WEBVTT - On the chore war between men and women 0:00:00.140 --> 0:00:02.500 Hey, what's up with Sonja? Welcome to yet another episode 0:00:02.500 --> 0:00:06.160 of Men explain 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:15.260 today we have Mr funny guy right here who's making 0:00:15.260 --> 0:00:17.810 me laugh even before he started talking, 0:00:17.820 --> 0:00:20.940 it's government saying hi everybody good to be here. I'm 0:00:20.940 --> 0:00:22.689 so happy to be here in case you don't know 0:00:22.690 --> 0:00:24.740 who I am. I'm the guy who plays Portugal in 0:00:24.739 --> 0:00:26.510 case you're wondering who's Portugal? He's the guy who says 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:27.350 hello everybody. 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:29.830 My name is in Singapore JB and something about them. 0:00:29.830 --> 0:00:31.030 Don't pray pray 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.879 wow, hearing that in real life it's different. We're all 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:39.010 about the chore wars here today. Especially I think for 0:00:39.010 --> 0:00:40.770 partners who just moved in with each other and all that. 0:00:40.770 --> 0:00:43.150 Like you were seeking some guidance. Yes, 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:46.220 well you've come to the wrong place. I have to 0:00:46.220 --> 0:00:49.170 just put it out. Their first title is chore wars 0:00:49.180 --> 0:00:51.990 but I don't have any wars with with chores and 0:00:51.990 --> 0:00:53.910 chores or with my wife about chores. I mean there's 0:00:53.910 --> 0:00:56.380 so many things here and there. I think what you're 0:00:56.380 --> 0:00:58.690 trying to get is that maybe he doesn't like to 0:00:58.690 --> 0:01:00.140 do chores at all 0:01:00.150 --> 0:01:03.440 actually do you or do you not do you do 0:01:03.450 --> 0:01:05.160 do you like doing chores? 0:01:05.170 --> 0:01:09.679 There's a sense of achievement and gratification if the floor 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:12.920 is dirty and dusty, I sweep it or vacuum it 0:01:13.030 --> 0:01:14.260 mop it dry and I see 0:01:14.340 --> 0:01:16.010 it's shine. 0:01:16.020 --> 0:01:20.660 I can finally see my reflection again. Yeah. Wait what? 0:01:20.740 --> 0:01:21.760 No. So 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:25.890 I like doing choice because I feel that is achievement 0:01:25.890 --> 0:01:27.569 at the end, there's a goal at the end and 0:01:27.569 --> 0:01:30.870 sometimes I kid you not depending on which house I 0:01:30.870 --> 0:01:33.660 was before there was one house where I had a 0:01:33.660 --> 0:01:36.230 nice view outside the kitchen window and when I'm washing 0:01:36.230 --> 0:01:37.750 my dishes, 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:41.619 I'm in a trance. Like today I did this and 0:01:41.620 --> 0:01:44.050 I think I did that, I know life is about 0:01:44.060 --> 0:01:45.970 and I just go off tangent, 0:01:45.980 --> 0:01:48.970 it's almost like a meditative state for it is, it 0:01:48.970 --> 0:01:50.320 is, it is for dishwashing. 0:01:50.330 --> 0:01:52.240 Okay, But what about other chores? 0:01:52.250 --> 0:01:54.420 Other chores? I'm fine with it too. I think maybe 0:01:54.420 --> 0:01:57.540 because the way I was brought up in the prison 0:01:57.550 --> 0:01:58.060 and 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:01.630 what we're learning a lot of new things from just 0:02:01.630 --> 0:02:03.790 watched Megamind. So the baby was born in prison if 0:02:03.790 --> 0:02:06.020 you watched the movie, you know what I'm saying? But 0:02:06.030 --> 0:02:08.550 my mom who was mostly home, my father was out 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:12.010 doing jobs, my mom would give us work to do 0:02:12.010 --> 0:02:14.550 household chores and there was no ifs and