WEBVTT - Dancing in the Kitchen with Matilda Green

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<v Speaker 1>The Heads Podcast Network.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello and welcome to Slow It Down. I'm your host,

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<v Speaker 2>PJ Harding, and I want this to be a place

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<v Speaker 2>where you can come hang out on the weekend, relax,

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<v Speaker 2>reflect and tap into ways of getting through tough times.

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<v Speaker 2>There's so much noise in the world. We have more

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<v Speaker 2>information than ever and we're all so overstimulated. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to strip it back, get to the core of what

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<v Speaker 2>it means to be a human will discovering beautiful and

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<v Speaker 2>simple ways to stay sane in the chaos. No judgment,

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<v Speaker 2>just a safe and inspiring space where hopefully you can

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<v Speaker 2>catch up with your week's laundry. This week on the show,

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<v Speaker 2>I am joined by someone that a lot of New

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<v Speaker 2>Zealanders will be well familiar with, Matilda Green. She obviously

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<v Speaker 2>came onto the scene in twenty fifteen when she entered

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<v Speaker 2>the first season of New Zealand's The Bachelor, and she

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<v Speaker 2>was one of the lucky ones. She ended up actually

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<v Speaker 2>finding love and going on to marrying Art. The two

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<v Speaker 2>have now got three beautiful children, living semi rurally outside

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<v Speaker 2>of the big smoke of Auckland and Warkworth. And I've

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<v Speaker 2>always really looked up to Matilda. I think she is

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<v Speaker 2>a beautiful role model. She's always been really open about

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<v Speaker 2>prioritizing health and I wanted to tap into her brain

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<v Speaker 2>this week because obviously there's a lot going on. She's

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<v Speaker 2>got three kids, she's working, she's got a podcast, and

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to know her survival tips and tricks

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<v Speaker 2>and how you can thrive in the season that she's

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<v Speaker 2>currently in. I hope you enjoy the chat. Matilda Green

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<v Speaker 2>is joining me for Sloight Down. How are you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so good. I'm sitting here in my lounge. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like a grade rizzly day and got my baby Penny

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<v Speaker 1>beside me, who is just going to be passed over

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<v Speaker 1>to act. But I feel very calm and just so

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<v Speaker 1>excited for this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is calm like a common state of mind for you,

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<v Speaker 2>as a mum of three, podcaster and all around probably

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<v Speaker 2>quite busy woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I work really hard to bring the calm,

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<v Speaker 1>if you know what I mean. Like, if I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>put that work in to bring the calm, then it

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<v Speaker 1>would be chaos. So I know that that's a really

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<v Speaker 1>big priority for me, is to set aside time for

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<v Speaker 1>meditation and different bits and bobs, just so I can

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<v Speaker 1>be in a calm space when things are going to shit?

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<v Speaker 1>Can I say shit?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely? You can say all of the shits and all

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<v Speaker 2>of the pities, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>When things are really going crazy. Then I know that

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<v Speaker 1>I am not going to get dragged into it emotionally,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so we'll get more into like the rituals and

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<v Speaker 2>things you like to do, son, but paint us the

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<v Speaker 2>picture of your general weake like your week days, in

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<v Speaker 2>your weekend. How does that kind of look at the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's very fluid. I was telling a friend about

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<v Speaker 1>this recently, actually, about how so many of mine and

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<v Speaker 1>arts conversations are around logistics.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, can we just shut up so sexy?

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<v Speaker 2>I know, with your logistics?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, like what are you doing Monday afternoon? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be out and who's gonna look after pennies?

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just very much who's doing what, what's your

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<v Speaker 1>week looking like? What's my week looking like? And who's

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<v Speaker 1>picking up dropping off? That sort of thing. But in

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<v Speaker 1>a general week, So I do like pick up and

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<v Speaker 1>drop off for the older two preschool four days a week,

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<v Speaker 1>and then Penny's home with me, and then all kids

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<v Speaker 1>are home on a Wednesday. So can you hear about

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<v Speaker 1>crushing in the background? So about that?

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<v Speaker 2>Ant's just hey, look, we're thriving in the chaos. This

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<v Speaker 2>is what it's all about. What's he doing?

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<v Speaker 1>He is in the kitchen ap currently.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, how stress red nose.

