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Speaker 1: The hit Strive with Meddi and PJ thanks to chemistryre

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Speaker 1: House the Real House of Fragrances that Hi, Hi, everyone

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Speaker 1: going to the podcast. I you're gonna laugh at my

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Speaker 1: dream last.

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Speaker 2: Night, middie, Oh god, what was that?

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Speaker 1: No, So, I know you're a big can we mention

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Speaker 1: another radio host on here? Yeah, you're a vacavi Andy.

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Speaker 2: I am a huge podcast is Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The podcasts are, That's true. I had a bit of

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Speaker 1: a dream last night that I was like in a

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Speaker 1: really intimate moment and I was either beck So Beck

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Speaker 1: is Andy's fiance, But in my dream, I think I

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Speaker 1: was Beck or I was Andy, and I was amidst

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Speaker 1: their proposal and it was like real intense. We were

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Speaker 1: steering into each other's eyes and it was like I

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Speaker 1: love you, Oh my god, I love you, and it

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Speaker 1: was so real.

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Speaker 2: Did you did you ever meet any of either of

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Speaker 2: them when you were in Melbourne? Yes?

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Speaker 1: I mean Andy and I DM bicker it did. We

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Speaker 1: got the same last name. But it was so weird,

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Speaker 1: and all I can put it down to is the

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Speaker 1: fact that I went down a real hole of videos.

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Speaker 1: There's this couple that I love on the Rockie and

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Speaker 1: they just had this moment last night where it's like, okay,

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Speaker 1: they're on, And then I started watching their whole relationship

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Speaker 1: like a video of it, like a montage. It was

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Speaker 1: so lame, and I just, I don't know. I must

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Speaker 1: have had that intense feeling as I fell asleep, and

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Speaker 1: for some reason Andy and Bick ended.

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Speaker 2: Up like remaing. Yeah, have you even witnessed like a

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Speaker 2: public proposal before? Like, have you ever seen anyone get?

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Speaker 1: I was at a restaurant in Auckland years ago, and

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Speaker 1: I think there might have been a proposal at the table.

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Speaker 2: Next to me. I would love I've never seen I've

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Speaker 2: never seen it, no public proposal.

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Speaker 1: I would not want anyone to watch our propos It

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Speaker 1: was so fucking awkward.

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Speaker 2: You wanted to redo, didn't you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I would.

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Speaker 1: I would still love a rido even though we'd be married.

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Speaker 1: I love a reader.

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Speaker 2: Where were you?

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Speaker 1: We were where you came to visit.

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Speaker 2: Me and can'd ah?

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Speaker 1: It was on that little beach.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's a good spot.

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Speaker 1: Gorgeous spot like gorgeous, but you were a court wind

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Speaker 1: of it. Yeah, I was so awkward, like so like,

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Speaker 1: think of me when I'm normally awkward. Yeah, times at

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Speaker 1: my eighteen.

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Speaker 2: I reckon was he awkward? Was he uncomfortable?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I made it way word.

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Speaker 2: Did he do a little speech or do no?

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Speaker 1: No, he didn't even get done on one knee. He

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Speaker 1: just goes, will you will you? He regrets not getting

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Speaker 1: done on one knee, like it it would just win.

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Speaker 4: It's up.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure they often do. Proposals are like they.

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Speaker 1: He was going to do it before I caught wend.

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Speaker 1: He was actually going to do it on the Fury

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Speaker 1: down from Wellington, and I had no idea at that point.

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Speaker 2: I was she did how did you catch wind?

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Speaker 1: I found like muwai in the veck say they just

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Speaker 1: reaent a couple of things. And he got really weird

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Speaker 1: about that. He's like, I got it a few mums

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Speaker 1: Christmas present. Oh no, you've ruined Christmas. I can't believe

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Speaker 1: you found what I got your mom. And he just

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Speaker 1: got with it, and then I just started clucking on

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Speaker 1: and and then and then I remember he was like

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Speaker 1: doing a self time a photo and I thought at

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Speaker 1: that moment, because we're gone for a walk through the

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Speaker 1: and I thought he was going to film the whole thing,

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Speaker 1: but really he was actually just trying to take a

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Speaker 1: five over. But it was weird of him to be like,

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Speaker 2: But he didn't do it at the air.

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Speaker 1: He did it once we got back to the beach

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Speaker 1: that we were staying at and he had it heading

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Speaker 1: in like an oyster shower.

