter to her future self.

1487
01:24:27,240 --> 01:24:28,000
Speaker 2: And so the year.

1488
01:24:27,960 --> 01:24:30,680
Speaker 4: Before, where you tell your story, you tell well, the

1489
01:24:30,760 --> 01:24:33,760
Speaker 4: year before we end up like dating on going on

1490
01:24:33,840 --> 01:24:36,360
Speaker 4: our first date. She had wrote to herself, my birthday's

1491
01:24:36,400 --> 01:24:39,160
Speaker 4: March twenty ninth. Her birthday's March thirty first, and so

1492
01:24:39,360 --> 01:24:41,640
Speaker 4: she wrote, so she'll write a letter to herself and

1493
01:24:41,760 --> 01:24:44,920
Speaker 4: open it up on her next birthday. And so she wrote,

1494
01:24:45,160 --> 01:24:48,000
Speaker 4: the man that is standing before you right now is

1495
01:24:48,080 --> 01:24:50,840
Speaker 4: basically sent by God. Don't be afraid to embrace it.

1496
01:24:51,240 --> 01:24:54,320
Speaker 4: And so in twenty twenty five, she opens up this

1497
01:24:54,479 --> 01:24:56,880
Speaker 4: letter and reads it. We go on our first date,

1498
01:24:57,160 --> 01:24:59,840
Speaker 4: made the eighteen, I mean March the eighteenth, after me

1499
01:25:00,160 --> 01:25:04,040
Speaker 4: each other in November of twenty twenty three, and so

1500
01:25:04,760 --> 01:25:06,680
Speaker 4: we were just friends and just be tinning friends. But

1501
01:25:06,760 --> 01:25:08,640
Speaker 4: then March came around. I took on the first date,

1502
01:25:08,720 --> 01:25:12,760
Speaker 4: March eighteenth. And then she opens this letter up Mars

1503
01:25:12,840 --> 01:25:15,479
Speaker 4: is thirty first, and said, because I told her, I said,

1504
01:25:15,479 --> 01:25:18,120
Speaker 4: this is the last birthday because like she was a

1505
01:25:18,160 --> 01:25:18,719
Speaker 4: hard cookie.

1506
01:25:18,920 --> 01:25:20,760
Speaker 2: But I was like, I said, this is the last

1507
01:25:20,840 --> 01:25:23,160
Speaker 2: birthday that we're gonna spend apart.

1508
01:25:23,439 --> 01:25:26,840
Speaker 4: Like you, my woman, I'm finna put a hard core press,

1509
01:25:26,960 --> 01:25:29,280
Speaker 4: I mean full core press on you, like this is

1510
01:25:29,360 --> 01:25:29,720
Speaker 4: what it is.

1511
01:25:30,000 --> 01:25:31,280
Speaker 2: You gonna have to get rid of me, you know

1512
01:25:31,320 --> 01:25:32,640
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. And I told her this.

1513
01:25:32,760 --> 01:25:34,559
Speaker 4: I said, if this don't work out, it's gonna because

1514
01:25:34,560 --> 01:25:36,080
Speaker 4: of you, because I'm gonna do everything in my power

1515
01:25:36,160 --> 01:25:36,800
Speaker 4: to make this work.

1516
01:25:37,479 --> 01:25:39,320
Speaker 2: Either you just don't want it, you just don't want it,

1517
01:25:39,360 --> 01:25:39,960
Speaker 2: I can deal with that.

1518
01:25:40,240 --> 01:25:42,840
Speaker 4: I'm like, Michael, I'm like, listen, if you don't want

1519
01:25:42,920 --> 01:25:44,759
Speaker 4: me and this ain't gonna work out, this is fine,

1520
01:25:45,120 --> 01:25:46,960
Speaker 4: but you gonna know you're gonna be able to say

1521
01:25:47,479 --> 01:25:50,519
Speaker 4: I was dated with intention Now this man made his

1522
01:25:50,680 --> 01:25:53,920
Speaker 4: request known. He told me where he stood. I didn't

1523
01:25:53,920 --> 01:25:55,679
Speaker 4: move to LA but I took a flight on Mars

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01:25:55,720 --> 01:25:58,720
Speaker 4: eighteen LA. I didn't move out there. I just flew

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Speaker 4: out there.

