1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,320 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, this is the awkward part where we usually 2 00:00:02,360 --> 00:00:06,199 Speaker 1: promote another podcast on iHeartRadio that you can listen to. Obviously, 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:09,800 Speaker 1: always listen to Madi and PJ, but when you're done 4 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: listening to us, there is a new podcast out now 5 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: called Slow It Down with PJ. 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:21,279 Speaker 2: Oh my god, do we really have to promote this? 7 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 2: We do. 8 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 1: I've been working behind the scenes on a little bit 9 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:28,479 Speaker 1: of a project, and to be honest, it's kind of 10 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: selfish because I feel like I need this more than 11 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: anyone else. It's at one time a week where basically 12 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: I want to remind myself of the importance of slowing 13 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 1: down because life feels chaotic. I just think it feels 14 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:44,240 Speaker 1: busier than ever. We're overwhelmed with information all the time. 15 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:47,519 Speaker 1: So basically I'm sitting aside thirty to forty five minutes 16 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:50,919 Speaker 1: every Sunday for a new chat with someone to talk 17 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: about how they find peace in the chaos. So grab 18 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 1: a crystal light, a candle, take your shoes off, and 19 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: make sure you ground it in your beer feet. 20 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 2: Is that what we're doing? Do you ever to go? 21 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: All I'm saying is you might walk away feeling inspired, 22 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: get a little more relaxed. 23 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 2: I'm very very excited for you. I'm very proud of 24 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 2: you as well. This is really exciting. 25 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 1: So anyway, the podcast Slow It Down is available now 26 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 1: on iHeartRadio. New episodes drop every Sunday and go and 27 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: give it a listen. 28 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 3: With the Heads Podcast Network. 29 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:34,320 Speaker 2: Hello and welcome to Slow It Down. 30 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: I'm your host PJ Harding, and I've started this podcast because, well, 31 00:01:40,720 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: pretty selfishly, really, i feel like life is so busy. 32 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 2: Even though I live. 33 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: Literally in the middle of nowhere, off grizz surrounded by bush. 34 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: You'd think that you could just quiet in the noise, 35 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: But I still feel stressed. I still feel overwhelmed. I 36 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: still feel, you know, that of keeping up with what 37 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: everyone else is doing. And I want to carve out 38 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: some time every week to sit down and have really 39 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: conscious conversations with people who are also living busy lives. 40 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: And I want to pick their brains and work out 41 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: how they find peace and the chaos and what rituals 42 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: they do to stay sane. 43 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 2: It's that simple. 44 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: Every week I'll have a new guest and hopefully we 45 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: can be inspired together. I don't want this to be 46 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 1: a judgmental zone. I want it to be a placed 47 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: you can chill out and listen. 48 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 2: To over the weekend. 49 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,520 Speaker 1: And I am so excited to introduce my first guest 50 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: on the show, Zoe Marshall. 51 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 2: We actually briefly work. 52 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:45,079 Speaker 1: Together back in the day when she was working on 53 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: Zidim and Auckland. She worked on a show there for 54 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 1: a while and then we sort of just kept in 55 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: touch over the years, and she's gone on to create 56 00:02:55,600 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: some amazing podcasts. She created The Deep and then started 57 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: a subscription called The Deeper, and the conversations that she 58 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 1: has had on that podcast have been pretty heavy. She's 59 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: talked to people will parents that have been given a 60 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:19,920 Speaker 1: terminal diagnosis. She's talked to isatic's, conscious sex workers. The 61 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: list goes on. She's not afraid to tackle a taboo topic. 62 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: And more recently, she's gone on to create a new 63 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: platform called Rise, which helps people create the life they deserve. 64 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: And it's all about manifestation, but as she says, it's 65 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: manifestation a bit better and she talks about her through 66 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:41,600 Speaker 1: so much more to it than just at being wo 67 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: There's a lot of science to back up some of 68 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: this stuff. So I can't wait to pick her brain 69 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: in this episode, and I really hope you enjoying. 70 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 2: My chat with Sulley. 71 00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: Oh, Zorry, I've been so excited to catch up with you. 72 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 2: It has been a while. 73 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: I think the last time we talked, I've just given 74 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: birth and I went through like a step by step 75 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 1: harrowing encounter of what happens. 76 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, you were there was a little bit of PTSD. 77 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So it's really nice to see your beautiful 78 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: face again. 79 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 3: And you Howard's the baby. He's just gone to Wow, 80 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 3: two years since I spoke to you, it's crazy. Yeah, 81 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 3: you were living in the bush. 82 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 2: I am kind pretty much. 83 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, although I work in the nearest town now 84 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 1: so I actually do a radio show. 85 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 2: Out of the local rural Talmagi is a twenty minute drive. 86 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:35,280 Speaker 3: Look at you all set up? 87 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 2: Trust of all. 88 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:40,279 Speaker 1: I'll run through what Slow It Down is and kind 89 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: of the premise of this podcast and why I thought 90 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: you'd be a perfect fat So basically, I think since 91 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: moving to the middle of nowhere, you know, I had 92 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: this expectation that life becomes slow and relaxed and I'd 93 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:59,040 Speaker 1: be grounded, And the reality is I'm still stressed. Life 94 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: still feels chay on it, and I have a beautiful 95 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: life but it's so easy to not appreciate everything beautiful 96 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 1: in front of you. So I want to talk about 97 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:13,480 Speaker 1: tips and tracks and ways to really feel like. 98 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 2: You can make the most of the golden years. 99 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 3: Oh my god, are we in the golden years? 