1 00:00:03,099 --> 00:00:06,860 Speaker 1: I understand why the reserve seat exists, but if you 2 00:00:06,860 --> 00:00:10,219 Speaker 1: have to bully someone into the seat, you don't deserve it. 3 00:00:10,300 --> 00:00:12,779 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Just the other day, right, I was standing 4 00:00:12,779 --> 00:00:15,300 Speaker 1: up for an uncle. I was like, Uncle Nel. Then 5 00:00:15,300 --> 00:00:17,340 Speaker 1: the wife said, Yeah, you better stand up later you 6 00:00:17,340 --> 00:00:19,899 Speaker 1: gonna storm. You can totally buy into, I'm just a 7 00:00:19,899 --> 00:00:22,059 Speaker 1: crazy old lady. Then what? Then what? I'm still old. 8 00:00:22,100 --> 00:00:22,939 Speaker 1: You need to respect me. 9 00:00:23,100 --> 00:00:24,259 Speaker 2: What are you gonna do? You going to report me 10 00:00:24,260 --> 00:00:26,700 Speaker 2: to my workplace. I retired like 20 years ago. What 11 00:00:26,700 --> 00:00:26,709 Speaker 2: are 12 00:00:26,709 --> 00:00:26,819 Speaker 1: you 13 00:00:26,819 --> 00:00:26,899 Speaker 2: going 14 00:00:26,899 --> 00:00:28,219 Speaker 1: to tell my mother, my mother died. 15 00:00:35,668 --> 00:00:37,549 Speaker 1: Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of The 16 00:00:37,549 --> 00:00:39,979 Speaker 1: Hot Pot where we hop into different transitions in life. 17 00:00:40,150 --> 00:00:42,630 Speaker 1: I'm Q. I'm Nick. I'm Joey, and if you're a 18 00:00:42,630 --> 00:00:46,520 Speaker 1: new listener of the Hot Pot and you're not yet subscribed, welcome. 19 00:00:46,668 --> 00:00:48,540 Speaker 1: We're so happy are you here? 20 00:00:48,650 --> 00:00:52,790 Speaker 2: You don't subscribe. You watch 3 episodes. 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Oh, Brisbane is my um second Australian 32 00:01:21,974 --> 00:01:23,455 Speaker 2: wedding after my own. 33 00:01:23,785 --> 00:01:26,464 Speaker 1: So you're saying your friend copy you? No, I love 34 00:01:26,464 --> 00:01:33,224 Speaker 1: watching them fight. Oh my God, friendship. OK, today's episode 35 00:01:33,224 --> 00:01:34,224 Speaker 1: is a special one. 36 00:01:34,849 --> 00:01:37,580 Speaker 1: Our favorite. It's been a minute since we've done this. 37 00:01:37,730 --> 00:01:41,848 Speaker 1: It is a Reddit episode. So today we are reacting 38 00:01:41,849 --> 00:01:46,129 Speaker 1: to some of the most entitled Singaporean stories. Are Singaporeans 39 00:01:46,129 --> 00:01:47,739 Speaker 1: really that entitled? 40 00:01:50,580 --> 00:01:51,260 Speaker 1: Kind of. 41 00:01:53,470 --> 00:02:02,260 Speaker 2: Entitled means what? You know what, um, the definition of entitled, OK, 42 00:02:02,510 --> 00:02:05,430 Speaker 2: feeling that you have the right to do or have 43 00:02:05,430 --> 00:02:08,429 Speaker 2: what you want without having to work for it or 44 00:02:08,429 --> 00:02:09,029 Speaker 2: deserve it. 45 00:02:09,740 --> 00:02:13,050 Speaker 2: Just because of who you are. I'm a princess. 46 00:02:13,119 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: I think entitlement is when you feel like it is 47 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:18,478 Speaker 1: owed to you or that it is bare minimum and 48 00:02:18,479 --> 00:02:20,299 Speaker 1: it is, it should be handed out to you like 49 00:02:20,300 --> 00:02:22,279 Speaker 1: you don't need to work for it because you are 50 00:02:22,279 --> 00:02:28,279 Speaker 1: entitled to it. And I think that's crazy. Aunties and 51 00:02:28,279 --> 00:02:31,550 Speaker 1: the parents at the MRT they expect you to do. 52 00:02:32,419 --> 00:02:34,779 Speaker 1: I'm warning you. You're wanting you. As in you have 53 00:02:34,779 --> 00:02:37,888 Speaker 1: the energy to push people and get on the train 54 00:02:38,139 --> 00:02:40,539 Speaker 1: and find your way to stand in front of a 55 00:02:40,538 --> 00:02:41,429 Speaker 1: young person and go. 56 00:02:43,300 --> 00:02:46,119 Speaker 1: Like that just the other day, right, I was, I 57 00:02:46,119 --> 00:02:48,609 Speaker 1: was standing up for an uncle. I was like, Uncle Nelma, 58 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: then the wife said, Yeah, you better stand up later 59 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:53,559 Speaker 1: you cannot storm. And I was like, I already standing 60 00:02:53,559 --> 00:02:54,119 Speaker 1: up for your 61 00:02:54,119 --> 00:02:54,550 Speaker 1: husband. 62 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:56,199 Speaker 2: These kind of things never happen to me. Is it 63 00:02:56,199 --> 00:02:58,209 Speaker 2: because I look like very angry? 64 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: You look like you might sc and back. Alright, let's 65 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:03,630 Speaker 1: get started. 66 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:07,070 Speaker 1: I use a roast crepes, worked in a ramen shop 67 00:03:07,070 --> 00:03:09,388 Speaker 1: as a waitress. This man with kids came in on 68 00:03:09,389 --> 00:03:11,869 Speaker 1: a busy lunch shift, so that meant that food wasn't 69 00:03:11,869 --> 00:03:14,199 Speaker 1: going to be out in 5 minutes. He was asking 70 00:03:14,199 --> 00:03:16,470 Speaker 1: me to hurry the chef and I told him to 71 00:03:16,470 --> 00:03:19,309 Speaker 1: be patient because he wasn't the only customer. He stormed 72 00:03:19,309 --> 00:03:21,710 Speaker 1: into the kitchen and stared at the chef with his 73 00:03:21,710 --> 00:03:24,508 Speaker 1: arms crossed and stomping his foot like an 74 00:03:25,300 --> 00:03:28,339 Speaker 1: Like an actual child demanding for his t's food. The 75 00:03:28,339 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 1: fact that he was with his kids, but they were 76 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,940 Speaker 1: behaving better than he was. No, why do you think 77 00:03:33,940 --> 00:03:37,419 Speaker 1: some people are so entitled to hurry, hurry, I got children, hurry. 78 00:03:37,699 --> 00:03:40,619 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I hate the usage of. Yeah, they need 79 00:03:40,619 --> 00:03:44,679 Speaker 1: to stop using their children as a reason or excuse, excuse, 80 00:03:44,860 --> 00:03:48,369 Speaker 2: yeah. OK, the other one is like this thing, right, um, 81 00:03:48,500 --> 00:03:51,899 Speaker 2: when you're flying, then I pay for the emergency seat. 82 00:03:52,539 --> 00:03:54,940 Speaker 2: Right, so I pay extra money to sit there because 83 00:03:54,940 --> 00:03:58,289 Speaker 2: I want the legroom, right? Then got someone will come 84 00:03:58,289 --> 00:04:00,889 Speaker 2: and then they'll be like, Oh sorry, I have a kid. 85 00:04:01,059 --> 00:04:03,179 Speaker 2: Can you swap seats with me? Then they, then they 86 00:04:03,179 --> 00:04:06,740 Speaker 2: are like in some like squeezy seat. Then I'm like, Hey, 87 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:09,100 Speaker 2: you got kid, you know, you're flying, then you should 88 00:04:09,100 --> 00:04:09,300 Speaker 2: have 89 00:04:09,300 --> 00:04:11,479 Speaker 1: paid you should reply, yeah, sorry. 90 00:04:11,610 --> 00:04:13,380 Speaker 2: There's a way to not leave it to chance at all. 91 00:04:13,500 --> 00:04:15,779 Speaker 2: Like you can guarantee that you are sitting together. You 92 00:04:15,779 --> 00:04:16,410 Speaker 2: just pay more money. 93 00:04:17,098 --> 00:04:19,519 Speaker 2: But these people who like refuse to pay, but then 94 00:04:19,519 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 2: they expect other people to give up something such that 95 00:04:24,039 --> 00:04:25,269 Speaker 2: like you can save money. 96 00:04:25,519 --> 00:04:28,158 Speaker 1: I think it's no secret that parenting is really not 97 00:04:28,158 --> 00:04:31,919 Speaker 1: easy and I fully empathize, but I think there's a 98 00:04:31,919 --> 00:04:36,558 Speaker 1: difference when you apologize for inconvenience and when you take 99 00:04:36,558 --> 00:04:39,959 Speaker 1: it upon yourself to inconvenience me also. Like if a 100 00:04:39,959 --> 00:04:42,238 Speaker 1: kid is crying on the flight, you can get annoyed, 101 00:04:42,278 --> 00:04:44,639 Speaker 1: but you can't really blame the parents for that. Kids 102 00:04:44,639 --> 00:04:45,588 Speaker 1: are just being kids. 103 00:04:45,850 --> 00:04:48,399 Speaker 1: But it's, it's a, it's like my kid wants to 104 00:04:48,399 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: see the the clouds, like please exchange the seats, or 105 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: they get angry at you, what can you do as 106 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,230 Speaker 1: a child, are you really going to deprive a child 107 00:04:56,230 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: of this experience? I'm like, but you knew going into 108 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,679 Speaker 1: this when you booked your flights, when you had seat 109 00:05:02,678 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 1: selection that you could have done this. I understand that 110 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:06,118 Speaker 1: in that moment, right? 