1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: The Hits Drive with Medi and PJ. Thanks to Chimis 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:09,680 Speaker 1: were House the Real House of Fragrances on the Hi everyone, 3 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:14,760 Speaker 1: and welcome to the podcast Wealthy Check. How's everyone going. 4 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 2: I'm doing well. I'm doing really well. We got to 5 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 2: send these little like Chelsea buns, which it's not it's 6 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 2: not something I would normally eat, but pink or white. 7 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: I sang blue, Okay blue. 8 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 2: I think it was to support their prostate cancer a 9 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:33,200 Speaker 2: witness month. 10 00:00:34,440 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: Oh that makes sense, Yeah, because I don't. I don't 11 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:40,519 Speaker 1: think I've seen a blue Chelsea bumb before. It's one 12 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:43,279 Speaker 1: of those things you don't think of getting, but when 13 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: you have them, they really hit the spot. 14 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. 15 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 2: When I was little, and we're actually very similar in 16 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 2: this regard. Our Nana's looked after us like our grandma's 17 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 2: after us as toddlers. 18 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: Shout out Jojo, religion. 19 00:00:56,680 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 2: Shout out Noline, no Lean, Noelean, sorry and no lean. 20 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:08,320 Speaker 2: Manana used to take me to this bakery like we'd 21 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 2: go and I'd go with go with her to do 22 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 2: the errands like she'd take me. We'd go to the 23 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 2: post office and we'll do this, and we'll do that, 24 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:18,120 Speaker 2: and would always go to the bakery and I'd get 25 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 2: a little treat. 26 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: It was always Chelsea. 27 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 2: No, it was a raspberry slice, yeah. 28 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:28,040 Speaker 1: With the raspberry jam in the middle, with the pink 29 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: I sing on the top. 30 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, one of them. 31 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: In years, What. 32 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 2: Would be your go to? What would be you go 33 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 2: to from the bakery? 34 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 4: Oh? 35 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,639 Speaker 1: My go to in a bakery. Shit, that's a hard one. 36 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 1: Probably a custod square vanilla slice, but it's got to be. 37 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:47,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, it depends on what their bakery's packing. 38 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 1: But if you get like a top tier vanilla custody 39 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 1: fucking slice, you can't beat it. 40 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 2: My stomach literally just started rumbling. 41 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: We bej had like a guy come out today talking 42 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: seeds and stuff like we real kind of rip coming 43 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: in and they often bring ship from the bakery. And 44 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: he came in with a few bags and yeah, he 45 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: came in with some pies. He kept going, oh, Polly, 46 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 1: would you well, you won't like meat pies? And I 47 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: was setting going I love me get handed over. But 48 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: then like it was, they were on like a client 49 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: meeting kind of thing, so I just was sort of sitting. 50 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, no, I've already ate it. And 51 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: I kept walking around the table, just checking a bet 52 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: with eat it and there was one left, and I'm 53 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:35,280 Speaker 1: like and I'm like, no, I'm seriously, I have eaten. 54 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 2: Should have taken it. 55 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: You should have taken And then I took the last 56 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: bite of Beja's he had on his plate. I came 57 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 1: in like a seagull. 58 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:43,799 Speaker 2: So you had a butte of a pie. And then 59 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:45,359 Speaker 2: you came into town and you got yourself a little 60 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 2: treat today, didn't you. 61 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: Don't you, dear? Don't you? Poles was feeling bodies today, 62 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: only every now and then she do what she did today. 63 00:02:58,120 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: She may have hit the drive through before the show. 64 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 2: She may have she may have got two things from 65 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 2: the drive through. 66 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god, shut up that I couldn't decide. I 67 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 1: couldn't decide, you know, and sometimes you're like, you know 68 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: you want something, you just can't work out what you 69 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: feel like. So I got two things, and I was like, oh, 70 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: I said, I'll have one of the two things. But 71 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: I had two of the things, didn't I. 72 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 2: I told you that I got caught out last night 73 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 2: because I've studied, because when we first started the show, 74 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 2: I was getting into the habit of buying myself like 75 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 2: a little sweet treet from the cafe. You know, I'd 76 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 2: get to like two thirty in the afternoon. I go, 77 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 2: and you spent a lot of money, could do a 78 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 2: little slash. 79 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: I could do a cookie, like five or six dollars 80 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: on a slash. 81 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 2: Yes, And I was thinking, this is like so much 82 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 2: money for all I wanted was like a little sugar 83 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 2: craving like a little sugar. 84 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. 85 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 2: So then I thought, no, I'll just be smart. I've 86 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 2: gone buy myself a packet of biscuits and just keep 87 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 2: them at work here and they could a biscuit. But 88 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 2: I was having sometimes I've been having like three biscuits shift. 89 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: It's pretty hard to just have one, yeah, on any 90 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: given day. 91 00:03:56,920 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 2: But I had a packet in my bag that I 92 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 2: hadn't that I had been farying to and from work. 93 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 2: And last night when Ryan and I had a cup 94 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 2: of tea, he goes, I could do a biscuit and 95 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: I said, actually, I have a packet of biscuits in 96 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 2: my bag. And I had to explain to him why 97 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 2: I had a pecket of biscuits. 98 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: Like, excuse me, is there anything else you've been hiding? 99 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 2: He was like, why have you been hiding? This from me. 100 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:19,599 Speaker 2: I was like, well, I'm not hiding it from you, 101 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 2: but what do you want? Do you want me to 102 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 2: come home and be like I bought a pecket of 103 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 2: biscuits today to take him to work? Like what ship? 104 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 2: That's ship chair? 105 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: Yeah it's not great chat. Yeah, but you've got to 106 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 1: you gotta leave some mystery. 107 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:35,359 Speaker 2: But now I feel like I've been caught out. 108 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: Scro I beat you. He's hiding ship. 109 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 2: I'm sure he is. 110 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 1: He'll be will be driving around on his job. Yeah, 111 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:45,360 Speaker 1: he's definitely not telling you everything. 