WEBVTT - Mindfulness and Manifestation with Zoe Marshall 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.360 With the Heads Podcast Network. 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:12.840 Hello and welcome to Slow It Down. 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:19.040 I'm your host PJ Harding, and I've started this podcast because, well, 0:00:19.239 --> 0:00:24.560 pretty selfishly, really, I feel like life is so busy. 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:26.160 Even though I live. 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:29.720 Literally in the middle of nowhere off Griz, surrounded by 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:32.960 bush you'd think that you could just quiet in the noise, 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:36.360 But I still feel stressed. I still feel overwhelmed. I 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:39.720 still feel, you know, that pressure of keeping up with 0:00:39.760 --> 0:00:42.880 what everyone else is doing. And I want to carve 0:00:42.920 --> 0:00:45.640 out some time every week to sit down and have 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:50.519 really conscious conversations with people who are also living busy lives. 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:53.120 And I want to pick their brains and work out 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:55.880 how they find peace and the chaos and what. 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.240 Rituals they do to stay sane. It's that simple. 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:03.680 Every week I'll have a new guest and hopefully we 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:07.039 can be inspired together. I don't want this to be 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:09.119 a judgmental zone. I want it to be a placed 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:12.240 you can chill out and listen to over the weekend. 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:16.040 And I am so excited to introduce my first guest 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:20.119 on the show, Zoe Marshall. We actually briefly work together 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:22.120 back in the day when. 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:25.080 She was working on ZIDM and Auckland. 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:28.920 She worked on a show there for a while and 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:31.800 then we sort of just kept in touch over the years, 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:36.880 and she's gone on to create some amazing podcasts. She 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:40.560 created The Deep and then started a subscription called The Deeper, 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:45.280 and the conversations that she has had on that podcast 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:51.000 have been pretty heavy. She's talked to people well, parents 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.280 that have been given a terminal diagnosis. She's talked to 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:59.360 ice addics, conscious sex workers, the list goes on. She 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:03.440 is not afraid to tackle a taboo topic. And more recently, 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.559 she's gone on to create a new platform called Rise, 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.880 which helps people create the life they deserve. 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:12.240 And it's all about. 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.800 Manifestation, but as she says, it's manifestation a bit better 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:18.800 and she talks about her here's so much more to 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:20.840 it than just a being woo. There's a lot of 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.400 science to back up some of this stuff. So I 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:25.800 can't wait to pick her brain in this episode. And 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.760 I really hope you enjoying my chat with Sally. Oh Zorry, 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.440 I've been so excited to catch up with you. 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:34.239 It has been a while. I think the last time 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:35.400 we talked, i'd just. 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:37.919 Given birth and I went through like a step by 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:41.200 step harrowing encounter of what happens. 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:45.040 Yeah, you were there was a little bit of PTSD. 0:02:45.320 --> 0:02:49.120 Yeah, yeah, so it's really nice to see your beautiful. 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.880 Face again and you howl'd the baby. 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:54.360 He's just gone to Wow. 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:57.040 Two years since I spoke to you, it's crazy. Yeah, 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.359 you were living in the bush. 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:00.920 I am pretty much. 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:05.200 Yes, yes, though I work in the nearest town now, 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:08.600 so I actually do a radio show out of the 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.120 local rural Talmas is a twenty. 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:13.799 Minute drive look at you all set up. 0:03:14.520 --> 0:03:17.000 First of all, I'll run through what Slow It Down 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:20.840 is and kind of the premise of this podcast and 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.840 why I thought you'd be a perfect fat So basically, 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:26.840 I think since moving to the middle of nowhere, you know, 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:31.520 I had this expectation that life becomes slow and relaxed 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:37.200 and I'd be grounded. And the reality is, I'm still stressed. 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:41.360 Life still feels chaotic, and I have a beautiful life, 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:41.880 but it's. 0:03:41.680 --> 0:03:45.720 So easy to not appreciate everything beautiful in front of you. 