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Speaker 1: The Hits Drive with Maddy and Paja thanks to Chimishehouse

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Speaker 1: the Real House of Fragrances and a Hi.

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Speaker 2: Everyone, Welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited as the introp because something happened today

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Speaker 1: during the show and.

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Speaker 2: Maddie was like, save it, save it for the podcast.

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Speaker 1: And so I've been sitting here patiently waiting something mortifying

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Speaker 1: landed in your email, and Box, I just bad, can

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Speaker 1: it be?

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Speaker 3: It's not actually that bad for me. It's not awkward

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Speaker 3: for me, per se. I just feel guilty for I've

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Speaker 3: put my foot in it and I might have screwed

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Speaker 3: up something for someone else.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, sorry, someone.

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Speaker 3: Else may no.

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Speaker 1: Oh no.

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Speaker 3: So I saw I saw a guy in the atrium

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Speaker 3: of our building today, Oh no. And I was like, God,

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Speaker 3: he looks familiar. How do I know this guy? And

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Speaker 3: you know, you like, keep looking, keep looking, keep looking, man,

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Speaker 3: Where do I know him from? Where do I know

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Speaker 3: him from? And because often you see someone out of context,

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Speaker 3: it's really hard to place them because you know, if

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Speaker 3: you're used to seeing your barista at the cafe and

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Speaker 3: then you see them in the wild or at the

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Speaker 3: gym or something like that, it's so different. And you're like,

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Speaker 3: who is that? And you're like, oh, so puts them

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Speaker 3: from the cafe. I'm just so used to seeing them

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Speaker 3: behind the counter making the coffees out of context that

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Speaker 3: you can't place them for a while. This is what

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Speaker 3: happened with this guy. And then all of a sudden

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Speaker 3: I went, oh, my god, I know exactly where I

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Speaker 3: know from. That is the nude model drawer drawing, the

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Speaker 3: nude drawing model that we hired for my best friends

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Speaker 3: hens do a few weeks ago.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I witnessed.

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Speaker 1: I witnessed this whole moment of epiphany going down.

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Speaker 2: Literally as you were looking out to the atrium.

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Speaker 3: So he was standing done after that, he was standing

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Speaker 3: in the atrium at the lifts, and he was standing

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Speaker 3: with a guy that I know that works in the building.

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Speaker 2: Fuck, I know exactly what you've done.

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Speaker 3: And so I emailed the guy and I said, very

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Speaker 3: random question, but who is that guy you're with in

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Speaker 3: the atrium just now? I swear he was the nude

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Speaker 3: drawing model with my best friend's tends.

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Speaker 2: Do did you need to put that last part of

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Speaker 2: the sentence in.

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Speaker 3: No, in hindsight, no, but I did do that, and

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Speaker 3: he emailed back and said, oh my god, he just

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Speaker 3: came in for a job interview.

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Speaker 2: Oh you're heading so oh.

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Speaker 4: I feel so.

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Speaker 3: I feel so guilty because I've thrown this guy under

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Speaker 3: the that that.

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Speaker 1: Can't prohibit that can't prohibit employment, can it? But if

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Speaker 1: a color of colorful side side hustle, Yeah, a lot

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Speaker 1: of people do that these days.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and there's nothing wrong with it. He's not doing

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Speaker 3: anything bad.

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Speaker 2: But it wasn't your job to inform.

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Speaker 3: Because I I hazarded bit. He didn't put that on

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Speaker 3: his resume.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, you always do this. You always put

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Speaker 2: your foot in it.

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Speaker 3: I say too much.

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Speaker 2: How do you do this?

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Speaker 3: I say too much, and I need to say less.

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Speaker 3: I need to say less.

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Speaker 1: I cannot deal. Yep, I cannot deal. What will be

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Speaker 1: will be? You had no hell intentions.

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Speaker 3: None at all. But this is potentially where like my

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Speaker 3: nosiness and the way it gets the better of me.

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Speaker 2: Are you going to message the guy the nude model?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: No, you don't know him, do you?

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Speaker 3: I don't know him. I actually wouldn't have any way

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Speaker 2: What are the chances I can't?

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Speaker 3: Here's what I will say.

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Speaker 5: Here we go.

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Speaker 3: If you are doing that as a job, and there's

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Speaker 3: absolutely nothing wrong with like, no respect, it's not wrong

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Speaker 3: with that.