100 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 2: I know, I know for sure. 101 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 4: I feel like this is so aligned with where I 102 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 4: am at because I am very literally in a metamorphosis 103 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 4: of wanting to have the experiences and wisdom of like 104 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:42,279 Speaker 4: being an elder on a rocking chair, you know, but 105 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 4: like doing all of that now, like the pace, the presence, 106 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:54,840 Speaker 4: the appreciation now. So I am every I'm just I 107 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 4: want to get rid of everything. 108 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 3: I want to get rid of, like a lot of 109 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 3: my belongings. 110 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 4: I want to downce eyes everything in my life. I 111 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 4: want to just have my needs met and then be 112 00:06:07,880 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 4: able to. 113 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 3: Do less. 114 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 4: And I am like it already is happening. And I 115 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 4: think it all started with like I had a quite 116 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 4: quite a scary breast scare in June, and. 117 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 3: That just shifts everything. 118 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:26,839 Speaker 4: And it's such a shame that human beings need such 119 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 4: a dire situation to wake them up, but I did. 120 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 4: And I just got back from two and a half 121 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 4: weeks in Europe, and Dubai and literally just sitting in 122 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,359 Speaker 4: the sun eating bread and butter and olive oil. 123 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:47,719 Speaker 3: I was like, this is living. 124 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:52,560 Speaker 4: Obviously it's very different circumstances, but what if we could 125 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 4: bring that level. I like to call it like the 126 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 4: magic in the mundane, like finding the miracle. 127 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 2: Stop it. 128 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: It's literally like one of my atives, well objectives of 129 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 1: this podcast is finding magic in the mundane, or like 130 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: finding meaning in the mundane, right. 131 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, And I find like being in awe of everything 132 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 4: around us. So I think we have just been really 133 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 4: stripped of so much importance because of you know, how 134 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 4: distracted we are, how we've got these kind of really 135 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 4: quick dopamine hits all the time. We're not able to 136 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 4: focus in and slow down and appreciate the things that 137 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 4: we have. I created a whole new business I got 138 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:45,239 Speaker 4: rid of I slowed down one side of my business 139 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 4: and started a new one which is all around this 140 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 4: and it's around manifestation, co creation mindset. But truly, like 141 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 4: it sounds like a riddle, but everything that we want 142 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 4: if you are living as if you already have that thing, 143 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 4: and you're already feeling the way it would feel to 144 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 4: have the thing, then you already have the feeling you 145 00:08:10,640 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 4: would have it even if you got it. So it's 146 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 4: kind of like once you get all the stuff right, 147 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 4: like I went really hard in my career, and I 148 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 4: got the accolades, and I got the fancy car, and 149 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 4: I got the fancy house, and I got the fancy things, 150 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 4: and then you're like, oh fuck, I didn't need any 151 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 4: of the fancy things, any of them. Yes, right, but 152 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 4: now shut down all those businesses. Start something that feels 153 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 4: like in true service, which will also keep me accountable 154 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 4: every single day and just be able to meet life 155 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,679 Speaker 4: where it's at and be able to practice in real time. 156 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 4: It's okay to become heady about all of this and 157 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:52,680 Speaker 4: get into the education and do the YouTube and be 158 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:55,840 Speaker 4: in the tutorials and join the courses. But unless you're 159 00:08:55,960 --> 00:09:02,120 Speaker 4: in complete chaotic insanity and you don't start to bring 160 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 4: the stuff in, there's no point. Like you're just on 161 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 4: the kind of little rat wheel. 162 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 3: What do you call it? 163 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, thats the rat race. 164 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 1: That's also another reason why I wanted to do this, 165 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:18,079 Speaker 1: because I've bought so many self help books of my life, 166 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: and I know all the shit to do, but just 167 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: sometimes implementing it is kind of hard, and you're right, 168 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: it's so sad that we have to have like these 169 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 1: life awakening moments, you know, whether it's a family been 170 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: beginning really unwell or you lose your house or whatever. 171 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: When people are really steered with what reality is, that's 172 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: when they're like, oh, fuck, I don't have long to 173 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:45,439 Speaker 1: live and I need to live and I can't waste 174 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: another second and like. 175 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:48,079 Speaker 3: What am I doing? 176 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 2: Yeah? 177 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 4: And how am I eating? And how am I moving? 178 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 4: And how am I turning up for my family? And 179 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 4: how am I working? And like like we are just 180 00:09:55,920 --> 00:10:01,360 Speaker 4: in this autopilot of life happening to us, and no 181 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 4: one actually stops until you're forced to stop, which is 182 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:08,319 Speaker 4: a health scare or a death or like a crumbling 183 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 4: and you're like, oh my god, I have to change. 184 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 4: I can't smoke anymore, I can't drink, like I like 185 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,560 Speaker 4: all of the things. But really, I guess what I'm 186 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 4: trying to teach my community at a RISE is like, 187 00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 4: we don't need to get to breaking point to change, Like, 188 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 4: we can bring in really incredible mini habits to change 189 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 4: your life, and it will change your life. And you 190 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 4: can have these realizations now and not at seventy, you know, 191 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 4: on the Rocking Chair. I feel like I'm very aligned 192 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:42,840 Speaker 4: with your podcast. 193 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,080 Speaker 1: Well, I was looking at some of your videos on 194 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 1: the rise page today and there was one that caught 195 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: my eye, and it was so funny because this woman 196 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:52,679 Speaker 1: was talking to you about the importance of starting your 197 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 1: day with something positive and how that will sit you 198 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 1: up for a more positive experience. Not necessarily bring you 199 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 1: more positivity, but you'll be more aware of the positive 200 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: things that happened to you. So I watched that video 201 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:08,120 Speaker 1: and then that's second I've got it into practice, right, 202 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:10,199 Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, okay, you're right, because I 203 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: wake up in like a stressed mode, right, and I 204 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:15,839 Speaker 1: know I should be more mindful. So I was like, okay, 205 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say the mantra, what if everything just wiked out? 206 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: What if everything just works out? What if everything just 207 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:22,760 Speaker 1: wixs ut? And I keep saying that, and then no 208 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: shits away. I walk outside the house and there was 209 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: this rainbow just going over our house, like it was 210 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:29,680 Speaker 1: the perfect rainbow. 