1 00:00:00,009 --> 00:00:02,430 Speaker 1: Hi, Tao, this is Zura and I'm Jermaine and welcome 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:04,429 Speaker 1: back to another episode of Celebrities. 3 00:00:06,250 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 1: Today. We've got a very special guest here with us 4 00:00:08,689 --> 00:00:12,090 Speaker 1: to discuss something that I'm surprised we haven't done over 5 00:00:12,100 --> 00:00:15,779 Speaker 1: like the last however many episodes, 90 plus episode 90 plus. 6 00:00:16,020 --> 00:00:18,468 Speaker 1: Let's welcome Stie Lee. 7 00:00:19,260 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 2: Hi, everyone. My name is Stie and I'm the founder 8 00:00:22,250 --> 00:00:24,610 Speaker 2: and CEO of I do for you. A wedding planning 9 00:00:24,620 --> 00:00:27,290 Speaker 2: and event service company. We've been in the industry for 10 00:00:27,299 --> 00:00:30,159 Speaker 2: about three or so years. Must be 11 00:00:30,450 --> 00:00:35,470 Speaker 1: booming industry, wedding planning, but not so much during COVID, 12 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:36,529 Speaker 1: I would think. 13 00:00:36,590 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 2: Right. Actually, funny enough, I started this company at the 14 00:00:40,369 --> 00:00:44,889 Speaker 2: start of COVID. Yeah. And we kind of like developed 15 00:00:44,900 --> 00:00:47,790 Speaker 2: from there from like home civilizations, 16 00:00:47,950 --> 00:00:50,599 Speaker 2: from small scale to the five packs to the 10 packs, 17 00:00:50,610 --> 00:00:52,979 Speaker 2: the whole increase. You've seen it all. We 18 00:00:52,990 --> 00:00:57,159 Speaker 1: saw it all. So today we are talking about happily 19 00:00:57,169 --> 00:01:01,450 Speaker 1: ever after. Is it really happy to plan a wedding 20 00:01:01,459 --> 00:01:03,630 Speaker 1: or is it more like, ah, pull my hair out 21 00:01:03,639 --> 00:01:05,050 Speaker 1: kind of situation? Ok. 22 00:01:05,059 --> 00:01:08,059 Speaker 2: Ok. Of course, some brides are more stressed out more 23 00:01:08,069 --> 00:01:10,410 Speaker 2: than the men. Of course, the men are stressed out. 24 00:01:10,419 --> 00:01:13,930 Speaker 2: With the money. But for the bright side is more 25 00:01:13,940 --> 00:01:16,400 Speaker 2: of the aesthetics, how it looks. And of course, if 26 00:01:16,410 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 2: they 27 00:01:16,739 --> 00:01:17,539 Speaker 2: are happy, 28 00:01:17,790 --> 00:01:21,809 Speaker 1: speaking of aesthetics, you also style the weddings. You have 29 00:01:21,819 --> 00:01:24,129 Speaker 1: a company called I style for you. So I do 30 00:01:24,139 --> 00:01:26,459 Speaker 1: for you and I style for you. So you plan 31 00:01:26,470 --> 00:01:29,620 Speaker 1: the wedding and you style the wedding, correct? She's monopolizing 32 00:01:29,629 --> 00:01:30,589 Speaker 1: the whole industry. 33 00:01:31,349 --> 00:01:34,458 Speaker 2: I mean why I do this is because when you 34 00:01:34,470 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 2: plan the wedding, there is a whole vision board, the 35 00:01:36,690 --> 00:01:39,050 Speaker 2: whole mood board that the bride wants and it's very 36 00:01:39,059 --> 00:01:41,669 Speaker 2: hard to kind of relate to someone else unless the 37 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:44,019 Speaker 2: person has been in the industry for a long time or, 38 00:01:44,029 --> 00:01:45,220 Speaker 2: or I'm really good friends with the 39 00:01:45,330 --> 00:01:49,739 Speaker 2: person or if the couple is comfortable with the stylist itself. 40 00:01:49,750 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 2: So sometimes the brides come in and be like, you 41 00:01:52,169 --> 00:01:54,550 Speaker 2: know what? I don't want to talk to so many people, 42 00:01:54,559 --> 00:01:57,430 Speaker 2: I just want to talk to you then. Yes, I 43 00:01:57,440 --> 00:01:59,260 Speaker 2: can do this for you as well. I 44 00:01:59,269 --> 00:02:02,809 Speaker 1: can't wait to hear all the wicky wacky stories of 45 00:02:02,819 --> 00:02:06,029 Speaker 1: planning weddings. But let's start off with this. Right? I mean, 46 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:08,860 Speaker 1: only one person here in the room has been married 47 00:02:08,869 --> 00:02:11,288 Speaker 1: before who has actually had a wedding. So I think 48 00:02:11,300 --> 00:02:13,649 Speaker 1: we'll have different perspectives. Who guess who? 49 00:02:14,589 --> 00:02:16,500 Speaker 1: Huh? Yes, you guys 50 00:02:16,508 --> 00:02:17,169 Speaker 2: are looking at her, 51 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:22,899 Speaker 1: gave it away. So coming as the perspective of wedding 52 00:02:22,910 --> 00:02:26,130 Speaker 1: guests and wedding planner and also someone who's had a wedding. 53 00:02:26,220 --> 00:02:31,589 Speaker 1: What is your favorite part about? Weddings? Me, everyone, you 54 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:34,940 Speaker 1: go first. Absolutely nothing. I don't do weddings anymore. Everybody. 55 00:02:34,949 --> 00:02:38,059 Speaker 1: I had myself at two weddings a year. You have 56 00:02:38,070 --> 00:02:41,110 Speaker 1: to be absolutely, like, really close for me to show up. 57 00:02:41,119 --> 00:02:44,199 Speaker 1: Here's the thing. I used to play the violin at many, many, 58 00:02:44,210 --> 00:02:45,220 Speaker 1: many weddings as well, 59 00:02:45,304 --> 00:02:47,735 Speaker 1: of course. So I've seen a lot of weddings at 60 00:02:47,744 --> 00:02:50,725 Speaker 1: this point and I think, right, honestly, it's the one 61 00:02:50,735 --> 00:02:55,625 Speaker 1: that at least showy and are most feel that people 62 00:02:55,633 --> 00:02:59,823 Speaker 1: remember it's not planned down to the minute. It's not OK. 63 00:02:59,835 --> 00:03:01,714 Speaker 1: This person has to do this dance. I want to 64 00:03:01,725 --> 00:03:04,464 Speaker 1: surprise performance for that person. It's not, it's not the 65 00:03:04,475 --> 00:03:09,164 Speaker 1: grand romantic gesture kind of wedding. No, I think the 66 00:03:09,175 --> 00:03:11,375 Speaker 1: weddings that I remember attending and the ones I've had 67 00:03:11,383 --> 00:03:12,255 Speaker 1: most fun at 68 00:03:12,538 --> 00:03:16,539 Speaker 1: are usually those that are just so filled with love. 69 00:03:16,550 --> 00:03:19,258 Speaker 1: You know, it's just a group of a room full 70 00:03:19,270 --> 00:03:21,940 Speaker 1: of people who loves the couple, crowding it out and 71 00:03:21,949 --> 00:03:24,860 Speaker 1: having fun together. Have you played the violin at someone's 72 00:03:24,869 --> 00:03:26,550 Speaker 1: first and then second wedding? 73 00:03:27,500 --> 00:03:32,649 Speaker 1: No, no. Had a friend who hosted a wedding for 74 00:03:32,660 --> 00:03:35,199 Speaker 1: the same person twice. And then did she say the 75 00:03:35,210 --> 00:03:37,729 Speaker 1: second time that she started off by saying 76 00:03:39,779 --> 00:03:40,559 Speaker 2: welcome again, 77 00:03:40,619 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: different brides, of course, but he felt like super, super 78 00:03:43,529 --> 00:03:47,110 Speaker 1: awkward about OK, favorite part of weddings. What about you stie? 79 00:03:47,869 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 2: Uh It will be the summation time. So because that's 80 00:03:51,089 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 2: when you see the couple together. You know, the other 81 00:03:54,009 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 2: parts of the wedding is more of like cake cutting, 82 00:03:56,449 --> 00:03:59,490 Speaker 2: champagne popping. It's very standard and you see in every 83 00:03:59,500 --> 00:04:01,919 Speaker 2: single wedding so it kind of gets boring, 84 00:04:02,350 --> 00:04:05,130 Speaker 2: you know, but during the summer you actually hear the 85 00:04:05,139 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 2: vows that they say for each other. That's when a tear, 86 00:04:08,729 --> 00:04:10,279 Speaker 2: the tearing factor comes in. 87 00:04:10,289 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: How many percent of couples cry during their wedding vows 88 00:04:14,330 --> 00:04:15,350 Speaker 1: or solemnization? 89 00:04:15,570 --> 00:04:17,950 Speaker 2: Most of the time they do almost 100%. 90 00:04:18,255 --> 00:04:19,984 Speaker 2: Yeah, almost 100%. You 91 00:04:20,494 --> 00:04:22,144 Speaker 1: would you say more? The bride, the 92 00:04:22,154 --> 00:04:23,524 Speaker 2: groom as well? Actually, 93 00:04:24,174 --> 00:04:26,535 Speaker 1: quite a number of weddings. And my favorite part is 94 00:04:26,545 --> 00:04:30,045 Speaker 1: the speech by the couple. I love that. And most 95 00:04:30,053 --> 00:04:33,475 Speaker 1: of the time the groom cries very cute. 96 00:04:34,369 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: I just want to shout out to my personal trainer Lucas. 