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:48.720 So I want to talk about tips and tracks and 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:52.160 ways to really feel. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:54.160 Like you can make the most of the golden years. 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:56.800 Oh my god, are we in the golden years? 0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:01.040 I know, I no pressure I feel like this is. 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:04.560 So aligned with where I am at because I am 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:12.920 very literally in a metamorphosis of wanting to have the 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:18.000 experiences and wisdom of like being an elder on a 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:23.080 rocking chair, you know, but like doing all of that now, 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:31.240 like the pace, the presence, the appreciation now. So I 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:34.520 am every I'm just I want to get rid of everything. 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:35.960 I want to get rid of, like a lot of 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:42.080 my belongings. I want to downsize everything in my life. 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:46.120 I want to just have my needs met and then 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:50.919 be able to do less. And I am like it 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.880 already is happening. And I think it all started with 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:58.040 like I had a quite quite a scary breast scare 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:02.120 in June, and that just shifts everything. And it's such 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:07.040 a shame that human beings need such a dire situation 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:11.599 to wake them up, but I did. And I just 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:14.800 got back from two and a half weeks in Europe 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:21.239 and Dubai and literally just sitting in the sun eating 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:25.160 bread and butter and olive oil, I was like, this 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:30.520 is living. Obviously it's very different circumstances, but what if 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:35.400 we could bring that level I like to call it 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:39.279 like the magic in the mundane, like finding the miracles. 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:39.400 Stop it there. 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:42.839 It's literally like one of my actives, well objectives of 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:46.039 this podcast is finding magic in the mundane, or like 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:49.200 finding meaning in the mundane, right. 0:05:49.160 --> 0:05:53.800 Yeah, And I find like being in awe of everything 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:57.040 around us. So I think we have just been really 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:03.960 stripped of so much importance because of you know, how 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:09.839 distracted we are, how we've got these kind of really 0:06:09.960 --> 0:06:13.960 quick dopamine hits all the time. We're not able to 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:17.240 focus in and slow down and appreciate the things that 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:20.120 we have. I created a whole new business. I got 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:23.760 rid of, like slowed down one side of my business 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:25.880 and started a new one which is all around this 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:31.600 and it's around manifestation, co creation mindset. But truly, like 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:36.960 it sounds like a riddle, but everything that we want, 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:40.880 if you are living as if you already have that thing, 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:45.080 and you're already feeling the way it would feel to 0:06:45.200 --> 0:06:49.159 have the thing, then you already have the feeling you 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:51.880 would have it even if you got it. So it's 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:54.920 kind of like once you get all the stuff right, 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.120 Like I went really hard in my career and I 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.320 got the accolades, and I got the fancy car, and 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.760 I got the fan house and I've got the fancy things, 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:04.479 and then you're like, oh, fuck, I didn't need any 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:09.159 of the fancy things, any of them. Yes, right, but 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:14.480 now shut down all those businesses. Start something that feels 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:18.120 like in true service, which will also keep me accountable 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:21.640 every single day and just be able to meet life 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:24.200 where it's at and be able to practice in real time. 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:27.680 Like it's okay to become heady about all of this 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:30.720 and get into the education and do the YouTube and 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.000 be in the tutorials and join the courses. But unless 0:07:34.120 --> 0:07:40.400 you're in complete chaotic insanity and you don't start to 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:43.200 bring the stuff in, there's no point. Like you're just 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:46.960 on the kind of little rat wheel. What do you 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:47.280 call it? 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:48.680 Yeah, that is the rat race. 