Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Francisca Rudkin and I'm Louise Area, and we
Speaker 1: are back for season four of our New Zealand Herald podcast,
Speaker 1: The Little Things, a podcast where we talk to experts
Speaker 1: and find out all the little things you need to
Speaker 1: know to improve all areas of your life and cut
Speaker 1: through the confusion and overload of information out there because
Speaker 1: we know how overwhelming it can be. To kick off
Speaker 1: season four, we wanted to look back at what we've
Speaker 1: learned in the first three seasons of this podcast and
Speaker 1: how that information may have changed our lives. Has it
Speaker 1: changed our lives for the better, and what do we
Speaker 1: still have to work on? So it's the moment of truth. Louise,
Speaker 1: would you like to start? Did you have a favorite
Speaker 1: We shouldn't have favorites, but did you have a favorite
Speaker 1: episode or guests from last season? Well? I think because
Speaker 1: we're quite intentional about what we want to achieve with this,
Speaker 1: I do love them all. But there's always something that
Speaker 1: surprised me and I thought Ester Perium, I thought talking
Speaker 1: about how to care for the older people in our lives,
Speaker 1: was it was particularly relevant for me at the time
Speaker 1: with a neighbor, but also just so I don't know,
Speaker 1: heartfelt and beautiful. I really enjoyed her. Joe Cribb I
Speaker 1: loved about women in the workforce. Brad Leeper was crat
Speaker 1: on the hair episode, and obviously, you know, I'm sure
Speaker 1: we both would have picked Stacy Simms as one of
Speaker 1: our favorites too for nutrition and exercise. Oh yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: I've been a huge fan of Stacy's for a long time,
Speaker 1: so it was great to have her on the show.
Speaker 1: I thought Jeremy Cribs was really interesting talking about ozm PEC,
Speaker 1: and it's something I still think about actually quite a lot.
Speaker 1: I think about that conversation we had, and I think
Speaker 1: about how amazing it could be for our health industry
Speaker 1: and how it could change people's lives, and how it
Speaker 1: could also just be abused by people that don't necessarily
Speaker 1: need it anyway, since there's going to be a lot
Speaker 1: more of those compass yeah no. And he was just
Speaker 1: so great at explaining it all to us and things,
Speaker 1: so I enjoyed that too. I also loved our chat
Speaker 1: with Esther about how we approached conversations with elderly family
Speaker 1: and friends about you know, how to look after them
Speaker 1: later on in life. I think it's one of those
Speaker 1: episodes you don't know until you need it. You didn't
Speaker 1: know you needed it. Yeah, right, And then I think
Speaker 1: a lot of us were going okay, there's quite a
Speaker 1: lot there to take on board. I also loved talking
Speaker 1: to Joe robertson I always leave a podcast after listening
Speaker 1: to her going okay, there's some very simple ways I
Speaker 1: could go home and have a better relationship with everybody
Speaker 1: in my household. So I really loved that as well. Look,
Speaker 1: I love them all. Yeah. Was there a piece of
Speaker 1: advice that you would that you would take away well
Speaker 1: that resonated with you on any of them? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think Well, going back to Joe, she spoke about the
Speaker 1: bidden bite, which I thought was fascinating. And that's such
Speaker 1: a simple thing. I know a lot of people are
Speaker 1: familiar with that term. You know, if someone asks a
Speaker 1: question or they throw something out there, and we might
Speaker 1: be tired and not particularly interested, and it's really easy
Speaker 1: just to kind of grunt and response instead of sort
Speaker 1: of saying, oh, no, tell me about that or what
Speaker 1: was that about? And actually, you know, biting and getting
Speaker 1: and having a conversation and communicating, And that was really
Speaker 1: interesting and it wasn't just with my partner, but I
Speaker 1: did with my kids as well. You know, there'd be
Speaker 1: times when, you know, specially when you have a daughter
Speaker 1: with ADHD who likes to deep dive into topics which
Speaker 1: you don't really need to know all about, but you know,
Speaker 1: I'd say to myself, actually, you know, tut, let's bite,
Speaker 1: and then we'd end up having this really interesting conversation
Speaker 1: and she would feel like, you know, she was listening
Speaker 1: to Well, it was that whole lessen scenelessen her, doesn't it.
