WEBVTT - Should men always pay on the first date? 0:00:00.000 --> 0:00:02.450 Hey, it's sonia. It's been a hot minute since we 0:00:02.450 --> 0:00:05.750 came back for men explained, but we are officially back 0:00:13.660 --> 0:00:16.349 in case you forgot me already, which you better not have, 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:18.759 I will come and look for you. We really have 0:00:18.770 --> 0:00:21.040 amazing guests to come on down and join us every 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:24.020 single episode to debunk lots of topics and on top 0:00:24.020 --> 0:00:26.870 of that we get really down and dirty and honest, 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:29.970 literally all opinions are aired and there's no holds barred 0:00:29.980 --> 0:00:32.010 when it comes to these episodes. Today, I have a 0:00:32.010 --> 0:00:34.560 very special guest, we've hung out personally, I think like 0:00:34.570 --> 0:00:36.890 one time and I already know some of his dirty 0:00:36.890 --> 0:00:39.130 secrets because it was over a couple of drinks. 0:00:39.150 --> 0:00:41.220 Please welcome. Hi, 0:00:41.220 --> 0:00:44.420 I'm, I'm from the Chinese radio station. Just 93. 0:00:44.430 --> 0:00:48.820 Yes, so you are basically the mandarin version of 987. 0:00:48.820 --> 0:00:50.700 We kind of reflect each other in that sort 0:00:50.700 --> 0:00:53.910 of, we play like the hip chinese songs you love, 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:54.800 you know, if 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:57.050 you have no clue what is a hip chinese song 0:00:57.050 --> 0:00:58.420 right now, please try me. 0:00:58.430 --> 0:01:00.420 Okay, how about Right? 0:01:00.430 --> 0:01:04.620 No, I know it's the only guy I, 0:01:04.850 --> 0:01:06.480 you know, you're a new album, just 0:01:06.870 --> 0:01:09.100 has a new album. 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So tell us a bit more you came 0:01:25.500 --> 0:01:28.190 into this industry, is it at all what you expected? 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.050 I don't know when I came into the industry was 0:01:30.130 --> 0:01:33.009 technically about 5 to 6 years ago when I first 0:01:33.010 --> 0:01:35.280 step we made a cop that was after the competition. 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.149 So I was from the same batch as hazel, right? 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:40.070 And then we joined the competition together. I got a 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:42.770 part time contract with me, The cop started doing part time, 0:01:42.770 --> 0:01:45.030 like a weekend DJ kind of thing. I did my 0:01:45.030 --> 0:01:48.540 internship here as well and then I left for army 0:01:48.540 --> 0:01:51.530 and uni. So I came back after about five years 0:01:51.540 --> 0:01:54.520 each and I just joined the station last year. It 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:55.620 was a very 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:57.950 refreshing experience. Okay, 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:00.580 I mean their ups and downs for sure. And this 0:02:00.580 --> 0:02:03.650 is going to be an equally interesting experience because sometimes 0:02:03.650 --> 0:02:06.140 our guests have no idea what's going to happen during 0:02:06.140 --> 0:02:08.730 the show and today we're addressing this topic and I'm 0:02:08.730 --> 0:02:10.970 sure you have tons of things you want to say. 0:02:10.980 --> 0:02:14.710 Should men always make the first move? Should men always 0:02:14.710 --> 0:02:18.330 pay on the first date? For example, these things, I 0:02:18.330 --> 0:02:21.200 don't know man, I think their expectations in a relationship 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:22.910 and when people start dating and all that. 