97 00:04:37,450 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 1: You know, he stands at 190 C and he is 98 00:04:40,209 --> 00:04:43,790 Speaker 1: a guy cry at his wedding and then the wife 99 00:04:43,799 --> 00:04:49,410 Speaker 1: gave him so petite, right? It's so cute. It's so heartfelt. 100 00:04:49,420 --> 00:04:52,910 Speaker 1: It's so sincere. I love that. I think planning a 101 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:55,859 Speaker 1: wedding is so, what's yours? Oh, my favorite part of that. 102 00:04:56,660 --> 00:04:59,369 Speaker 1: I think my favorite part of a wedding is, 103 00:04:59,466 --> 00:05:03,085 Speaker 1: is when I don't know if this happens at all weddings, 104 00:05:03,096 --> 00:05:05,145 Speaker 1: but I always think it's very sweet when the dad 105 00:05:05,156 --> 00:05:08,246 Speaker 1: walks the bride down the aisle. It's like it's just 106 00:05:08,255 --> 00:05:11,126 Speaker 1: such a poignant moment of giving away a girl to 107 00:05:11,135 --> 00:05:13,156 Speaker 1: her future husband and things like that. I feel like 108 00:05:13,165 --> 00:05:15,055 Speaker 1: that would be the pride that makes me cry. Like 109 00:05:15,065 --> 00:05:16,295 Speaker 1: thinking about it. Now I want to cry 110 00:05:16,305 --> 00:05:18,096 Speaker 2: already. But now a lot of people also want their 111 00:05:18,105 --> 00:05:20,115 Speaker 2: moms to walk them down the aisle as well. Also, 112 00:05:20,126 --> 00:05:23,265 Speaker 2: now it's done both sides actually. That's a good idea. Why? 113 00:05:23,276 --> 00:05:24,695 Speaker 2: Only the, that. Yeah, because I, 114 00:05:24,782 --> 00:05:26,171 Speaker 2: now a lot of people are thinking, you know, the 115 00:05:26,182 --> 00:05:29,782 Speaker 2: mom nurture and raise the child also. so they want 116 00:05:29,791 --> 00:05:30,601 Speaker 2: to do it together. 117 00:05:30,652 --> 00:05:33,122 Speaker 1: That's a good point. Yeah. So I think planning a wedding, 118 00:05:33,130 --> 00:05:35,332 Speaker 1: there's so many traditional things, but there are also a 119 00:05:35,342 --> 00:05:38,462 Speaker 1: lot of things people do differently these days and also 120 00:05:38,471 --> 00:05:43,190 Speaker 1: crazy stuff that I've seen. Right. It's very exciting. And 121 00:05:43,321 --> 00:05:46,431 Speaker 1: it seems that apparently someone in this room is getting 122 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:49,881 Speaker 1: married soon. Oh, I want to be Jermaine. 123 00:05:51,730 --> 00:05:51,750 Speaker 1: Huh? 124 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,820 Speaker 1: I won't reveal it just yet. Ok. But we'll tell 125 00:05:56,829 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: you a bit more for now. Step being a wedding planner. 126 00:06:00,329 --> 00:06:03,420 Speaker 1: Has that always been like a dream of yours? Yeah, 127 00:06:03,619 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 1: I 128 00:06:03,859 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 2: wanted, yeah. Yeah, I wanted to do this since I 129 00:06:06,170 --> 00:06:06,750 Speaker 2: was seven. 130 00:06:08,519 --> 00:06:09,359 Speaker 2: What is 131 00:06:09,369 --> 00:06:11,250 Speaker 1: it about weddings that you love so 132 00:06:11,260 --> 00:06:14,540 Speaker 2: much? Ok. So when I was younger, like in kindergarten, 133 00:06:14,549 --> 00:06:17,130 Speaker 2: I always tell my parents that like, I want to 134 00:06:17,140 --> 00:06:18,630 Speaker 2: do this, I want to do that. I want to 135 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,160 Speaker 2: start this. I want to start that like a bakery 136 00:06:21,170 --> 00:06:24,428 Speaker 2: or fashion, you know, a lot of different types of 137 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,820 Speaker 2: businesses and then one day I don't know why I 138 00:06:27,829 --> 00:06:29,920 Speaker 2: woke up and I was like, you know, 139 00:06:30,290 --> 00:06:33,420 Speaker 2: why don't I do something that I can put everything together? 140 00:06:33,428 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 2: Like I can do everything. Then I was like, oh, 141 00:06:35,329 --> 00:06:39,190 Speaker 2: why not weddings? That was when it sparked at that 142 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:42,059 Speaker 2: point of time. And then as I go, my parents 143 00:06:42,070 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 2: are divorced, I didn't believe in love back then. Then 144 00:06:45,329 --> 00:06:47,178 Speaker 2: I was like, ok, if I cannot be happy, then 145 00:06:47,190 --> 00:06:50,070 Speaker 2: I can help someone be happy. Yeah. So then I 146 00:06:50,079 --> 00:06:52,109 Speaker 2: continued to like 147 00:06:52,488 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 2: push this dream of mine until like now at what 148 00:06:56,329 --> 00:06:58,239 Speaker 1: age do you actualize that dream? 149 00:06:58,250 --> 00:07:02,929 Speaker 2: Honestly, after when I was 16, after I graduated from 150 00:07:02,940 --> 00:07:06,459 Speaker 2: secondary four, I went to Australia to study and that 151 00:07:06,470 --> 00:07:08,829 Speaker 2: was when I had to decide what's going to be 152 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 2: my major because I did the whole foundation diploma course there. 153 00:07:12,279 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 2: So then I went into public relations and entertainment 154 00:07:17,070 --> 00:07:19,890 Speaker 2: because I looked up on the internet. What is good 155 00:07:19,899 --> 00:07:22,410 Speaker 2: for a wedding planner? What is a good trade? You know, 156 00:07:22,420 --> 00:07:25,850 Speaker 2: things like that? So I think since then I was like, ok, 157 00:07:25,859 --> 00:07:29,350 Speaker 2: I'm really gonna make this thing, make this dream. I 158 00:07:29,359 --> 00:07:33,010 Speaker 2: think so. I think that was when I really, 159 00:07:33,019 --> 00:07:35,399 Speaker 1: yeah. And then at what age did you start? I 160 00:07:35,410 --> 00:07:35,950 Speaker 1: do for 161 00:07:35,959 --> 00:07:38,410 Speaker 2: you? I started I do for you when I was 162 00:07:38,420 --> 00:07:39,929 Speaker 2: 20 163 00:07:40,829 --> 00:07:41,290 Speaker 2: two. 164 00:07:43,410 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: You said three years ago. So you're 25. I'm 26. 165 00:07:48,140 --> 00:07:53,369 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm shook. Oh my God. In Chinese. We call 166 00:07:53,380 --> 00:08:00,200 Speaker 1: this your way young and capable. There we go so 167 00:08:00,209 --> 00:08:04,119 Speaker 1: much already. I think we weddings in Singapore for me. 168 00:08:04,130 --> 00:08:06,269 Speaker 1: When I think of weddings in Singapore, I think of 169 00:08:06,279 --> 00:08:10,109 Speaker 1: the word expensive. I don't know if you guys think 170 00:08:10,119 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: the same way, 171 00:08:10,674 --> 00:08:16,135 Speaker 1: of course, going to weddings, giving all the sens for sure. 172 00:08:16,144 --> 00:08:19,454 Speaker 1: What is the biggest wedding you have planned? And how 173 00:08:19,464 --> 00:08:20,804 Speaker 1: much did it cost? 174 00:08:21,024 --> 00:08:24,184 Speaker 2: Ok. So we have planned a lot of different types 175 00:08:24,195 --> 00:08:26,255 Speaker 2: of weddings. I just got to put it out there. 176 00:08:26,494 --> 00:08:30,165 Speaker 2: But the biggest one, the groom actually spent about a 177 00:08:30,174 --> 00:08:31,975 Speaker 2: million dollars on his wedding. 178 00:08:32,309 --> 00:08:34,479 Speaker 2: A million dollars. Yeah. Who 179 00:08:34,489 --> 00:08:36,179 Speaker 1: is this person? Do we know him? Where you 180 00:08:36,190 --> 00:08:37,289 Speaker 2: guys might know him? 181 00:08:38,510 --> 00:08:38,989 Speaker 1: We cut it out 182 00:08:42,390 --> 00:08:42,770 Speaker 1: the last day, 183 00:08:45,530 --> 00:08:47,650 Speaker 1: most of that money go to. Was it the the 184 00:08:47,659 --> 00:08:50,400 Speaker 1: floral arrangement the biggest expense of this 185 00:08:50,409 --> 00:08:53,739 Speaker 2: wedding? His vintage car that he bought? Wait, 186 00:08:53,750 --> 00:08:55,909 Speaker 1: wait, wait, what? He bought a car for the wedding? Yeah. 187 00:08:55,919 --> 00:08:57,619 Speaker 1: Why not just rent a car? I 188 00:08:57,630 --> 00:09:01,189 Speaker 2: don't know like because he can, he can, he can, 189 00:09:01,429 --> 00:09:01,719 Speaker 2: he can 190 00:09:01,729 --> 00:09:05,479 Speaker 1: we forgot about that because he can, he can. Wow. Ok. 191 00:09:05,489 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: On the converse side, right? What is the lowest 192 00:09:09,083 --> 00:09:10,942 Speaker 1: budget wedding you've planned? I want to know 193 00:09:10,953 --> 00:09:15,862 Speaker 2: this home summations, but it's very intimate and honestly it 194 00:09:15,872 --> 00:09:18,881 Speaker 2: has a lot of feely feely to that also because 195 