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Speaker 2: I've got to stop something hard.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, sorry, not hard.

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Speaker 3: So if you're doing that as a job, and you're

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Speaker 3: doing it in New Zealand, which is obviously a very

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Speaker 3: small country, knows everyone, surely you must do it with

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Speaker 3: an understanding that sing it out it could turn out

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Speaker 3: in a place that you don't mean to turn up.

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Speaker 2: With that in mind, it's probably fine.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he just hadn't had that conversation with them, you

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Speaker 1: know it was maybe he wasn't even trying to hide it.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, it's so fucking good. I can't And

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Speaker 2: there is nixt level we're talking about it on the

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Speaker 2: radio or is this just podcast only? It's just podcasts on,

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Speaker 2: isn't it.

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Speaker 3: I mean we could talk about it on the radio,

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Speaker 3: I guess.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Putting your foot in it. How many times have we

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Speaker 2: to do this? As a final you keep doing it.

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Speaker 2: You're a repeat offender.

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Speaker 3: I need to stop.

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Speaker 1: Look at me, Look at me, Look at me. You

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Speaker 1: didn't mean to It was an excellent and it's a mistake.

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Speaker 1: But maybe take from this to not always be a

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Speaker 1: noisy little Parker.

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Speaker 3: I guess, I guess it's it's twofold, right. It's one,

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Speaker 3: I don't have to know everything.

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Speaker 2: You don't have to know everything.

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Speaker 3: Somethings can just remain a mystery.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Two, if I do want to know something, I don't

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Speaker 3: have to give all the details.

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Speaker 2: That's it. That's it.

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Speaker 3: Close the book a little bit, close the book a.

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Speaker 2: Little is magic and the unknown.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's also frustration, curiosity.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gody, the claimate is still standing, all right.

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Speaker 1: Coming up in the show, we opened the People Please

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Speaker 1: a hotline, which was an interesting call on our hut.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't interesting cool first of all, because who the

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Speaker 3: hell are we to open to help people with their

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Speaker 3: people pleasing needs? Because yes we are, famously But anyway,

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Speaker 3: we tried group therapy was really interesting topic this week

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Speaker 3: and I think very relatable for a lot of people

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Speaker 3: about friendships in adulthood.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and many here's an update on his lawn mop.

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Speaker 2: All of it.

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Speaker 1: More coming up of the podcast Enjoy everybody and send

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Speaker 1: many of its show.

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Speaker 5: Oh many and the podcast.

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Speaker 2: I was so excited about the weather of the weekend.

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Speaker 2: It was a real cruel tease.

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Speaker 1: It was like really sunny and warm, and then I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is just probably where we live because we live

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Speaker 1: in quite a micro climate. It was rainy and cold

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Speaker 1: and one day, but the end this morning, I thought

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Speaker 1: it was kind of getting warm again, so I like,

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Speaker 1: wear a T shirt. Now it's just got bloody cold again,

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Speaker 1: so I just just run to the car and get

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Speaker 1: a jersey out of my boot.

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Speaker 3: You're not alone. Auckland is exactly the same. I went

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Speaker 3: for run club on Sunday morning and it was pressing

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Speaker 3: down with rains, and then as soon as I finished

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Speaker 3: run club went beautiful clear blue skies.

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Speaker 2: It's a really tough time to dress correctly at this

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Speaker 2: time of year African.

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Speaker 1: But as I was, as I was going through the

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Speaker 1: back of my boot, which is always a resky venture.

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Speaker 1: You know, the boat always ends up acquiring a number

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Speaker 1: of things over the years, over the months, whether it's

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Speaker 1: you know, a very well intentioned bag that is set

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Speaker 1: to go to the Salvation Army and it never ends

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Speaker 1: up going, or whether it's I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Everything just ends up getting dumped there.

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Speaker 1: Yes, including something which I was supposed to take out

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Speaker 1: on Saturday.

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Speaker 3: This is a Saturday Saturday, the night that you had

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Speaker 3: you beg dinner around at your house.

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Speaker 1: No, that was Sunday. I think this was Saturday. I

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Speaker 1: was clearing out, like doing some recycling in some rubbish.

