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Speaker 1: The Hits Drive with Meddi and PJ.

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Speaker 2: Thanks to chimis Wee House the Real House of Fragrances

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Speaker 2: on that.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 2: I haven't done a dream update in a while, and

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Speaker 2: I've got to tell you a fucking wax dream that

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Speaker 2: I had two nights ago. I had a sixty dream

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Speaker 2: about Adam's Sandler. I know, I know, I know, and

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Speaker 2: it was like I was really dream.

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Speaker 1: I like it.

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Speaker 3: I like him. I like him as a he's a

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Speaker 3: good actor. He's got funny movies out there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but not on the bed as.

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Speaker 3: A sick symbol and a dream.

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Speaker 2: He's got two I think it's two daughters and a wife,

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Speaker 2: and he's really he speaks so sweetly about them. This

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Speaker 2: is a really random way to start the podcast.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what it is?

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Speaker 2: To me?

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Speaker 3: Though? Has has dressed since his appalling with the.

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Speaker 2: Hoodie, and it just looks like he's rolling out of you.

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Speaker 1: But I like that.

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Speaker 2: No, I reckon, it's kind of cool. It's just like

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Speaker 2: Hollywood screw out. I don't care. I'm just every day man,

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm gonna send your photo and maybe we'll put

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Speaker 3: this stuff on our maybe'll put this stuff on our

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Speaker 3: hits drive Instagram page. Is this the Adam Sandler that

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Speaker 3: you found sexy in your dream?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, here we go. Hang on, come on,

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Speaker 2: come on through, I have sent it, you know how

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Speaker 2: like some of the really sexy sleibs can get away

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Speaker 2: with like oh, like I saw bred Pet was wearing

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Speaker 2: crazy pants the other day and everyone's like, this is

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Speaker 2: the new trend. But I love when Adam Sandler with

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Speaker 2: a pink shirt and a pink orange trucky hat. It's

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Speaker 2: just something sexy about it.

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Speaker 3: Here he is appearing in your dreams page.

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Speaker 2: I don't know where that came from. My subconscious has

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Speaker 2: so much to answer for.

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Speaker 1: What else is going on? Okay? Now that the Hen's

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Speaker 1: party's done.

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Speaker 3: Well, I've we've we went to have a shower last

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Speaker 3: night before we got into bed and realized that we've

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Speaker 3: got a bloody blocked drain. And yeah, part of me

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Speaker 3: was like, is this could can you fix this kind

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Speaker 3: of stuff yourself?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I know you can, but you can't. You just can't.

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Speaker 3: No, I know, I definitely couldn't.

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Speaker 2: And I saw your message of defeat on your Instagram

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Speaker 2: story this morning, going, do I know any plumbers out there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, someone's coming from someone, A guy is coming around

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Speaker 3: tomorrow to fix it, because the showers just.

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Speaker 2: Not What do you do when they come around though,

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Speaker 2: that's the funny. But you pretend like, yeah, you chat

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Speaker 2: through it, or you just go and sit down in

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Speaker 2: the lounge by yourself.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but like you oh yeah, you know, I just

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Speaker 3: I thought you'd use I thought you'd use that wrench.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like do you kind of like narrate and commentate

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Speaker 2: through it? And government of a company and you go, hey,

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Speaker 2: do you want a cup of day or do you reckon?

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Speaker 2: You just fucking like pass off, sit in another road.

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Speaker 3: I think a little introduction in then leave and then

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Speaker 3: I'll I'm just gonna leave you to it or in

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Speaker 3: any issues just let me know.

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Speaker 1: But use the bathroom on the way.

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Speaker 3: He's weeah bathroom you just can't flush at the moment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so don't do that. You should offer him a

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Speaker 2: cup of tea. You maybe make him a sandwich or something.

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Speaker 2: A sandwich, Nah, that's too much. You don't do that,

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Speaker 2: but offer a cup of tea.

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Speaker 3: Definitely offer him a cup of tea or coffee.

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Speaker 2: I can make here coffee, coffee, or a biscuit. Would

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Speaker 2: you lead him into your biscuits stash all that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll give him a ginger nut. We've got a

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Speaker 3: ginger we got ginger nuts in the house. I'd give

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Speaker 3: him a ginger nut.

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Speaker 2: You can't have a ginger out without the tea the

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Speaker 2: way or else breaks your tooth.

