1 00:00:00,009 --> 00:00:01,480 Speaker 1: Hello Sazel 2 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:01,919 Speaker 2: and I'm 3 00:00:01,919 --> 00:00:04,179 Speaker 1: Jermaine and welcome back to another episode of Cities. 4 00:00:06,230 --> 00:00:07,710 Speaker 1: You know what, I want to say thank you for 5 00:00:07,710 --> 00:00:11,260 Speaker 1: tuning in to every of our episodes. And the past 6 00:00:11,260 --> 00:00:13,420 Speaker 1: episode on solo traveling was one that I really enjoyed 7 00:00:13,420 --> 00:00:16,340 Speaker 1: as well. So in that spirit, today, we're going to 8 00:00:16,340 --> 00:00:20,809 Speaker 1: do another episode on solo, but not solo traveling anymore, 9 00:00:21,100 --> 00:00:22,849 Speaker 1: on the theme of solo dating. 10 00:00:23,629 --> 00:00:24,719 Speaker 2: What is so dating? 11 00:00:24,950 --> 00:00:25,110 Speaker 1: Like 12 00:00:25,110 --> 00:00:27,290 Speaker 1: you take yourself out on a date. Bingo. 13 00:00:27,510 --> 00:00:28,209 Speaker 2: How is that a date? 14 00:00:28,670 --> 00:00:31,190 Speaker 1: Exactly. So you are on a date with yourself. So 15 00:00:31,190 --> 00:00:34,270 Speaker 1: it's like you plan something intentionally as you would for 16 00:00:34,270 --> 00:00:36,269 Speaker 1: a partner, but it's just you like self-care 17 00:00:36,270 --> 00:00:36,778 Speaker 1: day. Yeah, 18 00:00:37,939 --> 00:00:39,229 Speaker 2: so, so for example if I go. 19 00:00:39,330 --> 00:00:42,409 Speaker 2: For like my hair appointment, my nail appointment, that's solo dating. 20 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:43,259 Speaker 2: Then you take 21 00:00:43,259 --> 00:00:43,439 Speaker 2: yourself 22 00:00:43,439 --> 00:00:47,049 Speaker 1: out to a nice meal. And today I'm actually dressed 23 00:00:47,049 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 1: in how I would dress if I were out for 24 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: a solo dating. I would take myself hiking. I would 25 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:53,990 Speaker 1: want to hit the gym and then go and eat 26 00:00:53,990 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: some very good steak. 27 00:00:55,700 --> 00:00:58,939 Speaker 2: Interesting. Yeah, so here's the thing about solo dating, right? 28 00:00:59,099 --> 00:01:02,569 Speaker 2: Things like hair appointments, self-care, nail appointment. I always thought 29 00:01:02,569 --> 00:01:05,819 Speaker 2: that those were errands to me. They were errands I 30 00:01:05,819 --> 00:01:08,459 Speaker 2: had to run. So I never saw it as like 31 00:01:08,459 --> 00:01:09,639 Speaker 2: solo dating. 32 00:01:09,779 --> 00:01:13,300 Speaker 1: That's very good insight. I think the usual busy average 33 00:01:13,300 --> 00:01:15,819 Speaker 1: Singaporean woman would probably think that way, but now that 34 00:01:15,819 --> 00:01:18,459 Speaker 1: you said that, maybe it's time to change our mindset 35 00:01:18,459 --> 00:01:20,980 Speaker 1: a bit. Just enjoy soak in the moment. 36 00:01:21,074 --> 00:01:24,625 Speaker 1: I usually as well it's not like errands that you 37 00:01:24,625 --> 00:01:29,065 Speaker 1: schedule in between things, but it has to be like intentional. Like, OK, 38 00:01:29,224 --> 00:01:32,613 Speaker 1: this weekend I'm going to take myself out for brunch 39 00:01:32,614 --> 00:01:36,014 Speaker 1: and then I'll go do my nails. It's like intentionally. Yeah, 40 00:01:36,184 --> 00:01:39,274 Speaker 1: you have to remember that solo dating is about treating yourself. 41 00:01:39,425 --> 00:01:41,764 Speaker 1: It's not just checking off something on your to do list. 42 00:01:41,974 --> 00:01:42,144 Speaker 1: So 43 00:01:42,144 --> 00:01:43,654 Speaker 2: do you girls do solo dates? 44 00:01:44,464 --> 00:01:45,934 Speaker 1: We don't even do dates with people. 45 00:01:47,220 --> 00:01:49,930 Speaker 1: I think all the time, but last time I would 46 00:01:49,930 --> 00:01:52,379 Speaker 1: be very afraid to embark on a solo date. I 47 00:01:52,379 --> 00:01:54,540 Speaker 1: would be afraid of what people would say. There was 48 00:01:54,540 --> 00:01:56,779 Speaker 1: one time in secondary school, this friend told me, Ha ha, 49 00:01:56,900 --> 00:02:00,459 Speaker 1: you know, friend, fine friend, and I was so hurt. Yeah, 50 00:02:00,500 --> 00:02:03,580 Speaker 1: that's very mean, right? I mean, back then we didn't 51 00:02:03,580 --> 00:02:06,900 Speaker 1: know better, but then now that I've grown up, I 52 00:02:06,900 --> 00:02:08,020 Speaker 1: actually embrace my me. 53 00:02:08,195 --> 00:02:12,424 Speaker 1: Time allotted. I understand. Do you enjoy having a meal 54 00:02:12,425 --> 00:02:12,914 Speaker 1: by yourself? 55 00:02:13,675 --> 00:02:13,875 Speaker 2: I 56 00:02:13,875 --> 00:02:14,065 Speaker 1: used 57 00:02:14,065 --> 00:02:17,154 Speaker 2: to hate it. I thought everyone was judging me for 58 00:02:17,154 --> 00:02:20,595 Speaker 2: eating by myself and I would have literal like social 59 00:02:20,595 --> 00:02:23,434 Speaker 2: anxiety going out to eat by myself, but now I 60 00:02:23,434 --> 00:02:26,144 Speaker 2: love it. I just ate by myself before this episode 61 00:02:26,145 --> 00:02:28,674 Speaker 2: and I had a great time. I was watching Sings Inferno. 62 00:02:29,929 --> 00:02:32,758 Speaker 2: So engrossed with that show a muffin. 