1 00:00:00,470 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Hi say so and welcome back to another episode of 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:07,820 Speaker 1: clarity's hush podcast man, I feel so weird. I don't 3 00:00:07,820 --> 00:00:10,629 Speaker 1: have my girls here today with me. But you know what, 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:13,090 Speaker 1: it's been a great two months of festivities and I'm 5 00:00:13,090 --> 00:00:15,430 Speaker 1: so happy they are taking a good break. And of course, 6 00:00:15,430 --> 00:00:17,489 Speaker 1: you know being chinese new Year, one of my favorite 7 00:00:17,489 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: festivals of the year. I don't want to miss this 8 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:21,620 Speaker 1: chance to catch up with all of you 9 00:00:21,633 --> 00:00:24,593 Speaker 1: on hush podcast, watching us on Youtube as well as 10 00:00:24,603 --> 00:00:27,393 Speaker 1: Tiktok if you're listening to us on podcast and wondering 11 00:00:27,393 --> 00:00:30,963 Speaker 1: why there's so much extra noises all around me. That's 12 00:00:30,963 --> 00:00:34,272 Speaker 1: because I'm outdoors. So tune in to Youtube and watch 13 00:00:34,273 --> 00:00:36,982 Speaker 1: me on video. Okay, now in just a few days 14 00:00:36,982 --> 00:00:39,743 Speaker 1: time it's gonna be chinese new Year. Are you prepared 15 00:00:39,753 --> 00:00:42,583 Speaker 1: for the year of the rabbit? So what does chinese 16 00:00:42,583 --> 00:00:42,783 Speaker 1: new year 17 00:00:42,796 --> 00:00:45,846 Speaker 1: mean to you? Well, for me, I think it's very 18 00:00:45,856 --> 00:00:49,896 Speaker 1: welcoming period because I grew up in the chinese speaking family. 19 00:00:49,896 --> 00:00:51,696 Speaker 1: So every time it comes to chinese new Year, all 20 00:00:51,696 --> 00:00:55,176 Speaker 1: my relatives together, my parents, you know, we eat together, 21 00:00:55,176 --> 00:00:58,306 Speaker 1: we have fun together, we play cards together. It's always 22 00:00:58,306 --> 00:01:01,376 Speaker 1: a time of happiness and laughter and I'm always looking 23 00:01:01,376 --> 00:01:03,946 Speaker 1: forward to chinese new year. Every single year. 24 00:01:04,330 --> 00:01:06,450 Speaker 1: Now. I know for many of us chinese new Year 25 00:01:06,450 --> 00:01:08,270 Speaker 1: is a great and fun time to catch up with 26 00:01:08,270 --> 00:01:11,390 Speaker 1: our friends and family, but I also understand that's not 27 00:01:11,390 --> 00:01:13,819 Speaker 1: the case for some of the people we might face 28 00:01:13,819 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: with overbearing relatives, we might face with friends who are 29 00:01:17,530 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: a bit more ignorant or arrogant I'd say so that's 30 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:23,770 Speaker 1: why I'm here to share with you some tips for 31 00:01:23,770 --> 00:01:26,670 Speaker 1: the upcoming chinese new year. But before that, here are 32 00:01:26,670 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 1: some stories from our listeners and people online. Okay. Someone 33 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:34,130 Speaker 1: says I love C. N. Y. Food and able to 34 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:36,431 Speaker 1: have a day to bribe my papa and mama to 35 00:01:36,431 --> 00:01:39,670 Speaker 1: dress up and take photos. Oh that's so nice. She 36 00:01:39,671 --> 00:01:42,711 Speaker 1: also says, but it's a day of gossips and judgment 37 00:01:42,721 --> 00:01:46,401 Speaker 1: but the money makes up for it. I know, but 38 00:01:46,401 --> 00:01:48,911 Speaker 1: sometimes it's fun right? Listening to your mom gossip about 39 00:01:48,921 --> 00:01:50,911 Speaker 1: other people. I mean it's not a site that you 40 00:01:50,911 --> 00:01:53,991 Speaker 1: get to see on a daily basis. Another person says 41 00:01:54,001 --> 00:01:57,091 Speaker 1: what I dislike is relatives asking me about my relationship 42 00:01:57,091 --> 00:01:59,761 Speaker 1: status and why I am still single at the age 43 00:01:59,771 --> 00:02:02,811 Speaker 1: of 23 then they will say it's because my standards 44 00:02:02,811 --> 00:02:04,051 Speaker 1: too high and I'm sure 45 00:02:04,282 --> 00:02:08,582 Speaker 1: Idols and this stresses me out for the record 23 46 00:02:08,582 --> 00:02:11,441 Speaker 1: years old and still single. You're actually still very young. 