211 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:32,479 Speaker 2: And I was like, I gotta tell Zoe that. 212 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:33,559 Speaker 3: Oh, and then I. 213 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: Just stayed there for our ages and I was like, okay, 214 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: well that in itself is just one of those moments. 215 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 4: And so there is science behind this, because my program 216 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:45,439 Speaker 4: is backed by neuroscience. 217 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 3: There's science behind starting your. 218 00:11:48,520 --> 00:11:52,479 Speaker 4: Day with a declaration and affirmation of positive headspace. 219 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:54,680 Speaker 3: Like it it. 220 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 2: It's not just we wooshit. 221 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 3: No, it like. 222 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,560 Speaker 4: Impacts your rath system. Your ra system is your articular 223 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 4: activity system. And what that does is we are consuming 224 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 4: so much information all the time as humans. We are 225 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 4: always scanning for information that makes us true or safe. 226 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 4: So if you wake up and you're like life is hard, 227 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 4: things are hard, and nothing works out for me, your 228 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:21,560 Speaker 4: wrath system is figuring out. Like I'm sure there was 229 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 4: something underneath that rainbow, like there was a traffic jam 230 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 4: or there was this, or that was that, and you 231 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:30,840 Speaker 4: were like, okay, but I see the rainbow in the 232 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 4: traffic jam, and I see the rainbow. 233 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 1: In that moment, I was like, oh my god, because 234 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 1: I'm so guilty of just like back in the day, 235 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:41,440 Speaker 1: I felt like I was bitter at embodying all these 236 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:43,840 Speaker 1: things that I believed, like having all these retchalks. 237 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 2: But it's so easy to get caught back up. 238 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: In that like will as you talk about, and I 239 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 1: know there's so many beautiful things that I miss out on. 240 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 1: So it was it was quite like a powerful moment 241 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:57,199 Speaker 1: where I was like, you cannot afford to miss all 242 00:12:57,240 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: of this beauty and magic, because that's what it's all about. 243 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 4: And we do become addicted very immediately to our to 244 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 4: do lists and our needs and our children's needs and 245 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 4: the work and like. But the thing is, which is 246 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 4: so funny and very humbling, is the world doesn't end 247 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,720 Speaker 4: if you didn't do the grocery shop, or if the 248 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 4: child is late for school, or if you didn't have 249 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:27,560 Speaker 4: as many talking points for the radio show, Like it 250 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 4: just doesn't. 251 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 3: Like maybe eventually. 252 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 4: You'll lose your job if you don't keep doing, but 253 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:39,440 Speaker 4: I think we start to lose. We are putting things 254 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 4: in a very important category that aren't and we're putting 255 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:47,520 Speaker 4: ourselves and our mental health and our movement and our 256 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:51,480 Speaker 4: conversations as like something at the bottom of the barrel 257 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:55,040 Speaker 4: to when I've put the kids to bed and I 258 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 4: lay on the couch and I'm scrolling on TikTok and 259 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 4: watching a show at the same time, like. 260 00:13:58,080 --> 00:14:00,679 Speaker 3: It just we're responsible. 261 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:04,439 Speaker 4: And I don't think that anyone can like victimize themselves 262 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 4: because we all have the ability like we really do. 263 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: Okay, So give me some really great ways things that 264 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: we can do to weave into our day to encourage 265 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 1: that presence. 266 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 4: I think, firstly, this isn't like a quick hit, This 267 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 4: isn't like winning the lotto. This isn't like a pyramid 268 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 4: scheme marketing thing where you make keaps of money, and like, 269 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 4: no one is going to do this for you, and 270 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:40,840 Speaker 4: it is going to require commitment to yourself. But I 271 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 4: can tell you the people that we look up to, 272 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 4: the celebrities or the entrepreneurs or the billion dollar business people, 273 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 4: have such integrity with their routines to themselves. So I 274 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 4: say to everyone in the course, especially when you're starting, 275 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 4: get up thirty minutes before you usually do, right, And 276 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 4: that's really hard if you've got kids and you're getting 277 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 4: up at five instead of five thirty, Right, But go 278 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 4: to bed earlier and in that thirty minutes you have 279 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:15,000 Speaker 4: the ability to create a declaration when you're in an 280 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 4: alpha state, that awake state, right to program your rust system. 281 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:28,720 Speaker 4: You can do some some I want to say human users. 282 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 4: I want to say it's called like horizon gazing, but 283 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:35,320 Speaker 4: it's when you look out and you're kind of balancing 284 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 4: your circadian rhythm, which is going to really support your sleep. 285 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:41,360 Speaker 4: You can either journal or meditate, whichever feels better for you. 286 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 4: Move and stretch, eat. Like, if you do like two 287 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 4: of those six things, you're already setting yourself up right. 288 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 4: So when the kids get up, they're like on, they're 289 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:55,640 Speaker 4: like ready, and you're going. 290 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 3: To be a better parent. 291 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 4: You're going to be more patient, You're going to be 292 00:15:57,960 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 4: able to listen to them. They're having a tantrum because 293 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 4: they want the blue cup not the red cup. You're like, 294 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 4: I really understand, I get it. Fuck, I really like 295 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 4: the red cup too. But you won't be just like 296 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 4: pulling them out the door. 297 00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 3: Oh maybe you will, you know. 298 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 4: But I think that starting your day for yourself and 299 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 4: allowing yourself to set intentions rather than the day catch 300 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 4: you up is really important. And then there are a 301 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 4: million other things that we can bring in, Like you 302 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 4: really got to be serious about what you're consuming. 