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Speaker 1: The Hits Drive with Meddy and Paja thanks to Chemist

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Speaker 1: were House the Real House of Fragrances on that Hi everyone,

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Speaker 1: welcome to your Tuesday podcast. Meddi has reserved a special

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Speaker 1: conversation for the intro here instead of doing it live

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Speaker 1: on the radio.

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Speaker 2: It's really excited.

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Speaker 3: It's really to talk to that. But I went for

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Speaker 3: a run today, as I've been doing a bit lately.

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Speaker 2: Do you go running way?

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Speaker 1: I know it's okay, it's your whole personality, but it's fine.

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Speaker 2: It's such a good thing.

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Speaker 3: Shit, I hate I do hate myself a little bit

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Speaker 3: for it, but don't here we are.

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Speaker 1: I'm just jealous. I'm just jealous that I'm not running.

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Speaker 1: That's where the hate comes from.

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Speaker 3: So so I went for a run this morning and

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Speaker 3: I got got home and it was a ten k

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Speaker 3: so it was a decent run, nice and I'm a

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Speaker 3: sweater at the best of time, so I was very

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Speaker 3: sweaty when I got home. And so the first thing

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Speaker 3: I did was I took my top off and I

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Speaker 3: caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and I went, oh,

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Speaker 3: I kind of was like I was kind of feeling

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Speaker 3: myself a little bit. It doesn't happen very often. I

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Speaker 3: usually have a lot of self loathing when it comes

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Speaker 3: to like my general body slash appearance.

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Speaker 2: Well, you're gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: Is this You told us yesterday that you went running

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Speaker 1: with your top off in Australia.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I didn't go running with my top off here, but.

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Speaker 1: You took your top off afterwards. You're all sweaty and

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Speaker 1: you liked what you saw.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was kind of like the sweat was like

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Speaker 3: glistening a little bit. And I thought my body did.

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Speaker 2: Look like almost like you'd been leavit up and oil.

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Speaker 3: Yes, And I thought, my body does look quite good.

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Speaker 3: So I took a photo of it, like I took

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Speaker 3: a mirror selfie, which I never do.

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Speaker 2: Never do your face. Did you keep your face out

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Speaker 2: because you look like a roasted to my Yes.

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Speaker 3: Because I'm so ridd and lotchy in my face. So

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Speaker 3: I crapped from the neck.

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Speaker 2: Down and Facebook profile.

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Speaker 3: Oh no. But what I thought I would do is

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Speaker 3: I was like, no, I sent it to my husband.

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Speaker 3: I was like a little bit of you know, cheeky,

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Speaker 3: not more afternoon morning delight for for Ryan at work,

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Speaker 3: cute little sexy pecking. His husband let me.

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Speaker 2: Let me like, what the fuck is this?

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Speaker 3: Send me message?

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Speaker 2: Just are you okay?

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Speaker 3: He said, what was that for? But the other thing

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Speaker 3: that no, so also sorry, sorry, sorry, I need to.

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Speaker 2: Send a racy Oh my god, this isn't a sexy photo.

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Speaker 3: So here's what happened. I sent him the photo. I

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Speaker 3: He'd seen it, and then about an hour and a

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Speaker 3: half later, he just text me and said, I'm going

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Speaker 3: to go swimming after work tonight. So we just ignored it,

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Speaker 3: to be ignored the photo, and I said, great, have fun,

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Speaker 3: And then he said what was that? What was that

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Speaker 1: So maybe he thought because it never happens, he was

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Speaker 1: just he like, actually thought it was a mistake.

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Speaker 2: You know, you needed to pre present.

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Speaker 3: I know, I thought, is this is this is a

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Speaker 3: sad state of affears. My husband is questioning why I'd

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Speaker 3: be sending him a topless selfie of myself.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's a sign you need to do it more.

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Speaker 1: He's so thrown by it being a rare occurrence that

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Speaker 1: you need to actually show him that this is what

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Speaker 1: he's got to expect. True, Do it again, do it

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Speaker 1: again tomorrow it's not you know, can you do it?