111 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:08,769 Speaker 1: They put you in that position. If you say no, 112 00:05:08,859 --> 00:05:09,618 Speaker 1: you are the asshole. 113 00:05:09,660 --> 00:05:11,419 Speaker 2: I feel like people are saying yes, right, is the 114 00:05:11,420 --> 00:05:12,260 Speaker 2: reason why we have entitled 115 00:05:12,260 --> 00:05:15,420 Speaker 1: people. Yeah, and also while we're on this topic of 116 00:05:15,420 --> 00:05:16,799 Speaker 1: seats and just 117 00:05:17,230 --> 00:05:20,190 Speaker 1: In terms of like being in a public area, right, 118 00:05:20,309 --> 00:05:23,510 Speaker 1: there are people with a lot of invisible disabilities. So 119 00:05:23,510 --> 00:05:26,510 Speaker 1: someone who might be sitting down, sure she's young, immediately 120 00:05:26,510 --> 00:05:29,549 Speaker 1: a lot of the older generation, they assume lazy, don't 121 00:05:29,549 --> 00:05:31,669 Speaker 1: want to give up the seat to older people, equals 122 00:05:31,670 --> 00:05:34,709 Speaker 1: to rude to their parents and rude to older people 123 00:05:34,709 --> 00:05:37,510 Speaker 1: and they don't respect elder generation. I don't know how 124 00:05:37,510 --> 00:05:40,309 Speaker 1: this is coined, but what if she's had a rough day? 125 00:05:40,350 --> 00:05:42,709 Speaker 1: What if she's just had a miscarriage? What if she 126 00:05:43,109 --> 00:05:46,010 Speaker 1: like sprained her ankle or is suffering from a slipped disc. 127 00:05:46,309 --> 00:05:48,390 Speaker 1: You don't know these things, right? There's so many other 128 00:05:48,390 --> 00:05:51,070 Speaker 1: seats on the cabin. Why is it on her to 129 00:05:51,070 --> 00:05:52,989 Speaker 1: give up the seat for you? Yeah, but going back 130 00:05:52,988 --> 00:05:55,230 Speaker 1: to this story, right, about the ramen shop, right, I 131 00:05:55,230 --> 00:05:58,109 Speaker 1: feel like a lot of people have been mistreating waitress 132 00:05:58,109 --> 00:06:02,380 Speaker 1: and waiters because they, they are not in charge of 133 00:06:02,380 --> 00:06:04,790 Speaker 1: how fast the chef is cooking. They're not in charge 134 00:06:04,790 --> 00:06:06,709 Speaker 1: of the pricing as well. But then a lot of 135 00:06:06,709 --> 00:06:08,479 Speaker 1: people tend to vent and like 136 00:06:08,910 --> 00:06:11,899 Speaker 1: You know, put their anger on these people. There's stuff 137 00:06:11,899 --> 00:06:12,809 Speaker 1: that they have no 138 00:06:12,809 --> 00:06:13,230 Speaker 1: say. 139 00:06:13,540 --> 00:06:16,100 Speaker 2: No, I think there's there's two you need to make 140 00:06:16,100 --> 00:06:19,450 Speaker 2: a clear distinction like what is this person's control. 141 00:06:19,829 --> 00:06:21,729 Speaker 2: Um, so then you need to adjust the way you 142 00:06:21,730 --> 00:06:24,609 Speaker 2: communicate accordingly. So it's like I know that you're not 143 00:06:24,609 --> 00:06:26,519 Speaker 2: a boss. I know that this is not a policy, 144 00:06:26,690 --> 00:06:28,730 Speaker 2: but at the same time, you are the only outlet 145 00:06:28,730 --> 00:06:32,239 Speaker 2: that I can give feedback to. So then feedback should 146 00:06:32,238 --> 00:06:34,529 Speaker 2: be phrased in a way that is, 147 00:06:34,928 --> 00:06:37,010 Speaker 1: can you help me pass the message rather than I'm 148 00:06:37,010 --> 00:06:37,950 Speaker 1: angry at you. 149 00:06:38,570 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 2: But the reality also is that for example, you are 150 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,589 Speaker 2: a service staff, right, then someone just comes in like. 151 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:47,250 Speaker 2: Can you help me pass the message? There's like an 80% chance, right, 152 00:06:47,339 --> 00:06:49,519 Speaker 2: by the end of your shift you forget. So I 153 00:06:49,519 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 2: think that's why people feel compelled to kick up a 154 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,789 Speaker 2: fast lah. But at the same time, in this instance, 155 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:57,909 Speaker 2: there is no excuse. First, like stop using your children 156 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:01,959 Speaker 2: as an excuse to get like preferential treatment. 157 00:07:02,450 --> 00:07:05,058 Speaker 2: Because obviously there are other people in the restaurant also 158 00:07:05,059 --> 00:07:06,260 Speaker 2: they are waiting for their 159 00:07:06,260 --> 00:07:06,500 Speaker 2: food. 160 00:07:06,619 --> 00:07:09,859 Speaker 1: Yeah, and also this is the worst situation to make 161 00:07:09,859 --> 00:07:14,250 Speaker 1: things difficult for like the person in service. This is food. 162 00:07:14,809 --> 00:07:17,540 Speaker 1: I feel like we should know by now. I mean, yes, 163 00:07:17,660 --> 00:07:19,540 Speaker 1: we've heard this all the time, right? Like people say 164 00:07:19,540 --> 00:07:21,700 Speaker 1: like they spit in their food, which is against the law, 165 00:07:21,820 --> 00:07:25,130 Speaker 1: but the other lawful practices would be to delay your order, 166 00:07:25,299 --> 00:07:26,220 Speaker 1: not key it in. 167 00:07:26,709 --> 00:07:28,649 Speaker 1: Um, give you the wrong order or when they 168 00:07:28,649 --> 00:07:31,089 Speaker 2: serve the time, then they dip their thumbs up into 169 00:07:31,089 --> 00:07:31,510 Speaker 2: your sauce, 170 00:07:32,230 --> 00:07:32,690 Speaker 1: yeah. 171 00:07:33,399 --> 00:07:35,899 Speaker 1: Or they like if you ask for extra spicy, they 172 00:07:35,899 --> 00:07:39,459 Speaker 1: purposely don't even add even more or yeah, or they 173 00:07:39,459 --> 00:07:41,380 Speaker 1: don't give it to you like like there are things, 174 00:07:41,420 --> 00:07:44,529 Speaker 1: there are ways that they can truly make your experience 175 00:07:44,529 --> 00:07:46,339 Speaker 1: even more unpleasant, you know what I 176 00:07:46,339 --> 00:07:46,570 Speaker 1: mean. 177 00:07:46,899 --> 00:07:49,570 Speaker 2: OK, next story. My user. 178 00:07:52,929 --> 00:07:56,250 Speaker 2: was a young girl fresh out of school and got 179 00:07:56,250 --> 00:07:58,609 Speaker 2: a job at the front desk of a five-star hotel 180 00:07:58,609 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 2: in the CBD area. 181 00:08:00,980 --> 00:08:05,540 Speaker 2: First few weeks into my job, I was doing quite well, 182 00:08:05,910 --> 00:08:08,809 Speaker 2: though a little slower than the long timers. This lady 183 00:08:08,809 --> 00:08:12,820 Speaker 2: struts in and gives her details. I see that she 184 00:08:12,820 --> 00:08:16,019 Speaker 2: has some specifications and I asked her about it to 185 00:08:16,019 --> 00:08:20,299 Speaker 2: better serve her. She gave very rude and curt replies 186 00:08:20,299 --> 00:08:21,230 Speaker 2: all the way and 187 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 2: Glad hard at me. Sorry, all these are all in bold, 188 00:08:24,279 --> 00:08:26,029 Speaker 2: so I'm trying to. I love it I love it. 189 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:30,359 Speaker 2: I had to relay those specifications she mentioned through the 190 00:08:30,359 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 2: walkie-talkie so that housekeeping can prepare beforehand and snapped. Can 191 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,150 Speaker 2: you hurry up while staring daggers at me. 192 00:08:39,460 --> 00:08:41,630 Speaker 2: I kept apologizing and mention that I'm still kind of 193 00:08:41,630 --> 00:08:43,929 Speaker 2: new and we are almost done. She just kept at 194 00:08:43,929 --> 00:08:45,530 Speaker 2: it and while I was about to hand her the 195 00:08:45,530 --> 00:08:48,799 Speaker 2: room keys, she just said really loudly, You're really slow, 196 00:08:48,849 --> 00:08:50,978 Speaker 2: you know that. The GM saw the whole thing happen 197 00:08:50,979 --> 00:08:55,770 Speaker 2: and guess what? The guest was actually also a star 198 00:08:55,770 --> 00:08:57,690 Speaker 2: from the sister hotel beside. 