63 00:02:32,929 --> 00:02:33,789 Speaker 1: At this age, 64 00:02:33,929 --> 00:02:37,889 Speaker 1: it almost feels luxurious, you know, like, um, I have 65 00:02:37,889 --> 00:02:39,649 Speaker 1: time to spare. I'm going to sit with 66 00:02:39,649 --> 00:02:40,769 Speaker 1: myself. Yeah. 67 00:02:40,889 --> 00:02:43,130 Speaker 2: Here's the strength of solo dating, right? 68 00:02:43,729 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: You wouldn't go on a date with someone you don't like. 69 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,460 Speaker 2: Is that correct? Sure. So if you're going to date yourself, 70 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 2: you have to love yourself. If you don't like yourself, 71 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:53,759 Speaker 2: you wouldn't want to spend time alone by yourself. What 72 00:02:53,758 --> 00:02:56,529 Speaker 1: if someone is now saying, but I don't like myself? OK, 73 00:02:56,660 --> 00:02:59,410 Speaker 1: you know, a psychologist based in London, her name is Dr. 74 00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:03,228 Speaker 1: Natalie Bailey. She says that spending quality time alone can 75 00:03:03,229 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: be a very valuable tool, and she says solo dating 76 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: is all about self-love, self-discovery, growth, and empowerment, and it's 77 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:11,440 Speaker 1: an 78 00:03:11,585 --> 00:03:14,853 Speaker 1: meditation, a time to discover more about yourself without the 79 00:03:14,854 --> 00:03:18,005 Speaker 1: noise and the influence of others. So if you are 80 00:03:18,005 --> 00:03:20,604 Speaker 1: someone who doesn't like yourself, maybe you can use this 81 00:03:20,604 --> 00:03:23,354 Speaker 1: chance to find out what you don't like about yourself 82 00:03:23,604 --> 00:03:24,323 Speaker 1: and work on it. 83 00:03:25,145 --> 00:03:28,595 Speaker 2: I think solo dating takes a lot of guts as well. So, 84 00:03:28,725 --> 00:03:31,414 Speaker 2: so I'm dressed today in a very nice dinner dress 85 00:03:31,413 --> 00:03:35,005 Speaker 2: because I'm aspiring to take myself out on a nice 86 00:03:35,005 --> 00:03:38,125 Speaker 2: solo date dinner, right? Not like a little lunch or cafe, 87 00:03:38,205 --> 00:03:39,244 Speaker 2: but a full on dinner. 88 00:03:39,419 --> 00:03:41,830 Speaker 2: So this happened and this inspiration came when I was 89 00:03:41,830 --> 00:03:44,369 Speaker 2: in LA for work and I was taking my friend 90 00:03:44,369 --> 00:03:46,940 Speaker 2: out to dinner at like a really nice restaurant in 91 00:03:46,940 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 2: LA and there was a girl sitting next to us 92 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:53,809 Speaker 2: and she was in this red booty dress with feathers, gorgeous, 93 00:03:54,009 --> 00:03:57,289 Speaker 2: gorgeous girl. And then she was alone for the whole meal. 94 00:03:57,369 --> 00:03:58,610 Speaker 2: So me and my friend were like, oh, I think 95 00:03:58,610 --> 00:04:00,529 Speaker 2: she came alone like just to have a nice meal 96 00:04:00,529 --> 00:04:02,889 Speaker 2: by herself. And at the end of the meal, a 97 00:04:02,889 --> 00:04:05,928 Speaker 2: birthday cake came out for her. So on our way out, right, 98 00:04:06,070 --> 00:04:07,169 Speaker 2: we were waiting for a car. 99 00:04:07,304 --> 00:04:09,304 Speaker 2: And she was there at the drop off point and 100 00:04:09,304 --> 00:04:11,014 Speaker 2: we asked her like, where are you from? Like, you 101 00:04:11,014 --> 00:04:15,735 Speaker 2: know what's going on? And she's actually from, I believe, Barbados. Oh, 102 00:04:15,854 --> 00:04:16,924 Speaker 2: she's on holiday, 103 00:04:17,494 --> 00:04:18,993 Speaker 1: is that where you want to hold your wedding next 104 00:04:18,994 --> 00:04:21,214 Speaker 1: time came from? She's on 105 00:04:21,214 --> 00:04:22,045 Speaker 1: holiday 106 00:04:22,654 --> 00:04:25,174 Speaker 2: in the US alone. It happened to be her birthday, 107 00:04:25,255 --> 00:04:28,415 Speaker 2: so she took herself out to dinner and dressed in 108 00:04:28,415 --> 00:04:30,005 Speaker 2: the nicest. She was stunning. 109 00:04:30,535 --> 00:04:31,243 Speaker 1: Oh my God 110 00:04:31,244 --> 00:04:32,424 Speaker 2: I want to be her. 111 00:04:32,635 --> 00:04:34,075 Speaker 1: Wait, she arranged the cake for herself. 112 00:04:36,130 --> 00:04:37,329 Speaker 2: So that's my inspiration. 113 00:04:37,730 --> 00:04:40,558 Speaker 1: You know, prior to this episode, I never ever thought 114 00:04:40,559 --> 00:04:43,160 Speaker 1: about the idea of taking myself out to dinner. Like, OK, 115 00:04:43,209 --> 00:04:45,589 Speaker 1: maybe like Taian sure, you know, just get it done 116 00:04:45,589 --> 00:04:48,750 Speaker 1: and over with, right? But planning a dinner date for myself, 117 00:04:48,799 --> 00:04:51,239 Speaker 1: you know, going to my favorite steak restaurant, sitting down, 118 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:53,119 Speaker 1: having a glass of red wine, it never occurred to 119 00:04:53,119 --> 00:04:55,519 Speaker 1: me that, hey, I can do that for myself, but 120 00:04:55,519 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 1: this episode actually inspires me to do so, and it's 121 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:00,678 Speaker 1: such a good thing to do to yourself, to just 122 00:05:00,678 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 1: treat yourself, right? I think whether it's solo dating or 123 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: solo traveling or even just, you know, have you heard 124 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:07,350 Speaker 1: of people who 125 00:05:07,945 --> 00:05:11,544 Speaker 1: Can or almost cannot be home by themselves. Like they'll 126 00:05:11,545 --> 00:05:14,225 Speaker 1: pack their schedules. They always have to go and see 127 00:05:14,225 --> 00:05:18,785 Speaker 1: a friend. Sounds like me. I go home just to sleep, 128 00:05:18,855 --> 00:05:20,544 Speaker 1: clock in my eight hours of rest, and after that 129 00:05:20,545 --> 00:05:21,625 Speaker 1: I just want to get out of the house, 130 00:05:21,744 --> 00:05:22,265 Speaker 1: do things. 