1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,050 Speaker 1: Hi, Hazel zero and I'm Jemaine 2 00:00:02,050 --> 00:00:03,090 Speaker 2: and welcome back to Clarity 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:07,970 Speaker 2: today. I have a very important question for the floor. 4 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:11,110 Speaker 2: When was the last time you girls went clubbing 5 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:14,770 Speaker 2: Saturday, Saturday? Like last Saturday. 6 00:00:14,780 --> 00:00:16,620 Speaker 1: When is the last time you went clubbing hazy? 7 00:00:16,630 --> 00:00:19,290 Speaker 2: Actually, I think you girls would know when I don't 8 00:00:19,290 --> 00:00:20,630 Speaker 2: even remember it myself. You 9 00:00:20,630 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: always go downstairs only. There you go. Yeah, on my 10 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:24,299 Speaker 1: birthday 11 00:00:24,630 --> 00:00:28,250 Speaker 2: because Jamie for me, okay, let's meet at 11 p.m. 12 00:00:28,260 --> 00:00:31,910 Speaker 2: and 11 45. Nobody was there and I was like, Jimmy, 13 00:00:31,910 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 2: you know, I got work tomorrow. You come right here. 14 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:35,740 Speaker 2: I take a photo with you and then 15 00:00:35,750 --> 00:00:37,920 Speaker 1: I tell so she was outside the club but she 16 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: never stepped in. So I think the last time you 17 00:00:40,900 --> 00:00:42,950 Speaker 1: Last year, your birthday we brought you to a bar. 18 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:46,370 Speaker 1: So not really counted the year before that we went 19 00:00:46,370 --> 00:00:49,140 Speaker 1: to LA We went to kind of like a club. 20 00:00:49,150 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 1: So I would say that's the last time 2021, November. 21 00:00:51,570 --> 00:00:54,130 Speaker 2: I like that club. That was a nice one. They 22 00:00:54,140 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 2: really had to drag me out the house because they 23 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:55,970 Speaker 2: had 24 00:00:55,970 --> 00:00:58,730 Speaker 1: dancers and bar. It was Boris and they were playing 25 00:00:58,730 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: like Y M C A. That's like, 26 00:01:02,490 --> 00:01:03,230 Speaker 2: oh, that was 27 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:06,979 Speaker 1: also the last time you were in a club? Yeah. 28 00:01:06,990 --> 00:01:08,559 Speaker 2: So it's really been such a long time since I 29 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:11,450 Speaker 2: went clubbing. But for you girls hasn't been any different 30 00:01:11,450 --> 00:01:12,700 Speaker 2: pre COVID and now, 31 00:01:12,709 --> 00:01:16,709 Speaker 1: um, pre COVID, I don't remember bumping into any of 32 00:01:16,709 --> 00:01:19,490 Speaker 1: my exes in the club last Saturday. I bump into 33 00:01:19,490 --> 00:01:20,759 Speaker 1: two of them in the same night 34 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:22,390 Speaker 2: at the same place, 35 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:24,540 Speaker 1: at the same place. What a wonderful surprise. Thank you 36 00:01:24,540 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: guys so much. I was surprised too. She also bumped 37 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:30,310 Speaker 1: into them. So, thank you very much for showing up. Okay, 38 00:01:30,310 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: other than this, I don't know, I was a lot 39 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,369 Speaker 1: younger and probably a bit, you know, not as responsible 40 00:01:35,380 --> 00:01:38,450 Speaker 1: as I am now. Okay. I currently see that. Okay. Now, 41 00:01:38,450 --> 00:01:41,330 Speaker 1: now I'm responsible now as of today. Yeah. 42 00:01:41,340 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 2: Well, I haven't stepped in the club in such a 43 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 2: long time, so I was pretty astonished to, to see 44 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:48,780 Speaker 2: like articles and like the news and stuff talking about 45 00:01:48,780 --> 00:01:51,090 Speaker 2: how much of a massive spike 46 00:01:51,110 --> 00:01:54,070 Speaker 2: there has been in like cases of outrage of modesty 47 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,540 Speaker 2: molestation in nightlife. I don't know. Have you guys, have 48 00:01:56,540 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 2: you witnessed 49 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:00,669 Speaker 1: that? I saw that in the news. Yes, it has 50 00:02:00,670 --> 00:02:02,810 Speaker 1: happened to me. I think, you know, I'll talk about 51 00:02:02,810 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: that in a little bit, but I've also witnessed these 52 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: things happening to other people as well. 53 00:02:08,290 --> 00:02:10,329 Speaker 2: What about you? Have you witnessed it or has ever 54 00:02:10,330 --> 00:02:13,370 Speaker 2: happened to you? I feel like no guys would dare 55 00:02:13,370 --> 00:02:17,050 Speaker 2: to touch Zura, no touch her without her consent. 56 00:02:17,060 --> 00:02:19,030 Speaker 1: Okay with her content. Can 57 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:20,980 Speaker 2: that one? Cannot, 58 00:02:21,210 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: you can touch me any day 59 00:02:22,850 --> 00:02:28,410 Speaker 2: without your consent without why, why you look so tough? 60 00:02:28,419 --> 00:02:31,590 Speaker 2: So like they wouldn't dare to, you know, touch you 61 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 2: without you saying yes, she's 62 00:02:33,570 --> 00:02:37,519 Speaker 1: intimidating. Okay. Sorry. Can I share a story? So this 63 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 1: actually 64 00:02:37,955 --> 00:02:40,435 Speaker 1: what happened now that you reminded me, right? Nothing to 65 00:02:40,435 --> 00:02:43,375 Speaker 1: do with touching. But since you said yes, usually I'm 66 00:02:43,375 --> 00:02:45,815 Speaker 1: very nice. I keep it together. You know, I'm not 67 00:02:45,815 --> 00:02:51,605 Speaker 1: very like I won't like Right. Yeah, but I tripped 68 00:02:51,615 --> 00:02:54,695 Speaker 1: the other day. So basically, like I was outside 69 00:02:55,190 --> 00:02:57,970 Speaker 1: and then this person came up to me and was 70 00:02:57,970 --> 00:03:00,370 Speaker 1: like trying to chat me up, right? And then after that, 71 00:03:00,380 --> 00:03:04,030 Speaker 1: um eventually asked my Instagram. So I gave, then he follow, 72 00:03:04,030 --> 00:03:05,420 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna follow you back. I don't know you. 73 00:03:05,430 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: A couple of days later I was out there again 74 00:03:09,620 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: and this person came again and then he was like, 75 