199 00:08:59,580 --> 00:09:01,500 Speaker 2: What the heck? And she thought it would be a 200 00:09:01,500 --> 00:09:04,700 Speaker 2: good idea to ill treat other stuff. GM reported her 201 00:09:04,700 --> 00:09:08,419 Speaker 2: to that hotels GM don't know what happened after that, 202 00:09:08,460 --> 00:09:10,539 Speaker 2: but at least this didn't go unnoticed. 203 00:09:10,700 --> 00:09:17,059 Speaker 1: That's crazy for a fellow service, especially when you know 204 00:09:17,059 --> 00:09:19,130 Speaker 1: how shitty you will be, and I have worked in 205 00:09:19,130 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 1: hotels before. It is quite ra. 206 00:09:21,890 --> 00:09:24,489 Speaker 1: kind of request and the kind of customers you you 207 00:09:24,489 --> 00:09:27,169 Speaker 1: face is crazy like that. Can you hurry up? You're 208 00:09:27,169 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: very slow, 209 00:09:28,010 --> 00:09:28,479 Speaker 1: yeah. 210 00:09:28,650 --> 00:09:30,809 Speaker 2: This story, I feel like I can sense a bit 211 00:09:30,809 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 2: of incompetence from this um person. 212 00:09:33,289 --> 00:09:36,890 Speaker 1: Wait, the, the, the person who was a little bit slow. OK, 213 00:09:36,969 --> 00:09:40,919 Speaker 2: so my, my pet peeve, like when I'm talking to 214 00:09:41,289 --> 00:09:44,289 Speaker 2: people like, like service staff, right, uh, I can be 215 00:09:44,289 --> 00:09:47,609 Speaker 2: super patient, but I feel that it's very unprofessional to 216 00:09:47,609 --> 00:09:49,939 Speaker 2: tell me that you are new or like. 217 00:09:50,239 --> 00:09:51,929 Speaker 2: That's your first day, so you don't know anything. 218 00:09:53,830 --> 00:09:54,950 Speaker 1: I feel like they're like, oh, I'm so sorry if 219 00:09:54,950 --> 00:09:56,559 Speaker 1: I'm a little slow. I'm still getting used to it. 220 00:09:56,630 --> 00:09:57,309 Speaker 1: I'm trying to think 221 00:09:57,309 --> 00:09:59,579 Speaker 2: now, OK. I, I feel like it's a case of 222 00:09:59,580 --> 00:10:01,709 Speaker 2: if you use that to kind of then pin it 223 00:10:01,710 --> 00:10:04,460 Speaker 2: back on me, right, that, oh, I need to expect 224 00:10:04,989 --> 00:10:09,699 Speaker 2: lower service standards than your establishment is known for, right? 225 00:10:09,869 --> 00:10:11,630 Speaker 2: So if that's the case, like if you're new and 226 00:10:11,630 --> 00:10:14,190 Speaker 2: you're not sure, then one there should be someone that 227 00:10:14,190 --> 00:10:16,630 Speaker 2: is with you. If not, then you need to go 228 00:10:16,630 --> 00:10:18,358 Speaker 2: and like quickly get someone. 229 00:10:18,710 --> 00:10:19,228 Speaker 1: This is on the 230 00:10:19,229 --> 00:10:20,108 Speaker 1: assumption that 231 00:10:20,179 --> 00:10:23,218 Speaker 1: The hotel does their due diligence in training. 232 00:10:23,419 --> 00:10:26,109 Speaker 2: Correct. So to me here it's like a training like 233 00:10:26,109 --> 00:10:28,218 Speaker 2: issue already. Why is there nobody with this person? 234 00:10:28,429 --> 00:10:31,579 Speaker 1: I do think that working in the service industry, you really, 235 00:10:31,630 --> 00:10:35,510 Speaker 1: really get like bombarded with like the real. 236 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 1: ugly side of people. It is quite terrifying. When I 237 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:42,919 Speaker 1: was working front desk at a fitness studio, I would 238 00:10:42,919 --> 00:10:47,039 Speaker 1: get coffee orders. I don't take coffee and they'll be like, um, 239 00:10:47,159 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: I'll have my order ready for me at like 7:30. 240 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:51,439 Speaker 1: I'm like, Oh, I'm sorry, I can't take a coffee order. 241 00:10:51,900 --> 00:10:55,090 Speaker 1: Yes you can. I'm like, that's wild and he tapped 242 00:10:55,090 --> 00:11:00,108 Speaker 1: the table. He's like, yes you can. And I was flabbergasted. 243 00:11:00,479 --> 00:11:02,619 Speaker 2: I think that's the most insane thing to me is 244 00:11:02,619 --> 00:11:05,570 Speaker 2: that you cannot demand a service, right. 245 00:11:05,719 --> 00:11:07,750 Speaker 2: Then disrespect the people who are 246 00:11:07,750 --> 00:11:11,349 Speaker 1: doing for you. Yeah, let's say we've been buddy buddy, right, 247 00:11:11,390 --> 00:11:13,700 Speaker 1: you do the other way, like you make friends with 248 00:11:13,700 --> 00:11:15,429 Speaker 1: me because you're a regular and you're like, yeah, I'm 249 00:11:15,429 --> 00:11:16,869 Speaker 1: really sorry to do this, but like is there any 250 00:11:16,869 --> 00:11:18,820 Speaker 1: way you can help me? If you can't, I totally understand. 251 00:11:19,030 --> 00:11:21,309 Speaker 1: I will do it for you. But in the way 252 00:11:21,309 --> 00:11:23,429 Speaker 1: you say it like, I have a coffee ready for 253 00:11:23,429 --> 00:11:26,619 Speaker 1: me at 7:30. I'm like, that's insane, insane. 254 00:11:26,830 --> 00:11:30,750 Speaker 2: But to me it's like, right, especially when it comes 255 00:11:30,750 --> 00:11:32,929 Speaker 2: to like hotels or airlines and all that, right, are 256 00:11:32,929 --> 00:11:35,219 Speaker 2: the last people that you want to. 257 00:11:35,609 --> 00:11:38,659 Speaker 2: To piss off because actually if they like you, right, 258 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:40,598 Speaker 2: it's it's very good for you. I feel like behind 259 00:11:40,599 --> 00:11:42,919 Speaker 1: the scenes, right, there's a lot of blacklisting on. Yeah, 260 00:11:43,039 --> 00:11:45,340 Speaker 1: in the past when I was in a specific hotel, 261 00:11:45,479 --> 00:11:49,119 Speaker 1: we will be like, OK, room 883, for example, blacklist, 262 00:11:49,359 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: like write notes so that everyone, everyone in the hotel, right, 263 00:11:52,479 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: can see the notes, right, and then they won't, they 264 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:55,479 Speaker 1: won't treat them. 265 00:11:56,460 --> 00:11:59,020 Speaker 1: As Kla and also right in this day and age 266 00:11:59,020 --> 00:12:02,750 Speaker 1: where I'm handling your booking, I have access to your name. 267 00:12:03,419 --> 00:12:05,459 Speaker 1: I know where you were and not that, as in 268 00:12:05,460 --> 00:12:08,789 Speaker 1: you cannot use this information, but I know. And if, 269 00:12:09,140 --> 00:12:11,450 Speaker 1: what if you happen to be my 270 00:12:11,945 --> 00:12:15,794 Speaker 1: Father's worker. What if you happen to be my husband's colleague? 271 00:12:16,325 --> 00:12:18,604 Speaker 1: You know, I mean, the world is very small. Singapore 272 00:12:18,604 --> 00:12:22,843 Speaker 1: is very small. Also, this is a tip. Yeah. Don't 273 00:12:22,844 --> 00:12:25,565 Speaker 1: be rude to hotel staff, especially if you're bringing a 274 00:12:25,565 --> 00:12:26,473 Speaker 1: mistress around. 275 00:12:27,539 --> 00:12:29,819 Speaker 1: I tell you, the people in the hotel industry, right, 276 00:12:29,859 --> 00:12:32,098 Speaker 1: will talk. This was a decade ago, by the way, 277 00:12:32,159 --> 00:12:34,739 Speaker 1: I was an intern, but even as an intern, I 278 00:12:34,739 --> 00:12:37,900 Speaker 1: would hear things like, Oh, this room, right, uh, just 279 00:12:37,900 --> 00:12:40,539 Speaker 1: take note that that's not his wife, don't refer to 280 00:12:40,539 --> 00:12:43,820 Speaker 1: her as Mrs. what what, you know. So don't ever 281 00:12:43,820 --> 00:12:46,530 Speaker 1: refer to her as a surname. And then there are 282 00:12:46,530 --> 00:12:47,309 Speaker 1: um 283 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:50,580 Speaker 1: Private and confidential guests that you're not supposed to mention 284 00:12:50,580 --> 00:12:54,380 Speaker 1: their names. If anyone comes to the the counter reception 285 00:12:54,380 --> 00:12:56,729 Speaker 1: to ask like, oh, is this person staying here, you 286 00:12:56,729 --> 00:12:58,609 Speaker 1: must say no. I think in general you have to 287 00:12:58,609 --> 00:13:00,969 Speaker 1: say no. Oh no, no, there's a specific, like there 288 00:13:00,969 --> 00:13:03,489 Speaker 1: are specific requests and I don't know whether it's like 289 00:13:03,489 --> 00:13:04,539 Speaker 1: they have to pay extra. 