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Speaker 2: It was quite cute.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was really cute. It actually looked like a

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I just remembered. I actually filmed

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Speaker 2: to watch it. It was so I think it was

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Speaker 2: quite lat cluster, not not because it wasn't romantic. It

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Speaker 2: was just it was a very quiet proposal. Yeah, because

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Speaker 2: he had made me a book with all of these

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Speaker 2: memories from our five years. It was on our fifth anniversary,

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Speaker 2: so sweet, and so I just thought it was an

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Speaker 2: anniversary gift, which was beautiful in itself, Like he had

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Speaker 2: given me this book with all these photos of memories

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Speaker 2: and stuff, and I was flicking through it, and then

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Speaker 2: the very last page said, you know, because it was like,

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Speaker 2: you know, on this date, this is what happened. We

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Speaker 2: bought our first house together on this date, were on

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Speaker 2: a holiday togetherh blah blah brah. And then it was

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Speaker 2: like last page was and on our fifth anniversary, Ryan

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Speaker 2: asked Matt to marry him. And I know what you mean.

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Speaker 1: That would be kind of like a we kind of

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Speaker 2: I was just reading and I was just reading the book,

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Speaker 2: and I think I was so stunned that I didn't

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Speaker 1: I think a lot of people feel that way. I was,

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Speaker 1: so I look back and they're like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: I was so stunned, and he didn't so he didn't

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Speaker 2: really he didn't give a speech. He didn't even say

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Speaker 2: like will you marry me or anything.

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Speaker 2: Written in the book. And then I kind of just

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Speaker 2: me the ring, like he had a ring and he

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Speaker 2: forgot to give it to me, and so such a

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Speaker 2: big moment. Yeah, I do think the video will be quiet,

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Speaker 2: for it. I don't even know how we would get it,

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Speaker 2: but he'll. Yeah, it'll be somewhere so funny.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, enough about our engagements. Coming up in the show today,

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Speaker 1: What do we do? Oh? We had something fun and

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Speaker 1: three o'clock we.

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Speaker 2: Talked about kids, kids humbling you. This bloody little kid

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Speaker 1: Also, group therapy, she was an intense one. But we

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Speaker 1: had some really good advice from our callers, which we enjoyed.

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Speaker 2: And the people's poll was all about cutlery and the dishwasher.

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Speaker 2: Trust us.

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Speaker 1: It's enjoy the podcast many and the podcast. And coming

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Speaker 1: up in the next ten minutes, we've got your chance

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Speaker 1: to pick up a double pass to go see Blink twice.

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Speaker 1: It is in cinemas this Thursday. It's got Channing Tatum

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Speaker 1: and Naami Ecki in it.

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Speaker 2: I went and saw it last night.

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Speaker 1: How did you get to see it when it's not

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Speaker 2: I know people, I've got friends in high places.

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Speaker 1: Must be nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So I got invited to the premiere of it,

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Speaker 2: and I was so it was. Yeah, it was a mate.

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Speaker 2: It was such a good movie. I went and blind.

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Speaker 2: I really didn't know anything about it. I hadn't watched

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Speaker 2: the trailer. I really hadn't read anything about it. And

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Speaker 2: the thing is, it started, it started very close to

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Speaker 2: I literally as soon as we were finished at seven pm,

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Speaker 2: I took the headphones off, threw them on the ground,

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Speaker 2: to produce us here, I can't find the keys. Where

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Speaker 2: are my keys? Because I was running so late for

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Speaker 2: this movie and my husband was already at the cinema.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, so you're a little frizzle to start.

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Speaker 2: That's very freshled God, neither of us are good in

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Speaker 2: these situations, are we? No?

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Speaker 1: No, But one day we'll get the hang of it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: one day when we're like eighty five and start geting

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Speaker 2: So anyway, I raced them to the cinema and I

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Speaker 2: I'll go in and I'll get us seats and stuff,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But I made what I what I thought was

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Speaker 2: Ryan and I don't need our own big popcorn, so

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Speaker 2: I'll just get one to share. And then I sat

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Speaker 2: I said, by the way, that's for us to share.

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Speaker 2: And I got the filthiest look from my who has decided?

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Speaker 2: Who had decided that he just wanted the whole popcorn

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Speaker 2: he did an advertizer. Fine. I know in this day

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Speaker 2: always like it's top us, right, it's sharing. Yeah, these days?

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Speaker 2: Do you think was it the right thing to do?