00:09:18,893 --> 00:09:22,293 Speaker 2: it's all like close friends, like close family members. Yeah. 196 00:09:22,302 --> 00:09:23,223 Speaker 2: So that's very nice. 197 00:09:23,232 --> 00:09:24,742 Speaker 1: How much would that cost like a home. So 198 00:09:25,122 --> 00:09:27,913 Speaker 2: to be honest, for home. So all you got to 199 00:09:27,922 --> 00:09:30,903 Speaker 2: do is to decorate your house and you don't really 200 00:09:30,913 --> 00:09:33,583 Speaker 2: need much. You just need flowers here and there. Yes, 201 00:09:33,593 --> 00:09:34,463 Speaker 2: you got to bring in catering, 202 00:09:34,546 --> 00:09:36,885 Speaker 2: you got to bring tables and chairs, but it's going 203 00:09:36,895 --> 00:09:40,335 Speaker 2: to cost way less than hiring a venue, like five 204 00:09:40,346 --> 00:09:43,505 Speaker 1: K less than that really way less than that. I'm 205 00:09:43,515 --> 00:09:47,356 Speaker 2: sure about it. Depends how extra extravagant you want your floor, 206 00:09:47,366 --> 00:09:49,505 Speaker 2: the call to be ok. Right. So if you want 207 00:09:49,515 --> 00:09:52,075 Speaker 2: like a whole back job, something, if your house is 208 00:09:52,085 --> 00:09:53,806 Speaker 2: like landed, you have stairs, you want to do something 209 00:09:53,815 --> 00:09:57,606 Speaker 2: in the stairs, then I would say floral itself would 210 00:09:57,616 --> 00:09:59,966 Speaker 2: cost maybe 5 to 6 K. 211 00:10:00,726 --> 00:10:01,885 Speaker 1: I should be a florist. 212 00:10:02,900 --> 00:10:03,969 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's a lot of work. 213 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:07,489 Speaker 1: Right. You know, my sister just rented this place at 214 00:10:07,500 --> 00:10:10,039 Speaker 1: a civil service club somewhere near to our place to 215 00:10:10,049 --> 00:10:13,169 Speaker 1: hold her solemnization and then invited less than 20 people 216 00:10:13,179 --> 00:10:15,909 Speaker 1: over and then we just got catering and I don't 217 00:10:15,919 --> 00:10:19,089 Speaker 1: think it cost a lot honestly, but that's what she wanted. Exactly. 218 00:10:19,190 --> 00:10:23,059 Speaker 1: Something small, homely comfortable and she even did the decorations 219 00:10:23,070 --> 00:10:26,089 Speaker 1: herself because she wanted to do everything according to how 220 00:10:26,099 --> 00:10:28,630 Speaker 1: she liked it to be and not a fan of 221 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:30,659 Speaker 1: like big parties and stuff. I have a 222 00:10:31,085 --> 00:10:34,405 Speaker 1: close family friend who is planning her wedding and she's 223 00:10:34,416 --> 00:10:37,986 Speaker 1: about your age actually. And she is a big foodie. So, 224 00:10:37,995 --> 00:10:40,945 Speaker 1: one of her first requirements is there must be good 225 00:10:40,955 --> 00:10:42,934 Speaker 1: food and I must be able to eat it. Right. 226 00:10:42,945 --> 00:10:45,026 Speaker 1: That's like her only thing. So she's looking at a 227 00:10:45,035 --> 00:10:48,515 Speaker 1: restaurant to hold a wedding instead of like a banquet or, 228 00:10:48,796 --> 00:10:51,084 Speaker 1: or a venue because she knows the restaurants, food will 229 00:10:51,096 --> 00:10:54,145 Speaker 1: be good. That's her requirement. Honestly, don't you think like, 230 00:10:54,155 --> 00:10:58,426 Speaker 1: banquets are so expensive these days? It is the other day. 231 00:10:58,434 --> 00:10:59,346 Speaker 1: Can I just say I went to 232 00:10:59,421 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 1: one and, and then I looked up right. There's a 233 00:11:02,052 --> 00:11:04,921 Speaker 1: website called What Singapore brides.com where you can see how 234 00:11:04,932 --> 00:11:07,151 Speaker 1: much it costs, right? So why are you checking? Because 235 00:11:08,131 --> 00:11:11,161 Speaker 1: that's one of the places my like family friend is 236 00:11:11,171 --> 00:11:14,961 Speaker 1: looking at. Ok. I just thought it's so expensive honestly. 237 00:11:14,971 --> 00:11:18,660 Speaker 1: And the food was in my humble opinion, girl, I 238 00:11:18,671 --> 00:11:21,442 Speaker 1: need to tell her right now. I gotta call her. Actually, 239 00:11:21,461 --> 00:11:23,541 Speaker 1: she's a big listener. Listen to this. 240 00:11:23,702 --> 00:11:26,341 Speaker 2: Ok? I'm from the wedding industry. So like you guys 241 00:11:26,351 --> 00:11:27,271 Speaker 2: better fuck up. 242 00:11:28,729 --> 00:11:30,780 Speaker 1: Ok? You know what I think has good food. My 243 00:11:30,789 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: ideal wedding place mcdonald's not really, but it starts with 244 00:11:34,650 --> 00:11:36,478 Speaker 1: an M AJ W Marriott. 245 00:11:37,780 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: I love that place, the dome shaped ceiling and then 246 00:11:41,530 --> 00:11:44,140 Speaker 1: I like the sound system. There's something that's so important 247 00:11:44,150 --> 00:11:47,239 Speaker 1: for me as oppose the sound systems that and there's 248 00:11:47,250 --> 00:11:49,900 Speaker 1: this a guy working there. He's so good that asking 249 00:11:49,909 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: for his name. Eugene, I show the panels and the 250 00:11:54,289 --> 00:11:56,650 Speaker 1: food is good but I think it also can be 251 00:11:56,659 --> 00:11:57,358 Speaker 1: a bit pricey. 252 00:11:57,505 --> 00:12:00,994 Speaker 1: Her head is about 2 8300. Yeah, I did a 253 00:12:01,005 --> 00:12:02,405 Speaker 1: lot of research when I thought I was going to 254 00:12:02,414 --> 00:12:05,314 Speaker 1: get married. JW married was one of the places I 255 00:12:05,325 --> 00:12:08,174 Speaker 1: wanted to get married. You were quite a capella. Noel 256 00:12:09,114 --> 00:12:12,694 Speaker 1: is a bit small, very, very, very price also. Very, 257 00:12:14,284 --> 00:12:17,015 Speaker 1: but ok. Is there such a thing as like, 258 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,690 Speaker 1: you know, when you're planning? Right? Especially for a wedding, 259 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: they always say you have to book the venue two 260 00:12:22,890 --> 00:12:24,559 Speaker 1: years ahead, you have to get your dress like at 261 00:12:24,570 --> 00:12:28,950 Speaker 1: least a year. It's so stressful. Is there a timeline 262 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:30,500 Speaker 1: for these things as a wedding planner? You're like you 263 00:12:30,510 --> 00:12:30,809 Speaker 1: have to do 264 00:12:30,820 --> 00:12:32,919 Speaker 2: this. I won't like do it like that like you 265 00:12:32,929 --> 00:12:35,369 Speaker 2: have to do this but like yes, there is a 266 00:12:35,380 --> 00:12:39,559 Speaker 2: whole timeline that you should consider doing. Ok. So I 267 00:12:39,570 --> 00:12:42,739 Speaker 2: would say why people start looking two years in advance? 268 00:12:42,750 --> 00:12:44,750 Speaker 2: Like for example, they just got proposed, then they immediately 269 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:45,709 Speaker 2: want to gram 270 00:12:45,932 --> 00:12:49,213 Speaker 2: of things. One is because of the price in 2024 271 00:12:49,223 --> 00:12:52,653 Speaker 2: there is the 1% extra GST which is the 9% right? 272 00:12:53,713 --> 00:12:56,713 Speaker 2: So then a lot of people start planning in either 273 00:12:56,723 --> 00:13:01,242 Speaker 2: 2022 or 2023. How this works is for example, some 274 00:13:01,252 --> 00:13:06,072 Speaker 2: vendors allow clients to pay in full before the year end, ok? 275 00:13:06,265 --> 00:13:08,385 Speaker 2: If you get what I mean? So in 2020 some 276 00:13:08,395 --> 00:13:12,885 Speaker 2: vendors allow their clients to pay 8% in December. Ok. 277 00:13:12,895 --> 00:13:15,805 Speaker 2: Then the whole service is paid for. So then technically 278 00:13:15,815 --> 00:13:18,575 Speaker 2: it's cheaper if you think about it in the whole 279 00:13:18,695 --> 00:13:22,434 Speaker 2: grand scheme. Yeah. And also because now it's 2024. If 280 00:13:22,445 --> 00:13:25,986 Speaker 2: they signed the package this year, the prices have changed, 281 00:13:27,250 --> 00:13:30,559 Speaker 2: it has increased. So, for example, venues, right, every year 282 00:13:30,570 --> 00:13:32,099 Speaker 2: there is a change in price. All 283 00:13:32,109 --> 00:13:34,010 Speaker 1: right, I forgot about that. Not just the GST he 284 00:13:34,849 --> 00:13:37,780 Speaker 1: oh my God, this like Chanel bags, you know, I 285 00:13:37,789 --> 00:13:40,559 Speaker 1: know that usually when you inquire for services, like they'll 286 00:13:40,570 --> 00:13:42,119 Speaker 1: tell you like which year then they give you like 287 00:13:42,130 --> 00:13:44,169 Speaker 1: this are the 2024 prices, but this is like the 288 00:13:44,179 --> 00:13:50,289 Speaker 1: 2025 prices, you know, of course. Ok. Is it, can 289 00:13:50,299 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: I ask, ask how much did you spend on your wedding? 