131 00:05:22,464 --> 00:05:24,654 Speaker 2: For Hazy, it's not that you can't be by yourself, 132 00:05:24,803 --> 00:05:27,105 Speaker 2: it's just that you like to do things. You always 133 00:05:27,105 --> 00:05:28,154 Speaker 2: like to be doing something, 134 00:05:28,515 --> 00:05:32,144 Speaker 1: yeah. But I think in cases like that, sometimes people 135 00:05:32,144 --> 00:05:36,464 Speaker 1: are afraid of being with themselves because they're afraid of 136 00:05:36,464 --> 00:05:37,105 Speaker 1: their thoughts. 137 00:05:38,450 --> 00:05:39,500 Speaker 2: I 138 00:05:39,500 --> 00:05:40,010 Speaker 1: understand that, 139 00:05:40,329 --> 00:05:42,619 Speaker 2: but I take the time like when I mean I 140 00:05:42,619 --> 00:05:44,790 Speaker 2: don't know if solo dates count if you're just at home, 141 00:05:44,940 --> 00:05:47,420 Speaker 2: like I'm taking a nice bath, I put on a mask, 142 00:05:47,980 --> 00:05:52,140 Speaker 2: I do my shower. I think that's a solo date. 143 00:05:52,738 --> 00:05:56,100 Speaker 1: OK, so what are some examples of solo dates? Here's 144 00:05:56,100 --> 00:05:59,039 Speaker 1: one story from online that I really, really love, OK, 145 00:05:59,119 --> 00:06:02,019 Speaker 1: by this girl called Kimberly, she's only 23, and she 146 00:06:02,019 --> 00:06:03,099 Speaker 1: really embraces solo dating. 147 00:06:03,795 --> 00:06:06,545 Speaker 1: She loves to indulge in concerts. Like she's the kind 148 00:06:06,545 --> 00:06:09,035 Speaker 1: of person, she says, I find the most random artists 149 00:06:09,035 --> 00:06:10,434 Speaker 1: in the middle of the night when I'm listening to 150 00:06:10,434 --> 00:06:13,945 Speaker 1: Spotify and I become hyper fixated, like this person is amazing. 151 00:06:14,035 --> 00:06:16,354 Speaker 1: I must see him or her life. And she started 152 00:06:16,355 --> 00:06:19,394 Speaker 1: going to gigs, concerts alone. This has allowed her to 153 00:06:19,394 --> 00:06:21,945 Speaker 1: tap into her interest further and just connect with herself. 154 00:06:22,113 --> 00:06:23,755 Speaker 1: She's the kind of person when she's out of the concert, 155 00:06:23,834 --> 00:06:26,664 Speaker 1: she posts a story, tell everybody she's at this concert, 156 00:06:26,795 --> 00:06:27,833 Speaker 1: she's watching this act. 157 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,230 Speaker 1: But now she says she doesn't feel the need to 158 00:06:30,230 --> 00:06:32,730 Speaker 1: share it anymore. She just go out to the concert herself, 159 00:06:33,149 --> 00:06:35,779 Speaker 1: enjoy it, go home, that's it. So that's a way 160 00:06:35,779 --> 00:06:38,630 Speaker 1: of like solo dating and indulging in the interest, and 161 00:06:38,630 --> 00:06:39,950 Speaker 1: I think that's so nice. 162 00:06:40,630 --> 00:06:43,390 Speaker 2: I've never been to a concert alone. I know a 163 00:06:43,390 --> 00:06:44,260 Speaker 2: lot of people do. 164 00:06:44,630 --> 00:06:45,459 Speaker 1: I have. 165 00:06:45,709 --> 00:06:46,070 Speaker 2: How was 166 00:06:46,070 --> 00:06:49,589 Speaker 1: it? I have one, so basically I was still in 167 00:06:49,589 --> 00:06:53,670 Speaker 1: school and then John Mayer was playing in London and 168 00:06:53,670 --> 00:06:55,049 Speaker 1: there was no way I was giving up on that, 169 00:06:55,149 --> 00:06:56,190 Speaker 1: but I couldn't get tickets. 170 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:01,399 Speaker 1: Scalpers are like really wild they're like wild. So eventually, right, 171 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,679 Speaker 1: it was like 2 weeks before the concert and I 172 00:07:03,678 --> 00:07:05,920 Speaker 1: still didn't have tickets. And then one day in like 173 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:09,190 Speaker 1: the Singaporean group chat, this person I didn't even know 174 00:07:09,190 --> 00:07:11,839 Speaker 1: who was from Singapore basically said like I had gone 175 00:07:11,839 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: home to Singapore and I decided to stay a little 176 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:17,239 Speaker 1: bit longer, so I am not able to make it. Like, 177 00:07:17,279 --> 00:07:19,910 Speaker 1: does anyone want my ticket for free? No la la. 178 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:22,589 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my God, but there was only one. 179 00:07:22,799 --> 00:07:24,230 Speaker 1: So I was like I don't care. 180 00:07:24,459 --> 00:07:26,929 Speaker 1: I am going to go. Did you enjoy that? I did. 181 00:07:27,290 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 1: I was crying. 182 00:07:29,750 --> 00:07:30,420 Speaker 2: I mean of course you crying. 