112 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 2: He's definitely not definitely not. 113 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: Anyway, I'm coming up in the podcast. What are we 114 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: talking about on the show today? Can you remember I've. 115 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 2: Locked out on my computer? We talked about what what 116 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 2: you guys? What can't you what can't you shut up about? 117 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 2: In your friend circle? 118 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 1: Oh that's right? And we discovered the b J and 119 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: Ryan are the same person. Very pleatrician, very pedtrician. 120 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:13,600 Speaker 5: Had a chopping board question and Maddie had a question 121 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:14,840 Speaker 5: about cutting his nails. 122 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: Anyway, all of that and so much more Top tier chat. 123 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:29,279 Speaker 1: Top tier is my thing at the moment. What's the 124 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:34,720 Speaker 1: other thing? I keep saying Rogue, Top Tier, some top 125 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 1: Tier chat coming up Enjoy Everybody Many and the podcast 126 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 1: Many and I have been chit chatting like little girls. 127 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 2: Girls like each other's here and painting each other's nails, 128 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:52,719 Speaker 2: having a little chin wear guess bag. 129 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: We don't really gossip. We just sometimes started talking about 130 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,000 Speaker 1: both of our lovely husbands. 131 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 2: And who we love, who we love. 132 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: Love so much. I wouldn't say we were now stilly 133 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:09,280 Speaker 1: speaking about them, but no, no, we were just sharing observations. 134 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: And I made the observation that I feel like whenever 135 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:18,159 Speaker 1: BJ the Harvey makes a social plan, he always plays 136 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 1: it down to me and he'll I reckon. He goes 137 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: to his friends and he makes plans, and then when 138 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: he comes to me, he's like, oh, I don't know, 139 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if it's going to happen, and then 140 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:31,839 Speaker 1: he sort of leaves it open, and then last minute 141 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: he'll go through with it, and it's like, I don't know, 142 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: is it this gauging period where he's trying to test 143 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 1: me to see how this social like arting will go 144 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: down with me. I don't know. I don't know if 145 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 1: there's a method to the madness. But your husband does 146 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: the same thing. 147 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 2: He does do the same thing. And what I've noticed 148 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 2: about Ryan is that he will he will talk to 149 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 2: me very last minute about a social engagement, as if 150 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 2: as if the plans have literally just popped up. Oh, 151 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 2: so and So's just messaged me about a beer this 152 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:09,360 Speaker 2: afternoon in the sun. And I'm saying, no, no, no, no, no. 153 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 2: You have been planning this for a very long time, 154 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:15,680 Speaker 2: and now you're just throwing it out there as if 155 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 2: this has randomly occurred one hundred percent. 156 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: Why but surely it would be in their best interest 157 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:26,920 Speaker 1: to tell us a little bit earlier. Or is that 158 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: in their minds more time for us to freak out 159 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: and panic and tell them to abort my ship? 160 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 6: Yeah? 161 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 1: Is it like lower risk if they go right, Let's 162 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 1: just see how late we can push to this, and 163 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: then we'll drop the news and then there's little time 164 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: for them to buyl out. 165 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 2: Totally, because because if we're not doing anything on a Sunday, 166 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 2: and he says, oh, Mike's misses me about a beer 167 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 2: in the sart what am I? What am I going 168 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 2: to do? You know, I can't stop them from going, 169 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 2: not that I want to stop him from going. 170 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: I suppose if we told you that a few days earlier. 171 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 1: You could be like, but what if we do this 172 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: blah where it's last minute, you've got no plans and 173 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: if you're doing nothing, oh my god, what'll break them out? 174 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: Is this? Is this a common guy thing? Or is 175 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: this just a common certain kind of person thing? Or 176 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: is this just Ryan and BJ they anomally? I like 177 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: hundred of hats to join the show. 178 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 2: I want to hear from people whose partners also do this, 179 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 2: or are you a man who also does this and 180 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 2: can give us some insight into why you do Why. 181 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: Is it because you think you've got less chance of 182 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 1: us absolutely losing out. I don't care if they're socialize. 183 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:41,000 Speaker 1: I don't like a little bit of time to know 184 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:43,280 Speaker 1: what's going to happen. I like hundred of hats to 185 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: join the show. You can text for fight sever. 186 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 7: Maddy and PJ Many and PJ the podcast The Hits. 187 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 1: Maddy and I are trying to work out if our 188 00:08:56,400 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 1: husbands are rarities or if this is a common thing 189 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: that they both do. But we've realized both of them 190 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: are guilty of not having any plans, not having any plans, 191 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, last minute boom they end 192 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: up going out for a beer with a mate, but 193 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,839 Speaker 1: they've known for a long time that this is in 194 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: the works. 195 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:20,200 Speaker 2: But then they're like, oh, random's crazy, so weird. 196 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. 197 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 2: Can I be bothered? I don't know if that's the 198 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 2: other thing right, and go. I don't know if I 199 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 2: can be bothered. I'm like, you know, absolutely be bothered. 200 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 1: And then if they don't go, they'll have this anxious 201 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 1: energy pacing round the house and you know they're just 202 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: going to have foam on. It's like, just go, I 203 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: know you want to go have the beer, all right. 204 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: So we want clarity on the reason why this happens, 205 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: or maybe it happens to you, Phil, get a mate, 206 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: Welcome to the show. 207 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 6: Get are you going? 208 00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:54,600 Speaker 1: Do you do you do this tofel? Oh? 209 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 8: Absolutely? 210 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 2: Okay? Why why Phil? 211 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 8: Why now I'm doing it for my way? 212 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:04,680 Speaker 2: Oh? Well, oh I. 213 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 1: Could. 214 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,280 Speaker 8: I mean it might be a case of I really 215 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:15,200 Speaker 8: just don't feel like going. Yeah, because the time of coming, 216 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 8: I'm like, you know, I'm going to cancel it, and 217 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:20,320 Speaker 8: she will have made all sorts of plans and sorted 218 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,079 Speaker 8: everything and then she'll have to change it. So for me, 219 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 8: I'm just like I'll leave it to the last minute 220 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 8: to bring it on and then deal with the afternoon. 221 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:32,679 Speaker 2: So you're just being a hero, Phil, You're just being 222 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 2: an absolute hero. 223 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 8: If it doesn't need to be right. 