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:52.200 That's also another reason why I wanted to do this, 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:56.600 because I've bought so many self help books of my life, 0:07:57.120 --> 0:07:59.920 and I know all the shit to do, but just 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:03.400 so sometimes implementing it is kind of hard. And you're right, 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:06.720 it's so sad that we have to have like these 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.560 life awakening moments, you know, whether it's a family been 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:15.400 beginning really unwell, or you lose your house or whatever, 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.400 when people are really steered with what reality is that's 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:21.400 when they're like, oh fuck, I don't have long to 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.960 live and I need to live and I can't waste 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:25.280 another second. 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:26.559 And like what am I doing? 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:27.120 Yeah? 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.840 And how am I eating? And how am I moving? 0:08:29.880 --> 0:08:31.800 And how am I turning up for my family? And 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:34.320 how am I working? And like like we are just 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:39.840 in this autopilot of life happening to us, and no 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:43.640 one actually stops until you're forced to stop, which is 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:46.800 a health scare or a death or like a crumbling 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:51.320 and you're like, oh my god, I have to change. 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.880 I can't smoke anymore, I can't drink, like I like 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:57.080 all of the things. But really, I guess what I'm 0:08:57.160 --> 0:09:01.920 trying to teach my community to Rise is like we 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:05.040 don't need to get to breaking point to change, Like 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:09.520 we can bring in really incredible mini habits to change 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:13.120 your life and it will change your life and you 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:17.040 can have these realizations now and not at seventy you know, 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:20.559 on the Rocking Chair. I feel like I'm very aligned 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:21.360 with your podcast. 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:23.600 Well, I was looking at some of your videos on 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.920 the Rise page today and there was one that caught 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:28.800 my eye and it was so funny because this woman 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:31.160 was talking to you about the importance of starting your 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:34.400 day with something positive and how that will set you 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:37.719 up for a more positive experience. Not necessarily bring you 0:09:37.800 --> 0:09:41.720 more positivity, but you'll be more aware of the positive 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:44.360 things that happened to you. So I watched that video 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.640 and then the second I've got it into practice, right, 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:49.160 And I was like, Okay, okay, you're right, because I 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:52.520 wake up in like a stressed mode, right, and I 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:54.360 know I should be more mindful. So I was like, Okay, 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.000 I'm gonna say the mantra, what if everything just worked out? 0:09:57.160 --> 0:09:59.240 What if everything just wikes up? What if everything just. 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:01.280 Waks aut and it keeps saying that and then no 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:04.240 shits away. I walk outside the house and there was 0:10:04.240 --> 0:10:06.800 this rainbow just going over our house, like it was 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:08.240 the perfect rainbow. 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:11.480 And I was like, I gotta tell Zoe that, oh. 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:14.239 My, And then it just stayed there for our ages 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:17.600 and I was like, okay, well, that in itself is 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:18.880 just one of those moments. 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:22.559 And so there is science behind this, because my program 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:27.280 is backed by neuroscience. There's science behind starting your day 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:32.000 with a declaration, an affirmation, a positive headspace like it. 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:35.079 It it's not just were woolshit, No, It like. 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:38.080 Impacts your rath system. Your ra system is your reticular 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:42.880 activation system. And what that does is we are consuming 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:47.280 so much information all the time as humans. We are 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:52.760 always scanning for information that makes us true or safe. 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:55.280 So if you wake up and you're like life is hard, 0:10:55.360 --> 0:10:57.559 things are hard, and nothing works out for me, your 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:00.000 rath system is figuring out, Like I'm sure there was 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:03.960 something underneath that rainbow, like there was a traffic jam 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:05.920 or there was this, or that was that, and you 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.360 were like, okay, but I see the rainbow in the 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:12.080 traffic jam, and I see the rainbow. 