buts about 0:02:14.550 --> 0:02:17.380 it compared to the school mop the floor. We all 0:02:17.380 --> 0:02:20.940 were allocated different chores. So I was the mopping guy 0:02:20.950 --> 0:02:24.419 and mopping meaning more acid on the four on four 0:02:24.870 --> 0:02:31.169 with Cinderella style Cinderella with the red one is my life. 0:02:31.180 --> 0:02:33.940 So first is the soap one must come back with 0:02:33.940 --> 0:02:38.669 the water. One must completely dry 13 times. I'm so 0:02:38.669 --> 0:02:40.260 glad we live in a one room. HdB flat. 0:02:40.340 --> 0:02:42.640 I'm so happy that I think about it actually, I'm 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:43.279 so glad 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.270 you advantages. I know it's pretty interesting to you because 0:02:46.270 --> 0:02:48.870 you mentioned earlier that you know chores isn't kind of 0:02:48.870 --> 0:02:50.530 the thing that you don't fight about even, you don't 0:02:50.530 --> 0:02:52.670 even have any sort of fights over that. That's why 0:02:52.669 --> 0:02:54.990 it's funny to know that it is at the top 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:57.900 of the list of things couples fight about. Especially I 0:02:57.900 --> 0:02:58.950 think in this day and age 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:05.240 it's more than finance and extramarital affairs and chewing bubblegum 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:07.680 while you're showering, right? You have that. You know, I 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:08.389 don't know. Speaking 0:03:08.389 --> 0:03:10.260 from experience or know 0:03:10.270 --> 0:03:11.500 sometimes you don't like the bubble. 0:03:11.510 --> 0:03:14.239 I do not really, really 0:03:14.410 --> 0:03:15.519 Is the # one. 0:03:15.530 --> 0:03:18.770 Yes. For me, actually, I myself, I'll bring up my 0:03:18.770 --> 0:03:22.430 own experiences. I think a lot of the fights that 0:03:22.430 --> 0:03:26.450 I've had with my partner have been over chores, 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:28.959 I actually come from 0:03:29.540 --> 0:03:32.300 background, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna be shy about this. Okay. 0:03:32.310 --> 0:03:35.430 I don't really do chores. I'm just gonna straight up 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:36.700 admit it. I'm gonna 0:03:36.710 --> 0:03:38.580 fess up. We're not judging you. We all come from 0:03:38.580 --> 0:03:40.980 different backgrounds, write some more privilege. 0:03:40.990 --> 0:03:41.660 So, 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:44.020 so I don't know whether it's not, I'm not from 0:03:44.030 --> 0:03:46.500 a rich family or anything, but you know, my parents, 0:03:46.500 --> 0:03:48.490 I think they spoiled me because I'm the only child 0:03:48.490 --> 0:03:50.190 and then they're like, if I just want a bit 0:03:50.190 --> 0:03:52.660 about like not wanting to do something like, okay. Like, 0:03:52.670 --> 0:03:55.310 I don't know, I just like, okay, leave it. You know, 0:03:55.310 --> 0:03:57.250 daddy's going on there, I don't know whether that's the thing, 0:03:57.250 --> 0:04:00.880 but possibly possibly. So then when I moved in and started, 0:04:00.890 --> 0:04:04.940 you know, living more with my current partner, he was 0:04:04.950 --> 0:04:08.120 very surprised. He was like, hey, like you want to 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.320 help me for the close today or what kind of 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:13.150 thing I'm like, okay, I'll do it. I'll be like, okay, 0:04:13.150 --> 0:04:14.720 I'll do it. But it's not my number one thing 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:15.650 on the list to do. 0:04:16.140 --> 0:04:18.029 But don't you see that as a bonding time when 0:04:18.029 --> 0:04:19.979 the two of you are falling close, it could lead 0:04:19.980 --> 0:04:22.090 to what lovemaking, 0:04:22.100 --> 0:04:26.270 what how it's like literally one of my most obviously 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:27.469 what 0:04:27.710 --> 0:04:31.090 turned the head into lovemaking and then after a while 0:04:31.100 --> 0:04:32.549 you won't hit the troll anymore. 