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Speaker 3: I said, But now you live out there.

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Speaker 5: Half the time.

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Speaker 2: So I said, this is what it's going to be.

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Speaker 4: And at the end of the day, that's what I'm

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01:26:08,240 --> 01:26:10,880
Speaker 4: talking about, is how men leave with intentionality and So

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01:26:11,840 --> 01:26:13,760
Speaker 4: my question to you is how hard was it for

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Speaker 4: you to go back?

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Speaker 2: I mean, to go into a place where you allow

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01:26:16,840 --> 01:26:17,920
Speaker 2: this king to lead.

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Speaker 3: It's hard at first because I am used to I

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01:26:22,120 --> 01:26:25,840
Speaker 3: leave myself, and so I had to make room for him,

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01:26:26,439 --> 01:26:29,560
Speaker 3: give him space to do that, and I enjoy I

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01:26:29,720 --> 01:26:33,560
Speaker 3: love that. He's my protection. I've never had that, you know,

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01:26:33,720 --> 01:26:36,400
Speaker 3: like a fool, like that's my you know, I mean,

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01:26:36,479 --> 01:26:42,400
Speaker 3: it's it's great, that's my man. Yes, sometimes we're together

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01:26:42,560 --> 01:26:46,120
Speaker 3: and he comes in a room because I forget. It's

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01:26:46,200 --> 01:26:54,840
Speaker 3: like he's you have to get used to that. May

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01:26:55,040 --> 01:26:59,160
Speaker 3: your husband to be in like right there, and it's

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01:27:00,040 --> 01:27:02,200
Speaker 3: it's just you keep getting used to it. But I

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01:27:02,320 --> 01:27:04,120
Speaker 3: love it. I don't have to touch the trash.

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01:27:06,479 --> 01:27:10,320
Speaker 2: Now, you don't make the bad I'm over sharing.

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01:27:11,960 --> 01:27:13,120
Speaker 1: Because I enjoyed making the bed.

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01:27:13,760 --> 01:27:16,960
Speaker 3: It's good organized, you know.

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01:27:18,760 --> 01:27:21,840
Speaker 2: Go ahead, it's been I love it. What's your what's

1550
01:27:21,840 --> 01:27:23,160
Speaker 2: your key to love? Man?

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01:27:23,240 --> 01:27:24,040
Speaker 1: So I have a couple.

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01:27:24,400 --> 01:27:24,759
Speaker 2: Go ahead.

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01:27:25,479 --> 01:27:30,840
Speaker 1: But the first thought was forgiveness because my mother says

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01:27:30,880 --> 01:27:33,920
Speaker 1: something so fast forward. Today I have a beautiful relationship

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01:27:34,000 --> 01:27:37,720
Speaker 1: with my mother right it's transformative. I couldn't be here

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01:27:37,880 --> 01:27:41,639
Speaker 1: without that relationship. But it took me forgiving. My mother

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01:27:41,720 --> 01:27:49,519
Speaker 1: said to me, forgiveness it's freeing, so without it in

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01:27:49,640 --> 01:27:53,320
Speaker 1: my case, and I'm certain there's some people watching that

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01:27:53,439 --> 01:27:57,280
Speaker 1: have people in their lives that they have not forgiven.

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01:27:58,640 --> 01:28:02,960
Speaker 1: Forgiveness is for you, and you need to be able

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01:28:03,040 --> 01:28:07,160
Speaker 1: to forgive because when you get into a marriage, you

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01:28:07,240 --> 01:28:10,160
Speaker 1: get into a relationship, you're going to have to forgive

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01:28:10,680 --> 01:28:15,080
Speaker 1: all the time. Your plan is to be married and

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01:28:15,200 --> 01:28:17,799
Speaker 1: spend every day for the rest of your lives together.