290 00:13:04,849 --> 00:13:07,890 Speaker 2: Sometimes they are like, uh, those ambassadors or like work 291 00:13:07,890 --> 00:13:11,608 Speaker 2: for government, then it's it's a security thing. Oh no, no, no, 292 00:13:11,719 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 1: no, no. I, I have experience where they are normal people. 293 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:16,700 Speaker 1: But they don't want people to know where they are 294 00:13:16,700 --> 00:13:18,590 Speaker 1: because they mistress for sure. 295 00:13:19,159 --> 00:13:19,309 Speaker 2: In 296 00:13:19,309 --> 00:13:20,989 Speaker 2: this case, right, do you think that it's also because 297 00:13:20,989 --> 00:13:24,349 Speaker 2: this person is is in the same line, so then 298 00:13:24,349 --> 00:13:26,069 Speaker 2: they kind of have a bit of like, uh, I 299 00:13:26,070 --> 00:13:27,239 Speaker 2: know how it's supposed to be done. 300 00:13:28,030 --> 00:13:30,070 Speaker 1: No, I think it's it's the same for us, right? 301 00:13:30,150 --> 00:13:32,989 Speaker 1: If let's say we meet someone in our industry and 302 00:13:32,989 --> 00:13:35,030 Speaker 1: we're like, wait, you can't even do this, right? Yeah, 303 00:13:35,190 --> 00:13:38,349 Speaker 1: like something so basic, right? But the difference is that 304 00:13:38,349 --> 00:13:40,950 Speaker 1: I take mental notes and I'm not going. 305 00:13:41,044 --> 00:13:42,755 Speaker 1: To call you out on it and be rude to 306 00:13:42,755 --> 00:13:43,635 Speaker 1: you 307 00:13:43,635 --> 00:13:45,635 Speaker 2: or like you actually maybe you'd be nice la like 308 00:13:45,635 --> 00:13:47,034 Speaker 2: you can be nice about it. We can 309 00:13:47,034 --> 00:13:48,054 Speaker 1: help can help them 310 00:13:48,054 --> 00:13:52,594 Speaker 1: help a bit. Next story by user Lady show was 311 00:13:52,594 --> 00:13:55,744 Speaker 1: using the loo at Takashimaya, walked into the toilet only 312 00:13:55,744 --> 00:13:58,385 Speaker 1: to see some woman washing her kids' butt in a sink. 313 00:13:58,955 --> 00:14:02,234 Speaker 1: The kids, maybe 2 or 3, got a glimpse of 314 00:14:02,234 --> 00:14:05,755 Speaker 1: the sink unfortunately, and there was actual poop in there. 315 00:14:06,609 --> 00:14:09,409 Speaker 1: Left after I was done, but came back to confront 316 00:14:09,409 --> 00:14:12,330 Speaker 1: the lady because it's seriously disgusting. And I had a 317 00:14:12,330 --> 00:14:14,449 Speaker 1: hunch that she was planning not to deal with it. 318 00:14:14,729 --> 00:14:16,609 Speaker 1: But when I asked that she cleaned it up, she 319 00:14:16,609 --> 00:14:19,169 Speaker 1: ignored me and then she said it was harassment. 320 00:14:19,969 --> 00:14:22,710 Speaker 1: And that there were cleaners for a reason. Like lady, 321 00:14:22,789 --> 00:14:26,070 Speaker 1: what the is your kid's pope? You can't expect someone 322 00:14:26,070 --> 00:14:28,630 Speaker 1: else to clean up after your mess. She likened it 323 00:14:28,630 --> 00:14:31,710 Speaker 1: to vomit and then kept repeating it was harassment and 324 00:14:31,710 --> 00:14:34,150 Speaker 1: that she would get the cleaners to come afterwards. The 325 00:14:34,150 --> 00:14:36,150 Speaker 1: entitlement is actually disgusting. 326 00:14:36,619 --> 00:14:40,500 Speaker 1: You should clean up after yourself. Do you not feel ashamed? 327 00:14:40,979 --> 00:14:42,940 Speaker 1: Only regret is that I didn't make more of a 328 00:14:42,940 --> 00:14:45,140 Speaker 1: fuss and take a video of her. Oh my God, 329 00:14:45,219 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 1: that's crazy. Then I let you mess on the thing. 330 00:14:47,659 --> 00:14:50,900 Speaker 1: It's I vomit? Let's say there's no water source next 331 00:14:50,900 --> 00:14:54,260 Speaker 1: to the toilet, right, in the cubicle and there's no choice. 332 00:14:54,349 --> 00:14:56,299 Speaker 1: You have to do it. The least you can do 333 00:14:56,299 --> 00:14:57,770 Speaker 1: is clean up after yourself. 334 00:14:58,099 --> 00:14:58,619 Speaker 1: That's 335 00:14:58,619 --> 00:14:58,979 Speaker 2: just 336 00:14:58,979 --> 00:14:59,239 Speaker 1: the 337 00:14:59,239 --> 00:14:59,479 Speaker 2: flush it down. 338 00:15:00,460 --> 00:15:02,739 Speaker 1: I feel like we will empathize with the woman like, OK, 339 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:04,580 Speaker 1: I know there's no choice, you have to do this, 340 00:15:04,619 --> 00:15:07,380 Speaker 1: but then wash it up afterwards. Then we'll be fine. 341 00:15:07,460 --> 00:15:09,500 Speaker 1: Like we'll move on. Yeah, I think to leave the 342 00:15:09,500 --> 00:15:11,419 Speaker 1: shit and be like cleaner, cleaner, this is not their 343 00:15:11,419 --> 00:15:12,030 Speaker 1: jobs go away. 344 00:15:12,619 --> 00:15:15,059 Speaker 1: The scope is not to clean poo poo off of 345 00:15:15,059 --> 00:15:19,419 Speaker 1: the wash hand sink. Then what about people who sat 346 00:15:19,419 --> 00:15:23,250 Speaker 1: on the toilet seats? You know, sometimes like people explode, right? 347 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:26,330 Speaker 1: Explosion in the toilet brownie crumbs. 348 00:15:26,500 --> 00:15:29,969 Speaker 2: Actually, I do notice that Singapore toilets have gotten cleaner. 349 00:15:30,219 --> 00:15:30,380 Speaker 2: The 350 00:15:30,380 --> 00:15:33,099 Speaker 1: cleaner is really amazing, doing an amazing job. 351 00:15:33,219 --> 00:15:33,380 Speaker 2: I 352 00:15:33,380 --> 00:15:36,460 Speaker 2: feel like a lot of people now, right, um. 353 00:15:37,359 --> 00:15:38,010 Speaker 2: more considerate. 354 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 1: Oh, I do think that the antiseptic thing has made 355 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:45,530 Speaker 1: a huge change in Singapore's cleanliness. I think after COVID, 356 00:15:45,679 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: people started to be more aware of germs and bacteria 357 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:54,489 Speaker 1: and dirt in general, but like I, I recently met with, 358 00:15:54,599 --> 00:15:57,700 Speaker 1: I made friends with this cleaner, she's an auntie, and 359 00:15:57,700 --> 00:16:01,559 Speaker 1: she was telling me that in male toilets where adults 360 00:16:01,559 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 1: are right, they still have the toilet paper comes that 361 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:05,469 Speaker 1: they throw, and I'm like, 362 00:16:06,169 --> 00:16:09,059 Speaker 1: You are 60 years old. You are 60 years old. 363 00:16:09,099 --> 00:16:12,349 Speaker 1: What are you doing? Then she said that the toilet bowl, 364 00:16:12,380 --> 00:16:15,140 Speaker 1: the seat, right, will have shoe prints. Yeah, I don't 365 00:16:15,140 --> 00:16:15,770 Speaker 1: get that. 366 00:16:16,140 --> 00:16:17,820 Speaker 2: What I learned is that the shoe prints is always 367 00:16:17,820 --> 00:16:19,809 Speaker 1: kids. No, no, no, I'm talking about 368 00:16:19,809 --> 00:16:20,330 Speaker 1: like women's. 369 00:16:21,460 --> 00:16:24,020 Speaker 2: I always see is always the kids' footprints, which 370 00:16:24,020 --> 00:16:26,619 Speaker 1: I also don't understand why you have to, but I 371 00:16:26,619 --> 00:16:30,219 Speaker 1: want to say right for women's toilet, the, the mens' pets, 372 00:16:30,289 --> 00:16:34,820 Speaker 1: the tampons, they are not disposed properly, right? It's crazy. 