224 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:42,559 Speaker 1: Okay, well, thank you for giving some clarity. Phil, Hayden, 225 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: this is concerning both Fell and Hayden. Were my husband's 226 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: like groomsmen. Hayden. This isn't Hayden, the Hayden. 227 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 3: Is it definitely not? 228 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 1: Okay? 229 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:54,839 Speaker 2: All right? 230 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: Can you can you lean some clarity to us on 231 00:10:57,559 --> 00:10:58,839 Speaker 1: why you might do this? 232 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 3: I just look like it has already been said. There's 233 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 3: three answers to the same questions. 234 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:06,679 Speaker 2: Three answers answers. 235 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:12,800 Speaker 3: Okay, it depends on the situation. So the first one is, 236 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 3: don't flitter yourself. We're not that good at organizing. 237 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 2: This is true, This is rue, true. 238 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: I go next. 239 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 3: The second one is sometimes we do it so we've 240 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:29,440 Speaker 3: got an out because then we can blame you. No, no, no, 241 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 3: the partner. 242 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, okay, that's a good one. 243 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 3: And then number three in the third one, sometimes if 244 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 3: we leave it as a surprise, you've got no choice 245 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:41,680 Speaker 3: but to say yes, yeah. 246 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: Well that's what I fel You are you a regular 247 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:50,320 Speaker 1: goer of doing this technique. 248 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 3: Yes, just because my wife hates social situation. 249 00:11:54,679 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 2: Has your wife picked up on what you're doing. 250 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 3: Is sometimes she just gives me the wife look. 251 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, the wife look. 252 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:05,440 Speaker 1: Even Maddie does the wife the look. 253 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 2: I definitely do the Maddy and PJ. 254 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 7: The podcast. 255 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:14,680 Speaker 9: That's the Pepole's poll, the People's poll. 256 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: Everybody comes together. It's the People's poll at this time 257 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 1: of the People's Pole. We'll get it away in every 258 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: day on the text machine by texting three to four 259 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:24,200 Speaker 1: four eight seven, or you can weigh in on our 260 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:27,320 Speaker 1: Instagram page the Hats Drive with Matti and PJ and 261 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 1: we'll put up the pole on our story. 262 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 2: Today's is wedding related and it comes off the back 263 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:36,839 Speaker 2: of a news report out of Sweden, of all places. 264 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:42,360 Speaker 2: So the Swedish church is a Lutheran church. That's the 265 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 2: like denomination. And in the Lutheran Church, it's tradition that 266 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 2: the brian and groom walk down the aisle together at 267 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:54,560 Speaker 2: the start of the wedding ceremony. Okay, but more and 268 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 2: more brides are requesting that their father actually walk them 269 00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 2: down and give them away at the you know, as 270 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 2: is tradition in a lot of Western weddings. Yeah, and 271 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:11,520 Speaker 2: so the church is actually requesting a ban on that, 272 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 2: but on that tradition they don't. 273 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:15,199 Speaker 1: Want on the dead walking the doorter down the. 274 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,320 Speaker 2: Aisle, yeah, because they say it's not in keeping with 275 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 2: the church and it's not in keeping with Swedish tradition, 276 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:23,440 Speaker 2: even though lots of other countries do it, So we 277 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:27,320 Speaker 2: want to ban it from happening. Interesting, and so it 278 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:33,479 Speaker 2: got us thinking today about whether actually normal in Maine society, 279 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 2: is there still a tradition that we should be following. 280 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: It's interesting, isn't it when you really think about the 281 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 1: concept of sort of being given away. 282 00:13:42,480 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 2: Yes, because father, because back in the day it was 283 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:48,640 Speaker 2: very traditional and it was you know, the man taking 284 00:13:48,679 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 2: ownership of the woman and taking her on and away 285 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 2: from her father and her family. But times have changed, obviously, 286 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,200 Speaker 2: but it's still that we stick with. 287 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I like to think I'm like quite regressive 288 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: for a lot of my thinking, and sometimes you kind 289 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: of do just want to go back to the traditional 290 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: ways that you know, my dad passed in twenty nine days. 291 00:14:12,160 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: My brother walked me down the aisle and he was like, mum, mum, 292 00:14:15,360 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 1: you should do it. You should do it. She's like, no, no, Sam, 293 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: you have to. It's got to be a man la 294 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 1: la la. So I don't know. I think for me 295 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 1: personally still, I'm still down with the dad walking the 296 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 1: doorter down the iisle. I think it's absolutely a. 297 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 2: Personally totally my take is if that's what you really 298 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 2: want to do, do it. But in my mind, I 299 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 2: think it is one of those weird traditions that I 300 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 2: feel like we can let goal of. I don't think 301 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 2: anyone needs to walk anyone down the aisle. Walk yourself. 302 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 2: You play walk ever her house like all the other time. 303 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 2: You need someone to take in your hand, all right. 304 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: So text thrown up four for a seven. 305 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 7: The podcast. 306 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 9: That's the deep Pool's poll, the people's poll. 307 00:15:03,560 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 2: Everybody comes together, it's the people's. 308 00:15:05,440 --> 00:15:08,680 Speaker 1: Pole, all right. An interesting one inspired by a story 309 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: coming out of Sweden today. 310 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. So the Swedish church is Lutheran, and their tradition 311 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 2: in the churches that the bride and groom both walk 312 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 2: down the aisle together at the start of the ceremony. 313 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:22,320 Speaker 2: But lots of brides over there are requesting that their 314 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 2: dads walk them down the aisle, as is tradition in 315 00:15:24,720 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 2: a lot of countries, and the Lutheran Church is trying 316 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:30,120 Speaker 2: to ban them from being able to do that because 317 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 2: they say it's not in keeping with church tradition. 318 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 1: So we wanted to know in twenty twenty four because 319 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 1: you know, weddings are certainly changing quite a lot now 320 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: and people are doing it their way, so we wanted 321 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: to know on the text machine four four eighty seven, 322 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 1: do you still still think the father should walk the 323 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: daughter down the aisle? 324 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 2: I think a lot of the general consensus is yes. 325 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 2: I still think it's a nice thing to do. Someone said, yeah, 326 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 2: I see it as the last chance to accompany my 327 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 2: girl on what is her special day. I don't view 328 00:15:58,200 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 2: it as giving her away. I see it as knowing 329 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 2: her knowing I trust the man she chooses. 