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Speaker 1: So I put this massive bag of Henus rubbish on

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Speaker 1: the boat and I meant to take it to the

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Speaker 2: Fast forward to Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: I just opened the boot and look what I found,

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Speaker 1: A massive bag of rubbish. I don't know how I

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Speaker 1: didn't know the last few days, because usually I know how.

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Speaker 3: You know because I've been in your car before. It's

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Speaker 3: basically an entire car filled with Henus rubbish. This is

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Speaker 3: your car, period. No tell me what is different about

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Speaker 3: this situation to what your car is like Monday through

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Speaker 3: Friday every week.

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Speaker 2: I do not usually roll around.

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Speaker 1: Please let me defend myself with a massive black be

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Speaker 1: b egg of rubbish.

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Speaker 3: Be honest, No, be honest.

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Speaker 2: Every now and then there might be.

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Speaker 1: But I've never rolled around for four days mety with

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Speaker 1: a bag of mess of rubbish and my boat.

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Speaker 3: But what does that tell you about the state of

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Speaker 3: your car, That it has been four days and you're

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Speaker 3: only just realizing it, and only because you went to

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Speaker 3: get a jacket out of your boot. It's sad doesn't it?

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Speaker 2: But like, why have I not s mouthed hat?

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Speaker 1: Usually I have a very sensitive nose, I don't, and

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Speaker 1: like smell is my thing, it's my sofa power.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't smell it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I'm starting to lose my sense anyway, So there

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Speaker 1: is a trip at WI I'm going to need to

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Speaker 1: make over the next twenty four hours.

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Speaker 3: Continue to try run clean of the car.

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Speaker 1: It's time for a brand new car, to be honest,

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Speaker 1: It's been overdue for a very long time.

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Speaker 7: Many empty many INPG the podcast, I had this realization

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Speaker 7: yesterday that I had forgotten to ask our boss something

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Speaker 7: really important, and it was I was getting close to

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Speaker 7: the time where I needed to action this thing, and

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Speaker 7: I'd forgotten to ask him, and I was stressing out

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Speaker 7: because famously PG I would say, you and I the.

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Speaker 3: Eternal people pleases. We hate the idea that we have

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Speaker 3: upset someone or put someone out or ruined their day

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Speaker 3: in any way. And I would say, we let that

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Speaker 3: rule our lives far more than it ever should.

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Speaker 1: Right. I reckon, I've got better than what I used

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Speaker 1: to be, you believe it or not, I think I

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Speaker 1: have got better, But I still find myself in situations

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Speaker 1: where I just end up going above and beyond going

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Speaker 1: oh my god, but it is absoutely fine, Like just look,

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Speaker 1: if it's too much of an inconvenience, you don't even

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Speaker 1: worry about it, Like I'm sweet airs all.

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Speaker 3: Goods, I reckon nine out of ten emails. I said,

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Speaker 3: finish with all good if not, no worries. If you

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Speaker 3: can't do this exmation, Oh my god, it's totally fine.

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Speaker 3: If you can't do this, don't worry about it. It's fine,

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Speaker 3: it's fine, it's fine. This is how bad we are.

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Speaker 3: And so I said to you yesterday, oh my god,

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Speaker 3: I've got to go and ask your boss this thing.

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Speaker 3: And you said, Maddie, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: What did I say? I gave you a pip tow?

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Speaker 3: Did you said? Be be bold? Be strong. You're a strong,

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Speaker 6: Thank you?

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Speaker 3: Who the hell did we think we were?

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Speaker 9: Tison for four eight seven. I can't actually one hundred

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Speaker 1: I've always looked at that people you may know, and

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Speaker 3: Yes, because when they're looking you up, because at least

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Speaker 1: Maybe there is some tech expert out there that can

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Speaker 2: Yes, I've just got really wait, what did they say?

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Speaker 1: No, guys, we need some proper and if anyone out

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Speaker 1: Or is it Poorky's text four four eight seven will

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Speaker 1: Time for another week of groups therapy. And look, we

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Speaker 1: The dilemma that you're going through and you need some

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Speaker 3: we've migrated to different parts of the country over the years.