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01:28:18,560 --> 01:28:20,880
Speaker 1: Do you know what kind of heart you need to

1566
01:28:21,040 --> 01:28:24,400
Speaker 1: have to be able to because she's not you, You're

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01:28:24,479 --> 01:28:30,000
Speaker 1: not her, so forgivenesses is critical. The other thing I

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01:28:30,080 --> 01:28:33,840
Speaker 1: wrote down was super faith. And the reason why I

1569
01:28:33,960 --> 01:28:38,520
Speaker 1: mentioned super faith again is because sometimes we're in relationships

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01:28:39,479 --> 01:28:44,120
Speaker 1: that aren't the ones that God intended for us, but

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01:28:44,280 --> 01:28:49,000
Speaker 1: we stay because of two things. Either we don't think

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01:28:49,080 --> 01:28:51,920
Speaker 1: we could do better or we don't think we can

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01:28:51,960 --> 01:28:57,080
Speaker 1: deserve better. But here's the problem both of them. You're

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01:28:57,160 --> 01:29:01,639
Speaker 1: lacking faith because which saying to God is I'm willing

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01:29:01,720 --> 01:29:06,600
Speaker 1: to deal with this brother who's ghosting me, who's inconsistent,

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01:29:07,200 --> 01:29:12,479
Speaker 1: whatever it is, when like what you're doing it because

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01:29:12,520 --> 01:29:17,720
Speaker 1: you don't truly believe that God has the man that

1578
01:29:17,760 --> 01:29:20,720
Speaker 1: would treat you the way he would want you treat it.

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01:29:21,640 --> 01:29:23,599
Speaker 1: So that's why I use the I say super faith.

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01:29:24,120 --> 01:29:26,599
Speaker 1: And then I wrote down that God is the source,

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01:29:28,439 --> 01:29:32,679
Speaker 1: remembering because life gets in the way right of while

1582
01:29:32,800 --> 01:29:35,040
Speaker 1: we're wanting what we want, life gets in the way.

1583
01:29:35,200 --> 01:29:38,639
Speaker 1: Things could go wrong, But remembering that it's not about

1584
01:29:38,720 --> 01:29:41,080
Speaker 1: a job, it's not about a person, it's not about

1585
01:29:41,080 --> 01:29:45,960
Speaker 1: a coworker. That he is the source and so that helps.

1586
01:29:46,680 --> 01:29:50,080
Speaker 1: And then the last thing I wrote down was God

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01:29:50,200 --> 01:29:51,240
Speaker 1: is always calling.

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01:29:53,800 --> 01:29:53,840
Speaker 6: You.

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01:29:54,400 --> 01:29:59,960
Speaker 1: He's always calling and so being aware of his car

1590
01:30:00,080 --> 01:30:04,160
Speaker 1: all right, being really tapped in, so do you know

1591
01:30:04,400 --> 01:30:08,439
Speaker 1: when he's speaking to you. It's also, in my opinion,

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01:30:08,880 --> 01:30:13,599
Speaker 1: critical to finding the love that you deserve.

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Speaker 4: Man, this conversation was absolutely phenomenal. Thank y'all so much

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01:30:21,000 --> 01:30:24,479
Speaker 4: for taking the time out of y'all busy schedules and

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01:30:24,600 --> 01:30:26,680
Speaker 4: coming down that had this conversation with us.

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01:30:28,200 --> 01:30:31,200
Speaker 2: May the love you share today outlived the season you're in.

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01:30:31,960 --> 01:30:34,680
Speaker 6: May it carry you through the days when words are

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01:30:34,880 --> 01:30:36,719
Speaker 6: few and faith has.

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01:30:36,600 --> 01:30:37,400
Speaker 2: To do the talking.

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Speaker 4: Y'all give it up for the man the future, elliotts,

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01:30:41,000 --> 01:30:45,600
Speaker 4: y'all give it up for the night God bless Ladarian

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01:30:46,560 --> 01:30:49,280
Speaker 4: thrust it suddenly into child protective services.