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Speaker 3: No, I love a ginger out without the tea.

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Speaker 1: Do you?

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Speaker 2: I'm always I want to break your tooth.

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Speaker 3: Ginger nuts are one of these things where, for some reason,

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Speaker 3: it feels it does healthy. It feels healthy that well

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Speaker 2: Got ginger ton of sugar. Yeah, I know what you mean.

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Speaker 2: I know what you mean. It's just in this fruit

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Speaker 2: or like, yeah, something in it. Talk like now, guys,

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Speaker 2: I'm giving my funk plus a day.

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Speaker 3: My god, I bought a block of chocolate on the

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Speaker 3: way home last nighters. Block. We ate the whole thing

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Speaker 2: That's that's no, it's not standard, but it's who did

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Speaker 3: Very half and half. I would say, split right.

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Speaker 2: Down, and what was your weapon of choice?

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Speaker 3: Like what flavor did we go for? Yeah, the coconut

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Speaker 2: That's not what I usually go for, but it's quite delicious.

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Speaker 3: Actually, it's really good. What's your what you go to?

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Speaker 2: It's always the caramel one, the caramels about like times.

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Speaker 2: Someone even ticks an the other day saying I need

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Speaker 1: We're rambling about food again. It was a serious problem.

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Speaker 3: Always I'll go to it's either what's for dinner? What's

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Speaker 3: that takeaways?

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Speaker 2: Because we record this after the show when we're particularly

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Speaker 2: susceptible to hunger. You know, yeah, I know, it's only human.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 2: What are you having?

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Speaker 3: It's like a it's porkmant's noodle dish with some VG's Yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: Coming up with the podcast today, we talk about optimists

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Speaker 2: and pessimists existing to get it in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: Maddy has a theory and we put it to the test.

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Speaker 3: Group therapy was really interesting, talking about would you move

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Speaker 3: cities for a potential relationship that's very very fresh m hmm.

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Speaker 2: It was quite a sweet resolution to I feel like

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Speaker 2: we've got some lovely advice. And we talked about the

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Speaker 2: worst things that people say to you and your job

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Speaker 2: or annoying questions that always get sent your way.

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Speaker 1: So all of that and more.

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Speaker 2: Oh plus we got on an expert on to analyze

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Speaker 2: analyze Maddi's Doodle.

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Speaker 3: Expert. We say that term loosely.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy the podcast, everyone and PJ the podcast Should We

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Speaker 2: meet It. When someone tells you that you look like

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Speaker 2: someone else, what's your initial reaction?

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Speaker 3: Never?

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Speaker 4: Good?

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Speaker 2: Never, he told you look like Suther.

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Speaker 3: Keep a young Keeper, Sutherland. I'll take that one. I

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Speaker 3: have been told you a couple of times. But then

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Speaker 3: you famously told me on the show that you thought

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Speaker 3: I looked like Wrecky Gervats.

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Speaker 2: No, it was just when you were rocking the stubble

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Speaker 2: and you were doing this cutin facial expression. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's a compliment. He is a comedic god.

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Speaker 3: But you weren't complimenting me on my comedic ability. You

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Speaker 3: were saying I look like him, and I wouldn't have seen.

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Speaker 3: He was known for being a handsome man.

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Speaker 2: Anyway. I wanted to know where your brain goes when

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Speaker 2: someone randomly sees this to you, because this is what

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Speaker 2: happened to me when I was in the supermarket. I

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Speaker 2: was putting my grocery items through and the guy said,

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Speaker 2: I've got to tell you, there is another woman that

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Speaker 2: comes into the store that looks so much like you.

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Speaker 1: Like you guys are like twins.

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Speaker 2: My instant reaction, like what I wanted to ask him

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Speaker 2: here's a day nager and it would be incredible inappropriate,

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Speaker 2: so I said, I like, sort of fun.

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Speaker 1: But I was like, oh is she is she cool?

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Speaker 2: She is she cool? And he goes yeah. I was like, okay,

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Speaker 2: well you let me know when she comes in the store. Oh,

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Speaker 2: and then the conversation just fizzled so quickly.

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Speaker 3: The thing is, though, he would have been the perfect

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Speaker 3: person to ask, because a teenage boy is always going

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Speaker 3: to be upfront and honest about who he finds hot

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Speaker 3: or not. No, it could have been a real it

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Speaker 3: could have been a real ego post for you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it could have fained. But I just felt like

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Speaker 2: that would have been just one step too far for

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Speaker 3: So now what are you going to do? Are you

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Speaker 3: going to stalk out the supermarket shop until this doppel ganger?

