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Speaker 1: Did you get in? That's so beautiful to me. Like

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Speaker 1: did you eat today? Probably didn't. I just work so

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Speaker 1: I love that. I miss having somebody make sure that like,

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Speaker 3: And that's the reason why I like this platform is

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Speaker 3: a lot of times we see on social media where

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Speaker 2: I don't need no woman. I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Which camera's mind?

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Speaker 2: Which is not right there?

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Speaker 1: I need a man, I need one real bad. I

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Speaker 2: Why do you need a man? What you need? Why

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Speaker 1: Because I am a partner, I am part of a team,

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Speaker 3: The Dear Future WIFEI podcast has global impact from Texas.

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Speaker 1: I have been on this journey of healing and self discovery,

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Speaker 2: Discover, uncover and recover love.

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Speaker 3: I'm the Terra Sar Whitfield and this is season ten

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Speaker 3: of the Dear Future Wifie podcast. What's Up The Tera

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Speaker 3: and just wish you a merry Christmas. Today is Christmas Eve, Mary, Mary, Christmas.

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Speaker 3: You know, I was on this dating gap, you know,

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Speaker 1: I love that. I don't want to be somebody's I

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Speaker 2: Well, how do you feel if you're the woman that

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Because why you do wrong by me? I'm great? What

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Speaker 2: if you do wrong about you? If you did wrong

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Speaker 1: Now, once you got me locked in, once you, I'm

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Speaker 2: You tell your mama that is a half a boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: He was smart.

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Speaker 2: So you like it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I really I'm ambitious about a lot of things

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's a really positive thing. Like I

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Speaker 2: Get out of here.

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Speaker 1: I respect that that same ex that was chasing me

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Speaker 1: He was paying my bill.

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Speaker 3: I talk about quiet quitting in my book Student of Love,

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Speaker 3: But how long did it take? For you to recognize

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Speaker 2: But so even when you're not giving it, you'll still

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Speaker 1: Yeah, even if I don't.

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Speaker 1: And I try to be a safe space for my partner.

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Speaker 1: So I'm also like, we could just watch anime, like

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Speaker 2: So my nephew loves what. Oh yeah, you know that is?

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Speaker 2: What is that?

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Speaker 1: That is a very niche version of anime. I don't

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Speaker 2: Rudo, So help me understand so I can relate to him.

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Speaker 2: What is what is this character? He?

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Speaker 2: I love that.

444
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:21,159
Speaker 1: I love Ramen. There's also there's like different animes for

445
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:22,880
Speaker 1: different things, but they got some food ones.

446
00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:25,720
Speaker 2: I love anime food.

447
00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:28,960
Speaker 1: Like they be having videos of like them, like chopping

448
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 1: the food up and like make it. It's so beautiful,

449
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,480
Speaker 1: Like the cinema of it is so cute, he said.

450
00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:40,800
Speaker 2: Making food. Yeah, that's cute. He said, what you like

451
00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 2: about Ruos eating Rama?

452
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 1: He be eating that Raman. He be tearing it up.

453
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:50,760
Speaker 1: He be tearing it up, and he's super confident in

454
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: himself that he I guess he really wasn't that powerhole

455
00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:58,000
Speaker 1: in the beginning, and so he really was like I'm

456
00:21:58,119 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 1: no and I'm gonna he was real he day one,

457
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,360
Speaker 1: no no no skill set, no power, no, no real

458
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 1: evidence that he was gonna be that man. He really

459
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 1: popped out and was like, no, I'm gonna show y'all,

460
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:09,159
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be him.

461
00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,199
Speaker 2: I like that. We'll seem like you like it more

462
00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:11,680
Speaker 2: than you thought.

463
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:13,520
Speaker 1: No, I don't like it enough to learn the lore.

464
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 1: It's way too much going on. The lore is like

465
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:22,639
Speaker 1: you know, like in the Bible, Jesus that dude, you

466
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:25,879
Speaker 1: need to like level the context, like really understand. I

467
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,520
Speaker 1: don't want to know all the context for that.

468
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 2: But your show is what is called.

469
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:32,320
Speaker 1: It's My hero Academia, and so you know the lore

470
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:34,879
Speaker 1: of that. I do because it's really centered on one person,

471
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:36,920
Speaker 1: easy to follow.

472
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 3: And so you and your ex boyfriend used to watch that?

473
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:42,320
Speaker 3: Did y'all watch that prior to each other? And that's

474
00:22:42,359 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 3: what brought y'all together.

475
00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 1: I put them on because you know that's what I do.

476
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:52,720
Speaker 2: He said, you put him off?

477
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know.

478
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 2: And so he wasn't watching anime at first.

479
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 1: He was watching the anime, but he was watching like

480
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,880
Speaker 1: dragon ball Z, which is I'm I'm not gonna I'm

481
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 1: not gonna say how I feel about dragon ball Z

482
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 1: because almost every man that likes anime likes dragon ball Z,

483
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:07,920
Speaker 1: but I don't.

484
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 2: So this is a whole community. It's a different world,

485
00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:10,920
Speaker 2: huh it is.

486
00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: And you know what I do like about men that

487
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 1: like anime. They usually have a really good imagination and

488
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 1: they usually can envision like really big goals. I think

489
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 1: because like they watch these people go from nothing to something.

490
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 1: It's it's really good. Now I'm not gonna say it's

491
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:34,200
Speaker 1: a replacement for a father figure. But sometimes you haven't

492
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 1: seen it yet, and so you need to see even

493
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:39,159
Speaker 1: if it's a fake character, you need to see that

494
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:40,360
Speaker 1: somebody is doing something great.

495
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 2: You said, ain't gonna say it's a replacement for a father.

496
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,600
Speaker 1: I like man with community sometimes.

497
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:59,479
Speaker 2: Whatever it takes. So that's what. So that's cool for you. There.

498
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,719
Speaker 3: So you meet guy that's into anime, y'all find that thing?

499
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:04,440
Speaker 3: Do you go to the extent of dressing up like

500
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 3: the characters and going to anime conventions?

501
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:12,239
Speaker 2: You do? Have you been to him? Yeah? Did your

502
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 2: ex do that with you?

503
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,160
Speaker 1: Not that one the one before though he did, y'all

504
00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: dressed up. I got him some custom shoes made. When

505
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, when I care, when I love, I

506
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: love hard, I'm all in like we was gods playing together.

507
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: I got my stepmam made me a full of my

508
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 1: hair academy of my favorite character is baku Go. He

509
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: kind of crazy. Don't judge, but they call it gender

510
00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 1: bending when you do a character that's a boy and

511
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 1: your girl. But my stepmam made me a full like

512
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 1: character outfit and it was like customized. I had, like

513
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: the wig too because he was blonde and I had

514
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,560
Speaker 1: the wig with it. And I was running around this

515
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 1: like I went to Dreamcon, which is one of the

516
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 1: bigger that's a big one, yeah, and I was wearing out.

517
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 1: I was I was at anime NYC also, which is

518
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: like the biggest one, and I was running around. They

519
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 1: were going but I could go, we love you, and

520
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 1: I was going, shut up, you idiots, because that's what

521
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:07,640
Speaker 1: he says. I love I love my hero I honestly,

522
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,680
Speaker 1: I am a nerd. Honestly I am nobody really sees it.

