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Speaker 1: Happy Halloween, Dana Galloway. It's always fun to catch up

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Speaker 1: with you from the parenting place if you stocked up

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Speaker 1: for some trickle treaters that may come knocking tonight.

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Speaker 2: One year, I had been given a whole bunch of

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Speaker 2: kids books and I just put those out yourself, and

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Speaker 2: he was so embarrassed, so brilliant.

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Speaker 1: No, that's the trick. I really want to go to

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Speaker 1: the effort of unwrapping chocolates like say roses, and then

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Speaker 1: wrapping like Brussels sprouts or grapes in the foil and

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Speaker 1: having that at the door. You trying to get.

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Speaker 2: Kids to have to sit with disappointment and go through that.

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Speaker 1: Are you I get a real kick out of that. Yeah. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm not a fan of this Halloween business at all.

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Speaker 1: Wife Amber, though she loves it. What are the considerations here?

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Speaker 2: Halloween isn't essential. It's not essential for a great childhood.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you know, in someone's bodies they're going

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Speaker 2: to look back and go, life would have been so

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Speaker 2: much better.

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Speaker 1: Well, I never had it, But then they saying that

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Speaker 1: I grew up rurally. So if you wanted to go

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Speaker 1: trick or treating out at Mayfield Farm, you had to

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Speaker 1: work for it.

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Speaker 2: It's a bit of a trick on you. But you know,

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Speaker 2: I've got an eight year old, I've got a six

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Speaker 2: year old, and i might not be a huge fan

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Speaker 2: of Halloween, but I'm a huge fan of having some

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Speaker 2: family fun and creating memories. So we have a local

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Speaker 2: church that puts on a big party. They have bouncy castles,

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Speaker 2: they have activities, dress up, some fun and it's a

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Speaker 2: safe space. And we don't go to that church, but

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Speaker 2: it's something in our community that becomes a bit of

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Speaker 2: a highlight. A lot of the local kids and schools

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Speaker 2: go there. So that's in our calendar, and as our

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Speaker 2: kids have gotten and older, we actually walk to it

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Speaker 2: and we know three families along the way that we

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Speaker 2: feel comfortable with. We talk to our kids before we go.

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Speaker 2: We say we are going to stop in these three places,

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Speaker 2: and we have a bit of a game plan and

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Speaker 2: that works well for our families. So I think the

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Speaker 2: place you need to start at is, well, what do

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Speaker 2: you feel comfortable with? You know some Facebook pages they

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Speaker 2: say we're going to put balloons out, or we're going

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Speaker 2: to do this particular thing if we're pathaking. So it's

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Speaker 2: seeing how old, your kids are what you feel comfortable with,

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Speaker 2: and then coming up with a bit of a plan

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Speaker 2: and seeing what is happening if you do want to

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Speaker 2: do something, And then if you're going to get Lolly's,

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Speaker 2: you know what's our plan with Lolly's? Do we just

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Speaker 2: get Lollie's that are field? You know how many lollies

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Speaker 2: will we have tonight? Having those expectations and nine two

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Speaker 2: if is a bit of sugar, there's going to do

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Speaker 2: a few mountdowns. So you've got to be a bit

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Speaker 2: down with that as well.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, that's what I would read the most for.

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Speaker 1: I have a panic attack when we're at the cafe

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Speaker 1: and the barista by and the counter sees he go, Elise,

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Speaker 1: you can have an extra couple of marshmallows. I think, no,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't need that. Oh my goodness. Plus I remember

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Speaker 1: not to sort of take it too much of a

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Speaker 1: grim turn here. But there was that new story a

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Speaker 1: couple of months back about that naughty substance being dressed

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Speaker 1: up as Lolly's in Auckland and making kids sick, And

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Speaker 1: now I don't know, that's just that's just stuck with me.

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Speaker 1: It's really blind to trust here, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. And my mum grows in Canada and some

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Speaker 2: of the stories she shared with me around Halloween. You know,

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Speaker 2: that's why we didn't do it when I was younger,

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Speaker 2: because of some of the extreme things that she had seen.

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Speaker 2: And I think, you know, that's why for our family

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Speaker 2: we go to three houses. Will we know the people? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because of things like that that you've brought up. I

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Speaker 2: think too, like the New Zealand Police Day gave out

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Speaker 2: a bit of a warning last year and they said,

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Speaker 2: you know, make sure you're talking to your kids about

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Speaker 2: what would you do if someone said, hey, the candies inside,

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Speaker 2: come I get it in here?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I mean. Like, these are the

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Speaker 2: things and that's why if we're going to go out,

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Speaker 2: we're going out of the family and we're together. But

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Speaker 2: I think you've really got to have some of these conversations,

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Speaker 2: and some of them are hard conversation.

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Speaker 1: Just to furnish. I guess, Dania Galloway, if there's one

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Speaker 1: thing that I would be horrified more than my kid

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Speaker 1: eating their own weight in candy is finding out that

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Speaker 1: my kid was the one that went to somebody's door

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Speaker 1: and say, you know, a bucket sitting at the mailbox

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Speaker 1: and they're the one taking fist falls. How do you

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Speaker 1: instill that sort of respect because we all know those

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Speaker 1: kids that just take the mickey and you think.

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Speaker 2: Oh, do you know there's so many videos of adults.

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Speaker 2: Actually it's some of the peer it's with the kids

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Speaker 2: wiling up their pockets and I think, oh, I'd be

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Speaker 2: so embarrassed with nail.

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Speaker 1: To be fair, you've probably struck the nail on the

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Speaker 1: head there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think again, this is the talk you have

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Speaker 2: before you go out. If that's what you choose you

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Speaker 2: do as a family to go trick to treating or

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Speaker 2: go into a few houses of people, you know. And

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Speaker 2: I won't say make sure you say thank you. I'll say, hey,

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Speaker 2: when you get a lolly, what should we do? So

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Speaker 2: I'm putting it to my kids, and so if they're

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Speaker 2: finding the answers, I wish you say thank you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's really great. I really love when I see you

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Speaker 2: guys saying thank you. I'm using your manners. So just

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Speaker 2: putting the power to them and we model as well.

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Speaker 2: You know, if they forget, then you can if you're

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Speaker 2: behind their head, thanks and then they'll be like, oh

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Speaker 2: that's right, that's right. Thanks. It's the excitement of the

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Speaker 2: lollies that we can kind of give them the nudge