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Speaker 2: Reviewers trying to get a few questions. I was like,

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Speaker 2: so hell offen she here? Like we listen frequently shop,

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Speaker 2: we am I most likely to see her down one

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Speaker 3: Here's a question then, because we do have a fear

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Speaker 3: few listeners from the Wided Upper. If anyone in the

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Speaker 3: mask It's in the area, is listening right now and

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Speaker 3: you think you know who Pj's doppel ganger is, text.

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Speaker 5: To us one of.

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Speaker 3: Them down peach.

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Speaker 5: Man and the podcast Hey You.

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Speaker 3: Over the weekend, while I was hosting this Hen's do

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Speaker 3: as we've talked about, and I had a bunch of

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I said that.

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Speaker 3: I was almost like holding court at one point. I

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Speaker 3: had to describe yourself in three words yes. And she

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Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, what is one of the

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Speaker 3: words to describe me? And she said, I actually came

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Speaker 3: up with a word that I think really encapsulates who

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Speaker 3: I am. She said, I told people that I was

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Speaker 3: an optimist, and then we got talking in the group

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Speaker 3: about whether we thought we were optimists or not. And

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Speaker 3: I put my hand up and I said one hundred

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Speaker 3: percent wholeheartedly to my detriment think that the world is

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Speaker 3: all flowers and roses.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, you're definitely an optimist.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And then we got talking about the fact that

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Speaker 3: for those of us that thought of ourselves as optimists,

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Speaker 3: we felt like potentially we had married pessimists, that our

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Speaker 3: partners are all pessimists. And I wondered to myself, is

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Speaker 3: this a thing? Is it a kind of opposite to

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Speaker 3: tract where in the relationship there is generally an optimist,

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Speaker 3: generally a pessimist.

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Speaker 2: Oh see, i'd say, my husband Bjay is not a pessimist.

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Speaker 2: He's not a pessimist. But because I started talking about

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Speaker 2: this with him this morning in a bit of a debit,

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Speaker 2: erupted going, who's the optimist in our relationship? And I

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Speaker 2: was like, no, that's me, And he goes, no, No,

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Speaker 2: you're very pessimistic in the morning. And I will say, like,

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Speaker 2: there are parts of the day where I am quite pessimistic,

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Speaker 2: but I think my overall life, YE is very optimistic.

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Speaker 2: And so I don't know, I don't know if there's

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Speaker 2: a clear distinction between us.

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Speaker 3: You're an optimist, but you do also tend to catastrophize almost.

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Speaker 1: That is true.

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Speaker 2: That is true.

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Speaker 1: I'm definitely the hypochondriac in the relationship.

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Speaker 3: I do remember this one quintessential time where we lost Otis,

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Speaker 3: our dog for a short amount of time. Yes, and

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we've got some help beats about just up

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Speaker 2: Can it work?

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Speaker 1: Hi, Hello, tell us about your relationship.

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Speaker 2: You actually donate both sides. You never get pushed out

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Speaker 6: It's not going my way?

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Speaker 2: We're cool, You're cool.

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Speaker 3: Love it Nikki, thank you.

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Speaker 6: We've got to help people great balance tonight. Yeah, perfect

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Speaker 2: I love it. Well, we've got to helpeaks about your

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Speaker 3: Someone's texting I am the optimist. My husband is the

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Speaker 2: Oh, we're so excited about this. It's going to be

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Speaker 2: And basically there were so many nominations for this hole

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Speaker 3: This this place means a lot to the community of Tamata.

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Speaker 3: I know someone that will be there, and that is

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Speaker 3: So how amazing is it then to have this little

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Speaker 9: Oh my goodness, we haven't stopped smiling. I don't think

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Speaker 9: Comes good night to madam knows how to put on

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Speaker 2: Oh well, Coleener, we cannot wait to see you Friday night,

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Speaker 3: Hey, Colleener, any song request that we can chuck to

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Speaker 2: We cannot wait to meet you in and we'll party

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Speaker 3: But if it doesn't, then you kind of stranded in

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Speaker 1: It really does come with age, doesn't it.

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Speaker 3: you as well. I reckon, Sometimes you've just got to

444
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Speaker 3: take the gamble, even if there is risk, high risk.