523
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm really into oceanography. I love being at

524
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 1: the aquarium. If I'm in a city and they got

525
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 1: an aquarium, I'm going like, I love the aquarium. I

526
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: love being at the beach. I love anime. I'm really

527
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,159
Speaker 1: into like nerdy stuff. And I really have to be

528
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: with a man who has a passion. I want to

529
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: learn about what you like. Yeah, And I want to

530
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 1: like you know, I want to. I want to.

531
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 2: I might not like you, but I want to know

532
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 2: would you date a guy that wasn't into it, that

533
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:40,640
Speaker 2: wasn't in yeah. Yeah, I'm still watching on my own.

534
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:42,199
Speaker 2: I don't got nothing to do with it.

535
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 3: If he said there, you said you want to go

536
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 3: to dream Cound. He said, girl, I'm not walking up

537
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 3: in there. I'm gonna see over a whole company. I'm

538
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 3: not goinna be doing that.

539
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, but you know it makes sense because all

540
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,920
Speaker 1: these people here spend money. But if you don't want

541
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:54,880
Speaker 1: to go, Okay.

542
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 3: I got friends, yin't got time to be looking at

543
00:25:57,800 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 3: all that. Yeah, you go have fun, take your friends.

544
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 3: But I'm not into that.

545
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 2: It's an uber but you wouldn't feel like he's not

546
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 2: a part of your world. If he did, you ain't

547
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 2: tripping like that.

548
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:14,359
Speaker 1: The only the only space where I think that you

549
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 1: have to be a fan of comedy because comedy is

550
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 1: so integrated into my life. You can't be someone who's

551
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 1: so stuffy they can't take a joke. You can't be

552
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,119
Speaker 1: someone who just doesn't want to be at the comedy

553
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: club because it's such a big part of my life.

554
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 1: You gotta like comedy.

555
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 3: Absolutely, that makes sense. He'd be like, there you go,

556
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 3: doing her little, a little career. Start talking to you

557
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 3: like that, she got this little career of being a comedian.

558
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 1: You'd be like, listen, one thing, one thing about stand

559
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: up that's kind of changed my relationships with men since

560
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: I've been toone's standing up. I realized that men are

561
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:55,160
Speaker 1: jealous towards women that they date, and that was such

562
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: a surprise for me because I'm you date me.

563
00:26:58,840 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 2: I heard that a lot. Though.

564
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 3: I heard a lot about guys, especially if they're dating

565
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 3: women that are successful in their own right.

566
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 2: That is so so so you feel that and so

567
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 2: how did that start popping up now?

568
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:15,200
Speaker 1: I mean, I think people in general are attracted to

569
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: that kind of energy. But then it's challenging because now

570
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 1: like men are facing you know, fans, walking up to

571
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 1: me and talking to me, and I don't know if

572
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: like it makes them feel like they don't have what

573
00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 1: it takes.

574
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:31,879
Speaker 2: To like do you keep me?

575
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: But I'm like, I'm leading with you, Like what are

576
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: we talking about right now?

577
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 2: I just met this man. I don't know him.

578
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 1: Also, Hi, like what's going on here? And I mean, like,

579
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: I do I need my next relationship probably to be

580
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 1: public because I've been in the space of like dating

581
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,360
Speaker 1: someone and I know my audience is eighty nine percent men,

582
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,919
Speaker 1: like really, yeah, it's real high. I mean, and ladies,

583
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 1: if you're watching this, welcome please.

584
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 2: So hold on, that's good.

585
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 3: That's different. I would I wouldn't expect that. So your

586
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 3: audience is over eighty some percent men.

587
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 1: So do you get a lot of many your dms, Yes,

588
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 1: but they be listen. One thing that bothers me the

589
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 1: most is men. When y'all say you're shooting your shot,

590
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 1: they'd be like, I'm in your DMS, and I'll go

591
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: and open the DM. And it's just like, hey, when

592
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: you get to Kentucky, you should come see me. You

593
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,119
Speaker 1: should fly out here, And I'm like, I should fly

594
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 1: out there.

595
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: Come get me, like what.

596
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 3: So basically saying, fellas, you got to learn how to

597
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 3: how to court better, you got to learn how to

598
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 3: shoot better.

599
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: Some of them mems is nice. Some of them dms

600
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: I've responded to. Now, I don't like long distance. So

601
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 1: unless you plan on being in LA or moving somewhere

602
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: where I want to be at, good luck to you.

603
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: But I'm some of them dms, they've they've sent a

604
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 1: nice little response.

605
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 2: And I said, oh, so it's as it caught your

606
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 2: attention in DMS.

607
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, but you said because but due to a

608
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 3: long distance, you're not a fan of long distance, but

609
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 3: you will move to a place, if they're living in

610
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 3: a city that you would want to live in.

611
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 1: If we can everything is a compromise, you know, if

612
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 1: we can make it make sense. I'm down now. If

613
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,760
Speaker 1: you long distance, you're gonna have to realize I'm in

614
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: l A right now. You're gonna have to really be

615
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 1: putting some.

616
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 2: Pressure on me.

617
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: Boy, he said that, because if you're not here, we

618
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: gotta talk. And look, I thought this young man and

619
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 1: I was gonna be I thought out, he's so fine,

620
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 1: that's my achilles.

621
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 2: He was so fine, your achilles here. That's fine with money.

622
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, by design, that's how I like that. That's nice,

623
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: said he will fre he had money, you'll find him money.

624
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 1: It's the twins fine. And it's not even the money though,

625
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: it's the security. It's it's the fact that I know, like,

626
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: I'm not going to have to think for the both

627
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: of us because you already at least figured out how

628
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 1: to be stable. I've raised a many of men. I'm

629
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:20,720
Speaker 1: almost uh not an orphanage, but you know, I'm given

630
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 1: got into a lot of young men, and I'm I'm

631
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: withered in that spirit.

632
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 2: I've so you said that this guy right here, he

633
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 2: was fine.

634
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: He had he had some money together. He he he had,

635
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: but he was very casual. He was very Uh what's

636
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: the word when you casual? What's the other word?

637
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 2: Unintentional? You can lacks of days ago? You have.

638
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: What dang?

639
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,080
Speaker 2: I think it starts with a see. I cannot think

640
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 2: of a word.

641
00:30:56,680 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: It's no come over here and come over here in

642
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: Chalott real hard, big shalant over here. You could go

643
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: the whole day without talking to me. You can go

644
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:12,400
Speaker 1: to the whole days without talking to me. To stop

645
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: talking to.

646
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 2: Me, you can go two days don't talk to me.

647
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 1: If we're gonna do a long distance you gotta call

648
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 1: me and be like, okay, maybe we having ramen tonight

649
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: and we go out and have ramen and I'm on

650
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 1: FaceTime and we ordering ramen and we like we gotta

651
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: talk about like li it's gotta feel like I'm not alone,

652
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 1: Like this is crazy. You just want to put me

653
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 1: on the shelf.

654
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 2: And so that's what happened. Yeah, I said, oh no,

655
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 2: this ain't it. This ain't it. So so you shut

656
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 2: that down quick I did, or you let it just

657
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 2: fizzle out.

658
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 1: I stood in my I said, hey, maybe you tripping.

659
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 1: I'm very quick to check myself, and I'm very quick

660
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 1: to apologize. I'm not the kind of person that likes

661
00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,239
Speaker 1: to be wrong, but if I am wrong, I'm very

662
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: quick to fix it. I said, you know what, I

663
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: might be tripping. Maybe maybe this could work. I gave

664
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: it a week to to I let him know how

665
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: I felt. He said, thank you so much for communicating that.