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:25.470 So I want to kick it off with you. What 0:02:25.470 --> 0:02:27.510 is your dating status right now? Are you dating? 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:28.560 No, you're 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:32.480 not really Not really. Okay. When was the last time 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:34.320 you went on a date date? Oh, 0:02:34.330 --> 0:02:37.180 last time was not too long ago actually. 0:02:37.190 --> 0:02:40.000 Okay, so then in your dating life, have you ever 0:02:40.000 --> 0:02:43.950 encountered people who maybe expect a certain thing out of 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:45.040 their male partner? 0:02:45.050 --> 0:02:46.230 I think I'm quite lucky, 0:02:46.245 --> 0:02:48.915 to be honest. I've never met anyone who set out 0:02:48.915 --> 0:02:51.435 any expectations for me as a partner, but I've heard 0:02:51.435 --> 0:02:55.035 a lot of stories about similar things, like in terms 0:02:55.035 --> 0:02:58.035 of financial status, in terms of, um, I don't know 0:02:58.035 --> 0:03:00.584 your dreams and your goals in life, that sort of things. 0:03:00.595 --> 0:03:04.635 So, so far, your dating experience has been very chill 0:03:04.635 --> 0:03:06.405 and most of them are on the same page as you, 0:03:06.415 --> 0:03:09.405 I will say. So what about you? 0:03:09.740 --> 0:03:12.980 Um, it's interesting. I mean, I usually date older guys 0:03:12.990 --> 0:03:15.630 and I mean, I think my life is an open 0:03:15.630 --> 0:03:18.950 book at this point on men explain so far, you know, 0:03:18.950 --> 0:03:21.220 I as a partner, 0:03:21.450 --> 0:03:24.160 I don't expect someone to get the bill on the 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:29.040 first date. In fact, interesting thing when I started talking 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:33.130 to my current boyfriend, I actually manipulated him to ask 0:03:33.130 --> 0:03:34.350 me out for dinner. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:35.200 Yes, I'm 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:39.400 using the word manipulated like 100% okay, so here's what happened. 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:41.910 He and I met and then we were talking, you know, 0:03:41.910 --> 0:03:44.380 texting quite a bit and stuff like that, but he 0:03:44.390 --> 0:03:47.140 didn't ask me out for like two weeks. That is 0:03:47.140 --> 0:03:49.430 like two years in girl years, you know what I mean, 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:51.390 girl time and then all of a sudden he, 0:03:51.412 --> 0:03:53.382 he goes, hey, you want to hang. So it's like, 0:03:53.392 --> 0:03:56.152 you know, cool. Right? So I said, okay, sure, when, 0:03:56.152 --> 0:04:00.612 when you free, he's like, you want to do lunch, lunch, lunch, 0:04:00.912 --> 0:04:01.702 lunch, 0:04:01.712 --> 0:04:02.702 okay. You tell me what's for 0:04:02.732 --> 0:04:05.702 lunch? I don't know that that's, that's what I say, 0:04:05.702 --> 0:04:07.262 like half the time you want to go to a 0:04:07.262 --> 0:04:08.612 cafe for breakfast or something 0:04:08.622 --> 0:04:10.302 and that's your idea of a first date. 0:04:10.312 --> 0:04:13.352 No, I know I've been making some mistakes, clearly. 