183 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,049 Speaker 1: It's because you went alone that you could allow yourself 184 00:07:34,049 --> 00:07:34,809 Speaker 1: to cry like that. 185 00:07:35,489 --> 00:07:39,059 Speaker 2: That's not true. I went to play with her, Billie Eilish, 186 00:07:39,450 --> 00:07:43,130 Speaker 2: both concerts, she was a puddle of tears. Yeah, but 187 00:07:43,130 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 2: that takes a lot of, I feel like it takes guts. 188 00:07:46,130 --> 00:07:47,609 Speaker 2: I may not be there yet, but I hope to 189 00:07:47,609 --> 00:07:49,450 Speaker 2: get there one day. On the flip side of it, 190 00:07:49,609 --> 00:07:52,549 Speaker 2: I think solo dating is still quite a 191 00:07:53,130 --> 00:07:58,250 Speaker 2: Um, I would say not widely or fully accepted. For example, 192 00:07:58,399 --> 00:08:01,170 Speaker 2: this person on Reddit said, I'm about to turn 27 193 00:08:01,170 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 2: and I grew up as an only child and I 194 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 2: live in a college town, so I have no friends here. 195 00:08:05,679 --> 00:08:07,709 Speaker 2: So I always take myself out to dinner by myself, 196 00:08:07,769 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 2: do solo dates. 197 00:08:08,665 --> 00:08:11,184 Speaker 2: there's and stuff, but a few weeks ago, I went 198 00:08:11,184 --> 00:08:13,434 Speaker 2: to a football game by myself and there was a 199 00:08:13,434 --> 00:08:16,024 Speaker 2: group of girls next to me. I offered to switch 200 00:08:16,024 --> 00:08:17,744 Speaker 2: seats with one of the girls so that she can 201 00:08:17,744 --> 00:08:20,165 Speaker 2: be with her group because I was in the middle 202 00:08:20,464 --> 00:08:25,424 Speaker 2: and the girl said, Oh, you're alone, like alone alone 203 00:08:25,424 --> 00:08:29,144 Speaker 2: by yourself, and this made her feel very discouraged. She 204 00:08:29,144 --> 00:08:29,424 Speaker 2: was like, 205 00:08:29,445 --> 00:08:29,864 Speaker 1: oh. 206 00:08:31,450 --> 00:08:33,969 Speaker 1: See, this is where I think the intentions came out wrongly. 207 00:08:34,150 --> 00:08:36,239 Speaker 1: The girl could have asked that because she was thinking, 208 00:08:36,409 --> 00:08:37,209 Speaker 1: would you like to join 209 00:08:37,210 --> 00:08:37,599 Speaker 1: us? 210 00:08:37,799 --> 00:08:39,830 Speaker 2: Yeah, but maybe it came out the wrong way. I 211 00:08:39,830 --> 00:08:41,679 Speaker 2: don't think she meant anything bad. 212 00:08:42,409 --> 00:08:46,689 Speaker 1: I think maybe sometimes it's quite subconscious because it's not, 213 00:08:46,809 --> 00:08:49,450 Speaker 1: it's not as widely known yet, right? You know what 214 00:08:49,450 --> 00:08:52,478 Speaker 1: I mean. I think sometimes it comes off quite subconscious 215 00:08:52,479 --> 00:08:54,650 Speaker 1: when you see someone like for example, the girl that 216 00:08:54,650 --> 00:08:57,728 Speaker 1: you saw in LA. It's very easy for someone to 217 00:08:57,729 --> 00:08:58,609 Speaker 1: have an immediate thought. 218 00:08:58,770 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: Oh, did she get stood up like, oh, does she 219 00:09:02,080 --> 00:09:03,949 Speaker 1: not have anyone that's why she has to eat alone, 220 00:09:04,309 --> 00:09:05,919 Speaker 2: you know that would be the worst if people thought 221 00:09:05,919 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 2: I got stood up because I took myself out to 222 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:10,770 Speaker 2: like a really nice restaurant. It's like, oh my gosh, 223 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:12,869 Speaker 2: she probably got stood up for a date and show up. 224 00:09:13,239 --> 00:09:15,159 Speaker 1: But yeah, people are probably going to think that if 225 00:09:15,159 --> 00:09:18,919 Speaker 1: you look hot as, you know, that girl and then 226 00:09:18,919 --> 00:09:19,630 Speaker 1: you're alone, 227 00:09:19,849 --> 00:09:23,419 Speaker 2: society is still a ways away from from that. I 228 00:09:23,419 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 2: love Pey Murray's story. She said, I love solo dating. 229 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:28,710 Speaker 2: And I do it all the time. There was, there 230 00:09:28,710 --> 00:09:33,469 Speaker 2: was a Beyonce themed clubbing event and she was supposed 231 00:09:33,469 --> 00:09:35,150 Speaker 2: to go with her friend, but her friend couldn't make 232 00:09:35,150 --> 00:09:38,349 Speaker 2: it at the last minute. So I decided to go anyways. 233 00:09:38,429 --> 00:09:41,390 Speaker 2: I had my outfit, my makeup, everything was ready. I 234 00:09:41,390 --> 00:09:45,140 Speaker 2: went by myself. It turned out amazing. I enjoyed myself 235 00:09:45,140 --> 00:09:49,049 Speaker 2: so much. I even made friends with a guy trying 236 00:09:49,049 --> 00:09:52,478 Speaker 2: to set me up with his girl best friend, LOL. 237 00:09:52,950 --> 00:09:53,840 Speaker 2: That's so funny. 238 00:09:54,030 --> 00:09:55,819 Speaker 2: But she says, I think everyone should go on solo 239 00:09:55,820 --> 00:09:58,179 Speaker 2: dates whether or not you have a partner. 