1 00:00:00,420 --> 00:00:00,740 Speaker 1: so 2 00:00:00,750 --> 00:00:01,830 Speaker 2: It's zero. And I'm 3 00:00:01,830 --> 00:00:07,030 Speaker 1: jemaine and welcome back to another episode of clarity's she. Now, 4 00:00:07,030 --> 00:00:10,660 Speaker 2: today we are talking about some adult ng stuff, adopting 5 00:00:10,660 --> 00:00:11,480 Speaker 1: rocks, 6 00:00:11,490 --> 00:00:16,020 Speaker 2: sorry that she's struggling as you can see and we'll 7 00:00:16,020 --> 00:00:18,470 Speaker 2: find out more about that. But it's something that is, 8 00:00:18,470 --> 00:00:21,080 Speaker 2: I think very relevant to people our age moving out 9 00:00:21,090 --> 00:00:23,220 Speaker 2: and living on your own. So actually 10 00:00:23,220 --> 00:00:24,870 Speaker 1: this is very common in the US, right? 11 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,250 Speaker 2: It's super common in the US. I think over there, right. 12 00:00:27,340 --> 00:00:29,710 Speaker 2: a majority of them would have moved out of their 13 00:00:29,710 --> 00:00:32,650 Speaker 2: parents home by the age of 27, which is 14 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:35,270 Speaker 2: Our age essentially one year ago. 15 00:00:35,310 --> 00:00:36,490 Speaker 1: Usually 16 00:00:36,490 --> 00:00:38,690 Speaker 2: they movin like, sorry, they move out like a lot 17 00:00:38,690 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 2: earlier from 19 years old, they start moving out, but 18 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:42,730 Speaker 2: by 27 they're like, oh 19 00:00:42,740 --> 00:00:45,010 Speaker 1: My goodness. If at the age of 19, I tell 20 00:00:45,010 --> 00:00:47,070 Speaker 1: my parents I want to move out there. They will 21 00:00:47,070 --> 00:00:51,780 Speaker 1: totally be like move out, stay with me 22 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,070 Speaker 1: meaning who would take care of all the asian parents, 23 00:00:56,070 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: you know, they really care and love us 24 00:00:57,650 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: In Singapore is just very different I think with the 25 00:00:59,920 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 2: legal situation and all that, you know, we are taught 26 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:04,250 Speaker 2: that only 35 years old that will move out and 27 00:01:04,250 --> 00:01:07,590 Speaker 2: all that. But I think we got to really discuss today, 28 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:09,300 Speaker 2: is it better to stay at home or move out 29 00:01:09,310 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 2: without your parents? I think 30 00:01:10,930 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: especially over the past two years when Covid hit us, 31 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: many people find staying at home a struggle. I mean 32 00:01:17,290 --> 00:01:20,420 Speaker 1: there are pros and their cons, obviously you get to 33 00:01:20,420 --> 00:01:22,350 Speaker 1: spend a lot more time for family but sometimes this 34 00:01:22,350 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: may come with a lot more arguments 35 00:01:24,330 --> 00:01:26,740 Speaker 2: like who has to do the chores and all that 36 00:01:26,740 --> 00:01:30,220 Speaker 2: and we have a very apt brand sponsoring our episode today. 37 00:01:30,230 --> 00:01:33,100 Speaker 2: Thank you Philips and especially the phillips, wet and dry 38 00:01:33,100 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 2: cordless vacuum clean. Make sure you listen on Hazy has 39 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,770 Speaker 2: something that she wants to tell us that she tried 40 00:01:39,770 --> 00:01:41,390 Speaker 2: to do with the vacuum cleaner. Please do not try 41 00:01:41,390 --> 00:01:43,150 Speaker 2: at home. That's right. So I think in recent years 42 00:01:43,150 --> 00:01:44,940 Speaker 2: there have been a lot more reports of young adults, 43 00:01:44,940 --> 00:01:47,970 Speaker 2: even my friends moving out getting apartments of their own 44 00:01:47,970 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 2: and like you hazy 45 00:01:48,970 --> 00:01:52,300 Speaker 1: for me it was because my HDB was undergoing what 46 00:01:52,300 --> 00:01:54,980 Speaker 1: they call the H. I. P. Program Home improvement program. 47 00:01:54,980 --> 00:01:55,350 Speaker 1: So 48 00:01:55,510 --> 00:01:56,660 Speaker 1: it's gonna, 49 00:01:56,740 --> 00:01:59,180 Speaker 1: it's going to cost like a mess at home. It's 50 00:01:59,180 --> 00:02:00,610 Speaker 1: going to be tough for me. I was still in 51 00:02:00,610 --> 00:02:02,940 Speaker 1: the night belt then so it's not possible for me 52 00:02:02,940 --> 00:02:05,270 Speaker 1: to come home at like 12 am and still have 53 00:02:05,270 --> 00:02:08,380 Speaker 1: to go downstairs to the void deck to shower because 54 00:02:08,380 --> 00:02:11,430 Speaker 1: the shower facilities were out. They were basically upgrading our 55 00:02:11,430 --> 00:02:11,970 Speaker 1: toilets 56 00:02:11,970 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 2: there right over your toilet and then they build containers 57 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:15,959 Speaker 2: downstairs and then you've got to 58 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 2: shower downstairs. But it's like a festival. Exactly. 59 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,120 Speaker 1: So who is going to go down at two AM 60 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: to shower. Even my parents felt that okay maybe for 61 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,650 Speaker 1: this period of time, maybe it's better for you to 62 00:02:27,660 --> 00:02:30,830 Speaker 1: get a place outside. So I started to look around, 63 00:02:30,830 --> 00:02:34,220 Speaker 1: I found a place 200 square feet just one room, 64 00:02:34,220 --> 00:02:37,590 Speaker 1: super small, cozy, very humble but it came with a toilet. 65 00:02:37,590 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: So I thought you know it's actually pretty convenient for 66 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,550 Speaker 1: me especially if I drive, that area is perfect. 67 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:45,350 Speaker 2: I feel like you were a bit nervous about moving 68 00:02:45,350 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 2: out at the start, you know being on your own 69 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:50,510 Speaker 2: and all that, but you have really grown into it. 70 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 2: I 71 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:52,650 Speaker 1: have like, you know to the point when I told 72 00:02:52,650 --> 00:02:55,590 Speaker 1: my parents, I don't really feel like moving back. I 73 00:02:55,590 --> 00:02:58,669 Speaker 1: felt super bad about that because every time I go 74 00:02:58,669 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: home to see them they are just exactly telling me 75 00:03:02,169 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: maybe the renovations will be done soon, you can come 76 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,419 Speaker 1: home soon, you know and I'm just like, oh I 77 00:03:07,419 --> 00:03:10,210 Speaker 1: hope like the renovations get delayed for a bit more 78 00:03:10,210 --> 00:03:12,060 Speaker 1: because of like Covid and all that, which 79 00:03:12,340 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: it did actually, the renovations were delayed and every time 80 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,420 Speaker 1: it just felt like so thankful. But you know when 81 00:03:17,419 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: the time came 82 00:03:18,740 --> 00:03:22,690 Speaker 1: when the renovations were fully completed, the painting jobs all done, 83 00:03:22,700 --> 00:03:25,590 Speaker 1: they told me Amy is ready, you can come home 84 00:03:25,590 --> 00:03:27,460 Speaker 1: now and I just had to break it to them. 85 00:03:27,460 --> 00:03:30,070 Speaker 1: Like you know what dad and mom, I'm actually very 86 00:03:30,070 --> 00:03:32,530 Speaker 1: comfortable living outside and I feel like I have a 87 00:03:32,530 --> 00:03:34,060 Speaker 1: lot more space of my own. 88 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: I don't feel like coming back. I feel like, no 89 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:39,950 Speaker 1: they didn't but I feel like from my dad's reaction, 90 00:03:39,950 --> 00:03:43,910 Speaker 1: he saw this coming a long time ago. But my mom, she, 91 00:03:43,910 --> 00:03:46,580 Speaker 1: she tried to fight for it. She tried to be like, 92 00:03:46,590 --> 00:03:49,100 Speaker 1: you know what, like who can help you wash your clothes, 93 00:03:49,100 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: you come home, you know, 94 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:52,710 Speaker 1: you live like a princess, you open the fridge, there's 95 00:03:52,710 --> 00:03:53,970 Speaker 1: food for you anytime. 96 00:03:53,970 --> 00:03:55,820 Speaker 2: Your mom is very smart. She was the way 97 00:03:55,830 --> 00:03:58,780 Speaker 1: exactly. She knows I like grapes and she said, Mommy 98 00:03:58,780 --> 00:04:01,990 Speaker 1: always buy grapes for you. Open the fridge, there's grapes 99 00:04:01,990 --> 00:04:04,910 Speaker 1: already who take care of you when you're staying outside. 