0:04:13.362 --> 0:04:17.941 Okay. I don't know whether it's because my idea of 0:04:17.952 --> 0:04:20.012 getting to know someone on a first date would rather 0:04:20.012 --> 0:04:21.352 be a bit formal. 0:04:21.374 --> 0:04:25.013 Like over dinner, over a longer meal. Like lunch feels 0:04:25.014 --> 0:04:27.563 like he has a very valid excuse to rush off. 0:04:27.574 --> 0:04:29.924 Like right after that. You know what I mean? Am 0:04:29.924 --> 0:04:32.814 I overthinking it? I don't know sister, help me out here. 0:04:32.824 --> 0:04:33.763 That's quite valid. Right? 0:04:33.774 --> 0:04:35.784 Yeah, it is valid. So I was thinking to myself, 0:04:35.784 --> 0:04:39.113 this guy isn't really keen on getting to know me 0:04:39.124 --> 0:04:42.724 much better. So then I said, you know what, all 0:04:42.724 --> 0:04:46.184 my lunch dates out for the next two weeks, I'm 0:04:46.184 --> 0:04:48.474 like super busy. So do you want to meet for 0:04:48.474 --> 0:04:51.314 dinner instead? And then he goes, yeah, sure, okay. 0:04:51.336 --> 0:04:53.596 And so I asked him about it a while later, 0:04:53.596 --> 0:04:55.255 I said like how come you didn't ask me out 0:04:55.266 --> 0:04:57.256 to dinner, asked me for lunch. He said, I just 0:04:57.255 --> 0:04:59.436 wanted to like, I wasn't sure whether it will go 0:04:59.436 --> 0:05:02.446 well or not. I'm going to try to not be 0:05:02.446 --> 0:05:04.796 offended right now, but in a long story short. I 0:05:04.796 --> 0:05:07.846 definitely manipulated him to have dinner with me. Yeah, 0:05:07.856 --> 0:05:08.815 awesome. Okay. 0:05:08.826 --> 0:05:11.656 These are like our deepest, darkest thoughts. 0:05:11.666 --> 0:05:12.656 Thanks for sharing. 0:05:12.666 --> 0:05:13.996 Yeah. Welcome, 0:05:14.005 --> 0:05:16.815 lovely to know. But I always thought that it doesn't 0:05:16.815 --> 0:05:19.176 make too much of a difference. It's lunch or dinner, 0:05:19.176 --> 0:05:21.276 but now I know it actually matters 0:05:21.298 --> 0:05:23.438 and I also didn't know that two weeks is like 0:05:23.448 --> 0:05:26.217 two years to go. Very slow replying. So that's the 0:05:26.218 --> 0:05:26.587 first thing 0:05:26.588 --> 0:05:27.648 you're slow in replying 0:05:27.658 --> 0:05:29.928 extremely slow. My friends always say I'll just send a 0:05:29.938 --> 0:05:32.758 pigeon or dove to you. That's faster. And secondly, I 0:05:32.758 --> 0:05:34.827 also think that, you know, I don't want to rush 0:05:34.827 --> 0:05:37.708 into things. I don't want to seem too eager. Okay, 0:05:37.718 --> 0:05:39.087 so just take it slow. 0:05:39.088 --> 0:05:40.907 Okay, so you've got to find it in between the 0:05:40.908 --> 0:05:43.647 guys taking too long to reply me. I'm also going 0:05:43.648 --> 0:05:45.088 to be like, maybe I should move on 0:05:45.098 --> 0:05:46.788 clearly. I have not mastered that. 0:05:46.798 --> 0:05:49.688 So then let's take you back to the first date situation. 0:05:49.698 --> 0:05:51.238 Do you have any expected 0:05:51.550 --> 0:05:54.330 of your date when you guys first meet and go out. 0:05:54.339 --> 0:05:56.210 Okay. There's one I think it's like a pet peeve 0:05:56.210 --> 0:05:59.180 for a lot of people is how they treat service stuff. 0:05:59.190 --> 0:06:01.630 I think that matters a lot. Right? On the first day, 0:06:01.630 --> 0:06:04.330 it doesn't matter whether it's a normal restaurant or go 0:06:04.330 --> 0:06:06.760 to very posh diner, that sort of things. You just 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:10.470 want to see the way they treat the waiter for example. Yeah. 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:12.530 Let's say they get your food order wrong, Let's say 0:06:12.529 --> 0:06:14.700 they're a little bit slow with the service, you know, 0:06:14.700 --> 0:06:16.630 how would they react? I think it's very important. 