373 00:16:35,450 --> 00:16:38,890 Speaker 1: It's crazy, especially like the the older malls. The older malls, 374 00:16:38,969 --> 00:16:41,570 Speaker 1: you know, you know you have to brace yourself. You 375 00:16:41,570 --> 00:16:44,690 Speaker 1: can smell if I don't hold my breath, I will vomit. Yeah, 376 00:16:44,729 --> 00:16:47,690 Speaker 1: you can smell the toilet before you actually enter, but 377 00:16:47,690 --> 00:16:49,330 Speaker 1: I'm not even joking, right? You know they have those 378 00:16:49,330 --> 00:16:52,929 Speaker 1: like automated, um, like the bins. Then you open, right, 379 00:16:52,969 --> 00:16:55,510 Speaker 1: it's a ha look at my pet, and then it's 380 00:16:55,510 --> 00:16:58,570 Speaker 1: not wrapped it's open, OK, like they, they stick inside 381 00:16:58,570 --> 00:17:00,450 Speaker 1: so there's like a pop-up cut of your period but 382 00:17:00,450 --> 00:17:03,929 Speaker 1: just like bam bang Iin mansus like. 383 00:17:04,449 --> 00:17:08,218 Speaker 1: I can't just roll it up. You feel like rap. 384 00:17:08,550 --> 00:17:11,469 Speaker 1: Oh my God, stop. And then they expect the cleaners 385 00:17:11,469 --> 00:17:15,379 Speaker 1: to also clean up after them. It's not just baby shit, OK. Women, 386 00:17:15,619 --> 00:17:19,209 Speaker 1: we can do better. Guys, the cleaners are people too. 387 00:17:19,420 --> 00:17:22,270 Speaker 1: A lot of these are older women. Some of them 388 00:17:22,270 --> 00:17:25,629 Speaker 1: are like your neighbors, your aunties, your grandmas, your would 389 00:17:25,630 --> 00:17:27,540 Speaker 1: you do this at home? But to take a video 390 00:17:27,540 --> 00:17:29,310 Speaker 1: of people, you think, is it OK? 391 00:17:29,790 --> 00:17:30,560 Speaker 2: No, I think if 392 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:31,708 Speaker 1: like they deserve it, 393 00:17:32,030 --> 00:17:32,790 Speaker 2: yeah, if they deserve 394 00:17:32,790 --> 00:17:33,629 Speaker 1: it. But a 395 00:17:33,630 --> 00:17:35,909 Speaker 1: bit tricky because it's a toilet and you're so you 396 00:17:35,910 --> 00:17:37,819 Speaker 1: can't film someone in the toilet, right? 397 00:17:37,989 --> 00:17:39,869 Speaker 2: No, as in you are decent, right? No, to me, 398 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,349 Speaker 2: the fundamental issue is right, why are you so ashamed 399 00:17:42,349 --> 00:17:44,469 Speaker 2: of me taking a video of you? Because inherently you 400 00:17:44,469 --> 00:17:46,829 Speaker 2: know that you are doing something wrong. If you really 401 00:17:46,829 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 2: truly believe that you're not doing anything wrong, right, then 402 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:49,708 Speaker 2: you're scared what? Can I 403 00:17:49,709 --> 00:17:50,659 Speaker 1: ask you a question? 404 00:17:51,140 --> 00:17:53,199 Speaker 1: Actually it's not a question because I feel like it's wrong. 405 00:17:53,410 --> 00:17:55,728 Speaker 1: You know, sometimes some people no choice, right, but then 406 00:17:55,729 --> 00:17:58,130 Speaker 1: they have to shit somewhere. I think last year there 407 00:17:58,130 --> 00:18:00,599 Speaker 1: were a few uncles that shared near an MRT or 408 00:18:00,689 --> 00:18:04,079 Speaker 1: or like a mall, right? OK, so, so let's just empathize, OK. 409 00:18:04,189 --> 00:18:07,849 Speaker 1: These people might be your parents. They really tahan until 410 00:18:07,849 --> 00:18:10,488 Speaker 1: they cannot tahan already. So what must they do? They 411 00:18:10,489 --> 00:18:11,209 Speaker 1: really have to shit. 412 00:18:11,290 --> 00:18:14,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, OK, OK, OK. So is people in your pants 413 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:17,629 Speaker 1: or shit in public, right? Shit in public is not 414 00:18:17,630 --> 00:18:21,160 Speaker 1: an option, guys. No, but what if the shit will 415 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:24,119 Speaker 1: eventually still leak out of the pants? OK, then here's 416 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:27,349 Speaker 1: what I think. Go to the most secluded area, fastest shit, 417 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:29,198 Speaker 1: and then pick up with your hands and throw some 418 00:18:29,199 --> 00:18:30,478 Speaker 1: and then go go toilet wash your hand. No, what 419 00:18:30,479 --> 00:18:34,069 Speaker 1: I'm saying is, imagine this is your parent, ah, your 420 00:18:34,079 --> 00:18:36,349 Speaker 1: your dad or your mom. They really 421 00:18:37,089 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: Was running to the toilet already. OK, no choice really. Yeah. 422 00:18:40,939 --> 00:18:43,849 Speaker 1: Coming out already custom. Then they did that. They did 423 00:18:43,849 --> 00:18:47,409 Speaker 1: exactly what the uncles did. Then someone filmed them. Do 424 00:18:47,410 --> 00:18:50,689 Speaker 1: you feel like you empathize a little bit better just 425 00:18:50,689 --> 00:18:53,448 Speaker 1: because it's your parents? I feel bad that it happened 426 00:18:53,449 --> 00:18:54,660 Speaker 1: to you, but I also 427 00:18:55,214 --> 00:18:58,254 Speaker 1: understand you cannot do these things. No, but the filming 428 00:18:58,255 --> 00:19:00,775 Speaker 1: happened while they were shooting. Yeah, and then they, they 429 00:19:00,775 --> 00:19:03,775 Speaker 1: already uploaded the video. I will just say like I 430 00:19:03,775 --> 00:19:06,925 Speaker 1: will feel it is, but I also understand that person 431 00:19:07,275 --> 00:19:10,375 Speaker 1: doesn't understand what's clearly if you are someone that's really 432 00:19:10,375 --> 00:19:13,724 Speaker 1: filming somebody like making a in public like. 433 00:19:14,089 --> 00:19:16,410 Speaker 1: It's like what the? There are other things that you 434 00:19:16,410 --> 00:19:21,369 Speaker 1: can film and highlight and shame. Somebody having lack of 435 00:19:21,369 --> 00:19:23,810 Speaker 1: control to do business is not one of them. If 436 00:19:23,810 --> 00:19:25,800 Speaker 1: someone is being rude to an auntie, you film that, 437 00:19:25,979 --> 00:19:31,050 Speaker 1: go ahead. Yeah, poop in peace. Next story by user 438 00:19:31,050 --> 00:19:35,290 Speaker 1: do not resuscitate. Was 8 months pregnant, getting home from 439 00:19:35,290 --> 00:19:37,449 Speaker 1: work on the train. I took the opportunity to sit 440 00:19:37,449 --> 00:19:39,250 Speaker 1: on the reserved seat but would have given it up 441 00:19:39,250 --> 00:19:41,770 Speaker 1: for someone injured or the elderly if there were any. 442 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:44,599 Speaker 1: Cue this auntie and her friends walking right up to 443 00:19:44,599 --> 00:19:47,119 Speaker 1: me and then started to look at my seat longingly, 444 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,640 Speaker 1: looking at each other as if to say, look at 445 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:53,129 Speaker 1: this badge sitting on the reserved seat that belongs to us. 446 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:54,189 Speaker 1: That's crazy. 447 00:19:54,959 --> 00:19:56,718 Speaker 1: After a few minutes of them looking around to see 448 00:19:56,719 --> 00:19:58,839 Speaker 1: if anyone else was going to speak up for them, 449 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:02,920 Speaker 1: I stood up, pregnant belly, gloriously showing from the tight 450 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 1: dress I was wearing and said, You want this seat? 451 00:20:06,380 --> 00:20:09,709 Speaker 1: You guys should have seen their face from happy to 452 00:20:09,709 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: shocked to indignant to fake smile. This this sounds like 453 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,989 Speaker 1: something you would do. You want to see it? You 454 00:20:16,989 --> 00:20:18,699 Speaker 1: want to see it? Yeah, I'll do it with a limp. 455 00:20:18,979 --> 00:20:22,739 Speaker 1: I understand why the reserve seat exists, but if you 456 00:20:22,739 --> 00:20:24,339 Speaker 1: have to bully someone. 457 00:20:24,959 --> 00:20:27,910 Speaker 1: Into the seat, you don't deserve it. I'm sorry. Yeah, 458 00:20:28,079 --> 00:20:30,160 Speaker 2: and actually like there was one, right, I was sitting 459 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:34,400 Speaker 2: in the reserved seat on MRT la. Then, um, the 460 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,579 Speaker 2: other thing is like if I spot you, I will, 461 00:20:36,589 --> 00:20:40,310 Speaker 2: I will also offer, but if I didn't see you, right, 462 00:20:40,439 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 2: and then you ask, right, then obviously I will, I 463 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 2: will give her so. But the ones that I cannot 464 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:46,208 Speaker 2: stand are like the people who are like. 465 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 1: It flies. 