100 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:07,470 Speaker 1: And I felt, I felt super bad luck not because, 101 00:04:07,470 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: you know, I have to do my own housework, but 102 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:11,990 Speaker 1: because I know they really want me back at home 103 00:04:11,990 --> 00:04:12,860 Speaker 1: with them. But 104 00:04:12,870 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 2: I think a lot of people faced this situation where 105 00:04:15,530 --> 00:04:17,310 Speaker 2: in a sense, I'm so sorry to say this, but 106 00:04:17,310 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 2: their guilt tripped by their parents 107 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 2: Into staying in their family home. And we asked right 108 00:04:22,370 --> 00:04:26,340 Speaker 2: on our Instagram, a small poll, about 68% of our 109 00:04:26,339 --> 00:04:29,810 Speaker 2: listeners still live with their parents. So here begs the question, 110 00:04:29,820 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 2: do you all think it's unfilmable 111 00:04:32,140 --> 00:04:35,150 Speaker 2: to move out of, you know, your parents home before 112 00:04:35,150 --> 00:04:35,710 Speaker 2: getting married 113 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:37,270 Speaker 1: before getting married? I 114 00:04:37,270 --> 00:04:39,940 Speaker 2: think it's a perception thing, you know, because it's not 115 00:04:39,950 --> 00:04:42,470 Speaker 2: to say that in other cultures it's completely normal to 116 00:04:42,470 --> 00:04:44,590 Speaker 2: move out and it's not to say that they're not 117 00:04:44,589 --> 00:04:46,860 Speaker 2: failed to their parents, you know what I mean? So 118 00:04:46,860 --> 00:04:49,740 Speaker 2: I think it's a perception of which when you move out, 119 00:04:49,750 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 2: you're not with them all the time, you don't spend 120 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:54,250 Speaker 2: as much time, you may not come back to see them. 121 00:04:54,339 --> 00:04:56,539 Speaker 2: You know, you're not around to help them with things. 122 00:04:56,550 --> 00:04:58,979 Speaker 2: So I think it's that sort of like, it's an 123 00:04:58,980 --> 00:05:02,250 Speaker 2: asian thing, it's a cultural kind of situation, 124 00:05:02,260 --> 00:05:04,490 Speaker 1: You know what? In fact, I feel that after moving out, 125 00:05:04,500 --> 00:05:07,780 Speaker 1: my relationship with my parents improved, especially 126 00:05:07,779 --> 00:05:09,140 Speaker 2: people. Yeah, right. 127 00:05:09,140 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 1: And I am actually pretty amazed to find out to 128 00:05:12,279 --> 00:05:13,659 Speaker 1: find this because 129 00:05:13,940 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: maybe if we see each other more often, of course 130 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 1: there's going to be more friction. We're going to quarrel 131 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: a bit more. And sometimes it's a bit hard to 132 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:21,650 Speaker 1: just like 133 00:05:22,740 --> 00:05:26,380 Speaker 1: let it go. But after moving out and then maybe 134 00:05:26,390 --> 00:05:28,529 Speaker 1: sometimes you video call your mom, you talk to her 135 00:05:28,529 --> 00:05:30,820 Speaker 1: on the phone or you come back like every weekend, right? 136 00:05:30,830 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: Whenever she says something that you know would annoy you, 137 00:05:33,690 --> 00:05:35,180 Speaker 1: you find it easier to let go 138 00:05:35,190 --> 00:05:36,570 Speaker 2: because you're leaving correct 139 00:05:36,570 --> 00:05:39,030 Speaker 1: because you tell yourself okay, just for this weekend, it's 140 00:05:39,029 --> 00:05:40,510 Speaker 1: just for this weekend, I just have to make my 141 00:05:40,510 --> 00:05:41,810 Speaker 1: mom happy and you know 142 00:05:41,810 --> 00:05:45,110 Speaker 2: what they always say, right, absence makes the heart grow fonder. 143 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,529 Speaker 2: It's true. It's being away from your parents. In fact 144 00:05:47,529 --> 00:05:48,330 Speaker 2: you miss them more. 145 00:05:48,339 --> 00:05:49,609 Speaker 1: I do. You 146 00:05:49,610 --> 00:05:51,789 Speaker 2: miss the grapes. You missed the washing of clothes. 147 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:54,380 Speaker 1: It's true. It's true every time I go back, I 148 00:05:54,380 --> 00:05:56,979 Speaker 1: just feel like I'm a kid all over again, I 149 00:05:56,990 --> 00:05:58,860 Speaker 1: don't have to do a single thing. I literally go 150 00:05:58,860 --> 00:05:59,460 Speaker 1: back home 151 00:05:59,540 --> 00:06:01,550 Speaker 1: throw my bags on the floor and lie in my 152 00:06:01,550 --> 00:06:03,810 Speaker 1: bed and then my mom would wake me up for dinner, 153 00:06:03,810 --> 00:06:04,510 Speaker 1: that kind, 154 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:09,730 Speaker 2: she picked up your bag. It makes you more appreciative 155 00:06:09,730 --> 00:06:11,350 Speaker 2: of the little things that they do because when you 156 00:06:11,350 --> 00:06:13,250 Speaker 2: live with them, you take it for granted and then 157 00:06:13,250 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 2: it becomes like even nice things that they do for 158 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:17,510 Speaker 2: you become irritating sometimes. 159 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:19,460 Speaker 1: So like 160 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,609 Speaker 1: it's hard for me to say this, but it's true 161 00:06:22,650 --> 00:06:24,650 Speaker 2: but it happens to so many people, I think the 162 00:06:24,650 --> 00:06:26,860 Speaker 2: three of us are blessed in a situation where 163 00:06:26,940 --> 00:06:29,870 Speaker 2: you know obviously we have a nice comfortable situation at 164 00:06:29,870 --> 00:06:31,900 Speaker 2: our family homes, you know, we're not in any dangerous 165 00:06:31,900 --> 00:06:33,849 Speaker 2: situation that we have to get out of it, but 166 00:06:33,850 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 2: there are many reasons for like wanting to move out 167 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:39,470 Speaker 2: of your parents house, right? So for you it was 168 00:06:39,470 --> 00:06:41,130 Speaker 2: for independence. Freedom. 169 00:06:41,140 --> 00:06:44,580 Speaker 1: It was inconvenient at first after that the freedom kept 170 00:06:44,580 --> 00:06:46,650 Speaker 1: me and I felt 171 00:06:46,740 --> 00:06:49,330 Speaker 1: super guilty also because at that point of time when 172 00:06:49,330 --> 00:06:51,310 Speaker 1: I just moved out, my parents actually came over to 173 00:06:51,310 --> 00:06:53,460 Speaker 1: take a look at my new place and it was 174 00:06:53,460 --> 00:06:55,500 Speaker 1: just to take a look but you know they set 175 00:06:55,500 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: their backs down and they immediately say mamie 176 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:00,460 Speaker 1: take out pass me some cloths, I need to wipe 177 00:07:00,460 --> 00:07:02,890 Speaker 1: up your new place and they spent like three hours. 178 00:07:02,890 --> 00:07:05,990 Speaker 1: They're wiping the fan wiping the table and then going 179 00:07:05,990 --> 00:07:06,650 Speaker 1: like 180 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:09,820 Speaker 1: so dirty. How can my daughter stay in a place 181 00:07:09,820 --> 00:07:12,130 Speaker 1: like that? And then it's not actually very dusty, like 182 00:07:12,130 --> 00:07:15,230 Speaker 1: my parents have high standards and you know, after doing 183 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: all this for me and I'm still not going back 184 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:19,170 Speaker 1: home to them. Well, I feel super guilty, 185 00:07:19,180 --> 00:07:21,230 Speaker 2: don't, I think, don't feel guilty if this is what 186 00:07:21,230 --> 00:07:23,870 Speaker 2: you need to have personal growth, right? I think it's 187 00:07:23,870 --> 00:07:26,460 Speaker 2: important for you. So for Azure and I, well, I'm 188 00:07:26,460 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 2: not married yet, but I still stay with my parents. 189 00:07:28,610 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 2: Zura is married and she stays with her parents. So 190 00:07:33,340 --> 00:07:37,780 Speaker 2: what was the reason? Okay, so in the very beginning, 191 00:07:37,780 --> 00:07:39,679 Speaker 2: I think I just decided to say that because it 192 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:43,450 Speaker 2: was comfortable because I'm the only child. So you know, 193 00:07:43,450 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 2: there's no one else in the house except for my parents, right? Um, 194 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:49,250 Speaker 2: there's no like siblings or whatever. So the space it 195 00:07:49,250 --> 00:07:54,220 Speaker 2: was comfortable. Um, your mother cooks everyday, correct. You know, 196 00:07:54,220 --> 00:07:57,310 Speaker 2: I won't go hungry. She doesn't go like, oh, you're 197 00:07:57,310 --> 00:07:59,570 Speaker 2: in my house, It's my rules. She doesn't say that. 198 00:07:59,580 --> 00:08:03,090 Speaker 2: But sometimes I feel like a bit of friction, a 199 00:08:03,090 --> 00:08:07,270 Speaker 2: bit of friction also in the sense of the marriage, 200 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,050 Speaker 2: let's say between everyone and I sometimes, I wonder if 201 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:14,080 Speaker 2: it would be different if we lived in our own 202 00:08:14,090 --> 00:08:16,490 Speaker 2: as a married couple, correct? Like you would have to, 203 00:08:16,490 --> 00:08:19,060 Speaker 2: take care of more finances. You would have to take 204 00:08:19,060 --> 00:08:21,700 Speaker 2: care of chores? Like it's a different challenge for married couples. 