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Speaker 1: I can back it up, back it up, back it

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Speaker 1: and let me begin with another sweaty topless photo tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: Well we're nearly we're nearly eight years into our relationship,

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Speaker 3: two years married. You know, you've got to keep the

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Speaker 2: So did you ever used to sing sucy photos?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I probably did, because I traveled quite a bit.

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Speaker 2: Don't keep, don't keep.

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Speaker 3: No face, no disgrace.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there'd be a daily Mail article.

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Speaker 3: But it's obviously reminded me that it must have been

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Speaker 1: Tak You've got to start feeling yourself more. Okay, it's

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Speaker 1: actually been a reminder of me. I need to sing

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Speaker 1: the little sixty photo, little.

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Speaker 3: Bro yes before work tomorrow and see what he see what.

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Speaker 2: He would be like?

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Speaker 1: Wow, But i'd have to get the writing man the

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Speaker 3: A long distance man.

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Speaker 2: This must have been Yeah, well no, not so much.

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Speaker 2: But like the odd one. Yeah, yeah, sexy little but

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Speaker 2: not like full nerdy, not full neudy. Anyway, look, coming

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Speaker 2: up of the podcast, we have a lot of fun. Today.

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Speaker 1: We had group therapy with a bit of a financial dilemma.

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Speaker 1: Someone's partner has a job which is quite tough when

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Speaker 3: And we also asked about how soon after you purchased

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Speaker 3: something did you wreck it? And then some of them

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Speaker 3: were like immediately yes.

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Speaker 2: And we talked relationships.

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Speaker 1: How soon is too soon when it comes to a

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Speaker 1: certain event in a relationship. We'll go there coming up

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Speaker 1: of the podcast, and so much more.

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Speaker 2: We hope you enjoy it.

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Speaker 3: Bye bye, Maybe many in the podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'd love to ask the question how soon after the

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Speaker 1: purchase did you wreck it? Can you not have nice things?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you're into streamers matty and watching

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Speaker 3: You mean like gymnastic ribbons?

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Speaker 2: Oh, totally into them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love those.

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Speaker 1: Oh you know how like these really young YouTubers like

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Speaker 2: I don't get it. I've never really got it, but

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Speaker 2: they are big for the youth.

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Speaker 3: Apparently good for them.

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Speaker 1: Well, a streamer from the States called Jack Doughty has

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Speaker 1: just crashed his brand new three hundred thousand dollars McLaren

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Speaker 1: five seventys. Don't ask me what that is after losing

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Speaker 1: at the comments, and then he sure enough just absolutely

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Speaker 2: So flesh anymore.

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Speaker 3: He's okay, though, he's fine, He's fine.

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Speaker 2: We need to so then I.

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Speaker 3: Can say, idiot, I've got absolutely no sympathy for him.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was raining, he had to stand in the rain.

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Speaker 1: Following the crash. He has been taken off the platform,

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Speaker 1: obviously because he went against a lot of the guidelines,

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Speaker 1: you know, breaking laws and all that. But come on,

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Speaker 1: you'd be so gutted because, like I think, a big

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Speaker 1: thing that he does on his streaming side is he

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Speaker 1: like fleshes all his new products and like all these

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Speaker 2: He's like, look at my wealth.

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Speaker 1: And then he's just got this brand new expensive car

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Speaker 1: and he's just gone and run it off. Not idiot, idiot,

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Speaker 1: this is why we can't have nice things.

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Speaker 3: So my I was thinking if I had an example

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Speaker 3: of this minor's low level compared to a three hundred

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Speaker 2: Well, you don't have a three hundred thousand dollar cars.

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Speaker 3: I don't. I don't, but I when bought we get

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Speaker 3: when bought from Briscoes, like those nice little cups, like

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Speaker 2: Oh do they they hate to protecting?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're like double almost like double.