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Speaker 3: So often I'll get to a Saturday night and realize

449
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Speaker 3: I don't have any plans and I don't know who

450
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Speaker 3: to reach out to to do something with. So regularly

451
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Speaker 3: I'll find myself ordering takeaways, sitting on the couch and

452
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Speaker 3: watching a movie alone. I've always been such an extrovert

453
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Speaker 3: and I promise some fun, but I'm just finding it

454
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Speaker 3: harder and harder to cultivate adult friendships, both with the

455
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Speaker 3: old friends who now have families that are busy with

456
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Speaker 3: and finding ways to make new friends. So what do

457
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Speaker 3: I do. Do I need to work on finding new

458
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Speaker 3: friends since my older ones have their own lives they living,

459
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Speaker 3: Or should I be forcing my mum mates to come

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Speaker 3: out with me on a Saturday night.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so. I'm sure so many people

462
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Speaker 1: are in a similar boat. I would say. I would

463
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Speaker 1: say it's probably a combination of the toe. I think

464
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Speaker 1: there is no harm going out and finding new friends.

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Speaker 1: I know it's daunting, but I also do know that

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of child free communities emerging, particularly online now,

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Speaker 1: where people are kind of coming together going, oh my gosh,

468
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Speaker 1: you know, we are in our thirties and our forties

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Speaker 1: and we don't have kids, and they can kind of

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Speaker 1: have that kind of mutual appreciation of one another. They're

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Speaker 1: in the same stage. But at the same time, you know,

472
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Speaker 1: I now have a toddler, and yes, life is very busy.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that I don't want to be friends

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Speaker 1: with my mates who don't have kids. In fact, when

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Speaker 1: I do go out, I probably want, you know, there's

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Speaker 1: this and this spice for life back with me because

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Speaker 1: I miss them and I love them so much. So

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Speaker 1: I think it comes down to probably organizing in advance,

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Speaker 1: like you know, really lot that Dayton have something that

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Speaker 1: you can look forward to.

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Speaker 2: But is that your sole kind of source of friendship.

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Speaker 2: Maybe not.

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Speaker 3: No, I think you're absolutely right. It's twofold right. It

484
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Speaker 3: is one a reminder that just because you're a mum

485
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Speaker 3: who has a kid, it does not mean that your

486
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Speaker 3: life is over and you can't go out and it's

487
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Speaker 3: still have fun on a Saturday night with your friends.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely not. Yes, you've got to be a bit more

489
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Speaker 3: organized and it's not as easy to do, but you

490
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Speaker 3: absolutely can do it, and you absolutely should do it.

491
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Speaker 3: But it is also a reminder that life flows in

492
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Speaker 3: different directions and sometimes you've got to flow with the tide,

493
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Speaker 3: and if that means finding ways to find new friends,

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Speaker 3: then so be it. I know I bring it up

495
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Speaker 3: all the time, but I went to run club on

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Speaker 3: Sunday morning and I met and.

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Speaker 2: He's celebrity true to Island again.

498
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Speaker 3: And I met a guy there and we got along

499
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Speaker 3: really well when we were talking about running, and he's

500
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Speaker 3: training for the Heart Half Marathon. I'm training for the

501
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Speaker 3: half marathon. We're going for a run together tomorrow morning.

502
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Speaker 3: Because we set this thing up and all of a sudden,

503
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Speaker 3: now I'm like, maybe I'm going to have this new

504
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Speaker 3: friend that I can reach out to the Saturday night

505
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Speaker 3: to go and have a few drinks with, or a

506
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Speaker 3: brunch on a Sunday or whatever it might be. You know,

507
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Speaker 3: So if you can find the thing where you can

508
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Speaker 3: find like minded people, whether it's dancing or a sport

509
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Speaker 3: or a book club or anything like that, I promise

510
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Speaker 3: you people are in exactly the same bot as you

511
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Speaker 3: and they want to find new friends as much as

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Speaker 3: you do.

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Speaker 1: Look, maybe you're in a very similar situation or you

514
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Speaker 1: have been in a similar situation.

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Speaker 4: What route.

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Speaker 5: Maddy and PJ Many and PJ the podcast The Heads

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Speaker 5: Many and PJS group Therapy.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, we are really secting this week's group therapy,

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Speaker 1: which I think a lot of people will relate to.

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Speaker 2: Maddie, would you like to.

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Speaker 3: Rehash Yeah, it's all about being an adult and maintaining friendships.