0:04:33.140 --> 0:04:34.300 Welcome to psychology 0:04:34.310 --> 0:04:36.620 wow. This is what I signed up for. You know, 0:04:36.630 --> 0:04:38.529 like why go to the counselor when you have a 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:43.909 clinic outside basically the same clinic. Okay. Wait. So if 0:04:43.910 --> 0:04:46.330 you don't fight about chores then what do you guys 0:04:46.330 --> 0:04:46.570 fight 0:04:46.580 --> 0:04:48.159 with? 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:49.960 We don't fight about the choice per se, but we 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:53.460 fight about the methodology and maybe how for example when 0:04:53.460 --> 0:04:55.180 I do my dishes, right, I have my own way 0:04:55.180 --> 0:04:57.240 of doing dishes. But when she does the dishes, she 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.130 has her own way and that's when we can get 0:04:59.130 --> 0:05:01.220 into a disagreement and say why are you doing this? 0:05:01.220 --> 0:05:04.560 And said, well, I think this is quite good. But 0:05:04.570 --> 0:05:07.810 of course she has some valid reasons to be upset 0:05:07.820 --> 0:05:11.849 because I used to, I'm in control. Now I have, 0:05:12.940 --> 0:05:19.240 I'm in control. I used to wash the dishes like there, 0:05:19.250 --> 0:05:22.310 there was fire in the house. My water is shoe 0:05:22.310 --> 0:05:26.440 blocks and I'm going like water splashing everywhere and then 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:28.810 putting the dishes, the water is still going on in, 0:05:28.810 --> 0:05:30.680 the water's going. And she said, why are you still 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:31.360 doing the water 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:34.170 running, wasting water? You're doing the dishes, You're putting 0:05:34.170 --> 0:05:35.600 dishes there while you're running that. I said, when you 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:36.660 come back in one second, 0:05:36.740 --> 0:05:37.090 it won't 0:05:37.089 --> 0:05:38.920 hurt us. So let me guess. She's the kind that 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:41.520 likes to soak everything first and then 0:05:41.529 --> 0:05:43.990 rinse it off. She will have a little nice ah 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:50.159 bucket or something like a plastic plastic trading and then 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:52.830 there's water collector, there's soap in there and then dishes 0:05:52.830 --> 0:05:54.950 go in there. I don't like that because then 0:05:55.140 --> 0:05:59.090 everything else that wasn't really becomes is infected. Yes. Okay. 0:05:59.100 --> 0:06:01.060 In this day and age, that's very important to note. 0:06:01.070 --> 0:06:03.140 I know this sounds very superficial, but I want my 0:06:03.140 --> 0:06:06.100 hands to be dry. So I'll wear gloves when I 0:06:06.100 --> 0:06:08.820 wash the dishes. Okay. Because I'm like, I want my 0:06:08.820 --> 0:06:10.460 cuticles to get dry? 0:06:10.940 --> 0:06:15.080 He's just 100% judging right now. Like my cuticles dry 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:16.890 out really easily. Okay. I think you don't have to 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:18.760 put about that. Have you heard you 0:06:18.770 --> 0:06:21.540 heard about the cuticle problems that could arise in? 0:06:21.740 --> 0:06:24.719 Oh yeah, yeah, it's a clinic right here. Yeah. I 