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Speaker 2: I reward right one hundred percent. What do you think

446
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Speaker 2: on the phones? Though? Maybe you have been in a

447
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Speaker 2: similar situation. Should this guy move to another city for

448
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Speaker 2: this girl that he doesn't know incredibly well and take

449
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Speaker 2: the resk? What are your thoughts? I'll waite hundred the hats.

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Speaker 8: J Many and Pja' the podcast That's Many and pj's

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Speaker 8: group therapy.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

453
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Speaker 2: In the meantime, to love or not to love is

454
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Speaker 2: the question? Or to move or not to move? Actually

455
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Speaker 2: that's a more appropriate question, isn't it.

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Speaker 8: Well?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, but I guess to move for love,

458
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Speaker 3: Peach specifically, I'll quickly go into it. Recently, I met

459
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Speaker 3: a girl from overseas where I've headed off within a

460
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Speaker 3: big way. We spent the past couple of months in

461
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Speaker 3: a pretty intense relationship, but always knowing she'd leave to

462
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Speaker 3: go back home. Since then, we've talked every day and

463
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Speaker 3: I really miss her a lot, and I know that

464
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Speaker 3: we have strong feelings for each other. But now we're

465
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Speaker 3: at a crossroads. She said she would move to New Zealand,

466
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Speaker 3: but she didn't vibe with Dunedin, where I live. She

467
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Speaker 3: loves Auckland. It's where she'd find work, so she said

468
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Speaker 3: if she was going to move here, that's where she'd

469
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Speaker 3: want to end up. So now I have a big

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Speaker 3: decision to make. Should I take a gamble and move

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Speaker 3: to a city I've never lived in before and give

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Speaker 3: it a go with a girl I've only known for

473
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Speaker 3: a few months? Or is that way too much of

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Speaker 3: a risk?

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Speaker 10: Now?

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Speaker 2: Do it? Do it?

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Speaker 5: Do it?

478
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Speaker 2: You will be more gutted if you don't take the

479
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Speaker 2: what is it? You'll be? You only regret the risks

480
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Speaker 2: and chances you don't take. Profound as ever, But we

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Speaker 2: want to know your thoughts on those Oh wait, one

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Speaker 2: hundred hats do you reckon he should move even though

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Speaker 2: it's early in the relationship or no, Kyler, what are

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Speaker 2: your thoughts?

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Speaker 9: I reckon he shouldn't.

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Speaker 3: Thought it should do too much of a risk. Kyler.

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Speaker 6: Yes, I've done it three times.

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Speaker 9: I've moved away three times for a partner, and I've

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Speaker 9: come home every single time without a partner.

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Speaker 2: Oh, Kyla, I'm sorry that happens to you. Kyler.

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Speaker 6: Obviously didn't work so, I mean, but it was.

492
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Speaker 3: It was it a dire situation you found yourself in

493
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Speaker 3: moving to this new city even regardless of the partner.

494
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Speaker 3: Do you think this guy could feasibly actually just love

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Speaker 3: the city and end up loving loving it here regardless

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Speaker 3: of whether it works out with this woman or not.

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Speaker 6: I don't think so. I'm not very fun at all.

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Speaker 3: That's my home.

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Speaker 2: So sorry, I kind of thank you so much for

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Speaker 2: wagon for greet therapy. This week, we got be on

501
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Speaker 2: the phone, who's actually from Auckland. Auckland's not that bad

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Speaker 2: as it be.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, I love Aucland.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so what do you what are your thoughts on

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Speaker 1: the situation?

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Speaker 2: Yet?

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Speaker 9: I really can steal it.

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Speaker 11: I've also been in this situation and I flew over

509
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Speaker 11: I was getting someone who lived in America, and I

510
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Speaker 11: kind of was like, you know what, if I don't

511
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Speaker 11: steal it, I'll always wonder. So I thought I were

512
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Speaker 11: going to spend a little bit of time there, and

513
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Speaker 11: it was actually during the pandemic, so it was slightly terrifying,

514
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Speaker 11: but it didn't. We're not together now, so it didn't

515
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Speaker 11: end up working out, but we stayed together for a

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Speaker 11: while after I got home, And I don't know, I

517
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Speaker 11: just think living with regreat is worse. Like I feel

518
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Speaker 11: like you can always get another job. You can always

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Speaker 11: you know, like you can figure out a plan B

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Speaker 11: when you get home. But at least you know you

521
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Speaker 11: did it and you tried, and even if the relationship

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Speaker 11: doesn't work out, well, like, isn't that good to know that,

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Speaker 11: you know?