466 00:20:49,569 --> 00:20:51,030 Speaker 2: So there was one that I like that, right? Now 467 00:20:51,030 --> 00:20:53,630 Speaker 2: I just sit down and I was like, I, I'm 468 00:20:53,630 --> 00:20:56,510 Speaker 2: not getting out until you ask properly. Then they go 469 00:20:56,510 --> 00:20:57,780 Speaker 2: and someone else. 470 00:20:57,989 --> 00:20:59,629 Speaker 1: Actually, if I'm beside you, I'll be like, oh my God, 471 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:03,959 Speaker 1: that's my friend. That's my friend right there. OK, maybe 472 00:21:03,959 --> 00:21:06,069 Speaker 1: she might really need a seat, maybe she's injured, but 473 00:21:06,069 --> 00:21:06,780 Speaker 1: it's called being 474 00:21:06,780 --> 00:21:07,270 Speaker 1: polite. 475 00:21:07,390 --> 00:21:07,430 Speaker 2: Yeah, 476 00:21:07,510 --> 00:21:08,000 Speaker 1: open your mouth 477 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,910 Speaker 2: and talk properly. You know nowadays got the sticker or like. 478 00:21:12,349 --> 00:21:17,310 Speaker 1: Yes, there's a sunflower lanyard that's for invisible disabilities. Yeah, 479 00:21:17,469 --> 00:21:19,510 Speaker 1: so I think in America or in the Western countries 480 00:21:19,510 --> 00:21:21,910 Speaker 1: it's a sunflower lanyard that you can wear to concerts, 481 00:21:22,030 --> 00:21:23,829 Speaker 1: so people will know that, you know, they will look 482 00:21:23,829 --> 00:21:26,109 Speaker 1: out for you if anything. But in Singapore, you can 483 00:21:26,109 --> 00:21:27,629 Speaker 1: go to the control station and ask them for a 484 00:21:27,630 --> 00:21:30,709 Speaker 1: badge so that people will know like to give seats 485 00:21:30,709 --> 00:21:32,109 Speaker 1: out for you or just watch out for 486 00:21:32,109 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: you. 487 00:21:32,829 --> 00:21:35,389 Speaker 2: OK, next 12 Romeo. 488 00:21:36,229 --> 00:21:39,579 Speaker 2: You know how there's this Chinese saying how sing Mei 489 00:21:39,579 --> 00:21:43,410 Speaker 2: hao bao all my stories all like the person very 490 00:21:43,410 --> 00:21:49,020 Speaker 2: dramatic bracket good heart doesn't mean got good returns close bracket. 491 00:21:49,819 --> 00:21:53,180 Speaker 2: I once saw this auntie in Chinatown lose balance and 492 00:21:53,180 --> 00:21:55,458 Speaker 2: because she was right in front of me, I grabbed 493 00:21:55,459 --> 00:21:56,819 Speaker 2: her shoulder to steady her. 494 00:21:57,829 --> 00:22:00,699 Speaker 2: After she was back on her 2 ft, she swung 495 00:22:00,699 --> 00:22:03,468 Speaker 2: around with her trolley and started screaming at me in 496 00:22:03,469 --> 00:22:06,989 Speaker 2: Hokkien and Chinese, asking me why I pushed her, what 497 00:22:06,989 --> 00:22:09,660 Speaker 2: the F is wrong with me. I'm a crazy boy. 498 00:22:09,829 --> 00:22:12,469 Speaker 2: My father died, my auntie died, my mother died. I 499 00:22:12,469 --> 00:22:12,780 Speaker 2: have a 500 00:22:12,780 --> 00:22:13,739 Speaker 1: CB, ETC, 501 00:22:13,750 --> 00:22:17,300 Speaker 1: etc, etc. Wait, wait, wait, wait, like you want to 502 00:22:17,300 --> 00:22:26,459 Speaker 1: play my mother to say why you say papa, 503 00:22:26,469 --> 00:22:26,479 Speaker 2: yeah. 504 00:22:30,130 --> 00:22:30,150 Speaker 2: Near 505 00:22:30,150 --> 00:22:30,680 Speaker 1: like what the 506 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 2: hell this was like 2017, so elderly rich wasn't really 507 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:39,879 Speaker 2: memable back then. So I was like just until what 508 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:40,599 Speaker 2: I never push you. 509 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:46,199 Speaker 2: Screaming intensifies. I started walking away and she just stood 510 00:22:46,199 --> 00:22:48,599 Speaker 2: there screaming at the top of her voice, and I 511 00:22:48,599 --> 00:22:50,599 Speaker 2: could hear her from the other effing side of the 512 00:22:50,599 --> 00:22:52,718 Speaker 2: road as I effed off all the way and took 513 00:22:52,719 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 2: a lift up to a different floor of a nearby 514 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:56,250 Speaker 2: block just to escape her. 515 00:22:56,479 --> 00:22:56,679 Speaker 1: I mean, 516 00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:59,469 Speaker 1: she clearly misunderstood his intentions lah. 517 00:23:00,209 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 1: I think sometimes people just assume the worst of, uh, 518 00:23:03,849 --> 00:23:08,550 Speaker 1: kind-hearted strangers. Actually this one is not really entitled. OK, 519 00:23:08,569 --> 00:23:11,089 Speaker 1: maybe the auntie is having a really bad day. Yeah, 520 00:23:11,170 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: she was crushing crash out until across the street, you know, 521 00:23:16,369 --> 00:23:19,959 Speaker 1: there's that one moment, right? There's this one defining moment 522 00:23:20,329 --> 00:23:22,339 Speaker 1: that you go, oh yeah, maybe I drop it or 523 00:23:22,339 --> 00:23:22,849 Speaker 1: I can. 524 00:23:23,339 --> 00:23:26,260 Speaker 1: I can really full send, right, and she really full 525 00:23:26,260 --> 00:23:29,239 Speaker 1: send I wonder, right, after crashing out, right, all these 526 00:23:29,239 --> 00:23:31,599 Speaker 1: aunties crashing out, do they like, Hey, shit, I shouldn't 527 00:23:31,599 --> 00:23:33,319 Speaker 1: have done that at all. Like, no, 528 00:23:33,369 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 2: I think they go home then they double down. You 529 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: know what she will say he pushed me that I 530 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:41,238 Speaker 1: fall down. The the suddenly, suddenly it's like the, you know. 531 00:23:41,444 --> 00:23:43,805 Speaker 1: Car stopped right then the auntie like, you know, the 532 00:23:43,805 --> 00:23:44,185 Speaker 1: Chinas 533 00:23:45,685 --> 00:23:47,843 Speaker 2: she pushed me there I fall down. Then he, 534 00:23:47,925 --> 00:23:49,364 Speaker 1: he touched my backside. The other 535 00:23:49,364 --> 00:23:50,314 Speaker 1: day he spit on 536 00:23:50,314 --> 00:23:51,285 Speaker 1: me. He's really 537 00:23:51,285 --> 00:23:53,405 Speaker 2: like then when I'm on the floor, right, then he 538 00:23:53,405 --> 00:23:56,994 Speaker 2: steal my wallet, I think, right, some of these people 539 00:23:57,285 --> 00:24:00,724 Speaker 2: have a victim mentality like they just want to kind 540 00:24:00,724 --> 00:24:01,314 Speaker 2: of be like. 541 00:24:01,540 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, all these bad things happening to 542 00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:03,599 Speaker 2: me. 543 00:24:03,719 --> 00:24:06,500 Speaker 1: Oh my God, I've seen a TikTok video whereby um 544 00:24:06,500 --> 00:24:09,760 Speaker 1: they say that when grandparents are bored and then they 545 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:11,640 Speaker 1: realize that no one's paying attention to them, right, then 546 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,319 Speaker 1: they'll suddenly victimize themselves, then nobody cares about me. 547 00:24:15,510 --> 00:24:18,359 Speaker 1: Yes, you know what I mean so maybe this, yeah, 548 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 1: so maybe this is them projecting to strangers because maybe 549 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:23,239 Speaker 1: they don't have the attention 550 00:24:23,239 --> 00:24:23,790 Speaker 1: at home. 551 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, then they need to have this experience, right, 552 00:24:25,719 --> 00:24:27,579 Speaker 2: so that they can bring it home and then like today, ah, 553 00:24:27,719 --> 00:24:28,319 Speaker 2: you know, 554 00:24:29,180 --> 00:24:29,949 Speaker 1: got a story then how can you do this to you? 555 00:24:29,959 --> 00:24:36,920 Speaker 1: Are you? Then she done it like bitch you all 556 00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:41,839 Speaker 1: fell for it. She's having a fun shouting match. Actually 557 00:24:41,839 --> 00:24:44,150 Speaker 1: it's true. I think it sometimes it might be that. 558 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,579 