330 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 1: I got this one, and when I get married, I'll 331 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: have my kids walk with me. Definitely wouldn't have my dad. 332 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:12,640 Speaker 1: You know that it's such a personalized decision and that's 333 00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:15,720 Speaker 1: a beautiful thing. You can choose whoever walks you down. 334 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 2: Absolutely. The general consensus, though, if we take the text 335 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 2: machine and our Instagram poll is sixty nine percent of 336 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:27,800 Speaker 2: people say yes, the brider she'd still be walked down 337 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 2: the aisle by her dad. 338 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:32,200 Speaker 1: Well, there you go. We will be back tomorrow with 339 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: another people's pole. If you've got any suggestions on what 340 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:37,200 Speaker 1: topics we should touch, text through four full eight seven. 341 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 7: Mary and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads, 342 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:47,200 Speaker 7: Many and Pj's group therapy. 343 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 1: And it's time for some therapy. Welcome to the Noge 344 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:56,000 Speaker 1: Non Judgmental Zone, where you can air your dilemmas and 345 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 1: your life big or small. You can either text through 346 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:01,640 Speaker 1: four full eight seven or there is a page that 347 00:17:01,680 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 1: had start quot to NZ where you can register your 348 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: group therapy and we could be tackling it each week. 349 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:10,399 Speaker 2: You can always stay anonymous. You know, we never dive 350 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:13,360 Speaker 2: alo your personal details or anything like that, but it's 351 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 2: just nice to have people way in on your dilemma. 352 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 1: And often we don't have the answers. So this is 353 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:22,879 Speaker 1: where we hand it over to you New Zealand on 354 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: oh eight hundred the hat. So listen out for today's dilemma. 355 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:28,359 Speaker 1: If you've got any advice, please call through. 356 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, and people are great, people are very way smarter. 357 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 1: Than we ever would be, people superior to us. 358 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:35,720 Speaker 2: So I'm going to read you this week's group therapy situation. 359 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:39,639 Speaker 2: Hey Maddie and PJ, slightly awkward situation for you. A 360 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:42,680 Speaker 2: few years ago, I had a bit of a situationship 361 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 2: with a guy that lasted about six months. It was 362 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:47,879 Speaker 2: fun and then we had a good time, but ultimately 363 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,439 Speaker 2: we were just on different paths and ended that. The 364 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:52,680 Speaker 2: thing is, we were never really out and official with 365 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 2: a relationship, so we weren't ever introduced to each other's circles. 366 00:17:57,040 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 2: Cut to now, and I've just started seeing a new guide. 367 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 2: He's great and it's going really well, so well that 368 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,119 Speaker 2: I've just been introduced to his group of friends. You 369 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 2: can see where this is going. I'm sure, Oh yeah, yep. 370 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:11,679 Speaker 2: The guy that I dated a few years ago is 371 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:15,439 Speaker 2: one of his mates. We've spent tonight together in a 372 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 2: group setting, but neither of us acknowledged that we knew 373 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:20,879 Speaker 2: each other. I really don't want my new boyfriend to 374 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 2: worry about anything or to feel uncomfortable with me hanging 375 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 2: out with his friend. So what do I do. I 376 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 2: don't think my boyfriend's friend is going to say anything 377 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 2: about us dating back in the day, So should I 378 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 2: follow suit and not say anything and just carry on 379 00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:37,400 Speaker 2: as normal, or do I owe it to my new 380 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 2: boyfriend to say something. 381 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:43,639 Speaker 1: Be honest, come forward and air the dirty laundry. It 382 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 1: will make things less complicated in the future. That's Auntie 383 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:50,320 Speaker 1: Pj's words of Western this afternoon. 384 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 2: I know, easier said than done, though sometimes I know, 385 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:56,240 Speaker 2: and sometimes you just do just go well, if he's 386 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:58,760 Speaker 2: not gonna say anything, and I know, but. 387 00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:01,639 Speaker 1: What it gets to him through someone else, You've got 388 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:04,560 Speaker 1: to ask that question. And then, you know, I just 389 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:07,159 Speaker 1: think it's always good to get off the get on 390 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 1: the back, on the front. 391 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:11,080 Speaker 2: Foot, front foot. Yeah, get on the front foot, because 392 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:14,120 Speaker 2: I guess the thing is, you can't be responsible for 393 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:18,000 Speaker 2: the friend's behavior because if the guy that you were 394 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 2: seeing back in the day just happens to, you know, 395 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:23,520 Speaker 2: have a few drinks and say to another mate in 396 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:27,240 Speaker 2: the friend circle, you'll never believe it. I went out 397 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:30,320 Speaker 2: with with his new girlfriend for a lite while back 398 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 2: in the day, and then that got passed on to 399 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:33,320 Speaker 2: the new boyfriend. 400 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:35,280 Speaker 1: It doesn't look good. I think you just got to 401 00:19:35,320 --> 00:19:37,399 Speaker 1: be on a straight up but be like, look, it 402 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: obviously didn't work out, and it didn't work out for 403 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 1: a reason, and you know, you're really special to me, 404 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,680 Speaker 1: and I don't want this to ruin what we have, 405 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:48,680 Speaker 1: and I don't want to ruin your friendship either, although 406 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:53,320 Speaker 1: actually it does create an interesting dynamic. It's worth ruining 407 00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 1: the friendship. 408 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:56,800 Speaker 2: I guess you just have to. You just have to 409 00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:59,280 Speaker 2: put it all out there right and be like, I'm fine, 410 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 2: he fine, We're fine. It ended a long time ago. 411 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:06,960 Speaker 2: It didn't last very long. It ended amicably, you know, like, 412 00:20:07,160 --> 00:20:10,800 Speaker 2: we ended fine, and I think we can all just 413 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,359 Speaker 2: like carry on as if nothing has ever happened. But 414 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 2: you just need to know the facts. Right. 415 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:18,640 Speaker 1: Ticks are coming through, be honest and tell. If you don't, 416 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 1: it'll seem like you were hiding something and make a 417 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:22,240 Speaker 1: bigger deal out of it if it comes out later. 418 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:24,600 Speaker 1: A couple of techs are coming through like that. So 419 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:26,320 Speaker 1: if you'd like to weigh in right now, oh wait, 420 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:29,000 Speaker 1: hundred the hats. We would love to hear your advice. 421 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:31,760 Speaker 1: Maybe you've been in a similar situation and you have 422 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:35,159 Speaker 1: some words of warning, all words of wisdom. I'll wait 423 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:36,960 Speaker 1: one hundred the Hats to weigh in for this week's 424 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:38,240 Speaker 1: group therapy. 425 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 7: Mady ANDPJ Many and PJ the podcast The Hits, Many 426 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 7: and Pj's Group Therapy. 