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:14.439 In that moment, I was like, oh my god, because 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:17.120 I'm so guilty of just like back in the day, 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.960 I felt like I was bitter at embodying all these 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:22.320 things that I believed, like having all these red chalks. 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:23.920 But it's so easy to get caught back up in 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:27.080 that like wheill as you talk about, and I know 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:29.120 there's so many beautiful things that I miss out on. 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:32.280 So it was it was quite like a powerful moment 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:35.719 where I was like, you cannot afford to miss all 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.840 of this beauty and magic, because that's what it's all about. 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:45.040 And we do become addicted very immediately to our to 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:48.400 do lists and our needs and our children's needs and 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:51.560 the work and like. But the thing is, which is 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:57.480 so funny and very humbling, is the world doesn't end 0:11:58.120 --> 0:12:01.240 if you didn't do the grocery shop, or if the 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:04.040 child is like the school, or if you didn't have 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:06.080 as many talking points for the radio show, Like it 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:10.000 just doesn't. Like maybe eventually you'll lose your job if 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:16.440 you don't keep doing. But I think we start to lose. 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:20.440 We are putting things in a very important category that 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:23.959 aren't and we're putting ourselves and our mental health and 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:29.160 our movement and our conversations as like something at the 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:33.160 bottom of the barrel when I've put the kids to 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:34.760 bed and I lay on the couch and I'm scrolling 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:36.400 on TikTok and watching a show at the same time, 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:40.440 Like it just we're responsible, And I don't think that 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:45.640 anyone can like victimize themselves because we all have the ability, 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:47.880 like we really do. 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:53.040 Okay, so give me some really great ways things that 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:58.600 we can do to weave into our day to encourage 0:12:58.600 --> 0:12:59.280 that presence. 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:04.559 I think, firstly, this isn't like a quick hit. This 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:07.840 isn't like winning the lotto, This isn't like a pyramid 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:11.360 scheme marketing thing where you make keaps of money, and like, 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:14.320 no one is going to do this for you, and 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:19.360 it is going to require commitment to yourself. But I 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:21.760 can tell you the people that we look up to, 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:26.440 the celebrities or the entrepreneurs or the billion dollar business people, 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:34.600 have such integrity with their routines to themselves. So I 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:37.240 say to everyone in the course, especially when you're starting, 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:41.840 get up thirty minutes before you usually do right. And 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:43.880 that's really hard if you've got kids and you're getting 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:46.080 up at five instead of five thirty, right, but go 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:49.320 to bed earlier, and in that thirty minutes you have 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:53.520 the ability to create a declaration when you're in an 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:58.280 alpha state, that awake state, right to program your rust system. 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:06.199 You can do some ah some I want to say 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.400 human uses it. I want to say it's called like 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:12.920 horizon gazing, but it's when you look out and you're 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:15.360 kind of balancing your circadian rhythm, which is going to 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:18.160 really support your sleep. You can either journal or meditate, 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:23.480 whichever feels better for you. Move and stretch, eat, Like 0:14:23.560 --> 0:14:27.920 if you do like two of those six things, you're 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:30.760 already setting yourself up right. So when the kids get up, 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:34.120 they're like on, they're like ready, And you're going to 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:36.080 be a better parent. You're going to be more patient, 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:37.720 You're going to be able to listen to them. They're 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:39.520 having a tantrum because they want the blue cup not 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.480 the red cup. You're like, I really understand, I get it. 0:14:42.640 --> 0:14:45.080 Fuck I really like the red cup too. But you 0:14:45.120 --> 0:14:48.680 won't be just like pulling them out the door. Oh 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:53.080 maybe you will, you know. But I think that starting 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:59.120 your day for yourself and allowing yourself to set intentions 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:02.040 rather than the DA catch you up is really important. 