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Speaker 2: Do you think to just buy one pop corner? Should

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Speaker 2: I have done the smart thing and got us each

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Speaker 2: one ourselves?

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Speaker 1: Of course? On it was it free or this?

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Speaker 2: No, I had to pay for this.

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Speaker 1: I'd definitely share, definitely share.

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Speaker 2: Well, we shared, but I do feel like Ryan probably

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Speaker 2: got the lion's share of it last night. Anyway, the

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Speaker 2: movie is very good. Go see it.

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Speaker 1: It is.

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Speaker 2: It is truly amazing.

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Speaker 4: Maddy andj Mady and PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 2: I want to ask a question, And the first thing

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Speaker 2: I want to do is I want to ask you

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Speaker 2: a question Peage, which is, how are you going with

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Speaker 2: your hobbies hunt this year?

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Speaker 1: My hobbies hunt? That's right, not.

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Speaker 2: Good, right, not good. I'm assuming it's right.

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Speaker 1: I see it earlier in the year, I wanted, oh

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Speaker 2: I was hanging off her indoor rock climbing wall, thinking

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Speaker 6: So it wasn't me as such. I work with children,

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Speaker 6: It was my ex husband years ago who was playing

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Speaker 1: We've got a double pies for you to go. Check

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Speaker 1: All right, let's go to tarps after I said tarping earlier. Hello,

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Speaker 3: As I'm currently suttying it work in the sun after

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Speaker 2: Oh that sounds good. You love some of that? What happened?

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Speaker 3: So my seven yard he was three at the time,

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Speaker 2: Oh the cheeky bugger. I mean, yeah, honesty, beautiful honesty taps,

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Speaker 1: Some thank you so much for me you call. We're

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Speaker 3: Thank you you guys so much.

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Speaker 2: Thanks Taps. Someone else sticks in Actually on a similar

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what about them? The podcast, I really try havious

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Speaker 2: Poor Key and sorry can you come?

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Speaker 1: Sorry? And it is time of a group therapy and

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Speaker 1: We you can keep you anonymous, we can change your

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Speaker 1: voice up. But yeah, if there's anything going on in

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Speaker 1: remember a problem shared is a problem hard, and people.

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Speaker 2: Have such good advice as well. You and I don't

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Speaker 2: usually have great advice, but other people have brilliant suggestions.

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Speaker 1: Give it a good hot guy. We absolutely get it,

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Speaker 1: but there's better advice out there. So I want one

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Speaker 2: Well, i'd be interested to see your thoughts on this peege.

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Speaker 1: to decide hoodock's after your child, and you need to

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Speaker 1: feel comfortable in that situation. It is tricky because obviously

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Speaker 1: you want the mother in law involved, but you don't

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Speaker 1: exactly trust the partners. So can you find ways of

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Speaker 1: having the mother in.

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Speaker 2: Law come after your daughter? Maybe?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, possibly come to your house so then you can

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Speaker 1: control the situation. Maybe there are small windows that they

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Speaker 1: can look after your daughter, but you can kind of

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Speaker 1: still monitor. I don't know they are. It's a really

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Speaker 1: tricky one.

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Speaker 2: I just think like has to be all about boundaries,

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Speaker 2: right in any situation, you have to be able to

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Speaker 2: put in place the boundaries that you feel will help

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Speaker 2: you feel confident and comfortable with whatever situation. And so

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Speaker 2: in this particular situation, I think you are absolutely right peach.

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Speaker 2: As a parent, you are totally within your prerogative to

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Speaker 2: set boundaries and really clear lines and say I would

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Speaker 2: love for the mother in law to be involved in

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Speaker 2: my child's life, but I want that to be done

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Speaker 2: separately from your living situation with your partner because I

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Speaker 2: don't trust the partner.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's well, it's a really hard one to articulate,

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Speaker 1: especially when there's family members involved who you loved. You

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Speaker 1: know what I mean totally, and you don't want to

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Speaker 1: hurt their feelings. I would love to know what people

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Speaker 1: have to say on the phone.

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Speaker 2: You people will have had experiences like this where this

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Speaker 2: exact thing has happened to them and they've had to

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Speaker 2: come up with a solution.

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Speaker 4: Maddy and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast that's many

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Speaker 4: mpj's group.