47 00:02:11,452 --> 00:02:13,862 Speaker 1: Take your time. If you want to chase idols, go 48 00:02:13,862 --> 00:02:16,802 Speaker 1: for it, don't let anyone stress you out. Just stick 49 00:02:16,802 --> 00:02:18,992 Speaker 1: things in your own strike and at your own time 50 00:02:18,992 --> 00:02:23,401 Speaker 1: and pacing. Okay. Oh another not so great message. This 51 00:02:23,412 --> 00:02:25,931 Speaker 1: person says Chinese new year is not so great for 52 00:02:25,931 --> 00:02:28,901 Speaker 1: me because there's no family to hang out with the 53 00:02:28,901 --> 00:02:30,602 Speaker 1: worst part of my Chinese new year is when I 54 00:02:30,602 --> 00:02:33,022 Speaker 1: have to work on the day itself and by the 55 00:02:33,022 --> 00:02:33,922 Speaker 1: time I get back 56 00:02:33,943 --> 00:02:38,213 Speaker 1: everyone has gone home. Oh that's so sad. Well I 57 00:02:38,213 --> 00:02:40,653 Speaker 1: used to have a friend she came from china and 58 00:02:40,653 --> 00:02:43,603 Speaker 1: then you know she started studying in Singapore but her 59 00:02:43,603 --> 00:02:46,183 Speaker 1: parents are still in china. So every chinese new year 60 00:02:46,183 --> 00:02:48,503 Speaker 1: I'll invite her over to my place and we'll just 61 00:02:48,502 --> 00:02:52,343 Speaker 1: have hot pot together with my family. So maybe you 62 00:02:52,343 --> 00:02:55,273 Speaker 1: can ask your friends you know to invite you to 63 00:02:55,282 --> 00:02:57,943 Speaker 1: dinner so you can spend a good time together. I 64 00:02:57,943 --> 00:03:00,163 Speaker 1: know it's gonna sound a bit like thick skin for 65 00:03:00,163 --> 00:03:02,473 Speaker 1: you to open your mouth and actually ask that. But 66 00:03:02,483 --> 00:03:03,793 Speaker 1: true friends wouldn't mind 67 00:03:03,814 --> 00:03:07,323 Speaker 1: next. Someone says I have relatives that are damn cable 68 00:03:07,324 --> 00:03:09,904 Speaker 1: in every aspect of my life. Some examples of the 69 00:03:09,913 --> 00:03:12,844 Speaker 1: things they ask are a girl which J. C. Or poly. 70 00:03:12,844 --> 00:03:15,833 Speaker 1: You enter a what stream you go are you gonna 71 00:03:15,834 --> 00:03:19,024 Speaker 1: study bo why your score so bad? After years of 72 00:03:19,024 --> 00:03:22,944 Speaker 1: nonstop questions and interrogation I had enough. So I see 73 00:03:22,944 --> 00:03:25,254 Speaker 1: some New Year gatherings and use working part time as 74 00:03:25,254 --> 00:03:28,353 Speaker 1: an excuse anybody gonna see how far this year. Please 75 00:03:28,354 --> 00:03:31,524 Speaker 1: send survival tips. You know what I think some of 76 00:03:31,524 --> 00:03:33,664 Speaker 1: these bad experiences can be avoided. 77 00:03:33,685 --> 00:03:36,505 Speaker 1: So here are my tips for surviving chinese new year. 78 00:03:36,515 --> 00:03:38,905 Speaker 1: Number one. Why not just be brutally honest with your 79 00:03:38,905 --> 00:03:41,154 Speaker 1: relatives or friends if they ask you what J. C. 80 00:03:41,155 --> 00:03:43,875 Speaker 1: Or poly you enter what stream you're going to just 81 00:03:43,885 --> 00:03:47,665 Speaker 1: answer truthfully and who knows you might even have an 82 00:03:47,675 --> 00:03:51,715 Speaker 1: honest open conversation with your family or relatives that you 83 00:03:51,715 --> 00:03:54,645 Speaker 1: never know you could have. Sometimes I feel like there 84 00:03:54,645 --> 00:03:57,905 Speaker 1: is no point avoiding all the questions they ask you. 85 00:03:57,915 --> 00:04:01,525 Speaker 1: And oftentimes the fact that they're even asking you the 86 00:04:01,535 --> 00:04:03,535 Speaker 1: questions mean that they care 87 00:04:03,556 --> 00:04:06,316 Speaker 1: and they are concerned about your well being. Of course 88 00:04:06,316 --> 00:04:08,486 Speaker 1: they can find out the answers from mother or father. 