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.380 It is, it's very telling of someone's character. Have you 0:06:19.380 --> 0:06:21.200 come across someone like this in your dating 0:06:21.222 --> 0:06:21.551 in 0:06:21.552 --> 0:06:22.472 a good way or bad way? 0:06:22.482 --> 0:06:24.101 In a bad way? I guess 0:06:24.112 --> 0:06:26.191 not in a dating sense, but I have friends who 0:06:26.192 --> 0:06:26.882 have done that. 0:06:26.892 --> 0:06:29.712 Are you still friends? Yeah, I 0:06:29.722 --> 0:06:32.351 did speak to the friend afterwards was like, that was 0:06:32.362 --> 0:06:34.332 uncalled for for a little bit. Yeah. 0:06:34.342 --> 0:06:36.902 Safe to say that if a date did that, it 0:06:36.902 --> 0:06:38.402 would be a red flag immediately for 0:06:38.402 --> 0:06:41.522 you, I guess. Yeah, I've done like wedding banquets 0:06:41.522 --> 0:06:42.832 before. You 0:06:42.842 --> 0:06:44.652 see the way that people treat us? We had a 0:06:44.652 --> 0:06:45.212 wedding banquet, 0:06:45.222 --> 0:06:46.402 was it? It was bad. 0:06:46.412 --> 0:06:48.101 Yeah, I mean it was a pretty tough job as well. 0:06:48.101 --> 0:06:50.132 You got to carry loads of plates and the longest 0:06:50.142 --> 0:06:51.190 was about 0:06:51.410 --> 0:06:53.500 16 hours in a day. And then you learn to 0:06:53.500 --> 0:06:55.490 appreciate people working at F&B. Industry. 0:06:55.500 --> 0:06:58.219 Sure, no wonder that is your pet peeve, right? Because 0:06:58.220 --> 0:07:01.110 you've had experience with its like production companies and stuff 0:07:01.110 --> 0:07:03.710 like that when you work with them bringing you back 0:07:03.710 --> 0:07:06.230 to your red flags, which is, you know the service 0:07:06.230 --> 0:07:09.450 staff thing, like you mentioned earlier. What are some expectations 0:07:09.460 --> 0:07:12.630 you think women have of men on the first date, 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.660 the first thing probably be, who's going to pay 0:07:14.675 --> 0:07:18.665 the bill when the bill comes usually will be the guide. Okay. 0:07:18.665 --> 0:07:20.185 Usually used to that. 0:07:20.195 --> 0:07:21.505 Yeah, I think it's the norm. Right? 0:07:21.515 --> 0:07:23.575 So has your date ever offered to pay? 0:07:23.585 --> 0:07:26.305 Yeah. I was like, who offered to pay? 0:07:26.315 --> 0:07:27.985 Did you offer to split or? 0:07:28.085 --> 0:07:30.895 Okay. So what I think is I will always offer 0:07:30.895 --> 0:07:33.595 to pay for the first date. Okay. No matter what 0:07:33.595 --> 0:07:35.805 we got right, I would just, whenever the bill comes, 0:07:35.815 --> 0:07:37.925 I'll pay for it first. And then if the girl 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:43.380 suggests splitting the bill or she offers to pay instead, 0:07:43.390 --> 0:07:45.480 I'll just take it as a huge plus point 0:07:45.490 --> 0:07:48.950 Really because I have some friends whom I've spoken to, 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:52.930 whom I asked if your date offers to split the bill. 0:07:52.930 --> 0:07:55.090 Does that mean that the date went horribly and you 0:07:55.090 --> 0:07:57.760 just don't want to owe anyone anything 0:07:58.090 --> 0:08:01.350 at the end of the day? Yeah. Am I overthinking, 0:08:01.350 --> 0:08:02.520 I have no idea if that's 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:06.370 the case then all my dates have been horrible. I'm sorry. 