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Speaker 1: Therapy already she's a doozy. Oh eight hundred the hats

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Speaker 1: to get in touch and give us your advice or

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Speaker 1: feedback on this week still my Maddy McLean recap quickly please.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this person's written and said, my mother in law

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Speaker 2: and her partner want to have our toddler to stay

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Speaker 2: at theirs for a night. They feel we don't let

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Speaker 2: our daughter see them enough, which in all honesty we

481
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Speaker 2: probably don't. But I've never trusted her partner since day one,

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Speaker 2: as he has always involved in drama. Is very controlling,

483
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Speaker 2: and I don't want my daughter caught up in that.

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Speaker 2: I really want my mother in law involved in our

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Speaker 2: daughter's life, but I feel uncomfortable letting her look after

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Speaker 2: her without being around. Am I being irrational? Or do

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Speaker 2: I have legs to.

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Speaker 1: Stand on already? Let's go first to Tilly in Auckland.

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Speaker 1: Tell you what are your thoughts on this?

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Speaker 4: Hey?

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Speaker 8: Oh are you guys? By the way?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Very well, thanks foray.

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Speaker 8: My thoughts? Why does it have to be a sleep

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Speaker 8: or we cannot be somewhere in a public place. You know,

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Speaker 8: if grandma really cares so much about the grandchild she's

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Speaker 8: going to have children, want to make some time to

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Speaker 8: bed with her granddaughter and then Mom doesn't need to

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Speaker 8: bother with the issue of, you know, being alone at

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Speaker 8: home with somebody she has trust issues with. So there's

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Speaker 8: lots of places to go the playlands, and lots of

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Speaker 8: places that Grandma can take the child depending on the age.

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Speaker 8: So I can you know if she's so concerned, Grandma's

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Speaker 8: so confided about her not spending time with granddaughter, then

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Speaker 8: that might be an option.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, come up with a compromise. I like that.

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Speaker 1: Do people have message down saying that, you know, like

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Speaker 1: just go to the local park or something, just be

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Speaker 1: in a comfortable environment.

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Speaker 2: Mond tear his text and page and see it. I've

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Speaker 2: been in a similar situation, but with my sister, we

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Speaker 2: decided to invite her to the park or the playground.

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Speaker 2: Then we can sit back and relax and watch them

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Speaker 2: play together. You get a bit of a break, but

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Speaker 2: you know your baby is safe.

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Speaker 1: The only problem is if you get pushed back and

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Speaker 1: they say, we'll hang on one. Why can't we have

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Speaker 1: them at our place?

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Speaker 2: Yep, but someone else's Texan said, you've just got to

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Speaker 2: be honest with her about your feelings. Trust your gut.

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Speaker 2: I agree with you, PJ One.

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Speaker 1: All right, let's go to a non I know what

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Speaker 1: one hundred and hats you're going through a similar situation.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, so I have a similar situation going on, and

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Speaker 9: at the end of the day, in my personal opinion,

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Speaker 9: that child safety comes first above everything else.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, Like, they are the most precious in the world.

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Speaker 7: So yeah, if they don't like it, well that's tough

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Speaker 7: to these to them.

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Speaker 10: You know, you can invite, say, the grandmother to come

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Speaker 10: and maybe babysit at your place, but honestly, like you're

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Speaker 10: just going to have to be honest with the grandmother

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Speaker 10: and if they don't like it, well, you know you can.

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Speaker 7: Do day visits or park visits like other people suggested.

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Speaker 1: Yep, how have you personally found, you know, articulating that

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Speaker 1: as the communication been quite awkward, it's very awkward.

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Speaker 7: Definitely, Yeah, it's it's not the easiest situation, but I

538
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Speaker 7: find I am personally learning a lot through it and

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Speaker 7: I have found, although it might be hard, being honest

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Speaker 7: is the best thing to do, but maybe just try

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Speaker 7: and do it in a bit of a gentle way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and a lot of people saying on the text

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Speaker 1: machine you've got to trust your gut instincts as a mum,

544
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Speaker 1: because you have them for a reason, right, and you've

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Speaker 1: got to follow them up, sending a loud sagal Well,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for calling up and all the

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Speaker 1: best with everything.

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Speaker 7: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Can I have some nice zen spiritual music producers? Rah

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Speaker 1: set the same?

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Speaker 2: Oh god, that's better.

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Speaker 1: That's better.

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Speaker 2: So I learned something.

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Speaker 1: I learned something very interesting today made and I actually

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Speaker 1: think you'll find this quite fascinating. So we all know

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Speaker 1: what a dejavo is, right when you feel like go

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Speaker 1: with me here.