240 00:09:58,299 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 1: Oh, on that note, actually, if you have a partner, 241 00:10:02,059 --> 00:10:03,299 Speaker 1: can you still go on a solo date? 242 00:10:04,739 --> 00:10:07,340 Speaker 2: Why not? When you have a partner, all the more 243 00:10:07,340 --> 00:10:10,939 Speaker 2: you should dedicate time to solo dating. Yes. But if 244 00:10:10,940 --> 00:10:12,979 Speaker 2: your boyfriend can go for a game of golf, that's 245 00:10:12,979 --> 00:10:13,780 Speaker 2: a solo date. Oh, that's 246 00:10:13,780 --> 00:10:13,900 Speaker 1: a 247 00:10:13,900 --> 00:10:14,098 Speaker 2: solo 248 00:10:14,099 --> 00:10:15,219 Speaker 1: dating session for him, 249 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:18,929 Speaker 1: right? Did they not play golf in packs? 250 00:10:19,059 --> 00:10:20,049 Speaker 2: I don't know, man. I don't 251 00:10:20,049 --> 00:10:20,659 Speaker 1: know about golf. 252 00:10:22,049 --> 00:10:26,030 Speaker 1: OK, PDN story. She says she loves going on solo 253 00:10:26,030 --> 00:10:28,179 Speaker 1: dates and she has days where she just goes out alone, 254 00:10:28,219 --> 00:10:30,459 Speaker 1: be it to a shop on self-care day, like a 255 00:10:30,460 --> 00:10:32,780 Speaker 1: hair and nails kind of thing, and she just really 256 00:10:32,780 --> 00:10:35,619 Speaker 1: loves having some time on her own, and she would 257 00:10:35,619 --> 00:10:39,890 Speaker 1: highly recommend eating Yankee sushi if you are new to 258 00:10:39,890 --> 00:10:43,179 Speaker 1: dining alone. This is because it's a very single diner 259 00:10:43,179 --> 00:10:44,169 Speaker 1: friendly restaurant. 260 00:10:44,530 --> 00:10:46,770 Speaker 1: And this is one thing I realized about Japanese restaurants. 261 00:10:46,929 --> 00:10:49,799 Speaker 1: Remember the previous episode we're talking about how PDM, she 262 00:10:49,799 --> 00:10:51,830 Speaker 1: went to Korea and there were a lot of restaurants 263 00:10:51,830 --> 00:10:56,159 Speaker 1: that didn't accept single diners, right? This is exactly the 264 00:10:56,159 --> 00:10:58,598 Speaker 1: opposite in Japan. In Japan they have a lot of 265 00:10:58,599 --> 00:11:00,719 Speaker 1: like small little seats just for single diners 266 00:11:00,719 --> 00:11:04,159 Speaker 2: ramen. You don't even have to talk to anyone. Yeah, 267 00:11:04,239 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: they just 268 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: appear out of the little curtain and then pass you 269 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:08,479 Speaker 1: a ramen and then that's it. I love 270 00:11:08,479 --> 00:11:11,119 Speaker 2: that. I love that. OK, so if you're listening to 271 00:11:11,119 --> 00:11:12,049 Speaker 2: this and you're like, oh, I'm 272 00:11:12,179 --> 00:11:14,569 Speaker 2: Inspired actually. I want to go on a solo date. 273 00:11:15,210 --> 00:11:17,929 Speaker 2: What are some ideas, girls that we can give whoever 274 00:11:17,929 --> 00:11:18,890 Speaker 2: is listening? Maybe 275 00:11:18,890 --> 00:11:19,090 Speaker 1: if 276 00:11:19,090 --> 00:11:24,289 Speaker 1: you're not daring enough yet for like a dinner. OK 277 00:11:24,289 --> 00:11:26,289 Speaker 1: Cafe in the afternoon, I think that's quite normal to 278 00:11:26,289 --> 00:11:32,130 Speaker 1: people by themselves or lunch. You start there first. Some 279 00:11:32,130 --> 00:11:37,239 Speaker 1: of our fellow SG girlies actually recommended plain vanilla, Apollo coffee. 280 00:11:37,369 --> 00:11:39,789 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, under the linden. I actually 281 00:11:40,500 --> 00:11:43,539 Speaker 1: Have their coffee with me right now. Yes, it's very 282 00:11:43,539 --> 00:11:46,900 Speaker 1: near Mediacorp and I will recommend that cafe because most 283 00:11:46,900 --> 00:11:49,218 Speaker 1: of the time it's not very packed. So if you're 284 00:11:49,219 --> 00:11:51,619 Speaker 1: looking for that quiet environment, I think that's a good 285 00:11:51,619 --> 00:11:52,099 Speaker 1: place to go 286 00:11:52,099 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: to. 287 00:11:52,789 --> 00:11:56,890 Speaker 2: Another idea is obviously to do an activity, right? Like 288 00:11:56,890 --> 00:12:00,299 Speaker 2: let's say you sign up for a class, like a 289 00:12:00,299 --> 00:12:04,218 Speaker 2: craft class or you go shopping or thrifting, not so 290 00:12:04,219 --> 00:12:06,770 Speaker 2: advisable for me because whenever I go shopping alone. 291 00:12:07,159 --> 00:12:09,369 Speaker 2: I end up buying I end up buying way too 292 00:12:09,369 --> 00:12:12,049 Speaker 2: many things. I treat it like retail therapy, like when 293 00:12:12,049 --> 00:12:13,409 Speaker 2: I'm in a bad mood, right, I just go and 294 00:12:13,409 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 2: shop then I end up with too many things. 295 00:12:17,239 --> 00:12:19,250 Speaker 1: But if you have someone with you, does that stop you? 296 00:12:19,330 --> 00:12:20,049 Speaker 2: It depends who the 297 00:12:20,049 --> 00:12:21,968 Speaker 1: person is. If it's us, then no girls, 298 00:12:24,289 --> 00:12:27,569 Speaker 2: I will be. But yes, that's an idea like going thrifting, 299 00:12:27,650 --> 00:12:28,969 Speaker 2: maybe finding specialties. 300 00:12:29,049 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 2: Stores, you know, digging out good finds. I feel like 301 00:12:31,320 --> 00:12:32,488 Speaker 2: that could be quite a cute. 302 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:33,080 Speaker 1: I like 303 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 1: what you mentioned about signing up for classes. I think 304 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 1: Claas is a good way for you to experience a 305 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,559 Speaker 1: lot of different things alone, but if you're looking for 306 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:43,260 Speaker 1: something that's free, hiking is something I would really recommend 307 00:12:43,260 --> 00:12:46,429 Speaker 1: like East Coast Park, West Coast Park, Bukit Timah railway. 