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Speaker 2: I feel like it needs to be China to have

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Speaker 3: No, they're good. I like them. Okay, I like them,

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Speaker 3: but I bought them. We had a coffee and beard

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Speaker 3: and then we were both had our cups of coffee

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Speaker 3: the corner of the do they caught the cup? It

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Speaker 3: smashed all over the floor and nice things you can imagine.

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Speaker 3: I was very cool, come and collected about the whole fan.

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Speaker 4: Maddy ANDJ Mady and PJ the podcast the head We're

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Speaker 4: asking a simple question the SAVO when how soon sorry

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Speaker 4: after the purchase, did you RecA the streamer over in

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Speaker 4: the States, which showing off as brand new three hundred

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Speaker 4: and well, we can't have nice things for people.

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Speaker 3: Yep idiot though idiot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, he has since been taken off the platform,

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Speaker 1: right fully so, but we wanted to know why can

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Speaker 2: Victoria? What did you do?

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Speaker 5: Nie? So, my partner bought me a brand new phone

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Speaker 5: for my birthday a few years ago, and within a

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Speaker 3: No, not on smoker, Victoria. What was it one of

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Speaker 3: those things where you were trying Were you trying to

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Speaker 3: a phone in your hand all at the same time.

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Speaker 6: Oh, I was so upset.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, getting like your phone appeared actually costs more than

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Speaker 1: a new phone.

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Speaker 2: Have you found that?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Truly, And often I'll just.

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Speaker 1: Go into the nearest little fixer upper store, right and

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Speaker 1: it'll be like mobile repair shop.

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Speaker 2: I don't actually know how legitimate it is.

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Speaker 1: Recently, my cameras started coming up with an alert saying

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Speaker 1: this camera that's installed in the phone is not actually

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Speaker 1: a legitimate apple like peace. And so I'm like, hang on,

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Speaker 1: because I've got my camera fixed. Before I think I reckon,

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Speaker 1: I've got done over in one of those sort of shots.

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Speaker 3: The cheap jobs.

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Speaker 1: So watch out. Emily's one hundreds. How soon after the

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Speaker 1: purchase did you wrecka?

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Speaker 2: Hello?

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Speaker 7: Anals, That's right about a week.

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Speaker 8: I got a We got a new car.

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Speaker 7: We meant to get some new rooms and tires on it.

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Speaker 7: Basically pull a hire shop and then a motorbike at

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Speaker 7: the start of my car. He was like, he got

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Speaker 7: up and yeah, it was aod.

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Speaker 2: Tell me you had insurance and a Lisa.

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Speaker 7: We did. We had insurance. That wasn't a bit of

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Speaker 7: a process as it was obviously new.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, that's smart because if that had happened to me,

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Speaker 3: there's absolutely no way I would have been organized to

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Speaker 3: have gotten insurance in that car.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for you. We're going to help.

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Speaker 2: It's aboutually coming away. Kelly is joining us. Hi, cal Hello, Hello,

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Speaker 2: what did you reck? Straight after buying.

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Speaker 8: It, I bought a big planter ceramic pot from the warehouse,

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Speaker 8: a big giant garden one.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, and I got it.

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Speaker 2: Can you go there and just go all out and

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Speaker 3: Is it fair that I suggest my partner gives up

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Speaker 1: Ooh, that's a really, really good one. I love the

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Speaker 1: She's got a couple of multiple part time jobs, and

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Speaker 3: I think that's actually really smart advice, because you do.

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Speaker 1: We said, maybe a good solution would be to no,

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Speaker 3: You know what, I reckon? Other people out there will

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Speaker 9: lawyer's job and and some deeces of money being an actor.

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Speaker 9: My daughter was a dancer in Sydney for years and

447
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Speaker 9: years and years and she just couldn't forform her dream.

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Speaker 9: I didn't pay the rent.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's a hard thing, right because we you know,

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Speaker 3: we sa say to kids, be whatever you want to be,

451
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Speaker 3: live your dreams. But ultimately, at the end of the day, yeah, yeah.