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Speaker 2: I feel like my eyes like they're like poised, like

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Speaker 2: ready to roll. So be careful.

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Speaker 1: No, this is actually like quie scientific with me, so

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Speaker 1: daja vu. Obviously, it's the feeling where you feel like

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Speaker 1: you've already lived through the events that you're currently going

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Speaker 1: through and you're like, oh my god, I've been in

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Speaker 1: this moment before.

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Speaker 2: I do know that feeling, and I do have a

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Speaker 2: semi regularly. It is a pretty weird feeling to.

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Speaker 1: Get, so give me like when I when I get them,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I get a flurry of them, and

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Speaker 1: I oh have like so many dejavos in a row.

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Speaker 1: I just found out there is an opposite to a djavo,

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Speaker 1: and it's called a jamma vu jamaivu. It's also French words,

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Speaker 1: and it means it's the feeling you get when something

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Speaker 1: you are certain is familiar feels new to you. So,

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Speaker 1: for example, looking at the face of someone that you know,

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Speaker 1: but all of a sudden you don't know them, or

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Speaker 1: a musician unexpectedly using their way in a piece of music,

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Speaker 1: or even more terrifyingly, it can happen in quite serious

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Speaker 1: situations where you're driving on like a motorway right, and

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Speaker 1: then you you lose familiarity with the peddles and the car.

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Speaker 1: This music's quite.

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Speaker 2: Up funny, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: Really too?

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm about to get a message and like,

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Speaker 2: but have you know one.

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Speaker 1: Of these moments before? I literally get these on ere

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Speaker 1: sometimes and I'm talking and then I'm like, I've actually

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Speaker 1: ever gotten out of talk?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. It's like when

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Speaker 2: you're in your own home and you're walking through, like

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Speaker 2: you're walking through the kitchen and you're like, wait, I've

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Speaker 2: completely forgotten, like where do I put the cups? Like

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Speaker 2: where's my cutlob?

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Speaker 1: So that's a James vous vou And they actually did

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Speaker 1: a study. In an experiment, they got ninety four students

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Speaker 1: to repeatedly write the same word, telling them that they

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Speaker 1: could stop if their hand was hurting, they were bored,

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Speaker 1: or they started to feel strange. And I found that

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Speaker 1: around seventy percent of people stopped writing because of a

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Speaker 1: feeling close to jame vu, where just all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: they felt like they didn't like know what was going on.

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Speaker 1: They the word didn't make sense to them. You know

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Speaker 1: when you say a word over and over totally. We're like,

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Speaker 1: where you go for beans, beads? Beads meaning is So

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Speaker 1: that's a jamevo, which I felt quite interesting. There was

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Speaker 1: like a scientific word behind.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'll give you that. I would love to know

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Speaker 2: on the text machine four for eight seven if people

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Speaker 2: have had that feeling before. So there you go, get

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Speaker 2: the music off, get them.

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Speaker 4: Mary, J, Mary and PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 1: An earlier this hour, I was talking about how there's

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Speaker 1: an opposite word to deja vu, so we all know

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Speaker 1: what dejavau is when you feel like you've experienced this

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Speaker 1: moment before. Well, I would like to introduce the term

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Speaker 1: jahme vu, which which means the feeling you get when

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Speaker 1: something you're certain is familiar feels brand new to you

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Speaker 1: and you're like, hang, well, what are we doing in

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Speaker 1: the middle of something? And we got you to text

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Speaker 1: into four for eighty seven. Have you experienced a jarmover?

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Speaker 2: Someone said twice badly. Once put salt on my corn

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Speaker 2: flakes because I completely forgot where we keep the sugar.

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Speaker 2: And once when I saw my boyfriend after six months

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Speaker 2: long distance, I swear I'd forgotten his face.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's a hard cousarm ovo crazy. It's quite a crucial,

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Speaker 1: quite a crucial area there. I had this during an

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Speaker 1: examine per form I had to write the word work

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Speaker 1: a heap of times, and all of a sudden I

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Speaker 1: was smelling it wrong and it was really bizarre, like

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Speaker 1: such a simple word and I couldn't spell it. Oh,

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Speaker 1: there's another one. In the middle of a conversation with someone,

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Speaker 1: and while I'm actually talking, I can forget what the

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Speaker 1: actual conversation is about mid sentence and then have no

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Speaker 1: idea where I was actually going with what I was

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Speaker 1: talking about. Babes, that's inside my head. Everyone, Welcome to

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Speaker 1: Pj's World the podcast. What I'm about to say might

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Speaker 1: be a bit shaky. It's just dawned on me, but

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Speaker 1: I would love to know what people think on this. So,

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Speaker 1: my mom's about to get a new rug at home.