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually this is okay because it's it's a cosmetic

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<v Speaker 1>reg ok so there's no like removing of big parts

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<v Speaker 1>of the house or anything. So it's okay. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>poor Art, he's he's he's said it bit on with

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get this done with three kids around. Yea, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And so that's that's sort of how it looks. And

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<v Speaker 1>on the weekend we prioritize family time and we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to a lot of birthday parties. That's pretty common. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just doing fun stuff. We'd like, go for cool hikes,

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<v Speaker 1>go to the beach, do lots of different things. I

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<v Speaker 1>go to the library during the week with Penny, we

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<v Speaker 1>do wriggle and rhyme. You know, that's really what we're

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<v Speaker 1>doing on a weekly base.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you quite rigid with routine or are you do

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<v Speaker 2>you kind of like organized chaos or do you roll

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<v Speaker 2>the flow? What sort of works best? For you.

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<v Speaker 1>I always thought that I would be a go with

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<v Speaker 1>the flow hype of mum, because that's how I am

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<v Speaker 1>usually as a person. I don't do a lot of planning.

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<v Speaker 1>But I've found it's really hard to thrive in chaos,

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<v Speaker 1>and it makes my life so much easier when I

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<v Speaker 1>have some sort of structure. So I try and plan

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<v Speaker 1>it out on a Sunday how the week's going to look,

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<v Speaker 1>and loosely what we're gonna do, And oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes such a big difference when I can plan

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<v Speaker 1>out meals. I know what the plan is for the week,

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<v Speaker 1>and but but I don't. I think I've learned after

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<v Speaker 1>having three kids now that you can't be too rigid

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<v Speaker 1>in your plans.

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<v Speaker 2>Because anything could happen constantly.

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<v Speaker 1>Someone's got a fever, or someone's just like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to do that. So you know, there's there's a

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<v Speaker 1>bit of movement in the in the in the routine.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, it helps me a lot to have structure.

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<v Speaker 1>It makes me feel like I'm somewhat in control.

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<v Speaker 2>I am exactly the same way. I always thought I

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<v Speaker 2>was a happy, go lucky, spontaneous person who didn't need

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<v Speaker 2>no routine, And like now, I'm working with the toddler,

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<v Speaker 2>and I actually I need it. My brain just I

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<v Speaker 2>can't contain my brain otherwise and there's just constant noise

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<v Speaker 2>and chaos, and I just I've realized I have to

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<v Speaker 2>and the meals ahead. Like I never thought i'd be

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<v Speaker 2>a whelproper, you know, I have to have that Sunday.

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<v Speaker 2>The Sunday I need dedicated to feeling like I'm getting

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<v Speaker 2>on top of shirt.

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<v Speaker 1>It's key, it's yeah, And how are you finding me

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<v Speaker 1>back on the tools?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's initially a real emotional juggle, but I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like the more you do it, the more it just

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<v Speaker 2>feels like normal. But God, you feel so out of

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<v Speaker 2>sorts at the beginning, especially when like these briastfeeding in

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<v Speaker 2>the max or whatever. Your brain's just not there. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think the more time you spend at work kind

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<v Speaker 2>of doing your thing, it kind of just becomes more normal.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was definitely a real awkward dance at the beginning,

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<v Speaker 2>and that guilt because my mom is looking after Charlie,

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<v Speaker 2>who's nearly two, like all the time, which which is

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<v Speaker 2>a lot, you know, even though she's like, I love

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<v Speaker 2>it and hurt. My grandmother did that for me it's

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<v Speaker 2>really special, really special, but it's probably not sustainable long term.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to have to give a danger. But no,

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<v Speaker 2>it is really nice. But but yeah, the mum girl

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<v Speaker 2>and all that definitely look loves to cray on every

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<v Speaker 2>now and then. But I want to talk about your

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<v Speaker 2>rattuels that you were talking about, that are sort of

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<v Speaker 2>your non negotiables that you know, when that chaos does come,

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<v Speaker 2>those waves decide to roll on in. You know that

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to help you at big time. So what

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<v Speaker 2>how does that look for you?