89 00:04:08,496 --> 00:04:11,066 Speaker 1: But maybe they would just like to use this chance 90 00:04:11,076 --> 00:04:13,596 Speaker 1: to strike a conversation with you and try to understand 91 00:04:13,596 --> 00:04:17,456 Speaker 1: you better secondly apart from being brutally honest I also 92 00:04:17,456 --> 00:04:21,666 Speaker 1: feel like maybe you can ask your relatives questions as well. 93 00:04:21,676 --> 00:04:24,636 Speaker 1: So you know it isn't always a one way street. 94 00:04:24,646 --> 00:04:27,366 Speaker 1: What if you ask your aunt o how are things 95 00:04:27,366 --> 00:04:29,716 Speaker 1: between you and your husband or like have you traveled 96 00:04:29,726 --> 00:04:33,430 Speaker 1: anywhere recently? Are you going to be traveling anywhere recently? 97 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,930 Speaker 1: It takes away their attention from you. It distracts them 98 00:04:36,930 --> 00:04:39,089 Speaker 1: from all the questions that they are going to bombard 99 00:04:39,100 --> 00:04:42,210 Speaker 1: you with Thirdly chinese New Year. What do we love 100 00:04:42,210 --> 00:04:45,260 Speaker 1: the most the goodies and the food. I think a 101 00:04:45,260 --> 00:04:48,670 Speaker 1: very efficient way to shut our relatives up is to 102 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:51,339 Speaker 1: enjoy the good food together. Talk about the box you'll 103 00:04:51,339 --> 00:04:54,080 Speaker 1: be having, talk about all the snacks or the pot 104 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:58,089 Speaker 1: floors or the chinese New Year decorations. They may seem 105 00:04:58,089 --> 00:04:58,529 Speaker 1: like nothing 106 00:04:58,540 --> 00:05:02,359 Speaker 1: but they can actually be a very good conversation starter. 107 00:05:02,370 --> 00:05:05,729 Speaker 1: But when it comes to questions about marriage or like 108 00:05:05,740 --> 00:05:09,960 Speaker 1: even having babies really just be honest. Even if you 109 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:12,500 Speaker 1: don't feel like having a baby with your partner, why 110 00:05:12,500 --> 00:05:14,330 Speaker 1: not just tell your relatives oh no. You know we 111 00:05:14,330 --> 00:05:16,580 Speaker 1: don't plan to have a baby anytime soon. We just 112 00:05:16,580 --> 00:05:18,690 Speaker 1: want to focus on ourselves for now. I'm sure they 113 00:05:18,690 --> 00:05:21,729 Speaker 1: can understand of course they're gonna say things like you 114 00:05:21,730 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 1: shouldn't do that, you should have a 115 00:05:24,050 --> 00:05:25,830 Speaker 1: and then you can take care of you when you 116 00:05:25,830 --> 00:05:28,700 Speaker 1: guys are old and all that kind of thing. Always 117 00:05:28,710 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 1: be prepared for that. But just know that you know 118 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:33,600 Speaker 1: you are entitled to your own opinions and your own 119 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:36,070 Speaker 1: ways of doing things and you don't have to be 120 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:38,510 Speaker 1: obliged to listen to their opinions. Okay 121 00:05:38,740 --> 00:05:40,929 Speaker 1: and for my listeners who are still schooling you may 122 00:05:40,940 --> 00:05:43,810 Speaker 1: get this question a lot. Oh how are your grades 123 00:05:43,810 --> 00:05:45,780 Speaker 1: doing in school or what do you get for all 124 00:05:45,779 --> 00:05:48,289 Speaker 1: levels or what do you get for P. S. L. E. Etcetera. 125 00:05:48,300 --> 00:05:51,120 Speaker 1: But just know that you know you have your own timeline. 126 00:05:51,130 --> 00:05:53,690 Speaker 1: So just take things in your own strike. Just do 127 00:05:53,690 --> 00:05:55,930 Speaker 1: you just study well and do the best that you 128 00:05:55,930 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 1: can and 129 00:05:56,695 --> 00:05:58,705 Speaker 1: the rest honestly I think it's up to God it's 130 00:05:58,705 --> 00:06:00,785 Speaker 1: not even up to your aunt if they keep asking 131 00:06:00,785 --> 00:06:03,575 Speaker 1: you the same question, just reflect, reflect the question back 132 00:06:03,575 --> 00:06:05,865 Speaker 1: to them tai chi back to them, ask them, hey 133 00:06:05,875 --> 00:06:08,525 Speaker 1: what do you get for PSL in the timer and 134 00:06:08,535 --> 00:06:11,195 Speaker 1: immediately this distraction will be a success because they will 135 00:06:11,195 --> 00:06:13,245 Speaker 1: go on and on and on about their lives in 136 00:06:13,245 --> 00:06:14,635 Speaker 1: Kampong etcetera. 