00:03:13,850 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 1: oh I followed you but you didn't follow me. But 76 00:03:15,850 --> 00:03:19,010 Speaker 1: do you remember me? Yeah. Just because like a DJ 77 00:03:19,010 --> 00:03:21,870 Speaker 1: and everything I flipped, I flipped and I went, listen, 78 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:23,769 Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with anything. Don't talk to 79 00:03:23,770 --> 00:03:25,380 Speaker 1: me like that. I walked off and they said I 80 00:03:25,380 --> 00:03:26,330 Speaker 1: was like, no, no, no, 81 00:03:26,970 --> 00:03:29,220 Speaker 2: no, no, no, no. Was he drunk? Probably 82 00:03:29,220 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: I wouldn't say drunk. Okay. Yeah. But liquid courage always 83 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,900 Speaker 1: makes you say like stupid things sometimes. Yeah. But, but still, 84 00:03:35,900 --> 00:03:39,380 Speaker 1: I mean, you're not, you know, entitled to follow anybody back. 85 00:03:39,390 --> 00:03:40,930 Speaker 1: You don't know for sure, for sure, 86 00:03:40,930 --> 00:03:43,529 Speaker 2: for sure. But, you know, you guys really enjoy, like 87 00:03:43,530 --> 00:03:46,350 Speaker 2: your girls night out has ever bothered you that there 88 00:03:46,350 --> 00:03:47,750 Speaker 2: has been a spike in molestation 89 00:03:47,750 --> 00:03:50,150 Speaker 1: cases. Well, I think, you know, after going out for 90 00:03:50,163 --> 00:03:53,813 Speaker 1: so many years, you kind of learn to be responsible 91 00:03:53,813 --> 00:03:57,393 Speaker 1: for yourself after making mistakes. But hopefully, you know, some 92 00:03:57,393 --> 00:03:59,303 Speaker 1: of the tips that we can give you today, um, 93 00:03:59,313 --> 00:04:02,783 Speaker 1: will prevent you from making those mistakes. Because now when 94 00:04:02,783 --> 00:04:04,633 Speaker 1: I see like other girls, I'll tell you the story 95 00:04:04,643 --> 00:04:07,422 Speaker 1: of something that happened. So in the club, you know, 96 00:04:07,423 --> 00:04:10,243 Speaker 1: we're all sitting around this table, right? Basically. So there's 97 00:04:10,243 --> 00:04:12,053 Speaker 1: this girl, I don't know her very well, but I've 98 00:04:12,053 --> 00:04:13,340 Speaker 1: met her like one or two times. She, 99 00:04:13,356 --> 00:04:16,786 Speaker 1: he's a friend of a friend. She was obviously very intoxicated, right? 100 00:04:16,786 --> 00:04:19,705 Speaker 1: And she was wearing a white dress, very, very short 101 00:04:19,716 --> 00:04:23,156 Speaker 1: white dress and she was so intoxicated that she didn't 102 00:04:23,156 --> 00:04:25,476 Speaker 1: realize that her dress kept riding up like to the 103 00:04:25,476 --> 00:04:27,736 Speaker 1: point where I can see her underwear. So, so me 104 00:04:27,736 --> 00:04:29,876 Speaker 1: being I was pretty sober that night, so I kept 105 00:04:29,886 --> 00:04:31,806 Speaker 1: pulling it down for her as a fellow girl, like 106 00:04:31,806 --> 00:04:34,315 Speaker 1: no one else was helping her. It was mostly guys and, 107 00:04:34,315 --> 00:04:36,546 Speaker 1: and so I kept pulling her skirt down for her 108 00:04:36,810 --> 00:04:40,059 Speaker 1: and she, she was like already wobbling around, not really 109 00:04:40,060 --> 00:04:42,690 Speaker 1: stable and all that and they were handing around tequila 110 00:04:42,690 --> 00:04:46,190 Speaker 1: shots and this girl obviously cannot drink anymore. Not even 111 00:04:46,190 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 1: one sip. And I said, don't drink it. I said, 112 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:51,130 Speaker 1: don't take it. But the moment I turned around, she 113 00:04:51,130 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: had grabbed the shot, she down the shot and she 114 00:04:54,850 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: immediately turned over to the next table, threw up on 115 00:04:58,200 --> 00:04:58,890 Speaker 1: the couch 116 00:04:59,470 --> 00:05:02,980 Speaker 1: onto the girl at the next table, her brand new 117 00:05:02,980 --> 00:05:06,550 Speaker 1: Chanel bag and these people, two or three people, two 118 00:05:06,550 --> 00:05:08,750 Speaker 1: guys and one girl were trying to grab her down 119 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,250 Speaker 1: into their table to get her to pay for the bag. 120 00:05:11,260 --> 00:05:14,590 Speaker 1: And I was like, no, I was like, no and 121 00:05:14,589 --> 00:05:16,260 Speaker 1: she had like another guy friend there and I was like, 122 00:05:16,260 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: can you please get her, get her away? Just bring 123 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:20,830 Speaker 1: her somewhere else, bring her to the bathroom because she, 124 00:05:21,100 --> 00:05:24,060 Speaker 2: but how do they resolve this conflict? There must be 125 00:05:24,060 --> 00:05:26,100 Speaker 2: a conclusion like what's going to happen to the back? 126 00:05:26,110 --> 00:05:28,820 Speaker 1: No, I think she just left moral. The story. Don't 127 00:05:28,820 --> 00:05:30,110 Speaker 1: bring your brand new Chanel to 128 00:05:30,110 --> 00:05:31,950 Speaker 2: the clubs. That is very, very true, 129 00:05:31,950 --> 00:05:37,650 Speaker 1: true, responsible clubbing, clubbing, responsible 130 00:05:37,650 --> 00:05:41,940 Speaker 2: clubbing. You know, the spike in molestation cases. It's very 131 00:05:41,940 --> 00:05:43,030 Speaker 2: serious compared 132 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:46,990 Speaker 2: To the 21 cases in 2021. In 2022. There are 133 00:05:46,990 --> 00:05:52,490 Speaker 2: 129 cases. That's more than 500% spike. Wow. Do you 134 00:05:52,490 --> 00:05:55,850 Speaker 2: guys think that molest cases are a normal occurrence in 135 00:05:55,850 --> 00:05:57,210 Speaker 2: the nightclub. What shouldn't 136 00:05:57,210 --> 00:05:59,380 Speaker 1: be? Right. I mean, it shouldn't be a normal occurrence 137 00:05:59,390 --> 00:06:02,430 Speaker 1: anywhere and the numbers that, you know, have spiked, it's 138 00:06:02,430 --> 00:06:06,410 Speaker 1: very worrying to me. But perhaps, right, like post COVID, 139 00:06:06,420 --> 00:06:08,990 Speaker 1: I guess people let loose a little bit more than 140 00:06:08,990 --> 00:06:12,679 Speaker 1: we expected to and because of that they weren't able to, 141 00:06:13,020 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, be smart about their decisions. Right. 142 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,130 Speaker 2: Yeah. You know, actually spoke on this, on the news 143 00:06:19,140 --> 00:06:22,710 Speaker 2: in radio, mid January. So there was this 47 year 144 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:25,850 Speaker 2: old Singapore man, he was convicted of breaking into a 145 00:06:25,850 --> 00:06:29,100 Speaker 2: 39 year old woman's house and raping her. 146 00:06:29,300 --> 00:06:32,570 Speaker 2: So basically a bunch of friends, they were having fun 147 00:06:32,580 --> 00:06:35,250 Speaker 2: at the KTV lounge in buggies and then the guy 148 00:06:35,260 --> 00:06:38,040 Speaker 2: being the only sober one, he was like sending everyone 149 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:40,690 Speaker 2: back home. Um, the first person they drop back home 150 00:06:40,690 --> 00:06:43,420 Speaker 2: was this 39 year old girl. So after a friend's 151 00:06:43,420 --> 00:06:46,539 Speaker 2: tucked her in bed, they actually slipped her house keys 152 00:06:46,550 --> 00:06:49,500 Speaker 2: under the door after locking it, they slipped back under 153 00:06:49,500 --> 00:06:52,560 Speaker 2: the door. So the keys are safe and intact. Right. Right. 