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 11: I just feel like I couldn't live with the regret.

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Speaker 3: With you. Yeah, yeah, I will say that is generally

527
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Speaker 3: the vibe from the text machine. Most people are saying,

528
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Speaker 3: go for it. Someone said, you'll only regret the risks

529
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Speaker 3: and chances you didn't take. Someone said I got to say.

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Speaker 3: Someone said I think he should go for it. What

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Speaker 3: has he got to lose? Big risk, big reward. Yes,

532
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Speaker 3: I moved to New Zealand ten years ago for my

533
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Speaker 3: now wife, best decision I ever made. Now we have

534
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Speaker 3: two beautiful sons and are living out best life.

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Speaker 2: I'd say do it, hey, and if you if it

536
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Speaker 2: doesn't work out, then so be at least you know

537
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Speaker 2: the answer. That's got to be our resolution for group

538
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Speaker 2: therapy this week. Thank you so much for all your

539
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Speaker 2: feedback and if you've got any questions for next weeks,

540
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Speaker 2: don't forget you can text them through right now. Four

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Speaker 2: for eight six.

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Speaker 5: Maddy and PJ.

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Speaker 8: Mady and PJ the podcasts.

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Speaker 2: And yesterday on the show, you may have caught us

545
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Speaker 2: talking about how Maddy is a prolific doodler in his downtime.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if I've got a piece of paper in front

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Speaker 3: of me, and I do every day with the Alpha quidz,

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Speaker 3: Like I always have the Alpha Quiz printed out, and

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Speaker 3: i always find myself just doing little doodles and it's

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Speaker 3: the same thing all the time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And so it was Stars and Harts, wasn't.

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Speaker 3: It almost exclusively Stars, but the occasional Heart chapter in

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Speaker 3: there as well.

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Speaker 2: So we did kind of do a quick google on

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Speaker 2: the show yesterday and it had a few interpretations, but

557
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Speaker 2: I thought, why google when we can go directly to

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Speaker 2: an expert. So I have tracked down psychic medium Andy,

559
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Speaker 2: who was joining us on the show this afternoon. Good afternoon, Andy,

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Speaker 2: how are you?

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Speaker 10: I'm great, thank you?

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Speaker 2: How are you very well?

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Speaker 3: Andy? This is very much in pj's wheelhouse getting you on.

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Speaker 2: So and we've sent you a copy of Maddy's doodles.

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Speaker 2: From your interpretation, What do you make of this?

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Speaker 10: Wow, it's really interesting. Actually he's drawn a star and

567
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Speaker 10: a beautiful little little heart. Those two separately have their

568
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Speaker 10: separate meanings. But when you put them together and use

569
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Speaker 10: a little bit of your psychic intuition to work out

570
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Speaker 10: a story, because that's what you kind of do when

571
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Speaker 10: you're giving somebody a reading or something like that, you

572
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Speaker 10: form a story. And just from his little doodles, I've

573
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Speaker 10: managed to form this story because we you doodle on

574
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Speaker 10: the page also is quite telling as well, And so

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Speaker 10: you're on the star in this heart at the bottom

576
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Speaker 10: of the page. Stares on their own mean that somebody's

577
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Speaker 10: got lots and lots of ambitions and hopes and and

578
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Speaker 10: things like that. And hearts. On the other hand, I

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Speaker 10: feel that that means that you're a true romantic and

580
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Speaker 10: you're a real softy. I also this drawing, yeah, that

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Speaker 10: he protect like his loved ones. He would he would

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Speaker 10: walk over broken glass to protect his relationships. And I

583
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Speaker 10: also feel that although he can be really quite shy,

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Speaker 10: I feel that he has some moments where he really

585
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Speaker 10: doubts himself and his abilities. But the fact that he's

586
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Speaker 10: drawn this star next to this heart means to me

587
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Speaker 10: that his husband, his loved one, his partner is always

588
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Speaker 10: there to support him and bring him up. And I

589
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Speaker 10: actually feel that the yin to each other's yang. That's

590
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Speaker 10: my interpretation.

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Speaker 3: How the hell did you get all of that from

592
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Speaker 3: one star and one A.

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 1: I am amazing.