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<v Speaker 1>My meditation practice is really important to me. So I

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<v Speaker 1>learned vade meditation through Georgi of Ebbsat and honestly, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just so grateful that I did that. So I did

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<v Speaker 1>that I think four years ago when I was how

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<v Speaker 1>Milo must have been around one. So yeah, my oldest

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<v Speaker 1>Milo was around one and and I got the practice.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's been really difficult to bring it into a

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<v Speaker 1>daily routine, really hard. There's no sugarcoating it. It's when

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<v Speaker 1>people are like, oh, just you know, make sure you

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<v Speaker 1>do it, set aside the time, first thing in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>It is hard for kids and some days I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't get to it. But I really feel a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>I just find that, you know, when sometimes you lose

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<v Speaker 1>you shit as at much. And hey, some listeners might

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<v Speaker 1>be like, I can't really how auld are you? No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, the fuse the short fuse is a real thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. But I find that when I'm prioritizing that meditation practice,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like way further away from that breaking point, so

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<v Speaker 1>like I can still get there where I'm just like

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<v Speaker 1>it's too much, I've lost my shit, but it's it

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<v Speaker 1>takes a lot more for me to get there, so

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<v Speaker 1>I've got a lot more bandwidth. And so the meditation

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<v Speaker 1>practice is the first one, and the second one is

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<v Speaker 1>music and dance. I love music, I always have and honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>if I can just put on some music and just

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<v Speaker 1>vibe out in the kitchen for five to ten minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes such a difference. And like prioritizing fun as well,

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<v Speaker 1>because sometimes when things are just crazy, kids are getting

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<v Speaker 1>on my left, it it's just like all too much.

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<v Speaker 1>Like if I can just be like, do you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to lean in and we're just going

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<v Speaker 1>to be real silly and have a great time and

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<v Speaker 1>let's just trash the house and have fun and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to deal with it later. That's been really like

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<v Speaker 1>I know it doesn't sound like much, but that has

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<v Speaker 1>been a changer for me to just lean into the fun,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like that that's all kids want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>It's their first priority are And I always laugh about

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<v Speaker 1>it that, like they get up in the morning and

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, what am I going to do today? Have fun?

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<v Speaker 1>And that's all they want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>It's beautiful, and we just.

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<v Speaker 1>Try and lean in. Just do it, have fun, be silly, and.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all about how you make them feel. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>looking back, it's not going to be all the things

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<v Speaker 2>that you had or all the things you know that

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<v Speaker 2>you were focused on. It was actually on how you

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<v Speaker 2>made them feel. So if you're bringing fun, I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's everything. I always find that there's a playlist. It

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<v Speaker 2>was actually my birthday playlist. It's got like lots of

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<v Speaker 2>like really like wholesome tricks like the Verve, but a

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<v Speaker 2>sweet symphony, you know, just tracked. Honestly, I'll put that

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<v Speaker 2>playlist on and it just brings me back to what

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<v Speaker 2>really matters. I'll be, you know, having a moment and

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<v Speaker 2>then I just put that on and I'm like life

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<v Speaker 2>is beautiful. I'm really grateful.

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<v Speaker 1>Like how music can do that again, brings you back

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<v Speaker 1>to the moment you're like, oh, this doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Matter no once your go to or do you mix

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<v Speaker 2>it up? Ah?

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<v Speaker 1>I really mix it up. My Spotify is all over

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<v Speaker 1>the show.

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<v Speaker 2>I am a real.

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<v Speaker 1>Classic rock kind of fan. But then just everything, truly everything,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if I'm gonna it depends on the mood I'm in,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if I'm feeling kind of like melancholy, i might

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<v Speaker 1>put on a little bit of like Nasy star.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that, yeah, that sort of thing. And then if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling like I want to tackle the day, you

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<v Speaker 1>might do like Queen m Michael Jackson. Controversial but you

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<v Speaker 1>know that that sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So just to that whole Michael Jackson thing, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like the world's closed over that. The last couple it

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<v Speaker 2>was real controversial and now everyone was like, I just

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<v Speaker 2>like his music.

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<v Speaker 1>Always, so people are like Boycott like Tacon I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I do like that song. I'm just gonna play it

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<v Speaker 1>the once today.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh dear, Now, look looking at your life from the outside,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people would say you've got a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of gifts, you know, like you're very lucky and you've

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<v Speaker 2>got a beautiful life. Do you ever fall victim to

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<v Speaker 2>the grass's green and mentality? You wish that you know

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<v Speaker 2>things are a little bit different, You wish that you

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<v Speaker 2>were doing this or that, And because leaks be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram is never like an absolute accurate portrayal of our lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you, Matilda Green, find that you do full victim