Speaker 1: Like they just want, I mean everybody wants to be 559 00:24:46,579 --> 00:24:49,849 Speaker 1: a main character. They, they want to be hurt. And 560 00:24:49,849 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 1: to be honest, right, at the age, right, you're nothing 561 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:52,290 Speaker 1: to lose. 562 00:24:53,329 --> 00:24:55,640 Speaker 1: You can totally buy into I'm just a crazy old lady, 563 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,280 Speaker 1: then what? Then what? I'm still old. 564 00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:58,040 Speaker 1: We need to respect me 565 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:00,560 Speaker 2: to my workplace. I retired like 20 years ago. 566 00:25:00,959 --> 00:25:01,319 Speaker 1: What are you going 567 00:25:01,319 --> 00:25:02,680 Speaker 1: to tell my mother, my mother died in really they 568 00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:07,919 Speaker 1: can lie, you know, actually I feel like a lot 569 00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,920 Speaker 1: of seniors in workplaces, they don't give a whether people 570 00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,079 Speaker 1: like them or not. OK lah, I'm doing whatever I want. Uh, 571 00:25:14,239 --> 00:25:16,469 Speaker 1: you all think I'm rude, you all think I'm disrespectful. 572 00:25:16,520 --> 00:25:17,959 Speaker 1: Not my problem. 100%. 573 00:25:18,270 --> 00:25:21,489 Speaker 1: I recently read this thing, right, um, how you know the, 574 00:25:21,859 --> 00:25:24,420 Speaker 1: I don't owe anyone anything, like this mentality is actually 575 00:25:24,420 --> 00:25:27,780 Speaker 1: very harmful because as a society we do owe each 576 00:25:27,780 --> 00:25:30,819 Speaker 1: other empathy at the bare minimum. If we all care, 577 00:25:30,959 --> 00:25:32,939 Speaker 1: I don't owe you anything, right, we will never function. 578 00:25:34,250 --> 00:25:35,140 Speaker 1: Question 579 00:25:35,810 --> 00:25:39,599 Speaker 1: OK, I'm gonna go first. Have you subscribed to You 580 00:25:39,599 --> 00:25:40,680 Speaker 1: Got Watch? Give us 581 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:42,209 Speaker 2: 3 582 00:25:42,209 --> 00:25:42,770 Speaker 1: reasons why 583 00:25:42,770 --> 00:25:42,889 Speaker 2: you 584 00:25:42,890 --> 00:25:43,319 Speaker 1: haven't. 585 00:25:43,449 --> 00:25:46,449 Speaker 2: I mean, reason number 1 maybe is because you don't 586 00:25:46,449 --> 00:25:49,130 Speaker 2: like me. Reason number 2 is maybe like 587 00:25:49,130 --> 00:25:50,380 Speaker 1: you 588 00:25:50,380 --> 00:25:52,530 Speaker 1: don't like. Then reason number 3 is you just feel 589 00:25:52,530 --> 00:25:55,010 Speaker 1: like you don't want to stay in your YouTube channel. Oh, 590 00:25:55,170 --> 00:25:56,929 Speaker 1: so it's not about you. possible they won't like me? 591 00:25:57,050 --> 00:25:57,389 Speaker 1: What the hell. 592 00:26:00,130 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 1: I'm so entitled. 593 00:26:04,709 --> 00:26:04,729 Speaker 1: Our boy, 594 00:26:07,790 --> 00:26:07,810 Speaker 1: boy. 595 00:26:18,890 --> 00:26:19,119 Speaker 1: 029 my man Tim Lim. Oh my God, Tim Lim 596 00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,810 Speaker 1: Tim worst one I've encountered was an ex-girlfriend's brother. He 597 00:26:22,810 --> 00:26:24,208 Speaker 1: was the golden child of their family. 598 00:26:24,589 --> 00:26:28,208 Speaker 1: In his parents' eyes. In actuality, he was nearing 30 599 00:26:28,209 --> 00:26:30,599 Speaker 1: with no job and dropped out of school. All he 600 00:26:30,599 --> 00:26:33,040 Speaker 1: does is stay at home and play games. Their mom 601 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:36,250 Speaker 1: does everything for him, washes his clothes, cleans his room, 602 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: and gives him allowance. He won't do anything on his own. 603 00:26:40,469 --> 00:26:42,810 Speaker 1: The mom even has to buy new clothes and underwear 604 00:26:42,810 --> 00:26:45,929 Speaker 1: for him. That's crazy. At first I pitied him because 605 00:26:45,930 --> 00:26:48,650 Speaker 1: it sounded like depression, but I quickly found out that 606 00:26:48,650 --> 00:26:52,489 Speaker 1: he was also a massive asshole, would blame everyone else 607 00:26:52,489 --> 00:26:56,369 Speaker 1: for his problems, specifically his mom. He would throw tantrums, 608 00:26:56,569 --> 00:26:58,050 Speaker 1: shout at her when he doesn't get. 609 00:26:58,109 --> 00:27:01,099 Speaker 1: Do what he wants. Even simple things like if the 610 00:27:01,099 --> 00:27:03,459 Speaker 1: mom didn't buy the correct food for him will result 611 00:27:03,459 --> 00:27:06,698 Speaker 1: in screaming. Are you a child or what? He's a 612 00:27:06,699 --> 00:27:09,969 Speaker 1: man child. Once he tried to heat up food for himself, 613 00:27:10,180 --> 00:27:12,738 Speaker 1: he put his tapao plastic container into the microwave and 614 00:27:12,739 --> 00:27:15,699 Speaker 1: microwaved it for 15 minutes. 15 minutes. 615 00:27:17,390 --> 00:27:21,030 Speaker 1: 15 minutes is crazy. Imran, I can feel your anger 616 00:27:21,030 --> 00:27:24,869 Speaker 1: from here. Of course, the entire container melted and food burnt, 617 00:27:24,989 --> 00:27:29,030 Speaker 1: which ruined the microwave. Ex-girlfriend scolded him and he immediately 618 00:27:29,030 --> 00:27:31,790 Speaker 1: called his mom, who sided with him and said he's 619 00:27:31,790 --> 00:27:34,579 Speaker 1: too young. You should heat up the food for him. 620 00:27:36,060 --> 00:27:41,250 Speaker 1: At the time, the ex-girlfriend was 27 and he was 24. OK, 621 00:27:41,260 --> 00:27:45,859 Speaker 1: he's he's man's child and he's spoiled rotten coddled, but 622 00:27:45,859 --> 00:27:49,010 Speaker 1: he's entitled to it because his mother made that so. 623 00:27:49,459 --> 00:27:49,709 Speaker 1: Actually, 624 00:27:50,060 --> 00:27:55,089 Speaker 2: you realized that like our parents' generation and maybe their parents' generation, right, 625 00:27:55,420 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 2: there was this, um, set of expectations for men and 626 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,929 Speaker 2: set of expectations for women. So like a lot of men, right. 627 00:28:03,489 --> 00:28:06,869 Speaker 2: Didn't learn how to do a lot of core domestic skills. 628 00:28:06,949 --> 00:28:09,550 Speaker 2: So I feel like this is just a continuation of that. 629 00:28:09,790 --> 00:28:10,050 Speaker 1: Yeah, 630 00:28:10,310 --> 00:28:14,339 Speaker 1: I agree. I think a lot of um men were 631 00:28:14,339 --> 00:28:16,140 Speaker 1: told to like, oh, you don't have to wash the dishes. 632 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:18,708 Speaker 1: And I think not just with kids, you know, I 633 00:28:18,709 --> 00:28:21,540 Speaker 1: think sometimes with their husbands, I feel like a lot 634 00:28:21,540 --> 00:28:26,380 Speaker 1: of women in the older generation, they were trained to 635 00:28:26,380 --> 00:28:28,010 Speaker 1: be the 636 00:28:29,479 --> 00:28:32,650 Speaker 1: Just yeah, housekeeper, over the years, right, you've enabled the 637 00:28:32,650 --> 00:28:35,208 Speaker 1: men to not lift a finger in terms of putting 638 00:28:35,209 --> 00:28:38,319 Speaker 1: work in the kitchen, sweeping the floor, mopping the floor. 639 00:28:38,410 --> 00:28:40,930 Speaker 2: There are times when like when you don't let your 640 00:28:40,930 --> 00:28:41,810 Speaker 2: kids do it, right. 641 00:28:42,479 --> 00:28:44,959 Speaker 2: I have realized that there are some parents that are like, ah, 642 00:28:45,229 --> 00:28:47,609 Speaker 2: it's faster if I just do it for you, but then, 643 00:28:47,619 --> 00:28:50,459 Speaker 2: then your kids are completely dependent for you like forever, lah. 644 00:28:50,550 --> 00:28:53,670 Speaker 2: So like cooking instant noodles. So then I had friends 645 00:28:53,670 --> 00:28:56,709 Speaker 2: who were when I was in NS right, we were 646 00:28:56,709 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 2: like 20 something. Then I had friends who cannot cook 647 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:03,550 Speaker 2: instant noodles. Yeah, so to me it's a case of 648 00:29:03,550 --> 00:29:06,060 Speaker 2: like sometimes as parents you also need to 649 00:29:06,819 --> 00:29:11,020 Speaker 2: Endure the the learning process where your child might screw 650 00:29:11,020 --> 00:29:13,979 Speaker 2: up doing something a few times, but there's a long 651 00:29:13,979 --> 00:29:14,500 Speaker 2: term benefit. 