427 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: Delve again to another person's problem this week, because the 428 00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:54,840 Speaker 1: problem shared is a problem halved and we don't have 429 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: all the answers, which is why we open it up 430 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 1: to you on the phones. 431 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:01,240 Speaker 2: I'll quickly recap a few years ago, this person said, 432 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:03,000 Speaker 2: I had a bit of a situationship with the guy 433 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 2: that lasted about six months fun. We had a good time, 434 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:08,879 Speaker 2: ultimately on different parts, and we ended it. Cut to now, 435 00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 2: and I've just started seeing a new guy. I've just 436 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:14,440 Speaker 2: been introduced to his group of friends, and the guy 437 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 2: that I dated a few years ago is one of 438 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 2: my new boyfriend's mates. We've spent the night together at 439 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,400 Speaker 2: a group setting. Neither of us acknowledged that we knew 440 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 2: each other though. I really don't want my new boyfriend 441 00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:26,919 Speaker 2: to worry about anything or to feel uncomfortable with me 442 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,320 Speaker 2: hanging out with his friend. So what do I do? 443 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 2: Should I not say anything and just carry on as normal? 444 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 2: Or do I owe it to my boyfriend to say something? 445 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 1: You don't want to start a relationship on a dishonest night. 446 00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:41,159 Speaker 2: No, but you're not lying, You're not. 447 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,479 Speaker 1: But also, what would you do many if you were 448 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 1: the other person and you found out you like why 449 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: didn't you tell me? 450 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 2: Dred percent? 451 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: Why did you not tell me? Why were you not honest? 452 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:53,240 Speaker 2: Didn't you? Yes? And the honest, honest And the thing 453 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 2: that I've learned after seven and a half years in 454 00:21:56,040 --> 00:22:00,640 Speaker 2: a relationship is always so much cleaner to just say 455 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:01,919 Speaker 2: it immediately. 456 00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,080 Speaker 1: One hundred percent. Else a belds into something that it 457 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 1: doesn't need to be. All right, we're going to North Canterbury. 458 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 1: This safternoon and wom is joining us today? 459 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 2: Warm dog? 460 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,639 Speaker 1: Get idea? How's it going to mate? You want to 461 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 1: weigh in on this situation? 462 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 7: Oh? 463 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 4: I do, and I think she should say something and 464 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,439 Speaker 4: n everything's fine, fine, he's fine. But it makes his 465 00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:22,679 Speaker 4: mate look like a bit of a jak because he 466 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 4: has at Sydney think yes, mates, why here's any Sydney 467 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,600 Speaker 4: think so go Google, give him the upper hand and 468 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 4: he'll away. 469 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, come out on, come out on top almost. 470 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,120 Speaker 10: Exit yeh boy? 471 00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: How close are they his friends? Did they say how close? 472 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: Or it's just kind of like a friendship group. We 473 00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:40,719 Speaker 1: don't know. 474 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,120 Speaker 2: I don't think it's I don't think we're talking best 475 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,040 Speaker 2: mates or anything like that, but obviously mates enough that 476 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:47,959 Speaker 2: they hang out in the social circle to give it. 477 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 1: She raises a good point. It could be bloody or Daniel. Hello, 478 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:57,120 Speaker 1: welcome to the show. Hi, now you want to weigh 479 00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,199 Speaker 1: in on this week script therapy. What are your thoughts? 480 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:02,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, if he finds out through someone else, he's 481 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:03,960 Speaker 4: just going to think that you're trying to hide something. 482 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:05,400 Speaker 4: So you're best just to be honest. 483 00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 484 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:09,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, but how do you do it without I guess, 485 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:12,760 Speaker 1: alarming him? Like should he be worried? You know, should 486 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,040 Speaker 1: he be insecure? Like do things need to get weird? 487 00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,120 Speaker 1: Like how do you prevent that from happening? 488 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:18,720 Speaker 2: I don't know. 489 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 4: I think you just say, hey, I just want to 490 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 4: let you know that this is what's happened in the past. 491 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 4: But it's all good. 492 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 8: We're all good. 493 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:28,400 Speaker 4: I'm not interested. I'm really into you and I want 494 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:30,440 Speaker 4: our relationship to go further. 495 00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:33,919 Speaker 2: That's a really good point, danniel I like that. 496 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, Dannielle. I think you definitely echo most 497 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,400 Speaker 1: of what people are saying on the text machine. Everyone's 498 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:42,359 Speaker 1: just saying be honest. 499 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 2: And the other thing that someone else pointed out in 500 00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:47,119 Speaker 2: the text, which is so true, is this is not 501 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 2: even an issue. We live in New Zealand. Yeah, it's 502 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:53,800 Speaker 2: very small. The dating pool is not huge. The chances 503 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 2: of you dating someone that is friends with another person 504 00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:58,320 Speaker 2: is high. 505 00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:04,080 Speaker 1: So it's not even someone's cousins and everyone's connected. 506 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 7: The podcast. 507 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 1: Christian, I want to know your thoughts on this. I 508 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: think I witnessed a crime in our kitchen this morning. 509 00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,720 Speaker 1: So my husband was preparing toast for two year old 510 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 1: Charlie and he had got out the chicken board, you 511 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 1: know the board where you cut the meat on the 512 00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:33,960 Speaker 1: whiteboard that is strictly the protein and nothing else. He'd 513 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:36,000 Speaker 1: got the vocals and put it on the air with 514 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:40,200 Speaker 1: the peanut butter. Now, I know it's clean, but there's 515 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,639 Speaker 1: something in me that makes me feel like the bacteria 516 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: from the chicken is still there. 517 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 2: I know what you mean, I know it. I mean 518 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,400 Speaker 2: you're fine, like it's it's fine. 519 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was just a little bit okay. I was like, 520 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 1: oh no, and I mean I'm not even a stick 521 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 1: of a hygiene, but I was like, nah, I feel 522 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:00,640 Speaker 1: like this is this is not the car. 523 00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 2: Now I feel weird because I don't what do you do? Well, 524 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 2: I'm not really that bothered by I don't really think 525 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:09,200 Speaker 2: about the different topics. 