666
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 1: I said, look at accountability and I can understand how

667
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 1: you feel.

668
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: Why are we gonna work on it? Yeah?

669
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: And then he was the same and I said, oh,

670
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: you're playing it in my face. You're you think I'm

671
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: a joke. You think because I'm a clown by profession,

672
00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: that this is the circus and it's not Wrap that up.

673
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 1: Get enough out of here, I tried. I was like,

674
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: oh no, it's same for me.

675
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 2: And what was the exit conversation?

676
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 1: Well, we had two. I said, Hey, this isn't really

677
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: working for me. I really, you know, I would like

678
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 1: for things to work out, but maybe we can be friends.

679
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: If I'm in your city, maybe you can come out

680
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 1: to a show. I don't want things to end ugly.

681
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 1: And we had that conversation. He was like, you know what,

682
00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 1: like okay, and then we got off the phone, need

683
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 1: to text me, and he was like, we're not breaking up.

684
00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 1: We're not doing I said what.

685
00:32:56,440 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 2: Okay. Two days later, save energy, I said, hey, I.

686
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:02,479
Speaker 1: Was real serious.

687
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 2: I can't do this. I really liked you. However, I

688
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 2: ain't got it. I ain't got it in me.

689
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: The same working for me. And then he stopped texting me,

690
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 1: and I said, okay, that's how that works.

691
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:16,000
Speaker 2: So when a god fights for you, that turns you

692
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 2: on health.

693
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:21,600
Speaker 1: Honestly, because come get me. Yeah, yeah, I'm going round

694
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 1: a little bit.

695
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 2: And that's good.

696
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: You shouldn't want somebody that's so easy. You should you

697
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 1: should want somebody that got a little You want the

698
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 1: fish that's gonna wiggle and fight, you know, you don't

699
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 1: want the fish.

700
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 2: That's just gonna hop in your boat.

701
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: That's wild. That's what That's what's wrong with me right there.

702
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 3: So So as of right now, November the tenth, are

703
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 3: you dating anybody? So it's no hope as far as

704
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 3: any particular person that you have hope for right now,

705
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 3: because sometimes you have this guy you'd be like, oh

706
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 3: I like him. We started talking a little bit. I

707
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,479
Speaker 3: just want to see what kind of action he got

708
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 3: you saying there's nobody.

709
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: I had liked this man real hard and he was

710
00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 1: really great, and then he went to jail.

711
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 2: So no that other than that I did not see.

712
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 1: Yep, he went to jail real quick fast, in a hurry.

713
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 2: You know, it's crazy.

714
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 3: I met a man I was liking real bad and

715
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 3: he went to jail. What they said, like it real hard.

716
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 3: But he ain't been applying pressure or something.

717
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 1: No, he's putting a lot of pressure on me behind bars.

718
00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: And you can't put less pressure than the man putting

719
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:41,479
Speaker 1: beyond bars. Why he got why he called him.

720
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:49,839
Speaker 2: Got nothing else to do. But before he went to jail,

721
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 2: he was he was witting with the full court press. Now,

722
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 2: so if you was dating him and y'all was in

723
00:34:56,920 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 2: a relationship around that time he got locked up, are

724
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 2: you the type that go, you know, break your bread

725
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 2: to get him out? Excuse me, hey, that's your boot thing?

726
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,840
Speaker 2: What he's a criminal. I don't know him like that.

727
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 2: I don't know the criminal life that he was in

728
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 2: a relationship with. No, I wasn't. You will not me

729
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 2: not in a.

730
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 1: Criminal I was in a relationship with the free person.

731
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: What did you say, your relationship? Yeahship, I don't know

732
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 2: that criminal but he said they were foster accused me.

733
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 2: I didn't even do that.

734
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: M honestly and truly, this young gentleman he was great,

735
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 1: he's cool, you know, and and what he's behind bars

736
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 1: for is legal in California, but not in the state

737
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 1: he did it in, which means you were doing legal things.

738
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:46,280
Speaker 2: I don't know what's still there must be some cannabis

739
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 2: or something.

740
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

741
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, that shocked me. I went to l A. I said, God,

742
00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 2: people just be smoking weed everywhere. Else said what is

743
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 2: going on? Because we don't have that in Texas. I

744
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 2: was like, why are people?

745
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 3: And I started seeing all these signs and stuff you

746
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 3: could buy weed and all I said, okay, Eagle here,

747
00:36:01,080 --> 00:36:03,400
Speaker 3: so you'll take that mindset and come over here to Texas.

748
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:05,399
Speaker 3: You're gonna get your behind locked up. And was walking

749
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 3: around just smoking weed. They'd be like, are you crazy?

750
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, you're going to jail, big dog, You're going

751
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,839
Speaker 1: to You're going to jail. And if it's enough, you're

752
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 1: going to prison. And guess who's not holding you down?

753
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 1: A No, I got I need snacks. We're dying on

754
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: the trip. Why we can't pitstop this? We can't get

755
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: nobody else to feel in for us. We got to die, right,

756
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 1: but we get to ride too. You go over, Oh no,

757
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: only rides. I'm going on at the beach. I'm a passenger,

758
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 1: princess trying to.

759
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 2: Have a good time. Why we gotta die? Oh God?

760
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 2: And so that guy, you have hope for that. And

761
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 2: he got in.

762
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 1: Let me tell you how he did the full court press.

763
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 1: The day we met was real nice. He was really cute,

764
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: very handsome. We met in February, the day after Valentine's Day.

765
00:36:59,040 --> 00:36:59,439
Speaker 2: We met.

766
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 1: He was very handsome, and he asked me on a

767
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: date the next day. The date went so great. He

768
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:07,839
Speaker 1: was like amazing energy. We were talking. Our birthdays were

769
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: the next month and we were planning to go on

770
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,360
Speaker 1: a week long vacation that he was supposed to be

771
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:17,760
Speaker 1: paying for. I like energy, and it was your idea.

772
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 1: He said, what you want to do for your birthday?

773
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: I said, I don't know. I've been wanting to go

774
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 1: to Catalina. I love the water.

775
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 2: He was like, okay, let's go for like a week.

776
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 2: I said, lets a week.

777
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 1: Let's I was like, I think there's a He said,

778
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 1: I'll look it up.

779
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 2: I got it, I said, and you.

780
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 1: You can speak of my language. We was talking for

781
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: like two weeks and then he just disappeared. I said, oh,

782
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: he sold me a dream. This was all a lie.

783
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 1: And then somebody DMed me and was like, hey, I'm

784
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 1: reaching out on behalf of X Y and Z. I said, behalf.

785
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 1: That's King Pincock, behalf. He said he got into some

786
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:07,280
Speaker 1: legal trouble.

787
00:38:07,480 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 3: He was the boss.

788
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 2: Wow, come on scarfing.

789
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,760
Speaker 1: We talked to him and I said, hey, man, I'm

790
00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,520
Speaker 1: really glad that you're okay, Like you know, you didn't

791
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:26,280
Speaker 1: like die nothing, but also not my ministry.

792
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 2: Did you say behalf on behalf? So you're gonna tell

793
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 2: me on behalf? Is it?

794
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: That's legal terminology or king pin terminology? You didn't watch

795
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 1: your empire, that's that's some order you got reverence.

796
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,359
Speaker 2: So how long did you communicate with him before y'all

797
00:38:57,360 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 2: stopped talking?

798
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: I mean, I was just like, hey, you could be

799
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 1: the homie like you know, And he was very honest.