290 00:13:55,289 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: Ok. First of all, I managed to save maybe about 30% 291 00:13:59,770 --> 00:14:02,340 Speaker 1: of my spendings because those were sponsored, 292 00:14:02,799 --> 00:14:08,460 Speaker 1: but I still did spend about 120 I think $120,000. 293 00:14:08,469 --> 00:14:09,989 Speaker 1: Is that, is 294 00:14:10,109 --> 00:14:12,359 Speaker 2: that a lot? That's a lot. I mean, that's a 295 00:14:12,369 --> 00:14:14,799 Speaker 2: lot because she said that she's also sponsor, 296 00:14:15,900 --> 00:14:18,659 Speaker 1: but she also had like 1000 people at her wedding. 297 00:14:18,950 --> 00:14:21,669 Speaker 1: How 2000, 2000, 2000? Ok. 298 00:14:21,679 --> 00:14:25,729 Speaker 2: Then that makes sense when you buy your wedding at Expo. No, 299 00:14:25,739 --> 00:14:28,900 Speaker 1: but after all the p came in, how much cannot 300 00:14:28,909 --> 00:14:32,380 Speaker 1: cover it? Really cannot cover? And recently as well 301 00:14:32,465 --> 00:14:35,715 Speaker 1: had friends who got married and these are like smaller weddings, 302 00:14:35,724 --> 00:14:39,794 Speaker 1: 200 over people, 300 people. You would think that possible 303 00:14:39,804 --> 00:14:43,414 Speaker 1: to cover. It's not possible. People are not covering anymore. 304 00:14:43,424 --> 00:14:46,335 Speaker 1: Apparently it's really hard right now because the prices are 305 00:14:46,344 --> 00:14:49,424 Speaker 1: so expensive. It's true. Like, if, let's say you go, 306 00:14:49,434 --> 00:14:51,224 Speaker 1: that's why people don't bring kids to a wedding. If 307 00:14:51,234 --> 00:14:52,734 Speaker 1: you bring a family of four and you have to 308 00:14:52,744 --> 00:14:55,965 Speaker 1: cover everyone. You're paying over $1000 to cover each head. 309 00:14:55,974 --> 00:14:58,455 Speaker 1: It's not possible. Yeah, like, OK, out of everything you 310 00:14:58,465 --> 00:15:00,505 Speaker 1: spend on a wedding, right? Maybe it is Z or step. 311 00:15:00,775 --> 00:15:02,005 Speaker 1: You would know 312 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:05,340 Speaker 1: what is the one thing that you shouldn't be scrimping 313 00:15:05,349 --> 00:15:07,799 Speaker 1: and saving on. You should actually spend that money. I 314 00:15:07,809 --> 00:15:08,159 Speaker 1: will see a 315 00:15:08,169 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 2: photographer and videographer, 316 00:15:10,349 --> 00:15:10,830 Speaker 1: makeup. 317 00:15:11,989 --> 00:15:14,530 Speaker 2: OK. So honestly it's the big three, right? The photographer, 318 00:15:14,539 --> 00:15:18,159 Speaker 2: videographer and your hair, makeup because photos and videos are 319 00:15:18,169 --> 00:15:20,859 Speaker 2: the thing that you keep after your we forever. So 320 00:15:20,869 --> 00:15:22,849 Speaker 2: you don't want it to be like 10 years down 321 00:15:22,859 --> 00:15:25,020 Speaker 2: the road and then you, you're looking at your wedding 322 00:15:25,030 --> 00:15:26,200 Speaker 2: photos and be like, why do we 323 00:15:26,306 --> 00:15:29,995 Speaker 2: choose this photographer or like this style? You, you want 324 00:15:30,005 --> 00:15:32,656 Speaker 2: it to be timeless. You want something that can hang 325 00:15:32,666 --> 00:15:35,156 Speaker 2: on your wall or something like that, right? Or 326 00:15:35,166 --> 00:15:38,585 Speaker 1: burn in a fire of things. Go to no, but 327 00:15:38,596 --> 00:15:42,156 Speaker 1: we have a photographer, videographer, friend in the wedding industry. 328 00:15:42,166 --> 00:15:45,926 Speaker 1: He used to get paid 50 grand to fly to 329 00:15:45,935 --> 00:15:49,685 Speaker 1: China just to videographer, wedding or photograph a wedding. Like 330 00:15:49,695 --> 00:15:50,276 Speaker 1: that is a 331 00:15:51,052 --> 00:15:54,331 Speaker 1: yes, that's an expense that they are willing to splurge on. 332 00:15:54,341 --> 00:15:57,671 Speaker 1: It's crazy. But people in China, their culture is different 333 00:15:57,682 --> 00:16:00,762 Speaker 1: for the bridesmaids. They each get a Chanel bag. No, 334 00:16:00,992 --> 00:16:05,291 Speaker 1: I'm serious. I was born in the wrong country. Chanel bags. 335 00:16:05,421 --> 00:16:08,012 Speaker 1: They see these kind of things as face. You know, 336 00:16:08,021 --> 00:16:12,401 Speaker 1: this is very prominent in the Chinese society, Chinese rights 337 00:16:12,411 --> 00:16:14,291 Speaker 1: in China call us. 338 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,729 Speaker 1: Yes. You know what's one thing you should be on 339 00:16:17,739 --> 00:16:19,690 Speaker 1: on your wedding? But a good host. 340 00:16:22,559 --> 00:16:26,159 Speaker 1: It's true. It's true. But your choice is here, hair 341 00:16:26,169 --> 00:16:29,150 Speaker 1: and makeup as well. So on that note as well, right? 342 00:16:29,159 --> 00:16:32,159 Speaker 1: What is it that people maybe sometimes place too much 343 00:16:32,169 --> 00:16:35,650 Speaker 1: importance on that. You really shouldn't be spending so much 344 00:16:35,659 --> 00:16:36,460 Speaker 1: money on it. 345 00:16:36,650 --> 00:16:38,809 Speaker 2: Table centerpieces 346 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 2: as 347 00:16:40,849 --> 00:16:44,780 Speaker 1: in the floral, on the table, centerpiece on the table, right? 348 00:16:45,460 --> 00:16:47,190 Speaker 1: Waste of space. How much money can you spend on 349 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:51,640 Speaker 1: a floral centerpiece expensive? Really? For one table it can 350 00:16:51,650 --> 00:16:54,429 Speaker 1: be like ok, but multiply by 20 tables. 351 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:58,150 Speaker 2: So one table can go from $30 all the way 352 00:16:58,159 --> 00:17:00,299 Speaker 2: to 100 and 80 for the centerpiece for the center. 353 00:17:00,530 --> 00:17:03,570 Speaker 1: So if you have like 30 tables, there's gotta be 354 00:17:03,580 --> 00:17:08,050 Speaker 1: like roughly 1000 that's about $6000 for the most expensive 355 00:17:08,189 --> 00:17:09,010 Speaker 1: just on the 356 00:17:10,672 --> 00:17:13,272 Speaker 2: which if you get like the sharing table, the one 357 00:17:13,282 --> 00:17:15,891 Speaker 2: that can spin, right lady Susan kind they're going to 358 00:17:15,902 --> 00:17:18,993 Speaker 2: remove it when the dishes are served. That's true. So, 359 00:17:19,003 --> 00:17:21,172 Speaker 2: there's no point. Right. You also 360 00:17:21,182 --> 00:17:24,512 Speaker 1: can't not have one. You can, I would, you can, 361 00:17:24,522 --> 00:17:26,272 Speaker 1: I would just put a bowl of candy there. I 362 00:17:26,282 --> 00:17:27,891 Speaker 1: think it would be more hot than having 363 00:17:28,061 --> 00:17:31,883 Speaker 2: candles. You know, you can, yeah, you can put candles 364 00:17:31,892 --> 00:17:34,762 Speaker 2: and some venues. If you're talking about hotels, they already 365 00:17:34,772 --> 00:17:38,892 Speaker 2: have something in their standard package. So, why not use 366 00:17:38,988 --> 00:17:41,258 Speaker 1: that? Yeah. And even like my friend, he had his 367 00:17:41,267 --> 00:17:44,167 Speaker 1: wedding recently and he catered like this floral arch thing. 368 00:17:44,177 --> 00:17:46,567 Speaker 1: It was not a table centerpiece but it was there 369 00:17:46,578 --> 00:17:48,027 Speaker 1: and he didn't want to waste it. So he told 370 00:17:48,037 --> 00:17:50,328 Speaker 1: the guests no, before you leave, feel free to just 371 00:17:50,338 --> 00:17:52,427 Speaker 1: pick the flowers that you love so everybody can take 372 00:17:52,436 --> 00:17:55,128 Speaker 1: something back to us. We wouldn't be wasted. If not, 373 00:17:55,137 --> 00:17:57,677 Speaker 1: it's just gonna be thrown away. How much does one 374 00:17:57,686 --> 00:18:00,128 Speaker 1: floral arch cost 1000? Over 2000 375 00:18:00,137 --> 00:18:04,016 Speaker 2: bucks? Yes, it starts from 2000. You in 376 00:18:04,027 --> 00:18:08,567 Speaker 1: the wrong industry business. 377 00:18:08,821 --> 00:18:11,281 Speaker 1: To be honest, right through my life, I have not 378 00:18:11,291 --> 00:18:16,281 Speaker 1: really attended any weddings, any unconventional weddings. I've attended weddings 379 00:18:16,291 --> 00:18:19,212 Speaker 1: where you basically know what's coming up next. Ok. Now 380 00:18:19,222 --> 00:18:21,552 Speaker 1: it's going to be the brights coming out. 1st March in, 381 00:18:21,732 --> 00:18:25,401 Speaker 1: everybody stand up through the flowers, eat few courses. 2nd 382 00:18:25,411 --> 00:18:27,911 Speaker 1: March in cut the cake. The cake is fake. By 383 00:18:27,921 --> 00:18:29,802 Speaker 1: the way, the cake is fake. Most of the time 384 00:18:29,811 --> 00:18:32,212 Speaker 1: it's only like that first layer or not even, sometimes 385 00:18:32,222 --> 00:18:35,151 Speaker 1: it's styrofoam and then the knife just goes in, there's 386 00:18:35,161 --> 00:18:37,261 Speaker 1: a slit there already, but there is an option to 387 00:18:37,271 --> 00:18:38,241 Speaker 1: get a real cake. But 388 00:18:38,336 --> 00:18:40,946 Speaker 1: many couples go for it. Like such a big cake. 389 00:18:41,026 --> 00:18:43,676 Speaker 1: Can I tell you about one of the smartest things 390 00:18:43,686 --> 00:18:46,296 Speaker 1: I've heard of when you've got a real cake, right? 