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Speaker 1: She's found a couple of really nice rugs that she likes.

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Speaker 2: Yes, question, I'm just going to say there'd be some

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Speaker 2: good rug stores in the wider upper wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: They There are a couple. There are not heaps, but

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Speaker 1: there are a few little stores, and she eyed up

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Speaker 1: two really nice ones that she liked, and then her

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Speaker 1: friend who's staying with her at the moment, said, well,

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Speaker 1: you've got to ask for a discount because they are

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Speaker 1: on the actual floor of the store and that's the

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Speaker 1: only one left. So surely you could ask for a

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Speaker 1: cheeky discount because it's been walked over. One thoughts comments, squeries,

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Speaker 1: is that being a little bit cheeky.

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Speaker 2: Look, it's not in a lot of people's nature to

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Speaker 2: ask for discounts like that. But the squeaky wheel, the

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Speaker 2: squeaky wheel gets the oil.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: And I reckon there's a point to that, and that

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Speaker 2: it's lying on the floor. People have been walking all

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Speaker 2: over it. It's not brand new, it's not in perfect condition.

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Speaker 2: So I reckon, you are probably entitled to a discount.

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Speaker 2: You probably just have to be ballsy enough to ask

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Speaker 2: for it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe in title is not the right word, but you're right.

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Speaker 1: It can't hurt to try if you don't try, or

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Speaker 1: ever know, and then it gonna be thinking like beds,

665
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Speaker 1: you know, certain beds that get laid on by lots

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Speaker 1: of people. Is that a similar kind of category? Could

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Speaker 1: you be a little cheeky and ask, look, this has

668
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Speaker 1: actually had many people lying on them, although often they

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Speaker 1: often don't sell those ones.

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Speaker 2: No, but I'm sure that you often do see things

671
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Speaker 2: where they're like this was a this was a showroom

672
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Speaker 2: example of a bed or a couch or whatever, and

673
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Speaker 2: so it's cheaper than if you buy it brand new.

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Speaker 1: I thought we could do a service with the people

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Speaker 1: today because everyone is looking for a discount in today's

676
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Speaker 1: day and a absolutely you know, And so I thought

677
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Speaker 1: we could open up a little hotline. Oh wait, one

678
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Speaker 1: hundred hits or you can stand onymous in text four

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Speaker 1: for eight seven. I mean, maybe you could weigh in

680
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Speaker 1: more on the specific topic or other ones that we're

681
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Speaker 1: missing out on. Are there some really obvious discounts that

682
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Speaker 1: we are missing out on? And actually we could save a.

683
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Speaker 2: Lot of money if you were bold enough to wait

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Speaker 2: until three pm on a weekday afternoon and go to

685
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Speaker 2: the sushi shop up the road from our work here

686
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Speaker 2: in Central Auckland. You can get heavily discounted sushi. You

687
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Speaker 2: just have it to be come out of pride, it

688
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Speaker 2: comes home potentially. Yeah, comes with about of vomiting at

689
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Speaker 2: the other end, but it's cheap sushi.

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Speaker 4: Many mpja the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Are there any secret ways that you can get a

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Speaker 1: discount or not even secret, but just ways that you know,

693
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Speaker 1: the everyday person may not know certain discounts that we're

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Speaker 1: entitled to.

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Speaker 2: Your mum's looking to buy a new ragged of friends said, well,

696
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Speaker 2: it's been lying on the shop floor. You should definitely

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Speaker 2: be asking for a discount.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm throwing them out of the bus

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Speaker 1: and it's going to be really awkward. This was playing

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Speaker 1: in the store.

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Speaker 2: I really really off. It wasn't Someone did text into

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Speaker 2: four four eight seven and said, I don't know that

703
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Speaker 2: I've got the guts to do that personally, but absolutely

704
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Speaker 2: asked for a discount. It's the only one left and

705
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Speaker 2: it's on the shop floor.

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Speaker 1: Okay, oh wait hundred and the hats we are opening

707
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Speaker 1: the phone lines. What are your little discount tips? Mazie

708
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Speaker 1: is joining us. Hi, Mazi hi hi, what advice have

709
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Speaker 1: you got for us?