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Speaker 3: This person said, I'm in my early forties, I'm single,

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Speaker 3: and I don't have any kids. My best friends from

524
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Speaker 3: school and unidays are all married with young families. I'm

525
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Speaker 3: just finding it harder and harder to see them. I'll

526
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Speaker 3: get to a Saturday night and realize I don't have

527
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Speaker 3: any plans and I don't know who to reach out

528
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Speaker 3: to to do something with. So regularly I'll find myself

529
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Speaker 3: ordering takeaways, sitting on the couch and watching a movie alone.

530
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Speaker 3: I've always been such an extrovert, and I promise I'm fun,

531
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Speaker 3: but I'm just finding it harder and harder to cultivate

532
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Speaker 3: adult friendships, both with old friends who now have families

533
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Speaker 3: that are busy with in finding ways to make new friends.

534
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Speaker 3: So what do I do? Do I need to work

535
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Speaker 3: on finding new friends since my older ones have their

536
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Speaker 3: own lives they're living. Or should I be forcing my

537
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Speaker 3: mum mates to come out with me on a Saturday.

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Speaker 2: Night go to a salsa class. I always wanted to

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Speaker 2: do that.

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Speaker 4: I like that.

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Speaker 1: Sexey, wouldn't it one a little late night Spanish lessons

542
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Speaker 1: back in the day, which was I didn't actually meet

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Speaker 1: anyone though for my own personal developments.

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Speaker 3: But your Spanish language is beautiful, moibeer.

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Speaker 1: I'm moving in Helene is joining us, Helene? You want

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Speaker 1: to to hand you their hands?

547
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Speaker 2: What are your thoughts?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 10: Hi, can you hear me?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 10: Yes, absolut. Yeah, so I've got a one year old.

552
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Speaker 2: Oh this is hard.

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Speaker 10: Yes, I just wanted to shout out to say sometimes

554
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Speaker 10: workplaces can be a really great place to start. So

555
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Speaker 10: some of my closest friends are actually colleagues. And I

556
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Speaker 10: know it sounds scary in itself, but one thing our

557
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Speaker 10: workplace has done recently is the strategy the teams chat

558
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Speaker 10: around all of us that are just working parents, think

559
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Speaker 10: at lunchtimes, things like that, but also just using it

560
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Speaker 10: as a social revenue to be like, you know what's

561
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Speaker 10: where should go to things that aren't just kids, like,

562
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Speaker 10: you know what about what other people doing with their times?

563
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Speaker 10: So freaking out colleagues can be a good start.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that, And it's just really cool. It's

565
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Speaker 3: a simple safe space because you kind of you're already

566
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Speaker 3: dealing with them on a day to day basis anyways.

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Speaker 10: Absolutely, and then there's a bunch of people who understand

568
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Speaker 10: why you've shown up to work and you've got stays

569
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Speaker 10: down your clothes or your hear hasn't been.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 1: So hearing scropes with in your workplace, it's really cool.

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Speaker 1: Stevens joining us Ons get a Stephen, what do you Recno, Hey.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, look it's kind of similar. You know, it's the

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Speaker 8: TV now. I am about five years ago. I moved

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Speaker 8: into a new area and I don't really watch TV,

576
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Speaker 8: but I like movies. So I started up with Sci

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Speaker 8: Fi Cinema Club. Yeah, so like the stuff I already

578
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Speaker 8: you know, it's obviously an out laid but I already

579
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Speaker 8: had a four K per ject and one hundred and

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Speaker 8: fifty in screen in my living room. And yeah, so

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Speaker 8: I was like, well, I'm going to sell at this club.

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Speaker 8: And now five years later, I have thuty members. Yeah,

583
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Speaker 8: make simum about ten sharp at once, which is good

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Speaker 8: because I don't live in a in a mansion in

585
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Speaker 8: your living room. But every sick and Friday GiB will

586
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Speaker 8: take For the last five years I've been running this

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Speaker 8: club up. Everybody shows up at seven thirty. We sit

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Speaker 8: around the kitchen table, have a wine or a beer

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Speaker 8: or whatever it is, and a chat. At about nine

590
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Speaker 8: o'clock we start the movie. We go into the living

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Speaker 8: room we start the movie. I supplied ice cream, brilliant corn.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 8: So like, if you're sitting in a living room with

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Speaker 8: something this large, it's like a cinema, you know what

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Speaker 8: I mean. You're actually the good and everybody sits down

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Speaker 8: and it's massively popular.