Speaker 1: Actually that's right. That was great advice. So that, and
Speaker 1: also I just love the way Joe said that it's
Speaker 1: okay we can get intimacy from lots of different people.
Speaker 1: Doesn't have to be your partner. It can be good
Speaker 1: good friends, close friends, things like that. I thought that
Speaker 1: was really interesting. I really loved Aaron and the episode
Speaker 1: that we did with her on just creating good habits.
Speaker 1: It was so practical and it was all about being
Speaker 1: really simple and picking one thing and habit stacking. I
Speaker 1: am habit stacking things people, I'm habit stacking everyone else
Speaker 1: in my house. Now I'm saying, well, when you do this,
Speaker 1: just do this. When you do that we just do this,
Speaker 1: and I thought that was that was a really great
Speaker 1: tip that resonate with me. Oh, she was great. Her
Speaker 1: tip when you say simple, really really simple, right, Like
Speaker 1: you know, she noted with all the clients that they
Speaker 1: make an effort to make really lovely dinners and if
Speaker 1: that's the only meal you've got time to make and
Speaker 1: eff it with, make more of it and then you've
Speaker 1: got a really great lunch the next day. Just little
Speaker 1: little life hacks that are not crazy. Like it's not
Speaker 1: like eat all the cotd of cheese in the world.
Speaker 1: It's a really simple, easy thing to do to acrease
Speaker 1: of joy in your day. I think I liked Joe
Speaker 1: crib talking about value when you're worse and telling us
Speaker 1: to put our big girl pants on. And that's stumondous
Speaker 1: for me. Actually, I feel more valued in my workplace
Speaker 1: just from having articulated what I need. And I really
Speaker 1: liked Matt Heath and Doogle Southerlands or they were great?
Speaker 1: Would they so good? And I just that whole thing.
Speaker 1: I could just literally go home and say, I've heard
Speaker 1: it from two men who've done all the research that
Speaker 1: being grumpy in midlife is just a little lazy, So
Speaker 1: not advice from me, per se, but vice I was
Speaker 1: happy to pass on. Well, I think you ended that
Speaker 1: podcast by saying you they just to get on with it.
Speaker 1: Does that I did home? Did you go home and
Speaker 1: do that? But I'm not sure. I suppose the question
Speaker 1: is like we always find every podcast fascinating that there's
Speaker 1: lots of things within them that we go, oh, that's
Speaker 1: a nugget, that's a bit of a nugget. Actually, what
Speaker 1: have you taken on board and implemented? Like I mean,
Speaker 1: we had this conversation every season. You're such a good student.
Speaker 1: You go away and you try things out and you
Speaker 1: trial them, and then I'm always sort of the one
Speaker 1: going you know, I'm meaning to give that a go.
Speaker 1: So you're quite good at implementing things. This reason I
Speaker 1: wanted this reason I wanted to do this. I need
Speaker 1: to talk to the source. I need to go to
Speaker 1: the source to get the information, and once I have it,
Speaker 1: I will use it. Yes, as I say, Joe, I
Speaker 1: updated my sea being shocked myself with the new skills
Speaker 1: and experience I've had thinking I was sort of stagnating
Speaker 1: in a place for ten years, and then actually reflected
Speaker 1: on it I really recommend people do this, and AI
Speaker 1: is actually really useful for doing it to get the
Speaker 1: layout sorted and then adding skills, and I was really
Speaker 1: gosmacked at what I had learned and I'm not stagnating
Speaker 1: at all. And then that led to a renegotiation of
Speaker 1: my salary, which has been great. And also as we
Speaker 1: talked about protein, protein protein, with Stacey adding that has
Speaker 1: definitely helped with my satiety and not eating between meals
Speaker 1: and things like that. I don't know, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: not lean and mean yet or anything, but yeah, just
Speaker 1: actually just accepting it. I think you are getting leaner
Speaker 1: and miner and fitter and stronger, all those things. I
Speaker 1: think the last three seasons have oh yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: working towards that well consistently. Yeah yeah, So what about you?