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:27.469 think I just got everything diagnosed during this session 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:28.909 that you can't even walk in the sun because you're 0:06:29.100 --> 0:06:32.800 my cuticles ok with, you know, buckets of on that 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:37.250 note, I wear gloves when I, when you're doing nothing 0:06:37.250 --> 0:06:38.910 wrong with that. I think a lot of people actually 0:06:38.910 --> 0:06:39.460 do that. 0:06:39.540 --> 0:06:41.720 Some people do that because they have skin reaction to 0:06:41.750 --> 0:06:42.270 a detergent. 0:06:42.339 --> 0:06:46.850 Yeah. Okay. So in response to that, my boyfriend usually says, 0:06:46.860 --> 0:06:49.990 you know that because you wear the gloves when you 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:52.840 wash your dishes, you can't feel whether the plate is 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:56.500 still oily, so you, you you agree why? 0:06:56.500 --> 0:06:58.770 It's not to agree. This can't be, I can't disagree 0:06:58.770 --> 0:06:58.960 because 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:01.160 it's a fact. I try to scrub it as much 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:02.450 as I can. Then I wash it off and it 0:07:02.450 --> 0:07:06.480 looks clean to me. It looks upon touching it dishwashing, 0:07:07.029 --> 0:07:12.120 dishwashing about feelings. Okay. Okay. So I cannot wear gloves. No. Okay. 0:07:12.130 --> 0:07:13.970 Here are the top 10 most hated chores. I'm going 0:07:13.970 --> 0:07:15.690 to state them out and then you tell me what 0:07:15.700 --> 0:07:18.700 you like and what you don't like. Okay, Okay, cleaning 0:07:18.700 --> 0:07:22.270 the toilet. Okay. You, I'm okay because I have to 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:24.830 because I don't want a dirty toilet. So yeah, but 0:07:24.830 --> 0:07:27.160 I don't love it. Who loves clean the toilet? Right. 0:07:27.170 --> 0:07:31.120 What? Okay. Clean toilet and laundry, which is worse for you, 0:07:31.130 --> 0:07:32.960 wow, That's a tough one. 0:07:33.340 --> 0:07:40.430 Okay. Did you hear that? I don't mind cleaning the 0:07:40.430 --> 0:07:43.500 toilet actually because my toilet's not that dirty. It's not 0:07:43.500 --> 0:07:43.950 that 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.270 because cleaning every two hours and you're 0:07:46.270 --> 0:07:51.300 like, okay, I'm just waiting. Excellent work. Yes. Yes. And 0:07:51.300 --> 0:07:54.170 I get paid 10 cents every time when someone comes 0:07:54.170 --> 0:07:57.950 into Okay, okay, what else, cleaning stove tops and oven 0:07:57.950 --> 0:07:59.390 and all the kitchen stuff when it 0:07:59.390 --> 0:08:02.980 shines when you clean up and it shines. 0:08:02.990 --> 0:08:05.470 I'm okay with it. Because like after you cook right, 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:08.050 usually a soft top gets a bit greasy and oily. 0:08:08.060 --> 0:08:10.910 I will want to wipe it off immediately after cooking 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:11.920 because they accumulate 0:08:11.930 --> 0:08:13.160 after eating or before eating 0:08:13.540 --> 0:08:16.480 after eating right? So that's not really immediately, 0:08:16.540 --> 0:08:20.590 almost immediately rappelling. Technicality. Yes. 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.200 Prolong lee immediately. So you're okay with that 0:08:23.290 --> 0:08:27.450 dusting I suppose falls in with sweeping and vacuuming vacuuming. 0:08:27.450 --> 0:08:29.869 I don't like because of the noise. Okay, sweeping I 0:08:29.870 --> 0:08:31.860 don't like because the dust just everywhere 0:08:31.940 --> 0:08:33.979 Dustin is simple works because it just gets on you. 0:08:33.990 --> 0:08:36.650 Right? But you actually have to dust sweep then vacuum. 