205 00:08:21,710 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 2: Like wouldn't make us more responsible. Would wouldn't make us, 206 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:27,620 Speaker 2: you know, um sort of have a structure, a system 207 00:08:27,620 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 2: that we don't right now. Yeah. So I wonder that 208 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:32,910 Speaker 2: a lot, but I'm still not moving. 209 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: But what about Germany for you? I mean, I'm sure 210 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: your house is very, very comfortable. Have you ever thought 211 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:38,429 Speaker 1: about moving 212 00:08:38,429 --> 00:08:41,790 Speaker 2: out? I've definitely considered and you know, I do, I 213 00:08:41,790 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 2: did try to apply for a Bto at one point, 214 00:08:44,050 --> 00:08:46,560 Speaker 2: but it's so competitive that honestly I want to give up, 215 00:08:47,140 --> 00:08:48,850 Speaker 2: but I'm lucky enough to be able to stay at 216 00:08:48,850 --> 00:08:52,610 Speaker 2: home and have at least some distance from my parents. 217 00:08:52,620 --> 00:08:54,670 Speaker 2: In fact, like I can go 34 days without seeing 218 00:08:54,670 --> 00:08:57,689 Speaker 2: anyone in my family except my dogs love. I see 219 00:08:57,690 --> 00:09:01,420 Speaker 2: my dogs more than my parents, but it's, it's really 220 00:09:01,420 --> 00:09:04,010 Speaker 2: a blessing. Like, you know, the fridge is always stocked, 221 00:09:04,010 --> 00:09:06,530 Speaker 2: There's always bread, There's always eggs if I need fruits 222 00:09:06,530 --> 00:09:09,540 Speaker 2: is always there. You know, I can't imagine living on 223 00:09:09,540 --> 00:09:12,780 Speaker 2: my own when I did that overseas. Right? I really struggled. 224 00:09:12,790 --> 00:09:14,949 Speaker 2: I think I mop my floor maybe 225 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,490 Speaker 2: once a month. I didn't even know how to mop. Sorry, 226 00:09:19,490 --> 00:09:23,310 Speaker 2: hold on. Um, mine was carpeted. So I think I never, 227 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:23,450 Speaker 2: I 228 00:09:23,460 --> 00:09:27,579 Speaker 1: never did this vacuum hold 229 00:09:27,580 --> 00:09:29,510 Speaker 2: on, let me think. I think never like did I 230 00:09:29,510 --> 00:09:32,380 Speaker 2: even own a vacuum when you move overseas? Right. Should 231 00:09:32,380 --> 00:09:33,580 Speaker 2: you buy a vacuum? 232 00:09:33,590 --> 00:09:36,840 Speaker 1: I think yes let's it's very time and energy saving. 233 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:37,260 Speaker 1: You know 234 00:09:37,270 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 2: she brought you back you know she did I did 235 00:09:39,280 --> 00:09:40,809 Speaker 2: when you moved into your new place is 236 00:09:40,809 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: My housewarming gift to which to every friend who visits 237 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:46,750 Speaker 1: my place I would probably show them the vacuum cleaner. 238 00:09:46,910 --> 00:09:49,450 Speaker 1: This is what Jermaine bought for me. You know the 239 00:09:49,450 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 1: 97 DJ was like this there are three different hey 240 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:54,410 Speaker 1: is that kind of thing? 241 00:09:54,420 --> 00:09:56,270 Speaker 2: You know? But the thing is that like okay if 242 00:09:56,280 --> 00:09:58,410 Speaker 2: if I could have brought you something better I would 243 00:09:58,410 --> 00:10:00,510 Speaker 2: have right? But at that point in time we were 244 00:10:00,510 --> 00:10:03,020 Speaker 2: rushing to get you into your new place because now 245 00:10:03,020 --> 00:10:05,170 Speaker 2: there are like vacuum cleaners that can do both. They 246 00:10:05,170 --> 00:10:05,660 Speaker 2: can 247 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:08,950 Speaker 2: mop your floor and also dry your floor. Really man 248 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,170 Speaker 2: it's wet story. So the one that I bought you 249 00:10:11,170 --> 00:10:12,510 Speaker 2: is actually not that good. It's 250 00:10:12,510 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 1: Only the dry one. 251 00:10:13,370 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 2: It's only the driver 252 00:10:14,130 --> 00:10:17,010 Speaker 1: can suck up my hair and everything good enough. How 253 00:10:17,010 --> 00:10:18,859 Speaker 2: much time you save? Like if you can do both. 254 00:10:18,870 --> 00:10:20,660 Speaker 1: Yeah that's why I never mop my floor. 255 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:21,839 Speaker 2: You 256 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:25,130 Speaker 1: know seriously I haven't mop my floor in like a month. 257 00:10:25,140 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: I don't have a mop at home. So sometimes it's 258 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,119 Speaker 1: like there's like patches of dirt. I just take a 259 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:32,780 Speaker 1: wet tissue and like squat down and like scrubbed at 260 00:10:32,780 --> 00:10:36,050 Speaker 1: it furiously and then after it comes off there said 261 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 1: I 262 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:39,010 Speaker 2: would pay to watch a video that I would pay 263 00:10:39,010 --> 00:10:41,609 Speaker 2: good money. How much is 264 00:10:41,620 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 1: enough for me to buy your Philips and 265 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:48,840 Speaker 2: not perhaps right then I will do it. Okay then 266 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 2: what are some of the good things of living on 267 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:52,230 Speaker 2: your own? Try to convince a jury and I had 268 00:10:52,230 --> 00:10:53,260 Speaker 2: to like move out. 269 00:10:53,270 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: I think if you asked me to make a decision, 270 00:10:55,929 --> 00:10:57,780 Speaker 1: I still feel it's better to stay with your parents 271 00:10:57,790 --> 00:11:00,050 Speaker 1: just because you're well taken care of. But if you 272 00:11:00,050 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 1: need your own mental space which is 273 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:04,240 Speaker 1: why we moved out in the first place right then 274 00:11:04,250 --> 00:11:07,780 Speaker 1: staying alone really gives you that freedom. The cleaning of 275 00:11:07,780 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: the toilet is there was once my toilet bowl was 276 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: leaking and I just thought to myself it really affected 277 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,870 Speaker 1: me for days on end and I just thought to myself, 278 00:11:15,870 --> 00:11:17,260 Speaker 1: well if I were at home, 279 00:11:17,340 --> 00:11:20,780 Speaker 1: all I need to say is daddy and that problem 280 00:11:20,780 --> 00:11:23,679 Speaker 1: will be resolved right away. But in my new place 281 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 1: like it affected me for days I had to like 282 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: contact my landlord who had to contact the plumber and 283 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: in the end they changed like the whole toilet bowl 284 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:30,970 Speaker 1: wow, 285 00:11:30,970 --> 00:11:33,260 Speaker 2: this is these are serious problems here and here I 286 00:11:33,260 --> 00:11:35,390 Speaker 2: am complaining. When I come home at like four am 287 00:11:35,390 --> 00:11:37,150 Speaker 2: right the next day my mother would be like 288 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:41,309 Speaker 2: what time do you come home last night because she 289 00:11:41,309 --> 00:11:45,170 Speaker 2: can see on the CCTV you've got timing or check. No, 290 00:11:45,170 --> 00:11:47,790 Speaker 2: last august you can hear me coming back in alright, Yeah, 291 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:50,949 Speaker 2: but sorry man, I come back earlier next time. But 292 00:11:50,950 --> 00:11:52,699 Speaker 2: you know when you resolve a problem like that right? 