303 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 3: How much what are you drinking? 304 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 4: Are you a caffeinated person, Are you're relying on stimulants? 305 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 4: Are you getting your nourishment in like where little like 306 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,760 Speaker 4: organisms we need to be fed and watered and slept. 307 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,400 Speaker 4: And I think It's like looking at basics, are you 308 00:16:49,440 --> 00:16:53,120 Speaker 4: moving every day? And then like how do you see 309 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 4: the world and what are you doing? So co creation 310 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 4: how I teach it isn't wish for thinking that a 311 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 4: Ferrari is going to end up at your doorstep just 312 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,679 Speaker 4: because you put it on your vision board. It's like 313 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:11,120 Speaker 4: what am I doing today? What actions am I taking 314 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 4: to be magnetic to what I want? And so like 315 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:18,919 Speaker 4: I had a real doozy of a day on Thursday. 316 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:21,200 Speaker 3: It was like a fucking. 317 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 4: Doozy, horrendous jet lag. I hadn't slept at all, bench 318 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:30,160 Speaker 4: had food poisoning, my nanny was off. 319 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:30,880 Speaker 3: One of my. 320 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 4: Favorite favorite teammates within the my business resigned. A lawyer 321 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 4: needed a very specific information from me. My account wanted 322 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:46,399 Speaker 4: to have a really hard conversation. My dog vomited and 323 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:46,920 Speaker 4: I couldn't. 324 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 3: I couldn't. My daughter was like, you know, like at me. 325 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 4: And so it was a real moment of like that 326 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:03,240 Speaker 4: doesn't just kick a person into doing that, kicks you 327 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 4: into like safety seeking, behavior finding security. 328 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 3: And I went into my. 329 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 4: My autopilot, which is like fix everything now, like blinkers on, 330 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 4: don't talk to me. I'm going to solve all the 331 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:23,520 Speaker 4: world's problems in this moment, and then my husband was like, 332 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 4: you're not okay. I was like, I'm really not okay, 333 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:29,680 Speaker 4: Like a lot is happening, and we have this beautiful session. 334 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:32,360 Speaker 4: We had this workshop within the community that night, which 335 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:36,679 Speaker 4: was such perfect timing, and within this workshop, I was 336 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 4: able to explore what it would look like if I 337 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:46,119 Speaker 4: did things differently, like that way of like tunnel vision, 338 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,439 Speaker 4: getting everything done, fixing it all in one day and 339 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,439 Speaker 4: stressing myself out. I've done for forty years, So what 340 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:55,919 Speaker 4: would the other way look like. I saw benj my husband, 341 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:59,480 Speaker 4: downstairs after this workshop, and I said, listen, I know 342 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:03,199 Speaker 4: I was in a wild state when you saw me. 343 00:19:04,400 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 4: I need you to know that I'm going to practice 344 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 4: something and tomorrow I am not going to do anything 345 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 4: about those things I've already like literally shot off. I've 346 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 4: taken so much action today to put out ten fires. 347 00:19:19,720 --> 00:19:24,400 Speaker 4: But tomorrow I'm not going to chase like the fire engine. 348 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:27,679 Speaker 4: I'm just going to allow the action that I've taken 349 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 4: to simmer and connect. 350 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:36,560 Speaker 3: I'm going to go to the beach, beach. I'm going 351 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:39,320 Speaker 3: to go take my daughter to the beach. 352 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 4: And I am physically going to take myself out of 353 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:47,679 Speaker 4: where I want to be with fixing. And it was 354 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:49,439 Speaker 4: in those moments, and that's what I said at the 355 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 4: beginning of this, which was when the shit hits the fan, 356 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:57,399 Speaker 4: what learnings and what practices are you putting into place? 357 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:00,919 Speaker 4: Because we go to the place we've the safest, we 358 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 4: don't go to the place which we have the greatest growth. 359 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 4: And so I took my own advice and I went 360 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 4: to the beach and I did that stuff. And then 361 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 4: I realized, with a bit of space, you have a 362 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:15,400 Speaker 4: bit of clarity that I was like, oh my god, 363 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 4: this colleague leaving is the best thing for us. And 364 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 4: it hurts because I love them, but you would never 365 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 4: have let them go. You would never And this is 366 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 4: holding the business back. 367 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:28,399 Speaker 3: What are you going to do? 368 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:33,480 Speaker 4: And so now on Monday morning, I have three incredible 369 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:36,879 Speaker 4: business strategists that are like, the whole thing has just 370 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 4: come together because there's been space and I've done something 371 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 4: implemented the growth without kind of that habitual. You know, 372 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:49,280 Speaker 4: I wanted wine. I wanted heaps of wine. Yeah, I 373 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 4: wanted to eat heaps of chips and I wanted. 374 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 2: To did you do any of that or did you 375 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 2: just go to the beach space. 376 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:57,600 Speaker 4: I just went to the beach and then I went 377 00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:59,240 Speaker 4: for a walk and it was like this is so 378 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:02,960 Speaker 4: fucked me woke like how boring. And then on the 379 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,119 Speaker 4: weekend I definitely had two glasses of red wine. 380 00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 3: That's me being really wild. 381 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 4: And I've woken up today no jet lag and just 382 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 4: like I just am excited, like I did all my 383 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:18,920 Speaker 4: practices this morning. 384 00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:19,399 Speaker 3: I'm back. 385 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 4: Yeah. And only it doesn't have to You don't have 386 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:25,719 Speaker 4: to spial for six months. Hmm, Like you can like 387 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 4: do this in a day. 388 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 1: With manifestations. People off and talk about not forcing, not forcing, 389 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:43,199 Speaker 1: not forcing. You took a step back from there and 390 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: you just allowed, and then all of a sudden it was. 391 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 3: Trust, yeah, mantra. 392 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,480 Speaker 4: It was like let go, let go, you know, trust 393 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,199 Speaker 4: trust for us. But that's really hard for like a 394 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,760 Speaker 4: control freak. Even as a manifestation master like you, still 395 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 4: it's just a humbling experience because you never graduate, wait 396 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 4: from this stuff. Your life is just impacted by different 397 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:08,119 Speaker 4: situations and circumstances where you just keep leveling up and 398 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:13,440 Speaker 4: it's a beautiful life, like it's an extraordinary life. But 399 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,200 Speaker 4: what you see a success and what I see a 400 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 4: success and the person listening are so vastly different. And 401 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:24,680 Speaker 4: I'm not playing the game anymore for whatever anybody else 402 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 4: thinks is successful. 