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01:30:49,320 --> 01:30:53,080
Speaker 2: In twenty fifteen, my nephew, black a.

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01:30:53,160 --> 01:30:57,400
Speaker 4: Boy, the likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship slim

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01:30:57,520 --> 01:31:02,840
Speaker 4: to none? Rmione, ten years old, black a boy with

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01:31:03,080 --> 01:31:05,599
Speaker 4: five years in the Falter care system before I even

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01:31:05,680 --> 01:31:10,240
Speaker 4: knew his name. The likelihood have ever been adopted? Yep,

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01:31:10,280 --> 01:31:15,120
Speaker 4: you guessed it. Slim to none. While Laderian and our

1609
01:31:15,200 --> 01:31:17,559
Speaker 4: money were trying to survive and barely thrive in an

1610
01:31:17,640 --> 01:31:21,200
Speaker 4: overpopulated and underfunded false care system, I was living my

1611
01:31:21,280 --> 01:31:24,599
Speaker 4: own life, doing well professionally, having been a single father

1612
01:31:24,720 --> 01:31:26,599
Speaker 4: with a daughter who at that point was doing.

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01:31:26,520 --> 01:31:28,880
Speaker 2: Well in college. It was my time to live my

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01:31:28,960 --> 01:31:29,400
Speaker 2: life right.

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01:31:30,479 --> 01:31:30,719
Speaker 8: Wrong.

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01:31:31,880 --> 01:31:37,639
Speaker 4: I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. There are just two many

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01:31:37,840 --> 01:31:41,280
Speaker 4: of our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the

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01:31:41,360 --> 01:31:44,760
Speaker 4: limbo of the Falter care system. In twenty seventeen, I

1619
01:31:44,880 --> 01:31:48,759
Speaker 4: legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast forward to twenty nineteen.

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01:31:48,800 --> 01:31:50,960
Speaker 4: I had no ties to this other young king, but

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01:31:51,040 --> 01:31:53,600
Speaker 4: I felt God instructed me to adopt him also in

1622
01:31:53,680 --> 01:31:57,720
Speaker 4: al Babe. Starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right,

1623
01:31:57,800 --> 01:32:00,400
Speaker 4: Working with various foster care and adoption aged seeds to

1624
01:32:00,439 --> 01:32:03,600
Speaker 4: help bring awareness to the countless young Black Kings and

1625
01:32:03,640 --> 01:32:07,120
Speaker 4: the Falster care system should have decreased. My agitation right

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01:32:07,920 --> 01:32:10,479
Speaker 4: join the board of directors of Advantage of Adoption and

1627
01:32:10,680 --> 01:32:14,160
Speaker 4: organization that helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in

1628
01:32:14,240 --> 01:32:16,759
Speaker 4: false care should have led to some type of resolve.

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01:32:16,880 --> 01:32:21,240
Speaker 2: Right, No, not at all. None of it felt like

1630
01:32:21,400 --> 01:32:22,400
Speaker 2: I had done enough.

1631
01:32:23,520 --> 01:32:27,600
Speaker 4: I now realized that every one of those experiences was

1632
01:32:27,680 --> 01:32:32,120
Speaker 4: land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission. Kingdom Royal.

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01:32:33,040 --> 01:32:35,680
Speaker 4: Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of the art

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01:32:35,760 --> 01:32:38,960
Speaker 4: home for foster boys. Our first location will be in

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01:32:39,000 --> 01:32:41,960
Speaker 4: the Dallas Fort Work Metroplex. We will utilize the whole

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01:32:42,080 --> 01:32:46,639
Speaker 4: person approach that instills identity, empowers them to advocate for themselves,

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01:32:46,920 --> 01:32:51,000
Speaker 4: and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and limitless options that

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01:32:51,120 --> 01:32:55,719
Speaker 4: they thought were impossible. Though the young Kings will attend