0:08:06.380 --> 0:08:09.270 He needs to, he needs to be set up on a, 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:11.320 on a date very soon. Honestly, 0:08:11.330 --> 0:08:14.000 I thought it's very normal. Like the guy will always 0:08:14.010 --> 0:08:17.340 offer to pay first and then you just kind of 0:08:17.340 --> 0:08:19.040 like glance over the girl and see whether she wants 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:22.070 to make a little move? Yeah. Like a sudden movement, 0:08:22.070 --> 0:08:24.050 like pretend to take a walk or something that counts. 0:08:24.060 --> 0:08:25.140 At least pretend, 0:08:25.140 --> 0:08:25.940 right? At least pretend, 0:08:25.940 --> 0:08:27.020 right? You 0:08:27.250 --> 0:08:28.060 slowly 0:08:28.078 --> 0:08:28.908 yeah 0:08:28.988 --> 0:08:29.758 away from something 0:08:29.758 --> 0:08:30.678 you see the motion. Yeah. 0:08:30.688 --> 0:08:34.348 Yeah, yeah. Yeah. You can judge a person's character from there. 0:08:34.477 --> 0:08:36.517 But I know sometimes let's say the girl does not 0:08:36.518 --> 0:08:39.788 offer to pay for dinner, right? When she says maybe 0:08:39.788 --> 0:08:40.718 you can grab a drink, 0:08:40.727 --> 0:08:41.658 okay. Then she gets the 0:08:41.658 --> 0:08:42.348 drink gets 0:08:42.538 --> 0:08:45.598 positive. I like that movie. So then let's just say, 0:08:45.598 --> 0:08:48.857 you know, aside from getting the bill on the first date, 0:08:48.868 --> 0:08:52.278 there's so many other expectations that people have for each other. 0:08:52.288 --> 0:08:55.318 I'm going into a relationship or when they start dating 0:08:55.318 --> 0:08:57.798 and all that. When you come to the texting phase, right? 0:08:57.798 --> 0:08:57.998 When 0:08:58.066 --> 0:09:00.826 people, you know, exchange messages usually that's the most exciting 0:09:00.826 --> 0:09:03.066 part when you're like flirting and stuff like that. Usually 0:09:03.066 --> 0:09:04.986 you would be the one making the first move. No. 0:09:04.996 --> 0:09:06.416 Yeah, I would say so. 0:09:06.426 --> 0:09:09.206 Have you ever come across a woman, a girl who 0:09:09.206 --> 0:09:11.536 made the first move and you found it refreshing 0:09:11.546 --> 0:09:14.976 for sure. Has that happened more than refreshing? It's very welcomed. 0:09:14.976 --> 0:09:16.936 I would say. I think most of us like guys 0:09:16.936 --> 0:09:20.066 who are used to making the first move. I'll be texting, asking, 0:09:20.076 --> 0:09:22.516 asking to go out or whatever, right? And then when 0:09:22.516 --> 0:09:25.346 a girl turn the table around and she does it first, 0:09:25.356 --> 0:09:28.035 you'd be like, whoa, that's nice. Who doesn't 0:09:28.054 --> 0:09:30.994 I want to feel like they're being liked by someone else. Yeah. 0:09:31.004 --> 0:09:32.144 Need to boost your ego a little bit. 0:09:32.154 --> 0:09:33.724 Yeah. 0:09:33.734 --> 0:09:36.233 So I mean of course we have that too. And then, 0:09:36.234 --> 0:09:38.953 you know, there's so many other like rules of dating, 0:09:38.953 --> 0:09:41.194 such as when you text, like, you always have to 0:09:41.194 --> 0:09:44.494 be the one to initiate stuff like that. Does this 0:09:44.494 --> 0:09:45.914 still happen? Or is this like a high school 0:09:45.914 --> 0:09:49.724 thing I think doesn't happen as often as high school 0:09:49.734 --> 0:09:51.934 I mentioned last time, it's always like, the guy must 0:09:51.934 --> 0:09:53.304 make a lot of move. Just 0:09:53.304 --> 0:09:55.644 waiting on my Motorola phone, like 0:09:55.644 --> 0:09:57.804 for you can't see the text. 0:09:58.042 --> 0:10:00.662 So I was remember in secondary school, like, a lot 0:10:00.662 --> 0:10:02.891 of girls in class, they'll be like, oh, he just 0:10:02.892 --> 0:10:05.262 texted me but no girl, you cannot reply yet must 0:10:05.261 --> 0:10:05.652 play hard to 0:10:05.652 --> 0:10:07.102 get weight 0:10:07.112 --> 0:10:09.641 Exactly 22 minutes to reply. And I was like, what 0:10:09.642 --> 0:10:12.131 the number 23? I don't know, is the magic number 0:10:12.142 --> 0:10:13.112 just make it look random? 