293 00:11:52,700 --> 00:11:55,060 Speaker 2: Like a toilet problem all by yourself, Don't you feel 294 00:11:55,059 --> 00:11:57,540 Speaker 2: after that? Like why you're so accomplished like you're a 295 00:11:57,550 --> 00:11:58,260 Speaker 2: big girl, you 296 00:11:58,270 --> 00:12:00,590 Speaker 1: know, I don't know, you know what I'm not. I 297 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:02,610 Speaker 1: took one of the glasses, my good friend brian gave 298 00:12:02,610 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 1: me for drinking. I put it under the toilet bowl 299 00:12:05,890 --> 00:12:08,189 Speaker 1: to contain the leaking water. 300 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:09,330 Speaker 2: Question I tell 301 00:12:09,330 --> 00:12:11,949 Speaker 1: you when I wake up, but the cup was overflowing. 302 00:12:11,950 --> 00:12:13,780 Speaker 1: You do not want to see that? So I had 303 00:12:13,780 --> 00:12:16,620 Speaker 1: to pick up that glass, pour with all the water 304 00:12:16,620 --> 00:12:19,220 Speaker 1: and put it back in until the whole issue is resolved. 305 00:12:19,220 --> 00:12:20,590 Speaker 2: Question then, now the glass, what 306 00:12:20,590 --> 00:12:22,320 Speaker 1: happened back on the drinking 307 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:23,050 Speaker 2: table? 308 00:12:23,540 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 2: He's up to you 309 00:12:25,740 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 2: when 310 00:12:25,850 --> 00:12:30,429 Speaker 1: my friends come over and wait because there's two glasses. 311 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: I need to see which one was the one of 312 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 1: the 313 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:34,550 Speaker 2: labeling toilet glass. 314 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:36,670 Speaker 1: Oh my God will not let the glasses 315 00:12:36,670 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 2: are identical, but 316 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:39,300 Speaker 1: I know I have no idea which one is. 317 00:12:39,340 --> 00:12:41,540 Speaker 2: Never mind. We bring our own water when we go, 318 00:12:41,550 --> 00:12:43,940 Speaker 2: you can keep the glass. So we buy her a 319 00:12:43,940 --> 00:12:44,500 Speaker 2: new glass. 320 00:12:44,510 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: That's 321 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:48,970 Speaker 2: a great idea. I honestly think I would enjoy living 322 00:12:48,970 --> 00:12:49,650 Speaker 2: on my own 323 00:12:49,940 --> 00:12:52,390 Speaker 2: mostly because my boyfriend likes to clean, so I don't 324 00:12:52,390 --> 00:12:54,080 Speaker 2: have to do anything. I'm sorry, He likes to cook 325 00:12:54,080 --> 00:12:55,780 Speaker 2: and he likes to clean. Yeah and then I don't 326 00:12:55,780 --> 00:12:59,080 Speaker 2: do anything but I still know ring actually Jack potter Yeah, 327 00:12:59,090 --> 00:13:02,010 Speaker 2: when I moved overseas right. So he came with me 328 00:13:02,010 --> 00:13:03,900 Speaker 2: for the first week just to help me settle in 329 00:13:03,910 --> 00:13:06,950 Speaker 2: and he was scrubbing, he scrubbed the floor five times 330 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:09,309 Speaker 2: in one day, The first day that we moved in, 331 00:13:09,309 --> 00:13:11,620 Speaker 2: he went to the supermarket by everything. He scrubbed the 332 00:13:11,620 --> 00:13:12,230 Speaker 2: floor for me. 333 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:13,209 Speaker 1: Was it that dirty? 334 00:13:13,220 --> 00:13:15,209 Speaker 2: It was quite dirty because it was like a rental place, 335 00:13:15,210 --> 00:13:16,140 Speaker 2: you know I mean? Yeah, 336 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:19,579 Speaker 2: so I don't have to clean like 337 00:13:19,590 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 1: a lucky fellow. That isn't really very lucky. But here's 338 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:25,300 Speaker 1: the question, would you ever move out with a self 339 00:13:25,300 --> 00:13:26,510 Speaker 1: next time? I might 340 00:13:26,510 --> 00:13:29,660 Speaker 2: actually, but you see then I think about, okay if 341 00:13:29,660 --> 00:13:32,460 Speaker 2: further down line, like I have kids or whatever right? 342 00:13:32,470 --> 00:13:34,750 Speaker 2: I would want to stay at home. My mom loves kids. 343 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:36,590 Speaker 2: She would take care of the kids every single day. 344 00:13:36,590 --> 00:13:37,350 Speaker 2: Like 345 00:13:37,360 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: how can I give you a good hands 346 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:41,859 Speaker 2: and if we both still have careers, 347 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:43,979 Speaker 2: how can I give up that chance? No, 348 00:13:43,980 --> 00:13:46,229 Speaker 1: I fully agree. But do you girls feel like you're 349 00:13:46,230 --> 00:13:49,750 Speaker 1: missing out on something like now that you're staying with parents? 350 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:53,050 Speaker 2: I'm the kind of person who likes to make things 351 00:13:53,050 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 2: difficult for myself. You do spare personal. I for some 352 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:03,630 Speaker 2: reason I just enjoy making things difficult for myself. I 353 00:14:03,630 --> 00:14:07,150 Speaker 2: don't know why. And so because of that I have 354 00:14:07,150 --> 00:14:11,100 Speaker 2: this sort of like not say desire but this sort 355 00:14:11,100 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 2: of wondering thought like 356 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:16,740 Speaker 2: maybe I should be running my own household. You know 357 00:14:16,740 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 2: like maybe I 358 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:18,750 Speaker 1: should, even if it's 359 00:14:18,750 --> 00:14:21,240 Speaker 2: harder I have to clean, I have to vacuum the 360 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:22,460 Speaker 2: floor mop the floor. 361 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:25,210 Speaker 2: Maybe I should do it myself to learn. I don't 362 00:14:25,210 --> 00:14:26,980 Speaker 2: know what I'm trying to learn not to be honest. 363 00:14:26,990 --> 00:14:27,190 Speaker 2: Can 364 00:14:27,190 --> 00:14:28,940 Speaker 1: I just bring you back to the time where we 365 00:14:28,940 --> 00:14:30,100 Speaker 1: shared a room in L. 366 00:14:30,110 --> 00:14:32,290 Speaker 2: A. Oh 367 00:14:32,300 --> 00:14:32,900 Speaker 1: scared 368 00:14:32,910 --> 00:14:34,900 Speaker 2: my this rumor was 369 00:14:34,910 --> 00:14:40,940 Speaker 1: 50% of the floor Space Shaw here, Lingerie. They're like 370 00:14:42,030 --> 00:14:42,740 Speaker 2: like 371 00:14:42,750 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 1: goodness. This fella didn't even though she misplaced her wasn't 372 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:49,290 Speaker 1: wallet or like I don't know what was left in Singapore. 373 00:14:49,300 --> 00:14:50,410 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. 374 00:14:50,410 --> 00:14:52,420 Speaker 1: I have no idea how she did the backing. 375 00:14:52,430 --> 00:14:55,630 Speaker 2: Let me tell you I was there to tell us 376 00:14:55,640 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 2: she wouldn't be attacked there. She was almost late to 377 00:14:58,120 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 2: the airport. She through through through through 378 00:14:59,740 --> 00:15:02,660 Speaker 2: lie on the luggage and close it and out the 379 00:15:02,660 --> 00:15:03,960 Speaker 2: door with like 380 00:15:04,340 --> 00:15:06,590 Speaker 2: everything barely even close. Like I could have burst open 381 00:15:06,590 --> 00:15:07,100 Speaker 2: at any point. 382 00:15:07,100 --> 00:15:07,670 Speaker 1: My goodness, 383 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,780 Speaker 1: jeremy can in our week in L. A. She was 384 00:15:15,790 --> 00:15:19,060 Speaker 1: actually vacuuming the floor. She was she was you were 385 00:15:19,070 --> 00:15:20,850 Speaker 2: vacuuming laundry. 386 00:15:20,860 --> 00:15:23,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. And then like wash the dishes, put in the 387 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:24,739 Speaker 1: dishwasher and still enjoy 388 00:15:24,740 --> 00:15:25,580 Speaker 2: washing dishes 389 00:15:25,590 --> 00:15:27,620 Speaker 1: you put in dishwasher, how you don't feel 390 00:15:27,670 --> 00:15:32,980 Speaker 2: like okay, okay cleaning the floor and all that. I 391 00:15:32,980 --> 00:15:35,930 Speaker 2: just like to step on clean floor, right? So 392 00:15:35,930 --> 00:15:37,110 Speaker 1: can I can I think? Okay, 393 00:15:37,110 --> 00:15:40,060 Speaker 2: okay. I'll consider, let me think about it. 394 00:15:40,140 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 2: But there are a lot of things that I think 395 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:44,760 Speaker 2: we take for granted, especially you know with living with 396 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:46,850 Speaker 2: your parents. Let's talk about the good parts. Right? Okay. 397 00:15:46,860 --> 00:15:49,760 Speaker 2: I'll be able to live with our parents. Like if 398 00:15:49,770 --> 00:15:51,239 Speaker 2: I forgot to bring my house key that someone to 399 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,790 Speaker 2: open the door, right? Imagine if you forgot to bring 400 00:15:53,790 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 2: your house 401 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:55,320 Speaker 1: key, I have to call my landlord. 