137 00:06:14,890 --> 00:06:18,740 Speaker 1: And lastly another tip about being brutally honest. This may 138 00:06:18,740 --> 00:06:21,850 Speaker 1: not sound the most polite but I think it's a 139 00:06:21,860 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 1: hard truth. Every time your relatives ask you or like 140 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,810 Speaker 1: compares you to someone else ask you why you never 141 00:06:27,810 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: get into medicine school. Why are you not a lawyer? 142 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:32,010 Speaker 1: Why you're not a teacher? Why you're not a doctor? 143 00:06:32,020 --> 00:06:34,780 Speaker 1: Just tell them because I'm not you, I'm not who 144 00:06:34,779 --> 00:06:37,010 Speaker 1: you expect me to be. I have my own path 145 00:06:37,010 --> 00:06:38,770 Speaker 1: to follow and I believe 146 00:06:38,785 --> 00:06:41,135 Speaker 1: Believe they will get the hint that they are crossing 147 00:06:41,135 --> 00:06:44,765 Speaker 1: the line and hopefully stop the questioning from there. On 148 00:06:44,775 --> 00:06:47,945 Speaker 1: of course another way is to you know pretend that 149 00:06:47,945 --> 00:06:50,995 Speaker 1: you have covid pretend that you have a fever and 150 00:06:50,995 --> 00:06:52,914 Speaker 1: hide in your room. But come on I'm not that 151 00:06:52,915 --> 00:06:55,605 Speaker 1: nice like Chinese new year once a year only. It's 152 00:06:55,605 --> 00:06:57,695 Speaker 1: probably gonna be like the first and the last time 153 00:06:57,695 --> 00:07:00,515 Speaker 1: you're gonna see them in the next 365 days, spend 154 00:07:00,515 --> 00:07:02,164 Speaker 1: some time with them. See what you can get out 155 00:07:02,165 --> 00:07:02,665 Speaker 1: of it. 156 00:07:03,529 --> 00:07:06,290 Speaker 1: Apart from all the questioning from relatives here are some 157 00:07:06,300 --> 00:07:08,779 Speaker 1: other tips you can feel good for chinese New Year. 158 00:07:08,790 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: Number one what you wear is actually very very important. 159 00:07:12,170 --> 00:07:14,570 Speaker 1: I believe we discussed this in one of the episodes 160 00:07:14,570 --> 00:07:17,250 Speaker 1: of harsh podcast as well. What you were actually gives 161 00:07:17,250 --> 00:07:21,380 Speaker 1: you confidence or not. So pick your outfits wisely dressing 162 00:07:21,380 --> 00:07:24,060 Speaker 1: comfortably so you can be comfortable. So I mean during 163 00:07:24,060 --> 00:07:25,420 Speaker 1: chinese New Year all we want to do is 164 00:07:25,430 --> 00:07:27,350 Speaker 1: eat right at least that's all I want to do. 165 00:07:27,380 --> 00:07:30,860 Speaker 1: So want it is to dress up nicely, get your 166 00:07:30,870 --> 00:07:34,410 Speaker 1: own tv, taken yourself with your family, with your siblings, 167 00:07:34,410 --> 00:07:38,390 Speaker 1: your relatives and then change out of it into a soft, 168 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 1: comfortable cotton t shirt and shorts and just have a 169 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:44,500 Speaker 1: good time with your family. Just eat all that you 170 00:07:44,500 --> 00:07:46,250 Speaker 1: want to eat and don't even have to worry about 171 00:07:46,250 --> 00:07:47,330 Speaker 1: your food baby. 172 00:07:47,620 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 1: Number two, always prepared clusters I know during chinese new 173 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:53,890 Speaker 1: Year a lot of ladies like to go out in 174 00:07:53,890 --> 00:07:57,330 Speaker 1: high heels you know that's that's right, okay that's every 175 00:07:57,330 --> 00:07:59,850 Speaker 1: woman's right but of course you may end