800
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: He was like, I don't want to tell you no

801
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 1: dreams while I'm in here. I understand, like you beautiful,

802
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: you smart, you got a life going on. I was like, yeah,

803
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do time with you. That's crazy. I

804
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 1: don't even know you yet. That's imagine if I cared.

805
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 3: I hate that for me. No, no, no, So that

806
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 3: happened in February, and so I guess a lot of

807
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:31,479
Speaker 3: these different cases led up to I guess you're saying

808
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 3: what you're saying, come get me.

809
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy As a as a stand up comedian,

810
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: as someone in entertainment, we talk about like that feeling

811
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 1: of being lonely even though there's so many people in

812
00:39:44,480 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 1: the room. And really, the more successful I've been, the

813
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 1: more I'm on the road doing stand up, the more

814
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: that I'm like in these projects, doing like these long

815
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 1: like periods of time where like I'm kind of in

816
00:39:57,400 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 1: the in the light, the more I'm finding that like

817
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: really miss having somebody be like, hey, did you get in? Yep,

818
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 1: did you get in? That's so that's so beautiful to me.

819
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: Like did you eat today? Probably didn't because I just

820
00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 1: work so much, like my brain don't even be on

821
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 1: you know, nutrients. Did you drink some water? Oh?

822
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 2: Look, you love me.

823
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:27,320
Speaker 1: I love that. And you know, I miss having somebody

824
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: like make sure that like I'm okay, that's.

825
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 3: Real, that's real, And that's the reason why I like

826
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 3: this platform is that I want to bring value to

827
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 3: healthy relationships because a lot of times we see on

828
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 3: social media where they pit men against women and vice versa,

829
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,320
Speaker 3: where they feel like I don't need no man, I

830
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 3: don't need no woman.

831
00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 2: I'm good, And.

832
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 1: It's like what bush camera's mind, which is.

833
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 2: Not right there at this point right now.

834
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 1: I need a man.

835
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: I need one real bad.

836
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:57,279
Speaker 1: I need a man.

837
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,040
Speaker 2: I don't want to be a man, no moss.

838
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 1: I need a man.

839
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 2: Why do you need a man? What do you mean

840
00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 2: a man? Why do I need a man?

841
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:09,919
Speaker 1: Because I am a partner. I am. I am part

842
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: of a team. I am a teammate, I am a helpmate,

843
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: I am a nurturer, and you know, I'm really someone

844
00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:19,800
Speaker 1: who is supposed to be the other half.

845
00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:23,319
Speaker 3: How'd you grow up? Take me back to Cali when

846
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 3: she was like twelve years old? No, when was your

847
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:27,400
Speaker 3: first boyfriend?

848
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:28,200
Speaker 1: My first?

849
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 2: He was? Is that when anime last? It was so deep?

850
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 1: Oh? Man, I was I was a team mom.

851
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 2: Oh really at my age?

852
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,760
Speaker 1: I was pregnant at seventeen, and how my daughter at eighteen?

853
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: My daughter's father was my best friend in high school

854
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 1: and he was my second boyfriend. But he was my

855
00:41:56,880 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 1: best friend the whole time. And uh, I you know

856
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,959
Speaker 1: had I had four parents. I grew up having four parents.

857
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 1: My four parents worked as a unit to raise me.

858
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: I raised I was raised in a very healthy co

859
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 1: parenting relationship, at least in my face. I don't know

860
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 1: if they argued behind closed doors, but they never did

861
00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: in my face. I've never heard my dad say anything

862
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: bad about my mom. Never heard my dad say anything

863
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 1: except for she maybe should have ran the other way

864
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 1: when she met my daddy. But like, I just didn't

865
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 1: grow up in like a crazy environment. So I always

866
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:33,759
Speaker 1: have seen such healthy relationships. But my baby daddy, when

867
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 1: I got pregnant, he said, oh you pregnant. I said,

868
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: huh we pregnant? Weird you? Yeah, so you know, And

869
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: that was like me immediately learning how to be super independent.

870
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: I turned into like this very hyper independent person. I

871
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 1: didn't want to like have my parents take on the

872
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 1: burden of me being a young teen mom. Like I

873
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 1: started going to school full time, I was working two jobs.

874
00:43:02,160 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 1: I like turn into like this super hyper mom because

875
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 1: I also was like, you know, trying to be her

876
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 1: whole entire everything. I said, my daughter will not go

877
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 1: without and she has never gone without. She's not you

878
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 1: trying to carbon date me on this here, what listen,

879
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:28,959
Speaker 1: I still have years in me. I still have birth

880
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 1: in years ds. I don't know.

881
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:35,439
Speaker 2: So you got birth in years.

882
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: I do have birth and years. I would love to

883
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 1: be in a soft pregnancy. I could. I could see

884
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 1: it happening. If it doesn't happen again, I'm fine with it.

885
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,720
Speaker 2: But why'd you frame it like that a soft.

886
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:57,280
Speaker 1: Pregnancy, because it's different. I've seen and been around women

887
00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 1: who were in a space where they could enjoy, like

888
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 1: you know, having a partner there, and I think, like,

889
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:08,680
Speaker 1: it's so beautiful to see. Mine was very much like

890
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: it was quick because I didn't find out I was pregnant,

891
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 1: so I was far along and you know I was

892
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:18,800
Speaker 1: so young, Like it was not like the most tender environment.

893
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 1: So like I could I want to be like I

894
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 1: can't reach my shoe, like I want to be, like

895
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 1: my purse is heavy, like get the door. I want

896
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 1: to be like a soft and I am a soft person.

897
00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 1: So I would love to be in a soft space

898
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 1: with somebody.

899
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 2: So how did your parents respond to your early pregnancy?

900
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 1: My mom was like what, like she was very surprised,

901
00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 1: but also immediately there for me. My dad was like,

902
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 1: excuse me, you're you're what and I mean like he

903
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:58,279
Speaker 1: was upset. But my parents have always been a unit.

904
00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 1: So they immediately were like, Okay, well what are our

905
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 1: next steps? Like they were very much team me, you know.

906
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 2: It.

907
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 1: But also I kind of like the amount of the

908
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:15,320
Speaker 1: decision making. Immediately I was like, I'm pregnant, this is

909
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 1: my baby, like and what I'm doing. So, I mean,

910
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 1: they've always been super supportive of me. Even when I

911
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 1: said I was doing entertainment, they were like, you sure

912
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: you don't want to go to school again? Like they

913
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 1: were like, I but I make very hard decisions and

914
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 1: then like I just I jump. I'm a I'm I

915
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,280
Speaker 1: believe that you're supposed to make the big scary decisions

916
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: so that you can live your big scary dreams. Yeah,

917
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 1: and I mean I really go for the things that

918
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:46,359
Speaker 1: I want.

919
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 3: That was good and so they So you were this

920
00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 3: team mom at seventeen. Then what did you do after that?

921
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 3: Graduated high school and then did what?

922
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 1: I started going to college for everything. I thought could

923
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: make money really fast. So I went to like I'm

924
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: a jack of all trades by by professional like, I've

925
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 1: gone to school for so many things.

926
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 2: I was like, a man, what did you go do?

927
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:15,240
Speaker 1: I went to culinary school, I went to asthetician school,

928
00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 1: I went to beauty college. I thought I was going

929
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 1: to be a coach at some point, and I did

930
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 1: coach my daughter's softball team forever. I also thought I

931
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: was going to be in child development. I took sign language.