0:10:13.112 --> 0:10:15.782 Yeah, just like, just don't make him feel like you 0:10:15.782 --> 0:10:17.612 actually want to give him attention. 0:10:17.622 --> 0:10:21.932 So as we grow up and we get very busy, 0:10:21.942 --> 0:10:24.572 we actually don't have time to reply. So, you know, 0:10:24.572 --> 0:10:26.862 it's a different ballgame altogether. So I'm going to take 0:10:26.862 --> 0:10:28.030 it one step further. 0:10:28.350 --> 0:10:31.020 How do you feel about women proposing to men? 0:10:31.030 --> 0:10:33.189 Honestly, I don't know what to feel about it. I 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:37.880 feel like the whole proposing situation is very stressful. Like, 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:39.510 wouldn't it be a little bit paranoid? Okay, let's say 0:10:39.510 --> 0:10:42.400 you are in the long-term relationship with someone and then 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.740 you are not 100% sure that the person will say 0:10:44.740 --> 0:10:48.000 yes and then I wouldn't get a little bit awkward. 0:10:48.410 --> 0:10:50.809 I don't know. I personally I don't think too much 0:10:50.820 --> 0:10:54.140 into proposals and stuff. Like I feel like it should 0:10:54.140 --> 0:10:57.080 be a moment between two people can be simple. It 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:58.350 doesn't have to be extravagant. 0:10:58.350 --> 0:10:59.480 Don't you 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:03.740 know, don't don't put the laser beam stuff on MBS 0:11:03.750 --> 0:11:04.940 for a balloon or something 0:11:04.950 --> 0:11:07.790 or that drone thing. There was this guy, this drone 0:11:07.790 --> 0:11:09.810 thing like, marry me, please. But she says no. Oh 0:11:09.809 --> 0:11:09.949 my 0:11:09.950 --> 0:11:11.209 God. Or 0:11:11.210 --> 0:11:14.600 worse, special to say yes. And then she's like, sorry, 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:14.930 actually 0:11:14.929 --> 0:11:15.859 met at a concert. 0:11:16.020 --> 0:11:16.980 Yeah, like 0:11:16.990 --> 0:11:17.940 thousands of people and 0:11:17.950 --> 0:11:19.830 jay chou to say something. 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:21.180 You can't say no, right? 0:11:21.190 --> 0:11:22.730 You can't say no, you can't say no. I mean 0:11:22.730 --> 0:11:25.790 you can technically, but you'd be pressured to say yes. 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:26.880 Yeah. But not really. 0:11:26.890 --> 0:11:29.849 Yeah, But let me talk later, Let's talk. 0:11:30.270 --> 0:11:33.120 But I've seen a lot of women now proposing to 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:36.550 their partners, which is very interesting. I wonder whether that 0:11:36.550 --> 0:11:40.800 makes you and fellow bros feel you know, a certain way. Like, 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:43.460 do you feel like awkward or like I should have 0:11:43.460 --> 0:11:44.840 done that, you know, kind of thing. 0:11:44.850 --> 0:11:46.800 Yeah. I think a little bit, a little part of us, 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:49.199 we feel like maybe I should have made a move first. 