154 00:06:52,570 --> 00:06:55,370 Speaker 2: So the guy proceeded to send each and every friend 155 00:06:55,370 --> 00:06:56,330 Speaker 2: back home. But 156 00:06:56,350 --> 00:06:59,779 Speaker 2: After dropping off the last person, he actually made a 157 00:06:59,779 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 2: U turn back two bogies back to the woman's place. 158 00:07:03,010 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 2: He found this random so artistic and he started to 159 00:07:07,580 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 2: what the door sleep, you know, underneath the door, just 160 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 2: fish around for the keys, just hold it back out. 161 00:07:14,530 --> 00:07:17,090 Speaker 2: A lot of and he proceeded to go in and 162 00:07:17,090 --> 00:07:21,280 Speaker 2: rip this 39 years old woman. Oh my gosh. So basically, 163 00:07:21,290 --> 00:07:23,380 Speaker 2: of course, he was called the lady called the police 164 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:26,650 Speaker 2: and he was basically put into jail. His name is 165 00:07:26,650 --> 00:07:28,890 Speaker 2: a powerful, by the way, like it is all the 166 00:07:28,890 --> 00:07:29,570 Speaker 2: papers 167 00:07:29,580 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: we should name and shame you. But why would you 168 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 1: do that? You dropped everyone off. You could have just 169 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:36,910 Speaker 1: gone home. But it's like, don't you think that there 170 00:07:36,910 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: was intention there from the very start? Like, oh, you 171 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: already saw your friends slip the key in. Oh, you 172 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:43,900 Speaker 1: already know like, you know what, you already talked about 173 00:07:43,900 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: it to find a statistic and go back, turn back. 174 00:07:47,330 --> 00:07:50,450 Speaker 2: So this is pretty ridiculous in my opinion. 175 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 2: But now this brings us to our next question, how 176 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 2: do we move away from like unwanted physical touch is, 177 00:07:58,010 --> 00:08:00,340 Speaker 2: I mean, this setting is like in the nightclub, you know, 178 00:08:00,340 --> 00:08:02,350 Speaker 2: not back at your own place or whatever in the 179 00:08:02,350 --> 00:08:05,850 Speaker 2: public space, be fierce, be fierce, like Azura, be 180 00:08:05,850 --> 00:08:07,170 Speaker 1: fierce, be fierce. 181 00:08:07,485 --> 00:08:09,785 Speaker 1: But sometimes after you've had a few drinks, you're not, 182 00:08:09,795 --> 00:08:12,955 Speaker 1: you become a bit more, you know, friendly and you 183 00:08:12,955 --> 00:08:16,685 Speaker 1: don't necessarily you loosen up, right? And when you're being friendly, 184 00:08:16,685 --> 00:08:21,665 Speaker 1: that may be mistaken as a friendly advance or an opening, 185 00:08:21,675 --> 00:08:24,165 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? But to me, um, 186 00:08:24,910 --> 00:08:28,060 Speaker 1: there are ways to, of course, not put yourself at risk, 187 00:08:28,070 --> 00:08:30,610 Speaker 1: but if it does happen to you, my answer would 188 00:08:30,610 --> 00:08:32,030 Speaker 1: be called security immediately. 189 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,710 Speaker 2: Right. Actually, quite a lot of like, security for 190 00:08:34,710 --> 00:08:37,900 Speaker 1: sure. Because if it happens to you and you don't 191 00:08:37,900 --> 00:08:39,870 Speaker 1: report it could happen to someone else. But, 192 00:08:39,870 --> 00:08:41,990 Speaker 2: you know, the problem with that is sometimes, I don't 193 00:08:41,990 --> 00:08:44,290 Speaker 2: know if you girls have heard about this but what 194 00:08:44,290 --> 00:08:47,820 Speaker 2: if the security downplays it, like, tell the patients that 195 00:08:47,830 --> 00:08:51,530 Speaker 2: you're probably just imagining it didn't really touch you. I 196 00:08:51,530 --> 00:08:52,810 Speaker 2: didn't see it happen. 197 00:08:52,820 --> 00:08:56,020 Speaker 1: Firstly, that's a very terrible thing to be saying or doing. 198 00:08:56,020 --> 00:08:58,850 Speaker 1: But we have seen cases where the justice system or 199 00:08:58,850 --> 00:09:03,550 Speaker 1: the system has failed, you know, victims. Um, in that case, 200 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:06,170 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, try to seek help elsewhere like 201 00:09:06,170 --> 00:09:08,750 Speaker 1: with your friends or even if it's really like a 202 00:09:08,750 --> 00:09:12,070 Speaker 1: serious case, the police go straight to police, correct? I 203 00:09:12,070 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: think it's also very important that, you know, when you 204 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:17,250 Speaker 1: already know that you're putting yourself in a higher risk 205 00:09:17,250 --> 00:09:20,679 Speaker 1: situation like that, right by going out by, you know, drinking. 206 00:09:20,690 --> 00:09:22,460 Speaker 1: I think it's very important that, 207 00:09:23,010 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 1: you know, your friends, you know, these people will take 208 00:09:27,050 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 1: care of you that they will stand up for you, 209 00:09:30,330 --> 00:09:32,530 Speaker 1: that you can go to them at any time and 210 00:09:32,540 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: they're protective of you, 211 00:09:34,090 --> 00:09:38,170 Speaker 2: right? But in the situation that the security fails, your 212 00:09:38,170 --> 00:09:41,170 Speaker 2: friends are all intoxicated, there's no one you can depend on. 213 00:09:41,179 --> 00:09:43,950 Speaker 2: I suggest that you leave the place, just come back 214 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,729 Speaker 2: another time or go back to another place next time 215 00:09:46,740 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 2: and just have fun. Well, I feel like, you know, 216 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:51,679 Speaker 2: it's very tough like how you handle this situation. 