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Speaker 2: Stevin, thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: It just shows if you're a do a hobby, then

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Speaker 1: what's stopping you from actually starting your club around that.

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Speaker 3: Hobby and just be a little bit proactive and who knows,

601
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Speaker 3: you could be finding yourselves with thirty friends turning up

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Speaker 3: for a movie night every second.

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Speaker 2: Ball both be with you, Mary J.

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Speaker 4: Mady and PJ the podcast The.

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Speaker 1: Heads On Sunday Night, Meddie, we hosted a bit of

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Speaker 1: a bank at our house.

607
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Speaker 3: I saw because you and I from day one have

608
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Speaker 3: just always bonded over food. So you sent me a

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Speaker 3: photo of the spread.

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Speaker 2: It was pure food porn.

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Speaker 3: Unbelievable.

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Speaker 2: I didn't think I had this in me. I could

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Speaker 2: actually be a chef.

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Speaker 3: Is a bit okay.

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Speaker 1: Sunday Night, the feedback we got, Meddie, I got they

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Speaker 1: were the best roast potatoes ever had. That pineapple SUSA

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Speaker 1: that you made was out of this world. Yes, the

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Speaker 1: roasted honey carrots.

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Speaker 2: That you made like it was it was a real spread.

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Speaker 3: Hum. Let me just remind you though, it was mere

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Speaker 3: weeks ago that we were talking on the show about

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Speaker 3: the fact that you had left something in the oven

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Speaker 3: for about four hours and BJ came home to find

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Speaker 3: it completely charred.

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Speaker 1: That happened or twice or three times over a couple

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Speaker 1: of weeks. But I'm through that face.

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Speaker 3: All I'm saying is one successful meal a chef does

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Speaker 3: not make. Do you know what I mean? Like, let's

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Speaker 3: baby steps, baby steps?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, Well, look, it was such a nice night

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Speaker 1: and it just made me realize how important it is,

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Speaker 1: like eating good food with friends, and it was such

633
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Speaker 1: a lovely evening. But I did realize as the hosting role,

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Speaker 1: I have another toxic trait which has come to the

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Speaker 1: table where while people are enjoying their time at our house,

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Speaker 1: I can't help but clean up around people. If they

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Speaker 1: put empty bottles down. As soon as there's like, you know,

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Speaker 1: a few bottles, I'm just there taking them away. I'm

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Speaker 1: packing stuff up on the ground. I actually went and

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Speaker 1: got the little dust pen and brush like five times

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Speaker 1: because they kept noticing things and I was sweeping around

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Speaker 1: people's feet. I started like cleaning like up around people

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Speaker 1: as I was sitting at the table, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: is this really rude? Or do people understand that sometimes

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Speaker 1: you just want to clean off the God.

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Speaker 3: It's not rude, but I do think it would be

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Speaker 3: like imagine if you were sitting down at a restaurant

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Speaker 3: and the way they came along after like mid meal

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Speaker 3: and started sweeping the lights.

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Speaker 2: You've got crumbs like in front.

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Speaker 3: Of yes, started sweeping the crumbs away. All right, mate,

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Speaker 3: I'm still eating, like I.

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Speaker 2: Know, and I'm just trying to think.

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Speaker 1: Like whenever I met friends places, they never do that,

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like they just wait till all the nds,

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Speaker 1: like until everyone's gone and then yes, So I just

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Speaker 1: I can't help, but it just helps me feel more

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Speaker 1: together and organized.

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Speaker 3: Should we get some official rulings on the text machine

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Speaker 3: for for it? Is that rude? Is it okay to

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Speaker 3: do that? Do you do it yourself? Let us know,

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Speaker 3: would love for you to weigh in.

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Speaker 4: Many J Mady and PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 3: That So you and I have had this conversation a

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Speaker 3: number of times. We have very different roles within our household.

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Speaker 3: You know, there are things that I do. There are

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Speaker 3: things that you do, and then there are things that

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Speaker 3: we leave our husbands to do.

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Speaker 1: Yes, namely right now, the water blasting at our house,

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Speaker 1: not me, that's that's the husband, the lawn mowing husband.

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Speaker 2: Which anything external is pretty much likewise.

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Speaker 3: Although that's funny because you were the one that went

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Speaker 3: and bought the water blaster. I thought that was night.