0:11:49.210 --> 0:11:52.860 Is it? Like, am I being too reluctant? Am I 0:11:52.860 --> 0:11:54.060 too oblivious to 0:11:54.077 --> 0:11:56.017 to what's going on here. Why am I not the 0:11:56.017 --> 0:11:58.027 one making the move? Because typically I think we're all 0:11:58.027 --> 0:12:00.607 taught that the guy should be the one making all 0:12:00.607 --> 0:12:00.837 the 0:12:00.977 --> 0:12:01.827 moves, right? 0:12:01.837 --> 0:12:05.406 Such big decisions, especially like proposing. I think it's very 0:12:05.407 --> 0:12:08.997 refreshing to see ladies take the turn instead. Okay, 0:12:09.006 --> 0:12:11.567 so then I guess when it comes back to the 0:12:11.567 --> 0:12:14.057 whole dating scene, right, when you're going out and you're 0:12:14.057 --> 0:12:15.837 hanging out and stuff like that, let me give you 0:12:15.837 --> 0:12:17.867 a situation. So it 0:12:17.884 --> 0:12:20.343 for example, you guys are deciding where to go for 0:12:20.344 --> 0:12:25.374 dinner and your date suggests like a super expensive Michelin 0:12:25.374 --> 0:12:27.084 star restaurant. Okay, 0:12:27.094 --> 0:12:28.034 okay, Okay. 0:12:28.044 --> 0:12:30.774 Would you be like, Okay to pay for that if 0:12:30.774 --> 0:12:34.194 it's like 500 per hit? You know? Or do you 0:12:34.194 --> 0:12:36.954 think that the person who suggested the place should offer 0:12:36.953 --> 0:12:38.384 to split or pay for it to 0:12:38.394 --> 0:12:41.363 honestly have not been put in such a situation before? 0:12:41.691 --> 0:12:43.691 I can't imagine what it will be like. But honestly, 0:12:43.691 --> 0:12:45.231 I feel like the two of you should agree on 0:12:45.231 --> 0:12:48.420 a place that you both want to explore or you're 0:12:48.421 --> 0:12:51.371 comfortable with financially, right? You can't be walking into a 0:12:51.371 --> 0:12:53.651 place that you know, you can't afford and you will 0:12:53.651 --> 0:12:56.951 never financially recover from it and it still offered to 0:12:56.951 --> 0:13:00.011 pay the bill? I don't think it makes sense that Yeah, 0:13:00.021 --> 0:13:03.441 so it's good to communicate first and see if you 0:13:03.441 --> 0:13:05.500 guys can reach a mutual agreement 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:07.670 rather than forcing yourself to go to a place you're 0:13:07.670 --> 0:13:08.510 not comfortable with 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:13.219 So then if your partner is constantly suggesting expensive places 0:13:13.230 --> 0:13:14.790 every time you guys are going out, is that a 0:13:14.790 --> 0:13:15.530 red flag for you? 0:13:15.540 --> 0:13:19.220 I think it depends on what is your financial situation, 0:13:19.220 --> 0:13:22.030 what is this? So if they're running away like way 0:13:22.030 --> 0:13:24.360 more than you, right, you can understand why they want 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:26.420 to go to more extravagant places. 0:13:26.460 --> 0:13:27.360 It's a lifestyle. I think 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.540 you should, you know, suggest to them that, hey, maybe 0:13:30.550 --> 0:13:30.920 I don't 0:13:31.150 --> 0:13:33.710 enjoy some hawker food today. Chicken 0:13:33.710 --> 0:13:34.540 rice is nice too. 0:13:34.550 --> 0:13:35.350 It's a balance. 0:13:35.365 --> 0:13:38.135 Yeah, I think you should communicate more and let them 0:13:38.135 --> 0:13:41.355 know that you're not comfortable going out to expensive restaurants 0:13:41.365 --> 0:13:42.305 every single time 0:13:42.315 --> 0:13:45.085 and you have not encountered someone like this before, 0:13:45.095 --> 0:13:46.304 luckily yeah, 0:13:46.315 --> 0:13:49.585 actually your dating life has been quite team. Any interesting 0:13:49.585 --> 0:13:51.515 stories or not from your past dates, 0:13:51.525 --> 0:13:52.545 defined interest 0:13:52.554 --> 0:13:54.345 that you