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Speaker 5: Well? I think that if there is like if the

711
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Speaker 5: wrapper or like something that if it's like the closing,

712
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Speaker 5: then I think that if it's just a little bit

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Speaker 5: off or a little bit open. Then I think you

714
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Speaker 5: should ask because someone's already tried to get into it.

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Speaker 1: Oh amaze you reckon. You can get another one long,

716
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Speaker 1: another one for free.

717
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Speaker 2: Or at the very least get it for a bit

718
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Speaker 2: cheaper as well. I like you.

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Speaker 1: I like you thinking, Yeah, it's smart, amazing.

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Speaker 2: She's got some ideas, you know.

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Speaker 1: At Lea's got to Alex and Dunna's Alex. What little

722
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Speaker 1: discount hecks have you got for us? Oh?

723
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Speaker 3: I get discounts for their birthdays from Spotlight Linkcraft. There's

724
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Speaker 3: a cheesecake placed on Andy Bay Road.

725
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Speaker 4: Yeah anymore?

726
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Speaker 2: Oh my god?

727
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Speaker 5: Some of them will do you a coffee or a

728
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Speaker 5: cookie on it.

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Speaker 2: Oh Alex, do you just on your birthday? Just go

730
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Speaker 2: whole hog. I'm getting them all. I'm taking advantage of

731
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Speaker 2: every single discount, and I'm loading myself up.

732
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Speaker 1: Yep, no shame. I love it, thanks so much. Recalling

733
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Speaker 1: we've got to help coming away.

734
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Speaker 2: If someone takes in and said, my workmate told me

735
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Speaker 2: to bring up my internet provider and sale was about

736
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,400
Speaker 2: to switch, what's the best they can do? I instantly

737
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Speaker 2: got twenty dollars a month off my bill.

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Speaker 1: If you don't ask, you don't know if someone else's say,

739
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Speaker 1: price match, great way to get discounts. There's a website

740
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Speaker 1: called price Spy to compete prices. All these little things

741
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 1: add our pay and it seems like admin, but sometimes

742
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Speaker 1: it is worth putting it in the effort.

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Speaker 2: Tell your mum asked for the discount on the rugg

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Speaker 2: I reckon, go.

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Speaker 1: Hard, mum, see what you can get.

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Speaker 11: Many and PJ the podcast. That's the keep Pool's poll,

747
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Speaker 11: the People's Poll. Everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it's time for the People's Pole. We do this

749
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Speaker 1: on the show every day. And today's question, we're heading

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Speaker 1: to the kitchen again surprise surprise.

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Speaker 2: Specifically to the dishwasher, which I know you don't have

752
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Speaker 2: one currently Peg Doe. You do your own washing, but

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Speaker 2: I know you you would have used one at some

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Speaker 2: point in time.

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Speaker 1: Yes, lived in various places that had dishwashers. Correct.

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Speaker 2: So this was a question that was raised by producer

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Speaker 2: Sirah and we had a bit of a debate in

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Speaker 2: within our team about what you do with the cutlery

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Speaker 2: portion of the dishwasher. Do you when you load the

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Speaker 2: dishwasher put your cutlery face up so that for example,

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Speaker 2: the sharp bit of the knife is pointing upwards or

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Speaker 2: do you do it so that it's facing down.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you either have the handle the first thing

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Speaker 1: that you grab, like the handle part of the cutlery,

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Speaker 1: or the sharp funky bit like the fork or the

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Speaker 1: knife sharp end.

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Speaker 2: And now that we're saying it like that, it kind

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Speaker 2: of makes sense in your head to do it so

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Speaker 2: that you reach in and get the handles. But I

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Speaker 2: do it facing upwards.

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Speaker 1: So do I. I think it's because I have a

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Speaker 1: fear of the fort heads. It just feelsicky to put

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Speaker 1: the four kid down. Do you know what I mean,

774
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Speaker 1: You're just going to get trapped or something. Yeah, And

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Speaker 1: I know it doesn't make sense to grab it out

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Speaker 1: by the head, but I just it makes me feel

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Speaker 1: weird for me. Done the head first.

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Speaker 2: The other thing for me is I really like to

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Speaker 2: make sure that every because we've got like four portions

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Speaker 2: of the cutlery can drawer, and I like to know

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Speaker 2: that the spoons are in one section, the knives are

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Speaker 2: in the other, and so if the handles are up

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Speaker 2: then you can't necessarily tell what's in there.