932
00:46:28,120 --> 00:46:31,200
Speaker 1: I was like, what's like a quick degree or a

933
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: quick like certificate that I can get so that I

934
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:36,279
Speaker 1: can like take care of this baby on my own.

935
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 2: Are you fluent a sign language?

936
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: I'm not fluent a side language, but I can get

937
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 1: I can get through a conversation.

938
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 3: It'll be cool in your comedy show if you decide

939
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 3: to just do that, because you know you may have

940
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 3: somebody hearing impaired there that you can just start communicating

941
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:50,359
Speaker 3: and show people that skill set.

942
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 2: That'll be powerful. Yeah, they like, what does she just does?

943
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 2: She just do a joke with them? You know that'd

944
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 2: be hot. That'd be a cool little bit to.

945
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 3: Do a whole joke in sign language and the whole

946
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 3: audience maybe about one or two people may be there

947
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 3: or nobody is there to get it and that's the joke.

948
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:14,760
Speaker 3: It's like, that's the joke. Nobody actually gets it. Question

949
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 3: what did you see for yourself when you were younger?

950
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:23,879
Speaker 3: What did you see yourself becoming? How young to say

951
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 3: about because it probably changed in different iterations. I'll go

952
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 3: back from the time you got pregnant.

953
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 1: I really thought that I was just going to be

954
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 1: like this fantastic, like crazy mom. Like I just thought

955
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 1: that I was going to be like living in a mansion,

956
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 1: like having you know, like this really cool, fun like

957
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 1: life of traveling with my kid, which that manifested for sure,

958
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 1: But it just wasn't exactly what I thought, you know.

959
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 1: It wasn't like I didn't have to be on my

960
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: own doing. My parents were very involved and they are

961
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: my backbone. They're such a supportive system for me, Like

962
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 1: they really have like stepped up and been so incredible

963
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 1: and so loving, especially for my daughter, Like there's we

964
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 1: as a team are co parenting my daughter. I am

965
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 1: the only disciplinarian though they don't do none of that.

966
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: But she is so loved and I mean, honestly, my

967
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: family has My aunt gave my daughter her first car.

968
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:39,400
Speaker 1: My daughter has like a O five BMW y'all say you.

969
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 3: No, my nephew just got a because I adopted my nephew,

970
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:56,359
Speaker 3: he got a two thousand and two Mercedes. I'll said, yeah.

971
00:48:56,800 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 3: And he got that from my mother in law, my

972
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:08,360
Speaker 3: future mother in love. She gave him her, well, my

973
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 3: fiance's car that she had in college.

974
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:14,360
Speaker 2: And she was like, I was.

975
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 3: I went to visit one day. She's like, can you

976
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 3: come get this car off this garage? I said what

977
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 3: she was like, just get it? And I looked at

978
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 3: it and I was like, oh, this is nice. I said,

979
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 3: my nephew needs a car like this. He said, get it,

980
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 3: just get it, just take it, just take it off

981
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 3: of me. I'm tired of just sitting there collecting us.

982
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 3: And I had this ship to Dallas and then I

983
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:32,280
Speaker 3: got it fixed up and wrapped and all that stuff,

984
00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 3: and this is beautiful or whatever.

985
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: So it's just true that you said that my future

986
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:37,359
Speaker 1: mother in love.

987
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't like to make it all legal in law.

988
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 2: So I said, my mother in love, I love that.

989
00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 1: I want someone who loves my family.

990
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 3: I want to say I love when I say I

991
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:47,279
Speaker 3: love her mom, I love her dad. When I went

992
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 3: to go ask her dad the blessing to marry her.

993
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:55,359
Speaker 3: I flew to Jersey to go do that. And he said,

994
00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 3: the fact that when you called me and said you

995
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 3: value that, I had to say, you already had my blessing.

996
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 3: He said, the fact that you were going to the

997
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:05,839
Speaker 3: fact that you made decision to get on the plane,

998
00:50:05,880 --> 00:50:07,480
Speaker 3: said you had my blessing before you even get on

999
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 3: that flight, because you said, instead of just having a

1000
00:50:09,680 --> 00:50:12,239
Speaker 3: conversation with me, you were going to take a flight

1001
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 3: to see me. Look me out of eye. I said,

1002
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 3: I'm a man. I'm gonna give you the same thing

1003
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 3: that I want. I want to from my daughter. You know,

1004
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 3: my daughter, that's what I expected. I expected her now husband,

1005
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:26,000
Speaker 3: but any guy that was going to marry her, look

1006
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,160
Speaker 3: at me out of eye because men know men talk

1007
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 3: to me. Tell me you want to marry my daughter.

1008
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:31,600
Speaker 3: I don't want you to call me on the phone. Hey,

1009
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:33,239
Speaker 3: guess what, you know? I love your daughter and I

1010
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 3: just want to know. Can you know I can have

1011
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:37,759
Speaker 3: your blessing? Be like, I don't even I ain't never

1012
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 3: even been around you.

1013
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:39,359
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.

1014
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 3: Like you wouldn't do that with something that you find valuable.

1015
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:47,320
Speaker 3: You know, I would never sit there a lot of times,

1016
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 3: like even with It's interesting because like I was one

1017
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 3: of those people that would never buy a car sight unseen,

1018
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 3: you know, like if you go find a car online,

1019
00:50:57,600 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 3: I'll try to find somebody in that city, Like can

1020
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 3: you go put your eyes on it to see something?

1021
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 2: I'm not just gonna do that. But then you want

1022
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 2: somebody to.

1023
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 3: Bless you with their daughter sight unseen, No, you gotta

1024
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 3: be able to let me, let me talk to you,

1025
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 3: let's break bread with you, Let's let's go walk and

1026
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 3: let's have a talk or whatnot. Because I am relinquishing

1027
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:18,760
Speaker 3: the covering that I have over my daughter and given

1028
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:20,960
Speaker 3: that to you. I got to know if you're trying true.

1029
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 3: And so I told him that, say's no way I

1030
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 3: was going to And I remember during that time, the

1031
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:28,439
Speaker 3: flights was high as all get out because I flew

1032
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:30,560
Speaker 3: me and her out there, and I was like, Jesus

1033
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 3: is these flights ah? But it was our Memorial Day

1034
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 3: weekend and I did that. And I was like, but

1035
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:40,440
Speaker 3: there's no dollar amount that would make me or make

1036
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 3: me use it as excuse that I wouldn't go see him,

1037
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 3: And I want to sit down and talk to him.

1038
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 2: I want to get to know him. Cool guy. I

1039
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 2: wanted to get a chance to know him. Whatnot. Did

1040
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 2: the same thing the next week with her mom.

1041
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 3: Had talked to her mom before, but I said, hey,

1042
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 3: I'm a wait till I get the blessing from the dad,

1043
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 3: to go get the blessing from the mom. But the mom,

1044
00:51:57,160 --> 00:52:00,080
Speaker 3: you know, was the one that raised her h I

1045
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:02,400
Speaker 3: said that just out of you know, respect, let me

1046
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 3: talk to the man and let me talk to her mom.

1047
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 2: But she's amazing, that beautiful. So I want the same

1048
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 2: for you. I want the same for you.