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:04.480 And then there are a million other things that we 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:08.720 can bring in, Like you really got to be serious 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:12.160 about what you're consuming. How much what are you drinking? 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.440 Are you a caffeinated person, Are you're relying on stimulants? 0:15:16.080 --> 0:15:21.280 Are you getting your nourishment in like where little like 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:25.280 organisms we need to be fed and watered and slept. 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:27.920 And I think it's like looking at basics, are you 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.640 moving every day? And then like how do you see 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:36.080 the world and what are you doing so co creation, 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:40.440 how I teach it isn't wish for thinking that a 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:43.120 ferrari is going to end up at your doorstep. Just 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:46.240 because you put it on your vision board, it's like 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:49.600 what am I doing today? What actions am I taking 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:54.600 to be magnetic to what I want? And so like 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.440 I had a real doozy of a day on Thursday. 0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:04.480 It was like our fucking doozy, horrendous jet lag. I 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:08.200 hadn't slept at all, bench had food poisoning, my nanny 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:12.920 was off. One of my favorite favorite teammates within the 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:19.600 my business resigned. A lawyer needed a very specific information 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.359 from me. My account wanted to have a really hard conversation. 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:26.640 My dog vomited and I couldn't. I couldn't. My daughter 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:31.400 was like, you know, like at me. And so it 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:37.360 was a real moment of like, that doesn't just kick 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:43.960 a person into doing that kicks you into like safety seeking, 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:51.000 behavior finding security. And I went into my my autopilot, 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:54.800 which is like fix everything now, like blinkers on, don't 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:56.880 talk to me. I'm going to solve all the world's 0:16:56.880 --> 0:17:02.040 problems in this moment. And then my husband was like, 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:03.800 you're not okay. I was like, I'm really not okay. 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:08.200 Like a lot is happening, and we have this beautiful session. 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:10.880 We had this workshop within the community that night, which 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:15.199 was such perfect timing, and within this workshop, I was 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:20.879 able to explore what it would look like if I 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:24.639 did things differently like that way of like tunnel vision, 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:26.960 getting everything done, fixing it all in one day and 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:29.960 stressing myself out. I've done for forty years, So what 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:34.439 would the other way look like. I saw benj my husband, 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:38.000 downstairs after this workshop, and I said, listen, I know 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.720 I was in a wild state when you saw me. 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:44.800 I need you to know that I'm going to practice 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:50.120 something and tomorrow I am not going to do anything 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:54.320 about those things I've already like literally shot off. I've 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:57.760 taken so much action today to put out ten fires. 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:02.920 But tomorrow I'm not going to chase like the fire engine. 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:06.200 I'm just going to allow the action that I've taken 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:09.480 to simmer and connect. I'm going to go to the beach, 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:18.480 nice beach. You take my daughter to the beach, and 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:22.200 I am physically going to take myself out of where 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:26.440 I want to be with fixing. And it was in 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:28.320 those moments, and that's what I said at the beginning 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:31.080 of this, which was when the shit hits the fan, 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.920 what learnings and what practices are you putting into place? 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:39.320 Because we go to the place we feel the safest. 0:18:39.359 --> 0:18:41.280 We don't go to the place which we have the 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:44.760 greatest growth. And so I took my own advice and 0:18:44.760 --> 0:18:46.440 I went to the beach and I did that stuff, 0:18:46.520 --> 0:18:50.040 and then I realized, with a bit of space, you 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:53.480 have a bit of clarity that I was like, oh 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:57.640 my god, this colleague leaving is the best thing for us. 0:18:57.720 --> 0:19:01.280 And it hurts because I love them, but you would 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:04.240 never have let them go. You would never and this 0:19:04.440 --> 0:19:06.879 is holding the business back. What are you going to do? 