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<v Speaker 2>to a bit of rose colored glasses from time to time?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, one hundred percent. Yes. But I think I've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>a lot better now at noticing when I'm feeling like that,

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<v Speaker 1>like I can, and usually I can pinpoint it to

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<v Speaker 1>something else. So if I'm feeling like I'm comparing myself

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<v Speaker 1>to other people, whether they've got i don't know, more

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<v Speaker 1>money or a better house or whatever it is, I

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<v Speaker 1>can usually think, ah, do you know what? I've been

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<v Speaker 1>spending too much time on my phone recently, which is

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<v Speaker 1>usually linked to me feeling shitty. Yeap, So it's all

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<v Speaker 1>this vicious cycle. When I'm feeling tired and a bit

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<v Speaker 1>burnt out and just not quite on my game mentally,

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<v Speaker 1>then I spend more time on my phone, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I start comparing myself, and then I can I can

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<v Speaker 1>usually snap myself out of it pretty quick by just count.

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<v Speaker 2>Looks like there's a head popping into the frame. Is

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<v Speaker 2>Penny or is it a dog?

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<v Speaker 1>It's a little dog. Okay, cool, that's faster. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I truly am so grateful every single day, and I

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<v Speaker 1>count my blessings no matter what. I really, I really

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<v Speaker 1>don't take anything in my life for granted, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just have to remind myself of that whenever I feel

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<v Speaker 1>because we all fall victim to it sometimes, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>And it depends on the situation you're in, Like sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you could be in a group where you know everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>got lots of money or something, or it just depends

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<v Speaker 1>and then you start comparing yourself. But really, we're all

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<v Speaker 1>so lucky, so so lucky.

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<v Speaker 2>And what does success mean to you? If you were

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<v Speaker 2>to answer that in a sentence, how would you define it?

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<v Speaker 1>Success?

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<v Speaker 2>To me?

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<v Speaker 1>I think means living a life that I can be

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<v Speaker 1>proud of in front of my kids. So if that

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<v Speaker 1>can be an example for them, then that's true success.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all it comes down to for me.

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<v Speaker 2>And when are you in your most proud moments? Like

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<v Speaker 2>if you could think back to when you had the

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<v Speaker 2>most pride. What would it be.

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<v Speaker 1>I think probably after the birth of my son Milo.

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<v Speaker 1>I that moment for me was the most incredible moment

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<v Speaker 1>of my entire life, after going through such a long

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<v Speaker 1>journey of you know, pregnancy and labor and all of that.

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<v Speaker 1>And I remember just lying in bed holding him because

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<v Speaker 1>I had a home birth, so I got to be

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<v Speaker 1>in my own bed, which was so nice, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was holding him just thinking like I can do anything.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think it was also like the hormones and

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<v Speaker 1>the feeling of like he's here, I get to meet him.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the person that's been a part of me

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<v Speaker 1>for so long, that I've talked to in my belly

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<v Speaker 1>and that I feel so bonded to. Now he's he's here,

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<v Speaker 1>He's a person I can I can look into his eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also felt like go me. You know. I

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<v Speaker 1>really did think like I can achieve anything if I

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<v Speaker 1>put my mind to it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And those hormones they really are wild, like wild drugs.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that's so like telling you know, because

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<v Speaker 2>it is sort of coming through like a really hard

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<v Speaker 2>time and having that and I think like you learn

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<v Speaker 2>a lot from life in that moment, right of like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, good things are worth real hard work and

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<v Speaker 2>hard times, and it's not just going to be an

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<v Speaker 2>easy road. And also like expect the unexpected, don't even

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<v Speaker 2>know what's going to freaking happen, and you kind of

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<v Speaker 2>just have to roll with the punches. Yeah, is there

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<v Speaker 2>a quote or some kind of mantra that you like

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<v Speaker 2>to live your life by, whether it's consciously or subconsciously.