308 00:12:46,719 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 1: These are some places that you can go to absolutely 309 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 2: FOC, and I love that you. 310 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:54,319 Speaker 2: You can almost like ground yourself in nature like really 311 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:57,390 Speaker 2: touch grass. They say go out and touch grass, really 312 00:12:57,390 --> 00:13:00,590 Speaker 2: go and touch the grass because it's very healing for 313 00:13:00,590 --> 00:13:03,429 Speaker 2: you as a person and even better is if you 314 00:13:03,429 --> 00:13:06,349 Speaker 2: can go on these walks and not listen to music 315 00:13:06,349 --> 00:13:08,750 Speaker 2: but just listen to the sound of nature, let the 316 00:13:08,750 --> 00:13:11,429 Speaker 2: thoughts come in your head and let them go. That's 317 00:13:11,429 --> 00:13:12,530 Speaker 2: so like tranquil. 318 00:13:13,210 --> 00:13:17,090 Speaker 1: Another very therapeutic place that I used to go very, 319 00:13:17,130 --> 00:13:18,929 Speaker 1: very often, but not anymore, and it's one of my 320 00:13:18,929 --> 00:13:22,409 Speaker 1: regrets is the library. I love going to the library. 321 00:13:22,450 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: I can sit there for hours just like, you know, 322 00:13:24,030 --> 00:13:26,489 Speaker 1: combing through a book. I think hitting the library or 323 00:13:26,489 --> 00:13:28,650 Speaker 1: the bookstores is a very good way to just spend 324 00:13:28,650 --> 00:13:31,919 Speaker 1: time with yourself, and the book that you pick up definitely, 325 00:13:32,130 --> 00:13:33,770 Speaker 1: you know, is aligned with your interest as well, so 326 00:13:33,770 --> 00:13:36,169 Speaker 1: why not? A very good place that I can recommend 327 00:13:36,169 --> 00:13:38,609 Speaker 1: is the Brass Basar bookstore. They have a lot of 328 00:13:38,609 --> 00:13:40,530 Speaker 1: very special and unique books. 329 00:13:41,125 --> 00:13:42,606 Speaker 1: If you don't want to buy books, then just go 330 00:13:42,606 --> 00:13:43,895 Speaker 1: to the library free of charge. Yeah, 331 00:13:45,325 --> 00:13:46,955 Speaker 2: the other day I was having lunch with a friend 332 00:13:46,955 --> 00:13:48,495 Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, you know, it's your birthday. 333 00:13:48,526 --> 00:13:50,286 Speaker 2: What are you going to do after this lunch? He said, Oh, 334 00:13:50,445 --> 00:13:53,325 Speaker 2: I'm going to go to the library. Yeah, he literally 335 00:13:53,325 --> 00:13:56,375 Speaker 2: went there and like read about Singapore history for like 336 00:13:56,375 --> 00:13:57,085 Speaker 2: 3 hours on his birthday. 337 00:13:58,445 --> 00:13:58,645 Speaker 1: This 338 00:13:58,645 --> 00:14:00,324 Speaker 1: person happen to be Avery or what? No, 339 00:14:00,625 --> 00:14:01,405 Speaker 1: it will never be never be. 340 00:14:02,366 --> 00:14:03,165 Speaker 2: I don't think Avery you know what, 341 00:14:05,515 --> 00:14:07,955 Speaker 1: because I just want to share that Avery has this like. 342 00:14:08,192 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 1: e-reader thing, yeah, it's like a Kindle, but it's a 343 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:18,242 Speaker 1: Singapore version of the Kindle that's actually connected to your 344 00:14:18,242 --> 00:14:21,721 Speaker 1: national library board account so you can borrow books from 345 00:14:21,721 --> 00:14:25,122 Speaker 1: the NLB and it's connected to the COO and then 346 00:14:25,122 --> 00:14:27,041 Speaker 1: just take yourself out to a cafe, sit down and 347 00:14:27,041 --> 00:14:27,841 Speaker 1: read the book. That's so 348 00:14:27,841 --> 00:14:28,132 Speaker 2: nice, right? 349 00:14:29,802 --> 00:14:33,442 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think one way to make yourself feel comfortable 350 00:14:33,442 --> 00:14:35,691 Speaker 2: when you're on a solo date is bring like 351 00:14:35,969 --> 00:14:39,270 Speaker 2: Like they call it a comfort item, something that makes 352 00:14:39,270 --> 00:14:40,739 Speaker 2: you feel safe. 353 00:14:40,789 --> 00:14:40,989 Speaker 1: It will 354 00:14:40,989 --> 00:14:43,950 Speaker 1: be the camera for me. Like every time I feel insecure, 355 00:14:44,030 --> 00:14:46,369 Speaker 1: maybe I want to just stand up and snap something. 356 00:14:47,669 --> 00:14:51,109 Speaker 2: For me it's earphones like it's my AirPods like once 357 00:14:51,109 --> 00:14:51,460 Speaker 2: I put 358 00:14:51,715 --> 00:14:54,114 Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, in my own world doing my 359 00:14:54,114 --> 00:14:54,594 Speaker 2: own thing. 