1639
01:32:55,720 --> 01:32:58,559
Speaker 4: the local public schools that are in proximity to Kingdom

1640
01:32:58,640 --> 01:33:02,519
Speaker 4: Royal were at home curriculum will broaden their worldview through

1641
01:33:02,560 --> 01:33:06,679
Speaker 4: participating in the arts, attending various cultural events, learning about

1642
01:33:06,760 --> 01:33:10,880
Speaker 4: and engaging in multifaceted discussions about current events and even

1643
01:33:10,960 --> 01:33:15,439
Speaker 4: relevant historical contexts, introducing them to gardening and landscaping, and

1644
01:33:15,720 --> 01:33:18,840
Speaker 4: even caring for our animals on our form and on

1645
01:33:19,040 --> 01:33:23,439
Speaker 4: site stables. We just launched our startup capital campaign with

1646
01:33:23,600 --> 01:33:25,559
Speaker 4: the goal of raising two point eight million dollars.

1647
01:33:25,600 --> 01:33:27,040
Speaker 2: Now why two point eight million dollars.

1648
01:33:27,880 --> 01:33:30,200
Speaker 4: Well, In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in

1649
01:33:30,280 --> 01:33:33,519
Speaker 4: which I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the

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01:33:33,560 --> 01:33:34,400
Speaker 4: homeless community.

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01:33:34,680 --> 01:33:36,559
Speaker 2: One of the most notable successes was.

1652
01:33:36,560 --> 01:33:39,880
Speaker 4: That one of the videos went viral, garnering twenty eight

1653
01:33:40,240 --> 01:33:44,000
Speaker 4: million views. However, one of my biggest regrets is that

1654
01:33:44,120 --> 01:33:46,960
Speaker 4: I didn't raise a single dollar to help in implementing

1655
01:33:47,160 --> 01:33:50,880
Speaker 4: a more sustainable plan for the homeless community. So, throughout

1656
01:33:50,920 --> 01:33:54,640
Speaker 4: the years, with much remorse, I reflect and I'm not

1657
01:33:54,880 --> 01:33:56,040
Speaker 4: maximizing that moment.

1658
01:33:56,120 --> 01:33:58,280
Speaker 2: I knew if at that time just.

1659
01:33:58,400 --> 01:34:01,519
Speaker 4: Ten percent of the viewers donated one, we would have

1660
01:34:01,600 --> 01:34:05,160
Speaker 4: raised at least two point eight million dollars that could

1661
01:34:05,160 --> 01:34:08,080
Speaker 4: have really established long term support for the homeless community,

1662
01:34:08,360 --> 01:34:11,439
Speaker 4: or at least started a long term initiative to do so.

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01:34:12,520 --> 01:34:16,599
Speaker 2: This is my dou over, this is our new beginning.

1664
01:34:16,800 --> 01:34:20,280
Speaker 4: Together, we can attack this at the route by specifically

1665
01:34:20,400 --> 01:34:25,520
Speaker 4: helping our homeless black boys who are already disproportionately represented

1666
01:34:25,720 --> 01:34:29,479
Speaker 4: in the American fossil care system. I'm a Terisarwickfield. I've

1667
01:34:29,520 --> 01:34:32,840
Speaker 4: been nominated for three Regional Emmys documenting my work with

1668
01:34:32,920 --> 01:34:36,679
Speaker 4: the homeless as well as my personal adoption journey. Despite

1669
01:34:36,720 --> 01:34:41,360
Speaker 4: those accolades, the greatest award for me is truly providing

1670
01:34:41,439 --> 01:34:46,760
Speaker 4: the infrastructure for a transformed life. Visit Kingdomroyal dot com

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01:34:46,880 --> 01:34:48,880
Speaker 4: for more details Crown.

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Speaker 2: Of King and make a donation today. I hope you

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01:34:58,960 --> 01:34:59,960
Speaker 2: enjoyed this episode.

1674
01:35:00,080 --> 01:35:03,479
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01:35:03,840 --> 01:35:07,160
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