Speaker 1: What have you implemented? Well? I am very excited to
Speaker 1: say that I took some of the information out of
Speaker 1: some of the information that we received in a podcast
Speaker 1: was hugely beneficial to me when I got six storted.
Speaker 1: Oh lord, yes, I don't know if I've really told
Speaker 1: you about this. So we did that particular, we did
Speaker 1: an episode on sixtortion and especially how it is impacting
Speaker 1: young adults and men in particular a lot overseas, not
Speaker 1: just not just young girls. And it's not about sex,
Speaker 1: and it's not about shaming you about sex. It's about money.
Speaker 1: So I received I hadn't really noticed, but I was
Speaker 1: in my junk box one day and I was like,
Speaker 1: there's a title subject this is You've been hacked, And
Speaker 1: so I went what And the A in the hacked
Speaker 1: was like an ad like it wasn't sort of spout
Speaker 1: correctly or anything. So I opened the email and basically
Speaker 1: it said, we've hacked your computer. We've been following you
Speaker 1: for about three months now. We have noticed that you
Speaker 1: watch porn. We have recorded you watching porn and masturbating.
Speaker 1: Apologies the conversation here, that the lowering of the time
Speaker 1: of the conversation, and we have this on video, and
Speaker 1: if you don't give us two thousand dollars now, we're
Speaker 1: going to release that. You can click here for proof.
Speaker 1: So I immediately thank you so much to Netscape and
Speaker 1: the information we got out in our sex tution episode.
Speaker 1: I immediately went, I don't think so well, actually, okay, truth,
Speaker 1: I panicked. I felt sick. Even though watching I felt sick.
Speaker 1: I felt you know how everything stops and the adrenaline
Speaker 1: just bursts through the body and you're sitting there going,
Speaker 1: oh my godness, what's going on here? And then I went, Francesca,
Speaker 1: you are so boring. You're not that interesting. You don't
Speaker 1: watch porn, so watching when you watch porn because you
Speaker 1: don't watch porn, so you're bored. So then I went, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: And the email there was sort of gaps in the
Speaker 1: in the in the paragraphs, and it was really badly
Speaker 1: put together, and I went, this is a fishing exercise.
Speaker 1: This has been sent to Goodness knows how many emails
Speaker 1: from that have been retrieved from some hack somewhere, and
Speaker 1: I'm not and I just went, I know what to do.
Speaker 1: Thank you to the episode. I blocked them, I deleted them,
Speaker 1: and I didn't think about it again. But Lou I
Speaker 1: did think how an eighteen year old boy may be
Speaker 1: when that comes through, would have that same feeling of
Speaker 1: sick feeling, and then they're going to click on that
Speaker 1: show me the proof. God knows where that gets you.
Speaker 1: But you've shown some interest and you're probably locked in
Speaker 1: and it's so easy to do. So that was hugely beneficial.
Speaker 1: To me, who would have thought? And then I got
Speaker 1: that excited that someone had tried to well, I know,
Speaker 1: that is really really good, real life example of how
Speaker 1: awful these things are and how easy it is to
Speaker 1: get sucked in. And as you say, as an adult
Speaker 1: female not watching porn, you can safely say, but I
Speaker 1: do love that you said, but I don't watch porn,
Speaker 1: and then but it wasn't that was it also spelled
Speaker 1: badly and the paragraphs went right, you don't watch one.
Speaker 1: You could have clicked out at any point. Never mind, well,
Speaker 1: but you're not thinking clearly, no emails like that. You
Speaker 1: just don't think it's followed by the police. I think
Speaker 1: that was very beneficial. Have there been any fails on
Speaker 1: your well, anything you wanted to achieve that you haven't.