0:08:36.740 --> 0:08:39.750 Yes, basically going to do the right in that 0:08:39.750 --> 0:08:42.100 order. I mean, you know, how does your houses now? 0:08:42.110 --> 0:08:42.420 But 0:08:42.429 --> 0:08:45.650 I mean, you don't want to know mopping. 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:46.840 I love mopping. 0:08:46.850 --> 0:08:50.130 You love mopping Okay, What is it like? Do you 0:08:50.140 --> 0:08:53.240 do like listen to a podcast while you mop or 0:08:53.250 --> 0:08:55.800 this podcast? Always looking to this podcast? I know she's 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:56.070 trying to 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:57.050 you're saving this 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:01.459 market this podcast. Yeah. No, I think what some people 0:09:01.460 --> 0:09:04.160 don't understand is that if you play music in the background, 0:09:04.940 --> 0:09:07.130 it becomes more enjoyable, isn't it? 0:09:07.140 --> 0:09:09.760 So you dance. You know, I'm not Tootsie, 0:09:10.340 --> 0:09:11.870 I actually does a little sometimes 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:13.900 when you're doing what vacuuming. 0:09:13.910 --> 0:09:15.650 But how 0:09:15.650 --> 0:09:17.170 do you, because your phone is not 0:09:17.179 --> 0:09:20.280 like a typical I mean, yeah, like no, no, that's 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:21.170 that's good. Right, that's 0:09:21.170 --> 0:09:22.910 good grocery shopping and cooking 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:26.089 cooking. I'm scared because I don't want my family die 0:09:26.090 --> 0:09:28.360 of food poisoning. But 0:09:28.540 --> 0:09:32.420 But 2015 January when I left the TV station full time, 0:09:32.429 --> 0:09:33.790 I had more time at home. So one of the 0:09:33.790 --> 0:09:35.630 things I wanted to do was to try to cook 0:09:35.630 --> 0:09:40.570 for them. So I just, I started with soup. Okay, 0:09:40.590 --> 0:09:41.689 it's just water and you go 0:09:41.690 --> 0:09:43.790 wrong, right, boil it, It 0:09:43.790 --> 0:09:46.150 was too salty. What? 0:09:46.150 --> 0:09:48.300 So was that chicken, salted vegetables, 0:09:48.330 --> 0:09:52.760 chicken soup. I put potatoes, carrots and then a lot 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:54.940 of chicken in there, which I didn't know you had 0:09:54.950 --> 0:09:56.260 to the skin 0:09:56.740 --> 0:10:00.220 because then all the oil gets into the super, 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.840 I was in Saudi Arabia oil. What the heck is 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:06.780 this my wife? How do you cook this? Then I 0:10:06.780 --> 0:10:09.439 explained to her that she's like, no. So ever since 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:15.770 that fateful encounter, I've always referred to Jamie Oliver or 0:10:15.780 --> 0:10:16.839 was the guy with the angry guy, 0:10:16.850 --> 0:10:18.870 Hell's kitchen guy? Gordon Ramsay. 0:10:18.890 --> 0:10:21.670 When Ramsay, I watched a youtube how to make a 0:10:21.670 --> 0:10:22.809 salmon and 0:10:22.809 --> 0:10:26.309 usually they give you like quite simple to stand instructions. 0:10:26.309 --> 0:10:28.360 So I've learned to cook pasta with mussels 0:10:28.740 --> 0:10:30.410 with red wine. 0:10:30.420 --> 0:10:31.690 Oh wow! 0:10:31.700 --> 0:10:33.729 White wine. White wine wine. Wrongly 0:10:33.740 --> 0:10:37.000 red wine. Okay. I was just curious to know 0:10:37.010 --> 0:10:39.140 and I used people like the whole bottle in. So 0:10:39.140 --> 0:10:40.189 my wife gets drunk after that. 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:42.530 Alright then she'll be okay to do all the chores. 0:10:42.530 --> 0:10:44.450 Last other other chores. Yeah. 0:10:44.640 --> 0:10:48.570 Okay, cleaning windows and other things. Do you have gutters 0:10:48.570 --> 0:10:49.610 in your house? 