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<v Speaker 2>Is this something that you kind of revert back to

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes when things are getting a bit tough.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I've got two. So one is one is life

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<v Speaker 1>begins at the end of your comfort zone, which is

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like what you're saying about how nothing worth

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<v Speaker 1>having comes easy right there. Discomfort is a good thing

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<v Speaker 1>and just being comfortable all the time is not necessarily

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<v Speaker 1>healthy or helpful for you. And I try and live

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<v Speaker 1>my life that way and think, if this is feeling scary,

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<v Speaker 1>then maybe it's worth doing. And the second one is

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<v Speaker 1>can't win the more honestly, like that is just that's

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<v Speaker 1>saying helps me so much, Like if something goes wrong

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe I didn't get an opportunity, if something falls through,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you know, I haven't had a great day

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<v Speaker 1>on the parenting tools, I just go oh, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>win them all, and it really helps me because it

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<v Speaker 1>takes the charge out of it as well. And it's just,

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<v Speaker 1>oh wow, tomorrow's a new day. It's just it is

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<v Speaker 1>what it is. It can't be perfect all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>But you can win the war. You can lose a

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<v Speaker 2>few battles, but you can still win the war.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, there's still chance, you know, like we can bring

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<v Speaker 1>it there tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>It's okay when you look back to you know how

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<v Speaker 2>your life in the media kind of started years back

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<v Speaker 2>when you're on The Bachelor, Like how old were you?

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<v Speaker 1>I was twenty four? Oh my god, And I cannot

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<v Speaker 1>watch that again because I'm like, who is that? Who

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<v Speaker 1>is that child on the show?

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<v Speaker 2>Would you do anything different? I mean, look, it worked

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<v Speaker 2>out pretty well for you, but would you have done

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<v Speaker 2>anything different? Like looking back through your journey of your

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<v Speaker 2>entrance into the public arena.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, so many things, Okay, so many things. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I've evolved so much as a person, so it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard to think, Oh, I wish I'd done that differently

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<v Speaker 1>because I kind of was a different person. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we all change as we get older. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I wish i'd been a little bit more

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<v Speaker 1>authentically myself because I was such a people pleaser at

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<v Speaker 1>that time in my life, especially like extreme, So I

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<v Speaker 1>just wish I had had had the courage to say

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<v Speaker 1>what I really thought and stood up for myself a

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<v Speaker 1>bit more and just had had the guts to have

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<v Speaker 1>more of an opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>Big time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, but I think I just you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>was young twenty four and twenty four at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm really mature, and then now that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm almost thirty four, like, I don't know, should think

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<v Speaker 1>I was mature to be honest.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Look, you can't go through life with regrets, but

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<v Speaker 2>you can, certainly, I guess, go through and evaluate, but

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<v Speaker 2>you got to be you got to be count yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You can reflect, and I think being authentic is probably

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<v Speaker 2>one of the hardest things for a lot of people,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we're just so especially the world of and right now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just so hard to say something and then you

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<v Speaker 2>don't know how it's going to go, and then you're like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>there we go. That's gonna alienate me or that's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>It's a really interesting space that we're in right now,

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<v Speaker 2>where you know, people will have to be so careful

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<v Speaker 2>with what they say. And yeah, I hope that people

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<v Speaker 2>kind of do find their authenticity. I think that's the

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<v Speaker 2>ultimate in life. Really.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I think so too. And we're in this

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<v Speaker 1>bizarre time where everyone is expected to have an opinion

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<v Speaker 1>on everything, and I think it's actually really unhelpful to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest, because no one's one opinion holds more weight

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<v Speaker 1>than anyone else's. And it's this weird time, isn't it,

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<v Speaker 1>where just because somebody has a social media following, get

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<v Speaker 1>expected to like have this public stance on so many

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<v Speaker 1>different issues. And it's like, Okay, I got followers from

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<v Speaker 1>going on The Bachelor, Like do you want.

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<v Speaker 2>Me to yeah, into the geopolitical as exactly? I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I know, and yeah, it's it's not it's not normal.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not normal. And also the exposure that we have

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<v Speaker 2>to every single thing that goes on in the world,

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<v Speaker 2>Like back in villages times when we were like cave

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<v Speaker 2>me in, you know, you didn't know half the shit

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<v Speaker 2>that was going on. It's just like so much information,

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<v Speaker 2>whether it's even about health stuff or whether it's about

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<v Speaker 2>political stuff. It's so hard to wag through.

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<v Speaker 1>And like nobody knows what's what's true anymore. Just like

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<v Speaker 1>somebody somebody sees something on Instagram with like a in

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<v Speaker 1>an authoritative way, You're like, oh, well, you know that

0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:40.600
<v Speaker 1>must be that must be true. And then someone else

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<v Speaker 1>say something completely different in a confident, abative.