403 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:26,400 Speaker 3: For me. 404 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:27,720 Speaker 2: God, I get so caught up in that. 405 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,679 Speaker 1: I really do, and I think that I'm bigger than that, 406 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:33,399 Speaker 1: or you know, mature enough to like see past it. 407 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 1: But I still compare myself to so many people, and 408 00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, why the hell am I comparing myself to her? 409 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:41,120 Speaker 1: I don't actually want to be like her, but I'm 410 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,159 Speaker 1: still comparing myself. 411 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:45,359 Speaker 3: But if you didn't want what she had, why you 412 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:46,200 Speaker 3: compare exactly? 413 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:49,080 Speaker 2: I don't know, because there must be an answer. There's 414 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:49,720 Speaker 2: got to be something. 415 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,399 Speaker 1: I don't know because I feel like they've got more 416 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,720 Speaker 1: success than me, and I feel like I could be 417 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 1: doing that. 418 00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 2: But then I'm like, no, but I don't want to 419 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 2: be doing that. Do you know what I mean? 420 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 4: But do you think that the peers are looking at 421 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,919 Speaker 4: them like, oh, they're more successful than Polly? 422 00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 2: No one, no one's looking at it like that my brain, 423 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:10,240 Speaker 2: or like. 424 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 4: Are they thinking, you know, Polly chose to live out 425 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:18,640 Speaker 4: in the wilderness and chose peace, and I'm still here 426 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,640 Speaker 4: doing the rat race thing like Polly's got success. 427 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:24,920 Speaker 3: I don't I want that. Do you know what I mean? 428 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 1: Oh, it's the rose ten of glasses, It's the grass 429 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 1: is always greener mentality. 430 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:29,879 Speaker 2: And I want to know do you have an answer 431 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:30,760 Speaker 2: on how to get out of that? 432 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,520 Speaker 4: I think we need to get really really clear on 433 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 4: what we want and why we want it. And if 434 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 4: you come from a place of ego where I want 435 00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,120 Speaker 4: what she has or I want that job, because then 436 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 4: my peers think, or my mum will think, or I'll 437 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 4: drive a Lamborghini and hot chicks will like me. Versus 438 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:58,160 Speaker 4: I want to do work that I feel passionate and purposeful, 439 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,440 Speaker 4: and I want to be living a life in integrity 440 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 4: and of service to others are two very different things. 441 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,760 Speaker 4: Like it's okay to want fancy shit because our ego 442 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 4: is always running in the background and we want people 443 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,640 Speaker 4: to give us a compliment or acknowledge us or make 444 00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 4: us seen like it's very human. But that's fine on 445 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:25,120 Speaker 4: like a superficial level. When we're talking about like our 446 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:30,159 Speaker 4: life path and our purpose, like get really clear on why, 447 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,159 Speaker 4: because when we go back to that whole point of 448 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 4: like feeling the feeling of being the most successful version 449 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 4: of yourself. Right, if you're living that feeling, walking as 450 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:43,919 Speaker 4: if you're that person, talking as if you're that person, 451 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:49,520 Speaker 4: you're going to be attracting so many opportunities and people 452 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,919 Speaker 4: and places and things and serendipitous moments that meet you 453 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 4: there when it's in truth versus ego. And so it's 454 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:03,199 Speaker 4: like you can keep trying to out smart yourself or 455 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:06,000 Speaker 4: you can just like surrender your options. 456 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 1: Yes, And when you get into those mindsets, there's such 457 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:16,119 Speaker 1: roadblocks and obstacles to actually getting what you want, Like 458 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,720 Speaker 1: they're just fucking waste of time, waste of time. 459 00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 4: And you think you want the push, right, yeah, and 460 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,879 Speaker 4: then you get it and you realize no one is 461 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:31,439 Speaker 4: looking at you in your push, no one gives a 462 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,359 Speaker 4: shit about you and your push, like they really don't. 463 00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,160 Speaker 4: And the people that do, like you know what I mean. 464 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 1: I remember when I was in Australia and I was 465 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,159 Speaker 1: on billboards and I was like, really good work it, 466 00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,920 Speaker 1: and I just remember going, as I said, I was like, 467 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:46,520 Speaker 1: fight o this river, this is not going to be 468 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 1: this is like there was such a big part of 469 00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:53,640 Speaker 1: me that didn't feel that deep sense of fulfillment, and 470 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,760 Speaker 1: like that was confronting to a lot of people. I 471 00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: think they were like, why would you step away when 472 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,720 Speaker 1: you're in, you know, this possition, And I was like, 473 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 1: I can't really explain it, but I just got to 474 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 1: go home and I got to ground my roads, and 475 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:08,640 Speaker 1: you like, you've got to follow those nudges. 476 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:13,720 Speaker 4: And I think that people see that as successful when 477 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 4: you're not being dictated to by what society is you 478 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,679 Speaker 4: should have and you're following your truth, even if that 479 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:25,160 Speaker 4: looks crazy, like like living in this beautiful home and 480 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,679 Speaker 4: not wanting it anymore because it's too much and you 481 00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 4: don't know it's too much until you're in it, and 482 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:35,440 Speaker 4: going like I want something that is enough, not too much, 483 00:26:36,119 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 4: Like it's weird for people are not okay, and that's 484 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 4: okay because they're not. 485 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,040 Speaker 3: In the same place as you. 486 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,879 Speaker 4: And you just have to be like you will be 487 00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 4: confronting for people because they are being mirrored what is 488 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 4: actually trickling back to them, and that's not your problem. 489 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,679 Speaker 3: You just have to be in your truth. 490 00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 2: So you're going to get a tiny home and like. 491 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,200 Speaker 3: Living to rural New Zealand. 