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Speaker 3: I am amazing.

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Speaker 2: Andy. Thank you so much for joining us lovely to

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Speaker 2: meet you. We really appreciate your time this afternoon. Maddie,

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Speaker 2: would you like to say thank you.

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Speaker 3: Too, thank you and you're so welcome.

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Speaker 2: I'm really pushing you out your comfort zone this year.

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Speaker 3: And let me just say we're not making this a

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Speaker 3: regular sequence, right.

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Speaker 5: Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 2: The Tick's still coming through with the most creative descriptions

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Speaker 2: on the weather in your region. A favorite so far.

606
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Speaker 2: Polo said, it's so cold in the tron I could

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Speaker 2: cut diamonds with my net.

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Speaker 3: Someone said, currently in the north shore in Auckland, it's

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Speaker 3: so wet that even a goose might drown.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna give away and keep us we house prize

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Speaker 2: at the end of the hour to our favorite text,

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Speaker 2: so keep them coming through four four eight seven. But

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Speaker 2: obviously it is very cold around the country today. And

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Speaker 2: this morning I decided to take my two year old

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Speaker 2: done to the farm. We live very close to my

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Speaker 2: husband's farm, which is just down the road, and he

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Speaker 2: farms sheep and beef beef, and sometimes I like to

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Speaker 2: take Charlie down and get the real rural experience. He

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Speaker 2: loves it. And we were on the farm and we bja.

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Speaker 2: My husband and his dad came up on the bikes

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Speaker 2: and we were chatting weather as you do with farmers,

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Speaker 2: and then Bejo's dad said it was forecast potentially to snow,

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Speaker 2: and I just need to premise this with it is

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Speaker 2: quite a stressful time of year for my husband and

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Speaker 2: his dad because there's a lot of lambs being born,

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Speaker 2: so you know, cold weather is not great. And I

627
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Speaker 2: came to the table with a lot of enthusiasm because

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh snow, oh my god, there's amazing

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Speaker 2: this is going to be. And then I looked at

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Speaker 2: the expressions on particularly Bejo's dad's face, and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: that's not the thing to say. No, that's not the

632
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Speaker 2: thing to say. Well, all of these lambs are in

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Speaker 2: their early days of life and they need as much

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Speaker 2: warmth as possible.

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Speaker 3: Jo's dad's going, I'm so pleased for you that you're

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Speaker 3: able to make snow angels outside page. Meanwhile, here we

637
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Speaker 3: are doing heavy lifting with the newborn lamps.

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Speaker 2: I had to sense myself live conversation, but it did

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Speaker 2: give me thinking of the worst things that people say

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Speaker 2: to you and your job, or maybe the most annoying questions.

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Speaker 2: You always get a new job if you put your foot.

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Speaker 3: Note literally this week, yes, brilliant. I meet someone who

643
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Speaker 3: works for a gym, a series of gyms in Auckland,

644
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Speaker 3: and I said to them I just did one of

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Speaker 3: the one of the classes from this gym. Yeah, And

646
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Speaker 3: he said that's great because I helped develop the app

647
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Speaker 3: that you use. And I said, oh no, no, no,

648
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Speaker 3: I just do the free version on TV. I don't

649
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Speaker 3: actually use the app. Oh, he wasn't impressed. It was

650
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Speaker 3: not impressed.

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Speaker 2: Innocent mistake, But is there like? I want to know

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Speaker 2: the profession you're in and the most annoying thing that

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Speaker 2: someone says to you in your line of work, or

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Speaker 2: the most annoying question that you always get in your

655
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Speaker 2: job without fail. Oh, wait, hundred the hats or you

656
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Speaker 2: can text four four eight seven to get in touch

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Speaker 2: with it.

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Speaker 8: Mary Mary J the podcast.

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Speaker 2: We're talking annoying things that people say to you and

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Speaker 2: your line of work, or the most annoying questions that

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Speaker 2: get fired your way.

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Speaker 1: Someone texts through.

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Speaker 2: Saying physios without fail gets So are you going to

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Speaker 2: do the message?

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Speaker 7: Now?

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Speaker 2: Wait? Or how much longer of your training? If you have,

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Speaker 2: you got to go? No, I'm finny, I'm actually professional.

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Speaker 3: I love this one. I'm a courier driver in the

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Speaker 3: neck every single day without foul. Someone will ask what

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Speaker 3: is it? What's right? What I've ordered? Most of the

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Speaker 3: deliveries are just a plane box within a dress level.