391 00:18:46,446 --> 00:18:49,536 Speaker 1: And it's real and then after that you got to 392 00:18:49,546 --> 00:18:52,514 Speaker 1: cut it up packing for people, that sort of thing, right? 393 00:18:52,635 --> 00:18:54,956 Speaker 1: One of the smartest things I've seen is that they 394 00:18:54,965 --> 00:18:57,066 Speaker 1: make that cake that you want for you. It's all 395 00:18:57,076 --> 00:18:59,995 Speaker 1: star from, except for one little part that you're supposed 396 00:19:00,005 --> 00:19:04,505 Speaker 1: to cut. But that same amount of cake has been packed, 397 00:19:04,676 --> 00:19:07,545 Speaker 1: cut and packed for your guests ready. 398 00:19:08,859 --> 00:19:11,510 Speaker 1: So you don't actually have to do it after the 399 00:19:11,709 --> 00:19:13,959 Speaker 1: cake cutting, but that means they have to make two cakes. 400 00:19:13,969 --> 00:19:16,969 Speaker 1: One real, one fake a little was one of the 401 00:19:16,979 --> 00:19:19,349 Speaker 1: smartest things I've seen because after that it's just done, 402 00:19:19,359 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 1: I guess you could do that. Why not just make 403 00:19:21,890 --> 00:19:23,430 Speaker 1: the real agree? 404 00:19:23,630 --> 00:19:24,139 Speaker 2: Ok. I, 405 00:19:24,234 --> 00:19:25,954 Speaker 2: I do have to say it because if you make 406 00:19:25,964 --> 00:19:28,754 Speaker 2: the whole cake, right? Some hotels you actually got to 407 00:19:28,765 --> 00:19:31,104 Speaker 2: pay for this thing called C 408 00:19:31,145 --> 00:19:31,415 Speaker 1: fee 409 00:19:32,244 --> 00:19:34,425 Speaker 2: fee. So they were the chef will actually help you 410 00:19:34,435 --> 00:19:35,295 Speaker 2: cut the cake up 411 00:19:35,305 --> 00:19:36,814 Speaker 1: and then they charge you for helping the 412 00:19:37,594 --> 00:19:39,304 Speaker 2: correct. You do that. 413 00:19:41,380 --> 00:19:45,399 Speaker 2: Well, a lot of people do like cupcakes and cakes now. Yeah. So, 414 00:19:45,410 --> 00:19:46,910 Speaker 2: it's kind of like a wedding favor in a way 415 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:49,510 Speaker 2: as well. But that works. So, 416 00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:52,489 Speaker 1: these are very, like, obviously conventional weddings, you know what's 417 00:19:52,500 --> 00:19:55,188 Speaker 1: gonna happen? Right. As a host, you know, it to death, right. 418 00:19:55,520 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 1: What are some unconventional weddings that you guys have been to? Right. 419 00:20:00,770 --> 00:20:04,199 Speaker 1: Or like elopements or? I don't know, married in Vegas. 420 00:20:04,209 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: I don't know, because I've never seen them. Right. 421 00:20:06,750 --> 00:20:10,300 Speaker 2: Actually, we do a lot of expat weddings. So expat 422 00:20:10,349 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 2: weddings are more unconventional and more unorthodox. We actually build 423 00:20:15,290 --> 00:20:19,369 Speaker 2: a venue from scratch. Yeah, we built a venue from scratch. 424 00:20:19,380 --> 00:20:23,689 Speaker 2: So basically the couple rented this grass patch out of 425 00:20:23,829 --> 00:20:27,180 Speaker 2: nowhere and then we brought in like planking and tents 426 00:20:27,189 --> 00:20:28,589 Speaker 2: and everything that is so 427 00:20:28,599 --> 00:20:29,729 Speaker 1: smart. By the way, 428 00:20:29,932 --> 00:20:34,552 Speaker 2: everything is from. Yeah, in a way you could say that. 429 00:20:34,561 --> 00:20:36,901 Speaker 2: But if you kind of like calculate everything, it's still 430 00:20:36,911 --> 00:20:39,232 Speaker 2: somewhat cheaper than doing it in the hotel 431 00:20:39,692 --> 00:20:42,952 Speaker 1: because then you get the venue that you actually want. 432 00:20:43,102 --> 00:20:46,112 Speaker 1: I think sometimes when you look for venues, this has 433 00:20:46,121 --> 00:20:48,682 Speaker 1: this is lacking this, I like this but this this 434 00:20:48,692 --> 00:20:52,281 Speaker 2: problem. But doing it outdoors also has its own problem 435 00:20:52,291 --> 00:20:53,031 Speaker 2: because Singapore, 436 00:20:53,114 --> 00:20:55,604 Speaker 2: right? Like it's either rain or shine. So we have 437 00:20:55,614 --> 00:20:59,843 Speaker 2: to stand by a lot of different problems that might arise. Contingency. Yeah, 438 00:20:59,854 --> 00:21:02,083 Speaker 2: a lot of contingent. Yeah. So we will stand by 439 00:21:02,093 --> 00:21:05,603 Speaker 2: like umbrellas. A lot of like standing fans air con 440 00:21:06,144 --> 00:21:08,534 Speaker 2: we also need to stand by a chef. And for 441 00:21:08,542 --> 00:21:10,342 Speaker 2: that chef, we need to build another 10 for that 442 00:21:10,354 --> 00:21:12,823 Speaker 2: chef just to prepare the food. Oh my God. Ok. 443 00:21:13,593 --> 00:21:14,913 Speaker 1: Sounds like a lot of work. It 444 00:21:15,263 --> 00:21:15,854 Speaker 2: is a lot of people 445 00:21:16,416 --> 00:21:19,045 Speaker 1: unconventional for sure. So some of the weddings that I've 446 00:21:19,056 --> 00:21:22,605 Speaker 1: hosted the couple during the 2nd March in, they walked in, 447 00:21:22,615 --> 00:21:28,196 Speaker 1: in mascots, like costume, the costumes do on and then 448 00:21:28,205 --> 00:21:30,076 Speaker 1: they just march down the ale, which I thought was really, 449 00:21:30,086 --> 00:21:33,105 Speaker 1: really cute. And like my personal trainer Lucas, when he 450 00:21:33,115 --> 00:21:36,576 Speaker 1: got married to his wife shy, because they were both dancers. 451 00:21:36,586 --> 00:21:39,875 Speaker 1: They did this entire segment where they dance and he 452 00:21:39,885 --> 00:21:42,916 Speaker 1: picked up his wife turned her, spun her around and 453 00:21:42,926 --> 00:21:44,515 Speaker 1: I caught her that kind of thing. 454 00:21:45,660 --> 00:21:47,909 Speaker 1: It's cute. It's cute. I think the craziest thing I've 455 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,439 Speaker 1: seen at a wedding is a new as well. When 456 00:21:50,449 --> 00:21:52,510 Speaker 1: the groom got so drunk that he started smoking a 457 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:55,760 Speaker 1: cigarette in the ballroom. I'll tell you something. When I 458 00:21:55,770 --> 00:21:57,400 Speaker 1: saw it, I stood up to block him. 459 00:21:58,930 --> 00:22:01,459 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my God, smoke coming up. It's 460 00:22:01,469 --> 00:22:05,228 Speaker 1: an indoor ball. But hey, I mean, it's there one night, 461 00:22:05,239 --> 00:22:08,469 Speaker 1: you know, let them happen, let them be. 462 00:22:08,479 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 2: Wow! Ok. 463 00:22:09,290 --> 00:22:12,260 Speaker 1: I'll give you a precursor to the incident because earlier 464 00:22:12,270 --> 00:22:14,719 Speaker 1: before the wedding started, I had gone to a room 465 00:22:14,890 --> 00:22:17,430 Speaker 1: and then this groom opens the door with a flat hand. 466 00:22:17,439 --> 00:22:19,729 Speaker 1: I saw you drinking already. It's like three. I was like, yes, 467 00:22:19,739 --> 00:22:21,219 Speaker 1: my wedding day then. What am I supposed to do? 468 00:22:24,219 --> 00:22:26,520 Speaker 1: I mean, those, I mean, these are weddings that, you know, 469 00:22:26,530 --> 00:22:30,619 Speaker 1: I think they're special, right? Especially like with Lucas and 470 00:22:30,660 --> 00:22:32,989 Speaker 1: shaky because they won't dance and all of that. What 471 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:36,629 Speaker 1: about weddings that maybe did not go so well. Wedding 472 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:37,939 Speaker 1: horror stories, 473 00:22:38,069 --> 00:22:41,649 Speaker 2: horror stories. I mean, I've never experienced that. At least 474 00:22:41,660 --> 00:22:45,208 Speaker 2: a bright seller. Bright. Definitely, there will always be some 475 00:22:45,219 --> 00:22:49,859 Speaker 2: problems with the, if anything else you need. Eugene from 476 00:22:49,939 --> 00:22:49,959 Speaker 2: G 477 00:22:50,199 --> 00:22:51,119 Speaker 1: we 478 00:22:52,699 --> 00:22:53,659 Speaker 1: groom Zilla. 