402 00:15:55,330 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 2: Oh no, you can't 403 00:15:57,170 --> 00:15:59,740 Speaker 1: come in at two am the morning. You probably won't 404 00:15:59,740 --> 00:16:01,210 Speaker 1: pick up. You'll 405 00:16:01,210 --> 00:16:01,940 Speaker 2: kick you out. 406 00:16:01,950 --> 00:16:05,060 Speaker 1: Yeah, most probably so no, no, no, no. And sometimes 407 00:16:05,060 --> 00:16:06,750 Speaker 1: if I forget some things right, I can 408 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:09,530 Speaker 1: actually get like a grab delivery back to my place 409 00:16:09,530 --> 00:16:12,660 Speaker 1: when my mom can pass the writer the important stuff 410 00:16:12,660 --> 00:16:14,610 Speaker 1: that I forgot. So this is the point of having 411 00:16:14,610 --> 00:16:16,170 Speaker 1: someone staying with you to 412 00:16:16,170 --> 00:16:17,710 Speaker 2: receive like a picture 413 00:16:18,150 --> 00:16:18,540 Speaker 1: so that 414 00:16:18,730 --> 00:16:21,950 Speaker 2: it feels so bad saying that. But even like chores 415 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 2: having to cook, having to fix things like a toilet bowl. Yeah. 416 00:16:26,010 --> 00:16:28,190 Speaker 2: And imagine what if you see a cockroach? 417 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:30,420 Speaker 1: My goodness that happened to me like 418 00:16:30,570 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 2: there's a cockroach in your 419 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:35,060 Speaker 1: House. Yeah, a small one high up in the ceiling. 420 00:16:35,070 --> 00:16:37,340 Speaker 1: But because I spotted it moves. So I was like 421 00:16:37,350 --> 00:16:40,390 Speaker 1: what is that? And I took my like centered spray 422 00:16:40,390 --> 00:16:42,100 Speaker 1: cleaner things like you know the one you used to 423 00:16:42,100 --> 00:16:44,730 Speaker 1: spray toilet and I spread it out a cockroach for 424 00:16:44,730 --> 00:16:45,950 Speaker 1: 60 seconds straight. 425 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:49,820 Speaker 2: But I just makes it smell nice. It fell 426 00:16:49,820 --> 00:16:52,820 Speaker 1: off the ceiling, fell on the table then immediately wrapped 427 00:16:52,820 --> 00:16:55,610 Speaker 1: it up with like toilet paper and I flushed it down. 428 00:16:55,620 --> 00:17:00,670 Speaker 1: But this is manageable because it's an important one time 429 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:04,460 Speaker 1: I saw a lizard. No, it's super long. No, sometimes 430 00:17:04,460 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 1: I tell myself that my the lizard stay in my room, 431 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 1: you can eat some box and all that, you know? 432 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:09,640 Speaker 1: It's true. It's 433 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:10,490 Speaker 2: true. It's true. It's 434 00:17:10,490 --> 00:17:12,899 Speaker 1: true. It's true. But when I actually saw the lizard 435 00:17:12,900 --> 00:17:15,310 Speaker 1: I thought to myself, oh my gosh. Like translucent one. 436 00:17:15,310 --> 00:17:16,109 Speaker 2: I can see the inside. 437 00:17:16,330 --> 00:17:18,850 Speaker 1: Oh my God. Okay. No, no, no that was quite, quite, 438 00:17:19,500 --> 00:17:19,869 Speaker 2: quite 439 00:17:19,869 --> 00:17:22,919 Speaker 1: solid, but still like so long. I wonder you got 440 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:24,510 Speaker 1: so many bugs in my room for you to eat 441 00:17:24,510 --> 00:17:27,910 Speaker 1: me so fat and happy, you know. So I was 442 00:17:27,910 --> 00:17:29,889 Speaker 1: so afraid I called my helper in and then the 443 00:17:29,890 --> 00:17:32,250 Speaker 1: helper tried to catch it, but to no avail of 444 00:17:32,250 --> 00:17:35,400 Speaker 1: the lizard was too quick. It was still my room 445 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:35,609 Speaker 1: by the 446 00:17:35,619 --> 00:17:37,050 Speaker 2: way. 447 00:17:37,140 --> 00:17:38,920 Speaker 2: Like someone lizard is still in your 448 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:40,670 Speaker 1: room every morning with me up. 449 00:17:40,740 --> 00:17:44,190 Speaker 2: You you should just name it at this point. 450 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:45,020 Speaker 1: She has a name is 451 00:17:45,020 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 2: serena. Okay, Okay. We'll bring some bugs for serena. 452 00:17:50,970 --> 00:17:53,080 Speaker 1: But no, sometimes I'm really wondering like there was this 453 00:17:53,090 --> 00:17:55,670 Speaker 1: other instance. I saw a cockroach and I really did 454 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:58,850 Speaker 1: not dare to just catch it. I was wondering if 455 00:17:58,850 --> 00:18:02,060 Speaker 1: I can just run the cordless vacuum cleaner that 456 00:18:02,340 --> 00:18:05,380 Speaker 1: jeremy gave me over the cockroach. Yeah. And I don't 457 00:18:05,380 --> 00:18:06,780 Speaker 1: know if the colleges start at the you 458 00:18:06,780 --> 00:18:07,760 Speaker 2: know the 459 00:18:07,770 --> 00:18:10,790 Speaker 1: entry point. But then I thought to myself, I really 460 00:18:10,790 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: don't care to empty the vacuum cleaner after that. So 461 00:18:13,850 --> 00:18:15,590 Speaker 1: in the end I didn't do it. But imagine I 462 00:18:15,590 --> 00:18:17,730 Speaker 1: suck it and it goes in and then it starts 463 00:18:17,730 --> 00:18:19,340 Speaker 1: to like run around and 464 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:20,500 Speaker 2: never died in 465 00:18:20,500 --> 00:18:21,030 Speaker 1: house. 466 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:25,209 Speaker 2: Honestly, that's the that's the most disgusting part thing of 467 00:18:25,210 --> 00:18:26,620 Speaker 2: having to like live on your own. 468 00:18:26,630 --> 00:18:28,850 Speaker 1: Right, my daddy would have like taken care of that. 469 00:18:28,859 --> 00:18:33,060 Speaker 2: Just grab it. I'm sorry but I'm that person in 470 00:18:33,060 --> 00:18:33,860 Speaker 2: my house 471 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 2: who will take care of cockroaches 472 00:18:35,410 --> 00:18:44,020 Speaker 1: can come and stay for a few days and she 473 00:18:44,020 --> 00:18:44,700 Speaker 2: can spray 474 00:18:44,710 --> 00:18:48,070 Speaker 1: my center spray lavender. Okay, 475 00:18:48,260 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 2: so you are the one I am. Let me give 476 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:53,820 Speaker 2: you a situation. Let's see if you had lived with 477 00:18:53,820 --> 00:18:55,950 Speaker 2: me at that time. Would you have dead? Okay, so 478 00:18:55,950 --> 00:18:58,760 Speaker 2: I lived in cambodia for half a year on my own. 479 00:18:59,340 --> 00:19:02,310 Speaker 2: And when I came out into the living room one 480 00:19:02,310 --> 00:19:02,669 Speaker 2: day 481 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:06,490 Speaker 2: there was a rat right there? Okay. 482 00:19:06,490 --> 00:19:07,830 Speaker 1: Became cleaner. Can no, no, 483 00:19:07,830 --> 00:19:09,270 Speaker 2: no, no, no, please, please please please 484 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,980 Speaker 2: big rat. But it was dead. 485 00:19:12,010 --> 00:19:13,760 Speaker 1: How big How big? Give us an idea 486 00:19:13,770 --> 00:19:16,620 Speaker 2: like this big about how do you say the size 487 00:19:16,619 --> 00:19:20,570 Speaker 2: of my ipad mini. It's quite massive rat. It's 488 00:19:20,570 --> 00:19:21,710 Speaker 1: a long 489 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:25,669 Speaker 2: cannot cannot not very long cannot carry that. You carry. 490 00:19:25,670 --> 00:19:26,669 Speaker 2: Got weight and got 491 00:19:27,140 --> 00:19:30,140 Speaker 2: I mean like cockroach listed the kind like 492 00:19:30,140 --> 00:19:31,710 Speaker 1: nothing, you know, but you cannot leave it there. What? 493 00:19:31,710 --> 00:19:35,590 Speaker 1: Because once it starts decomposing at the end of the mosquito, 494 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:35,969 Speaker 1: what 495 00:19:35,970 --> 00:19:37,510 Speaker 2: do you do by the way? Oh no, I just 496 00:19:37,510 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 2: called somebody to come and I would have done that way. 497 00:19:40,609 --> 00:19:43,300 Speaker 2: There's no way I'm picking up their read correctly. I 498 00:19:43,310 --> 00:19:44,679 Speaker 2: just don't know why I decided to die in the 499 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:45,120 Speaker 2: living room. 500 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:46,460 Speaker 1: But if this happened at home, 501 00:19:47,140 --> 00:19:47,770 Speaker 2: okay, 502 00:19:48,340 --> 00:19:50,100 Speaker 1: your dad. Oh no, fix it. 503 00:19:50,109 --> 00:19:51,659 Speaker 2: No, my dad will not. My dad would be the 504 00:19:51,660 --> 00:19:54,469 Speaker 2: last person doing, sorry, it will be a chain of 505 00:19:54,470 --> 00:19:58,060 Speaker 2: command before it reaches him. He doesn't do these things, 506 00:19:58,060 --> 00:19:59,940 Speaker 2: you know. But there's been so many things in my house, 507 00:19:59,940 --> 00:20:01,490 Speaker 2: like there was a baby cobra in my house a 508 00:20:01,490 --> 00:20:04,090 Speaker 2: few months ago so we had to call like snake 509 00:20:04,100 --> 00:20:06,959 Speaker 2: removers because you've got to keep them safe 510 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:08,340 Speaker 1: free. And by the way too caustic. 