360 00:14:54,815 --> 00:14:57,284 Speaker 1: For some people it could be the journal just sit down, 361 00:14:57,534 --> 00:14:58,335 Speaker 1: like pencil all their 362 00:14:58,335 --> 00:14:59,695 Speaker 2: thoughts. Oh yours can be wooden one. Yeah yeah 363 00:15:04,205 --> 00:15:06,934 Speaker 1: yeah that's so relaxing. I love that. I love that. 364 00:15:07,260 --> 00:15:10,090 Speaker 1: And I think picking the right environment that speaks to 365 00:15:10,090 --> 00:15:12,450 Speaker 1: you is also something that's very important. If you are 366 00:15:12,450 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: someone who is a lover of nature, then of course 367 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:18,450 Speaker 1: get out to the wild, but if you are like 368 00:15:18,450 --> 00:15:20,969 Speaker 1: a city girl, then maybe cafes would be a good 369 00:15:20,969 --> 00:15:23,330 Speaker 1: start for you. And if you can't deal with anything 370 00:15:23,330 --> 00:15:25,179 Speaker 1: too quiet, then maybe if you need a little bit 371 00:15:25,179 --> 00:15:28,419 Speaker 1: of buzz, then you pick somewhere a little bit more 372 00:15:28,419 --> 00:15:29,049 Speaker 1: like busy 373 00:15:29,049 --> 00:15:29,479 Speaker 1: maybe. 374 00:15:30,260 --> 00:15:32,419 Speaker 2: I think the biggest hurdle to get over is. 375 00:15:33,059 --> 00:15:36,229 Speaker 2: caring what people think. Yeah, for most people, solo dating, 376 00:15:36,270 --> 00:15:39,510 Speaker 2: solo eating, solo traveling, whatever it is, right, you always 377 00:15:39,510 --> 00:15:41,669 Speaker 2: worry about like, oh people judge me if I do 378 00:15:41,669 --> 00:15:44,669 Speaker 2: this alone, and the fact of the matter is you're 379 00:15:44,669 --> 00:15:47,500 Speaker 2: not going to convince yourself that people don't judge you, right? 380 00:15:47,679 --> 00:15:51,830 Speaker 2: But you can convince yourself that you don't care. Don't 381 00:15:51,830 --> 00:15:53,179 Speaker 2: try to change people, you change yourself. 382 00:15:53,989 --> 00:15:56,130 Speaker 1: And what can you do to achieve that? I think 383 00:15:56,130 --> 00:15:57,549 Speaker 1: having a plan is very important. 384 00:15:58,159 --> 00:16:00,200 Speaker 1: Tell yourself, OK, 8 a.m., you want to be here. 385 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: By 12 p.m. you want to be there, and by 386 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: 3 p.m. here and then go home. So if you 387 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,190 Speaker 1: have a plan, it distracts you from what other people think. 388 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:09,679 Speaker 1: You just go with your own flow and you call 389 00:16:09,679 --> 00:16:12,099 Speaker 1: the shots. Then maybe you don't feel lost as well 390 00:16:12,099 --> 00:16:14,119 Speaker 1: if you know, you're done with something, then you don't 391 00:16:14,119 --> 00:16:16,039 Speaker 1: really know what to do. Maybe at that point you 392 00:16:16,039 --> 00:16:18,440 Speaker 1: can feel like a little bit lost. So the plan, 393 00:16:18,479 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 1: I think that helps. And I think the most important 394 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:23,570 Speaker 1: thing like what Jimmy mentioned is shifting your mindset. Just 395 00:16:23,570 --> 00:16:26,239 Speaker 1: tell yourself that you know solo dating doesn't mean that 396 00:16:26,239 --> 00:16:27,239 Speaker 1: you are lonely. 397 00:16:27,551 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 1: You're alone, yes, but that doesn't mean that you're lonely. 398 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:33,181 Speaker 1: You can tell yourself that at least you've reached a 399 00:16:33,181 --> 00:16:36,401 Speaker 1: point where you're really comfortable to be with yourself because 400 00:16:36,401 --> 00:16:37,791 Speaker 1: a lot of people can't do that. 401 00:16:38,241 --> 00:16:40,880 Speaker 2: Oh, I love that. We hope you take yourself out 402 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:41,921 Speaker 2: on a solo date. 403 00:16:42,841 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 1: But apart from solo dating girls, what are some of 404 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:48,841 Speaker 1: the self-care tips that you guys think can appeal to 405 00:16:48,841 --> 00:16:49,591 Speaker 1: our listeners? 406 00:16:49,801 --> 00:16:49,820 Speaker 2: I think, 407 00:16:51,481 --> 00:16:53,721 Speaker 1: right, for me the biggest self-care tip that works for me, 408 00:16:53,781 --> 00:16:55,991 Speaker 1: it makes me happy is my skincare routine. 409 00:16:56,812 --> 00:16:59,401 Speaker 1: I think that's very small, you know, doesn't take up 410 00:16:59,401 --> 00:17:01,101 Speaker 1: too much time, but it's something that I do on 411 00:17:01,101 --> 00:17:03,721 Speaker 1: a very regular basis. I like to apply a mask 412 00:17:03,721 --> 00:17:06,322 Speaker 1: every two nights and then make sure my routine is 413 00:17:06,321 --> 00:17:09,041 Speaker 1: in place before I go to sleep. Like there's like 414 00:17:09,041 --> 00:17:10,871 Speaker 1: a little thing that grounds me. 415 00:17:11,802 --> 00:17:15,202 Speaker 2: There are a few things that scientifically proven, you need 416 00:17:15,521 --> 00:17:19,682 Speaker 2: to achieve happiness. Number 1 is enough sleep. Number 2 417 00:17:19,682 --> 00:17:23,001 Speaker 2: is enough water. Number 3 is to eat well, right? 418 00:17:23,082 --> 00:17:26,160 Speaker 2: Don't just eat junk food. Number 4 is daily exercise. 419 00:17:26,842 --> 00:17:28,561 Speaker 2: So it can just be a walk. It doesn't have 420 00:17:28,561 --> 00:17:30,202 Speaker 2: to be like you hit the gym or you know 421 00:17:30,202 --> 00:17:32,161 Speaker 2: you go for a run, but just a walk, right? 