up with 176 00:07:59,850 --> 00:08:03,300 Speaker 1: some blisters all over your feet. So plasters are always 177 00:08:03,310 --> 00:08:07,739 Speaker 1: a must. Number three always prepare backup dresses and shoes 178 00:08:07,740 --> 00:08:10,820 Speaker 1: in the car. My car is like an entire wardrobe, 179 00:08:10,830 --> 00:08:13,110 Speaker 1: you can find three days worth of clothes in it. 180 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:15,010 Speaker 1: I have probably not 181 00:08:15,035 --> 00:08:18,765 Speaker 1: pairs of shoes, slippers, sandals or high heels in my 182 00:08:18,765 --> 00:08:21,765 Speaker 1: car just so anytime I need quick change it's always 183 00:08:21,765 --> 00:08:25,545 Speaker 1: right there. So always be over prepared. That's a very 184 00:08:25,545 --> 00:08:28,475 Speaker 1: good tip. Not just for chinese New Year. Also if 185 00:08:28,475 --> 00:08:30,985 Speaker 1: you don't drive a car, always make sure to schedule 186 00:08:30,985 --> 00:08:33,265 Speaker 1: a pit stop back home so you can get home 187 00:08:33,265 --> 00:08:36,405 Speaker 1: you know freshen up, change to another outfit maybe or 188 00:08:36,415 --> 00:08:40,005 Speaker 1: even get a good net in next up. Apart from 189 00:08:40,005 --> 00:08:42,425 Speaker 1: close some other things that you should always prepare 190 00:08:42,450 --> 00:08:46,699 Speaker 1: so you don't feel too overwhelmed. First of all red packets. 191 00:08:46,710 --> 00:08:48,220 Speaker 1: I mean of course if you're married and you have 192 00:08:48,220 --> 00:08:50,350 Speaker 1: to issue red packets you want to avoid the embarrassing 193 00:08:50,350 --> 00:08:54,479 Speaker 1: situation where the other party gives your kids red packets 194 00:08:54,490 --> 00:08:56,690 Speaker 1: and you don't have anything to give them back right? 195 00:08:56,700 --> 00:08:58,900 Speaker 1: But if you're not married of course you have to 196 00:08:58,900 --> 00:09:01,980 Speaker 1: do what we call the always make sure that you 197 00:09:01,980 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: have oranges here with you. This is all too common. 198 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:08,230 Speaker 1: You know every time we go to someone's place you 199 00:09:08,230 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: know for chinese New year for visiting 200 00:09:09,865 --> 00:09:12,745 Speaker 1: and then we give them our oranges when we leave 201 00:09:12,745 --> 00:09:14,915 Speaker 1: the place we are supposed to exchange the oranges and 202 00:09:14,915 --> 00:09:16,954 Speaker 1: leave right? But a lot of times we just forget 203 00:09:16,955 --> 00:09:19,115 Speaker 1: about it. So you know our oranges suggest there and 204 00:09:19,115 --> 00:09:20,825 Speaker 1: by the time we get to the next stop we 205 00:09:20,825 --> 00:09:23,335 Speaker 1: realize that oh no we don't have oranges with us. 206 00:09:23,345 --> 00:09:26,495 Speaker 1: So always prepare more oranges. So I'm sure all of 207 00:09:26,495 --> 00:09:28,885 Speaker 1: you have heard like maybe back in the times during 208 00:09:28,885 --> 00:09:31,555 Speaker 1: chinese new year is bad luck to wash your hair. 209 00:09:31,565 --> 00:09:33,785 Speaker 1: Do you still practice that? I have to wash my 210 00:09:33,785 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 1: hair every single day? And chinese New year is no exception. 211 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: So if you still practice like not washing your hair 212 00:09:40,530 --> 00:09:44,180 Speaker 1: during chinese new year, I totally respect that but please 213 00:09:44,190 --> 00:09:46,750 Speaker 1: prepare your dry shampoo. So when you get close to 214 00:09:46,750 --> 00:09:49,920 Speaker 1: relatives or friends for chinese New Year photos, they don't 215 00:09:49,920 --> 00:09:52,770 Speaker 1: have to smell your oily skull. 