511 00:20:08,350 --> 00:20:11,169 Speaker 2: No, of course not. It's like an exterminator, but they 512 00:20:11,170 --> 00:20:13,230 Speaker 2: don't kill the snake just put it out in the open. 513 00:20:13,240 --> 00:20:14,830 Speaker 1: Okay, so that's not free guys. Now we know 514 00:20:14,830 --> 00:20:16,400 Speaker 2: and don't vacuum a cobra. 515 00:20:16,410 --> 00:20:18,100 Speaker 1: Please don't please don't do that. Please don't 516 00:20:18,109 --> 00:20:21,639 Speaker 2: don't vacuum any living thing. You're not wrong. No 517 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:22,710 Speaker 1: vacuuming of cockroaches. 518 00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:26,510 Speaker 2: So we are very thankful that we don't have to 519 00:20:26,510 --> 00:20:27,590 Speaker 2: deal with these things. 520 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:28,350 Speaker 1: Right? But 521 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:29,860 Speaker 2: okay. So for Zura right. 522 00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:32,290 Speaker 2: Do you do your child's at home? I'm very terrible. 523 00:20:32,290 --> 00:20:34,060 Speaker 2: As you all know as you all have lived with 524 00:20:34,060 --> 00:20:34,770 Speaker 2: me in the alley. 525 00:20:34,780 --> 00:20:36,260 Speaker 1: Oh 526 00:20:36,270 --> 00:20:37,090 Speaker 2: this 527 00:20:37,090 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: Is the girl who 10 minutes ago was just talking 528 00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:41,410 Speaker 1: about the fans about moving. 529 00:20:41,410 --> 00:20:43,830 Speaker 2: I think I can do and clean and I mean 530 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 2: I think I can do a lot you know? Okay. Okay. 531 00:20:46,810 --> 00:20:49,169 Speaker 2: Also I feel like um 532 00:20:49,340 --> 00:20:52,720 Speaker 2: I'm very particular about it has to be a space 533 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:54,879 Speaker 2: that I can work with. You know what I mean? 534 00:20:54,890 --> 00:20:58,930 Speaker 2: Like like if I didn't build this and I didn't 535 00:20:58,930 --> 00:21:01,770 Speaker 2: design it to be this way. It feels like I 536 00:21:01,770 --> 00:21:06,129 Speaker 2: am just compromising with it and so it's not optimum 537 00:21:06,130 --> 00:21:09,830 Speaker 2: for my lifestyle correct. And so it makes it harder. 538 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:13,960 Speaker 2: So it feels like if it was perfectly 539 00:21:14,740 --> 00:21:19,630 Speaker 2: designed and designed to fit with whatever I need. I 540 00:21:19,630 --> 00:21:22,400 Speaker 2: feel like it would be a lot easier for me 541 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 2: to 542 00:21:22,850 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 1: commit to keep it. 543 00:21:23,850 --> 00:21:28,609 Speaker 2: Okay. Okay. I understand what you understand. If it was 544 00:21:28,619 --> 00:21:31,340 Speaker 2: built for you, correct would know how to clean it, correct. 545 00:21:31,340 --> 00:21:34,460 Speaker 2: This would sound like an excuse. Can I just put 546 00:21:34,460 --> 00:21:36,060 Speaker 2: things into perspective. Okay, 547 00:21:36,140 --> 00:21:39,060 Speaker 2: 50 years ago there was no such thing as a 548 00:21:39,060 --> 00:21:40,230 Speaker 2: vacuum cleaner, you 549 00:21:40,230 --> 00:21:41,060 Speaker 1: have to take a 550 00:21:41,540 --> 00:21:44,619 Speaker 2: more a pail of water and go and mop it 551 00:21:44,630 --> 00:21:46,659 Speaker 2: now it's already so easy for us. Why are we 552 00:21:46,660 --> 00:21:47,409 Speaker 2: still complaining? 553 00:21:47,859 --> 00:21:48,590 Speaker 1: That is very, you know 554 00:21:48,590 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 2: it's like all in one and you can do everything 555 00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:50,770 Speaker 2: you want. 556 00:21:51,340 --> 00:21:53,950 Speaker 2: So why are we not doing it? It's true. So 557 00:21:53,950 --> 00:21:56,359 Speaker 2: the person who gets very annoyed with my hair all 558 00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,860 Speaker 2: over the floor is actually run and he will at 559 00:21:58,869 --> 00:22:02,250 Speaker 2: any time of the day basically just go out get 560 00:22:02,250 --> 00:22:05,710 Speaker 2: the vacuum cleaner and then going one round and 561 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,180 Speaker 1: if you get him this like Philips cordless vacuum cleaner right? 562 00:22:09,190 --> 00:22:10,090 Speaker 2: Yeah it's going to 563 00:22:10,090 --> 00:22:13,290 Speaker 1: be worse there because this light is you know so 564 00:22:13,300 --> 00:22:16,770 Speaker 1: everywhere he vacuums you can see every single strand of hair. 565 00:22:16,780 --> 00:22:18,610 Speaker 2: That's the problem that he would tell me how much hair. 566 00:22:18,609 --> 00:22:21,140 Speaker 1: Sure exactly. If you drop like a strand of hair 567 00:22:21,150 --> 00:22:23,040 Speaker 1: at the corner he'll be like why is there a 568 00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:24,670 Speaker 1: strand of hair in this corner Because he can see 569 00:22:24,670 --> 00:22:25,210 Speaker 1: everything clean 570 00:22:25,210 --> 00:22:27,650 Speaker 2: But with the lights right? You can also identify if 571 00:22:27,650 --> 00:22:28,770 Speaker 2: it's her hair and her hair 572 00:22:29,140 --> 00:22:31,350 Speaker 2: because her hair is brown Scully is not even your 573 00:22:31,350 --> 00:22:31,629 Speaker 2: hair 574 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:32,660 Speaker 1: in his hands. I 575 00:22:32,660 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 2: will not be accused this way. I need this vacuum cleaner. 576 00:22:37,740 --> 00:22:37,960 Speaker 2: If 577 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:39,850 Speaker 1: someone can modify just now. You were mentioning how does 578 00:22:39,850 --> 00:22:42,159 Speaker 2: this work? So it's very perfect in the sense that 579 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:43,850 Speaker 2: you can do both things at once. So you really 580 00:22:43,850 --> 00:22:47,320 Speaker 2: saved half the time you can dry the floor clean 581 00:22:47,330 --> 00:22:49,530 Speaker 2: vacuum all the dust and also moppet at the same 582 00:22:49,530 --> 00:22:49,889 Speaker 2: time 583 00:22:49,900 --> 00:22:52,810 Speaker 1: right? And I find that like after moving out and 584 00:22:52,810 --> 00:22:56,310 Speaker 1: living on my own um these little tools are very 585 00:22:56,310 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 1: very effective and useful. So one thing I learned is 586 00:22:59,320 --> 00:22:59,550 Speaker 1: that 587 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:02,150 Speaker 1: to vacuum with my left hand and brush my teeth 588 00:23:02,150 --> 00:23:04,960 Speaker 1: with my right hand. Really? Because I used an electronic 589 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,890 Speaker 1: toothbrush so they will time it. I have to brush 590 00:23:06,890 --> 00:23:08,879 Speaker 1: my teeth for two minutes. So in these two minutes, 591 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,669 Speaker 1: what can I do? I don't want to waste my time. 592 00:23:10,740 --> 00:23:12,490 Speaker 1: So I'll be like mm mm mm mm mm mm. 593 00:23:12,500 --> 00:23:15,250 Speaker 1: And then my left will be like, hmm. So to 594 00:23:15,250 --> 00:23:17,330 Speaker 1: me it's just nice to my room, not very big 595 00:23:17,340 --> 00:23:20,450 Speaker 1: one round completed. Then I can go and rinse my 596 00:23:20,450 --> 00:23:20,820 Speaker 1: mouth 597 00:23:20,830 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 2: actually right. I just remembered that I think hazel has 598 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,980 Speaker 2: said before like, oh, I need to go home. I 599 00:23:26,980 --> 00:23:28,990 Speaker 2: need to clean my room. Yes, that's all 600 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:30,139 Speaker 1: I need to pack my room, 601 00:23:30,140 --> 00:23:31,490 Speaker 2: clean my correct No. 602 00:23:31,490 --> 00:23:33,800 Speaker 1: Seriously, sometimes I feel the stress, you know like oh 603 00:23:33,810 --> 00:23:36,020 Speaker 1: my gosh, do not have to like what my table 604 00:23:36,020 --> 00:23:36,889 Speaker 1: I have to vacuum. 