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Speaker 1: She ended up giving that to Mum because we couldn't

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Speaker 1: use it on our off grade property.

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Speaker 3: Because it was using too much power.

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Speaker 1: That's right, So you hat to get one from the farm,

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Speaker 1: which was like gas powered.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, we're getting into details now.

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Speaker 3: Yes, so this is exactly the same in my household.

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00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:47,240
Speaker 3: Ryan does all of the outside chores. Do you find though,

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00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 3: that there's something about people that do outside chores that

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00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 3: make them feel like they're the hero of the situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like they're pulling more weight. Yes, I'm no. Putting

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00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 2: the washing away is just it's just simple.

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Speaker 1: Although he does it, he's quite good.

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00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,799
Speaker 3: So anyway, we've got some people coming around tomorrow night,

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00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 3: and our lawns need to be mowed. And I know

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Speaker 3: when Ryan his company, you know, when people come over,

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00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 3: he likes the lawns. To look very nice and tidy.

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00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 3: But he has been very busy with work and he's

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00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 3: also training for a swimming event that he's doing, so

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00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:30,399
Speaker 3: he just got a lot on right. So I thought,

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Speaker 3: I'm going to be the hero of the situation, and

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00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 3: I'm going to do the lawns. I told you don't.

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Speaker 1: I said, you're just gonna make matters worse if you

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Speaker 1: Steffan and try to be the hero.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well, I tried to be the hero. So I got

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Speaker 3: the lawn Why I got the law mower out today,

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00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 3: we don't have a lot of lawns, so we've just

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Speaker 3: got like a little battery powered one. And so I

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00:35:57,280 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 3: got the law more out and I set it up,

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Speaker 3: and I first of all had to google how to

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Speaker 3: turn the lawn mower on.

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Speaker 1: I didn't please tell me that none of your neighbors

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Speaker 1: witnessed you youtubing or googling how to turn on the

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Speaker 1: lawn mower.

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Speaker 3: No one saw. I was in the privacy of my

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00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 3: own home. And then I googled it. And then I

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00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 3: was like, I was like following the instructions, and I

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00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 3: was going, it's still noting what was going on. I'm

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Speaker 3: following the instructions. I'm doing what Google's.

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Speaker 2: One of those pools sort of toggle thing.

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Speaker 3: No way easier than that with a battery powered thing.

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Speaker 3: It's just like a little button you've got.

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00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,960
Speaker 2: To push, and it didn't and it just was broken.

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00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 3: Well, I realized that I was missing quite a key

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00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 3: ingredient of a battery power is lawn mower. I should

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Speaker 3: have forgotten to put the battery.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, show how long did it take?

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Speaker 3: You realize that it's no longer than i'd like to admire.

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00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 3: So then I got the battery and I started it

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00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 3: up and that was fine. I got it going and

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00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 3: I did the lawns and I think I did it

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00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,279
Speaker 3: pretty good job. But we've got the berm obviously out

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00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 3: the front as well. And when I moved the lawn mow,

728
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 3: I switched the you know, you can put it on

729
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 3: like a different setting in terms of how high or

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00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 3: low it is, in terms of the how finally you

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00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 3: want to cut the grass, And I'd shifted the setting

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Speaker 3: while I moved it, And when I started it back

733
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:36,720
Speaker 3: up again, I forgot that i'd shifted the setting until

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00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 3: I accidentally started to do the berm on a one,

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Speaker 3: which is like like basically doing a buzz cut on

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Speaker 3: a lawn. Oh my god, so.

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Speaker 2: How far like the whole berm?

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Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no no, but there is just a tiny,

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00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 3: tiny little chunk in one corner of the berm that

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00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:58,280
Speaker 3: is very very thinly mode.

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Speaker 1: Could you put like a nice pop plant? Now you

742
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:03,319
Speaker 1: can't really put a pop plant out on the book.

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Speaker 3: You know what I thought about the offcuts the morn

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Speaker 3: and sprinkling the offcards back on.

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Speaker 1: To be fear that is not nearly as beer as

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Speaker 1: I thought. There's out of coming to be. There's the

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Speaker 1: worst part about it that there was no bittery in

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Speaker 1: the mower and you only just shaved like a tiny

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Speaker 1: little corner.

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Speaker 2: I think you're good.

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Speaker 3: Let's see what my husband, Mary J.

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