217 00:09:51,830 --> 00:09:54,890 Speaker 2: But I think what's most important is you really have 218 00:09:54,890 --> 00:09:55,360 Speaker 2: to 219 00:09:55,559 --> 00:09:57,849 Speaker 2: make sure you are aware and conscious of your own 220 00:09:57,850 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 2: decisions after having a few drinks. Oh, 221 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:02,969 Speaker 1: definitely. I think you see, we mentioned this in a 222 00:10:02,970 --> 00:10:05,390 Speaker 1: previous episode as well, that alcohol could be a risk 223 00:10:05,390 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: factor for this. And, you know, we also covered victim 224 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:10,860 Speaker 1: blaming and at the end of the day, yes. You know, 225 00:10:10,860 --> 00:10:14,250 Speaker 1: it is still um on the person, you know, and 226 00:10:14,250 --> 00:10:16,630 Speaker 1: the person's upbringing and morals and ethics not to do 227 00:10:16,630 --> 00:10:19,690 Speaker 1: something shitty like this. But if you are going to 228 00:10:19,690 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 1: be going out and partying and being in the nightlife, 229 00:10:22,170 --> 00:10:23,450 Speaker 1: I think there are certain things that 230 00:10:23,460 --> 00:10:25,660 Speaker 1: you can do to protect yourself and we'll cover that 231 00:10:25,660 --> 00:10:26,479 Speaker 1: later for 232 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:29,270 Speaker 2: sure. So for now, a fun quiz, all our listeners 233 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:32,460 Speaker 2: hash podcast can take part and you goes as well. Okay. 234 00:10:32,470 --> 00:10:34,700 Speaker 2: What type of drunk are you? 235 00:10:35,510 --> 00:10:37,380 Speaker 1: A 236 00:10:37,390 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 2: total of four types of drunk? Okay. The first one, 237 00:10:40,050 --> 00:10:43,910 Speaker 2: Hemingway's so your personality don't change much when you drink 238 00:10:43,920 --> 00:10:48,250 Speaker 2: and Hemingway's actually make up 40% of drinkers. Okay. Your conscience, 239 00:10:48,260 --> 00:10:51,359 Speaker 2: your intellect, they're mostly unaffected. Okay. 240 00:10:51,620 --> 00:10:55,329 Speaker 2: Drunk. Number two, Mary Poppins, the more you drink, the 241 00:10:55,330 --> 00:11:00,540 Speaker 2: more extroverted you get, you become especially cheerful, friendly outgoing, 242 00:11:00,550 --> 00:11:04,329 Speaker 2: but you tend to experience a few alcohol related problems. 243 00:11:04,340 --> 00:11:08,900 Speaker 2: Number three, the nutty professors, they are most uninhibited when 244 00:11:08,900 --> 00:11:12,089 Speaker 2: they drink, which means they are very vocal about their thoughts. No, 245 00:11:12,090 --> 00:11:15,630 Speaker 2: no restraints. You may be typically shy and self conscious, 246 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,570 Speaker 2: but when you're drunk, you have the great 247 00:11:17,730 --> 00:11:22,400 Speaker 2: increase in extroversion and the last type of drunk Mr Heights, 248 00:11:22,410 --> 00:11:26,340 Speaker 2: they are the mean types of drugs. Okay, greatest decrease 249 00:11:26,350 --> 00:11:30,430 Speaker 2: in intellect, okay. Most likely to experience negative consequences from 250 00:11:30,429 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 2: drinking such as getting in fights blacking out or puking 251 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:34,720 Speaker 2: on people's brand new. 252 00:11:35,010 --> 00:11:39,319 Speaker 1: Wow. I'm the fifth type that take care of all 253 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:43,530 Speaker 1: the drugs. Oh, you know, I think Hazy 254 00:11:43,850 --> 00:11:46,970 Speaker 1: is a Hemingway. I think so too. Right. Because you're 255 00:11:46,970 --> 00:11:50,449 Speaker 1: the same. Yeah, it doesn't really change much. She's that 256 00:11:50,460 --> 00:11:51,910 Speaker 1: funny when she's drunk. 257 00:11:51,910 --> 00:11:54,870 Speaker 2: She's definitely not funny. No, you're like 258 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:59,350 Speaker 1: next level. Funny. No, but you're already very cheerful and 259 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:02,290 Speaker 1: outgoing and drunk. It's more like just an elevated version 260 00:12:02,290 --> 00:12:05,010 Speaker 1: of that. But I don't think your personality changes. Right. 261 00:12:05,020 --> 00:12:07,459 Speaker 2: And I feel like for me, I'm brilliant. Also when 262 00:12:07,460 --> 00:12:09,410 Speaker 2: I'm drunk I feel sleepy. I just want to go home. 263 00:12:09,425 --> 00:12:10,554 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want to sleep. 264 00:12:10,565 --> 00:12:12,975 Speaker 1: I just want to sleep. You know, it's the end 265 00:12:12,975 --> 00:12:15,985 Speaker 1: of the night when she's like her eyes. Like, yeah. 266 00:12:15,995 --> 00:12:17,984 Speaker 2: What time is it? Can we go home? Okay. I 267 00:12:17,985 --> 00:12:20,755 Speaker 2: think for Germany actually, 268 00:12:20,755 --> 00:12:23,305 Speaker 1: I know which one I am. Mary Poppins. Yes. 269 00:12:23,315 --> 00:12:27,444 Speaker 2: Yeah, Mary Poppins. You become especially cheerful, friendly, outgoing. When 270 00:12:27,445 --> 00:12:30,344 Speaker 2: Jimmy's drunk, you see her on the sofa just talking away. Oh, yeah, 271 00:12:30,355 --> 00:12:32,565 Speaker 2: for sure. She's been on every single so far in 272 00:12:32,565 --> 00:12:33,875 Speaker 2: every club. Yeah, 273 00:12:33,885 --> 00:12:34,985 Speaker 1: cool. 274 00:12:35,510 --> 00:12:39,250 Speaker 1: No, this happens. Right. Because I get so outgoing and friendly. Right. 275 00:12:39,260 --> 00:12:40,870 Speaker 1: So I go out and then I come back and 276 00:12:40,870 --> 00:12:42,770 Speaker 1: then I wake up and I follow like 20 new 277 00:12:42,770 --> 00:12:46,260 Speaker 1: people on Instagram and I'm like, who are you? And 278 00:12:46,260 --> 00:12:48,270 Speaker 1: then I see them again the next time they're like, Hey, 279 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:49,809 Speaker 1: remember me? I'm like, yeah. 280 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:51,210 Speaker 1: So do you unfold 281 00:12:51,210 --> 00:12:52,020 Speaker 2: at some point? I want 282 00:12:52,020 --> 00:12:55,180 Speaker 1: to ask that. Um, if I truly don't remember you, 283 00:12:55,179 --> 00:12:57,510 Speaker 1: I will. But most of the time I will have 284 00:12:57,510 --> 00:12:59,980 Speaker 1: some sort of like inkling as to, oh, we met 285 00:12:59,980 --> 00:13:02,630 Speaker 1: last night or something. Yeah. So actually, right, you know, 286 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:06,210 Speaker 1: a couple of years ago I had this friend who 287 00:13:06,220 --> 00:13:09,310 Speaker 1: was in a long term relationship and then basically should 288 00:13:09,309 --> 00:13:12,030 Speaker 1: happened and they broke up and then for the next 289 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:15,510 Speaker 1: three years, every single time he was drunk, 290 00:13:15,660 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: he'll be wailing in tears for the next three years. 291 00:13:21,250 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: I guess he was like, set down. Maybe it's um, 292 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:27,380 Speaker 1: the situation that you're in as well, like your mental 293 00:13:27,380 --> 00:13:29,940 Speaker 1: state when you go out and drink, it's like you're 294 00:13:29,940 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: already angry about something. Maybe the alcohol will make you 295 00:13:33,050 --> 00:13:34,470 Speaker 1: more aggressive, more aggressive. 