0:10:49.620 --> 0:10:51.210 There was a time to live in a house where 0:10:51.210 --> 0:10:53.809 we had a huge garden and they would leave everywhere 0:10:53.820 --> 0:10:58.660 every day and I just enjoy using a rig just 0:10:58.660 --> 0:11:01.130 to sweep the leaves into a pile and put in 0:11:01.130 --> 0:11:03.730 a black plastic bag or bring it to the side 0:11:03.730 --> 0:11:10.040 and decomposed, decomposed, decomposed, put in a compost pile, decomposed 0:11:10.050 --> 0:11:10.859 zoo 0:11:11.710 --> 0:11:13.809 compost in the compost bin. 0:11:13.820 --> 0:11:17.090 This is starting to be very intelligent, intelligent podcast. Just 0:11:17.090 --> 0:11:20.410 like we set it out to be anything that your 0:11:20.410 --> 0:11:22.810 wife does that you don't like like a pet peeve 0:11:22.809 --> 0:11:24.760 or something. Aside from the dishwashing thing 0:11:24.940 --> 0:11:27.900 that you mentioned earlier, this can be even your earlier days. 0:11:27.910 --> 0:11:32.100 Yeah, that's that's her pet peeve, My pet peeve of her. 0:11:32.110 --> 0:11:33.160 Is that 0:11:33.540 --> 0:11:35.740 when she does her chores, right. She doesn't put back 0:11:35.740 --> 0:11:40.540 the things where it's supposed to be so like simple, 0:11:40.550 --> 0:11:44.860 simple thing, basin is there, there's a holder with the 0:11:44.860 --> 0:11:48.590 sponge for the dishwashing chore. I take it out, I 0:11:48.590 --> 0:11:50.650 wash dishes, I put it back, I come back the 0:11:50.650 --> 0:11:52.560 next day, the day after that is always there 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.350 when she's done the dishes. I can't, 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:57.390 it's gone and it's either at the bottom of the 0:11:57.390 --> 0:12:00.080 basin or somewhere else or is in the other basic. 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:01.540 Don't know why you went there because there's another sponge 0:12:01.540 --> 0:12:04.170 there anyway. And then I like where is that? Then 0:12:04.170 --> 0:12:05.679 she said just look under somewhere. 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.469 So when you addressed it, did she change or she 0:12:09.470 --> 0:12:10.310 continues to know. 0:12:10.309 --> 0:12:12.480 No, she she tries. I mean we're all we're all 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:15.250 not perfect. We were like, oh yeah, why do you 0:12:15.260 --> 0:12:18.569 do that? Okay. So, but still once in a while 0:12:18.570 --> 0:12:21.150 I see a pile of dishes and then the sponges 0:12:21.150 --> 0:12:22.350 right at the bottom. 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:26.250 To be honest. I think that's jeremy's pet peeve about 0:12:26.250 --> 0:12:27.460 me as well because I don't do it. 0:12:27.940 --> 0:12:31.540 Not necessarily the sponge, but other things sometimes. But the 0:12:31.540 --> 0:12:35.060 vacuum cleaner vacuum, how do you know? God? Like the 0:12:35.059 --> 0:12:37.819 vacuum cleaner? Sometimes I'm vacuuming like the living and then 0:12:37.820 --> 0:12:38.750 I leave it there. Leave 0:12:38.750 --> 0:12:40.109 it there. My wife does that to 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:43.270 its growth thing. I don't know because vacuum 0:12:43.270 --> 0:12:47.199 cleaners, I use the Dyson. Right. Yes. It is chargeable. Yes. 0:12:47.210 --> 0:12:49.429 If you don't put it back to the charger, it 0:12:49.429 --> 0:12:51.150 doesn't get charged up. So when I want to use 0:12:51.150 --> 0:12:52.709 the vacuum that I go to the store and open, 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:53.650 there's no 0:12:54.140 --> 0:12:56.220 where do you go? It's supposed to be charging here. 0:12:56.230 --> 0:12:59.300 It looks like the household house. Finally find it lying 0:12:59.300 --> 0:13:00.380 down in the corner under the 0:13:00.380 --> 