422 00:17:32,352 --> 00:17:37,001 Speaker 2: Number 5 is actually daily sunlight. So getting sunlight in 423 00:17:37,001 --> 00:17:40,841 Speaker 2: your eyes before 10 a.m. is very, very helpful for 424 00:17:40,842 --> 00:17:43,232 Speaker 2: your circadian rhythm and helps you sleep better at night. 425 00:17:44,521 --> 00:17:46,962 Speaker 2: You'll get at least 10 minutes. If it's overcast, try 426 00:17:46,962 --> 00:17:49,001 Speaker 2: to stay for at least 20 minutes. Obviously don't look 427 00:17:49,001 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 2: at the sun directly, but yes, the last thing, the 428 00:17:52,161 --> 00:17:55,281 Speaker 2: number 6 thing is actually social connection, and this doesn't 429 00:17:55,281 --> 00:17:55,722 Speaker 2: mean like 430 00:17:55,792 --> 00:18:00,244 Speaker 2: Applying to people in the DMs, this means actually meeting someone. Yeah, 431 00:18:00,404 --> 00:18:02,484 Speaker 2: so even though we're talking about solo stuff, like, you know, 432 00:18:02,604 --> 00:18:04,963 Speaker 2: a lot of stuff is solo, but you do still 433 00:18:04,963 --> 00:18:07,443 Speaker 2: need social connection for the introverts out there. I'm talking 434 00:18:07,443 --> 00:18:10,923 Speaker 2: to you. Those 6 things will guarantee you happiness in 435 00:18:10,923 --> 00:18:11,394 Speaker 2: your life. 436 00:18:11,923 --> 00:18:12,494 Speaker 1: There's a whole 437 00:18:12,494 --> 00:18:16,603 Speaker 1: IG like snippet on its own, you know, it's so helpful. Yeah, 438 00:18:16,763 --> 00:18:18,443 Speaker 1: last night I slept for 8 hours and today I 439 00:18:18,443 --> 00:18:22,723 Speaker 1: feel different, completely different. What's your self-care routine? Mine is 440 00:18:22,723 --> 00:18:24,524 Speaker 1: not so much self-care, but if you're going to be 441 00:18:24,523 --> 00:18:25,124 Speaker 1: by yourself and 442 00:18:25,255 --> 00:18:28,084 Speaker 1: Comfortable being by yourself, I think don't afraid to say 443 00:18:28,084 --> 00:18:30,935 Speaker 1: no because, OK, so I'll give you an example, right? 444 00:18:30,964 --> 00:18:34,045 Speaker 1: Recently I had some time to myself while waiting for 445 00:18:34,045 --> 00:18:37,165 Speaker 1: a friend. So I was sitting there happily by myself 446 00:18:37,165 --> 00:18:39,204 Speaker 1: and I really just want to be alone. I was 447 00:18:39,204 --> 00:18:41,645 Speaker 1: having a drink and then there was this table next 448 00:18:41,645 --> 00:18:44,794 Speaker 1: to me and they were like, Oh, come and join us. 449 00:18:45,045 --> 00:18:47,015 Speaker 1: And I was like, actually, no, I want to be 450 00:18:47,015 --> 00:18:49,854 Speaker 1: by myself. But is it because they recognize who you were? 451 00:18:50,045 --> 00:18:52,655 Speaker 1: Like they knew like, OK, you're Azura, you're a radio DJ, 452 00:18:52,765 --> 00:18:53,645 Speaker 1: you want to join us. 453 00:18:55,209 --> 00:18:58,708 Speaker 1: But if you feel like you want to, you know, 454 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:02,510 Speaker 1: have some social interactions, go ahead. But if you feel 455 00:19:02,510 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 1: like I've blocked this time out for myself and I 456 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: really just want to be alone, then be alone. 457 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:08,670 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair. 458 00:19:08,959 --> 00:19:09,550 Speaker 2: I love that. 459 00:19:10,119 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 2: So we've got a little quote to end off today's episode. 460 00:19:13,550 --> 00:19:18,390 Speaker 2: Someone on Reddit said, to me, solo dating is just living. Yes, 461 00:19:18,510 --> 00:19:22,270 Speaker 2: I go to cafes, dinners, museums, galleries, walks along the 462 00:19:22,270 --> 00:19:25,310 Speaker 2: waterfront by myself, but you don't need other people to 463 00:19:25,310 --> 00:19:29,790 Speaker 2: exist in public. You are not an NPC non-playing character, 464 00:19:30,270 --> 00:19:31,400 Speaker 2: but also I'm in a 465 00:19:31,453 --> 00:19:34,302 Speaker 2: Relationship and it still doesn't change what I'm capable of 466 00:19:34,302 --> 00:19:37,243 Speaker 2: doing by myself. At the end of the day, your 467 00:19:37,243 --> 00:19:40,762 Speaker 2: world should not be dictated by someone else. Live it 468 00:19:40,762 --> 00:19:41,753 Speaker 2: on your own terms. 469 00:19:42,042 --> 00:19:42,483 Speaker 1: I 470 00:19:42,483 --> 00:19:45,983 Speaker 1: love that. We hope that gives you some strength if 471 00:19:45,983 --> 00:19:48,922 Speaker 1: you are thinking of taking yourself out solo dating for 472 00:19:48,922 --> 00:19:51,122 Speaker 1: the first time ever. All the best of that, let 473 00:19:51,123 --> 00:19:52,602 Speaker 1: us know how it goes on Instagram. 474 00:19:52,786 --> 00:19:55,895 Speaker 1: It's clarity.co. Drop us a DM anytime. That's right. You 475 00:19:55,895 --> 00:19:59,336 Speaker 1: can listen to us on Spotify, listen, Apple Podcast. If 476 00:19:59,336 --> 00:20:01,815 Speaker 1: you're out alone and you start to get a little 477 00:20:01,816 --> 00:20:02,816 Speaker 1: bit lonely, you listen to 478 00:20:02,816 --> 00:20:05,056 Speaker 2: us. Or you can watch us on YouTube as well 479 00:20:05,056 --> 00:20:08,565 Speaker 2: if you want to see familiar faces. We're there also 480 00:20:08,566 --> 00:20:11,806 Speaker 2: Clarity Cove and yeah, we'll catch you on the next episode. 481 00:20:12,455 --> 00:20:13,936 Speaker 2: see you. Happy solo dating.