296 00:13:34,495 --> 00:13:35,525 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. But 297 00:13:35,525 --> 00:13:37,574 Speaker 2: I feel like also knowing what type of drunk you 298 00:13:37,575 --> 00:13:40,515 Speaker 2: are helps you in making your decisions. So if you know, 299 00:13:40,515 --> 00:13:42,645 Speaker 2: you're like, for example, the set type or like the angry, 300 00:13:42,645 --> 00:13:45,695 Speaker 2: aggressive type then limit your alcohol. Am I right? So 301 00:13:45,695 --> 00:13:47,445 Speaker 2: you don't do the wrong, stupid, dumb 302 00:13:47,445 --> 00:13:50,355 Speaker 1: things. Actually, I learned recently that vodka makes me cry. 303 00:13:50,365 --> 00:13:52,435 Speaker 1: So I will be staying away from vodka. Thank you 304 00:13:52,434 --> 00:13:53,330 Speaker 1: very much. 305 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:56,870 Speaker 2: So, what makes you the most happy tequila? 306 00:13:59,130 --> 00:14:03,179 Speaker 1: Yeah. Goodbye. Vodka. Okay. 307 00:14:03,190 --> 00:14:05,490 Speaker 2: Now that we've discussed the different types of drugs, how 308 00:14:05,490 --> 00:14:09,230 Speaker 2: about some possible ways to protect ourselves without coming across 309 00:14:09,230 --> 00:14:11,310 Speaker 2: as aggressive or like, you know, whatever. 310 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:14,650 Speaker 1: I think the one biggest thing that I've learned is 311 00:14:14,660 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: knowing your limit. Everybody, everyone has a different limit to alcohol. 312 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,390 Speaker 1: And I think the biggest cause of, you know, being 313 00:14:22,390 --> 00:14:24,030 Speaker 1: in an unsafe position is 314 00:14:24,053 --> 00:14:26,753 Speaker 1: binge drinking. You can only have a certain number of 315 00:14:26,763 --> 00:14:28,853 Speaker 1: drinks an hour, but obviously that's not realistic when you 316 00:14:28,853 --> 00:14:32,183 Speaker 1: go out, right? So just know your limit. Um and 317 00:14:32,183 --> 00:14:35,093 Speaker 1: know when to have self control to reject drinks. 318 00:14:35,103 --> 00:14:37,293 Speaker 2: That's so important because for me, you know, sometimes when 319 00:14:37,293 --> 00:14:40,773 Speaker 2: I'm high of things, I just stop rejecting drinks. You 320 00:14:40,773 --> 00:14:43,253 Speaker 2: just want to keep drinking to keep that like high 321 00:14:43,253 --> 00:14:44,153 Speaker 2: feeling going. 322 00:14:44,153 --> 00:14:45,773 Speaker 1: But is that going to be safe? Is that 323 00:14:45,796 --> 00:14:49,536 Speaker 1: responsible decision making? That is very true. I saw a 324 00:14:49,536 --> 00:14:53,036 Speaker 1: video recently which said that your body can only process 325 00:14:53,036 --> 00:14:57,426 Speaker 1: like this amount of alcohol every like our like two 326 00:14:57,426 --> 00:15:01,996 Speaker 1: or three drinks, basically actually lesser I think like half 327 00:15:01,996 --> 00:15:04,436 Speaker 1: a shot or maybe one shot. That's what you can 328 00:15:04,436 --> 00:15:07,540 Speaker 1: process like every hour. But you're thinking like every hour, 329 00:15:07,750 --> 00:15:13,240 Speaker 1: but you're taking like 55 shots every 10 minutes, right? 330 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: So it builds up and that's when, because your body 331 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:19,250 Speaker 1: can't break it down like fast enough. Another thing that 332 00:15:19,250 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 1: I think has been really useful is adopting a buddy system. Yeah. 333 00:15:23,770 --> 00:15:26,110 Speaker 1: So buddy system is where you go out and you 334 00:15:26,110 --> 00:15:29,190 Speaker 1: and that one friend, you guys will get each other home. 335 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:32,110 Speaker 1: So no matter what, you're going to get each other home, 336 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,330 Speaker 1: you're going to watch each other. You're gonna go to 337 00:15:34,330 --> 00:15:36,320 Speaker 1: the bathroom with each other. I mean, especially girls. Right. 338 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:36,630 Speaker 1: Having a 339 00:15:36,647 --> 00:15:39,597 Speaker 1: buddy for the night and I just think it's responsible that, 340 00:15:39,607 --> 00:15:40,897 Speaker 1: you know, you know, your limit or you have a 341 00:15:40,897 --> 00:15:42,577 Speaker 1: buddy because at the end of the day, if you're 342 00:15:42,577 --> 00:15:45,657 Speaker 1: going to be drinking past your limit and ending up, like, 343 00:15:45,667 --> 00:15:48,527 Speaker 1: blacked out on the floor outside of the club that 344 00:15:48,537 --> 00:15:50,997 Speaker 1: is on you. Right. Right. Yeah. And you have no 345 00:15:50,997 --> 00:15:53,117 Speaker 1: friend to take care of you. You could very well 346 00:15:53,117 --> 00:15:54,577 Speaker 1: be taken advantage of. Right. 347 00:15:54,587 --> 00:15:56,337 Speaker 2: I think it's a good point having a buddy system 348 00:15:56,337 --> 00:15:59,547 Speaker 2: because it not just forces you to be responsible for yourself. 349 00:15:59,557 --> 00:16:03,657 Speaker 2: You also have to drink just less, you know, just 350 00:16:03,657 --> 00:16:05,530 Speaker 2: so you can be responsible for the friend 351 00:16:05,544 --> 00:16:07,384 Speaker 2: that you promised to take care of. Exactly. 352 00:16:07,394 --> 00:16:10,964 Speaker 1: What if they're like, both drunk ish. Then how does 353 00:16:10,964 --> 00:16:12,644 Speaker 1: this buddy system? Hold up. That's 354 00:16:12,644 --> 00:16:15,234 Speaker 2: why your body is a motivation for you to sort of, like, 355 00:16:15,234 --> 00:16:18,804 Speaker 2: control your drinks. But it happens. I know. 356 00:16:18,814 --> 00:16:20,934 Speaker 1: I mean, yes, we make mistakes and we're not saying like, 357 00:16:20,944 --> 00:16:23,424 Speaker 1: we haven't made those same mistakes, right? But we're just 358 00:16:23,424 --> 00:16:27,464 Speaker 1: saying to the best of your abilities actually, sometimes. Right? 359 00:16:27,464 --> 00:16:31,284 Speaker 1: I see people pass out like, on the streets with 360 00:16:31,284 --> 00:16:34,374 Speaker 1: no one and I'm like, wow, your friends, 361 00:16:34,441 --> 00:16:36,901 Speaker 1: where are your friends? Now? I've seen a photo that 362 00:16:36,901 --> 00:16:39,301 Speaker 1: someone posted. I don't know if you saw this two 363 00:16:39,301 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 1: guys passed out on top of each other covered in 364 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:45,400 Speaker 1: their own vomit and their wallets, their cards and everything 365 00:16:45,410 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 1: all over the floor. Like anyone could just steal your 366 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:50,100 Speaker 1: ship and run. Then what happened to them? I don't 367 00:16:50,100 --> 00:16:52,940 Speaker 1: know because someone posted a picture of these guys and 368 00:16:52,940 --> 00:16:55,570 Speaker 1: saying like, wow, why you drink until like that? I 369 00:16:55,580 --> 00:16:58,410 Speaker 1: always wondered like, where are your friends? Like, oh my God, 370 00:16:58,410 --> 00:17:01,609 Speaker 1: your friends are not good. Maybe they are also really, 371 00:17:01,610 --> 00:17:03,330 Speaker 1: really drunk or 372 00:17:03,340 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 1: maybe these two guys were buddies and then they both 373 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:06,740 Speaker 1: passed out. It's possible. 