452
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Speaker 9: You've got to be able to pay for yourself totally.

453
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Speaker 3: And so maybe this is a way, you just don't know.

454
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Speaker 1: She could be a couple of weeks away from this

455
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Speaker 1: dream gig which absolutely propels her and to start him

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Speaker 1: and she's.

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Speaker 2: The next.

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Speaker 3: Ye Roberts, I was gonna say, yeah.

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Speaker 1: No, well, thank you so much for weighing in this afternoon.

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Speaker 1: Nakie Good points there, like, you can understand and you

461
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Speaker 1: don't want the resentment building, but it's so hard because

462
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Speaker 1: you're trying to show support at the same time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so someone said, great advice from you and I

464
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Speaker 3: about trying to get maybe another part time job. But

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Speaker 3: the concern is how do you actually broach that subject.

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Speaker 3: So this person is suggested going in and saying, look,

467
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Speaker 3: things are tight and we do need to look at

468
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Speaker 3: how we are financing our lifestyle. What if I pay

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Speaker 3: the rent, you buy the food, and then that gives

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Speaker 3: them the kind of budget that they need to work within,

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Speaker 3: so they know, okay, this is the amount I need

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Speaker 3: to earn, and then they can figure out how they

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Speaker 3: do that and what that looks like to be able

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Speaker 3: to earn that amount, to be able to put towards

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Speaker 3: the food.

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Speaker 1: And it probably feels at a little less finger pointing

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Speaker 1: I'm doing this, you do this. It actually shows on

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Speaker 1: paper what you guys need to achieve is a couple

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Speaker 1: like good.

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Speaker 2: That's a good way to wrap it up, I reckon.

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Speaker 1: So if you've got any questions for grip therapy, we

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Speaker 1: will be back the same time next week. You can

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Speaker 1: keep you anonymous, and we could be approaching your dilemma

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Speaker 1: next week the podcast. Hey another Day, Another etiquette question.

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Speaker 1: I went shopping with my mommy this morning. We headed

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Speaker 1: to the Big Smoke We're in the Capitol for a

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Speaker 1: few hours, and.

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Speaker 2: I took Mum into h and m She'd never been

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Speaker 2: there before.

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Speaker 1: Wow, buddy, Wow, this is quite that's a good deal

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Speaker 1: in the shit.

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Speaker 2: It was like Christmas.

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Speaker 1: She was really excited and we'd both gone to get

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Speaker 1: individual things together. And then I was up at the

496
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Speaker 1: counter and I could.

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Speaker 2: See her on the other side of the.

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Speaker 1: Shop trying to find me. She was going the total

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Speaker 1: wrong direction. So I'd be like, Mom, literally that person

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Speaker 1: yelling out of the shop Mom.

501
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Speaker 2: And she goes, oh, oh, she's just as frazzled as me.

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Speaker 2: Like think of me. But in thirty forty years, right.

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Speaker 3: Do you have to sometimes do you? Sometimes I have

504
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Speaker 3: to call out their their actual name, because sometimes I

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Speaker 3: call out mom, Yes, Yeah, Mom doesn't know who's talking

506
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Speaker 3: to her, so she just.

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Speaker 1: Ignores Angela harding Angela No.

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Speaker 2: So she literally saw me.

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Speaker 1: She came over, but I was right at the front

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Speaker 1: and I was just in the process of paying.

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Speaker 2: And Mom came straight to join me in the queue.

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Speaker 10: Now.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why.

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Speaker 1: This felt really off, because I feel like, if I

515
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Speaker 1: was in a cafe line, this could be all good,

516
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Speaker 1: it could be above board and you wouldn't really beat

517
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Speaker 1: an eyelid. But I felt like, because it was in

518
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Speaker 1: a retail store, it just felt really.

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Speaker 2: Awkward that she can't enter the line.