0:13:05.350 bed. Just waiting for someone to find I'm dying. Normal 0:13:05.420 --> 0:13:07.140 help when I pick 0:13:07.140 --> 0:13:08.660 it up and die. 0:13:08.740 --> 0:13:10.990 I don't know, man. Leave a comment. Let us know. 0:13:10.990 --> 0:13:13.220 Do you think it's like a man woman thing. Like 0:13:13.220 --> 0:13:15.110 I have no clue like whether this because I seem 0:13:15.110 --> 0:13:16.679 to have, let me ask you a question. Why don't 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:17.350 you put it back? 0:13:19.090 --> 0:13:20.319 I don't know. How many 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:20.980 stories do you have? 0:13:20.990 --> 0:13:24.850 Just one live in a small apartment? 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:27.340 So I know where it is, what in my mind? 0:13:27.340 --> 0:13:29.530 I know where it is, but you still don't want to. 0:13:29.540 --> 0:13:31.960 I mean sometimes I put it back. I tried to 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:33.429 I tried because I know that he doesn't like it 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:33.670 because 0:13:33.670 --> 0:13:36.120 the fact that you say you live in an apartment 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:39.350 right at one level, it boggles my mind that you 0:13:39.350 --> 0:13:41.850 don't want to bring your laundry to the washing machine. 0:13:42.340 --> 0:13:44.750 Yeah, it's just, I don't know. I just don't enjoy 0:13:44.750 --> 0:13:48.309 it necessarily. You know, it's just a personal preference. 0:13:48.320 --> 0:13:50.170 You don't like it when the washing machine opens up 0:13:50.179 --> 0:13:52.370 and it's done and you smell the nice clean, it 0:13:52.370 --> 0:13:53.900 smells great. Like I'm like, oh man, this means I 0:13:53.900 --> 0:13:55.660 have to hang it up. Which is like 0:13:56.270 --> 0:14:00.120 you see negativity and everything. You know, just some things 0:14:00.130 --> 0:14:03.470 just like washing the toilet. I said that's true, isn't it? Okay. 0:14:03.470 --> 0:14:07.160 That's that's a bonus. That's some good ship. That jeremy, 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:08.070 you're lucky to have me here. 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.980 Right? I mean, yeah, she takes care of your ship. 0:14:10.990 --> 0:14:13.380 Yeah, but you know, I'm just, I'm just I just 0:14:13.380 --> 0:14:15.220 don't want a dirty toilet I think that's the thing 0:14:15.220 --> 0:14:15.560 that 0:14:15.570 --> 0:14:16.850 that grosses you out. So that, 0:14:16.929 --> 0:14:19.440 so that motivates you? Yes. that motivates me. So 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:25.020 we should get really jeremy, jeremy, jeremy get her gross laundry. No. Really? 0:14:25.020 --> 0:14:27.270 Gross hell no. You know when you walk by, just 0:14:27.270 --> 0:14:30.710 spit on it or just throw some chocolate sauce on the, 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.240 on the dress and she will not run into the machine. 0:14:33.250 --> 0:14:33.370 One 0:14:33.370 --> 0:14:36.410 100% will not happen. But do you well, do you, 0:14:36.410 --> 0:14:38.160 have you come across a situation where like 0:14:38.340 --> 0:14:41.160 maybe even your earlier days when you were dating or whatever, 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:43.520 who is the one that has to remind the other 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:46.090 a little more when it comes to like doing something? Like, 0:14:46.100 --> 0:14:47.860 can you do this? Can you wash the dishes? Can 0:14:47.860 --> 0:14:49.040 you take it out? Who is the one that has 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:50.500 to remind the other more? That 0:14:50.500 --> 0:14:53.900 will be my wife because reminding you more because I 0:14:53.900 --> 0:14:55.860 don't want to step into her, 0:14:56.340 --> 0:15:00.330 her infrastructure, You know what? She has laid out the 0:15:00.330 --> 0:15:03.160 system and everything. I find that when I do that, 0:15:03.170 --> 0:15:06.000 I usually sabotage her. So I just sit down there 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:09.090 like a good slave. And then when she says, come 0:15:09.090 --> 0:15:11.230 here you, when I come in my loin cloth and 0:15:11.230 --> 0:15:13.040 she says do this and oh yeah, today is this 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:14.160 day to do this, okay, I'll do it. 