605 00:23:36,890 --> 00:23:40,360 Speaker 2: That's amazing. Because I've never lived in a situation where 606 00:23:40,369 --> 00:23:42,930 Speaker 2: I had to allocate time to clean. It's like when 607 00:23:42,930 --> 00:23:45,720 Speaker 2: I got time I clean off. True, true. Yes. So 608 00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,169 Speaker 2: when I heard her say that the first time I 609 00:23:47,170 --> 00:23:47,570 Speaker 2: was like, 610 00:23:47,580 --> 00:23:50,459 Speaker 1: no, I tell you when you live alone, it doesn't become, 611 00:23:50,470 --> 00:23:53,300 Speaker 1: it's not an option anymore. You know, because even though 612 00:23:53,300 --> 00:23:55,860 Speaker 1: you have like clean the table last night, but tonight 613 00:23:55,859 --> 00:23:57,609 Speaker 1: you go home or you can still like feel it? 614 00:23:57,619 --> 00:24:00,119 Speaker 1: How come it's a bit like dusty and it doesn't 615 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:02,400 Speaker 1: sit well with me. That feeling. I feel like my 616 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:04,439 Speaker 1: night is not complete. So I have to like wipe 617 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:04,860 Speaker 1: it 618 00:24:04,940 --> 00:24:06,680 Speaker 1: and I have to make sure the tissue is no 619 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,460 Speaker 1: longer like black, you know, no stains before I can 620 00:24:09,460 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: sit down comfortably do my work and have to vacuum 621 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,169 Speaker 1: my floor because I dropped a lot of hair every day. 622 00:24:14,180 --> 00:24:16,540 Speaker 2: Maybe when you live on your own right, your standards 623 00:24:16,540 --> 00:24:19,929 Speaker 2: for cleanliness are higher because you are the one cleaning cleaning. 624 00:24:19,940 --> 00:24:22,090 Speaker 1: Right. Right. Right. Right. Right. Right. I just wish I 625 00:24:22,090 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: had like an easier way out to like mop my 626 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:27,340 Speaker 1: floor because I don't have a pail and a mop. 627 00:24:27,340 --> 00:24:27,860 Speaker 1: You see 628 00:24:27,869 --> 00:24:29,770 Speaker 2: It's okay, we're in 2022 629 00:24:29,940 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 2: now, vacuums can mop. Exactly. 630 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:34,820 Speaker 1: My goodness. I wish I found out about this invention earlier. 631 00:24:34,830 --> 00:24:37,100 Speaker 2: Yeah, but here's the question, right? I think living in 632 00:24:37,100 --> 00:24:39,940 Speaker 2: your own also brings a lot of worries in terms 633 00:24:39,940 --> 00:24:42,270 Speaker 2: of finances. That's why a lot of people choose not 634 00:24:42,270 --> 00:24:45,180 Speaker 2: to live on their own because between paying rent in Singapore, 635 00:24:45,180 --> 00:24:48,110 Speaker 2: which is super higher and you know, having to budget 636 00:24:48,109 --> 00:24:51,060 Speaker 2: for home equipment, like home cleaning stuff and all that. 637 00:24:51,540 --> 00:24:53,850 Speaker 2: Sometimes it's just not practical. I think there's also a 638 00:24:53,850 --> 00:24:56,010 Speaker 2: lot of things that we overlook because we don't live 639 00:24:56,010 --> 00:25:00,170 Speaker 2: in our own things like Bill's wife. I forgot about bills. Yeah. 640 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 1: Like we've never paid 641 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,020 Speaker 2: for wifi and I never thought about that so expensive now. 642 00:25:04,030 --> 00:25:06,020 Speaker 1: But for me I'm lucky because I worked out a 643 00:25:06,020 --> 00:25:08,410 Speaker 1: package with my landlord. Like if I rent for a 644 00:25:08,420 --> 00:25:14,090 Speaker 1: certain period of time my utilities included, you know, Laundry's 645 00:25:14,090 --> 00:25:16,220 Speaker 1: including the package as well and then I can just 646 00:25:16,220 --> 00:25:18,199 Speaker 1: get like a little bit of a discount because I'm 647 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,740 Speaker 1: renting for a longer period of time. It's a small 648 00:25:20,740 --> 00:25:23,659 Speaker 1: space like I mentioned 200 square feet. So it's really, 649 00:25:23,670 --> 00:25:25,320 Speaker 1: I just go home to sleep and I wake up 650 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:27,020 Speaker 1: and I just get out of the place. But for 651 00:25:27,020 --> 00:25:30,530 Speaker 1: listeners who are looking to rent an entire flat and 652 00:25:30,530 --> 00:25:31,350 Speaker 1: enter the unit. 653 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: So what I've heard is like a city fringe area, 654 00:25:34,290 --> 00:25:36,990 Speaker 1: the rent can go up to like 2.8K. A month 655 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:37,869 Speaker 1: and if you are renting 656 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:39,170 Speaker 2: The room three room 657 00:25:39,180 --> 00:25:43,060 Speaker 1: HDB flat. If you're renting in that places like Yang Baru, 658 00:25:43,070 --> 00:25:46,450 Speaker 1: the more accessible places like I think one room can 659 00:25:46,450 --> 00:25:49,170 Speaker 1: go up to about 1.1 K a month which 660 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:51,160 Speaker 2: including utilities 661 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:52,290 Speaker 1: excluded and 662 00:25:52,290 --> 00:25:55,880 Speaker 2: just one bedroom. So let me ask you like if you, 663 00:25:55,890 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 2: have you ever thought of using this money instead to 664 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:00,950 Speaker 2: like invest or put to other things? 665 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:04,159 Speaker 1: Well I have that honestly, like, I mean 666 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 1: one month alone maybe we see, okay, this amount of 667 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,830 Speaker 1: money is not too high is manageable but if you 668 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,050 Speaker 1: multiply by 12 which is the rent in 669 00:26:11,540 --> 00:26:15,640 Speaker 1: an entire year, right? It really becomes quite a huge amount. 670 00:26:15,650 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 1: And I just asked myself actually, this one, can I 671 00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:21,060 Speaker 1: buy one or two branded bags or what? But 672 00:26:21,070 --> 00:26:22,659 Speaker 2: to trade that for the freedom. 673 00:26:22,670 --> 00:26:25,770 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, exactly. And I kind of like use this 674 00:26:25,780 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 1: as a motivation for myself to just work harder, maybe 675 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:30,260 Speaker 1: get more like 676 00:26:30,340 --> 00:26:33,060 Speaker 1: external engagements to sort of like 677 00:26:33,140 --> 00:26:35,280 Speaker 1: cover me, cover the rent for a bit. 678 00:26:35,290 --> 00:26:39,380 Speaker 2: Okay, jeremy, my next question actually is no, no, no, no, no, no. 679 00:26:39,390 --> 00:26:43,010 Speaker 2: You know, sometimes with living on your own with your partner, right? 680 00:26:43,020 --> 00:26:45,860 Speaker 2: There are concerns as well, because there are concerns about 681 00:26:45,859 --> 00:26:48,330 Speaker 2: staying at home with your parents where there's friction there, right? 682 00:26:48,340 --> 00:26:51,780 Speaker 2: But sometimes when you run your own household with your partner, 683 00:26:51,780 --> 00:26:54,680 Speaker 2: there are other problems that arises for sure. Do you 684 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 2: think that's an issue because that scares me? 685 00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,790 Speaker 2: Like sometimes I feel like I'm still staying at mother's 686 00:26:58,790 --> 00:27:00,899 Speaker 2: house because I don't want to deal with these problems, 687 00:27:00,900 --> 00:27:02,290 Speaker 1: Right? one is Super Neat. 688 00:27:02,290 --> 00:27:04,530 Speaker 2: Like I imagine he'll be breathing down my neck every 689 00:27:04,530 --> 00:27:06,619 Speaker 2: day to clean. I think I would get really mad 690 00:27:06,619 --> 00:27:10,300 Speaker 2: at because he like never picks up his like clothes, 691 00:27:10,300 --> 00:27:13,830 Speaker 2: like his stuff is just everywhere. Yeah, then I will, 692 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 2: I will be very petty about it. 693 00:27:15,940 --> 00:27:17,710 Speaker 2: I could have just picked it up and throwing it away, 694 00:27:17,710 --> 00:27:19,830 Speaker 2: but I won't, I'll put it right in front of 695 00:27:19,830 --> 00:27:20,350 Speaker 2: his bid 696 00:27:20,540 --> 00:27:22,300 Speaker 2: the side of his bed where he can see it. 697 00:27:22,310 --> 00:27:25,190 Speaker 2: So he knows, oh, I forgot to throw it and 698 00:27:25,190 --> 00:27:29,050 Speaker 2: she's mad. No, but sometimes it's just like that. So 699 00:27:29,050 --> 00:27:31,930 Speaker 2: I understand like living on your own, it could cause 700 00:27:31,940 --> 00:27:34,180 Speaker 2: a lot of issues. You have to communicate with your partner, 701 00:27:34,190 --> 00:27:36,860 Speaker 2: especially if you stay with someone for hazy, you're on 702 00:27:36,859 --> 00:27:38,590 Speaker 2: your own on your own. You don't have to be 703 00:27:38,590 --> 00:27:39,570 Speaker 2: accountable to someone 704 00:27:39,570 --> 00:27:40,629 Speaker 1: else. She'll 705 00:27:40,630 --> 00:27:41,659 Speaker 2: show off. 706 00:27:41,740 --> 00:27:44,160 Speaker 2: That's the yeah, that's the life. But when I was 