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Speaker 1: It joined me, there were people behind, and then she

521
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Speaker 1: just meant to pay straight away.

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Speaker 3: How many items did she have?

523
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Speaker 2: Three?

524
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Speaker 3: See, this is the thing I think with retail is

525
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Speaker 3: it takes a lot longer than you would anticipate for

526
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Speaker 3: them to like scan and then fold and then bag up.

527
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Speaker 3: If you're at the cafe, you're really just placing a

528
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Speaker 3: quick order, so it's kind of fine she scanned to

529
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Speaker 3: the order, but retail does take a bit longer.

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Speaker 1: I would love to know your official thoughts on that, Like,

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Speaker 1: can you if you see someone you know on the line,

532
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Speaker 1: jump in and join them in a retail store. We're

533
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Speaker 1: gonna be very specific about the sitting here to be

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Speaker 1: fair and hoo to fear ends she had actually seen

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Speaker 1: the people behind, she made it way more awkward Medy.

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Speaker 1: She goes, Oh, I didn't see them? Should I say so?

537
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Speaker 1: She goes, I'm so sorry. This was after the fact

538
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Speaker 1: she had purchased the items.

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Speaker 2: I didn't see you that. I wouldn't have done that.

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, And it's all good. Already, get out

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Speaker 2: of here. You totally knew we were here.

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Speaker 10: Maddy, J Meddy and PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 3: That's Hey, my brother lives in the US, and I've

544
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Speaker 3: told you about He's a regular lithario. He's just an

545
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Speaker 3: eternal bachelor, as my brother.

546
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it'd be great for one of my friends.

547
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Speaker 1: I think they'd be such a cute peer they went

548
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Speaker 1: to sod they forget together for a wedding years.

549
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Speaker 2: They would be a good look cute. But he's found love.

550
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Speaker 3: He has at that wedding.

551
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Speaker 2: Actually he was looking good.

552
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Speaker 3: I will say he met a lovely lass. But they

553
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Speaker 3: are doing like a lot. They've been doing long distance

554
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Speaker 3: because he lives in la she actually lives in the Netherlands,

555
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Speaker 3: and they met in South Africa. It's a very complicated

556
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Speaker 3: melting pot.

557
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Speaker 2: What a love story if they end up together.

558
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Speaker 3: Truly, truly, But it's hard, right because they really haven't

559
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Speaker 3: spent that much time together. She went and visited him

560
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Speaker 3: in La for like a few weeks, so they spend

561
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Speaker 3: a little bit of time together. But she's back in

562
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Speaker 3: the Netherlands now and Rob's in La still. But we

563
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Speaker 3: are all all three of our siblings are going to

564
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Speaker 3: be home for Christmas this year in Queenstown.

565
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Speaker 2: Oh that's the best.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's funny. Actually, my sister messaged me the other

567
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Speaker 3: day because we sometimes play Mum bingo because Mum has

568
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Speaker 3: like the same things that she says often. And Mikayla

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Speaker 3: just messaged me the other day saying bingo because Mikayla

570
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Speaker 3: was on a call with Mum and she goes, when

571
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Speaker 3: the three of you get together, it's just my happy place.

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Speaker 3: It's such a mum thing to say.

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Speaker 1: But bless it, blease, Tracy McClain. She's just excited to

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Speaker 1: have three babies.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we're all going to be there. But guess

576
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Speaker 3: what I just found out. The girlfriend, the Dutch girlfriend,

577
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Speaker 3: is coming to Queenstown for a McLean family Christmas?

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Speaker 2: Hang on, how much time have they actually spent together?

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Speaker 3: Weeks? Okay, a matter of weeks?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay. Now, I'm a firm believer of when you know,

581
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Speaker 2: you know, and I will be honest.

582
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Speaker 1: I jumped into a relationship with mine now husband pretty quick,

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Speaker 1: and we did long distance, and I had to make

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Speaker 1: that call pretty quick whether we committed to a long

585
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Speaker 1: day relationship.