Speaker 1: The funny thing is that in six stortion episode I
Speaker 1: went home and talked to my kids immediately, and they
Speaker 1: were just so blase about it and like, oh, yeah, mum,
Speaker 1: we know when well you don't. And I actually, thinking
Speaker 1: back on it, I do need to talk to them
Speaker 1: again about and maybe do my own research a little
Speaker 1: bit more about literally every type of thing, because you're
Speaker 1: saying that gives me the Willies. You know, it's like
Speaker 1: that could happen to any one of my kids. And
Speaker 1: I don't know what they do when they're, you know,
Speaker 1: not downtime, but I can imagine it'd be pretty easy
Speaker 1: to convince them that they've done something naughty or something
Speaker 1: that they were ashamed of. The Other thing is, yeah,
Speaker 1: the Joe Robinson stuff. I mean, you know, there's a big,
Speaker 1: big list of things on our plates, isn't there, Francis
Speaker 1: scat And perhaps I could just keep making sure that
Speaker 1: I am biting on those bids and also just showing
Speaker 1: some more physical touch as well, because it's all too
Speaker 1: easy to leave the house and just yell from the
Speaker 1: dork front door that you're leaving and not actually say goodbye.
Speaker 1: We can have a hug after this, you'll get your go.
Speaker 1: We could do that, Yeah, we could, What about you?
Speaker 1: I loved our conversation with Stacy Simms, and I've definitely
Speaker 1: increased a lot more protein into my diet and that
Speaker 1: is definitely helping with me not wanting to have a
Speaker 1: nap at two o'clock every day. But I'm still not
Speaker 1: great at getting the protein in before exercising. I'll grab
Speaker 1: a banana and eat a little bit, but I'm just
Speaker 1: sort of working on being a bit more. I've got
Speaker 1: to work still on being a bit more strategic about
Speaker 1: when I eat around my exercise. Yeah, it's that thought
Speaker 1: of if you're already exercising early, that thought of having
Speaker 1: to get another fifteen minutes earlier again to eat something.
Speaker 1: But there are lots of quick fixes to that, protein balls,
Speaker 1: protein cookies, stuff that you know, you don't already thinking
Speaker 1: about it. You just stuff and any god and getting
Speaker 1: on with your day. So yeah, I'm sure lots of
Speaker 1: us would find that a bit of a challenge, but
Speaker 1: it's worth doing. What are you looking forward to with
Speaker 1: the season four? Well, you know, like I say, we've
Speaker 1: done what we've done Skinky, and we've done here, and
Speaker 1: I've gotten a lot out of both of those, and
Speaker 1: we're going to be doing makeup, so I'm quite excited
Speaker 1: about that surprise. You've literally got a shopping list, just
Speaker 1: sort of a pen and paper, really what I need
Speaker 1: to get. We're going to talk about midlife metabolism and
Speaker 1: insulent resistance and stuff like that. That's definitely something that's
Speaker 1: been on my radar for a while. What about you,
Speaker 1: We're also going to talk about being active in menopause, yes,
Speaker 1: and perimenopause and middle age and things. We're going to
Speaker 1: talk a bit about gut health and both of those
Speaker 1: sort of come back to me talking about you know,
Speaker 1: I've got to still working out how to improve on
Speaker 1: both of those things. And we're going to have a
Speaker 1: conversation about grief as well, and also being an empty nester,
Speaker 1: because at this time of the year there's a lot
Speaker 1: of kids leaving home heading off to university. Might be
Speaker 1: your first, your second, or your last child leaving and
Speaker 1: that can be quite a full on time for parents,
Speaker 1: and it can kind of creep up on them and
Speaker 1: take them by surprise at how emotional and sort of unsettling,
Speaker 1: or how it can be, or even how easy it
Speaker 1: how exciting it's been. Anyways, again, lots of that. So
Speaker 1: we're going to be back with season four and a
Speaker 1: whole new range of experts on Saturday, March eighth, and
Speaker 1: you can catch a new episode every Saturday. Just search
Speaker 1: for The Little Things on iHeartRadio or wherever you get
Speaker 1: your podcasts.