492 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:06,600 Speaker 4: Next to you fighting for your radio job. 493 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 1: So I have seen you talk about the imbortance of boundaries, 494 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 1: particularly over the last couple of years. Can you talk 495 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,800 Speaker 1: through that, like, how does that look for you? Saying 496 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:19,280 Speaker 1: no as a former people pleaser, Oh. 497 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:20,000 Speaker 3: My god, Like. 498 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:25,160 Speaker 4: I had Terry Cole, who is like the boundary master, 499 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 4: come on. 500 00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:27,440 Speaker 3: Board and take us through it. 501 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:31,720 Speaker 4: And I think it's just such an interesting thing, especially 502 00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,639 Speaker 4: raising a little girl to you know, what we're like 503 00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 4: as women and how we were raised as children in 504 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:44,040 Speaker 4: the eighties and nineties is such a impact on our 505 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:51,200 Speaker 4: boundaries sexually, with consent, with work, with like signing off 506 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:55,320 Speaker 4: your email's kiss kiss, like all of the stuff as 507 00:27:55,359 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 4: a woman and boundaries versus even bringing in you know, 508 00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 4: men into the equation and how they do boundaries that 509 00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 4: just seems so much more adequate than we are. But boundaries. 510 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:13,280 Speaker 4: So I'm writing a book. It's in it's almost at 511 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 4: its final edit, and it's your first part. 512 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:20,080 Speaker 3: It's my first deal. Oh my god, it's so great. 513 00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 2: Congratulations, thank you. 514 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:26,479 Speaker 4: It's such a wonderful experience. But this, this whole I 515 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:32,520 Speaker 4: have this whole chapter around boundaries because it's almost like 516 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:34,199 Speaker 4: and I explain it like this, like having a door 517 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 4: bitch right to your. 518 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:38,400 Speaker 3: Energy into yourself. 519 00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:46,520 Speaker 4: And you are a exquisite like very very elevated. 520 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:48,240 Speaker 3: Club. 521 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 4: You know, like like we're talking, you just can't get in. 522 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 4: You need like a membership, you need who's who, like 523 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:58,720 Speaker 4: it is like the Kram Della Cram. And then you've 524 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,120 Speaker 4: got drunks. 525 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,120 Speaker 3: Out in the middle of the night trying to get 526 00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:02,800 Speaker 3: into your club. 527 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:05,280 Speaker 4: It's like, no, they're going to come in, piss on 528 00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:08,160 Speaker 4: the walls, have punch up, smash all the glasses, like 529 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 4: absolutely not, Like this is a sacred place. Boundaries are 530 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:18,160 Speaker 4: for us. It looks like we're putting a boundary there 531 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:20,480 Speaker 4: for somebody else, but they are for us. And when 532 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:26,320 Speaker 4: we say unfortunately, I'm out of office from three pm 533 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,760 Speaker 4: every day, and the emails keep coming and you get 534 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:32,000 Speaker 4: back to them on a Monday and they're like, hey, 535 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,600 Speaker 4: you didn't get back to my emails. Yeah, it really 536 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,120 Speaker 4: clearly states that I'm out of office from three pm 537 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 4: without an explanation. When a family member wants to come 538 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,520 Speaker 4: over and see your newborn baby but they're sick, and 539 00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:48,680 Speaker 4: you're like, sorry, we're not having visitors for this week 540 00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 4: and next and I'd really appreciate it if you could 541 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,240 Speaker 4: let me know when you're well and then we'll organize 542 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 4: a time that suits us, you know, like all of 543 00:29:56,840 --> 00:30:00,760 Speaker 4: these things, it's not people see it as being rude. 544 00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 4: It's not being rude. It's allowing people to understand your 545 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 4: standards and what you require in life. People think that 546 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:17,640 Speaker 4: I am very particular neurotic, and some of those things 547 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:22,280 Speaker 4: are true, but I also have exceptional standards for myself 548 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 4: and then for everybody else. If you're in my orbit, 549 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,280 Speaker 4: and if you're not, like I don't mind, but if 550 00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,880 Speaker 4: you're working with me or if we're friends, there is 551 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 4: a quality that I expect and that I will return 552 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:40,960 Speaker 4: in favor. And I think the boundaries help that. And 553 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 4: I'm really willing, like I love other people's boundaries. When 554 00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,280 Speaker 4: I see someone like set a boundary, I'm like, fuck, 555 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,480 Speaker 4: that's hot. I'm so sexy for them, Like I like respect, 556 00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 4: you have self respect, So I mean you want more information. 557 00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 4: The whole workshop gives you, like play by play on 558 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,240 Speaker 4: how to set a boundary, But this also will come 559 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 4: up in moments that feel deeply uncomfortable, where you will 560 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,880 Speaker 4: people please when you really should set a boundary. 561 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 2: And so how do you how do you prevent that? 562 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: Like when it is an in this like spur of 563 00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 1: the moment kind of thing and someone's there and you're 564 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 1: like not prepared for it, because I guess we're boundaries. 565 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 1: Sometimes people can be ready to reply with an email 566 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,280 Speaker 1: or whatever. But if if someone comes up and they 567 00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,160 Speaker 1: ask something in your face and you're like, like the 568 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,520 Speaker 1: people pleaser might want to come out like of course. 569 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,040 Speaker 4: I would say, like, if we're going from full on 570 00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:33,960 Speaker 4: people pleasing to boundaries, there's like an evolution. I would 571 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,280 Speaker 4: ask for time. I would say like, oh, that's a 572 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:38,320 Speaker 4: really interesting question. 573 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:39,440 Speaker 3: Could I get back to you on. 574 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 4: That, not in a in five minutes or in a day. 575 00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:44,800 Speaker 4: Can I get back to you on that. That's a 576 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:47,520 Speaker 4: really kind way to pause yourself. Then you could reflect 577 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:49,640 Speaker 4: and go like, oh no, I could have said thank 578 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,600 Speaker 4: you so much for the opportunity, it just doesn't fit 579 00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:56,479 Speaker 4: for me. Or unfortunately I can't stay back today I 580 00:31:56,520 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 4: have some commitments, you know, or unfortunately my contracts I 581 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:03,960 Speaker 4: end every day five o'clock, I won't be staying back. 582 00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,680 Speaker 4: But we can negotiate if you wanted to explore something further. 583 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,959 Speaker 4: So I think to start with us for time, and 584 00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 4: then reflect on what you really wanted to say, and 585 00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 4: then always lead with kindness. 