216 00:09:53,540 --> 00:09:57,410 Speaker 1: Okay, next up getting enough rest. Of course a lot 217 00:09:57,410 --> 00:09:59,819 Speaker 1: of tips are not just valid for chinese new year. 218 00:09:59,830 --> 00:10:02,070 Speaker 1: I feel like getting enough rest on a daily basis 219 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: is the basic necessity that every human must fulfill. But 220 00:10:06,530 --> 00:10:08,100 Speaker 1: of course during chinese new year you need a lot 221 00:10:08,100 --> 00:10:11,250 Speaker 1: of energy to be speaking with your cousins, your friends, 222 00:10:11,260 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: you need energy for for poker games. So rest is key. 223 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:18,750 Speaker 1: Okay always trying to hit like 6 to 8 hours 224 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:21,610 Speaker 1: of rest and of course 6 to 8 glasses of water. 225 00:10:21,620 --> 00:10:22,429 Speaker 1: That's very very 226 00:10:22,442 --> 00:10:25,681 Speaker 1: important to stay hydrated especially with all the heat. Each 227 00:10:25,682 --> 00:10:28,182 Speaker 1: chinese New Year goodies that you're gonna be having. Next 228 00:10:28,182 --> 00:10:31,852 Speaker 1: up stocking up on unbreakable items. Of course you might 229 00:10:31,852 --> 00:10:34,212 Speaker 1: have heard that it's bad luck to break things during 230 00:10:34,212 --> 00:10:38,192 Speaker 1: chinese new year. So by things that are not breakable, 231 00:10:38,202 --> 00:10:43,552 Speaker 1: maybe some cute little plastic plates even if you smash 232 00:10:43,552 --> 00:10:47,142 Speaker 1: it on the floor by accident it's still intact. Unfortunately 233 00:10:47,152 --> 00:10:49,672 Speaker 1: if you break your glass or ceramic plates or like 234 00:10:49,682 --> 00:10:50,401 Speaker 1: a utensil 235 00:10:50,414 --> 00:10:54,224 Speaker 1: you know in chinese we call it it's okay just 236 00:10:54,224 --> 00:10:57,574 Speaker 1: say this with me so you sleeping on and all 237 00:10:57,583 --> 00:11:01,204 Speaker 1: will be good. Trust trust. Also when it comes to 238 00:11:01,203 --> 00:11:04,753 Speaker 1: chinese New Year, Small talk is unavoidable. So here are 239 00:11:04,754 --> 00:11:07,404 Speaker 1: the top three topics I think can start off small 240 00:11:07,404 --> 00:11:10,644 Speaker 1: talk really, really well. Number one the weather in Singapore 241 00:11:10,654 --> 00:11:15,503 Speaker 1: is always a topic everywhere. Number two the food in Singapore, 242 00:11:15,514 --> 00:11:18,314 Speaker 1: the chinese New Year goodies, there's so much to talk 243 00:11:18,386 --> 00:11:21,195 Speaker 1: like who gave you these goodies, did you buy themselves? 244 00:11:21,196 --> 00:11:23,126 Speaker 1: Where do you buy them at how much you buy 245 00:11:23,126 --> 00:11:26,805 Speaker 1: them for you and your family enjoy it. So many 246 00:11:26,806 --> 00:11:28,976 Speaker 1: things you can talk about food for an entire hour. 247 00:11:28,976 --> 00:11:33,096 Speaker 1: I promise you number three, your career. I think it's 248 00:11:33,096 --> 00:11:35,126 Speaker 1: totally fine for you to be sharing more about your 249 00:11:35,126 --> 00:11:38,886 Speaker 1: career with your family. Talk about your colleagues, your bosses, 250 00:11:38,896 --> 00:11:41,506 Speaker 1: you know this way, time will pass really, really fast 251 00:11:41,516 --> 00:11:44,325 Speaker 1: and you might even realize that hey I'm really enjoying 252 00:11:44,326 --> 00:11:46,346 Speaker 1: chinese new year with my relatives. 253 00:11:46,610 --> 00:11:49,110 Speaker 1: So all in all this is just a pretty concise 254 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:51,630 Speaker 1: episode on the upcoming chinese new year and I hope 255 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:53,689 Speaker 1: you took away a thing or two for me when 256 00:11:53,690 --> 00:11:56,429 Speaker 1: it comes to chinese new year every year I always 257 00:11:56,429 --> 00:11:58,530 Speaker 1: try to make sure I do my best and I 258 00:11:58,530 --> 00:12:01,589 Speaker 1: try to answer to all my aunties and uncles and 259 00:12:01,590 --> 00:12:03,829 Speaker 1: respond to whatever questions that they may have for me. 260 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:07,790 Speaker 1: So fortunately for my brothers and sisters, when my aunties 261 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,679 Speaker 1: and uncles come to my house, there are always more 262 