want to spill here on the show. 0:13:54.355 --> 0:13:57.215 I feel like I'm still learning the whole dating scene, 0:13:57.225 --> 0:14:00.515 really, you're still learning, but he's so eligible. What's going 0:14:00.515 --> 0:14:03.554 on here? There must be something wrong. Tell me what, 0:14:03.565 --> 0:14:05.005 what 0:14:05.309 --> 0:14:09.240 are you, are you like generally an introvert for example, 0:14:09.250 --> 0:14:12.450 or you're an introvert? Okay, and yet you're in the media, 0:14:12.530 --> 0:14:14.829 you know, lovely. And I'm a, I'm a radio DJ, 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.290 so talk nonstop every day 0:14:17.300 --> 0:14:21.600 and technically back in the past, being a radio presenter 0:14:21.610 --> 0:14:24.500 may have come across as a slightly introverted alone all 0:14:24.500 --> 0:14:26.970 the time, but now it's different, you're on camera, you know, 0:14:26.970 --> 0:14:30.800 you are hosting things outside in front of hundreds of people, 0:14:30.905 --> 0:14:34.375 you're visiting schools, you're doing so many things. Does that 0:14:34.385 --> 0:14:38.345 or your point or your line of work affect your 0:14:38.345 --> 0:14:41.975 dating life sometimes. Like do do do women look at 0:14:41.975 --> 0:14:44.145 you sometimes think like, oh, he must be very fancy 0:14:44.145 --> 0:14:45.665 or in a lot like, you know, let me, 0:14:45.675 --> 0:14:47.575 I'm sure you have experience similar 0:14:47.585 --> 0:14:50.725 I have over in Zurich actually the last time we 0:14:50.765 --> 0:14:52.805 had there was a guy that came up to me 0:14:52.815 --> 0:14:55.255 and he said, hey, you're sonia. And he was like, hey, 0:14:55.255 --> 0:14:56.495 let me get you a drink. 0:14:56.770 --> 0:14:58.720 And I said sure, like sure. And I was just 0:14:58.720 --> 0:15:00.790 with friends and I wasn't seeing anyone at the point 0:15:00.790 --> 0:15:04.020 in time. And then he goes, I really want to 0:15:04.020 --> 0:15:05.480 ask you for your number and I want to ask 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:08.370 you out. And he was like, but the only thing 0:15:08.370 --> 0:15:10.260 that's stopping me is that I'm sure you only at 0:15:10.260 --> 0:15:14.030 Michelin star restaurants and I was like, okay, that was 0:15:14.030 --> 0:15:15.900 the ultimate turn off for me. I was, I was 0:15:15.910 --> 0:15:17.980 I know, I don't expect him to know me, 0:15:18.110 --> 0:15:20.530 but it's just that he had an assumption of me 0:15:20.530 --> 0:15:24.370 based on what he sees from social media. Either social media, 0:15:24.380 --> 0:15:26.590 but then again on social media even post anything 0:15:26.750 --> 0:15:29.490 you like, but merely a hawker center. 0:15:29.500 --> 0:15:31.970 Yeah, I'll be like fine, yeah, I love hawker food, 0:15:31.980 --> 0:15:33.110 like why not? 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:34.540 Why make that assumption? I 0:15:34.540 --> 0:15:36.340 don't know exactly in the first place. So I did 0:15:36.340 --> 0:15:38.270 tell him like, hey man, I'm sorry, I'm not really 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.280 interested to continue the conversation but 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:42.720 like hope that hope you know that I don't only 0:15:42.730 --> 0:15:46.630 michelin's tariffs. In fact that is like a rare occasion. 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:49.070 So that was my, my incident. I don't know if 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:51.450 you have come across anything related to 0:15:51.450 --> 0:15:54.290 That. Well I've met a lot of people like we're 0:15:54.290 --> 0:15:56.670