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:16.550 I've tried in the past to help out and I 0:15:16.550 --> 0:15:17.760 always sabotage 0:15:18.140 --> 0:15:21.010 So I, you know like why did you do this? 0:15:21.010 --> 0:15:24.170 I said, I thought today, is that no, sorry, why 0:15:24.170 --> 0:15:25.740 did you do this? I thought I already done it. 0:15:25.750 --> 0:15:26.900 You've done already. Oh, sorry. 0:15:26.910 --> 0:15:29.900 So messed up again. So I've been intending 0:15:29.900 --> 0:15:32.810 to, yeah, to avoid conflict. I just, you know, I'm 0:15:32.810 --> 0:15:35.770 just hanging by the side ready on the bench to 0:15:35.770 --> 0:15:37.820 be called into play on the field. And then when 0:15:37.820 --> 0:15:39.460 she calls me, hey, can we do the, 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:40.330 the laundry today? 0:15:40.340 --> 0:15:45.080 Okay. You, can you help me? Okay. That means full 0:15:45.090 --> 0:15:48.280 time on it. Wow. Actually this. I'm learning a lot 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:50.130 of good relationship tips because I think like with a 0:15:50.130 --> 0:15:52.550 lot of younger couples, we tend to fight about small 0:15:52.550 --> 0:15:54.680 things sometimes, you know, when you start living together. 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.330 Yeah. And I think even as they're dating now before 0:15:57.330 --> 0:15:59.580 they even married and moved into a house, start talking 0:15:59.580 --> 0:16:00.440 about these things. 0:16:00.450 --> 0:16:02.610 Here's the thing until you move in. A lot of 0:16:02.610 --> 0:16:06.510 couples who are not married have started to move in together. 0:16:06.510 --> 0:16:09.880 Like prior to even you and jeremy not married, right? No. Yeah. 0:16:09.890 --> 0:16:12.740 And some other friends to like they've started and it's 0:16:12.740 --> 0:16:15.060 the mindset of like, I want to see how this 0:16:15.060 --> 0:16:17.760 person works out right before actually 0:16:17.840 --> 0:16:21.350 settling down. But then I think in a more traditional sense, 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:23.880 they're like, oh, you just get married and figure it out, 0:16:23.890 --> 0:16:25.280 just not wrong, 0:16:25.290 --> 0:16:27.500 right? If you get the right perspective, these are all 0:16:27.500 --> 0:16:31.600 small things that you can talk about like the classic, 0:16:31.610 --> 0:16:33.710 you know, squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or from 0:16:33.710 --> 0:16:35.780 the end. Which one are you? I am from the 0:16:35.780 --> 0:16:38.300 bottom and squeeze you in the middle. I just, 0:16:38.300 --> 0:16:43.070 just, just squeeze the old, just squeeze wherever it's convenient. 0:16:43.740 --> 0:16:47.390 So yeah, so jeremy is squeezed from the bottom, right? 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:50.460 And I'm just wherever my hand reaches, I squeeze 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:52.740 right, but just put it back in the right 0:16:52.740 --> 0:16:56.140 place, a next to the vacuum cleaner, it's on the floor, 0:16:56.140 --> 0:16:56.890 progress. 0:16:56.900 --> 0:16:59.250 But the reason why I brought this up was that, 0:16:59.260 --> 0:17:01.270 you know, a little tiff like this, 0:17:01.740 --> 0:17:05.100