526 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,200 Speaker 1: You just use Do you just use all the boards 527 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:16,720 Speaker 1: any day, anytime I kind of do anything, and I 528 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:24,040 Speaker 1: clean it thoroughly, life clean thorough that you need to 529 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:25,720 Speaker 1: have a hard luck in the mirror when PJ is 530 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:32,200 Speaker 1: bringing up actually now I think about it takes your 531 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:32,760 Speaker 1: thoughts for. 532 00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 2: Many and May and the podcast that when we accepted 533 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 2: this job page one of the very first things that 534 00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:48,879 Speaker 2: our boss has said to us was, hey, we do 535 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 2: have a little bit of a partnership going with the 536 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 2: Red Stag Marathon, and would the two of you be 537 00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 2: interested in doing it? 538 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 1: Pretty quick to put our hands up. 539 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:02,879 Speaker 2: For a long time, you and I were going, what 540 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:03,800 Speaker 2: are we doing? 541 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 7: Why? 542 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 2: We could have just we could have popped along. We 543 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,160 Speaker 2: didn't have to run the bloody thing. 544 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, But soon enough we got hugged and before you 545 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 1: know it were those annoying people that would not shut 546 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 1: up about running. 547 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 2: I know, except that was the half marathon was a 548 00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:23,960 Speaker 2: May and here I am in September, still bloody beinging 549 00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:25,280 Speaker 2: on about my running. 550 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:29,879 Speaker 1: I don't think I've gone for a run. I think 551 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,320 Speaker 1: I've had have gone for one or two max. But 552 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:36,919 Speaker 1: otherwise I've just been sticking to a few little lates exercises. 553 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,920 Speaker 2: I can hear myself. It's like I've got verbal diarrhea. 554 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 2: I can hear myself talking about it, and I know, 555 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:47,399 Speaker 2: and I can hear myself saying the words, and I go, 556 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,440 Speaker 2: shut up. No one wants to hear about your run, 557 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:54,120 Speaker 2: but I can't stop talking about it. And now I've 558 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:58,240 Speaker 2: become one of these really annoying people that posts their 559 00:26:58,320 --> 00:26:59,880 Speaker 2: run on their social media account. 560 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw that this morning, ten k forty minutes. 561 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:05,280 Speaker 1: I saw the map. 562 00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:11,639 Speaker 2: What it's kind as good time, good time, very much. 563 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:15,920 Speaker 2: But it's become my little annoyance. And one of my 564 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,919 Speaker 2: friends the other day said, this is kind of becoming 565 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,200 Speaker 2: like your whole personality. I just She was like, I'm 566 00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:24,119 Speaker 2: just I'm not judging. I just want you to be aware. 567 00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,720 Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, damn, I know, I know 568 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 2: it about myself. I can't stop what was wrong. 569 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 1: It's honestly, it's the adrenaline that comes with it. And 570 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,879 Speaker 1: I've seen this before. I think you just you like 571 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 1: want everyone to be on that same wavelength and being like, 572 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,760 Speaker 1: I've been in your position before. I know that feeling. 573 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,920 Speaker 1: But now I've sang the light Maddie, You've got to stit. 574 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:48,600 Speaker 2: Out it's like I'm chasing I don't know how bad 575 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:53,560 Speaker 2: it is, still I'm chasing this high and I don't 576 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:55,800 Speaker 2: I don't even know what I'm chasing. I don't even 577 00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 2: know what I want people to do or say. But 578 00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 2: I just can't stop talking about it. 579 00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,600 Speaker 1: To me, it's like people have kids, you know. That's 580 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 1: like all I find myself talking you about Charlie, Charlie, this, 581 00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:07,640 Speaker 1: Charlie that, because that is my whole life, or it's 582 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 1: like my husband he would just talk about fishing or 583 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:12,919 Speaker 1: hunting or depending on the season, it's fishing or hunting. 584 00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 2: He's obsishing. Is he trying to get you onto another 585 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:18,400 Speaker 2: fishing trip? 586 00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:20,960 Speaker 1: Yeah? And once again he sold it as like the 587 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,639 Speaker 1: dream for me, going Babe, I found like a weekend. 588 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,400 Speaker 1: We can get away for the long weekend, next coming 589 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 1: down and jas coming and we can make it like 590 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 1: a family thing and then we'll go out on the 591 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,560 Speaker 1: boat and you guys can hang with the It's always 592 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 1: it's just every year, like clockwork. He sells it to 593 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:40,520 Speaker 1: me like that. 594 00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:46,280 Speaker 2: It's it's it's it's awkward. It's awkward because you know 595 00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,160 Speaker 2: that people are sick of you talking about it, but 596 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 2: you just can't stop right. 597 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,920 Speaker 1: M Well, I'm sure and alone? Oh waite hundred the hats? 598 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 1: What is your social circle? Sick of hearing you talk about? 599 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 1: You can dub yourself in or maybe you can job 600 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,120 Speaker 1: someone else, say someone has been doing your hidden What 601 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:07,520 Speaker 1: is the topic of conversation that just won't go away? 602 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,600 Speaker 1: Maybe it's you, maybe it's a loved one call us on. 603 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,400 Speaker 1: Wait a hundred, the hats, Madie, I'm sure you're not 604 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:22,000 Speaker 1: the podcasts and we're opening up the phones. Wait one 605 00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:25,520 Speaker 1: hundred the hats? What is your social circle? Sick of 606 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:27,640 Speaker 1: hearing you talk about? What can't you shut up about? 607 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 1: Many has been going on about running since Matt. Do 608 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,680 Speaker 1: you think it was like just before the half marathon 609 00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 1: that we ran in or was it before that? 610 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,160 Speaker 2: It was just before I wasn't really posting that much 611 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,440 Speaker 2: in the lead art. But then ever since then, I've 612 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:44,680 Speaker 2: just gotten I've joined a run club. 613 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,880 Speaker 1: Thanks, So now we get a guarantee post of your 614 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 1: juice box run club Sunday morning. It's like I know 615 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:52,840 Speaker 1: what to expect today. There was a sweety picture of 616 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 1: you outside the front door, and I set a map 617 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 1: of the run. 618 00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 2: I can hear myself talking about it. 619 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:03,080 Speaker 1: And I, oh, man, so I finding up the lines 620 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 1: on because I'm sure you're not a loaned many Virginia 621 00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 1: is joining. Hello, Virginy. Hey, how's it going good? 622 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 2: Yeah? 623 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 1: Not too bad? Are you have you got someone like. 624 00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:17,840 Speaker 2: To let it go? I'm boring, mate, I'm telling you so, 625 00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:19,080 Speaker 2: my husband's never run. 626 00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:20,840 Speaker 4: All of a sudden, he's doing this ink. 627 00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 10: Run and I'm like, okay, maybe he's doing it with 628 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 10: the name. 629 00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:24,600 Speaker 1: And then the neighbors hurry. 630 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 10: Out, We'll got to get down there. So then from 631 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 10: the ato, I'm running the marathon because I'm running from 632 00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,880 Speaker 10: Pilot Baker down the mountain. Kind of fun. Feed the 633 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:33,600 Speaker 10: support crew you want anyway. 