1049
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:12,280
Speaker 3: I want the fact that you have been so intentional

1050
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 3: about these three hundred and sixty five days, don't grow

1051
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 3: weird and you're well doing. I pray that your faith fails,

1052
00:52:21,200 --> 00:52:24,279
Speaker 3: not because at the end of the day, you may

1053
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:30,400
Speaker 3: get to sixty I mean three hundred and sixty and

1054
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 3: be like this can't happen. And it may be somebody

1055
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:38,319
Speaker 3: sitting right there that's like, hey, I'm in jail now

1056
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 3: will you marry me?

1057
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: And he's getting out some lord. Whatever you want about

1058
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:54,279
Speaker 1: whatever at this one, whatever you got.

1059
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 2: So does what's your dating range? As we wrap up,

1060
00:52:57,560 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 2: what is your dating age range.

1061
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 1: Between twenty seven twenty eight, and I like under forty

1062
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:08,920
Speaker 1: all right, yeah, but I won't be mad at like forty.

1063
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 3: Forty forty two, fort two forty two, and uh so

1064
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 3: from twenty seven to forty two. Because you don't want

1065
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 3: to say I old you or but yeah, I can't

1066
00:53:25,520 --> 00:53:27,480
Speaker 3: guess it. So because I about to say, is that

1067
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 3: younger than you?

1068
00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:30,279
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1069
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 1: No, I mean younger and older. You know, I think

1070
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:37,800
Speaker 1: the age isn't really I think you have to be

1071
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:40,759
Speaker 1: mindful that I'm in entertainment and so you have to

1072
00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 1: understand that my life child's gonna it's a very energetic one.

1073
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:47,840
Speaker 2: What does that mean, Kelly?

1074
00:53:48,080 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 1: If you listen now, you can't always be in the house,

1075
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 1: so you gonna have to come out to some of

1076
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:55,120
Speaker 1: these events. I'm not in the house kind of person,

1077
00:53:55,600 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 1: you know. If you if you don't like doing stuff.

1078
00:53:58,600 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 2: Then.

1079
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: Old or young you can't keep up?

1080
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:03,279
Speaker 2: Makes sense?

1081
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 3: And you're not afraid by pace meaning that a guy

1082
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 3: can't propose you too soon?

1083
00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:18,959
Speaker 1: What God put on your heart. I don't want because

1084
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 1: I don't want to say that like you know it,

1085
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:22,319
Speaker 1: I don't.

1086
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:22,879
Speaker 2: I don't.

1087
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:27,479
Speaker 1: I don't believe in a long engagement. I don't believe

1088
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 1: in a long engagement, so you might be mindful when

1089
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: you ask me if you're serious, we ain't gonna be

1090
00:54:34,960 --> 00:54:35,719
Speaker 1: engaged for three years.

1091
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:39,200
Speaker 2: That's crazy. Yes, I agree, and uh so you will

1092
00:54:39,280 --> 00:54:39,960
Speaker 2: respond to DM.

1093
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 3: So when God see this episode and they see some

1094
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 3: stuff and they slide your DMS, you will be responsive.

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Speaker 2: I do.

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00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I respond.

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00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 2: If you're not interested in the god, you just leave

1098
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 2: him on red? Or do you respond? Now? Now?

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00:54:57,400 --> 00:54:59,399
Speaker 1: Now, what did you say?

1100
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 3: Have you been respect you say something real sideways, then

1101
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:05,520
Speaker 3: sometimes they don't need a response.

1102
00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:07,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean if you're just saying, hey, hey,

1103
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 1: I saw you on the podcast, I'm not responding to that.

1104
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 3: If we say hey I saw in the response on

1105
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 3: the podcast, I'm really interested in getting to know you.

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00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:16,879
Speaker 1: I don't think that does enough for me. You ain't

1107
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:18,279
Speaker 1: tell me where you're from. You ain't tell me what

1108
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: you're about. You ain't tell me what you you know.

1109
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 2: Hey, my name is Raoul, I live in You got

1110
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 2: to listen.

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00:55:28,080 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: You have to stand out against the crowd. If you

1112
00:55:30,920 --> 00:55:33,920
Speaker 1: are whatever energy you put out there is what you're

1113
00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 1: gonna get back. So if you put out a chat

1114
00:55:36,680 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 1: GBT response in my d MS, well, you know, I'm

1115
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:42,560
Speaker 1: not Chatt GBT, so I won't be responding. I'm not

1116
00:55:42,640 --> 00:55:46,960
Speaker 1: in a I I have said it a couple of times.

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00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 3: Have you saw chat responses guys that have shot they

1118
00:55:50,560 --> 00:55:51,680
Speaker 3: shot using Chatt.

1119
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 1: So I made a video and I said I'm accepted applications,

1120
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 1: and so somebody did send me in implication. I thought

1121
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:02,480
Speaker 1: it was really cute, and I did respond back and

1122
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 1: say I think this is really adorable. I really like that,

1123
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,759
Speaker 1: and he was like, I'm really glad you responded, and

1124
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 1: then I was like, it, well, just us in here

1125
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:22,440
Speaker 1: on this DM. I'm telling you it just it be

1126
00:56:22,600 --> 00:56:25,800
Speaker 1: sounding like it should be so much easier than it is.

1127
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:29,320
Speaker 1: It's so it's hard out here for these young ladies.

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00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:32,800
Speaker 2: He said, he said that you gave you gave the

1129
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:35,839
Speaker 2: voter confidence and nothing. He didn't respond, say't nothing.

1130
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 1: I'd be just as disappointed as y'all be. I'd be

1131
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 1: so disappointed that you ain't do what you're supposed to.

1132
00:56:42,080 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 2: Come get me please, you be killing me. This is

1133
00:56:48,239 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 2: a part of your comedy bit when you said come

1134
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 2: get me, no please, please come give me a dope

1135
00:56:56,680 --> 00:57:00,600
Speaker 2: T shirt. That would be time. I'll have it on

1136
00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:01,880
Speaker 2: the website, having.

1137
00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 3: A website, Come get me please, give me please. If

1138
00:57:07,000 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 3: you need somebody design it, Rihanna, she's a graphic designer.

1139
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:11,200
Speaker 3: She can design your shirt. Come get me please.

1140
00:57:12,160 --> 00:57:16,080
Speaker 1: Bless you also be prepared to be a husband Jared, Yeah,

1141
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:17,080
Speaker 1: and so so you.

1142
00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:19,600
Speaker 2: Will give their husband the authority to manage.

1143
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:23,720
Speaker 1: He should have the authority to he should and if not,

1144
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:26,120
Speaker 1: to take over, to have input.

1145
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 2: That's good.

1146
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 1: I want you to have your own passions. But you

1147
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: know also you know here I am, hey man, if

1148
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 1: the Lord is blessing me and being prosperous and all

1149
00:57:36,680 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 1: of my endeavors, i am certain that he's giving you

1150
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 1: some wisdom to have dominion know for the things that

1151
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:44,880
Speaker 1: I'm doing too, that's good.

1152
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 2: Did your mama teach you this stuff? No, I'll well.

1153
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:50,920
Speaker 1: Yes, my mom is an incredible person and she's a

1154
00:57:51,040 --> 00:57:56,000
Speaker 1: very good wife. But I also I'm very submissive.

1155
00:57:56,840 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 2: I am.

1156
00:57:57,880 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 1: I'm talking back, but I listen.

1157
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:03,479
Speaker 3: How a' you gonna say you submissive in one breath

1158
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 3: and say I'm gonna talk.

1159
00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 1: Back because it's it's spicy, but I'm listening.

1160
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 2: I'm listening, but I'm gonna talk back.