707 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:47,570 Speaker 2: living on my own, like really solitary early on my own, 708 00:27:47,580 --> 00:27:50,230 Speaker 2: I felt very lonely because I was in a foreign 709 00:27:50,230 --> 00:27:54,310 Speaker 2: city by myself, didn't have any friends there while some 710 00:27:54,310 --> 00:27:56,130 Speaker 2: nights where I just cried in my room. 711 00:27:56,140 --> 00:28:00,530 Speaker 1: Honestly, this happens to me sometimes as well. Like, yeah, 712 00:28:00,530 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 1: I just feel, 713 00:28:01,740 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 1: no, it's like after a long day of work and 714 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,030 Speaker 1: I go back home to my apartment, I just feel 715 00:28:07,030 --> 00:28:07,350 Speaker 1: like 716 00:28:07,540 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 1: so emotional, you know, all these things that happen that's 717 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,050 Speaker 1: happening to me in my career, all the good things 718 00:28:13,050 --> 00:28:15,320 Speaker 1: and I have like nobody to share it with because 719 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,340 Speaker 1: now I'm not saying my parents and my sister there 720 00:28:17,340 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 1: with me and I'm just alone. But then after I cry, 721 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,010 Speaker 1: I let it out. I feel better. So this is 722 00:28:23,010 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 1: also a pack of having your own space. You know, 723 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,290 Speaker 1: I don't want my parents to see me bawling my 724 00:28:26,290 --> 00:28:26,490 Speaker 1: eyes 725 00:28:26,500 --> 00:28:28,060 Speaker 2: out. 726 00:28:28,340 --> 00:28:30,770 Speaker 2: I think it's all part of, yeah, it's all part 727 00:28:30,770 --> 00:28:33,460 Speaker 2: of having the experience and growing and 728 00:28:33,940 --> 00:28:36,330 Speaker 2: even though you cry, like it's okay to cry, You 729 00:28:36,330 --> 00:28:40,690 Speaker 2: get stronger after that. It's growing pains, growing adult in pain, 730 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:41,330 Speaker 2: resulting 731 00:28:41,330 --> 00:28:44,060 Speaker 1: pains. So we know when to appreciate our parents even 732 00:28:44,060 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 1: more when we go back home, 733 00:28:45,290 --> 00:28:48,060 Speaker 2: correct because you know sometimes more like, you know how 734 00:28:48,060 --> 00:28:52,340 Speaker 2: I run late sometimes. I mean sometimes sometimes sometimes okay 735 00:28:52,350 --> 00:28:55,390 Speaker 2: and on days where I'm in a rush that I 736 00:28:55,390 --> 00:28:57,620 Speaker 2: don't have time like that one minute for me to 737 00:28:57,620 --> 00:29:00,190 Speaker 2: make my bed will probably kill me if I run 738 00:29:00,190 --> 00:29:01,610 Speaker 2: out of the house and I come back it will 739 00:29:01,610 --> 00:29:04,610 Speaker 2: be very nice. It will be made and nice. Like 740 00:29:04,610 --> 00:29:06,170 Speaker 2: if you only have 10 minutes for dinner and you 741 00:29:06,170 --> 00:29:08,240 Speaker 2: come home there's already home cooked dinner just for you 742 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:09,470 Speaker 2: to nam nam nam and then go and then my 743 00:29:09,470 --> 00:29:09,850 Speaker 2: mom would be 744 00:29:09,850 --> 00:29:10,910 Speaker 1: like, you want to bring 745 00:29:10,910 --> 00:29:13,270 Speaker 2: fruits. I brought craves then she'll pack into a cell 746 00:29:13,270 --> 00:29:13,620 Speaker 2: block for 747 00:29:13,620 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 1: me to bring it to work. So cute. 748 00:29:16,330 --> 00:29:19,430 Speaker 2: How can I give that? I don't want to live 749 00:29:19,430 --> 00:29:21,320 Speaker 2: on my own. Really stop. I'm going to start applying 750 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:21,460 Speaker 2: for 751 00:29:23,740 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: really, really pros and consular but are there any final 752 00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,690 Speaker 1: advice for people who are considering moving out to live 753 00:29:29,690 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 1: on their 754 00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,690 Speaker 2: own. I really think budgeting is your number one thing 755 00:29:32,690 --> 00:29:38,140 Speaker 2: and when I say budgeting not like you know cheapskate, 756 00:29:38,150 --> 00:29:38,780 Speaker 1: cheapskate. 757 00:29:38,790 --> 00:29:41,220 Speaker 2: Yeah, don't be so cheap skate and you know not 758 00:29:41,220 --> 00:29:43,060 Speaker 2: spend on the things that you actually need for your 759 00:29:43,060 --> 00:29:45,850 Speaker 2: house for example. Like we were talking about the phillips 760 00:29:45,860 --> 00:29:49,030 Speaker 2: speed pro aqua cordless vacuum cleaner, right? That's something that 761 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 2: can cut your chores time in half. 762 00:29:51,090 --> 00:29:51,640 Speaker 1: It really. 763 00:29:51,650 --> 00:29:55,450 Speaker 2: Yeah and it's a reputable brand to actually, I'm really 764 00:29:55,450 --> 00:29:57,460 Speaker 2: interested in trying this out because 765 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,790 Speaker 2: you know sometimes people do things like, oh I vacuum 766 00:30:00,790 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 2: you more or you know, I cook you 767 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 1: clean, no, no 768 00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 2: need you doing 769 00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:06,540 Speaker 1: one. I do 770 00:30:06,550 --> 00:30:10,700 Speaker 2: myself, you do, you have an independent woman, everyone 771 00:30:11,110 --> 00:30:13,810 Speaker 1: screenshot that I want. Okay, 772 00:30:13,820 --> 00:30:15,430 Speaker 2: next time there's hair on your floor, you know who 773 00:30:15,430 --> 00:30:18,960 Speaker 2: to call. Yeah. And I think, you know 774 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:22,060 Speaker 2: sometimes when you try and buy like cheap appliances, you know, 775 00:30:22,070 --> 00:30:23,870 Speaker 2: they break down and then you got to buy again 776 00:30:23,870 --> 00:30:25,160 Speaker 1: and it adds 777 00:30:25,170 --> 00:30:27,730 Speaker 2: up, it's actually just cheaper to go and buy like 778 00:30:27,730 --> 00:30:30,110 Speaker 2: a trustworthy one from the start. Absolutely. 779 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,969 Speaker 1: Okay, so budget and appliances aside, I feel like it's 780 00:30:32,970 --> 00:30:35,500 Speaker 1: very important to really think about why you need to 781 00:30:35,500 --> 00:30:37,590 Speaker 1: move out in the first place. Is it for your 782 00:30:37,590 --> 00:30:41,770 Speaker 1: mental space for freedom, independence and be sure to communicate 783 00:30:41,770 --> 00:30:45,180 Speaker 1: with people you are already living with, let them know 784 00:30:45,190 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 1: why you find that there's a need to move out 785 00:30:47,250 --> 00:30:49,500 Speaker 2: and don't feel bad. I think even if like you're 786 00:30:49,500 --> 00:30:52,350 Speaker 2: an only child and you feel like you have a 787 00:30:52,350 --> 00:30:54,930 Speaker 2: responsibility to your parents. Like I don't know if this 788 00:30:54,930 --> 00:30:57,350 Speaker 2: is terrible to say, but I always feel like 789 00:30:57,540 --> 00:31:01,690 Speaker 2: Children should not be your retirement plan. Yeah. Yeah, I 790 00:31:01,690 --> 00:31:04,740 Speaker 2: think that's a very controversial take, but if, you know, 791 00:31:04,740 --> 00:31:06,560 Speaker 2: eventually when I do become a parent, I would never 792 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:09,090 Speaker 2: put that on my kids right. If I can. I 793 00:31:09,090 --> 00:31:11,610 Speaker 2: think it's okay to sort of, you know, you hope 794 00:31:11,620 --> 00:31:13,610 Speaker 2: right that they will still be with you and stuff 795 00:31:13,610 --> 00:31:15,370 Speaker 2: like that, but I think 796 00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,720 Speaker 2: you shouldn't expect. Yeah, I think the minute you decided 797 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:22,340 Speaker 2: to be barons, you shouldn't be expecting anything out of them. Yeah. 798 00:31:22,350 --> 00:31:25,290 Speaker 2: So I think you can still carry out your duties, 799 00:31:25,290 --> 00:31:25,860 Speaker 2: you know, as 800 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,250 Speaker 2: I feel like son, daughter or anything, but you know, 801 00:31:29,250 --> 00:31:32,250 Speaker 2: even if you're living apart, I think it's still possible 802 00:31:32,250 --> 00:31:34,990 Speaker 2: to do that. So I think it's just weighing things out, 803 00:31:34,990 --> 00:31:37,420 Speaker 2: you know, like just maybe it's a scheduling thing, you know, 804 00:31:37,420 --> 00:31:39,190 Speaker 2: making a point that you will come and see them 805 00:31:39,190 --> 00:31:40,210 Speaker 2: have dinner with them every 806 00:31:40,210 --> 00:31:43,190 Speaker 1: week. Of course, these are just our opinions. 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