374 00:17:06,750 --> 00:17:09,359 Speaker 2: Very possible. So my next suggestion it may not be 375 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:12,580 Speaker 2: well received, but it may work. Consider going alcohol free 376 00:17:12,580 --> 00:17:15,070 Speaker 2: for the night. Okay. I know we all go out, 377 00:17:15,070 --> 00:17:17,770 Speaker 2: you know, wanting to be like intoxicated, wanting to be high, 378 00:17:17,770 --> 00:17:20,140 Speaker 2: have some fun. But you know, during the World Cup 379 00:17:20,140 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 2: 2022 Qatar, the host country decided to ban alcohol. But 380 00:17:25,250 --> 00:17:28,110 Speaker 2: despite that many people still say they have fun and 381 00:17:28,109 --> 00:17:31,640 Speaker 2: most importantly, women said that they felt safer. I 382 00:17:31,650 --> 00:17:32,220 Speaker 1: think that's great. 383 00:17:32,230 --> 00:17:35,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so. Actually, you know, Avery who is 384 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 1: just on the podcast, right? Sometimes when he goes out 385 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 1: and he knows he doesn't want to have a sit 386 00:17:40,260 --> 00:17:42,850 Speaker 1: or a drop of drink that night, he will ride 387 00:17:42,850 --> 00:17:45,330 Speaker 1: his bike to the club and he will reject all 388 00:17:45,330 --> 00:17:48,540 Speaker 1: drinks because having rode his bike to the club, it's 389 00:17:48,540 --> 00:17:51,290 Speaker 1: motivation for him to reject any drink. Because if he 390 00:17:51,290 --> 00:17:54,170 Speaker 1: doesn't write and people ask like, why you drove you, 391 00:17:54,170 --> 00:17:56,169 Speaker 1: you wrote today and he says no, and then they 392 00:17:56,170 --> 00:17:58,450 Speaker 1: will try to ply him with drinks. So it's, that's 393 00:17:58,450 --> 00:17:59,330 Speaker 1: his tactic. But 394 00:17:59,330 --> 00:18:01,050 Speaker 2: people will be nice enough to like, not force him 395 00:18:01,050 --> 00:18:01,119 Speaker 2: to 396 00:18:01,330 --> 00:18:03,010 Speaker 2: if you, right? Because it's a 397 00:18:03,010 --> 00:18:05,830 Speaker 1: responsible thing to do. Don't drink and drive. Actually, it's true. 398 00:18:05,830 --> 00:18:08,119 Speaker 1: You know, like, I think the minute you say you're 399 00:18:08,119 --> 00:18:10,700 Speaker 1: driving or you're writing, people are like, okay. Yeah, they 400 00:18:10,700 --> 00:18:13,389 Speaker 1: give you a pass. They're like, no, you shouldn't be drinking, right? 401 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 2: Oh, and don't bring too much baggage into the club. 402 00:18:16,010 --> 00:18:18,379 Speaker 1: Don't bring a brand new Chanel back. Yeah, I know. 403 00:18:18,380 --> 00:18:21,340 Speaker 1: I have a friend. She's lost her phone, like five 404 00:18:21,340 --> 00:18:24,050 Speaker 1: times last year. She lost her laptop, like twice last 405 00:18:24,050 --> 00:18:25,399 Speaker 1: year because she brought them in the club because she 406 00:18:25,400 --> 00:18:27,469 Speaker 1: goes right after work, right? Or she's doing work and 407 00:18:27,470 --> 00:18:30,010 Speaker 1: she brings everything, you know. Yeah. 408 00:18:30,290 --> 00:18:33,949 Speaker 1: So try not to bring so many things at the 409 00:18:33,950 --> 00:18:36,770 Speaker 1: end of the day. If, if you are, if your 410 00:18:36,770 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 1: friend is a high risk situation, like a fight or 411 00:18:41,080 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: flight situation, attack her, put a damn tracker on. 412 00:18:45,810 --> 00:18:49,010 Speaker 2: Have you ever been attacked? No, 413 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:51,350 Speaker 1: I'm not a high risk. 414 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:55,150 Speaker 2: Next. I know many people want to film like some 415 00:18:55,150 --> 00:18:57,629 Speaker 2: happenings in the club for example, when there's a fight 416 00:18:57,630 --> 00:18:59,959 Speaker 2: or like there's something interesting happening, they will film it 417 00:18:59,970 --> 00:19:02,310 Speaker 2: and post it on tiktok for the views and the 418 00:19:02,310 --> 00:19:05,440 Speaker 2: likes and engagement, right? But actually this puts you in 419 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:09,410 Speaker 2: a high risk situation. What if like the person in 420 00:19:09,410 --> 00:19:11,770 Speaker 2: the video finds out who you are, which you will 421 00:19:11,770 --> 00:19:13,369 Speaker 2: because your account inside your tiktok 422 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:18,100 Speaker 2: and he just approaches you outside of the club or 423 00:19:18,100 --> 00:19:21,450 Speaker 2: you might be mistaken as someone involved in the fight itself. 424 00:19:21,460 --> 00:19:24,830 Speaker 1: That's true. I mean, sometimes, you know, mind your own business, right? 425 00:19:24,830 --> 00:19:27,490 Speaker 1: And just, yeah, if you can get help, get help. 426 00:19:27,490 --> 00:19:29,679 Speaker 1: But yeah, just to film it and post it might 427 00:19:29,680 --> 00:19:32,330 Speaker 1: not be the best idea. Correct. If you see a fight, 428 00:19:32,330 --> 00:19:34,359 Speaker 1: just call security, 429 00:19:34,369 --> 00:19:36,139 Speaker 2: sometimes it's a bit hard to fight the urge to 430 00:19:36,140 --> 00:19:37,340 Speaker 2: want to film it down. 431 00:19:37,510 --> 00:19:39,590 Speaker 1: I know. I know, especially in the 432 00:19:40,580 --> 00:19:41,500 Speaker 2: Yes, 433 00:19:41,510 --> 00:19:45,570 Speaker 1: it's me. I wasn't talking about 434 00:19:45,570 --> 00:19:45,909 Speaker 2: you. 435 00:19:46,910 --> 00:19:49,070 Speaker 2: Okay. So last but not least you know, if you're 436 00:19:49,070 --> 00:19:52,930 Speaker 2: a victim, try to shout if you have been inappropriately touched. 437 00:19:52,940 --> 00:19:55,419 Speaker 1: But that may be tough in the club is very loud. 438 00:19:55,430 --> 00:19:59,550 Speaker 1: Um Actually, you know, this did happen to me at 439 00:19:59,550 --> 00:20:04,230 Speaker 1: this festival that we had last year. Um I felt because, 440 00:20:04,230 --> 00:20:06,550 Speaker 1: you know, obviously everyone had been drinking, right? But I 441 00:20:06,550 --> 00:20:08,420 Speaker 1: felt someone smacked my ass. 442 00:20:08,650 --> 00:20:10,750 Speaker 1: I felt just like a and then I looked back 443 00:20:10,750 --> 00:20:12,610 Speaker 1: and there's no one else around. It's just only this 444 00:20:12,609 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: one guy, everyone else's minding their own business. So what 445 00:20:15,080 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 1: I did was I told the server at the table, 446 00:20:17,530 --> 00:20:21,130 Speaker 1: I said that guy just smacked my ass. Um Can 447 00:20:21,130 --> 00:20:22,949 Speaker 1: you just keep him away from me? And then for 448 00:20:22,950 --> 00:20:24,469 Speaker 1: the rest of the night, she was just watching out 449 00:20:24,470 --> 00:20:26,600 Speaker 1: for me and I stayed away from the guy. I 450 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,970 Speaker 1: didn't like shout or whatever because I don't know if 451 00:20:28,980 --> 00:20:32,899 Speaker 1: it was an accident. I don't know if you know, yeah, 452 00:20:32,900 --> 00:20:34,510 Speaker 1: he was conscious of what he was doing. 