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,420 Speaker 1: interested in me because they see me on tv, they 263 00:12:12,420 --> 00:12:14,010 Speaker 1: hear me on radio of course they have a lot 264 00:12:14,010 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: of questions to ask me. Right, so my brother and 265 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:16,370 Speaker 1: sister are 266 00:12:16,385 --> 00:12:19,015 Speaker 1: yeah, yeah and then they get to play poker cards 267 00:12:19,015 --> 00:12:21,955 Speaker 1: with my cousins but I honestly don't mind, I feel 268 00:12:21,955 --> 00:12:25,314 Speaker 1: like it really creates a strong bond between us when 269 00:12:25,315 --> 00:12:28,275 Speaker 1: I was younger. I will never forget that my aunts 270 00:12:28,285 --> 00:12:31,825 Speaker 1: were the people who cooked for me who fed me, 271 00:12:31,835 --> 00:12:34,314 Speaker 1: who taught me how to ride a bicycle even and 272 00:12:34,315 --> 00:12:36,835 Speaker 1: now that they are much older, I just hope that 273 00:12:36,845 --> 00:12:39,335 Speaker 1: I can give them this kind of attention that they 274 00:12:39,335 --> 00:12:42,715 Speaker 1: have once given to me. So I feel like it's 275 00:12:42,715 --> 00:12:46,145 Speaker 1: very precious and we should all appreciate our family. 276 00:12:46,790 --> 00:12:48,790 Speaker 1: So here are some proverbs that I want to share 277 00:12:48,790 --> 00:12:51,410 Speaker 1: with you this chinese new year, the first one of 278 00:12:51,410 --> 00:12:53,740 Speaker 1: course you know with all the talk about family and 279 00:12:53,740 --> 00:12:56,790 Speaker 1: relatives it's a bit windy but I want to share 280 00:12:56,790 --> 00:12:59,590 Speaker 1: with you these forwards and that is sheer no you 281 00:12:59,590 --> 00:13:03,580 Speaker 1: show it in english is just blood is thicker than water. 282 00:13:03,590 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: So no matter how overbearing your relatives, maybe just always 283 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,319 Speaker 1: remember that you know they they are your family for 284 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:15,130 Speaker 1: a reason and I'm sure they definitely care about you 285 00:13:15,140 --> 00:13:16,220 Speaker 1: from the bottom of their heart. 286 00:13:16,230 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: Sometimes they may not execute their questions in the most 287 00:13:20,050 --> 00:13:23,230 Speaker 1: polite manner. I believe sometimes you know they compare you 288 00:13:23,230 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: with other people but think of it from a different 289 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:29,569 Speaker 1: perspective maybe they feel like by comparing you with other people, 290 00:13:29,580 --> 00:13:32,380 Speaker 1: it will motivate you to do better and that is 291 00:13:32,380 --> 00:13:35,939 Speaker 1: what they ultimately want to achieve now. Number two, okay, 292 00:13:35,940 --> 00:13:38,510 Speaker 1: I'm a very family oriented girl. So my second problem 293 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:44,080 Speaker 1: is also about family may or will not without, you 294 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:45,660 Speaker 1: know the warmth, 295 00:13:46,270 --> 00:13:49,490 Speaker 1: where does family ever come from? So I feel like 296 00:13:49,490 --> 00:13:54,140 Speaker 1: this warmth is a two way street, your relatives, your 297 00:13:54,140 --> 00:13:56,819 Speaker 1: family must put in the work and you yourself must 298 00:13:56,820 --> 00:13:59,850 Speaker 1: as well, if they ask you questions, maybe you can reciprocate, 299 00:13:59,860 --> 00:14:02,690 Speaker 1: if they give you things that they give you, you 300 00:14:02,690 --> 00:14:05,220 Speaker 1: can say thank you, you can afford to spend like 301 00:14:05,220 --> 00:14:08,689 Speaker 1: five minutes chatting things up with them before going back 302 00:14:08,690 --> 00:14:11,220 Speaker 1: to your margin table, I'm sure you can do that, 303 00:14:11,230 --> 00:14:13,200 Speaker 1: you know, it takes two hands to collect to create 304 00:14:13,210 