586 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,440 Speaker 3: It's like being really firm but being really kind. 587 00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,560 Speaker 1: And how has life changed since you've been better at 588 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,240 Speaker 1: sitting these boundaries, Like you just have. 589 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:26,200 Speaker 3: So much more time. 590 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,920 Speaker 4: You can't like life is too short to do things 591 00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,200 Speaker 4: you feel obligated to do unless you're in a contract. 592 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't really get out of that. 593 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:40,320 Speaker 4: Look, I'm really in this transitional evolution even with friendships 594 00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 4: with family members, Like, really, I'm doing some big stuff, 595 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:49,120 Speaker 4: ending some big relationships that have required endings for a 596 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 4: long time that I haven't been able to do out 597 00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,240 Speaker 4: of obligation. 598 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,600 Speaker 3: And you don't. 599 00:32:57,480 --> 00:33:02,840 Speaker 4: No one deserves anything from you if they're not meeting you. 600 00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:07,200 Speaker 3: And it feels so good. 601 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,320 Speaker 4: It doesn't mean that there are parts of me, like 602 00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:15,080 Speaker 4: the shadowy parts of myself that don't miss them, you know, 603 00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,920 Speaker 4: and the comfort of certain parts of the relationship. But 604 00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:22,800 Speaker 4: the commitment to myself is more important than that. 605 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:25,440 Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, I love that. 606 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: So how would you describe how life feels right now 607 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 1: for you? 608 00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:34,600 Speaker 3: Really exciting? Thursday wasn't so exciting. 609 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:42,280 Speaker 4: Today is really exciting. There is a lot of movement, 610 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:47,200 Speaker 4: there's a lot of change, but I am so willing 611 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:53,479 Speaker 4: to evolve and just I think I've had that weird 612 00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,600 Speaker 4: you know, society impact on me where I have to 613 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:02,240 Speaker 4: keep scaling and growing and scaling, and now I'm just like, no, no, 614 00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:06,880 Speaker 4: I'm just gonna I'm going to downsize. And yes, the 615 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:09,760 Speaker 4: quality of what I've got out there is so high, 616 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,520 Speaker 4: it's ever green. We don't I don't need need to 617 00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 4: do more without that happening really organically. 618 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:22,040 Speaker 1: Or if there was a quote that you live by, 619 00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:25,520 Speaker 1: or you think there's a quote that is such a 620 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:29,319 Speaker 1: good mantra for one's life, does one pop to the 621 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:30,000 Speaker 1: top of your head. 622 00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:31,200 Speaker 3: I've got one. 623 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,759 Speaker 4: We had to we did this for the book, and 624 00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:37,640 Speaker 4: I was like, asking you shall receive, and it's actually 625 00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 4: that quote is actually in the Bible, and so we 626 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 4: had to like reference the Bible. 627 00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:44,840 Speaker 3: And then they were like, you're definitely setting the wrong tone. 628 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:51,600 Speaker 4: So I removed asking you to receive to whether you 629 00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:56,960 Speaker 4: think it's true or not? Hang on, it's oh my god, 630 00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:59,399 Speaker 4: where do you think it? What do you think it's 631 00:34:59,440 --> 00:34:59,960 Speaker 4: true or not? 632 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:00,919 Speaker 2: You're right right? 633 00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:03,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, These are some of the one like that, like 634 00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:06,480 Speaker 1: whether you think you can or not, you're right as well. 635 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:09,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, And I love that because it's the same thing 636 00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:12,360 Speaker 4: there's too many like I love, let go or be dragged. 637 00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:18,520 Speaker 4: That's one of my favorite things therapists because she's very 638 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:24,000 Speaker 4: My therapist is like a psychologist, but she's definitely spiritually inclined. 639 00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:29,040 Speaker 4: We had this real we had an amazing session and 640 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,359 Speaker 4: we kind of I guess I said that and she's 641 00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:33,560 Speaker 4: kept it forever as a reminder to me. Is like, 642 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:35,440 Speaker 4: you know, you can choose the hard way or the 643 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:36,959 Speaker 4: easy way, it's still going to be the way. 644 00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:38,279 Speaker 2: Oh that's good. 645 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:41,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really good for someone who's in a bit 646 00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,400 Speaker 1: of a rut at the moment, feeling like they're not 647 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,319 Speaker 1: loving their best life and there's so much more that 648 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,120 Speaker 1: they want to be achieving, but they just feel like 649 00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:49,319 Speaker 1: they're kind of stuck. Do you have any advice to 650 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:50,680 Speaker 1: get out of that rut? 651 00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:56,520 Speaker 4: I mean, join the membership, use me to your dispos 652 00:35:56,960 --> 00:36:02,400 Speaker 4: come in something really seriously though. Within community is having 653 00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:07,360 Speaker 4: people around you to inspire you. We call them rises, 654 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,920 Speaker 4: and they're people that show, like, you know how you 655 00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,040 Speaker 4: were like comparing yourself to the girl at the radio 656 00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:18,440 Speaker 4: station being able to transform her into if you wanted 657 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:21,120 Speaker 4: that you didn't want that, right, but say that you 658 00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:28,400 Speaker 4: did transforming that envy into someone that stretches you, that 659 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:33,160 Speaker 4: you can talk to, that you're inspired by, is such 660 00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:35,879 Speaker 4: an amazing way. And within the community, you have all 661 00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,360 Speaker 4: these people every day going, oh my god, I'm stuck, 662 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:39,839 Speaker 4: I'm in a rut, and you have someone else coming 663 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,839 Speaker 4: up with this helped me? Or did you try this 664 00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,239 Speaker 4: or this meditation is amazing? Or did you do the 665 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:47,359 Speaker 4: Inner Child workshop? And then you've got people that are 666 00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,080 Speaker 4: there to champion you. You've got people there that can 667 00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:54,720 Speaker 4: help you do priming phone calls. Like I think, staying 668 00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:57,480 Speaker 4: accountable is the biggest thing. It's kind of like a 669 00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:01,879 Speaker 4: gym work membership or losing weight or doing something new. 670 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:03,680 Speaker 3: You have to have accountability. 671 00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:07,440 Speaker 4: And that's why I created the community is because and 672 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,120 Speaker 4: I'm talking about the Arise community is because when I 673 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,239 Speaker 4: was in this ten years ago and there was no 674 00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:16,400 Speaker 4: one doing it. It's so hard to stay committed and 675 00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:19,200 Speaker 4: to believe. And even when you called in everything and 676 00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:22,120 Speaker 4: you've taken the aligned action and you've done everything and 677 00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 4: you're in the abyss, which is the time where we 678 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:30,640 Speaker 4: wait for the manifestation to occur, it's hard. Bit I 679 00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:35,400 Speaker 4: hate the most, and so having being in a space 680 00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,960 Speaker 4: that's safe and you can just be like I am 681 00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,040 Speaker 4: dying here, like my patience is running out what I do, 682 00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,840 Speaker 4: And they're like, go back to trust, go back to gratitude. 