479 00:22:54,150 --> 00:22:58,679 Speaker 2: Yes. Oh wow. Yes, you'll be surprised. Yes. Ok. For groomers, 480 00:22:58,969 --> 00:23:02,390 Speaker 2: they are usually not quite as crazy as like bright 481 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:08,640 Speaker 2: dealers are they are more worried about needing to spend more. Ok. Yeah. 482 00:23:08,660 --> 00:23:12,089 Speaker 1: Ok. So the groom is worried about spending money. The 483 00:23:12,099 --> 00:23:13,310 Speaker 1: bride obviously 484 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,639 Speaker 1: so much money has been spent. You want it to 485 00:23:15,650 --> 00:23:20,969 Speaker 1: be absolute perfection worthwhile. Here's a horror story of a 486 00:23:20,979 --> 00:23:25,780 Speaker 1: wedding that we actually saw from a wedding coordinator. So 487 00:23:25,790 --> 00:23:29,219 Speaker 1: as a wedding coordinator, I usually handle the final details 488 00:23:29,229 --> 00:23:31,060 Speaker 1: to ensure a smooth wedding, right? 489 00:23:31,349 --> 00:23:34,988 Speaker 1: I once faced a situation where the couple had paid 490 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:38,640 Speaker 1: the deposit but failed to pay the remaining amount before 491 00:23:38,650 --> 00:23:42,430 Speaker 1: the wedding. About half of the total cost around $30,000. 492 00:23:42,439 --> 00:23:45,530 Speaker 1: And on that day, this is the day of the wedding, 493 00:23:45,540 --> 00:23:49,119 Speaker 1: the catering hall refused to proceed without the cash. The 494 00:23:49,130 --> 00:23:51,719 Speaker 1: bank was closed because of a holiday, right? So they 495 00:23:51,729 --> 00:23:54,879 Speaker 1: couldn't get any cash out. They tried to get money 496 00:23:54,890 --> 00:23:56,290 Speaker 1: from relatives on the wedding 497 00:23:56,368 --> 00:23:59,208 Speaker 1: day to pay the remaining. And at this point, guests 498 00:23:59,218 --> 00:24:02,498 Speaker 1: were already arriving to the wedding and the wedding coordinator 499 00:24:02,508 --> 00:24:06,547 Speaker 1: is like FML like, what am I gonna do? No, no, no, 500 00:24:06,557 --> 00:24:08,717 Speaker 1: there's no wedding to be had, right? And she's like 501 00:24:08,728 --> 00:24:12,427 Speaker 1: freaking out there. They actually took the money box, gave 502 00:24:12,436 --> 00:24:14,738 Speaker 1: it to the wedding coordinator to try and pay off 503 00:24:14,748 --> 00:24:17,748 Speaker 1: everyone that they could. And when the couple arrived, they 504 00:24:17,758 --> 00:24:21,307 Speaker 1: were able to basically hold whatever amount they had as 505 00:24:21,385 --> 00:24:25,105 Speaker 1: ransom and go ahead with the event. But this was 506 00:24:25,115 --> 00:24:28,166 Speaker 1: like the last moment this was a guest were already there. 507 00:24:28,406 --> 00:24:31,754 Speaker 1: That's so stressful. I think the coordinator almost had a 508 00:24:31,765 --> 00:24:35,196 Speaker 1: heart attack that I'm sure. But I feel like this 509 00:24:35,205 --> 00:24:37,615 Speaker 1: is on the couple. It really is. You should have 510 00:24:37,625 --> 00:24:40,206 Speaker 1: made sure you paid everything in due time. 511 00:24:40,215 --> 00:24:44,525 Speaker 2: Right. Actually, yes, that's also one point. But in a 512 00:24:44,536 --> 00:24:46,326 Speaker 2: wedding planner perspective, you 513 00:24:46,404 --> 00:24:49,384 Speaker 2: usually, when, if you're talking about a wedding coordinator, that 514 00:24:49,394 --> 00:24:52,154 Speaker 2: means that the wedding coordinator didn't plan the wedding, right? 515 00:24:52,163 --> 00:24:54,284 Speaker 2: The wedding coordinator is only there to help on the 516 00:24:54,292 --> 00:24:58,183 Speaker 2: act itself. Ok. Right. So then usually they come in 517 00:24:58,234 --> 00:25:01,343 Speaker 2: two months before the wedding day. I'm not sure about 518 00:25:01,354 --> 00:25:04,033 Speaker 2: other planners. But what we do is we get all 519 00:25:04,042 --> 00:25:07,284 Speaker 2: the invoices that you have with all your other vendors. So, 520 00:25:07,292 --> 00:25:10,783 Speaker 2: meaning venue, other vendors and stuff like that. And then 521 00:25:10,792 --> 00:25:11,343 Speaker 2: we have, we 522 00:25:11,421 --> 00:25:13,401 Speaker 2: are the ones who prompt the couples to pay them 523 00:25:13,411 --> 00:25:16,571 Speaker 2: if the couple cannot pay, you know, we at least 524 00:25:16,582 --> 00:25:19,321 Speaker 2: we will know first. Ok. And we'll try and sort 525 00:25:19,332 --> 00:25:22,380 Speaker 2: that out before the wedding. Not on the day off, right. 526 00:25:22,391 --> 00:25:26,281 Speaker 1: So that's planners duty, not the coordinators. Yeah. Ok. And 527 00:25:26,291 --> 00:25:30,401 Speaker 1: also the bride and groom spend beyond your means. You 528 00:25:30,442 --> 00:25:33,962 Speaker 1: spend what you can and if anything, maybe you can 529 00:25:33,972 --> 00:25:38,842 Speaker 1: take consolation in a PD story during COVID. Her wedding 530 00:25:38,852 --> 00:25:41,001 Speaker 1: caterer disappeared 531 00:25:41,290 --> 00:25:45,609 Speaker 1: with the deposit money of $4000. Are you serious? Yeah, 532 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,270 Speaker 1: name and shame, name and shame. So she had planned 533 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,650 Speaker 1: everything venue was booked and then COVID hit and the 534 00:25:51,660 --> 00:25:53,599 Speaker 1: caterer was like, oh no, just delay the wedding, just 535 00:25:53,609 --> 00:25:55,000 Speaker 1: delay the wedding. And they were like, no, we just 536 00:25:55,010 --> 00:25:57,389 Speaker 1: want to go ahead however way that we can because 537 00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,708 Speaker 1: we just want to get it over and done with. 538 00:25:58,719 --> 00:26:00,489 Speaker 1: We already put the deposit down 539 00:26:00,555 --> 00:26:03,254 Speaker 1: on everything and this cater really wanted to push for 540 00:26:03,265 --> 00:26:05,774 Speaker 1: a postponement and they were like, why this is our wedding? 541 00:26:05,785 --> 00:26:08,685 Speaker 1: Let us do what we want and then they ghosted 542 00:26:09,005 --> 00:26:12,314 Speaker 1: our PD, our producer with the money. When did you 543 00:26:12,324 --> 00:26:15,155 Speaker 1: get the money back? No, they tried legal action. There 544 00:26:15,165 --> 00:26:17,395 Speaker 1: is no way to find this person. This person just disappear. 545 00:26:17,405 --> 00:26:18,665 Speaker 1: Oh man, that's unfortunate 546 00:26:18,694 --> 00:26:19,655 Speaker 2: sucks. Yeah, 547 00:26:20,140 --> 00:26:22,238 Speaker 1: I don't know if you experience that during COVID. 548 00:26:22,589 --> 00:26:24,709 Speaker 2: No, not at all. 549 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:28,430 Speaker 1: Yeah. So earlier on we said that there's someone here 550 00:26:28,439 --> 00:26:32,839 Speaker 1: that's getting married. Not me. No. Ring on my finger. 551 00:26:32,849 --> 00:26:35,599 Speaker 1: It's not Azura. She's been there, done that. Definitely not me. 552 00:26:35,609 --> 00:26:37,708 Speaker 1: Not a single a, it's definitely, 553 00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,238 Speaker 2: who is a lucky guy? Am I to say his name? 554 00:26:42,510 --> 00:26:43,369 Speaker 2: I don't know. You know? 555 00:26:43,505 --> 00:26:46,484 Speaker 2: Ok. His name is, w why? But we call him Jake. 556 00:26:46,494 --> 00:26:50,604 Speaker 2: We are actually primary school friends but we've been only 557 00:26:50,614 --> 00:26:52,594 Speaker 2: been together for four years. Are 558 00:26:52,604 --> 00:26:55,905 Speaker 1: you planning your own wedding? Is it like, how does 559 00:26:55,915 --> 00:26:56,415 Speaker 1: it work? 560 00:26:56,425 --> 00:26:59,864 Speaker 2: Ok. I plan the timeline the next day after my proposal. Wow. 561 00:27:00,574 --> 00:27:04,083 Speaker 1: She was like, I got a spreadsheet out. She was like, 562 00:27:04,094 --> 00:27:07,814 Speaker 1: I have been prepared my entire life. So you plan 563 00:27:07,824 --> 00:27:08,724 Speaker 1: your own wedding 564 00:27:09,609 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 2: all done? Ok. So I have the whole skeleton of 565 00:27:12,770 --> 00:27:15,219 Speaker 2: the timeline. I just left the venue and the vendors 566 00:27:15,229 --> 00:27:18,189 Speaker 1: but you can't coordinate the wedding because you are the right. Yeah. 567 00:27:18,250 --> 00:27:23,649 Speaker 1: So girl, I once thought about hosting my own wedding 568 00:27:24,020 --> 00:27:26,159 Speaker 1: and then I just thought that it was impossible. So 569 00:27:26,170 --> 00:27:26,909 Speaker 1: let me do it 570 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:32,750 Speaker 1: for free. You get you jeans. I make sure to 571 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,790 Speaker 1: find them. Oh my God. It's gonna be tough running 572 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,198 Speaker 1: your own show. Honestly, it is on that day, there's 573 00:27:38,209 --> 00:27:40,599 Speaker 1: going to be certain responsibilities that you have to convince 574 00:27:40,609 --> 00:27:42,919 Speaker 1: yourself to let go of and like not be so 575 00:27:42,930 --> 00:27:44,199 Speaker 1: stressed out over certain details, 576 00:27:44,209 --> 00:27:47,869 Speaker 2: right? Yeah, like you have to trust whoever that you assign. Exactly. 577 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:49,270 Speaker 2: Good luck with that girl. Thanks. 