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Speaker 3: I have no idea.

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Speaker 2: What's Oh my god, I've done that. I'm so to

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Speaker 2: a career driver, bless her patients. I like one hundred

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Speaker 2: of hats to join the show. We've got Van on

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Speaker 2: the line. Good I Van, how's it going? You're not

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Speaker 2: bad to you? Cold where you are? Mate?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 7: Cold? Airs in the NECKI oh mate?

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Speaker 11: All right?

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Speaker 1: So what's your what's your line of work?

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Speaker 7: I'm an automotive apprinters.

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Speaker 3: Yeah right and yeah.

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Speaker 7: Instantly people go, oh, I've got this problem with my car.

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Speaker 7: It makes this clunking noise when whenever I've got my

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Speaker 7: foot on the pedal, whenever the windows half down, it

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Speaker 7: makes a burr and then it goes away. What does

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Speaker 7: that mean? How do you fix that? And and the

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Speaker 7: car is not even with them? Fix a problem when

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Speaker 7: the car is not even there.

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Speaker 2: It's amazing. I'm just realizing I am these punishing people

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Speaker 2: and all of this.

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Speaker 3: Do you often? You're just looking for it? You're looking

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Speaker 3: for free advice? Really, aren't you?

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Speaker 2: Exactly? We'll get it weekend.

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Speaker 3: Someone someone said, I work on it. There's so many

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Speaker 3: annoying questions, but the worst is probably why do my

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Speaker 3: computer stop working? They perform millions of calculations a second,

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Speaker 3: every one of which has to be creat I have

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Speaker 3: no idea why it froze?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Another one. Oh, we've got Kim joining us. Kim's

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Speaker 2: on the phone. Oh hundred the hats.

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Speaker 6: Hi, Cam, Hi, how are you going?

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Speaker 2: Hello?

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Speaker 1: Very well, what's your job?

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Speaker 4: I'm a teacher and you always get other people saying you, oh,

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Speaker 4: you're a teacher. You get to finish at three pm

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Speaker 4: and start at nine and oh you get school holidays.

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Speaker 7: Not the case.

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Speaker 4: You're always doing paperwork and always answering emails and extra

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Speaker 4: staff meetings.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's not not the easy part holidays.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what you'd have us believe.

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Speaker 1: What about what about the teacher only days?

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Speaker 2: How much goes on on the teacher only days?

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Speaker 4: Talk about see like half day you're actually doing professional

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Speaker 4: development then you are, you know you have a staff

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Speaker 4: lunch and then have a bit of a chin wag.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, you're enough enough and you guys is it

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Speaker 2: you're actually I'm say sun heroes. So thank you for

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Speaker 2: what you do.

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Speaker 1: Cam, Thank you so much.

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Speaker 6: Nice chatting, Yeah you too, Mary J.

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Speaker 5: Mady and PJ.

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Speaker 8: The podcast that the People's Poll, the People's Poll.

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Speaker 5: Everybody comes together, it's the People's Pole.

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Speaker 2: So I'm not one who's usually up to date with

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Speaker 2: upgrades on my iPhone. It stresses me on and I

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00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 2: was like, oh, do it light, I'll do it later,

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Speaker 2: and then it's like, this is going to happen at midnight.

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Speaker 1: Make sure that your phone is like good enough charge.

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Speaker 2: I'm like yeah, whatever, and then I forget about it. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: There's another upgrade coming to iPhone users phones. It's gonna

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Speaker 2: be the iOS eighteen upgrade, and I think it's gonna

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Speaker 2: come out today to millions of iPhones. But there is

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Speaker 2: a feature that a lot of people are worried may

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Speaker 2: just end relationships by enabling cheaters to hide content. So

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Speaker 2: basically it includes the biggest reader design ever they're calling

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Speaker 2: to the photo app, and a new fully customizable home screen,

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Speaker 2: but the inclusion of a private folder feature which allows

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Speaker 2: users to lock and hide apps on their phones homescreen.

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Speaker 2: So it'll just all of a sudden be no, you can't,

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Speaker 2: you can't go there. That's totally secret. So you can

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Speaker 2: lock an app, and for additional privacy that can hide

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Speaker 2: an app moving it to a locked hidden apps folder.