453 00:20:34,660 --> 00:20:36,369 Speaker 1: Um And I didn't want to, I don't wanna make 454 00:20:36,369 --> 00:20:38,950 Speaker 1: a deal of it, right? Because I wasn't sure. So 455 00:20:38,950 --> 00:20:41,720 Speaker 1: I just told the server to keep him away. I 456 00:20:41,730 --> 00:20:44,959 Speaker 1: think it also helps to have like code signs of 457 00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:50,679 Speaker 1: your friends. Like, like, like, like, like, like let's like, 458 00:20:51,190 --> 00:20:52,350 Speaker 1: like what would at least, 459 00:20:54,090 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 1: okay, maybe, right? Like they don't know when they should 460 00:20:58,410 --> 00:21:02,490 Speaker 1: keep you away and when they shouldn't understand what I mean, 461 00:21:02,500 --> 00:21:04,810 Speaker 1: like they may think you're interested in that person but 462 00:21:04,810 --> 00:21:07,780 Speaker 1: you're not. So you need to have a sign. I 463 00:21:07,780 --> 00:21:10,159 Speaker 1: have a look usually, like, if I want to get 464 00:21:10,170 --> 00:21:12,350 Speaker 1: out of the situation, I'll look to a girlfriend. I'd 465 00:21:12,350 --> 00:21:14,580 Speaker 1: be like, 466 00:21:14,590 --> 00:21:18,230 Speaker 1: yeah, it's like the guys talking and then the end 467 00:21:18,230 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 1: will come over. Like, hey, even I do that every sometimes. Yeah, 468 00:21:23,330 --> 00:21:25,170 Speaker 1: so they can take you away that sort of thing, 469 00:21:25,170 --> 00:21:28,189 Speaker 1: you know, because, like, they may think that, like, oh, 470 00:21:28,190 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 1: maybe you like the guy, maybe, like you want to, 471 00:21:30,090 --> 00:21:31,899 Speaker 1: you want to talk to, should we come up with 472 00:21:31,900 --> 00:21:33,669 Speaker 1: a sign right now? Okay. 473 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 2: It looks subtle enough, 474 00:21:37,730 --> 00:21:39,950 Speaker 2: very subtle, very subtle. 475 00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:41,960 Speaker 1: Like it could be a dance move, you know. Yeah. 476 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:44,250 Speaker 1: But like you wouldn't accidentally do it. It can't be 477 00:21:44,250 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 1: like a like a talk. Yeah, because you might do that. 478 00:21:47,050 --> 00:21:47,810 Speaker 1: And then 479 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:53,859 Speaker 1: so let's do the hit ball. Okay. The rotation isolation 480 00:21:53,869 --> 00:21:55,830 Speaker 1: that get me out of this situation. 481 00:21:56,619 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 1: Okay. We shall adopt that. 482 00:21:58,570 --> 00:22:01,129 Speaker 2: Go on for listeners. You can adopt that as well. 483 00:22:01,140 --> 00:22:01,590 Speaker 2: If we 484 00:22:01,590 --> 00:22:04,260 Speaker 1: see it in the club we'll save, you know, it's 485 00:22:04,260 --> 00:22:07,350 Speaker 1: like those signs that they have like some bus you 486 00:22:07,350 --> 00:22:10,610 Speaker 1: can go and like once you, they have like code names, 487 00:22:10,619 --> 00:22:12,770 Speaker 2: you can speak to the bartender 488 00:22:12,790 --> 00:22:16,429 Speaker 1: or something, angel drink or something. That's what they say. 489 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 1: Then that means that you are in a danger situation. 490 00:22:19,850 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 2: Oh That's so cool. 491 00:22:20,820 --> 00:22:25,620 Speaker 1: Okay. So remember this? Yeah, isolation. Get me situation. 492 00:22:25,630 --> 00:22:28,710 Speaker 2: Okay. But have you heard of the smart clubbing campaign? 493 00:22:29,190 --> 00:22:33,250 Speaker 1: Yes, it's by the Singapore Police. Force. Wow. Okay. So 494 00:22:33,250 --> 00:22:36,340 Speaker 1: actually I just learned about this because I never knew 495 00:22:36,340 --> 00:22:40,270 Speaker 1: there was a smart clubbing campaign. Yeah. So the police 496 00:22:40,270 --> 00:22:43,609 Speaker 1: force actually they re launched a year long campaign that 497 00:22:43,609 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 1: aims to reduce such crimes 498 00:22:45,020 --> 00:22:51,890 Speaker 1: by encouraging nightlife outlets and patrons to adopt smart clubbing practices. 499 00:22:51,900 --> 00:22:55,170 Speaker 1: There's actually a checklist for nightlife outlets on how they 500 00:22:55,170 --> 00:22:59,440 Speaker 1: can create a smarter and safer environment. So among things 501 00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,369 Speaker 1: on the checklist for these outlets or you know, establishments 502 00:23:02,380 --> 00:23:07,180 Speaker 1: include a deploying adequate and easily identifiable security stuff. I 503 00:23:07,180 --> 00:23:09,200 Speaker 1: know is Sarah's favorite, very identify 504 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:13,690 Speaker 1: why have many because he has like blond hair, he 505 00:23:13,690 --> 00:23:17,700 Speaker 1: has like a blond mohawk with friends. Also, they have 506 00:23:17,700 --> 00:23:21,070 Speaker 1: things like having enhanced checks upon entry. So you may 507 00:23:21,070 --> 00:23:23,910 Speaker 1: realize that these days checks at the door a little 508 00:23:23,910 --> 00:23:27,180 Speaker 1: bit more Tara than they used to be. They can 509 00:23:27,180 --> 00:23:31,490 Speaker 1: implement simple measures such as having crime prevention posters. I 510 00:23:31,500 --> 00:23:33,420 Speaker 1: don't know how effective this is but okay, 511 00:23:33,609 --> 00:23:39,340 Speaker 1: brighter lights and also CC tvs. Um you know, enough 512 00:23:39,340 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 1: CC tvs basically so that they can support the law 513 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:43,490 Speaker 1: enforcement 514 00:23:43,490 --> 00:23:47,370 Speaker 2: requests. Nice. So if you guys notice a club that 515 00:23:47,380 --> 00:23:50,199 Speaker 2: you go to their lacking of safe environment, 516 00:23:50,220 --> 00:23:52,070 Speaker 2: I think it's a sign for you to go visit 517 00:23:52,070 --> 00:23:55,650 Speaker 2: somewhere else, you know, where you feel a bit more safe. Absolutely. Okay. 518 00:23:55,660 --> 00:23:58,820 Speaker 2: Final thoughts and advice, girls, how can remind ourselves and 519 00:23:58,820 --> 00:24:01,040 Speaker 2: our friends that consent is very, very 520 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 1: important. Well, I think, you know, when you go out 521 