652 00:29:15,050 --> 00:29:17,660 Speaker 1: And I think linking it back to entitlement, right? I 653 00:29:17,660 --> 00:29:21,319 Speaker 1: feel like now he develops a sense of entitlement to 654 00:29:21,319 --> 00:29:25,839 Speaker 1: all these things about living life on easy mode because 655 00:29:25,885 --> 00:29:28,354 Speaker 1: His parents enabled it and it has to do with 656 00:29:28,354 --> 00:29:30,994 Speaker 1: parenting and a lot of us actually, the sense of 657 00:29:30,994 --> 00:29:34,755 Speaker 1: entitlement is very directly correlated to what we were brought 658 00:29:34,755 --> 00:29:37,035 Speaker 1: up with, you know, I mean if your parents tell 659 00:29:37,035 --> 00:29:39,314 Speaker 1: you that you deserve this, then you feel entitled to 660 00:29:39,314 --> 00:29:41,675 Speaker 1: that because that's what you were told, right? So there 661 00:29:41,675 --> 00:29:44,515 Speaker 1: are some people who feel entitled to service stuff and 662 00:29:44,515 --> 00:29:47,155 Speaker 1: be like, because their parents do that and they watch 663 00:29:47,155 --> 00:29:47,785 Speaker 1: that happen. 664 00:29:47,915 --> 00:29:51,114 Speaker 2: The one that really like always annoyed me, right, even 665 00:29:51,114 --> 00:29:53,354 Speaker 2: as a kid growing up was when I go to 666 00:29:53,354 --> 00:29:54,474 Speaker 2: like someone's house, right. 667 00:29:54,930 --> 00:29:56,359 Speaker 2: In the way they talk to their helper. 668 00:29:57,130 --> 00:30:00,530 Speaker 2: Like, so it's OK take water for me. 669 00:30:01,219 --> 00:30:01,760 Speaker 1: Like my room so 670 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:05,119 Speaker 1: messy? You haven't clean. How you put this? Why you 671 00:30:05,119 --> 00:30:06,189 Speaker 1: waste until here? 672 00:30:06,319 --> 00:30:07,130 Speaker 1: I'm like, No, it's 673 00:30:07,130 --> 00:30:08,920 Speaker 2: like even the, the way that they ask for things. 674 00:30:09,319 --> 00:30:11,160 Speaker 2: So it's like, OK, if you want, if you want 675 00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:13,829 Speaker 2: to take something for you, then sure, but like please 676 00:30:13,829 --> 00:30:14,030 Speaker 2: thank 677 00:30:14,030 --> 00:30:14,839 Speaker 1: you. Yes, 678 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 1: yeah, thank you. I like things like she never packed 679 00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:22,479 Speaker 1: my bag. Like if you go to school, I remember 680 00:30:22,479 --> 00:30:25,319 Speaker 1: schoolmates they blame their helpers for not. 681 00:30:25,869 --> 00:30:28,469 Speaker 1: Putting their homework back in their school bag or not 682 00:30:28,469 --> 00:30:31,189 Speaker 1: packing their bags properly and I'm like your helper go 683 00:30:31,189 --> 00:30:33,150 Speaker 1: to school or you go to school. Actually, after hearing 684 00:30:33,150 --> 00:30:35,229 Speaker 1: all these stories, right, they all think that it's more 685 00:30:35,229 --> 00:30:37,510 Speaker 1: so a lack of self-awareness rather than 686 00:30:37,510 --> 00:30:38,109 Speaker 1: entitlement. 687 00:30:38,349 --> 00:30:42,869 Speaker 2: No, I think that people just find reasons to justify why. 688 00:30:43,540 --> 00:30:45,670 Speaker 2: They want to behave a certain way, right, they take 689 00:30:45,670 --> 00:30:47,630 Speaker 2: the easy way out. So in the case of a 690 00:30:47,630 --> 00:30:51,150 Speaker 2: helper at home, right, there's always a justification that like, oh, 691 00:30:51,310 --> 00:30:53,540 Speaker 2: I'm paying for this service, so I must get this service. 692 00:30:53,949 --> 00:30:56,310 Speaker 2: But the way that people define their service is very different, 693 00:30:56,469 --> 00:30:58,949 Speaker 2: and then there's also um you need to balance the 694 00:30:58,949 --> 00:31:02,910 Speaker 2: convenience uh of having a utility of having a helper 695 00:31:02,910 --> 00:31:05,560 Speaker 2: together with like raising your own child property. It's like 696 00:31:05,829 --> 00:31:09,099 Speaker 2: they are seeing how you interact with a a helper 697 00:31:09,099 --> 00:31:10,219 Speaker 2: and learning from you. 698 00:31:10,390 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 1: But like self-awareness, I feel like 699 00:31:13,359 --> 00:31:17,520 Speaker 1: If someone has been coddled and this problem right, doesn't 700 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:22,520 Speaker 1: even enter the brain because the mom just makes sure 701 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:24,359 Speaker 1: that he never even has to deal with it, it's 702 00:31:24,359 --> 00:31:27,239 Speaker 1: settled already, then you end up with a lack of 703 00:31:27,239 --> 00:31:29,829 Speaker 1: self-awareness because you don't even realize that these problems exist 704 00:31:29,829 --> 00:31:32,689 Speaker 1: and you don't know that you're actually being like 705 00:31:33,290 --> 00:31:35,310 Speaker 1: A very entitled coddled human 706 00:31:35,310 --> 00:31:35,439 Speaker 1: being. 707 00:31:35,939 --> 00:31:37,790 Speaker 2: But also depends on when you reach a certain point 708 00:31:37,790 --> 00:31:40,589 Speaker 2: you need to have that self-awareness where out of my 709 00:31:40,589 --> 00:31:42,619 Speaker 2: group of 10 friends, right, I'm the only person that 710 00:31:42,619 --> 00:31:46,380 Speaker 2: doesn't know or cannot do this. Is there a problem? 711 00:31:46,670 --> 00:31:48,790 Speaker 2: So then if you don't have that self-awareness or it's 712 00:31:48,790 --> 00:31:50,310 Speaker 2: a bit on you lah. Do you think 713 00:31:50,310 --> 00:31:51,959 Speaker 1: as a friend you should be the one 714 00:31:51,959 --> 00:31:53,589 Speaker 2: to call out also you don't have. 715 00:31:56,170 --> 00:31:58,099 Speaker 1: As in you shame them, not like, not in a 716 00:31:58,099 --> 00:31:58,670 Speaker 1: nice way. 717 00:31:59,420 --> 00:32:00,819 Speaker 2: I shame you 1 to 1 lah, not in a group. 718 00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:05,920 Speaker 1: OK, I think if, if it's like a very close friend, 719 00:32:06,010 --> 00:32:09,130 Speaker 1: like 34, or actually it's very trivial, but you've never 720 00:32:09,130 --> 00:32:12,449 Speaker 1: had to do this. Wow, we grew up very differently like. 721 00:32:12,545 --> 00:32:15,214 Speaker 1: I think that's very common. I hear that all the time, like, huh, 722 00:32:15,454 --> 00:32:17,613 Speaker 1: you want, oh my God, not me. My mother would 723 00:32:17,614 --> 00:32:19,055 Speaker 1: beat me if I ask this kind of thing. OK, 724 00:32:19,094 --> 00:32:21,175 Speaker 1: that's a very nice way, like casual way to say 725 00:32:21,175 --> 00:32:26,125 Speaker 1: or like, oh my God, never mind we teach you. Yeah, 726 00:32:26,295 --> 00:32:28,344 Speaker 1: I think there are ways to go about it and 727 00:32:29,854 --> 00:32:33,094 Speaker 1: but if all your friends are like this, then you 728 00:32:33,094 --> 00:32:34,275 Speaker 1: all will never learn. 729 00:32:35,969 --> 00:32:37,530 Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us on the Hot Pot. You 730 00:32:37,530 --> 00:32:39,969 Speaker 1: can also listen to us on Spotify, Apple Podcast and 731 00:32:39,969 --> 00:32:42,329 Speaker 1: we listen. And subscribe to you go watch if you 732 00:32:42,329 --> 00:32:42,729 Speaker 1: haven't 733 00:32:42,729 --> 00:32:43,099 Speaker 1: already. 734 00:32:43,199 --> 00:32:45,170 Speaker 2: And let us know in the comments as well your 735 00:32:45,170 --> 00:32:48,609 Speaker 2: most entitled Singaporean stories. The more entitled, the 736 00:32:48,609 --> 00:32:48,890 Speaker 2: better. 737 00:32:48,969 --> 00:32:50,729 Speaker 1: We will like your comment and we'll see you on 738 00:32:50,729 --> 00:32:52,060 Speaker 1: the next episode. Bye. 739 00:32:53,290 --> 00:32:56,170 Speaker 1: 24 go army already, right? Yeah, you go army, you 740 00:32:56,170 --> 00:32:57,630 Speaker 1: purple light already, then you still want this light. What's 741 00:32:57,630 --> 00:33:07,369 Speaker 1: purple light? You don't know parade knock it down. 742 00:33:10,339 --> 00:33:11,329 Speaker 2: You understand. You think I just because I wake up 743 00:33:11,329 --> 00:33:11,670 Speaker 2: in the morning.