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Speaker 1: That's true. Producer Cereal, would you like to plead your

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Speaker 1: case on why you're so passionate on the other one.

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Speaker 10: Yes, okay, So I've been flatting for for many years now,

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Speaker 10: all different types of people, and I go to the

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Speaker 10: dishwasher to get like a plate or something from the

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Speaker 10: bottom ra of the dishwasher, and I get stabbed.

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Speaker 2: You do not get stabbabbed.

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Speaker 1: Sharp knives.

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Speaker 2: You shouldn't be putting you sharp knives in the dishwasher anyway.

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Speaker 1: How that to my flatmates? Yeah, okay, so sharp knives

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Speaker 1: are ruled out and stock standing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, four prongs far enough, but you still.

796
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Speaker 1: Just need to be more vigilant when.

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Speaker 2: I just think that a dishwasher is a clean place,

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Speaker 2: So putting them down in the hold of thing is fine.

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Speaker 5: The water's going to wash up, it'll clean it.

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Speaker 1: It's not yucky.

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Speaker 2: And why do you need to have, Maddie, why do

802
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Speaker 2: you need to have them all in their little like compartment,

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Speaker 2: because then when you're emptying up the dishwasher, you can

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Speaker 2: pick up all the all the knives and in one Okay, that's.

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Speaker 1: Actually all right, So the official questions, and we don't

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Speaker 1: get people confused right now, Maddie on the People's pole today,

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Speaker 1: how do.

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Speaker 2: You stack the cutlery portion of your dishwasher with the

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Speaker 2: let's say, with the butter knives facing the knife bit

810
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Speaker 2: facing up or the handle facing up.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, text your answer to four four eight seven.

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Speaker 1: We will reveal the results next May.

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Speaker 4: And PJ the podcast.

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Speaker 11: People's Poll, the pe Pule's Poll, Everybody comes together.

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Speaker 2: It's the People's Poll.

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Speaker 1: Okay, pressing issue on the people's pole today. How do

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Speaker 1: you stack your cutlery and the dishwasher? That's the question.

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Speaker 1: Is it handle arp or main side up? So like

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Speaker 1: the prongs of the forks are facing up?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Someone sticks in handle facing up. Someone else said, handles

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Speaker 1: down and the dishwasher and all the t spones together,

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Speaker 1: or the forks together, or the knives together, and all

824
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Speaker 1: the spoons together, like Meddy does. Much more organized and

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Speaker 1: easy to unpassed.

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Speaker 2: I like the sound of this person. Someone said, handles down,

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Speaker 2: so the food gets washed down the handle? Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: I don't yeah, I don't really know if thing why

829
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Speaker 2: do not get washed anyway? That would just get washed anyway? Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Someone said everything up, that's where the extra water is

831
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Speaker 1: down below? Has sudds? Does that make skeet really confused

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Speaker 1: with this.

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Speaker 2: What's what's confusing?

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Speaker 1: So everything up? So does that mean like I think

835
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Speaker 1: there's prongs up? Yeah? Yeah, I'm with that texture. That

836
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Speaker 1: feels right to me.

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Speaker 2: Although someone did said I had to have stitches in

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Speaker 2: my wrist from a steak knife up the wrong.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, will stak knives shouldn't be in there, Let's be honest.

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Speaker 1: The super sharp knives. Maybe wash them in the.

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Speaker 2: Same yeah, because otherwise they go blunt.

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Speaker 1: There's your problem? Yes, exactly. Okay, so what is our

843
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 1: overall percentage of the People's polem got.

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Speaker 2: An official result, and the official result is sixty one

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Speaker 2: percent of people said handles up, No, thirty eight percent

846
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Speaker 2: said handles down.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Just I don't. I don't actually have any reasoning

848
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Speaker 1: for mine. It just feels.

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Speaker 2: Weird to me. I agree, I agree with it. I

850
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Speaker 2: like knowing. I like knowing that I can grab everything

851
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Speaker 2: out of the thing.

852
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 1: And you know what you're gonna get. Made you know

853
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Speaker 1: what I'm gonna get, because otherwise it's a mystery. You

854
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: just see the handle and you don't.

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Speaker 2: Know what you go and get.

856
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Speaker 1: Anyway, the people of smoking thank you for the results

857
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Speaker 1: on the People's poll. We will return again tomorrow after three.

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Speaker 4: Mary and PJ. Mady and Pj the podcast The Hits

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Speaker 2: H