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<v Speaker 2>Way exactly, and then you're like, what just sucking side

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<v Speaker 2>do I take? I think the most important thing for

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<v Speaker 2>sanity is to just try and step away and like

0:20:53.000 --> 0:20:55.680
<v Speaker 2>absorb your world like the most. I think the most

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<v Speaker 2>beneficial thing you can do is be a positive impact

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<v Speaker 2>on your like immediate community, right, one hundred percent, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Because that's that's somewhere where you can make a direct impact,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if you are an active part of your community

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<v Speaker 1>looking after those around you and and being an example

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<v Speaker 1>to your children about how to look after those around

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<v Speaker 1>you and and care for people and help others, that

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<v Speaker 1>is that's, in my opinion, one of the best things

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<v Speaker 1>you can do, because then you're raising those people to

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<v Speaker 1>help the people around them, and then it's a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a blow on effect of positivity.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have any role models that you looked up

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<v Speaker 2>to or that you've even in the last ten years,

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<v Speaker 2>someone that you look up to now that you're like man,

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<v Speaker 2>they've got it going on.

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<v Speaker 1>So many people. But do you know what, mostly my

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<v Speaker 1>family and my neighbors like some honestly, like the people

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<v Speaker 1>that are in my community are so generous and giving.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's not that they have all of the stuff

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<v Speaker 1>to give, and it's just that's that's the community spirit.

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<v Speaker 1>And these people are just so kind and so generous.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think since moving to a smaller community from

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<v Speaker 1>the city, I've learned so much from them about how

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<v Speaker 1>important it is to look after those around you and

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<v Speaker 1>be active in fostering those relationships around you and in

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<v Speaker 1>your community, because it doesn't just happen like you do.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually have to make an effort to be a part

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<v Speaker 1>of a community to have the community.

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<v Speaker 2>I found that big time moving rurally, Like, the community

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<v Speaker 2>spirit is wild. When I lived in the city for

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<v Speaker 2>so many years, I know even you my neighbors never

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<v Speaker 2>had any assistance striped through hard times. When anything happens,

0:22:46.440 --> 0:22:49.920
<v Speaker 2>they all band together and it's just the most beautiful thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think it is how we're supposed to live

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<v Speaker 2>as human beings, especially when there's children in the mix.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it does take a village and it takes a

0:22:56.760 --> 0:22:59.800
<v Speaker 2>community to actually stay sane, and I think that's why

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<v Speaker 2>there's so many issues going on now, like people feel

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<v Speaker 2>like they're forced to do it all on their own life.

0:23:03.680 --> 0:23:06.399
<v Speaker 2>If we could have been together. This is student like

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<v Speaker 2>an inspirational but isn't it true, like we need other

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<v Speaker 2>humans to survive.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, because social media gives us the illusion of connection,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not connection, not at all. Like if anything,

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<v Speaker 1>it's well, I mean, we can just take one lock

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<v Speaker 1>at all the mental health stats and see that it's

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<v Speaker 1>not working. When we're like, we're we're connected, but we're

0:23:31.440 --> 0:23:35.520
<v Speaker 1>actually the less the least connected we've ever been. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's really sad. When we had the same situation when

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<v Speaker 1>we lived in Auckland, our neighbors like we'd come and

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<v Speaker 1>go and we were the same age. We probably should

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<v Speaker 1>have made an effort to be friends, but the only

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<v Speaker 1>time we ever interacted was when they was when their

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<v Speaker 1>dog escaped and I and so it was in the

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<v Speaker 1>morning and I was holding my coffee and I was

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<v Speaker 1>holding the dog. I was calling them and I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>realize but like I was bending down to and get

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<v Speaker 1>the dog. And then as I was bending down, I

0:24:06.520 --> 0:24:07.720
<v Speaker 1>was pouring coffee on its head.

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<v Speaker 2>And I didn't even fuck and that's when we left

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<v Speaker 2>the city.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I was like this, so so then I had

0:24:15.119 --> 0:24:16.680
<v Speaker 1>to be like, hey, I've got your dog and also

0:24:16.760 --> 0:24:18.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm really sorry I bourn coffee all over.

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<v Speaker 2>How did they go down? Did they talked to you afterwards?

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<v Speaker 1>All? I know? It was just an awkward interaction and

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<v Speaker 1>they were like, oh, that's okay. I was like sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mentor and they were like, yeah, that's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to take the dog now.