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 1: a happy bliss, 305 00:14:15,015 --> 00:14:19,235 Speaker 1: peaceful family Third, Oh I really love this, this one 306 00:14:19,235 --> 00:14:26,135 Speaker 1: is by our producers and this basically means clothing is 307 00:14:26,145 --> 00:14:30,545 Speaker 1: cherish double when new, but relationships is charitable when old, 308 00:14:30,555 --> 00:14:33,005 Speaker 1: I feel like this proverb is a good and timely 309 00:14:33,005 --> 00:14:35,935 Speaker 1: reminder for me as well to not forget about my 310 00:14:35,935 --> 00:14:39,275 Speaker 1: old friends, to not forget about my family or take 311 00:14:39,275 --> 00:14:42,105 Speaker 1: them for granted every chinese New year is a new 312 00:14:42,105 --> 00:14:43,755 Speaker 1: chance to reconnect with them, 313 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:48,010 Speaker 1: last proverb or saying you that want to share today, 314 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:53,240 Speaker 1: when someone is full of good intentions and kindness towards you, 315 00:14:53,250 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 1: it is really hard to reject them. So think of 316 00:14:56,840 --> 00:14:59,100 Speaker 1: it this way, all the questions that they ask you 317 00:14:59,110 --> 00:15:01,500 Speaker 1: all the food that they present you with, they cook 318 00:15:01,500 --> 00:15:04,700 Speaker 1: for you, you know, it is all an act of 319 00:15:04,700 --> 00:15:08,110 Speaker 1: kindness from them. It is very hard to reject. Maybe 320 00:15:08,110 --> 00:15:10,260 Speaker 1: sometimes you are not a fan of the questions they 321 00:15:10,270 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: ask you, 322 00:15:11,030 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: but think of it this way, they only want the 323 00:15:13,730 --> 00:15:16,910 Speaker 1: best for you, so just be kinder to your relatives, 324 00:15:16,910 --> 00:15:19,350 Speaker 1: your friends and your families of course, I also want 325 00:15:19,350 --> 00:15:21,160 Speaker 1: to send all my love to people who don't have 326 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:23,750 Speaker 1: your families around with them this chinese new Year. I 327 00:15:23,750 --> 00:15:26,430 Speaker 1: know things must be very, very tough for you to 328 00:15:26,430 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 1: spend such an important festival on your own, but please 329 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 1: know that you know harsh podcast is with you, you 330 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:35,810 Speaker 1: can always tune in to ask any time we are everywhere, okay, 331 00:15:35,820 --> 00:15:38,930 Speaker 1: you have our company always, if your family is now 332 00:15:38,940 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 1: not here with you, this might be a good time 333 00:15:40,720 --> 00:15:43,190 Speaker 1: to reconnect with some old friends, have them over at 334 00:15:43,190 --> 00:15:44,670 Speaker 1: your place, you know, you can do up a hot 335 00:15:44,670 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 1: pot session together, I'll just head out for a nice 336 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:50,180 Speaker 1: meal together, I'm sure they'll be great as well. So 337 00:15:50,180 --> 00:15:52,730 Speaker 1: with that, I hope all of you will spend a very, 338 00:15:52,730 --> 00:15:55,910 Speaker 1: very happy chinese New year with your family and your 339 00:15:55,910 --> 00:15:58,350 Speaker 1: friends and I feel like we just went through a 340 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:01,730 Speaker 1: therapeutic session of like harsh podcast with me and my 341 00:16:01,740 --> 00:16:03,060 Speaker 1: positivity 342 00:16:03,410 --> 00:16:06,420 Speaker 1: but you know what, I hope my sharing has indeed help. 343 00:16:06,430 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 1: And I wish you and your family a very, very 344 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 1: happy year of the rabbit and a very blissful year, 345 00:16:12,610 --> 00:16:15,619 Speaker 1: happy new Year, Love you guys.