683 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:46,120 Speaker 3: Do like, go back to the work. 684 00:37:47,160 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 4: It's such a helpful thing because when you're out on 685 00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,560 Speaker 4: your loan like an island and you're in the abyss, 686 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:51,920 Speaker 4: You're like. 687 00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:52,600 Speaker 3: It doesn't work. 688 00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,520 Speaker 4: Fuck this shit, I'm going back to my old job 689 00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:59,200 Speaker 4: that I hate. So yeah, I've created the thing I 690 00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:04,200 Speaker 4: needed the most, and it's it's very impactful. 691 00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:06,719 Speaker 1: So people can find that. Just if we want to 692 00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,400 Speaker 1: do a little fluggy blood plug. 693 00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:10,799 Speaker 4: I think it's I think, oh my gosh, I should notice. 694 00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:13,239 Speaker 4: I think it's rise dot com dot a U A 695 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:18,759 Speaker 4: R double I S E. Or on Instagram it's a 696 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:22,120 Speaker 4: Rise A RI I double A S E Underscore Underscot 697 00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:27,320 Speaker 4: underscore because I fucked up the first did you charge 698 00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:27,560 Speaker 4: of her? 699 00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:28,600 Speaker 2: Come on, guys? 700 00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:30,280 Speaker 3: Can you guys? 701 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:32,640 Speaker 2: That's why you act like you're terrible and then no 702 00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:33,800 Speaker 2: one asks you to do things. 703 00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:37,160 Speaker 4: I know. It's a good, good technician accomplishment woman. 704 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,640 Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm going to wrap this podcast up with 705 00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:45,720 Speaker 1: some advice that you would give to your younger self. 706 00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:49,400 Speaker 1: Let's say, Zoe, is it early twenties, she's just finding 707 00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:52,840 Speaker 1: her way through life. What would be the biggest nuggative 708 00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,000 Speaker 1: wisdom that you would in part on younger Zoh. 709 00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:04,000 Speaker 4: It's going to get really really bad and then it's 710 00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:09,440 Speaker 4: going to get really really good. So just have faith 711 00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:14,040 Speaker 4: when you want to give up, but it gets really good. 712 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:15,040 Speaker 4: Like just trust. 713 00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:19,360 Speaker 1: So beautiful Zoe, and so nice to reconnect with you today. 714 00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:22,400 Speaker 1: I just love because you talk about evolving and how 715 00:39:22,440 --> 00:39:23,920 Speaker 1: you love gross and all of that, and I just 716 00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:25,799 Speaker 1: feel like every time I see you, you're like an 717 00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:27,320 Speaker 1: upgraded version of yourself. 718 00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,480 Speaker 4: I love that. It'd be terrible if I had gone backwards, right, 719 00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:33,440 Speaker 4: you'd be like, what a disappointment. 720 00:39:33,760 --> 00:39:34,319 Speaker 2: No, but you are. 721 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:40,080 Speaker 1: But like you grow, you just constantly shifting with putting 722 00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,760 Speaker 1: a challenges to throw in your way, and I always 723 00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:45,080 Speaker 1: look at you as an inspiration. So thank you so 724 00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,080 Speaker 1: much for coming on the podcast today. 725 00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,680 Speaker 4: Thank you, beautiful girl. I can't wait to see you 726 00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:51,640 Speaker 4: in real life one day. 727 00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:55,000 Speaker 2: Oh that was my chat with Zolley. 728 00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:57,120 Speaker 1: I really hope you enjoyed it. Love to know what 729 00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:58,879 Speaker 1: you got out of that conversation. The most, I think 730 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:02,080 Speaker 1: some of My big takeaway were they're getting up thirty 731 00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:04,840 Speaker 1: minutes earlier. It sounds like such a simple one, but 732 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:06,480 Speaker 1: even when you put it like, oh, if you're going 733 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,160 Speaker 1: to be tired, got to be thirty minutes earlier. 734 00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:10,440 Speaker 2: You know you have to be. 735 00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:15,000 Speaker 1: Strict on sleep. Like sleep at the end of the 736 00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:19,440 Speaker 1: day is it runs us like Honestly, we have to. 737 00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:23,439 Speaker 2: Get strict on it. And I for one, am very 738 00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:24,799 Speaker 2: guilty at staying up too. 739 00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,680 Speaker 1: Late watching TV, particularly lately, so that was a really 740 00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:30,719 Speaker 1: good reminder for me. And also I loved when she 741 00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:33,600 Speaker 1: was talking about being the gatekeeper for your energy and 742 00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:38,760 Speaker 1: being ruthless and really setting the boundaries of who gets 743 00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:40,960 Speaker 1: to come into your life, which, as she said, it 744 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:44,600 Speaker 1: sounds you know, it can sound quite brash and rude 745 00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:47,480 Speaker 1: and brutal, but I mean, if you want to give 746 00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,840 Speaker 1: the best version of yourself, you have to get really 747 00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:54,960 Speaker 1: clear on who you want to bring into your world. 748 00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,799 Speaker 1: And then finally, I really liked that story about when 749 00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:03,719 Speaker 1: she hit that really day and just letting go when 750 00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:08,400 Speaker 1: she hits the fan, instead of trying to fix everything 751 00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:13,880 Speaker 1: and going into just the biggest state of overwhelm, actually 752 00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:17,920 Speaker 1: removing yourself from that situation and going to the beach, 753 00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:18,600 Speaker 1: going for a. 754 00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:20,919 Speaker 2: Walk, whatever. It is, just getting out of that. 755 00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,560 Speaker 1: Moment where the world feels like it's falling in or 756 00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:27,000 Speaker 1: the sky feels like it's falling in, and actually stepping. 757 00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,000 Speaker 2: Back gives you that other perspective. 758 00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 1: So I really like that, not trying to push it 759 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:34,840 Speaker 1: in those situations and just taking a deep breath and 760 00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:39,040 Speaker 1: realizing it's actually not the end of the world. But 761 00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:41,160 Speaker 1: I would love to know what you got out of 762 00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,759 Speaker 1: the chat this week, and you can help me up 763 00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,399 Speaker 1: on Instagram. PJDJ send me a little message. I'd love 764 00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,000 Speaker 1: to know of any other people you think would be 765 00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,920 Speaker 1: great to get on for Slow It Down. Thank you 766 00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:53,279 Speaker 1: so much for joining me for my first episode. I 767 00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:55,399 Speaker 1: really appreciate it, and I'll see you next week.