1161
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 3: My mom taught me to be very submissive. No, I'm

1162
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:18,280
Speaker 3: gonna talk back. I'm very submissive.

1163
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 2: I'm listen, I'm gonna do it.

1164
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:24,440
Speaker 1: I just got to say what I felt while I'm

1165
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 1: doing it, while I just wanted you to know I

1166
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 1: had an opinion about it while I'm doing it, while

1167
00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 1: I'm doing it, and I'm gonna do.

1168
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 2: It the way I want to do it.

1169
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 1: No, no, because I don't want to do it again.

1170
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna listen. But we

1171
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 1: could have did it the other way. It would have

1172
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:48,360
Speaker 1: still been nice.

1173
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:50,240
Speaker 2: Just so you know, just so you know, I'm gonna

1174
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:52,600
Speaker 2: let you know, but I'm gonna do it, and I'm submissive.

1175
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:57,680
Speaker 3: Oh man, I had so much fun talking to you.

1176
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:01,680
Speaker 3: How can we support you? What's your social media? What's

1177
00:59:01,720 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 3: your website? Do you got any immersed that we can purchase?

1178
00:59:04,720 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 3: What what's going on with you?

1179
00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 1: You can support me by being on my patreon. My

1180
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 1: patreon is Calie Scott and then also all of my

1181
00:59:12,840 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: social medias are at like Calie Scott, L I K

1182
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:18,880
Speaker 1: E K A L I S C O T T.

1183
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 1: And if you see me coming to a city, and

1184
00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:24,120
Speaker 1: if you see me coming to a city near you,

1185
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: I know you might have to drive an hour. Hey,

1186
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: if you love me, come on out. You know what

1187
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:31,760
Speaker 1: I mean, And don't come out by yourself. Bring a cousin,

1188
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 1: bring an uncle, bring a fine daddy, Bring your sister,

1189
00:59:34,360 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 1: bring your nieces, bring your nephews. We're gonna have a ball.

1190
00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:40,840
Speaker 1: My comedy shows are so fun, and I would love

1191
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:44,160
Speaker 1: to bless you with just a moment of being able

1192
00:59:44,240 --> 00:59:45,840
Speaker 1: to just laugh and enjoy yourself.

1193
00:59:45,920 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 2: What days you're coming up? What days do you have?

1194
00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 2: Book in the month of December.

1195
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:52,000
Speaker 1: And mother December. I don't have anything else yet, but

1196
00:59:52,120 --> 00:59:54,120
Speaker 1: if you check my website, if you check that link

1197
00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 1: in the bio, you can see all my upcoming dates.

1198
00:59:57,400 --> 01:00:01,360
Speaker 3: Good, good, good, three hundred and sixty five days. The

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01:00:01,480 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 3: journey began in August. And again, don't give up.

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01:00:07,440 --> 01:00:09,360
Speaker 2: Don't give up. Oh I do real quick.

1201
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,200
Speaker 1: While I'm here, I do. Got to plug my mama book.

1202
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 1: My mom wrote a book. It's called The Perfect Eve

1203
01:00:14,720 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 1: and it's available on Amazon.

1204
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 2: What is it about?

1205
01:00:17,600 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 1: It is about discovering who you are through some of

1206
01:00:21,280 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: the trials and tribulations that you've gone through in the

1207
01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 1: modern lens of Eve.

1208
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:29,360
Speaker 2: In the garden. Good good, good, good, what's your mama name?

1209
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:31,360
Speaker 1: Shout out Roshan Burrell.

1210
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:34,400
Speaker 3: Roa Sean Burrell, shout out to you, ro Sean Burrell.

1211
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:39,120
Speaker 3: You raised an amazing woman, and you know it's good

1212
01:00:39,240 --> 01:00:43,640
Speaker 3: that you were able to model what a wife looks like,

1213
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:46,040
Speaker 3: what wife who looks like on both sides, because you

1214
01:00:46,120 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 3: spoke highly of both of your parents, and I love that.

1215
01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:52,600
Speaker 3: And I'm just I'm gonna speak directly to y'all just

1216
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:55,560
Speaker 3: because a relationship doesn't work out with the parents. I

1217
01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:58,439
Speaker 3: love when people are able to say, hey, this didn't

1218
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 3: work out, but we have mutual respect for one another,

1219
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 3: and we're going to prioritize our kid, our kids on

1220
01:01:06,280 --> 01:01:07,080
Speaker 3: how many kids y'all have.

1221
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:12,000
Speaker 2: How many kids y'all have? You by the four? Okay,

1222
01:01:12,200 --> 01:01:12,920
Speaker 2: her by the four?

1223
01:01:15,960 --> 01:01:18,560
Speaker 3: So the kids are going to prioritize the kids and

1224
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:22,760
Speaker 3: make sure that they see a healthy, healthy coparing and relationship.

1225
01:01:22,880 --> 01:01:25,560
Speaker 3: And so I salute y'all. That's what diffuture wife is about.

1226
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:29,680
Speaker 3: I always said that I want to increase the marriage

1227
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:33,560
Speaker 3: rates in the Black community and decrease divorce statistics, but

1228
01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 3: either way, provide tools so that we can have healthy love.

1229
01:01:37,720 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 3: And so I love it when people get it right.

1230
01:01:40,320 --> 01:01:42,720
Speaker 3: Uh so, Hey, y'all make sure y'all go support her.

1231
01:01:43,040 --> 01:01:45,840
Speaker 3: Her handles will be in the description. Hey y'all give

1232
01:01:45,880 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 3: it up for my homie, Callie Scott Lawn.

1233
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:51,920
Speaker 2: It was great. Stay tuned to the end for a

1234
01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:55,680
Speaker 2: letter to my future wife. You write at least love letters.

1235
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 3: Ladarian thrust it suddenly into child protective services in twenty fifteen.

1236
01:02:06,480 --> 01:02:11,120
Speaker 3: My nephew, black a boy. The likelihood have been adopted

1237
01:02:11,160 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 3: outside of kinship?

1238
01:02:12,880 --> 01:02:13,560
Speaker 2: Slim to none?

1239
01:02:14,400 --> 01:02:19,440
Speaker 3: Rmione, sixteen years old, black a boy with five years

1240
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:22,000
Speaker 3: in the Falter care system before I even knew his name.

1241
01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 2: The likelihood have ever been adopted? Yep, you guessed it.

1242
01:02:27,160 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 2: Slim to none.

1243
01:02:29,680 --> 01:02:32,640
Speaker 3: While Ladarian and Ourmiani were trying to survive and barely

1244
01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:36,120
Speaker 3: thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded Falseter care system, I

1245
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 3: was living my own life, doing well professionally, having been

1246
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:41,760
Speaker 3: a single father with a daughter who at that point

1247
01:02:41,880 --> 01:02:44,240
Speaker 3: was doing well in college. It was my time to

1248
01:02:44,280 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 3: live my life right wrong. I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated.

1249
01:02:51,800 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 3: There are just two many of our black children stuck

1250
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:58,720
Speaker 3: in ambiguity and in the limbo of the Falter care system.

1251
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:03,760
Speaker 3: Seventeen I legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast forward to

1252
01:03:03,840 --> 01:03:06,560
Speaker 3: twenty nineteen. I had no ties to this other young king,

1253
01:03:06,640 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 3: but I felt God instructed me to adopt them also

1254
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:13,440
Speaker 3: on an babe. Starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right,

1255
01:03:13,520 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 3: Working with various foster care and adoption agencies to help

1256
01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,400
Speaker 3: bring awareness to the countless young Black Kings and the

1257
01:03:19,440 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 3: Falster care system should have decreased my agitation.