578 00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:54,879 Speaker 1: So exciting g question. Just wondering because we've spoken about 579 00:27:54,890 --> 00:27:57,619 Speaker 1: this many, many times. But at this point right now 580 00:27:57,630 --> 00:27:59,920 Speaker 1: because a lot of things have changed. I'm scared that 581 00:27:59,989 --> 00:28:03,180 Speaker 1: of me. What is your ideal wedding like you now? 582 00:28:03,219 --> 00:28:08,219 Speaker 1: Because I feel like it has changed. Not in Singapore. Yeah. 583 00:28:08,310 --> 00:28:10,369 Speaker 1: I think, I don't know if I would have a 584 00:28:10,380 --> 00:28:14,020 Speaker 1: wedding here because my boyfriend's family is not really here 585 00:28:14,069 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 1: if we do end up getting married. Ha ha. You know, 586 00:28:17,189 --> 00:28:19,228 Speaker 1: I make God laugh telling me your plans, right? But 587 00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:23,479 Speaker 1: it's true. But I would, I envision I really like 588 00:28:23,489 --> 00:28:26,849 Speaker 1: the ocean and the sea I envisioned like in Bali, 589 00:28:26,890 --> 00:28:33,040 Speaker 1: I knew there was. Yeah. So I don't know. That's 590 00:28:33,050 --> 00:28:38,089 Speaker 1: why I thought but we promised him a Backstreet boys dance. Sure. Yeah. 591 00:28:38,219 --> 00:28:39,760 Speaker 1: Let him do whatever he wants. 592 00:28:40,369 --> 00:28:43,449 Speaker 1: But to be honest, I don't want to think anymore. 593 00:28:43,459 --> 00:28:45,750 Speaker 1: You know, I mean, I had like grand plans many 594 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:48,810 Speaker 1: times over the many years and it has never come 595 00:28:48,819 --> 00:28:51,750 Speaker 1: to fruition. So at this point, I'm like just, you know, 596 00:28:51,839 --> 00:28:54,910 Speaker 1: we'll see, we'll see when the time comes. But sometimes 597 00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,189 Speaker 1: some questions are unavoidable. Like after you plan your wedding, 598 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:01,500 Speaker 1: I've heard of so many brides telling me the same thing. 599 00:29:01,510 --> 00:29:05,069 Speaker 1: The toughest part about any wedding is the wedding guest list, 600 00:29:05,079 --> 00:29:10,390 Speaker 1: who to invite, who to sit with, who this two person. 601 00:29:10,439 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: For example, these two people used to be together, but 602 00:29:12,770 --> 00:29:14,689 Speaker 1: they have now broken up them 603 00:29:14,699 --> 00:29:16,280 Speaker 2: together. But in the same friend group. 604 00:29:16,290 --> 00:29:18,670 Speaker 1: Exactly. Right. And that's why I wouldn't hold my wedding 605 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,750 Speaker 1: here because then you, everyone in your family has to 606 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:25,050 Speaker 1: be invited. Whereas if you hold your wedding overseas, only 607 00:29:25,060 --> 00:29:26,420 Speaker 1: the people close, 608 00:29:26,584 --> 00:29:30,025 Speaker 1: you would actually fly and make that expense. Right. I've 609 00:29:30,035 --> 00:29:33,525 Speaker 1: been saying this recently, like, the best way to do 610 00:29:33,535 --> 00:29:37,015 Speaker 1: this is to go as far away as possible, as 611 00:29:37,025 --> 00:29:40,905 Speaker 1: remote as possible. I'm thinking like Barbados or something. I 612 00:29:40,915 --> 00:29:44,775 Speaker 1: don't know if I'll, I'll try. You have to think 613 00:29:44,785 --> 00:29:49,334 Speaker 1: of some fun. All right. But then right, you eliminate 614 00:29:49,344 --> 00:29:53,285 Speaker 1: this problem because if they really make it there, it's 615 00:29:53,295 --> 00:29:56,244 Speaker 1: really the people who should be there. That's it. 616 00:29:56,650 --> 00:30:00,349 Speaker 1: Um I have this very drama story. I'll make it 617 00:30:00,359 --> 00:30:02,609 Speaker 1: the Barbados for you. Thank you. Thank you. I won't 618 00:30:02,619 --> 00:30:03,050 Speaker 1: be there 619 00:30:04,469 --> 00:30:07,949 Speaker 1: a very drama story of a couple who's planning their 620 00:30:07,959 --> 00:30:10,640 Speaker 1: wedding and they're sorting out the guest list, right? OK. 621 00:30:11,250 --> 00:30:16,689 Speaker 1: The groom, his dad has had two wives. So two families, right? 622 00:30:16,699 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 1: One family, two families, not at the same time, but obviously, right? 623 00:30:19,910 --> 00:30:22,520 Speaker 1: So he has a whole other set of step brothers 624 00:30:22,530 --> 00:30:25,839 Speaker 1: and sisters at the previous family wedding. 625 00:30:26,260 --> 00:30:30,430 Speaker 1: They got so drunk. They started fighting with each other 626 00:30:30,650 --> 00:30:34,869 Speaker 1: like literally screaming across the room, throwing things, fighting during 627 00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:38,459 Speaker 1: the wedding. And this group has said I don't want 628 00:30:38,469 --> 00:30:41,020 Speaker 1: any of y'all at my wedding. I don't give a 629 00:30:41,030 --> 00:30:43,380 Speaker 1: rat's ass. You're not coming. So they have 630 00:30:43,489 --> 00:30:47,469 Speaker 1: been disqualified from the based on previous bad behavior. I 631 00:30:47,479 --> 00:30:50,589 Speaker 1: love that. I love that. I know. But is it 632 00:30:50,599 --> 00:30:54,500 Speaker 1: political as his family after all? Yeah. But it's my wedding. 633 00:30:54,510 --> 00:30:56,489 Speaker 1: At the end of the day, sometimes you feel like 634 00:30:56,500 --> 00:30:59,579 Speaker 1: obligated to invite certain people. But at the end of 635 00:30:59,589 --> 00:31:00,750 Speaker 1: the day you do. You boo, 636 00:31:02,310 --> 00:31:04,890 Speaker 1: I have a friend who doesn't want to invite her 637 00:31:04,900 --> 00:31:07,319 Speaker 1: own brother to the wedding just because they are not 638 00:31:07,329 --> 00:31:10,959 Speaker 1: on close terms. And that's tough. I don't know, but 639 00:31:11,020 --> 00:31:14,290 Speaker 1: I know, I know but she really doesn't enjoy the 640 00:31:14,300 --> 00:31:16,699 Speaker 1: thought of him being there. Is it the wedding planner's 641 00:31:16,709 --> 00:31:19,630 Speaker 1: job to help plan the seating arrangement? 642 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,500 Speaker 2: Ok. First of all, the wedding planners obviously do not 643 00:31:22,510 --> 00:31:23,130 Speaker 2: know your guests 644 00:31:24,410 --> 00:31:27,030 Speaker 2: and we obviously don't know like what relationship who and 645 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,689 Speaker 2: who has or who and who does not, but we 646 00:31:29,699 --> 00:31:33,969 Speaker 2: can help you arrange them so you can be like, ok, 647 00:31:33,979 --> 00:31:35,680 Speaker 2: put this and this together, then we'll put this and 648 00:31:35,689 --> 00:31:37,930 Speaker 2: this together. Ok? Never mind. Just put this here that 649 00:31:37,939 --> 00:31:40,130 Speaker 2: we will put it there. So we are like your 650 00:31:40,140 --> 00:31:41,910 Speaker 2: pa la. So are they very 651 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:45,130 Speaker 1: like troublesome couples change? We didn't want change again and change. 652 00:31:45,229 --> 00:31:45,829 Speaker 1: We change again 653 00:31:45,959 --> 00:31:46,290 Speaker 2: to be 654 00:31:46,391 --> 00:31:49,482 Speaker 2: unless for the guest list, right? The whole table seating thing. 655 00:31:49,732 --> 00:31:52,712 Speaker 2: Some of our clients they actually only pass it to 656 00:31:52,722 --> 00:31:56,092 Speaker 2: us the day before the wedding. Oh my nice. So 657 00:31:56,102 --> 00:31:59,972 Speaker 2: they don't have time to change. Yes. But food restrictions, 658 00:31:59,982 --> 00:32:03,531 Speaker 2: we need it two weeks before. Right. Of course. Yeah. 659 00:32:03,541 --> 00:32:07,572 Speaker 2: So as long as the whole guest list, right, stays 660 00:32:07,582 --> 00:32:08,842 Speaker 2: the same, the same, 661 00:32:09,144 --> 00:32:12,104 Speaker 2: the same number of whatever food restrictions and stuff you 662 00:32:12,114 --> 00:32:15,354 Speaker 2: can do whatever you want with that. But I need 663 00:32:15,364 --> 00:32:17,933 Speaker 2: the food restrictions two weeks prior. Ok. 664 00:32:17,943 --> 00:32:21,393 Speaker 1: Understand. I mean, that's reasonable. I think, you know, with the, 665 00:32:21,404 --> 00:32:24,563 Speaker 1: especially with the guest list. Right. It's so stressful because 666 00:32:24,573 --> 00:32:26,823 Speaker 1: sometimes when you're holding a very big wedding, let's say 667 00:32:26,833 --> 00:32:28,524 Speaker 1: you have a very big family or you come from 668 00:32:28,534 --> 00:32:31,274 Speaker 1: a well to do family, your parents are likely the 669 00:32:31,284 --> 00:32:31,423 Speaker 1: ones 670 00:32:31,625 --> 00:32:34,836 Speaker 1: that fork out money to pay for your wedding. And 671 00:32:34,845 --> 00:32:37,656 Speaker 1: in that sense, I've seen some weddings where the parents 672 00:32:37,666 --> 00:32:40,776 Speaker 1: get to do as they please because they fork out 673 00:32:40,786 --> 00:32:43,635 Speaker 1: the money for the wedding and then they have complete 674 00:32:43,645 --> 00:32:46,245 Speaker 1: power over the guest list and I invite all my 675 00:32:46,255 --> 00:32:48,056 Speaker 1: friends and then you go to the wedding and then 676 00:32:48,066 --> 00:32:49,336 Speaker 1: the bride and groom be like, yeah, I don't know 677 00:32:49,345 --> 00:32:52,026 Speaker 1: half the people here. It's not my parents friends that happens. 