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<v Speaker 2>So you won't be moving back to the city anytime.

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<v Speaker 2>So so you line up there. So you guys are

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<v Speaker 2>like out of the city quite not rural, but like

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<v Speaker 2>small town small small town.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, well, like it's not that small. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what the population of Walkward, US have you five thousand?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's Ce's it's tweet on the way tweet Tweet's

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<v Speaker 2>not the right word.

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<v Speaker 1>It's i'd say it's medium small town. Yeah, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's growing pretty rapidly, and some of the og

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<v Speaker 1>locals are not happy about it.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not they're not in training. You haven't got McDonald's

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<v Speaker 2>or the wee house coming in of you at the

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<v Speaker 2>warehouse to be here We've got the warehouse and it

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<v Speaker 2>goes off, it pops off. It's great for kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying to actually, like, you know what we need.

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<v Speaker 1>We need a kid's boutique, you know, like we need

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<v Speaker 1>a kids drop in town where people can go and

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<v Speaker 1>get their their kids party supplies.

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<v Speaker 2>You're going to advocate breaking kids boutique.

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<v Speaker 1>From even start. One.

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<v Speaker 2>Been so nice chatting with you today. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>finish on what advice you would give to your eighteen

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<v Speaker 2>year old self. I know we talked about like looking

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<v Speaker 2>back at the Bachelor of that if you could talk

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<v Speaker 2>to a younger version of yourself, knowing what's ahead, what

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<v Speaker 2>would you tell yourself?

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<v Speaker 1>The first thing would be lay off the fake han

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<v Speaker 1>for the of God, it's just it's just not okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And the main, the main serious one is because I

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<v Speaker 1>went through school with most people telling me that I

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't an athlete and that I wasn't academic, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I had these these beliefs from when I was really

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<v Speaker 1>young to when I finished school, thinking, right, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>smart and I'm not good at sports, So what's left

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good with people? Okay, so that's a pretty small pool.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'll go into sales and like, which was great,

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<v Speaker 1>But I really wish that I could tell myself, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you are smart and you can achieve whatever you want

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<v Speaker 1>to achieve. And I just wish I had had more

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<v Speaker 1>voices telling me that through school. And it has made

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<v Speaker 1>me realize how important it is not to label your

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<v Speaker 1>children as well, because they really take it on board

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<v Speaker 1>like oh, you're shy, you're quiet, you're sporty, you're this,

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<v Speaker 1>you're smart, you're not good at writing, you're good at this,

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<v Speaker 1>because they believe it and they think, oh, okay, well I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not good at that, so that's the reality. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah exactly. So I really wish I could tell eighteen

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<v Speaker 1>year old me that you can achieve it if if

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<v Speaker 1>you try, you're not done.

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<v Speaker 2>That's beautiful. Well, I'm so grateful for you popping on

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<v Speaker 2>today and having a little chat and having like a

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<v Speaker 2>little lens into your life behind the behind the scenes

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<v Speaker 2>of Matilda Green.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for having me. It was lovely to catch up

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<v Speaker 1>and just be a part of this zen moments.

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<v Speaker 2>Lovely, mist I should have told you to bring a

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<v Speaker 2>cup of tea or something. I've actually got my oil

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<v Speaker 2>b Do you like that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? To the side, Oh that's nice. I've just got

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<v Speaker 1>a dog and a lot of mess, so I won't

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<v Speaker 1>show you the backdrop.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, that's what it's all about, the realness of being human. Matilda,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you so much. I really really appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks Pja.

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<v Speaker 2>Listening back to that chat, I really wish I had

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<v Speaker 2>dived into a few more questions with Matilda, but I

0:28:00.880 --> 0:28:03.640
<v Speaker 2>ended up cutting it short, and I've still got more

0:28:03.680 --> 0:28:05.479
<v Speaker 2>I want to talk to her about. But there were

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<v Speaker 2>a few things that really did stick out to me

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<v Speaker 2>this week, and I loved that. You know, when she

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<v Speaker 2>is feeling overwhelmed or she's about to lose a shit,

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<v Speaker 2>she'll reset with a dance in the kitchen, with like

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<v Speaker 2>a little you know, a little dance party. It's that simple.