1258
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 2: Right.

1259
01:03:23,640 --> 01:03:26,200
Speaker 3: Joining the board of directors of Advantage of Adoption and

1260
01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:29,920
Speaker 3: organization that helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in

1261
01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 3: FALSI care should have led to some type of resolve.

1262
01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:36,960
Speaker 2: Right, No, not at all. None of it felt like

1263
01:03:37,120 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 2: I had done enough.

1264
01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:43,320
Speaker 3: I now realized that every one of those experiences was

1265
01:03:43,400 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 3: land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission.

1266
01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:47,800
Speaker 2: Kingdom Royal.

1267
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:51,440
Speaker 3: Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of the art

1268
01:03:51,480 --> 01:03:54,680
Speaker 3: home for foster boys. Our first location will be in

1269
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:57,680
Speaker 3: the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex. We will utilize the whole

1270
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:02,360
Speaker 3: person approach that instills identity, empowers them to advocate for themselves,

1271
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:06,720
Speaker 3: and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and limitless options that

1272
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:11,400
Speaker 3: they thought were impossible. Though the young Kings will attend

1273
01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:14,160
Speaker 3: the local public schools that are in proximity the King

1274
01:04:14,200 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 3: of Royale. Our at home curriculum will broaden their worldview

1275
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:22,000
Speaker 3: through participating in the arts, attending various cultural events, learning

1276
01:04:22,080 --> 01:04:26,240
Speaker 3: about and engaging in multifaceted discussions about current events and

1277
01:04:26,400 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 3: even relevant historical contexts, Introducing them to gardening and landscaping,

1278
01:04:31,120 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 3: and even caring for our animals on our form and

1279
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 3: on site stables. We just launched our startup capital campaign

1280
01:04:39,160 --> 01:04:41,280
Speaker 3: with the goal of raising two point eight million dollars.

1281
01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:43,760
Speaker 2: Now why two point eight million dollars? Well.

1282
01:04:43,800 --> 01:04:46,160
Speaker 3: In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which

1283
01:04:46,240 --> 01:04:50,120
Speaker 3: I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community.

1284
01:04:50,400 --> 01:04:52,640
Speaker 3: One of the most notable successes was that one of

1285
01:04:52,680 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 3: the videos went.

1286
01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 2: Viral, garnering twenty eight million views.

1287
01:04:57,480 --> 01:04:59,880
Speaker 3: However, one of my biggest regrets is that I do

1288
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 3: and raise a single dollar to help in implementing a

1289
01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:07,040
Speaker 3: more sustainable plan for the homeless community. So throughout the years,

1290
01:05:07,960 --> 01:05:11,760
Speaker 3: with much remorse, I reflect that I'm not maximizing that moment.

1291
01:05:11,840 --> 01:05:14,760
Speaker 3: I knew if at that time just ten percent of

1292
01:05:14,800 --> 01:05:17,680
Speaker 3: the viewers donated one dollar, we would have raised at

1293
01:05:17,760 --> 01:05:21,240
Speaker 3: least two point eight million dollars that could have really

1294
01:05:21,400 --> 01:05:24,320
Speaker 3: established long term support for the homeless community, or at

1295
01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:27,160
Speaker 3: least started a long term initiative to do so.

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Speaker 2: This is my do over. This is our new beginning.

1297
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:36,000
Speaker 3: Together, we can attack this at the route by specifically

1298
01:05:36,120 --> 01:05:41,240
Speaker 3: helping our homeless Black boys who are already disproportionately represented

1299
01:05:41,440 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 3: in the American fossil care system.

1300
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Speaker 2: I'm a terisar Wickfield.

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01:05:45,080 --> 01:05:48,439
Speaker 3: I've been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work

1302
01:05:48,520 --> 01:05:51,440
Speaker 3: with the homeless as well as my personal adoption journey.

1303
01:05:52,000 --> 01:05:56,400
Speaker 3: Despite those accolades, the greatest award for me is truly

1304
01:05:56,600 --> 01:06:02,280
Speaker 3: providing the infrastructure for a transformed life. Visit Kingdomarreya dot

1305
01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:04,560
Speaker 3: com for more details Crown.

1306
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Speaker 2: Of king and make a donation today. Man, this episode

1307
01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 2: was fun. I laughed. You know what.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting because, as I think about it, this is

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Speaker 3: the last episode our record before getting married. Yep, the

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Speaker 3: last episode I record before getting married.

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Speaker 2: Five years. Y'all rock with me. Y'all been on this

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Speaker 2: journey with me.

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Speaker 3: We've laughed, we've cried, We've healed, we preached, we worshiped,

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Speaker 3: we shown up, we showed up authentic and whatever season

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Speaker 3: we were in.

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Speaker 2: We showed up. Well, here's my favorite part of the podcast.

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Speaker 3: This is my last letter that I'll write because you know,

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Speaker 3: as a videos as we share, it just all depends

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Speaker 3: on how the episode releases, but by time, this is

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Speaker 3: the last letter I all write.

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Speaker 2: Before saying I do, and that will be one that

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Speaker 2: I write in my vows.

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Speaker 3: But on this podcast says November tenth, Dear future wifey,

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Speaker 3: I'm marrying you in twelve days. Let that sink in

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Speaker 3: every tier I shed on The journey to you led

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Speaker 3: to the culmination of our souls becoming one, and we'll

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Speaker 3: celebrate it with the joy that only God could author.

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Speaker 3: In twelve days, I stand before you not as a

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Speaker 3: perfect man, but as a prepared one, a man who

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Speaker 3: has studied the lessons, taken the test, and repeated the

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Speaker 3: course until I finally understood that love is not earned

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Speaker 3: by performance. It's received through surrender. I surrender to us,

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Speaker 3: to the covenant, to the assignment on our union. I

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Speaker 3: think back on the nights I questioned whether real love

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Speaker 3: was still possible for me the knights. I prayed through pain,

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Speaker 3: bagged for healing, and wonder why God allowed certain chapters

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Speaker 3: to unfold the way they did. Now I understand every

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Speaker 3: valley shaped me so I could appreciate your mountaintop presence.

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Speaker 3: Every broken piece pointed me towards the grace that now

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Speaker 3: holds me together.

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Speaker 2: And you, my God, You, you are the answer.

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Speaker 3: I didn't know how to articulate the prayer that lingered

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Speaker 3: even when I lost the words. In twelve days, I

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Speaker 3: get to call you my wife, my partner, my safe place,

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Speaker 3: my future. We will dance that night, maybe around people,

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Speaker 3: but definitely within ourselves. We will breathe attitude. We will

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Speaker 3: honor his timing. We will step into purpose together. Twelve

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Speaker 3: days until I see you walk towards me. Twelve days

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Speaker 3: until the mystery becomes a masterpiece. Twelve days until my

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Speaker 3: forever begins your future hopey. I hope you enjoyed this

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Speaker 3: episode of the Dear Future WIFEI podcast. Remember be lit,

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Speaker 3: live intentionally and transparently, and don't stop loving.

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Speaker 2: Make sure to subscribe to our Dear Future Wife and

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Speaker 2: YouTube channels.

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Speaker 3: We're available on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher.

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Speaker 2: Be welcome your support. Simply share our podcasts with your

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Speaker 2: friends and family.