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:08,179 Speaker 1: and you know, you're going to be inebriated. Um That 522 00:24:08,180 --> 00:24:10,990 Speaker 1: buddy system is not just to protect each other, but it's, 523 00:24:11,010 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 1: it might be to protect other people from you. Like 524 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 1: for example, I'll give you an example. You go out 525 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:17,190 Speaker 1: with your friend and you see your friend 526 00:24:17,380 --> 00:24:22,189 Speaker 1: making someone else very uncomfortable. You need to stop that. Don't, 527 00:24:22,190 --> 00:24:24,429 Speaker 1: don't be like, oh ignorance is bliss. Like if I 528 00:24:24,430 --> 00:24:26,970 Speaker 1: don't see it's not happening. Like he's having a good time, 529 00:24:26,980 --> 00:24:31,290 Speaker 1: you know, like have that, you know, ethical responsibility within 530 00:24:31,290 --> 00:24:33,040 Speaker 1: you to put a stop to it. I think it's 531 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:35,419 Speaker 1: very okay to like whenever you see people and you're 532 00:24:35,420 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 1: unsure of how they may be feeling like whether, you know, 533 00:24:38,220 --> 00:24:41,420 Speaker 1: um they're good and they're not like, just go up 534 00:24:41,420 --> 00:24:43,510 Speaker 1: and like, okay, like, yeah, 535 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,890 Speaker 2: even though your friend might be the person making the advances. Exactly. 536 00:24:46,890 --> 00:24:48,550 Speaker 2: You can always go up and check with the other 537 00:24:48,550 --> 00:24:50,899 Speaker 2: party if he or she is having fun. Right. I 538 00:24:50,900 --> 00:24:53,270 Speaker 2: think that's a very important thing to do and just 539 00:24:53,270 --> 00:24:54,220 Speaker 2: make sure everybody is 540 00:24:54,230 --> 00:24:58,240 Speaker 1: okay. And before, you know, moving on to any sexual 541 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:02,770 Speaker 1: activity which may happen, you must always get concerned and it's, 542 00:25:02,780 --> 00:25:03,860 Speaker 1: it's tough to give 543 00:25:04,170 --> 00:25:06,270 Speaker 1: when you're intoxicated. And I know most guys that would 544 00:25:06,270 --> 00:25:10,510 Speaker 1: tell me if a girl is clearly intoxicated, they don't 545 00:25:10,510 --> 00:25:13,710 Speaker 1: even try to like, hook up with them because it's 546 00:25:13,710 --> 00:25:17,270 Speaker 1: just not. Right, actually. Right. Um There was once I 547 00:25:17,270 --> 00:25:20,609 Speaker 1: saw this thing basically outside the club where this girl 548 00:25:20,609 --> 00:25:24,929 Speaker 1: was like, very, very intoxicated and she was seated there 549 00:25:24,930 --> 00:25:27,720 Speaker 1: and um, she, I think had like an injury or 550 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 1: something like the leg was bleeding. 551 00:25:30,470 --> 00:25:34,650 Speaker 1: No, no, no, she's got bruises all over, but she's good. 552 00:25:34,660 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: So she was seated at the site and she was 553 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:40,350 Speaker 1: just trying to like, I don't know, somebody was attending 554 00:25:40,350 --> 00:25:42,820 Speaker 1: to her or something like that and she was like, gone, gone. 555 00:25:42,830 --> 00:25:44,689 Speaker 1: You can tell she was gone, gone, the lights are 556 00:25:44,690 --> 00:25:48,010 Speaker 1: off off. And then there was a guy there with 557 00:25:48,010 --> 00:25:50,580 Speaker 1: her and this guy was like, yeah, that kind of thing, 558 00:25:50,580 --> 00:25:52,290 Speaker 1: you know, and then after that, when I was sitting 559 00:25:52,290 --> 00:25:55,540 Speaker 1: by the side because so see 560 00:25:55,550 --> 00:25:57,580 Speaker 1: you tell her not to be people, then the people 561 00:25:57,590 --> 00:26:03,620 Speaker 1: I talked to security because they were trying to like 562 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,230 Speaker 1: get her home, that kind of thing. Like, do you 563 00:26:06,230 --> 00:26:07,730 Speaker 1: need us to send you to the cab stand? That 564 00:26:07,730 --> 00:26:10,350 Speaker 1: kind of thing? Now with a friend, like, you know, 565 00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,050 Speaker 1: it's a friend like settling her and they said like, no, 566 00:26:13,060 --> 00:26:15,920 Speaker 1: that's not her friend. Like this guy, she literally met 567 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:19,230 Speaker 1: like five minutes ago and he's desperately trying to like, 568 00:26:19,230 --> 00:26:21,310 Speaker 1: never mind, never I take her home, never mind, never mind. 569 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:23,409 Speaker 1: It's okay. So they were trying to get her to 570 00:26:23,410 --> 00:26:25,580 Speaker 1: the campsite and get home safe. But this guy kept 571 00:26:25,580 --> 00:26:27,699 Speaker 1: saying like, no, she's with me like, no, she's my 572 00:26:27,700 --> 00:26:30,640 Speaker 1: friend and obviously she was like, God, like she, she 573 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,010 Speaker 1: wasn't saying anything. She couldn't do anything. Yeah, that's a 574 00:26:34,010 --> 00:26:36,270 Speaker 1: dangerous situation because someone can just say like, hey, I'm 575 00:26:36,270 --> 00:26:38,590 Speaker 1: her friend. Yeah. And we wouldn't know if that's true. So, 576 00:26:38,590 --> 00:26:40,780 Speaker 1: thank goodness for the security who actually watched the whole 577 00:26:40,780 --> 00:26:42,730 Speaker 1: thing go down and, and, you know, made their own 578 00:26:42,730 --> 00:26:45,220 Speaker 1: analysis of it. I think it's very, very important. Safe 579 00:26:45,220 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 1: clubbing campaign 580 00:26:47,090 --> 00:26:52,060 Speaker 1: smart. Not very smart, but we love her anyway. 581 00:26:52,070 --> 00:26:55,030 Speaker 2: Well, last but not least, you know, having fun is important, 582 00:26:55,030 --> 00:26:57,950 Speaker 2: but so is your safety? Okay. The last thing we 583 00:26:57,950 --> 00:27:00,190 Speaker 2: all fear is for a night of good music and 584 00:27:00,190 --> 00:27:04,530 Speaker 2: company ending with a traumatizing incident. So as always, keep 585 00:27:04,530 --> 00:27:07,830 Speaker 2: yourself protected, keep your friends protected and just have fun. 586 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,399 Speaker 2: Drink less. Enjoy the night. Okay with that. Thank you 587 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,650 Speaker 2: so much for tuning into this episode of calamities. 588 00:27:14,300 --> 00:27:17,010 Speaker 2: Don't forget to follow us on Instagram at its clarity 589 00:27:17,010 --> 00:27:17,330 Speaker 2: dot 590 00:27:17,340 --> 00:27:19,400 Speaker 1: com. That's right. You can listen to us on me, 591 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,570 Speaker 1: listen Apple podcast, Spotify and don't forget to turn on 592 00:27:22,570 --> 00:27:26,119 Speaker 1: the notifications. That's right. 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