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:12.000 And so now on Monday morning, I have three incredible 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:15.399 business strategists that are like the whole thing has just 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:19.240 come together because there's been space and I've done something 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:25.280 implemented the growth without kind of that habitual. You know, 0:19:25.320 --> 0:19:28.080 I wanted wine. I wanted heaps of wine. I wanted 0:19:28.080 --> 0:19:31.240 to eat heaps of chips, and I wanted to. 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:32.720 Did you do any of that or did you just 0:19:32.760 --> 0:19:34.600 go to the beach spac I just went to the. 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:36.919 Beach and then I went for a walk and it 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:39.919 was like, this is so fucked being woke, Like how boring. 0:19:40.720 --> 0:19:43.880 And then on the weekend, I definitely had two glasses 0:19:43.920 --> 0:19:49.360 of red wine. That's me being really wild. And I've 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:53.560 woken up today, no jet lag, and just like I 0:19:53.760 --> 0:19:57.440 just am excited, like I did all my practices this morning. 0:19:57.440 --> 0:19:59.760 I'm back. Yeah, and only it doesn't have to You 0:19:59.760 --> 0:20:03.879 don't to spiral for six months, hmm, Like you can 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:06.760 like do this in a day. 0:20:15.800 --> 0:20:18.840 With manifestations, people often talk about not forcing, not forcing, 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:21.640 not forcing. Yeah, you took a step back from there 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:23.639 and you just allowed, and then all of a sudden 0:20:24.240 --> 0:20:26.320 it was trusty mantra. 0:20:26.520 --> 0:20:29.000 It was like let go, let go, you know, trust 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:31.720 trust for us. But that's really hard for like a 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:35.280 control freak. Even as a manifestation master like you. Still 0:20:36.119 --> 0:20:39.000 it's just a humbling experience because you never graduate from 0:20:39.000 --> 0:20:44.440 this stuff. Your life is just impacted by different situations 0:20:44.440 --> 0:20:46.840 and circumstances where you just keep leveling up and it's 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:53.160 a beautiful life, like it's an extraordinary life. But what 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:56.320 you see a success and what I see a success 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:59.760 and the person listening are so vastly different. And I'm 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:03.520 not playing the game anymore for whatever anybody else thinks 0:21:03.840 --> 0:21:04.560 is successful. 0:21:04.600 --> 0:21:06.240 For me, God, I get so caught up in that, 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:09.119 I really do, and I think that I'm bigger than 0:21:09.119 --> 0:21:11.919 that or you know, mature enough to like see past it, 0:21:11.960 --> 0:21:14.200 but I still compare myself to so many people, and 0:21:14.320 --> 0:21:16.600 I'm like, why the hell am I comparing myself to her? 0:21:16.680 --> 0:21:19.640 I don't actually want to be like her, but I'm 0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:21.639 still comparing myself. 0:21:21.960 --> 0:21:23.879 But if you didn't want what she had, why you 0:21:23.880 --> 0:21:24.720 compare exactly? 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:27.600 I don't know, because there must be an answer. There's 0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:28.240 gotta be something. 0:21:28.320 --> 0:21:30.879 I don't know because I feel like they've got more 0:21:30.920 --> 0:21:34.199 success than me, and I feel like I could be 0:21:34.280 --> 0:21:35.640 doing that, but then I'm like, no, but I don't 0:21:35.640 --> 0:21:36.280 want to be doing that. 0:21:36.359 --> 0:21:37.040 Do you know what I mean? 0:21:37.720 --> 0:21:39.560 But do you think that their peers are looking at 0:21:39.600 --> 0:21:43.440 them like, oh, they're more successful than Polly? 0:21:43.840 --> 0:21:47.480 No one, no one's looking at it like that my brain, 0:21:48.400 --> 0:21:48.760 or like. 0:21:48.920 --> 0:21:52.520 Are they thinking, you know, Polly chose to live out 0:21:52.560 --> 0:21:57.160 in the wilderness and chose peace, and I'm still here 0:21:58.560 --> 0:22:01.520 doing the rat race thing? Like Polly's got success? I 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:03.440 want that? Do you know what I mean? 0:22:03.480 --> 0:22:05.359 Oh, it's the rose ten of glasses, It's the grass 0:22:05.440 --> 0:22:07.600 is always greener mentality. And I want to know, do 0:22:07.640 --> 0:22:09.360 you have an answer on how to get out of it? 0:22:10.359 --> 0:22:14.000 I think we need to get really really clear on 0:22:14.160 --> 0:22:17.280 what we want and why we want it. And if 0:22:17.320 --> 0:22:21.359 you come from a place of ego where I want 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:23.640 what she has or I want that job, because then 0:22:23.680 --> 0:22:26.040 my peers think, or my mum will think, or I'll 0:22:26.440 --> 0:22:29.520 drive a Lamborghini and hot chicks will like me. Versus 0:22:30.720 --> 0:22:35.800 I want to do work that I feel passionate and 0:22:36.000 --> 0:22:39.240 purposeful and I want to be living a life in 0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:44.560 integrity and of service to others are two very different things. 0:22:44.600 --> 0:22:48.240 Like it's okay to want fancy shit because our ego 0:22:48.359 --> 0:22:51.359 is always running in the background and we want people 0:22:51.400 --> 0:22:55.160 to give us a compliment or acknowledge us or make 0:22:55.240 --> 0:23:00.000 us seen like it's very human. But that's fine online 0:23:00.200 --> 0:23:04.120 a superficial level when we're talking about like our life 0:23:04.200 --> 0:23:08.679 path and our purpose, like get really clear on why, 0:23:08.760 --> 0:23:10.679 because when we go back to that whole point of 0:23:10.720 --> 0:23:15.520 like feeling the feeling of being the most successful version 0:23:15.560 --> 0:23:20.119 of yourself, right, if you're living that feeling, walking as 0:23:20.119 --> 0:23:22.439 if you're that person, talking as if you're that person, 0:23:23.800 --> 0:23:28.040 you're going to be attracting so many opportunities and people 0:23:28.160 --> 0:23:31.439