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<v Speaker 2>Just turning on music really loudly, and it doesn't matter, Like,

0:28:24.240 --> 0:28:26.399
<v Speaker 2>don't care if it's a cool song or not. Just

0:28:26.440 --> 0:28:28.879
<v Speaker 2>blast it loudly and it does reset the mode. I

0:28:29.000 --> 0:28:33.919
<v Speaker 2>found it so so effective when my toldles melting darden

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<v Speaker 2>or having a tantrum, or just the day it feels

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<v Speaker 2>really hard. As I said, I put on that birth

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<v Speaker 2>playlist and it just brings me back to what really

0:28:41.200 --> 0:28:43.600
<v Speaker 2>matters in life. I also love how she made it

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<v Speaker 2>clear of what her non negotible is.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure there's lots of things that she does also

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<v Speaker 2>incorporate into a routine, but the meditation, and I know

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<v Speaker 2>that's also really kind of off putting for a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people. They think, shit, I can't sit that still

0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:02.480
<v Speaker 2>for that amount of time. I learned vadic meditation. Gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>when was it? When I was in Melbourne on breakfast

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<v Speaker 2>radio and I was sleep deprived, and I just remember

0:29:10.520 --> 0:29:15.040
<v Speaker 2>how incredible it was. They say it's like equivalent to

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<v Speaker 2>a few hours sleep or something like that. Who do

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<v Speaker 2>it properly? You set yourself out to do it twice

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<v Speaker 2>a day, twenty minutes each time. Now as your parent,

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<v Speaker 2>there can differ, but I think trying to stick to

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<v Speaker 2>doing that as much as possible. It does. There's so

0:29:30.200 --> 0:29:33.640
<v Speaker 2>much research and science behind it. It really is a

0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:35.760
<v Speaker 2>magical tool. So I love that she has put that

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<v Speaker 2>as one of her Nona Gosh balls. I was really

0:29:38.680 --> 0:29:42.960
<v Speaker 2>related with her move to walk with in that small

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<v Speaker 2>community and the impact that that's had on her life

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<v Speaker 2>and seeing firsthand the simple acts of community and how

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<v Speaker 2>they really make a difference, And you know that kind

0:29:53.920 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 2>of stuff is so much more important than posting the

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<v Speaker 2>latest opinion on the latest thing that's going on in

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<v Speaker 2>the news and feeling value from that. I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not saying that that doesn't have a place. It absolutely does,

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<v Speaker 2>But I think it can feel really overwhelming when there's

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<v Speaker 2>so much going on and you feel like you're not

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<v Speaker 2>contributing to the world. One way of getting back to

0:30:15.080 --> 0:30:18.760
<v Speaker 2>feeling like you are making some kind of difference as

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<v Speaker 2>tepping into your community and seeing your acts firsthand pay off.

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<v Speaker 2>So that really sat with me, and I loved her

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<v Speaker 2>advice to her younger self. I'm going to kind of

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<v Speaker 2>paraphrase it here, but the way I read it was,

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<v Speaker 2>don't absorb what others think of you, because look, they

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<v Speaker 2>could tell you a green elephant, and if you hear

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<v Speaker 2>that enough, you will genuinely believe it. And that's what

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<v Speaker 2>we do, right. People will tell you you're not sporty,

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<v Speaker 2>you're not good enough, you're not this, you're not that,

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<v Speaker 2>and you genuinely believe it if you hear it enough.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's finding that strength in yourself to know who

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<v Speaker 2>you are. And I don't think that you get that

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<v Speaker 2>when you're younger. That happens when you grow up, you

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<v Speaker 2>have experiences, and you learn who you are who you

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<v Speaker 2>know as the years go by. But it's something we

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<v Speaker 2>can all take something from, you know, standing true to

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<v Speaker 2>yourself and not believing every negative word that someone has

0:31:11.600 --> 0:31:14.520
<v Speaker 2>to say about you. So yeah, I really enjoyed my

0:31:14.560 --> 0:31:16.200
<v Speaker 2>catch up with Matilda this week. As I said, I

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<v Speaker 2>do wish actually I kind of dived a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>deeper and now I'm looking back. We could have gone

0:31:22.000 --> 0:31:24.280
<v Speaker 2>on some wild tangents, but look, I hope you've got

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<v Speaker 2>something out of it. I'd love to know your thoughts

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<v Speaker 2>on this week's episode, and if you've got any suggestions

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<v Speaker 2>for other people who'd be a great fit for the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>get in touch with me on Instagram at PJDJ and

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be back next week. Have a good one.