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Speaker 2: And we did for three years and it worked blissfully.

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Speaker 2: But that's quack. It's quick to go on a family Christmas?

588
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Speaker 3: Do you know the funniest thing she's bringing her mum?

589
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Speaker 3: What she's bringing her musk?

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Speaker 2: Sorry?

591
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Speaker 4: What?

592
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Speaker 3: Which I guess makes sense because I think the mom

593
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Speaker 3: is going my daughter is dating this random man. On

594
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Speaker 3: the other side, I don't want.

595
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Speaker 2: To fall in love with your family.

596
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Speaker 3: Well will she? I'm scared because we're no holds barred

597
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Speaker 3: and we don't like you know, we play a lot

598
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Speaker 3: of board games and things can get heated, and I

599
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Speaker 3: do throw the attention when I lose a board game,

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Speaker 3: and I'm concerned that warts and all really will be

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Speaker 3: warts and all.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I don't want to throw a friend under the bus,

603
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Speaker 1: but a very good friend of mine recently started seeing

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Speaker 1: someone in the last couple of months, and she just

605
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Speaker 1: told me that he's coming to their family Christmas as well.

606
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Speaker 1: That's early, And I'm like that, really, it's fine, it's fine,

607
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Speaker 1: But you just all of a sudden intertwined with the

608
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Speaker 1: family and things get more complicated.

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Speaker 3: It's not just a casual dinner on like a Friday night.

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Speaker 3: Christmas is such an intimate time. It's an intense time.

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Speaker 3: There's lots of emotions going on. You really do see

612
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Speaker 3: the best and the worst of people at Christmas time.

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Speaker 1: I recollectually throw a couple of questions out this afternoon.

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Speaker 1: First of all, when do you take it's so soon

615
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Speaker 1: to go to family Christmas? Or when is the appropriate

616
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Speaker 1: time if you're dating someone to go to the family Christmas.

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Speaker 1: Second of all, in hindsight, did things move way too.

618
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Speaker 2: Fast in the relationship?

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Speaker 1: Looking bat, you're like, actually, nah, we probably should have

620
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Speaker 1: pumped the brakes a little bit. Things went a little

621
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Speaker 1: too fast. I'll wait one hundred the hats to join

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Speaker 1: the show. We'd love you to weigh in. Takes four

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Speaker 1: four eight seven.

624
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Speaker 2: How soon is too family Christmas? Together?

625
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Speaker 10: I don't know, man.

626
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Speaker 3: Of your brother to be on my best behavior.

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Speaker 2: Know ignog for you. Maddy and PJ.

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Speaker 10: Mady and PJ the podcast, Theads.

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Speaker 1: We're talking romance this afternoon. Maddy's lovely brother has got

630
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Speaker 1: a lovely girlfriend and is bringing her to Christmas after Well, look,

631
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Speaker 1: they have been dating, you know, most of the year.

632
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Speaker 3: They've been dating since I think May, but they've only

633
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 3: spent maybe four weeks together because it's a long distance thing. Yeah,

634
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Speaker 3: and now she's coming. The next time they see each

635
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Speaker 3: other will be at our family Christmas.

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Speaker 1: The thing is with long distance, things do move quicker

637
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Speaker 1: and everything kind of compresses into a shorter space of time.

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Speaker 1: So I was judgable. I wasn't judgment before, but I

639
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Speaker 1: did say that soon. But now I'm thinking about it,

640
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Speaker 1: and I screw it. Like, if they want this thing

641
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Speaker 1: to be on, they've got to find out if they

642
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Speaker 1: collag you.

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Speaker 3: Know, it's true, And I will say this is a.

644
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Speaker 1: Way then to see Rob's older brother absolutely loser.

645
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Speaker 3: Overboard game Monopoly, throw the boarder in the air. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So we're actually throwing out a couple of questions this afternoon.

647
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Speaker 1: Have things move too fast in the relationship in hindsight

648
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Speaker 1: or what time is the appropriate time to go to

649
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 1: a family crisis when dating someone.