634 00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:34,680 Speaker 1: It doesn't shut up about it. 635 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 6: Every day it's about the next one. 636 00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,480 Speaker 1: Hello, Yeah you know what I did? Do that? 637 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,160 Speaker 4: We all been about to celebrate. 638 00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 10: So I got you know how they give you that 639 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 10: middle Yeah, yeah, you look. I will try to do 640 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:48,840 Speaker 10: this like an athlete, and I put that on, and 641 00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:51,200 Speaker 10: then I'm going up to people at. 642 00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:51,360 Speaker 1: The bar gime. 643 00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 10: You know, apparently I don't know. The word around town 644 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 10: is if we've done the twenty one case today, get 645 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:56,440 Speaker 10: a free drink. 646 00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:02,120 Speaker 1: All this free drinks? Okay, so you found the benefits 647 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,280 Speaker 1: of runner, you found the loophole Virginny. 648 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:04,760 Speaker 10: Yeah. 649 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,600 Speaker 1: So basically she's showing Maddy shut up. Okay, Matt is 650 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,880 Speaker 1: joining us. All right, hundred hats What can you not 651 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:13,600 Speaker 1: shut up about? 652 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:13,800 Speaker 2: Matt? 653 00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:19,240 Speaker 6: Sorry? First cool name, Maddie, Yes, isn't it all the 654 00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 6: best people are called exactly. I've got I've got three 655 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:29,920 Speaker 6: friends bull dogs and my friends I know that's up 656 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:30,720 Speaker 6: their own Instagram. 657 00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,880 Speaker 1: Oh so you channel your love through the Instagram page. 658 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:36,880 Speaker 1: That's why people do it, do you reckon? Because they 659 00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,560 Speaker 1: don't want to actually do it in real life. It's 660 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,280 Speaker 1: just a pain, so they can choose to follow that 661 00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 1: account or not. 662 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:47,360 Speaker 6: Yeah, such an awesome We dogs. The oldest one, Tom 663 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:51,520 Speaker 6: who's completely dead, is Tom Hardy, and then I've got 664 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:55,000 Speaker 6: a week black girl, she's Kelly Berry. And then my 665 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 6: youngest patent I've just got is Cory Jane because he 666 00:31:58,600 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 6: was my favorite all black. 667 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 2: Wet this kind of day day. 668 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:08,760 Speaker 1: What can you not shut up about? 669 00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:12,760 Speaker 10: I can't shut up about the movie Idiocracy. If you 670 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:15,720 Speaker 10: haven't seen it, you absolutely have to watch it. It's 671 00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:21,200 Speaker 10: garily hilarious because it's set in the future and here 672 00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:24,680 Speaker 10: we got to hear the whole story, we go what 673 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:29,040 Speaker 10: have we done? Many It's just like going into what 674 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,920 Speaker 10: is happening with a lot of people being relying on 675 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:36,040 Speaker 10: technology and being really lazy. It's really satirical. It's got 676 00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:39,480 Speaker 10: heaps of celebrities in it, and Terry Crews is the 677 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 10: president and instead of having water, everybody drinks Skator eighte, 678 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 10: so water basically doesn't exist anymore. It's crazy. And I've 679 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:49,840 Speaker 10: got people who, you know, something will happen at work 680 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,840 Speaker 10: and I'll say, it's just look what's happening. You know, 681 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:56,040 Speaker 10: look at the news. Idiocracy happening. 682 00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:59,320 Speaker 2: Now I'm going to go, wait, you've you've You've won, 683 00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 2: you sold me. I'm going to go and watch this 684 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:04,720 Speaker 2: movie there. I reckon if we go back to You'll 685 00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:05,680 Speaker 2: still be talking about it. 686 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:12,520 Speaker 1: Liz is wrapping up with what can't you stop talking about? Hey? 687 00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:17,760 Speaker 8: I cannot still stop talking about goats, the idea of 688 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 8: catching a goat, and I. 689 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,040 Speaker 10: Cannot stop talking about it? 690 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:22,560 Speaker 2: Why Why? 691 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,280 Speaker 1: My partner and I went camping a couple of months 692 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:28,320 Speaker 1: ago and we just gotted a few goats, and I 693 00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: just thought, how cool would it be to have a 694 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:31,200 Speaker 1: pet goat for my son? 695 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 10: And we live on a farm, and I've seen like 696 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 10: a patch of them on. 697 00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,320 Speaker 4: The way out to our farm, and every time, the 698 00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 4: whole way, it's like an hour drive from town. 699 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 6: The whole way. 700 00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:42,880 Speaker 4: I've got my head out in the window. I'm looking 701 00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 4: for a go a few times. And yeah, it's getting 702 00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:51,560 Speaker 4: it's getting obsessives. It's obsessive and dangerous. 703 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:57,640 Speaker 1: You're actually not that bad. 704 00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,600 Speaker 2: You're still hanging on the phone line, still be talking 705 00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:01,880 Speaker 2: about idiocracy. 706 00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:12,400 Speaker 9: They're still talking about it still, Mary and Mary and 707 00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,080 Speaker 9: PJ the podcast head. 708 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 2: Do you get your nails done? Do you professionally get 709 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:19,239 Speaker 2: your nails done? 710 00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,000 Speaker 1: There's been a while, vib It has been a while. 711 00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 1: Are used to I am back in the day when 712 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:30,439 Speaker 1: I had a little bit of disposable income, I would 713 00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:33,440 Speaker 1: go and get like Schillac or jel or whatever, and 714 00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:37,239 Speaker 1: it was a vicious, vicious cycle. I'd always end up 715 00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,480 Speaker 1: peeling it off and my nails would be horrendous, and 716 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,440 Speaker 1: then I'd sweat and never do it again. And then 717 00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:42,920 Speaker 1: months would pass and be like, oh, I check my 718 00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 1: nails down, they look cute, and they never ended up 719 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,239 Speaker 1: being cute, and within weeks they'd be peeled. They'll all 720 00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:47,920 Speaker 1: be peeled off. 721 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:54,600 Speaker 2: So I'm nearly thirty eight and I still have not 722 00:34:55,120 --> 00:35:01,040 Speaker 2: mastered the art of cutting my nails. Yeah, neither when 723 00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,719 Speaker 2: you I'm not a bitter No no, no, no, no, 724 00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:07,880 Speaker 2: no no. I've never bitten my nails, but I whenever 725 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 2: I like, I was just looking at my nails and 726 00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,080 Speaker 2: I thought I need to cut them. But I know 727 00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:12,839 Speaker 2: what's going to happen. I'm going to get the little 728 00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:16,200 Speaker 2: nail clippers out and I'll start cutting away, and I 729 00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:19,560 Speaker 2: will try my hardest to do it really nicely and 730 00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:25,480 Speaker 2: delicately and evenly. They will end up looking absolutely butchered, 731 00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:29,320 Speaker 2: and hag it, they'll be jarred. They'll be different, like, 732 00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 2: they won't be like curved anymore. 