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Speaker 3: Drama, So drama. If you've downloaded Tender or Hinge or

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Speaker 3: Bumble or something, you could lock it away and partner

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Speaker 3: would be none the wiser.

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Speaker 2: Exactly if you've been sliding into some coworkers DMS then

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Speaker 2: could just go on the private folder. So it begs

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Speaker 2: the question for the people's part today, and this will

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Speaker 2: be quite divisive on the text machine. I can imagine

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Speaker 2: text through four four eight seven. Have you ever snooped

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Speaker 2: on your partner's phone deliberately gone in and checked that

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00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 2: they weren't doing anything? Moughty, Well, maybe you were just curious, like,

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Speaker 2: because let's be honest, curious and he sometimes gets a

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00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 2: bitter of us, and like, maybe you were just scrolling

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Speaker 2: on there at the time, and you know, because maybe

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Speaker 2: that's happened to me. But honestly, I don't actually genuinely

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Speaker 2: think the b J and I have a predictive relationship

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Speaker 2: in the sense that we don't like, I don't feel

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Speaker 2: the need to go on its phone because I trust him.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: I know exactly what you mean.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I will say, yes, I have one in

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Speaker 2: the vast me too.

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Speaker 3: In the past. We're leaving it in the past. We're

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Speaker 3: grown ups now, we don't we are.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you you have done it. I think I

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Speaker 2: feel like most people will have at some point in

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Speaker 2: their life, and they know that it's not the best behavior. No,

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Speaker 2: you know, it's probably not the indicator of the healthiest relationship,

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Speaker 2: but also sometimes human acture gets the best of us, right,

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Speaker 2: and you just want to know. So that is the

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Speaker 2: question today four four eight seven on the text. So

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Speaker 2: you can weigh in on our Instagram page the hats drive.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever been guilty of snooping on your partner's phone?

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Speaker 2: You can even weigh in on the phone. I'll wait

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Speaker 2: one hundred of the hats have you snoops?

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Speaker 1: Don't be shameful, don't be ashamed.

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Speaker 3: No judgment, no judge, judgment, no judgment.

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Speaker 5: Many in the podcast.

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Speaker 3: That the People's Poll, the People's Poll.

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Speaker 5: Everybody comes together, It's the People's Poll.

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Speaker 2: Okay, The question on today's People's Poles she's a bit controversial,

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Speaker 2: but have you snooped on a partner's phone before? No judge, no,

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Speaker 2: no shame. We just want to know. Because Apple is

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Speaker 2: releasing its free iOS eighteen upgrade to millions of iPhones today,

789
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Speaker 2: and some are saying that the new feature will end

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Speaker 2: relationships by enabling cheaters to hide content from their partners. Basically,

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Speaker 2: He's going to be a folder, a private folder feature

792
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Speaker 2: which allows users to lock and hide apps on their

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00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 2: iPhone's home screen. Apple's defense is, no, you can, you know,

794
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 2: feel more secure knowing that some information can just stay

795
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Speaker 2: in there. But it does beg the question is it

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Speaker 2: going to tempt fate in some situation?

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Speaker 3: Potentially? So we asked the question, have you ever looked

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Speaker 3: at a partner's phone? Be honest?

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Speaker 2: Be honest?

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Speaker 3: On the text machine. Someone said, Hell, yes, I've snooped

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Speaker 3: on my ex partner's phone. I found messages from him

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Speaker 3: to multiple females, So that was the end of that relationship.

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Speaker 2: Someone also said, I've looked at my partner's phone, but

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Speaker 2: I know Oh sorry, I haven't looked at my partner's fine,

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Speaker 2: but I do know. Android has had that same ability

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Speaker 2: to hide content from for a while. Oh no, PJ

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Speaker 2: has an Android. No, no, I'm kidding. I'm secure and

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Speaker 2: I'm You're fine and continue dont need no snoopy.

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Speaker 3: It's very split on the text. On the Instagram poll,

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Speaker 3: fifty one percent of people said Yep, I'll admit it,

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Speaker 3: I've done it. Forty nine said I No way, I

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Speaker 3: have not ever done that.

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Speaker 2: Do you think they've forgotten because like everyone just said,

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Speaker 2: like a little we've all wait a little bit guilty

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Speaker 2: but we know it's bad, but we may have just

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Speaker 2: slip it three months or twice.

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Speaker 5: Maddy and PJ. Mady and Pj, the podcast The Heads