678 00:32:52,316 --> 00:32:52,595 Speaker 1: That's 679 00:32:52,605 --> 00:32:53,806 Speaker 2: gonna be my wedding. By the way, 680 00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:58,369 Speaker 1: how many guests are you 681 00:32:58,380 --> 00:33:01,709 Speaker 2: looking to have? Ok. Currently we are looking at 300 682 00:33:01,719 --> 00:33:05,550 Speaker 2: to 350. Ok. Ok. I don't have much friends because 683 00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:07,359 Speaker 2: I wasn't in Singapore for a good period of time. 684 00:33:07,439 --> 00:33:09,589 Speaker 2: And of course, a lot of my friends are from 685 00:33:09,599 --> 00:33:12,959 Speaker 2: the wedding industry, so I'm pretty sure they might not 686 00:33:12,969 --> 00:33:15,420 Speaker 2: be free on a day. You get what I mean, like, 687 00:33:15,430 --> 00:33:18,420 Speaker 2: it just doesn't make sense. But my fiance, he is 688 00:33:18,430 --> 00:33:21,949 Speaker 2: the firstborn son. The first son, not first born but 689 00:33:21,959 --> 00:33:25,380 Speaker 2: first son. And in Chinese culture, 690 00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:31,449 Speaker 2: the first son is like everything. Yeah. So traditionally we 691 00:33:31,459 --> 00:33:34,599 Speaker 2: just got to invite like the whole kampong the father 692 00:33:34,609 --> 00:33:36,660 Speaker 2: got will want to invite like all the friends and 693 00:33:36,670 --> 00:33:39,079 Speaker 2: stuff like that, which we don't agree with. Ok. Yeah, 694 00:33:39,089 --> 00:33:42,380 Speaker 2: I don't mind. Ok. I mean, if you ask me personally, 695 00:33:42,390 --> 00:33:44,939 Speaker 2: of course, I would like, like a small intimate wedding 696 00:33:44,949 --> 00:33:47,699 Speaker 2: because I, I've done so much. Right. I just wanna 697 00:33:47,719 --> 00:33:50,189 Speaker 2: be with my family and I know and have fun. 698 00:33:50,369 --> 00:33:52,900 Speaker 2: But also me being in the industry, 699 00:33:53,802 --> 00:33:55,541 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter to me if I do it big, 700 00:33:55,552 --> 00:33:57,021 Speaker 2: but if I'm going to do it big, I want 701 00:33:57,031 --> 00:34:00,092 Speaker 2: to do it the way I envision it to be. Yes. Yeah, 702 00:34:00,102 --> 00:34:03,031 Speaker 1: that's nice. At least you've had enough experience to know 703 00:34:03,041 --> 00:34:05,562 Speaker 1: what kind of a big wedding you can go to it. 704 00:34:05,972 --> 00:34:08,971 Speaker 1: But she also knows realistically, you have to balance out 705 00:34:08,981 --> 00:34:12,822 Speaker 1: everyone's wishes for the wedding. A wedding planner. You've seen 706 00:34:12,832 --> 00:34:14,412 Speaker 1: the ugly, you've seen the bad but you see a 707 00:34:14,422 --> 00:34:17,901 Speaker 1: good side. It is, of course. So what are some 708 00:34:17,911 --> 00:34:20,011 Speaker 1: words of advice? You have a harsh listeners here 709 00:34:20,164 --> 00:34:22,674 Speaker 1: who are looking to get married or are going to 710 00:34:22,684 --> 00:34:23,073 Speaker 1: get married 711 00:34:23,083 --> 00:34:27,604 Speaker 2: soon, start planning your tentative guest list now? Yes, because 712 00:34:27,614 --> 00:34:30,373 Speaker 2: I'm doing this myself as well. And we just put 713 00:34:30,384 --> 00:34:31,944 Speaker 2: a list down for the bright side and then the 714 00:34:31,954 --> 00:34:34,772 Speaker 2: groom side. So roughly how many people you wanna invite? 715 00:34:34,783 --> 00:34:36,763 Speaker 2: Who do you want to invite most of the time 716 00:34:36,773 --> 00:34:39,053 Speaker 2: the guest list will go down by 10 to 20%. 717 00:34:39,553 --> 00:34:42,823 Speaker 2: That's the most. But this is your max number of guests. 718 00:34:42,833 --> 00:34:45,293 Speaker 2: So then when you start looking for venues, because venue 719 00:34:45,303 --> 00:34:47,154 Speaker 2: is the most important thing you start looking at 720 00:34:47,406 --> 00:34:50,625 Speaker 2: with this guest list. I mean like the number in 721 00:34:50,635 --> 00:34:51,085 Speaker 2: this guest 722 00:34:51,094 --> 00:34:54,344 Speaker 1: list comes before the venue of you know how many 723 00:34:54,355 --> 00:34:56,635 Speaker 1: people you have to invite? I never saw this way. 724 00:34:56,645 --> 00:34:58,525 Speaker 1: I always thought like, ok, I'll just book the venue first. 725 00:34:58,535 --> 00:35:01,186 Speaker 1: However many people I can fit, there's the people who 726 00:35:01,196 --> 00:35:03,794 Speaker 1: are most important to you come to it, you can, 727 00:35:03,805 --> 00:35:04,355 Speaker 1: you can, 728 00:35:04,605 --> 00:35:08,075 Speaker 2: you can. But what if you reach already and then 729 00:35:08,085 --> 00:35:10,996 Speaker 2: be like, oh shit like there is still on the day. Yeah. 730 00:35:12,065 --> 00:35:14,145 Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a very big wedding. Yeah, 731 00:35:14,750 --> 00:35:18,479 Speaker 1: I want that many people to invite. We'll see, we'll see. 732 00:35:18,489 --> 00:35:22,339 Speaker 1: We'll see. Ok, so start planning your guest list now. Ok. 733 00:35:22,350 --> 00:35:25,029 Speaker 1: What about like on the wedding day? What do you 734 00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:26,439 Speaker 1: want to tell the brides and 735 00:35:26,449 --> 00:35:29,060 Speaker 2: grooms? Calm down. Yes. 736 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,540 Speaker 1: So I always tell my couples just relax, let me 737 00:35:32,550 --> 00:35:33,909 Speaker 1: do the job for you. You just have a 738 00:35:33,919 --> 00:35:36,770 Speaker 2: good day and I think what most couples kind of 739 00:35:36,780 --> 00:35:39,389 Speaker 2: forget is because everything is so rushed and it happens 740 00:35:39,399 --> 00:35:41,590 Speaker 2: so quick. So for example, they march in, they go 741 00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,179 Speaker 2: on stage, they cut cake, they eat two meals, they 742 00:35:44,189 --> 00:35:45,939 Speaker 2: barely eat and then they can go on and change. 743 00:35:45,959 --> 00:35:49,138 Speaker 2: Everything is like very t me. Yeah. So 744 00:35:49,245 --> 00:35:52,524 Speaker 2: just spend some time together, you know, like be in 745 00:35:52,534 --> 00:35:56,344 Speaker 2: each other's presence and just take a look at everyone here, 746 00:35:57,175 --> 00:36:00,104 Speaker 2: you know, they are here for you. Just be in 747 00:36:00,114 --> 00:36:01,235 Speaker 2: the moment wise, 748 00:36:01,245 --> 00:36:05,114 Speaker 1: words wise. Very nice. If anything else just elope bar, 749 00:36:05,834 --> 00:36:07,985 Speaker 1: I will start and elope for you. So 750 00:36:08,975 --> 00:36:10,885 Speaker 2: actually we have that. It's called I Fly with you. 751 00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,260 Speaker 2: Wait, what does that do? Destination Weddings? 752 00:36:15,780 --> 00:36:17,030 Speaker 1: Ok, 753 00:36:18,100 --> 00:36:19,739 Speaker 2: for you. That's 754 00:36:19,750 --> 00:36:20,090 Speaker 1: the one. 755 00:36:21,020 --> 00:36:23,370 Speaker 1: Oh, I've learned so much just from one episode alone. 756 00:36:23,379 --> 00:36:25,530 Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Stie and to our harsh listeners. 757 00:36:25,540 --> 00:36:27,790 Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in. Don't forget to follow us 758 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,509 Speaker 1: on Instagram at its clarity.co. That's right. You can also 759 00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,719 Speaker 1: listen to us on me, listen at Apple podcast, Spotify 760 00:36:32,729 --> 00:36:35,919 Speaker 1: and turn on your notifications. That's right. We are dressed 761 00:36:35,929 --> 00:36:38,969 Speaker 1: in white today, you know, as though we are getting married, 762 00:36:38,979 --> 00:36:41,159 Speaker 1: but really none of us are so check us out 763 00:36:41,169 --> 00:36:43,159 Speaker 1: on youtube and a big shout out again to Stie. 764 00:36:43,250 --> 00:36:45,479 Speaker 1: We wish you all the best with your wedding. Thank 765 00:36:45,489 --> 00:36:49,020 Speaker 1: you very much. Calm down. She will be. 766 00:36:49,429 --> 00:36:50,080 Speaker 1: Thank you. 767 00:36:50,669 --> 00:36:52,979 Speaker 2: Thank you. Thank you very much guys. Bye bye.