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Speaker 2: New, Jasmine is weighing in. Hello Jasmine, Hello.

651
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Speaker 9: How are you good?

652
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Speaker 2: Very well? What would you like to weigh in with?

653
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Speaker 6: So, I'm the same as you. I'm a big believer

654
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Speaker 6: in when you know you know, yes, my husband. Actually,

655
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Speaker 6: So I met my husband on tender, like last week

656
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Speaker 6: of November eighteen. We moved in together in January. We

657
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Speaker 6: spent the entire Christmas together with his family.

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Speaker 9: The whole day.

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Speaker 6: I meet all of his family and he's so huge family.

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Speaker 6: And then we moved in together January, and now we're

661
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Speaker 6: married and have two kids and a house.

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Speaker 3: Wow. But here's the thing, Jasmine, because so that was

663
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Speaker 3: a month between you meeting on tender and you going

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Speaker 3: to his family Christmas. At the time, are you sitting

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Speaker 3: down at the table with his family going this is

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Speaker 3: too soon. I've made a mistake here, part of me.

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Speaker 6: But I'd also like I was so ready to like

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Speaker 6: just make someone and settle down. I thought, oh my god,

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Speaker 6: I'm getting a bit old. You know, it all worked out.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like it's such an important thing if

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Speaker 1: my family jells with my partner. So like, if you

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Speaker 1: do kind of want that reassurance. Then it has a

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Speaker 1: really good exercise to do.

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Speaker 3: Someone has text into four four. I have such such

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Speaker 3: shite taste in men that I should have exposed my

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Speaker 3: eggs to my family much sooner so that they could

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Speaker 3: judge him harshly.

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Speaker 2: We go hands and hindsight.

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Speaker 1: Jeff is joining us, all right, one hundred and hats

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Speaker 1: what do you want to weigh in with?

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Speaker 8: Jeff?

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Speaker 11: Hi, I, myself and my wife were heavily involved with

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Speaker 11: seth right slavy, and we we had a thing for

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Speaker 11: each other, I think, but everybody was trying to sit

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Speaker 11: each each of a fact. And we went to a

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Speaker 11: barbecue one night, and I haven't been home since, and

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Speaker 11: that was thirty six years ago.

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Speaker 3: Stop you that night.

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Speaker 12: Wow, we've been married for thirty one years. We have

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Speaker 12: two beautiful chills. And yeah, so we both and we

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Speaker 12: both said right at the start, we both.

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Speaker 6: Knew that it was right.

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Speaker 12: So I so I went to her. She owned her

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Speaker 12: own house.

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Speaker 11: I went back to her place after the barbecue that night,

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Speaker 11: and I haven't been home.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you restore my hope and love?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: So beautiful.

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Speaker 3: So I'll embrace my brother's girlfriend at Christmas time.

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Speaker 11: Then I think you should.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Jeff, Jeff the Love the love Guru has spoken,

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Speaker 1: all right, you go if you know, you know, and

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Speaker 1: the the suit you can't be Oh man, I stuffed

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Speaker 1: it up.

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Speaker 3: So I was going to finish on.

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Speaker 2: A profound note, but now I was just ruined.

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Speaker 10: Them tried, You tried, Mary and PJ, Mady and PJ,

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Speaker 10: the podcast, the Heads, the.

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Speaker 3: People's Poll, the People's Poll, everybody comes together, it's the people.

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Speaker 1: We did this on the show every day and don't

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Speaker 1: get you can catch out Instagram the Hats Drive with

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Speaker 1: Maddy and PJ. We put the pole of the day

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Speaker 1: up on our story so you can weigh in.

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Speaker 3: And today's is inspired by something that actually happened yesterday.

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Speaker 3: What happens frequently on the show is that just before

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Speaker 3: we go live, PJ will decide that that's the time

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Speaker 3: she wants to put some food in her mouth and

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Speaker 3: start eating.