733 00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:36,879 Speaker 1: Why don't you just go and get them professionally done? 734 00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 2: Because I can't be bothered paying for my nails. And 735 00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,359 Speaker 2: I would like to think at the age of thirty eight, 736 00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:45,040 Speaker 2: I would have figured out how it's so. It seems 737 00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,520 Speaker 2: like such a simple thing. But am I a file? 738 00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,840 Speaker 1: Why don't you just file? Why don't you just file 739 00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:53,480 Speaker 1: and then that avoids the shocking cutting? Could you just 740 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:54,440 Speaker 1: file it fully down? 741 00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:56,040 Speaker 2: Is that what you do with a file? 742 00:35:57,160 --> 00:35:59,520 Speaker 1: I think so well, I mean usually there's for buffing 743 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:00,960 Speaker 1: and stuff. I reckon if you had a bit of 744 00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,120 Speaker 1: time out, you say, you can probably just file it down. 745 00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,600 Speaker 2: So maybe so a nail file you actually use on 746 00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 2: the whole nail. That's not to just like shape the 747 00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:14,399 Speaker 2: nail once you've cut them. No, I'm produce. Seria wants 748 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,400 Speaker 2: to come in, then say, prou I'm. 749 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,800 Speaker 5: Addicted to getting my nails done every month, so I 750 00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:21,720 Speaker 5: do want the Now ladies do my nails and they 751 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,920 Speaker 5: chop them first with the nail clippers, then they shile 752 00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:27,839 Speaker 5: it and shape it, and then a different nail file 753 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:33,560 Speaker 5: is used to actually like smooth and the actual Yeah, 754 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,600 Speaker 5: you could file your nails, but if they're quite long, 755 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:38,640 Speaker 5: you'd have to chop them first with the nail clipper. 756 00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:40,800 Speaker 1: Do you see them grow and like go for the 757 00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:41,160 Speaker 1: next one? 758 00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,200 Speaker 2: Records? Gross? 759 00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:47,879 Speaker 1: Have you seen how long people's nails get? They get 760 00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:50,480 Speaker 1: like proper veins and discussed. 761 00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,239 Speaker 2: I couldn't do it, but could you? 762 00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:52,720 Speaker 6: Actually? 763 00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:55,560 Speaker 2: Would? You? Would it be weird for me to just 764 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:57,080 Speaker 2: sit here filing my nails. 765 00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,759 Speaker 1: We're always fiddling with something in your hands. Why don't 766 00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,560 Speaker 1: you all with a file? Get something? 767 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:05,080 Speaker 2: Might be my new personality. 768 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,640 Speaker 1: From running to filing his nails. 769 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:14,440 Speaker 7: Many and PJ Mady and PJ the podcast. 770 00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,560 Speaker 2: So last week when you and I were in Marlborough, 771 00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:24,120 Speaker 2: we had to do a little ocean dip. Yes, we 772 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,520 Speaker 2: had agreed that if we raised one hundred k for 773 00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:30,520 Speaker 2: Deafit all day that we would do a donation dip. 774 00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,040 Speaker 2: That was our little pledge that we've made. And we 775 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:34,600 Speaker 2: got there. We got to one hundred k. 776 00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:39,880 Speaker 1: We did, and I think we highly underestimated how cold 777 00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:42,040 Speaker 1: the waters of the Sounds would be. 778 00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:43,600 Speaker 2: It was freezing. 779 00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:49,600 Speaker 1: He he lost his speeders. Have you even seen the video? 780 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:51,640 Speaker 1: It is very entertaining. You can chick it out on 781 00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:53,600 Speaker 1: the hats drive, Instagram or Facebook. 782 00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,640 Speaker 2: They were too big and the draw drawstring had like 783 00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 2: you know, when one half of it gets wrapped up 784 00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:04,520 Speaker 2: like inside and yes, yeah, that's what had happened. So 785 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:08,640 Speaker 2: it was my user era. But anyway, so we posted 786 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:12,680 Speaker 2: that video and of course I am topless and in 787 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:16,239 Speaker 2: speedos And did. 788 00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 1: You get a bit of Did you get a bit 789 00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:18,480 Speaker 1: of attention from that? 790 00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:19,880 Speaker 6: No? 791 00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,480 Speaker 2: Not really until this morning I looked at my DMS 792 00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,640 Speaker 2: and someone with a blue tick, you know, like a 793 00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:33,400 Speaker 2: verified account, had messaged me and said it had responded 794 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,560 Speaker 2: to that video and they just said looking amazing, Maddie, 795 00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:41,560 Speaker 2: and I thought, oh, that's really nice comment, and I said, haha, 796 00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:46,799 Speaker 2: thank you so much. And then they said this could 797 00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:52,239 Speaker 2: be a perfect outfit for when I photograph you, and 798 00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:55,920 Speaker 2: I said, sorry, what what? And then I looked at 799 00:38:55,960 --> 00:39:01,400 Speaker 2: this guy's Instagram page and it is with very I 800 00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:08,799 Speaker 2: will say, very tasteful, very tasteful model photos of men, 801 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:14,920 Speaker 2: usually topless, sometimes not topless. Sometimes they're fully cloth, but 802 00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:21,480 Speaker 2: often topless, and they are really really nice photos. But 803 00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:25,680 Speaker 2: these are what looks like guys models to me. Yeah. 804 00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:30,360 Speaker 2: And I went on this like rabbit hole conversation with 805 00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,920 Speaker 2: this guy, and the long and short of it is 806 00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:38,239 Speaker 2: he said, I think you'd be a great subject to photographs. 807 00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:42,360 Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm not laughing, and it's. 808 00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:45,080 Speaker 2: Just I laughing. You laughing. 809 00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:48,200 Speaker 1: You're a good looking man. No, no, no, no, no, no, 810 00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:53,040 Speaker 1: it's quite fought from em. He's just beating around the bush, 811 00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:53,680 Speaker 1: that's for sure. 812 00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 2: I will say he's a very talented photographer. Like his 813 00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:58,480 Speaker 2: photos are really lovely. 814 00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,799 Speaker 1: Really, are you going to take them up on the offer? 815 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:02,719 Speaker 4: Like? 816 00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:06,680 Speaker 2: Very nice? But I don't male model, I am not. 817 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:12,239 Speaker 1: You don't know you may not be years, but this 818 00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:13,800 Speaker 1: could be. I mean, you've always got to have a 819 00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,440 Speaker 1: backup option. We know the media industry can be facult. 820 00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,480 Speaker 1: I think it's always good to have a backup. Why 821 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:20,640 Speaker 1: don't you go and do it, and then please give 822 00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:25,960 Speaker 1: us the photo so we can post them all. You 823 00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:30,960 Speaker 1: can get a fake ten like body oil. Oh what 824 00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:33,160 Speaker 1: have you done? Have you promised anything? 825 00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:33,319 Speaker 7: Now? 826 00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,920 Speaker 2: I haven't promised anything. I keep putting them, I keep 827 00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:39,200 Speaker 2: betting them away, Like, no, I know you should do it. 828 00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:41,239 Speaker 1: Like we're coming to the end of twenty twenty four, 829 00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:44,359 Speaker 1: Can you say honestly that you've done anything wild this year? 830 00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:45,400 Speaker 7: No, so. 831 00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:51,879 Speaker 1: Say yes, medic, say yes to the unknown, and then 832 00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,560 Speaker 1: give us a lot of entertainment and enjoy the 833 00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,520 Speaker 7: Podcast s.