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Speaker 1: Well, I just know that I need to nourish and

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Speaker 1: fuel my body up for the hour here.

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Speaker 3: True, but usually we have like a four minute song

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Speaker 3: to be able to do that, and then you choose

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Speaker 3: the last ten seconds of the song in which to

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Speaker 3: eat your food.

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Speaker 2: I love life on the edge. You came in.

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Speaker 3: Nothing else, but yesterday the item of food in question

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Speaker 3: was a gingerbread man.

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Speaker 2: This was uncharacteristic of me.

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Speaker 1: I haven't just a gingerbread man in a long time,

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Speaker 1: and I did feel like the lady at the store

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Speaker 1: was slightly judging me. I was ready to throw her

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Speaker 1: the response that it was for my son, but I

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Speaker 1: didn't need to shouldn't say anything, But.

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Speaker 2: It does actually beg the question.

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Speaker 1: Is it okay to buy a gingerbread man as an adult?

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Speaker 3: I'm glad we're asking it, because I do really like

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Speaker 3: gingerbread men, but every time I see them at the counter,

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Speaker 3: they've got like because I've got like cute little colorful

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Speaker 3: buttons on them, and they're very much packaged towards children,

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Speaker 3: and so I never buy them because I always think

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Speaker 3: I'm going to get that judgment and someone's going to

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Speaker 3: be doing what's going to be saying, what are you

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Speaker 3: doing as a nearly forty year old buying yourself a

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Speaker 3: gingerbread man?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you've got to just do.

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Speaker 1: Although you don't really get them at the at the

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Speaker 1: actual proper supermarket, do you like, we can chuck it

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Speaker 1: through the self serve usually somewhere where you actually have

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Speaker 1: to have the forward facing conversation.

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Speaker 2: With a real hope. Okay, so the question today, let's

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Speaker 2: put this to rest.

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Speaker 1: As an adult, can you go and purchase a gingerbread

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Speaker 1: man without being judged?

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Speaker 2: It's similar to the question of Maka Chino.

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Speaker 1: I remember I started dating a guy that drunk mockers

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Speaker 1: and it really really gave me the true and I.

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Speaker 2: Couldn't look past it.

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Speaker 1: I was like, can you not just drink a regular coffee?

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Speaker 1: But the question today is gingerbread men? As an adult,

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Speaker 1: can you go purchase it? Without judgments?

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Speaker 10: Many and the podcast that the People's.

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Speaker 3: Poll, the People's Pole, everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.

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Speaker 1: All right. Today's question maybe an obvious one. We're asking

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Speaker 1: as an adult, can you buy a gingerbread man?

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Speaker 2: Obviously you can? But can you do it without judgment?

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Speaker 2: All as well in the world.

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Speaker 3: I think yes, but I do always have that pause

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Speaker 3: because I would love to buy them. I think they're delicious,

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Speaker 3: but I always do pause and go, Am I going

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Speaker 3: to be judged for this?

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Speaker 2: Treat yourself, go love your best life? Matthew? What's holding

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Speaker 2: you back?

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Speaker 3: Well? That is the overwhelming majority in the text machine

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Speaker 3: and on our Instagram page is. While people said absolutely

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Speaker 3: you can, you so can, someone else said if you

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Speaker 3: want a goddamn gingerbread man, go get yourself.

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Speaker 1: One said yes, you can buy and eat gingerbread men

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Speaker 1: as an adult. If someone doesn't like it, we'll screw them.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people quite passionate about this and similar

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Speaker 1: diamas where they're.

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Speaker 2: Like, do I get it? Do I not?

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Speaker 1: Do I want to get it? What's the overall percentage

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Speaker 1: on our story?

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Speaker 3: Ninety six percent say go do it, get yourself a

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Speaker 3: gingerbread man and enjoy it.

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Speaker 2: But what about a moccataino? That's the real quick story.

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Speaker 10: Maddy ANDPJ. Mady and PJ the podcast. That's